Be Careful Who You Tell: A September Warning and a Shift

Feeling a shift in your spirit? You're not alone. As we enter September—a month symbolizing birthing, completion, and transition—something profound is happening. This isn't your typical motivational talk; it's a heartfelt warning about the power of conversations and who deserves access to your dreams.

We've all been there: excitedly sharing good news only to have someone's response deflate our joy completely. Their words make us question the very thing we were celebrating moments before. The truth? Not everyone has the capacity to hold your dreams with care. Some people, even those closest to you, may unintentionally destroy what you've prayed for simply because they don't recognize its value. This September demands a new approach: you must "guard forward." Stop giving everyone front-row seats to your process. Treat your vision like a newborn baby—be selective about who gets to hold it, who gets to speak over it, who gets access to this fragile, beautiful thing God is birthing in your life.

This spiritual practice requires three intentional steps: audit your conversations (who adds faith versus doubt?), check your self-talk (are you affirming the shift or sabotaging it?), and practice guarded joy (not everything needs to be broadcast). The work you've invested, the 10,000 hours you've put in, deserve protection. Remember that every text doesn't need an immediate response, every call doesn't need to be answered, and every achievement doesn't need public validation to be meaningful. This month isn't just about stepping into new things—it's about protecting what you've prayed for. Ready to shift forward, even if you have to do it quietly? Your vision is worth the protection.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Well, looky, looky.
We have entered into a newmonth, we are in September and
we're not doing surface levelencouragement today, because
this episode y'all it ispersonal.
It's personal, but it's also awarning and a shift at the same
time, because I've been feelingit in my own life the need to

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watch what I say, watch who Isay it to, and even watch how I
speak to myself.
So if you've been feeling likesomething is shifting for you
too, lean in, this one is for usNow.
Let me just preface this bysaying that we've all done it
right.
We have fallen in love with thepicture, the polished, pretty

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version of our life, the visionin our head of how things should
look by now.
But here's the trap Sometimesit's not the picture that keeps
us stuck, it's the conversationsaround it.
You finally feel excited aboutwhat God is birthing in you and
you share it.
Too soon you celebrate a winand suddenly someone talks you

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out of the very thing you weregrateful for, or maybe it could
be.
You decide to shift, to grow,to change, and the wrong
conversation makes you questionyourself all over again.
Friend, not everybody is goingto be happy about your success.
Not everybody has the capacityto hold your dreams with care.

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I'm going to just pause for asecond.
Right there, because this,right here.
This is why September matters.
Right, because this is ashifting month.

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Nine symbolize birthing,completion, transition, and it's
just like a new season.
The shift requires discernment.
This month, it's not enough tojust move forward.
You have to guard forward.
Guard your conversations withothers.
Stop giving everyone front rowseats to your process.

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Guard your conversations withyourself.
Stop talking to yourself out ofwhat God already said yes to,
and guard your joy.
Let me say that again Guardyour joy.
Some things need time to growin private before they can stand
in public.
Sometimes the best thing youcan do is to step out of the

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frame for a bit, not because thepicture is bad, but because the
noise around it is too loud.
I just feel like there are somany of you all who are birthing
something amazing in thisseason, and I need you to be

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careful of who you share it with.
Remember I already said thatnine is about birthing, and so,
even when you think about howthe process of a child comes
into this world, and even asparents oftentimes don't even

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share when they're in the firsttrimester, because things can be
a little iffy and even when thebaby arrives, you are careful
and cautious about who you allowto come to your home, who you
allow to put hands on your child, who you allow to speak into
your life.
You're going to have to treatthis like a newborn baby.

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You're going to have to treatthis season of your life as if
it is a child that you areholding, because some people
y'all they may mean well, somepeople y'all they may mean well,

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but they don't realize thewords that are coming out of
their mouth are actuallydestroying what you have
actually prayed for, and theydon't even realize it because
it's not their child.
So be careful, use discernment,and it can be some of the
closest people to you.
You don't have to share it allright now and you may not need

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to share it at all.
Allow them to watch and seefrom a distance.
And it was just a conversationthat I had where I felt like, oh
, I can share this because itshould be good news.
Well, it was great news to me,and I felt like, by the time I

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finished, it was like, well, wasit really?
Is this what I'm really lookingfor?
And the answer is yes, butbecause it didn't work for them.
That oh well, you know.
Let me just, you know, throw mytwo cents in here, and this is

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how it should work for you andyour life.
No, I don't need your two cents.
Keep that, please.
So I just need you to be carefuland be cautious and monitor not
just what you share, but alsowhat you say to yourself.

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And so here's how you put thisinto practice.
Number one audit yourconversations.
Who are you talking to aboutyour dreams, your struggles,
your wins?
Do they add faith or do theyadd doubt?
Number two check your self-talk.

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Check your stinking thinking.
Check what you say to you,because y'all you are with you
all day long, and so, even ifyou don't open your mouth and
say it, you might be thinking it, and you might as well have
said it if you thought it.
So what are you saying toyourself when no one else hears?
Are you affirming the shift orsabotaging it with fear?

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Comparisons and what ifs?
I need you to practice guardedjoy.
Not everything needs to be abroadcast.
Start protecting what's growingin you.
It's okay to celebrate quietlyuntil it's strong enough to

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stand in the open.
Like I said, treat this likeyour new child, treat this as if
it is extremely fragile,because the season that we're in
is one to require a differentlevel of discernment.
And it doesn't mean again letme preface this by saying it

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does not mean that theindividuals are trying to cause
harm someday, but most justaren't in a place of recognizing
what you have actually prayedfor and prepared for.
See some people pray all daylong, but there's a another

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piece to that that requires youto put in action, and that's
where the preparation comes intoplay.
See, all that you have put intoit.
No one sees that behind thescenes, just like you don't get
a chance to actually hold thebaby until it has been birthed.
You may feel the kicks, you maysee your belly expanding, you

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may see even a sonogram of it,but you don't get to actually
hold it until the baby isbirthed.
And I need you to operate inthat space.
You are mindful of where you go, you are mindful of who you
talk to, you are mindful of thespaces that you're in, because

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what you have prayed for, Ipromise you is and is showing up
in your life.
So don't allow someone to comein that has not prayed for and
put in action to anything todeter you from and to be happy

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for what is showing up in yourlife.
By the time they see it, by thetime they experience it, this
baby has gotten, you know, somegirth to it.
It's grown up just a tad bit.
It's been here for a minute.

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Some people just don't need toknow and I need you to realize
that that is okay.
So I want you to sit with thesequestions this month.
Who do I need to stop sharingeverything with this month?
Where have I been talkingmyself out of the very thing

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I've prayed for, and how can Iprotect my joy while still
walking boldly in my purpose?
I need you to take a breathhere, write it down, let
yourself be honest.
Every phone call doesn't needyou to answer it.

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Every text message doesn't needyou to respond right away.
Be cautious of what you do, whoyou share this season with.
So let me speak this over youus, god, this September, help me

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to watch my words, guard myheart and protect my joy.
I refuse to let carelessconversations or inner doubts
steal what you are birthing inme.
I shift my focus, my speech, mycircle toward purpose.
Friend, let that be affirmingto you, and if you have already

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shared something, just know thatit's okay.
Just don't share anything else.
And I'm talking to myself too,because I had gotten to a place
where I was like I'm so excitedfor what God is doing in this
season.
I know how God is moving.
I know how he is showing up inmy life because I've worked hard

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.
When they talk about the 10,000hours of mastering something,
my God, I've been putting in thework.
I haven't always got it allright, but I've been putting in
the work, and I know that youhave been putting in the work as
well.
So, friend, this month isn'tjust about stepping into new

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things.
It's about protecting whatyou've prayed for.
So watch your words, guard yourspace and don't be afraid to
shift forward, even if you haveto do it quietly.
So until next time the real youis worth being seen.