January 22, 2025 • 54 mins
Kick off 2025 with us on the Green Onions podcast as we embark on a journey of lifestyle transformations over traditional resolutions. Noah shares his refreshing experience of a sober January, finding unexpected happiness in self-care, while we reflect on the personal growth stemming from having my niece move in for college. This year, we're diving into the importance of setting realistic goals for sustainable change and teasing an exciting financial series that promises to empower your wallet. Plus, a thought-provoking reading from "The Daily Stoic" sets the stage for a renewed outlook on personal growth.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Welcome to the Green Onions podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
We needed like a shock warning, came in out of
the gate.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
This is your girl.
Common Sense Girl.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
And I'm Noah.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
This is where we throw out some nonsense.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
A whole lot of sense.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Or some sense.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Wait Alright.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Wait, we are rusty, but it's all good.
But thank you guys for joiningus for another special edition
another episode, yes, yes,another.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Another week around the sun welcome to 2025, y'all
oh my gosh, I didn't even knowthat that happened it sure did
yeah everybody welcome.
I hope you're bringing in thenew year like you should how is
that yes, sticking to yourresolutions?
Speaker 2 (00:48):
No, no, they're not sticking to their resolutions.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
I mean they can if they want to, depending on the
resolution.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Well, you know what Bump?
A resolution.
I'm going to call it alifestyle change, because that's
what people need to do.
Yeah, a resolution.
Like people, don't stick tothat crap.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Also, there are so many messed up people in the
world.
Like what do you think TedBundy's New Year's resolution
was?
I think he needed to be told.
You probably should change LikeI don't think you should have a
New Year's resolution.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
No, let's do a lifestyle change.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So just get better.
Consistent growth.
Every day is a New Year'sresolution, yes, or a new year,
and then come up with theresolution.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Let's just be 1% better than we were yesterday.
How about that?
Speaker 1 (01:29):
That's fine.
I'm like let's do that we canroll with that.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
How was your week, Noah?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
It was good, I had a really good week.
Actually I've been doing thesober January.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
So feeling really good on week two, okay, feeling
really good on week two, whoop,whoop, yeah.
And I don't know.
It's a learning process, oneday at a time, just figuring out
stuff about myself havingdreams again, getting in touch
with my subconscious.
Awesome In a way that I didn'tknow.
I still had a subconscious andyeah, it's just a learning
(02:04):
process.
Okay, yeah, what did you do forNew?
Year's conscious and yeah, it'sjust a learning process.
Okay, what did you do for NewYear's?
Nothing I want to divulge, ohLord.
Well, not really, it was just.
It was like that moment whenyou realize you're 25 and it was
a quarter life crisis and I,just, I literally, I think just
shut down for three days andthat's what promoted me to I
think, just shut down for threedays and that's what promoted me
(02:26):
to be like I got to switchsomething up.
Hence the initial conversationof talking about how let's treat
one day at a time.
New Year's resolution is broadand that's why I think people
quit them.
If we just make it minute orsmaller, I think it's easily
controlled and easier to managementally than stretching it out
(02:49):
as far as a whole year.
And we know that because wework at a place where people
with new year's resolutions droplike flies.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yes, but.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
I also love January because it is a time where
everybody does have that energyand there's that hope in the air
, and that is a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
It is, it is.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
What about you?
How's your stuff?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
New Year's was great.
You know I got a new.
She's not a new addition, she'sbeen around, but my niece moved
in the ducky Yay, she'sstarting college here in our
lovely home state and so I hadboth of the spoiled girls.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
And it's interesting, and you yourself are kind of
the same way.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, let's be realistic.
I am so, having three of usbeing realistic.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I thought we were just being realistic me stating
that that's crazy that you hadto validate it to yourself.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Yeah, I know, when I hear them both speak, I'm like
what are we doing?
Another one of me.
You're welcome, world.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
You were telling me about Yammy and how she's just
sassy as all get out.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
I know she turned five and literally it just she,
just, yeah, yeah oh, anotherthing with the sobriety thing.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
It's like I'm candles and shit like I I got a ton of
like incense.
I've like found this newfoundrespect for lotions and like
candles and and self-care.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
So he's going to be.
Bath and Body Works meetsYankee Candle.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yankee Candle.
I bought soap today that Annaflamed me for.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I didn't flame him for but people of color.
Y'all know we are some coca,butter, shea, coconut kind of
people.
That's our jam.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yeah, and that's what I got, suave yes and it was
also like the first thing thatstuck out to me.
It smells really good it doesso just roll with it.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
That's the plan you start using coca butter it's
over, roll it's over well, we dohave like a uh intro reading,
don't we?
Yes, we do have an introreading and you know we'll kick
it off this next three months,until march, into march, with
our financial series.
We're gonna be throwing outsome good tips and we are and I
(05:18):
also have a challenge for theaudience as as well that I'll be
doing as well, so yay, I won'tbe as.
He will.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
I will learn Anna, knowing a little bit more
financially walking us throughthe series.
I'll be the.
I'll be in the place of thelistener also because I will be
learning with everyone listening.
That is also not as savvyfinancially as maybe Common
Sense Girl is, so I'm excitedfor it.
(05:50):
That's going to be a fun thing.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Yes, yes, we're going to get our money right.
We're all going to grow ourwealth and health Heck yeah.
But on this beautiful day ofJanuary 17th, thank the Lord we
made it.
I will be reading out of theDaily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and
Stephen Hasselman.
It's called Reboot the RealWork.
(06:13):
I am your teacher and you arelearning in my school.
My aim is to bring you tocompletion unhindered, free from
compulsive behavior,unrestrained, without shame,
free, flourishing and happy,looking to God in things great
(06:37):
and small.
Your aim is to learn anddiligently practice all these
things.
Why then don't you complete thework?
If you have the right aim and Ihave both the right aim and
right preparation what ismissing?
The work is quite feasible andis the only thing in our power.
(07:00):
Let go of the past.
We must only begin.
Believe me, and you will see.
Epeticus from his bookDiscojers Do you remember in
school or early in your lifebeing afraid to try something
because you feared you mightfail at it?
(07:21):
Most teenagers choose to foolaround rather than exert
themselves.
Half-hearted, lazy effort givesthem a ready-made excuse it
doesn't matter, I wasn't eventrying.
As we get older, failure is notso incoquential anymore.
What's at stake is not somearbitrary grade or intramural
(07:46):
sports trophy, but the qualityof your life and your ability to
deal with the world around you.
Don't let that intimidate you,though.
You have the best teachers inthe world, the wisest
philosophers who ever lived, andnot only are you capable.
The professor is asking forsomething very simple Just begin
(08:10):
the work.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
The rest follows.
Awesome.
Now we obviously have like alittle powwow before we start
this podcast and it was reallycool.
Part of the initial powwow,along with therapy, is reading,
uh, and figuring out what islike what.
(08:32):
What segments of these the bookof awakening and the daily stoic
uh, we open with and close withand, um, it was cool because we
both read through them and annajust repeatedly said two or
three times she's like theseboth have to deal with you and
it was kind of in a chokingsense and yeah, just with.
I think it pertains toeverybody, though that aspect of
(08:54):
anything's daunting if you makeit so as opposed to just doing
the work and it'll pay off.
And it is a weird thing hebrings up about how, like the
(09:14):
intramural stuff it, you go fromgetting very tangible.
I think this is a hard switchfor me as, becoming more of an
adult, you get like a verytangible thing, like you get as
a kid.
It's like, oh, I do somethinggood and I get this tangible
validation, uh, people pattingyou on the back all the time Wow
(09:36):
, you're so good at this.
X, y, z.
And then, as you become anadult and everything gets harder
progressively, it's like ohnobody is giving me any
validation.
So that's when you have to findit within yourself to put the
work forward.
Um for nothing physical, butjust becoming a better human so
(09:56):
yeah that's it okay I just thatwas my thoughts on it.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
I don't know, yeah, yeah, ditto to all of that.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Ditto to all of that.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
You know, it's kind of crazy, because you said
everything that I wanted to sayand then I was like, okay, now
what do I say?
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Yeah, we didn't have a powwow about the after we have
a powwow about the, after wehave a powwow about the reading
and then we kind of free balleverything else.
Yeah, we need a free ballcounter on the podcast.
I feel like I say that morethan anything that's always that
might go to phrase for stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I just be free balling it, it Throw it out
Jameer.
Nelson, I think that's thebasketball mentality of you.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
I hope nobody was free-balling when I played
baseball.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
You never know, but that also has to do with, I feel
like, with the whole lifestylechange.
Some people want to callresolutions.
I'll let you have it If youjust start.
That's all it takes.
We tell people this where wework at Walking through the door
(11:14):
is the hardest part After thatman, it gets a little simpler
Each and every time.
So, whatever your lifestylechanges you're doing in 2025,
just start it.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
You may hate it and keep it up.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
And me and no me.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Every morning I've been sleeping in my bed as of
late, which crazy, right, butI've been sleeping on the couch
for a while.
But I'd been sleeping on thecouch for a while and, like part
of the like, flipping my brainon, that's like okay, I'm
sleeping in bed, I'm making mybed and I have a journal by my
bed.
So every morning I wake up andI'm just, I fill up a page and
(11:59):
it's gibberish.
It may not be anything coherent, but by the end of it, like the
last couple sentences, I'm I'mfocusing on something that I
want to focus on that day, andit's hit a point where, like, I
wake up and I really don't wantto write in that page.
Like I'm really going, but Ihave been forcing myself to do
(12:23):
it.
Not only is my handwritinggetting better, but it's just a
good practice.
It's thought process-wise, thehumdrum of getting lost in time.
Time is always a constant andit's always going to be moving,
(12:48):
um, but you can.
You can categorize that time,uh, and that, as a thought to me
, is really comforting, becausetime is always going to be time
and it's always going to begoing.
But if I can make itcentralized or like one day at a
(13:11):
time, it's a comforting feelingthat no time is ever being
wasted.
And I feel, if you get caughtup in bad habits and that kind
of thing, you feel like, or Ifelt like I was being kind of
swept away by time as opposed towanting to take that step
(13:31):
forward and being able tocontrol it.
So, yeah, which the journalingthing is fun.
I don't hate it, it's just.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I love journaling.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
It takes like 25 minutes every morning.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I have journals everywhere.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
But I like it because you know morning brain, where
it's like nothing else reallymatters, and there's this like
you're foggy and so likewhatever I'm putting on that
page is like maybe not menecessarily thinking it, but I'm
like it's bodily, it's likeflowing through my hand and then
(14:09):
it just happens and it's prettycool.
The stuff comes out that Iwouldn't naturally think at the
prime time of the day.
When I'm locked into whateverI'm doing, morning brain's cool,
interesting.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
I used's cool Interesting.
I used to hate waking up.
Drinking a pint of vodka everynight, I have morning fog.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Drinking a pint of vodka every night.
Do that for a year and thenstop, and then tell me you don't
enjoy waking up in the morning.
I feel like a new human everymorning You're like ooh, that's
been new.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
you get up and you're like a whole new world.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Yeah, and back to the time thing.
It's like I, the reason thatkind of motivated me to flip I
know I'm talking a lot aboutthis, the reason that kind of
motivated me to flip I know I'mtalking a lot about this, but
who, who really cares?
The thing that made the flipfor me is I felt relationships
starting to be like strained byhow much I was focusing on
(15:16):
making myself like feel betterquote, unquote which I wasn't
actually.
It was just like a copingmechanism.
Um, through that and the newtime I have and what now I'm
able to invest my time in.
And you remember I used tonever pick up the phone.
This is true Like even Kaysen,even people I like, genuinely
(15:39):
care for deeply, I wouldn't pickup the phone.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
And now, yeah, you call me twice in one day jack
happy birthday jack yay jack hecalled me today and it's just
like this.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
It the gratitude.
I think I'm grateful that umthe time, like I'm grateful for
time and I'm appreciative of howI'm using it to give back to
the people I genuinely care for,if that makes any sense at all
(16:14):
it does okay cool.
I love how I have to do like acheckpoint with you, like am I
rambling too much, Anna.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
No, you are good.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
This is more of a deep one.
I like how the tones of ourssometimes teeter.
It's like a metronome.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
It's a metronome.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
We can either be joking the whole time, like
Rocky and the polar bear, orthis is the polar bear.
I think we got all the jokesout before in the phone calls.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
honestly, we still have jokes Really quick audience
.
We have new merchandise that wewill be putting up on our handy
dandy Instagram.
We do In the next month and ahalf.
We got a new designer, slashjarvis assistant slash.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
We don't even know but just a caring individual.
Yeah, that is an ai and not anindividual at all.
Just kidding, I'm like a realperson.
They're actually sitting in thestudio right now.
Right, I was like Cluck.
Cluck is a real person Shakingtheir head.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Like I am what.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
I'm sorry.
I watched the movie Meganrecently, so oh my gosh, finally
, yeah, it's okay, Okay it's.
It's kind of funny.
I honestly thought it was acomedy for the first 45 minutes.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
Oh, it's a cute movie .
You know what?
Speaker 1 (17:48):
Wait, I'm talking about the horror movie.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Yes, oh, okay.
Well, to me, I don't considerit horror because I really like
real life horror yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
They're making another Conjuring too.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Yes, I know.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Superman, they're coming out with a new one.
Did you know that?
Oh God, they're coming out witha new one, did you?
Know that oh god, we need tostop.
I'm excited for that Ballerina,which is the John Wick spinoff.
Excited for that, I don't know.
New Year's bring new things.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
It always does so.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Actually screw what I said.
I hope everybody keeps theirresolutions.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Lifestyle changes, their lifestyle changes.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
No, no'm joking, no.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
No one ever keeps a resolution.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
I love how I just backtrack on everything.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
I just said no.
What's your superpower?
Speaker 1 (18:35):
If I was going to have one.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
I think you have one, but what do you think your
superpower is Flying?
Okay, now that you don't do, no, it's cool.
Oh, is it not?
Speaker 1 (18:50):
a hypothetical it could be either or my superpower
is probably that's going tomake me sound like an asshole.
Oh God, I was going to sayempathy, but I'm going to dial
myself back because I'm not thatcocky.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
I'm winking at you, you do.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
got a lot of empathy Too much.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
You do and I have like none, probably social
awareness.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
I can tell when I'm not wanted in, like a room or a
situation, I'm not good atleaving that situation, but I
can tell, oh, like socialawareness.
There I know I'm not wanted,probably, but like I don't I
have an anti-power of gettingout of whatever situation, so I
(19:37):
just have to be there awkwardly,knowing that I am not wanted.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Oh no, I'm going to be there.
You're going to know I am there.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Or I'll just disappear.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
And even if you don't want to acknowledge me, not
only am I there, but, hell, Ihelped you know, rub it in their
face.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Yeah, you are a.
Rub it in your face.
My sister's like that too yeah,it's all I would.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
That's one ability that like unapologetically you
yeah, yeah, sure is, but I thinkmy superpower is discernment
and wisdom.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
I, I was worried I was sounding cocky well no, like
literally.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
I think my siblings can safely say, or my family
could safely say I I have alwayshad that like my whole life.
Like I am not the oldest, I'mlike damn near almost the
youngest of us kids and mynickname is kick mama.
For a reason, like there is areason for it, yeah, and I
(20:32):
didn't understand it.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
But I kind of realized like I always give this
like auntie advice, constantlylike no, I think that's a reason
we well I mean, we talked aboutit the other day the aspect of
communication.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Where we're at too.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
That a lot of people will smile to your face.
Talk behind your back.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Then backstab us.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Exactly and we, I think, growing up in situations
we probably grew up in and notwanting to repeat the pattern of
feeling what that's like andnot wanting to put that on other
people.
It's very like I will tell youand you'll be like that's not
(21:19):
what it is and I believe you andit's the same with you If you
tell me something.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yeah yeah, communication is key, good
communication.
Some people communicate.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Communication is key is has anybody said that?
Before she's actually right.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yeah, actually someone has.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
I'm really sure it's a quote, it is a quote, and I'm
joking with you, that's like oneof the.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
She wrote it down I sure am gonna write it.
He likes to tell me to write itdown.
I write everything I love towrite, like I am, I am just
absolutely ecstatic that you arejournaling yeah I I love it
well, what are you?
Speaker 1 (21:58):
the first thing you said was there's songs in there,
or something like that therecould be.
I mean, you're an artist, so Iactually was like looking at
them and there are certain lines.
I was like, hmm, I think I thinkryan, I think I was telling
somebody about it and ryan sentme a thing that just was really
prevalent, because I had analbum drop on apple music
(22:22):
without even knowing that I had,uh, released it because I put
it out in September of last yearto like drop in January and, um
, I did it because I knew thosesongs would never see the light
of day if I didn't do it, uh,with enough time in advance
before knowing I was going toforget about it, uh, but it's
(22:45):
only on Apple music, which isweird.
But he listened to it and hetexted me this really cool thing
, let me find the line His wifehad said it.
You hear all the familiarthings people say and don't let
them ruin your day, and that, Ithink, is the aspect of energy
(23:10):
attraction-wise If you walk outin a bad mood, you're going to
hear the bad stuff.
If you walk out in a good moodand trying to attract positive
energy and emitting positiveenergy, you're going to hear the
right stuff.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Yeah, I agree, it's like you are what you eat.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
You are what you eat.
And don't poop where you sleep.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
And don't get your honeys where you make your money
.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
And don't.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
No, it's probably thinking about that and moving
on.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
He's like oh wow okay , don't bark in a cat park well
I don't know what that means.
Actually, I kind of let's justmove on that, I think, rest,
let's leave that to rest, andare we doing?
Yeah, so we're moving, we'rechugging right along yeah, like
(24:17):
we talked about it last yearlike riding a bike, like a
tricycle I yeah sure.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Okay, I thought it was a one-wheel bike, but a one-
, one-wheel, a unicycle.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
What about a mountain bike?
Can we do a mountain bike?
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Okay, we can do a mountain bike.
So last year, noah and I hadtalked to you guys about, you
know, we are starting to reworkour structure, what we do here
at the Green Onions Podcast, sowe're trying out this new thing
(24:49):
and every quarter which some ofy'all, if y'all, don't know it's
every three months see, I'mwith y'all on this.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
I just sit here and I talk, she tells me what to do
and I just sit here I like, Iseem like constantly bossy I
light incense.
I try to bring some spiritualaspect to this.
I get food and I just sit herethat's what noah does that's it.
(25:17):
That's the extent.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I'm a glorified incense lighter he, he creates
the uh feng shui the feng shuithe feng shui.
But in this first lovely threemonths of the year of 2025,
we're going to kick off afinancial series and I'm going
to.
You know I have some tips forus to get started on a budget I
(25:42):
have a book.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
That's what that is.
I just pointed at a budget book.
Okay, I'll show it to you after.
Okay, good, great, I have abook.
That's what that is.
I just pointed at a budget book.
Okay, I'll show it to you after.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Okay good, great, I have a budget book, too great,
we're on the same page I wasn'tflexing on you, aunt no, no, I
know, but he was like a budgetbook.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I'm like okay, great um, but not everybody has a
budget book, that's true or evena pen and paper.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Well, they do have pen and paper, they just don't
write down.
But we're going to talk aboutor if you have a quill a quill
anything ink yeah, your iphone,your android, we don't give a
dang but I'm gonna throw out afew tips and then at the end I'm
actually gonna throw out achallenge that we are gonna
start february 1st all the wayuntil the end of 2025 and
(26:25):
hopefully everybody keeps it upfor the rest of their lives.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
But um one day at a time yeah, one day at a time.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
so, as we all know, you know, during the holidays
between October all the way toDecember, we spent a lot of
money between Halloween,thanksgiving, christmas, and in
our household we had a.
We spent a crap ton of money.
And is it necessary?
I don't know, maybe not.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
We can always be minimalist, you know Well.
Not Great documentary onNetflix, by the way, but thank
you, brenda.
You're giving gifts to people.
I mean you're giving gifts butyou're not giving gifts to
people who actually need it.
I mean we can go to a soupkitchen, donate some food or
something for the needy.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
I actually say sentimental gifts are, price
doesn't matter, so continue.
I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Well, no, price doesn't matter, but we overspend
.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
We overindulge, Because I know in my house we
cooked a lot of food.
We had food for oh my gosh, wehad so much food.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
I must have overdue everything, so yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
So, um, now it's time for us to get back on track
with our finances, because someof us went into credit card debt
.
Let's be honest, some of y'allwent into credit card debt.
It's okay.
It's okay, but we need to getback on track, start paying off
cars and houses and setting upcollege funds and all that good
crap and, you know, getting backto things that matter, like
(27:53):
paying your electricity bill.
So the first thing everybodyneeds to know is their numbers.
And when I say your numbers,how much money do you have
coming in every month?
Forty three cents.
How much do you have coming inevery month?
Speaker 1 (28:06):
43 cents.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
How much do you have going out?
That means your electricity,your bills, all your
subscriptions $67.43.
Oh so you negative, you hellanegative.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Yes, yes, hella negative you know what I'm
saying.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Like, what are those numbers looking like?
That is something you need toknow, because, also, you need to
look at those numbers and belike okay, my income is less
than my outgo, so if my numbersare less than my, my income is
less than my outgo.
I need to cut some things.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
I might not need netflix, hulu, amazon
subscription, nobody no goodthing has come out on Netflix
for the past 50 years.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Didn't I just tell you, the documentary called
Minimalist is good, is great.
Oh, I can read a book on it.
Okay, fine, read a book on it.
But listen, and I'm guilty ofthat I have a lot of
subscriptions.
Do I need them all?
Probably not.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
Yeah, I probably genuinely really do not how many
items do you have in youramazon cart?
Speaker 2 (29:11):
in my amazon cart.
Oh, bro, stop playing with me.
You know I got about a hundredand some odd items.
I thought you had like twothousand at one point I did have
two thousand at one point, butI did go in for new year's okay
good I did.
He's not even lying, I reallygenuinely did.
He was like, oh, what aboutthis?
And I was scrolling andscrolling.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I'm so happy that you went through it.
I did Look at us go.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
Look, I was like I really genuinely don't need that
, like I seriously don't.
And there's things in therelike, honestly, you know and
it's not just my Amazon, for mepersonally it's other stuff,
like so it's knowing yournumbers, knowing what that is,
and then setting clear goals.
Let's set some goals how, whatcan we get rid of?
(29:55):
What can we cut?
Speaker 1 (29:56):
Tangible.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
Mm, hmm, what do we basically?
What do you need?
Start with your needs, yournecessities, like your house,
whether you're renting or you'repaying a mortgage, that needs
(30:17):
to be one of the things thatcome out.
Your electricity, if you'repaying a water bill, your car
payment, your car insurance, um,home or homeowners insurance or
renter's insurance these thingsneed to come out.
Your food bill that's anotherthing.
You gotta get realistic.
We as human beings buy morethan we eat sometimes and we all
know food is high.
So it's like, literally, ifthat means you got to eat
(30:41):
chicken, rice and veggies everyflipping night I've literally
been doing just eggs yeah, you,you need to boil down your, your
menu because you, you need to,you need to eat, that's, that's
not the problem.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
But you also need to be very budget friendly and
conscious of your, yourconsistency it's also tan, like
writing it out, seeing numbers,having it tangibly be a thing
that you can see.
That number is always going tobe the same.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
It's always going to be finite.
So delegate it properly towhere you can leave some behind,
to where, when the holidays orsomething rolls around that you
want to do or God forbid,something bad happens you have a
cushion to fall back on.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
That is kind of what I'm getting from what you're
saying yes, absolutely, and I'mprobably, you know, like
basically summing it up prior towork, prior order, right,
anyway?
prioritize yep, that's the word.
I can spell it for y'all yourneeds over your wants.
I don't know why I can't say it, but your needs over your wants
(31:53):
.
Practice the 50 30 rule 50 isyour um needs, 30 is your once,
20 is your savings.
With that being said, this iswhere the challenge comes in,
people, and I'm not going to do20, because some of y'all really
do need to look at your numbers.
I know I had to.
(32:14):
Yes, I had to look at mynumbers and I was like she's
going to do this with me after.
Yes.
So I had to look at my numbersand, like I said, I added a
whole nother addition and I gotto get realistic.
But take at least, at least, ifyou can do, 20, amen,
hallelujah, praise the Lord, andwe will have this on our
Instagram page everybody as wellthese tips and exactly what the
(32:38):
50, 30, 20 rule is, but we'llalso have the challenge on there
as well.
But at least 10% of yourmonthly income and put it in
your savings, like I have asavings attached to my bank
account that is easilyaccessible.
But if you cannot look at thatmoney and not touch it for the
rest of this year, then get youa separate savings account at a
(33:02):
whole different bank.
Do not get a card at all.
It's going to make your butthave to go into the bank.
If it's too hot, too cold andyou lazy like me, you ain't
going to the bank.
But separate that money if youneed to and go to a different
bank.
But save at least 10% Ichallenge everybody to do that
(33:23):
of your monthly income.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
See, I did that same thing and a lot of jobs.
If whoever's listening has onewhere they can take like my job,
for example as opposed to myvery lucrative podcast earnings
that my day job I'm able to seton whatever app, how much of a
(33:49):
paycheck I want to go to anotherbank, and that way it's out of
sight, out of mind.
I don't even have the app, Ican't look at it, it just is
automatic.
So I started that probably sixmonths ago.
I haven't checked it.
I walked across the street anddid it.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
It's just with money, money, money yeah, because I
mean, we are, you know, guilty.
If we see it, we feel like wehave to spend it.
Yes, especially if we arealready practicing bad habits
out of sight, out of mind yeah,like I said, this will be on our
(34:30):
Instagram page.
Speaker 1 (34:33):
I will be doing it.
Yes, we all will be doing it.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Yes, we have our assistant producer Ducky over
here.
She's doing it, yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
My cat will be doing it.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
The cat that we ran away that came back.
He ran away again, roxy Junenever came back.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
You're telling me this now Cut the episode.
No, I'm just kidding, yeah shenever came back.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
She might come back, but I think she's very happy
wherever she's at.
I need an animal y'all, Do you?
Speaker 1 (35:11):
No what.
Is there any other points onthat?
I'm super in on this challenge.
I kind of love it.
See for me, what I'm probablygoing to do is, since I already
have the bank account, I'll takeout 10%, go into that.
I'll use my other 10%, get itin cash, put it somewhere
(35:32):
undisclosed location, he ghetto.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
He gonna put it underneath his mattress.
He's gonna cut a hole in themattress and put it in the
mattress.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
I'm gonna put it in the cocoa butter shea soap
bottle when it's empty.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
Real ratchet, real ratchet.
But yeah, that is the challenge, and stay tuned the next week
because I may add some more tips, may not we just do a check-in
to see where we are with thisbudget.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
We are going to get more.
We'll check in.
Also, we are going to get alittle more consistent with
holidays and just all the thingsthat that brings, all the
things that that brings.
We.
We're sorry for lack ofepisodes, but we will get more
on a familiar schedule yes,because Anna likes to party like
(36:19):
a rockstar.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
Clearly and I'm avoiding partying well, that's
why we didn't do episodes.
Anna was partying like arockstar he really wasn't, but I
was definitely.
I think we, we both were likeepisodes.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Anna was part of my roster.
He really wasn't, but I wasdefinitely.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
I think we what's the time.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
What's the time?
Do we have a timer?
Speaker 2 (36:37):
Yeah, we are good.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Okay, I say we boil it down to one.
Which one do you want?
Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Oh Lord.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
What is in style right now that you can't stand.
Speaker 2 (36:58):
Crop tops, I think.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Some people look good in them, some people do not.
Speaker 1 (37:05):
I don't think anybody needs a crop top.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
Unless.
No, I take it back.
Speaker 2 (37:11):
So my thing is, crop tops for women that are on the
heavier side can look good, butyou have to wear a certain pants
length in the waist, like it'sgot to be a higher waist,
because you don't want to looklike you have that muffin top.
(37:31):
That what I have the problemwith, and I know some of these
young ladies and I'm older oh,that's rough, but I'm old school
.
You have no reason to jiggle,you have no reason to.
I don't care how big, howskinny, you do not have no
reason to jiggle.
I'm not saying you got to go ona diet, but when I am saying
you do have to put on a girdleor something.
So I don't really like them.
(37:58):
And then we have the youngladies that are on the smaller
side who wear them at the mostinappropriate times.
I'm like, babe, we going tochurch, there is no reason for
you to have on a crop top, somejeans and a blazer Like that is
not appropriate.
So if we can just slide themsomewhere, I'll be all right
(38:23):
with it.
That's the one that reallybulls me up and, like I said,
I'm a particular aged woman andI have a crop top, but guess
what this girl is doing?
She put a damn shirt underneathit and you know, I'm like and
I'm wearing pants that are highenough because, like I said,
muffin tops you jiggling likethere should not be nobody wants
(38:46):
to see the jiggle when hasthere ever been an earthquake
happen in the?
you know it trembles prior.
So I'm like no, I, I don't, Ireally can't.
I can't do it like no, they'renot, there should not be an
aftermath to it um, probably forme.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
I have to pee, so she's gonna entertain you.
What's one thing?
Just told all his familybusiness what's in style right
now that I can't stand uminjustice wow and the drop mic
okay, injustice, okay.
Speaker 2 (39:29):
I think Wow and the drop mic, okay, injustice, okay.
I think everybody that's beenin style for many years.
I don't know how he said thatwas yeah, that's been in style
since.
(39:49):
Um, I don't know, slavery, Imean wow, I don't even know how
to.
Okay's gonna have to come backand explain that because lord um
, yes, but he is right,injustice.
Maybe I should have said thatthat probably would have been so
much better.
Um, yeah, ducky, do you want tojump on the mic and and tell us
what you think is in style?
(40:12):
You can't stand.
Oh, lord ducky, shy okay, shedoesn't have it.
Okay, please talk about thisinjustice, because I I'm gonna
go on a limb and say it's beengoing on since slavery began,
and slavery wasn't just with theblack force that I was.
Speaker 1 (40:31):
It's not actually injustice.
I think the thing that's reallyfrustrating currently.
Uh, what's in style um?
Speaker 2 (40:40):
injustice does seem like it's in style what booty
shorts.
Ducky said booty shorts.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
I'm in on that too.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
Yes, your underwear and shorts should not match.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
Depends.
I'm a guy, yeah, guys.
Just, I don't know when guysthought it was cool to do that
For me gym clothes and not gymclothes like what you wear.
But when did that becomepeople's whole personality, like
(41:20):
Gymshark or Fablet?
Speaker 2 (41:22):
or whatever.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:24):
These brands and people get it at like 80% off.
Oh my God, they have such agood sale.
What Taiwanese kid lost theirlife stitching your crappy
sweatshop t-shirt that you thinkis the cool thing?
It might just be the area I'min.
I like to find clothes thataren't brand new.
(41:49):
I'm not going to order shit, sofor me, maybe this is on my
hippy dippy train of recyclingor whatever, but I don't fuck
with those brands, even a littlebit.
Uh, there's no cool designs.
(42:13):
Prove me wrong.
And the names are corny, andthe people that wear them need
to find a personality.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
Goodbye so no one lost a whole bunch of friends no
, I was only one.
Speaker 1 (42:26):
okay for loungewear, I get it.
If you're wearing that, it'slike the crop top, just like you
can make that shit Like I don'tneed a stupid logo.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
Make it Just wear the shit you wore when you were
five or whatever you have.
Speaker 1 (42:43):
It's like basically underwear.
At this point also, can we behonest?
Speaker 2 (42:46):
That's what it is, Absolutely that's what it is.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
Alright.
So can we be honest that's whatit is, absolutely that's what
it is.
All right, wait, do you agreewith me on that or no?
Speaker 2 (42:55):
I do agree with you.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
Or do we have static there?
We don't have static.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
No, we don't have static.
Speaker 1 (42:59):
Okay, good, I hope we find static with somebody
because I have a very.
I will step to static, but notyou, Never you.
Speaker 2 (43:11):
I can definitely tell you, some of our followers Are
those people that wear thosebrands.
And they wear them heavily.
They wear them heavily.
Yeah, they wear them heavily.
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Well, no, it's not.
I just like the planet.
Can I boil it down to that?
Speaker 2 (43:30):
You do like the planet.
I mean I like the planet.
Can I boil?
Speaker 1 (43:32):
it down to that.
You do like the planet.
I mean, I like the planet too.
The more omissions that aremade by making these shitty ass
clothes that do not hug thesepeople in the right places, I'm
telling you y'all.
Speaker 2 (43:41):
Like I said, you should not be jiggling baby.
Speaker 1 (43:47):
All right, ask another question before you go.
I told you I could go on the.
Speaker 2 (43:51):
It went from injustice like I'm telling you
honey, no, you shouldn't.
What life experience.
That's another thing.
The five-year-old she turnedfive and she body checks people.
She, she body checks people.
(44:11):
She was like at her birthday,she was like, she was like Monty
and she just kind of looked atme and she's like I said and I
looked and I seen this oh nowoman that was jiggling, you
know.
You can tell she had money sothere was no reason for her not
to buy a girdle, but she wasjiggling baby.
I'm also not.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
I'm not against people's bodies like I'm not
against people's bodies, but I'magainst.
Things are inappropriate, putthem in yes okay now, that's my
stance anna has a completelydifferent stance, it seems like
you just well, I've been aplus-size woman.
Speaker 2 (44:45):
That's how I know like you should not like.
There's a problem.
I look good in my damn clothesthat's true I'm not jiggling.
Speaker 1 (44:53):
My titties ain't on the floor and it's also just
self-awareness, I feel like yeah, and I'm not.
Speaker 2 (44:58):
Like I'm not saying I don't have rules.
What I'm saying is they're nothanging on my damn pants, that's
for sure that is true I'm not.
No, that's.
There's nothing attractiveabout that.
No woman, no man has ever gotor attracted the opposite sex or
the same sex by jiggling likethat.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
You'd be surprised.
Those people are diabolical.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
No, them, mofos have low self-esteem.
Anyway, what life experiencedid you build up in your head
but were disappointed by?
Speaker 1 (45:28):
in your head, but were disappointed by I'm not
sure.
Speaker 2 (45:44):
Okay, you think about that.
Let me tell you so.
We talked about this beforebecause I think sometimes I
because I don't as if you, ifanybody's listened to this show
or anybody knows me off the show, knows I'm not a gentle parent.
I have two different kids withtwo different personalities.
I have one that shits outglitter.
The other one he has shits outglitter Another time he has
(46:07):
shits out shit.
So great kids as an overall.
They're going to be somethingamazing when they grow up.
I am, I know they will be, but Idon't gentle parent and I shoot
it straight to them.
So, prior to us getting thesekids, actually, when my husband
(46:29):
and I met six months after wehad met, moved, moved in
together, we wanted to have kids, realized we had issues, went
down the whole rabbit hole,still going down the whole
rabbit hole, but God blessed uswith these two kids.
Amen, hallelujah.
However, on the flip side ofthat, I thought that parenting
(46:49):
was like the Wizard of Oz, kindof like going down the yellow
brick road with a few littleturbulence.
I kind of thought my experiencewas going to be like how my
mom's looked or how my, how I'veseen other people's look.
Speaker 1 (47:02):
No, you have a different vantage point yeah,
they came already built and youwere a kid viewing other people
do it, or yes?
Speaker 2 (47:13):
So I'm a little disappointed.
It's a little harder in thetrenches.
Yeah, I'm in the trenches, yeah, so I'm a little.
I'm not disappointed by being aparent.
I think I'm disappointed bybecause I'm going through some
stuff right now yeah, Not mewith my kid kids, whatever
because Yammy's she's a teenager, but I just, you know, I guess
(47:39):
I see other people but also atthe same time they got nine
months and now they're just,they're going through the whole
thing.
They get to mold this child.
I came with two children thatalready kind of semi-molded and
I have to tear down some thingsthat aren't right, you know, and
deal with issues that otherpeople have inflicted upon them.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
uh, but anyways, no, I get it.
For me it's probably, I don'tknow, being an adult in general,
can I answer the last questionagain?
If I was to answer the lastquestion again, it would be um,
(48:29):
people.
So, with the sobriety thing,I'm also lumping two other
things in there and I'll divulgeone of the other two things.
Uh, and it's social media.
Um, nobody cares about you, uh,or what pictures you post.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
If I see another photo dump, I'm gonna lose my
fucking mind oh, and I was gonnaput I had quite a few of them
to put up.
Speaker 1 (48:53):
Oh, we're good, I'm just joking, we're good, I like
your stuff I have to see arandom photo of a room with
sunlight hitting the right wayor a yawning animal.
Oh my gosh, the amount.
Let's get away, let's get it.
I think we should all know lessabout each other.
(49:13):
I think that for 2025.
Speaker 2 (49:17):
And if I?
Speaker 1 (49:17):
ever start.
If somebody starts gettingthere with me, I'm going to be
like I'm just going to hold upmy hand.
Stop Talk, talk to somebodyabout it.
This is not me, I'm notqualified on and, honestly, if I
was qualified I wouldn't care.
Speaker 2 (49:35):
He's not making no money off this.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
Yeah, I think we've got too free-balling with shit
here.
I am saying that afterdivulging a whole bunch of shit
about what I'm going throughcurrently.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
That's just a portion of your life, though, a portion
Very small.
Speaker 1 (49:58):
Very small portion.
What would the title of yourautobiography be?
Speaker 2 (50:05):
What the hell are we doing now?
Bye.
Speaker 1 (50:09):
Bye, bye, I think mine would be, oops.
Speaker 2 (50:22):
I did it again.
Nope, just oops.
Speaker 1 (50:25):
Oops, oops, oops, dot dot dot, fuck, dot dot dot,
shit dot shit.
Sorry, damn it.
Take it back, will you forgiveme?
No, okay, cool, I get it.
It's a long title, but it'sworking it's.
It's in the works it'll be avery long cover so you guys is
(50:49):
it time?
Speaker 2 (50:50):
It is time for you to close us out with the Book of
Awakening by Mark Nepo.
Speaker 1 (50:56):
Yes, and we're right at the end of our incense, which
is actually like perfect timing, it's so amazing, perfect
timing.
Okay so the Book of of awakeningby Mark Nepo.
Today, on January 17th, it'sthe Friction of being Visible.
(51:21):
This quote is by William James.
It is only by risking ourselvesfrom one hour to another that
we live at all.
The quote by Mark, or theexcerpt by Mark Nepo, be
(51:52):
conflict to negotiate.
If we choose to avoid allconflict with others, we will
eventually breed a poisonousconflict within ourselves.
Likewise, if we manage toattend our inner lives, who we
are, sooner or later create somediscord with those who would
rather have us be something else.
In effect, the cost of beingwho you are is that you can't
possibly meet everyone'sexpectations, and so there will
(52:16):
inevitably be external conflictto deal with the friction of
being visible.
Still, the cost of not beingwho you are is that, while you
are busy pleasing everyonearound you, a precious part of
you is dying inside.
In this case, there will be aninternal conflict to deal with
(52:36):
the friction of being visible.
As for me, it's taken me 30,whoa, I'm not 30 y'all.
But as for Mark Nepo, it hastaken him 30 of his 49 years to
realize that not being who I amis more deadly, and it has taken
the last 19 years to try tomake a practice of this.
(52:58):
What this means in a daily wayis that I have to be
conscientious about beingtruthful and resist the urge to
accommodate my truth away Oof.
To accommodate my truth awayOof.
I have to be conscientiousabout being truthful and resist
the urge to accommodate my truthaway Boom.
If y'all just heard that part,that's all you needed.
(53:21):
It means that being who Ireally am is not forbidden or
muted just because others arecomfortable or don't want to
hear it.
The great examples arelegendary Nelson Mandela, gandhi
, sir Thomas More, rosa Parks.
But we don't have to be greatto begin.
We simply have to start bysaying what we really want for
(53:42):
dinner or which movie we reallywant to see.
Amen Amen.
Speaker 2 (53:47):
Y'all.
Thank you for joining us.
Speaker 1 (53:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (53:52):
On our first episode of 2025.
Speaker 1 (53:56):
The new year, woo, yes, everybody.
Speaker 2 (54:00):
And check out our Instagram and in a couple of
months we will be havingmerchandise come out.
Speaker 1 (54:05):
And thank y'all for listening.
Thank you, and we is out.
Woo Woo.
And thank y'all for listening.
Thank you, and we is out.
Woo woo.
I think that went well.
I don't fuck that one, god damnit.
Hey, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Welcome to the Green Onions podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
We needed like a shock warning, came in out of
the gate.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
This is your girl.
Common Sense Girl.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
And I'm Noah.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
This is where we throw out some nonsense.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
A whole lot of sense.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Or some sense.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Wait Alright.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Wait, we are rusty, but it's all good.
But thank you guys for joiningus for another special edition
another episode, yes, yes,another.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Another week around the sun welcome to 2025, y'all
oh my gosh, I didn't even knowthat that happened it sure did
yeah everybody welcome.
I hope you're bringing in thenew year like you should how is
that yes, sticking to yourresolutions?
Speaker 2 (00:48):
No, no, they're not sticking to their resolutions.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
I mean they can if they want to, depending on the
resolution.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Well, you know what Bump?
A resolution.
I'm going to call it alifestyle change, because that's
what people need to do.
Yeah, a resolution.
Like people, don't stick tothat crap.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Also, there are so many messed up people in the
world.
Like what do you think TedBundy's New Year's resolution
was?
I think he needed to be told.
You probably should change LikeI don't think you should have a
New Year's resolution.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
No, let's do a lifestyle change.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So just get better.
Consistent growth.
Every day is a New Year'sresolution, yes, or a new year,
and then come up with theresolution.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Let's just be 1% better than we were yesterday.
How about that?
Speaker 1 (01:29):
That's fine.
I'm like let's do that we canroll with that.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
How was your week, Noah?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
It was good, I had a really good week.
Actually I've been doing thesober January.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
So feeling really good on week two, okay, feeling
really good on week two, whoop,whoop, yeah.
And I don't know.
It's a learning process, oneday at a time, just figuring out
stuff about myself havingdreams again, getting in touch
with my subconscious.
Awesome In a way that I didn'tknow.
I still had a subconscious andyeah, it's just a learning
(02:04):
process.
Okay, yeah, what did you do forNew?
Year's conscious and yeah, it'sjust a learning process.
Okay, what did you do for NewYear's?
Nothing I want to divulge, ohLord.
Well, not really, it was just.
It was like that moment whenyou realize you're 25 and it was
a quarter life crisis and I,just, I literally, I think just
shut down for three days andthat's what promoted me to I
think, just shut down for threedays and that's what promoted me
(02:26):
to be like I got to switchsomething up.
Hence the initial conversationof talking about how let's treat
one day at a time.
New Year's resolution is broadand that's why I think people
quit them.
If we just make it minute orsmaller, I think it's easily
controlled and easier to managementally than stretching it out
(02:49):
as far as a whole year.
And we know that because wework at a place where people
with new year's resolutions droplike flies.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yes, but.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
I also love January because it is a time where
everybody does have that energyand there's that hope in the air
, and that is a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
It is, it is.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
What about you?
How's your stuff?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
New Year's was great.
You know I got a new.
She's not a new addition, she'sbeen around, but my niece moved
in the ducky Yay, she'sstarting college here in our
lovely home state and so I hadboth of the spoiled girls.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
And it's interesting, and you yourself are kind of
the same way.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, let's be realistic.
I am so, having three of usbeing realistic.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I thought we were just being realistic me stating
that that's crazy that you hadto validate it to yourself.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Yeah, I know, when I hear them both speak, I'm like
what are we doing?
Another one of me.
You're welcome, world.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
You were telling me about Yammy and how she's just
sassy as all get out.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
I know she turned five and literally it just she,
just, yeah, yeah oh, anotherthing with the sobriety thing.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
It's like I'm candles and shit like I I got a ton of
like incense.
I've like found this newfoundrespect for lotions and like
candles and and self-care.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
So he's going to be.
Bath and Body Works meetsYankee Candle.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yankee Candle.
I bought soap today that Annaflamed me for.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I didn't flame him for but people of color.
Y'all know we are some coca,butter, shea, coconut kind of
people.
That's our jam.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yeah, and that's what I got, suave yes and it was
also like the first thing thatstuck out to me.
It smells really good it doesso just roll with it.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
That's the plan you start using coca butter it's
over, roll it's over well, we dohave like a uh intro reading,
don't we?
Yes, we do have an introreading and you know we'll kick
it off this next three months,until march, into march, with
our financial series.
We're gonna be throwing outsome good tips and we are and I
(05:18):
also have a challenge for theaudience as as well that I'll be
doing as well, so yay, I won'tbe as.
He will.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
I will learn Anna, knowing a little bit more
financially walking us throughthe series.
I'll be the.
I'll be in the place of thelistener also because I will be
learning with everyone listening.
That is also not as savvyfinancially as maybe Common
Sense Girl is, so I'm excitedfor it.
(05:50):
That's going to be a fun thing.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Yes, yes, we're going to get our money right.
We're all going to grow ourwealth and health Heck yeah.
But on this beautiful day ofJanuary 17th, thank the Lord we
made it.
I will be reading out of theDaily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and
Stephen Hasselman.
It's called Reboot the RealWork.
(06:13):
I am your teacher and you arelearning in my school.
My aim is to bring you tocompletion unhindered, free from
compulsive behavior,unrestrained, without shame,
free, flourishing and happy,looking to God in things great
(06:37):
and small.
Your aim is to learn anddiligently practice all these
things.
Why then don't you complete thework?
If you have the right aim and Ihave both the right aim and
right preparation what ismissing?
The work is quite feasible andis the only thing in our power.
(07:00):
Let go of the past.
We must only begin.
Believe me, and you will see.
Epeticus from his bookDiscojers Do you remember in
school or early in your lifebeing afraid to try something
because you feared you mightfail at it?
(07:21):
Most teenagers choose to foolaround rather than exert
themselves.
Half-hearted, lazy effort givesthem a ready-made excuse it
doesn't matter, I wasn't eventrying.
As we get older, failure is notso incoquential anymore.
What's at stake is not somearbitrary grade or intramural
(07:46):
sports trophy, but the qualityof your life and your ability to
deal with the world around you.
Don't let that intimidate you,though.
You have the best teachers inthe world, the wisest
philosophers who ever lived, andnot only are you capable.
The professor is asking forsomething very simple Just begin
(08:10):
the work.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
The rest follows.
Awesome.
Now we obviously have like alittle powwow before we start
this podcast and it was reallycool.
Part of the initial powwow,along with therapy, is reading,
uh, and figuring out what islike what.
(08:32):
What segments of these the bookof awakening and the daily stoic
uh, we open with and close withand, um, it was cool because we
both read through them and annajust repeatedly said two or
three times she's like theseboth have to deal with you and
it was kind of in a chokingsense and yeah, just with.
I think it pertains toeverybody, though that aspect of
(08:54):
anything's daunting if you makeit so as opposed to just doing
the work and it'll pay off.
And it is a weird thing hebrings up about how, like the
(09:14):
intramural stuff it, you go fromgetting very tangible.
I think this is a hard switchfor me as, becoming more of an
adult, you get like a verytangible thing, like you get as
a kid.
It's like, oh, I do somethinggood and I get this tangible
validation, uh, people pattingyou on the back all the time Wow
(09:36):
, you're so good at this.
X, y, z.
And then, as you become anadult and everything gets harder
progressively, it's like ohnobody is giving me any
validation.
So that's when you have to findit within yourself to put the
work forward.
Um for nothing physical, butjust becoming a better human so
(09:56):
yeah that's it okay I just thatwas my thoughts on it.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
I don't know, yeah, yeah, ditto to all of that.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Ditto to all of that.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
You know, it's kind of crazy, because you said
everything that I wanted to sayand then I was like, okay, now
what do I say?
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Yeah, we didn't have a powwow about the after we have
a powwow about the, after wehave a powwow about the reading
and then we kind of free balleverything else.
Yeah, we need a free ballcounter on the podcast.
I feel like I say that morethan anything that's always that
might go to phrase for stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I just be free balling it, it Throw it out
Jameer.
Nelson, I think that's thebasketball mentality of you.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
I hope nobody was free-balling when I played
baseball.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
You never know, but that also has to do with, I feel
like, with the whole lifestylechange.
Some people want to callresolutions.
I'll let you have it If youjust start.
That's all it takes.
We tell people this where wework at Walking through the door
(11:14):
is the hardest part After thatman, it gets a little simpler
Each and every time.
So, whatever your lifestylechanges you're doing in 2025,
just start it.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
You may hate it and keep it up.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
And me and no me.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Every morning I've been sleeping in my bed as of
late, which crazy, right, butI've been sleeping on the couch
for a while.
But I'd been sleeping on thecouch for a while and, like part
of the like, flipping my brainon, that's like okay, I'm
sleeping in bed, I'm making mybed and I have a journal by my
bed.
So every morning I wake up andI'm just, I fill up a page and
(11:59):
it's gibberish.
It may not be anything coherent, but by the end of it, like the
last couple sentences, I'm I'mfocusing on something that I
want to focus on that day, andit's hit a point where, like, I
wake up and I really don't wantto write in that page.
Like I'm really going, but Ihave been forcing myself to do
(12:23):
it.
Not only is my handwritinggetting better, but it's just a
good practice.
It's thought process-wise, thehumdrum of getting lost in time.
Time is always a constant andit's always going to be moving,
(12:48):
um, but you can.
You can categorize that time,uh, and that, as a thought to me
, is really comforting, becausetime is always going to be time
and it's always going to begoing.
But if I can make itcentralized or like one day at a
(13:11):
time, it's a comforting feelingthat no time is ever being
wasted.
And I feel, if you get caughtup in bad habits and that kind
of thing, you feel like, or Ifelt like I was being kind of
swept away by time as opposed towanting to take that step
(13:31):
forward and being able tocontrol it.
So, yeah, which the journalingthing is fun.
I don't hate it, it's just.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I love journaling.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
It takes like 25 minutes every morning.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I have journals everywhere.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
But I like it because you know morning brain, where
it's like nothing else reallymatters, and there's this like
you're foggy and so likewhatever I'm putting on that
page is like maybe not menecessarily thinking it, but I'm
like it's bodily, it's likeflowing through my hand and then
(14:09):
it just happens and it's prettycool.
The stuff comes out that Iwouldn't naturally think at the
prime time of the day.
When I'm locked into whateverI'm doing, morning brain's cool,
interesting.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
I used's cool Interesting.
I used to hate waking up.
Drinking a pint of vodka everynight, I have morning fog.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Drinking a pint of vodka every night.
Do that for a year and thenstop, and then tell me you don't
enjoy waking up in the morning.
I feel like a new human everymorning You're like ooh, that's
been new.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
you get up and you're like a whole new world.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Yeah, and back to the time thing.
It's like I, the reason thatkind of motivated me to flip I
know I'm talking a lot aboutthis, the reason that kind of
motivated me to flip I know I'mtalking a lot about this, but
who, who really cares?
The thing that made the flipfor me is I felt relationships
starting to be like strained byhow much I was focusing on
(15:16):
making myself like feel betterquote, unquote which I wasn't
actually.
It was just like a copingmechanism.
Um, through that and the newtime I have and what now I'm
able to invest my time in.
And you remember I used tonever pick up the phone.
This is true Like even Kaysen,even people I like, genuinely
(15:39):
care for deeply, I wouldn't pickup the phone.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
And now, yeah, you call me twice in one day jack
happy birthday jack yay jack hecalled me today and it's just
like this.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
It the gratitude.
I think I'm grateful that umthe time, like I'm grateful for
time and I'm appreciative of howI'm using it to give back to
the people I genuinely care for,if that makes any sense at all
(16:14):
it does okay cool.
I love how I have to do like acheckpoint with you, like am I
rambling too much, Anna.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
No, you are good.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
This is more of a deep one.
I like how the tones of ourssometimes teeter.
It's like a metronome.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
It's a metronome.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
We can either be joking the whole time, like
Rocky and the polar bear, orthis is the polar bear.
I think we got all the jokesout before in the phone calls.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
honestly, we still have jokes Really quick audience
.
We have new merchandise that wewill be putting up on our handy
dandy Instagram.
We do In the next month and ahalf.
We got a new designer, slashjarvis assistant slash.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
We don't even know but just a caring individual.
Yeah, that is an ai and not anindividual at all.
Just kidding, I'm like a realperson.
They're actually sitting in thestudio right now.
Right, I was like Cluck.
Cluck is a real person Shakingtheir head.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Like I am what.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
I'm sorry.
I watched the movie Meganrecently, so oh my gosh, finally
, yeah, it's okay, Okay it's.
It's kind of funny.
I honestly thought it was acomedy for the first 45 minutes.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
Oh, it's a cute movie .
You know what?
Speaker 1 (17:48):
Wait, I'm talking about the horror movie.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Yes, oh, okay.
Well, to me, I don't considerit horror because I really like
real life horror yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
They're making another Conjuring too.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Yes, I know.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Superman, they're coming out with a new one.
Did you know that?
Oh God, they're coming out witha new one, did you?
Know that oh god, we need tostop.
I'm excited for that Ballerina,which is the John Wick spinoff.
Excited for that, I don't know.
New Year's bring new things.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
It always does so.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Actually screw what I said.
I hope everybody keeps theirresolutions.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Lifestyle changes, their lifestyle changes.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
No, no'm joking, no.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
No one ever keeps a resolution.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
I love how I just backtrack on everything.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
I just said no.
What's your superpower?
Speaker 1 (18:35):
If I was going to have one.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
I think you have one, but what do you think your
superpower is Flying?
Okay, now that you don't do, no, it's cool.
Oh, is it not?
Speaker 1 (18:50):
a hypothetical it could be either or my superpower
is probably that's going tomake me sound like an asshole.
Oh God, I was going to sayempathy, but I'm going to dial
myself back because I'm not thatcocky.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
I'm winking at you, you do.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
got a lot of empathy Too much.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
You do and I have like none, probably social
awareness.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
I can tell when I'm not wanted in, like a room or a
situation, I'm not good atleaving that situation, but I
can tell, oh, like socialawareness.
There I know I'm not wanted,probably, but like I don't I
have an anti-power of gettingout of whatever situation, so I
(19:37):
just have to be there awkwardly,knowing that I am not wanted.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Oh no, I'm going to be there.
You're going to know I am there.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Or I'll just disappear.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
And even if you don't want to acknowledge me, not
only am I there, but, hell, Ihelped you know, rub it in their
face.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Yeah, you are a.
Rub it in your face.
My sister's like that too yeah,it's all I would.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
That's one ability that like unapologetically you
yeah, yeah, sure is, but I thinkmy superpower is discernment
and wisdom.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
I, I was worried I was sounding cocky well no, like
literally.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
I think my siblings can safely say, or my family
could safely say I I have alwayshad that like my whole life.
Like I am not the oldest, I'mlike damn near almost the
youngest of us kids and mynickname is kick mama.
For a reason, like there is areason for it, yeah, and I
(20:32):
didn't understand it.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
But I kind of realized like I always give this
like auntie advice, constantlylike no, I think that's a reason
we well I mean, we talked aboutit the other day the aspect of
communication.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Where we're at too.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
That a lot of people will smile to your face.
Talk behind your back.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Then backstab us.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Exactly and we, I think, growing up in situations
we probably grew up in and notwanting to repeat the pattern of
feeling what that's like andnot wanting to put that on other
people.
It's very like I will tell youand you'll be like that's not
(21:19):
what it is and I believe you andit's the same with you If you
tell me something.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yeah yeah, communication is key, good
communication.
Some people communicate.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Communication is key is has anybody said that?
Before she's actually right.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yeah, actually someone has.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
I'm really sure it's a quote, it is a quote, and I'm
joking with you, that's like oneof the.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
She wrote it down I sure am gonna write it.
He likes to tell me to write itdown.
I write everything I love towrite, like I am, I am just
absolutely ecstatic that you arejournaling yeah I I love it
well, what are you?
Speaker 1 (21:58):
the first thing you said was there's songs in there,
or something like that therecould be.
I mean, you're an artist, so Iactually was like looking at
them and there are certain lines.
I was like, hmm, I think I thinkryan, I think I was telling
somebody about it and ryan sentme a thing that just was really
prevalent, because I had analbum drop on apple music
(22:22):
without even knowing that I had,uh, released it because I put
it out in September of last yearto like drop in January and, um
, I did it because I knew thosesongs would never see the light
of day if I didn't do it, uh,with enough time in advance
before knowing I was going toforget about it, uh, but it's
(22:45):
only on Apple music, which isweird.
But he listened to it and hetexted me this really cool thing
, let me find the line His wifehad said it.
You hear all the familiarthings people say and don't let
them ruin your day, and that, Ithink, is the aspect of energy
(23:10):
attraction-wise If you walk outin a bad mood, you're going to
hear the bad stuff.
If you walk out in a good moodand trying to attract positive
energy and emitting positiveenergy, you're going to hear the
right stuff.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Yeah, I agree, it's like you are what you eat.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
You are what you eat.
And don't poop where you sleep.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
And don't get your honeys where you make your money
.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
And don't.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
No, it's probably thinking about that and moving
on.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
He's like oh wow okay , don't bark in a cat park well
I don't know what that means.
Actually, I kind of let's justmove on that, I think, rest,
let's leave that to rest, andare we doing?
Yeah, so we're moving, we'rechugging right along yeah, like
(24:17):
we talked about it last yearlike riding a bike, like a
tricycle I yeah sure.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Okay, I thought it was a one-wheel bike, but a one-
, one-wheel, a unicycle.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
What about a mountain bike?
Can we do a mountain bike?
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Okay, we can do a mountain bike.
So last year, noah and I hadtalked to you guys about, you
know, we are starting to reworkour structure, what we do here
at the Green Onions Podcast, sowe're trying out this new thing
(24:49):
and every quarter which some ofy'all, if y'all, don't know it's
every three months see, I'mwith y'all on this.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
I just sit here and I talk, she tells me what to do
and I just sit here I like, Iseem like constantly bossy I
light incense.
I try to bring some spiritualaspect to this.
I get food and I just sit herethat's what noah does that's it.
(25:17):
That's the extent.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I'm a glorified incense lighter he, he creates
the uh feng shui the feng shuithe feng shui.
But in this first lovely threemonths of the year of 2025,
we're going to kick off afinancial series and I'm going
to.
You know I have some tips forus to get started on a budget I
(25:42):
have a book.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
That's what that is.
I just pointed at a budget book.
Okay, I'll show it to you after.
Okay, good, great, I have abook.
That's what that is.
I just pointed at a budget book.
Okay, I'll show it to you after.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Okay good, great, I have a budget book, too great,
we're on the same page I wasn'tflexing on you, aunt no, no, I
know, but he was like a budgetbook.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I'm like okay, great um, but not everybody has a
budget book, that's true or evena pen and paper.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Well, they do have pen and paper, they just don't
write down.
But we're going to talk aboutor if you have a quill a quill
anything ink yeah, your iphone,your android, we don't give a
dang but I'm gonna throw out afew tips and then at the end I'm
actually gonna throw out achallenge that we are gonna
start february 1st all the wayuntil the end of 2025 and
(26:25):
hopefully everybody keeps it upfor the rest of their lives.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
But um one day at a time yeah, one day at a time.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
so, as we all know, you know, during the holidays
between October all the way toDecember, we spent a lot of
money between Halloween,thanksgiving, christmas, and in
our household we had a.
We spent a crap ton of money.
And is it necessary?
I don't know, maybe not.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
We can always be minimalist, you know Well.
Not Great documentary onNetflix, by the way, but thank
you, brenda.
You're giving gifts to people.
I mean you're giving gifts butyou're not giving gifts to
people who actually need it.
I mean we can go to a soupkitchen, donate some food or
something for the needy.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
I actually say sentimental gifts are, price
doesn't matter, so continue.
I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Well, no, price doesn't matter, but we overspend
.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
We overindulge, Because I know in my house we
cooked a lot of food.
We had food for oh my gosh, wehad so much food.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
I must have overdue everything, so yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
So, um, now it's time for us to get back on track
with our finances, because someof us went into credit card debt
.
Let's be honest, some of y'allwent into credit card debt.
It's okay.
It's okay, but we need to getback on track, start paying off
cars and houses and setting upcollege funds and all that good
crap and, you know, getting backto things that matter, like
(27:53):
paying your electricity bill.
So the first thing everybodyneeds to know is their numbers.
And when I say your numbers,how much money do you have
coming in every month?
Forty three cents.
How much do you have coming inevery month?
Speaker 1 (28:06):
43 cents.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
How much do you have going out?
That means your electricity,your bills, all your
subscriptions $67.43.
Oh so you negative, you hellanegative.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Yes, yes, hella negative you know what I'm
saying.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Like, what are those numbers looking like?
That is something you need toknow, because, also, you need to
look at those numbers and belike okay, my income is less
than my outgo, so if my numbersare less than my, my income is
less than my outgo.
I need to cut some things.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
I might not need netflix, hulu, amazon
subscription, nobody no goodthing has come out on Netflix
for the past 50 years.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Didn't I just tell you, the documentary called
Minimalist is good, is great.
Oh, I can read a book on it.
Okay, fine, read a book on it.
But listen, and I'm guilty ofthat I have a lot of
subscriptions.
Do I need them all?
Probably not.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
Yeah, I probably genuinely really do not how many
items do you have in youramazon cart?
Speaker 2 (29:11):
in my amazon cart.
Oh, bro, stop playing with me.
You know I got about a hundredand some odd items.
I thought you had like twothousand at one point I did have
two thousand at one point, butI did go in for new year's okay
good I did.
He's not even lying, I reallygenuinely did.
He was like, oh, what aboutthis?
And I was scrolling andscrolling.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I'm so happy that you went through it.
I did Look at us go.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
Look, I was like I really genuinely don't need that
, like I seriously don't.
And there's things in therelike, honestly, you know and
it's not just my Amazon, for mepersonally it's other stuff,
like so it's knowing yournumbers, knowing what that is,
and then setting clear goals.
Let's set some goals how, whatcan we get rid of?
(29:55):
What can we cut?
Speaker 1 (29:56):
Tangible.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
Mm, hmm, what do we basically?
What do you need?
Start with your needs, yournecessities, like your house,
whether you're renting or you'repaying a mortgage, that needs
(30:17):
to be one of the things thatcome out.
Your electricity, if you'repaying a water bill, your car
payment, your car insurance, um,home or homeowners insurance or
renter's insurance these thingsneed to come out.
Your food bill that's anotherthing.
You gotta get realistic.
We as human beings buy morethan we eat sometimes and we all
know food is high.
So it's like, literally, ifthat means you got to eat
(30:41):
chicken, rice and veggies everyflipping night I've literally
been doing just eggs yeah, you,you need to boil down your, your
menu because you, you need to,you need to eat, that's, that's
not the problem.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
But you also need to be very budget friendly and
conscious of your, yourconsistency it's also tan, like
writing it out, seeing numbers,having it tangibly be a thing
that you can see.
That number is always going tobe the same.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
It's always going to be finite.
So delegate it properly towhere you can leave some behind,
to where, when the holidays orsomething rolls around that you
want to do or God forbid,something bad happens you have a
cushion to fall back on.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
That is kind of what I'm getting from what you're
saying yes, absolutely, and I'mprobably, you know, like
basically summing it up prior towork, prior order, right,
anyway?
prioritize yep, that's the word.
I can spell it for y'all yourneeds over your wants.
I don't know why I can't say it, but your needs over your wants
(31:53):
.
Practice the 50 30 rule 50 isyour um needs, 30 is your once,
20 is your savings.
With that being said, this iswhere the challenge comes in,
people, and I'm not going to do20, because some of y'all really
do need to look at your numbers.
I know I had to.
(32:14):
Yes, I had to look at mynumbers and I was like she's
going to do this with me after.
Yes.
So I had to look at my numbersand, like I said, I added a
whole nother addition and I gotto get realistic.
But take at least, at least, ifyou can do, 20, amen,
hallelujah, praise the Lord, andwe will have this on our
Instagram page everybody as wellthese tips and exactly what the
(32:38):
50, 30, 20 rule is, but we'llalso have the challenge on there
as well.
But at least 10% of yourmonthly income and put it in
your savings, like I have asavings attached to my bank
account that is easilyaccessible.
But if you cannot look at thatmoney and not touch it for the
rest of this year, then get youa separate savings account at a
(33:02):
whole different bank.
Do not get a card at all.
It's going to make your butthave to go into the bank.
If it's too hot, too cold andyou lazy like me, you ain't
going to the bank.
But separate that money if youneed to and go to a different
bank.
But save at least 10% Ichallenge everybody to do that
(33:23):
of your monthly income.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
See, I did that same thing and a lot of jobs.
If whoever's listening has onewhere they can take like my job,
for example as opposed to myvery lucrative podcast earnings
that my day job I'm able to seton whatever app, how much of a
(33:49):
paycheck I want to go to anotherbank, and that way it's out of
sight, out of mind.
I don't even have the app, Ican't look at it, it just is
automatic.
So I started that probably sixmonths ago.
I haven't checked it.
I walked across the street anddid it.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
It's just with money, money, money yeah, because I
mean, we are, you know, guilty.
If we see it, we feel like wehave to spend it.
Yes, especially if we arealready practicing bad habits
out of sight, out of mind yeah,like I said, this will be on our
(34:30):
Instagram page.
Speaker 1 (34:33):
I will be doing it.
Yes, we all will be doing it.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Yes, we have our assistant producer Ducky over
here.
She's doing it, yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
My cat will be doing it.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
The cat that we ran away that came back.
He ran away again, roxy Junenever came back.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
You're telling me this now Cut the episode.
No, I'm just kidding, yeah shenever came back.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
She might come back, but I think she's very happy
wherever she's at.
I need an animal y'all, Do you?
Speaker 1 (35:11):
No what.
Is there any other points onthat?
I'm super in on this challenge.
I kind of love it.
See for me, what I'm probablygoing to do is, since I already
have the bank account, I'll takeout 10%, go into that.
I'll use my other 10%, get itin cash, put it somewhere
(35:32):
undisclosed location, he ghetto.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
He gonna put it underneath his mattress.
He's gonna cut a hole in themattress and put it in the
mattress.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
I'm gonna put it in the cocoa butter shea soap
bottle when it's empty.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
Real ratchet, real ratchet.
But yeah, that is the challenge, and stay tuned the next week
because I may add some more tips, may not we just do a check-in
to see where we are with thisbudget.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
We are going to get more.
We'll check in.
Also, we are going to get alittle more consistent with
holidays and just all the thingsthat that brings, all the
things that that brings.
We.
We're sorry for lack ofepisodes, but we will get more
on a familiar schedule yes,because Anna likes to party like
(36:19):
a rockstar.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
Clearly and I'm avoiding partying well, that's
why we didn't do episodes.
Anna was partying like arockstar he really wasn't, but I
was definitely.
I think we, we both were likeepisodes.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Anna was part of my roster.
He really wasn't, but I wasdefinitely.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
I think we what's the time.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
What's the time?
Do we have a timer?
Speaker 2 (36:37):
Yeah, we are good.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Okay, I say we boil it down to one.
Which one do you want?
Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Oh Lord.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
What is in style right now that you can't stand.
Speaker 2 (36:58):
Crop tops, I think.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Some people look good in them, some people do not.
Speaker 1 (37:05):
I don't think anybody needs a crop top.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
Unless.
No, I take it back.
Speaker 2 (37:11):
So my thing is, crop tops for women that are on the
heavier side can look good, butyou have to wear a certain pants
length in the waist, like it'sgot to be a higher waist,
because you don't want to looklike you have that muffin top.
(37:31):
That what I have the problemwith, and I know some of these
young ladies and I'm older oh,that's rough, but I'm old school
.
You have no reason to jiggle,you have no reason to.
I don't care how big, howskinny, you do not have no
reason to jiggle.
I'm not saying you got to go ona diet, but when I am saying
you do have to put on a girdleor something.
So I don't really like them.
(37:58):
And then we have the youngladies that are on the smaller
side who wear them at the mostinappropriate times.
I'm like, babe, we going tochurch, there is no reason for
you to have on a crop top, somejeans and a blazer Like that is
not appropriate.
So if we can just slide themsomewhere, I'll be all right
(38:23):
with it.
That's the one that reallybulls me up and, like I said,
I'm a particular aged woman andI have a crop top, but guess
what this girl is doing?
She put a damn shirt underneathit and you know, I'm like and
I'm wearing pants that are highenough because, like I said,
muffin tops you jiggling likethere should not be nobody wants
(38:46):
to see the jiggle when hasthere ever been an earthquake
happen in the?
you know it trembles prior.
So I'm like no, I, I don't, Ireally can't.
I can't do it like no, they'renot, there should not be an
aftermath to it um, probably forme.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
I have to pee, so she's gonna entertain you.
What's one thing?
Just told all his familybusiness what's in style right
now that I can't stand uminjustice wow and the drop mic
okay, injustice, okay.
Speaker 2 (39:29):
I think Wow and the drop mic, okay, injustice, okay.
I think everybody that's beenin style for many years.
I don't know how he said thatwas yeah, that's been in style
since.
(39:49):
Um, I don't know, slavery, Imean wow, I don't even know how
to.
Okay's gonna have to come backand explain that because lord um
, yes, but he is right,injustice.
Maybe I should have said thatthat probably would have been so
much better.
Um, yeah, ducky, do you want tojump on the mic and and tell us
what you think is in style?
(40:12):
You can't stand.
Oh, lord ducky, shy okay, shedoesn't have it.
Okay, please talk about thisinjustice, because I I'm gonna
go on a limb and say it's beengoing on since slavery began,
and slavery wasn't just with theblack force that I was.
Speaker 1 (40:31):
It's not actually injustice.
I think the thing that's reallyfrustrating currently.
Uh, what's in style um?
Speaker 2 (40:40):
injustice does seem like it's in style what booty
shorts.
Ducky said booty shorts.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
I'm in on that too.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
Yes, your underwear and shorts should not match.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
Depends.
I'm a guy, yeah, guys.
Just, I don't know when guysthought it was cool to do that
For me gym clothes and not gymclothes like what you wear.
But when did that becomepeople's whole personality, like
(41:20):
Gymshark or Fablet?
Speaker 2 (41:22):
or whatever.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:24):
These brands and people get it at like 80% off.
Oh my God, they have such agood sale.
What Taiwanese kid lost theirlife stitching your crappy
sweatshop t-shirt that you thinkis the cool thing?
It might just be the area I'min.
I like to find clothes thataren't brand new.
(41:49):
I'm not going to order shit, sofor me, maybe this is on my
hippy dippy train of recyclingor whatever, but I don't fuck
with those brands, even a littlebit.
Uh, there's no cool designs.
(42:13):
Prove me wrong.
And the names are corny, andthe people that wear them need
to find a personality.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
Goodbye so no one lost a whole bunch of friends no
, I was only one.
Speaker 1 (42:26):
okay for loungewear, I get it.
If you're wearing that, it'slike the crop top, just like you
can make that shit Like I don'tneed a stupid logo.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
Make it Just wear the shit you wore when you were
five or whatever you have.
Speaker 1 (42:43):
It's like basically underwear.
At this point also, can we behonest?
Speaker 2 (42:46):
That's what it is, Absolutely that's what it is.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
Alright.
So can we be honest that's whatit is, absolutely that's what
it is.
All right, wait, do you agreewith me on that or no?
Speaker 2 (42:55):
I do agree with you.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
Or do we have static there?
We don't have static.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
No, we don't have static.
Speaker 1 (42:59):
Okay, good, I hope we find static with somebody
because I have a very.
I will step to static, but notyou, Never you.
Speaker 2 (43:11):
I can definitely tell you, some of our followers Are
those people that wear thosebrands.
And they wear them heavily.
They wear them heavily.
Yeah, they wear them heavily.
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Well, no, it's not.
I just like the planet.
Can I boil it down to that?
Speaker 2 (43:30):
You do like the planet.
I mean I like the planet.
Can I boil?
Speaker 1 (43:32):
it down to that.
You do like the planet.
I mean, I like the planet too.
The more omissions that aremade by making these shitty ass
clothes that do not hug thesepeople in the right places, I'm
telling you y'all.
Speaker 2 (43:41):
Like I said, you should not be jiggling baby.
Speaker 1 (43:47):
All right, ask another question before you go.
I told you I could go on the.
Speaker 2 (43:51):
It went from injustice like I'm telling you
honey, no, you shouldn't.
What life experience.
That's another thing.
The five-year-old she turnedfive and she body checks people.
She, she body checks people.
(44:11):
She was like at her birthday,she was like, she was like Monty
and she just kind of looked atme and she's like I said and I
looked and I seen this oh nowoman that was jiggling, you
know.
You can tell she had money sothere was no reason for her not
to buy a girdle, but she wasjiggling baby.
I'm also not.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
I'm not against people's bodies like I'm not
against people's bodies, but I'magainst.
Things are inappropriate, putthem in yes okay now, that's my
stance anna has a completelydifferent stance, it seems like
you just well, I've been aplus-size woman.
Speaker 2 (44:45):
That's how I know like you should not like.
There's a problem.
I look good in my damn clothesthat's true I'm not jiggling.
Speaker 1 (44:53):
My titties ain't on the floor and it's also just
self-awareness, I feel like yeah, and I'm not.
Speaker 2 (44:58):
Like I'm not saying I don't have rules.
What I'm saying is they're nothanging on my damn pants, that's
for sure that is true I'm not.
No, that's.
There's nothing attractiveabout that.
No woman, no man has ever gotor attracted the opposite sex or
the same sex by jiggling likethat.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
You'd be surprised.
Those people are diabolical.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
No, them, mofos have low self-esteem.
Anyway, what life experiencedid you build up in your head
but were disappointed by?
Speaker 1 (45:28):
in your head, but were disappointed by I'm not
sure.
Speaker 2 (45:44):
Okay, you think about that.
Let me tell you so.
We talked about this beforebecause I think sometimes I
because I don't as if you, ifanybody's listened to this show
or anybody knows me off the show, knows I'm not a gentle parent.
I have two different kids withtwo different personalities.
I have one that shits outglitter.
The other one he has shits outglitter Another time he has
(46:07):
shits out shit.
So great kids as an overall.
They're going to be somethingamazing when they grow up.
I am, I know they will be, but Idon't gentle parent and I shoot
it straight to them.
So, prior to us getting thesekids, actually, when my husband
(46:29):
and I met six months after wehad met, moved, moved in
together, we wanted to have kids, realized we had issues, went
down the whole rabbit hole,still going down the whole
rabbit hole, but God blessed uswith these two kids.
Amen, hallelujah.
However, on the flip side ofthat, I thought that parenting
(46:49):
was like the Wizard of Oz, kindof like going down the yellow
brick road with a few littleturbulence.
I kind of thought my experiencewas going to be like how my
mom's looked or how my, how I'veseen other people's look.
Speaker 1 (47:02):
No, you have a different vantage point yeah,
they came already built and youwere a kid viewing other people
do it, or yes?
Speaker 2 (47:13):
So I'm a little disappointed.
It's a little harder in thetrenches.
Yeah, I'm in the trenches, yeah, so I'm a little.
I'm not disappointed by being aparent.
I think I'm disappointed bybecause I'm going through some
stuff right now yeah, Not mewith my kid kids, whatever
because Yammy's she's a teenager, but I just, you know, I guess
(47:39):
I see other people but also atthe same time they got nine
months and now they're just,they're going through the whole
thing.
They get to mold this child.
I came with two children thatalready kind of semi-molded and
I have to tear down some thingsthat aren't right, you know, and
deal with issues that otherpeople have inflicted upon them.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
uh, but anyways, no, I get it.
For me it's probably, I don'tknow, being an adult in general,
can I answer the last questionagain?
If I was to answer the lastquestion again, it would be um,
(48:29):
people.
So, with the sobriety thing,I'm also lumping two other
things in there and I'll divulgeone of the other two things.
Uh, and it's social media.
Um, nobody cares about you, uh,or what pictures you post.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
If I see another photo dump, I'm gonna lose my
fucking mind oh, and I was gonnaput I had quite a few of them
to put up.
Speaker 1 (48:53):
Oh, we're good, I'm just joking, we're good, I like
your stuff I have to see arandom photo of a room with
sunlight hitting the right wayor a yawning animal.
Oh my gosh, the amount.
Let's get away, let's get it.
I think we should all know lessabout each other.
(49:13):
I think that for 2025.
Speaker 2 (49:17):
And if I?
Speaker 1 (49:17):
ever start.
If somebody starts gettingthere with me, I'm going to be
like I'm just going to hold upmy hand.
Stop Talk, talk to somebodyabout it.
This is not me, I'm notqualified on and, honestly, if I
was qualified I wouldn't care.
Speaker 2 (49:35):
He's not making no money off this.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
Yeah, I think we've got too free-balling with shit
here.
I am saying that afterdivulging a whole bunch of shit
about what I'm going throughcurrently.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
That's just a portion of your life, though, a portion
Very small.
Speaker 1 (49:58):
Very small portion.
What would the title of yourautobiography be?
Speaker 2 (50:05):
What the hell are we doing now?
Bye.
Speaker 1 (50:09):
Bye, bye, I think mine would be, oops.
Speaker 2 (50:22):
I did it again.
Nope, just oops.
Speaker 1 (50:25):
Oops, oops, oops, dot dot dot, fuck, dot dot dot,
shit dot shit.
Sorry, damn it.
Take it back, will you forgiveme?
No, okay, cool, I get it.
It's a long title, but it'sworking it's.
It's in the works it'll be avery long cover so you guys is
(50:49):
it time?
Speaker 2 (50:50):
It is time for you to close us out with the Book of
Awakening by Mark Nepo.
Speaker 1 (50:56):
Yes, and we're right at the end of our incense, which
is actually like perfect timing, it's so amazing, perfect
timing.
Okay so the Book of of awakeningby Mark Nepo.
Today, on January 17th, it'sthe Friction of being Visible.
(51:21):
This quote is by William James.
It is only by risking ourselvesfrom one hour to another that
we live at all.
The quote by Mark, or theexcerpt by Mark Nepo, be
(51:52):
conflict to negotiate.
If we choose to avoid allconflict with others, we will
eventually breed a poisonousconflict within ourselves.
Likewise, if we manage toattend our inner lives, who we
are, sooner or later create somediscord with those who would
rather have us be something else.
In effect, the cost of beingwho you are is that you can't
possibly meet everyone'sexpectations, and so there will
(52:16):
inevitably be external conflictto deal with the friction of
being visible.
Still, the cost of not beingwho you are is that, while you
are busy pleasing everyonearound you, a precious part of
you is dying inside.
In this case, there will be aninternal conflict to deal with
(52:36):
the friction of being visible.
As for me, it's taken me 30,whoa, I'm not 30 y'all.
But as for Mark Nepo, it hastaken him 30 of his 49 years to
realize that not being who I amis more deadly, and it has taken
the last 19 years to try tomake a practice of this.
(52:58):
What this means in a daily wayis that I have to be
conscientious about beingtruthful and resist the urge to
accommodate my truth away Oof.
To accommodate my truth awayOof.
I have to be conscientiousabout being truthful and resist
the urge to accommodate my truthaway Boom.
If y'all just heard that part,that's all you needed.
(53:21):
It means that being who Ireally am is not forbidden or
muted just because others arecomfortable or don't want to
hear it.
The great examples arelegendary Nelson Mandela, gandhi
, sir Thomas More, rosa Parks.
But we don't have to be greatto begin.
We simply have to start bysaying what we really want for
(53:42):
dinner or which movie we reallywant to see.
Amen Amen.
Speaker 2 (53:47):
Y'all.
Thank you for joining us.
Speaker 1 (53:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (53:52):
On our first episode of 2025.
Speaker 1 (53:56):
The new year, woo, yes, everybody.
Speaker 2 (54:00):
And check out our Instagram and in a couple of
months we will be havingmerchandise come out.
Speaker 1 (54:05):
And thank y'all for listening.
Thank you, and we is out.
Woo Woo.
And thank y'all for listening.
Thank you, and we is out.
Woo woo.
I think that went well.
I don't fuck that one, god damnit.
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