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It's never too late to mend bridges with your loved ones. Strained relationships can be restored, broken ties can be mended, and a father's blessing can have a profound impact on a child's life. 
Today's episode takes us on a heartwarming exploration of the transformative power of forgiveness and the healing power of a father's blessing. By sharing moving accounts of estranged families reuniting and the life-altering impact of a father's words, we delve into the essence of grace, forgiveness, and restoration in family relationships. 

Experience the awe-inspiring power of unexpected miracles as we discuss how a father mended his broken bond with his son just by speaking a blessing over him. Learn how to tap into God's power through grace and see how the Holy Spirit sets us up for miracles even when we feel unprepared. We also explore the art of asking questions in parenting, offering an enlightening perspective on how this simple tool can foster deeper connections and pave the way for healing and reconciliation.

We wrap up the episode by examining the profound power of forgiveness and blessings. Hear a personal account of how a father restored his relationship with his son through the power of blessing. We also delve into the concept of being spiritual children of God and how this fosters deep connections and transforms Extra Grace Required (EGRs) family members into great ones. Tune in and get inspired to champion positive change in your family relationships. 

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It's never too late to mend bridges with your loved ones. Strained relationships can be restored, broken ties can be mended, and a father's blessing can have a profound impact on a child's life. Through sharing these heartwarming stories, we hope to inspire you to embrace the power of grace, forgiveness, and blessings to strengthen your family bonds. Tune in to our next episode as we continue to explore these life-changing themes.

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Ed Tandy McGlasson (00:01):
Hi, I'm Ed Tandy McGlasson and welcome to
the Father Difference Podcast.
Today we're going to belistening in on a sermon I did
recently about how to gettogether with family how to
solve those cracks you mighthave in your family.

(00:21):
You know the ones wherebitterness has kind of slipped
in and you're dreading thatauntie showing up or that son or
daughter where you have thatawkwardness during the holidays.
Actually, I call those EGRsextra grace required.
There are some ways that I'velearned how to break through in

(00:43):
those relationships that I'mgoing to be sharing doing this
sermon I recently preached.
So enjoy and remember it'snever too late for God to do a
miracle in your life and yourfamily and bring you back
together.
God bless you.
Well, welcome to one of myfavorite churches in the world,

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some of my favorite people, andtoday I want to talk to you
about having the bestThanksgiving ever.
How many of you want the bestThanksgiving ever?
Right, slam, dunk, Wow, right.
And I'm not going to talk toyou about food, because I am

(01:44):
predicting that that's going tohappen.
I'm going to talk to you aboutEGRs.
Those are family members who Icall EGRs extra grace required,
who are going to show up at yourmeal.
You might be looking online,but we all have those in our

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life, or we have kids that aresuffering, or we have spouses,
friends, exes and how do weminister to them?
How do we reach the unreachable?
Well, I'm going to share somethings with you and I'm going to

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start out with a story that oneof my adventures and I don't
think it's just unique to me Ilearned years ago that if I
could learn to see what theFather is doing, like Jesus,
then I'll have an adventureevery time I leave my house.
It happens everywhere.

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As a matter of fact, my lasttrip back east, I had a seatmate
who we had this incredible fivehour time of ministry and by
the end of the flight I had thestewardess on her knees
receiving Jesus and in the aisle, you know, on the plane, and

(03:15):
five other people coming forwardlaying hands on all of them in
the very front row.
And I went on the plane just toget a nap.
How many of you have been in aplace where God interrupts that
perfectly designed nap or whatyou want, and just interrupts
with His kingdom?

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And part of that is learninghow to develop a sensitivity and
an understanding of God movingaround you.
It's really easy to beoverwhelmed by the news of the
day, by the politics of the day,by all the stuff going on, and
miss that the Father Jesus saidis always working.

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He's even working now.
I wrote this book years ago, theDifference of Father Makes and,
matter of fact, if you just putin
TheDifferenceofFatherMakescom,I'll send you one for free.
Where it's?
Over 450,000 guys and gals havegotten this book now, which is

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awesome.
And, matter of fact, as I speak, it's happening almost every
minute in Asia, right now, inBrazil, right now, everywhere.
It's amazing what happens, howGod uses something.
But a guy in Texas got my bookand he calls me from his reading
room.

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He's in the bathroom when guysusually read books about this
big okay and he's sobbing and hesays it's been many, many years
since I've seen my daughter.

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I had a horrible divorce andhaven't seen my daughter in over
12 years.
Every time I write, my wifesends the letter back.
We are dead to you.
Is there anything I can do?
And I said I want you to writeone more letter.

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We're going to pray and I wantyou to write it to your daughter
.
We're going to pray.
She gets it with these wordsHelp me understand how much I
hurt you when I divorced yourmom.
If you want to talk, here's mynumber, dad.

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She got the letter about fiveor six days later and
immediately got on the phone andsaid dad, is this you?
Can you imagine that moment?
Yes, I have a question I haveto ask you.

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They agreed to meet.
She lived in Kansas City.
He flew from Dallas.
They found a restaurant.
He showed up early.
He was waiting at each personwalking in the restaurant and
then this girl comes in.
He's not sure if it's her, hehas no pictures, he has no

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understanding of her life.
And they meet eyes from thelobby into the restaurant and
she immediately starts sobbing,comes over, he's not sure what
to say.
And his daughter looked andsaid daddy, was I that ugly?

(07:00):
Can we get somebody to shut thedoor out front there?
What Was I that ugly?
You never held me, you nevertold me you loved me and I just
figured I was so ugly.
You divorced mom and he looksat her and it says no,

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sweetheart, I was a broken man,I was addicted to pornography
and I was so afraid it mightaffect you I stayed away.
Would you forgive me?
And she jumped across the tablethere in that little restaurant
and hugged his neck and hewaited my whole life for you.

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He said, would you come to myhouse?
I have a gift for you.
He followed her home.
She pulled into the back togravel driveway.
He walked up to the porch.
It had a screen door.
When he got up to the door toknock he heard he's here.

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He's here and outran twograndchildren he didn't know
about.
I say that to you is that it isnever too late for God to hear
your family.
It's never too late for you tobe healed from things and see

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children today.
They need their father'sblessing in their life.
It doesn't matter how much youblew.
You might be watching thinkingI've completely blown it, but no
one will ever replace you as abirth dad.
You carry something.
God actually put it in you andI gotta tell you I've seen

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thousands of dads and familiesrestored in these years.
When men understand that theycarry something sovereign from
God in their bones his fathersand they learn how to bless
their children, because yourkids need your blessing.
I mean, imagine where theMiddle East would be if they got

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their true birthright from God,the Father, where they moved
from the blessing of Abraham tothe blessing of God, the Father
in Christ, guns would drop,bombs would stop going off,
birthrights would be transferred.
The whole world is.
You know, we're in a hugedilemma in our culture and it's

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just not the wicked media, it'sthe lack of a dad.
And when fathers learn thatthey matter, they've learned
that they count, that they carrysomething.
They can let go of the grievingand begin to step into that
place as a dad.

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And it's just, it's miraculous.
Things happen Because, see,your words as a dad can really
unlock a destiny in yourchildren, matter of fact, the
same with your moms.
I love this verse in 1 Peter3.9,.
It says in the message it goesfor all of you, no exceptions,

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no retaliation, no sharp tonguesarcasm, instead, bless.
That's your job, to bless,you'll be a blessing and you'll
also get a blessing.
And the third thing, you know,your question of your children

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will also not only were yourwords unlocked your destiny,
your questions will help you seethe father working in your
family.
We're gonna talk about that,because I've learned one thing I
can't make God do anything.
Anybody wanna say an amen tothat.

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I cannot make it happen, right,I can't make my kids do
anything.
I can't even make myself doanything.
I definitely can't make my wifedo anything.
Any men say amen to that right,or vice versa.
Anything that we have to relyon our natural abilities doesn't

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happen.
But when we learn how to seewhat God is doing and
participate with Him, it changeseverything.
Because here is John 5, 19through 20.
Grab your Bible.
If you don't have your Bible,I'm assuming you've memorized it

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so you can just read along withme and remember.
When I first saw this verse, itjust completely floored me
Because it unlocked for me thesecret of how Jesus lived his
life.
He was actually the Son of God.

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He was an eternal being beingborn in the womb of Mary.
But he made a statement to thesecret of his life and how he
did ministry.
It's profound.
He said to them truly, truly, Isay to you the Son of man can

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do nothing on his own accord.
You can do nothing on his ownaccord.
Not that he couldn't take uphis God-like power, he could.
But Philippians says he emptiedhimself and became a servant.
Even to the death on the cross,he became a servant.
He came to follow his father.
He didn't come to prove he wasthe Son of God.

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He could do nothing on his ownaccord, but only what he sees
the Father doing.
And what hit me when I firststarted to get this was see if
Jesus was like Superman orBatman.
Had an S on his chest and youknow, you think, you know.

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Nobody can be like him.
He came to model what it wouldbe like to be fathered by God.
The same way he was to be ledby the Father, empowered by the
Holy Spirit, and he said he canonly do what he sees the Father

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doing.
We're gonna talk about how tolearn to see today, for whenever
the Father does, the Son doeslikewise.
So, in other words, jesus neveronce took on his divinity to
act and do a miracle.
Everything he did was inresponse to him being able to

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see what the Father was doingwith the people right in front
of him.
Boy, wouldn't that changeChristianity today if we live
that way?
How many times have we beentold?
How many times do you feel likeyou haven't fasted enough,
prayed it up enough, been holyenough for God to use you?

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What would happen if you wereable to be unlocked to just
doing what the Father is doing,not only in you, but in every
person that comes your way,because, see, you carry in you,
whether you feel like it or not.
You were seeing that last song.

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I love it.
You actually carry with you thekabad of God, the glory of the
Lord in Christ.
If you're born again, he is inyou and every place you go it
interrupts the enemy's plans.
You don't feel it all the time.
Is it any wonder that peoplewill just flip you off for the

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way you drive?
For no reason and you're notthat bad of a driver.
That happens to me.
People just like and I go.
Is that your IQ?
This doesn't help the situation.
One you know.
But you get attacked for noreason.
You get talked about for noreason.
You wonder what did I do wrong?

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You don't understand thatChrist is in you, the hope of
glory, and around you all thetime there's activity happening.
The Father is working to leadyou into the life he's made you
for and to the adventure.
For whatever the Father does,the Son does likewise, and I

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just love this part of the verse, for the Father loves the Son
and shows them all that he'sdoing Cash.
I start thinking you love metoo, don't you, if I learn to

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pay attention the way Jesus did.
I can participate with you anddo everything you're doing.
Every place I go, oh Lord.
But I've also had those timeswhere the Holy Spirit's kind of
set me up.
You're filled, you're set upsometimes, and I was at a

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whimper event.
I was serving drinks, snacksand I was part of the prayer
team and this woman comes in theback.
I'm standing in the back andshe sees me.
She's in a wheelchair and herhusband rolls around and she
goes.
I've waited for you.

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If you just speak the word, Iwill be healed.
Man, I almost heard TBM musicgoing on right then.
It was just awesome, and so Iheld my hand up and I said women
, be healed.
And she struggles and gets toher feet and falls on her face

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and breaks her sunglasses andcuts her nose and she's laying
in a pile.
I thought she was dead.
She fell so badly and I wasstanding there going.
Oh Lord, I'm so sorry.
I get to assume this was, likeyou know this woman to speak the
word and she's going to behealed and she's laying there
and I have no faith.

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I've not one hair on my bodygiving me a Hallelujah moment.
I mean, there is nothing, I amjust trying to find a way to get
out of the building and JohnWimmer goes where's Ed McClassen
?
We have a man up here who'sbeen in a wheelchair for 15

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years.
God uses Ed to work in miracles.
Would you come forward, ed?
And I walked up there.
I got nothing.
Man, I'm like I'm going to failagain.
Okay, lord, whatever you wantto do, I just what's going on.
And in the midst of that momentI just said, I just said this

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prayer.
I said, god, what are you doingwith this man?
Right then I saw these in thespirit.
I saw these X's his neck, allthe way down his spine, that
little X's that were marked.
And I said you have thisscarring and all your nerve

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endings.
And he was yes, I have MS.
And I just said Lord, heal thisone, this one, this one, this
one Now stand up.
And he walked immediately.
And I was the most shockedperson in the whole room.

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You see, beloved God's made usin such a way, like Christ, you
know, like Paul wrote, I decidedto know nothing among two
except Jesus Christ and himcrucified.
And I was with you in weaknessand fear and trembling.

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Does that sound like a prayedup prophesying Paul.
No, my speech, my message werenot in the plausible words of
wisdom Didn't even preach verygood but in the demonstration of

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the spirit and power, so thatyour faith might not rest in
men's wisdom alone, but in thepower of God.
There's this transition that canhappen with us when we begin to
take the spotlight off of whatwe're doing and just turn it on

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to say Father, what are youdoing right here?
What are you doing with mydaughter right now?
My son right now, my neighbor,the guy who's pumping gas next
to me, what are you doing?
My son came to me because I waslearning this in college.
He called me and my oldest son,edward just such an amazing man

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of God All my children.
I learned how to bless them, tobe men and women and change our
whole family.
But he called me and said, heyDad, he was a Colorado on a golf
scholarship.
And he said, hey Dad, I gotfree lift tickets, free condo
snowboard equipment, everythingand I'm going to go to Vale this

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weekend.
I know you'll probably tell meno, but I just thought I tell
you and I was in that momentwhen children are about to do
something they shouldn't,because he was on a golf
scholarship.
If you got hurt he might lose it.
And I was in that moment justso quick to just condemn him.
I'm asking this question, lord,what are you doing?

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And I just felt this questioncome up and I said Son, have you
read your contract of yourscholarship?
He said my contract.
I go yeah, you're a man, you getto kind of choose, but make
sure there's no stipulation thatif you get hurt in an
intramural or extracurricularsports activity outside of golf

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you'd lose your scholarship.
You think I should do that, son.
You're a man of God, you get tochoose.
So then I said have you talkedto your coach?
And he said my coach, you thinkI should talk to him.
And I said he said Well, I saidI don't know he's your coach, I

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just let him know you're going.
And he goes Okay.
And I said have you prayedabout?
Oh, yeah, I prayed about it,dad, it's good.
I said Well, have a good time.
About 15 minutes later my soncalls back hey, dad, what's the

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matter?
Son, just totally sucks.
Did you know it was in myscholarship If I get hurt?
I said no, I didn't.
Son, that was like you knowwild guess, you know question
and I called my golf coach.
He said, son, I would preferyou didn't If you get hurt every
drop the travel team.
And then I heard it.

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It's a moment when the fatherbegins to work.
And now did I think about it,dad?
It would be foolish of me torisk my PGA tour career over one
weekend of pleasure with myfriends.
I don't even know why I calledyou, but, lord, thanks for just
listening to me.

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Dad click, and I mean I wasdancing like Kermit the Frogs on
my telephone after that moment,because questions are powerful
ways to help your childrendiscover the truth.
Or a wayward family member,because when we're interacting

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with human beings littlecoaching kind of session with
you right now is that mostpeople get into either.
Many times a parent, childconflict.
The parent has the power, hasthe food, has the refrigerator,
says If you're going to live inmy house, you're going to live
by my rules.
If you're going to be aChristian, you're going to live
by my rules.

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And your kids will live by yourrules many times while you're
looking, but when they're withtheir friends, they live by
their own ones.
But I started reading about thisguy named Jesus who every time
he interacted with people, hehas some questions.

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Man, the first time that Godspoke to Adam and Eve was what A
question, adam, where are you?
God knew he was in shame.
God knew he sinned.
He wanted to see what was goingon in Adam and he said well,

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I'm naked.
Well, who told you?
Matter of fact, jesus.
When calling his disciples, heasked them who do you guys say
that I am?
If you look at all, I startedto trace you.
All the time Jesus askedquestions and every place he
asked questions there was asupernatural transaction with

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the Holy Spirit in that person.
All through the Bible it waseither healing or prophecy, or
words or miracles, because Jesusdidn't wear his anointing as
permission to heal the sick athis whim.

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Jesus was full of grace andtruth and unlimited with the
anointing of the presence of God, but realized that without the
Father working in the person,him, stepping beyond the
Father's working would make itso that you and I could never do

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what he did because we're notChrist.
So he created a model for youand I to enter in to the
supernatural world of the Fatherworking and one of the ways he
asked questions who do you saythat I am?
And they said some say John theBaptist, elijah, Jeremiah, one

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of the prophets in Matthew 16,14, to 16.
And Peter said but no, you arethe Christ, the Son of the
living God.
Jesus saw the Father's workingin Peter.
He couldn't have known that andhe saw that.
He said blessed are you, simonand Bardona, for flesh and blood

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did not reveal this to you, butmy Father, who is in heaven,
showed you that.
I tell you because of that, youare Peter and on this rock I
will build my church, and thegates of hell will not prevail.
Now you understand the wayJesus.

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He said you are Peter, whichmeans little stone, and Jesus
actually said upon this and Ibelieve if we had video he would
go rock.
See, jesus was the rock thatfollowed the people of Israel
all through the Old Testament.

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It's where the water came from.
That's why Moses got in trouble, because he struck the rock.
He didn't speak to it, hedidn't realize, he didn't
discern that was Christ.
Upon this rock I will build thechurch.
See questions.
Help us to even to deal with it.

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The biggest attack in yourfamily and our culture in the
world bitterness, because whenyour kids are bitter towards you
, they stop receiving from you.
They get the.
If they're SouthernCalifornians, whatever kind of
get that what.
You want to slap it off theirface, cast out that demon.

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How would you do whatever, nomatter how strong your word is,
no matter how strong your dreamis, if the father's not working
in your kids and you're notdiscerning what he's doing and
you try to make a season happen.
They often will do this to thechurch, to you and to even

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Christ, because they feel likethey don't get a vote.
And I did that.
I mean I did that constantly.
I had a pastor friend of minewho went to an event that I did.
He got my book.
He was heading a strangedaughter and tried to go home

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and bless her.
Guys like reading this book andthey want to go right to the
blessing part.
Right, they don't realize hehad to win her heart back.
And I was at a book fair inColorado signing books and we
were getting this book out andthis young woman walks up to me
and goes thanks a hell of a lot.

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And I'm like shoot, what shouldI do?
She said you wrote this book.
The Difference of the FatherMakes Us.
I said well, yeah, thanks ahell of a lot.
My dad reads this and thinks hecan just take me out on a dinner
, like you did your daughter,get on one knee and give me a
ring and bless my life.
And so my dad takes me to themost expensive restaurant in

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Atlanta.
We go out on a date.
I haven't even spent time withhim, I don't even like my dad
and he decides he's gonna blessme and he goes right to the end
of your book.
Because I read your book, Ilove it, but I don't love it to
my dad's thought he could justget my heart, got on one knee in
this restaurant, pulled out aring and I looked at him and I
said what the hell do you thinkyou're doing?

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I don't like you.
I won't let you bless me.
And my friend Johnny washolding that ring.
People were watching.
He even brought over the materD and everybody to watch this
moment.
People were filming the momentand he put the ring back in his

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coat and sat down.
And she says to him dad, untilyou get my heart, I won't
receive from you.
And he said well, what do I do?
He said stop trying to be mypastor and learn to be my dad.

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A year later he blessed hisdaughter.
She's given them a bunch ofgreat grandkids.
She meant a godly man.
We can change the world when welearn to just follow.
You know in the Bible says thatall bitterness, wrath and anger

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in Ephesians 4, 31 and 32, beput away among you with all
malice.
Be kind to one another,tenderhearted, forgiving each
other, just as God in Christ hasforgiven you.
And I remember reading that andand realized that I wasn't

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father in that way.
I was the coach of my kids.
My wife would tell you I wasdriving them to be better,
better grades, betterperformance.
I was even saying it's like youknow, you're a McLassen, you
can do better and Christ willanoint you.

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I mean, I preached at them andas they got older, they would
give me a nickel and say thanksfor the sermon.
Dad, you know, it's just like.
You know I was directing and Iwas doing all this stuff towards
them because I myself, my ownheart, had never been captured
by the love and adoption of afather in heaven.

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I was trying to protect them asa dad and I was in our bedroom
and I heard my kids fighting andthey were being passive,
aggressive and then saying thatI'm just kidding.
And I realized that I taughtthem all that I brought the

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locker room from the NFL and wejoke around and go just kidding.
And I just was so wounded and Isaid what do I do, father?
I don't know what to do.
He said why don't you go outthere and teach them how to ask
for forgiveness?
Got them walking out there andhe showed me I needed to be the

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one.
So I sat him down on the tableand I'm not sure, probably, luke
, you know.
Oh boy, we're gonna get it now.
You know, when we had to sitaround the family table, it was
a time for you know game plan.
You know, let's get on the samepage.
And my wife would like roll hereyes like come on, ed.

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And I said guys, I need yourhelp with something I know I've
really hurt you in places thatyou've never told me about.
Could you tell me right nowwhere I hurt you so I can ask
for forgiveness?
And that question completelyunlocked my kids and I said,

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really, dad, and one by one,they shared and I just broke my
heart and I owned it and saidwell, you forgive me, would you
forgive me?
Did you forgive me?
And I started to get my kidsback?
That's a great question for youCould be with a relative.
It could be with your kids, yourmidi kids, because if your kids

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are not receiving from you as amom and dad, it's not because
they need to be independent.
Most often is because they'vesaid I want my own life right
now.
I don't want you to interfere.
God has never made family todisintegrate into culture.
God's made family to changeculture and one of the things by

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asking a question like that andif you wanna really be brave,
ask your wife that question.
Or vice versa, imagine whatyour family would be like if
bitterness could not get in thedoor because you're so quick to
say tell me what I did that hurtyou so I can ask for

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forgiveness.
The reason we're able to do thatis not because we're just more
holy than others.
It's because of all that Christhas done in Romans 5, 8, while
we were still dead in ourtrespasses and sins.
What did Christ do?
He died for us See when Istarted modeling Ephesians 2, 4

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through 5, but God being rich inmercy because of his great love
, which he loved us even when wewere dead in our trespasses, he
made us alive Together withChrist.
By grace you've been saved.
So what happens in familieswhen there's no forgiveness?

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We get dead.
As a family we just walk oneight shelves.
I was at the Newport at the foodmarket many years ago on
vacation and I was standing inline putting my stuff in as I do
, and right behind me they madea mistake and they ran into me

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with their cart.
They just, you know, hit me andturned around thinking somebody
might know, and there were twobrothers and a sister.
They all had really big rednoses and they weren't saying a
clause and they had five gallonsof vodka and mixed in their
cart I had turkeys and food,they had booze, and so I saw

(36:10):
this and I figured this must bethe Lord.
And so I looked at him, I saidthirsty and he and the girl go
oh hell, man, if we don't drinkthis, we can't get together in
Thanksgiving.
And I just go weepy and I sayyou know, there's another way.

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Imagine what your Thanksgivingcould be if you really learned
to talk and forgive one another.
And you could just see thespirit of God just hits him.
And I look in down at theircart and they're looking at me.
It's the world right now.
Our children are being fed thisall the time.
Matter of fact, in our culturenow there is no forgiveness.

(37:01):
They're tearing down statues,thinking somehow this removes
racism or hurt.
But guess how we changed thisand I said you know, I'm not
going to be a racist.
I'm not going to be a racist.
I want people to solidify thatI never ud остination économique

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.
Modeling this and following thefather.
That's how you make yourchildren and your grandchildren
Bulletproof to crazy world.
This is to teach them how toforgive.
And for the next two weeksbefore Thanksgiving, I just I
encourage you if you got anyangst with sister, brother,

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uncle, daughter, son, son-in-law, own it and be the first one so
you can get to the next part ofmy message, which is the
ultimate.
When the healing is there, it'sabout blessing and see, when

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you model that there will be anopenness for them to receive
from you.
And so when my children arelike this and it happens in
different seasons they'll dowhatever.
Dad, I just I hear the 007 song, you know, and if you're gonna

(38:35):
accept this mission, it's likeI'm going in.
I am not gonna let bitternessbe in between me and my kids, or
my new children that I've addedthrough marriage, my new
daughters and sons.
I'm not gonna let bitternesshave any place in my family tree
.
And how does that happen?

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I gotta go first.
Now it was two years ago.
We had all of our grandkidsthen we have more now, and they
were just opening all theirpresents.
Within 18 seconds my wife,wrapped for four weeks, hid in

(39:16):
her closet and brought out sheis definitely Miss Santa and
she's awesome.
And they started fighting overstuff and in Jessica said
Raleigh, you're being mean toyour sister.
Go over and ask for forgiveness.
Will you forgive me and hugslittle Anna.

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You sits me.
I started that.
You can too.
Doesn't matter how many yearshave passed.
Call them, call that brother,call that sister, call that

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daughter.
What if they hang up?
Call them again next week, sendthem a note.
Help me understand On this sideof heaven.
Don't give up until you get anaudience, because the bitterness
that they have is eating themalive and they're teaching it to

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your grandkids.
You watching, I know I movedfrom preaching to Medellin, but
on our watch to church of JesusChrist.
We must fulfill this, you know.

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I want to close with this versein 1 Peter, 3, 8, 2, 9, if you
get your Bible.
It's the ultimate fruit offorgiveness.
1 Peter, 3, 8, through 9,.
I'm reading through the NSN-A-S-B New American Standard

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Bible.
To sum it up that all beharmonious, sympathetic,
brotherly, kind-hearted andhumble in spirit, not in
returning evil for evil orinsult for insult, but give a

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blessing instead, for you werecalled for this very purpose
that you might inherit ablessing.
Let's talk about blessing for aminute, so we'll have some back
and forth.
So when I say to you that Godwants you, what is a blessing?

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What would you say?
Saying something good oversomebody?
Okay, what else?
Put somebody else first, right,because you can't give a
blessing if you put yourselffirst.
What else?

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Here we go.
Right, exactly what this versesays right, hatred with love.
What else does blessing do?
Right, reliable work, right,that's what God does, right.
So let me ask you this why isblessing somebody so important

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and so powerful over somebody'slife?
Why?
You may have never experiencedit before.
You might never haveexperienced it before.
All nations will be blessed.
All nations will be blessed.
That's great.
But why does a human being needthis?
It's human and supernatural.

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It's both things.
Let me give you a little insightthe Lord had me with when God
made Adam.
How did he make him?
He made his own image.
What's that?
He made his own image, Right,what were you gonna say?
His own image, his own image?
He made his own image.
Well, that's the product of howhe made him.

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But how did he actually makeAdam?
He briefed him what he briefedhim.
He briefed him to him, but hewas already a being.
But how did he make him into ayoung man?
He was a man.
What's that?
From the depths of the earth.
From the depths of the earth,right.

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It says right in scripture letus make man in our image and
likeness.
He spoke him into existence.
He made Adam to be a wordactivated human being.
He's made you to be wordactivated.

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So the words over you carrygreat power, depending on how
much trust you put in those whoare delivering those words.
Some of you today are feellimited because of the way
you've been talked over.
You're actually believing thelies the enemy says through

(44:30):
somebody who limits you or afather who didn't know how to
bless you.
And so when I meet a person whodoesn't know how to receive a
blessing, many times I meet aperson who didn't have a dad who
was generous, not with themoney part, but with, hey, I
love this about you.
I love the way God's made youand when you have people in your

(44:53):
life that are speaking to you,what God says about you in a
real way and touches you, I mean, those are my friends.
I don't have any friends thatare speaking to you or any
friends who want to fix me.
I have them go to someone elsewho's more screwed up.
I don't want those guys in mylife.
They have no life.

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Now, think about this If we'reword activated, one of the most
powerful things you can do isread this Bible over yourself.
If you're word activated andyou read the scripture every
morning and let it ricochet offthe wall in your study or the
glass and come back to your earsand faith come by hearing and

(45:41):
hearing the word of God.
You're gonna be edified, you'regonna be encouraged, you're
gonna be blessed.
I mean, how many times has Godspoken into your quiet time of
your life and said something toyou and it's just completely
rocked you?
You know what I'm sayingIncredible moments that God
wants to do.
Imagine now you meeting a boyin a coffee shop who has never

(46:04):
once had a dad ever say anythingkind to him, a dad who's a
monster.
Dad is the population of kidsout there who are desperate that
somebody will speak to themthrough this.
They don't know who they are,and I'll just kind of close with

(46:27):
this story and we're gonna pray.
I was one of the things I loveto do is, well, I just love to
get out of my house because Iget activated.
Jill knows that no matter wherewe go, if I get in public
something happens, and we've hadmany a beautiful sunset dinner

(46:48):
kind of messed up because I seesomebody.
So we went through a wife anumber of years ago and she
looked at me and she said youknow, on this trip to Hawaii,
could we not lead so many peopleto Christ?
So he said that to me and Isaid well, honey, I never do
this on purpose.
I mean God just brings peopleto me.

(47:11):
What am I gonna do?
Go God the hell.
You know I can't do that.
You know what I mean.
Sorry, burn.
You know it's like God justpulled me out of such a pit, and
so we were gonna go land on thebeach.
She said could you just notlook at anybody?
And I said fine.

(47:31):
So she, this is how it workswith me and it's how it works
with you too.
You just don't realize ittotally.
I mean, remember how Matthewwas saved?
Jesus walks up from the workthey're fishing and sees a tax
collector and the Bible says helooks intently at him and says

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Matthew, come, follow me.
No sermon, nothing.
It was a look to a man who feltinvisible.
And so we went on a beach, whereat the Marriott Resorts, and so

(48:14):
she picks the two shaves,lounges the farthest away from
the hotel in a cove and faces metowards the cliffs, looking
away from everyone.
And I just joked around, noteven anticipating this, saying
honey, what if God just bringssomebody over and wants to be
saved?
What do we do?
Fine if God does that, fine,but I just want you and me on

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the shade.
That's that mean.
You are here, baby, all right,we're here.
So we're out there, we're havinga little drink and some snacks
and all of a sudden I don't knowhow long it was, how long was
it?
An hour or so later, or twohours, I don't know we're out
there sunbathing and she looksover my head and goes oh crap.
And I said what's the matter?

(49:00):
She goes, okay, and I turnedaround and up is walking a
University of Hawaii footballplayer that I found later, with
his jersey on and a knee braceon his right knee and he's
limping over to me through thesand and he comes over and he
goes.
Please excuse me, sir, I can'ttake my eyes off of you.

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I had no father in my life.
I've hurt my knee.
I'm gonna lose my scholarship.
Is there anything that God cando in my life?
I'll just go to hell.
No, you'd those moments you know, or just you know, set up by
God and I got to lead this youngman to Christ.

(49:44):
How long was it, honey?
Just a few minutes.
Right, he's on his knees,weeping and crying, receiving
Christ.
I lay hands on him, I bless him, I pray for his knee.
He gets up, his pain is gone.
He takes off his brace, holdsit over his head, runs all

(50:07):
around the sand on the beachgoing Jesus, jesus, jesus.
See, I think that it's like theJesus revolution happened
because a few people got thatthat everywhere you go, in time

(50:28):
and space, if you'll payattention, the father is working
.
He's working with your kids,but it's dialing back our
attempts at being anointed andjust being you in Christ, a
beloved son or daughter that Godhas positioned with a broken

(50:53):
football player on a beach whoneeded life.
By the way, that littlevacation we had, close to 20
people in the hotel that we gotto lead to Christ it's just a
great way to justify spending somuch money on a vacation.

(51:14):
I'm doing it for you, god,right Now.
The reason that I'm here todayis that not only to share this
message with you, but to inviteyou in to more of this

(51:37):
incredible privilege of being ason and a daughter that just
follows the father around allday long.
And I'll encourage you in kindof closing, stop trying to be a
Christian in a world that'smarginalized Christians, just to
be a beloved son or daughterwho is ready all day long to

(52:04):
minister to who God bringsaround you, whether you're in a
restaurant, whether you'repumping gas.
I was just at the AT&T store.
My wife dropped this littlething in the bay during a Duffy
ride.
We even had my son try to scoopit off the bottom, so I went in

(52:26):
not too happy to have toreplace this device.
I know that a Muslim man neededJesus.
Incredible, he's in my courselearning how to be a son.

(52:46):
Everything you go through Godputs you into position to be
around somebody in the hospital,in the food market, because you
have Christ in you and soyou're never going to be retired

(53:07):
.
You're never going to beretired.
It's so much more fun.
And so I want to pray for youfor two things.
To maybe three is first of all,just to realize that the

(53:33):
greatest call in your life is tobe an adopted son or daughter.
Jesus never died for us tobecome Christians.
Matter of fact, I was reading myBible one day and years ago,
and the father just shows upduring my quiet time.
He goes what are you doing?
So I'm reading my Bible.

(53:55):
He says stop reading it like aChristian.
And I was like what do you mean, lord?
He said how do my son read theScriptures?
He hit me like a son.
It just pour into them theirtrue identity of being sons and
daughters.

(54:21):
The day, like Lation says, mightreceive their adoption of sons.
And if sons no longer slaves,is no longer slaves in their
heirs.
And so, no matter how your dad,I've framed your world, no
matter how many people havespoken ill into you, no matter

(54:43):
how many times you've done it toyourself, god the Father says
over you.
You are my beloved sons anddaughters.
In you my love and I bless yourlife with every spiritual
blessing in heavenly places.
In the name of Jesus, I adoptyou.

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I've written my name on yourbirth certificate.
I am your born again birth papa, and now I fill you and connect
you to that sonship anddaughtership, and that you no

(55:30):
longer have to try to facet up,pray it up, try to be this
faith-walking, fire-breathingChristian.
You can just be a daughter andyou can just be a son, and all
you gotta do is ask me.
All you gotta do is say passthe butter, papa, and I'm gonna
give it to you.
I'm not gonna give you a stonefor bread, I'm not gonna give

(55:56):
you a snake for food.
I'm gonna bless you.
I'm gonna bless you as a father.
That's why I sent my son.
I'm gonna bless you.
And, father, I ask you right nowthat, for all those that are
watching right now, I pray, lord, that whatever you have

(56:20):
deposited in me and being ableto see the father working, you
would turn it on in their lifeeverywhere they go.
They would never leave thehouse again.
It's just a Christian, but theywould be sons and daughters and
they would see it with theirkids, they would see it with
their grandkids, they would seeit with their neighbors.

(56:41):
They would see what the fatheris doing and that this question
would come up in their heartover and over and over again
every day.
Father, what are you doingEvery time there's resistance,
father, what are you doing?
And they would stay in thisplace of just following you,
just the way Jesus did.

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The father himself loves his sonand shows him everything he's
doing.
Jesus said Well, the fatherhimself loves you because his
son, whom he loves, is in youand he will show you everything
he's doing.
Now lift up your eyes and see.

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Jesus said for the harvest isalready white.
He's looking at the almondblossoms on the hills.
And he said, basically, in thatmoment, fishing will never be
bad, the harvest will never besmall.
Pray the Lord of the harvest tosend out workers.
So I'm sending you today, withyour pastors, with your leaders,

(57:45):
I'm sending you to be sons anddaughters in the land of orphans
who are desperate for onemoment, with a mom or a dad like
you, so they can connect to thefather they never thought they
could ever have.
In the name of the father, inthe name of the son in the name

(58:06):
of the Holy Spirit.
Now go get them.
In Jesus' name, amen.
I'm so grateful you listenedall the way to the end and got a
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