Struggling with autism-related behaviors at home? This episode shows how “fixing” the outside can leave kids lonely on the inside—and what to do instead. Learn connection-first steps that calm meltdowns and build trust.
Guest: MegAnne Ford, parenting coach and creator of the C.L.E.A.R. Method (attachment- and brain-based parenting; Be Kind Coaching).
How “connect before correct” reduces meltdowns
Why external control can create internal loneliness
A simple way to join your child’s world (Alex & the DVD story)
Using C.L.E.A.R. (Connection, Limit, Empowerment, Accountability, Recovery)
How to set limits that protect needs—not escalate conflict
Parent self-regulation strategies you can use today
09:16 Joining the child’s world: Alex & the DVDs
14:25 “Is that enabling?”—reframing the concern
17:36 Bottom-up brain (safety → connection → learning)
20:49 “I don’t have time”—using time vs. chasing behavior
23:32 First resistance = lower brain protection
25:11 Acknowledge → allow → acceptable solutions
26:55 Co-dysregulation & the “gift of pause”
28:11 C.L.E.A.R. explained
30:49 Parent–child power dynamic (asymmetrical)
33:18 Limits that serve the child
37:20 Accountability without shame
42:23 Recovery: repair & reconnection
45:21 Band-Aid story: modeling care
47:42 Grief, empty cups & small wins
50:00 Wrap & key takeaway
Mendability: https://www.mendability.com
Be Kind Coaching (MegAnne): https://www.bekindcoaching.com
Free guide: De-escalate a Meltdown in Seconds (no words) – https://go.mendability.com/start/meltdowns-guide
Next: Watch our episode on parent self-care and calm-first routines.
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