Ever felt the surge of anxiety just before stepping into the spotlight, questioning whether you truly belong, or if you're good enough? I relive this emotional rollercoaster every week as I prepare to go live on the Heart of Success show. Join me this episode as I share personal stories of navigating the murky waters of self-doubt and the fear of judgment, which often trace back to past traumas. Together, we explore how these fears create distorted self-images and how acknowledging every aspect of ourselves, even those we're tempted to ignore, can lead us to break free from self-sabotage. The journey of confronting these fears is no easy feat, but it is the first step toward embracing our true potential and crafting a life brimming with success and fulfillment.
Amidst this journey, self-acceptance and gratitude become vital. I open up about the ongoing struggle with feelings of inadequacy and how personal growth and resilience are key in overcoming them. A heartfelt thank you goes out to our community of listeners for their unwavering support, understanding, and love, which are pillars of strength as we face these challenges together. As a token of gratitude, I invite you to enjoy some uplifting music and remind you of our next gathering next Wednesday at 2 pm South Australian time. Your presence in this journey is invaluable, and I eagerly await connecting with you again as we continue to build this supportive community.
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Episode Transcript
Oh, happy Wednesday.
You are on the Heart of Successshow and I'm your host, larissa
Vakulina.
I go live every Wednesday at 2pm, south Australian time zone,
and here on this show, I sharewith you my own personal
experiences and also, you know,official qualifications and all
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the tips, methods, tools andknowledge about how you can
create successful life, not onlyin your professional and
business Let me just get alittle higher yeah, not only in
your professional life or inbusiness, but also in all areas
of your life.
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Areas of your life.
Today.
I was just wondering about howI am still very fearful of my
own potential, how this is my65th episode of going live and
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sharing a lot of differentinformation and material and
topics with you, but I stillfeel very fearful.
So, am I enough?
That's what the question I'masking myself, and also why we
always have this fear of theself.
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So I wanted to elaborate alittle bit more on this topic
today.
I want to share with you my ownexperiences of how, each time
when I come live to talk to you,I feel this fearful feeling of
being judged or not being lovedor maybe not being understood.
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All of these inner voices thattell me like what if they don't
like you?
What if they judge me?
What if they don't agree withwhat I'm telling here?
And this is creating anenormous pain inside and this is
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creating the state where thatself-judgment, that self, basic
fear of fearing the self, italso sits behind fearing the
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life itself and fearing thedeath.
So this really is the naturethat we have that we keep this
fear within ourselves, that wekeep this fear within ourselves
and also when we're fearingothers.
That's what I'm constantlydoing when I'm alive, I'm
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fearing others because I'mfearing myself.
So this is first the fear of theself, and only then we're
experiencing the fear ofeverything else outside of us.
So why is it?
How does this happen?
So we all know this deep pain,and I know you know this deep
pain and that pain of the false,illusionary fear of yourself
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when you basically wall off theparts of yourself that you don't
know fully, not accepting andnot acknowledging.
So this is really what it is.
It's like we are alienatingthese parts of ourselves that we
don't know and we're notacknowledging and not accepting.
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So it sits on this.
And how can we actually thenreach our potential if part of
us is actually throwing outsideof us and it's not accepted as
us.
So, basically, what we do, welet me just get into the
comments so, what we actually do, we're separating parts of
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ourselves that we believe arenot good enough or we believe
that is bad.
For some reason, we believethat is something that we not
even need to acknowledge byourselves.
Well, this really is unsuccess.
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So, from this place ofseparation within ourselves, we
cannot create success, we cannotreally reach potential.
And really, without reachingour full potential and giving
from that place of abundance andfullness, we're not free.
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We keep creating more fear, wekeep creating more unsuccess in
our life, we keep creating morepain because of that place that
we're constantly dwelling on,we're constantly having
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association with, like thatplace of not being enough Right.
So, and to actually deal withthis self-talk, to deal with all
these negative thoughts andself-judgment of what if they're
not going to love me?
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What if they're not going toaccept me?
What if they're not going toagree with me or love me or
respect me?
So we create an ideal self, andthat ideal self is always
unrealistic, it's not realizablebecause it is outside of us.
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So we create that ideal self,that ideal self, and we believe
that we kind of you know keepingourselves from you know
exposing ourselves truly fromthat very honest place.
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I'm here with you right now andI'm fearing that maybe I will
be judged by others, or maybe Iwill be not agreed, or maybe I
would be not loved by others.
But I'm choosing to go throughthis and overcome my fear every
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week and I'm showing up formyself because I would like to
challenge that fear and justshow up for myself and for you,
because I have that potentialwithin myself that I would like
to share with others and givefrom that place.
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So we always also believe thatwhen we're challenged by all the
problems and things in our life, we believe that we don't
really have a choice.
We're always at the crossroadof a good and bad alternative.
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We don't see the reality fromdifferent angles and we only
have that two alternative.
And that's why we actuallyseparating that place that we
internally believe in ourselvesthat are not good.
Well, this is reallydestructive and this is really
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self-sabotaging for your successto to and to reach your full
potential and give from thatinner reaches of yourself to
outside and share with others,right, so, uh.
So when we actually hold on thatpain of being not enough.
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It indicates that we have thewrong and very negative
perception of ourselves.
So it's not realisticperception of ourselves.
It sits and based on that pastexperiences that probably some
time ago, we've beenexperiencing some trauma, some
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pain, some really judgmentalexperience or some painful
experiences Right, and that'swhere we start to judge
ourselves and that's where westart to experience that pain of
not being enough.
But really exposing yourselfand accepting this part of
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yourself is the way to reachyour potential, to actually
strengthen your potentialpotential.
And each time when I have a bigdream or big project that I
start to create and I start todive into the creation of my
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reality, I have that voice, thatvoice of not being enough.
But I go and choose, I gothrough it.
I just choose to overcome thispain of being not enough and
also realizing that thesenegative thoughts and the
self-judgment is only mine.
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I doubt that people areactually seeing me in the same
light as I'm seeing myself.
And this is the firstrealization that needs to be
happening when we self-judgingourselves, when we criticizing
ourselves and when we stillkeeping these places of
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believing that there's somethingreally bad in ourselves, that
we need to pretend so bycreating our ideal self.
We basically, you know, wantingto become that ideal self,
which is unrealizable, or wepretending to become that ideal
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self, so by pretending we'renever, ever going to reach our
full, authentic potential thatis so needed right now in the
world, that's so needed to beshown and to be shared for the
collective and individualhealing, right.
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So, and what I'm experiencingevery time, that when I'm
holding myself within this painof self-judgment, it's a very,
very painful, hard space to be,and it is much more painful than
just accept these places andshare with everyone.
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Yes, I am in fear, yes, I amafraid to showing up and, yes, I
just want to share that.
Because most of the time, wetry to show outside world only
the good sides of us, only theachievable realities, only the
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success, only the good.
But alongside with that, we allhold these places within
ourselves that we somehow don'twant to accept and we're afraid
of it.
And what we're actually afraid?
We're not afraid of theseplaces.
What we're afraid more is ourfull potential.
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We're afraid more of our innergenius that is wanting to come
out and be shared with others,right, and it's not only be
shared with others, but alsothis is the road and way for the
freedom, for the health, forjoy, for all of these things
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that we really want in our life.
So it is hard to be seen, ithurts to be heard in the places
where you don't have thatconfidence or where you don't
have this very strong potentialyet.
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And it hurts to know that youlook at me and possibly maybe
judge or not love or whatever itis, and realizing that this is
only my thoughts, keep me comingevery week here and sharing
with you myself, right?
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So it is a short episode todaybecause, yes, I'm feeling very
vulnerable today, I'm feelingnot enough.
I'm feeling that I need to gowithin and have that inner
process with myself and gatherthese pieces together and see
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how these pieces all of it, thegood, the bad, wherever we judge
get together and help me tocreate and strengthen my full
potential so that I can then,from that abundant place, to
give more, to share more, tohelp more, to guide more people
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to their own inner potential andto their own inner genius.
So I would like to justhighlight about three points
that would possibly help you aswell to think about your
enoughness, about your power,about your fears, as well as the
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potential, right.
So realize and know that allthis negative self-judgment and
criticizing is only yourthoughts.
It is your first, it is yourfirst and only then you think
that others feel and think thesame about you.
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That's a lie.
This is really an illusion,right?
The second point is that realizethat, in accordance to the
cause and effect law, the moreyou fear in yourself, the more
you create fear from that fearof self, the more you create
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fear of your life, right?
And the more you're notsuccessful, the more you're
struggling to reach yourpotential.
So realize that the law ofcause and effect works perfectly
here, and that's the purposethat we are here to fully
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realize ourselves with all thepieces that we are, the good,
the bad, the ugly, all of thesefearful parts that we so
ardently try to hide fromourselves and from others, right
?
So, and the last point is,strive to meet these places
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within yourself.
These places hold the giftsthat you have, these exact
places of the wound, of thetraumas, of that fears that you
feel not being enough.
This is the exact place whereyou hold your gifts and talents.
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So, unfortunately, there's onlyway to go through it Go through
that fear and just show up foryourself and say yes to life,
say yes to your dreams, say yesto any challenging projects that
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you have.
And you have that voice of doubtand that voice of not being
enough.
Well, say yes, I accept theseplaces, but I am overcoming and
I'm still showing for ourselves.
So I would like to finalizetoday my episode, and I'm really
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grateful for all of you to keepcoming and keep supporting me
and keep understanding and keepsupporting me and keep
understanding and keeprespecting me and loving me,
because I feel that love andpain, that love and respect and
support that you are all havingwithin yourself and you giving
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it to others.
Thank you so much forsupporting and thank you for
being with me here, and I willcome back next Wednesday at 2 pm
South Australian time zone andI would like to put some music
for you to enjoy and make agreat day.
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Thank you.
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