The Healing Club Podcast Ep. 17 | Expressing Yourself

Wassup everyone & thank you for tuning in to another episode of The Healing Club Podcast. This week we wanted to talking expressing yourself, because we feel it's a big identity crisis with people today. This week we talked about expressing one's self through different measures, like therapy, hobbies, communication, etc. Let us know what you think expressing yourself means to you for your mental health!

Episode Transcript

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Yo, what's good everyone? What up? We are here. We are the Healing Club Podcast coming

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back again to you. We are back with episode 17. My name is Sean. In case you don't know,
in case you are new to the show, hope you are. And then we also have our other host
right here. Luke the Greatest, man. You already know what's good, yo. Yes, sir. And we are

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back, like I said, episode 17, once again, trying to spread positivity and mental health
awareness. We are actually having a little hard time trying to spread mental health awareness.
Like we said in the past videos, I don't think people care too much about it. We are not

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going to stop talking about it though. In fact, we are just going to find a way to make
y'all care about it, honestly. Nah, for sure. Like I was saying, this is one of them things
where it's like a real issue, you know what I'm saying? And you know, a lot of people

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be distracted by, you know, other things that, you know, it's not even issues, like, you
know what I'm saying? Nah, I hate you. Shit, it don't even have nothing to do with them,
for real, for real. This got something to do with everybody, so. It's like, there are
like, like, I don't want to say there are like the things people care about aren't really

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that important. Yeah, like, but like this is important. Mental health. No, for sure.
Because like, I hate to. Well, I ain't gonna say that. But it's like one of them things
where, you know, older people would tell you, you know, these are the important things you
need to worry about, you know, while you still young, you know what I'm saying? This is us

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and, you know, we still young and we telling you that same thing like this is what's important.
You know, all the other stuff, you know, the celebrities, cars and clothes and what else?
Video games and. But, you know, that stuff is cool, right? But this we talking about

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health, right? You need it. I grow shit, but. I mean, I guess, dude, like, do we listen
to old heads like we sound like old heads, but we young. Yeah, that is true. I guess
it's probably because we experienced it at a point where, like I said, we had like go

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actually like seek help. Right. And I think we kind of under we was able to kind of understand
like the actual severity of it. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. No. Yeah. Since we since
we witnessed it firsthand. Yeah. You said I'm glad I'm glad we we thought, you know,
we needed to tell the stories that we need, you know, that we told. No, for sure. Yeah.

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We trying to reach out to you all. We trying to do good things. No, for sure. We want you
all to do good. You know that we want everybody to do good things. All right. But we're going
to move on to episode 17 with us, you know, wanting everyone to do good things. We think.
I think I think it's because of social media, but I think people have a hard time expressing

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themselves. Probably, bro. Yeah. Social media, bro. You get caught on camera doing something
stupid or, you know, I'm saying maybe you get beat up on camera, bro. The people on
the Internet. Yeah, that's crazy. You know, I'm saying and on keyboards and them comments,
bro, they're going to eat you up. You know what I'm saying? So it makes sense, I guess.

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I feel like people got an identity crisis these days, too. No, for sure. Yeah. Nobody
want to be themselves. They just want to be like the next person. They see somebody on
it on the Internet. They're like, oh, damn, you know, a good. Something nostalgic that
I think that everybody could do right. If you feel like, you know, I'm saying like you

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are here lost and you know, I'm saying you forgot shit with Pabby was even on. You know,
I'm saying like because everybody families got, you know, historical records, you know,
awards and stuff when he was in kindergarten and, you know, first grade and stuff like
that. If you still got that stuff, go back, look through that because kids don't lie.

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You know what I'm saying? We always a kid at one point. Kids always sell the truth.
You know what I'm saying? Like kids are straight tell you like. Your breast tank or, you know,
or you need to like wash your face. You know what I'm saying? Like kids don't hold back
the truth. You know what I'm saying? Go back. You know what I'm saying? And look at your
dreams when you was a kid, man, find your roots. Yeah. Yeah. Go back. Go back to your

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motherland. Find your roots to. Yeah. Know who you are, man. Sorry. Reinsurance. Yeah.
But let me go ahead and give you all our educated research and our key topics as always. So
expressing oneself and mental health refers to the act of communicating thoughts, feelings

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and experiences in a genuine and authentic manner. It involves verbal and nonverbal expressions
such as talking openly, writing art, music and other creative outlets, encouraging individuals
to express themselves can enhance self-awareness, reduce stress, build resilience and foster
connection with others. So going back to having an identity, these are all things that are

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unique to you. You know, with the music, the art, the, you know, the other creative outlets,
you know, all that is like unique. What would you like? You know, for instance, what are
you? You know, you you like a certain thing. So, you know, I'll take cinema as an example.

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You like a certain, you know, genre of films like you probably only like horror films and
then, you know, you connect with others like that, like there's there's other people that
only like horror films to me. I'm I'm I'm a horror horror film fiend. I love me some
insidious. Oh, yeah. Yeah. I like scary movies, too. I just don't like the aftermath when

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it's time to go to bed. It's all dark when it's time to face those. And you left that
hoodie hanging on the chair and I look like I look like it could turn into the like the
dude in the dress and the wedding dress. You know, that's funny. But yeah, like like that,
for an example, like these are all unique to you, which you like.

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We're going to go into our key topics right now. So our first key topic is. Whoops, I
am so sorry. Self-expression as therapy, utilizing outlets like art, music, dance or writing
as therapeutic tools to process emotions, manage stress and promote healing. Like a

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hobby, a hobby is therapeutic, man. Like, like, yeah, like you say, you do your car
shit. That's therapeutic for you. I play my games. That's therapeutic. I mean, I meditate.
We talked about that plenty of times. Oh, yeah. Meditating a therapeutic, just talking
to somebody. That's good for your mental health, too. Yeah. It's a lot of it's a lot of. Things

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you could do, you know, I'm saying. No, it is a lot like a hobby. A hobby should be therapeutic.
It should be it should be your escape. Yeah, it's something you enjoy doing, you know,
in your free time. Yeah, really. You know what I'm saying? For sure. And self-expression

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as therapy. So what you know, what therapy you trying to heal, you know, find these things,
you know, that that they give you peace of mind, you know, what music listen, listen
to some peaceful music. Yeah, for real. Switch it up, switch it up. Listen to some more alternative
stuff. Guns, holes, drugs, man. We get tired of that, dude. Switch it up, bro. So back

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to the slow jam. You know, send a slow dance, man. You know, so you go back, go play some
chemistry or something. Yeah. Stop. Stop with all the guns, holes and drugs, man. Like this.
But if that is therapeutic to you, a more power to you. It is what it is. Dance. You know, I see people on

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TikTok be dancing. I feel like I feel like people used to TikTok as a therapeutic outlet to,
you know, just post videos. Yeah, probably. Yeah. Probably depends on the video. I've
been seeing a lot of. Cringy content. Yeah, that's kind of strange. You know, I'm saying
it's just be in your face to the but TikTok is like I appreciate the people who put out,

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you know, like educational videos, you know, try to actually teach everybody stuff,
whether it's about animals, plants, food, whatever it is. Yeah, that's good stuff.
Not for show. Dance lessons was good stuff. You know, dance lessons is cool. I took I took
I took some social lessons when I was in Italy on TikTok. Oh, no, no, no. No, that's funny.

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I used to use YouTube for my dance lessons. That's how I learned how to Dougie. I think that's how
everybody learned how to break. I was like, damn, I cannot get this damn dance down. So yeah. Yeah.
And then you got writing to, you know, some people be writing their own books or just be writing
poetry and show like that's cool. I guess that is cool. Shout out to people that write poetry.

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That's a VD. Those people should be songwriters. I think they ghost they call ghost writers,
ghost writers. Yeah, they call ghost writers. Quinn Miller. I think Quinn Miller died. Rest in
peace if he is. The original ghost writer. I don't know. Remember? Yeah. Yeah, I don't know.

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I don't know either. I think he did. But rest in peace if he did.
But yeah, that that's it with that. Find things you like. They are your therapeutic outlets,
your escape from whatever shit you're going through. Yeah, for sure. All right. We're not
going to waste no time going into verbal communication. So encourage encouraging people

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to openly discuss their feelings, experiences and concerns with trusted friends, family members or
mental health professionals. So making connections, having to have been friends, like we said in all
of our episodes, you can't go through this life alone. No, you can't. And it it takes courage,
you know, to express yourself. I always kind of had this issue, honestly, with expressing myself.

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I didn't really know what it meant. Like I always thought it meant like, oh, I'm just supposed to,
you know, cry or something like, you know, like cry out what's going on or this, this and that.
So me, I was always like a man that kind of like, you know, it is we take whatever whatever happened
that, you know, that bothered us. You know, you take it on the 10 and then, you know, you carry on,

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you know, about today or whatever. But I kind of learned that in my therapy session, except my
expression was different. Now I'm saying I know we're talking about verbally. My was
was writing. Yeah, that's how I express myself. Like in writing, it's easier for me to do it that
way. That's something that I prefer. You know what I'm saying? No, subjective. How you want to do it?

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Yeah, it is. You know, I mean, there are there are the three learning skills you got reading,
writing and listening. Oh, yeah, true. So now that, you know, that makes sense.
But yeah, I'm trying, you know, talk to people like we said, you'll find you'll find like minded
things like you like when you have an identity like you like. You talk to people that you fuck with.

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Take us, for example, you know,
we're we're we're almost like the same same person down there. Like we like we almost like the same
shit. So I guess that that that's probably what make us like good ass friends. Yeah. But, you know,
you'll you'll find that in life. You just got to experience life. You got to go outside. You got to

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got to do things, man. You can't just stay in the house. Yeah, you would. And even if it
I guess it might not. If it's your first time, like trying to express yourself, rather than to write or
talk to somebody, it's going to feel uncomfortable. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I feel like
everything's still verbal. You know, everything was verbal. Like when I first got to the when I first

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got to the command, when we was in the Navy, it was like, hey, let's go to PB one night. I was like,
I bet. And then it was it was it was just like that. Yeah, that was it.
Pause. But it all it all started with, you know, with us talking like that. You extended that invite.
And then I mean, that's how friendships start. Yeah, for sure. And talking goes a long way,

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especially when, you know, like, you know, say somebody treating you a way you don't like to be
treated, maybe to them, they think they might think is OK to do it because, you know, you haven't said
nothing about it. You know, that falls under expressing yourself, you know, tell somebody, yeah,

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this might be cool, too, but it's ain't cool with me. You know what I'm saying? Be respectful about
it. Right. And then, you know, you find that common ground and boom, problem is gone.
Mutual respect. Yeah. Mutual respect. You know. Yeah. Everyone just got to be respectful to each other,
man. Nobody got to be hard and nobody got to prove themselves or whatever. Yeah. Everybody want to be

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tough. Everybody want to be a tough. Everybody want to be a shooter. Right. Everybody want to slide.
Everybody want that UFC contract, too, for some reason. But don't nobody want to go to prison with
with, uh, you know, you know, you know, you know, you know, you know, you know, you know,
with, uh, Big Gerald when they're waiting on you, you know, Big Jerome, you know, so now you wish

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you wouldn't have done that, huh? You know, so that's funny. Yeah. It's just funny because it's like
because I see it all the time. I'm like on on Tiktok, like, you know, you see these criminals,
right? You know, they was big and bad. You know, I'm saying, you know, portraying that image, you

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know, I'm saying so they can get all this attention from everybody in the neighborhood or whatever.
Right. Hmm. Then boom. You know, shit hits the fan. You know, now you by the now you, you know,
getting sentenced in court and, you know, now you crying. You know, like how to tell me, we thought
you knew that this was the consequences. Like this was a shock to you. You're shocked. You're

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getting 30 years. Like, how are you shocked? No, don't worry. We get it. You didn't know,
but you're still about to get it. Big Jerome will be waiting on you. Yes, sir. You're going to be
his celly for the next 30 years. Actions have consequences. Yeah. Go ahead. Find out. Yeah.
What was that? What was that shit? Fuck around and find out. Fuck around and find out. You know,

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it is. This is an old saying, but how does it go? What they say? Oh, you think you Billy Badass
or everybody think they Billy Badass until they run into who Billy Badass? You know what I'm
saying? Yeah, I always feel like that's how that shit goes. Everybody bad out here while they free

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that you go in there and you meet them real bad people. You're going to realize he was a good boy.
Your mama did a good job raising you. You don't realize that.
Just mind your business. Yeah. Just stay your head down. You know, you're not like that.
But we're going to go into our next key topic. So journaling is what you do. You know, writing,

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writing things down, how you express yourself. So generally writing thoughts and emotions in a
journal as a means of self reflection, problem solving and emotional release.
So I'm pretty sure I'm pretty sure you can. Yeah. This all relates to you. Yeah, because when I
first did it, I think it felt kind of weird because one, I don't like writing. I never,

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I've never liked English class. You know, I never liked writing period, but.
You know, when she told me to do it, it's like, all right, I'm going to just do it so
she can just get off my neck. You know, I'm talking about my therapist. Yeah, so start doing it.
Whatever. And before I knew it, an hour went by and I didn't wrote like three pages worth of just,

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you know, stuff that was, you know, on my mind or whatever, you know, affected me or whatever.
And to be honest with you, it made me feel better, bro. It was almost like a.
Like a like a data dump kind of, you know what I mean? Yeah, like I'm taking that out of my head
and I'm going to put it on this paper. You know what I'm saying? And ever since then, you know,

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I mean, obviously, I still think about stuff, but.
It's no longer a problem, because once I wrote it down and got it out of my head, it was kind of like
the sun started to rise in my mind, like, you know, I was saying, yeah, we feel elated. Yeah, exactly.
Yeah, that man got high on life. Mm hmm. I feel better.

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So, yeah, if you know, that's one thing people can try out, like,
they could try it. They could try just writing things out.
You know, people have diaries for a reason. Facts.
People have diaries for a reason, but that's it on that's it on journaling.
They must talk about journaling.
Just write the right. Your problems out. Yeah. Write it out. Write it out.

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Yeah. Instead of just having a repeat, repeat in your head.
Mm hmm. Just put it on the paper and leave it there. Yeah.
All right. So our next.
Our next key topic is art therapy. So using various art forms such as painting, drawing or sculpting
to explore and express emotions, especially when verbal communication may be challenging.

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So, yeah, people express themselves through art. I feel like I feel like photography is like art, too.
Photography. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Pictures and shit. Yeah, it is because pictures can. What did they say?
A picture can tell a thousand words or something like that. Yeah. Yeah. So photography is an art.
I feel like filming is an art, too. Like filmography. Yeah. And videography. Yeah.

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Yes. Like various art forms are out there. Like people can use as outlets and therapy.
Mm hmm. You know, like we said earlier, I have a camera. I like taking pictures here and there.
I like taking pictures on my phone, too, whenever I'm out.
Mm hmm. You ever been to Sunset? Cliffs. Yeah, I've been there before. That's nice. That's nice.
It's nice. I think one time I went like the damn waves was crashing, like crashing into the cliff.

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Yeah. Oh, it's just seeing this. There's too much like the boat again. Yeah, we get now.
So not for you, the Vita, the Vita, though you ever went you ever walked all the way to the top?
I still haven't went yet, bro. I know you've been telling me to go to see the part. I still haven't
yet. We're going to go to my swear. We're going to go. You got to go, bro. You got to go.

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The park is where it's at. But I climbed all the way to the top and took a picture like
the whole landscape. That should have nice when the sun was going down, too. Mm hmm.
I felt like that was art. Yeah, that was art. Yeah, it is.
So, you know, you got you got outlets like that, you know.
But that's that's how you know, that's how you can express yourself. Mm hmm.

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I like take I like taking pictures like that. Like a like view like landscapes and views and
shit. Yeah. Yeah. Like if I see some cool shit, I'm going to take a picture of it.
And I usually like city, you know, like city landscapes, like like the buildings and
skyscrapers and shit. I like that. No, that's actually what I think that low key falls under

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was unique about you because everybody with a camera might not. You know, some people like
I want to I like to take pictures of old school cars. Yeah, that's them. You like landscapes,
you know, nice views and that's that's cool. Yeah. I like that. I like that. I like that.
That's cool. Yeah. I fuck with views. But yeah, you got that going into our next

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key topic, music therapy. So engaging in musical activities to express feelings, improve mood
and promote relaxation, often guided by trained music therapists.
Using using music as therapy, huh? By making music, making music, maybe a singer, rapper,
I guess, you know, you can put it out through music. You know what I'm saying?

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Like a song. I know listening to music is therapeutic. Yeah. Listening for sure. But
oh, man, I wish I knew how to play like an instrument or something to that. It'd be cool.
Maybe like a play like a saxophone or something like that.
I used to play the saxophone. It's great. Yeah, I tried to get into that. I was like, man,

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I'm going to do the jazz shit. Yeah, I mean, I think one thing you could do if you,
you know, if you fall into this category, you know, music music music as a form to express
yourself is, you know, if you play an instrument, you know, find somebody that's famous for playing
an instrument, maybe try to learn one of their songs or write your own. You want to know what
young people been doing lately? What? Again, them beat getting the beat pads and getting the

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MIDI pads like like what I got like like the past to make beats. Oh, yeah. And the software. Oh,
I see. That's cool. Yeah, that's how I actually sounds fun. People be doing that shit now.
Yeah. They're having raves in their rooms and that's actually sound cool. Yeah.
Now, I want to get into DJing next. DJs, DJing might be cool. Yeah, that's actually sound pretty

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good. Put your own spin on everything. Yeah. Make my own mix. You know, listen to my shit. Yeah.
But yeah, that is that falls under your category, you know, for my music makers,
you know, it's not wrong to express yourself for music. And then music anyways, I think music has

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literally has mostly been a platform of expressing. I think about it. Yeah. Maybe not so far as
this this new rap nowadays, but I think it was more maybe like in the past, far as like, you know,
like your love songs and, you know, things like that. That's that's them all expressing myself.

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This is my confession. Right. Sure. That was an expression.
That was an expression. Him and R. Kelly, same girl. Yeah.
Oh, yeah. Tomorrow, to all my people that listen to music, they could they could try to make music.

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Yeah, you could try to make a music. Yeah. Try to try and be a songwriter.
And the thing about it, it's not even as hard to do as it was back there. And I say that because
you got apps on your phone where you can download something as much as much as we talk about social
media to it is the best way to connect to people. Yeah, that is true. If you use it right. Yeah.

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Stop. Stop posting all that perverted shit, honestly. Yeah, for real, bro. Yeah, it's starting.
It's starting to turn. It's starting to turn into a cesspool for real. Like I'll be like, dude, like
you scroll and you scroll and all of a sudden you see ass in your face. It's like, dude.
Cool. Cool, I guess. No, I get this off my feet because I know it's kids on here, too.

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That's probably seen that same. You know what I'm saying? Oh, yeah. I mean, good for them.
But then again, stop poisoning the minds of our youth.
Please, we just got a BBL. Good for you. Good for you. I know. Find a good man. Right.

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All right. Find a good man. What happened to that? Yeah. What happened to that one?
That one two step plan that they had to get a BBL. Find a good man. Right. Do that. What happened?
You got to show everybody. We want to see it. We see them all the time.
All the time. Nothing special about yours. Sorry. Sorry.
As a matter of fact, they all they all starting to look the same, too. They do.

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I like they all starting to look boss to BBS getting out of hand.
Sorry, ladies. That's not a form of good formal to express yourself. Let's go get a BBL.
I mean, if you like it, go ahead and get it. We can't we can't judge you. Yeah.
Yeah, for sure. It is what it is. Yeah. I watched them on reality TV, though.
What you mean? Like there's this one chick that's on my strange addictions. She is addicted to

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having large breasts. So her her shizz is out here, bro. And she got this tool implanted in
her breast where she can just enlarge it any time she want. When she's ready. She can do it at the
crib. What is it like a pump? Yeah. Type shit. Oh, to eat his own to eat his own. That's all I'm

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saying because I I'm. Hey, that's them, though. You feel them to eat his own. So, hey, can't
can't knock that. It is what it is. Yeah. But hey, that's a form of expression.
Hey, that's their identity. They know what they like. Yeah.
So, I mean, and as long as they're they're they're OK with their mental health, then you can you

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really can't knock that they ain't hurt nobody. They just got large breasts. Yeah. But then again,
it's like, are they OK? You know, because your concerns are there. Yeah, it's like, uh,
uh, insecurities. And at that point, you know, I'm saying like at that point, I was just my

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own business. They happy. So whatever. Yeah. Stop posting it on my feed. I'm tired of seeing.
I'm tired of seeing all of that. Now I see it on reality TV. Yeah, right. Exactly. Turn it on TV.
You'll see nothing but BBS. It's annoying. Like in the beginning, cool. It was cool because,
you know, everybody and have it. It's always like that. Well, OK, that's nice. Everybody got

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BBL culture. Yeah, like
it is. But we is that time right now. It'll it'll it'll it'll run its course like everything in life.
Yeah. Remember, remember being skinny as hell used to be a used to be a trend
and women used to be thin. I don't know why, but they used to be they used to be a thing.

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It's all from what somebody is. Somebody says something intact and insecurity and it trickled
down and then somebody went and got their body done. And then all those other same women that
had that same insecurity with when they did the same thing. And then now it's
just it's become an afflux. So, you know, I'm saying if you don't love yourself, well,

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go change yourself. Man, I'm saying, yeah, love yourself, man. Yeah. I mean, and if and if you
know you got to change yourself, go ahead and do it just as long as you know yourself. You know,
you know, you're doing it for the right reason. You know what you're doing to for.
So that's that's all I got to say on that. But should next topic we

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mindfulness practice cultivating present moment awareness through techniques like meditation,
yoga and deep breathing, which can help individuals connect with their emotions
and express them more authentically. So being more mindful of yourself. So this goes and,

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you know, this goes more into knowing yourself. You got to have those conversations with yourself.
I don't even think about yoga either. I didn't think I didn't think people could do that. But
yeah, yo, yo, yoga is a good way of just relaxing and and I guess being being mindful, knowing
yourself. I think I think yoga pushes people to their limits in dancing, dancing to.

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That's that go that. Yeah. Dancing, meditation, deep breathing. Mm hmm. Yeah. You ever just sit down.
You can set the hell up and just breathe. Take a deep breath. Yeah. You ever just set the hell up
and take a deep breath every way if I get like that, that's probably this day has been. Hell,

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hell, you know, I need to sit down and really. But with myself together, you know, yeah, but
with that deep breath, all you know, all the whole day just go through your head. Yeah, like, damn,
I had a day. Mm hmm. But guess what? I'm still here. He's still here. You feel me? Yeah. And
I got tomorrow to go back at it. You know what I'm saying? Me, I used to just look forward to the

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weekend like I would always get a job where I would have weekends off. I just look forward
to the weekend. These five days of working, whatever we all will one day. OK, let me get
through this. It is what it is. Traffic the worst on a Monday. Mm hmm. Yeah. Being through the week.
You fuck that live every day, bro. Mm hmm. I hate Mondays, but I look forward to it

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because I want to be here for the next. Oh, yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like, even though I
don't like it like Mondays, I still want to be here for the next. Yeah. Yeah. If you're not into if
you're not into taking the time to meditate or doing yoga, just sit down, shut your ass up for a
minute and take that deep breath. Even if you did it a whole day or nothing. Mm hmm. Think about

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tomorrow. Think about how you can be productive or just do another whole day or nothing.
That's funny. But yeah, doing doing stuff like yoga and meditating and deep breathing,
I feel like you connect with yourself more. You want to say in here.

(32:02):
Connect with your emotions more and express them more authentically. Yeah. Definitely do that. I
feel like you'll have a clear mind. Yeah, especially just I think I think that is something
you should do. But, you know, in the future, when, you know, you go out there, you try expressing
yourself, you know, for the first time, make sure you now take your time and not really think

(32:27):
of what you're trying to say, because you know, if you rushing into it, you know, your heart racing,
you know, your emotions going crazy, you're going to start saying a bunch of nonsense. So just take
your time, you know, understand what's going on with yourself and just slowly push it out.
You know, don't lose composure. Yeah. And don't just go around to everybody, spelling your

(32:48):
feelings. We're talking about the people that is genuinely like listening to you. You know what I'm
saying? Well, this is more of the verbal side of it. Yeah. Going going back to our key topic on
verbal communication. We're talking about communicating with trusted friends. Key word,
trusted. Yeah, trusted. Yes. Somebody's going to listen to you. You know what I'm saying? And

(33:11):
accept their feedback. You know what I'm saying? And honestly, you will never know.
You know, you might be. This might be new to you, you know, expressing yourself, and this might be
a new problem you're trying to get out. But this person that you talking to may have been through
that before, you know, so they might have advice, you know, all kinds of things that can, you know,

(33:32):
help you get back to yourself. So be mindful, you know, of who you're expressing, who you're
expressing to and how you express it. And, you know, I'm saying and take the feedback, you know,
and you're going to feel good about it, man. You've been let all of that, you know, show for show.
I mean, you should also having a friend, even if they didn't go through it, you know,

(33:55):
your friend, your friend is going to be there no matter what. They don't want to lose you.
So they're going to help you go through this because they love you. Exactly. That's that's
what that is, you know. But going into our next key topic, but that's what mindfulness practice,
you know, practice, focus on meditating, focus on knowing yourself, be composed.

(34:18):
Yeah, especially with all the distractions in the world is really important that that you,
you know, stay in tune with yourself. You know, I'm saying everything is like trying to pull
us left, right, straight diagonal. You know, I'm saying the moment we wake up, your phone already
got 12 notifications and I'm saying from people is from just news. You know, I'm saying so stay

(34:40):
focused. And I'm saying that she notification, right? She notification, drops and new jeans.
Timo, Tic Toc, you know, saying people, people going live and stuff, you know, I'm saying so just
you want to focus on yourself. You want to know what I do? So there's this shit on iPhones,

(35:01):
you know, the personal tab, you know, it's not it's not it's not like do not disturb,
but it'll block notifications like do not disturb from from shit that you don't want to see.
I can you can specify also block contacts to like only certain number like only a certain
amount of contacts. You know, the ones that I allowed can can send me a notification like right

(35:25):
off the bat, like for you, like if you call, like if anybody else called, that should be like do not
disturb. But if you call it like my phone, my phone won't ring. OK, that makes sense. That's
first. Cool. I actually didn't even know that. Yeah, I thought do not disturb, which is do not
disturb. No, I like on the personal tab. Yeah, you got to do that shit, bro. I don't know.
Tab is that the personal tab is a lot of restrictions about to get activated. Oh, yeah. I learned this.

(35:52):
Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Sorry. If I if you one of those people that try to text me and I don't get to you
right away. Sorry. You're calling me going straight to voicemail. Sorry. My bad. Sorry.
Did not make the cut.
But my mind is clear. Just know that I am OK. I am OK. My mental health is good.

(36:18):
I'm sorry. That's made it sound like a dickhead, but it is what it is.
You got to move through life. It's a cold world. It is a cold world. It's a cold world where you
find out I keep seeing this shit about fucking P Diddy. That's nasty. That's nasty. That's that
diddy and make me shit. I'm glad I'm glad I can just mind my own business. Yeah.

(36:39):
Oh, what if we did a podcast on that?
Yeah. I ain't trying to talk about men. I mean.
I ain't trying to talk. I guess that is talking about me. I ain't trying to talk about no gay man.
Oh, maybe we could do like a reaction to some shit. A reaction to them.
We already react. And I'm like, yeah, man, I'll get.

(37:00):
Yeah, let me let me stop.
And I know I'm wrong with that.
But that's just like how we say, man, people ain't who they say they is, bro.
Yeah. You know, so get out the closet, express yourself, dude.
So I don't know if it's true or not, but I mean, a.
As a guy who was neither confirming nor denying it is what it is.

(37:22):
Like I said, I'm a mom, my own business, because it ain't mine.
It ain't mine to begin with. Nope. It's in God's hands.
It's in God's hand. He'll he'll take care of it, honestly.
But we're going to get back on topic.
We're going to move on. We're going to get on to our next key topic.
We're going to talk about body language and nonverbal cues.

(37:48):
So recognizing and interpreting nonverbal expressions such as facial expressions,
gestures and posture to understand and communicate emotions effectively.
So so people used to say, I mean, people still do say like.
My body language is strong, like I be expressing myself when I talk.

(38:09):
Like I make faces and shit.
I don't know if that's real.
I don't know if that's true or not.
Well, sometimes you do.
Sometimes you do not all the time.
I think it depends on what it is.
If it's something like nasty or something, you make a face.
Well, something stink, I make a face to. But.

(38:32):
But you see how I react to things that just me expressing myself.
I'm like, yeah, I mean, you ain't even got to talk.
I already know exactly what you said.
You brought up Diddy McMill.
I'm expressing myself.
I'm like, yeah.
Oh, no. Yeah.
Keep that to yourself.
When me, though, sometimes I got to say certain things because I do.

(38:55):
Well, I get this from my girl.
She said I don't really express myself sometimes.
But I think it's because.
I'm usually kind of I'm like a real like.
Mellow, like down to Earth, kind of.
You do be expressing yourself once a while should happen.
You're like this.
Yeah, yeah.

(39:17):
But sometimes, like if she say something, I kind of like
because I'll be more listening than I am.
I'm like, I'm really trying to listen to what she say.
Like, I won't make a face.
And then it kind of rub off to like, you know, you know, you're not caring or.
No, you yeah, you know, you just trying to case.
I'm just listening.
Yeah.
No, my girl be like that, too.

(39:38):
She'd like to say something. I'm just listening. Damn.
Yeah.
Yeah, like it's just we all listen to what you say.
And I was just like, I got to make a face to everything.
Hmm.
You know, so she knows that we here, you know,

(40:00):
but yeah, I naturally do that.
Like, I guess I've always done that.
My girl says when I just be making my eyes big when I get surprised.
Mm hmm. I guess this is always just low.
I'd be high.
But now, yeah, that doesn't be expressing myself.

(40:20):
You know, I get I get excited.
You know, my eyes raise up a little bit.
I'd be like, hmm, that's crazy.
But yeah, I think.
I can I think I can read body language pretty good.
Like I could tell somebody is uncomfortable.

(40:43):
Or that's that's a big one.
I can't see somebody being like uncomfortable.
You know, that's a big one.
I could pick up like with my like with my girl.
I know, I know, I know when she down in the dumps
because she was just started looking down and she just stopped talking.
Yeah, she usually just loves talking.
But when she stopped talking and started looking down, I'm like, oh, shit.

(41:05):
What did I do? What happened?
If she got uncomfortable, she'd be like.
So I said, you don't know what to do with her.
So she you know, I'm saying like all around.
She's just, you know, she's just all over the place.
Yeah, like, like that'll be uncomfortable. Like.
Well, I guess I do that, too, in like a cramped area.
If I'm somewhere because me, I don't mind going to a club,

(41:28):
but from somewhere in the room and it's like we are bunched up,
like I started to do that a little bit, too.
Like my hands go in my pocket and I kind of try to like back up.
Me too, man.
What I say, I noticed it lately, but like when I when I'm in a club,
I'm just put my hands in the pocket.
If I have a jacket on, I put it in all kinds of different pockets.

(41:49):
I cannot do crowded places anymore, man.
It's not for me. I don't like being bumped and shit.
No, me neither. I like a little bit of space.
I don't like getting that look on me, too.
I'm like, oh, yeah, I don't smell good either.
I like that shit.
People step on your shoes.
Oh, my God, man.
Spilled a drink because they clumsy.

(42:10):
It's like.
I'm good on it. Yeah, I'm.
Yeah, but I don't club as much as I used to anymore.
Mm hmm. That time that we went shit.
If your birthday, my birthday was the last time I went.
Oh, the last time I went with you was was Tibbs birthday last year.
You know, it's like September or something like that.
I think May.

(42:32):
I was in the summer. That's May.
I was barely summer. Oh, geez.
Yeah, we grew out of it to over that into over that.
Man, you get to know when I want to get go.
It's a special occasion.
I don't want to get bumped, man.
You don't get bumped during brunch.
That's why I like that.
Guys just mean mug each other.
I'm good. Yeah, no one mean mug you are brunch.

(42:54):
Yeah, I'm good.
Brunch is fun. Brunch is fun.
Yeah, because you go drunk, have fun, laugh.
I still had a rest of your day.
I like they drinking anyway.
Yeah, you don't get bumped or be mugged.
Yeah. Have fun in the daytime, bro.
So I'm going out at night. It's dangerous anyway.
Like, you know, I've been trying to tell my girl like they drinking
as the shit they drinking as the shit shit is during happy hour to. Yeah.

(43:19):
You see it on daydream.
Or she not a fan of.
I guess not.
I say we could probably put something together.
So we can have some Sam have a little brunch or some day drink.
Oh, yeah. We need to do that.
Yeah. Power to the people.
But. That ain't no wrong with expressing yourself, you know, with body language.

(43:42):
Yeah, if you make a face, make that face, it is what it is.
I do it. Yeah.
Ten out of ten, it's a natural reaction that you make anyway.
So it's not like you forcing it.
You probably don't even know that you be expressing yourself through body language.
You probably don't.
There's some some like, you know, you just make that face.
It is what it is.
Yeah. So often you don't even realize it.

(44:05):
But, you know, that's that's that's that what body language
we're going to move into the next key topic.
Digital expression.
Them keyboard warriors.
I told you there's nothing wrong with it.
So we're going to we're going to talk about it from an educated standpoint

(44:25):
that we're going to make our so like just so I get.
Yeah. Let me let me let me this is from like comments or you meet like people blogging.
I mean, let me let me read it. Yeah.
So leveraging technology and social media platforms to share experiences,
seek support and connect with others who may be going through similar challenges.

(44:46):
So, yeah, using social media in a positive manner.
You saw us. That is us.
I was just about to say that that was an example of us using YouTube
and all these other outlets, you know,
where people can listen to our audio.
By the way, you can listen to us on Apple, Spotify and Amazon and Google.

(45:08):
We own it. We own there.
But that's the you know, this is us trying to spread positivity, you know,
this is us trying to use use our use the platform in a positive manner, try to
connect with like minded individuals to I wish more like minded individuals
would connect with us so we can collaborate.

(45:29):
Now, that would be dope, man, for sure.
You know, maybe you got some advice
for, you know, people that you want to get out there,
you know, a little life lessons or whatever it is.
You know what I'm saying?
We we don't listen to push it out there for show.
But show we may we might get Mr. 912 back on here.
Mm hmm.
Mr. 912 is cool.

(45:49):
Mr. 912 is cool.
He's cool, dude.
He's cool, dude.
I got more friends that want to get on to I got to get I got to get my
my boy over to photographer on Anthony, the boy Anthony.
That's his name. That's my dog.
I got to get I got to get him on.
But yeah, that's just me using social media, trying to connect with people,
trying to everybody eats, you know,

(46:10):
everybody eats.
I you know, his people will watch my shit.
My people watch his shit.
It is what it is.
Mm hmm. That's good.
It's a good balance.
It is a good balance.
But that's how I use that's how you use social media.
You don't use it to copy and follow.
Well, what what the next person is doing?

(46:32):
Holy shit.
And it is cool to see what they're doing, though.
I like following people.
Now, I want I want I do what I do be wanting to see what some people.
Yeah, people do things or like if they got like
got like similar interests and stuff like that.
Yeah. But I'm not going to revolve my life around them.
Holy shit.
Nine. Some people try to be dumb.

(46:53):
Yeah, I'm not doing all of that.
Hmm. No.
Like, for example, as some people think it's funny, you'll probably think it's funny.
I think it's weird at the NBA games.
They have these lookalikes.
You remember the clay Thompson look like the James Harden look like?
Oh, someone they scan the crowd and just compare people to know these

(47:15):
niggas actually look like them, like they get the same haircut and wear their jersey
and get to get the same.
I like mega fans, mega fans type shit.
Oh, OK.
And and you probably know the the Drake and then Dirk.
You look like, you know, yeah, I think that shit is weird.
Yeah.
That's that's their identity.

(47:36):
That is them. That is their identity.
They they they are known to look like somebody who like who are they really though?
I get what you're saying. Yeah.
You live in your life.
To look like this person, I get what you're saying.
But that's what they're spreading to on social media,
because that's what this person doing now and the next person going to do it.

(47:58):
Come on, people, you're stressing us out, man.
Be yourself. You hear me?
They get the views, though it is kind of funny to look at, but that's that's it, man.
That's really it. That's your five minutes.
I'm I'm getting stressed.
You stress that just thinking about it.
What is the world coming to?

(48:18):
You mean to tell me you get up every single day, bro,
and you dedicate your day to look like somebody else?
Are you kidding me, bro?
Cool, right?
You got you some clout or whatever, right?
But in the end, you know, people just going to remember as you
and remember you as the dude that looked like so and so.

(48:39):
You just know not to do that.
Look like a little like so and so not somebody who was honest, worked hard,
you know, I'm saying a provider for a family, not somebody with the own platform.
Don't you feel me like the old man? Right.
You only remember as somebody's look alike.
Hmm. You bet you ain't think about that, did you?

(49:00):
Oh, yeah, man.
Express yourself, be your own person.
For real.
I see people on social media doing good things like.
I see cosplay.
I like that. And what else?
I like cooking videos, man.
I used to do that.
I used to do that on TikTok.

(49:20):
I like cooking videos, too, because food is my life, man.
I'm a foodie. I like to eat.
I wish I could have been a food critic.
I want to do that. I want to do that.
So I've been telling my girl, I want to go to the worst rated restaurants
in San Diego and see if they really they really that bad.
You're going to leave behind is review.
Yeah. I'll be like, wow, y'all really is what people say y'all are.

(49:45):
Type shit. Oh, bro, what do we do?
What did we try to new spot and did a review on?
You're trying to do that and be like, oh, this is not good for my mental health.
Well, just like.
Add into our brand.
Yeah. Yeah, we could do that.
Yeah, for sure. I was already thinking about doing that, honestly.

(50:06):
So that would be dope if you can do that.
We can do that. Yeah.
You be getting off work early anyway. So yeah.
As long as they like
doing like an inspection or something like that, I usually get.
You know, you get up.
The most.
It's March.
I don't think Niggas is inspecting.

(50:29):
We're going, we're going, we're going to find we're going.
We're going to do that.
Mm hmm. I actually do want to see if the restaurants really are as bad
as they say they are.
Oh, you want to like try like.
Yeah, they really like two stars, one point eight on Yelp, man.
I actually be researching this is.
All right, we should do that.
I think that I should be fun. Yeah.

(50:50):
Maybe not to just given our money away part,
but we'll get through that.
You know. Yeah.
The video would be worth it.
It will be the experience will be worth it, man.
Yeah, we're going to tell them to like we on TikTok.
We won't we're going we're going to shout out.
Yeah. Mm hmm.
Why don't you ever in your life eat here?
Boy, this is not good for my mental health.

(51:13):
I'm stressed.
This food hurts.
I feel my chromosomes depleted.
Oh, fuck.
Don't do it to yourselves.
That's funny.
And we're making good time.
All right, we're going to our next key topic.
Is this the last second or last?
We almost there, though.

(51:34):
Cultivating a supportive environment,
so creating spaces where individuals feel safe
and encouraged to express themselves without fear of judgment or stigma.
Group chats.
I'd be I'd be talking shit in my group test, though.
But I feel like I'd be expressing myself there, you know,

(51:54):
does that mean like a
like finding a space, finding a safe space?
So like finding.
Like, where can you find a safe space like, you know?
So for example, it's kind of funny, but it ain't funny.
Alcohol anonymous.
You know, that's a safe space for for people to have drinking problems.

(52:18):
Are you laughing?
I'm not trying to laugh.
Rest of the way you delivered it, that was all anonymous.
You got them in the meeting.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
Excuse me. But them though.
But it's not it's not a bad thing.
Yeah. Are we laughing?
No, I think it was just the way it was said, though.

(52:40):
They did kind of made kind of funny.
But yeah, no, good for you.
Good. Yeah, good. Good for you.
I mean, you know, like people go through different things, man.
I'm sorry that people that those people want you that.
But I'm glad that there's spaces for them.
You know, that's a safe space for them to heal from that, you know.
Yeah. OK. I see what you're saying.

(53:00):
Yeah. So, yeah, that's why I'm that's what I mean by
cultivating a supportive environment.
You know, people people.
Worst case scenario, people have interventions. Yeah.
OK, I know the space, you know,
because you're surrounded by people that care about you. Yeah.
And I feel like with the.

(53:24):
That's kind of hard knowing where your safe spaces is.
You know, I'm saying intervention makes sense.
All right. Usually that's all people that love and care about you.
That's doing that, you know, with you.
Anonymous groups.
Shit. Yeah.
Something more off brand, but more on topic.
Something that like like safe spaces, like like like hobbies,

(53:47):
like paint and sip like that's a safe space. Oh, yeah.
And you're expressing yourself through paint,
do painting and drinking that damn wine.
You might have a nice little date.
It's probably a nice, really good time.
Mm hmm. Mm hmm.
But, you know, those are those are the more physical spaces.
But, you know, when I was when I was talking about group chats and shit,

(54:08):
those are more virtual, but they're safe.
You know, they're around people that you that you trust.
Yeah. Same thing about the hotline that we always talk about the nine eight.
That would technically be a safe space.
That is a safe space.
That is a very safe space.
That might be the safest space. Yeah.
Oh, it's a lot of new channels out there that, you know,

(54:30):
you can involve yourself in and and, you know, express yourself.
Rather, you want to do it anonymously.
You know, you want to go to a physical group session, actually,
and introduce yourself if you, you know, if the severity is up
to this point, right, where you need that extra help, then.
You know, by all means, go do it.

(54:51):
By all means, more power to you, honestly, for you doing it.
It ain't no shame in your game. Mm hmm.
Find that safe space, find that safe space, find that knitting club,
find that paint and sit club shit.
You'll say space, that damn car club.
Yeah, you feel safe around your car, brethrens.
You feel home with them around around your allow chargers and and and and hellcats.

(55:16):
That's a safe space, though.
There's a safe space.
Hmm. Excuse me.
Oh, shit.
My safe space is my with my gaming friends, my virtual friends out there.
I love my gaming friends.
Never hop on a gang. Yeah, I love my I love my game.
My party. Yeah.
You know, I'm saying just talking to link, cracking jokes.

(55:38):
It's a good time. You know, it is a good time.
You never seen them before in my life.
We've been friends for years.
Like, oh, that's one of my friends I'm telling you about, Anthony.
The one that's going to be on here.
I had never seen him like physically in my life, but we'd be on the game.
That's why that's my guy. I got me.
We never meet up, but I'm pretty sure one of these days it will.
Oh, OK. We got him as a virtual guest. Yeah.

(55:59):
Oh, yeah. OK, cool. Yeah.
That'd be dope. I think 11, Florida.
It was dope. Florida or Orlando.
Hmm. I don't think you know what?
I do want to go back to Florida. Yeah.
But it's too damn hot.
That's the humidity for me, bro.
You go outside, you can't breathe.
You take three showers a day.

(56:20):
Really?
You know, like, why am I sweating in the shower?
I did have to take multiple showers a day living and living in the South.
It was hot.
Boy, my skin was burning.
My blood was boiling.
Everything was hot, man.
Golly, the heat index.
So the thing about living in the South,

(56:40):
they got this shit called the heat index, like like the temperature will be 100
degrees, but the heat index will be 120.
That is what it's going to feel like.
It is going to feel like 120 degrees.
So it's 120. Right.
That's how I would look at it. Basically, actually, it's a hundred.
But it feel like a hundred and twenty.
It's a hundred and twenty.

(57:00):
I should never it is hot as unbearable.
I don't miss it. I don't miss it.
I'm not.
I don't miss it, man.
That's it. It's hot.
But, you know, that's that's Georgia.
That's the South.
Yes.
One of them of some temperatures, you got to be like born and raised in your body.
You got to acclimate.
My son is not you.
Yeah. My son is not used to that shit no more.

(57:22):
Yeah.
I go there. I'll die.
I'll die. I am spoiled.
California weather spoiled me.
I'm pretty sure if you go back to Michigan, that cold going to kill you.
Oh, yeah. Because I get cold out here.
I do get cold, bro.
And this is like winter high fifties, low sixties.
Well, I'd be like, damn, it's cold.

(57:43):
Bro, I grew up 10 degrees weather, you know, ice and snow and all of that.
I was cool in my coat here.
Boy, 50 shiver.
Bro, it's like 60s right now.
And I got my hoodie on. I'm like, I got this.
And I go along.
So you
underneath it.
That's funny.

(58:06):
That man will die in Michigan.
Oh, yeah. I know.
I'll see y'all in the summer.
My fault. All right.
But we don't move on to our last key topic.
We dare, man.
And it's the most important one.
Seeking professional help, so encouraging people to reach out to mental health
professionals for guidance and support and exploring and processing their

(58:30):
emotion in a therapeutic setting.
So.
Well, you know, going back to your your panic attack,
and I'm pretty sure you didn't know what was going on at the time.
I had no idea.
Yeah, so I'm pretty sure, like.
Like you like your emotions was all over the place.

(58:52):
You know, it's confusing for you.
But it was I'm pretty sure like you needed like you needed to seek out that
that that professional help, though.
Now, facts, because that was like one of them experiences where it's like.
Well, it was a first time experience,
so I honestly I didn't know what it was.
I heard a panic attacks before I even met people who said they have panic attacks.

(59:14):
I ain't never not me.
You know, I was that guy.
I couldn't be me.
I never have a panic attack.
Boy, was I wrong.
I had one. It was real.
You know what I'm saying?
So I encourage everybody, you know, if you experience one,
you know what I'm saying?
If you haven't reached out to seek help from somebody, then you should.

(59:36):
You know what I'm saying?
Especially if it's
like a happening on like an occurrence, I guess,
or if it's consistently happening, then you definitely should reach out
to somebody, you know what I'm saying?
So you can get some advice, tips, you know what I'm saying?
Learn some tricks to, you know, to stop that or overcome it.
You know, when it's happening,

(59:58):
you know, we want the best for all of you.
Yeah, for real. Know yourself, man.
You should want the best for yourself, too, honestly.
Yeah. If you know yourself, you can you can stop these panic
attacks from happening or, you know, you can you can just stop them
from from happening at all, period, you know, I'm sure like they won't happen
ever again because you know yourself.

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But yeah, man, if you need it, get it, get the professional help.
But that's that's it for today, man.
We are over the time.
Excuse me. We had a lot to talk about with expressing.
But overall, fostering a culture of self-expression and mental health
promotes emotional well-being, strengthens coping skills

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and enhances interpersonal connections,
ultimately contributing to overall psychological resilience and recovery.
Hope you learned a lot from that.
I learned I learned I learned a lot from that a little bit.
Yeah, I enjoyed that.
I enjoyed that talk a lot, a lot.
That was a good talk, but we have reached the time limit.

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Appreciate y'all being with us this week.
We will catch on next week for episode 18.
We won't we don't keep coming out with these episodes.
And I'm telling you, we can say it for real.
And I mean, mine is the vacation, but still right.
We didn't miss that one week.
But yeah, like I said, we're not going to stop talking about mental health.

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We just go make you all care about it.
God damn sure.
But that's that for that piece.
We'll catch y'all later.
The Gator.
I didn't know we was talking that much.
What you mean?

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All right, I mean, let's get it.