The Erotic Realm

What happens when repression breaks open into erotic freedom? 

In this episode of The Erotic Realm, we meet HelenATL — a submissive and self-described seeker of “erotic intensity.” From a shocking electric chair scene in the 90s to the reawakening of her sexuality after decades of silence, Helen’s story shows us the risks, rewards, and realities of living authentically.

We discuss:

• How yoga and kink reawakened her er...

Why do people eroticize regression, petplay, and degradation — and what does it mean to be your own Dom?

In this episode, Valkyrie shares her journey from Pro-Domme to submissive pet. We explore the misunderstood kinks of ABDL, degradation, and regression, and end with her powerful reflection on self-domination.

You’ll hear about:

• How she shifted from dominating others to surrendering herself — and what that taught her ab...

What's it like to be a disciplinarian?

In this episode, MistressBaton — a South African disciplinarian Domme — shares her story of power, discipline, and erotic devotion.

We discuss:

• The spark of sadism and why it’s not always sexual.
• Misconceptions about sadists and corporal punishment.
• Research showing BDSM sadists score lower on “dark traits”.
• Baumeister’s idea of masochism as an escape from the self.
• What makes a spanking...

What does it mean to live a fluid erotic life?

In this episode, Sage — a bisexual, polyamorous, sub-leaning switch — shares her journey of fluid identity, queer kink, and erotic psychology. From growing up in an open family to studying deviant behavior, she explores how bisexuality and kink intertwine as paths of liberation and truth.

We discuss:

• Growing up queer in an open family and how it shaped desire

• Bisexuality, st...

What does Mastery really mean?

In this episode, Master Xtac — a leatherman, educator, and 24/7 practitioner — opens up about his journey through power exchange, love, and leadership within BDSM.

We discuss:

• His 12-part teaching series on power exchange and mastery.

• Nietzsche’s idea of chaos and creativity in BDSM scenes

• BDSM as sexual orientation vs. serious leisure.

• How a Master proposes marriage to a slave.

• His advic...

What does it mean to step into a 40-year love—and reshape it into a triad of submission, dominance, and devotion?

In this third and final part of our relationship series, Iris shares her journey as the third partner of Master MissMarie (episode 31) and MelissaBound (episode 32). From embracing compersion to navigating the psychology of polyamory, Iris brings a unique perspective on love, kink, and erotic care.

We explore:

What can 40 years of submission teach us about love, chastity, and surrender?

In part two of our three-part relationship series, we meet MelissaBound—a bisexual, transgender cuckquean, rope bunny, and collared submissive who has been in a devoted D/s relationship with Master MissMarie for over 40 years.

We discuss:

• Melissa’s journey from her first erotic awakenings to decades of submission in a 24/7 power exchange dynami...

How does a Domme stay erotically alive for over 40 years?

In this episode, MissMarie shares:

• Her journey from awakening to ascension as a lifelong Domme

• What it means to collar and guide a partner through decades of growth

• The role of queerness, chosen family, and community recognition

• Her personal philosophy of “bottoming from the top”

• How sadism, ritual, and reaction all fuel her pleasure

Research Article: Play...

What does it mean to create an erotic space—not just play inside one?

In this episode, we meet Gala, the Mum of Hedon House—a queer BDSM sanctuary designed for ritual, pleasure, and deep erotic inquiry. We discuss her philosophy of erotic hospitality, how she curates objects and atmosphere for psychological safety, and why perversion can be a path to power.

We explore:

• What it means to be a “pervert” as a creative, ethica...

What does it mean to turn a whip into a language of power, rhythm, and connection?

Master Dex is a 69-year-old BDSM educator, author, and Dominant with over 25 years in the lifestyle. From his background in dance to his reverence for the singletail whip, Dex brings a spiritual and artistic lens to impact play.

We explore:

• Whipping as language, ritual, and orchestration.
• The connection between dance and whipping.
• BDSM’s psyc...

What if submission was the most radical thing you could do?

Gender-nonconforming writer and kink educator Auntie Vice joins The Erotic Realm for a powerful conversation on erotic resistance, queer identity, and rewriting sexual norms.

We discuss:

• How bisexuality, gender nonconformity, and submissive identity intersect.
• The slap that changed everything—and sparked a feminist reckoning.
• Practical wisdom on writing kink, navig...

What happens when a photographer sees desire not just as an act — but as an art?

In this visually charged episode, we enter the mind of JC Stark, founder of Fet-Erotica as he shares his journey into erotic photography, shibari, and oral fixation.

We discuss:

• Why shibari changed how JC saw kink.
• The birth of fet-erotica.
• How Fet-Erotica chooses its themes & images.
• The deeper meaning of oral fixation—and how it shows up ...

What does healthy masculinity look like in a world of dominance, sadism, and polyamory?

In this episode, Melbourne-based kinkster Biker Bear shares his journey through power, pleasure, and queer identity. We discuss:

• The Key Elements of Healthy Masculinity
• Electrical play as erotic connection
• Why dominance isn’t control — it’s presence
• Sadism as serious identity
• A lived critique of toxic masculinity
• and more!

Research Ar...

Why do we write what we desire?

In this literary deep-dive, Carly — founder of Aurore — joins me to explore erotic storytelling as a path to self-discovery, healing, and expression.

We discuss:

• The transition from dominance to submission
• Reclaiming power after abuse
• Feminism, shame & desire
• The psychology behind erotic writing
• AURORE’s birth as a confessional community

Research Article: Relationship between Sex...

How is a Dominant different to Andrew Tate? Can a Dominant be romantic?

Master Arcane, founder of The Crow Academy, shares his journey through love, power, and full-time dominance in a decade-long Master/slave relationship. This follow-up to Daphne’s episode explores healthy D/s, toxic dominance myths, and the deep emotional rituals behind real BDSM.

We discuss:

• Arcane’s early BDSM dreams and the formation of The Crow A...

What does it mean to be both a feminist and a slave?

In this episode, we explore the emotional, psychological, and erotic architecture of 24/7 submission with Daphne, a collared slave of Master Arcane and educator of The Crow Academy for over 10 years.

We discuss:

• Reconciling feminism and submission.

• Daily rituals of devotion and service.

• Erotic transformation through power exchange.

• Star Wars roleplay and kink identity.

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What is it about feet?

In this episode we explore the psychology, sensuality, and stigma of foot fetishes with 53-year-old fetishist and photographer Larry.

We discuss:

• Early foot memories
• Where he thinks his fetish comes from
• The different types of foot fetishists
• The visual appeal of soles
• The neuroscience behind foot-based arousal.
• and more!

PLUS — M announces her first Psychology of Desire Case File, "The Sole...

Mo also known online as Darkest Mercy is a 22 year old goth, queer Domme and evolving kinkster who joins The Erotic Realm to talk about desire, darkness, and the erotic power of blasphemy.

We explore:

• What it means to be a Demoness Domme.
• Finding erotic beauty in the macabre.
• Why taboo, sacrilege, and shadow work can be healing.
• Queer kink identity, mentorship, and transformation.
• Highlights from Mo’s kink bucket list (yes, ...

What happens when you open your marriage after 35 years and start exploring kink at 60?

In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I speak with Hawthorn a 66 year old genderqueer pagan who describes themselves as a bottom leaning switch, sensual sadist, sensation slut, and erotic exhibitionist.

We explore:

• What it means to be a switch later in life

• Reichian psychology, gender evolution, and spiritual kink

• Defining sexual satis...