Your anger isn’t a flaw to fix. It’s a compass, your soul’s way of saying you’ve outgrown who you were.
In this pivotal episode of The Femme Cast, I share the story behind this new direction for the show: a mission to transmute buried emotions into purpose, voice, and impact. After seeing so many disempowering narratives dominate the coaching and relationship space, I couldn’t ignore the call anymore. The microaggressions, the noise, the online projections, they all awakened something deeper. Rage. But beneath the fire was truth. A message that said, stop hiding.
We explore the two layers of rage, the surface storm that attacks, and the sacred current beneath it that points you toward your next evolution. This is the art of emotional alchemy: transforming discomfort into direction, triggers into truth, and pain into power.
You’ll learn how relationship wounds create energetic imprints that shape your voice, your visibility, and your creative flow. You’ll hear tools to process emotions without shame, anchor your nervous system, and take aligned action even when you have no proof it will work. Because your emotions aren’t obstacles, they’re initiation codes calling you into deeper leadership.
This is about redefining power, worth, and success from the inside out. This is a reclamation of your emotional truth as the fuel for your purpose.
If you’ve felt the pull to rise, pivot, or speak your truth louder, this episode is your permission slip to use the heat as holy fuel.
You are not too much. You’re standing in the fire of your next evolution. Every ounce of rage or grief you’ve carried is a portal to your infinite potential. When you stop running from your emotions and start partnering with them, you don’t just heal. You become magnetic.
Your power isn’t waiting on permission, it’s waiting on you.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:48):
Hey you guys, what is up?
And welcome back to the show.
Welcome if you're new.
I'm so excited and grateful tohave you here.
Today kind of marks a newdirection here on the Femcast.
It's the end of an era.
We're gonna be changing thingsup a bit.
And the reason why we'rechanging things up a bit is
because, in case you haven'tnoticed, the world is changing.
(01:10):
And I think I really do believewomen need to be playing a
bigger part in where we're goingas a collective.
And so I'm gonna wing it todaybecause I usually have a plan
for every episode.
And I usually plan in advancewhat I'm gonna be, themes of
(01:33):
what I'm gonna talk about weekto week and month to month, so
that I don't, you know, give youguys like so I don't confuse the
crap out of you and send yougoing from one conversation to
another, even though I know I'vedone that.
And I apologize for all thetimes that I've done that in the
past because I know I have.
But today, and I'm also gonnastart to watch my um's.
I'm really gonna try.
So, and I almost did it again.
(01:54):
So for today, I really just wantto wing it and talk real.
I just want to talk to you guysfrom the heart about where we're
going and why and what led tothis change.
Because it had a lot to do withthe rage work that I've been
talking about in the lastseveral weeks and that I've been
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working on for the last year.
If you guys worked with me, thenyou know.
My spiritual healing gifts arein being able to transmute
difficult and uncomfortableemotions into power, purpose,
and clarity.
And that is the work that we dowhen we work together.
And if you've worked with me,you know what I'm talking about.
(02:38):
We go really deep, it getsreally fucking transformational
really quickly.
Okay.
In doing that work and goingdeeper, you know, the one thing
I always noticed in my clientsand really in myself is that if
you're a woman with a powerfulpurpose in this life, if you're
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a woman who's here to do amazingthings and you're not doing
them, chances are you're holdingon to a lot of rage and
resentment.
And you might not know it'sthere.
Like it's the kind of thingthat's so subtle because you've
buried it, it's subconsciouslykind of running the show.
You know, you've positivethought your way out of it, you
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think you're in a good place,but it's still kind of secretly
lurking behind the scenes, andyou're not really fully aware of
it.
Even though my client, you know,my clients are always very
aware, they've done a lot ofwork, they're very intentional
about the lives that they live,they're very conscious of how
they create their life and theirday, and and you know, they're
able to move through theiremotions pretty quickly.
(03:43):
However, there's always thatunderlying sort of residual
feminine rage that we've beentaught to not pay attention to,
that's always kind of just sortof like there lurking beneath
the surface and can easily beawakened here and there so that
it can, it can literally, it'sit's it's waking us up.
(04:06):
It's waking us up and it'strying to get our attention.
And that's what my rage wastrying to do for me last year.
And so after having done therage work and, you know, putting
it out there into the world, andthat was really uncomfortable
for me because, you know, one ofthe things that has always held
me back in this industry is theperception not just of what my
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audience would think, but whatother coaches and healers would
think, right, about the workthat I'm doing.
And I realize what a disservicethat I was doing to the world by
not putting this work out therebecause we all need to create a
healthier relationship with ourfeelings.
We all need to be able to movethrough uncomfortable emotions
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in an empowered way so that wecan let them work for us because
our emotions are never, ouremotions are never there to hurt
us.
They're there to help us evolve,they're there to help us heal,
they're there to help us grow.
Every emotion serves a powerfuland beautiful and magical
purpose.
(05:11):
We just have to change ourperception of what those
emotions are and how we movethrough them, right?
Move through them in anempowered way.
That is really the onlydifference.
And so as I started doing thiswork and started leaning into it
more and started embodying itmore, and I started doing it in
my day-to-day whenever I gottriggered by something or upset
by something.
(05:31):
And and truly the effects of thework was so powerful.
And over the summer, and this iskind of what led to all of this
change that we're going to betalking about, over the summer,
I was getting triggered by a lotof stuff that I was seeing in
the online community community,especially in the relationship
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space.
I found the content to be verydisempowering.
I found the content to be justnot in the highest, not how do I
say this, really disempoweringto women and not really creating
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a safe space for women to stepinto their highest potential.
And we're in a time of and spaceright now where I don't know if
you've noticed, but the world ischanging around us, and a lot,
there's a lot of moving partsand a lot of things are
happening.
And I think we're in a positionwhere I think women need to step
into their potential, need toplay a bigger game and start to
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make an impact in the worldaround us because the world has
never needed feminine energymore than it does right now.
But that requires us to be in anempowered state in order to
share that with the world,right?
And so what I realized thissummer, as I was reading these
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posts and listening to the reelsand listening to the podcasts,
and I was getting so angry andfrustrated.
And, you know, I tried to kindof mediate that by getting into
the comments and engaging andsharing my opinion, but I just
felt so it just didn't feel likeit was enough, you know, and I
started sharing more empoweringmessages and then started to
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receive all thesemicroaggressions and comments,
especially on my YouTubechannel.
I got these like longparagraph-length comments of
like micro-aggression andretaliation from my perspective.
And I just felt myself gettingangrier and angrier and angrier
and angrier.
(07:40):
And so I did the work on myself.
I went in and I looked at therage and I looked at the
frustration that I was feelingand I looked at the resentment.
And, you know, as the process,you know, leaning into the
process and where where it kindof how it kind of guides you
through processing the rage, Iasked the rage why it was here,
(08:03):
what it was trying to tell me,and what it was that I wasn't
seeing, and what where whatdirection does it, what it
action or direction does it wantme to take next.
And, you know, initially, as Istarted to move through it and I
started to explore it, you know,there's that surface level
first, right?
We always hit that surfacelevel.
The there's two, there's twolevels to rage, right?
(08:27):
If we if we look at the journeyor if we look at the life cycle
of rage in our emotional bodyand in our physical body, even,
you know, it starts as anger,turns into frustration, then
resentment, then rage.
This is not the um, you know,this is not the psychological
dictionary's version of rage,but this is how I've seen it in
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my body and in my emotionalexperience and in other women as
well.
So, you know, we ignore, wesomething happens, it makes us
angry, we ignore it, we try tosweep it under the rug, we hope
it's not going to happen again,it happens again, then we start
to get frustrated, then we startto get resentful, and then we go
into full-blown rage, right?
(09:08):
And when we look at rage, or anyof those emotions really, but
specifically, let's let's talkabout the rage today.
There's always two levels.
There's the surface level, whichis the egoic expression of the
rage, right?
Where this person did this, thatperson said that, I don't like
them, I don't like their face, Idon't like what they're saying,
I don't like the sound of theirvoice.
(09:29):
I can't believe they said that,blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Like we just we go on theattack.
We put that that is the victimstate, that is the projection,
right?
Of what's actually what what istriggering the deeper layer.
Okay, so we let that out, we letthat be, we let that be seen, we
let that be heard, we give itlove, we give it visibility, and
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then it kind of settles down.
And then we go deeper.
Okay, what is the real meaninghere?
What is the highest expressionof this rage?
What is this rage really tryingto show me and tell me?
And as I started to have thosedeeper conversations, what the
rage was telling me is, what areyou doing?
Get in the conversation.
Like this is triggering you fora reason because you're meant to
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be in that circle, not the onethat you've been hiding out in.
Now, let me be clear.
When we work together, like Isaid, we transmute a lot of the
difficult emotions and turn theminto power, clarity, and
purpose.
Um, I've said that a thousandtimes.
(10:35):
I will say it again.
You know, it's all aboutcreating a comfortable
relationship, a harmoniousrelationship with our emotional
body, and use and learning tomove through all of our emotions
in a healthy and empowered way.
A lot of the work that we dowhen we work together is at our
relationship level because thatis what triggers a lot of our
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emotional healing, whether it'shealing a relationship with a
parent, healing a relationshipwith a partner, healing a
relationship with a friend,healing a relationship with a
sibling, healing any past traumaor relationship stories that are
running the show today.
And when we do this work, it'snot always about bringing the
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relationship into harmony.
It's really about moving throughwhat it was trying to teach us
about ourselves and creating adifferent story than the one
that we may have created when wewere kids.
You know, usually a lot of thesememories are memories from when
we're younger, usually betweenone and seven.
But, you know, oftentimes theycan be any anytime, any time in
our life where we experience apain or a betrayal or hurt or
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trauma in a relationship, it cancreate an imprint on our
energetic signature that changesthe way, that changes the way we
um how to what's the word thatI'm looking for?
That changes the way we interactwith the world around us, that
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changes our energetic frequency.
And and if we don't, if we don'tmove through that emotional
experience properly and youknow, avoid attaching the
negative stories to thoseexperiences, it it can it can
muck up our our energeticsignature and just keep
attracting things that we don'twant into our experience.
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When we can learn to movethrough our emotional body in an
empowered state and move througha whole array of complex
emotions and allow them to bepresent and allow them to
transform us in the mostpowerful and beautiful ways and
make it mean something amazingand incredible, even if it is
uncomfortable, that is magic andthat is what we do.
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So um recognizing that you knowa lot of the work or a lot of
what we talked about on the onthe podcast has been around
relationships, and that willcontinue to be a theme because I
think empowered relationsrelationships means that we are
in an empowered state.
So we'll continue to talk aboutempowered relationships, but
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please, please understand thatthis is so much more important,
and I I really want you to leanin when I say this.
What we're gonna be talkingabout on the Femcast is gonna be
so much more important thancalling in the perfect partner
or, you know, 10xing yourincome, even though we will
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like, even though we will betalking about those things, and
those things do get to matter,and you do get to have those
things.
I'm not saying that you don't.
That's not what I'm saying whenI say this to you, and I need
you to hear me.
You get to have your desiresmet.
Whatever that desire is, you getto have those desires met.
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Assuming, of course, they'reheart-guided desires and not
desires that you've just adoptedbecause the world told you that
you're worthy when you'veachieved them, right?
There's that.
There's a lot of that, and it'shappening a lot in the personal
development community and thespiritual community.
And I want you to pay closeattention.
Just because some healer orcoach tells you if you don't 10x
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your income, it's it's areflection of your worth, or if
you don't manifest the perfectpartner, it's a reflection of
your worth.
It's not.
We're on a journey, we're hereto do things, we're here to
fulfill a purpose and a mission.
And I believe that isuniversally true.
I believe it is universally truethat if you are created, nothing
is created at random.
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And if you are created and youare here and you are in this
life, then you have a purpose tofulfill.
Whether that purpose is to starta business, be an accountant, be
a mom, be a pillar in yourcommunity, start a podcast, be a
speaker, be a coach, be ahealer, be a doctor, be
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whatever, be a librarian.
It doesn't matter.
We're all here, and that that isthat is focusing purpose when it
aligns with vocation, and itdoesn't have to.
It does not have to.
Many of us have more than onepurpose.
Maybe we do need to start abusiness.
Maybe we are starting a family.
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Maybe the kids that we'regrowing, that we're raising are
going to change the world oneday.
Maybe we are supporting apartner in their career.
Maybe they're supporting us inour purpose and our mission.
It is different for everyone andeverything, but I want you to
just hold that for one second.
If you're here, you're here fora reason and there's a purpose
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that must be fulfilled.
And as long as you're alignedwith that purpose, everything
else is will come.
The important thing is don'tworry about it.
Let it be.
And that's not to say we don'tdo the work.
Of course, we do the work.
Of course, if we haverelationship wounding, we do the
work on the relationshipwounding so that you can be a
match for a loving and healthyrelationship.
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And yes, I am still, I am stillvery powerful when it comes to
doing that work.
If you are looking for somebodyto do that work with, however,
that can't, I don't want that tobe the focus of the
conversations.
I feel like we're here to play abigger game.
I feel like we're here with abigger purpose.
(17:53):
And if you follow this podcast,you're here to do some amazing
shit.
You're a badass woman with abadass purpose and some badass
shit to do.
So, what I want to do with thispodcast, in addition to helping
you create healthier, moreempowered relationships, in
addition to healing any, youknow, self-worth issues that are
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holding you back, keeping yousmall from your fullest
potential, I want to help you tostep into that purpose and
potential that you were divinelycreated to fulfill here on this
earth.
If you're meant to speak, I Iwant to help you, I want to help
you access your voice, yourtruth, your story.
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If you're meant to be visible, Iwant to help you be visible.
If you're meant to do and createamazing things in this world, I
want to be able to help you tapinto the potential to do that
and the clarity to do that.
And I want that to be the focusof our work together.
I want that to be the focus ofour podcast because the world
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needs you, and I need you tohear that.
The word, the world needs, and Ihear word.
That's interesting that I saidthat.
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Whatever it is that you've beengifted with, the world needs you
to share it now.
And yes, sometimes it'suncomfortable, and yes,
sometimes you can feel like, youknow, I think I always think
back to the moment when Istarted doing this and I started
the podcast.
Well, actually, first it was ablog, then it was a YouTube
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channel that failed miserably.
That was just way too much work.
That totally burnt me out.
I hated it.
Um, and then it became thepodcast, right?
When I think back to thebeginning, it was scary.
And I think the biggest fearthat almost stopped me dead in
my tracks, and I talked aboutthis in a previous episode, was
what the hell will everyonethink of me?
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You know, I was coming from aworld that was so different.
I was working for a consultingfirm.
I was in leadership development.
I was managing, you know, theexecutive leadership team's
coaching program.
I was help helping to coordinatenational leadership development
programs and trainings for someof the highest executives in
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North America.
And here I was going on thespiritual path to what?
Like walk around Asia and myflip-flops and a sarong and
visit temples and meditationretreats.
Like, my god, I was like, peopleare gonna think I'm fucking
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nuts, and they did, theyabsolutely did, but honestly,
and it wasn't clear to me thenwhere I was going or what I was
gonna be doing, it wasn't clearat all.
It was it was just an innerknowing that this wasn't it, I
need to be someplace else.
And that energy, that power wasmoving through me like an
(21:10):
electric current, and it justmade it so impossible to ignore.
And the more I try to ignore it,the louder it got.
And I've got an engine roaringpast me right now, and I'm sure
you can probably hear it.
Note to you guys if you everwant to start a podcast.
Number one, I'm gonna be doing amasterclass on how to, you know,
like grow a podcast and get yourvoice out there and be visible
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and be heard and get yourmessage out into the world.
That's coming.
Stay tuned.
But also, if you do start apodcast, don't edit it because
it's the only proof that it'snot an AI-generated content uh
uh podcast.
That is why I do very minimalediting on my podcast episodes
because you know it's just itcan't be AI generated.
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But um, you know, having saidthat, stepping out was scary.
I was terrified of what peoplewere gonna think of me, and
people did think I was crazy.
I thought I was crazy.
Like, how can I leave thisperfect, perfect, cushy job and
just go out into the unknown andtrust that I'm gonna be okay?
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It was still scary, and Iprobably, you know what, in
retrospect, as I look back on myjourney, I probably wouldn't
have I still would have done it,I wouldn't have done it the
same.
I would have done it a littlebit differently.
And that's um, you know, I I'mgonna be sharing with you guys
like do as I say, not as I did.
I do as I do now, yes, becausenow I'm a little bit smarter,
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but the way I did it then,mm-mm, don't do it that way.
It's so hard.
Um there's a better way.
But, you know, for those of youwho are feeling that pull to do
something, to say something, tocreate something, to put
something out into the world,and you know, and you don't know
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why, and it doesn't make anysense, your purpose will never
make logical sense.
Please know that.
I want you to lean into that,and I want to help you to lean
into that.
And if you're already out thereand if you're already doing the
work, and something's just, youknow, you're do out there,
you're doing the work, you'reyou're sharing the things,
you're doing everything right,but something just feels off.
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Something doesn't feel you'velost that spark, you've lost
that connection to your purposeor what you're doing or what
you're creating or what you'reputting out there in the world.
That's what we're going to befocusing.
That is that is the magicbecause that is what the world
needs the most right now.
And so, and I'm also opening upinterviews again as I move
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through this.
And this is scary for me too.
Please know, because, you know,this is part of my livelihood,
right?
Especially like in the lastyear, like after I've been, you
know, um, there has been a lotof transition in in my career.
And, you know, I did always dothis sort of part-time and have
work on the side, and that haskind of put me, like that has
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kind of evolved in ways that Ididn't anticipate.
And so, you know, it's put me ina position where I do rely on
this, and it is scary to pivotright now, it's very scary.
But this is me doing exactlywhat it is that I'm telling you
to do.
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I am trusting this power, thiscurrent, this feeling, this
nudge that is moving through meright now and telling me to go
into this direction, even thoughI have no proof that I'm going
to be okay.
I have no proof that it's goingto work.
I have no proof that anyone isgoing to love what I'm putting
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out.
All I know is that my soul iscalling me to talk about this.
And I am leaning in and I amtrusting.
And I'm trusting that as Ifollow my soul, as I follow the
inner guidings of my heart, ofmy soul, of my purpose, I know
that I'm being guided bysomething so much bigger than
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myself.
And I know that when I allowmyself to be guided by something
so much bigger than myself, thatI will always be taken care of
in whatever that looks like.
I can let that go.
I can, I can trust, I cansurrender it.
And that in itself is scary.
But I will say one thing.
Every time I have come intomassive abundance in my life,
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it's when I've surrendered tothat call, when I've surrendered
to that feeling, and I'vetrusted that whatever this
higher power is that is guidingme is going to provide, things
always tend to work out.
It's scary.
It's uncomfortable.
It makes me nauseous sometimes.
I'm not gonna lie.
Um, but this is how I movethrough that.
(25:50):
Every time I feel that panic,every time I start to spiral,
every time I start to just feelthat uneasiness, I take a deep
breath, I acknowledge thefeelings that are coming up for
me, I breathe through them,right?
Having that rebirth experiencewith our emotions when we just
allow them to be present, movethrough them and breathe, and
allow them to release.
And then when everything comesback to balance and I feel okay,
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I remind myself of that belief.
As long as I'm following myinner guidance, my higher
purpose, this higher um energythat is here, that is guiding
me, that is that is that isspeaking to me, that is trying
to move me, as long as I followthis voice, this knowing, this
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nudge, I know I'm gonna bedivinely supported.
And so I keep leaning into thatand I keep imagining
surrendering my worries to ahigher power and trusting that
they're gonna be I'm puttingthis in your hands and I'm
trusting that everything's gonnabe taken care of, and then I go
and do the thing that is beingthat I'm feeling is being asked
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of me to do, and that's exactlywhat I'm doing here today, and
that's exactly the purposebehind this podcast.
So, yes, we are still going tofocus on talking about breaking
toxic relationship patterns anddynamics, things like people
pleasing and um you knowspeaking your truth and setting
boundaries, but it's going to bein a bigger context than just
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your relationships.
It's going to be in a muchbigger context because you are
here to do amazing things,badass things, and create an
impact in the world.
And that is what we're going tobe helping you do here on the
Femcast.
So I hope you'll stick along orstick up, stick around for the
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ride for the ride.
I hope you'll join us.
Um, the world needs you rightnow, it needs your feminine
energy and it needs your yourmagic.
And we need to be in anempowered state in order to be
able to do that.
And so I would be honored if youwould let me help you do that
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through this podcast.
Let me know what resonated foryou.
Let me know what's been comingforward for you.
Let me know what that thing isthat has been on your heart to
do, be, and create, and let'sstart to make it happen.
If you email me at Maria at thefemmecoach.com or send me a DM
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at the femcast.
I love to hear from you guys.
Let me know what that thing ison your heart that you're
wanting to create that isbegging to be created through
you.
And let's find a way to help youdo that.
Until next time, you guys,massive love.
Hey you guys, what is up?
And welcome back to the show.
Welcome if you're new.
I'm so excited and grateful tohave you here.
Today kind of marks a newdirection here on the Femcast.
It's the end of an era.
We're gonna be changing thingsup a bit.
And the reason why we'rechanging things up a bit is
because, in case you haven'tnoticed, the world is changing.
(01:10):
And I think I really do believewomen need to be playing a
bigger part in where we're goingas a collective.
And so I'm gonna wing it todaybecause I usually have a plan
for every episode.
And I usually plan in advancewhat I'm gonna be, themes of
(01:33):
what I'm gonna talk about weekto week and month to month, so
that I don't, you know, give youguys like so I don't confuse the
crap out of you and send yougoing from one conversation to
another, even though I know I'vedone that.
And I apologize for all thetimes that I've done that in the
past because I know I have.
But today, and I'm also gonnastart to watch my um's.
I'm really gonna try.
So, and I almost did it again.
(01:54):
So for today, I really just wantto wing it and talk real.
I just want to talk to you guysfrom the heart about where we're
going and why and what led tothis change.
Because it had a lot to do withthe rage work that I've been
talking about in the lastseveral weeks and that I've been
(02:16):
working on for the last year.
If you guys worked with me, thenyou know.
My spiritual healing gifts arein being able to transmute
difficult and uncomfortableemotions into power, purpose,
and clarity.
And that is the work that we dowhen we work together.
And if you've worked with me,you know what I'm talking about.
(02:38):
We go really deep, it getsreally fucking transformational
really quickly.
Okay.
In doing that work and goingdeeper, you know, the one thing
I always noticed in my clientsand really in myself is that if
you're a woman with a powerfulpurpose in this life, if you're
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a woman who's here to do amazingthings and you're not doing
them, chances are you're holdingon to a lot of rage and
resentment.
And you might not know it'sthere.
Like it's the kind of thingthat's so subtle because you've
buried it, it's subconsciouslykind of running the show.
You know, you've positivethought your way out of it, you
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think you're in a good place,but it's still kind of secretly
lurking behind the scenes, andyou're not really fully aware of
it.
Even though my client, you know,my clients are always very
aware, they've done a lot ofwork, they're very intentional
about the lives that they live,they're very conscious of how
they create their life and theirday, and and you know, they're
able to move through theiremotions pretty quickly.
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However, there's always thatunderlying sort of residual
feminine rage that we've beentaught to not pay attention to,
that's always kind of just sortof like there lurking beneath
the surface and can easily beawakened here and there so that
it can, it can literally, it'sit's it's waking us up.
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It's waking us up and it'strying to get our attention.
And that's what my rage wastrying to do for me last year.
And so after having done therage work and, you know, putting
it out there into the world, andthat was really uncomfortable
for me because, you know, one ofthe things that has always held
me back in this industry is theperception not just of what my
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audience would think, but whatother coaches and healers would
think, right, about the workthat I'm doing.
And I realize what a disservicethat I was doing to the world by
not putting this work out therebecause we all need to create a
healthier relationship with ourfeelings.
We all need to be able to movethrough uncomfortable emotions
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in an empowered way so that wecan let them work for us because
our emotions are never, ouremotions are never there to hurt
us.
They're there to help us evolve,they're there to help us heal,
they're there to help us grow.
Every emotion serves a powerfuland beautiful and magical
purpose.
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We just have to change ourperception of what those
emotions are and how we movethrough them, right?
Move through them in anempowered way.
That is really the onlydifference.
And so as I started doing thiswork and started leaning into it
more and started embodying itmore, and I started doing it in
my day-to-day whenever I gottriggered by something or upset
by something.
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And and truly the effects of thework was so powerful.
And over the summer, and this iskind of what led to all of this
change that we're going to betalking about, over the summer,
I was getting triggered by a lotof stuff that I was seeing in
the online community community,especially in the relationship
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space.
I found the content to be verydisempowering.
I found the content to be justnot in the highest, not how do I
say this, really disempoweringto women and not really creating
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a safe space for women to stepinto their highest potential.
And we're in a time of and spaceright now where I don't know if
you've noticed, but the world ischanging around us, and a lot,
there's a lot of moving partsand a lot of things are
happening.
And I think we're in a positionwhere I think women need to step
into their potential, need toplay a bigger game and start to
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make an impact in the worldaround us because the world has
never needed feminine energymore than it does right now.
But that requires us to be in anempowered state in order to
share that with the world,right?
And so what I realized thissummer, as I was reading these
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posts and listening to the reelsand listening to the podcasts,
and I was getting so angry andfrustrated.
And, you know, I tried to kindof mediate that by getting into
the comments and engaging andsharing my opinion, but I just
felt so it just didn't feel likeit was enough, you know, and I
started sharing more empoweringmessages and then started to
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receive all thesemicroaggressions and comments,
especially on my YouTubechannel.
I got these like longparagraph-length comments of
like micro-aggression andretaliation from my perspective.
And I just felt myself gettingangrier and angrier and angrier
and angrier.
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And so I did the work on myself.
I went in and I looked at therage and I looked at the
frustration that I was feelingand I looked at the resentment.
And, you know, as the process,you know, leaning into the
process and where where it kindof how it kind of guides you
through processing the rage, Iasked the rage why it was here,
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what it was trying to tell me,and what it was that I wasn't
seeing, and what where whatdirection does it, what it
action or direction does it wantme to take next.
And, you know, initially, as Istarted to move through it and I
started to explore it, you know,there's that surface level
first, right?
We always hit that surfacelevel.
The there's two, there's twolevels to rage, right?
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If we if we look at the journeyor if we look at the life cycle
of rage in our emotional bodyand in our physical body, even,
you know, it starts as anger,turns into frustration, then
resentment, then rage.
This is not the um, you know,this is not the psychological
dictionary's version of rage,but this is how I've seen it in
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my body and in my emotionalexperience and in other women as
well.
So, you know, we ignore, wesomething happens, it makes us
angry, we ignore it, we try tosweep it under the rug, we hope
it's not going to happen again,it happens again, then we start
to get frustrated, then we startto get resentful, and then we go
into full-blown rage, right?
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And when we look at rage, or anyof those emotions really, but
specifically, let's let's talkabout the rage today.
There's always two levels.
There's the surface level, whichis the egoic expression of the
rage, right?
Where this person did this, thatperson said that, I don't like
them, I don't like their face, Idon't like what they're saying,
I don't like the sound of theirvoice.
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I can't believe they said that,blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Like we just we go on theattack.
We put that that is the victimstate, that is the projection,
right?
Of what's actually what what istriggering the deeper layer.
Okay, so we let that out, we letthat be, we let that be seen, we
let that be heard, we give itlove, we give it visibility, and
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then it kind of settles down.
And then we go deeper.
Okay, what is the real meaninghere?
What is the highest expressionof this rage?
What is this rage really tryingto show me and tell me?
And as I started to have thosedeeper conversations, what the
rage was telling me is, what areyou doing?
Get in the conversation.
Like this is triggering you fora reason because you're meant to
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be in that circle, not the onethat you've been hiding out in.
Now, let me be clear.
When we work together, like Isaid, we transmute a lot of the
difficult emotions and turn theminto power, clarity, and
purpose.
Um, I've said that a thousandtimes.
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I will say it again.
You know, it's all aboutcreating a comfortable
relationship, a harmoniousrelationship with our emotional
body, and use and learning tomove through all of our emotions
in a healthy and empowered way.
A lot of the work that we dowhen we work together is at our
relationship level because thatis what triggers a lot of our
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emotional healing, whether it'shealing a relationship with a
parent, healing a relationshipwith a partner, healing a
relationship with a friend,healing a relationship with a
sibling, healing any past traumaor relationship stories that are
running the show today.
And when we do this work, it'snot always about bringing the
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relationship into harmony.
It's really about moving throughwhat it was trying to teach us
about ourselves and creating adifferent story than the one
that we may have created when wewere kids.
You know, usually a lot of thesememories are memories from when
we're younger, usually betweenone and seven.
But, you know, oftentimes theycan be any anytime, any time in
our life where we experience apain or a betrayal or hurt or
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trauma in a relationship, it cancreate an imprint on our
energetic signature that changesthe way, that changes the way we
um how to what's the word thatI'm looking for?
That changes the way we interactwith the world around us, that
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changes our energetic frequency.
And and if we don't, if we don'tmove through that emotional
experience properly and youknow, avoid attaching the
negative stories to thoseexperiences, it it can it can
muck up our our energeticsignature and just keep
attracting things that we don'twant into our experience.
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When we can learn to movethrough our emotional body in an
empowered state and move througha whole array of complex
emotions and allow them to bepresent and allow them to
transform us in the mostpowerful and beautiful ways and
make it mean something amazingand incredible, even if it is
uncomfortable, that is magic andthat is what we do.
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So um recognizing that you knowa lot of the work or a lot of
what we talked about on the onthe podcast has been around
relationships, and that willcontinue to be a theme because I
think empowered relationsrelationships means that we are
in an empowered state.
So we'll continue to talk aboutempowered relationships, but
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please, please understand thatthis is so much more important,
and I I really want you to leanin when I say this.
What we're gonna be talkingabout on the Femcast is gonna be
so much more important thancalling in the perfect partner
or, you know, 10xing yourincome, even though we will
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like, even though we will betalking about those things, and
those things do get to matter,and you do get to have those
things.
I'm not saying that you don't.
That's not what I'm saying whenI say this to you, and I need
you to hear me.
You get to have your desiresmet.
Whatever that desire is, you getto have those desires met.
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Assuming, of course, they'reheart-guided desires and not
desires that you've just adoptedbecause the world told you that
you're worthy when you'veachieved them, right?
There's that.
There's a lot of that, and it'shappening a lot in the personal
development community and thespiritual community.
And I want you to pay closeattention.
Just because some healer orcoach tells you if you don't 10x
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your income, it's it's areflection of your worth, or if
you don't manifest the perfectpartner, it's a reflection of
your worth.
It's not.
We're on a journey, we're hereto do things, we're here to
fulfill a purpose and a mission.
And I believe that isuniversally true.
I believe it is universally truethat if you are created, nothing
is created at random.
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And if you are created and youare here and you are in this
life, then you have a purpose tofulfill.
Whether that purpose is to starta business, be an accountant, be
a mom, be a pillar in yourcommunity, start a podcast, be a
speaker, be a coach, be ahealer, be a doctor, be
(16:29):
whatever, be a librarian.
It doesn't matter.
We're all here, and that that isthat is focusing purpose when it
aligns with vocation, and itdoesn't have to.
It does not have to.
Many of us have more than onepurpose.
Maybe we do need to start abusiness.
Maybe we are starting a family.
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Maybe the kids that we'regrowing, that we're raising are
going to change the world oneday.
Maybe we are supporting apartner in their career.
Maybe they're supporting us inour purpose and our mission.
It is different for everyone andeverything, but I want you to
just hold that for one second.
If you're here, you're here fora reason and there's a purpose
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that must be fulfilled.
And as long as you're alignedwith that purpose, everything
else is will come.
The important thing is don'tworry about it.
Let it be.
And that's not to say we don'tdo the work.
Of course, we do the work.
Of course, if we haverelationship wounding, we do the
work on the relationshipwounding so that you can be a
match for a loving and healthyrelationship.
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And yes, I am still, I am stillvery powerful when it comes to
doing that work.
If you are looking for somebodyto do that work with, however,
that can't, I don't want that tobe the focus of the
conversations.
I feel like we're here to play abigger game.
I feel like we're here with abigger purpose.
(17:53):
And if you follow this podcast,you're here to do some amazing
shit.
You're a badass woman with abadass purpose and some badass
shit to do.
So, what I want to do with thispodcast, in addition to helping
you create healthier, moreempowered relationships, in
addition to healing any, youknow, self-worth issues that are
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holding you back, keeping yousmall from your fullest
potential, I want to help you tostep into that purpose and
potential that you were divinelycreated to fulfill here on this
earth.
If you're meant to speak, I Iwant to help you, I want to help
you access your voice, yourtruth, your story.
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If you're meant to be visible, Iwant to help you be visible.
If you're meant to do and createamazing things in this world, I
want to be able to help you tapinto the potential to do that
and the clarity to do that.
And I want that to be the focusof our work together.
I want that to be the focus ofour podcast because the world
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needs you, and I need you tohear that.
The word, the world needs, and Ihear word.
That's interesting that I saidthat.
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Whatever it is that you've beengifted with, the world needs you
to share it now.
And yes, sometimes it'suncomfortable, and yes,
sometimes you can feel like, youknow, I think I always think
back to the moment when Istarted doing this and I started
the podcast.
Well, actually, first it was ablog, then it was a YouTube
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channel that failed miserably.
That was just way too much work.
That totally burnt me out.
I hated it.
Um, and then it became thepodcast, right?
When I think back to thebeginning, it was scary.
And I think the biggest fearthat almost stopped me dead in
my tracks, and I talked aboutthis in a previous episode, was
what the hell will everyonethink of me?
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You know, I was coming from aworld that was so different.
I was working for a consultingfirm.
I was in leadership development.
I was managing, you know, theexecutive leadership team's
coaching program.
I was help helping to coordinatenational leadership development
programs and trainings for someof the highest executives in
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North America.
And here I was going on thespiritual path to what?
Like walk around Asia and myflip-flops and a sarong and
visit temples and meditationretreats.
Like, my god, I was like, peopleare gonna think I'm fucking
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nuts, and they did, theyabsolutely did, but honestly,
and it wasn't clear to me thenwhere I was going or what I was
gonna be doing, it wasn't clearat all.
It was it was just an innerknowing that this wasn't it, I
need to be someplace else.
And that energy, that power wasmoving through me like an
(21:10):
electric current, and it justmade it so impossible to ignore.
And the more I try to ignore it,the louder it got.
And I've got an engine roaringpast me right now, and I'm sure
you can probably hear it.
Note to you guys if you everwant to start a podcast.
Number one, I'm gonna be doing amasterclass on how to, you know,
like grow a podcast and get yourvoice out there and be visible
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and be heard and get yourmessage out into the world.
That's coming.
Stay tuned.
But also, if you do start apodcast, don't edit it because
it's the only proof that it'snot an AI-generated content uh
uh podcast.
That is why I do very minimalediting on my podcast episodes
because you know it's just itcan't be AI generated.
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But um, you know, having saidthat, stepping out was scary.
I was terrified of what peoplewere gonna think of me, and
people did think I was crazy.
I thought I was crazy.
Like, how can I leave thisperfect, perfect, cushy job and
just go out into the unknown andtrust that I'm gonna be okay?
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It was still scary, and Iprobably, you know what, in
retrospect, as I look back on myjourney, I probably wouldn't
have I still would have done it,I wouldn't have done it the
same.
I would have done it a littlebit differently.
And that's um, you know, I I'mgonna be sharing with you guys
like do as I say, not as I did.
I do as I do now, yes, becausenow I'm a little bit smarter,
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but the way I did it then,mm-mm, don't do it that way.
It's so hard.
Um there's a better way.
But, you know, for those of youwho are feeling that pull to do
something, to say something, tocreate something, to put
something out into the world,and you know, and you don't know
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why, and it doesn't make anysense, your purpose will never
make logical sense.
Please know that.
I want you to lean into that,and I want to help you to lean
into that.
And if you're already out thereand if you're already doing the
work, and something's just, youknow, you're do out there,
you're doing the work, you'reyou're sharing the things,
you're doing everything right,but something just feels off.
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Something doesn't feel you'velost that spark, you've lost
that connection to your purposeor what you're doing or what
you're creating or what you'reputting out there in the world.
That's what we're going to befocusing.
That is that is the magicbecause that is what the world
needs the most right now.
And so, and I'm also opening upinterviews again as I move
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through this.
And this is scary for me too.
Please know, because, you know,this is part of my livelihood,
right?
Especially like in the lastyear, like after I've been, you
know, um, there has been a lotof transition in in my career.
And, you know, I did always dothis sort of part-time and have
work on the side, and that haskind of put me, like that has
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kind of evolved in ways that Ididn't anticipate.
And so, you know, it's put me ina position where I do rely on
this, and it is scary to pivotright now, it's very scary.
But this is me doing exactlywhat it is that I'm telling you
to do.
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I am trusting this power, thiscurrent, this feeling, this
nudge that is moving through meright now and telling me to go
into this direction, even thoughI have no proof that I'm going
to be okay.
I have no proof that it's goingto work.
I have no proof that anyone isgoing to love what I'm putting
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out.
All I know is that my soul iscalling me to talk about this.
And I am leaning in and I amtrusting.
And I'm trusting that as Ifollow my soul, as I follow the
inner guidings of my heart, ofmy soul, of my purpose, I know
that I'm being guided bysomething so much bigger than
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myself.
And I know that when I allowmyself to be guided by something
so much bigger than myself, thatI will always be taken care of
in whatever that looks like.
I can let that go.
I can, I can trust, I cansurrender it.
And that in itself is scary.
But I will say one thing.
Every time I have come intomassive abundance in my life,
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it's when I've surrendered tothat call, when I've surrendered
to that feeling, and I'vetrusted that whatever this
higher power is that is guidingme is going to provide, things
always tend to work out.
It's scary.
It's uncomfortable.
It makes me nauseous sometimes.
I'm not gonna lie.
Um, but this is how I movethrough that.
(25:50):
Every time I feel that panic,every time I start to spiral,
every time I start to just feelthat uneasiness, I take a deep
breath, I acknowledge thefeelings that are coming up for
me, I breathe through them,right?
Having that rebirth experiencewith our emotions when we just
allow them to be present, movethrough them and breathe, and
allow them to release.
And then when everything comesback to balance and I feel okay,
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I remind myself of that belief.
As long as I'm following myinner guidance, my higher
purpose, this higher um energythat is here, that is guiding
me, that is that is that isspeaking to me, that is trying
to move me, as long as I followthis voice, this knowing, this
(26:42):
nudge, I know I'm gonna bedivinely supported.
And so I keep leaning into thatand I keep imagining
surrendering my worries to ahigher power and trusting that
they're gonna be I'm puttingthis in your hands and I'm
trusting that everything's gonnabe taken care of, and then I go
and do the thing that is beingthat I'm feeling is being asked
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of me to do, and that's exactlywhat I'm doing here today, and
that's exactly the purposebehind this podcast.
So, yes, we are still going tofocus on talking about breaking
toxic relationship patterns anddynamics, things like people
pleasing and um you knowspeaking your truth and setting
boundaries, but it's going to bein a bigger context than just
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your relationships.
It's going to be in a muchbigger context because you are
here to do amazing things,badass things, and create an
impact in the world.
And that is what we're going tobe helping you do here on the
Femcast.
So I hope you'll stick along orstick up, stick around for the
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ride for the ride.
I hope you'll join us.
Um, the world needs you rightnow, it needs your feminine
energy and it needs your yourmagic.
And we need to be in anempowered state in order to be
able to do that.
And so I would be honored if youwould let me help you do that
(28:10):
through this podcast.
Let me know what resonated foryou.
Let me know what's been comingforward for you.
Let me know what that thing isthat has been on your heart to
do, be, and create, and let'sstart to make it happen.
If you email me at Maria at thefemmecoach.com or send me a DM
(28:30):
at the femcast.
I love to hear from you guys.
Let me know what that thing ison your heart that you're
wanting to create that isbegging to be created through
you.
And let's find a way to help youdo that.
Until next time, you guys,massive love.
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