August 3, 2023 • 16 mins
It only takes one loving father to change the course of generations - and one perfectly heavenly Father to begin the process.
This episode explores the transformative impact of being a present father and how that can shape our children's lives and their choices. This episode is an invitation to explore the profound, life-changing realm of fatherhood, and how to make the father difference in your family.
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Rob McQuay (00:01):
Welcome to the Father Difference Podcast, where
we help men learn how to be theFather they were meant to be so
that their children can livethe life that God has made them
for.
Each week, you'll find newpodcasts and interviews with men
who want to make the biggestdifference they can.
Your host, pastor Ed TandyMcLassen, has been teaching and
(00:22):
equipping men in events andconferences for the last 41
years in 14 different countries,and now here's Ed.
Ed McGlasson (00:33):
What kind of dad do you want to be remembered for
?
What do you want your childrento say about you when they're
standing over you, when you'vegot tulips planted in the ground
?
I know what I want.
I want to be.
I want them to say my dad madea difference.
(00:56):
He laid his life down for me.
He helped me conquer thingsthat I was afraid of.
He was there watching me fromthe stands.
He was.
There was no question in mymind that my dad loved me
because he showed it.
He said it, and I've alwayswanted to be just like my dad.
(01:20):
Imagine you hearing that fromheaven.
How about if you were to hearthat on earth and one of your
friends called you and said I'vejust spent time with your son
and he is an extraordinary man.
He's just like you or yourdaughter, and she's so secure
(01:47):
that she chooses a future spouseand she says I've just.
You're just like my dad.
I didn't know when I firststarted to father that I was
modeling the kind of man mydaughter would choose.
(02:08):
I didn't know that I was alsomodeling the kind of man that my
sons would be.
I learned so many things andrealized that I needed to be
that guy.
I needed to learn how to makethose hard choices that you got
to make when you're busy andthere's so many things and your
(02:31):
sons waiting for you.
I remember being in that movingescalator many years ago,
walking behind a man who waswearing one of those fancy Gucci
suits.
And I was walking behind himand he was on the phone with his
wife and he said I know, I knowI've made this promise over and
(02:57):
over again, but tell my son Ipromise I won't miss the next
game.
I just got one more deal I gotto do.
I could hear her trying toconvince him to change his mind,
but he was already at theairport and he hangs up.
(03:18):
I think he noticed me becausemy football player size was
making that moving walkwaybounce up and down.
And he gets to the end of theescalator and says did you hear
that?
I said I sure did.
You know, sir, can I saysomething to you?
(03:39):
You could make all the money inthe world, you can get this
next deal and every deal after,but if you lose the heart of
your son, you're going to feellike one of the poorest men in
your whole neighborhood.
And he looked at me and it justI could see something going on
(04:03):
and he smiled at me.
He turned around and headed outof the airport to make his
son's game.
That was a touchdown for me whenwe make those decisions to
choose to be present with ourchildren when they need us most,
(04:24):
over all the other things thatwe have to do.
I know you got to make money,you got to deal with the economy
, you got to do that but couldit be that God's blessing
towards you maybe gets held upbecause of your focus of trying
to make it all the time insteadof one of the greatest gifts
(04:48):
that God has given you and hasto be a father?
You might have blown it as adad.
Well, guess what?
It's never too late.
You could have been a deadbeatdad or not there at all, or you
could have done the best youcould.
Your children will hang onevery one of those little
moments.
(05:08):
You've done so many end-of-lifememorial services for a lot of
dads who seem to be dying a lotearlier than the moms do, and
they're searching for words.
I did one the other day, justsearching for words.
(05:29):
Well, I know that my dad lovedme.
He wanted to work every day toprovide a living for us, and so
I look at them and there's thatlook where the kids' siblings
are together, trying to shareabout their experience with
(05:54):
their dad, looking for somethingto hang onto that they can
carry, without their dad beingthere at all.
I learned something that'sprofound that on this side of
heaven, for you and for me as afather, our words really matter,
(06:17):
our time really matters, and ifyou want to learn how to be the
most powerful and the mostwealthy man in your neighborhood
, it might never hit your bankaccount, you might have to drive
an old beater car, but ifyou'll sew your life into your
(06:43):
children, my friend, and be thebest father that God wants you
to be, you'll make a difference,not only for your children, but
you're going to make adifference right for your
grandkids too, and I want toshare this little anecdote that
just it almost makes me weep andtalking about it again.
(07:08):
It was a number of Christmasesago and my grandkids or I didn't
mention that I had number 13grandchild this week but when we
were a smaller family and onlyhad eight grandkids, my kids are
all over for or Christmas.
We had mattresses all over thefloor and they were all playing.
(07:33):
And they do what kids dothey're fighting, they're
stealing their toys from oneanother at Christmas.
And I'm watching my children.
You know, as a grandpa, what dowe do?
We kind of kick them back inthe ring.
We wait for them to deal withit right.
And I was watching and theywere sharing things with my
(07:57):
grandkids that I had to learn,like asking for forgiveness, not
saying I'm sorry, and rememberJessica telling her son you go
over to your sister and ask forforgiveness.
And he went over and theyhugged.
And I'm watching this and I'mwatching them leading and
(08:21):
speaking life into my grandkidsand realizing that the whole
field of them doing this, ofrunning around my house, had
already been played by their dad.
God did something powerful on mewhen I really wasn't a good
(08:41):
father, when I was really abroken dad.
He did something profound in methat healed that core identity
of how I saw myself and Ilearned how to make the father a
difference in my kids.
Because God, the father, madehis difference in me and I just
(09:05):
wanted to record this shortlittle podcast to tell you that
it's never too late for you tobe the best version of dad you
can be for your kids.
It's the one thing that willbreak down the craziness and the
(09:30):
wickedness of this culturethat's trying to come in and
name our kids, change theiridentity, even their gender.
The guy who carries the mostauthority with his wife, other
(09:50):
than it's not political people.
They can do whatever they wantto do, but at the end of the day
, the guy who has the voice thathelps a son or a daughter
define their future is yourvoice, dad, the power of your
(10:12):
voice.
And how do I know that?
Because when I learned how toconnect to God, the Father, like
Jesus did, matter of fact, in 2Corinthians 6, 18, the
scripture says and I'll be afather to you and you will be my
(10:33):
sons and daughters, says theLord, god Almighty.
I remember reading that verseand I just.
My prayer was I need you to bemy dad too, god, I need you to
be my father because I'm missingstuff.
You feel like you're missingstuff.
Even though your dad was agreat guy, you're still making
(10:56):
fathering about you.
It's just so easy to do.
I got to tell you.
It rocked me many years ago.
As a matter of fact, it sorocked me sharing this podcast
with you and spoken in 14different countries and stood in
(11:17):
front of thousands andthousands of men who have been
or being told every day that youdon't have what it takes.
But I got to tell you in Christ, you can make a difference.
You can make the fatherdifference in your family.
You can change the course ofyour family, and even this.
(11:44):
A second great miracle is thatyou can also get your wife to
start liking you again.
I know my wife loves me.
She tells me all the time, butwhen she likes me it's like a
(12:06):
really, really good day, becausewhen she doesn't like me you've
heard me sing this song beforeAin't no sunshine when she's
home.
Oh, it's such an honor for meto share with you.
I'm so grateful that you'vetuned into our podcast.
(12:26):
Would you share this with yourfriends?
Share about the fatherdifference, because we're going
to provide the best we can tohelp you really connect and be
the father that you were meantto be.
This podcast is also for moms,so just shout out to all you
(12:46):
moms out there and you reallywant your husbands to connect to
your kids.
My wife is tuned into where mykids are.
She always has been, and I waslike I didn't seem to get those
antennas, how about you, guy?
But God did something to me,even with my wife, which was an
(13:09):
amazing thing, which is foranother podcast episode.
But not only is she a greatpartner and help you connect to
your kids emotionally the wayyou need to Moms.
I got to tell you I have Ican't tell you how many men who
maybe you divorced and are nolonger in your home with your
(13:31):
kids.
They've learned how to go backand be that father that you
always wanted them to be.
And so, man, it's never toolate, and I'm so grateful that
you are listening to me.
I'm so grateful that you havesearched and found this place.
Would you follow me on thischannel, subscribe to our
(13:56):
channel?
Would you share with yourfriends?
Because if we hear from the Lordduring these days and make a
father different with our kids,a miracle can happen in our
family culture.
The miracle that we really needand I wish I could tell you it
comes from Washington.
(14:17):
They probably need it more thananybody else, so many of those
political leaders.
They need an encounter with God, the Father, through the
perfect love and sacrifice ofJesus Christ.
Can I pray for you now and yourfamily, father?
(14:37):
I just thank you for my friendwho's watching.
I pray you would bless themwith every spiritual blessing
they need.
You would bless them with thehow-to's of being the Father
they were meant to be.
I'm so grateful that you'vedrawn them in and I pray, father
, that you would give them abreakthrough with their
(15:00):
daughters and with their sonseven those who have been lost to
the world or the culture thatthey wouldn't spend any more
days beating themselves up fornot being the best dad they
could be, but that today is thebest day to take a step to being
the best dad that your childrenneed you to be, and I pray that
(15:22):
you would heal their familiesin profound ways across the
world.
For those who are watching andlistening.
In the name of Jesus Christ,amen, thanks again.
As a special gift for you, ifyou go to the bio, there's a
book that difference a fathermakes, that believe it or not.
(15:44):
We've had over 400 and think50,000 people download it or get
that book, and it's my freegift to you to get a digital PDF
.
Read it, and there's even acoaching moment that you can
sign up for absolutely free.
I can help you take a steptowards the biggest giant that
(16:07):
you're facing now is a man,father in your family.
God bless you.
Rob McQuay (16:16):
We hope you enjoyed the father difference podcast.
Are you ready to learn moreabout the father difference?
But we have a special gift foryou in the bio to help you get
started.
Remember the father loves youand wants you to make the father
difference in your family.
Welcome to the Father Difference Podcast, where
we help men learn how to be theFather they were meant to be so
that their children can livethe life that God has made them
for.
Each week, you'll find newpodcasts and interviews with men
who want to make the biggestdifference they can.
Your host, pastor Ed TandyMcLassen, has been teaching and
(00:22):
equipping men in events andconferences for the last 41
years in 14 different countries,and now here's Ed.
Ed McGlasson (00:33):
What kind of dad do you want to be remembered for
?
What do you want your childrento say about you when they're
standing over you, when you'vegot tulips planted in the ground
?
I know what I want.
I want to be.
I want them to say my dad madea difference.
(00:56):
He laid his life down for me.
He helped me conquer thingsthat I was afraid of.
He was there watching me fromthe stands.
He was.
There was no question in mymind that my dad loved me
because he showed it.
He said it, and I've alwayswanted to be just like my dad.
(01:20):
Imagine you hearing that fromheaven.
How about if you were to hearthat on earth and one of your
friends called you and said I'vejust spent time with your son
and he is an extraordinary man.
He's just like you or yourdaughter, and she's so secure
(01:47):
that she chooses a future spouseand she says I've just.
You're just like my dad.
I didn't know when I firststarted to father that I was
modeling the kind of man mydaughter would choose.
(02:08):
I didn't know that I was alsomodeling the kind of man that my
sons would be.
I learned so many things andrealized that I needed to be
that guy.
I needed to learn how to makethose hard choices that you got
to make when you're busy andthere's so many things and your
(02:31):
sons waiting for you.
I remember being in that movingescalator many years ago,
walking behind a man who waswearing one of those fancy Gucci
suits.
And I was walking behind himand he was on the phone with his
wife and he said I know, I knowI've made this promise over and
(02:57):
over again, but tell my son Ipromise I won't miss the next
game.
I just got one more deal I gotto do.
I could hear her trying toconvince him to change his mind,
but he was already at theairport and he hangs up.
(03:18):
I think he noticed me becausemy football player size was
making that moving walkwaybounce up and down.
And he gets to the end of theescalator and says did you hear
that?
I said I sure did.
You know, sir, can I saysomething to you?
(03:39):
You could make all the money inthe world, you can get this
next deal and every deal after,but if you lose the heart of
your son, you're going to feellike one of the poorest men in
your whole neighborhood.
And he looked at me and it justI could see something going on
(04:03):
and he smiled at me.
He turned around and headed outof the airport to make his
son's game.
That was a touchdown for me whenwe make those decisions to
choose to be present with ourchildren when they need us most,
(04:24):
over all the other things thatwe have to do.
I know you got to make money,you got to deal with the economy
, you got to do that but couldit be that God's blessing
towards you maybe gets held upbecause of your focus of trying
to make it all the time insteadof one of the greatest gifts
(04:48):
that God has given you and hasto be a father?
You might have blown it as adad.
Well, guess what?
It's never too late.
You could have been a deadbeatdad or not there at all, or you
could have done the best youcould.
Your children will hang onevery one of those little
moments.
(05:08):
You've done so many end-of-lifememorial services for a lot of
dads who seem to be dying a lotearlier than the moms do, and
they're searching for words.
I did one the other day, justsearching for words.
(05:29):
Well, I know that my dad lovedme.
He wanted to work every day toprovide a living for us, and so
I look at them and there's thatlook where the kids' siblings
are together, trying to shareabout their experience with
(05:54):
their dad, looking for somethingto hang onto that they can
carry, without their dad beingthere at all.
I learned something that'sprofound that on this side of
heaven, for you and for me as afather, our words really matter,
(06:17):
our time really matters, and ifyou want to learn how to be the
most powerful and the mostwealthy man in your neighborhood
, it might never hit your bankaccount, you might have to drive
an old beater car, but ifyou'll sew your life into your
(06:43):
children, my friend, and be thebest father that God wants you
to be, you'll make a difference,not only for your children, but
you're going to make adifference right for your
grandkids too, and I want toshare this little anecdote that
just it almost makes me weep andtalking about it again.
(07:08):
It was a number of Christmasesago and my grandkids or I didn't
mention that I had number 13grandchild this week but when we
were a smaller family and onlyhad eight grandkids, my kids are
all over for or Christmas.
We had mattresses all over thefloor and they were all playing.
(07:33):
And they do what kids dothey're fighting, they're
stealing their toys from oneanother at Christmas.
And I'm watching my children.
You know, as a grandpa, what dowe do?
We kind of kick them back inthe ring.
We wait for them to deal withit right.
And I was watching and theywere sharing things with my
(07:57):
grandkids that I had to learn,like asking for forgiveness, not
saying I'm sorry, and rememberJessica telling her son you go
over to your sister and ask forforgiveness.
And he went over and theyhugged.
And I'm watching this and I'mwatching them leading and
(08:21):
speaking life into my grandkidsand realizing that the whole
field of them doing this, ofrunning around my house, had
already been played by their dad.
God did something powerful on mewhen I really wasn't a good
(08:41):
father, when I was really abroken dad.
He did something profound in methat healed that core identity
of how I saw myself and Ilearned how to make the father a
difference in my kids.
Because God, the father, madehis difference in me and I just
(09:05):
wanted to record this shortlittle podcast to tell you that
it's never too late for you tobe the best version of dad you
can be for your kids.
It's the one thing that willbreak down the craziness and the
(09:30):
wickedness of this culturethat's trying to come in and
name our kids, change theiridentity, even their gender.
The guy who carries the mostauthority with his wife, other
(09:50):
than it's not political people.
They can do whatever they wantto do, but at the end of the day
, the guy who has the voice thathelps a son or a daughter
define their future is yourvoice, dad, the power of your
(10:12):
voice.
And how do I know that?
Because when I learned how toconnect to God, the Father, like
Jesus did, matter of fact, in 2Corinthians 6, 18, the
scripture says and I'll be afather to you and you will be my
(10:33):
sons and daughters, says theLord, god Almighty.
I remember reading that verseand I just.
My prayer was I need you to bemy dad too, god, I need you to
be my father because I'm missingstuff.
You feel like you're missingstuff.
Even though your dad was agreat guy, you're still making
(10:56):
fathering about you.
It's just so easy to do.
I got to tell you.
It rocked me many years ago.
As a matter of fact, it sorocked me sharing this podcast
with you and spoken in 14different countries and stood in
(11:17):
front of thousands andthousands of men who have been
or being told every day that youdon't have what it takes.
But I got to tell you in Christ, you can make a difference.
You can make the fatherdifference in your family.
You can change the course ofyour family, and even this.
(11:44):
A second great miracle is thatyou can also get your wife to
start liking you again.
I know my wife loves me.
She tells me all the time, butwhen she likes me it's like a
(12:06):
really, really good day, becausewhen she doesn't like me you've
heard me sing this song beforeAin't no sunshine when she's
home.
Oh, it's such an honor for meto share with you.
I'm so grateful that you'vetuned into our podcast.
(12:26):
Would you share this with yourfriends?
Share about the fatherdifference, because we're going
to provide the best we can tohelp you really connect and be
the father that you were meantto be.
This podcast is also for moms,so just shout out to all you
(12:46):
moms out there and you reallywant your husbands to connect to
your kids.
My wife is tuned into where mykids are.
She always has been, and I waslike I didn't seem to get those
antennas, how about you, guy?
But God did something to me,even with my wife, which was an
(13:09):
amazing thing, which is foranother podcast episode.
But not only is she a greatpartner and help you connect to
your kids emotionally the wayyou need to Moms.
I got to tell you I have Ican't tell you how many men who
maybe you divorced and are nolonger in your home with your
(13:31):
kids.
They've learned how to go backand be that father that you
always wanted them to be.
And so, man, it's never toolate, and I'm so grateful that
you are listening to me.
I'm so grateful that you havesearched and found this place.
Would you follow me on thischannel, subscribe to our
(13:56):
channel?
Would you share with yourfriends?
Because if we hear from the Lordduring these days and make a
father different with our kids,a miracle can happen in our
family culture.
The miracle that we really needand I wish I could tell you it
comes from Washington.
(14:17):
They probably need it more thananybody else, so many of those
political leaders.
They need an encounter with God, the Father, through the
perfect love and sacrifice ofJesus Christ.
Can I pray for you now and yourfamily, father?
(14:37):
I just thank you for my friendwho's watching.
I pray you would bless themwith every spiritual blessing
they need.
You would bless them with thehow-to's of being the Father
they were meant to be.
I'm so grateful that you'vedrawn them in and I pray, father
, that you would give them abreakthrough with their
(15:00):
daughters and with their sonseven those who have been lost to
the world or the culture thatthey wouldn't spend any more
days beating themselves up fornot being the best dad they
could be, but that today is thebest day to take a step to being
the best dad that your childrenneed you to be, and I pray that
(15:22):
you would heal their familiesin profound ways across the
world.
For those who are watching andlistening.
In the name of Jesus Christ,amen, thanks again.
As a special gift for you, ifyou go to the bio, there's a
book that difference a fathermakes, that believe it or not.
(15:44):
We've had over 400 and think50,000 people download it or get
that book, and it's my freegift to you to get a digital PDF
.
Read it, and there's even acoaching moment that you can
sign up for absolutely free.
I can help you take a steptowards the biggest giant that
(16:07):
you're facing now is a man,father in your family.
God bless you.
Rob McQuay (16:16):
We hope you enjoyed the father difference podcast.
Are you ready to learn moreabout the father difference?
But we have a special gift foryou in the bio to help you get
started.
Remember the father loves youand wants you to make the father
difference in your family.
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