February 27, 2024 • 60 mins
What's good everyone! Sorry that we took an unexpected break, but we are back with more healing content! Lately, we've realized that people don't give a damn about mental health, but that's not stopping any motion. In fact, we're gonna take it back & talk about what it means to heal in mental health. Are you healing properly with your mental health?
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What's good?
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What's going on everyone?
This is the Healing Club podcast.
We are happy to be back after our what?
One week break or something like that.
Yes, sir.
The boy Luke the greatest just got back from vacation.
I was in Puerto Rico.
He ain't been.
I highly recommend you go and visit.
I need to go see what San Juan talking about myself.
Exactly.
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San Juan.
That's where you were that?
Yes.
Good time.
Good time for sure.
Bro, they were selling mojitos because mojitos is like the Puerto Rican thing.
You're like, I like margarita so I ain't never had a mojito.
I like mojitos.
The mint and lime.
That's just good.
When we went out, it was only $5.
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You go to a club out here in San Diego, go ahead, get you a drink.
$17.
Yeah, $17.
You about that same drink, but like an hour and a half later in a club and it'd be about
$25.
So you really don't know how much the club drinks is.
Bro, now that we're talking about prices, I'm just thinking of it right now.
It's 20 to get into a club in San Diego for fellas.
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For fellas, it's $20 to get in.
Man, it's a hard life to be a man, dog.
It's $17 and plus you got to tip the bartender, I guess.
I guess you got to tip them.
So that's $20 right there for a drink.
You already spent $40.
First five minutes in the club.
First five minutes in the club, right?
Because you get here, you go get a drink, $40 gone.
Just like that.
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On the drain.
You ain't even listened to a whole song yet.
Not even.
You probably just came into a good song and then it switched to a trash one.
Facts, bro.
Because that's how it works.
Facts, bro.
But yeah, man, it's definitely good to be back, you know, get to kick this healing club
podcast back off.
Yes, sir.
Right where we left it at after that vacation.
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Yes, sir.
We left it off at episode 15.
We 15 weeks in, G. 15 weeks.
15 weeks with you people.
Healing with you people.
We here.
It's almost four months, right?
No, it did ask us four months by the end of this month for a 12.
Yeah, it's going to be our fourth month by the end of this month because I think we was
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going since November.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah, we did start.
Yeah, I remember because we did on Christmas episodes.
We did.
We did Thanksgiving episodes, I think.
Yeah, I remember.
Healing with you people.
And we could not be any more happier, honestly.
I'm glad we're here.
We made it this far.
If we still going and we won't stop.
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No, we really do have a mission to promote mental health awareness around because honestly,
I don't think people really give a damn about mental health.
They don't, bro.
Like, I know they don't because at some point I didn't.
No, yeah.
At one point I didn't too.
I thought it was just whatever.
Maybe it's a thing that you really like mental health is one of the things where you really
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come to like understanding of its importance when you like get older or something.
Yeah.
Is that a thing?
Realize.
Yeah, you start to realize like, you know, this is important.
Very important.
Yeah.
And what we're going to talk about today was probably the most important thing.
I mean, everything we've talked about was important, but we're going to get into what
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it means to be aware and mental health like we got to we got to heal from it.
So in this episode, we're going to talk about healing and mental health.
Oh, hey, y'all.
Here come.
We give you all some life hacks.
Here they go.
Facts.
No, these are some good life hacks.
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I mean, it is about healing.
And at the end of the day, we are trying to heal.
Yes, we are.
So before we begin with our healing process, we just want to reach out to those that are
that are in need of of like dire help, like like people that just cannot go another day
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with you know, with whatever they're going on with life.
And they just need to talk to somebody like, please don't give up.
Don't give up.
Don't give up.
That's my message to you folks.
Do not give up.
Please.
Remember what we talked about resilience.
You ain't seen that episode.
Go back to like 13 episode 13.
It was a very recent episode.
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Yes, really recent resilience recently.
But now definitely, definitely check that out.
If if you if you have questions about what it means to be a resilient person, which is
probably why you are in the state of needing help.
If if you really need to reach out to somebody, there is that hotline out there.
It's only three digits, nine, eight, eight.
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You can call or text that number.
There are always there's always somebody at the end of that line, someone professional.
We all like everyone needs professional help.
And when it when it comes when it comes down to it, you need professional help facts.
And remember, bro, it's all confidential, bro.
You got to worry about nobody getting in your business between you and whoever consulting
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you or working your case, whatever you want to call it.
Right.
It's all private.
You know what I'm saying?
And they're going to get you right.
Yeah, it's it's it's a one on it's a one on one conversation with you and a and a mental
health professional like there to help you.
Please take advantage of that if you are on your last leg.
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Even if you aren't on your last leg, you could just you just need somebody to talk to you.
You know, that's what they're there for.
Suicide prevention.
Listen, do not give up, dog.
Like you only got one life.
You got no response, no none of that.
It's yeah, it's not it's not like there's a do over button when you when you when you
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do that.
Like that's it.
Cherish that life, man.
Value it, man.
Value that life.
Cherish and value that life.
He'll heal from things like we all go through things.
Heal from it.
Be a tougher person.
You got it.
You got it.
You can do it, man.
Don't give up.
That's the simple answer.
Do not give up.
Don't give up.
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Period.
But with that being said, we're going to go into into healing.
So healing and mental health, it involves and you know, addressing psychological wounds,
trauma and distress through various therapeutic approaches such as counseling, psychotherapy,
medication and self care practices.
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So it focuses on promoting resilience, self awareness and coping strategies to improve
overall well-being and quality of life.
You're taking care of yourself when you're doing these things.
There is never it's never wrong to seek a professional help, take medication and all
that stuff.
I guess they're I guess they're to help you.
It's literally there to help you.
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No, I agree 100 percent, bro.
And you will be amazed with seeing a shrink would do for you.
It might be I'm sure, you know, people make fun of it all the time.
Are you going to see a shrink?
Are you going to see a shrink?
I promise you, you go in there, you're going to walk out better than when you walk in straight
up.
You're going to talk about some things, you're going to get some things off your chest, you're
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going to learn a lot more about yourself.
You're going to you're going to have this awareness about yourself, too.
So it's not it's not it's not wrong.
It's never wrong to go seek out like a shrink, like seek some counseling, you know, take
some medication because, you know, there is medication to help people with these kind
of issues and, you know, take care of yourself.
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Self care practices.
Get a hobby.
You know, do do things you like.
Find a job that fits you.
Live, live, live your lifestyle.
Yeah, I agree 100 percent, man.
This is your life.
Like that don't mean be selfish or anything like that.
But you know, these years fly by, you know, you don't want to be old and be like, oh,
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man, you know, like a lot of other people tell me like, you know, whatever it is you
want to do, man, make sure you do it right now.
I'm pretty sure we all heard that before.
Right.
So there's something you want to do, man.
Go for it.
You know what I'm saying?
Be aggressive with your life.
No, no, for real.
Think, think, think about the things that you want to do.
Think about dreams and think, think about, think about that, that, that perfect lifestyle
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that you want to live in.
You know, you, you want to you probably want to live in a two bedroom, you know, a luxury
apartment, but you can't you can't get to that right now.
You know, it takes time healing, healing steps, you know, it's a process process in life like
you'll get there.
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Like it took me a while to get to get to where I'm at, honestly.
I think I'm going to take a step back, though.
It's a little too much, but it'd be like that.
It'd be like that, man.
But live the life that you want, you know, be aggressive, be aggressive with your life.
Take care of yourself.
Everything often involves a combination of interventions, you know, tailored to individual
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needs aiming to restore balance, stability and a sense of empowerment, individual needs.
Like, you know, we all have needs.
You ever been in a vulnerable state and you just don't feel empowered, you know, in yourself?
Absolutely.
Like a weak, like a weak state.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
I thought you said weak, like as in like last week.
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No, I'm saying like, like.
Oh, like at last of the week.
Oh, no, not.
But I get what you're saying.
Yeah, for sure.
Yes.
Like a weakened feeble state.
Yeah, for sure.
So like with healing, we want to empower, we want to empower ourselves.
We want to keep going.
We want to we want to strengthen ourselves.
I think we talked about it, you know, a lot in resilience, you know, how to be a resilient
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person.
Yeah.
But we're going to get into the key points into into healing.
We don't want to use up too much time.
So our first key point.
So we want to take a holistic approach.
So holistic means.
The.
Accompanying.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like the big picture, the big picture, not bits and pieces.
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The whole thing.
So you want to approach the whole thing, you know, as a whole healing and mental health
involves addressing psychological, emotional, physical and spiritual aspects of well-being,
generally your whole being is your spirit.
Good.
Your mental good.
Are you good emotionally?
We we talked about, you know, controlling our emotions.
Yep.
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I was like.
I forget that was like episode.
Oh, no, no.
Yeah, that was that was one of our earlier months.
Yeah, no, no.
Something like it was early.
I was early on.
Mm hmm.
Yeah.
But but I mean, it still applies, you know, what we talked about in emotions.
You got to keep it in check.
No, you got to show yourself.
Yeah, me too.
I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean,
I know that, you know, you're you're gonna see a language that would extort a person
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into millimeters The Schnabelhaupt Valentini maneuver that you guess that how do you see
a before, after, in a position that you actually think he needs his body and mind to work on
and I think that's really going to influence the Golden Week of how we seeонч Yemen First
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You're probably too skinny and you're too fat and it's fucking with your emotions.
Look at it from the big picture is being fed.
Really?
Your problem is it, or could it be a psychological effect on you too, because
people are calling you this and that, or you probably have that kind of thinking,
you know, where, Oh, I'm, I'm too skinny.
People won't like me.
I'm too fat.
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People will talk shit about you type.
Shit insecurities, insecurities type shit.
Yeah.
And overall, it probably does mess with you spiritually too.
No facts, especially like if you was, um, cause I had an insecurity for awhile.
I mean, as I got grown, I stopped caring, but like when I was a kid, like I had
big ears or whatever, it's like, my ears were really big, but my head was still
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small, but my ears was full of ground.
Interesting.
Yeah.
People, I had a friend who came, but he was my, he's still my friend to this
day or whatever, you know what I'm saying?
It's like make your friends tough love.
But he was like, we was waiting outside, you know, waiting on our parents to,
you know, pull up the come pick us up.
And he was like, he was like, you about to fly home, ain't you?
Ooh, with them Dumbo.
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You're not fly home.
I was like, Oh wow.
Fly home is crazy.
Okay.
Wow.
All right.
He got me good on that one.
That was a good one.
He thought, he thought about that joke.
I tell you that he thought about it.
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That's crazy.
No, that was a good one.
But I see you've healed from that.
It doesn't, it doesn't mess with you at all.
Yep.
I won.
Yo, one, one insecurity that I used to have growing up.
I used to be chubby.
Yeah.
I used to, I used to just be a little bit chubby than, than everyone else.
Yeah.
I was a little chunky kid too.
Oh, I, I was chunky all the way up until that deployment.
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Honestly.
Oh yeah.
Okay.
I see what you say.
Yeah.
I've been, I've been that big.
I've been a big old boy.
So you definitely, you lost weight for sure.
Literally I weighed myself like probably two weeks, two, three weeks ago.
I'm not going to weigh myself now, but graduating high school, I was 175.
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Two, three weeks ago, I was like 172.
Like I, like I just kept losing weight.
I don't know what it is, but overall I got over it, man, because it, you know,
it was, it was, it was my body.
Yeah.
I came to terms with it.
That's who I am.
Like, not, not a chunky person, but I started going to the gym and actually put on some
muscles, you know, to add to that chunk.
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So it is what it is.
You know, I.
Back then I had some size, so that, that helped me going to the gym.
I looked at it at a whole, I didn't like who I was.
I wanted to go to the gym and, and it helped me a lot.
And it should, it still holds me to this day, even though I don't, I don't go as
often, but that was, that was just my answer, you know, to, to, you know, take
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in, taking a holistic approach and addressing what was a, what was affecting me mentally.
It was like, okay, yeah, I'm big, but also when you really look at it, you got the
powder changed that, you know what I'm saying?
Through hard work and you know, effort, you know, and definitely resilience.
Cause yeah, cause nobody ever wants to stay in a shitty situation for so long.
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Yeah.
Yeah, we all try to think of ways to get out of it.
So that was, that was my way.
And I'm glad I, glad I use that way too.
No, that's what's up.
So there's that, but you know, taking that holistic approach, you've got to
address everything, not just bits and parts and pieces of, you know, what's
affecting you mentally, psychologically, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
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Like you gotta, you gotta look at it all at a whole because, because it all ties
in together, it's your wellbeing.
So going into our next key point, therapy, therapy, utilizing various
therapeutic approaches, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness
practices, and interpersonal therapy.
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So we, we, we, we've all used, I mean, I, I've had to see a therapist.
Yeah, I have to.
Yeah.
Um, and I'm proud of it.
I'm glad I did.
I'm proud of it too.
I'm proud of it too, but you know, there, there's still that stigma behind it.
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You know, people thinking, Oh, you go, you gotta go see somebody to get your shit fixed.
You must be crazy type.
That type shit.
You must be crazy.
Something's wrong with you.
Yeah.
Something's wrong with me.
What's that?
How does someone go?
It's, it's okay to not be okay.
You ever heard that song?
It's like a mall song.
One of them songs you hear in the mall.
Yeah.
The girl go, it's okay.
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It's okay to not be okay.
That is no, you, you understand.
It is back.
So I mean, you need to go see one, go see one.
I mean, yeah, no, I mean, not, I mean, you don't have to be okay all the time.
We all go through things in life.
Yeah.
It's okay to not be okay.
So I understand that.
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Sometimes I wake up is my girl woke up is today.
Okay. Cause I'm off or whatever.
Cause I'm off work for the holiday.
She not, she was mad.
I don't want to go to work.
Why don't I get days off like you?
Wait, this, this and that.
I'm calm down.
You know, okay.
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You chose that job.
I'm sorry.
Yeah.
I went to, I went to visit her though on her lunch break and hung out with her for a while.
Fire.
I would do the same.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I would do the same, but, um, not much, not much to say.
Well, I mean, we, we talk about therapy all the time.
Um, I know of cognitive behavioral therapy, like, like those are, I guess for people
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with like BPI, like bipolar, like, you know, like mental mentally.
Yeah.
Like, yeah.
I mean, and there's nothing wrong with that too.
I mean, we're all, we're all born a certain way.
We're all different.
Right.
Yeah. Eight billion people in this world.
It's not like we can all be the same, but I think, I think that's what that, that
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therapy goes into, like, if you need it, like, yeah, if you need it, that's, that's
what we're trying to get at.
It doesn't matter what you have.
If you need it, go get it.
Oh God.
And even if you not sure that you need it, you probably should go anyway.
Just saying.
Yeah.
Assess, assess, assess your behavior yourself, you know, see in a, in a
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personal therapy, so assessing yourself, look at it from within, you know, your
behavior and my, do I, do I, do I, am I tripping like, have you ever done
something and it probably seemed outlandish to everyone else, but you
felt like you had to do it and then you're addressing it later on.
You're like, damn, was I tripping?
Yeah.
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Yeah.
It's not as guy you got, you got to talk to yourself about things like that.
In fact, man.
So yeah, it's not as if you, if you need it, go get it.
That's what we're trying to get at.
Don't, don't let that shit sit.
So another key aspect, self care practices, encouraging activities
like exercise, nutrition, sleep hygiene, and stress management to support mental
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health.
So like, why does, why does exercising and nutrition and sleep like matter
so much to someone's mental health?
Well, mainly because you're going to want like 24 hours in a day.
You know, we don't, I don't know what y'all do for a living, but especially
if you like got to deal with hard work or, you know, where there's, you know,
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what do you call the jobs where you're on the phone with people all the time?
Those I call that a high stress environment, stress environment, but like
customer service or whatever the case might be, right?
You want to get that sleep.
You want to eat right, you know, so that you can wake up, you know, your mind,
your brain, everything is at a hundred percent so you can be, you know, able to
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deal with situations and, you know, and not like flip out or whatever, because of
lack of sleep or you're hungry or you're not eating properly or something.
So, yeah.
So like you need, you need to eat and exercise and to sleep to fuel your day.
You know, that, that, that's a good example.
Really our body also needs it to biologically speaking, you cannot like
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perform at about eight hours of sleep, right?
I'm pretty sure that's for sure.
Like, like at your best.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You cannot perform at peak.
Yeah.
Exactly.
If, if you, if you had less than six, I think.
In fact, cause nutrients is energy.
What they say, you got to, you got to get your meals into, you got to
exercise three times a week.
There's a thing there.
There's a reason why it's all for your wellbeing and it all ties into your
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mental health too.
In fact, you're not going to be a happy person when you're hungry and then, and
you're not going to be happy when you're fat because you don't exercise.
It is what it is.
I hate to say it, but that is sometimes you just need the hard truth.
Like that's, that was a hard truth.
Mom.
It, yeah, it's tough to say these things, but that's why we talk about it.
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So, so you, so you need all those things to actually, what we're talking about
again, self care practices, you need to do all those things to take care of yourself.
And even in that case, like you, you owe it to yourself to eat right when you can
work out when you can, you know, get your sleep, you owe that to yourself.
You know what I'm saying?
This body been, you know, down for you since you came out.
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Yeah.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, for real.
You owe it to your body.
You owe it to yourself.
If it's hard, if it's hard to like do these things, I say make a schedule
that'll also help with the stress management too.
Maybe.
Yeah.
And kind of develop like a routine or something.
Yeah.
Yeah.
No, the best way, the best way to take care of yourself is to get a routine,
like get a schedule for yourself, wake up at a certain amount of time.
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Like it's going to get monotonous, but it is what it is.
Like that, that is the way to take care of yourself.
Like whatever that is, you know, rather, you know, you got a, a certain days of
the week where you just strictly eat healthy or, you know, you work out, make
sure you do those things on those days, commit to it, you know, don't procrastinate.
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Don't push it to the side.
Like, Oh, I'll move it to tomorrow.
No, no, no, no.
You want the best results.
You do it when you really don't want to do it.
That's when you get the results.
Not for real.
When you don't want to do it, that's when you get results.
For real.
You ever feel so lazy that you didn't want to get out of bed
because you have something to do?
Exactly.
Exactly.
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Exactly.
Stop putting off things, actually make a schedule, make a date, make a plan to do
this thing.
Like if you need to go to the doctors or you need to, um, renew your car
registration, you need to go pay this rent, you need to go do this.
You need to go do that.
Got to go do it.
Go do it.
Make a schedule though.
So next, uh, next key topic, medication management.
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So in some cases, medications may be prescribed to alleviate symptoms and support
recovery.
That's a tough cause I ain't never had like medication.
I never did either, but I do know, I do know people that do take medication and.
It's justified.
Like there, that's why that's it's out there for it.
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Every like all this, like, see that that's the thing that stigma behind taking
medication.
You're crazy.
Yeah.
So you need to take pills for your craziness.
First of all, like we're all born.
Well, like everyone's born a certain way.
Like it's 8 billion people on this planet.
So everyone is special.
You can't, you can't judge one person from, from, from what they've been through.
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You've never known what they've been through either.
I was just about to say, cause trauma is a thing.
Like now I don't, you know, depending on, you know, the severity of that experience,
you know, it can really alter you, you know what I'm saying?
And, you know, that's why, you know, you got these medications to help, you know,
alleviate people from turning from.
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Yes.
Yeah.
No, from, from, for symptoms popping up like that.
Yeah.
So, cause, cause it's a reason why people take these medications is a reason and it's
out there for them.
So there's no, there shouldn't be a stigma behind it yet.
There is, you know, and it's the same behind mental health.
Oh, you gotta go see someone.
You're, you're crazy.
You gotta go talk to a crazy guy.
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Go talk to a crazy doctor type shit.
Yeah.
That, let's see that that's why people can't take care of the mental health and
everybody getting judged.
Yeah.
You know, like we said earlier in this episode, if you need it, take it facts.
If you need it, take it.
Just be careful though.
Don't take more than what.
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Oh yeah.
It's to take, listen, listen, listen to your, um, um, what do you call them?
Primary care.
No, the person that gives you the medication.
The pharmacist, yeah. Listen to the pharmacist.
He said, take, take one in the morning.
Damn it.
Take it in a morning.
Take it.
If you say don't, if he say don't only, only take it with water, only take it.
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We'll be mixing.
Oh, Hennessy.
Tequila and fucking your, your peers.
I don't think that's not a, that's not a good mix.
No, but you know, if you, if you are one that is taking medication, take care of
yourself, take it correctly, actually look after yourself.
You know, there's a reason why you're taking it.
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Don't forget that.
Yeah.
So make sure you're doing the right things for yourself because I mean, at
the end of the day, you are trying to take care of yourself, but a lot of people
are also affected, you know, from just being around, from just being around you.
Yeah.
I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I
just, from just being around you type shit, because, you know, we love you.
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We care about you.
So, you know, take care of yourself.
That's all I gotta say with that, with medication.
Um, so support networks, if you need a, you, if you need to take it too, that's
another thing I got to say about medication.
If you need it, take it, get assessed.
If you need it, take it.
So going into our, our next key topic.
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Let's see.
We're on a fifth one now support networks.
We've talked about support networks all the time, having people.
Oh yeah.
Like my friends, family or whatever.
Yeah.
Like, so with support networks, uh, building strong connections with family,
with friends, family support groups, or mental health professionals for
encouragement and understanding.
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Talk to people.
We talked about it.
I think, I think before you went to Puerto Rico, we talked about talking to
your moms, no one's going to listen to you more than your moms.
Yeah.
Or whoever that person is that raise you that one, that one, that one female
in your, in your life, that mother figure, that mother figure.
Yeah.
Talk to her.
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Sound like a cuss word, huh?
Mother figure, mother figure.
It's like, I'm trying not to say mother, you know, mother figure, mother figure.
Talk to that mother figure.
Cause she, she's not like, she, she will probably be the only, like if, if she
were to be the only person in this world, she will listen to you.
Facts.
Type shit, or nobody else in this world will listen to you except her.
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Facts.
Definitely.
You want to talk to some people that you know that genuinely care about you.
Bill.
Yeah.
You've got to build a strong, strong support network strong, build strong
connections with family support groups.
Strong, strong support network strong, build strong connections.
Shit.
Luke, Luke said this in a way early episodes, like around three and stuff.
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Like you can't like, we are social creatures.
We are not meant to live in this world alone at all.
Not as a billion of us.
8 billion of us, a billion of us.
And you managed to live alone.
That's crazy.
I mean, I guess I'm a find you.
If you put those people on a run from the CIA.
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Oh, those know that I understand.
I'm a fine G2 so I can get that reward.
And I'm joking.
Let me, let me mind my business.
That is crazy though.
They, they'd be given hell of money.
Yeah.
I need that.
I need that.
Is it really worth finding that person?
So who knows what's going to happen?
Bro, 20 million.
You tell me what's worth it.
I'm joking.
Nah, leave them people alone.
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They too dangerous for us.
Leave them to the professionals.
Mm hmm.
John Wick, John Wick has played.
Leave it to them.
Leave it to them.
Or what's the other shit called?
Um, that shit in London.
Oh, the Kingsman, the Kingsman.
Leave it to the secret spots.
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Leave it to the Kingsman.
Them niggas go in, bro.
Cause you will get jacked up trying to find somebody.
One of the most wanted people.
They will bless you up.
Bro.
Remember, um, remember we had that one person that was just looking at the top 10 most
wanted when we were on the boat.
Who?
You remember who he was.
He was working with you.
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View.
Oh, I said, well, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I remember you talking about.
Yeah.
That man was, that man was ready.
He was, he was ready to, then he wanted to go like Navy SEAL and like all of that.
Bro, we, we out here cooking in the middle of the middle of the Middle East.
We out here in these waters just cooking.
And he think about the top 10 right.
Top 10.
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He think he's thinking about top 10 FBI most wanted, bro.
If you don't do your work,
Yeah.
You got on my face with that, bro.
Like we, we two light years away from them, from all life right now.
But I'm trying to get home.
You telling me about you think about most of you think about finding these niggas.
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Hey, this is our fourth extension, bro.
Are you thinking about finding people?
Dog, he did not stop either.
He just kept looking at them.
He was looking at them.
I'm playing the smash brothers.
I think he was ready to practice his Falcon punch.
Now let me stop.
Let me stop.
Let me stop.
I hope he get them though.
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This need to be a safer world.
Shout out to you, bro.
Go ahead.
Shout out.
I'm glad you after them.
Somebody got to do it.
Somebody got to do it.
So I hope you get them.
All right.
So that's that's what support networks build strong connections, find some friends.
I actually, you want to talk first and foremost, you want to talk to that one woman in
your life, you know, that you see as a mother, a mother figure.
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I guess the most important thing, make sure you identify that mother figure, you
know, make sure you know your mama, you know, you're always in contact with her
because no one loves you.
No one loves you and care for you more than your mother.
Sorry to all the girlfriends out there, but it's true.
It is what it is.
All the girlfriends and wives, Mama Walden's have the number one spot.
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We got to keep that on the low shot.
I'll cut it out.
No, I'm just kidding, bro.
You get that's the truth.
God damn it.
The hard truth.
Unfortunately.
I mean, it should be with everyone.
Yeah.
I literally should be with everyone.
Even, even, even with females, like that number one person, you know,
like that number one person in your life should be your mama.
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So with that being said, love your mamas, find your friends and family.
Talk to people.
You cannot live in this world alone.
Can do it, man.
So going into our next key point, we talked about it in our earlier episodes,
coping strategies.
So learning and implementing healthy coping mechanisms to manage stress,
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triggers and challenging emotions effectively the easiest way to approach this.
Get a hobby.
Find something you like to do.
I know everything.
Yeah.
I know.
I know people like to do things like I like to play video games, surf the web.
Yeah.
I listen to that to drive my car or like go K sessions part.
Yeah.
We got to, we got to, we got a car.
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I'm parking through this year.
You know, that's the thing I like to go to K sessions every now and then I find
a new park in mission Valley though.
I forgot because I was going to tell my shorty what it was called.
Savita Park, Savita Park.
I was because I kept telling her I'm like, it's so something, so something.
So I don't know.
Savita Park, Savita Park.
Or K sessions are just a big old empty nothingness.
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Yeah, it's just a nice view.
It is a nice view.
But Savita Park.
Oh my God.
It different.
It different.
It's so much shit.
That's what's the downsides about it.
K sessions parking is trash.
Oh, you got to, you got to walk for that view though.
You got to walk all the way to the top.
Savita.
Yeah, it's a Vita.
You got to walk all the way to the top.
Is it?
It's like a hike.
I don't know.
It's not like a hike, but you got to, you got, you hit some stairs at some point.
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Cause it works.
Honestly, when I was looking at the top, I feel like, yeah, I should've, I should
have went to the top and I take it up.
Savita Park, Savita Park, bro.
That's that.
That's the park right there, bro.
I'll check it out.
That shit is, that shit is nice.
There's so much to do there, bro.
Like they have this nice barbecue area where they have like, I think they have a
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big ass beer pong table.
Interesting.
And it's at the park.
It's a long ass table.
Yeah.
At the park, just at the park.
Just bring, just bring chess pieces and, and, and stuff like that.
I think they got a ping pong table too.
I had to check it out.
Nah, for real.
Find, find things you like to do.
Find, get a hobby.
Please get a hobby.
And I don't mean that condescendingly.
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I'm, I'm, I mean that supportively and the most nurturing fashion possible.
Do something you love.
Get a hobby.
Do not sit at the house.
I mean, if your hobby isn't at the house to do something.
Yeah.
Or even try something new.
Try something new.
Try the bowling team.
Bowling?
You can go skate at a rank.
Bowling is fun.
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You know, I like bowling, but ain't that, ain't that good?
We, we went bowling.
Uh, remember once we did go bowling.
Yeah.
I threw like, I think I hit like six, maybe, maybe 10 pins at the end of the game.
No, we sucked.
I was 30.
I was second place with 30 something points.
Yeah.
It was bad.
It was bad.
Oh, you're sure he won.
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Yeah, she did.
Yeah.
She did win.
Well, she, she had the bumper.
Yeah.
But she won cause there's no excuse cause we threw gutter balls the entire time.
Hey, I could have got the bumpers on my damn self, but I didn't.
So I was just, I was just hitting gutters.
I should have got the bumpers, bro.
Bro, I'm not going to lie that, that drunk had me discombobulated though.
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I felt like I played with a handicap.
That is true.
We was drinking.
All right.
That actually made me feel better, bro.
Cause I, for some reason, I was just thinking like, you know, I suck at bowling,
but alcohol was involved.
Alcohol was involved.
It, it, it fucked me up.
Definitely.
Yeah.
It messes with your, you know, your coordination, saying your eyes and your
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arms and the balls not lined up cause we was drinking.
Right.
So that makes sense.
We not trash.
We was just drinking, but shit.
That's, that's one thing you could do.
Like that we were just knocking out two brothers in one stone, hanging
out with good friends and, and enjoying ourselves.
Like, you know, doing a hobby, playing that damn bowling.
We got to do something different though.
I can't bowl.
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We got to do something different.
Springtime is coming up.
We need to do some more outdoor activities.
I don't know.
We got to throw a football around, but baseball, the Frisbee.
Oh yeah.
Frisbee play ultimate Frisbee.
Or you get the beach too.
Oh yeah.
The beach.
Yeah.
This shit.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
Cause it's right there.
I PB to hit the bars.
Facts.
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Yeah.
Fine.
Like, like that.
Like if you're in beach enthusiasts, cause I know, I know people like to go see
the ocean.
I wouldn't have had enough of it.
Oh yeah.
I see it every day.
I've seen it.
I've seen it enough.
I barely like how, I don't even really like how the sand feels on my toes.
Like I sit on the beach, but I sit on the beach.
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I ain't getting in that water.
I'm going to put up, I'm going to put up a game or something and watch it on my phone.
And I ain't going to be like that.
I'll enjoy the beach.
I had a, I had a, the only reason like I'm, I'm real skeptical about like the beach
and the ocean and all of that is because when I first joined the Navy, bro, I think
I was like, I think I was still 18, bro.
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Actually.
I was.
We went to, we went to Coronado beach and it was me.
This dude I had met through a bootcamp and he was like stationed over there.
He got into them.
Yeah.
And we like hung out with these, like these, these white girls at the beach at
Coronado beach though.
Yeah.
Right.
It's dark too, bro.
It's like eight o'clock and I don't know if any of y'all seen the water, the
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ocean when it's dark, bro, but it's like, it looked like an abyss.
That shit looking scary.
Cause it's just black.
You feel like you could disappear.
Exactly.
Yeah.
So that's just scary.
Not the water when it's dark outside is scary.
Yeah.
But when, so we all on the beach or whatever, chilling, talking to girls like,
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Oh, let's go get in the water.
Let's go get in the water.
Mind you, I'm from Detroit, bro.
This, this ocean is new to me.
Like we got lakes and I barely, I never even, I just drove by the lakes.
Yeah.
I ain't never got out and like touch the lake.
Like I drove by the lake and, uh, uh, they like, Oh, let's go get in the
pool or the water or whatever.
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And, uh, they ran off and got in the water and me and him, we both black,
but we're looking at each other.
Like, uh, what do we do?
He was like, I mean, I do the same shit.
It's mine as well.
Nope.
I'll let them go.
I'll wait for them.
Let me know when you're done.
I was like, all right, I'll hear from them in five minutes.
I'm leaving.
Me and him darted into the water.
Yeah.
We got into the water going off, going after the white girls or whatever.
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And bro.
And I, my feet touched the water is it's the coldest water I've ever
touched in my life, bro.
I don't know if y'all been at San Diego ocean water before, bro, but
that's the ocean water.
No, that the Pacific ocean, Pacific ocean dash it as cold.
It's cold.
That's it.
And he was out there swimming bro deep somewhere.
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I'm going to just go about like hips up to my hips and I ain't going
no further than that.
Yeah.
Get out there to my hips, bro.
Something wraps around my leg.
Oh hell no.
And I freak out bro.
I'm like drowning.
I'm going.
Yeah.
Nah, bro.
I finally get back to the beach.
You know, I'm crawling because it was a, I just had a battle with
the octopus crawling and I get to the beach.
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Right.
No shit, bro.
It was seaweed on my leg.
Still.
Yeah, I'm good.
Oh, I left.
Oh yeah.
I'm good on that.
Yeah.
They were still in the water like yelling, are you okay?
Are you okay?
I'm out.
I'm out of here.
Y'all enjoy.
Have fun.
This is not for me.
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Damn.
Oh man.
Good times, I guess.
More or let a story be careful with white women because they're
going to take you to the water at night.
They don't have no fears.
Yeah.
Y'all don't fear nothing, bro.
None.
Not that they don't feel it.
They just see fun.
There's fun in that.
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I knew it was like that because the whole thing was looking like
a fucking Jaws scary movie.
Like the way it was pointing out two girls run off to the water.
The guys follow.
It's dark.
We can't see nothing.
Jaws is out there.
Oh no, I'm good.
I'm saying I don't mean to sound like a party pooper, but I'm the type
of nigga that be like, is there not other nighttime activities?
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Can we not do anything else?
Does this have to be it?
Surround yourself with better people.
Big facts.
But that's that's it for coping strategies.
Find yourself a hobby.
Please.
You like.
Do not just sit in the house or lay up in bed or whatever.
Just find something to do to occupy, like not occupy, find something you
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like it because it because it's because it is really, really important.
You know, it's like, you know, it's like, you know, it's like, you know,
because it's because it's really supposed to help you with your, you
know, with your mental health.
It's something that you like to do.
Everyone should have a hobby.
Yeah.
Everyone should have a high things when you can.
Cause life is like a book every year is a chapter.
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You know what I'm saying?
You want to fill them pages up, do something.
No, for sure.
So, all right.
We, we winding down on these key points.
So we're almost done.
Our next key point is going to be personal growth.
So embracing opportunities for self discovery, resilience, bill building,
excuse me, and finding meaning and purpose in life.
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So personal growth, man, that just all goes into growing up really.
Yeah.
Purpose in life.
I think, I think when you hit your purpose in life is when you
realize what you want to do.
Like when I say I hit my purpose when I was like my last year or two in the Navy,
I was like, this is not what I want to do ever again.
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Like when I came back from the point where I was like, this is not what I
want to do ever again for some reason.
I found a purpose in life.
It's to get out of here.
It's to get out of, I know like my purpose in life was to be more than to
just spend so much time away from home.
I feel like I could help and contribute while I'm at home and enjoy and enjoy,
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you know, home, enjoy life and shit.
That's, that's what I want to do.
Yeah.
I'm just trying to enjoy life.
I'm not trying to go through no things like that again.
I think purpose is one of them things where it's kind of really hard for.
They kind of, I guess hard to grasp to grasp.
Yeah.
Cause every, some people purpose might be, you know, they goes or, or whatever.
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Like, but purposes, but how do you know, how do you know what your purpose is in
life?
I mean, most people, a lot of people, you know, they, they, they find it very young.
Like for example, athletes, athletes.
Yeah.
Like if you are six foot seven at five years old, you're gonna be a basketball
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player.
That's your purpose in life.
Yeah.
You have the tools.
I think it all comes with the, you know, the tools and your skills and what, you
know, the intangibles and the future, what, what your, your opportunities and everything
too that comes with purpose.
Like it's all what you have accessible to, to yourself too.
Yeah.
So, I mean, like purpose to me, like, I think my purpose is to kind of like, you
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know, have a legacy for when I'm gone.
I won't be here forever.
None of us will at least, you know, leave something behind, you know, whether it's
kids or, you know, something for your family or whatever.
I feel like my purpose is to build a generational wealth, like to start building
a wealthy Daniel's family.
That's a good purpose.
Yeah.
That's a really good purpose.
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You know what I'm saying?
Cause you could change your whole family.
That's what I'm saying.
Like to, like to put something behind this name.
That's what I want to do.
In fact, that's what I want to do.
And as it going, and you know, how, how we find these purposes in life, you know, we
just live, you know, we go through things in life, like we all go through different
things in life too.
Like all our roads are paved differently.
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Yeah.
But you know, at the, at the end of the day, we also go through the same things in life
too.
Like it's different and saying, like, I'm not going to be doing the things that
you're doing, but I'm going to be experiencing some of the things that, that
you went through.
Yeah.
I grew up, you know, I think giving back is really shit.
Okay.
Is what our purpose is.
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Is you want to leave, you know, generational wealth for your family?
You know, I want to leave a legacy behind and, you know, stuff behind for my family
as well.
Yeah.
Just like, we'll be giving back, giving back, like all this taken, like, I think
late, like as you progress in life, like you've, you've, you've taken all that
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you've taken and you've received all that you've received and you've, you're at the
point where like now it's time to actually feed, give back, you know, break
bread type shit.
Yeah.
Cause people are going like all this stuff you've been through is going to be some
point in your life where something's going to be like, you know, you're going to be
some point in your life where somebody going to be going through that and come up
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to you like, yo, da da da da da da.
Now you can tell them, Hey, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
Cause you've already been through.
Yeah.
I mean, granted, I'm still young.
I still have my dreams to realize.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Facts, but talking about like in future purposes.
Yeah.
Now, yeah, that's, that's what I want to get to.
Like we all have our dreams still, but like, you have to know what you want to be
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in life, like your purpose is tough to grasp though.
It's probably, it's probably scarier to grasp than dreams.
Like, what am I supposed to do in this one life?
Especially like people coming straight out of high school or, you know, like,
like we still in our twenties.
So, but we kind of getting up there, but for like them early twenties and late
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teens, it could, the world is a big place, man.
You know, it could be scary to think about it.
You know what I'm saying?
But that's the point.
You know, you try things, you know what I'm saying?
And try new things.
You might find something you really love.
You usually anything you really love doing, you can make a career out of.
You do it for the rest of your life.
Yeah.
I think, I think, I think professional athletes, them, them people are mentally
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strong dog because they knew what they wanted to do from the jump.
That's.
But that just all goes with mental awareness.
Like, you know what you got, you have the tools even to like nerds, excuse me.
Well, you know, like, like people that get straight A's and B's, like, they know
what they're going to be like in life type shit.
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But, you know, we're just, we're just talking about finding your purpose in life.
Like everyone, everyone has a different road.
Like we like you and me.
Facts.
You're going, you're going people chasing dreams.
You're going to fail a lot more times that you win.
But that one win is going to make up for all them losses.
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Just, you got to add that resilience in there and keep going.
And eventually resilience, yeah.
Build resilience.
Yeah.
Eventually you're going to be like these boy.
You have you like these.
For real.
You can do it.
Nah, for sure.
Like definitely like, yeah, it's a whole process in life.
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You got to build resilience, self discovery.
You got to go on that journey.
But yeah, that's it.
It's all a part of growing up.
So that goes with personal growth.
Mm hmm.
Our next key topic empowerment.
So fostering a sense of agency and control over one's mental health
journey through education, advocacy and self, uh, advocates at like
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advocates or what is it advocate like advocacy, advocacy, advocacy, advocacy.
And so advocate.
That's what we're talking about.
Advocates.
Advocates.
Jesus.
It is.
It's been a long day.
What's the day?
It's president's day.
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We've been, we've been drinking a little bit.
I'm sorry.
Nah, you're good, bro.
Go ahead.
But empowerment, so fostering a sense of agency and control over
one's mental health journey through education, advocates and self
self advocating.
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Yeah.
Well, uh, like empowerment empowerment.
Yeah.
To sum it up is pretty much you being, uh, it reminds me of like
confidence, honestly, because when I think of empowerment or an empowered
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person, I think it's somebody that's confident, somebody that believes
on themselves or, you know, uh, recognizing the people that's, you
know, that believes in you and whatever you doing rather friend, family,
whatever it is, like, so that's more, that ties into like the support system.
Honestly, like encouragement type stuff.
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Exactly.
Yeah.
Yeah. So honestly, that's like one of the things we already covered.
Yeah.
That's one of those things we already covered.
Yeah.
Like with encouragement, be confident man and everything that you want to do
straight up, walk with confidence, talk with confidence, eat with confidence,
sleep with confidence, be a confident person, be confident in general.
When you shower scrub your body with confidence, bro.
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That was a bit far, but y'all understand what I'm saying.
You right.
Smell like confidence.
Don't smell like shit.
Yeah, exactly.
Man.
Yeah.
Now we, we've talked about empowerment, like throughout the whole episode, so
we're just going to move through that.
Sorry about that.
Oh, but we're almost done.
So acceptance and self-compassion, cultivating a mindset of acceptance towards
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oneself, acknowledging strength, and self-confidence.
Acceptance towards oneself, acknowledging strength and weaknesses and practicing
self-compassion, like it literally points to you knowing yourself, knowing
your strength and weaknesses.
Yeah.
I think that also ties in with you was telling how, you know, when you
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was talking about your body and you use a kid or whatever, that's one of
them things that you got older, you recognize it, you looked at it
holistically, right?
The big picture, okay, um, this, but I have the power to change that.
Right.
And it comes into that, you know, that what it was the title, what is the title
of the title?
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We're talking about acceptance and self-compassion.
Acceptance and self-compassion and self-compassion, right?
You accept it, what you got going on.
And then you said, okay, I got the power to change this.
What'd you do?
You went to the gym, be compassionate.
Yeah.
You got in shape.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
You can be compassionate with yourself.
Don't be too hard on yourself.
Yeah.
You fat.
It is what it is.
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Work on it.
You skinny.
It is what it is.
Put on some weight.
Work on it.
Yeah.
You're a little slow.
It is what it is.
Go read a book, work on it.
Facts.
It is.
It's like these, and these girls out here, man, they, damn, they need to, they
need to hear that, you know what I'm saying?
They accept us, accept your body for what it is.
You wanted to be different.
Go build it.
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Like why you could go build a booty and thighs like, but you won't go and
spend 20,000 on silicone.
I got a topic, but.
We all make our own choices in life.
I won't say that.
I won't go too deep in that, but we all make our own choices in life.
What we're trying to tell you is to, is to learn to love yourself.
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That's what it means to be self compassionate.
Love yourself.
Just because you may see yourself as a fat person, small person.
Whatever, whatever flawed that you think is your flaw is you.
This is your body that we're talking about.
Your mental.
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You should be like you, like, like you shouldn't be worried about what
other person might think, you know, have some compassion for yourself.
You know, you're, you're like this because of a certain reason.
Move past it.
That's the way we live in.
Hey, everybody always, everyone's so judgmental.
Or they want to be like somebody else.
So somebody else like this social media thing, bro, is all just a big bluff, bro.
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Ain't nobody happy, bro.
Ain't well, people are happy, but all the time, like nobody's happy all the time.
Even when there's nothing wrong with me, I'll still wake up like, you know what I'm
saying?
You know, so yeah, definitely love yourself, accept yourself, except for who
you are, what you look like, all of that.
It makes me sad that some people like see these celebrities and, and, and they
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see them as goals.
Like, I understand, like you want to be that in life or you, you know, you don't
necessarily got to be that person though.
Yeah.
People try so hard to be that person.
I agree a hundred percent.
And I guess they lose their like, like, you know, whatever, whatever genuine part
of their body, you know, they have, you know, they're, you know, they're not that
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genuine person anymore and they're just a copy of that person.
We don't.
There's no self-compassion in that.
I don't recognize.
So how do you, how do you love yourself?
If you try to mirror yourself and, you know, you try to, you try to look, you
try to be like, who are these people out there right now?
Maria, the scientists, Nicki Minaj, who are the Ruby Rose?
Everyone, everyone wants to read everyone.
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Everyone wants to be like Ruby Rose for some reason.
Everyone wants to be like Drake.
Everybody wants to be like, like all these people be yourself, love yourself,
you know, have self-compassion, build, build a name for yourself.
Right.
Because type shit, you know,
you never know like it's probably somebody looking up to you.
Right.
I know.
You too.
They looking at you and you trying to be like somebody else.
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You know what I'm saying?
Be an individual.
Yeah.
You are the only you that will ever exist.
You are you love yourself.
So like these practice self-compassion.
That's, that's, that's what we have to say.
Except acceptance and self-compassion, love yourself and know who you are.
Know your strengths and weaknesses.
If you want to change it, you can always change it.
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You know, this life, this life is yours.
Your life is yours.
Type shit.
Literally build yourself like put out a fellas 2k or, you know, was yeah, like 2k.
Right.
Yeah.
You know, you're my player type shit.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, oh, you ain't you like your person and characters all just generic.
Right.
Your speed ain't there.
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Your Duncan ain't there.
You know, your crossover ain't there.
But over time you can build that up, but before you know it, you overall 99.
And it's
Or people that play the grant to father, San Andreas is want to take care of Carl.
Man, take care of yourself.
You want to take Carl to the gym?
Yeah.
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Nah, love yourself, man.
Love yourself.
Take care of yourself.
That's all I got to say about that.
Take care of yourself.
And we're, we're on our last key topic.
So healing is a continuous journey.
Like I said, this, this is a process as it keeps going.
So recognizing that healing is an ongoing process with ups and downs and being
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patient and kind to oneself through the, throughout the journey.
That is important.
You got to realize like this, this is not a one-stop shop.
Like, you know, I'm healed.
I'm done.
Yeah.
It's not a snap of your finger.
It takes time.
Like you have to go through the motions, you know, the process, you know,
rather, whatever it is you feeling guilty or you feeling sad or you
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depressed or what else you got.
There's so many emotions that go through, go through the days, you
know, like emotions, sadness, anger.
Yes.
That's a, it's a process you go through.
You know what I'm saying?
Don't think because you sad now you're going to be sad for a week.
Nah, you know what I'm saying?
You understand that you sad, right?
You work on it.
Okay.
Yeah.
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We're not, we're not saying it has to be a hard process every day.
Yeah.
Yeah, they're like, that's why we have this podcast.
You know, we're here to tell y'all how, how, how to, how to live like an easier
life mentally, you know, because we all go through these things every day.
We all like, we all have to wake up in the morning.
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We all have a job to go to.
We all have to pay taxes.
Like we all have like daily duties type shit, you know, and we am, some of us go
through other stuff like, I'm pretty sure someone's arguing with their wife right
now, probably, probably more than likely.
Yes.
That's, that's what's happening right now.
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I'm sure it's healing.
I'll say it again, recognize that healing is an ongoing process with ups and downs.
It literally never stops.
It is a process that, that keeps on going, but it doesn't have to be a hard process
at all.
I don't, I'm mostly happy throughout my days.
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I think I am too.
Yeah.
Cause cause like, you know, going, going through this life, I learned, you know, I
learned what I like, what I don't like, you know, what I need in my lifestyle.
Like even though my lifestyle isn't perfect, I'm still trying to get there.
And I think honestly, you feel like that.
Cause that's part of the, that's like lessons from like all the, the healing of
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anything you didn't been through, you know what I'm saying?
You're able to look back and be like, no, that ain't for me.
Cause you'd already been through it before.
You know how it's going to go.
Yeah.
I am the way I am because of everything that I've been through and, and everything
that people have told me, because I also listen when people talk to me.
In fact, that's a, that's a good man.
You gotta listen, man.
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You gotta listen, man.
You're going to miss out.
My girl says I got FOMO, fear of missing out.
I didn't know that was a real thing, but I hate missing out.
So I'm always listening to people and it's helped me.
It's helped me, it's helped me build me to the man that I am today.
I'm proud of the man I am today too.
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I have, I have some work here and there that I need to do, but I, like, honestly,
I can say overall, I've liked who I've become, you know, type shit.
I like who I am becoming too, because you know, like I said, it's not, it's not done.
It's a process.
This shit keeps going.
We said all the time, shit, we ain't perfect.
Huh?
Said we ain't perfect.
We ain't perfect, man.
Nobody's perfect.
We talking to y'all, but we ain't perfect.
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Nobody, yeah.
I ain't perfect.
Luke ain't perfect.
Nobody is perfect.
Nope.
Joe Biden ain't perfect.
Hell no, he ain't perfect.
Sleepy Joe ain't perfect.
Kamala Harris ain't perfect.
God damn it, Joe.
Man, I seen something funny of Joe today.
That man was eating fried chicken with black folks.
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He's trying to get them votes.
Oh my God, we ain't perfect.
Look what he doing.
Well shit, Trump dropped some sneakers.
Trump did drop some gold ass sneakers.
They sold out.
This shit's ugly though.
We ain't perfect.
They sold out.
They sold out for some reason.
You know, life goes on.
So.
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Life literally does go on.
It doesn't stop.
Mm hmm.
That's why your healing journey never stops either.
That's part of you.
It's part of life.
That shit is part of life.
You heal every day.
I'm healing every day as I speak, you know, as we speak.
In fact.
Because we all go through things.
You know, I'm trying to.
I guess I'll disclose this personally.
I've been I've been looking for a job lately, but I found one that I think that I think,
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you know, it's pretty good for me.
That's my that has been my ongoing healing process.
I've been trying to support myself financially.
But I have made it.
I like it.
It's a process and I've made it.
So I'm very happy about that.
Your boy about to get me.
I'm proud of you.
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Yes, sir.
Appreciate it.
But that's a little personal thing that I have the skulls, which all.
You know, whatever you can say, whatever you want about me.
I ain't shit bad to say, but I'll tell you, man, I'll heal from it.
I'll cry, but I'll heal from it.
And we're going to talk about it.
We'll talk about it.
Talk about.
Well, you know, me, I like to talk and I'll talk about it.
But closing up like our closing statement, it's we've been we've been
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repeating it lately to healing is a process.
It is an ongoing process.
It's not something that you give up on.
It's not it's not a one stop.
Oh, I've I've patched this up.
I am completely healed.
No, that's that's the wrong way to go through things.
If you think healing ever stops.
I agree 100 percent.
But, you know, go to the hospital.
I'm not going to go to the hospital.
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I agree 100 percent, but, you know, good luck to everybody out there, man, on this life journey.
Just remember, keep going.
You know, always be things from different perspectives.
You know, learn from your mistakes.
Trust you.
Trust yourself as you go through these processes.
We'll see you on the next episode.
All right.
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And that's it, y'all.
We'll see you all in the next episode.
We'll catch all another time.
Peace.
What's good?
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What's going on everyone?
This is the Healing Club podcast.
We are happy to be back after our what?
One week break or something like that.
Yes, sir.
The boy Luke the greatest just got back from vacation.
I was in Puerto Rico.
He ain't been.
I highly recommend you go and visit.
I need to go see what San Juan talking about myself.
Exactly.
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San Juan.
That's where you were that?
Yes.
Good time.
Good time for sure.
Bro, they were selling mojitos because mojitos is like the Puerto Rican thing.
You're like, I like margarita so I ain't never had a mojito.
I like mojitos.
The mint and lime.
That's just good.
When we went out, it was only $5.
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You go to a club out here in San Diego, go ahead, get you a drink.
$17.
Yeah, $17.
You about that same drink, but like an hour and a half later in a club and it'd be about
$25.
So you really don't know how much the club drinks is.
Bro, now that we're talking about prices, I'm just thinking of it right now.
It's 20 to get into a club in San Diego for fellas.
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For fellas, it's $20 to get in.
Man, it's a hard life to be a man, dog.
It's $17 and plus you got to tip the bartender, I guess.
I guess you got to tip them.
So that's $20 right there for a drink.
You already spent $40.
First five minutes in the club.
First five minutes in the club, right?
Because you get here, you go get a drink, $40 gone.
Just like that.
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On the drain.
You ain't even listened to a whole song yet.
Not even.
You probably just came into a good song and then it switched to a trash one.
Facts, bro.
Because that's how it works.
Facts, bro.
But yeah, man, it's definitely good to be back, you know, get to kick this healing club
podcast back off.
Yes, sir.
Right where we left it at after that vacation.
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Yes, sir.
We left it off at episode 15.
We 15 weeks in, G. 15 weeks.
15 weeks with you people.
Healing with you people.
We here.
It's almost four months, right?
No, it did ask us four months by the end of this month for a 12.
Yeah, it's going to be our fourth month by the end of this month because I think we was
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going since November.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah, we did start.
Yeah, I remember because we did on Christmas episodes.
We did.
We did Thanksgiving episodes, I think.
Yeah, I remember.
Healing with you people.
And we could not be any more happier, honestly.
I'm glad we're here.
We made it this far.
If we still going and we won't stop.
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No, we really do have a mission to promote mental health awareness around because honestly,
I don't think people really give a damn about mental health.
They don't, bro.
Like, I know they don't because at some point I didn't.
No, yeah.
At one point I didn't too.
I thought it was just whatever.
Maybe it's a thing that you really like mental health is one of the things where you really
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come to like understanding of its importance when you like get older or something.
Yeah.
Is that a thing?
Realize.
Yeah, you start to realize like, you know, this is important.
Very important.
Yeah.
And what we're going to talk about today was probably the most important thing.
I mean, everything we've talked about was important, but we're going to get into what
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it means to be aware and mental health like we got to we got to heal from it.
So in this episode, we're going to talk about healing and mental health.
Oh, hey, y'all.
Here come.
We give you all some life hacks.
Here they go.
Facts.
No, these are some good life hacks.
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I mean, it is about healing.
And at the end of the day, we are trying to heal.
Yes, we are.
So before we begin with our healing process, we just want to reach out to those that are
that are in need of of like dire help, like like people that just cannot go another day
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with you know, with whatever they're going on with life.
And they just need to talk to somebody like, please don't give up.
Don't give up.
Don't give up.
That's my message to you folks.
Do not give up.
Please.
Remember what we talked about resilience.
You ain't seen that episode.
Go back to like 13 episode 13.
It was a very recent episode.
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Yes, really recent resilience recently.
But now definitely, definitely check that out.
If if you if you have questions about what it means to be a resilient person, which is
probably why you are in the state of needing help.
If if you really need to reach out to somebody, there is that hotline out there.
It's only three digits, nine, eight, eight.
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You can call or text that number.
There are always there's always somebody at the end of that line, someone professional.
We all like everyone needs professional help.
And when it when it comes when it comes down to it, you need professional help facts.
And remember, bro, it's all confidential, bro.
You got to worry about nobody getting in your business between you and whoever consulting
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you or working your case, whatever you want to call it.
Right.
It's all private.
You know what I'm saying?
And they're going to get you right.
Yeah, it's it's it's a one on it's a one on one conversation with you and a and a mental
health professional like there to help you.
Please take advantage of that if you are on your last leg.
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Even if you aren't on your last leg, you could just you just need somebody to talk to you.
You know, that's what they're there for.
Suicide prevention.
Listen, do not give up, dog.
Like you only got one life.
You got no response, no none of that.
It's yeah, it's not it's not like there's a do over button when you when you when you
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do that.
Like that's it.
Cherish that life, man.
Value it, man.
Value that life.
Cherish and value that life.
He'll heal from things like we all go through things.
Heal from it.
Be a tougher person.
You got it.
You got it.
You can do it, man.
Don't give up.
That's the simple answer.
Do not give up.
Don't give up.
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Period.
But with that being said, we're going to go into into healing.
So healing and mental health, it involves and you know, addressing psychological wounds,
trauma and distress through various therapeutic approaches such as counseling, psychotherapy,
medication and self care practices.
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So it focuses on promoting resilience, self awareness and coping strategies to improve
overall well-being and quality of life.
You're taking care of yourself when you're doing these things.
There is never it's never wrong to seek a professional help, take medication and all
that stuff.
I guess they're I guess they're to help you.
It's literally there to help you.
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No, I agree 100 percent, bro.
And you will be amazed with seeing a shrink would do for you.
It might be I'm sure, you know, people make fun of it all the time.
Are you going to see a shrink?
Are you going to see a shrink?
I promise you, you go in there, you're going to walk out better than when you walk in straight
up.
You're going to talk about some things, you're going to get some things off your chest, you're
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going to learn a lot more about yourself.
You're going to you're going to have this awareness about yourself, too.
So it's not it's not it's not wrong.
It's never wrong to go seek out like a shrink, like seek some counseling, you know, take
some medication because, you know, there is medication to help people with these kind
of issues and, you know, take care of yourself.
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Self care practices.
Get a hobby.
You know, do do things you like.
Find a job that fits you.
Live, live, live your lifestyle.
Yeah, I agree 100 percent, man.
This is your life.
Like that don't mean be selfish or anything like that.
But you know, these years fly by, you know, you don't want to be old and be like, oh,
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man, you know, like a lot of other people tell me like, you know, whatever it is you
want to do, man, make sure you do it right now.
I'm pretty sure we all heard that before.
Right.
So there's something you want to do, man.
Go for it.
You know what I'm saying?
Be aggressive with your life.
No, no, for real.
Think, think, think about the things that you want to do.
Think about dreams and think, think about, think about that, that, that perfect lifestyle
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that you want to live in.
You know, you, you want to you probably want to live in a two bedroom, you know, a luxury
apartment, but you can't you can't get to that right now.
You know, it takes time healing, healing steps, you know, it's a process process in life like
you'll get there.
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Like it took me a while to get to get to where I'm at, honestly.
I think I'm going to take a step back, though.
It's a little too much, but it'd be like that.
It'd be like that, man.
But live the life that you want, you know, be aggressive, be aggressive with your life.
Take care of yourself.
Everything often involves a combination of interventions, you know, tailored to individual
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needs aiming to restore balance, stability and a sense of empowerment, individual needs.
Like, you know, we all have needs.
You ever been in a vulnerable state and you just don't feel empowered, you know, in yourself?
Absolutely.
Like a weak, like a weak state.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
I thought you said weak, like as in like last week.
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No, I'm saying like, like.
Oh, like at last of the week.
Oh, no, not.
But I get what you're saying.
Yeah, for sure.
Yes.
Like a weakened feeble state.
Yeah, for sure.
So like with healing, we want to empower, we want to empower ourselves.
We want to keep going.
We want to we want to strengthen ourselves.
I think we talked about it, you know, a lot in resilience, you know, how to be a resilient
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person.
Yeah.
But we're going to get into the key points into into healing.
We don't want to use up too much time.
So our first key point.
So we want to take a holistic approach.
So holistic means.
The.
Accompanying.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like the big picture, the big picture, not bits and pieces.
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The whole thing.
So you want to approach the whole thing, you know, as a whole healing and mental health
involves addressing psychological, emotional, physical and spiritual aspects of well-being,
generally your whole being is your spirit.
Good.
Your mental good.
Are you good emotionally?
We we talked about, you know, controlling our emotions.
Yep.
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I was like.
I forget that was like episode.
Oh, no, no.
Yeah, that was that was one of our earlier months.
Yeah, no, no.
Something like it was early.
I was early on.
Mm hmm.
Yeah.
But but I mean, it still applies, you know, what we talked about in emotions.
You got to keep it in check.
No, you got to show yourself.
Yeah, me too.
I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean,
I know that, you know, you're you're gonna see a language that would extort a person
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into millimeters The Schnabelhaupt Valentini maneuver that you guess that how do you see
a before, after, in a position that you actually think he needs his body and mind to work on
and I think that's really going to influence the Golden Week of how we seeонч Yemen First
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You're probably too skinny and you're too fat and it's fucking with your emotions.
Look at it from the big picture is being fed.
Really?
Your problem is it, or could it be a psychological effect on you too, because
people are calling you this and that, or you probably have that kind of thinking,
you know, where, Oh, I'm, I'm too skinny.
People won't like me.
I'm too fat.
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People will talk shit about you type.
Shit insecurities, insecurities type shit.
Yeah.
And overall, it probably does mess with you spiritually too.
No facts, especially like if you was, um, cause I had an insecurity for awhile.
I mean, as I got grown, I stopped caring, but like when I was a kid, like I had
big ears or whatever, it's like, my ears were really big, but my head was still
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small, but my ears was full of ground.
Interesting.
Yeah.
People, I had a friend who came, but he was my, he's still my friend to this
day or whatever, you know what I'm saying?
It's like make your friends tough love.
But he was like, we was waiting outside, you know, waiting on our parents to,
you know, pull up the come pick us up.
And he was like, he was like, you about to fly home, ain't you?
Ooh, with them Dumbo.
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You're not fly home.
I was like, Oh wow.
Fly home is crazy.
Okay.
Wow.
All right.
He got me good on that one.
That was a good one.
He thought, he thought about that joke.
I tell you that he thought about it.
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That's crazy.
No, that was a good one.
But I see you've healed from that.
It doesn't, it doesn't mess with you at all.
Yep.
I won.
Yo, one, one insecurity that I used to have growing up.
I used to be chubby.
Yeah.
I used to, I used to just be a little bit chubby than, than everyone else.
Yeah.
I was a little chunky kid too.
Oh, I, I was chunky all the way up until that deployment.
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Honestly.
Oh yeah.
Okay.
I see what you say.
Yeah.
I've been, I've been that big.
I've been a big old boy.
So you definitely, you lost weight for sure.
Literally I weighed myself like probably two weeks, two, three weeks ago.
I'm not going to weigh myself now, but graduating high school, I was 175.
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Two, three weeks ago, I was like 172.
Like I, like I just kept losing weight.
I don't know what it is, but overall I got over it, man, because it, you know,
it was, it was, it was my body.
Yeah.
I came to terms with it.
That's who I am.
Like, not, not a chunky person, but I started going to the gym and actually put on some
muscles, you know, to add to that chunk.
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So it is what it is.
You know, I.
Back then I had some size, so that, that helped me going to the gym.
I looked at it at a whole, I didn't like who I was.
I wanted to go to the gym and, and it helped me a lot.
And it should, it still holds me to this day, even though I don't, I don't go as
often, but that was, that was just my answer, you know, to, to, you know, take
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in, taking a holistic approach and addressing what was a, what was affecting me mentally.
It was like, okay, yeah, I'm big, but also when you really look at it, you got the
powder changed that, you know what I'm saying?
Through hard work and you know, effort, you know, and definitely resilience.
Cause yeah, cause nobody ever wants to stay in a shitty situation for so long.
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Yeah.
Yeah, we all try to think of ways to get out of it.
So that was, that was my way.
And I'm glad I, glad I use that way too.
No, that's what's up.
So there's that, but you know, taking that holistic approach, you've got to
address everything, not just bits and parts and pieces of, you know, what's
affecting you mentally, psychologically, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
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Like you gotta, you gotta look at it all at a whole because, because it all ties
in together, it's your wellbeing.
So going into our next key point, therapy, therapy, utilizing various
therapeutic approaches, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness
practices, and interpersonal therapy.
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So we, we, we, we've all used, I mean, I, I've had to see a therapist.
Yeah, I have to.
Yeah.
Um, and I'm proud of it.
I'm glad I did.
I'm proud of it too.
I'm proud of it too, but you know, there, there's still that stigma behind it.
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You know, people thinking, Oh, you go, you gotta go see somebody to get your shit fixed.
You must be crazy type.
That type shit.
You must be crazy.
Something's wrong with you.
Yeah.
Something's wrong with me.
What's that?
How does someone go?
It's, it's okay to not be okay.
You ever heard that song?
It's like a mall song.
One of them songs you hear in the mall.
Yeah.
The girl go, it's okay.
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It's okay to not be okay.
That is no, you, you understand.
It is back.
So I mean, you need to go see one, go see one.
I mean, yeah, no, I mean, not, I mean, you don't have to be okay all the time.
We all go through things in life.
Yeah.
It's okay to not be okay.
So I understand that.
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Sometimes I wake up is my girl woke up is today.
Okay. Cause I'm off or whatever.
Cause I'm off work for the holiday.
She not, she was mad.
I don't want to go to work.
Why don't I get days off like you?
Wait, this, this and that.
I'm calm down.
You know, okay.
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You chose that job.
I'm sorry.
Yeah.
I went to, I went to visit her though on her lunch break and hung out with her for a while.
Fire.
I would do the same.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I would do the same, but, um, not much, not much to say.
Well, I mean, we, we talk about therapy all the time.
Um, I know of cognitive behavioral therapy, like, like those are, I guess for people
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with like BPI, like bipolar, like, you know, like mental mentally.
Yeah.
Like, yeah.
I mean, and there's nothing wrong with that too.
I mean, we're all, we're all born a certain way.
We're all different.
Right.
Yeah. Eight billion people in this world.
It's not like we can all be the same, but I think, I think that's what that, that
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therapy goes into, like, if you need it, like, yeah, if you need it, that's, that's
what we're trying to get at.
It doesn't matter what you have.
If you need it, go get it.
Oh God.
And even if you not sure that you need it, you probably should go anyway.
Just saying.
Yeah.
Assess, assess, assess your behavior yourself, you know, see in a, in a
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personal therapy, so assessing yourself, look at it from within, you know, your
behavior and my, do I, do I, do I, am I tripping like, have you ever done
something and it probably seemed outlandish to everyone else, but you
felt like you had to do it and then you're addressing it later on.
You're like, damn, was I tripping?
Yeah.
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Yeah.
It's not as guy you got, you got to talk to yourself about things like that.
In fact, man.
So yeah, it's not as if you, if you need it, go get it.
That's what we're trying to get at.
Don't, don't let that shit sit.
So another key aspect, self care practices, encouraging activities
like exercise, nutrition, sleep hygiene, and stress management to support mental
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health.
So like, why does, why does exercising and nutrition and sleep like matter
so much to someone's mental health?
Well, mainly because you're going to want like 24 hours in a day.
You know, we don't, I don't know what y'all do for a living, but especially
if you like got to deal with hard work or, you know, where there's, you know,
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what do you call the jobs where you're on the phone with people all the time?
Those I call that a high stress environment, stress environment, but like
customer service or whatever the case might be, right?
You want to get that sleep.
You want to eat right, you know, so that you can wake up, you know, your mind,
your brain, everything is at a hundred percent so you can be, you know, able to
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deal with situations and, you know, and not like flip out or whatever, because of
lack of sleep or you're hungry or you're not eating properly or something.
So, yeah.
So like you need, you need to eat and exercise and to sleep to fuel your day.
You know, that, that, that's a good example.
Really our body also needs it to biologically speaking, you cannot like
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perform at about eight hours of sleep, right?
I'm pretty sure that's for sure.
Like, like at your best.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You cannot perform at peak.
Yeah.
Exactly.
If, if you, if you had less than six, I think.
In fact, cause nutrients is energy.
What they say, you got to, you got to get your meals into, you got to
exercise three times a week.
There's a thing there.
There's a reason why it's all for your wellbeing and it all ties into your
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mental health too.
In fact, you're not going to be a happy person when you're hungry and then, and
you're not going to be happy when you're fat because you don't exercise.
It is what it is.
I hate to say it, but that is sometimes you just need the hard truth.
Like that's, that was a hard truth.
Mom.
It, yeah, it's tough to say these things, but that's why we talk about it.
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So, so you, so you need all those things to actually, what we're talking about
again, self care practices, you need to do all those things to take care of yourself.
And even in that case, like you, you owe it to yourself to eat right when you can
work out when you can, you know, get your sleep, you owe that to yourself.
You know what I'm saying?
This body been, you know, down for you since you came out.
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Yeah.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, for real.
You owe it to your body.
You owe it to yourself.
If it's hard, if it's hard to like do these things, I say make a schedule
that'll also help with the stress management too.
Maybe.
Yeah.
And kind of develop like a routine or something.
Yeah.
Yeah.
No, the best way, the best way to take care of yourself is to get a routine,
like get a schedule for yourself, wake up at a certain amount of time.
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Like it's going to get monotonous, but it is what it is.
Like that, that is the way to take care of yourself.
Like whatever that is, you know, rather, you know, you got a, a certain days of
the week where you just strictly eat healthy or, you know, you work out, make
sure you do those things on those days, commit to it, you know, don't procrastinate.
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Don't push it to the side.
Like, Oh, I'll move it to tomorrow.
No, no, no, no.
You want the best results.
You do it when you really don't want to do it.
That's when you get the results.
Not for real.
When you don't want to do it, that's when you get results.
For real.
You ever feel so lazy that you didn't want to get out of bed
because you have something to do?
Exactly.
Exactly.
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Exactly.
Stop putting off things, actually make a schedule, make a date, make a plan to do
this thing.
Like if you need to go to the doctors or you need to, um, renew your car
registration, you need to go pay this rent, you need to go do this.
You need to go do that.
Got to go do it.
Go do it.
Make a schedule though.
So next, uh, next key topic, medication management.
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So in some cases, medications may be prescribed to alleviate symptoms and support
recovery.
That's a tough cause I ain't never had like medication.
I never did either, but I do know, I do know people that do take medication and.
It's justified.
Like there, that's why that's it's out there for it.
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Every like all this, like, see that that's the thing that stigma behind taking
medication.
You're crazy.
Yeah.
So you need to take pills for your craziness.
First of all, like we're all born.
Well, like everyone's born a certain way.
Like it's 8 billion people on this planet.
So everyone is special.
You can't, you can't judge one person from, from, from what they've been through.
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You've never known what they've been through either.
I was just about to say, cause trauma is a thing.
Like now I don't, you know, depending on, you know, the severity of that experience,
you know, it can really alter you, you know what I'm saying?
And, you know, that's why, you know, you got these medications to help, you know,
alleviate people from turning from.
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Yes.
Yeah.
No, from, from, for symptoms popping up like that.
Yeah.
So, cause, cause it's a reason why people take these medications is a reason and it's
out there for them.
So there's no, there shouldn't be a stigma behind it yet.
There is, you know, and it's the same behind mental health.
Oh, you gotta go see someone.
You're, you're crazy.
You gotta go talk to a crazy guy.
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Go talk to a crazy doctor type shit.
Yeah.
That, let's see that that's why people can't take care of the mental health and
everybody getting judged.
Yeah.
You know, like we said earlier in this episode, if you need it, take it facts.
If you need it, take it.
Just be careful though.
Don't take more than what.
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Oh yeah.
It's to take, listen, listen, listen to your, um, um, what do you call them?
Primary care.
No, the person that gives you the medication.
The pharmacist, yeah. Listen to the pharmacist.
He said, take, take one in the morning.
Damn it.
Take it in a morning.
Take it.
If you say don't, if he say don't only, only take it with water, only take it.
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We'll be mixing.
Oh, Hennessy.
Tequila and fucking your, your peers.
I don't think that's not a, that's not a good mix.
No, but you know, if you, if you are one that is taking medication, take care of
yourself, take it correctly, actually look after yourself.
You know, there's a reason why you're taking it.
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Don't forget that.
Yeah.
So make sure you're doing the right things for yourself because I mean, at
the end of the day, you are trying to take care of yourself, but a lot of people
are also affected, you know, from just being around, from just being around you.
Yeah.
I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I
just, from just being around you type shit, because, you know, we love you.
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We care about you.
So, you know, take care of yourself.
That's all I gotta say with that, with medication.
Um, so support networks, if you need a, you, if you need to take it too, that's
another thing I got to say about medication.
If you need it, take it, get assessed.
If you need it, take it.
So going into our, our next key topic.
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Let's see.
We're on a fifth one now support networks.
We've talked about support networks all the time, having people.
Oh yeah.
Like my friends, family or whatever.
Yeah.
Like, so with support networks, uh, building strong connections with family,
with friends, family support groups, or mental health professionals for
encouragement and understanding.
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Talk to people.
We talked about it.
I think, I think before you went to Puerto Rico, we talked about talking to
your moms, no one's going to listen to you more than your moms.
Yeah.
Or whoever that person is that raise you that one, that one, that one female
in your, in your life, that mother figure, that mother figure.
Yeah.
Talk to her.
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Sound like a cuss word, huh?
Mother figure, mother figure.
It's like, I'm trying not to say mother, you know, mother figure, mother figure.
Talk to that mother figure.
Cause she, she's not like, she, she will probably be the only, like if, if she
were to be the only person in this world, she will listen to you.
Facts.
Type shit, or nobody else in this world will listen to you except her.
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Facts.
Definitely.
You want to talk to some people that you know that genuinely care about you.
Bill.
Yeah.
You've got to build a strong, strong support network strong, build strong
connections with family support groups.
Strong, strong support network strong, build strong connections.
Shit.
Luke, Luke said this in a way early episodes, like around three and stuff.
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Like you can't like, we are social creatures.
We are not meant to live in this world alone at all.
Not as a billion of us.
8 billion of us, a billion of us.
And you managed to live alone.
That's crazy.
I mean, I guess I'm a find you.
If you put those people on a run from the CIA.
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Oh, those know that I understand.
I'm a fine G2 so I can get that reward.
And I'm joking.
Let me, let me mind my business.
That is crazy though.
They, they'd be given hell of money.
Yeah.
I need that.
I need that.
Is it really worth finding that person?
So who knows what's going to happen?
Bro, 20 million.
You tell me what's worth it.
I'm joking.
Nah, leave them people alone.
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They too dangerous for us.
Leave them to the professionals.
Mm hmm.
John Wick, John Wick has played.
Leave it to them.
Leave it to them.
Or what's the other shit called?
Um, that shit in London.
Oh, the Kingsman, the Kingsman.
Leave it to the secret spots.
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Leave it to the Kingsman.
Them niggas go in, bro.
Cause you will get jacked up trying to find somebody.
One of the most wanted people.
They will bless you up.
Bro.
Remember, um, remember we had that one person that was just looking at the top 10 most
wanted when we were on the boat.
Who?
You remember who he was.
He was working with you.
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View.
Oh, I said, well, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I remember you talking about.
Yeah.
That man was, that man was ready.
He was, he was ready to, then he wanted to go like Navy SEAL and like all of that.
Bro, we, we out here cooking in the middle of the middle of the Middle East.
We out here in these waters just cooking.
And he think about the top 10 right.
Top 10.
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He think he's thinking about top 10 FBI most wanted, bro.
If you don't do your work,
Yeah.
You got on my face with that, bro.
Like we, we two light years away from them, from all life right now.
But I'm trying to get home.
You telling me about you think about most of you think about finding these niggas.
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Hey, this is our fourth extension, bro.
Are you thinking about finding people?
Dog, he did not stop either.
He just kept looking at them.
He was looking at them.
I'm playing the smash brothers.
I think he was ready to practice his Falcon punch.
Now let me stop.
Let me stop.
Let me stop.
I hope he get them though.
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This need to be a safer world.
Shout out to you, bro.
Go ahead.
Shout out.
I'm glad you after them.
Somebody got to do it.
Somebody got to do it.
So I hope you get them.
All right.
So that's that's what support networks build strong connections, find some friends.
I actually, you want to talk first and foremost, you want to talk to that one woman in
your life, you know, that you see as a mother, a mother figure.
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I guess the most important thing, make sure you identify that mother figure, you
know, make sure you know your mama, you know, you're always in contact with her
because no one loves you.
No one loves you and care for you more than your mother.
Sorry to all the girlfriends out there, but it's true.
It is what it is.
All the girlfriends and wives, Mama Walden's have the number one spot.
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We got to keep that on the low shot.
I'll cut it out.
No, I'm just kidding, bro.
You get that's the truth.
God damn it.
The hard truth.
Unfortunately.
I mean, it should be with everyone.
Yeah.
I literally should be with everyone.
Even, even, even with females, like that number one person, you know,
like that number one person in your life should be your mama.
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So with that being said, love your mamas, find your friends and family.
Talk to people.
You cannot live in this world alone.
Can do it, man.
So going into our next key point, we talked about it in our earlier episodes,
coping strategies.
So learning and implementing healthy coping mechanisms to manage stress,
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triggers and challenging emotions effectively the easiest way to approach this.
Get a hobby.
Find something you like to do.
I know everything.
Yeah.
I know.
I know people like to do things like I like to play video games, surf the web.
Yeah.
I listen to that to drive my car or like go K sessions part.
Yeah.
We got to, we got to, we got a car.
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I'm parking through this year.
You know, that's the thing I like to go to K sessions every now and then I find
a new park in mission Valley though.
I forgot because I was going to tell my shorty what it was called.
Savita Park, Savita Park.
I was because I kept telling her I'm like, it's so something, so something.
So I don't know.
Savita Park, Savita Park.
Or K sessions are just a big old empty nothingness.
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Yeah, it's just a nice view.
It is a nice view.
But Savita Park.
Oh my God.
It different.
It different.
It's so much shit.
That's what's the downsides about it.
K sessions parking is trash.
Oh, you got to, you got to walk for that view though.
You got to walk all the way to the top.
Savita.
Yeah, it's a Vita.
You got to walk all the way to the top.
Is it?
It's like a hike.
I don't know.
It's not like a hike, but you got to, you got, you hit some stairs at some point.
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Cause it works.
Honestly, when I was looking at the top, I feel like, yeah, I should've, I should
have went to the top and I take it up.
Savita Park, Savita Park, bro.
That's that.
That's the park right there, bro.
I'll check it out.
That shit is, that shit is nice.
There's so much to do there, bro.
Like they have this nice barbecue area where they have like, I think they have a
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big ass beer pong table.
Interesting.
And it's at the park.
It's a long ass table.
Yeah.
At the park, just at the park.
Just bring, just bring chess pieces and, and, and stuff like that.
I think they got a ping pong table too.
I had to check it out.
Nah, for real.
Find, find things you like to do.
Find, get a hobby.
Please get a hobby.
And I don't mean that condescendingly.
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I'm, I'm, I mean that supportively and the most nurturing fashion possible.
Do something you love.
Get a hobby.
Do not sit at the house.
I mean, if your hobby isn't at the house to do something.
Yeah.
Or even try something new.
Try something new.
Try the bowling team.
Bowling?
You can go skate at a rank.
Bowling is fun.
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You know, I like bowling, but ain't that, ain't that good?
We, we went bowling.
Uh, remember once we did go bowling.
Yeah.
I threw like, I think I hit like six, maybe, maybe 10 pins at the end of the game.
No, we sucked.
I was 30.
I was second place with 30 something points.
Yeah.
It was bad.
It was bad.
Oh, you're sure he won.
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Yeah, she did.
Yeah.
She did win.
Well, she, she had the bumper.
Yeah.
But she won cause there's no excuse cause we threw gutter balls the entire time.
Hey, I could have got the bumpers on my damn self, but I didn't.
So I was just, I was just hitting gutters.
I should have got the bumpers, bro.
Bro, I'm not going to lie that, that drunk had me discombobulated though.
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I felt like I played with a handicap.
That is true.
We was drinking.
All right.
That actually made me feel better, bro.
Cause I, for some reason, I was just thinking like, you know, I suck at bowling,
but alcohol was involved.
Alcohol was involved.
It, it, it fucked me up.
Definitely.
Yeah.
It messes with your, you know, your coordination, saying your eyes and your
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arms and the balls not lined up cause we was drinking.
Right.
So that makes sense.
We not trash.
We was just drinking, but shit.
That's, that's one thing you could do.
Like that we were just knocking out two brothers in one stone, hanging
out with good friends and, and enjoying ourselves.
Like, you know, doing a hobby, playing that damn bowling.
We got to do something different though.
I can't bowl.
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We got to do something different.
Springtime is coming up.
We need to do some more outdoor activities.
I don't know.
We got to throw a football around, but baseball, the Frisbee.
Oh yeah.
Frisbee play ultimate Frisbee.
Or you get the beach too.
Oh yeah.
The beach.
Yeah.
This shit.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
Cause it's right there.
I PB to hit the bars.
Facts.
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Yeah.
Fine.
Like, like that.
Like if you're in beach enthusiasts, cause I know, I know people like to go see
the ocean.
I wouldn't have had enough of it.
Oh yeah.
I see it every day.
I've seen it.
I've seen it enough.
I barely like how, I don't even really like how the sand feels on my toes.
Like I sit on the beach, but I sit on the beach.
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I ain't getting in that water.
I'm going to put up, I'm going to put up a game or something and watch it on my phone.
And I ain't going to be like that.
I'll enjoy the beach.
I had a, I had a, the only reason like I'm, I'm real skeptical about like the beach
and the ocean and all of that is because when I first joined the Navy, bro, I think
I was like, I think I was still 18, bro.
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Actually.
I was.
We went to, we went to Coronado beach and it was me.
This dude I had met through a bootcamp and he was like stationed over there.
He got into them.
Yeah.
And we like hung out with these, like these, these white girls at the beach at
Coronado beach though.
Yeah.
Right.
It's dark too, bro.
It's like eight o'clock and I don't know if any of y'all seen the water, the
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ocean when it's dark, bro, but it's like, it looked like an abyss.
That shit looking scary.
Cause it's just black.
You feel like you could disappear.
Exactly.
Yeah.
So that's just scary.
Not the water when it's dark outside is scary.
Yeah.
But when, so we all on the beach or whatever, chilling, talking to girls like,
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Oh, let's go get in the water.
Let's go get in the water.
Mind you, I'm from Detroit, bro.
This, this ocean is new to me.
Like we got lakes and I barely, I never even, I just drove by the lakes.
Yeah.
I ain't never got out and like touch the lake.
Like I drove by the lake and, uh, uh, they like, Oh, let's go get in the
pool or the water or whatever.
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And, uh, they ran off and got in the water and me and him, we both black,
but we're looking at each other.
Like, uh, what do we do?
He was like, I mean, I do the same shit.
It's mine as well.
Nope.
I'll let them go.
I'll wait for them.
Let me know when you're done.
I was like, all right, I'll hear from them in five minutes.
I'm leaving.
Me and him darted into the water.
Yeah.
We got into the water going off, going after the white girls or whatever.
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And bro.
And I, my feet touched the water is it's the coldest water I've ever
touched in my life, bro.
I don't know if y'all been at San Diego ocean water before, bro, but
that's the ocean water.
No, that the Pacific ocean, Pacific ocean dash it as cold.
It's cold.
That's it.
And he was out there swimming bro deep somewhere.
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I'm going to just go about like hips up to my hips and I ain't going
no further than that.
Yeah.
Get out there to my hips, bro.
Something wraps around my leg.
Oh hell no.
And I freak out bro.
I'm like drowning.
I'm going.
Yeah.
Nah, bro.
I finally get back to the beach.
You know, I'm crawling because it was a, I just had a battle with
the octopus crawling and I get to the beach.
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Right.
No shit, bro.
It was seaweed on my leg.
Still.
Yeah, I'm good.
Oh, I left.
Oh yeah.
I'm good on that.
Yeah.
They were still in the water like yelling, are you okay?
Are you okay?
I'm out.
I'm out of here.
Y'all enjoy.
Have fun.
This is not for me.
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Damn.
Oh man.
Good times, I guess.
More or let a story be careful with white women because they're
going to take you to the water at night.
They don't have no fears.
Yeah.
Y'all don't fear nothing, bro.
None.
Not that they don't feel it.
They just see fun.
There's fun in that.
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I knew it was like that because the whole thing was looking like
a fucking Jaws scary movie.
Like the way it was pointing out two girls run off to the water.
The guys follow.
It's dark.
We can't see nothing.
Jaws is out there.
Oh no, I'm good.
I'm saying I don't mean to sound like a party pooper, but I'm the type
of nigga that be like, is there not other nighttime activities?
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Can we not do anything else?
Does this have to be it?
Surround yourself with better people.
Big facts.
But that's that's it for coping strategies.
Find yourself a hobby.
Please.
You like.
Do not just sit in the house or lay up in bed or whatever.
Just find something to do to occupy, like not occupy, find something you
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like it because it because it's because it is really, really important.
You know, it's like, you know, it's like, you know, it's like, you know,
because it's because it's really supposed to help you with your, you
know, with your mental health.
It's something that you like to do.
Everyone should have a hobby.
Yeah.
Everyone should have a high things when you can.
Cause life is like a book every year is a chapter.
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You know what I'm saying?
You want to fill them pages up, do something.
No, for sure.
So, all right.
We, we winding down on these key points.
So we're almost done.
Our next key point is going to be personal growth.
So embracing opportunities for self discovery, resilience, bill building,
excuse me, and finding meaning and purpose in life.
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So personal growth, man, that just all goes into growing up really.
Yeah.
Purpose in life.
I think, I think when you hit your purpose in life is when you
realize what you want to do.
Like when I say I hit my purpose when I was like my last year or two in the Navy,
I was like, this is not what I want to do ever again.
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Like when I came back from the point where I was like, this is not what I
want to do ever again for some reason.
I found a purpose in life.
It's to get out of here.
It's to get out of, I know like my purpose in life was to be more than to
just spend so much time away from home.
I feel like I could help and contribute while I'm at home and enjoy and enjoy,
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you know, home, enjoy life and shit.
That's, that's what I want to do.
Yeah.
I'm just trying to enjoy life.
I'm not trying to go through no things like that again.
I think purpose is one of them things where it's kind of really hard for.
They kind of, I guess hard to grasp to grasp.
Yeah.
Cause every, some people purpose might be, you know, they goes or, or whatever.
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Like, but purposes, but how do you know, how do you know what your purpose is in
life?
I mean, most people, a lot of people, you know, they, they, they find it very young.
Like for example, athletes, athletes.
Yeah.
Like if you are six foot seven at five years old, you're gonna be a basketball
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player.
That's your purpose in life.
Yeah.
You have the tools.
I think it all comes with the, you know, the tools and your skills and what, you
know, the intangibles and the future, what, what your, your opportunities and everything
too that comes with purpose.
Like it's all what you have accessible to, to yourself too.
Yeah.
So, I mean, like purpose to me, like, I think my purpose is to kind of like, you
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know, have a legacy for when I'm gone.
I won't be here forever.
None of us will at least, you know, leave something behind, you know, whether it's
kids or, you know, something for your family or whatever.
I feel like my purpose is to build a generational wealth, like to start building
a wealthy Daniel's family.
That's a good purpose.
Yeah.
That's a really good purpose.
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You know what I'm saying?
Cause you could change your whole family.
That's what I'm saying.
Like to, like to put something behind this name.
That's what I want to do.
In fact, that's what I want to do.
And as it going, and you know, how, how we find these purposes in life, you know, we
just live, you know, we go through things in life, like we all go through different
things in life too.
Like all our roads are paved differently.
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Yeah.
But you know, at the, at the end of the day, we also go through the same things in life
too.
Like it's different and saying, like, I'm not going to be doing the things that
you're doing, but I'm going to be experiencing some of the things that, that
you went through.
Yeah.
I grew up, you know, I think giving back is really shit.
Okay.
Is what our purpose is.
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Is you want to leave, you know, generational wealth for your family?
You know, I want to leave a legacy behind and, you know, stuff behind for my family
as well.
Yeah.
Just like, we'll be giving back, giving back, like all this taken, like, I think
late, like as you progress in life, like you've, you've, you've taken all that
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you've taken and you've received all that you've received and you've, you're at the
point where like now it's time to actually feed, give back, you know, break
bread type shit.
Yeah.
Cause people are going like all this stuff you've been through is going to be some
point in your life where something's going to be like, you know, you're going to be
some point in your life where somebody going to be going through that and come up
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to you like, yo, da da da da da da.
Now you can tell them, Hey, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
Cause you've already been through.
Yeah.
I mean, granted, I'm still young.
I still have my dreams to realize.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Facts, but talking about like in future purposes.
Yeah.
Now, yeah, that's, that's what I want to get to.
Like we all have our dreams still, but like, you have to know what you want to be
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in life, like your purpose is tough to grasp though.
It's probably, it's probably scarier to grasp than dreams.
Like, what am I supposed to do in this one life?
Especially like people coming straight out of high school or, you know, like,
like we still in our twenties.
So, but we kind of getting up there, but for like them early twenties and late
(44:55):
teens, it could, the world is a big place, man.
You know, it could be scary to think about it.
You know what I'm saying?
But that's the point.
You know, you try things, you know what I'm saying?
And try new things.
You might find something you really love.
You usually anything you really love doing, you can make a career out of.
You do it for the rest of your life.
Yeah.
I think, I think, I think professional athletes, them, them people are mentally
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strong dog because they knew what they wanted to do from the jump.
That's.
But that just all goes with mental awareness.
Like, you know what you got, you have the tools even to like nerds, excuse me.
Well, you know, like, like people that get straight A's and B's, like, they know
what they're going to be like in life type shit.
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But, you know, we're just, we're just talking about finding your purpose in life.
Like everyone, everyone has a different road.
Like we like you and me.
Facts.
You're going, you're going people chasing dreams.
You're going to fail a lot more times that you win.
But that one win is going to make up for all them losses.
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Just, you got to add that resilience in there and keep going.
And eventually resilience, yeah.
Build resilience.
Yeah.
Eventually you're going to be like these boy.
You have you like these.
For real.
You can do it.
Nah, for sure.
Like definitely like, yeah, it's a whole process in life.
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You got to build resilience, self discovery.
You got to go on that journey.
But yeah, that's it.
It's all a part of growing up.
So that goes with personal growth.
Mm hmm.
Our next key topic empowerment.
So fostering a sense of agency and control over one's mental health
journey through education, advocacy and self, uh, advocates at like
(46:52):
advocates or what is it advocate like advocacy, advocacy, advocacy, advocacy.
And so advocate.
That's what we're talking about.
Advocates.
Advocates.
Jesus.
It is.
It's been a long day.
What's the day?
It's president's day.
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We've been, we've been drinking a little bit.
I'm sorry.
Nah, you're good, bro.
Go ahead.
But empowerment, so fostering a sense of agency and control over
one's mental health journey through education, advocates and self
self advocating.
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Yeah.
Well, uh, like empowerment empowerment.
Yeah.
To sum it up is pretty much you being, uh, it reminds me of like
confidence, honestly, because when I think of empowerment or an empowered
(47:55):
person, I think it's somebody that's confident, somebody that believes
on themselves or, you know, uh, recognizing the people that's, you
know, that believes in you and whatever you doing rather friend, family,
whatever it is, like, so that's more, that ties into like the support system.
Honestly, like encouragement type stuff.
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Exactly.
Yeah.
Yeah. So honestly, that's like one of the things we already covered.
Yeah.
That's one of those things we already covered.
Yeah.
Like with encouragement, be confident man and everything that you want to do
straight up, walk with confidence, talk with confidence, eat with confidence,
sleep with confidence, be a confident person, be confident in general.
When you shower scrub your body with confidence, bro.
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That was a bit far, but y'all understand what I'm saying.
You right.
Smell like confidence.
Don't smell like shit.
Yeah, exactly.
Man.
Yeah.
Now we, we've talked about empowerment, like throughout the whole episode, so
we're just going to move through that.
Sorry about that.
Oh, but we're almost done.
So acceptance and self-compassion, cultivating a mindset of acceptance towards
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oneself, acknowledging strength, and self-confidence.
Acceptance towards oneself, acknowledging strength and weaknesses and practicing
self-compassion, like it literally points to you knowing yourself, knowing
your strength and weaknesses.
Yeah.
I think that also ties in with you was telling how, you know, when you
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was talking about your body and you use a kid or whatever, that's one of
them things that you got older, you recognize it, you looked at it
holistically, right?
The big picture, okay, um, this, but I have the power to change that.
Right.
And it comes into that, you know, that what it was the title, what is the title
of the title?
(49:42):
We're talking about acceptance and self-compassion.
Acceptance and self-compassion and self-compassion, right?
You accept it, what you got going on.
And then you said, okay, I got the power to change this.
What'd you do?
You went to the gym, be compassionate.
Yeah.
You got in shape.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
You can be compassionate with yourself.
Don't be too hard on yourself.
Yeah.
You fat.
It is what it is.
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Work on it.
You skinny.
It is what it is.
Put on some weight.
Work on it.
Yeah.
You're a little slow.
It is what it is.
Go read a book, work on it.
Facts.
It is.
It's like these, and these girls out here, man, they, damn, they need to, they
need to hear that, you know what I'm saying?
They accept us, accept your body for what it is.
You wanted to be different.
Go build it.
(50:23):
Like why you could go build a booty and thighs like, but you won't go and
spend 20,000 on silicone.
I got a topic, but.
We all make our own choices in life.
I won't say that.
I won't go too deep in that, but we all make our own choices in life.
What we're trying to tell you is to, is to learn to love yourself.
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That's what it means to be self compassionate.
Love yourself.
Just because you may see yourself as a fat person, small person.
Whatever, whatever flawed that you think is your flaw is you.
This is your body that we're talking about.
Your mental.
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You should be like you, like, like you shouldn't be worried about what
other person might think, you know, have some compassion for yourself.
You know, you're, you're like this because of a certain reason.
Move past it.
That's the way we live in.
Hey, everybody always, everyone's so judgmental.
Or they want to be like somebody else.
So somebody else like this social media thing, bro, is all just a big bluff, bro.
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Ain't nobody happy, bro.
Ain't well, people are happy, but all the time, like nobody's happy all the time.
Even when there's nothing wrong with me, I'll still wake up like, you know what I'm
saying?
You know, so yeah, definitely love yourself, accept yourself, except for who
you are, what you look like, all of that.
It makes me sad that some people like see these celebrities and, and, and they
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see them as goals.
Like, I understand, like you want to be that in life or you, you know, you don't
necessarily got to be that person though.
Yeah.
People try so hard to be that person.
I agree a hundred percent.
And I guess they lose their like, like, you know, whatever, whatever genuine part
of their body, you know, they have, you know, they're, you know, they're not that
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genuine person anymore and they're just a copy of that person.
We don't.
There's no self-compassion in that.
I don't recognize.
So how do you, how do you love yourself?
If you try to mirror yourself and, you know, you try to, you try to look, you
try to be like, who are these people out there right now?
Maria, the scientists, Nicki Minaj, who are the Ruby Rose?
Everyone, everyone wants to read everyone.
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Everyone wants to be like Ruby Rose for some reason.
Everyone wants to be like Drake.
Everybody wants to be like, like all these people be yourself, love yourself,
you know, have self-compassion, build, build a name for yourself.
Right.
Because type shit, you know,
you never know like it's probably somebody looking up to you.
Right.
I know.
You too.
They looking at you and you trying to be like somebody else.
(52:58):
You know what I'm saying?
Be an individual.
Yeah.
You are the only you that will ever exist.
You are you love yourself.
So like these practice self-compassion.
That's, that's, that's what we have to say.
Except acceptance and self-compassion, love yourself and know who you are.
Know your strengths and weaknesses.
If you want to change it, you can always change it.
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You know, this life, this life is yours.
Your life is yours.
Type shit.
Literally build yourself like put out a fellas 2k or, you know, was yeah, like 2k.
Right.
Yeah.
You know, you're my player type shit.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, oh, you ain't you like your person and characters all just generic.
Right.
Your speed ain't there.
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Your Duncan ain't there.
You know, your crossover ain't there.
But over time you can build that up, but before you know it, you overall 99.
And it's
Or people that play the grant to father, San Andreas is want to take care of Carl.
Man, take care of yourself.
You want to take Carl to the gym?
Yeah.
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Nah, love yourself, man.
Love yourself.
Take care of yourself.
That's all I got to say about that.
Take care of yourself.
And we're, we're on our last key topic.
So healing is a continuous journey.
Like I said, this, this is a process as it keeps going.
So recognizing that healing is an ongoing process with ups and downs and being
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patient and kind to oneself through the, throughout the journey.
That is important.
You got to realize like this, this is not a one-stop shop.
Like, you know, I'm healed.
I'm done.
Yeah.
It's not a snap of your finger.
It takes time.
Like you have to go through the motions, you know, the process, you know,
rather, whatever it is you feeling guilty or you feeling sad or you
(54:45):
depressed or what else you got.
There's so many emotions that go through, go through the days, you
know, like emotions, sadness, anger.
Yes.
That's a, it's a process you go through.
You know what I'm saying?
Don't think because you sad now you're going to be sad for a week.
Nah, you know what I'm saying?
You understand that you sad, right?
You work on it.
Okay.
Yeah.
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We're not, we're not saying it has to be a hard process every day.
Yeah.
Yeah, they're like, that's why we have this podcast.
You know, we're here to tell y'all how, how, how to, how to live like an easier
life mentally, you know, because we all go through these things every day.
We all like, we all have to wake up in the morning.
(55:26):
We all have a job to go to.
We all have to pay taxes.
Like we all have like daily duties type shit, you know, and we am, some of us go
through other stuff like, I'm pretty sure someone's arguing with their wife right
now, probably, probably more than likely.
Yes.
That's, that's what's happening right now.
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I'm sure it's healing.
I'll say it again, recognize that healing is an ongoing process with ups and downs.
It literally never stops.
It is a process that, that keeps on going, but it doesn't have to be a hard process
at all.
I don't, I'm mostly happy throughout my days.
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I think I am too.
Yeah.
Cause cause like, you know, going, going through this life, I learned, you know, I
learned what I like, what I don't like, you know, what I need in my lifestyle.
Like even though my lifestyle isn't perfect, I'm still trying to get there.
And I think honestly, you feel like that.
Cause that's part of the, that's like lessons from like all the, the healing of
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anything you didn't been through, you know what I'm saying?
You're able to look back and be like, no, that ain't for me.
Cause you'd already been through it before.
You know how it's going to go.
Yeah.
I am the way I am because of everything that I've been through and, and everything
that people have told me, because I also listen when people talk to me.
In fact, that's a, that's a good man.
You gotta listen, man.
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You gotta listen, man.
You're going to miss out.
My girl says I got FOMO, fear of missing out.
I didn't know that was a real thing, but I hate missing out.
So I'm always listening to people and it's helped me.
It's helped me, it's helped me build me to the man that I am today.
I'm proud of the man I am today too.
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I have, I have some work here and there that I need to do, but I, like, honestly,
I can say overall, I've liked who I've become, you know, type shit.
I like who I am becoming too, because you know, like I said, it's not, it's not done.
It's a process.
This shit keeps going.
We said all the time, shit, we ain't perfect.
Huh?
Said we ain't perfect.
We ain't perfect, man.
Nobody's perfect.
We talking to y'all, but we ain't perfect.
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Nobody, yeah.
I ain't perfect.
Luke ain't perfect.
Nobody is perfect.
Nope.
Joe Biden ain't perfect.
Hell no, he ain't perfect.
Sleepy Joe ain't perfect.
Kamala Harris ain't perfect.
God damn it, Joe.
Man, I seen something funny of Joe today.
That man was eating fried chicken with black folks.
(57:52):
He's trying to get them votes.
Oh my God, we ain't perfect.
Look what he doing.
Well shit, Trump dropped some sneakers.
Trump did drop some gold ass sneakers.
They sold out.
This shit's ugly though.
We ain't perfect.
They sold out.
They sold out for some reason.
You know, life goes on.
So.
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Life literally does go on.
It doesn't stop.
Mm hmm.
That's why your healing journey never stops either.
That's part of you.
It's part of life.
That shit is part of life.
You heal every day.
I'm healing every day as I speak, you know, as we speak.
In fact.
Because we all go through things.
You know, I'm trying to.
I guess I'll disclose this personally.
I've been I've been looking for a job lately, but I found one that I think that I think,
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you know, it's pretty good for me.
That's my that has been my ongoing healing process.
I've been trying to support myself financially.
But I have made it.
I like it.
It's a process and I've made it.
So I'm very happy about that.
Your boy about to get me.
I'm proud of you.
(58:59):
Yes, sir.
Appreciate it.
But that's a little personal thing that I have the skulls, which all.
You know, whatever you can say, whatever you want about me.
I ain't shit bad to say, but I'll tell you, man, I'll heal from it.
I'll cry, but I'll heal from it.
And we're going to talk about it.
We'll talk about it.
Talk about.
Well, you know, me, I like to talk and I'll talk about it.
But closing up like our closing statement, it's we've been we've been
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repeating it lately to healing is a process.
It is an ongoing process.
It's not something that you give up on.
It's not it's not a one stop.
Oh, I've I've patched this up.
I am completely healed.
No, that's that's the wrong way to go through things.
If you think healing ever stops.
I agree 100 percent.
But, you know, go to the hospital.
I'm not going to go to the hospital.
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I agree 100 percent, but, you know, good luck to everybody out there, man, on this life journey.
Just remember, keep going.
You know, always be things from different perspectives.
You know, learn from your mistakes.
Trust you.
Trust yourself as you go through these processes.
We'll see you on the next episode.
All right.
(01:00:06):
And that's it, y'all.
We'll see you all in the next episode.
We'll catch all another time.
Peace.
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