Dr. Neal Siler joins Adam Ormord and Debbie Swindoll as we continue our series exploring God’s design for transformation. Neal spoke at our 2023 ESDA Gathering on the topic of "Reorienting our Attachments." By paying attention to our own developmental and relational deficiencies, and allowing the Holy Spirit to restore what's been broken, we can move towards a more secure attachment with God, resulting in healing and wholeness.
We can have either secure or insecure attachment styles:
- Secure base attachment
- Insecure attachment styles – anxious ambivalent attachment, avoidant/dismissive attachment, fearful avoidant/disordered attachment
"At the root of all attachment issues is a lack of trust and a lack of safety."
To reorient our attachments, we identify our core longing deficits (Significance, Purpose, Belonging, Security, Understanding, and Love) and choose to believe that the only person who can meet those needs fully is the Lord Jesus Christ. "Out of that relationship, all other relationships flow."
Resources Mentioned:
- ESDA Gathering 2023 – “Holding the Soul: Exploring God’s Design for Transformation” – Dr. Dianna Kubacz, Dr. Neal Siler, Danny Mullins
- Healing Care Ministries – www.healingcare.org/
- The Healing Place Center for Counseling and Spiritual Formation: www.thehealingplaceva.org (Contact: thehealingplaceva@gmail.com)
- How I Got Over: Healing for the African American Soul – Dr. Neal Siler
- Wouldn’t Take Nothing for My Journey – Dr. Neal Siler
The Grafted Life Podcast is provided by Grafted Life Ministries, helping people build deeper relationships with God and each other. The host of the podcast is Grafted Life's Executive Director, Adam Ormord.
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