Bonus Episode- Red Velvet Revelations: The Baker's Heart

A simple red velvet cake sparked a revelation that might forever change how you view your giving heart.

Have you ever wondered why you rush to meet others' needs without being asked? Why you remember the small details, show up without hesitation, or give freely without expectation of return? This spontaneous episode dives deep into the beautiful paradox of natural givers - those who pour out endlessly yet somehow maintain their capacity for joy despite not always receiving the same in return.

The story begins with my cousin baking a cake for someone who casually mentioned missing red velvet. No agenda, no expectation - just a pure impulse to fill a gap she was uniquely equipped to address. This seemingly small act opened a profound conversation about the nature of giving, receiving, and divine replenishment.

For those who give consistently but don't always feel reciprocated, there's a powerful truth waiting: your generous spirit isn't naive or misguided - it's divinely designed and supernaturally sustained. When human connections fail to refill your cup, God steps in as your source, ensuring you can continue stewarding the gift of giving without becoming hardened or depleted.

This episode offers both validation and hope for the natural givers listening. Your capacity to care deeply isn't a weakness to overcome but a superpower to embrace. Don't build walls around your kindness when it isn't matched - instead, recognize the divine wellspring that ensures you'll never truly run dry.

If this message resonates with your soul, share it with another giver who needs to hear they're seen. Let's continue giving joy not from emptiness, but from the beautiful overflow that comes when we recognize who's truly filling our cups. Choose joy today, even if you have to bake it yourself.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Okay.
So this one is going to kind oftouch your heartstrings a
little bit, because this wasn'tplanned but it pressed on my
heart so I pressed record.
You ever hear a story that's sosimple but it unlocks something
so big.
Okay so backstory.

(00:23):
I was talking to my cousinyesterday.
She met this new person.
Seems like a good one, they gota chance to hang out and then
somewhere in the conversation hejust kind of casually mentions
that he hadn't had a red velvetcake in a really long time.
Had a red velvet cake in areally long time.

(00:51):
Now, I'm not the one to brag,but the Williams girls know how
to bake some cakes, you hear me.
So my cousin makes a mean youhear me A mean red velvet cake.
So what does she do?
She goes home, pulls out theingredients and makes him one,
just like that, not because heasked, not because she was

(01:13):
trying to impress him, notbecause she was trying to be
wifey material, but because hesays something that he missed.
And joy said I got you Like, Iknow how to do this, I can make
this.
And so that sat with me becauseit made me ask why do we do

(01:40):
that?
And I even said to her girl becareful, because you know how we
do and we do.
We go all in not because we arelooking for anything in return.
So, to say, right, we do andgive so freely, because it

(02:04):
brings not just the person thatwe are providing the service to,
but because it brings us joy.
I know for her, just being ableto go home and whip up that
recipe and put it in the ovenwas nothing for her, because she
has already memorized thisrecipe and can do it, probably

(02:27):
in her sleep.
But it was just the point thatI'm listening to you, I hear you
and this is something that willbring you joy.
And it's just, it's somethingthat I can do so easily.
But have you ever noticed how,when we like someone or not even

(02:51):
if we like someone, but itcould just be someone that may
have crossed our path we careabout them in the simplest ways,
and they may mention somethingthat they haven't had or
something that they miss, and wemove into motion.

(03:11):
Why?
Because when you're a joyfulperson, joy doesn't stay inside,
it moves, it finds a way out,and often that way out looks
like baking, giving, showing up,remembering or even just

(03:32):
offering.
And we don't always givebecause we're trying to be
chosen.
We give because giving is ourdefault posture, because
somebody shared a gap and we hadthe power to fill it.
And I don't know.
It's almost like when you carrylove on the inside.

(03:55):
Filling a gap isn't a burden,it's a gift for you and for them
.
It's a gift for you and forthem.
So that cake was more than acake.
It was.
I heard you, it was.
You don't have to miss thisanymore.
It was here.

(04:19):
Let joy find you through me.
And, to be honest, when I satwith that because I had been
thinking about it since ourconversation and I got up this
morning and I'm like why do wedo that?
What is it about us that wejump into action?
Why do we feel the need, feelthe need, and then it was just

(04:50):
so simple.
Because here I am, I'm askingGod why is it?
Those with the biggest hearts?
Sometimes we and now I'mgetting emotional Sometimes we
Provide and do, even when we arelooking for that in return from
other people, and so oftentimesyou'll hear people say I pour,

(05:14):
I pour, I pour, I pour, but wedon't oftentimes get that same
pour in return, but yet it neverhardens our heart.
We always get to a place whereit's like, okay, I gave, I did
what I was supposed to do, nowlet me kind of just move on with

(05:37):
it.
But I ask God, I'm like, okay,so if others are being poured
into with this joy, where whereis it that we are getting this
extension from that we cancontinue to pour when it's not
like we're being poured backinto in that way.

(06:00):
And it was so simple.
God is just an amazing God.
And his response back to me wasbecause I feel you back up.
I feel that need that you arelooking for.

(06:38):
I give you what I may not beable to give to others, because
I know that you will steward itwell.
I know that when the personcomes to you in need, that,
regardless of if you may have itor not, you will figure out a

(06:59):
way to provide that person withwhat they need.
And I am the one that's fillingyou back up.
I am the one that is pouringback into your cup.
I am the one that, when youhave tears streaming down your

(07:23):
face, that I wipe those tearsand give you a hug and tell you
that it's going to be okay.
But not everyone is given thisgift.
Not everyone can be a goodsteward.
Not everyone can pour and do itso freely, not expecting

(07:43):
anything in return.
So for me and I'm sure with mycousin, because I'm going to
send this to her we do becauseit brings us joy.
And some of us we're justnatural givers.

(08:03):
We give because God just putthat in us.
We give because joy lives inour bones.
We give because it feels right.
But if we're honest, we don'talways get it back the way that
we hope, and I know it can sting.

(08:25):
But here's what I had toremember, and maybe this is for
you as well.
God created us this way andwhile it's beautiful to be
poured into by people, there isnothing like the filling that
comes from him, the kind of joyhe pours back into us, the kind

(08:46):
of peace he gives when nobodyelse sees us, the way he honors
our heart when others don't.
It's different, it's divine,it's full.
So if you're, or if you've beengiving and not receiving, I

(09:08):
need you to hear me, and hear meclearly.
Don't shut down your softness,don't build walls around your
kindness, don't curse the verygift that makes you you, because

(09:32):
even if people don't give itback in the way you expect.
God never misses.
You'll be filled again, andwhen you are, you'll keep giving
, but this time from a well thatcan't run dry.
So I'm hoping that you all heardmy heart, because we're joyful

(09:56):
people, we love well, we givefrom the heart, and when we show
up with intention, that lovebecomes legacy.
So let's keep giving joy, butnot from emptiness, from
overflow.
And if this resonated with you,share it with someone who's a

(10:22):
giver too.
Let them know it's okay toreceive, let them know you see
them.
And if no one has told youtoday, thank you for being a
light.
I'll see you on the nextepisode, but until then, keep
choosing joy, even if you haveto bake it yourself.