Why do women say they feel unseen and unheard while men quietly wonder why sex feels distant and disconnected? In this episode, Brad Rhoads sits down with researchers and authors Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn to unpack the two most common complaints in marriage: “We don’t communicate” and “We’re not intimate enough.”
They reveal surprising research about how women are constantly asking, “Do you still love me?,” and how men are silently wondering, “Do you still want me?” You’ll hear real stories, from skipped conversations after important meetings to choosing connection over a $2,500 roofing mistake, plus the science behind desire and why most couples misunderstand each other.
This conversation is honest, practical, and might just change the way you pursue the person you married (emotionally and physically).
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Jeff & Shaunti Feldhahn – Research, books, blog, and podcast: https://shaunti.com
🔑 KEY IDEAS:
• Why women crave connection through conversation and men crave connection through sex
• The hidden question most wives ask daily: “Do you still love me?”
• The silent fear many husbands carry: “Am I still desirable to you?”
• How communication and intimacy fuel each other instead of competing
• Initiating vs. receptive desire — and why most couples don’t understand this difference
• Why couples drift into sexless patterns and how to reverse it
• How pursuit often comes before desire but leads to deeper intimacy
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