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Discover how the simple act of celebrating small wins can transform your family dynamics. By recognizing every effort, no matter how tiny, you can create a nurturing environment that boosts confidence and enhances mental health. Join us as we promise to share actionable insights on building stronger family bonds, where every family member feels valued and acknowledged. Learn how personal victories, as shared by seasoned parents, can instill the idea that self-improvement is a lifelong adventure, focusing on progress over perfection.
This episode covers:
• Importance of recognizing both small and large wins
• How verbal recognition influences motivation and confidence
• The impact of celebrating achievements on mental health
• Suggestions for practical celebrations like high-fives and mealtime sharing
• The role of a celebration jar in making acknowledgment a habit
• Significance of recognizing progress for family growth and resilience
• Challenge to celebrate one win with the family today
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, welcome back to our show.
Hey, thanks for sharing ourepisodes with people in your
circles.
We are hitting new recordnumbers of downloads and it's
specifically because you, thelistener, are sharing this with
your friends and your familymembers and you're forwarding it
(00:20):
on to your spouses.
So, thank you, keep doing thatfor us and please remember, if
you ever hear one of ourepisodes and really feel
inspired by it, go on and writea review for us on whatever
platform you're listening to ourshow on.
We appreciate you so muchhelping us to spread this
(00:43):
message across the globe.
We have people listening in somany different countries besides
the United States.
It's really awesome and, again,it's because of your help.
Thanks for sharing the familiesof character message.
Now, today we're diving into atopic that will strengthen
family bonds, build confidenceand give everyone a much needed
(01:10):
boost.
Celebrating wins as a unitedfamily Okay.
Whether big or small,recognizing progress is a
powerful motivator for everyonein the household.
Okay, so grab a cup of coffeeor turn up the volume as you
(01:31):
fold that laundry, because thisepisode is packed with
actionable tips and inspiringinsights.
You know me, I like to bringthe practical action right so
that you can get started and getsomething going in your family
today after listening to asingle episode.
So let's jump right in.
(01:51):
Imagine this okay, yourfamily's working toward a goal
together.
We talk all the time on ourshow about how awesome it is
when you just pick one singlething to work on as an entire
family over the course of a week.
You just pick one small thingto work on and everybody pitches
(02:15):
in to make progress towards it.
So your family's workingtowards a goal.
Maybe it's creating a morningroutine that actually works to
get you out the door on time, oreverybody is pitching in to
keep the house clean.
Listen, when someone achieveseven the smallest milestone, do
you stop and celebrate that?
(02:38):
Remembered to put their clothesout the night before for school
on their own.
This should be celebrated,right?
These moments, celebratingthese moments, it's not just
about recognition.
Okay, people are like oh, weoverpraise kids.
It's not just about praisingthe child.
(02:59):
It's about motivating them,right, it's about recognizing
the progress that they're makingso that they want to continue
on.
When you acknowledge progress,you're telling your family what
you are doing matters.
I see your efforts.
(03:19):
This, I'm telling you, createsa ripple effect.
This, I'm telling you, createsa ripple effect, kids, and even
us adults, feel encouraged andthen we want to keep going, and
here's why I've been a clinicalcounselor for 20 years.
So I know, not just fromreading books and researching
(03:39):
this, but I know by working withclients in a clinical setting,
that celebrating progress,celebrating the wins, activates
the brain's reward system.
That little dopamine hit helpsabsolutely everyone associate
effort with positivity, and whodoesn't want more of that?
(04:06):
Okay, here's one critical piecethat's often overlooked when it
comes to celebrating wins.
When kids see their parentscelebrating their own wins, it
sends a powerful message.
It shows them thatself-improvement isn't just a
them thing, right, it's not justsomething that parents want
(04:30):
kids to get better at things.
It's a family thing, okay.
So imagine that your childhears you say you know, I'm
really proud of myself for beingpatient during that stressful
drive in traffic.
You know earlier back there.
Or maybe they see you celebratesticking to your goal of
(04:51):
walking three times a week.
Kids internalize these examples.
They grow up knowing thatprogress is worth celebrating
and, more importantly, that it'sokay to be proud of their own
growth.
This realization, guys, can betransformative.
(05:15):
It really shifts the focus fromthis perfection to progress.
And that's where the magichappens If you're sitting here
going.
Man, I wish I would have knownthis when I was younger.
I wish my parents would havecelebrated their wins and I
would have witnessed that.
I get it.
I kind of call myself arecovering perfectionist, right
(05:38):
that there were times when Iwouldn't even try things because
I thought, well, I'm not goingto be able to do it really well,
so why try it at all.
And I still struggle with thatfrom time to time.
My mom was a very, very goodbaker.
She still is, and it's one ofthe things that intimidates me.
It's like, well, it can't be asgood as my mom, so why even try
(05:59):
?
Well, that's kind of adefeatist mentality, right.
But if I celebrate the progressof trying something, then I
want to try even more.
Let's also talk about the biggerpicture of celebrating wins for
just a minute, because we haveto talk about this issue of
building mental health in ourfamilies and building up
(06:23):
confidence in our children.
So celebrating wins, bothindividual and as a family, has
a profound impact on mentalhealth and confidence.
And here's how when familymembers feel acknowledged, it
reduces stress and it promotes asense of belonging, that I
(06:46):
belong to a team, the mostimportant team, my family.
So it develops this culture ofbelonging when you celebrate
your wins together becausepeople are seen, they are heard,
they are observed and beingrecognized for their efforts.
(07:07):
You know, it's really, reallyhard to feel down when someone
says you know what?
I am so proud of you for trying.
Guys, recognition lifts theweight of self-doubt.
Now you might be listening andgoing oh man, yeah, I got
self-doubt.
I've got those ants runningaround in my head, right?
(07:29):
Those automatic negativethoughts ants.
If somebody points out that I'mdoing a good job, or they're
proud of my efforts, or theyknow that this work of staying
home with kids and doing diapersand dishes and laundry is
difficult, man, that kind oflifts that weight of self-doubt
(07:50):
and goes you know what I can do?
Hard things right.
The other way celebrating winshelps is that it improves
confidence.
Each celebration, no matter howsmall, reinforces this idea
that effort leads to achievement, right?
(08:10):
This builds resilience.
What is resilience?
Resilience is the ability tobounce back from difficult
things, the ability to get backon our feet when something
knocks us down.
How often are we gettingknocked down in this life?
Every single day, right?
There's something that justknocks us upside the head and
(08:34):
spins us around and makes usfeel like we just got whiplash
for the third time today, and sowe've got to have the skill and
the confidence to get back onour feet and bounce back from
that.
When you celebrate wins, it says, even if things are hard, I can
keep going because progress iswhere it's at If I just keep
(09:00):
trying and making an efforttowards the thing.
That's what matters.
Celebrating wins helps youovercome challenges.
When you make celebration ahabit, it becomes easier to
tackle setbacks right.
(09:21):
Your family starts to seechallenges as temporary because
they know progress is possible.
And this mindset, this grit,this perseverant mindset, is
what keeps everyone movingforward, even when things get
tough.
I want you to tune in right now,because your life is going to
(09:44):
get harder than it's alreadybeen, and that's a hard message
to hear.
But after being married for 20years, having a child who has
left the nest and is on his own,now is, you know, almost 19
years old and having kids allthe way down to 10, you are
going to suffer.
You're going to run into thingsthat you never believed would
(10:09):
happen to your kids, yourmarriage yourself, health
problems, no-transcript.
So if you focus on celebratingwins, acknowledging people's
(10:32):
progress when they are littleright, or starting it now, when
you're listening to this andhearing it for the first time,
if your kids are teenagers, oreven if your kids have left the
house and you're listening andyou want to try this with your
spouse.
This is the time to celebratewins as a family, as a couple,
(10:54):
because it makes all thedifference in keeping this grit
mindset, this perseverantmindset, going when the going
gets tough.
So there are some reallypractical ways to celebrate
family wins and I'm going toshare them with you.
Okay, you might be thinking like, how do we actually celebrate
(11:15):
as a family without it feelinglike forced or cheesy?
And I get it.
I've totally got you covered.
Okay, here's a couple simpleideas.
First of all, verbalrecognition A quick like great
job trying that.
I know that was tough for youand I'm proud of you.
That goes a long way.
(11:36):
And remember, you're notpraising the person.
You're a good boy.
That's too generic.
That doesn't mean a lot to us.
Right?
Be specific with verbalrecognition.
I'm proud of you for tryingthat new food.
I'm really proud of you forgoing to youth group for the
first time, because I know thatyou were really.
(11:56):
That was difficult for you andthat kind of pushed you out of
your comfort zone.
Great job, right.
Say it in the moment and makeit impactful.
Just a simple observation oftheir effort and then putting
words to it.
Verbal recognition how about afamily high five?
Right?
(12:17):
Bring back the old high five orthe fist bump.
Gather everybody for a grouphigh five or fist bump.
It's quick, it's fun, it's fullof energy.
It's like, yeah, that wasawesome.
Okay, again, you're creatingthe culture of your family
around positivity and progress.
(12:38):
Another idea celebrate at dinner.
Don't we all eat?
We're all feeding our facesevery day, right?
Breakfast, lunch, dinner.
We might not be together forall those meals, but anytime you
sit together as a family to eata meal, even if you're having
popcorn with a movie associatefood with some wins.
(13:00):
Right, just go around the tableand share one win from the day.
It can be as small as Iremember to feed the dog Win,
awesome.
Count it right.
Another great way to celebratewins at the table you can keep a
little notepad close to thetable.
Andy Hickman talked about thison a previous episode on our
(13:23):
podcast about how just writingdown one of your wins is so
helpful.
But then you read that as youlook at it, you read it aloud to
the people at the table andthen you actually read it
another time aloud, at half thespeed, and it allows your spirit
(13:47):
, in your brain, to reallyabsorb that wind and really take
in that you are making aprogress.
It's just like an auditory hugfor yourself to write it down,
read it aloud and then read italoud a second time at half
(14:07):
speed, if you really want thatwind to settle in.
You know what you do.
After you read it at half speed, you read just one sentence,
take a big deep breath and blowit all out and read it again, or
read the next sentence, okay.
So you add some deep breathingin with it to really allow you
(14:30):
to let that win settle in foryou.
We need that, folks.
Okay, another idea create acelebration jar.
We've done this.
What you do is you write downwins on slips of paper as you
notice them, and then you putthem in a mason jar on your
kitchen counter, let's say, andthen you read them together once
(14:54):
a week.
Or what we did is we saved themup for 30 days.
So we made it our goal for themonth that we were going to
recognize the progress in oneanother and then make a
statement of that progress orthat win on a piece of paper and
put it in the jar.
And then we, surprised our kids,took them out to a restaurant
(15:17):
for dinner and then, after weordered our food and we're
sitting and waiting for the foodto come, my husband pulled the
jar out of his pocket and he'slike, look at this.
He kind of smuggled it in inthis coat and he pulled it out
and put it on the table andthey're like, oh cool, this is
awesome.
Our waiter was curious what isthis?
This is so cool.
(15:37):
What are you guys reading fromthis jar?
People around us were looking,kind of peeking over the top of
the booth.
What are they doing?
We went through and read what wehad noticed that other people
were doing to make effortstowards their goal and it was
just everybody was glowing andlike, hey, I didn't know, you
caught me doing that.
(15:57):
Well, awesome, I do remember,you know, making my bed four
days in a row.
That's, that's, that was a win,right.
So creating a celebration jar,writing them down on slips of
paper and then reading themaloud is such a great way to
really make those wins stick.
And then for bigger milestones.
(16:18):
You know, someone earns a badgein American Heritage Girls, or,
you know, maybe you have a sonthat has gone on a particularly
difficult hike or done somethingphysical that was above and
beyond what he had ever done.
Plan a special family outing orhave a special family treat.
(16:41):
Right, it's not about spendingmoney or throwing elaborate
parties, but it's about creatingmoments of joy and connection.
Just to say, I see your efforts, I'm proud of you.
I'm not surprised becauseyou're a go-getter right, but I
am proud.
Celebrating wins, guys, isn'tjust a nice thing to do, it's
(17:06):
essential.
I want you to think back aboutyour own life.
How often did your familycelebrate your progress?
If it wasn't much, make thatdifferent for your own family.
Your spouse will be better forit too.
If you are constantly wantingto know from them how you can
(17:28):
help them celebrate progress,they're going to start looking
at their lives with morepositivity too.
You know it's been said that wehave over 60,000 thoughts in
our mind a day and 80% of themare negative.
So let's turn that around.
Let's really be intentionalabout drawing our attention to
(17:51):
the wins, to the small dailyactions that make progress
towards our goal in our family.
Remember, it's not just a nicething to do.
Celebrating wins is essential.
It fosters motivation, like wetalked about, builds resilience
(18:13):
and it creates a culture ofgrowth and development.
You are developing virtue inyour kids when you create the
habit of observing anddescribing and pointing out and
celebrating wins.
When kids see their parentsworking to improve and
celebrating their progress, theylearn to do the same.
(18:36):
It strengthens mental health.
It boosts confidence and keepseveryone moving forward, even in
those tough times.
So here's my challenge for you.
Here's my challenge for youTake a moment today to celebrate
one win aloud with your family.
It does not matter how smallthe win, just celebrate it, make
(19:01):
it meaningful, make it joyfuland watch how it brings your
family closer together.
Listen thanks for tuning in totoday's episode and remember, if
you found this helpful, don'tforget to share it with a fellow
parent or your spouse and leaveus a review that pumps up our
(19:23):
podcast in the list of parentand family podcasts that are out
there, and there's a lot ofthem.
Until next time, keepcelebrating those wins and
remember progress is the goal,not perfection.
Take care, and I'll catch youon another episode of our show
real soon.
Hey there, welcome back to our show.
Hey, thanks for sharing ourepisodes with people in your
circles.
We are hitting new recordnumbers of downloads and it's
specifically because you, thelistener, are sharing this with
your friends and your familymembers and you're forwarding it
(00:20):
on to your spouses.
So, thank you, keep doing thatfor us and please remember, if
you ever hear one of ourepisodes and really feel
inspired by it, go on and writea review for us on whatever
platform you're listening to ourshow on.
We appreciate you so muchhelping us to spread this
(00:43):
message across the globe.
We have people listening in somany different countries besides
the United States.
It's really awesome and, again,it's because of your help.
Thanks for sharing the familiesof character message.
Now, today we're diving into atopic that will strengthen
family bonds, build confidenceand give everyone a much needed
(01:10):
boost.
Celebrating wins as a unitedfamily Okay.
Whether big or small,recognizing progress is a
powerful motivator for everyonein the household.
Okay, so grab a cup of coffeeor turn up the volume as you
(01:31):
fold that laundry, because thisepisode is packed with
actionable tips and inspiringinsights.
You know me, I like to bringthe practical action right so
that you can get started and getsomething going in your family
today after listening to asingle episode.
So let's jump right in.
(01:51):
Imagine this okay, yourfamily's working toward a goal
together.
We talk all the time on ourshow about how awesome it is
when you just pick one singlething to work on as an entire
family over the course of a week.
You just pick one small thingto work on and everybody pitches
(02:15):
in to make progress towards it.
So your family's workingtowards a goal.
Maybe it's creating a morningroutine that actually works to
get you out the door on time, oreverybody is pitching in to
keep the house clean.
Listen, when someone achieveseven the smallest milestone, do
you stop and celebrate that?
(02:38):
Remembered to put their clothesout the night before for school
on their own.
This should be celebrated,right?
These moments, celebratingthese moments, it's not just
about recognition.
Okay, people are like oh, weoverpraise kids.
It's not just about praisingthe child.
(02:59):
It's about motivating them,right, it's about recognizing
the progress that they're makingso that they want to continue
on.
When you acknowledge progress,you're telling your family what
you are doing matters.
I see your efforts.
(03:19):
This, I'm telling you, createsa ripple effect.
This, I'm telling you, createsa ripple effect, kids, and even
us adults, feel encouraged andthen we want to keep going, and
here's why I've been a clinicalcounselor for 20 years.
So I know, not just fromreading books and researching
(03:39):
this, but I know by working withclients in a clinical setting,
that celebrating progress,celebrating the wins, activates
the brain's reward system.
That little dopamine hit helpsabsolutely everyone associate
effort with positivity, and whodoesn't want more of that?
(04:06):
Okay, here's one critical piecethat's often overlooked when it
comes to celebrating wins.
When kids see their parentscelebrating their own wins, it
sends a powerful message.
It shows them thatself-improvement isn't just a
them thing, right, it's not justsomething that parents want
(04:30):
kids to get better at things.
It's a family thing, okay.
So imagine that your childhears you say you know, I'm
really proud of myself for beingpatient during that stressful
drive in traffic.
You know earlier back there.
Or maybe they see you celebratesticking to your goal of
(04:51):
walking three times a week.
Kids internalize these examples.
They grow up knowing thatprogress is worth celebrating
and, more importantly, that it'sokay to be proud of their own
growth.
This realization, guys, can betransformative.
(05:15):
It really shifts the focus fromthis perfection to progress.
And that's where the magichappens If you're sitting here
going.
Man, I wish I would have knownthis when I was younger.
I wish my parents would havecelebrated their wins and I
would have witnessed that.
I get it.
I kind of call myself arecovering perfectionist, right
(05:38):
that there were times when Iwouldn't even try things because
I thought, well, I'm not goingto be able to do it really well,
so why try it at all.
And I still struggle with thatfrom time to time.
My mom was a very, very goodbaker.
She still is, and it's one ofthe things that intimidates me.
It's like, well, it can't be asgood as my mom, so why even try
(05:59):
?
Well, that's kind of adefeatist mentality, right.
But if I celebrate the progressof trying something, then I
want to try even more.
Let's also talk about the biggerpicture of celebrating wins for
just a minute, because we haveto talk about this issue of
building mental health in ourfamilies and building up
(06:23):
confidence in our children.
So celebrating wins, bothindividual and as a family, has
a profound impact on mentalhealth and confidence.
And here's how when familymembers feel acknowledged, it
reduces stress and it promotes asense of belonging, that I
(06:46):
belong to a team, the mostimportant team, my family.
So it develops this culture ofbelonging when you celebrate
your wins together becausepeople are seen, they are heard,
they are observed and beingrecognized for their efforts.
(07:07):
You know, it's really, reallyhard to feel down when someone
says you know what?
I am so proud of you for trying.
Guys, recognition lifts theweight of self-doubt.
Now you might be listening andgoing oh man, yeah, I got
self-doubt.
I've got those ants runningaround in my head, right?
(07:29):
Those automatic negativethoughts ants.
If somebody points out that I'mdoing a good job, or they're
proud of my efforts, or theyknow that this work of staying
home with kids and doing diapersand dishes and laundry is
difficult, man, that kind oflifts that weight of self-doubt
(07:50):
and goes you know what I can do?
Hard things right.
The other way celebrating winshelps is that it improves
confidence.
Each celebration, no matter howsmall, reinforces this idea
that effort leads to achievement, right?
(08:10):
This builds resilience.
What is resilience?
Resilience is the ability tobounce back from difficult
things, the ability to get backon our feet when something
knocks us down.
How often are we gettingknocked down in this life?
Every single day, right?
There's something that justknocks us upside the head and
(08:34):
spins us around and makes usfeel like we just got whiplash
for the third time today, and sowe've got to have the skill and
the confidence to get back onour feet and bounce back from
that.
When you celebrate wins, it says, even if things are hard, I can
keep going because progress iswhere it's at If I just keep
(09:00):
trying and making an efforttowards the thing.
That's what matters.
Celebrating wins helps youovercome challenges.
When you make celebration ahabit, it becomes easier to
tackle setbacks right.
(09:21):
Your family starts to seechallenges as temporary because
they know progress is possible.
And this mindset, this grit,this perseverant mindset, is
what keeps everyone movingforward, even when things get
tough.
I want you to tune in right now,because your life is going to
(09:44):
get harder than it's alreadybeen, and that's a hard message
to hear.
But after being married for 20years, having a child who has
left the nest and is on his own,now is, you know, almost 19
years old and having kids allthe way down to 10, you are
going to suffer.
You're going to run into thingsthat you never believed would
(10:09):
happen to your kids, yourmarriage yourself, health
problems, no-transcript.
So if you focus on celebratingwins, acknowledging people's
(10:32):
progress when they are littleright, or starting it now, when
you're listening to this andhearing it for the first time,
if your kids are teenagers, oreven if your kids have left the
house and you're listening andyou want to try this with your
spouse.
This is the time to celebratewins as a family, as a couple,
(10:54):
because it makes all thedifference in keeping this grit
mindset, this perseverantmindset, going when the going
gets tough.
So there are some reallypractical ways to celebrate
family wins and I'm going toshare them with you.
Okay, you might be thinking like, how do we actually celebrate
(11:15):
as a family without it feelinglike forced or cheesy?
And I get it.
I've totally got you covered.
Okay, here's a couple simpleideas.
First of all, verbalrecognition A quick like great
job trying that.
I know that was tough for youand I'm proud of you.
That goes a long way.
(11:36):
And remember, you're notpraising the person.
You're a good boy.
That's too generic.
That doesn't mean a lot to us.
Right?
Be specific with verbalrecognition.
I'm proud of you for tryingthat new food.
I'm really proud of you forgoing to youth group for the
first time, because I know thatyou were really.
(11:56):
That was difficult for you andthat kind of pushed you out of
your comfort zone.
Great job, right.
Say it in the moment and makeit impactful.
Just a simple observation oftheir effort and then putting
words to it.
Verbal recognition how about afamily high five?
Right?
(12:17):
Bring back the old high five orthe fist bump.
Gather everybody for a grouphigh five or fist bump.
It's quick, it's fun, it's fullof energy.
It's like, yeah, that wasawesome.
Okay, again, you're creatingthe culture of your family
around positivity and progress.
(12:38):
Another idea celebrate at dinner.
Don't we all eat?
We're all feeding our facesevery day, right?
Breakfast, lunch, dinner.
We might not be together forall those meals, but anytime you
sit together as a family to eata meal, even if you're having
popcorn with a movie associatefood with some wins.
(13:00):
Right, just go around the tableand share one win from the day.
It can be as small as Iremember to feed the dog Win,
awesome.
Count it right.
Another great way to celebratewins at the table you can keep a
little notepad close to thetable.
Andy Hickman talked about thison a previous episode on our
(13:23):
podcast about how just writingdown one of your wins is so
helpful.
But then you read that as youlook at it, you read it aloud to
the people at the table andthen you actually read it
another time aloud, at half thespeed, and it allows your spirit
(13:47):
, in your brain, to reallyabsorb that wind and really take
in that you are making aprogress.
It's just like an auditory hugfor yourself to write it down,
read it aloud and then read italoud a second time at half
(14:07):
speed, if you really want thatwind to settle in.
You know what you do.
After you read it at half speed, you read just one sentence,
take a big deep breath and blowit all out and read it again, or
read the next sentence, okay.
So you add some deep breathingin with it to really allow you
(14:30):
to let that win settle in foryou.
We need that, folks.
Okay, another idea create acelebration jar.
We've done this.
What you do is you write downwins on slips of paper as you
notice them, and then you putthem in a mason jar on your
kitchen counter, let's say, andthen you read them together once
(14:54):
a week.
Or what we did is we saved themup for 30 days.
So we made it our goal for themonth that we were going to
recognize the progress in oneanother and then make a
statement of that progress orthat win on a piece of paper and
put it in the jar.
And then we, surprised our kids,took them out to a restaurant
(15:17):
for dinner and then, after weordered our food and we're
sitting and waiting for the foodto come, my husband pulled the
jar out of his pocket and he'slike, look at this.
He kind of smuggled it in inthis coat and he pulled it out
and put it on the table andthey're like, oh cool, this is
awesome.
Our waiter was curious what isthis?
This is so cool.
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What are you guys reading fromthis jar?
People around us were looking,kind of peeking over the top of
the booth.
What are they doing?
We went through and read what wehad noticed that other people
were doing to make effortstowards their goal and it was
just everybody was glowing andlike, hey, I didn't know, you
caught me doing that.
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Well, awesome, I do remember,you know, making my bed four
days in a row.
That's, that's, that was a win,right.
So creating a celebration jar,writing them down on slips of
paper and then reading themaloud is such a great way to
really make those wins stick.
And then for bigger milestones.
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You know, someone earns a badgein American Heritage Girls, or,
you know, maybe you have a sonthat has gone on a particularly
difficult hike or done somethingphysical that was above and
beyond what he had ever done.
Plan a special family outing orhave a special family treat.
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Right, it's not about spendingmoney or throwing elaborate
parties, but it's about creatingmoments of joy and connection.
Just to say, I see your efforts, I'm proud of you.
I'm not surprised becauseyou're a go-getter right, but I
am proud.
Celebrating wins, guys, isn'tjust a nice thing to do, it's
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essential.
I want you to think back aboutyour own life.
How often did your familycelebrate your progress?
If it wasn't much, make thatdifferent for your own family.
Your spouse will be better forit too.
If you are constantly wantingto know from them how you can
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help them celebrate progress,they're going to start looking
at their lives with morepositivity too.
You know it's been said that wehave over 60,000 thoughts in
our mind a day and 80% of themare negative.
So let's turn that around.
Let's really be intentionalabout drawing our attention to
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the wins, to the small dailyactions that make progress
towards our goal in our family.
Remember, it's not just a nicething to do.
Celebrating wins is essential.
It fosters motivation, like wetalked about, builds resilience
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and it creates a culture ofgrowth and development.
You are developing virtue inyour kids when you create the
habit of observing anddescribing and pointing out and
celebrating wins.
When kids see their parentsworking to improve and
celebrating their progress, theylearn to do the same.
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It strengthens mental health.
It boosts confidence and keepseveryone moving forward, even in
those tough times.
So here's my challenge for you.
Here's my challenge for youTake a moment today to celebrate
one win aloud with your family.
It does not matter how smallthe win, just celebrate it, make
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it meaningful, make it joyfuland watch how it brings your
family closer together.
Listen thanks for tuning in totoday's episode and remember, if
you found this helpful, don'tforget to share it with a fellow
parent or your spouse and leaveus a review that pumps up our
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podcast in the list of parentand family podcasts that are out
there, and there's a lot ofthem.
Until next time, keepcelebrating those wins and
remember progress is the goal,not perfection.
Take care, and I'll catch youon another episode of our show
real soon.
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