March 30, 2025 • 30 mins
Your mind is a garden, and your thoughts are the seeds. This pivotal insight from "The Power of the Subconscious Mind" reveals why some of us flourish while others struggle with the same circumstances.
Did you know you have approximately 65,000 thoughts per day, and a staggering 85% of those thoughts are repeats from yesterday? This repetition creates your life's framework—when you think the same thoughts, you create the same experiences. But what if you could consciously choose different seeds to plant?
We explore five transformative principles from Chapter Three that can revolutionize your thinking. Your subconscious mind accepts everything without discrimination—it doesn't judge the quality of thoughts being planted, it simply grows whatever you feed it. This explains why affirmations work, why gratitude transforms your experience, and why protecting your mental space is crucial.
Perhaps most powerful is understanding that your conscious mind functions as a gatekeeper. Like installing a firewall on your computer, you can choose what influences penetrate your mental space. The news, negative people, and limiting beliefs can only affect you if you allow them entry. And when someone's words upset you, it's not their power—it's an internal button being pushed, revealing where healing is needed.
Through practical examples and real client stories, we demonstrate how these principles apply to finances, relationships, and self-worth. The homework challenge? Choose one principle and consciously apply it this week. Notice how simply being aware of what you're planting in your mental garden begins shifting your entire life experience.
Ready to take control of your subconscious programming and transform your reality? This episode provides the roadmap. Subscribe now and join our community of conscious creators designing lives of abundance, joy, and purpose.
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Speaker 1 (01:04):
Today we're gonna do the highlights of chapter three
from the power of thesubconscious mind.
I'm gonna hit, point by point,the key elements of chapter
three and for the rest of thebook that's what I'm gonna do.
I'm gonna just pull out the keyitems and discuss it and use
examples so that you really getthe key items from the book.
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I had asked for feedback andsome of the feedback that I got
was Mike, you don't necessarilyhave to go line by line.
As long as you're hitting thekey elements and you're giving
us examples of how that actuallyworks and how we can apply that
in our life, that's perfect andI think that's good also
because it's going to allow usto go through books a little
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more quickly and go to someother books and again hit key
items in those books so that wecan use those points and apply
them in our life so thatultimately, we're living a
happier and better life.
So we're on page 37 of thePower of the Sub subconscious
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mind.
It's the review section, andI'm going to start with point
one.
So it says think good, and goodfollows.
Think evil, and evil follows.
You are what you think aboutall day long.
Earl Nightingale said this sobeautifully.
The talk that he did was calledthe Greatest Secret, and the
Greatest Secret was you becomewhat you think about?
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We have 65,000 thoughts per day,many of those same thoughts.
About 80% of I think it's evenhigher, I think it's 85% of
those thoughts are the samethoughts that we had yesterday.
Now, how does that work?
Think about it.
When we wake up in the morning,those thoughts are similar
thoughts.
We'll think it's time to getout of bed.
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We'll then get out of bed,we'll then walk to the bathroom
and as we're doing those actions, there are thoughts that
precede the actions.
So I say to myself okay, it'stime for me to walk to the
bathroom, it's time for me tobrush my teeth, it's time for me
to go to the bathroom, it'stime for me to shower.
These are all thoughts that wehave over and over.
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Now, remember, if we're having65,000 thoughts per day and our
life is very similar on aday-to-day basis and our
experience of life is verysimilar, that's because we're
thinking these same thoughtsover and over every single day.
This is good, because if westart to change the way that we
think, what do you think isgoing to start happening to our
life.
If we think more good thoughts,if we think more positive
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thoughts, what will ourexperience of life be?
If we think more negativethoughts and we focus on all the
lack in our life, what will ourexperience of life be?
And the answer to both of thoseis we will become more of
whatever it is that we thinkabout.
If you're not feeling good,it's telling you that you're
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thinking in a wrong way, you'rethinking in a negative way.
So what we need to do is shiftthat and start thinking more
positive thoughts.
So here's a question how canyou think more positive thoughts
?
What are some simple ways toapply that in your life?
My favorite go-to is gratitude.
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Gratitude is a beautiful way toquickly connect to the higher
power, to connect to God, andit's a quick way to get yourself
feeling good.
Because if you take moments andyou take time to focus on all
the things that you're gratefulfor in your life, you're
absolutely going to startfeeling better.
For example, let's say thatright now I start thinking of
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the things I'm grateful for.
I'm grateful for my wife, why?
Because she's caring, loving,kind.
She has such a good heart.
She always supports me ineverything that I want to do.
I'm grateful for my son.
Why I'm grateful for my son?
Because he's such a caring andloving and kind soul.
In all the time that he's beenaround, I have never, ever,
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heard him say one negative thingabout anyone or anything.
He doesn't talk negativelyabout anyone, and that's an
amazing thing.
There was only one other personwho in my lifetime I
experienced that with, and thatwas my grandfather.
He never had a negative thingto say about anyone.
So I'm grateful that I have himin my life to show me that I
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can raise my standards and tryto get to his level of not
making those judgments and notspeaking negatively of others.
And not speaking negatively ofothers.
So gratitude again is a greatway to quickly pull us out of
negative thinking and quicklyhave us realize all these
incredible things that we'regrateful for.
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Recently, my mom went into thehospital.
Thank God she's okay, but in aheartbeat things can change.
No one was expecting her to bein the hospital and then
suddenly I got a phone call thatshe's in the hospital.
So I'm grateful that I have herin my life.
I'm grateful that she hashealth in her life.
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I'm grateful for all of thesethings.
If I choose to focus on that.
What will my experience be?
I will have more happiness,more peace in my life, and that
all came from changing the waythat I was thinking.
So, again, the easiest way tochange how you're thinking, the
easiest way is to go togratitude and just take time to
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keep asking yourself what am Igrateful for?
And when you have an answer,then ask why.
And the why will take us deeper.
It will cause us to feel moreof that gratitude, to feel more
of that thankfulness, to feelhappier, to feel peaceful and to
feel much better.
And when we do that, our lifewill start to also show more
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happiness, peace and our resultsin life will start to shift as
well.
So, again, the key thing hereis whatever we're saying and
whatever we're thinking on aconsistent basis is what we're
going to become.
And that happens because we'replanting these seeds into our
subconscious mind.
So if I'm constantly thinkingnegative thoughts and I'm
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planting them into the garden,my subconscious mind, the
subconscious mind doesn't rejectanything.
It just allows you to plant,and whatever you plant, it's
going to sprout more of.
So we control that garden bycontrolling our thinking, and we
control our thinking by goingto gratitude.
Does that make sense.
Let's go to point number two.
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Your subconscious mind does notargue with you.
It accepts what your consciousmind decrees.
If you say I can't afford it,it may be true, but do not say
it Select a better thoughtDecree, I'll buy it.
I accept it in my mind.
This is a really importantpoint.
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Our subconscious mind doesn'tcare what we feed it.
Again, it's a garden.
It's sitting there, it's thatsoil on the ground.
It doesn't care what we plantin it, because whatever we plant
in the soil, it's going to growmore of.
This is exactly how our mindworks.
So if we know that's the case,we want to be very selective in
what we're going to plant inthat garden Because, again, it's
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not going to reject it.
So if I keep saying I have alack of money in my life, if I
keep worrying about money and Iplant those seeds in the garden,
what is my experience of lifegoing to be?
It's going to be lack andlimitation.
It's going to be.
I can't afford this.
I need to be careful, I need tosave, I need to worry Instead
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of focusing and planting seedsof abundance and taking actions
of abundance which will lead tomore abundance coming into my
life.
But if I plant the seed in mymind money comes to me easily
and effortlessly and I plantthat in my mind I'm going to
have a very different experiencethan if I plant the seed.
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Money is really tough to makeor I'm always having a struggle
to get all the things I want inmy life.
The thing is, whatever I saywill go into the subconscious
mind, it will get planted inthere.
I choose, so let's all chooseto plant what's going to support
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us, what's going to make adifference, what's going to help
us?
Because, again, thesubconscious mind is not gonna
argue with you.
It's gonna say Michael, you'reright, you have lack and
limitation in your life.
If I plant that seed, it willalso say Michael, you're right,
you have a lot of abundance inyour life and it will grow more
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of that.
You're in control.
You choose what you're puttingin the garden and if you choose
to put negative seeds in thatgarden, you're going to sprout
lots of negative seeds.
The beauty is, if you find thatyour garden is overwhelmed with
negative things, just startpulling the weeds and start
planting positive seeds and itwill overtake the garden.
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We have a choice.
Our subconscious mind doesn'tcare what we choose.
It'll just give us more ofwhatever we choose to put in
there.
So you are completelyresponsible for the results and
the feelings that you're gettingin your life because you're
choosing to put these seeds inyour subconscious mind.
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Let's move on to point numberthree, and point number three is
you have the power to choose.
You can choose to have healthand happiness.
You can choose to be friendly.
You can choose to be unfriendly.
Choose to be cooperative,joyous, friendly, lovable, and
the whole world will respond.
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This is the best way to developa wonderful personality.
You have the power to choose.
Let me tell you a story aboutone of my clients.
He grew up in a household wheremoney was lacking significantly
.
He was always worried.
His parents were alwaysstruggling, his dad lost his job
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and they were always worriedabout how they were paying the
bills.
So if he was surrounded bythese messages of lack and
limitation, what do you thinknow he's grown up to believe?
His belief is that money islacking and money can quickly
disappear, just like it did.
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When he was younger, he wasn'taware of what he was doing.
He wasn't aware that he waschoosing to focus on that
negative and choosing to allowthis old belief system, this old
programming about how money islacking was taking over and
running habitually in his mind.
It was a program that wasrunning in his mind and
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controlling everything aboutmoney.
Then we started working onunderstanding that when that
feeling comes up, it's okay,it's not bad, it's normal, it's
habitual behavior.
It's that habitual program oflack and limitation, of I don't
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have enough, I may run out ofmoney.
What if this happens?
It's that habitual thoughtprocess and that's all it is.
It's habitual.
It's not really a choice.
Until you realize what you'redoing.
Then it becomes a choice.
So now that he's aware ofwhat's happening, he can make a
choice when that type ofthinking comes up.
Instead he can choose abundance.
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So when that thought comes up,okay, what if I don't have a
good month this month?
What if I struggle the nextcouple months?
When those come up, he canreplace it with I am so happy
and grateful now that moneyflows to me in increasing
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quantities through multiplesources on a continuous basis.
And then the negative thoughtcomes up again about money and
then he replaces it with I am sohappy and grateful now that
money flows to me in increasingquantities through multiple
sources on a continuous basis.
You see, what he's doing is,now that he's aware of his
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thought process, he's making achoice and he's saying, every
time that negative comes up,what I'm going to do instead is
I'm going to replace it, I'mgoing to plant the different
seed, I'm going to choose whichseeds I'm planting in the garden
, and that's what this pointthree is all about negative.
I'm making a choice to then sayI'm planting these seeds
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instead into my garden, and youcan do that.
So think about for yourselfright now what is something that
has been a negative, habitualthought process for you over all
these years that has controlleda lot.
Maybe it's something aboutrelationships.
Maybe it's trust.
I don't trust a man or a womanin a relationship because people
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left me at a young age, and ifthey left me, if my parents left
me, that means other peoplewill leave me too.
So I can't trust anyone.
That's a belief, or maybe it's.
I can't get in good shape, nomatter what.
I've tried it in the past,whatever I do, it just doesn't
work.
Ultimately, I put the weightback on, I stop going to the gym
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and I'm not in good shape.
Those are all habitual ways ofthinking and you can choose to
allow that to continue or youcan become aware of it and you
can shift it.
You can change it and you canreplace it with something
different In the relationship.
You could replace it.
I'm so happy and grateful nowthat I trust and have beautiful,
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loving, caring relationshipsand if you say that enough times
, you're planting seeds in yourgarden and ultimately, over time
, the garden will be filled withthat trust and that love.
Again, we have the choice.
This is you having the power tochoose.
We don't necessarily have thepower to choose up until this
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point because we didn't evenrealize what was happening.
But now that we're aware ofwhat's happening, we have the
ability to make a choice and sayI'm no longer allowing that
negative to control my life.
I'm no longer choosing to plantthese negative seeds in that
garden.
Instead, I'm choosing to putpositive in there.
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I'm choosing to focus ongratitude.
I'm choosing to focus on trust,love.
I'm choosing to put the seedsthat I want in my garden,
because it's my garden and Iwant it to grow into the garden
that I want, not a garden thatI'm unhappy with.
If you're unhappy with yourgarden, you weed what you want
out and you plant what you wantin.
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Can it be that easy?
What do you think?
Can it be easy like that?
It can, but we have to againbecome aware of what we're doing
and then choose to saysomething and plant something
that's going to support us andhelp us live a life where we're
happy, peaceful and free.
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Does that make sense?
All right, let's go on to pointfour.
This point is key.
This is a very important point,and it is this your conscious
mind.
Again, your conscious mind iswhere we do all of our thinking.
Your conscious mind is thewatchman at the gate.
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Its chief function is toprotect your subconscious mind
from false impressions.
Choose to believe thatsomething good can happen and is
happening now.
Your greatest power is yourcapacity to choose.
Choose happiness and abundance.
I want to focus on thebeginning part of what it's
saying here.
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It says your conscious mind isthe watchman at the gate On your
computer system.
What do you put in place toprotect it from getting viruses
and to protect it from havingpeople connect from the outside?
In you would put virus softwareand potentially a firewall,
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because what you're doing isyou're putting these protective
layers in so that the outsidesources can't get in and infect
your computer.
Because if your computer getsinfected then you have to scrub
it and clean it and you have torun special programs to remove
these viruses.
And it's the same thing withour conscious mind.
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Our conscious mind is where wedo our thinking.
That's where we can protectourselves from allowing the
thoughts to go into oursubconscious mind.
It's at the conscious layer,it's at our thinking parts.
Remember, we were just talkingabout the virus software.
This virus software or thisfirewall can protect us from
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outside things that are going on.
Someone walks up to you andsays you're such a jerk, you're
such an idiot.
We have a choice.
If our virus software is inplace, if our firewall is in
place, we can block out whatthey said and say I reject that,
that's not true.
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And you block it from allowingit to come into your conscious
mind.
Allow it to sit in yourconscious mind.
What happens next is it's goingto cross over to your
subconscious mind and once it'sin your subconscious mind,
you've planted a seed in thegarden.
Now that seed, the subconsciousmind, it's not going to reject,
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it accepts whatever you plantinto it.
So if you allow all this stuffthat's happening on the outside
to come in.
This is a problem, so we needto block it.
We need to put that layer ofprotection up there and say if
someone's going to say something, I am going to reject it if
it's not going to help me andit's going to ultimately plant
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negative seeds in mysubconscious mind.
How about this?
We've spoken about this before.
But what about the news?
If you're sitting there andyou're watching the news, do you
have your firewall in place oris the news just coming right
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into your conscious mind and ifyou allow it to sit there, it
goes directly into yoursubconscious mind?
So, whatever they're saying onthe news, our seeds are being
planted into your garden.
News, our seeds are beingplanted into your garden and
that is creating your reality inlife, because your subconscious
will say yes, this politicalsystem is terrible, bad things
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are happening, the world'scoming to an end and that's what
your experience of life will be.
However, if you turn off thenews and you don't allow it to
come into your mind, what'sgoing to happen?
You're protecting yourself.
You're protecting yourself fromallowing that impression, this
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negative seeds, to be plantedfirst in your conscious, but
then directly into yoursubconscious mind is absolutely
imperative that we see ourselvesas having this firewall and
we're protecting whatever's onthe outside and we're making a
decision.
Am I going to allow what'sgoing on the outside to come in?
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Am I going to allow thosenegative beliefs that others
have about relationships?
Am I going to allow whatthey're saying to come in and
infect my mind?
Because if you do and you allowit, it's going to get planted
right into your subconsciousmind and your belief will be
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that relationships equal pain.
And if relationships equal painand relationships equal not
being able to trust, what is thelikelihood that you'll be in a
good relationship?
However, if instead, what youdo is you block that out and you
say, no, that's not true.
I get into really goodrelationships because I have
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love for myself, I supportmyself, I take care of myself
and I'm going to be in a caringand loving and kind relationship
.
And that's what I'm attractingmore and more into my life
People that love me just as I amand care about me just as I am.
Those are the seeds I'mplanting into my subconscious.
And if I do that consistently,what do you think will begin to
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happen?
We'll start to have more trustin our relationships, because
those are the seeds that we'replanting.
Put the firewall in place andyou decide what you're allowing
to come in from the outside.
Am I allowing the news to comein automatically?
Am I going to listen to thosenegative songs on the radio that
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are programming my mind aboutrelationships?
Am I going to allow that songthat's talking about how a guy
got cheated on, and multipletimes?
Am I going to allow that tocome into my mind and plant
seeds about relationships?
Because that's exactly whatit's doing?
How in the world do you thinkyou got all the beliefs that you
currently have in yoursubconscious mind?
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How do you think those programsgot planted?
They got planted because youheard things over and over.
You didn't have the firewall inplace and it came in and it
polluted you.
It caused all these viruses tobe installed, and these viruses
now, if we don't remove them,will infect us and we'll
completely be in control of howwe think.
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Does this make sense?
We're hitting a lot of thingshere and my suggestion is listen
to this again and again,because it's through the
repetition of this kind ofinformation that it's planting
seeds in your mind that arebeautiful and it's causing you
to think in a very different way, planting seeds in your mind
that are beautiful and it'scausing you to think in a very
different way.
So what better thing to putinto our subconscious mind than
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to listen to stuff like thisover and over again, because
it's planting seeds and it'scausing us to think in a very
different way.
Does that make sense?
Okay, let's go on to numberfive.
We hit this when we weretalking about number four, which
says the suggestions andstatements of others have no
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power to hurt you.
Let's think about this.
If you could have that as abelief, the suggestions and
statements of others have nopower to hurt me.
If you believe that, what wouldthat do in your life?
If you had the belief that thesuggestions and statements of
others have no power to hurt me,could anyone ever hurt you?
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No, only you are choosingwhether or not you're going to
be hurt by something.
You're choosing to believe whattheir words are.
They have no power over youunless you give it power.
And to go on here, it says theonly power is the movement of
your own thought.
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You can choose to reject thethoughts or statements of others
and affirm the good.
You have the power to choosehow you'll react.
You have the power to choosehow you're going to react.
No one can upset you unless youallow them to upset you.
I think I told this story, butI'm going to tell it again.
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I was once at a seminar andthere was a facilitator at the
seminar and I couldn't stand her.
She just got on my last nerveand what really was going on is
what she would do is she wastelling people what to do and at
the time I certainly didn'tlike to be told what to do and I
finally got to a point where Iwas like boiling over and I
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raised my hand, they gave me themicrophone and I started to
scream and yell and actually sayprofanities at this facilitator
.
Here I am, I was a teenagerdoing that and I was screaming,
yelling and she stood there andit didn't affect her one bit.
Now, how is it possible that itwouldn't affect her?
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And that was one of thequestions I actually asked her
later on, because it blew mymind that I'm sitting there
screaming, yelling and cursingat her and not one budge.
It didn't affect her at all.
And that's the power of ourability to reject.
When I was attacking the womanin the seminar, the facilitator,
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was it because of stuff thatshe was doing, or was it because
some button inside of me wasbeing pushed?
Of course that's what it was Abutton inside of me was getting
pushed.
I didn't want to be told whatto do.
I felt like she was telling mewhat to do and she was saying
that I was stupid.
And I had that very big beliefwhen I was younger that I was
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stupid.
My brother was an attorney, myother brother a doctor, my
parents a lawyer and a paralegal.
And here I am feeling like Iwas stupid.
So when she was doing what shewas doing, she was hitting that
button inside of me.
Did that have anything to dowith her?
Did that say anything about herme coming at her, or did that
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have everything to do with me?
It had everything to do withher.
Did that say anything about herme coming at her, or did that
have everything to do with me?
It had everything to do with me.
And when you get upset withanyone, no matter what barring,
they're punching you in the face.
But the words that they speakcan only cause emotion if you
allow it to, and the only wayyou allow it to is if you have a
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belief inside that getstriggered.
And so I think that as we moveforward, if you can be aware,
the next time you get upset andsay to yourself it wasn't really
nice that she said those wordsto me or he said those words to
me.
However, there's a buttoninside of me that got pushed.
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What's that button?
And maybe if I work on dealingwith that button, that belief,
that limiting belief that'sinside there, I'm not good
enough, I'm stupid, I can't dothis, I have lack in my life.
Whatever those limiting beliefsare, if we work on those and we
get stronger there.
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Now someone comes up to us andstarts being really mean and
using their words in a negativeway, will that have any impact
on you?
Maybe it'll have a little bitof impact because those buttons,
those triggers, are still there.
However, it'll be a lot betterand as you work on those
triggers, eventually you'llbecome so strong that literally
nothing on the outside world canimpact you, because you'll
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realize if something's impactingyou, there's a lesson to be
learned.
Okay, so I'm going to pausehere.
We're at 29 minutes for thisepisode.
I'm going to stop and we'llcontinue next time.
There's about five more pointsto this chapter.
I'm going to hit those pointsand we'll do that the next time.
So here's the homeworkassignment how can you take one
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of these five points that we'vecovered today and start applying
them in your life?
For example, how can you be thewatchman, how can you be the
guard of your conscious mind?
How can you protect fromallowing words from the outside
to come in?
Maybe you'll work on that thisweek.
Or maybe you'll work onrealizing I got to be careful
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what seeds I'm planting in mygarden and I'm choosing, for
this next week, to only plantpositive seeds in there.
And you may still put negativeseeds in, but when you catch
yourself putting a negative seed, just replace it with a
positive.
Don't beat yourself up.
This is a work in progress.
We're all far from perfect.
We just keep trying to get alittle bit better each time, and
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getting better comes throughpractice.
Practice is what makes usreally strong.
So keep practicing, keepgetting better, and I look
forward to seeing you all nextweek.
Have a wonderful day.
Today we're gonna do the highlights of chapter three
from the power of thesubconscious mind.
I'm gonna hit, point by point,the key elements of chapter
three and for the rest of thebook that's what I'm gonna do.
I'm gonna just pull out the keyitems and discuss it and use
examples so that you really getthe key items from the book.
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I had asked for feedback andsome of the feedback that I got
was Mike, you don't necessarilyhave to go line by line.
As long as you're hitting thekey elements and you're giving
us examples of how that actuallyworks and how we can apply that
in our life, that's perfect andI think that's good also
because it's going to allow usto go through books a little
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more quickly and go to someother books and again hit key
items in those books so that wecan use those points and apply
them in our life so thatultimately, we're living a
happier and better life.
So we're on page 37 of thePower of the Sub subconscious
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mind.
It's the review section, andI'm going to start with point
one.
So it says think good, and goodfollows.
Think evil, and evil follows.
You are what you think aboutall day long.
Earl Nightingale said this sobeautifully.
The talk that he did was calledthe Greatest Secret, and the
Greatest Secret was you becomewhat you think about?
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We have 65,000 thoughts per day,many of those same thoughts.
About 80% of I think it's evenhigher, I think it's 85% of
those thoughts are the samethoughts that we had yesterday.
Now, how does that work?
Think about it.
When we wake up in the morning,those thoughts are similar
thoughts.
We'll think it's time to getout of bed.
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We'll then get out of bed,we'll then walk to the bathroom
and as we're doing those actions, there are thoughts that
precede the actions.
So I say to myself okay, it'stime for me to walk to the
bathroom, it's time for me tobrush my teeth, it's time for me
to go to the bathroom, it'stime for me to shower.
These are all thoughts that wehave over and over.
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Now, remember, if we're having65,000 thoughts per day and our
life is very similar on aday-to-day basis and our
experience of life is verysimilar, that's because we're
thinking these same thoughtsover and over every single day.
This is good, because if westart to change the way that we
think, what do you think isgoing to start happening to our
life.
If we think more good thoughts,if we think more positive
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thoughts, what will ourexperience of life be?
If we think more negativethoughts and we focus on all the
lack in our life, what will ourexperience of life be?
And the answer to both of thoseis we will become more of
whatever it is that we thinkabout.
If you're not feeling good,it's telling you that you're
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thinking in a wrong way, you'rethinking in a negative way.
So what we need to do is shiftthat and start thinking more
positive thoughts.
So here's a question how canyou think more positive thoughts
?
What are some simple ways toapply that in your life?
My favorite go-to is gratitude.
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Gratitude is a beautiful way toquickly connect to the higher
power, to connect to God, andit's a quick way to get yourself
feeling good.
Because if you take moments andyou take time to focus on all
the things that you're gratefulfor in your life, you're
absolutely going to startfeeling better.
For example, let's say thatright now I start thinking of
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the things I'm grateful for.
I'm grateful for my wife, why?
Because she's caring, loving,kind.
She has such a good heart.
She always supports me ineverything that I want to do.
I'm grateful for my son.
Why I'm grateful for my son?
Because he's such a caring andloving and kind soul.
In all the time that he's beenaround, I have never, ever,
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heard him say one negative thingabout anyone or anything.
He doesn't talk negativelyabout anyone, and that's an
amazing thing.
There was only one other personwho in my lifetime I
experienced that with, and thatwas my grandfather.
He never had a negative thingto say about anyone.
So I'm grateful that I have himin my life to show me that I
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can raise my standards and tryto get to his level of not
making those judgments and notspeaking negatively of others.
And not speaking negatively ofothers.
So gratitude again is a greatway to quickly pull us out of
negative thinking and quicklyhave us realize all these
incredible things that we'regrateful for.
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Recently, my mom went into thehospital.
Thank God she's okay, but in aheartbeat things can change.
No one was expecting her to bein the hospital and then
suddenly I got a phone call thatshe's in the hospital.
So I'm grateful that I have herin my life.
I'm grateful that she hashealth in her life.
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I'm grateful for all of thesethings.
If I choose to focus on that.
What will my experience be?
I will have more happiness,more peace in my life, and that
all came from changing the waythat I was thinking.
So, again, the easiest way tochange how you're thinking, the
easiest way is to go togratitude and just take time to
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keep asking yourself what am Igrateful for?
And when you have an answer,then ask why.
And the why will take us deeper.
It will cause us to feel moreof that gratitude, to feel more
of that thankfulness, to feelhappier, to feel peaceful and to
feel much better.
And when we do that, our lifewill start to also show more
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happiness, peace and our resultsin life will start to shift as
well.
So, again, the key thing hereis whatever we're saying and
whatever we're thinking on aconsistent basis is what we're
going to become.
And that happens because we'replanting these seeds into our
subconscious mind.
So if I'm constantly thinkingnegative thoughts and I'm
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planting them into the garden,my subconscious mind, the
subconscious mind doesn't rejectanything.
It just allows you to plant,and whatever you plant, it's
going to sprout more of.
So we control that garden bycontrolling our thinking, and we
control our thinking by goingto gratitude.
Does that make sense.
Let's go to point number two.
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Your subconscious mind does notargue with you.
It accepts what your consciousmind decrees.
If you say I can't afford it,it may be true, but do not say
it Select a better thoughtDecree, I'll buy it.
I accept it in my mind.
This is a really importantpoint.
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Our subconscious mind doesn'tcare what we feed it.
Again, it's a garden.
It's sitting there, it's thatsoil on the ground.
It doesn't care what we plantin it, because whatever we plant
in the soil, it's going to growmore of.
This is exactly how our mindworks.
So if we know that's the case,we want to be very selective in
what we're going to plant inthat garden Because, again, it's
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not going to reject it.
So if I keep saying I have alack of money in my life, if I
keep worrying about money and Iplant those seeds in the garden,
what is my experience of lifegoing to be?
It's going to be lack andlimitation.
It's going to be.
I can't afford this.
I need to be careful, I need tosave, I need to worry Instead
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of focusing and planting seedsof abundance and taking actions
of abundance which will lead tomore abundance coming into my
life.
But if I plant the seed in mymind money comes to me easily
and effortlessly and I plantthat in my mind I'm going to
have a very different experiencethan if I plant the seed.
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Money is really tough to makeor I'm always having a struggle
to get all the things I want inmy life.
The thing is, whatever I saywill go into the subconscious
mind, it will get planted inthere.
I choose, so let's all chooseto plant what's going to support
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us, what's going to make adifference, what's going to help
us?
Because, again, thesubconscious mind is not gonna
argue with you.
It's gonna say Michael, you'reright, you have lack and
limitation in your life.
If I plant that seed, it willalso say Michael, you're right,
you have a lot of abundance inyour life and it will grow more
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of that.
You're in control.
You choose what you're puttingin the garden and if you choose
to put negative seeds in thatgarden, you're going to sprout
lots of negative seeds.
The beauty is, if you find thatyour garden is overwhelmed with
negative things, just startpulling the weeds and start
planting positive seeds and itwill overtake the garden.
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We have a choice.
Our subconscious mind doesn'tcare what we choose.
It'll just give us more ofwhatever we choose to put in
there.
So you are completelyresponsible for the results and
the feelings that you're gettingin your life because you're
choosing to put these seeds inyour subconscious mind.
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Let's move on to point numberthree, and point number three is
you have the power to choose.
You can choose to have healthand happiness.
You can choose to be friendly.
You can choose to be unfriendly.
Choose to be cooperative,joyous, friendly, lovable, and
the whole world will respond.
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This is the best way to developa wonderful personality.
You have the power to choose.
Let me tell you a story aboutone of my clients.
He grew up in a household wheremoney was lacking significantly
.
He was always worried.
His parents were alwaysstruggling, his dad lost his job
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and they were always worriedabout how they were paying the
bills.
So if he was surrounded bythese messages of lack and
limitation, what do you thinknow he's grown up to believe?
His belief is that money islacking and money can quickly
disappear, just like it did.
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When he was younger, he wasn'taware of what he was doing.
He wasn't aware that he waschoosing to focus on that
negative and choosing to allowthis old belief system, this old
programming about how money islacking was taking over and
running habitually in his mind.
It was a program that wasrunning in his mind and
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controlling everything aboutmoney.
Then we started working onunderstanding that when that
feeling comes up, it's okay,it's not bad, it's normal, it's
habitual behavior.
It's that habitual program oflack and limitation, of I don't
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have enough, I may run out ofmoney.
What if this happens?
It's that habitual thoughtprocess and that's all it is.
It's habitual.
It's not really a choice.
Until you realize what you'redoing.
Then it becomes a choice.
So now that he's aware ofwhat's happening, he can make a
choice when that type ofthinking comes up.
Instead he can choose abundance.
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So when that thought comes up,okay, what if I don't have a
good month this month?
What if I struggle the nextcouple months?
When those come up, he canreplace it with I am so happy
and grateful now that moneyflows to me in increasing
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quantities through multiplesources on a continuous basis.
And then the negative thoughtcomes up again about money and
then he replaces it with I am sohappy and grateful now that
money flows to me in increasingquantities through multiple
sources on a continuous basis.
You see, what he's doing is,now that he's aware of his
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thought process, he's making achoice and he's saying, every
time that negative comes up,what I'm going to do instead is
I'm going to replace it, I'mgoing to plant the different
seed, I'm going to choose whichseeds I'm planting in the garden
, and that's what this pointthree is all about negative.
I'm making a choice to then sayI'm planting these seeds
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instead into my garden, and youcan do that.
So think about for yourselfright now what is something that
has been a negative, habitualthought process for you over all
these years that has controlleda lot.
Maybe it's something aboutrelationships.
Maybe it's trust.
I don't trust a man or a womanin a relationship because people
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left me at a young age, and ifthey left me, if my parents left
me, that means other peoplewill leave me too.
So I can't trust anyone.
That's a belief, or maybe it's.
I can't get in good shape, nomatter what.
I've tried it in the past,whatever I do, it just doesn't
work.
Ultimately, I put the weightback on, I stop going to the gym
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and I'm not in good shape.
Those are all habitual ways ofthinking and you can choose to
allow that to continue or youcan become aware of it and you
can shift it.
You can change it and you canreplace it with something
different In the relationship.
You could replace it.
I'm so happy and grateful nowthat I trust and have beautiful,
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loving, caring relationshipsand if you say that enough times
, you're planting seeds in yourgarden and ultimately, over time
, the garden will be filled withthat trust and that love.
Again, we have the choice.
This is you having the power tochoose.
We don't necessarily have thepower to choose up until this
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point because we didn't evenrealize what was happening.
But now that we're aware ofwhat's happening, we have the
ability to make a choice and sayI'm no longer allowing that
negative to control my life.
I'm no longer choosing to plantthese negative seeds in that
garden.
Instead, I'm choosing to putpositive in there.
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I'm choosing to focus ongratitude.
I'm choosing to focus on trust,love.
I'm choosing to put the seedsthat I want in my garden,
because it's my garden and Iwant it to grow into the garden
that I want, not a garden thatI'm unhappy with.
If you're unhappy with yourgarden, you weed what you want
out and you plant what you wantin.
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Can it be that easy?
What do you think?
Can it be easy like that?
It can, but we have to againbecome aware of what we're doing
and then choose to saysomething and plant something
that's going to support us andhelp us live a life where we're
happy, peaceful and free.
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Does that make sense?
All right, let's go on to pointfour.
This point is key.
This is a very important point,and it is this your conscious
mind.
Again, your conscious mind iswhere we do all of our thinking.
Your conscious mind is thewatchman at the gate.
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Its chief function is toprotect your subconscious mind
from false impressions.
Choose to believe thatsomething good can happen and is
happening now.
Your greatest power is yourcapacity to choose.
Choose happiness and abundance.
I want to focus on thebeginning part of what it's
saying here.
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It says your conscious mind isthe watchman at the gate On your
computer system.
What do you put in place toprotect it from getting viruses
and to protect it from havingpeople connect from the outside?
In you would put virus softwareand potentially a firewall,
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because what you're doing isyou're putting these protective
layers in so that the outsidesources can't get in and infect
your computer.
Because if your computer getsinfected then you have to scrub
it and clean it and you have torun special programs to remove
these viruses.
And it's the same thing withour conscious mind.
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Our conscious mind is where wedo our thinking.
That's where we can protectourselves from allowing the
thoughts to go into oursubconscious mind.
It's at the conscious layer,it's at our thinking parts.
Remember, we were just talkingabout the virus software.
This virus software or thisfirewall can protect us from
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outside things that are going on.
Someone walks up to you andsays you're such a jerk, you're
such an idiot.
We have a choice.
If our virus software is inplace, if our firewall is in
place, we can block out whatthey said and say I reject that,
that's not true.
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And you block it from allowingit to come into your conscious
mind.
Allow it to sit in yourconscious mind.
What happens next is it's goingto cross over to your
subconscious mind and once it'sin your subconscious mind,
you've planted a seed in thegarden.
Now that seed, the subconsciousmind, it's not going to reject,
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it accepts whatever you plantinto it.
So if you allow all this stuffthat's happening on the outside
to come in.
This is a problem, so we needto block it.
We need to put that layer ofprotection up there and say if
someone's going to say something, I am going to reject it if
it's not going to help me andit's going to ultimately plant
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negative seeds in mysubconscious mind.
How about this?
We've spoken about this before.
But what about the news?
If you're sitting there andyou're watching the news, do you
have your firewall in place oris the news just coming right
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into your conscious mind and ifyou allow it to sit there, it
goes directly into yoursubconscious mind?
So, whatever they're saying onthe news, our seeds are being
planted into your garden.
News, our seeds are beingplanted into your garden and
that is creating your reality inlife, because your subconscious
will say yes, this politicalsystem is terrible, bad things
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are happening, the world'scoming to an end and that's what
your experience of life will be.
However, if you turn off thenews and you don't allow it to
come into your mind, what'sgoing to happen?
You're protecting yourself.
You're protecting yourself fromallowing that impression, this
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negative seeds, to be plantedfirst in your conscious, but
then directly into yoursubconscious mind is absolutely
imperative that we see ourselvesas having this firewall and
we're protecting whatever's onthe outside and we're making a
decision.
Am I going to allow what'sgoing on the outside to come in?
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Am I going to allow thosenegative beliefs that others
have about relationships?
Am I going to allow whatthey're saying to come in and
infect my mind?
Because if you do and you allowit, it's going to get planted
right into your subconsciousmind and your belief will be
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that relationships equal pain.
And if relationships equal painand relationships equal not
being able to trust, what is thelikelihood that you'll be in a
good relationship?
However, if instead, what youdo is you block that out and you
say, no, that's not true.
I get into really goodrelationships because I have
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love for myself, I supportmyself, I take care of myself
and I'm going to be in a caringand loving and kind relationship
.
And that's what I'm attractingmore and more into my life
People that love me just as I amand care about me just as I am.
Those are the seeds I'mplanting into my subconscious.
And if I do that consistently,what do you think will begin to
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happen?
We'll start to have more trustin our relationships, because
those are the seeds that we'replanting.
Put the firewall in place andyou decide what you're allowing
to come in from the outside.
Am I allowing the news to comein automatically?
Am I going to listen to thosenegative songs on the radio that
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are programming my mind aboutrelationships?
Am I going to allow that songthat's talking about how a guy
got cheated on, and multipletimes?
Am I going to allow that tocome into my mind and plant
seeds about relationships?
Because that's exactly whatit's doing?
How in the world do you thinkyou got all the beliefs that you
currently have in yoursubconscious mind?
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How do you think those programsgot planted?
They got planted because youheard things over and over.
You didn't have the firewall inplace and it came in and it
polluted you.
It caused all these viruses tobe installed, and these viruses
now, if we don't remove them,will infect us and we'll
completely be in control of howwe think.
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Does this make sense?
We're hitting a lot of thingshere and my suggestion is listen
to this again and again,because it's through the
repetition of this kind ofinformation that it's planting
seeds in your mind that arebeautiful and it's causing you
to think in a very different way, planting seeds in your mind
that are beautiful and it'scausing you to think in a very
different way.
So what better thing to putinto our subconscious mind than
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to listen to stuff like thisover and over again, because
it's planting seeds and it'scausing us to think in a very
different way.
Does that make sense?
Okay, let's go on to numberfive.
We hit this when we weretalking about number four, which
says the suggestions andstatements of others have no
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power to hurt you.
Let's think about this.
If you could have that as abelief, the suggestions and
statements of others have nopower to hurt me.
If you believe that, what wouldthat do in your life?
If you had the belief that thesuggestions and statements of
others have no power to hurt me,could anyone ever hurt you?
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No, only you are choosingwhether or not you're going to
be hurt by something.
You're choosing to believe whattheir words are.
They have no power over youunless you give it power.
And to go on here, it says theonly power is the movement of
your own thought.
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You can choose to reject thethoughts or statements of others
and affirm the good.
You have the power to choosehow you'll react.
You have the power to choosehow you're going to react.
No one can upset you unless youallow them to upset you.
I think I told this story, butI'm going to tell it again.
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I was once at a seminar andthere was a facilitator at the
seminar and I couldn't stand her.
She just got on my last nerveand what really was going on is
what she would do is she wastelling people what to do and at
the time I certainly didn'tlike to be told what to do and I
finally got to a point where Iwas like boiling over and I
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raised my hand, they gave me themicrophone and I started to
scream and yell and actually sayprofanities at this facilitator
.
Here I am, I was a teenagerdoing that and I was screaming,
yelling and she stood there andit didn't affect her one bit.
Now, how is it possible that itwouldn't affect her?
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And that was one of thequestions I actually asked her
later on, because it blew mymind that I'm sitting there
screaming, yelling and cursingat her and not one budge.
It didn't affect her at all.
And that's the power of ourability to reject.
When I was attacking the womanin the seminar, the facilitator,
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was it because of stuff thatshe was doing, or was it because
some button inside of me wasbeing pushed?
Of course that's what it was Abutton inside of me was getting
pushed.
I didn't want to be told whatto do.
I felt like she was telling mewhat to do and she was saying
that I was stupid.
And I had that very big beliefwhen I was younger that I was
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stupid.
My brother was an attorney, myother brother a doctor, my
parents a lawyer and a paralegal.
And here I am feeling like Iwas stupid.
So when she was doing what shewas doing, she was hitting that
button inside of me.
Did that have anything to dowith her?
Did that say anything about herme coming at her, or did that
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have everything to do with me?
It had everything to do withher.
Did that say anything about herme coming at her, or did that
have everything to do with me?
It had everything to do with me.
And when you get upset withanyone, no matter what barring,
they're punching you in the face.
But the words that they speakcan only cause emotion if you
allow it to, and the only wayyou allow it to is if you have a
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belief inside that getstriggered.
And so I think that as we moveforward, if you can be aware,
the next time you get upset andsay to yourself it wasn't really
nice that she said those wordsto me or he said those words to
me.
However, there's a buttoninside of me that got pushed.
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What's that button?
And maybe if I work on dealingwith that button, that belief,
that limiting belief that'sinside there, I'm not good
enough, I'm stupid, I can't dothis, I have lack in my life.
Whatever those limiting beliefsare, if we work on those and we
get stronger there.
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Now someone comes up to us andstarts being really mean and
using their words in a negativeway, will that have any impact
on you?
Maybe it'll have a little bitof impact because those buttons,
those triggers, are still there.
However, it'll be a lot betterand as you work on those
triggers, eventually you'llbecome so strong that literally
nothing on the outside world canimpact you, because you'll
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realize if something's impactingyou, there's a lesson to be
learned.
Okay, so I'm going to pausehere.
We're at 29 minutes for thisepisode.
I'm going to stop and we'llcontinue next time.
There's about five more pointsto this chapter.
I'm going to hit those pointsand we'll do that the next time.
So here's the homeworkassignment how can you take one
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of these five points that we'vecovered today and start applying
them in your life?
For example, how can you be thewatchman, how can you be the
guard of your conscious mind?
How can you protect fromallowing words from the outside
to come in?
Maybe you'll work on that thisweek.
Or maybe you'll work onrealizing I got to be careful
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what seeds I'm planting in mygarden and I'm choosing, for
this next week, to only plantpositive seeds in there.
And you may still put negativeseeds in, but when you catch
yourself putting a negative seed, just replace it with a
positive.
Don't beat yourself up.
This is a work in progress.
We're all far from perfect.
We just keep trying to get alittle bit better each time, and
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getting better comes throughpractice.
Practice is what makes usreally strong.
So keep practicing, keepgetting better, and I look
forward to seeing you all nextweek.
Have a wonderful day.
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