January 26, 2025 • 33 mins
Imagine transforming crippling anxiety into a calm, focused mindset with the power of your thoughts. Join us as we uncover how you can conquer your inner fears and embrace a positive mental state through the art of auto-suggestion. We share the compelling journey of a woman who overcame anxiety during auditions by harnessing techniques like isolation, relaxation, and deep breathing. Discover the potential of intentional thought replacement to combat silent fears and reshape your mental landscape for better performance and well-being.
This episode also highlights the transformative power of consistent practice and belief in auto-suggestion to enhance skills and even restore abilities. Be inspired by the story of a 75-year-old woman who reversed signs of memory loss through persistent positive reinforcement, proving that age is no barrier to mental rejuvenation. We explore the concept of 'hetero suggestion'—the external influences shaping our thoughts—and provide insights into how self-awareness and reflection can empower personal growth. Join us in this thought-provoking conversation to learn how to harness your mind's potential and foster a healthier, more positive outlook on life.
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Speaker 1 (01:04):
Welcome back everyone .
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to John Wetzel.
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So thank you for your support.
Okay, so last week we werediscussing a woman who wanted to
try out for a show but she wasreally overwhelmed with fear and
anxiety and we got into theconcept of auto-suggestion.
And again, just a quickreminder of what auto-suggestion
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is.
And again, just a quickreminder of what auto-suggestion
is.
Auto-suggestion is when one oftwo things happens Either from
the outside world, someone sayssomething to us, it comes in
through our senses and goes intoour subconscious mind and it
creates thoughts whichultimately create beliefs, or we
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use our own thinking inside,not from the outside world in
our own inside world, inside ofour conscious mind, where we
think.
We use that to create a thoughtpattern and ultimately, beliefs
.
So again, thoughts only comefrom two different places.
One is from the outside world,in, and the other is from the
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inside, and then ultimately, itworks its way out through our
feelings and actions.
That said, she was overwhelmed,feeling anxious, and she was
overcome.
So we're going to get back intothe book.
We're on page 31, at the top,where we're going to continue
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from where we left off.
So it says here hersubconscious mind accepted these
negative auto suggestions as arequest and proceeded to
manifest them and bring theminto her experience.
So, to discuss this a bit, shesaid out loud I'm so nervous,
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what if I mess this up?
And that's what hersubconscious mind took in.
She planted the seeds I'mnervous.
And ultimately she had a verybad audition.
So again, we're rememberingthat we have the power and we
don't always use it.
We allow stuff from the outsideworld to come in and program us
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, or we allow some of thenegative thoughts that we have
into our subconscious mindwithout changing them over to
something more positive and thatcan create our outcome as well.
Back to the book.
The cause was an involuntaryauto-suggestion.
Example silent fear, thoughtsemotionalized and subjectified.
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Let's pause for a second.
What does that mean?
Involuntary auto-suggestion?
It means when we're onautopilot.
What do I mean by autopilot?
You're sitting there, your mindis thinking all these thoughts
and you're not really involvedin the process.
You ever notice that you'resitting and there's a discussion
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happening in your head.
You're not really so focused onit, but it just is happening.
Let's give a good example ofwhat a silent fear looks like.
Have you ever had a headache?
Or have you ever seen someonethat has a headache?
And they'll say something like,oh geez, I hope it's not a
brain tumor.
Or they have this pain in theirstomach that they haven't had
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and they're thinking, oh gosh, Ihope this isn't cancer.
But they may not be saying thatout loud, and sometimes they do
say it out loud.
But when you're not saying itout loud, that is a silent fear.
It's the thoughts that arerunning in your head, spinning
and spinning and if you don'tstop it, this silent fear is
planting seeds into yoursubconscious mind.
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So we have this silent fear oh,I hope I don't have cancer, I
hope it's not a brain tumor andthose thoughts that start
spinning over and over.
They get emotionalized andsubjectified, right, you start
getting fearful, you startgetting anxious and it leads to
you being hypersensitive andhyper worried and hyper
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concerned about your health andwell-being.
That's what it means by thesilent fear and thoughts
emotionalized and subjectified.
So we really want to payattention to what's going on in
our mind and start to at leastbe aware of it.
What's going on in our mind,and start to at least be aware
of it, and eventually, whatwe're going to do is start to
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focus on what can I do to helpsilence that voice and perhaps
replace the silent fear withsomething more positive.
For example oh, it's just astomach ache I've had these
before or it's just a headache.
It's nothing serious.
I didn't drink a lot of water,and now I'm going to drink some
water, I'm going to get hydrated, I'm going to feel better.
It's just replacing thenonsense that goes on with
something else.
Give your mind something goodto think about, something
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different, to think about.
It doesn't have to run onautopilot.
And when it runs on autopilot,that's what they're talking
about involuntary autosuggestion.
It's involuntary because it'shappening automatically.
Let's go back to the book.
So they're going to talk aboutright now how does she overcome
this anxiety and this fear ofher auditions?
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And this is something we canall put into practice.
This is this how she did it.
She overcame it by by doing thefollowing technique three times
a day, she isolated herself ina room.
She sat down comfortably in anarm chair, relaxed her body and
closed her eyes.
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She quieted her mind and bodyas best as she could.
Physical inertia favors mentalpassivity and renders the mind
more receptive to suggestion.
Okay, let's pause here and goback.
So she got herself in a room,she got quiet and she was
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relaxing her body with her eyesclosed.
It says she stilled her mindand body as best as she could.
We want to quiet the mind.
What's a real easy way to quietthe mind and take ourself away
from those thoughts that arerunning nuts in our mind?
It's really simple.
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We take really deep breaths Alot of times when we're feeling
anxious and we're feelingworried.
We're not breathing and bybreathing it's going, and
focusing on the breathing it'sgoing to take us away from our
thought.
So if you literally take a deepbreath in and you count one,
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two, three in right and then one, two, three out, and you're
focused on counting in and outand taking 10 deep breaths, by
the time you get to 10 breaths,by the time you get to three
breaths, you're going to feelway better because first, you're
getting more oxygen into yourbody and you're feeding
yourselves and second, you'retaking your mind away from those
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negative thoughts.
Back to the book.
Physical inertia favors mentalpassivity and renders the mind
more receptive to suggestion.
Let's comment on this.
What does that mean?
Physical inertia favors mentalpassivity.
What essentially is it sayingis, the more we can quiet our
mind, the more still we are, themore receptive our subconscious
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mind is to any suggestion we'reabout to plant in our mind.
So again, if I'm nice and calmand peaceful and I'm telling
myself I am prepared, I amstrong, I can do this, I've got
this, the more I say that, themore relaxed I am, the easier
it's going to go into mysubconscious mind.
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If I'm feeling worried, if I'mfeeling nervous and there's
mental activity happening, thenmy subconscious mind won't pick
up the messages as easily.
Does that make sense?
Okay, good, let's go back tothe book.
She countered the fearsuggestion by saying to herself
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I sing beautifully, I am poised,serene, confident and calm.
She repeated this statementslowly, quietly and with feeling
, from five to ten times at eachsitting.
She had three such sittingsevery day and one immediately
prior to sleep.
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I want to pause there.
I want to pause there.
Why do you think that makingthese auto-suggestions right
before sleep would be soimportant?
Well, the reason is our mindright before we go to bed, right
when we're about to fall asleep, is wide open.
Our subconscious mind openscompletely in preparation for
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the sleep.
So any suggestion that we'remaking is going in easily and
effortlessly, and it's also thelast thing that we're going to
think about before we actuallygo to sleep.
So practicing saying some ofthose positive things right
before you go to sleep is reallyeffective and really impactful.
All right, let's go back to thebook.
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At the end of the week she wascompletely poised and confident.
When the invitation to auditioncame, she gave a remarkable and
wonderful audition Pause for asecond.
Now, does everyone who sits forthree times a week and makes
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these suggestions to themselveshave immediate results?
The answer is no, not always.
But what we know for sure isthat we practice this and we
quiet our mind and we make theseauto suggestions of these
positive thoughts and we suggestit over and over again.
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In time it will absolutely makea change.
Let me give you a great exampleof this my mentor.
When I was learning, I was veryindecisive back in the day.
I couldn't make a decision.
One way or the other, I wouldalways have to talk to other
people.
I would always have to getother people's opinion before I
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could actually make a decision.
Even if I felt like I had theright decision that I was going
to make, I would still go andask for other people's opinions
and a lot of times it wouldpotentially sway me away from
what I really wanted to do.
So what he did is he said Iwant you to read this article
every single day for the next 90days.
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And that article was on decisionand the repetition of reading a
message about decision whichessentially said that when you
make a decision, you make itquickly, and when you make it,
you change it very slowly.
And the other thing that itsaid about decision was don't
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ask for other people's opinionsunless they have specialized
knowledge.
What does specialized knowledgemean?
It means that if I'm going towant to make a decision about my
relationship, I better go andtalk to someone who's a
specialist in relationships ifI'm going to seek advice.
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But a lot of times we knowintuitively what the right thing
is to do.
But if we don't know how tomake a decision because we
haven't practiced it, then we'renot going to do it.
But through the auto-suggestion, the reading of the article
every single day for 90 dayswhat ended up happening was my
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decision-making skills got waybetter and I was able to make
decisions on my own.
In fact, now very rarely will Iask anyone for their opinion
about what I should do or what Ishouldn't do.
I just make the decision, andif it's a decision that doesn't
go the way that I want it to, Ilearn from it, I grow and it
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makes me more wise, and then thenext time I make decision, that
new wisdom is there as well andI can tap into that wisdom.
So again, that's an example ofhow this auto-suggestion works.
It's the repetition.
Over and over, it gets in, butwe have to practice it.
Now, if I had only read thatarticle on decision-making for
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three days, do you think I wouldbe as good at decision-making
as I may be now?
The answer is, of course, no.
So it's the repetition, andeveryone's repetition is
different.
Maybe it takes me 90 days,maybe it takes you 30 days,
maybe it takes another personsix months, because everyone's
subconscious mind receives it ata slightly different pace.
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It's not good, it's not bad, itjust is.
But we know the one thing thatwe do have control over is auto
suggesting.
So we're going to keep sayingthese things to ourselves over
and over and over again.
I just had a call not too longago with a client.
The client he said Mike, I wassitting down and I just started
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thinking to myself how much I'veactually changed since we
started doing this work.
And he says when you first toldme that the repetition of this
information, if I just keepdoing that over and over,
initially I thought there's noway like how will that work?
He said but I stuck to it and Idid it and it actually works.
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And I said of course it works.
I said that's great, you'reproving it to yourself, because
now, as you move forward, thebelief that your auto-suggestion
works is going to go in muchfaster and you're going to be
way more powerful because ofthat.
So again, there's a level ofbelief that we need to get with
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this auto-suggestion.
We have to start to believethat this actually works.
And belief comes throughauto-suggestion, through
repetition, through practice.
You'll start to believe it whenyou start to see results.
But here's what I tell youdon't stop doing it until you
start seeing results.
I promise you, having met witha lot of people that if you keep
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doing it you will absolutelyget results.
The people that don't getresults, it's one reason only.
They quit and they stop andthey say this stuff doesn't work
and they just auto-suggested abelief that they already believe
that this doesn't work.
And when we, when weauto-suggest that to ourself, it
works because our life becomesnothing works.
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For me, this doesn't work,forget it, I can't do.
Oh, I tried that once.
That doesn't work, got it Makessense.
All right, let's continue onhow she restored her memory.
So we're going to talk abouthow this woman usedgestion to
restore her memory, whichactually started to have signs
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of dementia.
A woman age 75 was in the habitof saying to herself I'm losing
my memory.
She reversed the procedure andpracticed induced
auto-suggestion several times aday as follows this is what she
said to herself my memory, fromtoday on, is improving in every
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department.
I shall always rememberwhatever I need to know, at
every moment of time and pointof space.
The impressions received willbe clearer and more definite.
I shall retain themautomatically and with ease.
Whatever I wish to recall willimmediately present itself in
the correct form in my mind.
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I am improving rapidly, everyday, and very soon my memory
will be better than it's everbeen before.
At the end of three weeks, hermemory was back to normal and
she was delighted.
Let's think about this out loudfor a moment.
If someone says to themselvesover and over I'm losing my
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memory, I've been having troubleremembering things, I don't
know what's going on with mymind.
It seems to be having trouble.
I'm aging, things are happening.
I hope I'm not losing my mind.
It seems like I'm losing mymind.
It seems like I'm losing mymemory.
If we say that enough times,what do you think our
subconscious mind will do?
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Well, what we learned was itaccepts everything as is.
So if I keep suggesting that tomyself over and over, I'm going
to start losing my memory.
Period the end.
So she did something different.
What she realized afterunderstanding this material is
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that she was going to autosuggest something that would
make potentially her mind better, and she started saying this
over and over to herself.
My memory, from Taylor on, isimproving in every department.
I shall always rememberwhatever I need to know, every
moment of time and point ofspace.
I mean imagine saying this overand over and over to yourself
and your subconscious mind,which is a part of God, a higher
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power, the divine, whichoperates your entire body
automatically.
So if you're giving itinstructions, it might very well
be able to listen to thoseinstructions and act on them.
If it can control yourheartbeat and can make you
breathe, it certainly can dothis as well, and that's the
belief we're gonna start to formas we start to realize that
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this works.
I believe in it so much againbecause of the clients that I've
worked with.
They get the results becausethey're doing the things and the
things work.
So if you need to borrow mybelief on this, initially borrow
it from me.
Borrow it from the clients thatI've worked with, or from all
these other people that are inthis book that have gotten the
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results with, or from all theseother people that are in this
book that have gotten theresults.
We specialize in thisinformation.
I am a specialist.
I've spent at least 10 yearsstudying this information, but
way more than 10 years.
I'm 53 years old and I've beengoing at it since I'm 11 years
old, so I've been studying thisinformation for a very long time
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, and that makes me a specialist, because I'm studying this
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information and I'm practicingit and I'm putting it into work.
So remember before how we weresaying we only go to people with
specialized knowledge.
There's specialized knowledgehere because I've not only
studied it, but I practiced it.
I put it in my own life, I'veseen it work in my life and I've
seen it work in others' lives.
So, that said, do you think itmight make sense to borrow the
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belief if you don't have it yet,and say I believe in the power
of my subconscious mind.
I believe that what I tellmyself over and over again I
will get.
I believe that I have thisincredible power inside of me.
If we repeat that over and over, what do you think is going to
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start to happen?
We're going to get confident,we're going to get strong, we're
going to believe in ourselves,we're going to believe in this
power and we're going to seeresults.
I promise you it works if youpractice and do what we're
talking about here.
Okay, let's go back to the bookhow to overcome a nasty temper.
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Many men who complained ofirritability and bad temper
prove to be very susceptible toauto-suggestion.
So let's think about this for asecond.
Many men and I'll put women toomen and women who complained of
irritability and bad temper,prove to be susceptible to
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autosuggestion and obtainedmarvelous results by using the
following statements three orfour times a day morning, noon
and night prior to sleep.
Remember what we said aboutsleep prior to sleep for about a
month?
This is what they said.
Henceforth, I shall grow moregood humored.
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Joy, happiness and cheerfulnessare now becoming my normal
state of mind.
Every day, I am becoming moreand more lovable and
understanding.
I now becoming the center ofcheer and goodwill to all those
about me, infecting them withgood humor.
This happy, joyous and cheerfulmood is now becoming my normal
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state of mind.
I am grateful let's talk aboutthis for a second.
If you don't say something likethat, take an irritated or
frustrated or angry person on aconsistent basis.
That's who they are, that'skind of how they are, on a
consistent basis.
What would your guess be towhat they repeat to themselves
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every single day?
It might sound like this thisworld sucks.
Look at this world.
The news, everything I hear isbad People are killing other
people.
I can't get the job that I like.
I work nine to five doingsomething I hate and they're
saying this kind of stuff onautopilot to themselves.
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Their subconscious mind istaking it in and they're getting
more of the same.
They're getting miserableness,they're getting angry, they're
getting resentment, they'regetting these negative feelings.
Well, this prescription.
I imagine you go to the doctorand the doctor says here's what
I want you to do.
I want you to say this toyourself three to four times a
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day, every day, for the next 90days, and you have to say, I
shall grow more good humor.
Joy, happiness and cheerfulnessare now becoming my normal
state of mind.
If you did that for 90 days,and also if, maybe, when you
started having those negativethoughts, you had an index card
with this written on it and you,instead of going down that
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negative path, you took out theindex card and you read this
what do you think would happento you over time if you did this
on a consistent basis?
You already know the answer.
So it's just a matter ofpractice.
It's not good, it's not badthat you're not doing this or
you are doing it.
It's not good or bad.
It's like here's something thatworks, let's doing this, or you
are doing it.
It's not good or bad, it's likehere's something that works,
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let's practice it.
Let me get better at it.
When I first started driving, Iwas not a good driver.
Now I'm a good driver because Ipractice, and we're going to do
the same thing here.
We're just going to keeppracticing so we can get better
and better and better.
I want to share with you a greatstory.
It's a personal story.
I was there, this happened andit was really powerful.
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I was doing a personaldevelopment seminar years ago
and when we're in the room,there was one gentleman in
particular that every timesomeone would get up to share,
he would grunt, he would groan,he would say things.
In fact, one time he got themicrophone and then he started
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saying all this kind of negativestuff and everyone could feel
his negative energy.
It was like it was infectious.
You just had to be somewhatclose to him and you would start
to feel that negativity comingright off of him.
Then something really coolhappened.
The facilitator of the seminarsaid we're going to do a little
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activity now.
What I'd like you to do is I'dlike you to get up when I say so
, and I want you to find someonein the room that you feel is
maybe not being fully committedto being here, maybe showing
negative energy and maybe justneeds a little love and support.
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And then everyone got up andthe entire room went to that
gentleman and just surroundedhim and everyone was looking at
him.
And then an incredible thinghappened.
He started to tear up and hetook the microphone and the
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facilitator asked him to sharewhat went on.
When you saw everyone standingthere offering love and support
to you and essentially sayinglike we feel like you're not
giving your all and maybe you'recoming from a negative space,
he said that was the first timein his lifetime that he ever had
people support and show lovetowards him in such a way.
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People support and show lovetowards him in such a way.
And an incredible thinghappened.
That emotional driven event inhis life caused him to start
suggesting to himself verydifferent things.
Instead of him looking at hownegative the world was, he
started saying to himself howincredible things were.
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I'm grateful to have all thesepeople around me, I'm grateful
to have all this support, I'mgrateful to have the opportunity
to love and that gentleman fromthat time forward for the rest
of the seminar and at the end hegot up and he shared and it was
like watching a transformedhuman being and the only
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difference between that manbefore and after was one thing.
The thoughts that were going onthrough his mind those negative
auto-suggestion initially, whenhe first came in, was probably
something like this this seminarsucks.
These people are so annoying.
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They're all complaining,they're all so positive.
I'm so tired of these kind ofpeople.
And at the end of the seminar,what do you think he was
thinking?
I'm so grateful, I'm so happy,I'm so lucky that I had this
transformation while I was here.
He was thinking in a verydifferent way and you and I had
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that ability, just like he did.
In an instant, he changed howhe looked at the world and he
changed how he looked at himselfand he changed how he looked at
others.
And you and me and everyoneelse can do the exact same thing
, no matter what.
At any moment, we can decidethat it's time to not allow this
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voice to run on autopilot, nolonger going to let it run me.
I'm taking control, I'mdeciding what I'm going to plant
into my subconscious mind.
Let's learn from thatexperience.
Let's learn from him, a guythat probably would have gone
through life in a very negativeway and instead he taught
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himself by the actions of othershow to think very differently.
And you can do the exact samething.
All right, let's go back to thebook.
Before we read the nextparagraph, I just want to give a
little bit of an overview aboutwhat we're going to discuss.
We're talking aboutheterosuggestion.
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Heterosuggestion means it's asuggestion that comes from
another person.
Let me tell it to you throughan example.
They did this marketingexperiment and what they did was
they had this energy drink andthey had two glasses and they
said one of the glasses was theenergy drink, right, and the
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other one was a drink that wouldcalm you down.
It would make you feel calm andpeaceful.
Now, what?
The person on the other enddidn't know.
The drink was exactly the same.
So they had different groups ofpeople go through this and the
people that were drinking theenergy drink reported feeling
very energized.
Now, since the drink was thesame on the other side, but the
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people who were drinking itthought it was something that
would make them more peacefuland relaxed.
What do you think that theyexperienced?
They experienced feeling morecalm and relaxed and peaceful.
The majority of people thatdrank that drink, which was
actually an energy drink, feltthat they were relaxed and
peaceful, whereas it should havebeen causing them to feel
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really hype because the caffeinelevel was significantly higher.
This is what heterosuggestionis higher.
This is what heterosuggestionis.
Heterosuggestion is.
If we allow the outside worldto dictate and tell us what
we're going to experience, wewill start to experience it just
like those people drinkingthose drinks.
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So we're going to pause on thisnote, because we'll get into
this next time.
I wanted to introduce the topicbecause all I want you to do is
start paying attention to themessages that are coming at us
the messages coming at us fromthe media, the messages coming
from our bosses, the messagescoming from our friends and
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family and ask yourself if Iaccept this hetero suggestion,
the suggestion coming fromsomeone else, is this going to
support me or is this going topotentially hurt me?
That's all I want you to do.
You don't have to changeanything.
I just want you to be aware andstart paying attention to all
these suggestions that arecoming at us from every single
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angle.
I want you to have a wonderfulweek.
I want you to have a wonderfulweek.
I want you to practice this.
I want you to remember howamazing you are and how powerful
you are and just practice.
Don't worry about how wellsomeone else is doing it in
comparison to you.
All that matters is that you'redoing it and you're making an
effort to get better than youwere last week.
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Have a wonderful week and Iwill see you next week.
Welcome back everyone .
We are on podcast eight and Iwant to give a quick shout out
to John Wetzel.
John is a supporter of the show.
He bought us a cup of coffeeand supports the show.
Thank you, john.
We appreciate your support.
It allows us to invest into theshow and bring more empowerment
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to you and all the otherlisteners.
So thank you for your support.
Okay, so last week we werediscussing a woman who wanted to
try out for a show but she wasreally overwhelmed with fear and
anxiety and we got into theconcept of auto-suggestion.
And again, just a quickreminder of what auto-suggestion
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is.
And again, just a quickreminder of what auto-suggestion
is.
Auto-suggestion is when one oftwo things happens Either from
the outside world, someone sayssomething to us, it comes in
through our senses and goes intoour subconscious mind and it
creates thoughts whichultimately create beliefs, or we
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use our own thinking inside,not from the outside world in
our own inside world, inside ofour conscious mind, where we
think.
We use that to create a thoughtpattern and ultimately, beliefs
.
So again, thoughts only comefrom two different places.
One is from the outside world,in, and the other is from the
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inside, and then ultimately, itworks its way out through our
feelings and actions.
That said, she was overwhelmed,feeling anxious, and she was
overcome.
So we're going to get back intothe book.
We're on page 31, at the top,where we're going to continue
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from where we left off.
So it says here hersubconscious mind accepted these
negative auto suggestions as arequest and proceeded to
manifest them and bring theminto her experience.
So, to discuss this a bit, shesaid out loud I'm so nervous,
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what if I mess this up?
And that's what hersubconscious mind took in.
She planted the seeds I'mnervous.
And ultimately she had a verybad audition.
So again, we're rememberingthat we have the power and we
don't always use it.
We allow stuff from the outsideworld to come in and program us
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, or we allow some of thenegative thoughts that we have
into our subconscious mindwithout changing them over to
something more positive and thatcan create our outcome as well.
Back to the book.
The cause was an involuntaryauto-suggestion.
Example silent fear, thoughtsemotionalized and subjectified.
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Let's pause for a second.
What does that mean?
Involuntary auto-suggestion?
It means when we're onautopilot.
What do I mean by autopilot?
You're sitting there, your mindis thinking all these thoughts
and you're not really involvedin the process.
You ever notice that you'resitting and there's a discussion
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happening in your head.
You're not really so focused onit, but it just is happening.
Let's give a good example ofwhat a silent fear looks like.
Have you ever had a headache?
Or have you ever seen someonethat has a headache?
And they'll say something like,oh geez, I hope it's not a
brain tumor.
Or they have this pain in theirstomach that they haven't had
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and they're thinking, oh gosh, Ihope this isn't cancer.
But they may not be saying thatout loud, and sometimes they do
say it out loud.
But when you're not saying itout loud, that is a silent fear.
It's the thoughts that arerunning in your head, spinning
and spinning and if you don'tstop it, this silent fear is
planting seeds into yoursubconscious mind.
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So we have this silent fear oh,I hope I don't have cancer, I
hope it's not a brain tumor andthose thoughts that start
spinning over and over.
They get emotionalized andsubjectified, right, you start
getting fearful, you startgetting anxious and it leads to
you being hypersensitive andhyper worried and hyper
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concerned about your health andwell-being.
That's what it means by thesilent fear and thoughts
emotionalized and subjectified.
So we really want to payattention to what's going on in
our mind and start to at leastbe aware of it.
What's going on in our mind,and start to at least be aware
of it, and eventually, whatwe're going to do is start to
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focus on what can I do to helpsilence that voice and perhaps
replace the silent fear withsomething more positive.
For example oh, it's just astomach ache I've had these
before or it's just a headache.
It's nothing serious.
I didn't drink a lot of water,and now I'm going to drink some
water, I'm going to get hydrated, I'm going to feel better.
It's just replacing thenonsense that goes on with
something else.
Give your mind something goodto think about, something
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different, to think about.
It doesn't have to run onautopilot.
And when it runs on autopilot,that's what they're talking
about involuntary autosuggestion.
It's involuntary because it'shappening automatically.
Let's go back to the book.
So they're going to talk aboutright now how does she overcome
this anxiety and this fear ofher auditions?
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And this is something we canall put into practice.
This is this how she did it.
She overcame it by by doing thefollowing technique three times
a day, she isolated herself ina room.
She sat down comfortably in anarm chair, relaxed her body and
closed her eyes.
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She quieted her mind and bodyas best as she could.
Physical inertia favors mentalpassivity and renders the mind
more receptive to suggestion.
Okay, let's pause here and goback.
So she got herself in a room,she got quiet and she was
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relaxing her body with her eyesclosed.
It says she stilled her mindand body as best as she could.
We want to quiet the mind.
What's a real easy way to quietthe mind and take ourself away
from those thoughts that arerunning nuts in our mind?
It's really simple.
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We take really deep breaths Alot of times when we're feeling
anxious and we're feelingworried.
We're not breathing and bybreathing it's going, and
focusing on the breathing it'sgoing to take us away from our
thought.
So if you literally take a deepbreath in and you count one,
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two, three in right and then one, two, three out, and you're
focused on counting in and outand taking 10 deep breaths, by
the time you get to 10 breaths,by the time you get to three
breaths, you're going to feelway better because first, you're
getting more oxygen into yourbody and you're feeding
yourselves and second, you'retaking your mind away from those
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negative thoughts.
Back to the book.
Physical inertia favors mentalpassivity and renders the mind
more receptive to suggestion.
Let's comment on this.
What does that mean?
Physical inertia favors mentalpassivity.
What essentially is it sayingis, the more we can quiet our
mind, the more still we are, themore receptive our subconscious
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mind is to any suggestion we'reabout to plant in our mind.
So again, if I'm nice and calmand peaceful and I'm telling
myself I am prepared, I amstrong, I can do this, I've got
this, the more I say that, themore relaxed I am, the easier
it's going to go into mysubconscious mind.
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If I'm feeling worried, if I'mfeeling nervous and there's
mental activity happening, thenmy subconscious mind won't pick
up the messages as easily.
Does that make sense?
Okay, good, let's go back tothe book.
She countered the fearsuggestion by saying to herself
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I sing beautifully, I am poised,serene, confident and calm.
She repeated this statementslowly, quietly and with feeling
, from five to ten times at eachsitting.
She had three such sittingsevery day and one immediately
prior to sleep.
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I want to pause there.
I want to pause there.
Why do you think that makingthese auto-suggestions right
before sleep would be soimportant?
Well, the reason is our mindright before we go to bed, right
when we're about to fall asleep, is wide open.
Our subconscious mind openscompletely in preparation for
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the sleep.
So any suggestion that we'remaking is going in easily and
effortlessly, and it's also thelast thing that we're going to
think about before we actuallygo to sleep.
So practicing saying some ofthose positive things right
before you go to sleep is reallyeffective and really impactful.
All right, let's go back to thebook.
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At the end of the week she wascompletely poised and confident.
When the invitation to auditioncame, she gave a remarkable and
wonderful audition Pause for asecond.
Now, does everyone who sits forthree times a week and makes
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these suggestions to themselveshave immediate results?
The answer is no, not always.
But what we know for sure isthat we practice this and we
quiet our mind and we make theseauto suggestions of these
positive thoughts and we suggestit over and over again.
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In time it will absolutely makea change.
Let me give you a great exampleof this my mentor.
When I was learning, I was veryindecisive back in the day.
I couldn't make a decision.
One way or the other, I wouldalways have to talk to other
people.
I would always have to getother people's opinion before I
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could actually make a decision.
Even if I felt like I had theright decision that I was going
to make, I would still go andask for other people's opinions
and a lot of times it wouldpotentially sway me away from
what I really wanted to do.
So what he did is he said Iwant you to read this article
every single day for the next 90days.
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And that article was on decisionand the repetition of reading a
message about decision whichessentially said that when you
make a decision, you make itquickly, and when you make it,
you change it very slowly.
And the other thing that itsaid about decision was don't
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ask for other people's opinionsunless they have specialized
knowledge.
What does specialized knowledgemean?
It means that if I'm going towant to make a decision about my
relationship, I better go andtalk to someone who's a
specialist in relationships ifI'm going to seek advice.
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But a lot of times we knowintuitively what the right thing
is to do.
But if we don't know how tomake a decision because we
haven't practiced it, then we'renot going to do it.
But through the auto-suggestion, the reading of the article
every single day for 90 dayswhat ended up happening was my
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decision-making skills got waybetter and I was able to make
decisions on my own.
In fact, now very rarely will Iask anyone for their opinion
about what I should do or what Ishouldn't do.
I just make the decision, andif it's a decision that doesn't
go the way that I want it to, Ilearn from it, I grow and it
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makes me more wise, and then thenext time I make decision, that
new wisdom is there as well andI can tap into that wisdom.
So again, that's an example ofhow this auto-suggestion works.
It's the repetition.
Over and over, it gets in, butwe have to practice it.
Now, if I had only read thatarticle on decision-making for
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three days, do you think I wouldbe as good at decision-making
as I may be now?
The answer is, of course, no.
So it's the repetition, andeveryone's repetition is
different.
Maybe it takes me 90 days,maybe it takes you 30 days,
maybe it takes another personsix months, because everyone's
subconscious mind receives it ata slightly different pace.
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It's not good, it's not bad, itjust is.
But we know the one thing thatwe do have control over is auto
suggesting.
So we're going to keep sayingthese things to ourselves over
and over and over again.
I just had a call not too longago with a client.
The client he said Mike, I wassitting down and I just started
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thinking to myself how much I'veactually changed since we
started doing this work.
And he says when you first toldme that the repetition of this
information, if I just keepdoing that over and over,
initially I thought there's noway like how will that work?
He said but I stuck to it and Idid it and it actually works.
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And I said of course it works.
I said that's great, you'reproving it to yourself, because
now, as you move forward, thebelief that your auto-suggestion
works is going to go in muchfaster and you're going to be
way more powerful because ofthat.
So again, there's a level ofbelief that we need to get with
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this auto-suggestion.
We have to start to believethat this actually works.
And belief comes throughauto-suggestion, through
repetition, through practice.
You'll start to believe it whenyou start to see results.
But here's what I tell youdon't stop doing it until you
start seeing results.
I promise you, having met witha lot of people that if you keep
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doing it you will absolutelyget results.
The people that don't getresults, it's one reason only.
They quit and they stop andthey say this stuff doesn't work
and they just auto-suggested abelief that they already believe
that this doesn't work.
And when we, when weauto-suggest that to ourself, it
works because our life becomesnothing works.
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For me, this doesn't work,forget it, I can't do.
Oh, I tried that once.
That doesn't work, got it Makessense.
All right, let's continue onhow she restored her memory.
So we're going to talk abouthow this woman usedgestion to
restore her memory, whichactually started to have signs
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of dementia.
A woman age 75 was in the habitof saying to herself I'm losing
my memory.
She reversed the procedure andpracticed induced
auto-suggestion several times aday as follows this is what she
said to herself my memory, fromtoday on, is improving in every
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department.
I shall always rememberwhatever I need to know, at
every moment of time and pointof space.
The impressions received willbe clearer and more definite.
I shall retain themautomatically and with ease.
Whatever I wish to recall willimmediately present itself in
the correct form in my mind.
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I am improving rapidly, everyday, and very soon my memory
will be better than it's everbeen before.
At the end of three weeks, hermemory was back to normal and
she was delighted.
Let's think about this out loudfor a moment.
If someone says to themselvesover and over I'm losing my
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memory, I've been having troubleremembering things, I don't
know what's going on with mymind.
It seems to be having trouble.
I'm aging, things are happening.
I hope I'm not losing my mind.
It seems like I'm losing mymind.
It seems like I'm losing mymemory.
If we say that enough times,what do you think our
subconscious mind will do?
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Well, what we learned was itaccepts everything as is.
So if I keep suggesting that tomyself over and over, I'm going
to start losing my memory.
Period the end.
So she did something different.
What she realized afterunderstanding this material is
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that she was going to autosuggest something that would
make potentially her mind better, and she started saying this
over and over to herself.
My memory, from Taylor on, isimproving in every department.
I shall always rememberwhatever I need to know, every
moment of time and point ofspace.
I mean imagine saying this overand over and over to yourself
and your subconscious mind,which is a part of God, a higher
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power, the divine, whichoperates your entire body
automatically.
So if you're giving itinstructions, it might very well
be able to listen to thoseinstructions and act on them.
If it can control yourheartbeat and can make you
breathe, it certainly can dothis as well, and that's the
belief we're gonna start to formas we start to realize that
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this works.
I believe in it so much againbecause of the clients that I've
worked with.
They get the results becausethey're doing the things and the
things work.
So if you need to borrow mybelief on this, initially borrow
it from me.
Borrow it from the clients thatI've worked with, or from all
these other people that are inthis book that have gotten the
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results with, or from all theseother people that are in this
book that have gotten theresults.
We specialize in thisinformation.
I am a specialist.
I've spent at least 10 yearsstudying this information, but
way more than 10 years.
I'm 53 years old and I've beengoing at it since I'm 11 years
old, so I've been studying thisinformation for a very long time
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, and that makes me a specialist, because I'm studying this
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information and I'm practicingit and I'm putting it into work.
So remember before how we weresaying we only go to people with
specialized knowledge.
There's specialized knowledgehere because I've not only
studied it, but I practiced it.
I put it in my own life, I'veseen it work in my life and I've
seen it work in others' lives.
So, that said, do you think itmight make sense to borrow the
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belief if you don't have it yet,and say I believe in the power
of my subconscious mind.
I believe that what I tellmyself over and over again I
will get.
I believe that I have thisincredible power inside of me.
If we repeat that over and over, what do you think is going to
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start to happen?
We're going to get confident,we're going to get strong, we're
going to believe in ourselves,we're going to believe in this
power and we're going to seeresults.
I promise you it works if youpractice and do what we're
talking about here.
Okay, let's go back to the bookhow to overcome a nasty temper.
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Many men who complained ofirritability and bad temper
prove to be very susceptible toauto-suggestion.
So let's think about this for asecond.
Many men and I'll put women toomen and women who complained of
irritability and bad temper,prove to be susceptible to
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autosuggestion and obtainedmarvelous results by using the
following statements three orfour times a day morning, noon
and night prior to sleep.
Remember what we said aboutsleep prior to sleep for about a
month?
This is what they said.
Henceforth, I shall grow moregood humored.
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Joy, happiness and cheerfulnessare now becoming my normal
state of mind.
Every day, I am becoming moreand more lovable and
understanding.
I now becoming the center ofcheer and goodwill to all those
about me, infecting them withgood humor.
This happy, joyous and cheerfulmood is now becoming my normal
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state of mind.
I am grateful let's talk aboutthis for a second.
If you don't say something likethat, take an irritated or
frustrated or angry person on aconsistent basis.
That's who they are, that'skind of how they are, on a
consistent basis.
What would your guess be towhat they repeat to themselves
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every single day?
It might sound like this thisworld sucks.
Look at this world.
The news, everything I hear isbad People are killing other
people.
I can't get the job that I like.
I work nine to five doingsomething I hate and they're
saying this kind of stuff onautopilot to themselves.
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Their subconscious mind istaking it in and they're getting
more of the same.
They're getting miserableness,they're getting angry, they're
getting resentment, they'regetting these negative feelings.
Well, this prescription.
I imagine you go to the doctorand the doctor says here's what
I want you to do.
I want you to say this toyourself three to four times a
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day, every day, for the next 90days, and you have to say, I
shall grow more good humor.
Joy, happiness and cheerfulnessare now becoming my normal
state of mind.
If you did that for 90 days,and also if, maybe, when you
started having those negativethoughts, you had an index card
with this written on it and you,instead of going down that
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negative path, you took out theindex card and you read this
what do you think would happento you over time if you did this
on a consistent basis?
You already know the answer.
So it's just a matter ofpractice.
It's not good, it's not badthat you're not doing this or
you are doing it.
It's not good or bad.
It's like here's something thatworks, let's doing this, or you
are doing it.
It's not good or bad, it's likehere's something that works,
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let's practice it.
Let me get better at it.
When I first started driving, Iwas not a good driver.
Now I'm a good driver because Ipractice, and we're going to do
the same thing here.
We're just going to keeppracticing so we can get better
and better and better.
I want to share with you a greatstory.
It's a personal story.
I was there, this happened andit was really powerful.
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I was doing a personaldevelopment seminar years ago
and when we're in the room,there was one gentleman in
particular that every timesomeone would get up to share,
he would grunt, he would groan,he would say things.
In fact, one time he got themicrophone and then he started
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saying all this kind of negativestuff and everyone could feel
his negative energy.
It was like it was infectious.
You just had to be somewhatclose to him and you would start
to feel that negativity comingright off of him.
Then something really coolhappened.
The facilitator of the seminarsaid we're going to do a little
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activity now.
What I'd like you to do is I'dlike you to get up when I say so
, and I want you to find someonein the room that you feel is
maybe not being fully committedto being here, maybe showing
negative energy and maybe justneeds a little love and support.
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And then everyone got up andthe entire room went to that
gentleman and just surroundedhim and everyone was looking at
him.
And then an incredible thinghappened.
He started to tear up and hetook the microphone and the
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facilitator asked him to sharewhat went on.
When you saw everyone standingthere offering love and support
to you and essentially sayinglike we feel like you're not
giving your all and maybe you'recoming from a negative space,
he said that was the first timein his lifetime that he ever had
people support and show lovetowards him in such a way.
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People support and show lovetowards him in such a way.
And an incredible thinghappened.
That emotional driven event inhis life caused him to start
suggesting to himself verydifferent things.
Instead of him looking at hownegative the world was, he
started saying to himself howincredible things were.
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I'm grateful to have all thesepeople around me, I'm grateful
to have all this support, I'mgrateful to have the opportunity
to love and that gentleman fromthat time forward for the rest
of the seminar and at the end hegot up and he shared and it was
like watching a transformedhuman being and the only
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difference between that manbefore and after was one thing.
The thoughts that were going onthrough his mind those negative
auto-suggestion initially, whenhe first came in, was probably
something like this this seminarsucks.
These people are so annoying.
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They're all complaining,they're all so positive.
I'm so tired of these kind ofpeople.
And at the end of the seminar,what do you think he was
thinking?
I'm so grateful, I'm so happy,I'm so lucky that I had this
transformation while I was here.
He was thinking in a verydifferent way and you and I had
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that ability, just like he did.
In an instant, he changed howhe looked at the world and he
changed how he looked at himselfand he changed how he looked at
others.
And you and me and everyoneelse can do the exact same thing
, no matter what.
At any moment, we can decidethat it's time to not allow this
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voice to run on autopilot, nolonger going to let it run me.
I'm taking control, I'mdeciding what I'm going to plant
into my subconscious mind.
Let's learn from thatexperience.
Let's learn from him, a guythat probably would have gone
through life in a very negativeway and instead he taught
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himself by the actions of othershow to think very differently.
And you can do the exact samething.
All right, let's go back to thebook.
Before we read the nextparagraph, I just want to give a
little bit of an overview aboutwhat we're going to discuss.
We're talking aboutheterosuggestion.
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Heterosuggestion means it's asuggestion that comes from
another person.
Let me tell it to you throughan example.
They did this marketingexperiment and what they did was
they had this energy drink andthey had two glasses and they
said one of the glasses was theenergy drink, right, and the
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other one was a drink that wouldcalm you down.
It would make you feel calm andpeaceful.
Now, what?
The person on the other enddidn't know.
The drink was exactly the same.
So they had different groups ofpeople go through this and the
people that were drinking theenergy drink reported feeling
very energized.
Now, since the drink was thesame on the other side, but the
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people who were drinking itthought it was something that
would make them more peacefuland relaxed.
What do you think that theyexperienced?
They experienced feeling morecalm and relaxed and peaceful.
The majority of people thatdrank that drink, which was
actually an energy drink, feltthat they were relaxed and
peaceful, whereas it should havebeen causing them to feel
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really hype because the caffeinelevel was significantly higher.
This is what heterosuggestionis higher.
This is what heterosuggestionis.
Heterosuggestion is.
If we allow the outside worldto dictate and tell us what
we're going to experience, wewill start to experience it just
like those people drinkingthose drinks.
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So we're going to pause on thisnote, because we'll get into
this next time.
I wanted to introduce the topicbecause all I want you to do is
start paying attention to themessages that are coming at us
the messages coming at us fromthe media, the messages coming
from our bosses, the messagescoming from our friends and
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family and ask yourself if Iaccept this hetero suggestion,
the suggestion coming fromsomeone else, is this going to
support me or is this going topotentially hurt me?
That's all I want you to do.
You don't have to changeanything.
I just want you to be aware andstart paying attention to all
these suggestions that arecoming at us from every single
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angle.
I want you to have a wonderfulweek.
I want you to have a wonderfulweek.
I want you to practice this.
I want you to remember howamazing you are and how powerful
you are and just practice.
Don't worry about how wellsomeone else is doing it in
comparison to you.
All that matters is that you'redoing it and you're making an
effort to get better than youwere last week.
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Have a wonderful week and Iwill see you next week.
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