July 10, 2024 • 61 mins
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All right, damn, we here.
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We have started.
This is it.
Welcome everyone.
Episode two.
Episode two.
Episode two is season two.
But I feel like I want to keep the bigger number you want to you want to call this episode
20.
20, bro.
Episode 20.
20 episodes in.
We are in 20 episodes.
20 episodes in.
It's crazy, bro.
20 episodes.
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This is episode 20, y'all.
Let me reintroduce ourselves.
My name is Sean.
This is Luke the greatest man you already know.
Yes, sir.
And I know I got my name wrong.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I know I got my hair done.
I look a little different now.
I got them twists, man.
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It was good.
Yeah.
And I had to go on our story, get some of our stuff too.
I know how y'all see it.
Most definitely.
It fits.
So, I mean, to the people that are out there listening, because I know we got our people
that be listening to it on the Apple podcast.
Go ahead, check us out on YouTube too.
But yeah, I'm wearing the fit.
Oh yeah.
Nah, I definitely like the shirt, bro.
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It, I like the colors and the diamond right there in the center.
It really pops, bro.
Like, it dry your attention for sure.
Nah, for real.
So yeah, go ahead.
Hit the stow.
Links in the description.
Shit.
Look around the store too.
We got a discount code in there too.
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So it's some swag out there.
I'm trying to expand the store too, but enough of that.
It's time for us to get into what we really be talking about.
And that is, that is mental health, mental health, mental health.
Yeah, mental health, bro.
We really, we really practice what we preach, man.
Take care of yourself.
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Today we want to, we want to talk to those that I know, I know, I know it's looking shaky
out there for people.
The dating, the dating site is a cesspool now.
I don't know what you, if you want to say this generation or I'll just say these days,
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the dating game can be a little, it's a little wicked out there.
It's wicked.
A little scary, man.
It's wicked.
So I remember we talked about relationships in one of our past episodes, but we're going
to bring it back and we're going to talk specifically about dating and we're not going to bullshit
either.
We ain't going to try to preach to y'all.
We're going to tell y'all how it really is.
Not for sure.
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I'm going to just share my experiences with y'all.
I'm going to just tell y'all how I see it.
I'll tell y'all, you know.
This shit's spooky.
How it made me feel.
This shit's scary indeed.
But without further ado, time for us to get in.
But before we get in, you know, we always have a message out there to those, to those
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that are hurting out there, you know, the ones that, that are that close to just, just.
Right.
If you feel like you right there on that edge, man, or shit, you feel like you passed that
even getting close to it.
Always remember about 9 8 8.
They there for you, bro.
Text call.
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You probably can Google it.
You probably email them if you wanted to, but text our car, bro.
Text them.
I know, I know it's hard to talk on the phone.
I really don't.
I really don't talk on the phone.
I try to try to.
I see people call me and I'll look at it too.
I'll wait for the call.
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Some of us don't like talking on the phone.
It is what it is.
So that's why they got that texting option.
But there is always somebody out there for y'all, man.
Don't give up because life is life is worth living.
It is even even though the dating pools is a is a is a is a cesspool.
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It's also good to get into if you if you got yourself a, you know, a good one.
It's a jungle out there, man.
It is.
It is.
That's pretty much straightforward.
I guess it's a jungle out there.
You got to be careful, bro.
You know, especially because me like I've met people that I cannot put this, you know,
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it's like I'm one of them people or a person that won't that likes the title, but not like
the responsibility.
Oh, my God.
That makes sense.
Yeah.
You know, it's like, OK, like you want to be a wife or you want to be a husband, right?
Like do you actually want to be that or does it just sound nice?
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Like yeah, like, like, be like, be who you want to be.
Like, yeah.
That is what you preach type shit like I ain't nobody trying to hear like you want to stand
the third like, like actually, I don't know, man.
Like that's that's difficult because I feel like people just be watching other people
monkey see monkey do type shit.
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No big facts.
They'd be they'd be watching them celebrity.
They'd be one that that celebrity relationship and dating nowadays and really the same like
or it's not as it all seem to be as like meaningful as it was like prior to like, you know, and
technology and evolve and all of that, you know, because it it hit.
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All right.
Let me put them.
OK, say you get a text from somebody and they like.
I just wanted to tell you that, yo, I miss you and I'm thinking about you.
Yeah, it feels good.
Right.
That's sweet.
All of that.
Yeah.
Right.
Now let's do the same thing.
It's not this person came to you to tell you face to face like, you know, I just want to
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tell you like, yo, I miss you and I love you.
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
It hit different.
You think you think you think technology has changed people's efforts?
Yeah.
Yeah.
People then got lazy and then.
Yes.
It's definitely technology made day and just less appealing, like it's less feeling in
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it.
You know what I mean?
I don't know, man, because it ain't nothing to pull up.
It really ain't nothing to pull up if you just say the word.
Nice.
Yeah.
But I feel you on the effort because people are lazy.
Like you got to want to see the person.
Mm hmm.
Well, like, I feel like I feel like I know what you're talking about because like you
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feel like people back then were more traditional.
Yeah.
Put more effort into into who they was dating at the time.
Yeah.
Or like, say like this, right?
I'm bringing back that example.
I just you you get a text from, I don't know, somebody you've been talking to, right?
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Rather rather man or female, whatever, right, and they'd be like, hey, I miss you.
Yeah, like, hey, I'm thinking about you.
I just want to let you know that I miss you, you know, blah, blah, blah.
Feel good, right?
But the thing with that text is you don't even know if that person even means it.
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You know what I mean?
You don't think of genuine?
No, it could be genuine, right?
But then again, it could just be something that they just, you know, just texting to
you.
Yeah.
I asked to to somebody come and tell you, you know, look in your eye and then send it
to you.
Yeah.
Right.
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I'm a different person.
If if if I don't love you, I'm not going to say it.
Oh, no, no.
That's you know, that's how I am.
Like it takes time for that stuff.
Yeah, just but just I'm just speaking on like the dating thing.
Dating thing.
OK.
Yeah.
Like the text and all that be sweet.
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Right.
But then again, like good morning.
It's easy to do it.
You know, like most of the time, say you type a few letters, it's going to spawn it for
you.
You know what I mean?
You just send it.
But I feel you, man.
But I feel like I feel like it's convenient because look at your daily life, bro.
What are you doing?
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What time do you wake up?
Do you like in your daily life, do you have time to just stop?
And then and then like actually, I mean, I hate that.
I hate to say it that way.
That's why that's why, you know, cohabilitation.
I love that shit.
Yeah, because I just get to see my girl when I get home.
Yeah.
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But like it's difficult when when you don't live together.
No, no, I guess the convenience will turn people lazy.
Yeah, because technology to have does make everything convenient.
And I can't even be a hater that because I'm a proud supporter of convenience.
Like, I love convenient.
Boy, I love me some Uber Eats or some door that is some of the most convenient shit,
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bro.
If you like like order door does like often, bro, like just go to like your recent orders,
bro, and it just add up all of that money that you spent, bro.
You're going to regret it.
What?
You know, they'd be taxing, bro.
Like I was looking at the menu on on Uber Eats one time.
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I was like, man, that that cannot be the price.
I was on the house.
I was drunk and I want a check in the box and they got the ten dollar box.
That shit was twelve fifty on Uber Eats before tax.
I said, how?
This is a ten dollar box.
Maybe I'm charging times change, bro.
I don't see subway promoting that five dollar foot long no more.
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Let alone Little Caesar's promoting that five dollar hot and ready.
I don't even think Wendy's got that that that that for for for.
For for.
You're going to be full of a ten.
Oh, man, I'm surprised that shit ain't for for 20.
It's yo to eat these days like 20 bucks for a meal, bro.
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I mean, but in California, I don't know about everywhere else.
You want to know something interesting?
It's something just popped in my head because we was talking about that dating thing not
too long ago.
But, you know, everybody talk about, oh, you need to find you a real man or a real woman
or this, this and that.
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I got a question for that.
Like where are you looking for these people at?
Right.
Because I'm just saying, like, quality.
Yeah.
You know what I mean?
Like, I don't feel like people be like they would go, you know, to the club or some pick
up a girl or pick up a guy, whatever, and then be like, oh, this person turned out to
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not be shit.
It's like, you know, not saying every time be like that.
I'll tell you this right now.
If you're looking for love in the club, that's on you.
You're going to find it in the club.
You invite all that in.
That's on you.
Ain't nobody at the club, bro.
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That's all you're going to find.
But if you get busy at the club, then, hey, I mean, you should date fast.
Like you know, you'll have your casual encounters and stuff like that.
But yeah, no, looking like long term, speaking wise, no, if you're looking for love in the
club.
No, you probably won't find it because usually I stop listening to these singers.
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I don't nowadays you go to the club.
Like we talk about this all the time.
I get everybody just standing there.
So like you just go on for attention.
I was just standing around and get drunk and hit their vapes.
No, that's it.
But they just stand around, get drunk off them.
Twenty dollar drinks.
Mm hmm.
The mongolans do hit and just hit the vape.
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I remember like I told you about the I told you a story about a girl that I had met from
the club and I ended up getting like, remember, I got assaulted and I'm going to whip you.
Yeah.
See, that's don't.
No, the single activities.
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Right.
You go looking for somebody in a club is single activities.
That's what you're going for.
And you're going to find out why they were single outside in the first.
I'm sorry.
I'm pretty sure you let you ladies are lovely.
I'm not talking shit.
I'm not talking about the ones that disappear when the lights come on.
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The good ones don't stay, though.
No, it was all state of clothing.
I say that.
I'm sorry.
I mean, maybe.
I don't know.
I don't know.
I wouldn't know.
I wouldn't know either.
I just know I have I have my good one waiting for me at the crib right now.
Yeah, I got a good one, too.
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So if you got one, just choke.
We're going to ride this wave out because they know outside, bro.
And also, I mean, in fact, I mean, but it's all about what you want to.
So I think I think people are confused when they go back to it like watch these celebrities
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because I feel like I feel like people want something, then and then their choices get
influenced by whatever whatever I see, because everybody wants to be like everybody wants
to be like Drake and Kendrick and and LeBron and and and who else?
Oh, Jimmy G. Jimmy Jimmy G be knocking out porn stars.
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Going crazy, buddy.
Everybody want to be what?
Like bachelors?
I mean, you talking about like that bachelor life?
Yeah, I think I think people want that.
But I feel like there are people are so conflicted with these choices.
I feel like people just not real with themselves.
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And that's where that's where dating like before you start dating, you got to you got
to come to realization with that.
You got to be real with yourself.
Like, what do you want?
Like, don't don't don't drag your confusion into, you know, don't don't invite another
person in and then be confused with that person.
Then that person confused with you.
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The hell?
No, that was a true statement, bro.
That was a true statement.
That was a true statement, bro.
Like if you're going to do something, bro, you know, understand what it is that you're
about to do and then actually do it.
I told I told people this all the time, you need to take care of yourself before you try
to take care of someone else.
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Right.
Now you then again, now you what?
It's not as two people jacked up.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You you don't you don't mess this girl with this dude up with your bullshit.
So it's a sort of BS out if you have any BS facts.
But like, yeah, you just got to be real with yourself.
And I'm pretty sure people are so so scared of peer judgment and shit.
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Yeah.
I mean, I don't that is true.
But I mean, shit, the world, everybody's like super judgmental, bro.
Like the moment something happens to somebody and it makes it social media and goes viral,
like they just cook.
Yeah, it's cooked.
I see them lights racked up to the lights and the replies.
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The replies begin crazy.
You become having crazy likes to not an Internet is vicious, bro.
Yeah, the Internet is ruthless.
You have like and I feel I feel like it leads back to one of the things I always preach
about.
You always have to have a thick skin.
Yeah, which I don't really get why people do that for real.
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What like.
Just show off on show out on the Internet.
Just cut up touch it.
Yeah.
I said that's that's a sickness, man.
They just want that thing.
That's a sickness.
Outboy that cloud cloud is a disease.
I want to cloud the diamond chains and that shit don't even come.
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You'll you'll get you'll get 50,000 likes and then you'll still have to pay bills and
rent the next day.
In fact, just so like it's all like I said, you have to carry your priorities to yourself.
I mean, that's all about what you want, though, if that's to use his own for his own man.
More or less.
Well, one thing I know, people have the vices.
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Yeah, yeah, everybody did.
But more or the story about be yourself, man.
Be true to whatever it is that you want to do.
You're going to do something to it fully.
Don't half ass and shit.
And then now you look stupid.
Be 100 100.
Like for you, like like be real, like, I don't know, like.
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I guess people have a tough time with being real, too.
Yeah.
And I don't get it.
You know, I guess I guess it all comes to an acceptance of yourself.
Mm hmm.
Is it?
I don't know.
Can can you see why people are just not real with themselves because they want to just
be accepted by everybody else?
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Hmm, and that how you all over the place, because now you trying to like put on a show
for people and make people like you and stuff like that.
You ain't going to generate no real friends doing that.
You know, a lot of niggas is sheeps.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You'll you'll see it.
You'll see it in like celebrities, too, like like the groupies that they have and shit
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like I'm thinking of the sheeps.
They just fall on the herd.
Not facts.
They get inherited.
The facts of celebrities are shepherds.
But I keep bringing them up because people really look up to them, man.
And I and I understand like they are a basis for, I guess, success, whatever, whatever
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you view as success as.
Yeah, like for me, cars and yeah, the fortune and all that shit.
Yeah, that could be the ultimate success like.
How can I say this?
Like.
It's like it's like it's like.
Expendable it's not it's not it's not it's not there forever, you know, touch it.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Success is really as big as you make it, honestly.
Like if you have success to you is, you know, being this multimillionaire, you know, all
the girls, all the cars, all that.
That's success to you.
That's not the standard, you know.
Yeah, that's to you.
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No, so the celebrity he's saying about them celebrities and all that, like that's not
a standard at all.
So don't be like stuck.
You know, I got to show off.
I got to get people to like me.
You know, I got to get on TV and all of this.
Go up on Instagram and all that.
No, that's not a standard, bro.
You want to know what's toxic, bro?
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For dating that only fans should.
Oh, boy.
That shit is so toxic.
Boy, like I always see them videos and like and I got to I tell my sure it is all the
time like because it's a because me, I generally believe it's more good than bad in the world.
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You know what I'm saying?
It's just a lot of good stuff happens, you know, so consistently, you know, it's like
while reported, right?
I report all this good shit.
Let's put the bad shit right and just blow it up and make everything worse than what
it is.
Right.
But this I saw my girl like because because I believe it's a lot of good women.
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I believe it's a lot of good men out there, too.
And I'm like, this why a lot of people don't be taking women's series, in my opinion, is
because of these some of these women that's going viral and talking on all these podcasts
is like sounding ridiculous, probably talking crazy, bro.
They be talking crazy.
I was like, you know, these type of girls make all women look bad, bro.
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They be talking crazy.
And I understand, like they all comfortable with the sexuality and shit and this and the
third.
But y'all.
Yeah, but I didn't hear some wild stuff.
Yeah, like I know cap, bro.
I think I think I think we forgot to draw a line at some point.
Yeah, it's like big facts, bro.
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Like we need a big line.
Like we need to backtrack this line to start some years back.
It is getting out of control, bro.
It's like I don't even think like y'all know, you know, sent all this wild stuff, you know,
everything has a chance to go viral.
Right.
So you really should be mindful of the things that you say, you know, because you just might
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go viral.
Right.
And my biggest concern is just like, dude, it is kids, you know, they got iPhones, bro.
They're new brand new iPhones, just like we do.
Right.
Going through TikTok, just like us watching those same videos, bro.
Like I saw a video of this girl.
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They did not put no warnings or nothing on it.
Listen, bro.
Like, man, I saw this video, right.
This girl, she like graduated kindergarten or something, bro.
And she like came across the stage.
I don't know if I showed it to you, but she came across the stage and they asked her,
it's like something.
What do you want to be or will you grow up or something?
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This little girl response was, I want to be pregnant.
Did she say by who?
No.
Oh man.
As a kindergartner, bro.
That kind of.
Oh, kindergarten.
Yes.
She was a kindergartner, bro.
That's crazy.
I didn't even hear that part.
My fault, my fault, my fault.
Yeah, you get it, but I don't even.
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My daughter better say she want to be a princess.
It's time.
It's time for Disney movie.
It's time for child protective services to come take them kids.
I'm telling you, man, and most people might not agree with me.
I feel like it is necessary.
Them kids need to be taken away.
A good example.
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Some people know them to Chris, Sean, Chris, Sean, baby.
So did you hear about Chris on going to jail?
So she had a warrant out for arrest and then she went to Blueface's court case and then
she got arrested there.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
So we're Blueface in jail and Chris on in jail.
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Who taking care of the baby?
And one of her friends is.
So I'm like, man, there's got to be a point in time where we cut this crap.
I'm telling you, man, like, that's not right.
Oh, my God.
That's not right.
And people are going to agree with me, but I feel like the kid would have like a better
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chance of going to a better home in the system.
I see what you're saying.
Like more like you think the baby probably deserve better parents.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You know, but then again, there's that chance that they don't get picked.
You know, they just stay in the home.
They stay in the system.
And that also sucks, too.
But I don't know, man.
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You see Chris, Sean, what she'd be doing on the Internet to like she like her her her
life is public and people follow that shit to more power to you.
You know, I ain't here to judge.
Is that the right environment for that kid type shit?
I don't know.
But those also qualities you got to look for in a relationship to like this.
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What I'd be this kind of kind of bring me back to that technology thing.
Like I don't.
Like we don't know them off camera.
Yeah we don't.
So I like this could just be just a consistent show for all I know.
I don't know.
I got a lot of stuff.
But it but it's sickening though because they stay on social media.
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They stay on the camera like their life is all on that shit.
So like the reality stars, bro, like, you know, they are they are out there 24 hours.
Oh, yeah, they got a reality show.
Yeah.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
I got to watch that.
That is.
Yeah.
Baddie, baddie shot o'clock, man.
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We need some man.
I need to give me another can.
We ain't got no look at the day.
It is what it is.
We got to slow down, bro.
Like y'all seen us barbecue for four for sure.
I hope you all had a hell of a good four for July, by the way.
That's why we made we made too much me too much.
Oh, too much.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Pause.
But no, did he?
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The lamb chops and ribs, some some things, some steak burgers.
I tried to throw the shrimp on there, but the shrimp, it wasn't him for me.
I'm sorry.
I had to.
We all.
We all had to do that.
So one time I was I was barbecue with me and my girl's family.
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It was fucking with my king prawns.
We're going to have to do that next time.
And I and the first time I had king prawns was when I was in Italy.
Like they had them shits grilled.
Oh, and they had that lemon juice, too.
Oh, yeah.
That's okay.
Yeah.
That's like is that why you brought it up last time?
He's like, oh, he probably should use lemon juice.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Not a lemon juice hit that lemon juice is a is a no hitter quitter.
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But definitely.
Big shout out to everybody else.
And you know, in them relationships, man, you know, you got you somebody down for you
and all of that.
It's tough.
Shout out to you.
Big shout out.
It is tough.
It's definitely tough, especially like but at the end of the day, it is worth it.
It is.
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It is worth it to go home to somebody that's.
You know, it's just going to love you.
You know, sir, I love my girl.
I know she wants to shout out to my girl.
But yeah, that's it.
She's like, you better say that.
But now I told her I was doing an episode about she said she going to be watching this
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shit.
But yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah.
Back back on topic.
It is tough dating, man, because personalities is hard to match personalities.
It's hard to be, you know, somebody lives a one way life differently than you.
And you know, you either conform, you talk about it, you either can, you know, combine
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your lifestyle or maybe your lifestyle.
You know, they might see it as better type shit.
All that comes, you know, with communication, you got to talk to your partner.
Definitely communication.
Like for sure, like even when I mean, for me, like I had to I had to learn to kind of
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like.
Relax and calm down.
That may be going zero to one hundred, huh?
No, like I don't be like yelling or like screaming and like that.
But sometimes like if I'm not like relaxed or calm and I'm like feeling some type of
way about something and I'm trying to express it, it might come out like I'm I might be
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coming like a little too aggressive, not knowing it or whatever.
But you know, you got built up emotion, you know, obviously.
Right.
But I learned to like kind of calm down, relax first, you know, kind of think about it over
in my head exactly what bothered me and what I want to change.
And then I kind of know I'm able to deliver it smooth right now.
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We can work out and compromise whatever needed to be.
No, that's that's right, man.
Got to talk it out.
How did you learn that?
I'm dealing with my girl.
That that every every I told my girl, she I learned this odd, you know, that I yeah,
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I every day and I am that was because the experiences I had back then.
I'm like, man, I'm not going to do that shit again or man, I'm going to improve that shit
or not.
Big fact, yeah, everything comes with experience, man.
But you I guess I guess you just got to go out there and date man.
Life is fleeting.
Like you can like you can either have short term relationships, long term relationships,
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medium and like what I'm looking for.
I need a wife.
I need a successor.
That's what I'm looking for me.
But you got to know what you're looking for.
I know I know what I want.
I'm type shit, so I guess I guess that's why I'm just so comfortable in what I do and how
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I carry myself.
I just know what I want to do.
Stop all that cheating, bro.
Yeah, you got to stop that shit, man.
Be deadass like, why would you do that to that person, man?
Why would you do that to your partner, bro?
Like look, like you know how them videos be like, like I don't know why they approve these
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messages these people be putting out, but they just think that shit is, you know, how
they'd be like, that'd be like, oh, we may not allow to cheat or whatever, but the guy
is or something like that.
Like like for me, and I'm sure Sean as well, like that should go both ways, bro.
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You know, be loyal to that one person, bro.
Like that's how it goes.
Yeah.
And there's another example too, like people always try to find gray areas.
Like for example, I know you hate social media, like, and I don't know if it ever happened
to you, but like, you know, type shit like some random shooter would just hit you up
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out of nowhere and you would reply back type shit.
So I'm watching like a good example of that.
I'm watching 90 day fiance.
I'll be on a reality TV show.
Shout out to my girl again.
She put me on that shit.
That shit is so interesting, man.
But 90 day fiance in a nutshell is these people, they get, you know, they get into this relationship
and they have 90 days to, to marry.
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And there's this one couple, there's this dude named Rob from LA and he's dating this
shorty from the UK and I forgot her name, but whatever.
This nigga Rob was cheating on her.
He was texting another girl on social media.
He was like, texting hella girls type shit.
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And I guess that is cheating because why, like, why are you, why are you looking for
other shit, you know, out there?
Because you had, you had the intentions.
If you thought of it, like, you know, you had the intentions to, to, to carry it out
too.
If she was around type shit.
Not a fact.
It's like, what would you do if he wasn't caught?
Yeah.
And so he's trying to play it off.
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Like it wasn't cheating.
And niggas would agree to, niggas would agree with that shit too.
Nah, bro.
Like I can't agree with that shit.
Like you had the intention.
Like if, if, if that opportunity was there, you would have taken it.
Because it's like, you got to look at it from the other perspective too.
Like what if, okay, you wasn't the person texting, but your girl was and you caught
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her then what?
You know, you're going, you're going, if it was you, you know, it, it wasn't cheating.
Right.
But if it was her, right, you going to accuse her of what?
Cheating.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
It's like, bro, it got to balance, bro.
Yeah, man.
Keep everything across the board.
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If you can't do it, I can't do it.
Flat out.
Be for real.
Yeah.
Don't.
Yeah.
I hate seeing that shit too.
Like that used to be a thing.
Like they say niggas can't cheat type shit and niggas can cheat.
Yeah.
You definitely can.
I get, I get, I get my, I get my grandma location.
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She can add that shit.
I don't, I don't be nowhere.
I told her I'm going to just be at this podcast.
I'm going to, I got to go to the beauty store too.
I'll see these twists.
I get, I got to get them retwisted type shit.
So I need to get, I need to get the bands, you know, I need to get my shit done.
That shit rough.
Yeah.
I never see you got a cap on.
I never see the do rag on it.
My hair was rough.
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I was going to ask, but you know, I, I didn't want to put it out there, but I remember we
were swimming.
I was swimming in the pool.
You actually got in the pool?
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's why I didn't want to get that pool.
That chlorine do damage to my hair.
My hair too sensitive for that shit.
Yeah.
But yeah, but like cheating, man.
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So it's not cheating, but there's this thing called swinging.
Like I'm pretty sure you, you heard of it.
Like swingers swingers.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Find somebody like that.
Like, oh no.
Yeah.
At first you scared me, bro.
I didn't know where you was going with that.
No, I'm not swinging.
But no, no, no, no.
I'm not like you swinging or whatever.
I'm thinking like, I'm thinking of you about to bring up an app or some shit like that.
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An app.
Swinger app is crazy.
I mean, I mean everyone got their own day and that's, but yeah.
Well, yeah.
Find a swinger.
Like if you have to, if you have to, if you can't be like, if you can't just, you know,
stay 100%.
I mean, like, you know, there are, I guess people have their definitions of faithful,
but like my, my, my definition of faithful is, you know, if you can't stay a hundred
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percent faithful to this woman, then be a swinger.
Yeah.
No.
I mean, be that, be that, you know, be that definition of faithful.
Like, yeah.
Like, so just across the board, like, I don't think people know that there is swingers.
Yeah.
Look that up.
If you, you know, you can love this girl, but you still want to, you know, go outside
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and you know, do other things with other girls.
Yeah.
You know, find, sure there's some women out here that might be okay with it, you know,
but I'm sure they're going to want them same.
And that's, yeah, that's a swinger.
She going, she going, she going want her back hand.
Exactly.
So, you know, if it's across the board and it works for y'all, Hey, babe, babe.
Yeah.
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I gotta be equal with that.
There you go.
This is 2024.
So I'm trying to bullshit people.
Yeah.
But yeah, that's, that's, that's, that's my take on cheating, man.
You leave that shit alone.
Yeah.
Cheating is cheating, bro.
Cheating is cheating.
Regardless.
There's no work around on that.
That, that is tough in a dating pool, man, but it's a lot of other tough shit.
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Like we, we already talked about social media.
I mean, like, did we talk about it like in depth?
Like I didn't hit it like I, like I really wanted to.
I got a question.
How would you feel about your girl posting like body pictures and shit on IG?
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Like, like thirst trap type shit, but yeah, I want to like it, but you know, she don't
respond to, you know, none of the comments, none of that.
She loyalty for show, but would that bother you?
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Cause I be, I seen some shit the other day and a bunch of guys was commented on it.
It was like, this is that question.
And I was, the girls was like, oh, yeah, I'm just insecure.
It's like, I don't think it's insecurity.
I think it's more of like, uh, you know, this is a boundary.
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So so yeah, yeah, this, this I have a problem because it puts men in a very tight spot because
we want to be supportive.
Exactly.
But that shit comes off as disrespectful to us because all them niggas is commenting.
I ain't trying to see no niggas on my goddamn girls picture.
I'll comment back.
Oh bro.
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Nah, that shit will piss me off.
And I don't want to know guys to be looking at what I get to see on my own.
Like I'm supposed to see that by myself.
Yeah.
You know, I don't want everybody else seeing that shit.
Yeah, man.
Like exclusivity.
I'm your man type shit.
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Like that's it for like, that's it for me.
Like, you don't see me posing my body out there for everyone else to see.
All right.
I got another question for you too.
All right.
Now let's put, we're going to use your girl as an example.
Okay.
Okay.
That's cool.
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So and then for me, I use my girl.
That's all right too.
All right.
All right.
So she, so when she want to go to this Chris Brown concert.
Oh my God.
Cause she really would.
That's a perfect example.
Actually she want to go backstage with Chris Brown.
Oh hell no.
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And do the meeting greet.
Oh hell no.
And then you find the photo of Chris Brown, like taking a picture, how you would take
a picture with your girl.
You talking about, what are you talking about?
I told my girl, Hey, I hope I never see a picture of you out there.
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I'm sorry.
I already, we already had that conversation.
I said, yeah, it's cooked.
It's cooked.
It's wrapped.
I'm sorry.
It's over with bro.
Like, and not even on no insecurity bullshit, right?
You just shit on me and everything.
Right.
And plus I ain't nothing really to be insecure about anyway.
Like we all know Chris Brown, Chris Brown, if he wants your head, the chances of him
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getting her are high.
Right.
So it's already a loss, right?
You ain't going to be him.
Yeah.
But it's more of respect.
It's respect.
It's respect.
It's a line you got to like, you can't like, you've got to learn how to draw a line somewhere.
And like we already talked, we like, we talked about that earlier.
And to the ladies that like have a problem with that, right.
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Okay.
Like I say, it flipped the perspective.
That's a man go see Rihanna.
He paid that thousand dollar fee and he all up on her taking a photo.
How he would take it with two.
Then what?
Type shit.
Yeah.
Put this shit on the other side.
Keep it across the board, bro.
That's disrespectful.
Right.
Flat out.
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I like that shit.
Flat out.
And then now you got to see your dude and Rihanna being posted through all social media.
Oh, Rihanna married, ain't she?
Yeah.
She married.
Who?
What else girl?
Jhene Aiko?
Is she single?
I just don't want to use Rihanna because she married and all that.
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But okay, we get it.
We get the story, right?
Let's say Rihanna single, not married.
Let's say that.
I like A$AP Rocky though.
That's why I really want to use Rihanna.
A$AP is cool.
Jhene Aiko.
You must not like Big Sean if you wanted to talk about Jhene Aiko then.
Oh man, here, Detroit natives too.
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Yeah, but they broke up.
They broke up a long time ago.
They still on and off.
I don't even know if they're on right now.
It is what it is.
Shout out to on and off relationships.
That shit tough.
Yeah.
I don't know how y'all do it.
Once it's off, it's off for me.
I got to move on.
I got to move on, man.
Because one thing I know about life is that shit don't stop.
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But I feel like if you're going back and forth, like you're trying to stop time, but that shit
can't like that shit going.
You can't waste time.
If that shit did not work the first time.
That's one thing I learned.
Like going through these relationships, you know, in my experience, like because I used
to go back and forth and that shit just is really literally used to waste time because
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it didn't fix anything.
Yeah.
I mean, we'll still be fighting.
It'll be about something different, but it'll still be the same shit.
Same bickering shit.
Yeah.
I hate bickering, bro.
Bickering be stupid, bro.
It's so, yeah.
It's like nothing comes out of it.
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Yeah.
Like nobody was happy type shit.
I'd be like that's.
I mean, I've had, I like, I've had good relationships.
But like most of our relationships I've had to, it's because of the Navy, honestly.
Yeah.
Them niggas be moving me around, bro.
If you're in like an on and off relationship, you probably should like kind of stop and
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ask yourself like, what is drawing you back?
Is it like old ass memories that y'all had?
Maybe trying to cling to that.
Yeah.
It's like, it'd be like that, you know, you'd be attached to them old ass, I ain't saying
old ass memories, like they trash and that, but like, you know, them old good times or
whatever.
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And then you go back to the person and you know, everybody changed over time.
You know, person change might not be the same person you used to know all of them years
back, you know, it just don't hit the same.
It'd be like that, bro.
You got to talk to that person then you can, I don't know, man, because that, that, that
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the on and off relationship just don't be hitting.
Like if it's off, then it's off.
Like that's my, that's my opinion.
Yeah.
I don't know.
More power, more power to y'all that keep going on and off because I mean, at the end
of the day, I think, I think, I think, I think most people do stay on at the end of it and
stay off them dating sites, bro.
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Not a message of that.
Yeah.
No, I try to do this like one time and got catfish, bro.
I sort of got like, um, I remember, I feel like I might've now, I don't think I told
this story before, but this was back when I was still in the Navy, bro.
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It was like a Friday or something like that.
And I left work early, you know, excuse my stomach was killing me.
Right.
So I go get a haircut, you know, put my shit on and then I was going to go downtown and
meet this girl at this burger joint or whatever burger lounge or something like that.
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It might've been burger lounge.
I don't know.
Burger place downtown.
Boom.
Sounds familiar.
Right.
Okay.
Boom, boom.
So I was just heading out there, you know, text her, hey, I'm like 15 minutes out or
whatever.
She's like, okay, I just got here and I'm sitting on the left when you, when you come
in.
She sound deep like that too?
No, it's her voice went like deeper and like, I'm just trying to like, you know, so you
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can distinguish we're talking, but, um, yeah.
So I get down there, had to pay the parking fee because downtown you got to pay.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I go the rest of the way to a burger joint and me, you know, I like to observe things
before I enter.
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So I stopped and I like peeked in a window at where she was sitting at.
And this was not the girl that I was shown on that photo.
And I first, I didn't believe it cause it was only like two or three people who went
there.
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I mean, I have described in her seat, Oh, this I'm wearing this, you know, you can't
miss me.
And I walked in, you're damn right.
I couldn't miss you.
This girl was big as hell.
Like, that's why I say, I'm dating things bro.
Cause you got to, if this is just a face picture, you need to be concerned about the rest of
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this.
That's the thing.
I mean, there are ways to, you know, to get a catfish.
You got to be smart about it.
Yeah.
You just got to be smart about it.
I mean, Mike, yeah, I've had a couple catfishes and after that I got smart, but I see Lou
just take it off of it.
Nah, that's stupid.
I'm good on it.
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I'm more like, you know, I like in person stuff.
Yeah.
You know, that way you get like a feel for it rather than, cause you can't really get
no feel from a picture.
Just like, is this person attractive or is they not, you know, this person might not
be as attractive as you want them to, but in person type shit, like how they carry on
themselves and all of that might be exactly what you looking for.
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So that's why I like in person contact, like stuff like that.
I'm cool either way.
Cause I've dated both ways.
I could get them on the internet.
I could get them in a club.
I could get them in seven 11, seven 11.
I could get them in target.
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I should have Starbucks.
Hey, what did you order?
Oh, that sounds great.
Oh, okay.
Type shit already started.
Boom, bomb, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
That's already, it's already laid the seeds in motion.
I mean, you just got to, I like I said, I'm comfortable with myself, man.
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I know who I am.
That's good, bro.
I guess, I guess, I guess people have, I guess issues with that.
I don't know.
Like being themselves.
Yeah.
Because I always say, you know, they look at social media.
Yeah.
It's like, I mean, I look at them too.
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I just be like, I don't know.
I'll be like, I'd be liking, ha ha ha ha.
Because everybody want to be a superstar.
Everybody want to be that, you know, him.
Everybody want to be Hemity.
Yeah.
I mean, you are in your own right.
You just got to, you just got to stay true to yourself.
I mean, you know, it's like you already.
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Like got it.
Yeah.
You know, you just got to be in tune with yourself and like do stuff that you love to
do.
Yeah.
I'm saying I stand on topic back on dating.
Like, you know, be Hemity to your partner.
You know, that's there's only one person you need to impress.
There's only one person you need to impress.
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Your god damn self.
Yeah.
And I hate when people's eyes like, you know, if you're dating, you know, don't you know,
why, why, why would you always wander off elsewhere?
Then I guess that's time.
You know, that's test.
It's time to cut it off.
I think people also track things out.
That's what that's a big issue.
People be dragging relationships out.
You know, to be honest, bro, to be honest and stop doing that lame selling dreams to
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females, bro.
It's like you'll do all this shit like relationship stuff with her just to sleep with her.
And then that's it.
And it's like on to the next.
Like, why do that?
Because I'm sure some of these, a lot of these girls probably just want some as bad as you
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do.
You know, you can just be honest.
I ain't saying be an asshole about it or nothing, but you know, be kind of, you know, kind of
clear, you know, yo, what your attentions is, you know what I'm saying?
And don't show her that you trying to be in a long term relationship.
And then all of a sudden you just want to smack.
Like what's the point of that, bro?
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Yeah.
Like I guess, yeah, man, the selling, so like selling dream part, like, I guess people just
have a tough time like talking.
Yeah, for sure.
Like you got to, so my, so my girl, so my girl be talking about me like she hates when
I say we got to talk.
She'd be like, she'd be mocking me too.
She'd be like, babe, we got to talk.
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I mean, I'll be straight up.
I'm like, babe, we got to talk.
Like, you know, there's, there are some things that I'm thinking about right now.
I said, well, I was telling her what I'm, what my plans are and how we can, how we can
go forward on that.
I'm always open, man.
Like I guess, I guess that's what people always have a, have a tough time with too.
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Like they always try to keep shit secretive from their partner.
I'm open, my girl.
Nah, I'm pretty open too.
Yeah.
That's what I tell her, babe, we need to talk.
And she always think, she always think it's some bad shit too, because I do be pulling
up like that.
I feel like, babe, we got to talk.
Usually when somebody say that it's not good.
I'm like, nah, nah, I just got to tell you my plans.
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Or sometimes, sometimes, yeah, don't be a, don't be a good talk because I'll be like,
man, I've been thinking, you know, this and that, they're going on and they show Timmy
her thoughts on what's going on.
It's all about communication, man.
I just fix on from that.
It worked both ways.
Nah, for sure.
You know what I'm saying?
And you conflicting with your partner and you want to address the situation.
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I say, you can take Sean's advice.
Like you said, just sit down and just talk, you know?
And don't try to bash each other.
Like, that's what I try to avoid doing.
Like don't try to go back and forth like that or whatever.
And plus 10 out of 10, you probably not going to beat the woman and no bashing contest because
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they, they can talk.
Like you probably won't beat them.
So just keep it respectful.
Keep it respectful, man.
Like don't try to attack nobody, nothing.
Just say, you know, whatever it is.
Yeah, try to keep the speech clean too.
No profanity.
That'll have a tough time with.
You know, you're going to spend your partner time to kind of take it in and then let them
tell you what they think or whatever.
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And then you be like, okay, how can we better this?
And then you come up with it together.
Then man, nobody was attacked.
Nothing.
It was just compromise.
You know, we talked about a problem and we fixed it.
Yeah.
It's just talking.
Yeah.
Like literally what we're doing, like we're just talking.
Yeah.
It's just conversation.
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Yeah.
I mean, and you, you can take, you can take whatever you want from it because, you know,
I always take my conversations as, as educational.
I'll try to take, you know, whatever I learned from it, apply it in my life.
I'm pretty sure I'll think about it too.
Like everything happens for a reason too.
So you know, don't, don't take them conversations for granted.
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Actually listen type shit.
No facts.
So yeah, like I think that's what people have a tough time doing is listening to who they
date in.
I think that's where the love gets lost too.
They just stop listening.
Nah, but altogether just flat out.
I don't know why either.
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Carol listens.
You start, start to care.
Yeah.
You know what?
People do get too comfortable.
People get too comfortable complacency or whatever.
Yeah.
That's why I like having talks with my girl.
That's why, that's why I'm always like, babe, we got to talk that keeper on her toes.
Yeah.
It's yeah.
Come place and see people get too comfortable.
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Like, you know, no, no, no, that's you actually dating this person.
You love them.
Yeah.
Don't forget that.
Nah, big facts, man.
That's why I told my girl, like, you know, I like to take big trips.
So, you know, I'm planning a big trip with her right now.
We're trying to, we're trying to do some in LA and then after that end of fall, I want
to do these seasonal trips in the fall.
I want to go to Vegas and then I don't know what to do in the winter.
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I know, I know I want to snowboard because it's been a minute and a half.
I want to snowboard because it's been a minute.
So we'll probably go up to the mountains for that.
But you know, type shit like that, you know, stay, stay active with your partner.
Listen, you know, know that you know that you have a partner.
Some people, some people really just do forget that, you know, that they're dating.
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Yeah.
And be thoughtful every now and then.
Be thoughtful.
Yeah.
That can keep that spark going.
Be thoughtful every now and then.
Yeah.
And pop up with a rose or two every now and then.
My girl, my girl says she don't want to, she want to eat no sweets so I can't get her chocolate.
It is what it is.
She might appreciate some flowers then.
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They give you flowers anywhere.
You ain't got to go to no expensive fucking big fucking, what they call it?
Some big flower places.
Man, them grocery stores be selling flowers and they be looking nice.
Yeah, I was just about to say, that's what I was about to go to.
But right, you ain't got to go to them big flower places and get all these crazy roses
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on there, bro.
Like, I would go to the Alberson and get a bundle of flowers, bro.
Like, the flowers, dope, too.
Like, like $12.
Yeah, that should be, there's so many different ones too and they all look nice.
Oh my God.
Be thoughtful.
I mean, like, the message is, so like, my girl, like, there's love languages.
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Like there's the gift, you know, the language and given, like, you know, gifts.
There's that, you know, speak, they love language.
Like, my girl really loved the fair yesterday.
Like when we went to the fair, that was her shit.
That was my gift, you know, to her, you know, that I gave her like a pret.
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That fair was expensive.
But I said it too when I showed up for when I was leaving, Tom filled up.
We night goers.
We like, we like to write them nights.
We like to write them rise at night.
We went like in the late afternoon because the sun was like, man, it's hot in the afternoon.
I wanted to go in the afternoon because they got all them activities because they'd be,
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they'd be having the petting zoo, the dog show.
We went to the petting zoo.
We seen like, or the llamas.
Oh, monster trucks too.
Yeah.
When I pulled in, I seen the monster trucks and then, uh, I was like, special as food.
Oh man.
No food.
I was like, this food had this pineapple where I was like, couldn't have, and it was, had
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like a super rice and he had like shrimp and like, like teriyaki chicken or something like
that.
I'm like, Oh, I need, um, I go up to go get that shit was 2395.
That little scoop of rice, barely any chicken.
So my girl got it.
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She said, cause she wanted to get it.
And then I was so mad.
I looked at the bottom, but they done filled it with pineapple.
So it's just literally that top layer.
You see that's all the meat you get.
Oh, and on one of the meat underneath, no, no, it's pineapple.
I like that.
But yeah, yeah.
But 20 nigga like me would have substituted that pineapple from real meat, man.
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Uh, uh, I'm a big boy.
I need that protein.
Yeah.
Yeah.
For real.
I mean, like some people, you know, some people don't like the hot weather, but it is some,
it is some nice activity.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Today's the last date of a fair here in San Diego.
So hope, hope y'all, hope y'all have fun with that.
No, that was fun, man.
That was expensive.
Fairs are expensive.
They, them niggas want it.
They wanted $29 for a Turkey Lake.
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Oh man, I gave it to him too.
I said I had to have one.
Hey, it's only way you only do that shit once every, like once a year.
I don't do that shit often.
Shit.
I don't even think I do it once a year.
Honestly, I can't even tell you before that my last Turkey leg, but the moral of the story
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is to love your partner.
Like you, you like, like know what, know what you're doing with this partner.
Like, like, you know, there's long term, there's long term dating, you know, there's the short
term day.
And you know, you got, you got casual encounters where people just, you know, meet up to just,
you know, bang, bang, shitty bang, and then, and then peace out type shit.
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That's whatever, you know, it is what it is.
And then you got swingers, you know,
Yeah, write it out, know yourself.
But yeah, that's, that's it on dating.
Oh, that was cool.
That was good.
That was good.
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That was good.
But yeah, dating is a cesspool.
You got to learn how to navigate through it.
I'm so glad I found my, I found my honey boo boo baby.
Love you, Snookums.
But type shit.
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But yeah, man, episode 20, I appreciate y'all tuning in and thanks for y'all watching episode
19.
You know, we had our boy Jordan and Jordan is really our boy.
Like we talked about him probably being on here, like another episode and the people
that we do have on here, like they really are boys.
Like, like, you know, it's the season one guest, you know, Ham.
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And, and who else?
Like, like your boy.
Yeah.
T like those really are boys.
Like they're going to come back.
Shit.
We all might have an episode where we all on at the same time type shit.
Yeah.
And we, yeah.
And we had, we have plenty of plenty of like great friends too.
Like they got hellish shit to say.
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I'm pretty sure we got to, we got, we got, we got a guest kind of coming up pretty soon.
We gonna need some more mics.
We're going to need some more equipment already.
I already got new equipment too, but that's cool.
That's all right.
All for the better mental health out there for those that are struggling how to navigate
through, you know, the daily, daily struggles of life.
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Cause you know, dating is a bitch.
Dating is tough, but I love my baby.
And
you are just take the learn from it.
Don't sit there and keep taking those to keep going back.
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People chasing people.
Leave it alone.
Wasting time.
Time is right.
I want you to take it.
It's a waste.
Me.
I don't me.
I never sit around.
I just go out there and get it.
I go out there and get it.
If I want it, I like it.
I get it.
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My fault.
We know not at that drink, that drink done.
Yeah.
Then got my speech going crazy.
Yeah.
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Episode two.
Episode two.
Episode two is season two.
But I feel like I want to keep the bigger number you want to you want to call this episode
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20, bro.
Episode 20.
20 episodes in.
We are in 20 episodes.
20 episodes in.
It's crazy, bro.
20 episodes.
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This is episode 20, y'all.
Let me reintroduce ourselves.
My name is Sean.
This is Luke the greatest man you already know.
Yes, sir.
And I know I got my name wrong.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I know I got my hair done.
I look a little different now.
I got them twists, man.
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It was good.
Yeah.
And I had to go on our story, get some of our stuff too.
I know how y'all see it.
Most definitely.
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So, I mean, to the people that are out there listening, because I know we got our people
that be listening to it on the Apple podcast.
Go ahead, check us out on YouTube too.
But yeah, I'm wearing the fit.
Oh yeah.
Nah, I definitely like the shirt, bro.
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It, I like the colors and the diamond right there in the center.
It really pops, bro.
Like, it dry your attention for sure.
Nah, for real.
So yeah, go ahead.
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Look around the store too.
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So it's some swag out there.
I'm trying to expand the store too, but enough of that.
It's time for us to get into what we really be talking about.
And that is, that is mental health, mental health, mental health.
Yeah, mental health, bro.
We really, we really practice what we preach, man.
Take care of yourself.
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Today we want to, we want to talk to those that I know, I know, I know it's looking shaky
out there for people.
The dating, the dating site is a cesspool now.
I don't know what you, if you want to say this generation or I'll just say these days,
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the dating game can be a little, it's a little wicked out there.
It's wicked.
A little scary, man.
It's wicked.
So I remember we talked about relationships in one of our past episodes, but we're going
to bring it back and we're going to talk specifically about dating and we're not going to bullshit
either.
We ain't going to try to preach to y'all.
We're going to tell y'all how it really is.
Not for sure.
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I'm going to just share my experiences with y'all.
I'm going to just tell y'all how I see it.
I'll tell y'all, you know.
This shit's spooky.
How it made me feel.
This shit's scary indeed.
But without further ado, time for us to get in.
But before we get in, you know, we always have a message out there to those, to those
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that are hurting out there, you know, the ones that, that are that close to just, just.
Right.
If you feel like you right there on that edge, man, or shit, you feel like you passed that
even getting close to it.
Always remember about 9 8 8.
They there for you, bro.
Text call.
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You probably can Google it.
You probably email them if you wanted to, but text our car, bro.
Text them.
I know, I know it's hard to talk on the phone.
I really don't.
I really don't talk on the phone.
I try to try to.
I see people call me and I'll look at it too.
I'll wait for the call.
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Some of us don't like talking on the phone.
It is what it is.
So that's why they got that texting option.
But there is always somebody out there for y'all, man.
Don't give up because life is life is worth living.
It is even even though the dating pools is a is a is a is a cesspool.
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It's also good to get into if you if you got yourself a, you know, a good one.
It's a jungle out there, man.
It is.
It is.
That's pretty much straightforward.
I guess it's a jungle out there.
You got to be careful, bro.
You know, especially because me like I've met people that I cannot put this, you know,
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it's like I'm one of them people or a person that won't that likes the title, but not like
the responsibility.
Oh, my God.
That makes sense.
Yeah.
You know, it's like, OK, like you want to be a wife or you want to be a husband, right?
Like do you actually want to be that or does it just sound nice?
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Like yeah, like, like, be like, be who you want to be.
Like, yeah.
That is what you preach type shit like I ain't nobody trying to hear like you want to stand
the third like, like actually, I don't know, man.
Like that's that's difficult because I feel like people just be watching other people
monkey see monkey do type shit.
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No big facts.
They'd be they'd be watching them celebrity.
They'd be one that that celebrity relationship and dating nowadays and really the same like
or it's not as it all seem to be as like meaningful as it was like prior to like, you know, and
technology and evolve and all of that, you know, because it it hit.
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All right.
Let me put them.
OK, say you get a text from somebody and they like.
I just wanted to tell you that, yo, I miss you and I'm thinking about you.
Yeah, it feels good.
Right.
That's sweet.
All of that.
Yeah.
Right.
Now let's do the same thing.
It's not this person came to you to tell you face to face like, you know, I just want to
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tell you like, yo, I miss you and I love you.
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
It hit different.
You think you think you think technology has changed people's efforts?
Yeah.
Yeah.
People then got lazy and then.
Yes.
It's definitely technology made day and just less appealing, like it's less feeling in
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it.
You know what I mean?
I don't know, man, because it ain't nothing to pull up.
It really ain't nothing to pull up if you just say the word.
Nice.
Yeah.
But I feel you on the effort because people are lazy.
Like you got to want to see the person.
Mm hmm.
Well, like, I feel like I feel like I know what you're talking about because like you
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feel like people back then were more traditional.
Yeah.
Put more effort into into who they was dating at the time.
Yeah.
Or like, say like this, right?
I'm bringing back that example.
I just you you get a text from, I don't know, somebody you've been talking to, right?
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Rather rather man or female, whatever, right, and they'd be like, hey, I miss you.
Yeah, like, hey, I'm thinking about you.
I just want to let you know that I miss you, you know, blah, blah, blah.
Feel good, right?
But the thing with that text is you don't even know if that person even means it.
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You know what I mean?
You don't think of genuine?
No, it could be genuine, right?
But then again, it could just be something that they just, you know, just texting to
you.
Yeah.
I asked to to somebody come and tell you, you know, look in your eye and then send it
to you.
Yeah.
Right.
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I'm a different person.
If if if I don't love you, I'm not going to say it.
Oh, no, no.
That's you know, that's how I am.
Like it takes time for that stuff.
Yeah, just but just I'm just speaking on like the dating thing.
Dating thing.
OK.
Yeah.
Like the text and all that be sweet.
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Right.
But then again, like good morning.
It's easy to do it.
You know, like most of the time, say you type a few letters, it's going to spawn it for
you.
You know what I mean?
You just send it.
But I feel you, man.
But I feel like I feel like it's convenient because look at your daily life, bro.
What are you doing?
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What time do you wake up?
Do you like in your daily life, do you have time to just stop?
And then and then like actually, I mean, I hate that.
I hate to say it that way.
That's why that's why, you know, cohabilitation.
I love that shit.
Yeah, because I just get to see my girl when I get home.
Yeah.
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But like it's difficult when when you don't live together.
No, no, I guess the convenience will turn people lazy.
Yeah, because technology to have does make everything convenient.
And I can't even be a hater that because I'm a proud supporter of convenience.
Like, I love convenient.
Boy, I love me some Uber Eats or some door that is some of the most convenient shit,
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bro.
If you like like order door does like often, bro, like just go to like your recent orders,
bro, and it just add up all of that money that you spent, bro.
You're going to regret it.
What?
You know, they'd be taxing, bro.
Like I was looking at the menu on on Uber Eats one time.
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I was like, man, that that cannot be the price.
I was on the house.
I was drunk and I want a check in the box and they got the ten dollar box.
That shit was twelve fifty on Uber Eats before tax.
I said, how?
This is a ten dollar box.
Maybe I'm charging times change, bro.
I don't see subway promoting that five dollar foot long no more.
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Let alone Little Caesar's promoting that five dollar hot and ready.
I don't even think Wendy's got that that that that for for for.
For for.
You're going to be full of a ten.
Oh, man, I'm surprised that shit ain't for for 20.
It's yo to eat these days like 20 bucks for a meal, bro.
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I mean, but in California, I don't know about everywhere else.
You want to know something interesting?
It's something just popped in my head because we was talking about that dating thing not
too long ago.
But, you know, everybody talk about, oh, you need to find you a real man or a real woman
or this, this and that.
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I got a question for that.
Like where are you looking for these people at?
Right.
Because I'm just saying, like, quality.
Yeah.
You know what I mean?
Like, I don't feel like people be like they would go, you know, to the club or some pick
up a girl or pick up a guy, whatever, and then be like, oh, this person turned out to
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not be shit.
It's like, you know, not saying every time be like that.
I'll tell you this right now.
If you're looking for love in the club, that's on you.
You're going to find it in the club.
You invite all that in.
That's on you.
Ain't nobody at the club, bro.
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That's all you're going to find.
But if you get busy at the club, then, hey, I mean, you should date fast.
Like you know, you'll have your casual encounters and stuff like that.
But yeah, no, looking like long term, speaking wise, no, if you're looking for love in the
club.
No, you probably won't find it because usually I stop listening to these singers.
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I don't nowadays you go to the club.
Like we talk about this all the time.
I get everybody just standing there.
So like you just go on for attention.
I was just standing around and get drunk and hit their vapes.
No, that's it.
But they just stand around, get drunk off them.
Twenty dollar drinks.
Mm hmm.
The mongolans do hit and just hit the vape.
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I remember like I told you about the I told you a story about a girl that I had met from
the club and I ended up getting like, remember, I got assaulted and I'm going to whip you.
Yeah.
See, that's don't.
No, the single activities.
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Right.
You go looking for somebody in a club is single activities.
That's what you're going for.
And you're going to find out why they were single outside in the first.
I'm sorry.
I'm pretty sure you let you ladies are lovely.
I'm not talking shit.
I'm not talking about the ones that disappear when the lights come on.
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The good ones don't stay, though.
No, it was all state of clothing.
I say that.
I'm sorry.
I mean, maybe.
I don't know.
I don't know.
I wouldn't know.
I wouldn't know either.
I just know I have I have my good one waiting for me at the crib right now.
Yeah, I got a good one, too.
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So if you got one, just choke.
We're going to ride this wave out because they know outside, bro.
And also, I mean, in fact, I mean, but it's all about what you want to.
So I think I think people are confused when they go back to it like watch these celebrities
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because I feel like I feel like people want something, then and then their choices get
influenced by whatever whatever I see, because everybody wants to be like everybody wants
to be like Drake and Kendrick and and LeBron and and and who else?
Oh, Jimmy G. Jimmy Jimmy G be knocking out porn stars.
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Going crazy, buddy.
Everybody want to be what?
Like bachelors?
I mean, you talking about like that bachelor life?
Yeah, I think I think people want that.
But I feel like there are people are so conflicted with these choices.
I feel like people just not real with themselves.
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And that's where that's where dating like before you start dating, you got to you got
to come to realization with that.
You got to be real with yourself.
Like, what do you want?
Like, don't don't don't drag your confusion into, you know, don't don't invite another
person in and then be confused with that person.
Then that person confused with you.
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The hell?
No, that was a true statement, bro.
That was a true statement.
That was a true statement, bro.
Like if you're going to do something, bro, you know, understand what it is that you're
about to do and then actually do it.
I told I told people this all the time, you need to take care of yourself before you try
to take care of someone else.
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Right.
Now you then again, now you what?
It's not as two people jacked up.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You you don't you don't mess this girl with this dude up with your bullshit.
So it's a sort of BS out if you have any BS facts.
But like, yeah, you just got to be real with yourself.
And I'm pretty sure people are so so scared of peer judgment and shit.
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Yeah.
I mean, I don't that is true.
But I mean, shit, the world, everybody's like super judgmental, bro.
Like the moment something happens to somebody and it makes it social media and goes viral,
like they just cook.
Yeah, it's cooked.
I see them lights racked up to the lights and the replies.
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The replies begin crazy.
You become having crazy likes to not an Internet is vicious, bro.
Yeah, the Internet is ruthless.
You have like and I feel I feel like it leads back to one of the things I always preach
about.
You always have to have a thick skin.
Yeah, which I don't really get why people do that for real.
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What like.
Just show off on show out on the Internet.
Just cut up touch it.
Yeah.
I said that's that's a sickness, man.
They just want that thing.
That's a sickness.
Outboy that cloud cloud is a disease.
I want to cloud the diamond chains and that shit don't even come.
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You'll you'll get you'll get 50,000 likes and then you'll still have to pay bills and
rent the next day.
In fact, just so like it's all like I said, you have to carry your priorities to yourself.
I mean, that's all about what you want, though, if that's to use his own for his own man.
More or less.
Well, one thing I know, people have the vices.
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Yeah, yeah, everybody did.
But more or the story about be yourself, man.
Be true to whatever it is that you want to do.
You're going to do something to it fully.
Don't half ass and shit.
And then now you look stupid.
Be 100 100.
Like for you, like like be real, like, I don't know, like.
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I guess people have a tough time with being real, too.
Yeah.
And I don't get it.
You know, I guess I guess it all comes to an acceptance of yourself.
Mm hmm.
Is it?
I don't know.
Can can you see why people are just not real with themselves because they want to just
be accepted by everybody else?
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Hmm, and that how you all over the place, because now you trying to like put on a show
for people and make people like you and stuff like that.
You ain't going to generate no real friends doing that.
You know, a lot of niggas is sheeps.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You'll you'll see it.
You'll see it in like celebrities, too, like like the groupies that they have and shit
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like I'm thinking of the sheeps.
They just fall on the herd.
Not facts.
They get inherited.
The facts of celebrities are shepherds.
But I keep bringing them up because people really look up to them, man.
And I and I understand like they are a basis for, I guess, success, whatever, whatever
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you view as success as.
Yeah, like for me, cars and yeah, the fortune and all that shit.
Yeah, that could be the ultimate success like.
How can I say this?
Like.
It's like it's like it's like.
Expendable it's not it's not it's not it's not there forever, you know, touch it.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Success is really as big as you make it, honestly.
Like if you have success to you is, you know, being this multimillionaire, you know, all
the girls, all the cars, all that.
That's success to you.
That's not the standard, you know.
Yeah, that's to you.
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No, so the celebrity he's saying about them celebrities and all that, like that's not
a standard at all.
So don't be like stuck.
You know, I got to show off.
I got to get people to like me.
You know, I got to get on TV and all of this.
Go up on Instagram and all that.
No, that's not a standard, bro.
You want to know what's toxic, bro?
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For dating that only fans should.
Oh, boy.
That shit is so toxic.
Boy, like I always see them videos and like and I got to I tell my sure it is all the
time like because it's a because me, I generally believe it's more good than bad in the world.
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You know what I'm saying?
It's just a lot of good stuff happens, you know, so consistently, you know, it's like
while reported, right?
I report all this good shit.
Let's put the bad shit right and just blow it up and make everything worse than what
it is.
Right.
But this I saw my girl like because because I believe it's a lot of good women.
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I believe it's a lot of good men out there, too.
And I'm like, this why a lot of people don't be taking women's series, in my opinion, is
because of these some of these women that's going viral and talking on all these podcasts
is like sounding ridiculous, probably talking crazy, bro.
They be talking crazy.
I was like, you know, these type of girls make all women look bad, bro.
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They be talking crazy.
And I understand, like they all comfortable with the sexuality and shit and this and the
third.
But y'all.
Yeah, but I didn't hear some wild stuff.
Yeah, like I know cap, bro.
I think I think I think we forgot to draw a line at some point.
Yeah, it's like big facts, bro.
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Like we need a big line.
Like we need to backtrack this line to start some years back.
It is getting out of control, bro.
It's like I don't even think like y'all know, you know, sent all this wild stuff, you know,
everything has a chance to go viral.
Right.
So you really should be mindful of the things that you say, you know, because you just might
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go viral.
Right.
And my biggest concern is just like, dude, it is kids, you know, they got iPhones, bro.
They're new brand new iPhones, just like we do.
Right.
Going through TikTok, just like us watching those same videos, bro.
Like I saw a video of this girl.
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They did not put no warnings or nothing on it.
Listen, bro.
Like, man, I saw this video, right.
This girl, she like graduated kindergarten or something, bro.
And she like came across the stage.
I don't know if I showed it to you, but she came across the stage and they asked her,
it's like something.
What do you want to be or will you grow up or something?
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This little girl response was, I want to be pregnant.
Did she say by who?
No.
Oh man.
As a kindergartner, bro.
That kind of.
Oh, kindergarten.
Yes.
She was a kindergartner, bro.
That's crazy.
I didn't even hear that part.
My fault, my fault, my fault.
Yeah, you get it, but I don't even.
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My daughter better say she want to be a princess.
It's time.
It's time for Disney movie.
It's time for child protective services to come take them kids.
I'm telling you, man, and most people might not agree with me.
I feel like it is necessary.
Them kids need to be taken away.
A good example.
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Some people know them to Chris, Sean, Chris, Sean, baby.
So did you hear about Chris on going to jail?
So she had a warrant out for arrest and then she went to Blueface's court case and then
she got arrested there.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
So we're Blueface in jail and Chris on in jail.
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Who taking care of the baby?
And one of her friends is.
So I'm like, man, there's got to be a point in time where we cut this crap.
I'm telling you, man, like, that's not right.
Oh, my God.
That's not right.
And people are going to agree with me, but I feel like the kid would have like a better
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chance of going to a better home in the system.
I see what you're saying.
Like more like you think the baby probably deserve better parents.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You know, but then again, there's that chance that they don't get picked.
You know, they just stay in the home.
They stay in the system.
And that also sucks, too.
But I don't know, man.
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You see Chris, Sean, what she'd be doing on the Internet to like she like her her her
life is public and people follow that shit to more power to you.
You know, I ain't here to judge.
Is that the right environment for that kid type shit?
I don't know.
But those also qualities you got to look for in a relationship to like this.
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What I'd be this kind of kind of bring me back to that technology thing.
Like I don't.
Like we don't know them off camera.
Yeah we don't.
So I like this could just be just a consistent show for all I know.
I don't know.
I got a lot of stuff.
But it but it's sickening though because they stay on social media.
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They stay on the camera like their life is all on that shit.
So like the reality stars, bro, like, you know, they are they are out there 24 hours.
Oh, yeah, they got a reality show.
Yeah.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
I got to watch that.
That is.
Yeah.
Baddie, baddie shot o'clock, man.
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We need some man.
I need to give me another can.
We ain't got no look at the day.
It is what it is.
We got to slow down, bro.
Like y'all seen us barbecue for four for sure.
I hope you all had a hell of a good four for July, by the way.
That's why we made we made too much me too much.
Oh, too much.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Pause.
But no, did he?
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The lamb chops and ribs, some some things, some steak burgers.
I tried to throw the shrimp on there, but the shrimp, it wasn't him for me.
I'm sorry.
I had to.
We all.
We all had to do that.
So one time I was I was barbecue with me and my girl's family.
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It was fucking with my king prawns.
We're going to have to do that next time.
And I and the first time I had king prawns was when I was in Italy.
Like they had them shits grilled.
Oh, and they had that lemon juice, too.
Oh, yeah.
That's okay.
Yeah.
That's like is that why you brought it up last time?
He's like, oh, he probably should use lemon juice.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Not a lemon juice hit that lemon juice is a is a no hitter quitter.
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But definitely.
Big shout out to everybody else.
And you know, in them relationships, man, you know, you got you somebody down for you
and all of that.
It's tough.
Shout out to you.
Big shout out.
It is tough.
It's definitely tough, especially like but at the end of the day, it is worth it.
It is.
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It is worth it to go home to somebody that's.
You know, it's just going to love you.
You know, sir, I love my girl.
I know she wants to shout out to my girl.
But yeah, that's it.
She's like, you better say that.
But now I told her I was doing an episode about she said she going to be watching this
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shit.
But yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah.
Back back on topic.
It is tough dating, man, because personalities is hard to match personalities.
It's hard to be, you know, somebody lives a one way life differently than you.
And you know, you either conform, you talk about it, you either can, you know, combine
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your lifestyle or maybe your lifestyle.
You know, they might see it as better type shit.
All that comes, you know, with communication, you got to talk to your partner.
Definitely communication.
Like for sure, like even when I mean, for me, like I had to I had to learn to kind of
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like.
Relax and calm down.
That may be going zero to one hundred, huh?
No, like I don't be like yelling or like screaming and like that.
But sometimes like if I'm not like relaxed or calm and I'm like feeling some type of
way about something and I'm trying to express it, it might come out like I'm I might be
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coming like a little too aggressive, not knowing it or whatever.
But you know, you got built up emotion, you know, obviously.
Right.
But I learned to like kind of calm down, relax first, you know, kind of think about it over
in my head exactly what bothered me and what I want to change.
And then I kind of know I'm able to deliver it smooth right now.
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We can work out and compromise whatever needed to be.
No, that's that's right, man.
Got to talk it out.
How did you learn that?
I'm dealing with my girl.
That that every every I told my girl, she I learned this odd, you know, that I yeah,
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I every day and I am that was because the experiences I had back then.
I'm like, man, I'm not going to do that shit again or man, I'm going to improve that shit
or not.
Big fact, yeah, everything comes with experience, man.
But you I guess I guess you just got to go out there and date man.
Life is fleeting.
Like you can like you can either have short term relationships, long term relationships,
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medium and like what I'm looking for.
I need a wife.
I need a successor.
That's what I'm looking for me.
But you got to know what you're looking for.
I know I know what I want.
I'm type shit, so I guess I guess that's why I'm just so comfortable in what I do and how
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I carry myself.
I just know what I want to do.
Stop all that cheating, bro.
Yeah, you got to stop that shit, man.
Be deadass like, why would you do that to that person, man?
Why would you do that to your partner, bro?
Like look, like you know how them videos be like, like I don't know why they approve these
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messages these people be putting out, but they just think that shit is, you know, how
they'd be like, that'd be like, oh, we may not allow to cheat or whatever, but the guy
is or something like that.
Like like for me, and I'm sure Sean as well, like that should go both ways, bro.
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You know, be loyal to that one person, bro.
Like that's how it goes.
Yeah.
And there's another example too, like people always try to find gray areas.
Like for example, I know you hate social media, like, and I don't know if it ever happened
to you, but like, you know, type shit like some random shooter would just hit you up
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out of nowhere and you would reply back type shit.
So I'm watching like a good example of that.
I'm watching 90 day fiance.
I'll be on a reality TV show.
Shout out to my girl again.
She put me on that shit.
That shit is so interesting, man.
But 90 day fiance in a nutshell is these people, they get, you know, they get into this relationship
and they have 90 days to, to marry.
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And there's this one couple, there's this dude named Rob from LA and he's dating this
shorty from the UK and I forgot her name, but whatever.
This nigga Rob was cheating on her.
He was texting another girl on social media.
He was like, texting hella girls type shit.
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And I guess that is cheating because why, like, why are you, why are you looking for
other shit, you know, out there?
Because you had, you had the intentions.
If you thought of it, like, you know, you had the intentions to, to, to carry it out
too.
If she was around type shit.
Not a fact.
It's like, what would you do if he wasn't caught?
Yeah.
And so he's trying to play it off.
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Like it wasn't cheating.
And niggas would agree to, niggas would agree with that shit too.
Nah, bro.
Like I can't agree with that shit.
Like you had the intention.
Like if, if, if that opportunity was there, you would have taken it.
Because it's like, you got to look at it from the other perspective too.
Like what if, okay, you wasn't the person texting, but your girl was and you caught
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her then what?
You know, you're going, you're going, if it was you, you know, it, it wasn't cheating.
Right.
But if it was her, right, you going to accuse her of what?
Cheating.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
It's like, bro, it got to balance, bro.
Yeah, man.
Keep everything across the board.
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If you can't do it, I can't do it.
Flat out.
Be for real.
Yeah.
Don't.
Yeah.
I hate seeing that shit too.
Like that used to be a thing.
Like they say niggas can't cheat type shit and niggas can cheat.
Yeah.
You definitely can.
I get, I get, I get my, I get my grandma location.
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She can add that shit.
I don't, I don't be nowhere.
I told her I'm going to just be at this podcast.
I'm going to, I got to go to the beauty store too.
I'll see these twists.
I get, I got to get them retwisted type shit.
So I need to get, I need to get the bands, you know, I need to get my shit done.
That shit rough.
Yeah.
I never see you got a cap on.
I never see the do rag on it.
My hair was rough.
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I was going to ask, but you know, I, I didn't want to put it out there, but I remember we
were swimming.
I was swimming in the pool.
You actually got in the pool?
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's why I didn't want to get that pool.
That chlorine do damage to my hair.
My hair too sensitive for that shit.
Yeah.
But yeah, but like cheating, man.
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So it's not cheating, but there's this thing called swinging.
Like I'm pretty sure you, you heard of it.
Like swingers swingers.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Find somebody like that.
Like, oh no.
Yeah.
At first you scared me, bro.
I didn't know where you was going with that.
No, I'm not swinging.
But no, no, no, no.
I'm not like you swinging or whatever.
I'm thinking like, I'm thinking of you about to bring up an app or some shit like that.
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An app.
Swinger app is crazy.
I mean, I mean everyone got their own day and that's, but yeah.
Well, yeah.
Find a swinger.
Like if you have to, if you have to, if you can't be like, if you can't just, you know,
stay 100%.
I mean, like, you know, there are, I guess people have their definitions of faithful,
but like my, my, my definition of faithful is, you know, if you can't stay a hundred
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percent faithful to this woman, then be a swinger.
Yeah.
No.
I mean, be that, be that, you know, be that definition of faithful.
Like, yeah.
Like, so just across the board, like, I don't think people know that there is swingers.
Yeah.
Look that up.
If you, you know, you can love this girl, but you still want to, you know, go outside
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and you know, do other things with other girls.
Yeah.
You know, find, sure there's some women out here that might be okay with it, you know,
but I'm sure they're going to want them same.
And that's, yeah, that's a swinger.
She going, she going, she going want her back hand.
Exactly.
So, you know, if it's across the board and it works for y'all, Hey, babe, babe.
Yeah.
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I gotta be equal with that.
There you go.
This is 2024.
So I'm trying to bullshit people.
Yeah.
But yeah, that's, that's, that's, that's my take on cheating, man.
You leave that shit alone.
Yeah.
Cheating is cheating, bro.
Cheating is cheating.
Regardless.
There's no work around on that.
That, that is tough in a dating pool, man, but it's a lot of other tough shit.
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Like we, we already talked about social media.
I mean, like, did we talk about it like in depth?
Like I didn't hit it like I, like I really wanted to.
I got a question.
How would you feel about your girl posting like body pictures and shit on IG?
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Like, like thirst trap type shit, but yeah, I want to like it, but you know, she don't
respond to, you know, none of the comments, none of that.
She loyalty for show, but would that bother you?
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Cause I be, I seen some shit the other day and a bunch of guys was commented on it.
It was like, this is that question.
And I was, the girls was like, oh, yeah, I'm just insecure.
It's like, I don't think it's insecurity.
I think it's more of like, uh, you know, this is a boundary.
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So so yeah, yeah, this, this I have a problem because it puts men in a very tight spot because
we want to be supportive.
Exactly.
But that shit comes off as disrespectful to us because all them niggas is commenting.
I ain't trying to see no niggas on my goddamn girls picture.
I'll comment back.
Oh bro.
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Nah, that shit will piss me off.
And I don't want to know guys to be looking at what I get to see on my own.
Like I'm supposed to see that by myself.
Yeah.
You know, I don't want everybody else seeing that shit.
Yeah, man.
Like exclusivity.
I'm your man type shit.
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Like that's it for like, that's it for me.
Like, you don't see me posing my body out there for everyone else to see.
All right.
I got another question for you too.
All right.
Now let's put, we're going to use your girl as an example.
Okay.
Okay.
That's cool.
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So and then for me, I use my girl.
That's all right too.
All right.
All right.
So she, so when she want to go to this Chris Brown concert.
Oh my God.
Cause she really would.
That's a perfect example.
Actually she want to go backstage with Chris Brown.
Oh hell no.
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And do the meeting greet.
Oh hell no.
And then you find the photo of Chris Brown, like taking a picture, how you would take
a picture with your girl.
You talking about, what are you talking about?
I told my girl, Hey, I hope I never see a picture of you out there.
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I'm sorry.
I already, we already had that conversation.
I said, yeah, it's cooked.
It's cooked.
It's wrapped.
I'm sorry.
It's over with bro.
Like, and not even on no insecurity bullshit, right?
You just shit on me and everything.
Right.
And plus I ain't nothing really to be insecure about anyway.
Like we all know Chris Brown, Chris Brown, if he wants your head, the chances of him
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getting her are high.
Right.
So it's already a loss, right?
You ain't going to be him.
Yeah.
But it's more of respect.
It's respect.
It's respect.
It's a line you got to like, you can't like, you've got to learn how to draw a line somewhere.
And like we already talked, we like, we talked about that earlier.
And to the ladies that like have a problem with that, right.
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Okay.
Like I say, it flipped the perspective.
That's a man go see Rihanna.
He paid that thousand dollar fee and he all up on her taking a photo.
How he would take it with two.
Then what?
Type shit.
Yeah.
Put this shit on the other side.
Keep it across the board, bro.
That's disrespectful.
Right.
Flat out.
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I like that shit.
Flat out.
And then now you got to see your dude and Rihanna being posted through all social media.
Oh, Rihanna married, ain't she?
Yeah.
She married.
Who?
What else girl?
Jhene Aiko?
Is she single?
I just don't want to use Rihanna because she married and all that.
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But okay, we get it.
We get the story, right?
Let's say Rihanna single, not married.
Let's say that.
I like A$AP Rocky though.
That's why I really want to use Rihanna.
A$AP is cool.
Jhene Aiko.
You must not like Big Sean if you wanted to talk about Jhene Aiko then.
Oh man, here, Detroit natives too.
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Yeah, but they broke up.
They broke up a long time ago.
They still on and off.
I don't even know if they're on right now.
It is what it is.
Shout out to on and off relationships.
That shit tough.
Yeah.
I don't know how y'all do it.
Once it's off, it's off for me.
I got to move on.
I got to move on, man.
Because one thing I know about life is that shit don't stop.
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But I feel like if you're going back and forth, like you're trying to stop time, but that shit
can't like that shit going.
You can't waste time.
If that shit did not work the first time.
That's one thing I learned.
Like going through these relationships, you know, in my experience, like because I used
to go back and forth and that shit just is really literally used to waste time because
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it didn't fix anything.
Yeah.
I mean, we'll still be fighting.
It'll be about something different, but it'll still be the same shit.
Same bickering shit.
Yeah.
I hate bickering, bro.
Bickering be stupid, bro.
It's so, yeah.
It's like nothing comes out of it.
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Yeah.
Like nobody was happy type shit.
I'd be like that's.
I mean, I've had, I like, I've had good relationships.
But like most of our relationships I've had to, it's because of the Navy, honestly.
Yeah.
Them niggas be moving me around, bro.
If you're in like an on and off relationship, you probably should like kind of stop and
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ask yourself like, what is drawing you back?
Is it like old ass memories that y'all had?
Maybe trying to cling to that.
Yeah.
It's like, it'd be like that, you know, you'd be attached to them old ass, I ain't saying
old ass memories, like they trash and that, but like, you know, them old good times or
whatever.
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And then you go back to the person and you know, everybody changed over time.
You know, person change might not be the same person you used to know all of them years
back, you know, it just don't hit the same.
It'd be like that, bro.
You got to talk to that person then you can, I don't know, man, because that, that, that
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the on and off relationship just don't be hitting.
Like if it's off, then it's off.
Like that's my, that's my opinion.
Yeah.
I don't know.
More power, more power to y'all that keep going on and off because I mean, at the end
of the day, I think, I think, I think, I think most people do stay on at the end of it and
stay off them dating sites, bro.
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Not a message of that.
Yeah.
No, I try to do this like one time and got catfish, bro.
I sort of got like, um, I remember, I feel like I might've now, I don't think I told
this story before, but this was back when I was still in the Navy, bro.
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It was like a Friday or something like that.
And I left work early, you know, excuse my stomach was killing me.
Right.
So I go get a haircut, you know, put my shit on and then I was going to go downtown and
meet this girl at this burger joint or whatever burger lounge or something like that.
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It might've been burger lounge.
I don't know.
Burger place downtown.
Boom.
Sounds familiar.
Right.
Okay.
Boom, boom.
So I was just heading out there, you know, text her, hey, I'm like 15 minutes out or
whatever.
She's like, okay, I just got here and I'm sitting on the left when you, when you come
in.
She sound deep like that too?
No, it's her voice went like deeper and like, I'm just trying to like, you know, so you
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can distinguish we're talking, but, um, yeah.
So I get down there, had to pay the parking fee because downtown you got to pay.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I go the rest of the way to a burger joint and me, you know, I like to observe things
before I enter.
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So I stopped and I like peeked in a window at where she was sitting at.
And this was not the girl that I was shown on that photo.
And I first, I didn't believe it cause it was only like two or three people who went
there.
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I mean, I have described in her seat, Oh, this I'm wearing this, you know, you can't
miss me.
And I walked in, you're damn right.
I couldn't miss you.
This girl was big as hell.
Like, that's why I say, I'm dating things bro.
Cause you got to, if this is just a face picture, you need to be concerned about the rest of
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this.
That's the thing.
I mean, there are ways to, you know, to get a catfish.
You got to be smart about it.
Yeah.
You just got to be smart about it.
I mean, Mike, yeah, I've had a couple catfishes and after that I got smart, but I see Lou
just take it off of it.
Nah, that's stupid.
I'm good on it.
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I'm more like, you know, I like in person stuff.
Yeah.
You know, that way you get like a feel for it rather than, cause you can't really get
no feel from a picture.
Just like, is this person attractive or is they not, you know, this person might not
be as attractive as you want them to, but in person type shit, like how they carry on
themselves and all of that might be exactly what you looking for.
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So that's why I like in person contact, like stuff like that.
I'm cool either way.
Cause I've dated both ways.
I could get them on the internet.
I could get them in a club.
I could get them in seven 11, seven 11.
I could get them in target.
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I should have Starbucks.
Hey, what did you order?
Oh, that sounds great.
Oh, okay.
Type shit already started.
Boom, bomb, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
That's already, it's already laid the seeds in motion.
I mean, you just got to, I like I said, I'm comfortable with myself, man.
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I know who I am.
That's good, bro.
I guess, I guess, I guess people have, I guess issues with that.
I don't know.
Like being themselves.
Yeah.
Because I always say, you know, they look at social media.
Yeah.
It's like, I mean, I look at them too.
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I just be like, I don't know.
I'll be like, I'd be liking, ha ha ha ha.
Because everybody want to be a superstar.
Everybody want to be that, you know, him.
Everybody want to be Hemity.
Yeah.
I mean, you are in your own right.
You just got to, you just got to stay true to yourself.
I mean, you know, it's like you already.
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Like got it.
Yeah.
You know, you just got to be in tune with yourself and like do stuff that you love to
do.
Yeah.
I'm saying I stand on topic back on dating.
Like, you know, be Hemity to your partner.
You know, that's there's only one person you need to impress.
There's only one person you need to impress.
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Your god damn self.
Yeah.
And I hate when people's eyes like, you know, if you're dating, you know, don't you know,
why, why, why would you always wander off elsewhere?
Then I guess that's time.
You know, that's test.
It's time to cut it off.
I think people also track things out.
That's what that's a big issue.
People be dragging relationships out.
You know, to be honest, bro, to be honest and stop doing that lame selling dreams to
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females, bro.
It's like you'll do all this shit like relationship stuff with her just to sleep with her.
And then that's it.
And it's like on to the next.
Like, why do that?
Because I'm sure some of these, a lot of these girls probably just want some as bad as you
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do.
You know, you can just be honest.
I ain't saying be an asshole about it or nothing, but you know, be kind of, you know, kind of
clear, you know, yo, what your attentions is, you know what I'm saying?
And don't show her that you trying to be in a long term relationship.
And then all of a sudden you just want to smack.
Like what's the point of that, bro?
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Yeah.
Like I guess, yeah, man, the selling, so like selling dream part, like, I guess people just
have a tough time like talking.
Yeah, for sure.
Like you got to, so my, so my girl, so my girl be talking about me like she hates when
I say we got to talk.
She'd be like, she'd be mocking me too.
She'd be like, babe, we got to talk.
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I mean, I'll be straight up.
I'm like, babe, we got to talk.
Like, you know, there's, there are some things that I'm thinking about right now.
I said, well, I was telling her what I'm, what my plans are and how we can, how we can
go forward on that.
I'm always open, man.
Like I guess, I guess that's what people always have a, have a tough time with too.
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Like they always try to keep shit secretive from their partner.
I'm open, my girl.
Nah, I'm pretty open too.
Yeah.
That's what I tell her, babe, we need to talk.
And she always think, she always think it's some bad shit too, because I do be pulling
up like that.
I feel like, babe, we got to talk.
Usually when somebody say that it's not good.
I'm like, nah, nah, I just got to tell you my plans.
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Or sometimes, sometimes, yeah, don't be a, don't be a good talk because I'll be like,
man, I've been thinking, you know, this and that, they're going on and they show Timmy
her thoughts on what's going on.
It's all about communication, man.
I just fix on from that.
It worked both ways.
Nah, for sure.
You know what I'm saying?
And you conflicting with your partner and you want to address the situation.
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I say, you can take Sean's advice.
Like you said, just sit down and just talk, you know?
And don't try to bash each other.
Like, that's what I try to avoid doing.
Like don't try to go back and forth like that or whatever.
And plus 10 out of 10, you probably not going to beat the woman and no bashing contest because
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they, they can talk.
Like you probably won't beat them.
So just keep it respectful.
Keep it respectful, man.
Like don't try to attack nobody, nothing.
Just say, you know, whatever it is.
Yeah, try to keep the speech clean too.
No profanity.
That'll have a tough time with.
You know, you're going to spend your partner time to kind of take it in and then let them
tell you what they think or whatever.
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And then you be like, okay, how can we better this?
And then you come up with it together.
Then man, nobody was attacked.
Nothing.
It was just compromise.
You know, we talked about a problem and we fixed it.
Yeah.
It's just talking.
Yeah.
Like literally what we're doing, like we're just talking.
Yeah.
It's just conversation.
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Yeah.
I mean, and you, you can take, you can take whatever you want from it because, you know,
I always take my conversations as, as educational.
I'll try to take, you know, whatever I learned from it, apply it in my life.
I'm pretty sure I'll think about it too.
Like everything happens for a reason too.
So you know, don't, don't take them conversations for granted.
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Actually listen type shit.
No facts.
So yeah, like I think that's what people have a tough time doing is listening to who they
date in.
I think that's where the love gets lost too.
They just stop listening.
Nah, but altogether just flat out.
I don't know why either.
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Carol listens.
You start, start to care.
Yeah.
You know what?
People do get too comfortable.
People get too comfortable complacency or whatever.
Yeah.
That's why I like having talks with my girl.
That's why, that's why I'm always like, babe, we got to talk that keeper on her toes.
Yeah.
It's yeah.
Come place and see people get too comfortable.
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Like, you know, no, no, no, that's you actually dating this person.
You love them.
Yeah.
Don't forget that.
Nah, big facts, man.
That's why I told my girl, like, you know, I like to take big trips.
So, you know, I'm planning a big trip with her right now.
We're trying to, we're trying to do some in LA and then after that end of fall, I want
to do these seasonal trips in the fall.
I want to go to Vegas and then I don't know what to do in the winter.
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I know, I know I want to snowboard because it's been a minute and a half.
I want to snowboard because it's been a minute.
So we'll probably go up to the mountains for that.
But you know, type shit like that, you know, stay, stay active with your partner.
Listen, you know, know that you know that you have a partner.
Some people, some people really just do forget that, you know, that they're dating.
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Yeah.
And be thoughtful every now and then.
Be thoughtful.
Yeah.
That can keep that spark going.
Be thoughtful every now and then.
Yeah.
And pop up with a rose or two every now and then.
My girl, my girl says she don't want to, she want to eat no sweets so I can't get her chocolate.
It is what it is.
She might appreciate some flowers then.
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They give you flowers anywhere.
You ain't got to go to no expensive fucking big fucking, what they call it?
Some big flower places.
Man, them grocery stores be selling flowers and they be looking nice.
Yeah, I was just about to say, that's what I was about to go to.
But right, you ain't got to go to them big flower places and get all these crazy roses
(53:38):
on there, bro.
Like, I would go to the Alberson and get a bundle of flowers, bro.
Like, the flowers, dope, too.
Like, like $12.
Yeah, that should be, there's so many different ones too and they all look nice.
Oh my God.
Be thoughtful.
I mean, like, the message is, so like, my girl, like, there's love languages.
(54:02):
Like there's the gift, you know, the language and given, like, you know, gifts.
There's that, you know, speak, they love language.
Like, my girl really loved the fair yesterday.
Like when we went to the fair, that was her shit.
That was my gift, you know, to her, you know, that I gave her like a pret.
(54:25):
That fair was expensive.
But I said it too when I showed up for when I was leaving, Tom filled up.
We night goers.
We like, we like to write them nights.
We like to write them rise at night.
We went like in the late afternoon because the sun was like, man, it's hot in the afternoon.
I wanted to go in the afternoon because they got all them activities because they'd be,
(54:47):
they'd be having the petting zoo, the dog show.
We went to the petting zoo.
We seen like, or the llamas.
Oh, monster trucks too.
Yeah.
When I pulled in, I seen the monster trucks and then, uh, I was like, special as food.
Oh man.
No food.
I was like, this food had this pineapple where I was like, couldn't have, and it was, had
(55:11):
like a super rice and he had like shrimp and like, like teriyaki chicken or something like
that.
I'm like, Oh, I need, um, I go up to go get that shit was 2395.
That little scoop of rice, barely any chicken.
So my girl got it.
(55:32):
She said, cause she wanted to get it.
And then I was so mad.
I looked at the bottom, but they done filled it with pineapple.
So it's just literally that top layer.
You see that's all the meat you get.
Oh, and on one of the meat underneath, no, no, it's pineapple.
I like that.
But yeah, yeah.
But 20 nigga like me would have substituted that pineapple from real meat, man.
(55:58):
Uh, uh, I'm a big boy.
I need that protein.
Yeah.
Yeah.
For real.
I mean, like some people, you know, some people don't like the hot weather, but it is some,
it is some nice activity.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Today's the last date of a fair here in San Diego.
So hope, hope y'all, hope y'all have fun with that.
No, that was fun, man.
That was expensive.
Fairs are expensive.
They, them niggas want it.
They wanted $29 for a Turkey Lake.
(56:43):
Oh man, I gave it to him too.
I said I had to have one.
Hey, it's only way you only do that shit once every, like once a year.
I don't do that shit often.
Shit.
I don't even think I do it once a year.
Honestly, I can't even tell you before that my last Turkey leg, but the moral of the story
(57:07):
is to love your partner.
Like you, you like, like know what, know what you're doing with this partner.
Like, like, you know, there's long term, there's long term dating, you know, there's the short
term day.
And you know, you got, you got casual encounters where people just, you know, meet up to just,
you know, bang, bang, shitty bang, and then, and then peace out type shit.
(57:29):
That's whatever, you know, it is what it is.
And then you got swingers, you know,
Yeah, write it out, know yourself.
But yeah, that's, that's it on dating.
Oh, that was cool.
That was good.
That was good.
(57:50):
That was good.
But yeah, dating is a cesspool.
You got to learn how to navigate through it.
I'm so glad I found my, I found my honey boo boo baby.
Love you, Snookums.
But type shit.
(58:10):
But yeah, man, episode 20, I appreciate y'all tuning in and thanks for y'all watching episode
19.
You know, we had our boy Jordan and Jordan is really our boy.
Like we talked about him probably being on here, like another episode and the people
that we do have on here, like they really are boys.
Like, like, you know, it's the season one guest, you know, Ham.
(58:33):
And, and who else?
Like, like your boy.
Yeah.
T like those really are boys.
Like they're going to come back.
Shit.
We all might have an episode where we all on at the same time type shit.
Yeah.
And we, yeah.
And we had, we have plenty of plenty of like great friends too.
Like they got hellish shit to say.
(58:54):
I'm pretty sure we got to, we got, we got, we got a guest kind of coming up pretty soon.
We gonna need some more mics.
We're going to need some more equipment already.
I already got new equipment too, but that's cool.
That's all right.
All for the better mental health out there for those that are struggling how to navigate
through, you know, the daily, daily struggles of life.
(59:16):
Cause you know, dating is a bitch.
Dating is tough, but I love my baby.
And
you are just take the learn from it.
Don't sit there and keep taking those to keep going back.
(59:39):
People chasing people.
Leave it alone.
Wasting time.
Time is right.
I want you to take it.
It's a waste.
Me.
I don't me.
I never sit around.
I just go out there and get it.
I go out there and get it.
If I want it, I like it.
I get it.
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And I keep it forever.
My fault.
We know not at that drink, that drink done.
Yeah.
Then got my speech going crazy.
Yeah.
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