The Erotic Realm

What happens when you open your marriage after 35 years and start exploring kink at 60?

In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I speak with Hawthorn a 66 year old genderqueer pagan who describes themselves as a bottom leaning switch, sensual sadist, sensation slut, and erotic exhibitionist.

We explore:

• What it means to be a switch later in life

• Reichian psychology, gender evolution, and spiritual kink

• Defining sexual satisfaction beyo...

What does it mean to explore both dominance and submission within one erotic psyche?

In this episode, I sit down with Lou, a 38-year-old switch who describes her sexuality as fluid and fiercely psychological.

We discuss:

• What it means to be a switch in BDSM and the freedom of role fluidity
• Mindfucking and psychological dominance as erotic tools
• The inherited lineage of kink when your mother is also in the scene
• How switching fosters ...

Bisexual. Celibate. Slave. Survivor.
In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I speak with Sergio, a 43 year old bisexual male slave who spent years in a religious cult, and the last four in celibacy.

We talk about erotic reclamation after cult life, redefining intimacy through BDSM, and the complex dance between submission and healing. From shame and silence to power exchange and surrender, Sergio offers a rare, reflective glimpse i...

What if your sexuality was the key to your shadow—and your liberation?

In this episode, I speak with Magdalena, a Lesbian Leatherwoman, priestess of sacred sexuality, and top-leaning switch about the deeper currents that shape our desires.

We explore:

• What it means to embody the dark feminine through Leather and power exchange

• BDSM as a tool for Jungian shadow work and spiritual growth

• The psychology of hesitation ...

What happens when submission becomes a source of power?

In this episode, I speak with Hazel: a 25 year old rope switch and erotic writer - about the transformative power of BDSM, shadow work, and dark feminine desire.

We explore:

• How rope, pain, and submission became tools for healing and empowerment

• The psychological impact of chronic pain and how BDSM reframed it

• What it means to be collared, owned, and deeply seen in a D/s dynami...

What happens when you leave behind everything you've been taught about sex… and finally surrender?

In this deeply moving episode of The Erotic Realm, I sit down with M, a 57 year old submissive masochist who discovered their authentic erotic self after decades of living in religious conservatism. Now owned and collared, they live a life defined not by repression, but by intensity, surrender, and transformation. This episode is a...

What happens when a man stops suppressing his wildness and starts listening to it instead?

In this primal, poetic, and powerful episode of The Erotic Realm, I sit down with Beast, a sapiosexual straight man who once saw BDSM through the lens of porn, only to discover it held the keys to his inner world.

We explore:

• How a powerful Domme "unwrapped" his erotic self
• What it means to be handled, not just held
• The psychology of primal pl...

What does it mean to love the fight AND the surrender?

In this raw and powerful episode of The Erotic Realm, I sit down with Tanya, a solo polyamorous kinkster, power bottom, smart ass masochist, brat, and primal prey living her truth 24/7. From early fantasies to full embodiment, Tanya shares her journey of self-discovery through impact play, exhibitionism, and high-intensity power dynamics.

We explore:

• The psychology of pain as ...

What does it mean to be sadistic, dominant, and deeply ethical all at once?

In this episode I speak with Endless, a queer, non-binary Master who explores kink through the lenses of gender, psychology, and power. From religious deconstruction to their embrace of swinging, sadism, and relationship anarchy, Endless shares how their erotic self was reclaimed- not despite their complexity, but because of it.

We explore:

• The psychology ...

What does it mean to be a shapeshifter in kink?

In this episode I explore with Kite, a primal, brat, little, and wolf whose erotic journey has been one of transformation and healing. We explore how BDSM can help rewrite personal narratives, offer deep emotional release, and unlock new levels of self-awareness.

We discuss:

• The psychology of primal play, bratting, and sensation play.
• BDSM as a tool for mental and emotional healing.
• Ho...

Can BDSM be a literary and philosophical pursuit?

In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with Lenny, a 77 year old sadist, writer, and lifelong BDSM mentor whose journey explores the limits of pleasure, pain, and the mind’s role in eroticism.

Lenny shares his experiences with hypnotic states, non-physical orgasms, and BDSM as a vehicle for transformation—both in real life and in literature.

We discuss:

• The psychol...

What happens when you embrace your true desires later in life?

In this episode I chat with Sean, a bisexual impact bottom and switch who came out at 43 and stepped into the world of kink. From breaking free of stigma to exploring the depths of masochism and power exchange, his journey is a testament to the transformative power of self-acceptance.

We discuss:

• Coming out as bisexual later in life and its impact on identity.
• Navigatin...

Can BDSM change the way we experience pain?

In this episode I sit down with Jules, a submissive masochist and primal prey whose journey into BDSM has been shaped by chronic pain, storytelling, and the exploration of extreme edge play. Jules shares how BDSM has helped them reframe their relationship with pain, power, and pleasure, and how working as a phone sex operator deepened their understanding of erotic psychology.

We discuss:

Can BDSM strengthen a long-term relationship?

In this episode I chat with Karl, a submissive-leaning switch and primal masochist whose exploration of kink saved his 30-year marriage.

While remaining sexually monogamous with his wife, he has embraced BDSM as a way to express his true self, deepen intimacy, and bring new energy into their relationship.

We discuss:

• How kink transformed his marriage after 30 years.
• The balance between...

What happens when fantasy turns into reality?

In this episode I sit down with Kay, an erotic fiction writer who discovered her submissive nature through fan fiction.

Now, she explores real-life submission while navigating a vanilla marriage and a dynamic with her Dominant.

We discuss:

• How writing fan fiction led her to explore real-life BDSM.
• The differences between fantasy submission and lived experiences.
• How submission and BDSM he...

What happens when you break free from the expectations of traditional relationships to fully embrace your authentic sexuality?

In this episode of I sit down with Stephen, a 36-year-old sadomasochistic switch who spent 20 years in monogamous relationships before discovering his true desires.

Now living 24/7 in a polyamorous M/s dynamic, he shares how BDSM transformed his understanding of power, intimacy, and self-acceptance.

We discuss...

How can a feminist enjoy submission?

In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with Ancilla, a 33-year-old polyamorous writer, masochist, and slave who has dedicated her life to exploring power exchange, pain, and the art of kink education. Ancilla’s journey intersects with her roles as a emotional masochist, and educator, creating a deeply personal and transformative story.

We discuss:

• The strength in submission a...

In this episode, we delve into the rich experiences and wisdom of Marc, a bisexual hedonist, switch, and mentor with decades of involvement in the kink community.

We discuss:

• The evolution of the kink scene over the past few decades.
• The intersection of bisexuality and mental health in navigating identity.
• Lessons learned from living the lifestyle as a mentor and switch.
• Balancing power dynamics in relationships with his Dom...

In this episode, we explore the deep connections and mental landscapes of D/s relationships with Kaiah, a 25 year old non-binary, owned and collared genderfluid submissive. Kaiah embodies roles such as Fox, Primal Prey, Brat, and Good Girl, and shares their experiences navigating the interplay of desire, identity, and submission.

We discuss:

• The psychology behind ownership and collars in D/s dynamics.
• Embracing primal instincts ...