September 24, 2024 • 40 mins
Fatherlessness is the most devastating wound affecting our children today, with 24 million American children growing up without biological fathers and alarming statistics showing 85% of children with behavioral problems coming from fatherless homes. We all encounter hurt in our families, but the difference between generational healing and generational trauma lies in how quickly we choose forgiveness over bitterness.
• 24 million children in America live without their biological father
• 85% of children with behavioral problems come from fatherless homes
• Many fathers want to be better but lack positive role models
• The quicker you deal with hurt, the faster healing comes
• Bitterness in families can travel down through generations
• Family trees change dramatically when forgiveness enters the story
• A father reconnected with his daughter after 15 years of separation
• When we withhold forgiveness, we remain in a prison of bitterness
• It's never too late to repair broken family relationships
• Modeling forgiveness for our children teaches them how to handle conflict
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I miss my daddy.
Did you know that there are 24million children living in
America without their biologicalfather?
Those children suffer without adad in their life.
85% of children with behavioralproblems come from fatherless
homes.
63% of youth suicides are fromfatherless homes, 93% of youth
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suicides are from fatherlesshomes and 75% of teen substance
abusers come from fatherlesshomes.
We are seeing the effects offatherlessness in the news every
day.
Fatherlessness is the mostdevastating wound to our
children.
I've never met a dad who didn'twant to become a better father,
but I've met too many dads whodidn't know how to be a good
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father because they didn't havea dad in their story either.
Imagine the impact in yourfamily if you could be the
husband and father your familyneeds.
I met too many dads who didn'tknow how to be a good father
because they didn't have a gooddad in their story.
But there is hope.
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We have a ministry that helpsturn the hearts of fathers back
to their children and then thehearts of their children back to
their dads.
We need your help.
Help us transform another maninto the father his children
need.
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It doesn't matter how youstarted your story, but what you
do next can change your familyfor generations.
Your donation right now willmake a major impact.
Every donation of $25 or morewill receive a special gift from
us.
God did it for me, beloved.
I know he can do it for you too.
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I love my daddy.
It is just an honor to be withyou today, and we are
broadcasting here from sunnySouthern California.
I am sporting, as you notice,my Rams jersey.
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Yes, we did come back in thevery end of the game and beat
our nemesis, the San Francisco49ers.
I'm sorry if there's bitternessin the land, but that was
surely a great win indeed forthe Rams, and SoFi Stadium was
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rocking.
So, anyway, that started offthe weekend really good.
So I'm your host, edTaney-McLadsen, and welcome to
the Father Difference.
Live Well.
We come to you every week, youknow, offering and helping men
to become the best version ofthemselves and the fathers that
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they need to be.
And let me tell you, whenyou're making a difference as a
dad and you're really impactingyour family and your children,
it makes all the difference inthe world.
And when you're not, or you'vehurt your kids or there's
separation between you, there'sprobably nothing more painful.
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There's probably nothing morepainful.
And so tonight we're going totalk about just a whole the kind
of the journey of forgivenessand what it looks like to really
build a culture of forgivenessBecause of what's happening in
our country.
The political diatribes and thebitterness from both camps is
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just—it's crazy.
Although I sense in my spirit,you know from the Lord that this
is probably—in our lifetimeanyway—it's not the most
consequential election in thehistory of the United States.
Most consequential election inthe history of the United States
.
Well, it's the mostconsequential election for this
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next four years.
And you know, when we elect apresident or a vice president or
a senator or a congressman,right from the beginning they
have term limits.
So if they're great, they get aterm, if they're bad, they're
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out of there.
But we have a king that wefollow.
Well, there is no term limitsand our election is not about,
you know, putting a king inplace.
It's all about putting in thebest person to help us.
You know, god gave family andthe church the job of standing
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up and helping to form agovernment that will support
both of those.
And because I don't thinkthere's anything more important
on God's agenda right now thanreally helping to make fathers
great again Talked about thatlast week, and he wants you as a
dad.
He wants you to be the bestfather you can be and if you're
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a mom, the best mom you canpossibly be for the sake of our
children, because our worldright now is in a lot of
confusion, a lot of hurt.
Jesus promised that we'd gothrough all these times, so he's
not like—heaven's, not likeflipped out going.
Oh my gosh.
I've never seen it so bad.
Well, it was horrible duringRome's time when Jesus was there
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.
It's been horrible in everycentury.
There's been a season of crazypolitical wickedness and crazy
political stuff.
But guess what lives beyond allof the politics of the land the
Church of Jesus Christ.
Christ in you, my friend,christ in you, my sister.
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Nothing will stop that, andthat's kind of the intro of
today.
So how do we deal with thisissue of forgiveness?
Because your ability as a man,as a dad just talking to mom,
and if you're a mom and when Isay dad, it's also for you your
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ability to quickly identifytheir hurt and be able to fix
things that are causing therelationship between you and
your children to break down oryou and your family members to
break down, I mean, I think it'sabsolutely.
I would say it this way it is asinful thing to lose a family
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member because you believesomething differently
politically.
Think about how wicked that isfrom the devil.
I mean it's you know.
We can agree to disagree, butto demonize that other person in
a way because of a candidatethat we might vote for, to
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separate and destroy family isactually the perfect plan of the
devil that he wants to use toseparate you and your kids and
your family members.
And this crazy discourse has gotto stop.
And the way we stop it is thatwe learn how to be quick to
forgive and the Bible says andslow to get angry.
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You can be bothered by somebodyand that bother can turn to
anger and that anger can turn tobitterness and that bitterness
can build a wall and that wallwill cause separation and
destroy families.
Or we learn Jesus' way oflearning how to forgive, even if
somebody sins seven times, 70 aday.
One of the questions that Peterasked should I forgive him
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Absolutely?
Because the issue withforgiveness with God is that
forgiveness isn't givingsomebody permission to hurt you
again.
Forgiveness is about you givingthat wound and that hurt to God
and giving that mercy to thatperson that they don't deserve,
so that somehow in the midst ofthat transaction they can
connect with the Lord, godAlmighty, themselves.
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And I can't tell you how manytimes I have taught this, or in
my travels all over the world.
It's the same.
When I was in Africa, it was inEurope and in Germany and
Iceland and England andScandinavia and Denmark and
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Holland, and we've been a lot ofplaces in South Africa and
Australia and New Zealand.
It's the same bitterness it'sthe same, it's just flavored a
little different.
It's flavored with the accentof the day.
But when bitterness slips intoyour life, slips into your heart
, slips into your family, thelegacy, the potential
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relationships with your childrencan get damaged for a lifetime
and even, and even go beyondyour lifetime.
You know, one of my little sidehobbies at times is looking
through my genealogy of myfamily and I'm not trying to
find the secret that defined thesuperior bloodline that in my
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genealogy all the way back.
And my wife goes back I mean mywife goes back literally, you
know, to like 300 to 400 BC.
I mean crazy genealogy all theway.
And I began to watch and trace,as fathers, especially in
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families when they connectedJesus in their life, how their
family tree begins to change andwhen those children of those
fathers go sideways, how theirgenealogy changes.
And I remember one in the Tandyline, my family line, where
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there's preachers and peopleserving the church and
government officials and justall of these great things they
were doing, military heroes.
And then there were sons thatgot sideways to where you know
their story was he got drunk inevery position.
You know their story was.
He got drunk in every position.
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And this kind of bitterness goesand their family tree sort of
you know it's like alcoholismbegins to go down that tree,
into that family tree and everyonce in a while something would
happen and a child would catchthe mercy of God and all of a
sudden that tree begins to moveback to where God intended it to
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be.
And in the whole story of yourfamily and everything that
you're going to go through, godhas given us opportunities how
to heal stories that areunhealable, how to heal
relationships that areimpossible to heal, how to deal
with bitterness and how to pushit back.
And on your watch right now, myfriend, there's probably—and if
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you're a single man, even ifyou're a single man or a woman
there's nothing more importantin your life than to make sure
that in your family tree thatbitterness doesn't take root, as
the Bible says, and defile many, as the Bible says and defile
many.
So I want to share with you astory or two of some people who
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I got to meet and pray for andwatch God do something
extraordinary in their story,their family story, and I'd love
just to share it with you rightnow.
And the first one and if you'refollowing along, make sure you
get a copy of my book, theFather You've Always Wanted.
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It's available to you.
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We still have some cases left.
We would love for you to havethat in your life, for your
family, as a resource.
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And in there I talk about thestory, a profound story and
truth.
And I often ask dads is it toolate to make a difference with
my kids?
Maybe you're actually askingthat tonight.
And there's been someseparation between you and your
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children.
I mean moms and dads not juston one side or the other who
feel they blew it as parents,moms and dads who would give
anything to get their kids backright now because they've sort
of been kind of blackballed outof their children's life or
they've been put on the nocontact list because they want
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to be part of their story again.
And I received an email from afather who asked me this
question.
He said, ed, I read your bookDifference a Father Makes, and I
found myself just overcome withtears as to why I destroyed my
family and my marriage and it'sbeen over 15 years since I've
been able to communicate with myonly daughter.
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My bed of divorce and the yearsof separation has caused me to
ask if it's too late to reachout to my daughter and become a
good father.
And he tells me this story.
He calls me on the phone afterI got that email and my response
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to him was you know, it's nevertoo late, my friend.
It's never too late to have anew beginning.
It's never too late to reallycome out of that place of
hopelessness in your life.
And so we got on the phone.
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He was pretty teary with me andhe was actually reading my book
from the men's restroom, fromthe bathroom.
I actually wrote the Differencea Father Makes.
It's small enough for a guy toread in about four sittings.
And so I began to minister tohim and he said my daughter has
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cut me off for 15 years.
Is there anything I can do?
I don't know what she lookslike, I don't know if she's got
any children.
I don't know what's going on.
All I have is an address.
I say well, write her a letterwith this line in the letter
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Help me understand how much Ihurt you when I divorced mom.
If you want to talk, if youwant to talk, call me.
So he sends a letter out and wepray over it and about a week
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later he gets a phone call and Iwant to tell you there's just
one of those moments in ministrywhere you're watching just the
miraculous power of God moveinto the most broken situation.
And here's a daughter who's notseen or talked or heard from
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her father for 15 years.
He wrote letters, but theex-wife kept them away from the
daughter.
But the ex-wife kept them awayfrom the daughter.
We found out later in the story, and so he gets on the phone
and says hello, and I'll use adifferent name and not his hey
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Dad, this is Julie.
And he just can't believe hisears 15 years.
And he said I have his ears 15years.
And he said I have a questionto ask you, but I want to ask in
person would you come and seeme?
I live in Ohio.
And he said, sure, I'll come.
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Where do you want to meet?
There's a restaurant down thestreet from my house.
Could we meet there?
They make arrangements.
John, which is not his real name, ends up flying to Ohio, finds
the restaurant, sits in the backwaiting for what his daughter
is, and every moment you canimagine he's.
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Every girl that walks in.
Is that her?
Is that her?
Is that her?
Is that her?
It's been 15 years and the lastpictures he had she was just,
she was young and um, and all ofa sudden, uh, a girl walks in
kind of sheepishly and uh, seeshim and they have eye contact
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and me.
She starts crying Of coursehe's crying already and she
walks over to the table and sitsdown and he's just speechless,
not knowing what to say, becausehis last interchange with her,
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13 years ago, was because theattorneys sided with the wife
and separated the father fromthe children.
And so he looks at her and hesays what's your question?
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It's just hard for me to eventell the story.
It's so powerful.
And she said, Daddy, was I thatugly?
What John replied Daddy, younever held me, you never touched
me, you never, really ever,told me I was beautiful and I
just figured I was just so ugly.
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That's why you divorced mom.
Isn't it amazing how wicked thedevil can be to twist or hurt
and cause a daughter to measureher own her whole life?
By the way, her mom and dad gotdivorced and he said oh no,
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sweetheart, see, the problem isyour dad had a really serious
problem.
I was addicted to pornographyand had issues in my life and
your mom couldn't take itanymore and she divorced me.
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And it's a result of that, ofthat you know, I left and I was
so broken and so twisted by myown sin and shame that I had
that I was afraid to get tooclose to you so that I would
influence you in some way, and Iam so sorry for the way I hurt
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you.
Would you forgive me?
Sorry for the way I hurt you,would you forgive me?
And she just pauses for amoment and just starts weeping
and says, yes, daddy, and shejumps across the table and hugs
the father that she's never beenable to really hug for 13 years
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and just crying in his earDaddy, daddy, I've waited for
this moment for so long.
And after another hour ofsitting there and having a
coffee and talking about life,she says I have something for
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you.
At my home I've been waiting toshow you and so they agreed to
meet, gives the address, hedrives, pulls into the driveway
she had already scooted into theback of the house and as he's
walking up to the screen door onthe porch he hears through the
screen door he's here.
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He's here and two grandchildren, and said that it probably was
the greatest moment of my lifeto not only get forgiveness from
my daughter but to be able tohold my grandchildren and have
access to them.
I didn't even know they existedand that's such a powerful
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thing.
That's just like an incrediblestory in the Bible about Jacob
and Joseph.
You know Jacob, you knowthought that his son, joseph,
was dead and his brothers threwhim in the ditch because they
were jealous of him.
And long story short, god usedJoseph.
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He interpreted dreams andbecame second in command to all
of Egypt.
You remember that story.
He prospered him and Josephwanted to restore and really
protect his family and broughtthem all to Egypt.
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And then there's this scene inGenesis there, where Joseph gets
to bring his grandsons to hisgrandfather and Jacob noticed
Joseph's sons and said who arethese?
Same kind of story as my friendJoseph told his father they're
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my sons, whom God has given mein this place.
Can you imagine that moment?
And what does the grandpa do?
Bring him to me?
He said so, I can bless him andIsrael's eyes.
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You know Jacob.
God changed his name to Israel,which means father of many
nations, though his eyesight waspoor from old age.
He was nearly blind.
So Joseph brought them closeand old Israel kissed and
embraced them and said to JosephI've never expected to see his
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face again.
See his face again, see yourface again, man.
Isn't that the heart of whatGod does when he restores us?
And now God has, let me seeyour children as well.
He's a God of reconciliation.
He's a God who absolutely lovesto restore our families, and
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you know almost every family wecoach in our online academy and
people that are part of ourprogram.
They all have differenthistories about how they deal
with hurt.
How do you deal with hurt?
How do you deal with theoffense that happens between you
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and your sister or your brother.
How do you deal with thosethings?
And the quicker you learn todeal with hurt, the quicker the
healing comes.
The slower you deal with thehurt, the more chance of
bitterness starts rising upbetween you and your brother,
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your brothers and your sisters.
And God wants to fix thatbecause the more you have that
in your story, the more damagethat's going to do.
And I want to share just acouple of scriptures with you as
we kind of you tie thistogether and because it's just
so important to you know, reallyunderstand the power that you
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know God has brought you andbrought me when we really learn
how to forgive and be a blessing.
Let's see if I can find thisslide here.
Here we go.
Yeah, here, let me get.
Okay, here we go, let me takeit down.
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Well, here's Colossians 3.13.
You know Paul writing to thechurch, paul writing to a real
family like you have, like Ihave.
He says be even-tempered,content with second place.
What a great picture that is.
And we're not talking aboutcompeting in business or
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competing in doing and becomingthe best that you are, but he's
talking about in dealing insideof a family.
This whole section of Scripture.
You know content with secondplace.
Quick to forgive an offense, andhere's the standard.
You need to forgive as quicklyand completely as the Master
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forgave you, as Jesus forgaveyou.
Is that kind of the model thatyou—how you deal with
forgiveness and how you bring itup?
I mean, one of the tools oflearning to do that is that when
you sense an offense, thatsomebody is avoiding you— the
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quicker you go.
Hey, you got a minute.
Can I talk to you aboutsomething?
It could be a son in college,it can be hanging up on the
phone, it could be issuesrelated.
How quickly bitterness getsspread around.
It's kind of the fruit of theday on social media Back and
forth diatribes where eventuallyit demonizes you,
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back-and-forth diatribes whereeventually he demonizes you and
ultimately the biggest offensethat they can do is they'll call
you a racist or they'll callyou a Nazi.
They try to find a word thatcould be the meanest thing they
could possibly say to you, totry to somehow label you based
on the hurt they feel, becausethey don't know how to forgive
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and they don't know how to askfor forgiveness.
And it's not that they justwant to be mean and to destroy
you, it's that they're hurt andthey feel challenged.
And the quicker you bring inthe model that Christ has given
you and the quicker you dealwith it in your own heart, the
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more you can have impact inloving whoever that person is in
front of you.
Because that's how we're goingto be measured one day not by
how right we are or how we votedpolitically perfectly, but how
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quickly we deal with forgiveness.
Because around your bed one day,my friend, if you're a dad or a
mom or a grandpa or a grandma,what do you want said between
you and your children and yourgrandkids?
What do you want that questionto be?
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You want it to be silence, ordo you want your children and
your grandchildren and, if youlive long enough, your
great-grandchildren?
Or do you want your childrenand your grandchildren and, if
you live long enough, yourgreat-grandchildren to tell you
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how much you meant to them?
I've done a lot of end-of-lifemoments with men and women in
hospitals, as a know this last40 years.
I've said goodbye to some greatfriends and I remember those
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moments of being with them andleaning into their ear and
saying them, telling themsomething that I absolutely love
about them and that's powerfulabout them, and that's powerful.
And when you don't have thosemoments, it's devastating,
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because how do you measure yourlife if you're not surrounded by
people who you know, you'vemade a difference with, and, as
a father, is there anything morepowerful than that?
I don't think so.
And so the Bible goes on andtalks about well, how do we get
to this place?
Well, it starts out and we allknow this verse, if you've been
a Christian for more than aminute if we confess our sins,
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if we confess our sins and thequicker you get through that
first word it could be when Iconfess my sins, he's faithful
and just to forgive us our sinsand to cleanse us from all
unrighteousness, there'ssomething really powerful.
When we admit that we're broken, you want to take it to a whole
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new level.
There's something altogethereven more powerful than that.
When you model that forgivenessand go to your children and ask
for forgiveness, it's powerful.
First you go to God, next yougo to the person that maybe
you've hurt.
Because how are your childrengoing to understand what
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forgiveness is about if theydon't have a model?
Right now, their model is thislittle device right here, and
they're watching how thecelebrities deal with people
that offend them.
Man.
What do they get?
Man, it's ugly and it'ssomething that we got to do and
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we're all over it.
It's part of what we do in theministry, in our posts and in
Facebook and Instagram.
If you follow us at all, wouldyou like it and share with your
friends?
You can be one of myevangelists and help me spread
the word, because that's whatwe've got to do.
Spread the word, because that'swhat we got to do.
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That's what we can do, morethan anything else in our life
for our families, is to modelthis incredible verse that John
speaks if we confess our sins,he's faithful and just to
forgive us our sins and tocleanse us from all
unrighteousness.
He doesn't just forgive usbecause he died on the cross for
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us, because that forgivenesswas bought, it was paid for a
price In a real way.
We were pre-forgiven, but we'renot until we receive it from
Him.
There's not healing to thatplace in our life.
There's not healing thatseparation of relationship.
It's the same with yourchildren.
It's the same with your friends.
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Maybe you've got a friend outthere that you haven't talked to
in 20 years, or a son you'vebeen sideways with.
It's never too late to repairthat relationship.
It's never too late to repairthat relationship.
It's never too late to connectto them and to move.
Well, maybe they're not readyto talk about it.
Well, you just keep asking.
Maybe it's between you and yourwife where you still approach
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her, you still love her, youstill reach out to her because
it's so important to heal that.
Or you end up just living inthe same house and becoming kind
of partners in the enterpriseof having a building that's
called a home or a house, andyou cease to be lovers and you
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cease to be tender.
If you're getting that pushbackfrom your wives, you're getting
that pushback.
You know your way back in is togo to the Lord and say God, I
think I've withheld forgivenessfrom my wife, I've been angry
with her, and you can tell thosepeople because you avoid them.
But when the Bible says, if weconfess our sins, he's faithful
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and righteous to forgive us oursins and to cleanse us from all
unrighteousness and the power ofthat is he cleanses us from all
the stuff that isn't in ourmind, that we haven't even
confessed yet.
But we're going to the One whohas the power to give us a mercy
that's so profound, so lastingthat once you tasted that mercy
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in your life, you can't wait to,in gratitude because of what
he's done, for you, to give thatsame mercy to other people.
So who are you sideways with?
I mean, is there somebody thatyou're sideways with and you've
not forgiven yet?
So I'd like to pray with youright now, just in that.
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Thanks for your comments of youguys on Instagram and X and all
those places.
I appreciate you so much thatyou're tuning in tonight.
But think about who are youstill holding on to?
Who are?
When you think about you canfind out who they are because
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they're on your avoid it allcost list.
You might see them at churchand walk the other way.
You might see them in a grocerystore.
It might be a neighbor that youlive next to.
Anybody have a crazy neighbor,I mean, it might be a lot of
things.
It might be the people that are, you know, throwing politics in
your face all the time andbelittling you.
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Who knows?
But how long are you going toallow?
Because, see, you don't forgive.
You allow the other person tohold the key to the prison of
bitterness that you live in, butas soon as you forgive them the
way Christ has forgiven you.
Guess what happens?
You unlock that door and that'spowerful.
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Can we pray, father?
I thank you for my friends thatare watching.
I ask you to be with them.
I pray, lord, that they wouldlearn to keep a much shorter
list than they have and theyeven go before you right now and
just say lord, if there's someway that I'm still holding you
know hostage in my heart becauseof the way they treated me,
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lord, I pray you would just givethem grace right now to bring
that hurt to you and they couldsay Lord, forgive me for
withholding that forgiveness, sothat I can forgive them
completely in my life.
And I pray, lord, for anopportunity where they would go
to that person or call them onthe phone or write them a letter
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, not just to tell them, boy,I've forgiven you, you were a
dirty dog.
But they would write a letterto reconnect and to begin to
talk again.
Lord, I pray you would healfamilies.
I pray you would healrelationships.
I pray that you would use myfriends who watch this on one of
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that forgiveness would becomethe fruit of their life and not
the bitter seed of bitternessthat's trying to destroy our
families.
It's in the name of Jesus thatI pray, and all God's people
said amen.
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We live in a wonderful time inthe world, and I say that
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I miss my daddy.
Did you know that there are 24million children living in
America without their biologicalfather?
Those children suffer without adad in their life.
85% of children with behavioralproblems come from fatherless
homes.
63% of youth suicides are fromfatherless homes, 93% of youth
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suicides are from fatherlesshomes and 75% of teen substance
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We are seeing the effects offatherlessness in the news every
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Fatherlessness is the mostdevastating wound to our
children.
I've never met a dad who didn'twant to become a better father,
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I met too many dads who didn'tknow how to be a good father
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I love my daddy.
It is just an honor to be withyou today, and we are
broadcasting here from sunnySouthern California.
I am sporting, as you notice,my Rams jersey.
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Yes, we did come back in thevery end of the game and beat
our nemesis, the San Francisco49ers.
I'm sorry if there's bitternessin the land, but that was
surely a great win indeed forthe Rams, and SoFi Stadium was
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rocking.
So, anyway, that started offthe weekend really good.
So I'm your host, edTaney-McLadsen, and welcome to
the Father Difference.
Live Well.
We come to you every week, youknow, offering and helping men
to become the best version ofthemselves and the fathers that
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they need to be.
And let me tell you, whenyou're making a difference as a
dad and you're really impactingyour family and your children,
it makes all the difference inthe world.
And when you're not, or you'vehurt your kids or there's
separation between you, there'sprobably nothing more painful.
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There's probably nothing morepainful.
And so tonight we're going totalk about just a whole the kind
of the journey of forgivenessand what it looks like to really
build a culture of forgivenessBecause of what's happening in
our country.
The political diatribes and thebitterness from both camps is
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just—it's crazy.
Although I sense in my spirit,you know from the Lord that this
is probably—in our lifetimeanyway—it's not the most
consequential election in thehistory of the United States.
Most consequential election inthe history of the United States
.
Well, it's the mostconsequential election for this
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next four years.
And you know, when we elect apresident or a vice president or
a senator or a congressman,right from the beginning they
have term limits.
So if they're great, they get aterm, if they're bad, they're
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out of there.
But we have a king that wefollow.
Well, there is no term limitsand our election is not about,
you know, putting a king inplace.
It's all about putting in thebest person to help us.
You know, god gave family andthe church the job of standing
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up and helping to form agovernment that will support
both of those.
And because I don't thinkthere's anything more important
on God's agenda right now thanreally helping to make fathers
great again Talked about thatlast week, and he wants you as a
dad.
He wants you to be the bestfather you can be and if you're
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a mom, the best mom you canpossibly be for the sake of our
children, because our worldright now is in a lot of
confusion, a lot of hurt.
Jesus promised that we'd gothrough all these times, so he's
not like—heaven's, not likeflipped out going.
Oh my gosh.
I've never seen it so bad.
Well, it was horrible duringRome's time when Jesus was there
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.
It's been horrible in everycentury.
There's been a season of crazypolitical wickedness and crazy
political stuff.
But guess what lives beyond allof the politics of the land the
Church of Jesus Christ.
Christ in you, my friend,christ in you, my sister.
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Nothing will stop that, andthat's kind of the intro of
today.
So how do we deal with thisissue of forgiveness?
Because your ability as a man,as a dad just talking to mom,
and if you're a mom and when Isay dad, it's also for you your
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ability to quickly identifytheir hurt and be able to fix
things that are causing therelationship between you and
your children to break down oryou and your family members to
break down, I mean, I think it'sabsolutely.
I would say it this way it is asinful thing to lose a family
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member because you believesomething differently
politically.
Think about how wicked that isfrom the devil.
I mean it's you know.
We can agree to disagree, butto demonize that other person in
a way because of a candidatethat we might vote for, to
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separate and destroy family isactually the perfect plan of the
devil that he wants to use toseparate you and your kids and
your family members.
And this crazy discourse has gotto stop.
And the way we stop it is thatwe learn how to be quick to
forgive and the Bible says andslow to get angry.
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You can be bothered by somebodyand that bother can turn to
anger and that anger can turn tobitterness and that bitterness
can build a wall and that wallwill cause separation and
destroy families.
Or we learn Jesus' way oflearning how to forgive, even if
somebody sins seven times, 70 aday.
One of the questions that Peterasked should I forgive him
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Absolutely?
Because the issue withforgiveness with God is that
forgiveness isn't givingsomebody permission to hurt you
again.
Forgiveness is about you givingthat wound and that hurt to God
and giving that mercy to thatperson that they don't deserve,
so that somehow in the midst ofthat transaction they can
connect with the Lord, godAlmighty, themselves.
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And I can't tell you how manytimes I have taught this, or in
my travels all over the world.
It's the same.
When I was in Africa, it was inEurope and in Germany and
Iceland and England andScandinavia and Denmark and
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Holland, and we've been a lot ofplaces in South Africa and
Australia and New Zealand.
It's the same bitterness it'sthe same, it's just flavored a
little different.
It's flavored with the accentof the day.
But when bitterness slips intoyour life, slips into your heart
, slips into your family, thelegacy, the potential
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relationships with your childrencan get damaged for a lifetime
and even, and even go beyondyour lifetime.
You know, one of my little sidehobbies at times is looking
through my genealogy of myfamily and I'm not trying to
find the secret that defined thesuperior bloodline that in my
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genealogy all the way back.
And my wife goes back I mean mywife goes back literally, you
know, to like 300 to 400 BC.
I mean crazy genealogy all theway.
And I began to watch and trace,as fathers, especially in
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families when they connectedJesus in their life, how their
family tree begins to change andwhen those children of those
fathers go sideways, how theirgenealogy changes.
And I remember one in the Tandyline, my family line, where
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there's preachers and peopleserving the church and
government officials and justall of these great things they
were doing, military heroes.
And then there were sons thatgot sideways to where you know
their story was he got drunk inevery position.
You know their story was.
He got drunk in every position.
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And this kind of bitterness goesand their family tree sort of
you know it's like alcoholismbegins to go down that tree,
into that family tree and everyonce in a while something would
happen and a child would catchthe mercy of God and all of a
sudden that tree begins to moveback to where God intended it to
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be.
And in the whole story of yourfamily and everything that
you're going to go through, godhas given us opportunities how
to heal stories that areunhealable, how to heal
relationships that areimpossible to heal, how to deal
with bitterness and how to pushit back.
And on your watch right now, myfriend, there's probably—and if
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you're a single man, even ifyou're a single man or a woman
there's nothing more importantin your life than to make sure
that in your family tree thatbitterness doesn't take root, as
the Bible says, and defile many, as the Bible says and defile
many.
So I want to share with you astory or two of some people who
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I got to meet and pray for andwatch God do something
extraordinary in their story,their family story, and I'd love
just to share it with you rightnow.
And the first one and if you'refollowing along, make sure you
get a copy of my book, theFather You've Always Wanted.
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You can get it downloadinstantly or you can get this
from my website.
It's available to you.
Amazon is sold out.
We have no copies there, butyou can go to
thefatherdifferencecom and orderit.
We still have some cases left.
We would love for you to havethat in your life, for your
family, as a resource.
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And in there I talk about thestory, a profound story and
truth.
And I often ask dads is it toolate to make a difference with
my kids?
Maybe you're actually askingthat tonight.
And there's been someseparation between you and your
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children.
I mean moms and dads not juston one side or the other who
feel they blew it as parents,moms and dads who would give
anything to get their kids backright now because they've sort
of been kind of blackballed outof their children's life or
they've been put on the nocontact list because they want
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to be part of their story again.
And I received an email from afather who asked me this
question.
He said, ed, I read your bookDifference a Father Makes, and I
found myself just overcome withtears as to why I destroyed my
family and my marriage and it'sbeen over 15 years since I've
been able to communicate with myonly daughter.
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My bed of divorce and the yearsof separation has caused me to
ask if it's too late to reachout to my daughter and become a
good father.
And he tells me this story.
He calls me on the phone afterI got that email and my response
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to him was you know, it's nevertoo late, my friend.
It's never too late to have anew beginning.
It's never too late to reallycome out of that place of
hopelessness in your life.
And so we got on the phone.
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He was pretty teary with me andhe was actually reading my book
from the men's restroom, fromthe bathroom.
I actually wrote the Differencea Father Makes.
It's small enough for a guy toread in about four sittings.
And so I began to minister tohim and he said my daughter has
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cut me off for 15 years.
Is there anything I can do?
I don't know what she lookslike, I don't know if she's got
any children.
I don't know what's going on.
All I have is an address.
I say well, write her a letterwith this line in the letter
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Help me understand how much Ihurt you when I divorced mom.
If you want to talk, if youwant to talk, call me.
So he sends a letter out and wepray over it and about a week
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later he gets a phone call and Iwant to tell you there's just
one of those moments in ministrywhere you're watching just the
miraculous power of God moveinto the most broken situation.
And here's a daughter who's notseen or talked or heard from
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her father for 15 years.
He wrote letters, but theex-wife kept them away from the
daughter.
But the ex-wife kept them awayfrom the daughter.
We found out later in the story, and so he gets on the phone
and says hello, and I'll use adifferent name and not his hey
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Dad, this is Julie.
And he just can't believe hisears 15 years.
And he said I have his ears 15years.
And he said I have a questionto ask you, but I want to ask in
person would you come and seeme?
I live in Ohio.
And he said, sure, I'll come.
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Where do you want to meet?
There's a restaurant down thestreet from my house.
Could we meet there?
They make arrangements.
John, which is not his real name, ends up flying to Ohio, finds
the restaurant, sits in the backwaiting for what his daughter
is, and every moment you canimagine he's.
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Every girl that walks in.
Is that her?
Is that her?
Is that her?
Is that her?
It's been 15 years and the lastpictures he had she was just,
she was young and um, and all ofa sudden, uh, a girl walks in
kind of sheepishly and uh, seeshim and they have eye contact
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and me.
She starts crying Of coursehe's crying already and she
walks over to the table and sitsdown and he's just speechless,
not knowing what to say, becausehis last interchange with her,
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13 years ago, was because theattorneys sided with the wife
and separated the father fromthe children.
And so he looks at her and hesays what's your question?
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It's just hard for me to eventell the story.
It's so powerful.
And she said, Daddy, was I thatugly?
What John replied Daddy, younever held me, you never touched
me, you never, really ever,told me I was beautiful and I
just figured I was just so ugly.
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That's why you divorced mom.
Isn't it amazing how wicked thedevil can be to twist or hurt
and cause a daughter to measureher own her whole life?
By the way, her mom and dad gotdivorced and he said oh no,
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sweetheart, see, the problem isyour dad had a really serious
problem.
I was addicted to pornographyand had issues in my life and
your mom couldn't take itanymore and she divorced me.
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And it's a result of that, ofthat you know, I left and I was
so broken and so twisted by myown sin and shame that I had
that I was afraid to get tooclose to you so that I would
influence you in some way, and Iam so sorry for the way I hurt
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you.
Would you forgive me?
Sorry for the way I hurt you,would you forgive me?
And she just pauses for amoment and just starts weeping
and says, yes, daddy, and shejumps across the table and hugs
the father that she's never beenable to really hug for 13 years
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and just crying in his earDaddy, daddy, I've waited for
this moment for so long.
And after another hour ofsitting there and having a
coffee and talking about life,she says I have something for
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you.
At my home I've been waiting toshow you and so they agreed to
meet, gives the address, hedrives, pulls into the driveway
she had already scooted into theback of the house and as he's
walking up to the screen door onthe porch he hears through the
screen door he's here.
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He's here and two grandchildren, and said that it probably was
the greatest moment of my lifeto not only get forgiveness from
my daughter but to be able tohold my grandchildren and have
access to them.
I didn't even know they existedand that's such a powerful
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thing.
That's just like an incrediblestory in the Bible about Jacob
and Joseph.
You know Jacob, you knowthought that his son, joseph,
was dead and his brothers threwhim in the ditch because they
were jealous of him.
And long story short, god usedJoseph.
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He interpreted dreams andbecame second in command to all
of Egypt.
You remember that story.
He prospered him and Josephwanted to restore and really
protect his family and broughtthem all to Egypt.
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And then there's this scene inGenesis there, where Joseph gets
to bring his grandsons to hisgrandfather and Jacob noticed
Joseph's sons and said who arethese?
Same kind of story as my friendJoseph told his father they're
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my sons, whom God has given mein this place.
Can you imagine that moment?
And what does the grandpa do?
Bring him to me?
He said so, I can bless him andIsrael's eyes.
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You know Jacob.
God changed his name to Israel,which means father of many
nations, though his eyesight waspoor from old age.
He was nearly blind.
So Joseph brought them closeand old Israel kissed and
embraced them and said to JosephI've never expected to see his
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face again.
See his face again, see yourface again, man.
Isn't that the heart of whatGod does when he restores us?
And now God has, let me seeyour children as well.
He's a God of reconciliation.
He's a God who absolutely lovesto restore our families, and
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you know almost every family wecoach in our online academy and
people that are part of ourprogram.
They all have differenthistories about how they deal
with hurt.
How do you deal with hurt?
How do you deal with theoffense that happens between you
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and your sister or your brother.
How do you deal with thosethings?
And the quicker you learn todeal with hurt, the quicker the
healing comes.
The slower you deal with thehurt, the more chance of
bitterness starts rising upbetween you and your brother,
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your brothers and your sisters.
And God wants to fix thatbecause the more you have that
in your story, the more damagethat's going to do.
And I want to share just acouple of scriptures with you as
we kind of you tie thistogether and because it's just
so important to you know, reallyunderstand the power that you
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know God has brought you andbrought me when we really learn
how to forgive and be a blessing.
Let's see if I can find thisslide here.
Here we go.
Yeah, here, let me get.
Okay, here we go, let me takeit down.
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Well, here's Colossians 3.13.
You know Paul writing to thechurch, paul writing to a real
family like you have, like Ihave.
He says be even-tempered,content with second place.
What a great picture that is.
And we're not talking aboutcompeting in business or
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competing in doing and becomingthe best that you are, but he's
talking about in dealing insideof a family.
This whole section of Scripture.
You know content with secondplace.
Quick to forgive an offense, andhere's the standard.
You need to forgive as quicklyand completely as the Master
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forgave you, as Jesus forgaveyou.
Is that kind of the model thatyou—how you deal with
forgiveness and how you bring itup?
I mean, one of the tools oflearning to do that is that when
you sense an offense, thatsomebody is avoiding you— the
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quicker you go.
Hey, you got a minute.
Can I talk to you aboutsomething?
It could be a son in college,it can be hanging up on the
phone, it could be issuesrelated.
How quickly bitterness getsspread around.
It's kind of the fruit of theday on social media Back and
forth diatribes where eventuallyit demonizes you,
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back-and-forth diatribes whereeventually he demonizes you and
ultimately the biggest offensethat they can do is they'll call
you a racist or they'll callyou a Nazi.
They try to find a word thatcould be the meanest thing they
could possibly say to you, totry to somehow label you based
on the hurt they feel, becausethey don't know how to forgive
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and they don't know how to askfor forgiveness.
And it's not that they justwant to be mean and to destroy
you, it's that they're hurt andthey feel challenged.
And the quicker you bring inthe model that Christ has given
you and the quicker you dealwith it in your own heart, the
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more you can have impact inloving whoever that person is in
front of you.
Because that's how we're goingto be measured one day not by
how right we are or how we votedpolitically perfectly, but how
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quickly we deal with forgiveness.
Because around your bed one day,my friend, if you're a dad or a
mom or a grandpa or a grandma,what do you want said between
you and your children and yourgrandkids?
What do you want that questionto be?
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You want it to be silence, ordo you want your children and
your grandchildren and, if youlive long enough, your
great-grandchildren?
Or do you want your childrenand your grandchildren and, if
you live long enough, yourgreat-grandchildren to tell you
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how much you meant to them?
I've done a lot of end-of-lifemoments with men and women in
hospitals, as a know this last40 years.
I've said goodbye to some greatfriends and I remember those
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moments of being with them andleaning into their ear and
saying them, telling themsomething that I absolutely love
about them and that's powerfulabout them, and that's powerful.
And when you don't have thosemoments, it's devastating,
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because how do you measure yourlife if you're not surrounded by
people who you know, you'vemade a difference with, and, as
a father, is there anything morepowerful than that?
I don't think so.
And so the Bible goes on andtalks about well, how do we get
to this place?
Well, it starts out and we allknow this verse, if you've been
a Christian for more than aminute if we confess our sins,
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if we confess our sins and thequicker you get through that
first word it could be when Iconfess my sins, he's faithful
and just to forgive us our sinsand to cleanse us from all
unrighteousness, there'ssomething really powerful.
When we admit that we're broken, you want to take it to a whole
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new level.
There's something altogethereven more powerful than that.
When you model that forgivenessand go to your children and ask
for forgiveness, it's powerful.
First you go to God, next yougo to the person that maybe
you've hurt.
Because how are your childrengoing to understand what
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forgiveness is about if theydon't have a model?
Right now, their model is thislittle device right here, and
they're watching how thecelebrities deal with people
that offend them.
Man.
What do they get?
Man, it's ugly and it'ssomething that we got to do and
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we're all over it.
It's part of what we do in theministry, in our posts and in
Facebook and Instagram.
If you follow us at all, wouldyou like it and share with your
friends?
You can be one of myevangelists and help me spread
the word, because that's whatwe've got to do.
Spread the word, because that'swhat we got to do.
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That's what we can do, morethan anything else in our life
for our families, is to modelthis incredible verse that John
speaks if we confess our sins,he's faithful and just to
forgive us our sins and tocleanse us from all
unrighteousness.
He doesn't just forgive usbecause he died on the cross for
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us, because that forgivenesswas bought, it was paid for a
price In a real way.
We were pre-forgiven, but we'renot until we receive it from
Him.
There's not healing to thatplace in our life.
There's not healing thatseparation of relationship.
It's the same with yourchildren.
It's the same with your friends.
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Maybe you've got a friend outthere that you haven't talked to
in 20 years, or a son you'vebeen sideways with.
It's never too late to repairthat relationship.
It's never too late to repairthat relationship.
It's never too late to connectto them and to move.
Well, maybe they're not readyto talk about it.
Well, you just keep asking.
Maybe it's between you and yourwife where you still approach
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her, you still love her, youstill reach out to her because
it's so important to heal that.
Or you end up just living inthe same house and becoming kind
of partners in the enterpriseof having a building that's
called a home or a house, andyou cease to be lovers and you
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cease to be tender.
If you're getting that pushbackfrom your wives, you're getting
that pushback.
You know your way back in is togo to the Lord and say God, I
think I've withheld forgivenessfrom my wife, I've been angry
with her, and you can tell thosepeople because you avoid them.
But when the Bible says, if weconfess our sins, he's faithful
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and righteous to forgive us oursins and to cleanse us from all
unrighteousness and the power ofthat is he cleanses us from all
the stuff that isn't in ourmind, that we haven't even
confessed yet.
But we're going to the One whohas the power to give us a mercy
that's so profound, so lastingthat once you tasted that mercy
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in your life, you can't wait to,in gratitude because of what
he's done, for you, to give thatsame mercy to other people.
So who are you sideways with?
I mean, is there somebody thatyou're sideways with and you've
not forgiven yet?
So I'd like to pray with youright now, just in that.
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Thanks for your comments of youguys on Instagram and X and all
those places.
I appreciate you so much thatyou're tuning in tonight.
But think about who are youstill holding on to?
Who are?
When you think about you canfind out who they are because
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they're on your avoid it allcost list.
You might see them at churchand walk the other way.
You might see them in a grocerystore.
It might be a neighbor that youlive next to.
Anybody have a crazy neighbor,I mean, it might be a lot of
things.
It might be the people that are, you know, throwing politics in
your face all the time andbelittling you.
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Who knows?
But how long are you going toallow?
Because, see, you don't forgive.
You allow the other person tohold the key to the prison of
bitterness that you live in, butas soon as you forgive them the
way Christ has forgiven you.
Guess what happens?
You unlock that door and that'spowerful.
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Can we pray, father?
I thank you for my friends thatare watching.
I ask you to be with them.
I pray, lord, that they wouldlearn to keep a much shorter
list than they have and theyeven go before you right now and
just say lord, if there's someway that I'm still holding you
know hostage in my heart becauseof the way they treated me,
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lord, I pray you would just givethem grace right now to bring
that hurt to you and they couldsay Lord, forgive me for
withholding that forgiveness, sothat I can forgive them
completely in my life.
And I pray, lord, for anopportunity where they would go
to that person or call them onthe phone or write them a letter
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, not just to tell them, boy,I've forgiven you, you were a
dirty dog.
But they would write a letterto reconnect and to begin to
talk again.
Lord, I pray you would healfamilies.
I pray you would healrelationships.
I pray that you would use myfriends who watch this on one of
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the social media platforms thatthe Father Difference Live and
that forgiveness would becomethe fruit of their life and not
the bitter seed of bitternessthat's trying to destroy our
families.
It's in the name of Jesus thatI pray, and all God's people
said amen.
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Love the comments, keep it going.
Just so grateful for any ofyour comments that you're
sending our way.
If you don't know, we have anumber of things to offer to you
tonight, and that is if you'venot gotten a copy of my book,
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make sure you get one.
We also have a daily devotionalthat goes out every morning
that'll hit your mailbox, whichis a word for today and kind of
a word from the Father for youtoday, to help you connect, to
be that man, that husband, thatfather, that son, that daughter
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that God has called you to be.
We live in a wonderful time inthe world, and I say that
because people who haveevangelistic hearts, like me,
get really excited when theculture gets riled up, because I
know God is doing somethingthat's so much bigger than this
political situation right now.
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You know what he's doing he'sperfecting his church, his bride
, and he wants to add a wholelot of people to the dinner
party.
So bless you and thank you fortuning in tonight.
I love your emails If this hasblessed you and you want to
support us so that we can keepdoing this.
I see he's going to put anotherlink on the screen and you can
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go to our website atthefatheredifferencecom and
donate, be a monthly partner.
That would help us the most andto help us reach more people to
give more books away.
And, by the way, your support,if you've been a supporter, has
allowed us to get our bookdownloaded for free.
And you know I might have thenumbers just a little bit off,
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but I think it's close to 128different countries Think of all
those people, groups where theDifference of Father Makes book
has gone to.
And it's just so exciting thatGod took a little book about a
story of a broken footballplayer that got turned into a
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father to be a best-selling bookthat is really literally going
around the world and it'savailable free for you or
anybody that you know.
It's such an important thing totalk about today and I would
love to hear from you.
You can reach me at pastorunderscore ed at the blessing of
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the father dot com If you wantto send me an email and respond
to the show and tell me what'sblessing you, how it's touching
you or things that you think wecould do better.
Anyway, remember, my friend,it's never too late for God to
do an amazing thing in your life.
The Lord bless you, keep you,make your face to shine upon you
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and give you shalom.
Give you peace in your family.
In Jesus' name, and all God'speople said amen, bless you.
Thanks for tuning in.
We'll see you next week.
If you're part of our men'sacademy, we're going to get
started at six o'clock.
If you're part of our men'sacademy, we're going to get
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See you next week.
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