June 13, 2025 • 64 mins
Have you ever felt your identity slipping away as your once-adoring child transforms into a boundary-testing teenager? That profound shift when your sweet little one who hung on your every word now questions, challenges, or even rejects your guidance can leave you wondering not just how to parent effectively, but who you are when your role seems to be changing beneath your feet.
This episode dives deep into one of motherhood's most challenging transitions: maintaining connection with your changing child while preserving your own sense of self. Pastor Ed McGlasson offers a paradigm-shifting perspective on motherhood that transcends traditional parenting advice. Rather than focusing solely on techniques to manage your child's behavior, he illuminates how securing your own identity creates the foundation for authentic connection with your evolving child.
"Children need a lighthouse when the storm is raging around them," McGlasson explains, painting a powerful image of what steadfast motherhood looks like amid adolescent turbulence. This metaphor captures the essence of effective parenting during seasons of change—remaining steadfast not because you're controlling outcomes, but because you're anchored in something deeper than your children's responses to you.
Drawing from spiritual wisdom and practical experience as both a parent and counselor to countless families, McGlasson reveals how mothers can distinguish between their identity and their role, creating space for both authentic connection and healthy boundaries. You'll discover specific prayers and mindset shifts that help you remain effective even when parenting feels like navigating uncharted waters.
Whether you're currently navigating the choppy waters of parenting a teenager, preparing for those years ahead, or reflecting on your journey with now-adult children, this episode offers transformative insights into how motherhood can be both profoundly influential and deeply fulfilling—not despite your child's changes, but through them.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Thank you.
How much impact do you think amother can have on her child's
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life, not just today, but forgenerations to come?
Welcome everyone to our speciallive show the Difference a
Mother Makes.
Today, we're talking about theinfluence, sacrifices, strength
and the unseen ways moms shapethe future.
This show is to celebrate youand to be reminded of just how
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important your role is in thelives of your children.
So, whether you're a new mom,seasoned mom, single mom, or
even here to honor a mother inyour life, this show is for you.
We'll dive deep into the waysmoms shape futures, nurture
hearts and create legacies.
Nurture hearts and createlegacies.
So don't miss this chance to beinspired, uplifted and reminded
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of the profound role you playthat makes a profound difference
in your children's lives.
We're thrilled you're joiningus because we have something
truly powerful lined up.
It's my honor to introduce theman who will guide us through
this incredible conversation.
He's a former NFL player, nowpastor, author, father, husband
and an amazing speaker who hasdedicated his life to sharing
the transforming love of Godthrough the power of family.
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So grab a cup of tea, getcomfortable and let's dive in.
Now let's welcome Pastor EdMcGlashan.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Let's welcome Pastor Ed McGlasson.
Hey, welcome.
We had a crazy glitch today.
The actual service that we use,streamyard, evidently had a
worldwide break with connectingthrough Google, which is part of
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the hosting platform that hoststhis.
So, anyway, I think it was allbecause they didn't want me to
do this show.
I'm so grateful to be with youToday.
We're talking about my child ischanging.
We're talking about my child ischanging and I don't know how
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to reach him.
I get that question all the timefrom moms where they're in the
midst of their kids changing,their kids struggling, and so,
if you're new to our channel,this is the difference a mother
makes show and podcast that wehave that we broadcast usually
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at 12 pm sharp every single weekon Thursday, and today we got
started later.
We got some guests coming on.
I'd love to find out where youare and where you're from.
You can text me, I'll get that.
I'd love to find out where youare and where you're from.
You can text me, I'll get that.
I'd love to respond.
But I want to get right intothis because it's such an
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important subject for moms,especially in light of Father's
Day.
In the very end, I'm going toshare with you a kind of a
secret to the heart of your manon Father's Day?
Maybe he's a birth father andnot living with you, but how do
you reach that baby daddy or howdo you make Father's Day extra
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special?
You might already have a greatplan and would love to hear from
you.
You can chat me and let me knowabout that.
But in the meantime, let's getright into this subject that
we're talking about, and it's mychild is changing and I don't
know how to reach him.
So many moms that I meet, andhere's a question I want to ask
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right in the first slide, rightin the beginning, to kind of set
up our talk today.
Let me ask you this when yourmarriage is struggling or you're
a single mom or daughter, whodo you see yourself to be?
You see yourself to be?
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And that question, and it's thesame with the second question
when your kids are struggling,who do you see yourself to be?
And I meet moms all the time.
Moms are amazing.
I got to tell you I had anamazing mom.
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I've watched Jill my fivechildren and now a grandma to
our 14, and she's extraordinarythat you end up getting your
personal worth and kind of whoyou are, from, the way your kids
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are behaving or the way they'rereceiving from you, just want
to let you know that this ispre-recorded for our friends who
weren't able to come to ourlater launch time at 2 pm
Pacific Standard Time, and it'savailable for you.
So it's for you that arewatching, but it's also live for
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our friends to watch later.
And so when you think aboutyourself and how you see
yourself, how much of youridentity is connected to the
performance of your kids or howmuch they're receiving from you,
because when you're first a momand I'm first a dad, fathering
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and mother is similar in thatwhen the kids are little, we're
trying to protect them, we'retrying to get them to the
emergency room, especially ourboys, as they're scraping,
cutting, you know, breakingstuff on their bodies, you know,
in sports or life, sometimesour daughters.
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I remember my daughter, mary.
She cut her fingers, mary, shecut her fingers.
A little girl.
She would always put her handmany times inside the car door
in the wrong place and it wouldget slammed and I would take her
to the emergency room and just,oh, daddy, I mean it was
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painful for me and how I feltlike, oh, I wasn't being a good
dad?
Well, no, she put her hands inthe wrong place, and so it's
really important for you to kindof answer this question, and
we're going to talk about how toestablish kind of to use a
military term a beachhead foryou as a mom, to where you know,
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no matter what happens withyour kids as you're growing and
they're changing, because asthey enter those teen years,
their identity, when they'rejust your babies are, you know,
pretty much intact, as they'relearning and watching you as a
mom and the way you do your life, the way you love your man if
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you're married.
But their sense of identity getsa big question mark when their
audience changes and they startnow going to junior high school,
where the majority, way toomany of those kids that they're
interacting with, they'restruggling in their own life
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because they don't have momslike you, many of them don't
have moms that are veryattentive or they're working all
the time, and so identity isone of those things that the
devil loves to attack in ourchildren and in us, whether
you're a mom or you're a dad,and the better you're able to
really capture a couple ofthings that I want to share with
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you, that I had to learn.
My wife Jill had to learn, asshe was a mom to our kids and
now our grandkids began toreally change that story and
began to settle her heart from.
You know, many times you canjust get seriously depressed
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because your kids are struggling, and it's not that it's not
hard sometimes.
But I've seen, I've coached abunch of gals who get wiped out
in their own persona and senseof who they are.
Just, they just sort of losethat.
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And so I want to ask you anotherkind of a statement that I'd
ask you is that and this is whatwe're going to talk about the
most powerful thing you can dois to be secure in who God has
called you to be.
See, one of the most amazingthings about having Christ in
your life as a follower of Jesus, as a Christian, is when you
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really begin to discover thetrue identity to who God's
called you to be as a mom and asa dad.
And why is that so important,to be as a mom and as a dad?
And why is that so important?
Because the devil is constantlytrying to challenge our
identity or to rename us by ourbrokenness, rename us by our sin
.
He loves just kind of writingalcoholic over the heart and the
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life of a man or a woman, overthe heart and the life of a man
or a woman he loves.
When you get your identity andthrough all of your failure and
not really understanding whoChrist came to call you to be
and the way he reshapes thatidentity in you to where, no
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matter what happens in your life, your identity doesn't get
shaken when your kids are doingbad or even when you blow it in
sin, and we have a way to comeback to God and receive
forgiveness.
But it doesn't change whetheryou're a son or a daughter.
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And the caveat to all this isthat when you're raised in a
family where your mom and dadaren't really good at loving one
another, or they blow up andthey leave, or you lose your dad
in your story, or you see himlike every other weekend or once
a month, or you don't see himat all.
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Many times those gals theystruggle and one of the ways
they answer kind of the painthey have is they try to find a
guy that's maybe safe or is notlike their dad safe or is not
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like their dad or they kind ofspend their life trying to
change that guy so that they canfeel safe.
They try to turn their man andtheir husband into maybe the
father they never got to have,and when you do that to your man
and you put that pressure firstof all, he can't ever be that
guy.
You might think your husband isthe knight in shining armor,
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but underneath that armor hestill stinks, yours truly
included, and we need a saviorjust as much as anybody does.
And so many guys get theiridentity from things that aren't
related to family and yet whenthey discover what it's like to
being a great father, it changestheir life.
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And, a matter of fact, thisSunday, if you're in Southern
California and you'd like to bewith me, I'm doing a special
Father's Day message at theHaven Lane Church in Yorba Linda
, california.
That's the Haven Lane Church inYorba Linda, california.
You can go on Instagram andlook us up at Haven Lane Church
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and I'm really looking forwardto sharing.
We'd love to see you there 10o'clock sharp, and we even will
eat lunch together.
Unless you're planning a lunchwith your dad, you can bring
your dad, bring your husband,bring your family got great
childcare, and that's at 10o'clock on Sunday.
We'd love to see you there, andso how do you kind of live in
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this place where you reallybecome secure in who God's
called you to be?
Well, look at this verse here.
This is one of Jesus' prayers.
It's one of my favorite go-toprayers when I'm struggling,
because it's a prayer that heprayed for you and me, that God,
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the Father, would do somethingin us so profound that it would
change our life forever.
And look what he says, father,I desire that they also that's
you and me, whom you have givenme may be with me where I am to
see my glory that you've givenme.
You see, if you were physicallyin the presence of Jesus over
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2,000 years ago, you saw theglory of the Lord on Jesus.
Now, I'm not talking about acloud, although Peter, james and
John got to witness that up onthe mountain one day but you saw
this reflection of something onJesus.
If you were around him.
You know you'd question, youknow how is he going through the
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hard times, how is he dealingwith the 5,000 families who show
up?
And he, you know he blesses acouple of pieces of bread and a
few sardines and it turns into ameal for 5,000 families.
He lived with this resource inhis life as a man that was just
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so extraordinary, and he didn'tseem to be in a hurry.
He cared about the lowestperson in the group and the
highest.
It didn't matter where theywere or what they did.
He was able to be so presentwith everybody because he was so
loved by His Father.
And that's what it says here inthis verse.
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And His prayer is that you andme could see the glory that was
in Christ, that the Father hadgiven Him because you loved Me
before the foundation of theworld.
So the glory that was on Christwas the manifestation of the
Father's love towards Him.
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He nurtured Himself, he got upin the morning, he went to go be
with the Father so that thecore of who he was would stay
intact Even in His baptism.
God, the Father, shows up, andwhat does he do?
He blesses Him and says this ismy beloved Son, in whom I love.
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And not only that, he blessedHim so that all of us who are
baptized into him and receivehim can hear those same words
over our life, as he also wantsto be the father of our story.
So just imagine being thatthing.
Jesus' prayer was that you andme would discover his sweet spot
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of doing life.
Sweet spot of doing life, sweetspot of being a mom, is to
living in the unconditional loveand care of God, the Father,
through His Son Jesus and theHoly Spirit.
He goes on.
See, christ came to demonstrateto you and to me what it would
be like for you to have the samerelationship with His Father
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like he did.
Everything comes through Christ, everything is for Christ.
He's a central person in ourworship, but in the midst of us
worshiping him and connecting tohim, he shares with us his
relationship with the Father sothat we can be fathered the same
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way through the Holy Spiritthat he was Powerful stuff.
See, he says here I went toofast.
He said I have made I love thisin the message version.
Here I have made your verybeing known to them in the
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message version.
Here I have made your verybeing known to them, father.
He revealed that God was alsoFather.
He's the Father, he's the Son,he's the Holy Spirit, who you
are and what you do.
He showed them.
He even said there's no way tothe Father but through me.
And so when you saw how Jesusloved people, how he loved the
poor, how he could touch thelepers and pray for them.
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Nobody was too unclean thewoman who bled for years with a
touch of His garment.
As she reached out and touchedHim, the healing power of the
Holy Spirit flowed through himand she was restored.
All the people that heinteracted with and everything
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he did.
He even summarized all of hisministry activity one day when
Thomas said show us the Fatherand that will be enough for us.
And what did Jesus say?
Hey, if you've seen me, you'veseen my Father.
So when you're following theFather and you're listening and
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you're living in that place ofthe revelation of the glory, of
the unconditional love of theFather towards Christ, now
through Christ to you, thatsecures who God's called you to
be, that identity in your life.
And he goes on.
He goes, and I will continue tomake you known right and
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continue to make you know why,so that your love for me might
be in them and I in them,exactly as I in them.
And so the way the love of theFather comes to us is it comes
through Christ.
It's not like a separateness ofthe Father and His Son, it's
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all together.
And when we're in Christ we geteverything, every spiritual
gift, every blessing, ephesianssays in the heavenly places,
comes to us through the personof Jesus.
Even the Holy Spirit comes tous through the person of Jesus.
Jesus is the central figure ofall of creation.
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He was the voice who said letthere be light.
The Bible says in the NewTestament that everything that
was created was created byChrist and for Christ, and so he
is the central one.
And when we have Him, when wehave Jesus in our life, not only
do we have Him which is justextraordinary he shares with us
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His relationship with the Father, so we can have the same
relationship with His Father andthat's what this Scripture
means with his father.
And that's what this scripturemeans and that's why Jesus said
the son of man can do nothing onhis own, but only what he sees
his father doing, for whateverthe father does, that son does
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likewise.
What a powerful picture.
That is because now you havejesus, the son of god, who's
been baptized and heard from thefather that he's his beloved
son, spends his days connectingwith his father in the morning
in his time, just loving him andwatching and paying attention
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to what his Father was doing allaround him now, through the
Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit isn't liketheir forgotten person that he
kind of shows up.
He's the vehicle fortransferring the gifts of the
Spirit, the power of God, to us,on us, for the sake of those we
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love and pray for.
And so the more you build arelationship with Jesus, the
more of the Father that you cometo know and love and, at the
same time, the more of theunderstanding of the person, of
the Holy Spirit who's also as hecomes to us and when you begin
to flow with all three.
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I love what Keller says.
You know the great preacherfrom England.
He said it's kind of like thedance of the Trinity, where
we're like in the center and thefocus of the love of the Father
, the love of the Son and thelove of the Holy Spirit all
directed towards one another.
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For the Father loves the Sonand shows him.
Everything he's doing, the Sonloves his Father and everything
he does glorifies the Father andthe Holy Spirit's right in this
love triangle and he's lovingthem both.
And the power and thedemonstration of what the Father
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, through the Son, calls Him todo.
All this kind of dance of theTrinity is focused on us and
making us whole so that we canlove other people and care for
them.
That's how he takes a brokenfootball player like me and
turns me into a dad.
He didn't turn me into a dadbecause I was fathered well.
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On the contrary, it wasn't likeso many of your husbands that
you're married to.
Most men don't have dads whoknow how to be present and
loving for the sake of theirsons and their daughters, and it
causes a huge wound and thatwound just can fester.
And when you're wounded by yourdad, then you're looking for
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identity all the time, and soyou choose things to try to fit
in, to be a part of something,and so you choose things to try
to fit in, to be a part ofsomething.
You know all these.
You know the riots that aregoing on right now.
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You know many of the peoplethey're finding out are actually
paid actors and they're a partof this mob, right, but they're
identifying.
They have an identity thatthey're living out their story
with.
You imagine how empty andlonely having your core identity
being your politics Becauseautomatically now you're at war
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with other political people.
Matter of fact, you evendestroy your family if they
think differently than you do,and I've watched that happen.
I've had to coach families backtogether, getting those things
out of the way.
And you're probably saying, well, what do you believe?
Well, I have some real corebeliefs.
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I actually believe thegovernment is God's third
institution and the government'sprimary purpose is not to be
the mom and dad.
Family is God's number onepriority.
The church God designed toteach and instruct and support
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the family.
And the government the legal,the secular which is also part
of God's calling is to protectthe family and the church.
It's supposed to be in serviceto the community.
It's not supposed to be thefather.
It's not supposed to be themother, be the father.
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It's not supposed to be themother.
It's not supposed to dictate.
It's supposed to be in supportof God.
Set it up that way in Scripture.
And any time number three thegovernment wants to be number
one, you have a huge problem.
So God's plan, in other words,on the totem pole of authority
and power, at the very top ofthat pole, is families and it's
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moms and dads just like you.
Just like you and the more youare embraced by—and here's the
secret it's not standing in thatrole as a mom and dad or a
grandma or a grandpa insuperiority, standing in that
role as a mom and dad or agrandma or a grandpa in
superiority.
No, you're in this place ofconstantly receiving from Jesus
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so that you encounter theFather's love in a greater way
towards Christ and through toyou, and the person of the Holy
Spirit that gifts you, empowersyou.
As a matter of fact, even inthe Bible it says that the Holy
Spirit moves into our life withthe Father and Son.
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In other words, we now becomethe temple of the living God.
We become a worship center,right where the Father, son and
Holy Spirit can set up theirworship service in our heart.
Isn't that a great picture inour life?
And why am I talking about thatso much?
Because here's the deal whenyou live your life that way,
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where the core of your identityis in between the Father, son
and Holy Spirit.
Mom, no matter what your kidsare going to, they're going to
watch how you handle all theircraziness.
They're going to watch how youlove them through it.
They're going to watch how youspeak the truth to them, but
they're going to watch who youreally are when nobody is
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looking.
And, boy, I remember just one ofthose moments spending time in
the Word and just trying tonurture my heart with my family
and struggling with some things,and it was like the Holy Spirit
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dropped this right out ofScripture, right, right out of
Scripture.
Right this, you know, becausewe can do things with our bodies
that actually grieve the HolySpirit.
The Scripture says, becausewe're the temple of the Holy
Spirit.
And in light of that kind ofreading, that thinking that
through and saying God, you know, show me, show me if there's
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anything in me, any wicked wayin me that is growing in my
heart.
Because I learned somethingthat day and this is what he
said to me.
He said, ed, let me preface itwhat's the audible voice of the
Lord?
When people are saying audiblevoice all the time, it's
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probably just a loud, silent,quiet unction inside of them.
Then maybe many times they sortof and I think I've done this
in the past where I've over kindof emphasized the voice of the
Lord that makes people feel, oh,you know, I'm not like that or
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I don't hear the Lord that way.
No, it's that internal placewhere he speaks in quietness and
gentleness, because the Bibledescribes the Holy Spirit as
gentle.
But when his words come, whenthe Father begins to speak into
us through a son in the HolySpirit.
It shakes you and this is oneof those moments and this is
what I got out of.
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I wrote this in my journal andthis was the line he says what
you do in the dark, ed, whennobody be that can take a light
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bulb, the light of the Lord inmy perfect now, are there places
that God is still working on me?
Absolutely, how about you, mom?
How about you?
What's your go-to when thepressure's on?
What's your go-to when yourchildren are changing and
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they're not these little kidsanymore?
They're fighting you back.
Because that's one of thetoughest things for a mom,
because so many times a mom'sidentity is tied right into
their children and the way theirchildren are responding to them
, and they don't feel like goodmoms.
They feel like they're bad moms.
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It's not true.
It just means your kids arebeing bad and they need you know
what they need sometimes.
Here's the picture they need alighthouse when the storm is
raging around them.
They need somebody in theirlife they can trust.
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And I want to tell you for manyof the families I would say the
majority of the families in ourcountry I can't just speak
worldwide, although I think thestatistics would bear is there
are far more mama lighthousesthan father lighthouses.
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There's far more moms who havestood up against the storm,
sometimes even an unfaithfulhusband who devastates them, and
those kids watch mom turn tothe Lord and make her stand in
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the light.
That's amazing, that's powerful, and you can only do that when
you encounter God for yourself.
You can't do that if youridentity is in how perfectly
your husband loves you back orthe way your children respond to
you as teenagers.
So don't think it's strange, youknow James says when you
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encounter various trials.
I think, james, we could takethat verse and he could say that
for being a parent.
Don't think it's strange whenyour son comes home with a
reverse mohawk Happened in myfamily.
Why'd you do that to your head,luke?
I thought it was cool and he'slike, yeah, with this great hair
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and he's just a little guy, andso I had to shave the whole
head because I just couldn'tlook.
It's like he's a reverseMohican.
You know he's got hair here andyou know he just got a hold of
you know my clippers, you know,and you know they do dumb stuff.
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And yet one of the things I'velearned is that I got to grow as
a parent, I got to grow as adad and I've watched my wife
just struggle and pray and callout to God for her kids and boy.
You know, I think, thecombination of both of us right
now.
But I'm going to give a lot ofcredit to my wife, jill.
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She's just been an incrediblemodel of never quitting
believing the best, pursuingloving when she didn't feel it,
and she had to get that from Godfor herself.
You've got to get that first.
You've got to get it first.
Okay, a couple more things.
We'll tie it together and pray.
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And here's kind of theapplication of that verse.
If you jumped on a little late,you know learning how to see
what their father is doing.
Whatever their father does, theson does likewise, and so if
you've been around me at all,you know and Jill as well, we've
learned that we only havesuccess in doing what God is
doing with our children, andwe're going to talk about how to
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discover that a little bittoday and next week we'll do
more.
But what if you learn how to bea daughter the same way?
Jesus lived out his life whenhe said I can only do what I see
my Father in heaven doing.
What if, at the end of the day,the core of your life as a
daughter, the core of youridentity as a woman, was to be a
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daughter?
Receiving every day from aFather who absolutely loves you,
so much so that he so loved you, he sent His only Son to die
for you that you would receiveHim.
Not only do you receiveforgiveness, you receive the
power of the Holy Spirit toempower you to live the same
kind of life Jesus did.
It's amazing.
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I mean, the gospel is the onlyworldwide faith where the
founder became the Savior, andnot only the Savior.
He became the communion that wetake to, dying for us, and his
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body was broken and his bloodwas shed, to dying for us, and
his body was broken and hisblood was shed.
And every time we do that,we're reminded of the incredible
promise that it's not ourbroken body or our blood that we
shed that gets us closer to Godor brings in change in our life
.
It's his.
That's what an incredible thingthat is.
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And what would it be like if, ifyou, if your your core prayer.
This is my application for you.
I'm going to give you threelittle prayers to think about,
praying to help unpack this, butjust to spend time.
When you see your husband comehome or you're struggling,
you're going through somethingand your first response is what
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are you doing with my husband?
I'll give you a faith message.
What are you doing with myex-lord so I can partner with
you?
How about this?
What are you doing with myteenage son?
Right now he's struggling.
Show me how to mother him.
You're kind of living in thisplace where you got to receive
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what you need, that you don'tknow to be what you really want
to be, and that is a mom who canreally help them the best way.
And so the first thing welearned is you be that kind of
mom where your core identity isbeing a beloved daughter, loved
by a father in heaven.
No matter how much abuse andhurt has come your way as a
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woman in this crazy, sadisticworld towards girls, so many
times they see Christ in you,the hope of glory.
You become that light on thehill right.
You become the salt of theearth because Christ is in you.
What would it be like to just?
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Your whole role is being apartner.
Partner, and no matter what theoutcome of that is, you can
live in joy, because you knowthat God is working, no matter
if you see it in your son ordaughter or not, or in your kids
or in your spouse.
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Next slide, so here's—actually Iput in three prayers, not four,
but here's the first one Father, show me the places where I am
naming myself by my childrenright, right, or my what?
Fill in the blank.
Father, show me where I'mnaming myself, because any
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identity you put on yourselfother than beloved son or
daughter that God called his sonJesus and in him we get adopted
to become that same son ordaughter to a father in heaven,
every time we make a role thatwe have an identity like pastor,
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right, pastor is a role that wehave an identity like pastor,
right, pastor is a role that wehave, and there are some great
days.
I got a pastor online with usnow great guy, pastor Josh.
But you know, if 50 people comeforward and get saved on Sunday
, man, what a great day.
You feel like you're thegreatest pastor in the world.
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And then Tuesday comes afteryour day off.
If it's Monday and all of asudden, two or three families
are leaving the church, then youfeel like a horrible pastor.
That's the one thing aboutpastoring people.
It's kind of like people say,well, how big's your church at?
And I go.
Well, it all depends on whattime it is during the parade,
because I get people coming inand I get people going out all
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the time.
So if you're measuring yourselfby your preconceived identity,
even mom is a role right.
It's a role that you areempowered to do by the Holy
Spirit.
And when you do that role as adaughter versus just being a mom
I mean my mother would not goto sleep if we were not all in
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the house and sometimes westayed out really late and she'd
be tortured all night.
It would have probably changedmy staying out if mom went to
bed and it was like you weren'tworrying Nope, don't need to
worry, because I prayed for youand God's going to work on you.
No, but she didn't do that.
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She had this little doghousething with puppies, little
wooden puppies with our names onthem, and if we you know we're
bad I've shared this before withyou we get put in a doghouse.
So the first thing we do, wecome right into the kitchen,
wipe by the refrigerator.
There was a little woodendoghouse and we would go to see
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who was in that doghouse and ifyou were in the doghouse your
week was rough with mom.
If you were in the doghouse,your week was rough with mom and
she only knew how to make ithard on us Because she thought
the harder she was on us thenwe'd change.
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The problem is that you eitherbecome crazy like her or you
just run away and hide and youact good in front of her.
And so a mom struggled, my momstruggled.
I love her to death.
She's in heaven.
I got to lead my mom to Jesusbefore she went to heaven.
So, so grateful for that moment, so grateful for that moment.
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But, mom that are watching youcan be a different kind of mom
and when a mom is a daughterfirst and a role as a mom or a
role as a wife or a role asbeing an ex to maybe a project
that didn't work out in yourlife, a lot of girls marry guys
that like to turn into the dadthey never got to have kind of a
project husband and when thatdoesn't work out, it further
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kind of supports their theorythat there's something wrong
with them and so they dothemselves in over and over
again.
And God wants to set you free,sweetheart, from that kind of
endless kind of pursuit oftrying to make yourself
beautiful enough, skinny enough,whatever, to be loved
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completely by a guy.
And the only man that willreally love you, hear me, is
Jesus.
He's the perfect boyfriend.
As a matter of fact, we metthis beautiful, beautiful
Egyptian, gal Cried of testimony, was a Muslim and, you know,
had a dream and ended up beinginvited to a church, to a Coptic
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Christian church in Egypt, andon that Sunday there was a
terrorist attack in the churchservice.
There was a bomb that went offat the altar first, which made
everybody run, and then a bombin the middle which killed a
bunch of people as they weretrying to escape the church.
And there was a bomb at theback that went off last and she
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was at the very end of the row,in the very back of the church,
afraid that anybody wouldrecognize her, for fear of
telling her father and motherthat she was at a Christian
church.
And the explosion, you know,took her out and burned her like
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70% of her body and she waslaying and all these people were
on her and she went to heaven,in her own words, and stood
before Jesus.
And stood before Jesus and shesaid do you want to go back or
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do you want to stay or do youwant to come towards me?
And she had had this dreamabout Jesus and her dream, and
so that's why she ended up goingto church.
And she said to our church andshe's been around the world with
her story that she said, who'sgoing to tell my family about
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Jesus?
And she woke up on a gurney onthe way out of the church into a
hospital.
And when they found out thatshe was at a Christian hospital,
they didn't give her a room,they didn't give her very good
care and pretty much justtortured her.
And so, you know, the doctortold her she'd be burned and
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every that.
And she called out to Jesus andI don't remember exactly where
she was.
But all of a sudden all of herwounds began to heal and she
only had one little spot on herhead.
She's an absolutely beautifulEgyptian girl, an absolutely
beautiful Egyptian girl, and shelooked at everybody in our
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church and told her story.
We were just our jaws were justjust because she described the
life before and then meetingChrist and then the persecution
she had and everything and howshe has to stay secret and where
a burqa.
Somebody recognized her, so sheknows she'll be killed.
And so I took her out to lunchand it's a long story to share
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one little point with you forthose of you who are waiting for
a perfect man.
And I said, so we bought herlunch.
She did an incredible job inour church.
We were just, we were holdingour breath at her story at times
and then she prayed for peopleand it was just amazing.
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And so we're sitting there,we're having.
I took her to a Greek restaurant.
She wanted Greek food and Isaid to her during lunch I said,
so do you have a man in yourstory?
Because I was thinking of, like, maybe setting her up with some
of my friends I knew a bunch of.
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I had some Egyptian friends andI thought, well, I wonder if
she's married.
I said, well, you're married.
Do you have a man?
She goes.
Oh yeah, I have the mostbeautiful man.
Do you have a man?
She goes.
Oh yeah, I have the mostbeautiful man.
You know, beautiful Palestinianlooking man, just olive skin,
just he's grabbed my heart.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
And.
Speaker 2 (45:17):
I said, really, what's his name?
She goes Yeshua.
People try to set me up all thetime and I tell them why would
I want to have a man on earthwhen we have Jesus?
Because I've seen him, he'sjust so beautiful and he's so
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loving and he just loves mecompletely and so, no, don't try
to set me up.
See, I think there's a placethat we can all get to in our
life, to where you know that themore we pursue the lord, the
more we pursue jesus, the moreimpact our lives have, but the
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more we feel the love of theFather flowing through us.
There's nothing quite like thatfor identity.
The more you have that foryourself, the more powerful that
is for you and to tithetogether.
So number one prayer show methe places where I'm naming
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myself by my children, or showme the places where I'm still
looking to my husband orchildren for my identity that I
need.
You can be completely free.
When you get your identity fromGod, the Father, through a son,
christ, the Holy Spirit willfill you with what you need
until maybe God brings you anon-Palestinian man whose name
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is Jesus to be a partner whomakes you number two because he
loves Jesus.
First and finally, the thirdprayer.
Just to think about and I praythese prayers for me as a man
Father, show me how to be yourbeloved daughter, of course I
say beloved son today, so I canpartner with you for my family.
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So I try every day just to wakeup where my core identity isn't
Ed, ex-nfl football player.
I use the NFL stick so I cantalk to any man.
They'll meet with a footballplayer for coaching.
They won't go to a counselor.
So I get to sneak up on themand love them and pray for them
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and encourage them and know howto build men up and to lift
their arm.
I've been doing it for, youknow, 30 some years and so
grateful for that grace from God.
But I can only share what God'sgiven me, what he's done to Ed
in his own heart as a man,husband, father, now grandpa to
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14.
So grateful.
So show me how to be yourbeloved daughter.
If you're just a couple guyshere, beloved son, what would
that look like?
So you can partner with him.
And that's a profound place tobe.
And here's the principle themore you live as a beloved
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daughter, the more you willteach your children who they are
called to be and I've sharedthis with you before.
But John Wesley's mother would,when overwhelmed with her many
children she had more than 12kids she would flip her house
coat over her head and begin topray.
And John Wesley, in hisjournals, said that that was his
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first picture of what a realgodly woman and mother was all
about.
He knew Jesus was real Notbecause he went to Bible school.
It's because he saw the livinggospel in his mama.
So what is the difference youcan make as a mom for your kids,
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no matter what age they are?
They might get into the placein their life where they're, you
know, sideways.
The truth of the matter is thatthey're not going to ever
forget who you are.
When nobody's looking, looking,and the more you project that
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mom, the more impact you'regoing to have with your
daughters, with your sons, nomatter what age they are, and to
their own families to be a partof their life.
Because when you're saying,lord, what are you doing with my
son or daughter?
Then when you even become likea mother-in-law towards maybe a
daughter for your son or a sonfor your daughter and we're
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going to deal with that and talkabout that some next week is
you won't try to push him aroundor her around when you see
something that's broken.
You're waiting on what God isdoing in them so you can partner
, and when you do that, youwon't lose their heart and drive
them away.
So we'll talk about that nextweek.
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That's a powerful way where youcan be a mother-in-law and end
up becoming a mother-in-lovewhere your new daughter or your
new son wants you over all thetime because they love the life
that you're giving to themPowerful stuff.
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And so, finally, I promised youabout Father's Day, and so you
know dads get all kinds of fungifts from their kids all the
time.
But I'll tell you what.
There's one gift that I'vereceived numerous times from my
children, and it is the whole.
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It's my favorite thing infather's day and that's when my
children take time around ourdinner for together, or they
write me a note or, um, theycall me on the phone and their
conversation because of all thechanges that God's done in my
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life and the way I blessed themand spoke life into them.
They, in turn, speak life intotheir dad, and every dad in
America on father's day has thesame question did I measure up?
Was I a good father.
Maybe they were broken dad, butsomething really powerful
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happens when you as a wife, oryou as your children, you maybe
say you know, dad.
Would you know?
Think about you connecting withyour dad and telling him maybe
some things you saw in him thatyou really love about him.
And maybe your dad wasn't avery good dad, and yet there's
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always something that you canstart a conversation.
It could change his whole life,it could absolutely rock the
way he sees himself by you justkind of doing that.
And one of the things that youcould do is I wrote a book
called the Difference a FatherMakes and if you've ever, you
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know, been around, you go to mywebsite.
If you go tothefatherdifferencecom, you'll
see it there.
We have a way for you to give afree copy, even today,
digitally, to your dad forFather's Day.
And I wouldn't say hey dad,read this, because you are a
jerk and this would really helpyou.
But grab it yourself, give it aspin, it's absolutely free, and
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maybe find something in thebook that reminds you of your
dad and you go hey Dad, I read abook and I want to send it to
you, but there's a part thatreally spoke to me about you and
just bless him with it, say youknow, this guy named this
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football player wrote this bookand really spoke to me, but you
remind me of this story or youremind me of this thing and that
would be powerful.
And we don't make any money onthat.
A donation of our donors allowsus to give away books, and so
do that.
Go to my website and you can dothat and it's a free book.
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And here's the link it's justthefatherdifferencecom slash
free book and you just send inyour email address and it will
send you back a copy, a digitalcopy, of that book that you can
share with your dad or share thelink with him if he wants it
himself and if you want to growalso in your own ability to hear
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the father and see what he'sdoing himself.
I wrote a special book that Ithink will really help you and
it's called the Father You'veAlways Wanted and it's really
about how God the Father comesin and heals those places in us
that never got developed in ourchildhood and becomes the father
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of our story, where we can hearhim, see him, follow him.
We produced it years ago byBaker, bought the rights.
We have this in our bookstore.
There might be some online thatprobably want too much money
for them.
There's a digital, there's evenan audio version, I believe,
online.
But go, and if you go to ourwebsite you can grab one.
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We'll ship it right out to you.
It's a great book for adevotional and it's got a little
place in every chapter.
I'd love for you to have thatcopy and all that to say.
If you're a dad watching, yougot kids happy Father's Day.
If you're a mama out there, Igot so many that are here.
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It's too many to name.
I'll just name a few.
We got Miss Kay Well, bless you, mrs Kay and so many girls
Jen's here and some of my greatfriends that come every week and
this will be replayed.
You can send this link tosomebody else on Facebook or
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Instagram or YouTube.
We got to pop it up.
Actually, we're not on Facebookwith this because of the
brokenness of our post, butbefore I get off of this, before
I get offline, I want to prayfor you, just as a dad, as a
grandpa, as a father that Godhas blessed me to be a father
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and a grandfather like I neverthought I could ever be, but I
always wanted to be and I'mlearning all the time.
I'm far from being perfect.
I'm flawed, I'm still a guy andI still embarrass my wife at
times, you know, and so I'm notperfect, and she's amazing in
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that she likes me and loves meand gives me room to be a man,
and that's an incrediblypowerful gift from my wife for
me.
So I want to pray for you,father.
I pray for your daughters thatare watching and those who will
watch, and your sons who arewatching that you right now.
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I pray that you, if they'vespent years just not sure about
who they are because of theirchildhood or their life or
places they went sideways.
Father, I pray right now thatyou would come and just reveal
your love through Jesus rightnow, because he is the way, the
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truth and the life.
He's the way to the Father,he's the truth about the Father
and he's the love of the Father,the manifestation of love of
the Father to us.
Maybe you've never totallyreceived him.
If you've walked away.
Maybe this is your day.
You can pray, just a simpleprayer, same one I prayed many
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years ago Father, forgive me forall those places where I run
away from you.
Forgive me for the sin thatwants to grab my life and name
me, and I ask you to forgive me.
I need you in my life, jesus.
I want to receive you totallyin my life as my Savior.
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Come and fill my life and dowhat John 15 says, where you
want to come in and make yourhome in us.
Father, I need you in my lifeand maybe this is your prayer as
well.
Father, I want your blessing asa daughter, as a son.
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My dad never knew how to blessme, and so I just say, in the
name of Jesus, the same blessingthat God spoke in that river,
and so I just say, in the nameof Jesus, the same blessing that
God spoke in that river thatechoed over those waters, that
John the Baptist witnessed as heput Jesus in that Jordan River
and pulled him out.
The Holy Spirit descended uponJesus in that moment and
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everything that Jesus need andprayed for happened in a moment
over him and his prayer beforeFather.
I can't do this without theHoly Spirit in my life.
And it just came down like adove and landed on him.
And then Luke says he prayedanother prayer.
We don't know the prayer, butwe see the effect of what
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happened in that river and theaudible voice of the Father
spoke over his son and said thisis my beloved son, whom I love.
And the Father says to you youare my beloved daughters and
sons and whom I love.
And 2 Corinthians 6, verse 18,says and I will be a father to
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you and you will be my sons anddaughters, says the Lord, god
Almighty.
And God, the Father, says thisFather's Day, I will bless you,
even if your dad didn't.
I will bless your life withevery spiritual blessing I have
in the heavenly places and Iwill bless your life with every
spiritual blessing I have in theheavenly places.
And I will use your life and itdoesn't matter how you started,
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and I will bless you as a momwith an identity that's bigger
than the performance of the kidsor the depths of your husband's
love.
I'm going to bless you and keepyou and back you up, because
you are my beloved daughter andwhom I love.
And, father, I ask you to blessthem and I ask you to bless
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your sons that are watching aswell, and that you would heal
the family and really makefathers and mothers great again
in our country.
Lord, for the sake of families,that you'd heal the family.
Heal the family, father, healtheir families.
Use us to bring a holyrevolution in families for the
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sake of our kids and ourgrandkids.
And, if you agree with thatprayer, just say Amen In the
name of Jesus.
We pray so grateful for you.
Thanks for coming.
Sorry about the snafu on therecording of this.
You can go back and watch this.
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It's recording on YouTube,instagram Rumble, rumble's
awesome and on X.
If you're on X, mark the spotwhere the real treasure is.
I'm not talking about Elon Musk, but I'm talking about Jesus.
So grateful to be with you.
Thanks for joining us today.
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Got a closing little videothat'll play right as we close.
Enjoy, I'm praying for you.
Happy Father's Day.
You want to come and visit us?
We're going to be at Haven LaneChurch in Yorba, linda.
It'll also be live on Instagramand YouTube.
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You can go there on Sunday ifyou'd like to see me preach and
kind of do my thing and thankyou and keep praying for Jill
and I Keep supporting us.
We are so grateful for you.
We couldn't do it without you.
Lord bless you.
Speaker 1 (01:02:03):
Dear friends, imagine a world where every father
feels equipped to lead withfaith, love and purpose, A world
where families thrive andcommunities grow stronger
because of devoted,Christ-centered fathers.
Speaker 2 (01:02:18):
You know, beloved.
That is the vision that God'sput in my heart for every single
family.
You know he is on the move.
I believe he promises inMalachi that before the great
and coming day of the Lord, he'sgoing to do something profound.
He's going to turn the heartsof fathers back towards their
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children, so the hearts of theirchildren will turn back to
their father.
That's what God is doing.
I meet dads daily who want tolearn to be better fathers.
Yet many have never been shownhow Too many families are being
fractured through bitterness andwith parents and grandparents
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even being canceled.
That's why we're launching anonline community to equip men to
be the fathers that God hascalled them to be.
It's more than a program.
It's a part of a movement thatGod is already doing to reshape
fatherhood as a sacred callingrooted in the teachings of
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Christ, and we're calling thisthe Fatherhood Academy, where
men will embark on a journey ofhealing and spiritual
restoration that helps themtransform their family
relationship.
And to make this vision areality, would you consider
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partnering with us financiallyas we continue to reach and
disciple every man, dad andgrandpa that comes our way?
Your donation will help createa ripple across the
neighborhoods, communities, youknow, and ultimately our nation.
Anchoring each child, here's avision in the unwavering love
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and guidance of a devoted dad.
Speaker 1 (01:04:08):
Will you partner with us in guidance of a devoted dad
.
Will you partner with us?
Your gift, whether a one-timedonation or ongoing monthly
support, will help to transformlives.
Together, we can equip fathersand grandfathers to lead with
faith and create a brighter,hope-filled future for
generations to come.
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Click the link to donate today.
Thank you for believing in thismission and joining us on this
transformative journey.
Thank you.
How much impact do you think amother can have on her child's
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life, not just today, but forgenerations to come?
Welcome everyone to our speciallive show the Difference a
Mother Makes.
Today, we're talking about theinfluence, sacrifices, strength
and the unseen ways moms shapethe future.
This show is to celebrate youand to be reminded of just how
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important your role is in thelives of your children.
So, whether you're a new mom,seasoned mom, single mom, or
even here to honor a mother inyour life, this show is for you.
We'll dive deep into the waysmoms shape futures, nurture
hearts and create legacies.
Nurture hearts and createlegacies.
So don't miss this chance to beinspired, uplifted and reminded
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of the profound role you playthat makes a profound difference
in your children's lives.
We're thrilled you're joiningus because we have something
truly powerful lined up.
It's my honor to introduce theman who will guide us through
this incredible conversation.
He's a former NFL player, nowpastor, author, father, husband
and an amazing speaker who hasdedicated his life to sharing
the transforming love of Godthrough the power of family.
(02:14):
So grab a cup of tea, getcomfortable and let's dive in.
Now let's welcome Pastor EdMcGlashan.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Let's welcome Pastor Ed McGlasson.
Hey, welcome.
We had a crazy glitch today.
The actual service that we use,streamyard, evidently had a
worldwide break with connectingthrough Google, which is part of
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the hosting platform that hoststhis.
So, anyway, I think it was allbecause they didn't want me to
do this show.
I'm so grateful to be with youToday.
We're talking about my child ischanging.
We're talking about my child ischanging and I don't know how
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to reach him.
I get that question all the timefrom moms where they're in the
midst of their kids changing,their kids struggling, and so,
if you're new to our channel,this is the difference a mother
makes show and podcast that wehave that we broadcast usually
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at 12 pm sharp every single weekon Thursday, and today we got
started later.
We got some guests coming on.
I'd love to find out where youare and where you're from.
You can text me, I'll get that.
I'd love to find out where youare and where you're from.
You can text me, I'll get that.
I'd love to respond.
But I want to get right intothis because it's such an
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important subject for moms,especially in light of Father's
Day.
In the very end, I'm going toshare with you a kind of a
secret to the heart of your manon Father's Day?
Maybe he's a birth father andnot living with you, but how do
you reach that baby daddy or howdo you make Father's Day extra
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special?
You might already have a greatplan and would love to hear from
you.
You can chat me and let me knowabout that.
But in the meantime, let's getright into this subject that
we're talking about, and it's mychild is changing and I don't
know how to reach him.
So many moms that I meet, andhere's a question I want to ask
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right in the first slide, rightin the beginning, to kind of set
up our talk today.
Let me ask you this when yourmarriage is struggling or you're
a single mom or daughter, whodo you see yourself to be?
You see yourself to be?
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And that question, and it's thesame with the second question
when your kids are struggling,who do you see yourself to be?
And I meet moms all the time.
Moms are amazing.
I got to tell you I had anamazing mom.
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I've watched Jill my fivechildren and now a grandma to
our 14, and she's extraordinarythat you end up getting your
personal worth and kind of whoyou are, from, the way your kids
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are behaving or the way they'rereceiving from you, just want
to let you know that this ispre-recorded for our friends who
weren't able to come to ourlater launch time at 2 pm
Pacific Standard Time, and it'savailable for you.
So it's for you that arewatching, but it's also live for
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our friends to watch later.
And so when you think aboutyourself and how you see
yourself, how much of youridentity is connected to the
performance of your kids or howmuch they're receiving from you,
because when you're first a momand I'm first a dad, fathering
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and mother is similar in thatwhen the kids are little, we're
trying to protect them, we'retrying to get them to the
emergency room, especially ourboys, as they're scraping,
cutting, you know, breakingstuff on their bodies, you know,
in sports or life, sometimesour daughters.
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I remember my daughter, mary.
She cut her fingers, mary, shecut her fingers.
A little girl.
She would always put her handmany times inside the car door
in the wrong place and it wouldget slammed and I would take her
to the emergency room and just,oh, daddy, I mean it was
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painful for me and how I feltlike, oh, I wasn't being a good
dad?
Well, no, she put her hands inthe wrong place, and so it's
really important for you to kindof answer this question, and
we're going to talk about how toestablish kind of to use a
military term a beachhead foryou as a mom, to where you know,
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no matter what happens withyour kids as you're growing and
they're changing, because asthey enter those teen years,
their identity, when they'rejust your babies are, you know,
pretty much intact, as they'relearning and watching you as a
mom and the way you do your life, the way you love your man if
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you're married.
But their sense of identity getsa big question mark when their
audience changes and they startnow going to junior high school,
where the majority, way toomany of those kids that they're
interacting with, they'restruggling in their own life
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because they don't have momslike you, many of them don't
have moms that are veryattentive or they're working all
the time, and so identity isone of those things that the
devil loves to attack in ourchildren and in us, whether
you're a mom or you're a dad,and the better you're able to
really capture a couple ofthings that I want to share with
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you, that I had to learn.
My wife Jill had to learn, asshe was a mom to our kids and
now our grandkids began toreally change that story and
began to settle her heart from.
You know, many times you canjust get seriously depressed
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because your kids are struggling, and it's not that it's not
hard sometimes.
But I've seen, I've coached abunch of gals who get wiped out
in their own persona and senseof who they are.
Just, they just sort of losethat.
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And so I want to ask you anotherkind of a statement that I'd
ask you is that and this is whatwe're going to talk about the
most powerful thing you can dois to be secure in who God has
called you to be.
See, one of the most amazingthings about having Christ in
your life as a follower of Jesus, as a Christian, is when you
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really begin to discover thetrue identity to who God's
called you to be as a mom and asa dad.
And why is that so important,to be as a mom and as a dad?
And why is that so important?
Because the devil is constantlytrying to challenge our
identity or to rename us by ourbrokenness, rename us by our sin
.
He loves just kind of writingalcoholic over the heart and the
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life of a man or a woman, overthe heart and the life of a man
or a woman he loves.
When you get your identity andthrough all of your failure and
not really understanding whoChrist came to call you to be
and the way he reshapes thatidentity in you to where, no
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matter what happens in your life, your identity doesn't get
shaken when your kids are doingbad or even when you blow it in
sin, and we have a way to comeback to God and receive
forgiveness.
But it doesn't change whetheryou're a son or a daughter.
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And the caveat to all this isthat when you're raised in a
family where your mom and dadaren't really good at loving one
another, or they blow up andthey leave, or you lose your dad
in your story, or you see himlike every other weekend or once
a month, or you don't see himat all.
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Many times those gals theystruggle and one of the ways
they answer kind of the painthey have is they try to find a
guy that's maybe safe or is notlike their dad safe or is not
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like their dad or they kind ofspend their life trying to
change that guy so that they canfeel safe.
They try to turn their man andtheir husband into maybe the
father they never got to have,and when you do that to your man
and you put that pressure firstof all, he can't ever be that
guy.
You might think your husband isthe knight in shining armor,
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but underneath that armor hestill stinks, yours truly
included, and we need a saviorjust as much as anybody does.
And so many guys get theiridentity from things that aren't
related to family and yet whenthey discover what it's like to
being a great father, it changestheir life.
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And, a matter of fact, thisSunday, if you're in Southern
California and you'd like to bewith me, I'm doing a special
Father's Day message at theHaven Lane Church in Yorba Linda
, california.
That's the Haven Lane Church inYorba Linda, california.
You can go on Instagram andlook us up at Haven Lane Church
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and I'm really looking forwardto sharing.
We'd love to see you there 10o'clock sharp, and we even will
eat lunch together.
Unless you're planning a lunchwith your dad, you can bring
your dad, bring your husband,bring your family got great
childcare, and that's at 10o'clock on Sunday.
We'd love to see you there, andso how do you kind of live in
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this place where you reallybecome secure in who God's
called you to be?
Well, look at this verse here.
This is one of Jesus' prayers.
It's one of my favorite go-toprayers when I'm struggling,
because it's a prayer that heprayed for you and me, that God,
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the Father, would do somethingin us so profound that it would
change our life forever.
And look what he says, father,I desire that they also that's
you and me, whom you have givenme may be with me where I am to
see my glory that you've givenme.
You see, if you were physicallyin the presence of Jesus over
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2,000 years ago, you saw theglory of the Lord on Jesus.
Now, I'm not talking about acloud, although Peter, james and
John got to witness that up onthe mountain one day but you saw
this reflection of something onJesus.
If you were around him.
You know you'd question, youknow how is he going through the
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hard times, how is he dealingwith the 5,000 families who show
up?
And he, you know he blesses acouple of pieces of bread and a
few sardines and it turns into ameal for 5,000 families.
He lived with this resource inhis life as a man that was just
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so extraordinary, and he didn'tseem to be in a hurry.
He cared about the lowestperson in the group and the
highest.
It didn't matter where theywere or what they did.
He was able to be so presentwith everybody because he was so
loved by His Father.
And that's what it says here inthis verse.
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And His prayer is that you andme could see the glory that was
in Christ, that the Father hadgiven Him because you loved Me
before the foundation of theworld.
So the glory that was on Christwas the manifestation of the
Father's love towards Him.
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He nurtured Himself, he got upin the morning, he went to go be
with the Father so that thecore of who he was would stay
intact Even in His baptism.
God, the Father, shows up, andwhat does he do?
He blesses Him and says this ismy beloved Son, in whom I love.
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And not only that, he blessedHim so that all of us who are
baptized into him and receivehim can hear those same words
over our life, as he also wantsto be the father of our story.
So just imagine being thatthing.
Jesus' prayer was that you andme would discover his sweet spot
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of doing life.
Sweet spot of doing life, sweetspot of being a mom, is to
living in the unconditional loveand care of God, the Father,
through His Son Jesus and theHoly Spirit.
He goes on.
See, christ came to demonstrateto you and to me what it would
be like for you to have the samerelationship with His Father
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like he did.
Everything comes through Christ, everything is for Christ.
He's a central person in ourworship, but in the midst of us
worshiping him and connecting tohim, he shares with us his
relationship with the Father sothat we can be fathered the same
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way through the Holy Spiritthat he was Powerful stuff.
See, he says here I went toofast.
He said I have made I love thisin the message version.
Here I have made your verybeing known to them in the
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message version.
Here I have made your verybeing known to them, father.
He revealed that God was alsoFather.
He's the Father, he's the Son,he's the Holy Spirit, who you
are and what you do.
He showed them.
He even said there's no way tothe Father but through me.
And so when you saw how Jesusloved people, how he loved the
poor, how he could touch thelepers and pray for them.
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Nobody was too unclean thewoman who bled for years with a
touch of His garment.
As she reached out and touchedHim, the healing power of the
Holy Spirit flowed through himand she was restored.
All the people that heinteracted with and everything
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he did.
He even summarized all of hisministry activity one day when
Thomas said show us the Fatherand that will be enough for us.
And what did Jesus say?
Hey, if you've seen me, you'veseen my Father.
So when you're following theFather and you're listening and
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you're living in that place ofthe revelation of the glory, of
the unconditional love of theFather towards Christ, now
through Christ to you, thatsecures who God's called you to
be, that identity in your life.
And he goes on.
He goes, and I will continue tomake you known right and
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continue to make you know why,so that your love for me might
be in them and I in them,exactly as I in them.
And so the way the love of theFather comes to us is it comes
through Christ.
It's not like a separateness ofthe Father and His Son, it's
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all together.
And when we're in Christ we geteverything, every spiritual
gift, every blessing, ephesianssays in the heavenly places,
comes to us through the personof Jesus.
Even the Holy Spirit comes tous through the person of Jesus.
Jesus is the central figure ofall of creation.
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He was the voice who said letthere be light.
The Bible says in the NewTestament that everything that
was created was created byChrist and for Christ, and so he
is the central one.
And when we have Him, when wehave Jesus in our life, not only
do we have Him which is justextraordinary he shares with us
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His relationship with the Father, so we can have the same
relationship with His Father andthat's what this Scripture
means with his father.
And that's what this scripturemeans and that's why Jesus said
the son of man can do nothing onhis own, but only what he sees
his father doing, for whateverthe father does, that son does
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likewise.
What a powerful picture.
That is because now you havejesus, the son of god, who's
been baptized and heard from thefather that he's his beloved
son, spends his days connectingwith his father in the morning
in his time, just loving him andwatching and paying attention
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to what his Father was doing allaround him now, through the
Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit isn't liketheir forgotten person that he
kind of shows up.
He's the vehicle fortransferring the gifts of the
Spirit, the power of God, to us,on us, for the sake of those we
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love and pray for.
And so the more you build arelationship with Jesus, the
more of the Father that you cometo know and love and, at the
same time, the more of theunderstanding of the person, of
the Holy Spirit who's also as hecomes to us and when you begin
to flow with all three.
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I love what Keller says.
You know the great preacherfrom England.
He said it's kind of like thedance of the Trinity, where
we're like in the center and thefocus of the love of the Father
, the love of the Son and thelove of the Holy Spirit all
directed towards one another.
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For the Father loves the Sonand shows him.
Everything he's doing, the Sonloves his Father and everything
he does glorifies the Father andthe Holy Spirit's right in this
love triangle and he's lovingthem both.
And the power and thedemonstration of what the Father
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, through the Son, calls Him todo.
All this kind of dance of theTrinity is focused on us and
making us whole so that we canlove other people and care for
them.
That's how he takes a brokenfootball player like me and
turns me into a dad.
He didn't turn me into a dadbecause I was fathered well.
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On the contrary, it wasn't likeso many of your husbands that
you're married to.
Most men don't have dads whoknow how to be present and
loving for the sake of theirsons and their daughters, and it
causes a huge wound and thatwound just can fester.
And when you're wounded by yourdad, then you're looking for
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identity all the time, and soyou choose things to try to fit
in, to be a part of something,and so you choose things to try
to fit in, to be a part ofsomething.
You know all these.
You know the riots that aregoing on right now.
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You know many of the peoplethey're finding out are actually
paid actors and they're a partof this mob, right, but they're
identifying.
They have an identity thatthey're living out their story
with.
You imagine how empty andlonely having your core identity
being your politics Becauseautomatically now you're at war
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with other political people.
Matter of fact, you evendestroy your family if they
think differently than you do,and I've watched that happen.
I've had to coach families backtogether, getting those things
out of the way.
And you're probably saying, well, what do you believe?
Well, I have some real corebeliefs.
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I actually believe thegovernment is God's third
institution and the government'sprimary purpose is not to be
the mom and dad.
Family is God's number onepriority.
The church God designed toteach and instruct and support
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the family.
And the government the legal,the secular which is also part
of God's calling is to protectthe family and the church.
It's supposed to be in serviceto the community.
It's not supposed to be thefather.
It's not supposed to be themother, be the father.
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It's not supposed to be themother.
It's not supposed to dictate.
It's supposed to be in supportof God.
Set it up that way in Scripture.
And any time number three thegovernment wants to be number
one, you have a huge problem.
So God's plan, in other words,on the totem pole of authority
and power, at the very top ofthat pole, is families and it's
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moms and dads just like you.
Just like you and the more youare embraced by—and here's the
secret it's not standing in thatrole as a mom and dad or a
grandma or a grandpa insuperiority, standing in that
role as a mom and dad or agrandma or a grandpa in
superiority.
No, you're in this place ofconstantly receiving from Jesus
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so that you encounter theFather's love in a greater way
towards Christ and through toyou, and the person of the Holy
Spirit that gifts you, empowersyou.
As a matter of fact, even inthe Bible it says that the Holy
Spirit moves into our life withthe Father and Son.
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In other words, we now becomethe temple of the living God.
We become a worship center,right where the Father, son and
Holy Spirit can set up theirworship service in our heart.
Isn't that a great picture inour life?
And why am I talking about thatso much?
Because here's the deal whenyou live your life that way,
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where the core of your identityis in between the Father, son
and Holy Spirit.
Mom, no matter what your kidsare going to, they're going to
watch how you handle all theircraziness.
They're going to watch how youlove them through it.
They're going to watch how youspeak the truth to them, but
they're going to watch who youreally are when nobody is
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looking.
And, boy, I remember just one ofthose moments spending time in
the Word and just trying tonurture my heart with my family
and struggling with some things,and it was like the Holy Spirit
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dropped this right out ofScripture, right, right out of
Scripture.
Right this, you know, becausewe can do things with our bodies
that actually grieve the HolySpirit.
The Scripture says, becausewe're the temple of the Holy
Spirit.
And in light of that kind ofreading, that thinking that
through and saying God, you know, show me, show me if there's
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anything in me, any wicked wayin me that is growing in my
heart.
Because I learned somethingthat day and this is what he
said to me.
He said, ed, let me preface itwhat's the audible voice of the
Lord?
When people are saying audiblevoice all the time, it's
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probably just a loud, silent,quiet unction inside of them.
Then maybe many times they sortof and I think I've done this
in the past where I've over kindof emphasized the voice of the
Lord that makes people feel, oh,you know, I'm not like that or
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I don't hear the Lord that way.
No, it's that internal placewhere he speaks in quietness and
gentleness, because the Bibledescribes the Holy Spirit as
gentle.
But when his words come, whenthe Father begins to speak into
us through a son in the HolySpirit.
It shakes you and this is oneof those moments and this is
what I got out of.
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I wrote this in my journal andthis was the line he says what
you do in the dark, ed, whennobody be that can take a light
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bulb, the light of the Lord inmy perfect now, are there places
that God is still working on me?
Absolutely, how about you, mom?
How about you?
What's your go-to when thepressure's on?
What's your go-to when yourchildren are changing and
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they're not these little kidsanymore?
They're fighting you back.
Because that's one of thetoughest things for a mom,
because so many times a mom'sidentity is tied right into
their children and the way theirchildren are responding to them
, and they don't feel like goodmoms.
They feel like they're bad moms.
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It's not true.
It just means your kids arebeing bad and they need you know
what they need sometimes.
Here's the picture they need alighthouse when the storm is
raging around them.
They need somebody in theirlife they can trust.
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And I want to tell you for manyof the families I would say the
majority of the families in ourcountry I can't just speak
worldwide, although I think thestatistics would bear is there
are far more mama lighthousesthan father lighthouses.
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There's far more moms who havestood up against the storm,
sometimes even an unfaithfulhusband who devastates them, and
those kids watch mom turn tothe Lord and make her stand in
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the light.
That's amazing, that's powerful, and you can only do that when
you encounter God for yourself.
You can't do that if youridentity is in how perfectly
your husband loves you back orthe way your children respond to
you as teenagers.
So don't think it's strange, youknow James says when you
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encounter various trials.
I think, james, we could takethat verse and he could say that
for being a parent.
Don't think it's strange whenyour son comes home with a
reverse mohawk Happened in myfamily.
Why'd you do that to your head,luke?
I thought it was cool and he'slike, yeah, with this great hair
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and he's just a little guy, andso I had to shave the whole
head because I just couldn'tlook.
It's like he's a reverseMohican.
You know he's got hair here andyou know he just got a hold of
you know my clippers, you know,and you know they do dumb stuff.
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And yet one of the things I'velearned is that I got to grow as
a parent, I got to grow as adad and I've watched my wife
just struggle and pray and callout to God for her kids and boy.
You know, I think, thecombination of both of us right
now.
But I'm going to give a lot ofcredit to my wife, jill.
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She's just been an incrediblemodel of never quitting
believing the best, pursuingloving when she didn't feel it,
and she had to get that from Godfor herself.
You've got to get that first.
You've got to get it first.
Okay, a couple more things.
We'll tie it together and pray.
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And here's kind of theapplication of that verse.
If you jumped on a little late,you know learning how to see
what their father is doing.
Whatever their father does, theson does likewise, and so if
you've been around me at all,you know and Jill as well, we've
learned that we only havesuccess in doing what God is
doing with our children, andwe're going to talk about how to
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discover that a little bittoday and next week we'll do
more.
But what if you learn how to bea daughter the same way?
Jesus lived out his life whenhe said I can only do what I see
my Father in heaven doing.
What if, at the end of the day,the core of your life as a
daughter, the core of youridentity as a woman, was to be a
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daughter?
Receiving every day from aFather who absolutely loves you,
so much so that he so loved you, he sent His only Son to die
for you that you would receiveHim.
Not only do you receiveforgiveness, you receive the
power of the Holy Spirit toempower you to live the same
kind of life Jesus did.
It's amazing.
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I mean, the gospel is the onlyworldwide faith where the
founder became the Savior, andnot only the Savior.
He became the communion that wetake to, dying for us, and his
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body was broken and his bloodwas shed, to dying for us, and
his body was broken and hisblood was shed.
And every time we do that,we're reminded of the incredible
promise that it's not ourbroken body or our blood that we
shed that gets us closer to Godor brings in change in our life
.
It's his.
That's what an incredible thingthat is.
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And what would it be like if, ifyou, if your your core prayer.
This is my application for you.
I'm going to give you threelittle prayers to think about,
praying to help unpack this, butjust to spend time.
When you see your husband comehome or you're struggling,
you're going through somethingand your first response is what
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are you doing with my husband?
I'll give you a faith message.
What are you doing with myex-lord so I can partner with
you?
How about this?
What are you doing with myteenage son?
Right now he's struggling.
Show me how to mother him.
You're kind of living in thisplace where you got to receive
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what you need, that you don'tknow to be what you really want
to be, and that is a mom who canreally help them the best way.
And so the first thing welearned is you be that kind of
mom where your core identity isbeing a beloved daughter, loved
by a father in heaven.
No matter how much abuse andhurt has come your way as a
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woman in this crazy, sadisticworld towards girls, so many
times they see Christ in you,the hope of glory.
You become that light on thehill right.
You become the salt of theearth because Christ is in you.
What would it be like to just?
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Your whole role is being apartner.
Partner, and no matter what theoutcome of that is, you can
live in joy, because you knowthat God is working, no matter
if you see it in your son ordaughter or not, or in your kids
or in your spouse.
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Next slide, so here's—actually Iput in three prayers, not four,
but here's the first one Father, show me the places where I am
naming myself by my childrenright, right, or my what?
Fill in the blank.
Father, show me where I'mnaming myself, because any
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identity you put on yourselfother than beloved son or
daughter that God called his sonJesus and in him we get adopted
to become that same son ordaughter to a father in heaven,
every time we make a role thatwe have an identity like pastor,
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right, pastor is a role that wehave an identity like pastor,
right, pastor is a role that wehave, and there are some great
days.
I got a pastor online with usnow great guy, pastor Josh.
But you know, if 50 people comeforward and get saved on Sunday
, man, what a great day.
You feel like you're thegreatest pastor in the world.
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And then Tuesday comes afteryour day off.
If it's Monday and all of asudden, two or three families
are leaving the church, then youfeel like a horrible pastor.
That's the one thing aboutpastoring people.
It's kind of like people say,well, how big's your church at?
And I go.
Well, it all depends on whattime it is during the parade,
because I get people coming inand I get people going out all
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the time.
So if you're measuring yourselfby your preconceived identity,
even mom is a role right.
It's a role that you areempowered to do by the Holy
Spirit.
And when you do that role as adaughter versus just being a mom
I mean my mother would not goto sleep if we were not all in
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the house and sometimes westayed out really late and she'd
be tortured all night.
It would have probably changedmy staying out if mom went to
bed and it was like you weren'tworrying Nope, don't need to
worry, because I prayed for youand God's going to work on you.
No, but she didn't do that.
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She had this little doghousething with puppies, little
wooden puppies with our names onthem, and if we you know we're
bad I've shared this before withyou we get put in a doghouse.
So the first thing we do, wecome right into the kitchen,
wipe by the refrigerator.
There was a little woodendoghouse and we would go to see
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who was in that doghouse and ifyou were in the doghouse your
week was rough with mom.
If you were in the doghouse,your week was rough with mom and
she only knew how to make ithard on us Because she thought
the harder she was on us thenwe'd change.
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The problem is that you eitherbecome crazy like her or you
just run away and hide and youact good in front of her.
And so a mom struggled, my momstruggled.
I love her to death.
She's in heaven.
I got to lead my mom to Jesusbefore she went to heaven.
So, so grateful for that moment, so grateful for that moment.
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But, mom that are watching youcan be a different kind of mom
and when a mom is a daughterfirst and a role as a mom or a
role as a wife or a role asbeing an ex to maybe a project
that didn't work out in yourlife, a lot of girls marry guys
that like to turn into the dadthey never got to have kind of a
project husband and when thatdoesn't work out, it further
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kind of supports their theorythat there's something wrong
with them and so they dothemselves in over and over
again.
And God wants to set you free,sweetheart, from that kind of
endless kind of pursuit oftrying to make yourself
beautiful enough, skinny enough,whatever, to be loved
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completely by a guy.
And the only man that willreally love you, hear me, is
Jesus.
He's the perfect boyfriend.
As a matter of fact, we metthis beautiful, beautiful
Egyptian, gal Cried of testimony, was a Muslim and, you know,
had a dream and ended up beinginvited to a church, to a Coptic
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Christian church in Egypt, andon that Sunday there was a
terrorist attack in the churchservice.
There was a bomb that went offat the altar first, which made
everybody run, and then a bombin the middle which killed a
bunch of people as they weretrying to escape the church.
And there was a bomb at theback that went off last and she
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was at the very end of the row,in the very back of the church,
afraid that anybody wouldrecognize her, for fear of
telling her father and motherthat she was at a Christian
church.
And the explosion, you know,took her out and burned her like
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70% of her body and she waslaying and all these people were
on her and she went to heaven,in her own words, and stood
before Jesus.
And stood before Jesus and shesaid do you want to go back or
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do you want to stay or do youwant to come towards me?
And she had had this dreamabout Jesus and her dream, and
so that's why she ended up goingto church.
And she said to our church andshe's been around the world with
her story that she said, who'sgoing to tell my family about
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Jesus?
And she woke up on a gurney onthe way out of the church into a
hospital.
And when they found out thatshe was at a Christian hospital,
they didn't give her a room,they didn't give her very good
care and pretty much justtortured her.
And so, you know, the doctortold her she'd be burned and
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every that.
And she called out to Jesus andI don't remember exactly where
she was.
But all of a sudden all of herwounds began to heal and she
only had one little spot on herhead.
She's an absolutely beautifulEgyptian girl, an absolutely
beautiful Egyptian girl, and shelooked at everybody in our
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church and told her story.
We were just our jaws were justjust because she described the
life before and then meetingChrist and then the persecution
she had and everything and howshe has to stay secret and where
a burqa.
Somebody recognized her, so sheknows she'll be killed.
And so I took her out to lunchand it's a long story to share
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one little point with you forthose of you who are waiting for
a perfect man.
And I said, so we bought herlunch.
She did an incredible job inour church.
We were just, we were holdingour breath at her story at times
and then she prayed for peopleand it was just amazing.
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And so we're sitting there,we're having.
I took her to a Greek restaurant.
She wanted Greek food and Isaid to her during lunch I said,
so do you have a man in yourstory?
Because I was thinking of, like, maybe setting her up with some
of my friends I knew a bunch of.
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I had some Egyptian friends andI thought, well, I wonder if
she's married.
I said, well, you're married.
Do you have a man?
She goes.
Oh yeah, I have the mostbeautiful man.
Do you have a man?
She goes.
Oh yeah, I have the mostbeautiful man.
You know, beautiful Palestinianlooking man, just olive skin,
just he's grabbed my heart.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
And.
Speaker 2 (45:17):
I said, really, what's his name?
She goes Yeshua.
People try to set me up all thetime and I tell them why would
I want to have a man on earthwhen we have Jesus?
Because I've seen him, he'sjust so beautiful and he's so
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loving and he just loves mecompletely and so, no, don't try
to set me up.
See, I think there's a placethat we can all get to in our
life, to where you know that themore we pursue the lord, the
more we pursue jesus, the moreimpact our lives have, but the
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more we feel the love of theFather flowing through us.
There's nothing quite like thatfor identity.
The more you have that foryourself, the more powerful that
is for you and to tithetogether.
So number one prayer show methe places where I'm naming
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myself by my children, or showme the places where I'm still
looking to my husband orchildren for my identity that I
need.
You can be completely free.
When you get your identity fromGod, the Father, through a son,
christ, the Holy Spirit willfill you with what you need
until maybe God brings you anon-Palestinian man whose name
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is Jesus to be a partner whomakes you number two because he
loves Jesus.
First and finally, the thirdprayer.
Just to think about and I praythese prayers for me as a man
Father, show me how to be yourbeloved daughter, of course I
say beloved son today, so I canpartner with you for my family.
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So I try every day just to wakeup where my core identity isn't
Ed, ex-nfl football player.
I use the NFL stick so I cantalk to any man.
They'll meet with a footballplayer for coaching.
They won't go to a counselor.
So I get to sneak up on themand love them and pray for them
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and encourage them and know howto build men up and to lift
their arm.
I've been doing it for, youknow, 30 some years and so
grateful for that grace from God.
But I can only share what God'sgiven me, what he's done to Ed
in his own heart as a man,husband, father, now grandpa to
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14.
So grateful.
So show me how to be yourbeloved daughter.
If you're just a couple guyshere, beloved son, what would
that look like?
So you can partner with him.
And that's a profound place tobe.
And here's the principle themore you live as a beloved
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daughter, the more you willteach your children who they are
called to be and I've sharedthis with you before.
But John Wesley's mother would,when overwhelmed with her many
children she had more than 12kids she would flip her house
coat over her head and begin topray.
And John Wesley, in hisjournals, said that that was his
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first picture of what a realgodly woman and mother was all
about.
He knew Jesus was real Notbecause he went to Bible school.
It's because he saw the livinggospel in his mama.
So what is the difference youcan make as a mom for your kids,
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no matter what age they are?
They might get into the placein their life where they're, you
know, sideways.
The truth of the matter is thatthey're not going to ever
forget who you are.
When nobody's looking, looking,and the more you project that
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mom, the more impact you'regoing to have with your
daughters, with your sons, nomatter what age they are, and to
their own families to be a partof their life.
Because when you're saying,lord, what are you doing with my
son or daughter?
Then when you even become likea mother-in-law towards maybe a
daughter for your son or a sonfor your daughter and we're
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going to deal with that and talkabout that some next week is
you won't try to push him aroundor her around when you see
something that's broken.
You're waiting on what God isdoing in them so you can partner
, and when you do that, youwon't lose their heart and drive
them away.
So we'll talk about that nextweek.
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That's a powerful way where youcan be a mother-in-law and end
up becoming a mother-in-lovewhere your new daughter or your
new son wants you over all thetime because they love the life
that you're giving to themPowerful stuff.
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And so, finally, I promised youabout Father's Day, and so you
know dads get all kinds of fungifts from their kids all the
time.
But I'll tell you what.
There's one gift that I'vereceived numerous times from my
children, and it is the whole.
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It's my favorite thing infather's day and that's when my
children take time around ourdinner for together, or they
write me a note or, um, theycall me on the phone and their
conversation because of all thechanges that God's done in my
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life and the way I blessed themand spoke life into them.
They, in turn, speak life intotheir dad, and every dad in
America on father's day has thesame question did I measure up?
Was I a good father.
Maybe they were broken dad, butsomething really powerful
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happens when you as a wife, oryou as your children, you maybe
say you know, dad.
Would you know?
Think about you connecting withyour dad and telling him maybe
some things you saw in him thatyou really love about him.
And maybe your dad wasn't avery good dad, and yet there's
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always something that you canstart a conversation.
It could change his whole life,it could absolutely rock the
way he sees himself by you justkind of doing that.
And one of the things that youcould do is I wrote a book
called the Difference a FatherMakes and if you've ever, you
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know, been around, you go to mywebsite.
If you go tothefatherdifferencecom, you'll
see it there.
We have a way for you to give afree copy, even today,
digitally, to your dad forFather's Day.
And I wouldn't say hey dad,read this, because you are a
jerk and this would really helpyou.
But grab it yourself, give it aspin, it's absolutely free, and
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maybe find something in thebook that reminds you of your
dad and you go hey Dad, I read abook and I want to send it to
you, but there's a part thatreally spoke to me about you and
just bless him with it, say youknow, this guy named this
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football player wrote this bookand really spoke to me, but you
remind me of this story or youremind me of this thing and that
would be powerful.
And we don't make any money onthat.
A donation of our donors allowsus to give away books, and so
do that.
Go to my website and you can dothat and it's a free book.
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And here's the link it's justthefatherdifferencecom slash
free book and you just send inyour email address and it will
send you back a copy, a digitalcopy, of that book that you can
share with your dad or share thelink with him if he wants it
himself and if you want to growalso in your own ability to hear
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the father and see what he'sdoing himself.
I wrote a special book that Ithink will really help you and
it's called the Father You'veAlways Wanted and it's really
about how God the Father comesin and heals those places in us
that never got developed in ourchildhood and becomes the father
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of our story, where we can hearhim, see him, follow him.
We produced it years ago byBaker, bought the rights.
We have this in our bookstore.
There might be some online thatprobably want too much money
for them.
There's a digital, there's evenan audio version, I believe,
online.
But go, and if you go to ourwebsite you can grab one.
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We'll ship it right out to you.
It's a great book for adevotional and it's got a little
place in every chapter.
I'd love for you to have thatcopy and all that to say.
If you're a dad watching, yougot kids happy Father's Day.
If you're a mama out there, Igot so many that are here.
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It's too many to name.
I'll just name a few.
We got Miss Kay Well, bless you, mrs Kay and so many girls
Jen's here and some of my greatfriends that come every week and
this will be replayed.
You can send this link tosomebody else on Facebook or
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Instagram or YouTube.
We got to pop it up.
Actually, we're not on Facebookwith this because of the
brokenness of our post, butbefore I get off of this, before
I get offline, I want to prayfor you, just as a dad, as a
grandpa, as a father that Godhas blessed me to be a father
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and a grandfather like I neverthought I could ever be, but I
always wanted to be and I'mlearning all the time.
I'm far from being perfect.
I'm flawed, I'm still a guy andI still embarrass my wife at
times, you know, and so I'm notperfect, and she's amazing in
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that she likes me and loves meand gives me room to be a man,
and that's an incrediblypowerful gift from my wife for
me.
So I want to pray for you,father.
I pray for your daughters thatare watching and those who will
watch, and your sons who arewatching that you right now.
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I pray that you, if they'vespent years just not sure about
who they are because of theirchildhood or their life or
places they went sideways.
Father, I pray right now thatyou would come and just reveal
your love through Jesus rightnow, because he is the way, the
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truth and the life.
He's the way to the Father,he's the truth about the Father
and he's the love of the Father,the manifestation of love of
the Father to us.
Maybe you've never totallyreceived him.
If you've walked away.
Maybe this is your day.
You can pray, just a simpleprayer, same one I prayed many
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years ago Father, forgive me forall those places where I run
away from you.
Forgive me for the sin thatwants to grab my life and name
me, and I ask you to forgive me.
I need you in my life, jesus.
I want to receive you totallyin my life as my Savior.
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Come and fill my life and dowhat John 15 says, where you
want to come in and make yourhome in us.
Father, I need you in my lifeand maybe this is your prayer as
well.
Father, I want your blessing asa daughter, as a son.
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My dad never knew how to blessme, and so I just say, in the
name of Jesus, the same blessingthat God spoke in that river,
and so I just say, in the nameof Jesus, the same blessing that
God spoke in that river thatechoed over those waters, that
John the Baptist witnessed as heput Jesus in that Jordan River
and pulled him out.
The Holy Spirit descended uponJesus in that moment and
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everything that Jesus need andprayed for happened in a moment
over him and his prayer beforeFather.
I can't do this without theHoly Spirit in my life.
And it just came down like adove and landed on him.
And then Luke says he prayedanother prayer.
We don't know the prayer, butwe see the effect of what
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happened in that river and theaudible voice of the Father
spoke over his son and said thisis my beloved son, whom I love.
And the Father says to you youare my beloved daughters and
sons and whom I love.
And 2 Corinthians 6, verse 18,says and I will be a father to
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you and you will be my sons anddaughters, says the Lord, god
Almighty.
And God, the Father, says thisFather's Day, I will bless you,
even if your dad didn't.
I will bless your life withevery spiritual blessing I have
in the heavenly places and Iwill bless your life with every
spiritual blessing I have in theheavenly places.
And I will use your life and itdoesn't matter how you started,
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and I will bless you as a momwith an identity that's bigger
than the performance of the kidsor the depths of your husband's
love.
I'm going to bless you and keepyou and back you up, because
you are my beloved daughter andwhom I love.
And, father, I ask you to blessthem and I ask you to bless
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your sons that are watching aswell, and that you would heal
the family and really makefathers and mothers great again
in our country.
Lord, for the sake of families,that you'd heal the family.
Heal the family, father, healtheir families.
Use us to bring a holyrevolution in families for the
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sake of our kids and ourgrandkids.
And, if you agree with thatprayer, just say Amen In the
name of Jesus.
We pray so grateful for you.
Thanks for coming.
Sorry about the snafu on therecording of this.
You can go back and watch this.
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It's recording on YouTube,instagram Rumble, rumble's
awesome and on X.
If you're on X, mark the spotwhere the real treasure is.
I'm not talking about Elon Musk, but I'm talking about Jesus.
So grateful to be with you.
Thanks for joining us today.
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Got a closing little videothat'll play right as we close.
Enjoy, I'm praying for you.
Happy Father's Day.
You want to come and visit us?
We're going to be at Haven LaneChurch in Yorba, linda.
It'll also be live on Instagramand YouTube.
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You can go there on Sunday ifyou'd like to see me preach and
kind of do my thing and thankyou and keep praying for Jill
and I Keep supporting us.
We are so grateful for you.
We couldn't do it without you.
Lord bless you.
Speaker 1 (01:02:03):
Dear friends, imagine a world where every father
feels equipped to lead withfaith, love and purpose, A world
where families thrive andcommunities grow stronger
because of devoted,Christ-centered fathers.
Speaker 2 (01:02:18):
You know, beloved.
That is the vision that God'sput in my heart for every single
family.
You know he is on the move.
I believe he promises inMalachi that before the great
and coming day of the Lord, he'sgoing to do something profound.
He's going to turn the heartsof fathers back towards their
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children, so the hearts of theirchildren will turn back to
their father.
That's what God is doing.
I meet dads daily who want tolearn to be better fathers.
Yet many have never been shownhow Too many families are being
fractured through bitterness andwith parents and grandparents
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even being canceled.
That's why we're launching anonline community to equip men to
be the fathers that God hascalled them to be.
It's more than a program.
It's a part of a movement thatGod is already doing to reshape
fatherhood as a sacred callingrooted in the teachings of
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Christ, and we're calling thisthe Fatherhood Academy, where
men will embark on a journey ofhealing and spiritual
restoration that helps themtransform their family
relationship.
And to make this vision areality, would you consider
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partnering with us financiallyas we continue to reach and
disciple every man, dad andgrandpa that comes our way?
Your donation will help createa ripple across the
neighborhoods, communities, youknow, and ultimately our nation.
Anchoring each child, here's avision in the unwavering love
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and guidance of a devoted dad.
Speaker 1 (01:04:08):
Will you partner with us in guidance of a devoted dad
.
Will you partner with us?
Your gift, whether a one-timedonation or ongoing monthly
support, will help to transformlives.
Together, we can equip fathersand grandfathers to lead with
faith and create a brighter,hope-filled future for
generations to come.
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Click the link to donate today.
Thank you for believing in thismission and joining us on this
transformative journey.
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