The Healing Club Podcast Ep. 12 | Coping

Hello & thank you everyone for watching episode 12! We've come through with some great talks about coping with mental health issues & different strategies for coping! We all go through so much in a day & we need to find ways to accept those problems, make it a part of our lives & find ways to solve them. We dropped a question at the end of our talk so let us know your answers in the comments!

Episode Transcript

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Yo, what's good everybody?

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This is the healing club podcast.
We are your host the dynamic duo I am Sean and we got my boy Luke the greatest you already
know man we understand episode 12 episode 12 this is going to be a very important episode
because I feel like I feel like we got some good things to talk about we definitely got

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some good things to talk about for sure bro so what we're going into today is coping and
I feel like people are having issues today with like coping with mental health or coping
in different situations so let's let's go over coping today and see what we can share
with y'all but before we do that you know we got to we got to reach out to those that

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are hurting out there right now that um need attention right now that that are that are
just ready to give up I'm here to tell you right now don't give up if you feel like that
right now there is a hotline out there 988 a suicide prevention hotline you can call
or text that number don't give up keep going because life life is definitely worth living

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facts everything getting expensive though but it's still worth living we need you 988
bro we always say that it's all confidential bro you know this is all between you and whoever
is going you know help you and help you fight and overcome whatever it is that you struggling
with mentally bro you are important bro we need everybody is special and you are too

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so don't think don't think for a second that you mean less than what you are worth because
everybody everybody is there you know everybody makes their own worth but everybody is special
at the end of the day because guess what everyone has loved ones everyone has friends families
that care about them so always think about them if you feel like you know if you feel

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that big facts but alright with that being said time to get into coping so what is coping
so coping and mental health it refers to the ways individuals manage and deal with the
challenges stressors or emotional difficulties they encounter you know daily life shit daily

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life struggles so it involves adapting strategies and behaviors to navigate through you know
tough situations reduce emotional distress and maintain overall your overall well-being
so of coping you know you have to think of it as a way to protect yourself take care
of yourself you know at the end of the day it's all about self-care if you're going

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through a situation like a very tough situation you know you need you need to find ways to
accept it or bring it into your life or it could be one of those situations that are
just like long drawn out for instance like a process like a process yeah or say you

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say you got a four-year contract with the military there's a lot of coping going on
a lot of coping a lot of coping so today we'll you know we'll discuss mechanisms and strategies
you know of coping so coping mechanisms can vary from person in person and may include

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you know both healthy strategies like seeking support or practicing self-care self-care
self-care and less adaptive ones you know such as avoidance you can always you can always
play ignorance for so long that is true yeah you but yeah that's what you know you want
to be proactive when you're coping when accept this into your life you got to be like a this

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is the situation right now how am I gonna deal with it no no facts and when it comes
to just to piggyback off what you said about uh you know uh accepting whatever it is that's
affecting you whatever you know just to elaborate that's you know instead of you know trying
to avoid something like that you know you recognize it right and all of them feelings

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that you excuse me all them feelings that you getting from it rather pain or it could
be grief or whatever it is stress whatever you know take that recognize it and know that
that all them things that you are feeling is just the process to recovery right to healing
know those some things that you're going through that you're feeling you are supposed to feel

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those right you are supposed to feel those right that's just the uh the start of the
process to you going through it you know filling everything that you need to feel you know
i'm saying and uh the whole process are you filling all of that is just you slowly recovering
bro for sure for sure like we all take like every one of us has a different road paved

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but we all go through the same feelings we feel the same you know none of the stuff that
we're talking about is new either no no it's it just has to be realized that hey you know
i'm going through these things what what what are the things that i know that can help me
you know cope with it you know try to try to bring it in you know so so while we're

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talking um effectively coping with mental health issues often involves a combination
of self-awareness resilience and utilizing positive coping mechanisms so we're going
to talk to you guys about five key things to keep in mind you know with coping and mental
health these days so the first thing we'll talk about is uh mindfulness and meditation

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uh so you want to discuss the benefits of mindfulness and meditation and promoting
mental well-being facts like meditation bro to me is super important right and this honestly
pretty look at it you know um meditation is more of like you know for some people it's like

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you know praying you know for like some religious people you're not religious you know you still can
meditate is fine and then the best thing about it is it's free you don't need any equipment
or nothing like that you know to meditate all you really need is just yourself you know uh
preferably somewhere that's quiet right and you know just close your eyes you know sit you ain't

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got to sit you know like like how do you know i'm talking about what it'd be like yeah yeah you
ain't got to do all of that you know but it's mainly just you taking the time figuring out
what's bothering you right and just think about you know solutions you know okay this is bothering me
how can i get through this you know i'm saying in the best way possible you know i'm saying without

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um uh like trying to you know go around things that you know that is hurting you leave stuff on
the you know on the back end just you know putting it to the side because eventually it's going to
come up again yeah and it's going to come even stronger right so you meditate that's just the
perfect time for you to just acknowledge things that you know maybe you can do better you know to

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get over whatever it is that's bothering you and you know and just kind of build yourself you know
a route to recovery if that makes sense no that makes sense yeah and now meditation is very
important because you have to have these conversations with yourself when's the last
time you ever turned off your phone like turned off all distractions and just meditate uh i say about

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probably yesterday honestly like for for me like um like i i usually do it every time i take a
shower like right before bed yeah you know my i will admit that my phone don't be off i usually
play like some music or something like um like a little low volume leave my phone on the counter
whatever i'm in the shower i kind of just close my eyes and just especially if something had affected

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me that day i close my uh close my eyes and i just you know try to let it go whether i'm angry or
i'm sad you know let it go and then just kind of work out you know solutions on how to you know
get better from there and i always feel better bro every single time i've done that bro i always
feel better no matter how angry i was sad or mad or whatever i always felt better bro no for sure

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like two places i like meditating like just being to myself like i like to be in the car
and when i'm taking a dump sometimes i'll personally go into you know take it up and
i'll purposely leave my phone behind because i don't want to hear shit i need a thing no that's
that's that's actually hey it works it works it works yeah i feel good i feel relieved and good

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it works like some people like to do it at the park you know yeah some people just meditate in
their room like you know whatever works for you whatever works for you like like we said in the
beginning like these coping mechanisms they vary from people to people so you don't know what
actually works until you try it um like some people like to meditate in the park around people

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and be distracted no facts and actually i got a friend who actually his he don't really i mean
they don't really you know describe it as meditating or whatever but they make you make beats all the
time or whatever and like he told me he said bro like when you know when i'm making my beats and
i got my headphones on bro i like you know i'm not thinking about nothing negative you know

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nothing that you know affected me that day bro i'm just it feels good no just me focused doing
something that i love that's that's like a a way of meditating bro you know i'm saying like
so actually that's that's actually i would i would think that is a form of self-care and which we'll
go into right now we'll go into the different you know self-care practices i feel like whatever you

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do throughout your day is is you know you naturally find ways to cope because i'm telling you like
like life is tough um for instance let's say you're driving and you're mad about something

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like you're mad you just got cut off like road rage type road rage type shit like okay like
you literally go through these feelings every day so how do you how do you constantly cope you know
throughout the day stuff like that you know that that that comes with you know you you you could
avoid that you know that's whatever those came off my bone at least i didn't get into an accident

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okay that stuff you know you you cope throughout the day and you have to think about your care
like your self-care um there are there are also you know proactive activities out there that you
could do to cope with things one of them is meditation a hobby like like like you was saying
with the music yeah that is that is definitely a coping mechanism doing what you love can definitely

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just ease like just just take the ease and burden off your shoulders yeah and plus like you know
the average you know person you know regular people like me and you i'm saying we'll work a
lot you know i'm saying and sometimes that can take a toll like with me like i work full time

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and i do full-time school right and you know 24 hours in a day you know i'm saying you need
eight hours of sleep you work eight hours at work and right after that you know you have four or
five hours like your day is gone dude like you don't have time to do anything right but i'm telling
you bro to make your life so much better bro if you could i don't maybe you like to play basketball

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or something just give yourself like a a scheduled day or scheduled time where you know i'm saying
where you squeezing yourself so some something you like to do and you love to do for yourself
you know that'll make like your days like so much better bro yeah for real i mean yeah yeah like
physical exercise that's yeah that's that's actually a good way of of um of self-care honestly you have

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to take care of yourself so shit if you if you want to if you feel like you need to get out there
you know go shoot some hoops on saturday make us be out there hooping you better have them
them ankles wrapped up yeah i haven't have them wrapped up because these boys is different but
we're in the low top shoes they are i'm telling you it's always somebody i throw the camera on

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they was waiting to embarrass you no yeah i i hate how how things are going right now because
it's literally a camera out everywhere everywhere and they were just watching they're waiting to
embarrass you for real but yeah that's that's that's definitely a way of um taking care of
yourself you have to get you have to get regular exercise like decent exercise um also also eating

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well bro like i know when people i used to do it too when we go through tough times we want to we
want to binge eat we want to we want to eat as much as we can we want to eat our troubles away
and then that turned into more troubles is that like an example of like bad coping or something

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yeah that's bad coping yeah you don't you have to put yourself on a balanced diet like like that is
a bad coping mechanism to eat eat your your problems away don't do that yeah because now it's like okay
whatever first off whatever is forcing you to cope anyway is already like you know bothering you real

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bad and then now that coping mechanism of you just deciding to binge eat now you so now it's like a
double whammy your mental getting messed up already and now you messing up your health it's like like
a like a double whammy yeah it's it's yeah nah you want to you want to get the the nutrients that

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that you need throughout your daily life you need you need to eat i don't want to say healthy i mean
it is what it is just be on a balanced diet but a cheeseburger here there you know don't hurt nobody
yeah this is not a fitness page i'll tell you that right now

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i worked out four times in 2023 it is what it is
but i'm good shit and adequate sleep so i know i know when people go through things
they stay up with what those thoughts all night long facts bro big facts it's nothing wrong to

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to have those thoughts in your head but you have to think of a solution and that comes you know
with meditation when you meditate you're thinking of a way to get out of that
like you want to you like when you meditate you're looking to improve your mental well-being
so it it doesn't it's kind of it's kind of what's the what's the what's the opposite of progressive

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again regressive it's regressive to think about this shit all fucking night you're losing your
sleep you literally you literally force yourself into insomnia bro literally bro and then on top
of that it's like uh first off let me say this everybody does experience that bro like that whole

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that whole you like it's like falling in a rabbit hole you know and then before you know it bro
you know you got to get up at six right but you lay down at like nine ten o'clock
right but all of that time up you didn't go to sleep till like four yeah right because you was
in your head like you know i'm saying and that's it's it's a normal thing you know that happens

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you know i'm saying that doesn't mean something's wrong with you right but you know meditation and
and you know having you know good ways to cope or whatever can help alleviate you from falling
in that rabbit hole bro right so you can get you asleep no for sure i need that i need my eight
hours yeah because just right off the bat like you already messed up going to sleep at four a.m

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going to sleep by four a.m then you're gonna wake up or i like around 10 tired tired what's
it and then on top of that you still got that same mental battle going on yeah so because you
didn't think of a solution you would just in your head all night that's why you need to take the
time to actually eliminate distractions sit down do whatever you like and actually think of solutions

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think of a way to get out of that radical that you think you're in it why life is tough for
everybody like i said the road the road isn't paid the same for everyone either there's not all going
through different things but i'm telling you we experience the same feelings because i went through
this before and we still go through today because it is a daily life struggle but with that being

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said um that was good with me text message so so unprofessional sorry everyone i was never
professional begin with we didn't say this was the professional yeah we didn't say this was a
club no mental mental health podcast the professional club hell no just the healing club right

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we make mistakes but we heal from we heal from them just like that yeah i've been healed
so a best the best way to take care of yourself you want to put yourself in a routine you want
to you want to regularly put your you know you want to you want to know that you're going to get
eight hours every day asleep because you have that schedule you want to know that you're going to get

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that the hour to exercise because you have that schedule it's not bad you know to have a routine
some people need to escape routine so and for them i will say take take time away take a vacation
honestly take like literally take time away from your routine but you need a routine no i

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i get that it's like uh yeah i i get what you're saying bro because like when we go on
whenever we went on deployment bro you know the goal was to get into a routine yeah or whatever
so we can you know i'm saying so you can you know run your day right yeah you know what i'm saying
but i understand if it gets too monotonous especially on the boat because we did that

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shit literally every day from sunday to the next sunday yeah but look that's the thing though like
i i agree with both things you said right so mate you do need a routine right but but sometimes bro
when you've been being a routine for so long you start to like your body just go into like autopilot
right like so you don't know nothing else like besides everything you do every single day

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right so it is good that to you know break out of that sometimes you know i'm saying and actually
treat yourself like self-care yeah yeah oh definitely but that being said people also need to
need to be more aware of themselves like you need to know yourself more and that also
is a meditation because you'll take that time to to actually talk to yourself and know yourself

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like get to know who you really are that's that's perfectly normal like i had to meditate uh like a
couple times because there are sometimes a lot i'm like so confused i just don't know who i am
so i need to rediscover myself rediscover like reassure myself like i'm still

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shawn like i'm still that nigga and i still have these goals and i'm still trying to beat this and
that but at the end of the day i'm still me so that that comes you have you have to be aware
of yourself but i i definitely agree especially like for everybody coming up so anybody coming up
in like or you know trying to reach a dream or or go out and pursue whatever career you're trying to

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pursue like just like off what you said but i agree 100% because like when it comes to you going to
pursue something that you know i'm saying something you're trying to do and i'm saying you constantly
got to show that you know i can do this for this company i could do this for you i can do this for
you not it's so it is definitely good bro to get to know exactly the things that you love about

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yourself you know things that you like to do as far as yourself bro because most of our lives you
know especially i know in the workplace we showing what we can do for other people right and you know
over time it's like damn like what about me yeah you know i mean what what what what luke de gree
does like to do you know i'm saying like so i get what you're saying bro

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yeah um but with that being said and you know there are some people out there
and there's nothing wrong with it that just wants an easy life don't really have big dreams
but still need to cope with their daily lives because you know
going going going through the day like it's kind of tough you got to drive to work you got to find

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parking yeah you gotta sit in the fucking office eight hours bro driving to work you got to get up
an extra hour earlier like for me for me bro a work for me from where i live it's like it
probably take me like 20 25 minutes no traffic no traffic no traffic like 20 25 minute drive

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right depends on you know the music i'm listening to and how it's affecting me yeah you know it's
depends on how fast or slow i'm gonna try but but anyways so let's just say 20 minutes right
but during a weekday right and i gotta be at work at eight bro i gotta be up at like
5 15 be on a roll i like six oh five six ten something like that exactly bro that's a battle

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bro that is a battle that's a battle my battle used to be driving home literally it literally
takes me 30 where i used to work because i used to work in miramar too yeah it'll take me like
20 to 30 minutes to drive to work an hour to get back up the home because everybody literally gets
off at the same time i have to cope with that that shit was tough that's tough i just want to

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get home and i'm stuck on the road for an hour a whole fucking hour my gas be hurt after that too
like yeah damn oh that's stopping go traffic stop and go stop and go oh my god bro ah you funny as

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hell bro that delivery bro uh chef's kiss a whole fucking hour oh man i feel you 100%
rossi diegos differently remote work that's my advice all right so we've gotten through two of

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the five important things to think about with coping so we're going to go uh go over the excuse
me the third one that hattie hit me we're going to go into the third one building a support system
this is very important because it goes into your friends your family whoever is by your side

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when you're going through these tough challenges so with relationships we talked about that in our
previous episodes like you want to you want to have a healthy relationship with somebody
instead of a toxic relationship like imagine trying to trying to talk to somebody toxic like
somebody like you just cannot relate to at all you just opening up you have to be aware of your

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friends you have to be aware you know people in your surroundings because that's not the type of
because that's not the type of person that i want to cope to effects like and what that being said
you know having a strong support system i went through a period where i had to cut off a homie
that i knew since work 2006 i told you about it but like yeah i had to cut somebody off because of that

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you know because i thought that was a friend that i could cope and and confide in this type of
shit because i knew him since 2006 we've been friends like since then yeah recently 2021
things happen yeah and here we are now you know i i want to say that's just a part of growing up but

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it really is it's you growing up if you taking care of yourself if you realizing you know that
your surroundings really need to be looked at you know like you need to take a second look at your
friends it's not wrong like you need to support yourself around and i didn't notice that until

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yeah now you started realizing that you are already kind of seeing like a lot of shit you ignored
yeah yeah yeah if you have that friend that just constantly threw that structure friendship and
just like whatever that's whatever actually you should actually think about it you should actually

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take the time to meditate and think you know think about that relationship with that friend
specifically yeah because i feel like in situations like that like because we notice a red flag i know
we say red flag whatever but essentially all it is is your intuition right yeah it is just your
intuition don't don't ignore it you know because whether you religious or or not you know it's your

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body telling you or you know maybe is you know god probably telling you like hey you know look out
or something like that you know so definitely if you do see you know any type of red flag definitely
pay attention to it um i wouldn't just judge nobody based off you know a red flag because it
could have been one of them mistakes or something they made it just rubbed you off wrong but

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definitely i would say look for a trend right friends definitely yeah like you can't you can't
be ignorant when it comes to that kind of stuff yeah definitely do that don't do that you have
to pay attention to that kind of stuff because at the end of the day you've let that person into
your circle that person could just ruin you in any type of way and you wouldn't even know about it

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because you you place this unconditional trust into him like because he's your homie all this
you know this whole time you know he's a father type shit you want to surround yourself with
what good people take a look at your relationship even what your what your family is because
not everybody is perfect yeah just genuine people you know i'm saying that you know somebody that

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you know people that you know that respect you you know respect you know you know everything you
know that comes with you things like that so it definitely you know protect you know your feelings
or you know whoever it is you want to open up to you know people that you want to call your friend
and just you know be strong be smart no for real pay attention so like i'm a very private person

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and one thing i hold to myself is value because i hold my personal values very strongly and i uphold them too
so if people cannot fit in value that's just not the type of person that's okay not everybody is coming in a couple of people
yeah
you have to surround yourself with what people share with you

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and that is the problem

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so
so
uh

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yeah
like go outside bro like go person that's walking the dog for real go outside bro and meet somebody

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you know we're gonna be virtual friends my virtual best friend i ain't knocking somebody your virtual best friend okay
who would you like to call a duty friend yeah yeah yeah i got yeah i got call of duty friends that i had
for years you know i'm saying but the virtual friend thing is especially like you know i know
how to date an advert is usually like within your like tri-state area or whatever yeah just like uh

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30 miles from you know within 50 miles or something like that i'm sure like that you can set it like
that the range yeah exactly yeah like go outside like yeah see what these people actually look like
yeah like get yeah because that way you can actually get because your body let you know you get a feel
for you know a person whatever you know i'm saying definitely uh one little um tip i want to give out

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to you know people come and become new friends or whatever or you've been friends you know i'm saying
make sure everything is like reciprocated or you know that energy you know i'm saying because it's
been situations where you know it's like oh you know you mean more to me than i meant to you yeah
type you know i'm saying mutual types exactly definitely yeah do that for sure no for sure

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but yeah that's that's all building with a support system make sure that make sure these people are
positive so another um another important thing our fourth thing so we're going to talk about
coping with stress so that's a big one because we are stressed yeah bro like you ever you ever

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had some shit like you're just so stressed out that you can't like you can't just even cope
if you can't like you can't talk to nobody like but you but you just suck in this situation
you feel like it's not gonna go anywhere yes oh when i was going to go watch that one when you
had left then they had to start sending me all these fucking places i'm sorry but the the silence

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was just killing me you just stared at the stared at the computer like just thinking about it right
now flashback ptsd some there's some shit i still need to go on and you can tell but what are what
are the common sources of stress you would think are common sources yeah um so driving every day

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you know we we stress over that yeah we stress over money too we stress over our jobs yeah we
stress if if we have kids you know we stress about kids definitely school or if they're okay
yeah or if you like a single parent or something that could be stressful that can be stressful so
all these there are so many common ways to to to to be exposed to stress but i feel like all of that

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like the most common way to to actually alleviate and figure out that stress is to meditate man
i don't think we need to have these conversations with ourselves definitely because like
like i feel like you know um like everything we just talk about right they are all examples of

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you know stressors or whatever right and like especially like how you said like um uh you know
getting up to dry to go to work you got to get up extra early now you got kids you know you might
be a single parent got to take the kids to school and then go to work yeah just kids up if you
yep all of that is like you know i'm saying like stacking up stacking up stacking up me i think one

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thing uh or just another thing because you mentioned meditation which is a good way i think another
thing could be um a cause of that is you know you could be neglecting yourself that you know i'm
saying like yeah you know you know your body and you know it's all working with you know i'm saying
going through all of this with you you know i'm saying like sometimes you gotta take a step back

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and you know i'm saying and you know and look out for that person you know i'm saying that's
that's doing all of this stuff which is you you know i'm saying like do something for yourself
you know meditate things like that you know go to your favorite part feel shit we we and the
shit another way to uh like cope with stress is what we just talked about in our last support

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system you can confide in these people that you actually trust yeah because you've taken the time
to actually pick out good friends that fit your values you can talk to these people you know you
can tell them what you're stressing about well what's it called when you're venting oh venting
venting it's okay to vent we gotta let it out because if we don't it's just gonna be what

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bottled up and yeah and what the shit happened when the bottle up you gonna explode explode at
some point that shit is and when explode it's literally the worst feeling because it's all that
feeling that you bottled up magnified and don't actually all at once exactly it's like you fighting
the the boss and you ain't got all your all your weapons upgraded it's like you ain't ready you

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you went to go fight the first boss at level one how could you he was not ready for this you're
not ready for this why would you do that but yeah and when i think comes to uh when you're talking
about venting bro i think that's a that's like a mutual benefit too especially like when you
talking with somebody who really does genuinely like care for you bro like them being able to be

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there benefits them like it makes them feel good and you feel good just having somebody there just
to listen bro like this is mutual bro you know what i'm saying no it is no for sure and you know
there are there are also simple ways that you can do you know everyone knows that they need to take
deep breaths when they're going through stress that actually helps um you know some some muscle

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relaxation uh oh and also also hobbies like creative outlets you know what um what do you
enjoy doing the most yeah you know take take the time to actually work on your hobbies because
your hobbies are because you pick them out because you are doing them like my hobby is to play video

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games and and and surf around the web and and and and you know whatever whatever i can do on my
computer i like i like to build things on my computer too like whatever yeah yeah for me i
like me don't think i like i like cars man like i got i love cars like i don't know too much about

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to be honest with you bro i know more about like a helicopter or airplane than i know about a car
yeah unfortunately me too but that's because you know navy it was in aviation so but like that's
the thing i like to do sometimes i just like to go for a drive or you know link with some friends
and you know we're going like a cruise around like san diego like that's the things that i enjoy and

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then as far as my my girl like for her you know she's going through something at work or something's
bothering her she like uh kate sessions you know at the park kate sessions go to kate sessions bro
we set up a picnic bro we got a little fruit and we just sit there talk and chill bro and it feels
good it really feels good not right now because it's cold outside yeah it's cold and rainy

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but you guys won't believe the weather right now yes this is not sunny say sunny san diego my ass
it is depressing outside oh i got a drive out there too
that yeah no that's a good way to cope with stress like if you don't have a significant other

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i want to say go on and look for it because i know i know some of us are going through a time of
healing as well but you know it's nice to have significant other it's nice to have somebody like
that's by your side no for sure so gotta gotta think about that you know if you if you're not
because well we said it in a lot of episodes too you can't go through this life alone

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no you can't you need you need you need your right hand woman or man whatever
you know whatever your preference whatever your preference is you know i don't i don't judge
same maury same maury same jerry springer or jerry springer yeah rest in peace jerry springer

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died right yeah he died rest in peace yeah yeah man but we are going into our last um
our last key thing about coping and mental health professional help and resources so it's hard
like it's hard to know about these things because how often do people talk about coping and mental

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health and all this shit not often bro i don't think so because a lot of like like how we all
i think we said this probably about every episode you know people are really judgmental
you know i'm saying so when it comes to you know somebody maybe wanting to you know bring
something up like that it's like nah i bottle it up because i'm not trying to you know make it
worse you know everybody laughs at me because i'm feeling something or you know what i mean yeah

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not definitely like there is definitely a stigma behind mental health yeah and that has to come to
an end bro because like mental health this is weird we're talking about your mental well-being
my mental well-being everybody's mental well-being we're talking about people people being able to

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live comfortably on this earth you know because everybody should have should have that right
no facts like i said eight billion people in this world everybody is special yeah and so
it because i feel like it doesn't get talked about enough and there's this stigma like there's not
enough resources out there for like people to learn and and it may turn people away from it
because because of the stigma because people think you know oh you take care of your health you

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weak ass take your shit but you're like oh you sad you cry baby yeah we're talking about your mental
health your mental well-being we're talking about how good are you for your mental well-being
about how good are you up here yeah facts and that's that it's literally something that we have to

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have to pay attention to especially these days especially these days oh man it's so fucking
tough these days boy biden's america biden administration we're not getting into politics
we're not this is not a political show either sorry we have our opinions but we're not getting

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into that we're just here for them for the for the uh healing yes but with seeking resources
it's very tough it's it's it might this might be the toughest thing you can do is actually
look you know actually getting on and figuring out you know how can i learn more about this stuff

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and we're still learning ourselves too but you know we we can be your resource yeah definitely
be your resource no facts because you know like like we said you know if you feel like you can't
talk to nobody bro like you can just dm us you know we we'll talk to you about it you know i'm
saying it maybe it's something we haven't experienced ourselves but it'll be something that we you know

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will learn yeah from your situation and then further down the line you know somebody might go
through with you went through and hey look we we learned about this like we can help them now
you know what i'm saying so no that that yeah like we can we can try and help you under like we can
try and help you understand like we're we're here to listen you do as much as we are here talking

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we also want to listen to you too like we genuinely care bro because like i said me and shawn if we
hadn't been through some stuff like so we understand bro that's why we did this podcast and like all of
this because we understand what it's like you know i'm saying to be going through something and you
know to feel alone and you know and you know judged and like all of that like we understand that

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right so that's why we did this you know to reach out to y'all and let y'all know we're here for you
yes sir you got somebody in your corner for sure our mission is to promote you know mental like
mental well-being like mental health awareness we're trying to we're trying to bring awareness
to it like this is an actual thing mental health it is an actual thing and it's something that you

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really need to take a look at and we're seeking professional help i've had to see i've had to see
shring before it's okay you have to talk to these people that's why that's why every episode we we
put out that number for those that are hurt because it's so important yeah so important to
seek professional help it's so important to seek help period yeah and you will be amazed

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like how these people can help you like that that number nine eight eight that is a real
number like text or call bro you i'm telling you bro you might think you think nobody can help you
you would be surprised because some some somewhere down the line somebody has went through something

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that you went through and they reached out right and now you know it's people that know about
you know whatever it is that you then went through and they know you know the you know processes and
steps that you probably have to take you know to get through whatever it is that's bothering
me no for sure and it's just not just suicide prevention there you know everybody like i said

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everybody goes through so many things there's there's domestic abuse cases out there like um
that that's a tough one man i hate hearing about that yeah me too bro there's drug cases out there
alcohol abuse like there's so many resources out there that can help you with these kinds of

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troubles yeah and especially like you know like lately like all the like mass shootings and you
know kids coming back and like shooting up the schools or whatever bro like i feel like bro
what me and you like you know promoting this mental health and talking about things and you
know telling people it's okay you know for to feel how you feeling you know i'm saying but you got to

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talk about it so people can help you i think that this is a you know good way of like going against
stuff like that because more than likely right you know them shootings and people doing all that they
just going through something obviously right probably couldn't talk to nobody and like how
we said you know they stack up on stack up and stack up that's what happens and it explodes

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that's what happens when shit explodes exactly right so it is okay to go through whatever it is
you're going through bro there's somebody out here bro who wants to hear you talk you know want to
hear your story bro they want to just try their best to help you bro yeah what i have ears talk
to me not facts on god like yeah like we we are a resource i'll say that right now we are a resource

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because we're literally out here we're not i have a mission to promote the mental well-being of
everyone in my community and and society and next world like that is our mission like that is the
healing club podcast mission so we we're definitely a resource for you you have to be willing to

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to to get that resource though so this comes on the person no because we don't know what you're
going to say like you have to talk to people you have to talk to people yeah because like it's like
you know it's like pick pick your poison right it's like would you rather you know keep this

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building and stacking and stacking and every day is getting worse and worse and worse right or would
you rather take that next hard right hard route right talk to somebody right which is going to be
hard you know it's hard you know for people to open up especially how people uh which route they
want to take you know like would you rather have this all stacking up on each other or would you

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rather take that next hard route find somebody and you know and open up and let all that shit out
because it's hard for people to do that yeah you know i'm saying
that so with opening up i feel like i feel like people have to be like very aware of of themselves
like they have to they have to be aware of what they're actually going to because

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emotional some of sometimes people just going to emotional rages dog like and and they themselves
cannot explain it yeah remember we we talked about that rather you ain't seen episode 11 you need to
go watch that because we talked about awareness remember like oh being aware of you know these
uh things as you know angering you frustrating you or whatever and you know and if you're not

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aware of it and it's just building up you're gonna make an impulsive decision you know i'm
saying you're gonna do something that you're probably gonna regret right so you gotta you know
so you gotta acknowledge whatever it is that you go through if you're going through a tough time if
you're feeling mad the biggest question you should ask yourself is why like why the fuck am i mad

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why am i sad why am i why am i feeling these things that should be the biggest question you
should ask yourself when you're going through tough emotions yeah and try to like narrow it down like
to what it is exactly that's making you mad right don't because sometimes it could be like a big
situation right you're thinking about that big situation but really it's only like this little

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part in that situation that really upsets you no it's like i just look do i really need to be this
mad like is it really worth me being this frustrated or you know it's like dang i let this get to me
and i didn't cussed out my girl or you know boy or whatever you know you wit it's like it wasn't even

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worth it not like like like actions they speak louder than words though so you have like you have
to be careful with what actions you take that's why you have to like if you're feeling these
emotions you have to think to yourself why am i feeling it is the next step i'm going to take
you know the the appropriate response for my emotions right you have to be like a lot of these

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things you have to take into consideration and i can understand that these thoughts can be
overwhelming yeah they can because your mind is like like just infinite space infinite infinite
space to just pile up stuff and stuff and stuff forever like infinite space like it's like no
escape like you literally could live inside your head if you were given the opportunity like yes

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yeah that's not that's not the way to go about no no it's not it's not no but yeah i was you know
i was talking about episode 11 when like we have to go back to that awareness is so important you
have to know you have to know the emotions that you're feeling if you're feeling these these tough
emotions you have to know why you're mad you have to know why you're sad you have to know you have

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to know why you're happy too because you want to you want to you want to recreate those happy
ones again exactly yeah no i agree 100% bro but like tell you know whoever anybody out there
going through something you know no matter how hard it might feel or you know the toll is taking
on you bro just bro just actively try right to you know uh fight against it bro don't don't it's not

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the end of the world it's not the end of the world um everything can be overcame bro everything can
be overcame bro not for sure and and us going back to our last thing you know what the stigma behind
mental health and seeking help you know from people the stigma has to end today like there is

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nothing wrong with taking care of your mental well your mental well-being there's nothing wrong
with seeking help no because at the end of the day you're trying to take care of yourself
you're trying to turn away on this earth too just like all of us are yeah and to do that
you like sometimes you will have to seek professional help because like i said we go

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through a lot we go through a lot of the day and some of us go through more more than others
on the street but it is what it is yeah definitely you know especially like with
a being people on this earth or whatever you know we are just this uh you know uh equal and you know
the earth is just as mine as it is everybody else you know i'm saying but you know you don't you come

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across these battles battles you know these stressors anxiety depression like all this stuff
right you know those are just battles and you have to fight for your life bro you know i'm saying like
you know fight bro like it's it's not easy being um you know uh easy it's not easy to be happy

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you know things like all that stuff is just it's just a battle bro you know for sure for sure
but i think i think we've covered everything about coping yeah um to close off with coping
i want to tell y'all this that y'all you know remember that everyone's journey is unique
and it's okay to seek professional help when needed if you are someone you know is struggling

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with mental health don't hesitate to reach out for support there's nothing wrong with reaching out for
help never like like we like we both said eight billion people in this world we all trying to live
here because it's just as mine as it is yours take care of yourself and a question i want to ask you
guys answer if you want it's there but think about these questions when you think about coping

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what are some coping mechanisms or strategies that you find you know most effective and managing
managing stress and navigating challenging situations how do you prioritize your mental
well-being during difficult times yeah and one thing i want to add is you know um with that

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question now leave a comment bro because that like like we always say that is some because your
answer to that question might be what somebody needs to hear you know i'm saying so answer the
question but you can leave a comment you ain't got to tell us your whole story you know tell us
ways that you know you learn to you know deal with things that you know that they get under your skin

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you know stress you out whatever it is right somebody needs to hear that you know maybe
multiple people probably need to hear that oh my god yeah a lot a lot of us could use different
ways you know to cope like we we all we all know things you know that some people might not know
like i said i like the one one of my favorite things you know cope is just that sitting on

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sitting on that thing up with it yeah right raise my mouth and just think
just just think of solutions yeah that's a very important thing for me too solutions because
with problems you know everyone goes through problems but do we ever think about you know
solving that problem we got it we got to think about solutions so that's one of my coping mechanisms

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just sitting on the job sitting on the can just thinking what's in my car you know some people
some people like to go to the park and be distracted some people think they're best when
they're when they're smoking or drinking well don't drink yeah don't binge drink you know don't even
indulge in drugs please don't yeah we're not because you want to beat this yourself you

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wouldn't you wouldn't use your willpower to solve this no definitely i'll do want to hear
y'all feedback bro like you know because shoot i might have something i might need to hear for
sure or shaan need to hear yeah y'all might have a better strategy than sitting on a can right yeah
like me you know i like that i like to go for a drive or something like that and clear my head

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like that but you know y'all might have ways that i might like too and it might even work even better
yeah like you know i'm down to try try new things you know that people just you know because because
at the end of the day we're all we're all learning from each other we're all trying to we're all
trying to live in this world too so definitely definitely you know definitely tell us you know

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answer that question i'll even read it to you again just in case you didn't hear me the first
time what are some coping mechanisms or strategies that you find most effective in managing stress
and navigating challenging situations and how can you prioritize your mental well-being during
difficult times facts so it's 2024 y'all we still on that fresh start definitely this is time for

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learning from past mistakes getting better uh becoming better as you know one people you know
and just it's just just a time of just progression bro you know yeah oh another way of taking care
of yourself every month ask yourself what are my new year's resolutions what like what was my new

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year's resolutions so you can so you can keep putting it back in your mind so you can stick on
it i like that i like what was my like what did i say i wanted to do yeah see this is what i was
saying bro that's like mom's was procrastination right and just him saying that bro look he put it
back in my mind like yeah you know i'm saying like and i and i bet and i bet i reminded everyone else

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too like yeah you know what was your new year's resolution right because something is something
you holding in that somebody else needs to hear from facts now for so for so but yeah think about
that question everyone let's see how much time do we have what uh like a minute and a half that's all
we got like about to hit 59 now we we are we are done that's crazy no no talk about

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sports again this is strictly yeah health pocket we try to keep squeeze sports in there but it take
up too much it take up too much time it is what it is i'm gonna have to do a separate sports show
honestly but with that being said um i hope i hope you know the strategy and what we talked about
and coping actually help those that are struggling with coping these days you know this doesn't

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just apply to mental health but everything ties into your mental health because it is it is
everything mental yeah everything is mental yeah everything is mental because you know everything
you do is a process you can think about it exactly so hopefully these strategies help you guys and
hopefully what we talk to you also help you and if you don't you know if there's something that
you want to you know input or you disagree just let us know our comment our comment boxes are always

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open but we gotta go we gotta go i got things to do today it is
peace