June 20, 2025 • 22 mins
Manners matter, and I've noticed an alarming decline in basic courtesy among children today, creating challenges for both adults and other kids who interact with them.
• Children as young as five or six showing shocking disrespect to adults and peers
• Parents often defend or deny their children's behavior instead of correcting it
• Children should display good manners consistently, not just when parents are present
• First impressions based on manners can open or close doors of opportunity
• Even talented kids get overlooked when they display toxic attitudes
• Teaching basic respect like "please" and "thank you" should be non-negotiable
• A stranger once gave my son money simply because he displayed good manners
• Summer break is the perfect time to have conversations about respect before school starts
• Children are a direct reflection of their parents' values and teaching
• It takes a village to create positive environments where children learn respect
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hi guys, welcome back to the Gaggans Pod.
I am your girl, chale Shante.
Thank you for joining me onanother episode, and you know
what I always say if you'relistening to this, then it's a
new episode and it must be aFriday, but nonetheless,
whatever day you're listening to, this is perfectly fine.
Oh my gosh, if you have notalready before we jump, jump
(00:24):
into this.
Please make sure you arefollowing us.
Please make sure you arefollowing us wherever you listen
to your podcast.
That way, when a new episodecomes out, you'll be one of the
first to get it.
It'll be already there.
These episodes release at 5 amon friday mornings, so it'll
already be there when you scrolldown on your little
notifications that you missedovernight or whatever.
(00:45):
They're going to be there, soall you got to do is just play
it when you're on your way towork or you're getting ready.
What have you?
Make sure you're following uson IG, at TheGagIsPod, youtube
as well.
So happy Friday to you guys.
Oh, I almost forgot the mostimportant part.
Let's jump right into this.
(01:05):
Go ahead and grab your snack,grab your drink or whatever you
do while you listen to this, sowe can go ahead and jump into
this thing and get started.
I don't know how long or howshort this is going to be
because, like I tell y'all andy'all probably get tired of
hearing me say this I alwayshave my episodes planned out,
like I already have them listout, whatever, whatever.
(01:26):
But when some, sometimes,things haven't spurred a moment
and I'll be like, oh my God,that would make such a good
episode, like it will make sucha good episode.
And so today, that's what'sgoing to happen because I
noticed something in thesummertime.
That's what's going to happenbecause I noticed something in
the summertime Kids are out ofschool, parents are working, you
(01:48):
know, and there's just a lot offree time going on.
And you know, a lot of kids arein summer camp or, you know, age
dependent, they're staying homeor they may be working a summer
job or babysitting theirsiblings, or something like that
job, or babysitting theirsiblings, or something like that
(02:12):
.
And you know, manners, mannersmatter.
We only a few weeks into thesummer, and one thing that has
struck me, and it's very, veryirritating, is kids don't have
manners.
I mean, they don't have mannersfor other kids, they don't have
(02:33):
manners for themselves, theydamn sure don't have manners for
adults.
Okay, and I just want to talkabout manners.
And this is not to come foranybody's parenting style or
anything like that or how youraise your kids.
I don't judge people how toraise their kids.
Everybody raise their kidsdifferently, you know, to each
(02:57):
his own, okay.
But manners, and typically youknow, when I was growing up, you
would see kids who try to getmouthy or, you know, try to talk
back to adults or, you know, berude and not have manners for
other people and just like thatit would be nipped in the bud.
(03:19):
The parent be like.
You know you're not going to dothis.
Your child, get disciplined,get a whooping, whatever.
But now I see, like little kids, like kids like, um, maybe five
, six, and they are sodisrespectful they don't know
(03:40):
how to say thank you, they don'tknow how to say yes, ma'am, no,
ma'am, yes, sir, no, sir.
They don't know how to bepolite at all.
And I want to know how did weget here?
How did we get to the point ofmanners?
(04:03):
For example, I went and grabbedsomething to eat earlier before
I started recording for me andthe fam and I'll pull up.
Typically when you go to aplace, they're like thank you
for choosing such and such.
Go ahead and take a look at themenu.
Let me know if there's anythingyou have questions about.
Now pull up to the place andit's like can help you.
(04:25):
Uh, do you know what you want?
Huh, excuse me, like no type ofmanners.
And then you order and then youdrive around to the window, you
pay your money, you give meyour money and then you ask the
question excuse me, um, do youmind if I get a packet of
ketchup?
Huh, like, what?
(04:47):
Like, where has the disconnectbetween manners and children?
Like, do we not teach this asparents anymore?
Like, do we not have standardsfor our kids anymore?
Like, are you OK with the wayyour kids talk and the way you
(05:08):
act?
Then you could say oh well, youknow, I told them that they
shouldn't say that.
Or I taught them manners andyou know they don't act like
that when they're in front of me.
Well, is the expectation thatthey're only supposed to act
like that when they're with you?
Like you don't feel no type ofway that they act out when
(05:32):
they're not with you?
Because I've always been toldgrowing up that I am a direct
reflection of my parents and ifI don't have manners and
different things like that.
That's a reflection of myparents and I wholeheartedly
agree with that.
I'm not saying that your kidgot to be dressed right dress or
anything like that.
That's a reflection of myparents and I wholeheartedly
agree with that.
I'm not saying that your kidgot to be dressed right dress or
anything like that, but basic,yes, ma'am, no ma'am, um.
Like we shouldn't have likelittle kids calling people B
(05:55):
words, calling them slur wordsand other derogatory words,
because you know we can say, youknow well, they see that around
them.
You know they see it on socialmedia.
Are you not filtering what yourchild is engaging in?
I just have so many questions,so many questions.
(06:19):
I mean you know kids don't sayexcuse me, and my biggest pet
peeve is when kids treat otherkids bad.
I hate that.
Like.
I feel like as parents, we haveto teach our kids that it's OK
to be nice to other people.
(06:41):
Bullying is not OK, being meanto people is not okay.
And you could say oh, what isnew generation assault?
No, there's a fine line betweenyou know bullying and you know
just being downrightdisrespectful and you know
(07:01):
playful banter.
You know like back in the daywe used to talk about like shut
up big head.
And now they saying stuff thatI'm not even going to repeat on
this podcast, even though I'mgrown and good.
I'm not going to subject y'allto that, but they should not be
saying things like that.
And then when someone comes andtells you that your child is
(07:23):
speaking like this, why are yougetting offended?
Why would you say my child saystuff like that?
Why can you as a parent not say, oh wow, I didn't understand, I
didn't know that.
You know, my child spoke likethat.
You know I have a conversationwith them to let them know that
(07:43):
that's not okay, that's notappropriate.
And even when it comes to kids,you know adults I've seen kids
cuss out adults and tell themthat they can't tell them what
the F to do and different stufflike that.
You know, why are we teaching?
Well, I'm not going to saywe're teaching because we're not
(08:05):
teaching.
You know what?
I don't know what you'reteaching at home or not.
So I can't even sit here andsay that when we see, when you
see your child speaking likethat to other adults, why is
there not immediate correction?
There should be immediatecorrection because guess what?
(08:26):
You can't go out into the worldtalking to people like that.
You can't go on people's jobtalking like that.
You can't go out in society andtalk like that and think that
it's okay, like there's notgoing to be repercussions for
that.
We should teach our kids thatlanguage and first impressions
(08:47):
because you could, your kidcould, be like I want to be a
singer one day.
But then you know they gosomewhere and you know somebody
bumps them and they be like youknow, you watch where you're
going, oh, stupid ass.
Or something like that, notknowing that they just bumped
into a music exec and that'stheir first impression of that
(09:08):
person.
Oh wow.
So I'm not going to want todeal with somebody who comes off
as rude, disrespectful andstuff like that.
One thing I pride myself in ismy kids have manners.
Everywhere I go I'm always told.
Even when Manchild was younger,I used to always get told how
memorable he was and now Ialways get told how memorable
(09:32):
New Face is Like.
At his swim club one of thedads was like you know, I really
appreciate Lorenzo.
He's very respectable young manbecause I hear some of the way
the other boys, you know,converse and talk to my child
and you know, your child, youryou know to my child and you
know your child, your son, hasnever talked to her like that
and, if anything, your child hasencouraged her and he's always
(09:55):
respectful to her.
You know, and I think you do anamazing job as a parent, like
I'm a single parent and it'she's a direct reflection of me,
you know.
So I don't want people to belike, oh, her son rude, I'm not
teaching him that.
I'm teaching him how to be aupstanding, outstanding young
man, someone with morals.
(10:17):
And you know he he'sopinionated and he has his
opinion.
He has his right to have hisopinion, but he's also
respectable to children alike,people his age and, most
importantly, adults.
I've seen so many videos onlinewhere kids are trying to fight
adults.
Kids are cussing at adults, butthen the minute they have to
(10:42):
suffer an adult consequence, canI call my mama?
Can I call my mama Please?
I didn't mean it, I'm sorry.
Can you let me go?
They think that they can crytheir way out of it.
I just want parents to starttaking accountability for the
(11:02):
actions of their children.
The actions of their children,okay, because if somebody come
up to me and tell me new face,say anything out of pocket.
It's finna be up.
It's finna be some smoke in thecity, because that is not right
, it's not nice, it's notcorrect, it's not cool.
(11:25):
First impressions are everything, and being nice and being
polite to someone goes a longway, because, think about it,
it's always not what you know,it's who you know, and so kids
alike.
Kids could be in something andbe like oh, I know this one kid.
(11:47):
He's really, really cool, hehas a positive attitude and
different stuff like that.
I overheard some talking theother day and they were like
such and such kid is good atsports, but just because he's
good at sports, I may not wantsaid child on my team, because
(12:07):
said child is toxic for my team.
And a lot of times we don'tthink about that.
You know our, our kids.
You know we could say thatthey're product of their
environment and they're onlydoing what they're saying.
That is true.
So if that's the case, why canwe not change the environment?
(12:29):
Why can we not change what theysee and how they see it?
Because I see it all the timeand I hear stories all the time
where little Johnny is thedopest soccer player, but Lil
Johnny be cussing his parentsout, lil Johnny be hitting folks
(12:50):
, but out there on the field LilJohnny is a star, but Lil
Johnny not going to get farbecause Lil Johnny attitude is
messed up and Lil Johnny ain'tgot no respect for nobody,
nobody at all.
We all got to have respect forsomebody and at some point we
all get mad and there's thingsthat we want to say, and you
(13:13):
know different stuff like that.
But respect goes a long way andI've had to.
I learned that early on thatrespect goes a long way and I
knew that when I became a parentthat I was going to instill in
on that respect goes a long wayand I knew that when I became a
parent that I was going toinstill in my children that
respect goes a long way.
Respect can go further thanwhat you know.
(13:37):
I just want to encourageparents to the best of your
ability because y'all are goingto add me, y'all going to
comfort me, y'all going to belike well, I can't do this
because I work six jobs and Idon't want to hear the excuses,
because my mama worked two jobsand still made sure I had
(13:59):
manners.
Me and my brothers had manners.
There's no excuse and it's thesummertime and it's the perfect
time for parents to sit downwith their children, have
conversations with theirchildren before the new school
year starts about manners andrespect.
(14:20):
I hear so many stories from theschool about how kids treat
other kids to school, about howkids treat other kids, and then
when said kid gets in troublefor it, the parents are in just
disbelief.
I used to work at a school.
I know how it goes.
And then when teachers starttelling me about my kid I know
my kid, I wasn't in denial.
(14:41):
They're like Lorenzo talk a lot, he is mama child, but Lorenzo
is respectable, so there wassome correction involved.
Parents, we just got to ensurethat we are teaching our kids
manners and respect.
(15:02):
I can't stand when I'm out inpublic and kids is I just it
just drives me crazy, especiallyto be rude to me because I be
want to tell them one thing ortwo.
It drives me crazy, especiallythey be rude to me because I be
wanting to tell them one thingor two.
And sometimes I just be like Ijust want to be like go get your
(15:23):
mama, go get your auntie, goget somebody that's on the same
level playing field with me.
Ok, because you, a child, stayin a child's place Like that.
Stay in a child's place OK,because I wish I could be in a
child's place.
Okay, cause I wish I could bein a child's place.
Okay, but I'm not.
I'm in an adult place and I gotbills and it's real ghetto.
But parents, guardians, others,role models, figures it take a
(15:49):
village Okay, it takes a villageand it takes a village to
create positivity for kids.
You know, you, you auntie, youuncle or something like you know
(16:21):
, let's help foster a positiverelationship, you know, with
these youth, because manners isgoing to get you far.
Going to get you far, it'sgoing to get you far, sure, it's
going to get you far.
So my ask is just sit down andhave a conversation and explain
to your children that mannersand respect go a long way.
(16:47):
You know, not saying you haveto be like a kiss up or stuck up
or be fake, but manners go along way.
We were, where were we at?
We were somewhere one day andNew Face was like I'm sorry, sir
, that I bumped you.
He's like, please excuse me.
(17:08):
And the man actually gave himsome money because he said it's
been so long since I've heard akid with manners and he's like
thank you, and I'm like man, man, man.
If I didn't instill in mychildren what I had instilled in
me, that's not, nope, not goingto do it.
(17:32):
So that's my take for that.
That's what's on my heart thisweek, you know, teaching these
kids manners, you know, becauseI want the babies to go far, I
want them to go places in life.
So, you know, manners, manners.
It is now for this week's.
Well, I ain't going to say it'sa, you can't make this up.
(17:55):
I'll say we'll call it.
Yeah, we call it.
We can't call it a, you can'tmake this up.
New Face is teething and hehates when I say that, but he's
teething Because, bro, you 15,why are you still getting more
teeth?
Um, my baby boy is getting hiswisdom teeth and now he has to
(18:18):
go have his wisdom teeth pulledbecause they are impacting his
up teeth.
And I'm like, bro, you too bigto be teething.
And even though he's in pain,it ain't stopped him from
talking like that boy's stillgoing a mile a minute.
I was like, oh, yes, his teethhurt, he's gone.
Oh, he's gonna be quiet.
No, I think he talked more nowand then he'd be like, can I get
(18:42):
some medicine?
And I'm like, oh lord, I hopethis medicine make him go to
sleep, because if he go to sleephe can't do all this talking.
But the Tylenol don't do that.
It just keep hyping him up andhe be in my face just just
cheesing on like I thought yourteeth hurt, like your teeth in
here doing the shoulder leanagainst each other like go sit
(19:04):
down somewhere, bro, oh my god.
So that brings us to the end ofthe episode.
Before we get up out of here, wegot to do our song lyric of the
week and I think last week orthe week before that I forgot to
do it.
But my bad.
(19:24):
So my song lyric of the week isgoing to be Burning Blue by
Mariah the Scientist.
Like this song has me in theinevitable chokehold, like that
is on repeat.
Like she got bangers, this is anew banger for her.
So Burning Blue by Mariah thescientist is my song lyric of
(19:46):
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(20:09):
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(20:52):
This is the Gag Is podcast.
Bye, guys.
Hi guys, welcome back to the Gaggans Pod.
I am your girl, chale Shante.
Thank you for joining me onanother episode, and you know
what I always say if you'relistening to this, then it's a
new episode and it must be aFriday, but nonetheless,
whatever day you're listening to, this is perfectly fine.
Oh my gosh, if you have notalready before we jump, jump
(00:24):
into this.
Please make sure you arefollowing us.
Please make sure you arefollowing us wherever you listen
to your podcast.
That way, when a new episodecomes out, you'll be one of the
first to get it.
It'll be already there.
These episodes release at 5 amon friday mornings, so it'll
already be there when you scrolldown on your little
notifications that you missedovernight or whatever.
(00:45):
They're going to be there, soall you got to do is just play
it when you're on your way towork or you're getting ready.
What have you?
Make sure you're following uson IG, at TheGagIsPod, youtube
as well.
So happy Friday to you guys.
Oh, I almost forgot the mostimportant part.
Let's jump right into this.
(01:05):
Go ahead and grab your snack,grab your drink or whatever you
do while you listen to this, sowe can go ahead and jump into
this thing and get started.
I don't know how long or howshort this is going to be
because, like I tell y'all andy'all probably get tired of
hearing me say this I alwayshave my episodes planned out,
like I already have them listout, whatever, whatever.
(01:26):
But when some, sometimes,things haven't spurred a moment
and I'll be like, oh my God,that would make such a good
episode, like it will make sucha good episode.
And so today, that's what'sgoing to happen because I
noticed something in thesummertime.
That's what's going to happenbecause I noticed something in
the summertime Kids are out ofschool, parents are working, you
(01:48):
know, and there's just a lot offree time going on.
And you know, a lot of kids arein summer camp or, you know, age
dependent, they're staying homeor they may be working a summer
job or babysitting theirsiblings, or something like that
job, or babysitting theirsiblings, or something like that
(02:12):
.
And you know, manners, mannersmatter.
We only a few weeks into thesummer, and one thing that has
struck me, and it's very, veryirritating, is kids don't have
manners.
I mean, they don't have mannersfor other kids, they don't have
(02:33):
manners for themselves, theydamn sure don't have manners for
adults.
Okay, and I just want to talkabout manners.
And this is not to come foranybody's parenting style or
anything like that or how youraise your kids.
I don't judge people how toraise their kids.
Everybody raise their kidsdifferently, you know, to each
(02:57):
his own, okay.
But manners, and typically youknow, when I was growing up, you
would see kids who try to getmouthy or, you know, try to talk
back to adults or, you know, berude and not have manners for
other people and just like thatit would be nipped in the bud.
(03:19):
The parent be like.
You know you're not going to dothis.
Your child, get disciplined,get a whooping, whatever.
But now I see, like little kids, like kids like, um, maybe five
, six, and they are sodisrespectful they don't know
(03:40):
how to say thank you, they don'tknow how to say yes, ma'am, no,
ma'am, yes, sir, no, sir.
They don't know how to bepolite at all.
And I want to know how did weget here?
How did we get to the point ofmanners?
(04:03):
For example, I went and grabbedsomething to eat earlier before
I started recording for me andthe fam and I'll pull up.
Typically when you go to aplace, they're like thank you
for choosing such and such.
Go ahead and take a look at themenu.
Let me know if there's anythingyou have questions about.
Now pull up to the place andit's like can help you.
(04:25):
Uh, do you know what you want?
Huh, excuse me, like no type ofmanners.
And then you order and then youdrive around to the window, you
pay your money, you give meyour money and then you ask the
question excuse me, um, do youmind if I get a packet of
ketchup?
Huh, like, what?
(04:47):
Like, where has the disconnectbetween manners and children?
Like, do we not teach this asparents anymore?
Like, do we not have standardsfor our kids anymore?
Like, are you OK with the wayyour kids talk and the way you
(05:08):
act?
Then you could say oh well, youknow, I told them that they
shouldn't say that.
Or I taught them manners andyou know they don't act like
that when they're in front of me.
Well, is the expectation thatthey're only supposed to act
like that when they're with you?
Like you don't feel no type ofway that they act out when
(05:32):
they're not with you?
Because I've always been toldgrowing up that I am a direct
reflection of my parents and ifI don't have manners and
different things like that.
That's a reflection of myparents and I wholeheartedly
agree with that.
I'm not saying that your kidgot to be dressed right dress or
anything like that.
That's a reflection of myparents and I wholeheartedly
agree with that.
I'm not saying that your kidgot to be dressed right dress or
anything like that, but basic,yes, ma'am, no ma'am, um.
Like we shouldn't have likelittle kids calling people B
(05:55):
words, calling them slur wordsand other derogatory words,
because you know we can say, youknow well, they see that around
them.
You know they see it on socialmedia.
Are you not filtering what yourchild is engaging in?
I just have so many questions,so many questions.
(06:19):
I mean you know kids don't sayexcuse me, and my biggest pet
peeve is when kids treat otherkids bad.
I hate that.
Like.
I feel like as parents, we haveto teach our kids that it's OK
to be nice to other people.
(06:41):
Bullying is not OK, being meanto people is not okay.
And you could say oh, what isnew generation assault?
No, there's a fine line betweenyou know bullying and you know
just being downrightdisrespectful and you know
(07:01):
playful banter.
You know like back in the daywe used to talk about like shut
up big head.
And now they saying stuff thatI'm not even going to repeat on
this podcast, even though I'mgrown and good.
I'm not going to subject y'allto that, but they should not be
saying things like that.
And then when someone comes andtells you that your child is
(07:23):
speaking like this, why are yougetting offended?
Why would you say my child saystuff like that?
Why can you as a parent not say, oh wow, I didn't understand, I
didn't know that.
You know, my child spoke likethat.
You know I have a conversationwith them to let them know that
(07:43):
that's not okay, that's notappropriate.
And even when it comes to kids,you know adults I've seen kids
cuss out adults and tell themthat they can't tell them what
the F to do and different stufflike that.
You know, why are we teaching?
Well, I'm not going to saywe're teaching because we're not
(08:05):
teaching.
You know what?
I don't know what you'reteaching at home or not.
So I can't even sit here andsay that when we see, when you
see your child speaking likethat to other adults, why is
there not immediate correction?
There should be immediatecorrection because guess what?
(08:26):
You can't go out into the worldtalking to people like that.
You can't go on people's jobtalking like that.
You can't go out in society andtalk like that and think that
it's okay, like there's notgoing to be repercussions for
that.
We should teach our kids thatlanguage and first impressions
(08:47):
because you could, your kidcould, be like I want to be a
singer one day.
But then you know they gosomewhere and you know somebody
bumps them and they be like youknow, you watch where you're
going, oh, stupid ass.
Or something like that, notknowing that they just bumped
into a music exec and that'stheir first impression of that
(09:08):
person.
Oh wow.
So I'm not going to want todeal with somebody who comes off
as rude, disrespectful andstuff like that.
One thing I pride myself in ismy kids have manners.
Everywhere I go I'm always told.
Even when Manchild was younger,I used to always get told how
memorable he was and now Ialways get told how memorable
(09:32):
New Face is Like.
At his swim club one of thedads was like you know, I really
appreciate Lorenzo.
He's very respectable young manbecause I hear some of the way
the other boys, you know,converse and talk to my child
and you know, your child, youryou know to my child and you
know your child, your son, hasnever talked to her like that
and, if anything, your child hasencouraged her and he's always
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respectful to her.
You know, and I think you do anamazing job as a parent, like
I'm a single parent and it'she's a direct reflection of me,
you know.
So I don't want people to belike, oh, her son rude, I'm not
teaching him that.
I'm teaching him how to be aupstanding, outstanding young
man, someone with morals.
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And you know he he'sopinionated and he has his
opinion.
He has his right to have hisopinion, but he's also
respectable to children alike,people his age and, most
importantly, adults.
I've seen so many videos onlinewhere kids are trying to fight
adults.
Kids are cussing at adults, butthen the minute they have to
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suffer an adult consequence, canI call my mama?
Can I call my mama Please?
I didn't mean it, I'm sorry.
Can you let me go?
They think that they can crytheir way out of it.
I just want parents to starttaking accountability for the
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actions of their children.
The actions of their children,okay, because if somebody come
up to me and tell me new face,say anything out of pocket.
It's finna be up.
It's finna be some smoke in thecity, because that is not right
, it's not nice, it's notcorrect, it's not cool.
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First impressions are everything, and being nice and being
polite to someone goes a longway, because, think about it,
it's always not what you know,it's who you know, and so kids
alike.
Kids could be in something andbe like oh, I know this one kid.
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He's really, really cool, hehas a positive attitude and
different stuff like that.
I overheard some talking theother day and they were like
such and such kid is good atsports, but just because he's
good at sports, I may not wantsaid child on my team, because
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said child is toxic for my team.
And a lot of times we don'tthink about that.
You know our, our kids.
You know we could say thatthey're product of their
environment and they're onlydoing what they're saying.
That is true.
So if that's the case, why canwe not change the environment?
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Why can we not change what theysee and how they see it?
Because I see it all the timeand I hear stories all the time
where little Johnny is thedopest soccer player, but Lil
Johnny be cussing his parentsout, lil Johnny be hitting folks
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, but out there on the field LilJohnny is a star, but Lil
Johnny not going to get farbecause Lil Johnny attitude is
messed up and Lil Johnny ain'tgot no respect for nobody,
nobody at all.
We all got to have respect forsomebody and at some point we
all get mad and there's thingsthat we want to say, and you
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know different stuff like that.
But respect goes a long way andI've had to.
I learned that early on thatrespect goes a long way and I
knew that when I became a parentthat I was going to instill in
on that respect goes a long wayand I knew that when I became a
parent that I was going toinstill in my children that
respect goes a long way.
Respect can go further thanwhat you know.
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I just want to encourageparents to the best of your
ability because y'all are goingto add me, y'all going to
comfort me, y'all going to belike well, I can't do this
because I work six jobs and Idon't want to hear the excuses,
because my mama worked two jobsand still made sure I had
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manners.
Me and my brothers had manners.
There's no excuse and it's thesummertime and it's the perfect
time for parents to sit downwith their children, have
conversations with theirchildren before the new school
year starts about manners andrespect.
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I hear so many stories from theschool about how kids treat
other kids to school, about howkids treat other kids, and then
when said kid gets in troublefor it, the parents are in just
disbelief.
I used to work at a school.
I know how it goes.
And then when teachers starttelling me about my kid I know
my kid, I wasn't in denial.
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They're like Lorenzo talk a lot, he is mama child, but Lorenzo
is respectable, so there wassome correction involved.
Parents, we just got to ensurethat we are teaching our kids
manners and respect.
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I can't stand when I'm out inpublic and kids is I just it
just drives me crazy, especiallyto be rude to me because I be
want to tell them one thing ortwo.
It drives me crazy, especiallythey be rude to me because I be
wanting to tell them one thingor two.
And sometimes I just be like Ijust want to be like go get your
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mama, go get your auntie, goget somebody that's on the same
level playing field with me.
Ok, because you, a child, stayin a child's place Like that.
Stay in a child's place OK,because I wish I could be in a
child's place.
Okay, cause I wish I could bein a child's place.
Okay, but I'm not.
I'm in an adult place and I gotbills and it's real ghetto.
But parents, guardians, others,role models, figures it take a
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village Okay, it takes a villageand it takes a village to
create positivity for kids.
You know, you, you auntie, youuncle or something like you know
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, let's help foster a positiverelationship, you know, with
these youth, because manners isgoing to get you far.
Going to get you far, it'sgoing to get you far, sure, it's
going to get you far.
So my ask is just sit down andhave a conversation and explain
to your children that mannersand respect go a long way.
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You know, not saying you haveto be like a kiss up or stuck up
or be fake, but manners go along way.
We were, where were we at?
We were somewhere one day andNew Face was like I'm sorry, sir
, that I bumped you.
He's like, please excuse me.
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And the man actually gave himsome money because he said it's
been so long since I've heard akid with manners and he's like
thank you, and I'm like man, man, man.
If I didn't instill in mychildren what I had instilled in
me, that's not, nope, not goingto do it.
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So that's my take for that.
That's what's on my heart thisweek, you know, teaching these
kids manners, you know, becauseI want the babies to go far, I
want them to go places in life.
So, you know, manners, manners.
It is now for this week's.
Well, I ain't going to say it'sa, you can't make this up.
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I'll say we'll call it.
Yeah, we call it.
We can't call it a, you can'tmake this up.
New Face is teething and hehates when I say that, but he's
teething Because, bro, you 15,why are you still getting more
teeth?
Um, my baby boy is getting hiswisdom teeth and now he has to
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go have his wisdom teeth pulledbecause they are impacting his
up teeth.
And I'm like, bro, you too bigto be teething.
And even though he's in pain,it ain't stopped him from
talking like that boy's stillgoing a mile a minute.
I was like, oh, yes, his teethhurt, he's gone.
Oh, he's gonna be quiet.
No, I think he talked more nowand then he'd be like, can I get
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some medicine?
And I'm like, oh lord, I hopethis medicine make him go to
sleep, because if he go to sleephe can't do all this talking.
But the Tylenol don't do that.
It just keep hyping him up andhe be in my face just just
cheesing on like I thought yourteeth hurt, like your teeth in
here doing the shoulder leanagainst each other like go sit
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down somewhere, bro, oh my god.
So that brings us to the end ofthe episode.
Before we get up out of here, wegot to do our song lyric of the
week and I think last week orthe week before that I forgot to
do it.
But my bad.
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So my song lyric of the week isgoing to be Burning Blue by
Mariah the Scientist.
Like this song has me in theinevitable chokehold, like that
is on repeat.
Like she got bangers, this is anew banger for her.
So Burning Blue by Mariah thescientist is my song lyric of
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the week Again, if you have notalready, please make sure you
are liking these episodes.
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Make sure, whatever platformthat you listen to these on, you
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Please make sure you're leavingreviews too, so that other
people can see that this is alegit podcast and we have fun
over here.
We talk parenting and we talkself-care.
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All right, make sure you followus on IG at the gag is pot, and
that is on YouTube as well.
I have tons of videos uploadedto YouTube, so I think that I'm
going to spend some time, justsince I'm doing on this weekend,
I'm going to spend some timeworking on those and getting
those loaded.
And, last but not least, ifyou're ever interested in doing
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a collaboration or beingfeatured on the show or any
anything of that aspect, youjust want to work and you want
to holler at your girl.
You want to work with your girl.
Please shoot me an email atthegagispod at gmailcom and
we'll see if we can make thathappen.
Until next week, I am your girl, charlie Shante.
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This is the Gag Is podcast.
Bye, guys.
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