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The summer countdown is on! Are you feeling excited about ditching the school routine, dreading the lack of structure, or somewhere in between?

Jordan shares a simple yet powerful exercise to help parents prepare for summer with kids at home, transforming potential chaos into a season of connection and enjoyment.

• Setting aside one uninterrupted hour to plan can dramatically improve your summer experience
• Start by listing all your children's typical summer day needs - meals, clothing, equipment, transportation, activities
• Identify past summer frustrations and brainstorm specific solutions
• The goal isn't perfect planning but bringing intentionality to create more enjoyable family time

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back parents, jordan Langdon, here again with
you today to share a simpleexercise to help you prepare for
summer with kids at home.
Listen, there's usually a fewcamps people land in when it
comes to thinking about oranticipating summer and having

(00:21):
your kids home seven days a week.
Summer and having your kidshome seven days a week.
There's the camp where peopleget super excited for school to
get out so they can kind ofthrow the routine out the window
and just hang for a few months.
I've heard moms say yes, nomore carpool, no more packing
lunch uniforms, no homework.

(00:41):
They are ready for a break andare looking forward to it.
There's another camp of folkswho just kind of shudder a bit
when they think about the summerbecause of the lack of
structure with kids at homeevery day.
They think how am I going tokeep them off of screens all day
?
And should I let him sleep in,or should we keep to a regular

(01:04):
schedule?
And then what if I missed thedeadline for summer camp for
signing him up?
Oh man, and if you don't reallyland in either of those camps,
it might mean you've struck abalance over the years with how
much structure your family needsand how much downtime and
unplanned summer you need too.

(01:25):
It's possible to be in thatcamp too.
And listen, no judgment eitherway about which camp you land in
.
I have been in all three atdifferent times in my parenting
career, for sure, isn't it true?
Just all families are sodifferent.
I mean, you might work fromhome and then the next parent

(01:47):
works away at the office, andone family might have a built-in
sitter because they have anolder kid at home, and another
might be looking for just a12-year-old mother's helper a
few days a week in the summer.
And there are camps and likegrandparent getaways, trips,
daycare, swimming lessons, likeit's just all very different for

(02:12):
everyone.
So with that in mind, I've comeup with an exercise for
preparing for summer, no matterwhat your family dynamics may be
, and actually the same exercisecan be used for long breaks or
holidays too, not just summer.
I like to think of parenting inseasons, and summer is obviously

(02:35):
one of the four seasons, butit's definitely a parenting
season too.
Another season of parentingmight be preparing to have a
baby right, a new baby at home,adding someone to your family.
Or another season could behaving a child start
kindergarten, when you're usedto them being home every day.

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There's these different seasonsin parenting, and preparing for
a season of parenting is superhelpful in mitigating anxiety,
misunderstandings, schedulingconflicts.
And if you happen to belistening to this and summer is
already underway, don't worry,it's never too late to just kind

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of pull back.
Never too late to just kind ofpull back, prepare and take
action.
But, parents, let's keep itsimple, because we need it.
Simple, right, we're busy,we've got a lot going on.
We're going to serve it up toyou simple, right here.
So how about starting by justcommitting to one hour of alone

(03:43):
time for this exercise?
I'm talking about goingsomewhere quiet where there
isn't a possibility ofinterruption, and I know some of
you are just laughing ha, goodjoke, jordan.
But for some of you, this mightbe in your closet with the door
locked, or it could be at thelibrary or a coffee shop.

(04:04):
The idea behind this is just tohave some intentional time to
think, reflect, to plan and thento walk away feeling more
prepared and positive aboutsummer.
So, once you're ready andyou've got your favorite
beverage and some pen and paperready, and you've got your

(04:28):
favorite beverage and some penand paper the first step is just
to simply start thinking abouta typical day in the summer when
all your kids are home, andwhat I want you to do is
identify their primary needs.
Just start with waking up inthe morning and then just moving
throughout your day until theygo to bed at night, and just

(04:50):
think about what it is your kidsneed on a typical summer day.
Think three meals, snacks,appropriate summer clothing,
transportation to and fromactivities, sunscreen, sandals,
hats, water bottles, lifejackets, bug spray, swimsuits,

(05:15):
books, babysitter backup,babysitter equipment for sports,
camp waivers all thenecessities.
And as these things come toyour mind, just simply jot them
down in a list on your paper.
You can make one general listfor all your kids as this stuff

(05:37):
comes to mind or, if you prefer,you could write down each name
of your children and then makeindividual lists.
I personally prefer one generallist where I'm just dumping
things that come to my mind andthen, towards the end, I think
specifically about each kid andif they have different needs.

(06:00):
Maybe one of them needs to takean allergy medicine every day
in the summer, and so I makesure to put that on the list, on
the general list.
But simply make a list of allthese necessities on paper or on
your phone.
Externalizing this informationhelps you get it out in front of

(06:21):
you so you can make a plan tomanage it all.
Simply just kind of thinkingabout it.
I call it like putting it inthe rock tumbler when it stays
in my brain, or venting to yourfriends about all the things of
summer.
Those don't actually help youmove to action, to properly plan

(06:44):
for an enjoyable summer.
It just keeps you in that cycleof worry and anxiety to just
think about it or vent about it.
So skip all that and just gostraight to pen and paper or
your notes app on your phone.
This might seem overwhelming atfirst.
You might be thinking, yeahright, jordan, I have five kids.

(07:04):
There's so much there.
It's often a long list for eventhe most basic or simple family
situations.
But Just do it, because withoutrecognizing the needs, without
dumping all this out on paper,you simply cannot meet the needs

(07:24):
of your kids and besides,you're going to need to meet
these needs at some point whensummer hits.
So it's simply just goodplanning versus being forced to
react when the need arises, inthe moment when they can't find
the sunscreen, when you'veforgotten to sign them up for a
camp and you have it on yourcalendar and they don't have

(07:48):
your kid on the roster.
We want to think ahead, eventhough it seems like it will
take more time away right now.
So, no matter how long youanticipate the list might be,
just keep jotting down thenecessities for a typical summer
day.
Trust me, it'll be superhelpful.
And then, once you've made thatlist, just set it aside for the

(08:12):
time being, because you'regoing to come back to it.
Okay, so next step I want youto spend some time just
reflecting on past summers andsome common frustrations you've
experienced and then write thosedown.
I mean we don't have to planfor all the fun and awesomeness

(08:33):
we're going to have.
I mean we do have to put it onthe schedule, but we don't
really have to plan and thinkabout that.
But we do need to anticipatethe bumps in the road.
So some examples of frustrationsyou know chronic frustrations
every summer might be waterballoons in the grass when it's
time to mow.

(08:53):
You know you like having awater balloon fight and it's all
fun until it's over, and thenyour yard is full of colored.
You know rubber balloonseverywhere and you're going.
Why did we do this If thatcauses you a lot of stress.
Write it down.
How about kids using 14 cups aday for drinks and leaving them

(09:15):
all around?
What about their path ofclothes?
They leave on the floor whenthey change into their swimsuit?
It's melty candy or popsiclesthat attract ants on the patio.
Or never being able to find thegoggles when it's time to head
to the pool.
Another frustrating thing mightbe kids accessing inappropriate

(09:38):
things on TV or the internetwhile they're unsupervised in
the summer.
Those types of commonfrustrations.
That's what I want you to writedown.
Whatever those things are foryou, just jot them down and,
again, don't worry aboutorganizing them in any specific
fashion.
Just dump them out.
This gives you an opportunityto avoid some of those chronic

(10:03):
frustrations from the past thiscoming summer.
Now, for each issue orfrustration you've written down,
you're just going to brainstorma situation.
You're just going to look atthat.
One thing broken water balloons.
If that's the thing that sendsyou over the edge, or your
husband over the edge, maybe youjust make a quick decision

(10:25):
right then no water balloonsthis summer, we're going to do
water guns.
It'll still be fun, they canstill get each other, so to
speak, but there's less mess.
So you just make that decisionright there, write down water
guns, cross out little balloonsEasy fix.
If kids using 14 cups a day ison your list, just consider

(10:50):
having each kid pick out theirfavorite water bottle and then
make a routine of filling theirwater bottle at night and
putting it in the fridge so it'sready to go every morning.
No cups needed.
Maybe just hide the cups forthe summer.
Don't need them.
You're responsible for yourwater bottle and that's it.
Make it simple.
And if you can't ever find thepool supplies you need when

(11:13):
you're heading out the door,maybe you need to set up a
little summer zone in your houseto help with organization,
putting all the sunscreen, thegoggles, the sunglasses and hats
in one particular bin near thedoor you pass by to go to all
your water activities, whetherit be near the back door because
you're doing, you know,sprinklers in the backyard or

(11:36):
playing in a pool in thebackyard.
Organize it wherever it's mostconvenient.
For screen time issues,consider setting limits on what
they can access and what hoursof the day their device will be
available to them, and take aminute to Google something
simple that you could implementor maybe just change in the

(11:58):
settings on their iPad or theirtablet or a phone or whatever
device it is that they're usingand just simply write it down.
It's not for you to do anythingwith now, but you're really
just dumping it on paper at thispoint.
Okay, you see why doing thisplanning is most effective.
If you can have time away fromyour kids.

(12:20):
You want to be able to havethat clear mind, to brainstorm
and even do a little research ifyou want, like jump on
Pinterest or Google Ideas orwhatever that would work for
your specific family situation.
And I'm just going to say itright now.
If you can't imagine havingthat time away an hour or hour

(12:40):
or two, and you're kind ofdismissing this exercise as you
listen because you believe it'sjust not humanly possible to not
be interrupted and be able toreflect and plan, I'm just going
to challenge you, I'm going topush you a little bit and I'm
going to challenge you toadvocate for yourself and to use
your resources.

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You may have to really musterup the courage to ask for the
time from either your spouse ora sitter or a neighbor, or even
offer to trade with another momso she can get away and plan too
.
If you do this.
It'll be well worth it.
Okay, so let's get back to theexercise.

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So, once you've written downthe necessities for a typical
summer day, you've reflected onpast problems and brainstormed
solutions to those and writtenthem down.
You're simply going to make twomaster lists from that brain
dump.
Okay, you're going to make alist that says to buy and one

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that says to do.
Simply go down through whatyou've dumped on paper and put
each item in one of those twolists so you realize you need to
buy specific snacks in bulk forthe summer and you need to buy
two more pairs of goggles.
Write those on the list thatsays to buy your shopping list.

(14:09):
And then you realize oh wait, Ineed to find a backup
babysitter and I also need toput the winter gloves and hats
away and fill that supply binwith swimsuits and towels
instead.
Write those down on yourcalendar to take action.

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So before you go rushing back to, you know your duties as a
parent, or you know you come outof the closet and enter into
reality in your family again, oryou leave the coffee shop, stop
and put a date on your calendarwhere you can actually do the

(14:55):
things on your to-do list andshop for the things that you
need to buy to make summersmoother.
And, again, take a few minuteswhile you're looking at your
calendar to really assess thebest day and time you're going
to do this so you don't getinterrupted or something else
bumps it to the back burner andthen it never happens.

(15:17):
You just have this list, butyou haven't done anything with
it.
Have a chat with your spouseabout this process and ask for
what you need in order tocomplete this exercise.
I can't stress this enough.
Advocate for what you need, thisplanning time, and then, when

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the day comes and it's time totake action on your preparing
for summer lists, follow through, no matter what.
If you're dreading it or youfeel like it's too big, it's too
much, just simply start at thetop of the list and put on the
mindset that this summer isgoing to be different because

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you took intentional steps toplan and be prepared.
And, like I mentioned earlierin the show, this same exercise
can be helpful in any season ofparenting Simply reflecting back
on another time that wassimilar to this season, what

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worked, what didn't,anticipating any problems and
then coming up with solutions,what you can do, what is in your
control to make the next seasondifferent.
Parents, when we take time toplan, we are bringing the future
into the present, so we can dosomething about it now.

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I totally encourage you to dothis Make time.
Summer is supposed to be fun andenjoyable, whether you're
working or you're home.
Planning and preparing can makesummer so enjoyable and such a
connecting time for your entirefamily.

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So do whatever it takes tocomplete this exercise, plan and
prepare and then rock summerokay, and stay tuned for another
episode, because we havecrowdsourced tons of helpful
ideas for managing summer.
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