The Healing Club Podcast Ep. 12 | Resilience

What does it mean to be a resilient individual? Honestly, this is a topic that you can obviously see resonating with us. We dug into lifestyles, habits, traditions, cultures, any & all aspects of being a resilient person. What kind of person do you see yourself being, someone that never takes care of his/herself or a strong person that stands on business??? Let us know your stance on being a resilient person or if you have other tactics/strategies that we didn't say in the episode in the comment section.

Episode Transcript

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Yerrrrrr.

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What's good everyone?
Happy Sunday or Monday if you're watching this.
But this is the Healing Club Podcast, episode 13.

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I am your host.
Excuse me.
Can't talk this morning.
Drink a little bit of Hennessy, that happens.
But I am your host, Sean.
And I'm here with my other host.
Luke the Greatest, man.
You already know what it is.
What's good, y'all?
What is it?
This is about the last week of January right now.
The new year is passing by.
Hopefully everyone is tackling their resolution.

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For sure.
Yeah, keep at it, bro.
So I'm about to do my little reminder to myself on February 1st to see where I'm at.
But to continue, we are on episode 13.
Today's episode is going to be about resilience.
On my resilience.

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It takes a lot of resilience to be a Falcons fan.
Yeah, that takes resilience, bro.
You got to stick it up.
You got to stick it out, bro.
Like this week, this week.
I mean, you know, us Lions fans have been resilient for a long time.
And you see, after 20 years, it's paying off.

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30 years, it's paying off.
Resilience pays off.
But what does it mean to be resilient?
So we're going to get into that first.
First, we got to reach out to our people out there that are hurting, that need somebody,
you know, that are just out there alone and wish they could talk to somebody and feel

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like giving up right now.
I'm here to tell you right now, don't give up.
Life is worth living.
It always is.
That's how you it's how you live in life.
And I want to reach out to you and help you guys out.
But there is that hotline out there.
You know, you're not comfortable with people.
The hotline is 988.
That is the suicidal word is online.
So if you are going through these having these thoughts or do these tough times, reach

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out to the hotline, please.
Absolutely, bro.
And as we always say, man, it's all confidential, you know, you never got to worry about your
business getting out there, bro.
It's between you and whoever is consulting the issue you got going on.
So call that number, bro.
You feel like, you know, you're on your last stand and and you know what I mean?

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So definitely call that number.
So that's like and you're thinking about leaving this world tonight or whenever.
Please don't do that.
Please, please reach out to any loved one.
Reach out to your parents, reach out to us.
But if you can, there is that professional help.
And if you know someone that's going through pain, what was that?

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Is that was that like what positive about really hurting or just anybody hurting?
You know, reach out to them, please.
They must be dying for that for that interaction.
Because, you know, life is the most valuable asset we all got.
And that's something that you, you know, you should hold dearly and always try to protect.
So, you know, if you know somebody going through something and you know they are, you know,

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you know, simple question, you know, are you OK?
No.
What's going on?
You know, let's go hang out real quick.
You know what I'm saying?
So you never know.
You might be the reason they change their mind, you know, because you could have been
the last person that they saw.
So make to make sure like if you are, you know, do the right thing.

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Life is tough.
We all go into the same things.
But some some of you know, some of us it impacts us harder.
You know, we're not all built the same way.
Like I said in the last episode, not every road, you know, is paid, paid the same for
all of us.
We all take different paths.
So you never know what somebody is going to.
I feel that 100 percent, bro.

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See what we're talking about resiliency today.
The day today's topic is resiliency.
So what does it mean to be resilient?
So the definition of resilience is the ability to adapt and bounce back in the face of adversity,
trauma or stress.
It's not about avoiding difficulties, but effectively navigating them.

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So we've always we've always talked to you guys about not avoiding these issues.
You actually want to tackle it head on and find a solution.
We've talked about it last episode, you know, with deep thoughts, you know, people just
losing sleep insomnia.
Just that's tough.
That that's tough.
And you while you may think that you're being resilient, you know, just harboring these

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these feelings and just going through it every day, you actually hurting yourself.
No, you're you actually.
Yeah, you're actually testing.
You're actually testing how much you can hold.
No, big facts, because resilience at the end of the day is, you know, you want to stand
and, you know, hold your ground or whatever.
You know what I'm saying?

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Don't let whatever this is bothering you win, right?
You want to stay there, hold your ground and fight it, you know, when you in all these
deep thoughts in the middle of the night, you know, it's it's counter it's counterproductive,
counterproductive.
Yeah, it's counterproductive.
Definitely, especially like when it comes to, you know, just like you already got these

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issues and then, you know, it's stopping you from being able to sleep.
Right.
So now you lose out on sleep and now you wake up now, you even weaker, you know, going back
into that battle, you know what I mean?
So it's definitely counterproductive to stay up all night thinking about it.
It definitely is.
Oh, yeah.
All you're doing is just is just holding those like like resilience is the ability to

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adapt.
So adapt to a certain situation that you're in and bounce back in the face of adversity,
trauma or stress as finding a solution.
Yeah, like a solid solution, not trying to do something to like cover it up or like bury
it.
You know what I'm saying?

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You know, people pushed up to the side, but I pushed that to the side and let you know,
you're on it, it comes back and just not as worse than it was because you didn't deal
with it at the time you're supposed to deal with it.
So definitely don't try to run from something.
Don't try to, you know, avoid these mental battles.

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You know, just like Sean said, it's a legit solution, bro.
But if it was that easy, everybody would be doing it.
So that's true.
Yeah.
So we're here, we're here to teach y'all what it means to be resilient.
There's key points that go into being resilient.
In our past episodes, we're going to, you know, we're going to tap back into them because

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we a lot of these key points we've already talked about.
So we're just going to go go over them and we're going to put the pieces together and
we'll tell you what it means to be resilient.
So one of the key points that I want to hit y'all with is, well, part of the definition,
adaptability and coping.

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We talked about coping last episode.
Yes we did.
Resilient individuals develop adaptive coping strategies.
They can manage stress, regulate their emotions and problem solve effectively, contributing
to mental and emotional well-being.
So we talked about coping and what it meant, you know, to have coping strategies and coping

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mechanisms.
Like your mental health is very important.
So you try to protect it as best as you can.
And some of us do it subconsciously and we think that's coping.
So we want we what are some of the coping strategies that we talked about?
Like meditation.
Meditation is the biggest one that we talk about.

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Yeah.
But that's that one to go a long way to it really do.
Yeah.
And what a lot of mental things you got going on meditation to go a long way.
You know, that's pretty because you you know, you by yourself, you know, you know, try to
be in a quiet environment.
You know, you ain't got to like I said, you ain't got to sit, you know, like the what

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do you call them?
Oh, yeah.
But the ones cross apples.
Yeah.
But like a monk, like a monk.
Yeah.
Like a monk, you know, on the top of a mountain or nothing like that.
There's more of you just taking the time to pretty much take an understanding of what
you're going through and, you know, you're thinking about solutions, you know, deeply.

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So that's essentially what meditation is.
Yeah.
Like when we meditate, you know, I think we subconsciously subconsciously try to find
inner peace.
Yeah.
Mm hmm.
So you have to understand what it what it means, you know, like you have to know yourself.
So how many how can you say that you know yourself without meditating?

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Like not having a conversation with yourself.
Mm hmm.
That's actually a good question.
I'll probably say.
Probably not.
And I only say that because like for me, when I do it or when I meditate, it's, you know,
me, you know, settling down, you know, you know, focusing on myself or whatever.

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But before even meditation, you know, it was kind of like everything was just me kind of
just like a rapid rapidly responding to whatever is going on with me.
So it wasn't really like I was thinking, you know, clearly or whatever, but I think meditation
helps you do that.
Right.
So I think yes.

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Yeah.
Meditation like introduces you to opening your mind like I don't I don't think people really
know themselves unless they actually sit down and have a conversation with themselves, like
actually sit wherever you would find peaceful.
Some people go to a park.
Oh, yeah.
Traction is it?
Yeah.
Me.

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I need to I need to not even put my phone on D&D that bitch going off.
Yeah, it'd be like that, though, because if you're not, you know, and I know we keep saying
the word meditation, right.
Like I said, just to clear it up, we don't mean like a monk or anything.
It's just you taking the time to yourself, right.
To, you know, find these solutions or whatever, whatever is going on with you.

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Right.
And I think for like before I did meditation, I think it was more of me relying on advice
from other people.
You know what I mean?
And a lot of times it's like that advice.
It's not even something I do or I like.
You know what I mean?
So meditating really, really help you understand yourself.

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No, definitely.
Definitely.
So, yeah, like I said, resilient individuals, they develop adaptive coping strategies, adaptive
so they can manage stress and regulate their emotions and problem solve effectively.
Like that all that comes from you thinking you have to open your mind.

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You have to know yourself.
You have to have these conversations with yourself, too, because at the end of the day,
all of this is contributing to your mental and emotional well-being.
Protect yourself and adapt.
What does it mean to adapt?
Too much, I guess, is really like an adjustment, like a situational adjustment.

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No, that's if that makes sense.
No, that is exactly what it is.
Yeah.
Like you're stuck in a bad situation right now and it's uncomfortable.
So now you have to find a way to adapt to it.
Exactly.
How are you talking shit to me already?
So now my emotional well-being is down to gutter.

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That happens.
You have to have these conversations with yourself and think, OK, what's the next step?
Because at the end of the day, you are trying to improve your mental well-being.
Exactly.
And then low key, now that you say that, when I think about it, I feel like it's more of
like, you know how we say we at work and we in like a toxic environment or whatever.

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And like, I don't know if it's like a natural thing that we do.
Like we kind of put ourselves around people that we like or very similar to, you know,
how we go to our little group or whatever.
I wonder if that's like a natural adaptation type thing.

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So OK, so say, OK, you just started a new job, right?
You know, all these other employees in there or whatever.
And then, you know, how we associate ourselves with, you know, certain groups in there or
whatever.
That's mainly, you know, somewhat similar to us.
I was saying, I wonder if that's something some kind of natural adaptation thing.

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So we try to we naturally try to fit in with what's come.
OK, yeah, that's probably we don't like being uncomfortable.
Yeah, especially me.
I'll tell you, I'll tell you, I'm not I'm not I don't I don't like this.
I'll tell you that right now.
I do not like this if I'm in a comfortable situation.
So like for an example would be when we work, you know, in the Navy, there was a certain

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group that I just cannot get jiggy with.
It is what it is.
And I bet they feel the same way, too.
So we so we find, you know, people that we that don't fit in with our values and shit.
And that's our like little click that that that is like a comfortable setting.
But is it really adapting to the situation that you're in?

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No, not really.
I think you just found yourself comfortable, but it's but the present is still there.
Oh, yeah.
Problem is still present.
That is true.
Yeah.
So how do you how do you adapt and cope effectively?
Like at the end of the day, you're trying to improve your mental and emotional well-being.

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So the best way the best way to do is like have conversations.
That's the only way.
Yeah.
You would take actions into your own hand.
I want to say if you're uncomfortable, just just go kill somebody.
No, you know, like that.
No more mass shootings.
We don't need no more.
No, please.

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That has to stop.
That has to stop.
Yeah.
And then I think when it would a resilience fit in is like how we talked about just a
toxic environment, especially like if it's one of them environments where, OK, you want
to work here or maybe you need this job and then you're dealing with those with this toxic

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environment.
No resilience kind of comes into play where, you know, you go every day.
Right.
And you're pretty much somewhat dealing with the talks or toxicity of the environment.
But that doesn't mean, you know, you just taking shit from everybody.
That doesn't mean that it's more of, you know, just doing what you're supposed to do.

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Right.
Then go home.
You know, and I think the resilience fine or comes into play when you when you're doing
that consistently.
You know what I'm saying?
No, for real.
So like when you think of resilience, being a resilient person, being like they think
of standing on business like you're like you have to stand on business with your business.
Like T Grizzly said, ten toes down, ten toes down, ten toes down.

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So another key point I want to go over is having a positive mindset.
So resilience involves cultivating a positive mindset.
It's about maintaining optimism, seeing challenges as opportunities for growth and believing in
one's ability to overcome difficulties.
Literally, I'm telling you to stop being a pessimist.

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That's literally what it is.
I was about to say something else, but it was a bad word.
Go ahead.
Stop being a bitch.
That too.
Stop being a bitch.
Stop being a pessimistic bitch.
Stop.
Listen, life is worth living.
You don't know that until you're put in that situation.
And then you're like, oh, fuck.

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We only have one life.
Yeah.
You're going to run into plenty of instances where you're going to have to stand your ground.
You have to.
You're going to have to.
But you have to keep a positive mindset.
So maintaining optimism.

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That's why I'm telling you to stop being pessimistic.
Look, not every situation, not every bad situation is as bad as you think it is.
There are bright spots to like to in all aspects of things.
You have to look for it like.
OK, I fucking hate my coworkers, but I'm getting paid one hundred dollars an hour.
Fuck it.

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Yeah.
Yeah.
I said I was an hour.
Yeah.
I wouldn't care about that.
I'm a deal with it.
Well, whatever.
Hey, I want to be toxic.
OK, that's cool.
And that's why.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You're in this shitty situation.
You know, look, look for the bright in it because, you know, that bright might outshine

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whatever darkness that you're going to.
Oh, yeah.
Honestly.
Yeah.
People ain't going to bother me.
No, that's a fact.
Like, that's a fact.
I get what you're saying.
The whole be optimistic or whatever.
I understand it.
The way you put it like that was actually really good.
Yeah.
Is there a better example?
It's like, OK, the environment is toxic, but this is what I'm getting out of, you know,

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going through this.
Is it worth it?
Yeah.
I got to do these four years, but I'm going to get my benefits.
I'm going to get my GI bill.
I'm going to get all kinds of stuff if I if I can just do this for four years.
That's another example of optimism, because you're trying to get a goal.
Yeah.
There's a goal in sight.
Yeah.

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So if you have a goal in sight, that bad situation, you're going to just have to look into the
bright side of things.
Like say you're going to school for four years like God, we've got to pay for college for
the next four years.
At the end of those four years, though, you get a you get a good ass degree.
A nice ass job.
Like there's always light at the end of the tunnel.
Yeah.

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And the resilience fall in is getting there.
Yeah.
You have everything through that.
Yeah.
That's where it comes into play.
Challenges as opportunities for growth.
Yeah, exactly.
Like you're going to you're going to go through these challenging situations.
That's not where you that's not where you're supposed to be scared at.
No, you're supposed to see those challenges head on, because at the end of the day, those

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challenges make you who you are because you go and do it.
You're trying to solve it.
You solve those challenges, you figure them out.
They become a part of you.
Facts.
And then that's growing.
Yeah.
And you have to believe in yourself, too.
You have to believe that you can that you can stay in school for these four years.
You have to believe that you can make it through the military in four years.

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Or you're going you know, you're trying to get a promotion at a job.
You have to you have to believe in yourself.
No, nobody else.
Yeah, nobody else.
Nobody else would do it for you.
Big facts because that's that's a well said nobody's going to do it for you is literally
only you can do it.
Literally, whatever it is that you're trying to do, only you can do it.

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You know what everybody else said in the background has no effect, bro.
It's up to you, bro.
You know what I'm saying?
But I can understand if it gets tough doing it by yourself because being alone is tough.
So this goes into our next key point.
If it gets tough by yourself, there's always social support.
So having strong social connections act as a protective factor for mental health.

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So resilient individuals, they often have a support network providing emotional support,
understanding and encouragement during tough times.
Your family is your biggest support group ever.
I'm telling you that right now.
Your family, my mom and dad are my biggest supporters in life, bro.
No, in life.

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And I love my family, too.
My family's down in Georgia back in little old Fort Gaines, Georgia, man.
But I love my family.
And I wish I could talk to them more.
But I know like they're there to support me.
Like my cousin, he talked to me up and I thought with the podcast, I was like, man, that means

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that literally means a lot to me.
That literally means a lot to me.
Yeah.
And we love little things like that.
Yeah.
That's that's enough support for me to keep going with this and to create new things with
it.
Like I like I always have a positive outlook on my podcast because like my family supports
it.
Yeah, they love this shit.
And this is something good.

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You know, it's like literally is good for people.
No, it really is.
Like we were actually trying to do a good thing for you all.
You know, for sure.
We're not dickheads.
I think anyone that knows us personally, you know, you know us.
We're not.
We crack jokes every now and then.
But like 100 percent of the time, bro, this is we do this for everybody.

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You know, we try to help everybody and care of you, a girl, guy, cat, dog, rabbit, whatever
it is, is good for you to hear this.
So for show, like you can use us as a support network.
We were here to provide mental and emotional support like we're here.
And we understand we understand because we want to do this.

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And I'm pretty sure like our viewers also have went through this as well.
You never you never know what people experience.
That's why you talk to people, you know, get their experiences.
And that's why we're here.
The facts.
And we're also here to encourage during tough times.
Big facts.
Learn from us.
We learn from you.
But all of these are family values.
So I'm telling you, you have to talk to your family if you don't have to get social support.

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Yeah.
Family, friends, whatever it is.
So you always got support because you ain't got no friends or no family.
You got us.
And I said we said that all the time, like we care about you.
So if you ain't got nobody, you got us.
Nobody.
You're out there alone.
You're trying to be self made.
Don't don't do that.

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That's going to just create a very selfish personality out of you being a self made person.
Nobody self made.
Yeah.
Because like most of the shit.
Excuse me.
But most of the stuff I learned, I probably picked up from other people.
Yeah.
From interactions or whatever, you will learn a lot just from interacting, you know, like

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things they don't teach you in school, like street smart type stuff.
No, you learn that type of from interacting with people.
No, that that's actually that's actually like a good explanation of, you know, people not
being like, I don't think there's such, you know, I believe I agree with you.
I don't believe there's such thing as self made because you're literally every every

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I'll tell you this right now, the person that I am right now is through the influence of
everybody that I met.
No facts.
Yeah.
And I learned and I see I observed and I couldn't have done that without these people.
Even the people that, you know, it didn't work out very, you know, very well with you

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learn a lot from that.
That's just like a that's like one of those drop boxes and in war zone.
But that's a lot of good information.
It's a lot of good.
You know what I'm saying, though?
You know, the war zone, the drop boxes.
Yeah, brother.
Loaded with you.
Yeah.

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The load out box.
Yeah.
Oh, no, I dare you.
I'll pop you out so quick.
Now I'm playing.
I don't have too many sweats on it.
So going into our next key point, next key point is very important.
Self-awareness and reflection.
So resilient individuals, they're self aware.

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You know, like I said, because in our first key point, you say that, you know, we meditate
and talk to themselves.
They know themselves.
Resilient individuals know themselves because they have these conversations with themselves.
They try to find these options.
They try to find, you know, they overcome challenges and nothing can stop them because

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yeah, and everything he just said, bro, is lucky.
A prime example of, you know, a person who believes in himself, like, you know, actively
trying to find solutions, you know, constantly, you know, taking on these challenges and stuff
like that.
That is somebody who believes in themselves.
So that that's what makes that's what makes a resilient individual and resilient individuals

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are self aware.
They understand their own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, allowing for better self-regulation
and decision making.
You can't do these things unless you open your mind.
You have that.
You have to meditate.
Yeah.
Because, shoot, if you don't think how you're going to make decisions.
Facts.
And literally, bro, like, like I said earlier, bro, before I really learned.

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Well, when it comes to meditation, I kind of learned that from like therapy.
Lucky I actually learned that from therapy.
But she taught my therapist taught me a different way of meditating.
It wasn't like how I do it now, or, you know, I just kind of, you know, relax and take a
take 10 minutes to myself and kind of, you know, run through my mind or whatever.
She taught me a way of just, you know, you know, you get to a little composition notebook

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or whatever notebook from the dollar store, your little pencil or pen, whatever you prefer.
And you know, you got something on your mind.
You just write.
Right.
You just let it flow.
Right.
Get all on emotions because all of the emotions is coming out that pen or, you know, that
pencil going onto that paper.
Right.
And once you read it, you know, it kind of opens your mind up.

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Okay.
All of this happened.
But this is right here.
This sentence or whatever is bothering me.
Right.
Now, once you figure that out, then now it's solutions.
They're just going to pop in if I can hit.
Oh, I guess the kid.
I'm sorry.
My bad.
I can't stop.
Happy Sunday.
I have to see them grab a hold of us.
Yeah, we are.

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We try to be resilient individuals, but that honey.
Yeah, honey.
Has a that's definitely a good alternative way of meditating.
If you know, if you're not one of those people to kind of sit and be able to like kind of
talk to yourself, you know, your mind takes over when you try to do things like that.
Writing it down will help a lot.
No, that's actually that's actually a good a good way of, you know, building resilience

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and all.
We talk shit, but keeping a diary is actually not a bad idea because it's a it's a form
of release.
Yeah.
And you're saying you're seeing your problems right then and there.
Right there.
Like right in your face instead of instead of, you know, if you're if you're not a mental
person, you know, pushing through your mind back and forth, write it down.

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You're writing down because you're literally you're after you write it down.
You're seeing your problems.
Mm hmm.
Exactly.
And are you going to keep it like that?
So what's up to you?
That's literally up to the end.
So what's up to you?
So try and try that.
Try giving that a shot.
I know a lot of people try to use social media as a release to that is not a good release.

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No, because as soon as you open social media, you'll see something about Megan, Megan, Megan
the stallion or Nicki Minaj.
Now, now you're into that.
Now you're now you're distracted by whatever is out there in the outside world and it's
forcing you to make whatever decision that you're going to make.
In fact, stop listening to these celebrities.

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Not big.
They're not.
They're not real life.
They're not.
They're not.
They're not.
What's real life is the challenges and problems that you're going to.
That's real life.
Mm hmm.
I'm challenged.
That's real life.
That's big facts, bro, because when you like I said, like he said, you go through all them
challenges, you know, you take stuff head on and you know, you win or whatever.

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It's like having a two K player and then, you know, I up your speed just went up two
points or, you know, you're shooting just went up two points.
You know, you leveling yourself up literally character development.
Exactly.
But all that all that happens through development, you have to put yourself through these challenges.
A lot of us try to just run away from it.

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I'm sorry, but but stop, you got to stop running away from it.
Mm hmm.
Going like the like, I feel like it's almost a choice.
Insomnia because because you put yourself through through those stops.
That is true.
And then, you know, even worse than that, like once you kind of get into that, it's

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really hard to get out.
Like because we talking about the sleep thing, right?
Yeah.
Once you get into that, it's extremely hard to get out.
Once you push yourself through anything, it's hard to get out.
Yeah.
So it's like like a TV show.
It's hard.
It's hard to stop doing that because, you know, or like constantly scrolling through
social media, knowing you're supposed to be sleep.

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No, delete that shit or or or do only wait some type of shit or what else?
What else is going on in the world?
But you know what's going on in the world when you see it on social media, but don't
make that a part of your life.
Yeah.
There's a lot of stuff that we all watch don't even be important to that.
Their problem is not your problem.
What are you going to do?

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What are your problems?
That's real life.
So you have to be aware, you know, like I said, resilient individuals are self aware.
They know themselves.
They know themselves.
They understand their emotions.
They know their strengths.
They know their weaknesses.
Why?
Because they talk to themselves.
They know themselves.
Facts.
Some of us write things down.
Some of us don't.
Some of us write things down, some of us meditate.

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Some of us we talk to our family members and they'll tell us how we are.
You know, you know, people, you know, I'll tell you about yourself.
Yeah.
Because at the end of the day, you probably don't know how you are towards other people.
Yeah, that is true.
Yeah.
So so it all falls on self-awareness as well.

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It allows for better self-regulation and decision making.
So going into the next topic, healthy lifestyle choices.
So healthy lifestyle choices, physical and mental health are intertwined.
You know?
Yeah.
Yeah.

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I mean, shoot, what I could say, say you're down in the dumps and you're not working out
anymore.
Your physical health is going down this shit.
That's like down the shit.
Excuse me.
It's going down the drain.
Like if you're going through tough times, you're not going to take care of yourself.
Yeah.
Physical and mental health are intertwined.

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Resilient individuals, they prioritize healthy lifestyle choices, including regular exercise,
proper nutrition, and sufficient sleep.
Those that are depressed, they're not even thinking about that.
No, I get what you're saying.
And as far as, you know, trying to eat right or, you know, exercise, you know, whatever,
you know, doing exercise weekly or whatever.

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Those are things that I think resilient people prioritize because those are things, you know,
that have to be done.
You know, it's not like one of them choices you got to make.
It's something that you need to do for yourself.
You know what I mean?
So no matter, you know, how your day going or whatever, that shit, and your day shouldn't,

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you know, put what you have to do to the side.
You know what I mean?
Like take care of yourself.
It literally falls on taking care of yourself.
If you're self aware, you know that you're not making healthy lifestyle choices.
You have to like lifestyle, bro.
Like this is your life we're talking about.
You only have one.
Yeah.

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If you don't care about your life, who will?
I mean, we try our best.
We all love you.
We all love everyone.
Like it's eight, like we said, eight billion people in this world.
Everyone is special.
Like we're out there and we're trying.
You have to try to like it all like it falls on you.
Like you have you have the social support.

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You have resources, people, and everything is out there for you.
But you know, we can't we can't make decisions for you.
That's the thing.
That's that's that falls on you.
So you have to make these lifestyle choices.
Prioritize healthy lifestyle choices, including regular exercise.

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Like what makes a healthy person?
What makes a healthy person?
What makes a healthy person healthy?
You mean like like legit healthy or just like like a general question?
Like a healthy, happy person person?
I would say a person who.

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Tries at least to do better by themselves, honestly, because I'm you know, every I'm
not expecting nobody to eat right every day or workout every day.
Right.
But you know, it's just usually a person who has that balance, you know, like and then
balance balance is the word.

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Yeah.
You can't like a cheeseburger here and there is not even hurt nobody.
We took all that shit.
There is a balance to these things, though.
No facts.
And I think when you say healthy person, I look at it like like everything like I've
literally me everything I'm talking about relationships, you know, such as, you know,

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like friends or, you know, your spouse or, you know, that significant other person, you
know, your family, you know, just people around you, you know, the decisions you make, you
know, I think I tie all of that into like a healthy person, a healthy person.
I feel like you can see it on their face.
I can get smiling, glowing, all that shit.

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Like everyone has problems, but I've been in their head, you know, they're trying to
solve that problem.
So that's why that problem might not even mean shit to them because they know they can
solve it.
That's why they're so happy.
They're aware.
They're aware of themselves.
Yeah.
They know what they're doing for sure.
Shoot.
You ever had you ever had a night where you didn't have eight hours of sleep?

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Oh, yeah.
And the next day you just feel so groggy.
Yeah, that happens in life.
But, you know, if you get to sleep, you're going to you're going to come out, you're
going to look healthy.
You're going to you're going to think better, too.
You ever you ever try to make decisions when you're like having three hours of sleep?

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You make some bad decisions, bad decisions, especially when you drive home to that.
That green light ain't really green, but fellas don't take it.
Now you're going to drove off into the intersection.
I know you're trying to get home and get some sleep.
Yeah, you shouldn't.
But I hate to say it.
You should have got it the night prior.
And you know that, too.
Yeah, that that falls on you making healthy lifestyle choices.

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Do what you are supposed to do.
Like, like, for the most part, I think a lot of us know what we're supposed to do.
But like we just don't do it.
Don't do it.
Yeah.
When it comes to the sleep, yeah, laziness, too.
But when it comes to the sleep, like we we know like, you know, you got to be you want
to be the bed by 10 at least so you can get up at seven thirty eight.

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Mm hmm.
You know, 10 o'clock you land down, you know that you shouldn't be on social media because
you because you've done this before.
You know exactly how that's going to go.
Go down a fucking rabbit hole rabbit hole.
You know, saying what was 10 o'clock?
Now you're looking at the clock.
Now it's three.
Like, what the fuck?
I have to get dressed in the next two hours.

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Exactly.
So there you go.
Yeah.
Like you have to make the you have to make choices for yourself.
And you know, and you know what choices you have to make.
We all do.
Like like like said, we have 40.
So maybe they hinder us from making choices.
All right.
So we'll next topic that we're going to get into, you know, could help you.

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Practice mindfulness and relaxation techniques for so long being a resilient individual.
So number six on our list of topics for being a resilient individual.
Six will be mindfulness and relaxation techniques.
So practices like mindfulness and relaxation, they contribute to resilience by promoting

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emotional balance and reducing the impact of stress.
So they encourage the same present and focus.
Be a focused person like you.
It honestly does also fall into meditation.
Yeah, this falls into meditation.
So mindfulness and realization, they contribute to resilience by promoting emotional balance.

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Balance is a key word.
So we try to find a balance of things.
Going back to social media.
Here we go.
The scrolling and looking through things.
Find a balance in your life.
Like, yeah, try to make everything in.

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You know, that happens on the social world part of our world, you know, because it's
happening out there.
I agree 100 percent, especially when it comes to balancing, like, like, you know, even when
it comes to social media, you know, a lot of us give more give more hours to more hours
of our lives to social media than time to ourselves.

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You know what I mean?
So definitely be mindful of how much how much you scroll and how much how long you've been
on it.
You know, is this a good idea for me to be up to midnight on scrolling through social
media or will it be better for me to go ahead and get some sleep so I can be ready for the
day tomorrow?

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You know, social media going to be there tomorrow.
And the next day, people are going to be posting shit while you sleep.
People like you will never you will never keep up with it.
So stop trying to go to sleep.
People are always socializing.
Yes, sir.
Just go to sleep.
Find your emotional balance.

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Like a lot of the elders in the world really, really ticked me off.
So that's why I really don't follow anything on social media.
I don't follow any of the sports or my friends, music.
I really don't care about people's opinions anymore.
That's that's where I'm at because I'm looking into myself and you know, it is what it is.

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And that's honestly, that's a good challenge for everybody to try to minimize your social
media intake, especially like around like in bed time, you know, put yourself if you
know, I ain't saying just stop doing it in general, because that's hard.
That's just like, you know, it's hard to socialize.
Yeah, but try to give yourself, you know, try to limit yourself.

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You know, OK, after this time, no more social media.
It's time for me to get some sleep.
Or should you say you're trying to study or you know, you can't you can't study it if
you're if you're too too concerned about what that what that celebrity is doing on social
media.
Oh, well, what is what is Christian doing with blueface and them?

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I don't care about that, man.
I mean, it's funny to me while I'm watching it.
But that's that's it.
I can live.
It's irrelevant.
It's irrelevant.
What is important to you?
And that's like everything we talk about right now is challenges, bro.
Limiting social media, you know, limited so you can study and focus on what you need to
get done.

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Like when we're talking about resilient people, this is how they think, you know, they prioritize,
you know, I need to do this.
I can't be worried about, you know, this stuff.
I don't even need to know.
Like, you know, I'm saying like the social media stuff.
So definitely, definitely, bro.
Limit yourself, bro.
And and you know, it'd be hard for a lot of people that's addicted to it.

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But you building yourself up gets character development, character development.
It's all is being mindful of yourself and real techniques, man.
I'll tell you this right now.
That's social media.
So you're trying to reduce the impact of stress.
I read some social media that's just going to make my stress go up.

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So I don't I don't that's why I don't take anything personal on social media anymore.
Yeah, you should.
I think a lot of us take take everything too personal.
You should like why?
Why are you taking whatever?
Whatever Nikki said personal.
She told me and you don't know them.
I mean, it is what it is.
But no, I'm not trying to be negative in that aspect, but it is what it is.

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Like you don't know them.
They don't know you.
You have your own problems.
Whatever her problems are, are not your problems.
What are you going through?
And then the top at all off, right?
You watching her.
She ain't watching you.
Yeah.
You know, it's a one sided thing anyway.
It was one sided to begin with.
So be mindful of yourself.

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Respect yourself.
Stay focused on yourself.
Stay focused on the present.
Work on yourself at 45.
And another thing that we have issues with.
I had to do it.
And you've also said that you've done it in this episode seeking professional help.

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Yeah.
That's we're going into our next topic.
Number seven, recognize when additional support is needed as a sign of resilience.
It's not a sign of weakness.
There's not.
You know, you need help.
Everybody needs help.
We've all we've said it already.
There's no such thing as a self made person.

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All your experiences and everything that you went through in life and make you who you
are.
All the people that you that you've met, whatever they said, whatever Dave experienced, you
subconsciously in your head and you know it like you know it.
Yeah.
And you know that people that there are people out there that are still influencing you and
still helping you, you know, become become who you are today.

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Recognizing when additional support is needed is a sign of resilience.
Seeking help from mental health professionals, such as therapists or counselors is a proactive
step towards building and maintaining mental well-being.
I'm not going to lie.
I was very ignorant.
To the needy a shrink like I was like, I do not need somebody to tell me who I am.

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Yeah.
But I was like that too, bro.
Like the whole thing was just weird to me because you know you you see it on TV or whatever,
you know, people go into the shrinks or whatever.
But the whole thing is like one thing I appreciate, you know, about therapists is, you know, obviously,
you know, the environment is always good or whatever to, you know, is it's about you.

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You know what I'm saying?
They're not there to, you know, tell you about them lies.
They want to know what what you're going through.
Right.
And three, they they know how to ask the right questions.
Right.
And, you know, a lot of us, you know, we do things that's like subconsciously is like
a coping thing, but we might not know what's coping.
Right.
Or and then they'll be able to kind of break that down and be like, OK, you do this because

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it is and you think about it like, oh, that is true.
I do do that.
You know, so it's definitely a good way to get to know yourself too, because, you know,
we have some people asking them questions to kind of open your mind up.
You want to know what's the opposite of coping that we do like this is the main issue of
mental health.

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The opposite of coping is following up.
Yeah.
One thing I learned from talking to my friends like three years ago, two years ago, however
long, like I really needed it.
One thing I learned, I needed like I needed to talk about these things.
And not just to me, you know, but when you go see a mental health professional, it's

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all about you at that point.
Some of us are not, you know, we have we don't take ourselves into account and subconsciously
we follow up and we still do that.
And when we meet professionals like we're like, oh, I don't want you in my mind.
I don't want you to know what I'm doing.
How are they going to help you?

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How are they supposed to know things that you've bottled up?
You probably don't even know yourself anymore because you've bottled it up and you've forgotten
about it for so long.
Yeah.
That's a big fact.
And just bottling stuff up, like it makes it hard to do things that you're supposed
to do daily.
Like, because, you know, you unbalance or whatever, you know what I'm saying?
Like it's like one of them things where you that's like you can kind of tell a person

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that's bottling up something.
You kind of see it in their eyes like, hmm, you're not talking.
Yeah.
There's something going on right here.
You know what I mean?
So definitely, especially like one day the top is you ain't going to be able to contain
it no more.
You know, it's going to come out and then you'll outburst or you'll you'll tell somebody
the wrong thing.

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Yeah.
You do something you regret.
You know what I'm saying?
So it's definitely good to get that out of your system.
That goes into decision making.
Yeah.
So where are we talking about?
Yeah, that's one of them things where it's like how you making the best decisions, but
are these making important decisions or whatever, where they're falling in with your job or

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whatever it is you do.
But you're not even making the best decisions for yourself, which is, you know, I'm saying
rather being meditating or going to see help so you can get it out.
You know, like that all falls into new knowing yourself, self-awareness, you can find a solution.

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So they're going to come back.
Even if you forget, they're going to come back.
So we really, we really wish if you are going to do these things and you can't talk to anybody
else, there are professionals.

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Do not run away with your problems.
You cannot do it yourself.
You cannot rely on your friends or whatever.
Please at least at the very least rely on these professionals.
That is what they're trying to do.
It's like running away from your problems, bro.
It's like trying to get rid of your shadow.

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I can't respect that, man.
I can't respect anyone that runs from their problems.
Yeah.
It's like just because you in the dark or you don't see your shadow, it's still there.
You just can't see it.
That running shit is for the birds, but it is for the birds.
That running shit don't help nobody.
And guess what?
That problem is going to start being big enough where it starts affecting everyone else.

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And guess what?
You model yourself up, portraying bad emotions.
I want to talk to you about shit that's really affecting everyone else's mental health too.
Be aware of your surroundings.
If you're really going through things you have to reach out, do not put yourself in
that hurt.
It doesn't help anyone.

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Basically, and most importantly, it doesn't help numero uno, yourself.
And that's what you're trying to do.
You're trying to improve your mental well-being and mental health.
Big fix.
And I don't think we need to focus on it enough.
So the bottling up, if you bottle up, it has to come to a stop today.

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It has to.
It has to.
And for those of us that go through problems, do we take the time to reflect and look back
when we have to solve a problem?

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The next key topic is learning from setbacks.
Do we take the time to actually learn what a setback is?
Resilience involves a mindset that views setbacks as opportunities for learning and growth rather
than instrumental obstacles.
It's about adapting and bouncing back stronger.

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Growth.
Key word, growth.
That is the key word of this.
Learn from your setbacks.
So when you learn something, what do you do?
You grow.
In a school setting, you're learning.
So you're growing.
You didn't know that yesterday.
You knew it today.
That is a sign of growth.
No, in fact, so then, you know what I'm telling you, just come back around.

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It's like, oh, I'm not going to do this.
You know how to solve it.
Yeah.
You got the potential.
A squared plus B squared equals C squared.
Yeah.
Exactly.
Because you learned it.
Learn from setbacks, you didn't know it before.
That makes it a setback.
That makes it an obstacle.
And now that you know it, it's all about putting knowledge in your head.

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Like you have to know things.
Resilience involves a mindset that views setbacks as opportunities for learning and growth.
In fact, everything is an opportunity.
Everything comes with a set of experiences that you'll learn.

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You go through these challenges, you're going to learn how to solve.
And I don't want to say it's easy because it really is.
It really is.
Solve the problems and challenges.
What were the easy to begin with?
That's why they're called the problems and challenges.
Yeah.
That's what makes some problems and challenges.
Yeah.
So definitely, yeah.
You know, moving forward, you know, as we enter February here shortly, I will say that,

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you know, we can add that to the bucket list of, you know, for our New Year's resolution
is, you know, stay ten toes down, you know, when it comes to, you know, these challenges,
you know, believe in yourself, you know, find solutions, seek help when you need it.
And you know, all of that is going to make you into a just a better person.

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Yeah.
No, for sure.
Like reflect on the challenges that you're going to do.
Like every, you know, once a month, like you like to do a resolution.
Yes.
Stand on business on that challenge.
That shit's solved.
That shit's still going through.
Yeah.
And don't expect things to be to just happen immediately.
You know, things take time, you know, just like character development.

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Character development is a thing.
It takes time.
Definitely.
So like like a four year degree, like we said, that shit takes time.
Four years.
Four years in the military.
You're not going to be the same person you were four years ago because I am not the same
person that I was, I'd say, nine, ten years ago, graduating out of high school.
That's not me anymore.

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Like you grow or you could be a completely different person a month ago.
I wouldn't say there's a timetable to grow, you know, because this is real life.
Nah, fucks.
Nah, definitely, man.
I will say like how we talk about, you know, how valuable your life is and you know, it

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is.
You should always try to protect it, you know, defend it when you can.
Stand on ground, you know, stand on business whenever you can and just, man, take it one
day at a time.
You know, challenges take a while, especially if you've got goals that's pushed out, you
know, in the next 10 years, 20 years, you know, where you want to be at.

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Just 10, 20 years of just pure resilience, you know what I'm saying?
That you're going to have to, you know, put on, you know, till you get there or whatever.
So and then that all falls in with just, you know, being motivated, believing in yourself,
learning.
Like I said, you know, seek help whenever you need it.
Always objects for learning.

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You can never see that as something negative in your life because you can't.
Because anytime is because when you see obstacles, overcome it, overcome, that's literally obstacle
overcoming.
The only problem is you say before the hospital, you're still stuck in the same place.
You're going to be the same person for the rest of your life.

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Exactly.
And that's not what we're trying to do.
No it is not.
So we want everybody to be better and we want everybody to, you know, be, you know, become
a productive member in society, bro.
And it's not just us.
This literally the person next to you.
It's your family, your friends, your hope.

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So going into our next topic, we're almost, we're almost done.
We have 57.
Boy, this is a long ass episode.
It is what it is.
An individual.
So community and cultural factors.
So cultural context and community support plays significant roles in resilience.
So shared values, traditions, and the sense of belonging can enhance an individual's ability

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to overcome challenges.
Facts, bro.
I think when it comes to a community or our culture, bro, like depending on where you
grow up at, you know, you can be reeled in into, you know, rather than, you know, you
from the hood, you know, people gang banging and shit.
You can be reeled into that, you know, that type of shit and influence, influence.
Exactly, bro.

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And resilience plays a huge role in that, bro.
You know, that's wrong.
You know, that's not what you want to do or, you know, what you're supposed to do.
And you got to stay away from that, bro.
Stay focused on what the F you need to do.
Almost good.
The key, the key term and to this topic shared values.
Do these people, does this environment share the same values as you do?

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You're out of your life.
Facts.
So shared values, traditions and the sense of belonging, they enhance an individual's
ability to overcome challenges.
We're not going to stay in a situation or we're not going to stay in an area that's

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holding us back.
And some of us are ignorant to that because we're comfortable in it.
Yeah, we've settled into it, but we're not growing.
We know for sure that this does not match my personality, does not match who I am and
what I want out of life.

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So an example of this, I need to go back to it.
Unfortunately, the military and me did not share the same values.
It is what it is.
That's why I left.
And it did.
It took me a while because I became aware of myself.
I started having conversations with myself.
I saw a shrink and I knew what I wanted out of life.

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And it wasn't what the military had to offer me.
And that's okay.
That's fine.
Some of us are different.
Like I said, we all go down a different path.
Yeah, 30 seconds.
I don't care.
This is going to be a long episode, especially for everyone.
Yeah, I agree with you, though, bro.
And like I said, like you said, that is okay.

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It's a part of life, a part of that healthy lifestyle or whatever.
You know, when people, you know, you got all these people around you that it'd be nice
for them to be your friend or whatever.
But sometimes it's like, well, you know, you're doing this, but I want to do this.

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But how is this, you know what I'm saying?
Like how is this progression for me in a way?
Because doing what you is really pulling me away from what I really want to do and things
like that.
So I got to go your separate ways on that relationship.
But that's a part of life, man.
Yeah, I'm saying everybody goes and going to be lined up with yours or whatever.

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And that's what make, you know, friends and, you know, these encounters that you have with
people unique, you know what I'm saying?
Because you're not going to always meet people who mind is where yours is that it's actually
pretty rare.
Yeah, it is.
Like we, for an example, we've seen it in black and white TV shows where you have this
one nerd that knows so much math and all that stuff.

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And I'm pretty sure that that person never fits in either.
That person can't go to college and all that shit too.
So and I bet that person feel like, man, I really don't fit in with this shit.
I'm really trying to, you know, game more.
I'm trying to do my homework.
I'm trying to do my homework.
For real.

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Like, you know, you might say, oh, yeah, game, man.
I just want to I want to go to the NFL.
Like, you know, I'm saying it's one of them type things.
And you'll see you'll see like these athletes, they they mess it up for themselves because
unfortunately, that was the culture that they learn.

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That's part of their tradition.
That's part of it.
For some reason, they made it part of their lifestyle.
And you have to put yourself in the right community if you're trying to be a professional
football player.
The street is not going to get you there.
They don't care about what you want.

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Not because that's not their focus.
That's not their culture.
Everyone in the hood was trying to get out, get out the hood to go to go be in the NFL.
Yes, I think a lot of that comes from, you know, taking advice from people who ain't
even, you know, there with you.
It's like like you ever had somebody give you some advice about what you should do with

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your life and then you look at their life and it's like, like, how are you?
Why should I take this advice from you?
You know what I mean?
Yeah, it's like it's not a he's not a good example of what he's trying to portray to
you.
Exactly.
I mean, I said an example, I'm not a good example of what I want to be.
So be smart in that sense.

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If someone's telling you something and their lifestyle shows another way, like you can
look at people and know who they are.
Like you know what a drug dealer looks like.
You know, you know what somebody who owns a hotel looks like.
You know, you know what the owner of Facebook looks like.
You know what a rapper looks like.
You know what a football player looks like, too.

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If you're trying to be a football player, you need to put yourself in that community.
You need to surround yourself with people that share the same values.
That's trying to go to the league just like you in whatever sport, you know, whatever
sport.
Just an example.
Yeah.
The main point, the main key thing to take out of this, you want to support, you want

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to put yourself in a community that shares the same values as you share the same traditions
and the same sense of belonging.
All that can enhance your ability to overcome challenges.
It's just going to make you go harder, to be honest.
You know, you got all these people in your circle, you know, motivating you.

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They doing good things.
You know, you doing good things.
It's going to make you go harder, because you got them.
They backing you up.
You backing them up.
You know, you got to a little solid team.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
Yeah.
All of this goes into resilience.
And so our last key topic into resilience, we over time.
It is what it is.
Look at this.
30 seconds.

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I don't care.
Resilience is an important topic.
A lot of us are not, a lot of us are not resilient people.
We think we're resilient.
But you're not.
We think we're resilient.
So our key topic, our last key topic is going to be dynamic nature resilience.
Resilience is not a fixed trait, but a dynamic process.

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What do I mean by that?
So resilience can be developed over time through experiences, self-reflections and intentional
efforts.
We've said that we've throughout the whole episode, these experiences you get from talking
to people, looking at people, observing them.

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How else do you get experience?
Facing challenges, whatever issues, obstacles, all of that falls into resilience.
They're developable, like these experiences develop your character.
So over time, that's why it's a process in being a resilient person.

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And it took me a while because I was building myself up to it subconsciously.
And we all realize at a certain point in time, you know, who we are, what makes us us and
our values.
So it's training over time, what do experiences, self-reflection that goes into meditating.

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We don't talk to ourselves enough.
I'll say it.
I'll say it over and over again.
We don't talk to ourselves enough.
We don't.
We don't take the time to to solve our problems, to actually talk to ourselves, actually like
for solutions.
I feel like a lot of people put themselves up to the side.

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We hurt ourselves by not taking enough time on ourselves.
Yeah, like it's like the video games.
It's right.
Like I got it mixed up.
Like you are the main mission.
Everything else is the side missions.
But I think for a lot of us is flip.
We decide mission.
Everything else is the main mission.
Don't view yourself as an NPC.

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Yeah, you're not your player one.
Exactly.
We're player one.
You are player one user one, however you want to say it.
You need it now, because because some of it does build up.
Yeah, yeah.
Our main story.
No, I get what you say.
Yeah.
And what is your main quest line?
You know, you like, you know, but you probably don't because you don't have these conversations

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with yourself.
You're not aware of who you are.
So self reflection and intentional efforts.
Like you can't you can't make a decision and say, oh, I don't need to do that.
No, that's not how the real world works.

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Unfortunately, no, it's not.
All of all our efforts are intentional because we need to do them like I need to do this
to improve my mental well-being or I need to do that to to like to like support myself
or I need to do that as a friend.
All of my it helps me be a resilient person.

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It helps improve my mental well-being.
I know I made these decisions.
Yeah, they take yourself serious.
Take yourself seriously.
Like don't be like, I didn't mean to do that.
No, no intentions.
You need to do that.
We don't take the real world seriously enough.
Like it's cool to joke around and shit.
But like there's a time and a place for everything.

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Literally a time and a place for everything.
In fact, you get on social media because you intentionally do that.
You potentially put yourself through that rabbit hole to put yourself through that rabbit
hole.
Don't say, oh, I didn't mean to do that.
You're not then you're not in control of your life.
And that's scary.
Yeah, it's like days just going by.

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Days just going by like, you have to be aware of yourself.
You have to be aware of yourself.
And all everything these 10 key topics that we talked about goes into being a resilient
person.
By understanding and fostering resilience and mental health, individuals can better
navigate the complexities of life, reduce the impact of stressors and build a foundation

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for long term well-being.
At the end of the day, you're taking care of yourself.
You have to.
And it all goes up.
Being a dickhead, being a tough guy, that's not being the resilient person.
Going back to the definition of resilience before we cut off because we are over time.
I'll say it again.

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The definition of resilience is the ability to adapt and bounce back in the face of adversity,
trauma or stress.
It's not about avoiding difficulties, but effectively navigating them.
This is your life.
This is literally your life.
You can't navigate your own problems.

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That's tough.
Then I don't even think that's your life anymore.
No, you only have one.
Take control of your life.
Facts, man.
Don't just sit there and let the days go by.
Whatever things you want to do, you need to actively do them whenever you can, bro.
Cause life is short, dude.
You talk to some older people, they'll tell you.

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Life was a flash.
Or they wish they would have done this when they were younger.
Or they wish they didn't wait to now to do this.
A lot of older people, bro, they tell you the same thing.
Whatever it is you want to do, you need to start doing it right now.
I think that's what made me into the person I am today because I've had a lot of influence
from older people.

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Thankfully, luckily, I was never brought up in that environment.
I never had to experience jail or none of that shit because I was fortunate to be put
in the right environment.
That's part of that thing that when we say we all got the same opportunities, but the
road is different for everybody.

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Yeah, it's paved different from everybody.
If only we all lived in the same neighborhood, then we all would have grew up the same.
But that's not how it works.
We all have different roads.
We all have different challenges.
But I'm telling you, a lot of us have went through the same things.
A lot of us feel the same emotions.
We feel sad, hurt, grief, anger, all that shit.

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Facts.
Because we're all human beings.
There's 8 billion of us, man.
So I don't have a question for y'all at the end of this episode.
Maybe I have a challenge.
Turn off that social media.
Stop listening to outside sources.
Trust your sources that are inside.

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Talk to your family and friends.
Work on yourself.
Work on yourself.
What are your values?
At the end of the day, like we said, we're all in a video game, but to us, we're all
playing a video game, but we're all player one.
Facts.
What is your main storyline?
Yeah.
Make sure you got your goals set, no matter how far they pushed out, two years, next year,

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20 years.
Stay focused on it.
Believe in yourself, bro.
And stay resilient, dude.
Through all them challenges, that's all that's going to come.
Obstacles, that's all that's going to come, bro.
So expect it.
None of it's unexpected.
I know tomorrow I'm going to run into some type of issue.
I'm going to expect it.
You know it's coming.
Then you can take the time and respond smartly.

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You know what I'm saying?
Nah, for real.
Making decisions.
Decisions.
Making better decisions.
You have to be self-aware.
So it all plays into resilience.
And with that being said, I hope that helped out everyone that are out there.
For sure.
Not very resilient.
Don't know the definition of resilience.

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I really hope this helps y'all.
Yeah, it got kind of deep in that topic.
That was a good topic.
That was a good one.
It was a good one.
Because resilience, that's so important.
It's one of the most important traits to have.
It's like telling somebody never give up, really.

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Resilience is.
You always stay on your feet.
You fall, you don't get back up.
This way didn't work.
Let me try this way.
You know what I'm saying?
So, definitely resilience is one of the best traits you can have.
Watch this episode.
Think about it too.
Think about what makes a person resilient.
What makes you resilient.

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And with that being said, peace!
Go Lions!
Fuck the Lions!