April 29, 2025 • 49 mins
In this episode, we tackle the complexities of dating in 2025 discussing the challenges and changes in modern relationships. From the nuances of ghosting to the phenomenon of 'boy sober', we explore how social media impacts dating culture and the importance of communication. Tune in for a candid conversation that reflects on the past while looking forward to the future of love!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
Fairfact South Carolina to be for North Merontle Beach, New
York City, Florence, Columbia, and back here in rock Hills,
South Carolina and Charlotte, North Carolina metropolitan area.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
We got a good old boys.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
On the Forecast Media Radio Network with Thae, Mario, Washington.
Speaker 4 (00:28):
Kittles, Black Trump Grand Wiz. Now he took all of
the base out of his.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Uh whiz is out this week man, like uh like,
I had attend to some family stuff today and and
and you know, this is one of the shows that
he don't have a whole lot to say on anyway.
But but you, as you pointed out before we turned
the mic zone, he probably would have had the most to.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Say the.
Speaker 5 (00:58):
Incidentally, I think he maybe on one lying to it.
Speaker 6 (01:05):
You had to take that. Yes, today have the opportunity.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
Yeah, the band's broke down.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
That's what any data ends and why that's possible.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
So yeah, nah, man, but we were talking about dating
twenty twenty five a day. But first, uh, it's our
our black duty to tell you if you have not
seen it yet, go see the terrific Ryan Coogler directed
(01:36):
and Michael B.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Jordan acted centers.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
It made forty five million dollars in weekend one man,
and people don't go to the movies like that no more.
But that tells you, like, you know that It's Got
legs is going to be in the theater for a while,
hopefully still there by the time you're hearing this episode.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
But go see it. I know that y'all ain't seen
it yet, but y'all planning on it.
Speaker 6 (01:59):
Yeah, most definitely.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Yeah, you don't. You don't prop up a movie too often.
Speaker 6 (02:04):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Yeah, I don't, But yeah, it's it's I mean, I'm
a big I'm a big Coogler fan. And despite what
people think, I like everything that Michael B. Jordan has
been in. I just don't think that Michael B. Jordan
is that great of an actor. I say that publicly,
but I watch everything that he's in. We saw we
saw that in Creed three. Jonathan Major's act circles around
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that boy in that movie because he's a better act.
Speaker 6 (02:30):
Like we were just speaking on that.
Speaker 5 (02:31):
Also, like I believe he is Slash was and maybe
come again our new Denzel because he makes all every
role he's in believable.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Well well, well, hold on, hold on We Gotta, We Gotta,
we Gotta, because Denzel is good looking and he don't
He definitely don't have that going for him.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
I mean, as they say, the beauty is in the
eye of the beholder, he'd be holding somebody sometimes.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
So but I'll say, but I'll say some some some
actors they're easy to play off of, you know, like
as a oil. And maybe that's Michael B. Jordan's star appeal,
where whoever he's working with makes them better just because
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he's on the screen, not necessarily because he's the most
talented in a room.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
True, true, true, true, But yeah, man, so h. But
we're getting into dating again in twenty twenty five today.
And the reason why this this show popped up is
because we talked a lot of trash about like the
Joe Budden podcast last week. By the way, I haven't
clicked on it yet, but there's a there's a thumbnail
on YouTube and a picture of Ish and it says
(03:45):
that the title is something like, uh, Katy Perry on
the space thing has has has created an argument about
the flat Earth. And I said, here we go again.
This idiot is about to say something, so I got
I gotta click on it because I know that he's
an idiot, and I want to like talk about how
much of an idiot he is.
Speaker 6 (04:06):
So but they were talking about.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
This subject, and they were talking about one of the
things that we're going to talk about in our number two.
But boy, I tell you, if you got a date
in twenty twenty five, I feel sorry for you.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
Look, hey, also just just speaking on dating and dates
and whatnot. This this year has been a crazy one
in the sense of Easter fell on four to twenty
this year, so this was truly the day that.
Speaker 6 (04:35):
The Lord rose again. He rolled and rose again. That
was just I don't know if that'll ever happened again.
Speaker 5 (04:41):
So all my heads out there, man, you know, like
that was just crazy that Easter fell on four to twenty.
And I didn't even realize it til somebody pointed it
out to me.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
But yeah, how do you celebrate? How do you celebrate
for twenty Is it like just you by yourself or
you get get a bunch.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Of the.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
I mean, and I still hang out with the folks,
Like I said, even when I was taking my breaks
back in the day. Man, you know, I could be
around it and not in partake or whatever. But you know, shoot,
cats just have a little cook out here and there,
and you know it'd be sessions and people roll them
up to the face or whatever, and you know, just
kind of cool and eating edibles and you might have
other things going on, but it's just a just a
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day of partaking, man and enjoying the company.
Speaker 6 (05:22):
Like like it's.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Why though, like I've never understood it. Like my room
at South Carolina, my room was for twenty all right,
so when everybody, when somebody had to come to my
room and you have to sign them in, like this
was all male dorm and all this stuff, so like
you had to sign in, and dude at the front desk,
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like everybody would laugh whenever I said.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
For twenty I ain't what that meant.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
And I was around like weed and stuff like a lot,
Like where did that even come from?
Speaker 6 (05:54):
Like I don't get it.
Speaker 5 (05:56):
I looked it up at one point, but it's something
that never really stuck with me. I don't know how
it came this celebrated thing or how it symbolizes marijuana
or anything, but it's just it's just the national holiday, man,
when it's recognized.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
It's Valentine's Day for the weed smokers.
Speaker 6 (06:13):
It really is so like yeah, like you bring a.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Nice of the bag over to the to the friends
crib and somebody be like, yo, son, I got some
of this, So I got some of that.
Speaker 6 (06:23):
That's a date for you. That's dating right there.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
Like I'd rather have those dates than try to date
some females out here in this day and age.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
Man, It's it's crazy.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
I guess so bad. But you know, I don't know, man,
It's just always a strange to me.
Speaker 6 (06:37):
Strange man.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
And if you don't know, then then that means it
really don't mean nothing. If you don't know what it.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
Really not necessarily I mean, at the end of the day, bro,
I just enjoy partaking. I ain't sit here saying I'm
a you know, just a connoiseur in the sense of
knowing all about it or whatever.
Speaker 6 (06:54):
It's just I learned about it in college. Like in
high school, I.
Speaker 5 (06:57):
Was, you know, doing the same thing, and I didn't
really know anything about four twenty until I got in college.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Yeah, I got you, man, what was that?
Speaker 4 (07:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
But today we're talking about dating in twenty twenty five.
We'll tell you how you navigate through this. Because I
think it's quite difficult for those of us that have
to do it in twenty twenty five. And I mean
you have to, but in some instances you don't have to.
You can just chill and not do anything, and we
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will tell you how to do that as well. Man
back on a Little Boys Forecast Media Radio Network, we're
talking about dating in twenty twenty five. Have you ever
been in a situation and you calling and you're talking
regularly and stuff, right, and then all of a sudden
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they stop answering the phone or they don't hit you back,
and I guess a few years ago they started calling
it ghosting, right, Has that ever happened to you?
Speaker 4 (08:05):
I was gonna say that's dating in like two thousand
and nineteen, twenty eighteen, right there, that's kind of what
it became popular. I experienced it multiple times when, like
you think everything is just flowing right, but because of
online dating, people don't have enough of a connection with
you and they're just they'll just quickly move on and
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delete your number and never respond, and you sitting there
thinking everything is all good.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 5 (08:34):
Don't know if I've ever experienced I know I've done
it before, but this is This is, as my son
pointed out one time as BC before cell phones, right,
I just again, you just it's a connection thing, and
it's like, yo, I'm just if I'm not feeling it,
or if I know I'm out here just playing around,
I'm not.
Speaker 6 (08:54):
I'm not going to follow up with you.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
If A you're wanting more and there's your closure, like
you're not, I don't see me getting what I need
out of you, So boom, Why.
Speaker 6 (09:03):
Continue with it?
Speaker 5 (09:04):
Why try to quote unquote hurt your feelings when you just, hey,
I lost contact, you bump into them at the grocery
store or somewhere at the football game somewhere else, and
you with somebody else in boom, They got their closure
right there?
Speaker 6 (09:15):
But why why? Why?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Like?
Speaker 3 (09:17):
Why why why can't you?
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Uh like, why is it so hard to like be
an adult and say, look, this ain't going in the
direction that I thought it would go in.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
So why is it so hard to do that?
Speaker 4 (09:30):
We don't like to hurt people? And now I think
the signals are crossed. I think I think the communication
is there. Sometimes people don't can't accept the rejection and
they just continue to no, no, no, no, They continue to
check on you and check on you.
Speaker 5 (09:48):
Yeah, yeah, wait you agree with that, yeah, because you
try to avoid that part. It's like, okay, you you
clearly see as an adult, if we're in adult stages
here and you see that, you know, connecting with this person,
then okay. If this person stops calling you or you
trying to reach out to them and you're not getting
a call back, then they're clearly not interested.
Speaker 6 (10:08):
So why even dwell on it?
Speaker 5 (10:10):
I don't like you say, again, a lot of people
are gonna love you, a lot of people are gonna
hate you. Gotta choose man and sift through it. You
can't sit there and dwell on one. Oh, that's the
one that got away. There's some crazy people out there
to believe in that strongly. You know who I'm talking
about too. It's some people like, really, yo, that's the
one that got away, and this and that. You gotta
gotta move on. And sometimes as adults, you just don't
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want to be be put in that situation to where
you got to have that quote unquote conversation and it's
just that riff for that, that back and forth.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
But is that the adult thing to do not to
not have the conversation because like, I'm a big boy man,
tell me that you that not interested no more.
Speaker 6 (10:48):
I'm okay tell.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
Me, and I'm okay if you don't answer the phone
no more, because I'm not gonna dwell on it. I'm
not gonna see it. Like, man, why she ain't answering
the phone. I'm be like, you can't whatever.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
You can't have that conversation with her body. I mean,
if you say there's a mental health crisis here in America,
I don't. You can't. You can't be honest and straightforward
with some people. There's people you just have to block
their number and go into hiding and hope they find
love somewhere else.
Speaker 5 (11:16):
And that's grand Wiz would say, and interjecting in this
particular moment, because women are stupid.
Speaker 6 (11:21):
You can't go into that.
Speaker 5 (11:24):
You know his spirit is still here with us right now.
You had that conversation, So.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Let me rephrase the question. Then, have you done it? Yes, yes,
you've got to somebody.
Speaker 6 (11:35):
Yes, yes, really.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
Yes, it's really not hard. Like I said, if you don't,
if you if you know that, the odds are you're
not going to see this person, see them in person,
or it takes a lot of effort to see them
in person. Then then yeah, and.
Speaker 6 (11:51):
That's probably where it's where from.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
That's where it rooted it from, because it probably wasn't hard,
and that's where it all rooted from, right there. So
you just move move on, yo, like you ain't getting
the job done or whatever.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
So listen, I've never I've never done that.
Speaker 6 (12:06):
To somebody, and shut up.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
But Mario, I never ghost to somebody though.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
No, But I'm saying like, if you're just getting to
know somebody, yes, it's much easier to do that. If
you're in a relationship been dating for a while now,
you can't do that.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
But even even with the girl that y'all like laugh
at me about talking to that was in the the
the LD class, I didn't ghost her. I called her
and told her, like, this ain't working.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
Your mama made you.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yeah, I did this at school because she was out
sick and I went to the pay for at school.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Oh god, I thought you said your mom made you
call her.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
No no, no, no, no, no no no. My mom used
to kind of stay out of that type of stuff.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
Man.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
She just she she she she would fuss at me
when she knew like it would be like multiple girls
calling at the same time, and somef of that. She
would fuss about that, but she ain't never rat it
on me or nothing like that.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
Man, mom, dude, just.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
Look it out now, my mom do my dirty work.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Yeah no, no, no, no, that's that. That's I remember that.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
And that's Laane because you could have called that young
lady and tell her, Look, this isn't going in the
direction that I would like for it to go in.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
So this isn't working for me. It's not it's not
you as me.
Speaker 6 (13:19):
Hey, listen.
Speaker 5 (13:20):
I had my mom go pick up my class ring
from the girl house one time because I, oh, no,
I ain't going over there.
Speaker 6 (13:26):
I know it. It's about to head too. I can't.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
I'll say this, shout shout to my man Bunny.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Man Bunny got in trouble with my mom because, like
I was, I was the guy that everybody like you
called my house and I'm gonna I'm gonna tell the
lie and and and uh some girl called and it
was like two o'clock in the morning. I was not
at home, and my mom answer the phone and and
this woman was like she was older and she didn't
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know how young we were. And uh, she she thought
it was my crib, Like, no, it's my mom's crib.
So her my mom got into it a little bit,
and then my mom fussed that bunny.
Speaker 3 (14:04):
Then they said she saw him.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
But dude, not everyone's cut out to be a heartbreaker.
Speaker 6 (14:11):
You know I'm not. You're not.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
You're not breaking the heart man, You're being an adult man,
Like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (14:16):
Sometimes you got to avoid certain situations like Trump was saying,
like everybody want to be a child that ain't a child, man, Like,
if I know this off that part, if she going
to become a stalker or something, let me cut tithes now.
Speaker 6 (14:29):
Hopefully she gets this picture and hopefully I don't bump
into her nowhere.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Maybe she becomes a stalker because you damn did this.
Speaker 4 (14:37):
Hey man, I've seen enough episodes of snapped traction to
where I don't want to be be the next episode.
Speaker 6 (14:46):
What you mean you don't think this is working out? Now?
Speaker 5 (14:52):
You're sitting there taking a stupid mugshot picture because you
was trying to defend yourself in the lawd on work
in your favor, So.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Don't listen, don't I don't know, I just I vehemently
disagree with doing it. I don't know why it became
a thing. You guys weren't doing this in the nineteen hundreds.
Speaker 5 (15:17):
I was. I was going up to the library and stuff,
so you couldn't make a scene, you know.
Speaker 6 (15:21):
I was in the library upstairs.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
Oh, I just wanted to let you know.
Speaker 6 (15:25):
Yeah, this is sober.
Speaker 5 (15:29):
I found somebody else and I'm gonna sneak out up
this doors here.
Speaker 6 (15:33):
You can hang out as long as you like.
Speaker 4 (15:37):
Yeah, So how did how did you cut cut those
people off? Then? What did you say? Since you're the
expert action, I just.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Told you I just would call him and tell him like,
look like, I don't I don't think that this is
this is going in the right direction. But the ultimate thing, now,
I did, I did, I did. I did go out
like I stuck a couple of times now. But by
going out by a sucker meanings that I make them
not like me as much.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
I've done that before.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
Don't you don't you think that's worse.
Speaker 6 (16:04):
Probably is worse.
Speaker 7 (16:06):
I got called out years bro, Like, it's not the end.
So I got I got called out by the years later. Uh,
because we we we we became friends and stuff, man
and like uh, and she.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
She she wanted to know why I did what I did,
and I told her, I was like you you were
like head over heels for me. I met somebody else
and I didn't know how to break it to you.
So I just like started turning into a butt head
and like you know what I'm saying. And and then
you got the hint and you didn't like me no more.
And she was like, I do be sucker move though,
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that's that's a little bit of a sucker move.
Speaker 6 (16:43):
End of the day. Listen, you moved on, and it's
closure for her.
Speaker 5 (16:46):
She she believes that you became the butthole and in
mission accomplished.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
So she but she said that she knew that I
was like something else was wrong because she said, my
behavior change so much. She knew that something wasn't right,
but it still it did the job.
Speaker 5 (17:05):
That part, that part is this what you got the picture. Yeah,
I'm on another date. This is what I'm doing now.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
That's that's heartbreaking right there.
Speaker 4 (17:18):
Or to see see you with somebody else.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
To like, well, well she she broke old heart. She
did by like bye bye, by coming to see it.
Speaker 6 (17:27):
Yeah, and furthermore, we was already broken up too. That's
why I was on the date. I wasn't that much
of an a hole, bro, like for real.
Speaker 4 (17:36):
Because with her, because sometimes like you've already done the
job of breaking up with them, but they still feel
like there's a chance and you have to see it
in order to believe it. So I think that was
the case there, Like she had to she had to
see that there was somebody else, and then more questions
are going to follow with that, like how long has
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this been going on?
Speaker 6 (17:58):
That part?
Speaker 4 (17:59):
Are you seen both of us together? So ghosting saved
you a lot of trouble, a lot to explain.
Speaker 5 (18:05):
Or screaming stranger danger to get her away from you
so you can get away.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I still wish that we had a camera on that
would be yeah, bro, and we needed we needed to
see that in real life, man, bro was.
Speaker 6 (18:19):
I was feeling like Eddie kinge Jr. Bro. I was few.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Uh, We're going to come back and we're going to
talk about this new phenomenon called boy sober back on
the Little Boys Forecast Media Radio Network talking about dating
in twenty twenty five. Uh Q, I told you I
wanted to see your general reaction. Trump did, Juice did
you see the like what these things were, the ones
(18:49):
that we that you probably didn't know.
Speaker 4 (18:51):
Yeah, I scammed through it. Okay, turn on the camera,
all right.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
So uh so I'll explain what boy sober means.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
And I guess you could do it either either or
but the boys sober it's when you decide, for however long,
not to date anybody. I'm not talking to nobody. I'm
not dating nobody. I'm just done for like a year.
I think that we've all done that instidy.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
No, no, no, no, I'm not going on a date. I'm
not talking to you.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
I'm doing none of that for at least and you
set there on time, you set your own time frame
for it.
Speaker 6 (19:31):
But I know people with none.
Speaker 4 (19:32):
Of that that's highly responsible.
Speaker 3 (19:34):
I think so too.
Speaker 6 (19:36):
I think that so like, are you going through a
drought or you just making.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
The no no no, no, no no no no, you're talking
about it being on an involuntary situation. I'm talking about
you make a conscious effort to say I'm not dating anybody.
I'm going to like date myself.
Speaker 5 (19:51):
Include the dating everything every not not doing nothing, not
even not even communicating.
Speaker 6 (19:58):
Wow, never in my life.
Speaker 5 (20:05):
But highly respectable though and honestly, it's been a study
of something that was done. Like when you're in a relationship.
So let's say, for example, you you've been dating someone
for like eight years, they say that you should give
yourself at least you know, three and a half to
four years of that time. Yet you say, we call
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it boy sober time to heal, learn what you've learned
from that respective relationship, and then move forward. If you've
been in related they say that's what you should give
yourself or allow yourself at least half the time that
you didn't have relationship.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Totally agree with that, Like I think that.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
And it's also like people who go through a divorce,
Like there was this this former radio hole she passed
away fro years ago, but uh, doctor Joy Brown, she's
doing radio show.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
And her rule was the.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
One year rule, meaning that one year after the divorce
is final. You shouldn't be eating anybody until until a
year has passed after the divorce is final, not after
you broke up, after the divorce is final, because you
got to like you gotta let that stuff wash out
some And I know a lot of people who get
divorced they do not do.
Speaker 5 (21:14):
That far because because the divorce took place made before
the ink dried, before they signed the papers, they was
already process.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
So right, But but that's what I'm saying, like, like
it should be after the ink drive a year after that,
because while you're going through the process of getting to
sign the paperwork, it's a lot of stuff that's happening.
Speaker 6 (21:33):
But like Madonna say, though, man, some girls just want
to have fun.
Speaker 5 (21:36):
They feel like they've been That wasn't McDonald difference.
Speaker 4 (21:45):
From the eighties.
Speaker 5 (21:47):
But you know, sometimes you feel like you've been in
a situation for so long and you have this this
this taste of freedom so to speak, and not saying
it's the right thing to do, but you may just
want to let me get this out my system and
then let me heal, you know what I'm saying. And
so I can understand both both sides of it. If
you jump into something that rebound, but you the adult
realizes that it's a rebound, and then, like you said,
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it takes the time to heal and not jump into
that relationship or anyone shortly thereafter.
Speaker 6 (22:15):
Have you done that? Oh, go ahead, Trump.
Speaker 4 (22:18):
I think a lot of times that they don't realize
that they're they're not healed until they jump into the
next situation and in the midst of the feelings growing
or you know, the time spent, it's like, I'm not
ready to attach myself to a person right now, and
that there is no timeline on that. That could be
(22:39):
two three years down the road. You just need to
get a dog and state of themselves until until they
know for sure.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
You remember the movie Her, y'all watch that with Joaquin
Phoenix and he's like dating his phone.
Speaker 6 (22:58):
I think a preview or something.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Yeah, so I know, I know we're saw could we
Me and him have talked about it, and he was like,
this is the corniest dude ever and all this type
of stuff right because he's taking he's taking an app
on his phone basically, and like, but he was going
through a divorce, and like, uh, I think that you
know it was it was talking about how you need
to like you know, basically like about human connection and
stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
But I just think that people.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Like, like, the worst thing I think that you can
do when you're coming out of a relationship is get
into a new relationship and trying to get that new
person to fill the gaps of what you're missing from
the old person, Like, Okay, I like these things about
this person that I'm like breaking up with, but I
like this new person, but I want them to do
all the stuff that I liked about the person that
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I broke up with even though we broke up.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
That's a problem, man, That's why you got to give
you some some time.
Speaker 5 (23:49):
What happens in those situations is that you you typically
you see in the new person things that they're providing
or that they're doing that the other person wasn't doing.
When it magnifies them, making them more more higher up
the pole than what they should be because you haven't
vetted or asked any questions. It's like, like you said,
they're filling in this void, like, oh man, X was
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it doing this?
Speaker 6 (24:13):
This person is great at this? Oh shoot, hey, thiss
got to be the one.
Speaker 5 (24:17):
But you're still healing from the previous relationship, and it's
just it's an illusion so to speak, you.
Speaker 4 (24:23):
Know, right, Yeah, you have to learn how to love
yourself again, because when you're in these long relationships, you're
putting so much energy into loving the other person, and
a lot of times when it fails, it's because you
you started putting that person before yourself. So you have
to go through that process of putting yourself first in
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order to be the best for somebody else.
Speaker 5 (24:48):
I totally agree, man, teddyp say, it ain't no fifty
to fifty love, not seventy to thirty.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
Man.
Speaker 6 (24:55):
You gotta love your health too, man.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
And right right, we want to come back and uh
we're going to talk about uh uh this phenomenon called
hot wifing, which is what inspired the show because they
talked about this on Joe Budden and they didn't really
talk about hot wife and they were.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
Talking about something totally different.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
And is that like, uh, not quite man, not quite.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Uh now, but up next is uh faith Evans And uh,
let me ask you all this. I don't think we've
ever told about this. How y'all felt about her Dayton
Stevie j after he gave all them beats the big
back in the day, she had just dated she married him,
How y'all felt about that?
Speaker 4 (25:43):
That just makes me believe park.
Speaker 5 (25:50):
Hey, if they had twins, she probably had.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I don't know if I ever believed that. I don't
know if I ever believed it. I go back and
forth with the man, but like, but.
Speaker 5 (26:02):
If she like brand somebody that was within the whole
family while witn't you.
Speaker 4 (26:07):
Know dated Yeah, you know she dated Redman in like
high school.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
They're from Jersey. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think I heard
that before. Uh, that ain't bad, pretty wild. That's different though,
But that's that's different from I'm dating the dude that
like collaborated on like several records with my dead husband.
Speaker 4 (26:30):
Like cool, we don't cross bro yea, we don't know
what they're close like that.
Speaker 6 (26:36):
Now, that's besides the point.
Speaker 4 (26:38):
If there was a little seas or.
Speaker 3 (26:40):
I mean, well, then she's like needs to be like.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
Just talking to somebody that would need to be tossed out,
as the y N say right now, that she's just
for the streets.
Speaker 6 (26:50):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Back on to Good Wars Forecast Media Radio Network D.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
You're watching the q Kido's Black Trump Grand Wiz back
next week.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
But we're talking about dating in twenty twenty five. Now,
let me explain, hot wife, it was a this isn't
a new phenomenon. This is just what they're calling it, right,
But essentially what when we were growing up, it was
called something else. I don't even know if we could
say on air, But there's a genre of a certain
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type of video that you can watch, and this genre
includes your woman with somebody else and you're sitting there
watching and they call it hot wife, and because they say, like, Okay,
I got me a nice car, right, and like it's
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like it's like a status thing, right, I got this
nice car, and you my friend.
Speaker 6 (28:13):
So you're gonna play with it.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
No, you're gona're gonna you're gonna I'm gonna let you
drive my car for a little while so you can
see what it feels like and everything, and you know, oh, yeah,
my man got a real nice car. Well, if you
got a bad wife, you want your friend to try
out your wife for a little while so you can
see what it's like to beat me for a little while.
Speaker 3 (28:33):
Uh yes, yes, they don't look like us.
Speaker 6 (28:36):
Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (28:39):
The most famous example that I remember of late was
Adam twenty two letting his wife, yeah Lean of the Plug,
sleep with but she's a porn star. She's a porn
star though, and but afterwards he was talking about, yeah,
I stretched her out for you. So it was a
lot of trash talk. And now I think I think
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Lena's pregnant now.
Speaker 5 (29:01):
By Adam, Well, I would hope, so dang man, I
would never ain't nobody trying mine out, but.
Speaker 6 (29:11):
I know ty yours out. If you needed to be tested,
if you need to take.
Speaker 5 (29:17):
The merchandise, Bro, I'd be more happy to.
Speaker 6 (29:22):
No.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
What was that a bubble the love sponge and Hug
Holgan hug yeah, yeah, yeah. He was like letting Hug
Holgan smashes his old lady and stuff man and like,
and they was all good with it and something I
think that you gotta And they say that they're trying
to say that it helps your marriage.
Speaker 5 (29:40):
I mean in the sense and you know, thinking like them,
I guess you know, like you know, these guys are
older sometimes and they can't perform this particular duty with
their wife, and this is something that at least the
wife is happy everywhere else except there. So it's like, hey,
I don't mind this if it's in these parameters, you know,
to please her.
Speaker 6 (30:00):
Again.
Speaker 5 (30:00):
I'm not saying I could do it. I don't ay, Bro,
were gonna work something out like it ain't missing.
Speaker 6 (30:07):
I couldn't do it.
Speaker 5 (30:07):
But I'm just trying to think on the other side
of the fence here in the aspect of as why
someone would even consider that, and no judgment passed either,
because again, bro, do your thing.
Speaker 3 (30:18):
No, no, I'm passing the judgment.
Speaker 6 (30:19):
Brother, Nah, that.
Speaker 5 (30:20):
Can't to everybody. Happy man, Who are we to say
y'all wrong? If it works for you, you know what
I'm saying. Like te Pain and his wife have an
open marriage. It works for them, you know what I'm saying.
Some people can't know that to deal with that. Yeah,
some people just you can't see your partner with somebody
else and vice versa, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (30:39):
So, yeah, it would be hard for me to even
watch someone I hain't been with in like ten twelve
years sleep with somebody else. That still would be hard.
Speaker 3 (30:49):
But it's your friend, it's your buddy. We share everything.
Speaker 5 (30:55):
No, Yeah, I honestly couldn't just cutting bro, like even
even I don't know if it's even if somebody I
dated before, Like I don't even I definitely couldn't be
chilling and just like yeah, high five and while it's
taking place. But if this woman wanted to engage in that,
and that's that's either two adults. Who am I to
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stop them?
Speaker 6 (31:18):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (31:19):
But I couldn't like set it up or sit there
and just engage in the activity.
Speaker 6 (31:23):
That'll be like dang. But then again, I'm.
Speaker 4 (31:26):
Gonna go out. I'm gonna go outside and and cut
the grass or something. I'm not gonna just sit there
and then myself.
Speaker 6 (31:33):
Yeah yeah I can't do that part. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
But who but who's like, who's man is this? If
you're down with this?
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Like seriously, like like like how could you be down
with doing this?
Speaker 6 (31:43):
Man?
Speaker 4 (31:44):
Like like I mean my single days? Yeah, single days.
Speaker 6 (31:47):
No, No, that's not that's.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
Love to have a friend like that, but that's.
Speaker 6 (31:51):
Not but that's not your woman.
Speaker 5 (31:53):
Hey, but he like like like like music soul child. See,
I know I throw music and everything. Man, But that's
that buddy effect. You know, what are you saying about
the buddy? You know, the buddy. Don't be complaining when
he's a buddy. Ain't the buddy they came with, you know?
And this sometimes Hey, I'll call you up, we'll go out,
and again, you can't complain if they're doing something somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
That's that's totally different. What you'all talking about is totally different.
Speaker 6 (32:15):
From you talk relationships.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Is this is this is my lady, This is this
is this is this is like somebody I'm committed to, Okay,
I'm just going to like share her check it.
Speaker 4 (32:25):
But I'll bet oh.
Speaker 6 (32:28):
I know a certain individual now who.
Speaker 5 (32:33):
Sets it up in that aspect to where they're like
on some swinger stuff and they go to these parties
and do things like that in that aspect. But but
they're not technically a couple, so to speak. But they
play this role so that they can engage in these
other activities so that they don't stand out like they're
going to these parties as single people and look weird,
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you know. So it's like that person they're they're sharing
each other in that aspect and they're in a couple.
Speaker 4 (33:00):
And I got.
Speaker 5 (33:01):
Quotes on that, but but I understand what you're saying,
like it's just your You're only the one you dating
the one you married to.
Speaker 6 (33:08):
I'm sharing nah me. Personally, I can't go that route.
Speaker 4 (33:12):
And it depends on the type of person you married
and how y'all relationship was beforehand. Like if if y'all
were wilding like that and sharing, then yeah, you if
that's what you need to keep the spice up, yeah,
more power to you.
Speaker 6 (33:27):
But I still couldn't watch though I couldn't.
Speaker 5 (33:29):
I couldn't engaging that way even if that's how we met, bro,
Like I couldn't. Yeah, but again, dude, myself, I can
go do my thing too, you know.
Speaker 4 (33:38):
So yeah, I don't see myself marrying a person where
we would have that sort of freedom. Oh no, or
or me or me like I said, watching them watching
a hand picked friend come through and yeah no yeah
and plug plug my woman, you know.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
I mean, like that's just like just crazy to think about, bro,
Like I mean, like you know again, like you know,
without like I mean, like you.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
Like, what's the point of being in a relationship, dog
if you got to do.
Speaker 6 (34:06):
That again to keep it?
Speaker 5 (34:08):
Hey, listen, now she hand picked her friend and it's
just a girlfriend. Like, hey, that's cool. And I know
it's sexist in that sense, you know what I'm saying.
But you know, I just I personally, and I think
most men out there feel that way that they just
couldn't watch their woman, you know, being taken down by
another dude.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Is this a cultural thing though, because, like I said, like,
I don't think that this is something that people in
our culture would engage in.
Speaker 4 (34:37):
I don't think there's a lot of like our sisters
that would be down for that.
Speaker 5 (34:42):
They surprised because we're not in that community. I'm telling
y'all would be surprised, bro. And I ain't saying I'm
in it. I just know some people who engage in it.
But you know, I'm just you would be surprised. It's
just when you're not within the community, you just don't know,
and people tend to It's like politics, Bro, you don't
really go out talking about that unless you're somewhere where
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you're in a comfortable setting.
Speaker 4 (35:05):
Yeah, I don't. I just don't see like one of us,
like a black man just sitting there just willingly letting
his woman get plowed. This is another dude.
Speaker 6 (35:15):
It's like what you what?
Speaker 2 (35:17):
You the way that the internet dragged out him twenty
two and his wife is a porn star and they
was dragging him about it. All Right, we're gonna call
We're gonna talk about simmer dating when we come back, Simmer.
Speaker 6 (35:31):
Dating, Simmer Dating.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Back on the Good Old Boys Forcast Media Radio Network. Uh,
we're talking about dating in twenty twenty five. A. Let's
talk about simmer dating. And by simmer dating, we mean
taking it super slow and This is something that I
think that there's a lot of like women who once,
(35:58):
once they hit a certain like age range, summer dating
ain't happening because they be they be pedal to the metal. Yeah,
you know, but I think that summer dating is how
we all like like to live. I mean, it's how
we like to date. And I saw meme the other
day that said, had somebody look at all sad and
(36:22):
said h And there was a dude looking all sad
and said my face after she says it's time for
us to take it to the next step after nine
years of dating.
Speaker 5 (36:35):
Listen, hey that that if that's what they're doing now, bro, Like, honestly,
I missed a lot of power you trying to simmer when,
like you said, the pedal to the metal and I'm
trying to be the nice guy and this and that
I missed a lot of action in my youth because
of that part. So it's I think you have to
(36:55):
kind of listen to some of our previous shows when
we talked about the your Scott effect, like kind of
engage some of incorporate some of that with the while
I'm dating you and figuring out so that you're not
wasting your time or the other person's time. But you
you gotta figure out what's what and get to it
and then either part ways or continue to let it grow.
(37:18):
But that simmering, like, nah, bro, we either we either
got energy asking questions and seeing the possibility of or
we're playing. You gotta you gotta define what it is
you're doing immediately. Are we playing or are we building?
Speaker 6 (37:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (37:33):
I would much rather deal with the simmer dating than
the then so down like a heart break, then speed
up again, then heartbreak.
Speaker 3 (37:44):
You rather it be one way or the other the
whole time?
Speaker 5 (37:46):
Yeah, yeah, one you you you kind of you throw
people off guard in that sense. It's more it's like
a boxing match or even a basketball game. You don't
you don't play the whole game doing the full court press.
You know, you you got to slow it down and
spread things out. Sometimes. But when you when you throw
something at on a fastball or whatever, whatever, it's like whoa, Okay.
(38:08):
Sometimes you can get people out of character or or
doing because when it's when you're playing that simmer role,
they know they got time or they can keep this
representative up or whatever.
Speaker 6 (38:18):
Whatever.
Speaker 5 (38:18):
You you got to throw curveballs in the mix man
to kind of see who people are, especially in this
day and age, because you know, like you said, with
the internet dating and people just showcasing things that aren't
necessarily them, you got to figure out a lot of
things quickly and sift through the madness in the in
the fluffers.
Speaker 4 (38:36):
That's just my tip. It's easier, But I feel like
that's easier to figure out than when they're speeding up
and throwing down, speeding up and slowing down, Like you
don't really get a read on on this person's intentions,
whether they're just playing games or if they legitimately take
things slow and see you as the one but they're
just scared to take that next step, or or if
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they're or if they're just trying to, like like we
said in an earlier segment, you know, just do the
boy sober thing. But they know you're the right guy,
they're just not ready to give give them brothers, you think.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
Now, I'm just saying like I've had I mean, I
agree with what you're saying, but I was saying, like
it just popping in my head. Man, I remember I
remember somebody from the past popping up before and like
you know, I'm thinking this is like on some friend stuff.
But then all of a sudden asking a million and
(39:39):
one questions, and I realized I want an interview, and
I shut it down real fast, like because like, nah, bro,
like you, you're not gonna like come in here. I
ain't seen you in a while. And then like now
we all of a sudden are gonna just jump into
a relationship.
Speaker 6 (39:53):
That's that's not gonna happen.
Speaker 5 (39:54):
But I'm thinking, like again with what Trump was saying,
like when you when you do simmer it down or
if you're speeding up and slowing it down, you get
to gauge this person in regards to their response to
you slowing it down?
Speaker 6 (40:07):
Are they going to be But that's not like a
game to me.
Speaker 4 (40:11):
That's hard.
Speaker 6 (40:11):
That's what you're crazy. That's listen. That's just kind of
what you just said.
Speaker 5 (40:17):
It's like, okay, so I can see if this person
is somebody who's looking for something. If they're not looking
for something, they're going to get frustrated. But if you're
trying to build it, hold on, Okay, I think we're
going a little too fast here, But I like you,
and they get up saying, ah, you playing.
Speaker 6 (40:30):
Okay, I'm not playing a game. I just think we're
moving a little fast.
Speaker 5 (40:33):
If somebody really is into you, they're going to respect
that decision and be like, cool, all right.
Speaker 6 (40:38):
Well what is it that you want to do? How
can you know what's the next step from here? Then?
Speaker 5 (40:41):
Because I like you too, you know, so you're gauging
it in regards to their response to the slow down, like, hey,
those were a lot of emotions flooding in the beginning.
I really do like you, but let's take this a
little bit slower. They'd be like, man, you you playing
with me? And black like, yeah, you ain't you about games?
Speaker 6 (40:56):
Right there? And that's a message.
Speaker 5 (40:57):
That's what you would tell your daughter if a man
keep press to her, you know, put his foot on
the gas, like, honey, ain't the one for you? You know,
we got to look at it like that sometimes, you know.
So I think it's a it's a great uh to
have a combination of both aspects.
Speaker 6 (41:13):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (41:13):
You don't want to go too fast and you don't
want to go too slow, but you definitely want to
gauge at it and see.
Speaker 2 (41:18):
How but but but but everything, But what Trump is
saying is that you either go fast or you go slow.
Speaker 3 (41:24):
But like there is the back and forth that drives
oh crazy.
Speaker 4 (41:28):
And I think that's a control play. I think when
when people do stuff like that, it's because they enjoy
making the person there with an emotional wreck, because you
can't you can't get get a gauge on how this
relationship is going, because one week it could be oh,
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we're in love and you know, everything is so beautiful,
and then the next week is chaotic, Like some people
get a high off of, you know, the chaotic nature
of a relationship.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
So let me ask you this.
Speaker 5 (42:03):
But it's like some people you can't win for losing,
and usually those people are women.
Speaker 6 (42:08):
Like even if you go to if you go slow,
take your.
Speaker 5 (42:12):
Time, and then down the road, you know, you feel
like ghosting them now because you like, you feel like
you wasted their time and you don't want to have
this conversation because you already know, well, we donet spend
together for three months at blasi blind six months and
this and that, and it's like you took your time
instead of trying to speed it up a little bit.
Speaker 6 (42:29):
See how they react to you and things of that nature.
Speaker 5 (42:32):
So and if you go too fast and then you
get it, it's like you can't win for losing.
Speaker 6 (42:36):
Sometimes. That's why I like the mix of it all.
Speaker 5 (42:38):
Let me get a gauge of how you respond to
certain scenarios and situations. That's just what I've learned in
my old age.
Speaker 4 (42:46):
But that's why I'm fine with ghosting, because you're going
to certain speed and then you just come to a
screeching hole and there's there's an answer there. The back
and forth up and down. Yeah, you're nauseous.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
You forget all that, bro, But I also like you.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
I prefer simmer dating to anything because you're not gonna
come in here and have that like be going ninety
miles per hour then grabbed me, had hopped me in
the car with you while you're driving ninety Like.
Speaker 6 (43:17):
I ain't doing that, bro.
Speaker 5 (43:18):
You would never do like a speed dating thing to
get to know somebody, to see what it is like
boom boom, Like that's that's asking a lot of in a.
Speaker 6 (43:27):
Short time frame. I don't like that. I can't.
Speaker 2 (43:30):
I can't go that fast, bro, because life don't move
that fast. I'm a country boy.
Speaker 6 (43:35):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (43:37):
Grew up on New York Beats Day, New York Beats
is what I.
Speaker 6 (43:43):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
We're gonna come back and we're gonna talk about whether
or not it is possible to date in twenty twenty
five and find a good person. For the full length
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We're talking about dating in twenty twenty five? Is it
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even possible to find somebody that is a good person
in today's climate of dating?
Speaker 4 (44:17):
There's still good people. There's still good people out here.
Speaker 6 (44:20):
Where Oh my bad? Wait yeah now.
Speaker 2 (44:28):
Now, I just think that, like the world is just
such a freaking horrible place now and and and there's
nothing like social media exposed so much of the bad
about humans, like in the last like ten fifteen years,
man like like like, but you learn a lot and
you can eliminate a lot of people because of social media,
like all the like you know, like for me, man like,
(44:50):
I don't I don't. I prefer like people that are
like me, man like reserved, Like I don't have to
like be outside on the crib to have a good
time you know what I'm saying. Or if I outside
of the crib to have a good time, I could
be in someplace calm, but I can also turn it
up real quick and and and and you know, be
over here and stuff.
Speaker 3 (45:07):
Man, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Like, but but I just like I don't like all
that like nonsense and stuff that I think that people
have to put up with in today's world.
Speaker 6 (45:15):
Man.
Speaker 2 (45:16):
And like I think it's very difficult to find somebody,
and I in particular people in our age range, because
the older you are, the more like like I never
really understood this when I was growing up.
Speaker 3 (45:28):
It's like, uh, you know, stuck in your ways phrase.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
But I get it now because you know, like when
you when you meet somebody and you're like twenty years old,
twenty five years old, you're still growing and developing who
it is that you are and stuff, and you can
kind of grow and develop together. It's kind of hard
to get people to see the world the way that
you see it once you get to be for a plus, like,
it's really really hard to do that man. And and
(45:53):
I think that like you got to like be real
careful out here because like people will like trick you
to have you thinking that they are nice person where
really they are the devil and they were a former
porn star and then they chop your head off because
they got married to your son after you got divorced
from them.
Speaker 6 (46:10):
But but again, as you nicky fairchild.
Speaker 3 (46:15):
Yeah, but as you're get.
Speaker 5 (46:17):
Older, though, man, you're starting to look at look at
the same things. Like you might be stuck in your ways,
but you're also you understand you more so as an adult,
and then you could, Yes, people can trick you, but
you're you're you're able to see game a little bit better.
If you've been wising up over the years, you're able
to see the game. You're able to to say, Okay,
(46:39):
I'm not gonna I feel your energy and you know,
and within that speed dating or within that process of things,
you you you kind of looking for those flags early
on and everybody's not the same. But as you get older,
you know what kind of energy you can be around.
You know what you're able to withstand and and just
within your own boundaries of things. So it's i I
(47:00):
think it's harder because a lot of us are reserved
and just want to I'm going to I'm about to
do my nine to five, go shot for this food
at the house, go take care of stuff at the house.
Speaker 6 (47:10):
And we're just kind of on the straight line.
Speaker 5 (47:11):
We're not at the clubs, we're not hanging out as
much as we did when we were in our twenties
and whatnot, but we do. A lot of us still
enjoy having a good time. So it's just a matter
of getting out and sensing that energy early man, And
it's possible. I believe it's still some good people out
there in that aspect, you know, but a lot, like
you said, they've been tainted by this Internet and social
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media and it's just a lot of craziness's going on now.
Speaker 6 (47:36):
But it's rare hard there.
Speaker 4 (47:40):
I mean, I think there's plenty of good people out there.
The problem is finding someone that you align with. That's
what's difficult. Someone that you agree with spiritually, financially, emotionally,
and then being on the same wavelength as far as timing,
(48:01):
Like timing is also an issue, like you may want
want certain things right now that another person's like two
years behind you on like can you wait those two
years for this person to catch up?
Speaker 1 (48:14):
Or or.
Speaker 4 (48:17):
Maybe you'll cross paths down the road and it'll be
the right time. So I mean, there's good people, it's
just whether you meet them when the time is right.
Speaker 1 (48:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (48:27):
Well, I think that most important.
Speaker 2 (48:29):
Thing for us is to be patient and wait for
the right person, man, Like, don't try to force us
a square peg into a round hole. Like if it's
not going in the direction that you think it should
be going in, then leave it and then find something else, man.
But like, you should be patient.
Speaker 6 (48:47):
That's the only thing that the only.
Speaker 2 (48:49):
Advice that I give to anybody about like trying to
date in twenty twenty five is patience, man, because.
Speaker 6 (48:55):
You go to need it.
Speaker 4 (48:57):
We'll sit on the radio next week and we're out
this funky thing.
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
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South Carolina and Charlotte, North Carolina metropolitan area.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
We got a good old boys.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
On the Forecast Media Radio Network with Thae, Mario, Washington.
Speaker 4 (00:28):
Kittles, Black Trump Grand Wiz. Now he took all of
the base out of his.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Uh whiz is out this week man, like uh like,
I had attend to some family stuff today and and
and you know, this is one of the shows that
he don't have a whole lot to say on anyway.
But but you, as you pointed out before we turned
the mic zone, he probably would have had the most to.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Say the.
Speaker 5 (00:58):
Incidentally, I think he maybe on one lying to it.
Speaker 6 (01:05):
You had to take that. Yes, today have the opportunity.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
Yeah, the band's broke down.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
That's what any data ends and why that's possible.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
So yeah, nah, man, but we were talking about dating
twenty twenty five a day. But first, uh, it's our
our black duty to tell you if you have not
seen it yet, go see the terrific Ryan Coogler directed
(01:36):
and Michael B.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Jordan acted centers.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
It made forty five million dollars in weekend one man,
and people don't go to the movies like that no more.
But that tells you, like, you know that It's Got
legs is going to be in the theater for a while,
hopefully still there by the time you're hearing this episode.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
But go see it. I know that y'all ain't seen
it yet, but y'all planning on it.
Speaker 6 (01:59):
Yeah, most definitely.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Yeah, you don't. You don't prop up a movie too often.
Speaker 6 (02:04):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Yeah, I don't, But yeah, it's it's I mean, I'm
a big I'm a big Coogler fan. And despite what
people think, I like everything that Michael B. Jordan has
been in. I just don't think that Michael B. Jordan
is that great of an actor. I say that publicly,
but I watch everything that he's in. We saw we
saw that in Creed three. Jonathan Major's act circles around
(02:26):
that boy in that movie because he's a better act.
Speaker 6 (02:30):
Like we were just speaking on that.
Speaker 5 (02:31):
Also, like I believe he is Slash was and maybe
come again our new Denzel because he makes all every
role he's in believable.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Well well, well, hold on, hold on We Gotta, We Gotta,
we Gotta, because Denzel is good looking and he don't
He definitely don't have that going for him.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
I mean, as they say, the beauty is in the
eye of the beholder, he'd be holding somebody sometimes.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
So but I'll say, but I'll say some some some
actors they're easy to play off of, you know, like
as a oil. And maybe that's Michael B. Jordan's star appeal,
where whoever he's working with makes them better just because
(03:18):
he's on the screen, not necessarily because he's the most
talented in a room.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
True, true, true, true, But yeah, man, so h. But
we're getting into dating again in twenty twenty five today.
And the reason why this this show popped up is
because we talked a lot of trash about like the
Joe Budden podcast last week. By the way, I haven't
clicked on it yet, but there's a there's a thumbnail
on YouTube and a picture of Ish and it says
(03:45):
that the title is something like, uh, Katy Perry on
the space thing has has has created an argument about
the flat Earth. And I said, here we go again.
This idiot is about to say something, so I got
I gotta click on it because I know that he's
an idiot, and I want to like talk about how
much of an idiot he is.
Speaker 6 (04:06):
So but they were talking about.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
This subject, and they were talking about one of the
things that we're going to talk about in our number two.
But boy, I tell you, if you got a date
in twenty twenty five, I feel sorry for you.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
Look, hey, also just just speaking on dating and dates
and whatnot. This this year has been a crazy one
in the sense of Easter fell on four to twenty
this year, so this was truly the day that.
Speaker 6 (04:35):
The Lord rose again. He rolled and rose again. That
was just I don't know if that'll ever happened again.
Speaker 5 (04:41):
So all my heads out there, man, you know, like
that was just crazy that Easter fell on four to twenty.
And I didn't even realize it til somebody pointed it
out to me.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
But yeah, how do you celebrate? How do you celebrate
for twenty Is it like just you by yourself or
you get get a bunch.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Of the.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
I mean, and I still hang out with the folks,
Like I said, even when I was taking my breaks
back in the day. Man, you know, I could be
around it and not in partake or whatever. But you know, shoot,
cats just have a little cook out here and there,
and you know it'd be sessions and people roll them
up to the face or whatever, and you know, just
kind of cool and eating edibles and you might have
other things going on, but it's just a just a
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day of partaking, man and enjoying the company.
Speaker 6 (05:22):
Like like it's.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Why though, like I've never understood it. Like my room
at South Carolina, my room was for twenty all right,
so when everybody, when somebody had to come to my
room and you have to sign them in, like this
was all male dorm and all this stuff, so like
you had to sign in, and dude at the front desk,
(05:44):
like everybody would laugh whenever I said.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
For twenty I ain't what that meant.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
And I was around like weed and stuff like a lot,
Like where did that even come from?
Speaker 6 (05:54):
Like I don't get it.
Speaker 5 (05:56):
I looked it up at one point, but it's something
that never really stuck with me. I don't know how
it came this celebrated thing or how it symbolizes marijuana
or anything, but it's just it's just the national holiday, man,
when it's recognized.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
It's Valentine's Day for the weed smokers.
Speaker 6 (06:13):
It really is so like yeah, like you bring a.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Nice of the bag over to the to the friends
crib and somebody be like, yo, son, I got some
of this, So I got some of that.
Speaker 6 (06:23):
That's a date for you. That's dating right there.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
Like I'd rather have those dates than try to date
some females out here in this day and age.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
Man, It's it's crazy.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
I guess so bad. But you know, I don't know, man,
It's just always a strange to me.
Speaker 6 (06:37):
Strange man.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
And if you don't know, then then that means it
really don't mean nothing. If you don't know what it.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
Really not necessarily I mean, at the end of the day, bro,
I just enjoy partaking. I ain't sit here saying I'm
a you know, just a connoiseur in the sense of
knowing all about it or whatever.
Speaker 6 (06:54):
It's just I learned about it in college. Like in
high school, I.
Speaker 5 (06:57):
Was, you know, doing the same thing, and I didn't
really know anything about four twenty until I got in college.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Yeah, I got you, man, what was that?
Speaker 4 (07:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
But today we're talking about dating in twenty twenty five.
We'll tell you how you navigate through this. Because I
think it's quite difficult for those of us that have
to do it in twenty twenty five. And I mean
you have to, but in some instances you don't have to.
You can just chill and not do anything, and we
(07:34):
will tell you how to do that as well. Man
back on a Little Boys Forecast Media Radio Network, we're
talking about dating in twenty twenty five. Have you ever
been in a situation and you calling and you're talking
regularly and stuff, right, and then all of a sudden
(07:54):
they stop answering the phone or they don't hit you back,
and I guess a few years ago they started calling
it ghosting, right, Has that ever happened to you?
Speaker 4 (08:05):
I was gonna say that's dating in like two thousand
and nineteen, twenty eighteen, right there, that's kind of what
it became popular. I experienced it multiple times when, like
you think everything is just flowing right, but because of
online dating, people don't have enough of a connection with
you and they're just they'll just quickly move on and
(08:27):
delete your number and never respond, and you sitting there
thinking everything is all good.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 5 (08:34):
Don't know if I've ever experienced I know I've done
it before, but this is This is, as my son
pointed out one time as BC before cell phones, right,
I just again, you just it's a connection thing, and
it's like, yo, I'm just if I'm not feeling it,
or if I know I'm out here just playing around,
I'm not.
Speaker 6 (08:54):
I'm not going to follow up with you.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
If A you're wanting more and there's your closure, like
you're not, I don't see me getting what I need
out of you, So boom, Why.
Speaker 6 (09:03):
Continue with it?
Speaker 5 (09:04):
Why try to quote unquote hurt your feelings when you just, hey,
I lost contact, you bump into them at the grocery
store or somewhere at the football game somewhere else, and
you with somebody else in boom, They got their closure
right there?
Speaker 6 (09:15):
But why why? Why?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Like?
Speaker 3 (09:17):
Why why why can't you?
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Uh like, why is it so hard to like be
an adult and say, look, this ain't going in the
direction that I thought it would go in.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
So why is it so hard to do that?
Speaker 4 (09:30):
We don't like to hurt people? And now I think
the signals are crossed. I think I think the communication
is there. Sometimes people don't can't accept the rejection and
they just continue to no, no, no, no, They continue to
check on you and check on you.
Speaker 5 (09:48):
Yeah, yeah, wait you agree with that, yeah, because you
try to avoid that part. It's like, okay, you you
clearly see as an adult, if we're in adult stages
here and you see that, you know, connecting with this person,
then okay. If this person stops calling you or you
trying to reach out to them and you're not getting
a call back, then they're clearly not interested.
Speaker 6 (10:08):
So why even dwell on it?
Speaker 5 (10:10):
I don't like you say, again, a lot of people
are gonna love you, a lot of people are gonna
hate you. Gotta choose man and sift through it. You
can't sit there and dwell on one. Oh, that's the
one that got away. There's some crazy people out there
to believe in that strongly. You know who I'm talking
about too. It's some people like, really, yo, that's the
one that got away, and this and that. You gotta
gotta move on. And sometimes as adults, you just don't
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want to be be put in that situation to where
you got to have that quote unquote conversation and it's
just that riff for that, that back and forth.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
But is that the adult thing to do not to
not have the conversation because like, I'm a big boy man,
tell me that you that not interested no more.
Speaker 6 (10:48):
I'm okay tell.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
Me, and I'm okay if you don't answer the phone
no more, because I'm not gonna dwell on it. I'm
not gonna see it. Like, man, why she ain't answering
the phone. I'm be like, you can't whatever.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
You can't have that conversation with her body. I mean,
if you say there's a mental health crisis here in America,
I don't. You can't. You can't be honest and straightforward
with some people. There's people you just have to block
their number and go into hiding and hope they find
love somewhere else.
Speaker 5 (11:16):
And that's grand Wiz would say, and interjecting in this
particular moment, because women are stupid.
Speaker 6 (11:21):
You can't go into that.
Speaker 5 (11:24):
You know his spirit is still here with us right now.
You had that conversation, So.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Let me rephrase the question. Then, have you done it? Yes, yes,
you've got to somebody.
Speaker 6 (11:35):
Yes, yes, really.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
Yes, it's really not hard. Like I said, if you don't,
if you if you know that, the odds are you're
not going to see this person, see them in person,
or it takes a lot of effort to see them
in person. Then then yeah, and.
Speaker 6 (11:51):
That's probably where it's where from.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
That's where it rooted it from, because it probably wasn't hard,
and that's where it all rooted from, right there. So
you just move move on, yo, like you ain't getting
the job done or whatever.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
So listen, I've never I've never done that.
Speaker 6 (12:06):
To somebody, and shut up.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
But Mario, I never ghost to somebody though.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
No, But I'm saying like, if you're just getting to
know somebody, yes, it's much easier to do that. If
you're in a relationship been dating for a while now,
you can't do that.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
But even even with the girl that y'all like laugh
at me about talking to that was in the the
the LD class, I didn't ghost her. I called her
and told her, like, this ain't working.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
Your mama made you.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yeah, I did this at school because she was out
sick and I went to the pay for at school.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Oh god, I thought you said your mom made you
call her.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
No no, no, no, no, no no no. My mom used
to kind of stay out of that type of stuff.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
Man.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
She just she she she she would fuss at me
when she knew like it would be like multiple girls
calling at the same time, and somef of that. She
would fuss about that, but she ain't never rat it
on me or nothing like that.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
Man, mom, dude, just.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
Look it out now, my mom do my dirty work.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Yeah no, no, no, no, that's that. That's I remember that.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
And that's Laane because you could have called that young
lady and tell her, Look, this isn't going in the
direction that I would like for it to go in.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
So this isn't working for me. It's not it's not
you as me.
Speaker 6 (13:19):
Hey, listen.
Speaker 5 (13:20):
I had my mom go pick up my class ring
from the girl house one time because I, oh, no,
I ain't going over there.
Speaker 6 (13:26):
I know it. It's about to head too. I can't.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
I'll say this, shout shout to my man Bunny.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Man Bunny got in trouble with my mom because, like
I was, I was the guy that everybody like you
called my house and I'm gonna I'm gonna tell the
lie and and and uh some girl called and it
was like two o'clock in the morning. I was not
at home, and my mom answer the phone and and
this woman was like she was older and she didn't
(13:53):
know how young we were. And uh, she she thought
it was my crib, Like, no, it's my mom's crib.
So her my mom got into it a little bit,
and then my mom fussed that bunny.
Speaker 3 (14:04):
Then they said she saw him.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
But dude, not everyone's cut out to be a heartbreaker.
Speaker 6 (14:11):
You know I'm not. You're not.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
You're not breaking the heart man, You're being an adult man,
Like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (14:16):
Sometimes you got to avoid certain situations like Trump was saying,
like everybody want to be a child that ain't a child, man, Like,
if I know this off that part, if she going
to become a stalker or something, let me cut tithes now.
Speaker 6 (14:29):
Hopefully she gets this picture and hopefully I don't bump
into her nowhere.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Maybe she becomes a stalker because you damn did this.
Speaker 4 (14:37):
Hey man, I've seen enough episodes of snapped traction to
where I don't want to be be the next episode.
Speaker 6 (14:46):
What you mean you don't think this is working out? Now?
Speaker 5 (14:52):
You're sitting there taking a stupid mugshot picture because you
was trying to defend yourself in the lawd on work
in your favor, So.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Don't listen, don't I don't know, I just I vehemently
disagree with doing it. I don't know why it became
a thing. You guys weren't doing this in the nineteen hundreds.
Speaker 5 (15:17):
I was. I was going up to the library and stuff,
so you couldn't make a scene, you know.
Speaker 6 (15:21):
I was in the library upstairs.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
Oh, I just wanted to let you know.
Speaker 6 (15:25):
Yeah, this is sober.
Speaker 5 (15:29):
I found somebody else and I'm gonna sneak out up
this doors here.
Speaker 6 (15:33):
You can hang out as long as you like.
Speaker 4 (15:37):
Yeah, So how did how did you cut cut those
people off? Then? What did you say? Since you're the
expert action, I just.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Told you I just would call him and tell him like,
look like, I don't I don't think that this is
this is going in the right direction. But the ultimate thing, now,
I did, I did, I did. I did go out
like I stuck a couple of times now. But by
going out by a sucker meanings that I make them
not like me as much.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
I've done that before.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
Don't you don't you think that's worse.
Speaker 6 (16:04):
Probably is worse.
Speaker 7 (16:06):
I got called out years bro, Like, it's not the end.
So I got I got called out by the years later. Uh,
because we we we we became friends and stuff, man
and like uh, and she.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
She she wanted to know why I did what I did,
and I told her, I was like you you were
like head over heels for me. I met somebody else
and I didn't know how to break it to you.
So I just like started turning into a butt head
and like you know what I'm saying. And and then
you got the hint and you didn't like me no more.
And she was like, I do be sucker move though,
(16:41):
that's that's a little bit of a sucker move.
Speaker 6 (16:43):
End of the day. Listen, you moved on, and it's
closure for her.
Speaker 5 (16:46):
She she believes that you became the butthole and in
mission accomplished.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
So she but she said that she knew that I
was like something else was wrong because she said, my
behavior change so much. She knew that something wasn't right,
but it still it did the job.
Speaker 5 (17:05):
That part, that part is this what you got the picture. Yeah,
I'm on another date. This is what I'm doing now.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
That's that's heartbreaking right there.
Speaker 4 (17:18):
Or to see see you with somebody else.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
To like, well, well she she broke old heart. She
did by like bye bye, by coming to see it.
Speaker 6 (17:27):
Yeah, and furthermore, we was already broken up too. That's
why I was on the date. I wasn't that much
of an a hole, bro, like for real.
Speaker 4 (17:36):
Because with her, because sometimes like you've already done the
job of breaking up with them, but they still feel
like there's a chance and you have to see it
in order to believe it. So I think that was
the case there, Like she had to she had to
see that there was somebody else, and then more questions
are going to follow with that, like how long has
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this been going on?
Speaker 6 (17:58):
That part?
Speaker 4 (17:59):
Are you seen both of us together? So ghosting saved
you a lot of trouble, a lot to explain.
Speaker 5 (18:05):
Or screaming stranger danger to get her away from you
so you can get away.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I still wish that we had a camera on that
would be yeah, bro, and we needed we needed to
see that in real life, man, bro was.
Speaker 6 (18:19):
I was feeling like Eddie kinge Jr. Bro. I was few.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Uh, We're going to come back and we're going to
talk about this new phenomenon called boy sober back on
the Little Boys Forecast Media Radio Network talking about dating
in twenty twenty five. Uh Q, I told you I
wanted to see your general reaction. Trump did, Juice did
you see the like what these things were, the ones
(18:49):
that we that you probably didn't know.
Speaker 4 (18:51):
Yeah, I scammed through it. Okay, turn on the camera,
all right.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
So uh so I'll explain what boy sober means.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
And I guess you could do it either either or
but the boys sober it's when you decide, for however long,
not to date anybody. I'm not talking to nobody. I'm
not dating nobody. I'm just done for like a year.
I think that we've all done that instidy.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
No, no, no, no, I'm not going on a date. I'm
not talking to you.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
I'm doing none of that for at least and you
set there on time, you set your own time frame
for it.
Speaker 6 (19:31):
But I know people with none.
Speaker 4 (19:32):
Of that that's highly responsible.
Speaker 3 (19:34):
I think so too.
Speaker 6 (19:36):
I think that so like, are you going through a
drought or you just making.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
The no no no, no, no no no no, you're talking
about it being on an involuntary situation. I'm talking about
you make a conscious effort to say I'm not dating anybody.
I'm going to like date myself.
Speaker 5 (19:51):
Include the dating everything every not not doing nothing, not
even not even communicating.
Speaker 6 (19:58):
Wow, never in my life.
Speaker 5 (20:05):
But highly respectable though and honestly, it's been a study
of something that was done. Like when you're in a relationship.
So let's say, for example, you you've been dating someone
for like eight years, they say that you should give
yourself at least you know, three and a half to
four years of that time. Yet you say, we call
(20:26):
it boy sober time to heal, learn what you've learned
from that respective relationship, and then move forward. If you've
been in related they say that's what you should give
yourself or allow yourself at least half the time that
you didn't have relationship.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Totally agree with that, Like I think that.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
And it's also like people who go through a divorce,
Like there was this this former radio hole she passed
away fro years ago, but uh, doctor Joy Brown, she's
doing radio show.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
And her rule was the.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
One year rule, meaning that one year after the divorce
is final. You shouldn't be eating anybody until until a
year has passed after the divorce is final, not after
you broke up, after the divorce is final, because you
got to like you gotta let that stuff wash out
some And I know a lot of people who get
divorced they do not do.
Speaker 5 (21:14):
That far because because the divorce took place made before
the ink dried, before they signed the papers, they was
already process.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
So right, But but that's what I'm saying, like, like
it should be after the ink drive a year after that,
because while you're going through the process of getting to
sign the paperwork, it's a lot of stuff that's happening.
Speaker 6 (21:33):
But like Madonna say, though, man, some girls just want
to have fun.
Speaker 5 (21:36):
They feel like they've been That wasn't McDonald difference.
Speaker 4 (21:45):
From the eighties.
Speaker 5 (21:47):
But you know, sometimes you feel like you've been in
a situation for so long and you have this this
this taste of freedom so to speak, and not saying
it's the right thing to do, but you may just
want to let me get this out my system and
then let me heal, you know what I'm saying. And
so I can understand both both sides of it. If
you jump into something that rebound, but you the adult
realizes that it's a rebound, and then, like you said,
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it takes the time to heal and not jump into
that relationship or anyone shortly thereafter.
Speaker 6 (22:15):
Have you done that? Oh, go ahead, Trump.
Speaker 4 (22:18):
I think a lot of times that they don't realize
that they're they're not healed until they jump into the
next situation and in the midst of the feelings growing
or you know, the time spent, it's like, I'm not
ready to attach myself to a person right now, and
that there is no timeline on that. That could be
(22:39):
two three years down the road. You just need to
get a dog and state of themselves until until they
know for sure.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
You remember the movie Her, y'all watch that with Joaquin
Phoenix and he's like dating his phone.
Speaker 6 (22:58):
I think a preview or something.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Yeah, so I know, I know we're saw could we
Me and him have talked about it, and he was like,
this is the corniest dude ever and all this type
of stuff right because he's taking he's taking an app
on his phone basically, and like, but he was going
through a divorce, and like, uh, I think that you
know it was it was talking about how you need
to like you know, basically like about human connection and
stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
But I just think that people.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Like, like, the worst thing I think that you can
do when you're coming out of a relationship is get
into a new relationship and trying to get that new
person to fill the gaps of what you're missing from
the old person, Like, Okay, I like these things about
this person that I'm like breaking up with, but I
like this new person, but I want them to do
all the stuff that I liked about the person that
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I broke up with even though we broke up.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
That's a problem, man, That's why you got to give
you some some time.
Speaker 5 (23:49):
What happens in those situations is that you you typically
you see in the new person things that they're providing
or that they're doing that the other person wasn't doing.
When it magnifies them, making them more more higher up
the pole than what they should be because you haven't
vetted or asked any questions. It's like, like you said,
they're filling in this void, like, oh man, X was
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it doing this?
Speaker 6 (24:13):
This person is great at this? Oh shoot, hey, thiss
got to be the one.
Speaker 5 (24:17):
But you're still healing from the previous relationship, and it's
just it's an illusion so to speak, you.
Speaker 4 (24:23):
Know, right, Yeah, you have to learn how to love
yourself again, because when you're in these long relationships, you're
putting so much energy into loving the other person, and
a lot of times when it fails, it's because you
you started putting that person before yourself. So you have
to go through that process of putting yourself first in
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order to be the best for somebody else.
Speaker 5 (24:48):
I totally agree, man, teddyp say, it ain't no fifty
to fifty love, not seventy to thirty.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
Man.
Speaker 6 (24:55):
You gotta love your health too, man.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
And right right, we want to come back and uh
we're going to talk about uh uh this phenomenon called
hot wifing, which is what inspired the show because they
talked about this on Joe Budden and they didn't really
talk about hot wife and they were.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
Talking about something totally different.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
And is that like, uh, not quite man, not quite.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Uh now, but up next is uh faith Evans And uh,
let me ask you all this. I don't think we've
ever told about this. How y'all felt about her Dayton
Stevie j after he gave all them beats the big
back in the day, she had just dated she married him,
How y'all felt about that?
Speaker 4 (25:43):
That just makes me believe park.
Speaker 5 (25:50):
Hey, if they had twins, she probably had.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I don't know if I ever believed that. I don't
know if I ever believed it. I go back and
forth with the man, but like, but.
Speaker 5 (26:02):
If she like brand somebody that was within the whole
family while witn't you.
Speaker 4 (26:07):
Know dated Yeah, you know she dated Redman in like
high school.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
They're from Jersey. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think I heard
that before. Uh, that ain't bad, pretty wild. That's different though,
But that's that's different from I'm dating the dude that
like collaborated on like several records with my dead husband.
Speaker 4 (26:30):
Like cool, we don't cross bro yea, we don't know
what they're close like that.
Speaker 6 (26:36):
Now, that's besides the point.
Speaker 4 (26:38):
If there was a little seas or.
Speaker 3 (26:40):
I mean, well, then she's like needs to be like.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
Just talking to somebody that would need to be tossed out,
as the y N say right now, that she's just
for the streets.
Speaker 6 (26:50):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Back on to Good Wars Forecast Media Radio Network D.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
You're watching the q Kido's Black Trump Grand Wiz back
next week.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
But we're talking about dating in twenty twenty five. Now,
let me explain, hot wife, it was a this isn't
a new phenomenon. This is just what they're calling it, right,
But essentially what when we were growing up, it was
called something else. I don't even know if we could
say on air, But there's a genre of a certain
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type of video that you can watch, and this genre
includes your woman with somebody else and you're sitting there
watching and they call it hot wife, and because they say, like, Okay,
I got me a nice car, right, and like it's
(28:08):
like it's like a status thing, right, I got this
nice car, and you my friend.
Speaker 6 (28:13):
So you're gonna play with it.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
No, you're gona're gonna you're gonna I'm gonna let you
drive my car for a little while so you can
see what it feels like and everything, and you know, oh, yeah,
my man got a real nice car. Well, if you
got a bad wife, you want your friend to try
out your wife for a little while so you can
see what it's like to beat me for a little while.
Speaker 3 (28:33):
Uh yes, yes, they don't look like us.
Speaker 6 (28:36):
Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (28:39):
The most famous example that I remember of late was
Adam twenty two letting his wife, yeah Lean of the Plug,
sleep with but she's a porn star. She's a porn
star though, and but afterwards he was talking about, yeah,
I stretched her out for you. So it was a
lot of trash talk. And now I think I think
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Lena's pregnant now.
Speaker 5 (29:01):
By Adam, Well, I would hope, so dang man, I
would never ain't nobody trying mine out, but.
Speaker 6 (29:11):
I know ty yours out. If you needed to be tested,
if you need to take.
Speaker 5 (29:17):
The merchandise, Bro, I'd be more happy to.
Speaker 6 (29:22):
No.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
What was that a bubble the love sponge and Hug
Holgan hug yeah, yeah, yeah. He was like letting Hug
Holgan smashes his old lady and stuff man and like,
and they was all good with it and something I
think that you gotta And they say that they're trying
to say that it helps your marriage.
Speaker 5 (29:40):
I mean in the sense and you know, thinking like them,
I guess you know, like you know, these guys are
older sometimes and they can't perform this particular duty with
their wife, and this is something that at least the
wife is happy everywhere else except there. So it's like, hey,
I don't mind this if it's in these parameters, you know,
to please her.
Speaker 6 (30:00):
Again.
Speaker 5 (30:00):
I'm not saying I could do it. I don't ay, Bro,
were gonna work something out like it ain't missing.
Speaker 6 (30:07):
I couldn't do it.
Speaker 5 (30:07):
But I'm just trying to think on the other side
of the fence here in the aspect of as why
someone would even consider that, and no judgment passed either,
because again, bro, do your thing.
Speaker 3 (30:18):
No, no, I'm passing the judgment.
Speaker 6 (30:19):
Brother, Nah, that.
Speaker 5 (30:20):
Can't to everybody. Happy man, Who are we to say
y'all wrong? If it works for you, you know what
I'm saying. Like te Pain and his wife have an
open marriage. It works for them, you know what I'm saying.
Some people can't know that to deal with that. Yeah,
some people just you can't see your partner with somebody
else and vice versa, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (30:39):
So, yeah, it would be hard for me to even
watch someone I hain't been with in like ten twelve
years sleep with somebody else. That still would be hard.
Speaker 3 (30:49):
But it's your friend, it's your buddy. We share everything.
Speaker 5 (30:55):
No, Yeah, I honestly couldn't just cutting bro, like even
even I don't know if it's even if somebody I
dated before, Like I don't even I definitely couldn't be
chilling and just like yeah, high five and while it's
taking place. But if this woman wanted to engage in that,
and that's that's either two adults. Who am I to
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stop them?
Speaker 6 (31:18):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (31:19):
But I couldn't like set it up or sit there
and just engage in the activity.
Speaker 6 (31:23):
That'll be like dang. But then again, I'm.
Speaker 4 (31:26):
Gonna go out. I'm gonna go outside and and cut
the grass or something. I'm not gonna just sit there
and then myself.
Speaker 6 (31:33):
Yeah yeah I can't do that part. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
But who but who's like, who's man is this? If
you're down with this?
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Like seriously, like like like how could you be down
with doing this?
Speaker 6 (31:43):
Man?
Speaker 4 (31:44):
Like like I mean my single days? Yeah, single days.
Speaker 6 (31:47):
No, No, that's not that's.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
Love to have a friend like that, but that's.
Speaker 6 (31:51):
Not but that's not your woman.
Speaker 5 (31:53):
Hey, but he like like like like music soul child. See,
I know I throw music and everything. Man, But that's
that buddy effect. You know, what are you saying about
the buddy? You know, the buddy. Don't be complaining when
he's a buddy. Ain't the buddy they came with, you know?
And this sometimes Hey, I'll call you up, we'll go out,
and again, you can't complain if they're doing something somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
That's that's totally different. What you'all talking about is totally different.
Speaker 6 (32:15):
From you talk relationships.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Is this is this is my lady, This is this
is this is this is like somebody I'm committed to, Okay,
I'm just going to like share her check it.
Speaker 4 (32:25):
But I'll bet oh.
Speaker 6 (32:28):
I know a certain individual now who.
Speaker 5 (32:33):
Sets it up in that aspect to where they're like
on some swinger stuff and they go to these parties
and do things like that in that aspect. But but
they're not technically a couple, so to speak. But they
play this role so that they can engage in these
other activities so that they don't stand out like they're
going to these parties as single people and look weird,
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you know. So it's like that person they're they're sharing
each other in that aspect and they're in a couple.
Speaker 4 (33:00):
And I got.
Speaker 5 (33:01):
Quotes on that, but but I understand what you're saying,
like it's just your You're only the one you dating
the one you married to.
Speaker 6 (33:08):
I'm sharing nah me. Personally, I can't go that route.
Speaker 4 (33:12):
And it depends on the type of person you married
and how y'all relationship was beforehand. Like if if y'all
were wilding like that and sharing, then yeah, you if
that's what you need to keep the spice up, yeah,
more power to you.
Speaker 6 (33:27):
But I still couldn't watch though I couldn't.
Speaker 5 (33:29):
I couldn't engaging that way even if that's how we met, bro,
Like I couldn't. Yeah, but again, dude, myself, I can
go do my thing too, you know.
Speaker 4 (33:38):
So yeah, I don't see myself marrying a person where
we would have that sort of freedom. Oh no, or
or me or me like I said, watching them watching
a hand picked friend come through and yeah no yeah
and plug plug my woman, you know.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
I mean, like that's just like just crazy to think about, bro,
Like I mean, like you know again, like you know,
without like I mean, like you.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
Like, what's the point of being in a relationship, dog
if you got to do.
Speaker 6 (34:06):
That again to keep it?
Speaker 5 (34:08):
Hey, listen, now she hand picked her friend and it's
just a girlfriend. Like, hey, that's cool. And I know
it's sexist in that sense, you know what I'm saying.
But you know, I just I personally, and I think
most men out there feel that way that they just
couldn't watch their woman, you know, being taken down by
another dude.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Is this a cultural thing though, because, like I said, like,
I don't think that this is something that people in
our culture would engage in.
Speaker 4 (34:37):
I don't think there's a lot of like our sisters
that would be down for that.
Speaker 5 (34:42):
They surprised because we're not in that community. I'm telling
y'all would be surprised, bro. And I ain't saying I'm
in it. I just know some people who engage in it.
But you know, I'm just you would be surprised. It's
just when you're not within the community, you just don't know,
and people tend to It's like politics, Bro, you don't
really go out talking about that unless you're somewhere where
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you're in a comfortable setting.
Speaker 4 (35:05):
Yeah, I don't. I just don't see like one of us,
like a black man just sitting there just willingly letting
his woman get plowed. This is another dude.
Speaker 6 (35:15):
It's like what you what?
Speaker 2 (35:17):
You the way that the internet dragged out him twenty
two and his wife is a porn star and they
was dragging him about it. All Right, we're gonna call
We're gonna talk about simmer dating when we come back, Simmer.
Speaker 6 (35:31):
Dating, Simmer Dating.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Back on the Good Old Boys Forcast Media Radio Network. Uh,
we're talking about dating in twenty twenty five. A. Let's
talk about simmer dating. And by simmer dating, we mean
taking it super slow and This is something that I
think that there's a lot of like women who once,
(35:58):
once they hit a certain like age range, summer dating
ain't happening because they be they be pedal to the metal. Yeah,
you know, but I think that summer dating is how
we all like like to live. I mean, it's how
we like to date. And I saw meme the other
day that said, had somebody look at all sad and
(36:22):
said h And there was a dude looking all sad
and said my face after she says it's time for
us to take it to the next step after nine
years of dating.
Speaker 5 (36:35):
Listen, hey that that if that's what they're doing now, bro, Like, honestly,
I missed a lot of power you trying to simmer when,
like you said, the pedal to the metal and I'm
trying to be the nice guy and this and that
I missed a lot of action in my youth because
of that part. So it's I think you have to
(36:55):
kind of listen to some of our previous shows when
we talked about the your Scott effect, like kind of
engage some of incorporate some of that with the while
I'm dating you and figuring out so that you're not
wasting your time or the other person's time. But you
you gotta figure out what's what and get to it
and then either part ways or continue to let it grow.
(37:18):
But that simmering, like, nah, bro, we either we either
got energy asking questions and seeing the possibility of or
we're playing. You gotta you gotta define what it is
you're doing immediately. Are we playing or are we building?
Speaker 6 (37:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (37:33):
I would much rather deal with the simmer dating than
the then so down like a heart break, then speed
up again, then heartbreak.
Speaker 3 (37:44):
You rather it be one way or the other the
whole time?
Speaker 5 (37:46):
Yeah, yeah, one you you you kind of you throw
people off guard in that sense. It's more it's like
a boxing match or even a basketball game. You don't
you don't play the whole game doing the full court press.
You know, you you got to slow it down and
spread things out. Sometimes. But when you when you throw
something at on a fastball or whatever, whatever, it's like whoa, Okay.
(38:08):
Sometimes you can get people out of character or or
doing because when it's when you're playing that simmer role,
they know they got time or they can keep this
representative up or whatever.
Speaker 6 (38:18):
Whatever.
Speaker 5 (38:18):
You you got to throw curveballs in the mix man
to kind of see who people are, especially in this
day and age, because you know, like you said, with
the internet dating and people just showcasing things that aren't
necessarily them, you got to figure out a lot of
things quickly and sift through the madness in the in
the fluffers.
Speaker 4 (38:36):
That's just my tip. It's easier, But I feel like
that's easier to figure out than when they're speeding up
and throwing down, speeding up and slowing down, Like you
don't really get a read on on this person's intentions,
whether they're just playing games or if they legitimately take
things slow and see you as the one but they're
just scared to take that next step, or or if
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they're or if they're just trying to, like like we
said in an earlier segment, you know, just do the
boy sober thing. But they know you're the right guy,
they're just not ready to give give them brothers, you think.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
Now, I'm just saying like I've had I mean, I
agree with what you're saying, but I was saying, like
it just popping in my head. Man, I remember I
remember somebody from the past popping up before and like
you know, I'm thinking this is like on some friend stuff.
But then all of a sudden asking a million and
(39:39):
one questions, and I realized I want an interview, and
I shut it down real fast, like because like, nah, bro,
like you, you're not gonna like come in here. I
ain't seen you in a while. And then like now
we all of a sudden are gonna just jump into
a relationship.
Speaker 6 (39:53):
That's that's not gonna happen.
Speaker 5 (39:54):
But I'm thinking, like again with what Trump was saying,
like when you when you do simmer it down or
if you're speeding up and slowing it down, you get
to gauge this person in regards to their response to
you slowing it down?
Speaker 6 (40:07):
Are they going to be But that's not like a
game to me.
Speaker 4 (40:11):
That's hard.
Speaker 6 (40:11):
That's what you're crazy. That's listen. That's just kind of
what you just said.
Speaker 5 (40:17):
It's like, okay, so I can see if this person
is somebody who's looking for something. If they're not looking
for something, they're going to get frustrated. But if you're
trying to build it, hold on, Okay, I think we're
going a little too fast here, But I like you,
and they get up saying, ah, you playing.
Speaker 6 (40:30):
Okay, I'm not playing a game. I just think we're
moving a little fast.
Speaker 5 (40:33):
If somebody really is into you, they're going to respect
that decision and be like, cool, all right.
Speaker 6 (40:38):
Well what is it that you want to do? How
can you know what's the next step from here? Then?
Speaker 5 (40:41):
Because I like you too, you know, so you're gauging
it in regards to their response to the slow down, like, hey,
those were a lot of emotions flooding in the beginning.
I really do like you, but let's take this a
little bit slower. They'd be like, man, you you playing
with me? And black like, yeah, you ain't you about games?
Speaker 6 (40:56):
Right there? And that's a message.
Speaker 5 (40:57):
That's what you would tell your daughter if a man
keep press to her, you know, put his foot on
the gas, like, honey, ain't the one for you? You know,
we got to look at it like that sometimes, you know.
So I think it's a it's a great uh to
have a combination of both aspects.
Speaker 6 (41:13):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (41:13):
You don't want to go too fast and you don't
want to go too slow, but you definitely want to
gauge at it and see.
Speaker 2 (41:18):
How but but but but everything, But what Trump is
saying is that you either go fast or you go slow.
Speaker 3 (41:24):
But like there is the back and forth that drives
oh crazy.
Speaker 4 (41:28):
And I think that's a control play. I think when
when people do stuff like that, it's because they enjoy
making the person there with an emotional wreck, because you
can't you can't get get a gauge on how this
relationship is going, because one week it could be oh,
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we're in love and you know, everything is so beautiful,
and then the next week is chaotic, Like some people
get a high off of, you know, the chaotic nature
of a relationship.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
So let me ask you this.
Speaker 5 (42:03):
But it's like some people you can't win for losing,
and usually those people are women.
Speaker 6 (42:08):
Like even if you go to if you go slow,
take your.
Speaker 5 (42:12):
Time, and then down the road, you know, you feel
like ghosting them now because you like, you feel like
you wasted their time and you don't want to have
this conversation because you already know, well, we donet spend
together for three months at blasi blind six months and
this and that, and it's like you took your time
instead of trying to speed it up a little bit.
Speaker 6 (42:29):
See how they react to you and things of that nature.
Speaker 5 (42:32):
So and if you go too fast and then you
get it, it's like you can't win for losing.
Speaker 6 (42:36):
Sometimes. That's why I like the mix of it all.
Speaker 5 (42:38):
Let me get a gauge of how you respond to
certain scenarios and situations. That's just what I've learned in
my old age.
Speaker 4 (42:46):
But that's why I'm fine with ghosting, because you're going
to certain speed and then you just come to a
screeching hole and there's there's an answer there. The back
and forth up and down. Yeah, you're nauseous.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
You forget all that, bro, But I also like you.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
I prefer simmer dating to anything because you're not gonna
come in here and have that like be going ninety
miles per hour then grabbed me, had hopped me in
the car with you while you're driving ninety Like.
Speaker 6 (43:17):
I ain't doing that, bro.
Speaker 5 (43:18):
You would never do like a speed dating thing to
get to know somebody, to see what it is like
boom boom, Like that's that's asking a lot of in a.
Speaker 6 (43:27):
Short time frame. I don't like that. I can't.
Speaker 2 (43:30):
I can't go that fast, bro, because life don't move
that fast. I'm a country boy.
Speaker 6 (43:35):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (43:37):
Grew up on New York Beats Day, New York Beats
is what I.
Speaker 6 (43:43):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
We're gonna come back and we're gonna talk about whether
or not it is possible to date in twenty twenty
five and find a good person. For the full length
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We're talking about dating in twenty twenty five? Is it
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even possible to find somebody that is a good person
in today's climate of dating?
Speaker 4 (44:17):
There's still good people. There's still good people out here.
Speaker 6 (44:20):
Where Oh my bad? Wait yeah now.
Speaker 2 (44:28):
Now, I just think that, like the world is just
such a freaking horrible place now and and and there's
nothing like social media exposed so much of the bad
about humans, like in the last like ten fifteen years,
man like like like, but you learn a lot and
you can eliminate a lot of people because of social media,
like all the like you know, like for me, man like,
(44:50):
I don't I don't. I prefer like people that are
like me, man like reserved, Like I don't have to
like be outside on the crib to have a good
time you know what I'm saying. Or if I outside
of the crib to have a good time, I could
be in someplace calm, but I can also turn it
up real quick and and and and you know, be
over here and stuff.
Speaker 3 (45:07):
Man, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Like, but but I just like I don't like all
that like nonsense and stuff that I think that people
have to put up with in today's world.
Speaker 6 (45:15):
Man.
Speaker 2 (45:16):
And like I think it's very difficult to find somebody,
and I in particular people in our age range, because
the older you are, the more like like I never
really understood this when I was growing up.
Speaker 3 (45:28):
It's like, uh, you know, stuck in your ways phrase.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
But I get it now because you know, like when
you when you meet somebody and you're like twenty years old,
twenty five years old, you're still growing and developing who
it is that you are and stuff, and you can
kind of grow and develop together. It's kind of hard
to get people to see the world the way that
you see it once you get to be for a plus, like,
it's really really hard to do that man. And and
(45:53):
I think that like you got to like be real
careful out here because like people will like trick you
to have you thinking that they are nice person where
really they are the devil and they were a former
porn star and then they chop your head off because
they got married to your son after you got divorced
from them.
Speaker 6 (46:10):
But but again, as you nicky fairchild.
Speaker 3 (46:15):
Yeah, but as you're get.
Speaker 5 (46:17):
Older, though, man, you're starting to look at look at
the same things. Like you might be stuck in your ways,
but you're also you understand you more so as an adult,
and then you could, Yes, people can trick you, but
you're you're you're able to see game a little bit better.
If you've been wising up over the years, you're able
to see the game. You're able to to say, Okay,
(46:39):
I'm not gonna I feel your energy and you know,
and within that speed dating or within that process of things,
you you you kind of looking for those flags early
on and everybody's not the same. But as you get older,
you know what kind of energy you can be around.
You know what you're able to withstand and and just
within your own boundaries of things. So it's i I
(47:00):
think it's harder because a lot of us are reserved
and just want to I'm going to I'm about to
do my nine to five, go shot for this food
at the house, go take care of stuff at the house.
Speaker 6 (47:10):
And we're just kind of on the straight line.
Speaker 5 (47:11):
We're not at the clubs, we're not hanging out as
much as we did when we were in our twenties
and whatnot, but we do. A lot of us still
enjoy having a good time. So it's just a matter
of getting out and sensing that energy early man, And
it's possible. I believe it's still some good people out
there in that aspect, you know, but a lot, like
you said, they've been tainted by this Internet and social
(47:32):
media and it's just a lot of craziness's going on now.
Speaker 6 (47:36):
But it's rare hard there.
Speaker 4 (47:40):
I mean, I think there's plenty of good people out there.
The problem is finding someone that you align with. That's
what's difficult. Someone that you agree with spiritually, financially, emotionally,
and then being on the same wavelength as far as timing,
(48:01):
Like timing is also an issue, like you may want
want certain things right now that another person's like two
years behind you on like can you wait those two
years for this person to catch up?
Speaker 1 (48:14):
Or or.
Speaker 4 (48:17):
Maybe you'll cross paths down the road and it'll be
the right time. So I mean, there's good people, it's
just whether you meet them when the time is right.
Speaker 1 (48:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (48:27):
Well, I think that most important.
Speaker 2 (48:29):
Thing for us is to be patient and wait for
the right person, man, Like, don't try to force us
a square peg into a round hole. Like if it's
not going in the direction that you think it should
be going in, then leave it and then find something else, man.
But like, you should be patient.
Speaker 6 (48:47):
That's the only thing that the only.
Speaker 2 (48:49):
Advice that I give to anybody about like trying to
date in twenty twenty five is patience, man, because.
Speaker 6 (48:55):
You go to need it.
Speaker 4 (48:57):
We'll sit on the radio next week and we're out
this funky thing.
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