August 21, 2025 • 36 mins
In this heartfelt episode of The Family of One, I’m joined by my fabulous sister Maureen, my go-to for parenting wisdom and real-life perspective. Together, we unpack two of the most searched questions parents ask:
1 How do I teach my child to share?
2. How do I manage screen time?
We explore what these questions really mean in everyday life, share our own parenting stories, and offer gentle, practical insights for moms of only children navigating these topics.
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UNKNOWN (00:00):
Bye.
SPEAKER_00 (00:04):
Welcome to the Family of One Child podcast.
I'm so excited to introduce As Ipromise, her name is Maureen and
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Maureen is the one, if you'vebeen listening and following me
for some time, you know that Italk about her a lot.
And so she is my sister and I'mgoing to let her introduce a
little bit about herself.
I'm sure you have questions.
So Maureen, my first questionis, how awesome is, how awesome
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am I?
You know the answer to that.
Ten out of ten, girl.
And that's why she is my realfirst guest.
The last week was Olivia, but asyou know, we've just got to take
her in little steps because thelonger we give her the
microphone, the more she willtell my secrets.
So I asked Maureen to comebecause we all know I need help,
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right, in this podcast.
So Maureen, do you want to tellus a little bit about yourself
for those who are...
I always talk about how awesomeyou are and all the advice you
give me.
Oh, thanks, Far.
Well, yeah, about me, as Farsaid, I am the oldest sister out
of four sisters.
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I live in New Zealand.
Wellington you may be morefamiliar with, but the actual
city I live in is Upper Hutt.
And we have about 51,000 peoplein our city.
And I have my husband and wehave a daughter who's 29, only
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child for us.
Yes, so I'm really excited thatI'm finally getting to be, you
know, you'll get to hear a bitabout my story and just
listening to Fofora and I justcasually chatting like we always
do often.
So thank you, Fofa.
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You're welcome.
Yeah, you guys, this is what weusually do.
And then my family are like, ohmy gosh, mum is not going to get
off that phone.
And you know what?
I do not get off my phone.
And we'll talk, what, how manyhours?
Five, depending.
It could be one, between one to12 hours per session.
And if you're lucky enough tobook appointment with her, you
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will be paying because...
People are like, you're amazing.
And I'm like, well, I shouldshow you the person that I'm
getting counsel from.
So I asked Maureen because a fewepisodes ago, I had questions.
I answered some of like top 10questions that parents Googled.
And I thought, Maureen, most ofthese questions I really asked
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you.
And then I just shared about it.
I think this is what she wassaying.
And the reason is becauseMaureen's child, as you said, as
she shared, is a lot, she's alot older.
So one of the questions,Maureen, is this one.
And I know I have asked youthis.
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How, parents have Googled, theseare one of the top 10 questions.
How do I teach my child toshare?
Oh, that's a good question.
Now, I'm sure I've asked youabout that.
Mm, mm, you have.
So I can answer that questionlooking at your child.
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You know, right from primaryschool as a toddler, about
three, as I recall, so if westart off at three or five,
anything under five years old,we started teaching her about
how do you share your toys orjust the things that are hers.
And how does she get to sharethat with her other family
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members, her cousins or friends?
And what does that look like forher?
I suppose if I start off with,first of all, I looked at what
it is, how I want to feel as hermum in that process.
So in the sharing process, I'mreally, at that time, I was
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really looking at, oh gosh, youknow, how will other parents
feel and think about her if shedoesn't share, you know.
So, for example, one of thethings that we talked, it was
okay for her not to share a toyif she didn't want to share a
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particular item she owned.
And I remember you told me aboutthat.
I remember you said, and I askedyou why.
Yes, and the thing is because ifshe was given presents that were
hers or a gift or just somethingthat she has saved money for,
even at the age of five, so itwas okay for her to not share
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and it was okay for her to notoffer that to anybody.
So in that process, we thought,all right, It's just like us.
You know, I have things that Idon't share with other people
because they exclusively mine,which is okay.
So to teach her openly in publicor when family are around, if we
go somewhere.
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So we gave her an option.
So she would have items orthings that she didn't want to
share, which was okay.
Absolutely, 100% fine.
And she selected toys or itemsor colored pencils, anything
else that she would put aside.
We would put that to one side,whether you put it in a box or
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something that she would have instorage.
So when friends came around orfamily came around, she would
bring those items out that shedidn't mind them using.
And that way, and that's down toeverything.
And that left her feeling reallygood.
And it also left me as a parent,you know, feeling really
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comfortable in that space.
So it's a win-win for everybody,especially the child.
Yeah, I think because I know Iasked you that question because
we had friends over.
And then Olivia's like, I don'twant to share my toys.
And I said, no.
And I know I said, you need toshare because sharing is caring,
aren't you?
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And then she was crying and thenI thought, hold on a minute.
You don't have to shareeverything, maybe one or two.
But then when you said it's okayto let her just pick which ones
because it's like you said, youdon't share everything.
Like you don't let people go inyour room or you don't share all
your stuff or things that youdon't want people to touch.
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And so Olivia's really good withthat.
But then...
When I gave you that, okay, youcan pick which ones, at least
pick some toys.
And then Moran, she would getthe toy and she would hit it on
her head because depending onthe child, she goes, oh, that
child might hit someone.
So if I hit it on myself, I waslike, well, that's just a
different level of now you'recategorizing it.
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What can I share?
What is it?
Is it going to hurt if thatchild hits someone?
And maybe that's anotherquestion.
And that's what happens andthat's what we found with our
daughter as well.
They actually start toconsciously, purposely think
about what items or what toysthat she would like to share and
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also looking at what's reallygood.
and what's useful and whatwouldn't hurt that child.
So if the child was two, if hercousin's two years old, she knew
certain things wouldn't be safe,wouldn't be that good.
So that's really good thatOlivia does that.
So it makes them, you start tolearn about thinking of other
people in a really disciplinedway, but they don't know that's
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a disciplined way.
Because we're looking at, Whatwas it that we wanted to teach
our daughter by using thisprocess of sharing?
And that is because as she getsa little bit older, there will
come a time where you need toapply wisdom to what it is you
say yes to give and what it isthat you will say no or not yet.
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So this is really building onthat character.
But you can start really youngto do that.
And they do.
And also with our child, it'salso she would have certain
items and toys because they'renot always toys.
It could be pens, colour books,colouring books, chalk, skip
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rope, you know, jumping rope,little balls.
Because she had quite a numberof these things because, you
know, we were homeschooling her.
And so she wouldn't mind.
She would set things aside,things that she would just give
away.
So if a friend or a cousin goes,can I have that?
She would be okay to go, okay,you can have it.
And out of that relationship anddoing it that way, her friends
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or family would start bringingthings that they'd swap.
And just organically, they startswapping things over.
We are now just experiencingthat in the last year.
Did we experience it a lotsooner?
No, not really.
But in the past year, I thinkmaybe when she was seven, it's
the swapping now.
She's like, it's okay, I'll takethings.
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And I'll take some extra thingsto swap.
But when her friends come, theyknow exactly what toys not to
touch.
And it's funny, they'll come inand they'll stand in their room
and they're like, and I'm like,why are you guys all standing in
the middle?
They're like, we know it's notthat, it's not that.
And I thought, That's me, and Ishould have put those toys away
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in the office.
But they just know, even thoughOlivia didn't say, but they're
like, we know it's not that.
But we can touch everything elsehere because we know we've been
here well enough to know thatthose horses are not available.
Okay.
As for parents, because I alwayslike to turn it on myself, how
have I grown to share?
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It depends.
If it's like certain people,junk food I will eat before I
come to work I will put itsomewhere like I think I think
I'm pretty good I'm pretty youknow I'm pretty good I will
share with my husband but youknow it's not like we can wear
the same tops or anything I meanif I'm juicy but here's the
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thing with my child her and Ishould be like the same perfume
so I do I am sharing that withher this is that so it's the
perfume Right.
So I don't know if you, Maureen,as the seasons grow, do you
share different things?
It depends on the taste too.
Right now for her and I, it's adifferent perfumes.
Yeah.
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Human nature, you know, humannature automatically has us not
want to necessarily share whatwe have.
And if this is human nature,because we instinctively, we
just want to, especially if it'snew.
We want to use it first or wewant to wear it first or, you
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know, especially if something'snew.
So it really comes down to thecontext of what it is that
you're sharing with your child,what it is that, and what are
the, you know, what is thesentimental reasons behind that
object?
Or, yeah, so it's okay that, youknow, like we go back, it's okay
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that I didn't share some thingswith our child until later.
But if it's, say, for example...
I don't share my shampoo orconditioner with my child
because we have different typesof hair and we have different
conditions.
So for example, I mean, yeah,because I have mine, she has
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hers.
So that's not saying I wouldn'tshare it, but that's not
something we just openly go, youcan use it.
So there's those stuff that justhappen organically.
But if you were talking aboutfood, so my family knows.
No matter how old you are, thechild is or the adult is, it
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doesn't matter.
When I have my food, I like tonot share my hamburger and chips
with anybody.
You know, I don't want anyone totake a sip from my food.
pop as you call it.
I just want to be able to eat myhamburger, my chips and my soda
myself.
So what I do and my husband,he'll share, he shared his meal
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with his daughter all the time,but her mum, no, because that's
my burger.
So what we do in that space isto make sure if I'm eating a
different burger to her, thatshe's If she asked, can I have a
bite of your burger?
I'd go, no, because she had anoption to buy the same burger.
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So what she learns is, and shesurely knows what it tastes
like, but that's also teachingher these boundaries.
So what we did when she wasreally young is that sometimes
the father, her dad, would buythe same burger so she could
have a taste of everythingbecause it's okay to say no to
certain food.
Because what we're teaching thelesson is this.
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For her, when she was reallyyoung, is that some choices you
make, there will beconsequences.
We might give you, we mightshare that particular burger.
I'm just using burger.
It could be something else tobegin with.
But next time you get to pick aburger, then you make a
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different option because yourchoices have consequences.
And it's really light.
And I know I'm making reallylight of it, and possibly Berg
is not the biggest choice.
But to this day, I don't shareall my meal with her, and she's
29.
So she knows that.
And I know that she can also sayno to me.
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What is it you're wanting toshare?
Yeah, I'm quite a stigler fornot sharing when I don't want
to.
But so is she, and it's okay.
It's okay to be in that spaceand you make different choices.
So if we do, we do.
And if we don't, we don't.
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It's no biggie for us.
So now that you've been 29, itreally isn't a biggie.
There's no fuss.
Even when she was a teenager, ifshe wanted to go, oh, can I wear
your top?
My answer I remember once is shewas a teen.
No, you cannot wear your topbecause she was working
part-time.
She had a choice.
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She didn't want to buy her owntop.
but she was advised by me, thenyou should need to get your own
top.
So I say no.
And she would say, I remembershe'd say, but how come I'm only
going to borrow it once?
The answer is you had an optionto buy it because once you do
it, you'll keep doing it.
So go buy your own top.
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You'll thank me later.
So that's what she did, but shebought a different color.
This is so good.
This is really good because I,you know, well, I, I can't talk
about that because Olivia's onlyeight, but those who are
listening, you know, theyprobably, they might have an
older child.
And so, you know, the teenagers,so they might be going through
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that.
So that's why you're here totalk about that space.
I think it's really just, Ithink what I'm really
highlighting for an only childis that it's specific to our
childhood.
And knowing her personality,knowing her heart in all of this
space, and what character lessonand growth and building on we
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were really doing and buildingon.
Yeah, so that's not to say, youknow, to mum I didn't share
things or vice versa, but therewere clear ties when we don't.
And we sit in that space reallygood.
Like, you know, it really wasn'ttoo much of an issue in the
learning process.
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Maureen, as soon as I say it,you're going to be like, how do
I manage my child's screen time?
Now, I would like to say, andMaureen knows this, that I am
amazing at it.
I'm better than I was last week.
So I would say that she is ahigh user of the screen time.
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But We have, look, I mean,what's high, depending, if you
compared me to my other friends,their friends only have 30
minutes.
That is it.
And they don't even take allthat.
But Olivia, you know, we, 30hours probably, you know, I can,
I'm saying 30 hours, but it is alot.
So I have talked to Maureenabout this.
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She has given me data aboutthis.
how to balance it and why andi'm taking it some days are
better some days are good butthis is what we did maureen so
on her tablet and on hercomputer jeremy actually we have
done so good in the past i thinkduring the summer we really got
serious about it we put a lockon her screen time so it cannot
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go on youtube it cannot andshe's like mom And you know why
we did it?
Because we could not as adultssay no.
How ridiculous is that?
We couldn't say no to herbecause the easiest thing is
like, you could just say no.
Well, we're still workingthrough that.
So what we did, we went to GrogAI and said, how do you help?
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Just put a lock on it.
And there you go.
So this morning she woke up andshe was like, I can't get on it.
No, you cannot.
And you have to wait till yourstudent says, your hour that
we've set for you is like twohours.
Now, some people, that's long,but for us, that's a good start
for two hours.
I tell you what.
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So what do you think, Moana?
I hear you, and that's reallyokay because that's a phenomenon
that's global with parents andwith technology now.
That is a challenge many, many,many families and parents have
right across cultures.
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right across the board.
So for us, you know, with ourdaughter growing up and
especially in the newtechnology, I suppose what we
needed to decide first is, Imean, it's great technology, but
how to use it, you know, and allthe appropriateness and trying
to figure that out as we'regoing because we're all in the
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same boat learning together andour families and our friends,
we're all doing it together sortof thing.
But, yeah, We did restrict them.
So first of all, because itcomes down to first phones, you
know, the families that willallow your child, only child to
have a phone for their reasons.
And that's good for them, forus, for us, for our daughter.
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We didn't let her use, first ofall, when she was going to
school, she didn't own a phone.
Even when she went to highschool, which is, you know, our
college or high school, shedidn't have her own phone.
We didn't give her a phone, lether actually own a phone until
she was leaving college, whichis your high school, and there
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are reasons behind that.
We really restricted her even.
And when she did access, therewere specific areas of access
she could have, and that was tolearning games, games that would
build on her skills her skills,the reason we're doing it.
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And sometimes it wasn't, theycan be really, you know, fun as
well.
So we did monitor really,really, really tightly.
And we're also mindful about, Igrew up in the generation, don't
sit too close to the TV, it'llruin your eyes.
Well, we also are aware that youhave, you know, your phone, your
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iPad computer really closely toyour children as they're
developing and, eyesight andwhat that can do health-wise.
So we monitored that massivelyclosely.
I'm trying to think how long shewould use the computer if it
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directly had to do with hereducation and they were learning
tools.
But just to browse and go onYouTube and watch all that, no.
So we didn't allow her to use itfor any one of those reasons.
It was directly to do with hereducation.
Do you think it's like an onlychild thing where, okay, so I
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used it to entertain her morethan, I could say more than my
friends, honestly.
Like I come home, give it toher, and I'll go to sleep.
oh no did I just go to sleep noI just didn't want to talk I was
just too tired I know I justgave it to her and we would do
it at the dinner table Iremember giving it to her at the
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dinner table and I was sharingthat with you and you were like
the whole time I was like yeahare you guys talking no we just
we're like out not out I didn'teven know how to say it more we
were just each in our zone shewould have a tablet whatever
Jeremy's on his and I'm on i'mon mine and we're having dinner
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quietly but we're not engagingwe're looking at the tablet i
mean our cell phones she's on iti'm sorry he was tired you know
what i mean and i will tell youyou're like hey maybe just
putting that down just fordinner time and just how about
talk about your day and we couldtalk there'll be another like
episode what's a good if youwant a conversation you know
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what kind of But we can talkabout that later.
But I remember you sharing that.
And I was like, what?
But I wonder if other mums dothat.
Yeah.
Or is it just depends on, it'snot like an only child thing.
It's like.
It's actually not just an onlychild thing and that's been
shown.
You know, it's, I think if we'regoing back to, because we all
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have only, you know, one child.
UNKNOWN (23:03):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (23:03):
It will be for whatever, it's used for a reason
too because sometimes everyfamily's different and stress
and what you've got to do duringthe day and so it's used
sometimes as a breath thatsometimes mum or dad or family
just need to take a breath, justneed to shh time and just Go
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onto your iPad or your gadgetand just watch whatever and give
me some time to download for theday all this time.
So often that's used for that,which is actually okay for
families.
Because in the days we weregrowing up, it was the TV.
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In the days my parents weregrowing up, it was the radio.
There's always somethingfamilies need, like mums need to
go to, or if you're the dadstaying at home raising your
only child, then it's a go-to.
So everyone has a go-to.
And because it's on yourcomputer or phone, let's just
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say it's going on the web, Andthat's okay because it's okay to
give that.
The way we were looking at it ishow then over time can we use
this to ensure that it doesn'tovercome or take over our
human-to-human, face-to-faceconversation and being able to
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just listen to each other longenough.
Because, you know, especially ifyou're a mum working and you've
got to go home, do this, or, youknow, you've got a family and
everyone's fine sometimes forattention.
Or, you know, where's this?
And so you've got to figure outat a younger age for your only
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child, you know, because youneed your own downtime
afterwards.
how well can we use the iPad orthat iPhone or whatever gadget
you're using and making sure itdoesn't end up taking too much
of the in-person conversationand relationship building.
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And if we look at, yeah, and youwork out the teething,
challenges as you go so the moreyou start to practice it when
they're much younger the mostlikely then you've got you know
you can keep building on that ateach different stage of their
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life and it just gets a bittougher and a bit more
challenging when you as theybecome teens that you want their
time and you want them to lookat you when they've spent years
not And that's not done.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah, and this is, you know,this is what can happen.
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Yes, and I remember there'll bedays, like, especially because
we homeschooled her.
There'll be days, I didn't,there'll be times I didn't feel
like, I didn't feel like doinganything.
I just wanted to go online.
and do my own thing.
And so, you know, which means Ididn't, it's not that I
couldn't, but I just had to planthat.
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And sometimes it was justspontaneous because, you know, I
have the responsibility to teachher and do all of this.
So it's okay to do it.
And I suppose for what I said toyou when you and I talked, go
back and have a look at whatvalues you're wanting to
instill, meaning teach and buildon with your child.
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So when it comes to, forexample, dinner time or it comes
to breakfast time or lunch, doyou allow everybody to be on
their phone or their tablet ornot?
Or when you're in the car?
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when you're traveling?
Do you allow the passengers ordo you use that time to actually
connect and talk to each otherin person?
Or is it okay?
You know, you find the everydayways you live your life and how
do you fit it in without makingit too much work?
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Because we all don't want to dosomething that creates too much
work.
So you just, you know, I justweaved it in.
Weaved it in the natural.
So if we're in the car, that wasone of the things we did.
You know, she doesn't get to goon, you know, look at her eye,
her pad at the time.
She talks to me.
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No-go zone, using it in the car.
And it was a no-go zone, what wecall a no-go zone at the dinner
table or lunch table, breakfasttable.
for example, and that wassomething we could teach you
from a young age and somethingyou instill.
But it also meant, as herparents, we had to live the
example.
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Oh, that's so true.
That's the hardest.
I didn't go, oh, phone off.
Okay, you know.
And we weren't taking callsbecause you turn your phone off
and if we had to do calls orworking, Then we had to
rearrange the dinner time.
We had to step up to that.
And I'm not saying we got itright all the time either.
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But we're still working on that.
That's what I love.
It's real.
It's real life.
In some ways, we're gettingbetter, honestly.
We are getting better.
But you know why?
Because...
That's just the way it is.
We want to model.
We really want to model her bybeing the example that we asked
her because she's got to see inus.
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Otherwise, we'll be like, she'lljust know whatever, mum and dad.
In other words, we're an awesomeparents.
We have a family to bed as well,Adam.
Oh, yeah.
So if we're looking at up to theage of eight or, you know, up to
that age, then or even if yousay up to the age of 12 before
preteen, we'll go there.
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So we didn't let her go online.
And even if it was to look at achildren's program on the phone
or on the tablet, because wedidn't have an iPad then, then
she wasn't allowed to.
So there was a time we didn'tgive it to her.
So if she was going to bed anhour, you can watch half an hour
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of that whatever program it wasthat she enjoyed watching, then
it'll be at least before an hourgoing to bed because we didn't
want to overstimulate it again.
Sometimes what I found duringthe day and what we do, do you
remember before?
Those days was tape cassettes.
I would put on tape cassettes,start playing music when I was
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carrying her.
So at night, many times I wouldplay music.
So she got used to the music.
A lot of it was classical, whichshe doesn't listen to now.
Or as she got a little bitolder, listening to motivational
speakers.
Yeah, those were awesome.
They were awesome.
And that would just stop allthat overstimulation, especially
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if she's hyper from being withher cousins and playing, trying
to get ready for bed.
And she's still really at it,and that's good.
We talk about it, but now I justwant her to settle down.
So sometimes time to go to bedand she still wants to be up
late sometimes.
Sometimes I'll put the music onand it would put her to sleep
like that.
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Time to go to bed.
And that would just rest herbrain because the frequency of
the music would slow herthinking too.
because it's all about thefrequency of the music, but
that's another conversation.
You find what works for you andyour child because it's also to
be usable and friendly user foryourself.
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Who's the person going to bedoing it, looking after that
space?
So it's really important, likefor me, that it worked for me
and I was okay with using thatparticular technique or way
Because if it's good with me andit worked, then I know it would
really work with her.
The message I'm really wantingto share with your listeners is
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this.
Gosh, do you make mistakes?
Absolutely.
And things work, and they do.
You'll find your flow.
If you haven't in certain areas,you can.
For us, it was a lot of trialand error before we found what
works for us in this space.
of like sharing and time on,early time online and the
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appropriateness.
We needed to keep going back toremind us what value and
character are we wanting to, youknow, to instill in her and to
build on.
And that, so that keeps usgrounded.
And when you make a mistake,that's okay.
Shake it off.
Get with, like I did with Fawa.
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And a lot of it raises withinyourself.
It did with me.
You know, like Forza alreadysaid, man, you know, you
question everything about asyou're raising your only child
because you're all of the best,the best of the best.
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You really do.
You're after excellence.
But I wanted to do it like myhusband, in a way that, that
built in, built on her spiritand everything else that comes
with brain flushing, my ownthoughts, my own ways that I
thought.
So it was learning ways thatjust because it worked for me
didn't necessarily mean it wasfor her.
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So it was finding ways that Icould connect to her in the
longer term because she'suniquely her.
Thank you.
That is so good.
You know, oh my gosh.
You're listening.
Maureen's going to come backeach week.
Every week.
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Every week you're going to hearher until she moves on.
And even then we will hunt herdown and say, hey, keep your
speaker.
Because we haven't evenfinished.
We just got the two nuggets,golden nuggets.
I don't know what Maureen, whatwe call them.
Maureen, I don't know.
All I know is I always call her.
But she's such an encourager.
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I just want to say thank you toMaureen for being an awesome
guest on my podcast, The Familyof One Child.
And I know that I always enjoywhen we get to talk.
And so that is just a snippet.
And I do say snippet of ourconversation because each week
is she hopefully is able to comeback each week that we can talk
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about different topics because Ijust felt like we just got
started and started and theconversations.
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Let me know such exciting news.
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It's called the Mom and DaughterIcebreaker Series.
And so my first book is theperiod.
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doing the best you can with thetime that's given with the
resources that you have taketime to make sure that you get
to do what you like to dowhether if it's just me taking a
nap sometimes you like maybewant to go for a walk but even
if you just want to go for abike ride whatever sometimes
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it's I feel it's good to taketime out for yourself I just
wanted to continue to encourageyou that you are doing the best
you you can with the time that'sgiven with the resources you
have you are amazing you areamazing mom for your child
you're amazing wife for yourhusband and you are doing great
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SPEAKER_00 (00:04):
Welcome to the Family of One Child podcast.
I'm so excited to introduce As Ipromise, her name is Maureen and
(00:40):
Maureen is the one, if you'vebeen listening and following me
for some time, you know that Italk about her a lot.
And so she is my sister and I'mgoing to let her introduce a
little bit about herself.
I'm sure you have questions.
So Maureen, my first questionis, how awesome is, how awesome
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am I?
You know the answer to that.
Ten out of ten, girl.
And that's why she is my realfirst guest.
The last week was Olivia, but asyou know, we've just got to take
her in little steps because thelonger we give her the
microphone, the more she willtell my secrets.
So I asked Maureen to comebecause we all know I need help,
(01:27):
right, in this podcast.
So Maureen, do you want to tellus a little bit about yourself
for those who are...
I always talk about how awesomeyou are and all the advice you
give me.
Oh, thanks, Far.
Well, yeah, about me, as Farsaid, I am the oldest sister out
of four sisters.
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I live in New Zealand.
Wellington you may be morefamiliar with, but the actual
city I live in is Upper Hutt.
And we have about 51,000 peoplein our city.
And I have my husband and wehave a daughter who's 29, only
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child for us.
Yes, so I'm really excited thatI'm finally getting to be, you
know, you'll get to hear a bitabout my story and just
listening to Fofora and I justcasually chatting like we always
do often.
So thank you, Fofa.
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You're welcome.
Yeah, you guys, this is what weusually do.
And then my family are like, ohmy gosh, mum is not going to get
off that phone.
And you know what?
I do not get off my phone.
And we'll talk, what, how manyhours?
Five, depending.
It could be one, between one to12 hours per session.
And if you're lucky enough tobook appointment with her, you
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will be paying because...
People are like, you're amazing.
And I'm like, well, I shouldshow you the person that I'm
getting counsel from.
So I asked Maureen because a fewepisodes ago, I had questions.
I answered some of like top 10questions that parents Googled.
And I thought, Maureen, most ofthese questions I really asked
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you.
And then I just shared about it.
I think this is what she wassaying.
And the reason is becauseMaureen's child, as you said, as
she shared, is a lot, she's alot older.
So one of the questions,Maureen, is this one.
And I know I have asked youthis.
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How, parents have Googled, theseare one of the top 10 questions.
How do I teach my child toshare?
Oh, that's a good question.
Now, I'm sure I've asked youabout that.
Mm, mm, you have.
So I can answer that questionlooking at your child.
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You know, right from primaryschool as a toddler, about
three, as I recall, so if westart off at three or five,
anything under five years old,we started teaching her about
how do you share your toys orjust the things that are hers.
And how does she get to sharethat with her other family
(04:27):
members, her cousins or friends?
And what does that look like forher?
I suppose if I start off with,first of all, I looked at what
it is, how I want to feel as hermum in that process.
So in the sharing process, I'mreally, at that time, I was
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really looking at, oh gosh, youknow, how will other parents
feel and think about her if shedoesn't share, you know.
So, for example, one of thethings that we talked, it was
okay for her not to share a toyif she didn't want to share a
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particular item she owned.
And I remember you told me aboutthat.
I remember you said, and I askedyou why.
Yes, and the thing is because ifshe was given presents that were
hers or a gift or just somethingthat she has saved money for,
even at the age of five, so itwas okay for her to not share
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and it was okay for her to notoffer that to anybody.
So in that process, we thought,all right, It's just like us.
You know, I have things that Idon't share with other people
because they exclusively mine,which is okay.
So to teach her openly in publicor when family are around, if we
go somewhere.
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So we gave her an option.
So she would have items orthings that she didn't want to
share, which was okay.
Absolutely, 100% fine.
And she selected toys or itemsor colored pencils, anything
else that she would put aside.
We would put that to one side,whether you put it in a box or
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something that she would have instorage.
So when friends came around orfamily came around, she would
bring those items out that shedidn't mind them using.
And that way, and that's down toeverything.
And that left her feeling reallygood.
And it also left me as a parent,you know, feeling really
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comfortable in that space.
So it's a win-win for everybody,especially the child.
Yeah, I think because I know Iasked you that question because
we had friends over.
And then Olivia's like, I don'twant to share my toys.
And I said, no.
And I know I said, you need toshare because sharing is caring,
aren't you?
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And then she was crying and thenI thought, hold on a minute.
You don't have to shareeverything, maybe one or two.
But then when you said it's okayto let her just pick which ones
because it's like you said, youdon't share everything.
Like you don't let people go inyour room or you don't share all
your stuff or things that youdon't want people to touch.
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And so Olivia's really good withthat.
But then...
When I gave you that, okay, youcan pick which ones, at least
pick some toys.
And then Moran, she would getthe toy and she would hit it on
her head because depending onthe child, she goes, oh, that
child might hit someone.
So if I hit it on myself, I waslike, well, that's just a
different level of now you'recategorizing it.
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What can I share?
What is it?
Is it going to hurt if thatchild hits someone?
And maybe that's anotherquestion.
And that's what happens andthat's what we found with our
daughter as well.
They actually start toconsciously, purposely think
about what items or what toysthat she would like to share and
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also looking at what's reallygood.
and what's useful and whatwouldn't hurt that child.
So if the child was two, if hercousin's two years old, she knew
certain things wouldn't be safe,wouldn't be that good.
So that's really good thatOlivia does that.
So it makes them, you start tolearn about thinking of other
people in a really disciplinedway, but they don't know that's
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a disciplined way.
Because we're looking at, Whatwas it that we wanted to teach
our daughter by using thisprocess of sharing?
And that is because as she getsa little bit older, there will
come a time where you need toapply wisdom to what it is you
say yes to give and what it isthat you will say no or not yet.
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So this is really building onthat character.
But you can start really youngto do that.
And they do.
And also with our child, it'salso she would have certain
items and toys because they'renot always toys.
It could be pens, colour books,colouring books, chalk, skip
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rope, you know, jumping rope,little balls.
Because she had quite a numberof these things because, you
know, we were homeschooling her.
And so she wouldn't mind.
She would set things aside,things that she would just give
away.
So if a friend or a cousin goes,can I have that?
She would be okay to go, okay,you can have it.
And out of that relationship anddoing it that way, her friends
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or family would start bringingthings that they'd swap.
And just organically, they startswapping things over.
We are now just experiencingthat in the last year.
Did we experience it a lotsooner?
No, not really.
But in the past year, I thinkmaybe when she was seven, it's
the swapping now.
She's like, it's okay, I'll takethings.
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And I'll take some extra thingsto swap.
But when her friends come, theyknow exactly what toys not to
touch.
And it's funny, they'll come inand they'll stand in their room
and they're like, and I'm like,why are you guys all standing in
the middle?
They're like, we know it's notthat, it's not that.
And I thought, That's me, and Ishould have put those toys away
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in the office.
But they just know, even thoughOlivia didn't say, but they're
like, we know it's not that.
But we can touch everything elsehere because we know we've been
here well enough to know thatthose horses are not available.
Okay.
As for parents, because I alwayslike to turn it on myself, how
have I grown to share?
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It depends.
If it's like certain people,junk food I will eat before I
come to work I will put itsomewhere like I think I think
I'm pretty good I'm pretty youknow I'm pretty good I will
share with my husband but youknow it's not like we can wear
the same tops or anything I meanif I'm juicy but here's the
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thing with my child her and Ishould be like the same perfume
so I do I am sharing that withher this is that so it's the
perfume Right.
So I don't know if you, Maureen,as the seasons grow, do you
share different things?
It depends on the taste too.
Right now for her and I, it's adifferent perfumes.
Yeah.
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Human nature, you know, humannature automatically has us not
want to necessarily share whatwe have.
And if this is human nature,because we instinctively, we
just want to, especially if it'snew.
We want to use it first or wewant to wear it first or, you
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know, especially if something'snew.
So it really comes down to thecontext of what it is that
you're sharing with your child,what it is that, and what are
the, you know, what is thesentimental reasons behind that
object?
Or, yeah, so it's okay that, youknow, like we go back, it's okay
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that I didn't share some thingswith our child until later.
But if it's, say, for example...
I don't share my shampoo orconditioner with my child
because we have different typesof hair and we have different
conditions.
So for example, I mean, yeah,because I have mine, she has
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hers.
So that's not saying I wouldn'tshare it, but that's not
something we just openly go, youcan use it.
So there's those stuff that justhappen organically.
But if you were talking aboutfood, so my family knows.
No matter how old you are, thechild is or the adult is, it
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doesn't matter.
When I have my food, I like tonot share my hamburger and chips
with anybody.
You know, I don't want anyone totake a sip from my food.
pop as you call it.
I just want to be able to eat myhamburger, my chips and my soda
myself.
So what I do and my husband,he'll share, he shared his meal
(13:12):
with his daughter all the time,but her mum, no, because that's
my burger.
So what we do in that space isto make sure if I'm eating a
different burger to her, thatshe's If she asked, can I have a
bite of your burger?
I'd go, no, because she had anoption to buy the same burger.
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So what she learns is, and shesurely knows what it tastes
like, but that's also teachingher these boundaries.
So what we did when she wasreally young is that sometimes
the father, her dad, would buythe same burger so she could
have a taste of everythingbecause it's okay to say no to
certain food.
Because what we're teaching thelesson is this.
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For her, when she was reallyyoung, is that some choices you
make, there will beconsequences.
We might give you, we mightshare that particular burger.
I'm just using burger.
It could be something else tobegin with.
But next time you get to pick aburger, then you make a
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different option because yourchoices have consequences.
And it's really light.
And I know I'm making reallylight of it, and possibly Berg
is not the biggest choice.
But to this day, I don't shareall my meal with her, and she's
29.
So she knows that.
And I know that she can also sayno to me.
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What is it you're wanting toshare?
Yeah, I'm quite a stigler fornot sharing when I don't want
to.
But so is she, and it's okay.
It's okay to be in that spaceand you make different choices.
So if we do, we do.
And if we don't, we don't.
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It's no biggie for us.
So now that you've been 29, itreally isn't a biggie.
There's no fuss.
Even when she was a teenager, ifshe wanted to go, oh, can I wear
your top?
My answer I remember once is shewas a teen.
No, you cannot wear your topbecause she was working
part-time.
She had a choice.
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She didn't want to buy her owntop.
but she was advised by me, thenyou should need to get your own
top.
So I say no.
And she would say, I remembershe'd say, but how come I'm only
going to borrow it once?
The answer is you had an optionto buy it because once you do
it, you'll keep doing it.
So go buy your own top.
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You'll thank me later.
So that's what she did, but shebought a different color.
This is so good.
This is really good because I,you know, well, I, I can't talk
about that because Olivia's onlyeight, but those who are
listening, you know, theyprobably, they might have an
older child.
And so, you know, the teenagers,so they might be going through
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that.
So that's why you're here totalk about that space.
I think it's really just, Ithink what I'm really
highlighting for an only childis that it's specific to our
childhood.
And knowing her personality,knowing her heart in all of this
space, and what character lessonand growth and building on we
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were really doing and buildingon.
Yeah, so that's not to say, youknow, to mum I didn't share
things or vice versa, but therewere clear ties when we don't.
And we sit in that space reallygood.
Like, you know, it really wasn'ttoo much of an issue in the
learning process.
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Maureen, as soon as I say it,you're going to be like, how do
I manage my child's screen time?
Now, I would like to say, andMaureen knows this, that I am
amazing at it.
I'm better than I was last week.
So I would say that she is ahigh user of the screen time.
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But We have, look, I mean,what's high, depending, if you
compared me to my other friends,their friends only have 30
minutes.
That is it.
And they don't even take allthat.
But Olivia, you know, we, 30hours probably, you know, I can,
I'm saying 30 hours, but it is alot.
So I have talked to Maureenabout this.
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She has given me data aboutthis.
how to balance it and why andi'm taking it some days are
better some days are good butthis is what we did maureen so
on her tablet and on hercomputer jeremy actually we have
done so good in the past i thinkduring the summer we really got
serious about it we put a lockon her screen time so it cannot
(17:52):
go on youtube it cannot andshe's like mom And you know why
we did it?
Because we could not as adultssay no.
How ridiculous is that?
We couldn't say no to herbecause the easiest thing is
like, you could just say no.
Well, we're still workingthrough that.
So what we did, we went to GrogAI and said, how do you help?
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Just put a lock on it.
And there you go.
So this morning she woke up andshe was like, I can't get on it.
No, you cannot.
And you have to wait till yourstudent says, your hour that
we've set for you is like twohours.
Now, some people, that's long,but for us, that's a good start
for two hours.
I tell you what.
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So what do you think, Moana?
I hear you, and that's reallyokay because that's a phenomenon
that's global with parents andwith technology now.
That is a challenge many, many,many families and parents have
right across cultures.
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right across the board.
So for us, you know, with ourdaughter growing up and
especially in the newtechnology, I suppose what we
needed to decide first is, Imean, it's great technology, but
how to use it, you know, and allthe appropriateness and trying
to figure that out as we'regoing because we're all in the
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same boat learning together andour families and our friends,
we're all doing it together sortof thing.
But, yeah, We did restrict them.
So first of all, because itcomes down to first phones, you
know, the families that willallow your child, only child to
have a phone for their reasons.
And that's good for them, forus, for us, for our daughter.
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We didn't let her use, first ofall, when she was going to
school, she didn't own a phone.
Even when she went to highschool, which is, you know, our
college or high school, shedidn't have her own phone.
We didn't give her a phone, lether actually own a phone until
she was leaving college, whichis your high school, and there
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are reasons behind that.
We really restricted her even.
And when she did access, therewere specific areas of access
she could have, and that was tolearning games, games that would
build on her skills her skills,the reason we're doing it.
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And sometimes it wasn't, theycan be really, you know, fun as
well.
So we did monitor really,really, really tightly.
And we're also mindful about, Igrew up in the generation, don't
sit too close to the TV, it'llruin your eyes.
Well, we also are aware that youhave, you know, your phone, your
(20:42):
iPad computer really closely toyour children as they're
developing and, eyesight andwhat that can do health-wise.
So we monitored that massivelyclosely.
I'm trying to think how long shewould use the computer if it
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directly had to do with hereducation and they were learning
tools.
But just to browse and go onYouTube and watch all that, no.
So we didn't allow her to use itfor any one of those reasons.
It was directly to do with hereducation.
Do you think it's like an onlychild thing where, okay, so I
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used it to entertain her morethan, I could say more than my
friends, honestly.
Like I come home, give it toher, and I'll go to sleep.
oh no did I just go to sleep noI just didn't want to talk I was
just too tired I know I justgave it to her and we would do
it at the dinner table Iremember giving it to her at the
(21:50):
dinner table and I was sharingthat with you and you were like
the whole time I was like yeahare you guys talking no we just
we're like out not out I didn'teven know how to say it more we
were just each in our zone shewould have a tablet whatever
Jeremy's on his and I'm on i'mon mine and we're having dinner
(22:12):
quietly but we're not engagingwe're looking at the tablet i
mean our cell phones she's on iti'm sorry he was tired you know
what i mean and i will tell youyou're like hey maybe just
putting that down just fordinner time and just how about
talk about your day and we couldtalk there'll be another like
episode what's a good if youwant a conversation you know
(22:35):
what kind of But we can talkabout that later.
But I remember you sharing that.
And I was like, what?
But I wonder if other mums dothat.
Yeah.
Or is it just depends on, it'snot like an only child thing.
It's like.
It's actually not just an onlychild thing and that's been
shown.
You know, it's, I think if we'regoing back to, because we all
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have only, you know, one child.
UNKNOWN (23:03):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (23:03):
It will be for whatever, it's used for a reason
too because sometimes everyfamily's different and stress
and what you've got to do duringthe day and so it's used
sometimes as a breath thatsometimes mum or dad or family
just need to take a breath, justneed to shh time and just Go
(23:31):
onto your iPad or your gadgetand just watch whatever and give
me some time to download for theday all this time.
So often that's used for that,which is actually okay for
families.
Because in the days we weregrowing up, it was the TV.
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In the days my parents weregrowing up, it was the radio.
There's always somethingfamilies need, like mums need to
go to, or if you're the dadstaying at home raising your
only child, then it's a go-to.
So everyone has a go-to.
And because it's on yourcomputer or phone, let's just
(24:13):
say it's going on the web, Andthat's okay because it's okay to
give that.
The way we were looking at it ishow then over time can we use
this to ensure that it doesn'tovercome or take over our
human-to-human, face-to-faceconversation and being able to
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just listen to each other longenough.
Because, you know, especially ifyou're a mum working and you've
got to go home, do this, or, youknow, you've got a family and
everyone's fine sometimes forattention.
Or, you know, where's this?
And so you've got to figure outat a younger age for your only
(24:56):
child, you know, because youneed your own downtime
afterwards.
how well can we use the iPad orthat iPhone or whatever gadget
you're using and making sure itdoesn't end up taking too much
of the in-person conversationand relationship building.
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And if we look at, yeah, and youwork out the teething,
challenges as you go so the moreyou start to practice it when
they're much younger the mostlikely then you've got you know
you can keep building on that ateach different stage of their
(25:40):
life and it just gets a bittougher and a bit more
challenging when you as theybecome teens that you want their
time and you want them to lookat you when they've spent years
not And that's not done.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah, and this is, you know,this is what can happen.
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Yes, and I remember there'll bedays, like, especially because
we homeschooled her.
There'll be days, I didn't,there'll be times I didn't feel
like, I didn't feel like doinganything.
I just wanted to go online.
and do my own thing.
And so, you know, which means Ididn't, it's not that I
couldn't, but I just had to planthat.
(26:21):
And sometimes it was justspontaneous because, you know, I
have the responsibility to teachher and do all of this.
So it's okay to do it.
And I suppose for what I said toyou when you and I talked, go
back and have a look at whatvalues you're wanting to
instill, meaning teach and buildon with your child.
(26:45):
So when it comes to, forexample, dinner time or it comes
to breakfast time or lunch, doyou allow everybody to be on
their phone or their tablet ornot?
Or when you're in the car?
(27:05):
when you're traveling?
Do you allow the passengers ordo you use that time to actually
connect and talk to each otherin person?
Or is it okay?
You know, you find the everydayways you live your life and how
do you fit it in without makingit too much work?
(27:26):
Because we all don't want to dosomething that creates too much
work.
So you just, you know, I justweaved it in.
Weaved it in the natural.
So if we're in the car, that wasone of the things we did.
You know, she doesn't get to goon, you know, look at her eye,
her pad at the time.
She talks to me.
(27:47):
No-go zone, using it in the car.
And it was a no-go zone, what wecall a no-go zone at the dinner
table or lunch table, breakfasttable.
for example, and that wassomething we could teach you
from a young age and somethingyou instill.
But it also meant, as herparents, we had to live the
example.
(28:08):
Oh, that's so true.
That's the hardest.
I didn't go, oh, phone off.
Okay, you know.
And we weren't taking callsbecause you turn your phone off
and if we had to do calls orworking, Then we had to
rearrange the dinner time.
We had to step up to that.
And I'm not saying we got itright all the time either.
(28:29):
But we're still working on that.
That's what I love.
It's real.
It's real life.
In some ways, we're gettingbetter, honestly.
We are getting better.
But you know why?
Because...
That's just the way it is.
We want to model.
We really want to model her bybeing the example that we asked
her because she's got to see inus.
(28:51):
Otherwise, we'll be like, she'lljust know whatever, mum and dad.
In other words, we're an awesomeparents.
We have a family to bed as well,Adam.
Oh, yeah.
So if we're looking at up to theage of eight or, you know, up to
that age, then or even if yousay up to the age of 12 before
preteen, we'll go there.
(29:13):
So we didn't let her go online.
And even if it was to look at achildren's program on the phone
or on the tablet, because wedidn't have an iPad then, then
she wasn't allowed to.
So there was a time we didn'tgive it to her.
So if she was going to bed anhour, you can watch half an hour
(29:36):
of that whatever program it wasthat she enjoyed watching, then
it'll be at least before an hourgoing to bed because we didn't
want to overstimulate it again.
Sometimes what I found duringthe day and what we do, do you
remember before?
Those days was tape cassettes.
I would put on tape cassettes,start playing music when I was
(29:57):
carrying her.
So at night, many times I wouldplay music.
So she got used to the music.
A lot of it was classical, whichshe doesn't listen to now.
Or as she got a little bitolder, listening to motivational
speakers.
Yeah, those were awesome.
They were awesome.
And that would just stop allthat overstimulation, especially
(30:17):
if she's hyper from being withher cousins and playing, trying
to get ready for bed.
And she's still really at it,and that's good.
We talk about it, but now I justwant her to settle down.
So sometimes time to go to bedand she still wants to be up
late sometimes.
Sometimes I'll put the music onand it would put her to sleep
like that.
(30:37):
Time to go to bed.
And that would just rest herbrain because the frequency of
the music would slow herthinking too.
because it's all about thefrequency of the music, but
that's another conversation.
You find what works for you andyour child because it's also to
be usable and friendly user foryourself.
(30:59):
Who's the person going to bedoing it, looking after that
space?
So it's really important, likefor me, that it worked for me
and I was okay with using thatparticular technique or way
Because if it's good with me andit worked, then I know it would
really work with her.
The message I'm really wantingto share with your listeners is
(31:22):
this.
Gosh, do you make mistakes?
Absolutely.
And things work, and they do.
You'll find your flow.
If you haven't in certain areas,you can.
For us, it was a lot of trialand error before we found what
works for us in this space.
of like sharing and time on,early time online and the
(31:48):
appropriateness.
We needed to keep going back toremind us what value and
character are we wanting to, youknow, to instill in her and to
build on.
And that, so that keeps usgrounded.
And when you make a mistake,that's okay.
Shake it off.
Get with, like I did with Fawa.
(32:10):
And a lot of it raises withinyourself.
It did with me.
You know, like Forza alreadysaid, man, you know, you
question everything about asyou're raising your only child
because you're all of the best,the best of the best.
(32:31):
You really do.
You're after excellence.
But I wanted to do it like myhusband, in a way that, that
built in, built on her spiritand everything else that comes
with brain flushing, my ownthoughts, my own ways that I
thought.
So it was learning ways thatjust because it worked for me
didn't necessarily mean it wasfor her.
(32:52):
So it was finding ways that Icould connect to her in the
longer term because she'suniquely her.
Thank you.
That is so good.
You know, oh my gosh.
You're listening.
Maureen's going to come backeach week.
Every week.
(33:12):
Every week you're going to hearher until she moves on.
And even then we will hunt herdown and say, hey, keep your
speaker.
Because we haven't evenfinished.
We just got the two nuggets,golden nuggets.
I don't know what Maureen, whatwe call them.
Maureen, I don't know.
All I know is I always call her.
But she's such an encourager.
(33:34):
I just want to say thank you toMaureen for being an awesome
guest on my podcast, The Familyof One Child.
And I know that I always enjoywhen we get to talk.
And so that is just a snippet.
And I do say snippet of ourconversation because each week
is she hopefully is able to comeback each week that we can talk
(33:57):
about different topics because Ijust felt like we just got
started and started and theconversations.
So tune in.
when she comes on and also tunein continue to tune in when I'm
on as well so I just want to saythank you to you for listening
and to supporting this podcastand also once again send me an
(34:21):
email at joyfulgathersco athotmail.com or you can send me a
text just click on the link andto what you're listening my
details are there send me aquestion let me know that you
like this give it a thumbs upthat would be great and also I
always do this who listens tothe last episode so we had
(34:44):
someone from the United StatesBerlin Connecticut that is
Berlin Connecticut from UnitedStates thank you so if you're
just tuning in now and I'm notout And I didn't give you a
shout out.
Let me know such exciting news.
My book about, and I talkedabout this a few episodes ago,
about having conversations aboutthe period.
(35:07):
And I created a book, a gentleway of introducing that topic.
It's like an icebreaker.
It's called the Mom and DaughterIcebreaker Series.
And so my first book is theperiod.
And so I'm going to be talkingmore about that after each
episode.
if you would like moreinformation then it's on my
(35:28):
description after each episodeyou can just fill it out send me
your email I'll send you moreinformation about that so you
could be on the waiting listwhen that book is released so I
just want to say thank you againfor listening to my podcast the
family of one thank you toMaureen for being a awesome
guest speaker and also this isyour friend for remember you are
(35:52):
doing the best you can with thetime that's given with the
resources that you have taketime to make sure that you get
to do what you like to dowhether if it's just me taking a
nap sometimes you like maybewant to go for a walk but even
if you just want to go for abike ride whatever sometimes
(36:17):
it's I feel it's good to taketime out for yourself I just
wanted to continue to encourageyou that you are doing the best
you you can with the time that'sgiven with the resources you
have you are amazing you areamazing mom for your child
you're amazing wife for yourhusband and you are doing great
(36:39):
okay take care and we will meetin the next episode bye
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