The Happiest Lives Podcast

In this episode, we continue the series Relationship Foundations as we dive into the subject of  Boundaries.  Because relationship boundaries start in your mind, having a clear picture of where you end and another begins is crucial as you decide how you want to respond in your relationships. Sometimes we may need to declare a boundary and enforce a consequence for violations; however many times we simply need to honor our own bound...

Join me for part two of the series, Relationship Foundations, where we look at the core concepts that will change the way you approach the people you love.  This week we talk about Desires and Wants. 

What do you truly want in your relationship? What if your partner doesn't want the same thing?  How should you feel about your wants and desires when they seem to cause you pain?  

Dealing with things on your ow...

Are you ready to challenge your perceptions and fuel your relationships? This episode promises to take your understanding of relationships - with yourself, others, and God - to a whole new level. 

Imagine an engine where each part is connected, all contributing to the overall function. The same goes for our relationships; our thoughts, feelings, and actions are all required to keep the engine smooth and robust. We dive int...

What if the key to success lies in our failures? Buckle up for a riveting conversation where we dissect failure and how it shapes our identity. This episode is the last in our series on Being & Doing, and it's a game-changer!  When we stop perceiving failure as a setback, we experience it as a stepping stone to resilience, confidence, and determination. After listening to today's podcast, you'll realize that avoi...

Your aspirations reflect your core values and dreams, while goals are the building blocks to realizing your aspirations. Join Jill Lillard, MA LPC as she explores these concepts in a spiritual context, discussing the role of faith in shaping our lives with intentional and disciplined goal setting. This episode is part of the series on  Being & Doing, and unveils the importance of daily practices that honor God, helping us to lo...

What if you could unlock the secret to living a  life fueled by emotions on purpose? As we explore the relationship between Being & Doing, we delve into why we want what we want and what it is that we think will make us happy.  You will learn how to feel on purpose, owning your emotional experiences.  In this episode Jill shares valuable techniques for identifying the desired feelings and sensations you want to experience, as w...

This episode is part of the four-part series on Being & Doing.  You will learn why we do certain things and why we may not do what we want to do.  I introduce The Heart Scan Process as a way of gaining a deeper understanding of your life and creating change. You will discover:

• Relatable examples of clients who are unhappy with their actions not aligning with their values and not achieving desired results.
• Four parts of Heart ...

The Hallmark of happy couples is NOT that they never have disagreements or regrettable incidences. What sets the "masters of marriage" apart from the "disasters of marriage," as Gottman likes to classify them, is Repair Attempts. If you can have a fight but come back together and effectively move forward, learning from your last conversation that didn’t go well, then you are on the right track for a growing rela...

Do you have issues in your marriage where you don't see eye to eye? When the topic comes up, do you lock horns and get stuck in hurt? Nothing is wrong that you have a "problem." However, if you become gridlock over it,  you may decide, "It's better to deal with this on my own,"  a thought that ignites the cascade of distance, loneliness, and isolation.  Though the fighting has stopped, you are now sepa...

Here I explore four habitual ways of engaging that shut down communication and can destroy your relationship. If you want better conversations, I will show you what to do instead. This is part of the Better Conversations Series.

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The Talk Table is a conversation tool that will allow you to stay calm, listen better, and effectively share.  Learn four tips for using this tool so you can create better conversations.   This is part of The Better Conversations Series. 

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This episode is part of The Better Conversations series. We have the amazing opportunity and capacity to exchange thoughts and feelings with others.  However, sometimes conversations don't go as planned,  and we decide that conversations can be hard. In this episode, I tell you the ONE reason your conversations are hard and give you three tips for creating Better Conversations.

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True Joy is rooted in a relationship with Christ and others. Join me with special guest Becky Harling as she walks us through four aspects of joy highlighted in her first group devotional book  Rooted Joy, part of The Girlfriends  Gathering Series. 

You can find Becky's books and more at www.beckyharling.com

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Happiness does not mean we have positive feelings all the time.  Life is 50/50;  to create a happy life, we must make room for negative emotions.  All your feelings, the negative ones included,  can be portals to experiencing more of God's presence. 

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If you want to feel better,  you must first understand the REAL reason why you are feeling the way you are.  In this episode, you will discover seven sneaky thought errors and what to do about them. When you get to the root of your dissatisfaction, you can take your power back regaining peace and joy.

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There are many different ideas and questions about happiness.  Does being happy imply that we will never feel terrible? Is there a formula for happiness? Is being happy something we should even strive for as  Christians? I  answer all this and more as I give you 5 Biblical teachings on happiness that you can apply to your life.   Unlike momentary, fleeting pleasure, true happiness can sustain us through the worst times.

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Though where we are is uncomfortable, getting to where we want to be can feel terrifying.  Oftentimes we sit on the shorelines of our life, choosing familiar discomfort over our deepest longings. Between where we are and where we are going, we find ourselves in a sea of struggle or surrender.  Everything changes when we invite the Lord into the misery of becoming, surrendering to him rather than our circumstances.

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When you received Jesus, you received a new identity. The old is gone, yet you are still becoming who you already are, awaiting this transformation's fullness. This is a paradox that we can't fully understand. When we think things should be different than they are, we become discouraged. In this episode, I give you six tips for living in the tension of the already but not yet. 

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Creating change starts with our intellect, emotion, and will. Actions must follow. Even as we press on, we will experience unwanted emotions that seem to work against our deepest desires. When we declare new truths and take action despite these feelings, we will keep moving forward and build a better relationship with ourselves as we honor our greatest values.

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