What happens when you stop keeping score in marriage?
In this episode of the Grace Marriage Podcast, Brad and Marilyn Rhoads share how their own marriage was transformed when they discovered the power of shifting from performance...to grace. They explain the difference between law-based and grace-based relationships, how grace changes the atmosphere of a home, and why forgiveness creates steadiness instead of roller-coaster ups and downs.
With honesty and practical wisdom, Brad and Marilyn unpack how to extend grace when your spouse hurts you, how to deal with ongoing issues without enabling, and why grace motivates more than guilt. If your marriage feels heavy, this conversation will give you hope, freedom, and a new way forward.
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🔑 KEY IDEAS:
• The difference between a law-based marriage and a grace-based marriage
• Why keeping score kills intimacy and connection
• How grace steadies relationships and makes reconciliation possible
• What extending grace looks like in daily life (and what it’s not)
• Why selflessness—not self-focus—leads to joy in marriage
• How grace transforms not only marriage, but parenting and home atmosphere
KEY VERSES:
📖 Romans 6:14 – “For sin will have no dominion over you, since you are not under law but under grace.”
📖 Romans 5:8 – “But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
📖 Galatians 5:1 – “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”
📖 Romans 2:4 – “Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance?”
📖 1 John 4:19 – “We love because he first loved us.”
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