October 30, 2025 • 34 mins
Have you ever felt trapped in a life that looks “perfect” on paper but leaves your soul aching? The quiet slide into people-pleasing, over-functioning, and chasing approval can leave you exhausted, anxious, and misaligned—your body screaming in subtle ways through rashes, sleepless nights, digestive issues, and stress.
In this episode of The Femme Cast, I take you inside my pivotal highway breakdown—the moment my intuition finally became louder than the fear of leaving it all behind.
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🎤 How people-pleasing shapes misaligned careers, relationships, and friendships
🎤 The difference between effort that is hard but meaningful versus effort that is forced and draining
🎤 Body signals as early warnings of misalignment and how to honor them
🎤 Why the courage to stop over-functioning is the first step toward self-led choices
🎤 Balancing duty, caregiving, and self-respect without losing yourself
🎤 How to make small, repeatable “integrity moves” that ripple into major transformation
🎤 Releasing the need for a fixed five-year plan and embracing a life guided by intuition
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If a part of you whispers, “This isn’t it,” know this: you’re not breaking—you’re breaking open. Listen as I share the raw, unfiltered experience of surrendering what no longer serves, honoring your body’s wisdom, and discovering the freedom of choosing yourself first.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:47):
Hey guys, what is up?
And welcome back to the show.
Welcome if you're new.
I'm so excited and grateful tohave you guys here.
I wanted to talk about um, youknow, going back to that moment,
I guess probably before I didthe whole blowing up my life
thing, right?
That I've talked so much abouton the podcast.
And, you know, just kind ofreally honing in on that moment
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that I realized the life that Iwas living really wasn't mine.
And I think, you know, in allfairness, I think this happens
to a lot of us where, you know,we go down a path we never
intended.
You know, life has a way of justsort of happening and we start
moving forward in careers thatwe didn't anticipate or moving
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into positions we didn'tanticipate.
Um, you know, we're in arelationship that didn't look
like what we thought should looklike.
And I think in a way that'shealthy.
And I think in a way, you know,life, life is supposed to
surprise us and is supposed towork out in ways that maybe we
didn't imagine.
And I think that sometimes someof the beauty and the magic is
in letting go of what we thinkwe want and letting, you know,
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the universe kind of surprise uswith what we actually want and
what we actually need.
Um, and I think that gets to bea very magical and beautiful
co-creative process that we getto experience as we walk through
life.
But there's something likethere's something very different
when you're moving through lifeas a people pleaser.
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When you're moving through lifeas a people pleaser, as somebody
who's constantly worried aboutwhat everyone else is gonna
think or say or do, or howthey're gonna react or respond
to every decision that you make,every goal that you set, every
um action that you take to moveforward, right?
There's something very unique inthat because when your barometer
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for finding the right decisionis constantly what everyone
else's response is going to be,you're never gonna make aligned
decisions.
You're always gonna makedecisions on the um, what's it
called, that hinge on how othersare gonna react or respond to
every decision that you'remaking, every action that you're
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taking, every way that you'removing forward, right?
That is going to be what allyour decisions kind of hinge
upon, right?
Or most, right?
At least some of the heavierones, anyway.
Um, everything from what you'regonna wear that day to where
you're gonna go to school, towho you're gonna marry, to what
kind of career you're gonnahave, to where you're gonna
live, um, what kind of home areyou gonna have, like all of
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these decisions can very much beinfluenced by what you think
other people will think, right?
Um and it it takes a peoplepleaser to really understand
that.
It really does.
And you know, when we movethrough life, making decisions
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from that place, we setourselves up for waking up one
day to a life that we neverwanted for ourselves.
We wake up to a life thatwhether somebody told us we
should have it, or we justassumed we should have it, or we
that's what everyone else wasdoing.
So we just assumed that we weshould, that's what we should be
doing too, which is a kind ofthe category that I kind of fell
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into.
Um, you know, um it it it can itcan it can be a very daunting
feeling when you have thatrealization um that you the life
that you're living is not thethe life you were supposed to be
living in.
It's a very powerful and it's avery it's a very um sort of
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soul-moving moment when thatdoes occur.
And it usually happens, and I'venoticed this, I've seen this in
myself, and I've seen this in myclients.
This usually happens around the40-year mark, through 30 to 40.
Um, it starts to get to where,you know, in your 30s, you're
probably um, you know, expendingall your energy, and I mean all
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of it, trying to hold ittogether, right?
You're expending all your energytrying to make the career work,
even though you're miserable.
You're expending all your energytrying to help the relationship
to thrive, even though it'sconstantly triggering you, it's
following up, like it's but notin a way of like learning and
(05:10):
healing, but where you knowyou're settling, you know that
you're settling, you know thatyou deserve better, but you keep
trying to make this work, youkeep trying to create an
environment for thisrelationship to thrive because
you're so invested in thisrelationship, you're so invested
and wrapped up in thisrelationship succeeding because
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you've literally built the restof your life on it, or at least
a good chunk of it, right?
Um you, you know, you're holdingon to the home and the image and
the friendship circles andeverything that doesn't feel
aligned anymore, and it's takingso much work to hold it, right?
And you're constantly um fixingand soothing and filling gaps
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and and and making sure thatyou're you're strategizing and
making all the extra effort tomake sure all these pieces keep
working for you when they'renot, and this becomes a very
draining process.
You get very burnt out.
And if you're anything like me,you actually start to have
physical manifestations of a lotof these things.
So I had manifested, I rememberI had um I was covered in skin
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rashes and inflammation.
Um, I was having um eating, um,what's it called, food
intolerances and digestiveissues, sleep disturbances.
Like it was just getting veryintense.
And it was years of me havingthis almost like this subtle
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ununderlying knowing that thingsweren't working, that this was
not right.
Right?
Like the message was there.
And there was a part of me that,like, dude, you ain't you ain't
supposed to be here.
Can we hightail it out of herenow, please?
And I know there was a part ofme that was like, mm-mm, nope,
this isn't the job for you.
Nope, mm-mm, nope, this is notthe relationship for you.
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Nope, this is not the home,definitely not the home for you.
Nope, nope, this is definitelynot the friendship circles that
you're meant to be in.
And I kept ignoring it.
I kept ignoring it and kind oflike sweeping it under the rug,
trying to make it work.
We're always, always, alwaystrying to make it work.
We're always, always, alwaysputting in the extra effort to
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make sure that change doesn'thappen, that things don't come
to an end.
Because I don't know, somewherewe think we're terrified of
these things coming to an endbecause I don't know if it's
because of a fear of thatthey're never going to be
replaced or we're never gonna dobetter.
Or what if that's not it, thenwhat is kind of feeling?
I don't there's so many, there'sso many things.
(07:48):
Like when I think back to youknow, the career that I was so
so fighting to hold on to andlike just pouring all my energy
into, I think there was a partof me that just believed, but if
I walk away from this, like I'man idiot.
Like this is this checks all theboxes.
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It gives me all like the cushylife, the security, the
benefits, everything I everwould have wanted, but it was
coming at the price of my ownpeace.
You know, I was looking at myrelationship and I'm like, but
this the dude checks all myboxes.
Like, you know, he he, you know,he's he's you know, comes from
from a from a good family, hecomes from a good home.
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Um, you know, he's you know,responsible.
We like, you know, we we we comewe we come from from similar,
you know, backgrounds.
But it wasn't it, it was soforced because I was constantly
trying to create connection.
I was constantly trying tocreate um intimacy and a
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relationship that just wasalready like checked out.
unknown (08:56):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (08:56):
And so I was expending all my and my energy
trying to create all thisintimate and connection that
just was not there anymore.
And I was literally, whatever,if anything was left, I was
strangling it because I washolding on so tight.
Right?
Friendships where I had to puton a face every time we went out
together, every time we hung outtogether, every time we went out
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for drinks or cocktails or um,you know, visiting the local
watering hole every Thursdaynight after work, trying to like
release the stress of the jobswe all hated but worked our
asses off for, you know?
Um, and constantly having tofind the next smart thing to say
or the next sharp outfit to wearin order to fit in and be liked.
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And I really, I started torealize, you know, as as time
went on, I started to realizeand as I was going through my
pro my my healing process and myhealing journey, and I started
to really shift and transform.
A lot of these relations did notlike who I was becoming.
And this is like later down theline.
I'm kind of fast-forwarding alittle bit, right?
Um, but a lot of theserelationships did not like what
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I what I was becoming.
They didn't like when I was notconvenient, when my schedule
wasn't convenient.
They didn't like when I wascaught when I wasn't constantly
looking for ways to beentertaining, to be witty, to be
fun, to make them look good intheir socials.
You know, that was that was kindof they were so superficial that
they were literally dependent onme showing up in a way that made
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them look and feel good.
And when I couldn't show up in away that made them look and feel
good, then it created frictionin the relationship.
And so that's that's how I kindof knew, right?
And if only I'd paid attentionsooner, because this happened um
much later, but if only I paidattention sooner, but I should
have known because I was tryingto forcefully show up in a way
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that I thought theserelationships needed me to show
up and say the witty things thatthey needed me to say and do the
smirky with the quirky littleremarks and and whatever to keep
them entertained.
And I should have, I should haverealized then that those
relationships weren't as alignedas as I thought that they were,
you know.
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Um, so this went on for a verylong time.
And like I said, the constantworking, the striving, the
strategizing, trying to keepeverything together and hold
everything together and keepeverything afloat and keep
everything, all my relationshipsand my career and everything
thriving was taking a lot of myenergy.
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And because I was fightingagainst myself, because there
was a part of me that justwanted to let it all go, that
just did not want to striveanymore, that just didn't want
to handle anymore, that didn'twant to manage anymore, didn't
want to strategize anymore, andjust wanted to let the pieces
fall where they may.
And I could not, I could not,for the life of my, I could not
(11:49):
find the courage to do thatbecause it was so scary.
Because in the back of my mindis who am I if any or all of
these things fall away?
What if they're never replaced?
Or what if they'll never bereplaced with anything as good?
Like, what if this is as good asit gets?
And I kick myself in the asslater and I live to regret it.
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Because somewhere there was abelief that this is as good as
it gets.
And so I better not let this go.
Because if I let any of thesepieces of my life go, chances
are they won't be replaced, andif they are replaced, it's not
going to be as good as it isright now.
I can't imagine, I can't evenimagine it being as good as it
is as it is right now.
And that's very importantbecause sometimes just because
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you can't imagine, we think ifwe can't imagine something that
it's real, but it's not, becausethere's so many things that can
happen in this life that are farbeyond anything we could have
ever thought was possible, butwe don't stay to that
possibility.
And that is so key in thisjourney.
But um, this all came to a head.
And I've talked about thismoment before, and it was the
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moment where I was in the carand I was driving home from
work, and it was a Fridayafternoon in the middle of
summer.
It was a hot, hot, hot, hot, hotday.
Muggy, super muggy day.
I was stuck in gridlock on thehighway, literally inhaling
smog.
Um, and you know, just trafficwas stuck.
It was like 4:30 p.m.
on a Friday afternoon, stuck onthe northbound hideway trying to
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get um home.
And, you know, you know thefeeling, right?
Like you've been there whenyou're driving home from from
work on a Friday afternoonafter, you know, a week at a job
that you hate, you are waitingfor your weekend to start,
right?
Like you're like, oh my God, Ican't believe it.
Friday's finally here.
Like, let's do this, you know?
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Like you're usually so lit up ona Friday afternoon.
I was dying inside.
I was dying.
We had just come home fromvacation.
I realized on that vacation howwildly misaligned we are.
And I actually remember sayinghalfway through our vacation, I
said, Do you not see like we'removing in two totally different
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directions here?
Like you're going left, I'mgoing right.
Um and and I remember havingthis moment of like this this
this has an expiry date.
And I'm seeing the expire.
I don't know what the expirydate is, but I'm seeing that
there is an expiry date on thisrelationship, and it's coming
fierce and it's coming fast.
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Um, and it it became so that youknow, the alignment in that
relationship was so themisalignment in that
relationship was so obvious.
Like I saw it so obviously thatI now could not unsee it.
Like it couldn't go away.
Um, and so there I am.
Like it was like the the week,and maybe there was a bit of
vacation blues that wereprobably like post-vacation
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blues that were probablyinfluencing this experience
because you know, everybodyeverybody's kind of on a downer
when they come back fromvacation, right?
Because you're kind of like, oh,okay, well, whatever, back to
life, right?
Um, but this was intense, likethis was like next level.
And so I'm driving home on aFriday afternoon, and instead of
being happy that I'm going homeand the work week is done and I
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can just enjoy, I'm having anervous breakdown on the highway
and I'm balling my eyes out.
And I want to turn my car aroundand not stop till I hit Mexico,
which is probably a few days'drive away, maybe a week.
Give or take.
I I don't want to go home.
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I don't want to face anyone Iknow.
I I don't want to go back to myjob.
I don't even care to go home andpick up my belongings.
Like, okay, I have gas, I havemy car, I have my keys, I have a
credit card.
Good, we're done.
Let's go, you know?
Um, there wasn't a single partof my life that felt right to me
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in that moment.
Not one.
And you know, I remember callingup a friend of mine and telling
her, like, dude, like, I don'tknow what's happening right now.
I'm freaking out.
I'm shaking.
I'm crying hysterically on thehighway.
I don't know where I'm going.
I don't know what I'm doing.
I don't want to go home.
Like, I don't, I just don't wantto go home.
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I don't want to go, I don't wantto go back to this life.
Like, I don't know how to, Idon't know how to get through
the next day in this life.
And it was scary for me becauseI'd never been in that in a
position like that.
But it was also probably one ofthe most profound moments in my
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life because it was in thatmoment.
It was in that moment that avery powerful unfolding began
that would probably take a verylong time to unfold because I
had a lot of resistance to thisunfolding process.
Okay.
Um, but that moment was so keyand so pivotal to how my life
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was going to unfold over thenext few years.
And now I will gladly look backon that moment and think, oh my
God, thank God I arrived to thatday.
Like, thank God I finally showedup to the fucking party of my
life.
Because that's exactly whathappened that day.
I showed up and said, This isnot, this is not the life that I
wanted.
This is not the life that Icreated.
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And I'm gonna take a stand forthat now.
And I'm gonna make some bold assfucking decisions, some scary
decisions, and trust that it'sgonna work, all everything's
gonna work out for my highestgood, as long as I listen to and
trust my intuition.
And you know, when I think back,I think, my God, what an
incredible moment.
But it did not feel like thatwhile I was in it.
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And when I was in it, it feltlike I was dying.
It felt like I didn't, I I Ifelt like I just wanted to run
away.
I wanted to hide.
It felt like this feeling offailure of my life being broken,
of me being broken, but it wasanything but I was I was not
broken in that moment.
I was literally if I wasbreaking open, is what was
happening.
And it was probably one of themost beautiful and magical
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moments of my life.
And I wouldn't trade it foranything.
And so many amazing thingshappened to me following that
moment, right?
But that that was first, thatwas key, that was pivotal.
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Okay.
And my only regret is not havinglistened to that just a little
bit sooner, right?
And I know that we're movingthrough this time and space
right now where a lot of peopleare probably experiencing a lot
of the same thing, you know,where you're kind of looking at
your life and you're kind ofthinking, did I do this wrong?
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Did I make the wrong choices?
Is this not right for me?
And it'll start to feel notright.
And it will start to feelforced, and it will start to
feel like it's taking all youreffort to keep all the moving
parts working and afloat.
And you'll get that littlenudge, that little voice that
says, This is not right for you,and you're gonna try and ignore
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it.
You're not going the right way,you'll stuff it down.
This is not the job for you, orthe relationship for you, or the
friends for you, you know it.
You'll make the best of itbecause you're too afraid to do
the opposite, which is let itgo.
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So here's my advice to you.
If you find yourself in thatsituation, my advice to you, I
know the letting go part isscary, and you don't even have
to let go yet.
Don't even entertain that yet,right?
Rather than deciding what to letgo of, why not just and this is
my advice, and this is what Iwish I would have done sooner
rather than later, is okay,well, what if I just stop
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trying?
What if I just stop trying sohard to make all these pieces
work?
Because here's the thing if it'struly a line, and listen, has my
business taken a lot of hardwork?
Yes.
Have I had to make a ton ofsacrifices to make it happen?
And and and I'm still like tothis day, absolutely,
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absolutely.
It's there's been hard moments.
Um, and there's been um, youknow, a lot of um tweaks and
adjustments and redirects alongthe way, a hundred percent, a
hundred percent, like a thousandtimes.
But here's the thing.
Here's the pieces that weremissing.
Yes, it felt hard, but also Iwas so excited to do this.
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I was so like turned on by whatI was doing.
Granted, like the focus shiftedhere and there a little bit so
that it became more authenticand more aligned, sure.
And that was kind of a bit of alearning process, so be it.
It is what it is, especiallywhen you're when you when you're
coming back.
I really want you to let thisthink in.
When you're coming back from alifetime of making decisions
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according to what everybody elsewanted from you or what you
thought everybody else wantedfor you, and now you're making
decisions based on what youactually want, that that's a bit
of a process.
That takes that's got a littlebit of a learning curve, right?
You gotta unlearn and thenrelearn and read, you gotta
unlearn what you what you knowand learn new ways.
So, all that to say, um, whatwould it look like if you just
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stopped trying?
Right?
Just stop trying.
Stop trying to to like bendingover backwards and sacrificing
your mental health just to keepthis job.
Stop trying to to extractintimacy and connection from a
relationship that just isn'tgiving it anymore.
Stop trying to show up as aninauthentic version of yourself
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to keep friends around thatreally aren't aligned for you.
Just come back to self.
Come back to who would you be ifyou weren't afraid of losing
that person, that partner, thatjob, those friends, that career,
right?
How would you show up?
What would you focus on?
What would you enjoy doing?
Who would who would the real youactually be if you weren't
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constantly performing?
And just come back to thatslowly.
Take your time, baby steps, onetiny decision at a time, come
back to that person.
What would she be doing?
What would she be saying?
How would she be showing up?
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What things would she be passpassionate about in doing, in
creating, in being?
Focus on that.
And then, you know, maybe askyourself, what would you do?
What would you say?
Who would you be if you weren'tafraid of how other people were
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gonna respond?
And those are the most importantquestions to be asking yourself
when you're moving along thispath of try of starting to
discover that, huh?
Maybe not the life that I wouldhave chosen for myself.
And sure, like obviously, likethings happen, life happens.
Like, if anybody were to ask meright now, hey, is your life
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like, you know, moving exactlythe way you had hoped?
No.
I had never planned to be acaregiver for my parents.
That was not part of the lifeplan.
Am I doing it?
Yes.
Because in this moment, thatfeels like the aligned choice
for me.
Because I don't feel like Iwould be okay with myself if I
didn't do it.
It has nothing to do with whateveryone else will think.
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I won't be okay with myself if Idon't do something to um support
my parents.
Am I doing it to the rightbalance?
That's up for question, right?
Um, that is something that Irevisit and I check in with
myself constantly to make surethat I am aligned, right?
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And to make sure that I amgiving to the point where I know
that I am taking care of them tothe best of my ability, but also
taking care of myself and takingcare of the things that I need
to do, right?
And taking care of myrelationships and making sure
that we all have balance, right?
Um, and that's something thatwe're constantly, constantly
revisiting again and again, likewithin ourselves, within each
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other, within the family.
Um, that is something that we'rewe're constantly navigating and
figuring out our way through,right?
None of us would have chosenthis, none of us, but we are
here to do this because I thinkall of us kind of feel like we
wouldn't feel right if we didn'twith ourselves, okay?
And I think that's thedifference.
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There's a difference betweensaying I'm making a decision
because, you know, beinginternally um, being internally
guided, right?
Saying I need to do this becauseI wouldn't feel right with
myself if I didn't, versus Ineed to do this because other
people would be upset if Ididn't.
Those are two distinct ways ofmaking decisions.
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And so what you need to startdoing is making more decisions
from that place of I wouldn'tfeel right for my with myself if
I did this or didn't do this.
And less decisions based on Iwouldn't feel right with myself
if people or people wouldn'tfeel right about me if I did or
didn't do this.
Right?
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Make sure that you start makinglet letting go.
Letting go of all the thingsyou've been trying to control
and start making decisions thatyou feel you can feel right by
making.
Action taking actions that youcan feel right taking, making
decisions that you can feelright taking, and let that be
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your North Star and start there.
The rest will reveal itself intime.
You don't need to figure it allout.
Now, I think sometimes we needto figure it all out, like we
always need to have access tothe five-year plan.
Let that go.
Okay.
You're not gonna okay.
If you want to leave the, ifyou're not sure this is the
right relationship, well, you'renot gonna figure out your next
five-year plan for what arelationship should or should
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not look like and who that'sgonna be and when that's gonna
come into fruition.
If this isn't the right careerfor you, you're not gonna figure
out what the next right careeris for you and the five-year
plan and getting there or thefront, like whatever it is, just
letting it all go.
Let go of the plan, let go ofthe need to know.
And I think that's probably thescariest thing is we want to
know, we want the guarantee, wewant to know exactly what's
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coming and when and what we needto choose and to focus on.
Don't.
That's the trap.
Because this process is anunfolding.
And in the unfolding, all weneed to commit to doing is
letting go of the things thatfeel forced.
Not hard, because sometimes thegood things in life do are can
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be challenging, but forced.
Letting go of the things thatfeel forced, that are tired,
that are draining, that are justdepleting all of your energy.
Let those go.
Let go of trying to prevent themfrom falling away.
Let the pieces fall where theymay.
If they are meant to stay inyour life, they will.
If they're only in your lifebecause you're forcing them to
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be there, you don't want themanyway.
So let them go, save yourenergy, and start making
decisions from what I would feelright with deciding right now.
What would what direction wouldI feel right?
What next step would I feelright in taking?
And do that.
Everything else will reveal toitself to you along the way.
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The life that you're aligned tolive is revealed to you one tiny
action at a time.
It's not gonna come on afive-year plan.
It's not gonna come on some sortof, you know, the next HR
assessment that you did in yourcorporate nine to five, right?
It's not gonna come from um, youknow, whatever survey you've
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taken, online survey you'vetaken, or magazine survey that
you've taken to try and figureout who you are and what what
lights you up.
Those help.
Not to say they're completelywrong.
They do help, but they're verygeneral, they're very broad.
Like we are each one of us, andI truly, truly, truly believe
it.
I believe this with my wholeheart.
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Each one of us has a powerfulpurpose for being here.
I think we have many purposes.
I think we have a collectivepurpose.
I think we have a purpose forwhat how we're here to be and
what we're here to contribute tothe world.
And I feel like we that we havea purpose for who we are in our
connections, in ourrelationships, and in our
families, and our communities,and how we're just our energy
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and our presence just shiftspeople, right?
I believe that there's so many,there's so much nuance to who we
are as individual beings that toput it into a survey is nothing
more than a disservice.
You're so much more than that.
So, yeah, you can use thesetools as guides and blah, blah,
blah.
Of course, of course, you canuse them, and of course, I'll
give you some clues.
But the real work is in theself-reflection, okay, and the
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internally led choices,self-reflection, internally led
choices, one choice at a time,more and more of who you are and
your magic and your mirror andand and your beauty and and your
essence and who you are to be inthis world will be revealed to
you through those choices.
But you have to be willing notto let go, let go, yes,
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metaphorically let go.
Like not cling on to thesethings that you've been trying
to forcefully hold into yourlife.
Like just let go to the pointwhere let them decide for
themselves if they want to be inyour life or not.
And if they don't, they don't.
And if they do, great, then youcan evolve together.
And if they don't, then you can,I promise you, anything that
falls away from your life thatis not aligned for you will
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absolutely be replaced.
May take some time, right?
As things shift and you shiftand you change and you go
through your metamorphosis, butthey will all be replaced.
And that I can promise you bysomething better.
And your letting go of thethings that aren't aligned is an
intention that you share withthe universe to say, hey, no
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longer available for this.
I'm no longer available forthings that aren't aligned with
me, that aren't aligned with myessence and my soul and who I'm
here to be.
I'm no longer available forsettling.
I'm only available for what'struly aligned for me and my
purpose in this life.
And that's exactly what you openthe door for when you do this
work.
So let me know what resonatesfor you in the comments below.
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And until next time, you guys,massive love.
Hey guys, what is up?
And welcome back to the show.
Welcome if you're new.
I'm so excited and grateful tohave you guys here.
I wanted to talk about um, youknow, going back to that moment,
I guess probably before I didthe whole blowing up my life
thing, right?
That I've talked so much abouton the podcast.
And, you know, just kind ofreally honing in on that moment
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that I realized the life that Iwas living really wasn't mine.
And I think, you know, in allfairness, I think this happens
to a lot of us where, you know,we go down a path we never
intended.
You know, life has a way of justsort of happening and we start
moving forward in careers thatwe didn't anticipate or moving
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into positions we didn'tanticipate.
Um, you know, we're in arelationship that didn't look
like what we thought should looklike.
And I think in a way that'shealthy.
And I think in a way, you know,life, life is supposed to
surprise us and is supposed towork out in ways that maybe we
didn't imagine.
And I think that sometimes someof the beauty and the magic is
in letting go of what we thinkwe want and letting, you know,
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the universe kind of surprise uswith what we actually want and
what we actually need.
Um, and I think that gets to bea very magical and beautiful
co-creative process that we getto experience as we walk through
life.
But there's something likethere's something very different
when you're moving through lifeas a people pleaser.
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When you're moving through lifeas a people pleaser, as somebody
who's constantly worried aboutwhat everyone else is gonna
think or say or do, or howthey're gonna react or respond
to every decision that you make,every goal that you set, every
um action that you take to moveforward, right?
There's something very unique inthat because when your barometer
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for finding the right decisionis constantly what everyone
else's response is going to be,you're never gonna make aligned
decisions.
You're always gonna makedecisions on the um, what's it
called, that hinge on how othersare gonna react or respond to
every decision that you'remaking, every action that you're
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taking, every way that you'removing forward, right?
That is going to be what allyour decisions kind of hinge
upon, right?
Or most, right?
At least some of the heavierones, anyway.
Um, everything from what you'regonna wear that day to where
you're gonna go to school, towho you're gonna marry, to what
kind of career you're gonnahave, to where you're gonna
live, um, what kind of home areyou gonna have, like all of
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these decisions can very much beinfluenced by what you think
other people will think, right?
Um and it it takes a peoplepleaser to really understand
that.
It really does.
And you know, when we movethrough life, making decisions
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from that place, we setourselves up for waking up one
day to a life that we neverwanted for ourselves.
We wake up to a life thatwhether somebody told us we
should have it, or we justassumed we should have it, or we
that's what everyone else wasdoing.
So we just assumed that we weshould, that's what we should be
doing too, which is a kind ofthe category that I kind of fell
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into.
Um, you know, um it it it can itcan it can be a very daunting
feeling when you have thatrealization um that you the life
that you're living is not thethe life you were supposed to be
living in.
It's a very powerful and it's avery it's a very um sort of
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soul-moving moment when thatdoes occur.
And it usually happens, and I'venoticed this, I've seen this in
myself, and I've seen this in myclients.
This usually happens around the40-year mark, through 30 to 40.
Um, it starts to get to where,you know, in your 30s, you're
probably um, you know, expendingall your energy, and I mean all
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of it, trying to hold ittogether, right?
You're expending all your energytrying to make the career work,
even though you're miserable.
You're expending all your energytrying to help the relationship
to thrive, even though it'sconstantly triggering you, it's
following up, like it's but notin a way of like learning and
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healing, but where you knowyou're settling, you know that
you're settling, you know thatyou deserve better, but you keep
trying to make this work, youkeep trying to create an
environment for thisrelationship to thrive because
you're so invested in thisrelationship, you're so invested
and wrapped up in thisrelationship succeeding because
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you've literally built the restof your life on it, or at least
a good chunk of it, right?
Um you, you know, you're holdingon to the home and the image and
the friendship circles andeverything that doesn't feel
aligned anymore, and it's takingso much work to hold it, right?
And you're constantly um fixingand soothing and filling gaps
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and and and making sure thatyou're you're strategizing and
making all the extra effort tomake sure all these pieces keep
working for you when they'renot, and this becomes a very
draining process.
You get very burnt out.
And if you're anything like me,you actually start to have
physical manifestations of a lotof these things.
So I had manifested, I rememberI had um I was covered in skin
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rashes and inflammation.
Um, I was having um eating, um,what's it called, food
intolerances and digestiveissues, sleep disturbances.
Like it was just getting veryintense.
And it was years of me havingthis almost like this subtle
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ununderlying knowing that thingsweren't working, that this was
not right.
Right?
Like the message was there.
And there was a part of me that,like, dude, you ain't you ain't
supposed to be here.
Can we hightail it out of herenow, please?
And I know there was a part ofme that was like, mm-mm, nope,
this isn't the job for you.
Nope, mm-mm, nope, this is notthe relationship for you.
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Nope, this is not the home,definitely not the home for you.
Nope, nope, this is definitelynot the friendship circles that
you're meant to be in.
And I kept ignoring it.
I kept ignoring it and kind oflike sweeping it under the rug,
trying to make it work.
We're always, always, alwaystrying to make it work.
We're always, always, alwaysputting in the extra effort to
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make sure that change doesn'thappen, that things don't come
to an end.
Because I don't know, somewherewe think we're terrified of
these things coming to an endbecause I don't know if it's
because of a fear of thatthey're never going to be
replaced or we're never gonna dobetter.
Or what if that's not it, thenwhat is kind of feeling?
I don't there's so many, there'sso many things.
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Like when I think back to youknow, the career that I was so
so fighting to hold on to andlike just pouring all my energy
into, I think there was a partof me that just believed, but if
I walk away from this, like I'man idiot.
Like this is this checks all theboxes.
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It gives me all like the cushylife, the security, the
benefits, everything I everwould have wanted, but it was
coming at the price of my ownpeace.
You know, I was looking at myrelationship and I'm like, but
this the dude checks all myboxes.
Like, you know, he he, you know,he's he's you know, comes from
from a from a good family, hecomes from a good home.
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Um, you know, he's you know,responsible.
We like, you know, we we we comewe we come from from similar,
you know, backgrounds.
But it wasn't it, it was soforced because I was constantly
trying to create connection.
I was constantly trying tocreate um intimacy and a
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relationship that just wasalready like checked out.
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And so I was expending all my and my energy
trying to create all thisintimate and connection that
just was not there anymore.
And I was literally, whatever,if anything was left, I was
strangling it because I washolding on so tight.
Right?
Friendships where I had to puton a face every time we went out
together, every time we hung outtogether, every time we went out
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for drinks or cocktails or um,you know, visiting the local
watering hole every Thursdaynight after work, trying to like
release the stress of the jobswe all hated but worked our
asses off for, you know?
Um, and constantly having tofind the next smart thing to say
or the next sharp outfit to wearin order to fit in and be liked.
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And I really, I started torealize, you know, as as time
went on, I started to realizeand as I was going through my
pro my my healing process and myhealing journey, and I started
to really shift and transform.
A lot of these relations did notlike who I was becoming.
And this is like later down theline.
I'm kind of fast-forwarding alittle bit, right?
Um, but a lot of theserelationships did not like what
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I what I was becoming.
They didn't like when I was notconvenient, when my schedule
wasn't convenient.
They didn't like when I wascaught when I wasn't constantly
looking for ways to beentertaining, to be witty, to be
fun, to make them look good intheir socials.
You know, that was that was kindof they were so superficial that
they were literally dependent onme showing up in a way that made
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them look and feel good.
And when I couldn't show up in away that made them look and feel
good, then it created frictionin the relationship.
And so that's that's how I kindof knew, right?
And if only I'd paid attentionsooner, because this happened um
much later, but if only I paidattention sooner, but I should
have known because I was tryingto forcefully show up in a way
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that I thought theserelationships needed me to show
up and say the witty things thatthey needed me to say and do the
smirky with the quirky littleremarks and and whatever to keep
them entertained.
And I should have, I should haverealized then that those
relationships weren't as alignedas as I thought that they were,
you know.
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Um, so this went on for a verylong time.
And like I said, the constantworking, the striving, the
strategizing, trying to keepeverything together and hold
everything together and keepeverything afloat and keep
everything, all my relationshipsand my career and everything
thriving was taking a lot of myenergy.
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And because I was fightingagainst myself, because there
was a part of me that justwanted to let it all go, that
just did not want to striveanymore, that just didn't want
to handle anymore, that didn'twant to manage anymore, didn't
want to strategize anymore, andjust wanted to let the pieces
fall where they may.
And I could not, I could not,for the life of my, I could not
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find the courage to do thatbecause it was so scary.
Because in the back of my mindis who am I if any or all of
these things fall away?
What if they're never replaced?
Or what if they'll never bereplaced with anything as good?
Like, what if this is as good asit gets?
And I kick myself in the asslater and I live to regret it.
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Because somewhere there was abelief that this is as good as
it gets.
And so I better not let this go.
Because if I let any of thesepieces of my life go, chances
are they won't be replaced, andif they are replaced, it's not
going to be as good as it isright now.
I can't imagine, I can't evenimagine it being as good as it
is as it is right now.
And that's very importantbecause sometimes just because
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you can't imagine, we think ifwe can't imagine something that
it's real, but it's not, becausethere's so many things that can
happen in this life that are farbeyond anything we could have
ever thought was possible, butwe don't stay to that
possibility.
And that is so key in thisjourney.
But um, this all came to a head.
And I've talked about thismoment before, and it was the
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moment where I was in the carand I was driving home from
work, and it was a Fridayafternoon in the middle of
summer.
It was a hot, hot, hot, hot, hotday.
Muggy, super muggy day.
I was stuck in gridlock on thehighway, literally inhaling
smog.
Um, and you know, just trafficwas stuck.
It was like 4:30 p.m.
on a Friday afternoon, stuck onthe northbound hideway trying to
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get um home.
And, you know, you know thefeeling, right?
Like you've been there whenyou're driving home from from
work on a Friday afternoonafter, you know, a week at a job
that you hate, you are waitingfor your weekend to start,
right?
Like you're like, oh my God, Ican't believe it.
Friday's finally here.
Like, let's do this, you know?
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Like you're usually so lit up ona Friday afternoon.
I was dying inside.
I was dying.
We had just come home fromvacation.
I realized on that vacation howwildly misaligned we are.
And I actually remember sayinghalfway through our vacation, I
said, Do you not see like we'removing in two totally different
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directions here?
Like you're going left, I'mgoing right.
Um and and I remember havingthis moment of like this this
this has an expiry date.
And I'm seeing the expire.
I don't know what the expirydate is, but I'm seeing that
there is an expiry date on thisrelationship, and it's coming
fierce and it's coming fast.
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Um, and it it became so that youknow, the alignment in that
relationship was so themisalignment in that
relationship was so obvious.
Like I saw it so obviously thatI now could not unsee it.
Like it couldn't go away.
Um, and so there I am.
Like it was like the the week,and maybe there was a bit of
vacation blues that wereprobably like post-vacation
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blues that were probablyinfluencing this experience
because you know, everybodyeverybody's kind of on a downer
when they come back fromvacation, right?
Because you're kind of like, oh,okay, well, whatever, back to
life, right?
Um, but this was intense, likethis was like next level.
And so I'm driving home on aFriday afternoon, and instead of
being happy that I'm going homeand the work week is done and I
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can just enjoy, I'm having anervous breakdown on the highway
and I'm balling my eyes out.
And I want to turn my car aroundand not stop till I hit Mexico,
which is probably a few days'drive away, maybe a week.
Give or take.
I I don't want to go home.
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I don't want to face anyone Iknow.
I I don't want to go back to myjob.
I don't even care to go home andpick up my belongings.
Like, okay, I have gas, I havemy car, I have my keys, I have a
credit card.
Good, we're done.
Let's go, you know?
Um, there wasn't a single partof my life that felt right to me
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in that moment.
Not one.
And you know, I remember callingup a friend of mine and telling
her, like, dude, like, I don'tknow what's happening right now.
I'm freaking out.
I'm shaking.
I'm crying hysterically on thehighway.
I don't know where I'm going.
I don't know what I'm doing.
I don't want to go home.
Like, I don't, I just don't wantto go home.
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I don't want to go, I don't wantto go back to this life.
Like, I don't know how to, Idon't know how to get through
the next day in this life.
And it was scary for me becauseI'd never been in that in a
position like that.
But it was also probably one ofthe most profound moments in my
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life because it was in thatmoment.
It was in that moment that avery powerful unfolding began
that would probably take a verylong time to unfold because I
had a lot of resistance to thisunfolding process.
Okay.
Um, but that moment was so keyand so pivotal to how my life
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was going to unfold over thenext few years.
And now I will gladly look backon that moment and think, oh my
God, thank God I arrived to thatday.
Like, thank God I finally showedup to the fucking party of my
life.
Because that's exactly whathappened that day.
I showed up and said, This isnot, this is not the life that I
wanted.
This is not the life that Icreated.
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And I'm gonna take a stand forthat now.
And I'm gonna make some bold assfucking decisions, some scary
decisions, and trust that it'sgonna work, all everything's
gonna work out for my highestgood, as long as I listen to and
trust my intuition.
And you know, when I think back,I think, my God, what an
incredible moment.
But it did not feel like thatwhile I was in it.
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And when I was in it, it feltlike I was dying.
It felt like I didn't, I I Ifelt like I just wanted to run
away.
I wanted to hide.
It felt like this feeling offailure of my life being broken,
of me being broken, but it wasanything but I was I was not
broken in that moment.
I was literally if I wasbreaking open, is what was
happening.
And it was probably one of themost beautiful and magical
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moments of my life.
And I wouldn't trade it foranything.
And so many amazing thingshappened to me following that
moment, right?
But that that was first, thatwas key, that was pivotal.
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Okay.
And my only regret is not havinglistened to that just a little
bit sooner, right?
And I know that we're movingthrough this time and space
right now where a lot of peopleare probably experiencing a lot
of the same thing, you know,where you're kind of looking at
your life and you're kind ofthinking, did I do this wrong?
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Did I make the wrong choices?
Is this not right for me?
And it'll start to feel notright.
And it will start to feelforced, and it will start to
feel like it's taking all youreffort to keep all the moving
parts working and afloat.
And you'll get that littlenudge, that little voice that
says, This is not right for you,and you're gonna try and ignore
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it.
You're not going the right way,you'll stuff it down.
This is not the job for you, orthe relationship for you, or the
friends for you, you know it.
You'll make the best of itbecause you're too afraid to do
the opposite, which is let itgo.
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So here's my advice to you.
If you find yourself in thatsituation, my advice to you, I
know the letting go part isscary, and you don't even have
to let go yet.
Don't even entertain that yet,right?
Rather than deciding what to letgo of, why not just and this is
my advice, and this is what Iwish I would have done sooner
rather than later, is okay,well, what if I just stop
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trying?
What if I just stop trying sohard to make all these pieces
work?
Because here's the thing if it'struly a line, and listen, has my
business taken a lot of hardwork?
Yes.
Have I had to make a ton ofsacrifices to make it happen?
And and and I'm still like tothis day, absolutely,
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absolutely.
It's there's been hard moments.
Um, and there's been um, youknow, a lot of um tweaks and
adjustments and redirects alongthe way, a hundred percent, a
hundred percent, like a thousandtimes.
But here's the thing.
Here's the pieces that weremissing.
Yes, it felt hard, but also Iwas so excited to do this.
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I was so like turned on by whatI was doing.
Granted, like the focus shiftedhere and there a little bit so
that it became more authenticand more aligned, sure.
And that was kind of a bit of alearning process, so be it.
It is what it is, especiallywhen you're when you when you're
coming back.
I really want you to let thisthink in.
When you're coming back from alifetime of making decisions
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according to what everybody elsewanted from you or what you
thought everybody else wantedfor you, and now you're making
decisions based on what youactually want, that that's a bit
of a process.
That takes that's got a littlebit of a learning curve, right?
You gotta unlearn and thenrelearn and read, you gotta
unlearn what you what you knowand learn new ways.
So, all that to say, um, whatwould it look like if you just
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stopped trying?
Right?
Just stop trying.
Stop trying to to like bendingover backwards and sacrificing
your mental health just to keepthis job.
Stop trying to to extractintimacy and connection from a
relationship that just isn'tgiving it anymore.
Stop trying to show up as aninauthentic version of yourself
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to keep friends around thatreally aren't aligned for you.
Just come back to self.
Come back to who would you be ifyou weren't afraid of losing
that person, that partner, thatjob, those friends, that career,
right?
How would you show up?
What would you focus on?
What would you enjoy doing?
Who would who would the real youactually be if you weren't
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constantly performing?
And just come back to thatslowly.
Take your time, baby steps, onetiny decision at a time, come
back to that person.
What would she be doing?
What would she be saying?
How would she be showing up?
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What things would she be passpassionate about in doing, in
creating, in being?
Focus on that.
And then, you know, maybe askyourself, what would you do?
What would you say?
Who would you be if you weren'tafraid of how other people were
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gonna respond?
And those are the most importantquestions to be asking yourself
when you're moving along thispath of try of starting to
discover that, huh?
Maybe not the life that I wouldhave chosen for myself.
And sure, like obviously, likethings happen, life happens.
Like, if anybody were to ask meright now, hey, is your life
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like, you know, moving exactlythe way you had hoped?
No.
I had never planned to be acaregiver for my parents.
That was not part of the lifeplan.
Am I doing it?
Yes.
Because in this moment, thatfeels like the aligned choice
for me.
Because I don't feel like Iwould be okay with myself if I
didn't do it.
It has nothing to do with whateveryone else will think.
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I won't be okay with myself if Idon't do something to um support
my parents.
Am I doing it to the rightbalance?
That's up for question, right?
Um, that is something that Irevisit and I check in with
myself constantly to make surethat I am aligned, right?
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And to make sure that I amgiving to the point where I know
that I am taking care of them tothe best of my ability, but also
taking care of myself and takingcare of the things that I need
to do, right?
And taking care of myrelationships and making sure
that we all have balance, right?
Um, and that's something thatwe're constantly, constantly
revisiting again and again, likewithin ourselves, within each
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other, within the family.
Um, that is something that we'rewe're constantly navigating and
figuring out our way through,right?
None of us would have chosenthis, none of us, but we are
here to do this because I thinkall of us kind of feel like we
wouldn't feel right if we didn'twith ourselves, okay?
And I think that's thedifference.
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There's a difference betweensaying I'm making a decision
because, you know, beinginternally um, being internally
guided, right?
Saying I need to do this becauseI wouldn't feel right with
myself if I didn't, versus Ineed to do this because other
people would be upset if Ididn't.
Those are two distinct ways ofmaking decisions.
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And so what you need to startdoing is making more decisions
from that place of I wouldn'tfeel right for my with myself if
I did this or didn't do this.
And less decisions based on Iwouldn't feel right with myself
if people or people wouldn'tfeel right about me if I did or
didn't do this.
Right?
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Make sure that you start makinglet letting go.
Letting go of all the thingsyou've been trying to control
and start making decisions thatyou feel you can feel right by
making.
Action taking actions that youcan feel right taking, making
decisions that you can feelright taking, and let that be
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your North Star and start there.
The rest will reveal itself intime.
You don't need to figure it allout.
Now, I think sometimes we needto figure it all out, like we
always need to have access tothe five-year plan.
Let that go.
Okay.
You're not gonna okay.
If you want to leave the, ifyou're not sure this is the
right relationship, well, you'renot gonna figure out your next
five-year plan for what arelationship should or should
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not look like and who that'sgonna be and when that's gonna
come into fruition.
If this isn't the right careerfor you, you're not gonna figure
out what the next right careeris for you and the five-year
plan and getting there or thefront, like whatever it is, just
letting it all go.
Let go of the plan, let go ofthe need to know.
And I think that's probably thescariest thing is we want to
know, we want the guarantee, wewant to know exactly what's
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coming and when and what we needto choose and to focus on.
Don't.
That's the trap.
Because this process is anunfolding.
And in the unfolding, all weneed to commit to doing is
letting go of the things thatfeel forced.
Not hard, because sometimes thegood things in life do are can
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be challenging, but forced.
Letting go of the things thatfeel forced, that are tired,
that are draining, that are justdepleting all of your energy.
Let those go.
Let go of trying to prevent themfrom falling away.
Let the pieces fall where theymay.
If they are meant to stay inyour life, they will.
If they're only in your lifebecause you're forcing them to
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be there, you don't want themanyway.
So let them go, save yourenergy, and start making
decisions from what I would feelright with deciding right now.
What would what direction wouldI feel right?
What next step would I feelright in taking?
And do that.
Everything else will reveal toitself to you along the way.
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The life that you're aligned tolive is revealed to you one tiny
action at a time.
It's not gonna come on afive-year plan.
It's not gonna come on some sortof, you know, the next HR
assessment that you did in yourcorporate nine to five, right?
It's not gonna come from um, youknow, whatever survey you've
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taken, online survey you'vetaken, or magazine survey that
you've taken to try and figureout who you are and what what
lights you up.
Those help.
Not to say they're completelywrong.
They do help, but they're verygeneral, they're very broad.
Like we are each one of us, andI truly, truly, truly believe
it.
I believe this with my wholeheart.
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Each one of us has a powerfulpurpose for being here.
I think we have many purposes.
I think we have a collectivepurpose.
I think we have a purpose forwhat how we're here to be and
what we're here to contribute tothe world.
And I feel like we that we havea purpose for who we are in our
connections, in ourrelationships, and in our
families, and our communities,and how we're just our energy
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and our presence just shiftspeople, right?
I believe that there's so many,there's so much nuance to who we
are as individual beings that toput it into a survey is nothing
more than a disservice.
You're so much more than that.
So, yeah, you can use thesetools as guides and blah, blah,
blah.
Of course, of course, you canuse them, and of course, I'll
give you some clues.
But the real work is in theself-reflection, okay, and the
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internally led choices,self-reflection, internally led
choices, one choice at a time,more and more of who you are and
your magic and your mirror andand and your beauty and and your
essence and who you are to be inthis world will be revealed to
you through those choices.
But you have to be willing notto let go, let go, yes,
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metaphorically let go.
Like not cling on to thesethings that you've been trying
to forcefully hold into yourlife.
Like just let go to the pointwhere let them decide for
themselves if they want to be inyour life or not.
And if they don't, they don't.
And if they do, great, then youcan evolve together.
And if they don't, then you can,I promise you, anything that
falls away from your life thatis not aligned for you will
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absolutely be replaced.
May take some time, right?
As things shift and you shiftand you change and you go
through your metamorphosis, butthey will all be replaced.
And that I can promise you bysomething better.
And your letting go of thethings that aren't aligned is an
intention that you share withthe universe to say, hey, no
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longer available for this.
I'm no longer available forthings that aren't aligned with
me, that aren't aligned with myessence and my soul and who I'm
here to be.
I'm no longer available forsettling.
I'm only available for what'struly aligned for me and my
purpose in this life.
And that's exactly what you openthe door for when you do this
work.
So let me know what resonatesfor you in the comments below.
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And until next time, you guys,massive love.
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