August 7, 2025 • 37 mins
Want to know the fastest way to grow spiritually, mentally, and relationally?
It’s not another book.
It’s not a new habit tracker.
It’s not a mastermind group.
It’s this: how you respond to feedback.
In this episode of The Impossible Life, Garrett and Nick break down one of the most powerful, overlooked growth levers in a man’s life—his response to correction. Most men get defensive. Mature men get better.
This isn’t just about listening—it’s about attitude, identity, and humility before God.
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It’s not another book.
It’s not a new habit tracker.
It’s not a mastermind group.
It’s this: how you respond to feedback.
In this episode of The Impossible Life, Garrett and Nick break down one of the most powerful, overlooked growth levers in a man’s life—his response to correction. Most men get defensive. Mature men get better.
This isn’t just about listening—it’s about attitude, identity, and humility before God.
Check out the mentors selection episode we referenced by clicking here.
Level up your life with IDLife nutrition by clicking here.
Apply to join Giant Killers here if you're a man that wants real accountability and training to become a leader.
Level up your greatest asset with us in Mindset Mastery. How you think will change everything in your life. Click here to learn more.
Level up your life with IDLife nutrition by clicking here.
Apply to join Giant Killers here if you're a man that wants real accountability and training to become a leader.
Level up your greatest asset with us in Mindset Mastery. How you think will change everything in your life. Click here to learn more.
GET IN TOUCH
Advertise on the podcast by clicking here.
Growth focused content - https://www.theimpossible.life/blog.
Sign up for our Mission Ready Mindset Once-A-Week Motivational Email
Instagram - @theimpossiblelife
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
That's impossible. Let me tell you what I believe. It's
your weakness, it's not your technique. Don't think you know.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
The Impossible Life Podcast and yes, sitting on a winning lottery. Second,
an idea that is fully formed, fully understood.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
That sticks. This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick
and I are attempting to live impossible lives. What we
know is that nothing is impossible. So instead of using
impossible as an excuse to not try, we'll use the
pursuit of impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's
(00:41):
never been done before.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
That just means it's unexplored.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
If they tell you it's too hard, it's just waiting
to be simplified. Impossible as a default label used by
uncourageous people unwilling to take a risk.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
The real truth is this.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
The solution to any impossible task starts with this question,
If I had to what would it take? What would
it take?
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across at
Aman currently engineering his own superpowered breakfast cereal for high
performers called Feedback Heos. That's right, friends, the goat Uncle
Buck a man who knows that feedback is the breakfast
of champions.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
That is uh, that's exactly right, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
What would you pour on a bowl of feedback? Heos though, Gee,
what would I pour on a bowl?
Speaker 3 (01:38):
I would I would take some some leadership milk and
with or some some personal growth and development milk.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
I have so many questions about where you get leadership milk.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
That's that's you taking, like I'm going to take the
feedback or you know what, it's positive attitude milk. That's
what it is. I'm gonna to take this feedback and
have the right attitude about it and then you know,
but in this context, it's not the perfect analogy because
cereal is great by itself.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
There you go.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
You know, I would eat cereal by itself. You don't
want to just eat feedback by itself. You want to
eat feedback with the right attitude so that you can
ingest it properly and get the most out of it
instead of just you know, be sad and feel sorry
for yourself when people tell you things that you don't
like to hear.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Yeah, well, thank you for taking my comical intro and
turn it into a real life analogy for all of
us to learn. And you know, hint I wrote that
intro specifically for what we're talking about today because today
is the growth super hack, and we don't believe in
super hacks. So the name of super hack is kind
of a misnomer because I think super hack carries with
it the thought process of shortcuts. And if you know,
(02:48):
the test is always wet, gee, what's the test? Always faithfulness?
Faithfulness which means that you don't take the shortcuts. It
means you keep going being faithful with what's in your hand,
and you trust God to bring about His purposes in
your life, which means you just keep going the course.
So here's the thing. If you're listening to the Impossible
Life podcasts, you know that we're growth minded. We very
much are about getting all of it, which means that
you are you fulfilled one hundred percent of who God
(03:10):
made you to be and his plans in the earth,
which is a lofty If.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
You're listening to this podcast, it's not because you want
seventy five percent of your life. You want one hundred percent.
You want you want God to give you want everything
that God has for you. I don't want, I don't
want more than what God has for me. But I
know what God has for me is exactly what I
should want. I don't want. Then that's that's the posture
of my heart saying like, I know that You've created
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me for for good work. You've created me for the
things that you have for me, and that's what I want.
And I don't want anything else beside that besides that,
because that would be wrong, and to want anything less
than that is also wrong.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Yeah, and God made you to grow. I mean, it's
just as simple as that He made you to grow.
Sanctification as a process. The whole of our life points
to process. So you're always going to be in process.
So we want to help everybody out there that's in process,
which is all of us, know some of the obstacles
you're going to face, and hopefully you can start recognizing
those obstacles when they present themselves because these are things
(04:07):
that people sail back past all the time. So, assuming
you want to grow, which we're assuming you do, here's
the question for you. What do you think the growth
process looks like? Because here's what we love, man. We
all love a montage where we just keep winning and
we overcome all the challenges, takes thirty to forty five seconds,
and we feel great while we do it, and also
we look cool. Oh what's that? Something went wrong? Man?
(04:29):
My biceps were bulging, my hair was perfect. I had
a little bit of misplaced dirt on my face and
some sweat, but man, I overcame it and looked amazing.
And we love this beautiful looking picture of growth where
it's just straight line up the hill. What actually growth
looks like.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Everybody loves the Rocky Montage.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
That of course they do, and what it actually looks
like is seeing all your preferences and selfishness exposed. It
really hurts, like growth is. Man, you think you're doing
well and then you get kneecapped by something you never
saw coming that literally drops you to your knees. And
when you get that, you have a choice. You can
either deny what you know, what the feedback was and
your selfishness. You can disagree with it. You can refuse
(05:07):
to believe it's true, or as your dad said, you
can assess whether the shoe fits, and if the shoe fits,
wear it right.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
You have the Rocky Montage skips like straight from you know,
all the hard work to like I see the results
of my hard work. That's the shortest of the montage,
because the reality is like this is like you go
do the hardest workout you've ever done, and then you
go home and look in the mirror and you look
exactly the same.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
That's exactly right, and you do.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
This over and over and over again, and it's like, man,
all this stuff, all this growth that I'm experiencing, is
really just pain. I'm not really seeing the results yet.
And that's what you have. Just have to have the
right attitude about that feedback that says, Okay, I know
I just probably need more of this. I need to
respond appropriately to it, and I'll grow from it.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Yeah. I mean that's the physical example that we can
all see. The ones that hurt. I think even worse
are you start doing all this personal development work on yourself,
you really decide to change your life, and then people
are like, yeah, but dude, we've known you for the
past ten years and you've been kind of a dufist,
so they just treat you like a dufist. You're like, no, no,
I've changed. Okay, Well, the feedback is telling you that
they don't see it yet, and that's hard. That physical.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Physical is slow, right, you don't like you work out
for thirty days and you'll see like minor changes. And
also physical is the fastest of all the areas in
your life to change.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Yeah, my wife said something once when I was doing
my project forty and she said, it'll take four weeks
for you to notice, it'll take eight weeks for other
people to notice. And I just thought that was such
a brilliant thing that she said, and I've always stuck
to it anytime I've really started getting into because I
found it to be true. And even then they're not
going to notice that much. And if that's what you need, well,
then you might you might want to reassess your motivation.
(06:53):
But anyways, so the prerequisite for this and something just
to take on board is because really this is how
to deal with feedback and how to identify it, because
oftentimes feedback doesn't come in the form of like, well, Garren,
I'd like to sit down and talk about your performance today,
Like we all get that at work, you don't get
that in life. Life's feedback comes in many forms, and
we're gonna dive into some scriptures. We're gonna look at
three types of people in the way that they respond
(07:14):
to feedback, and we're gonna also give you some examples
of it so you can identify it in your own
life and how to deal with it. But here's what
you should know. Your identity is very closely tied to
how you deal with feedback. If your identity is based
on your own performance, on needing to be accepted from
other people and have them approve of you or for
what you possess, you're going to have feedback be very
(07:37):
crushing for you. If it's hard for someone to look
at you and tell you something negative, and look, it's
always no one wants to be told, hey, you're failing
in this area, Like that's I don't want to give
this a shine that's not actually accurate. But if it's
to the point that you dread it, and I've been there, man,
when you're asking someonehen somebody's like, hey, so, and they
get ready to say something to you about an area
(07:58):
you were performing, whether it's your work or or whatever
where you were trying to achieve something and you know
the feedback's coming and you're dreading it because you can't
stand the thought of anything positive. This is a highlight
to you that you probably have some identity work to
do because it's always hard, but there's a different attitude
you take the feedback when you really want to grow,
Like when you're not worried about whether what it says
about UAKA. You don't need it to have a strong identity.
(08:19):
You want to hear where you're missing it because you
want to get better. It's almost disappointed if someone's like
you did everything right, because you're like, well, then that
means that I can't get me better from what you're saying,
and that's disappointing. You want to hear people say here's
where you can grow, here's where you can improve. I'll
give you credit credit to Garrett very early on when
we started this podcast and we would do our uh our.
(08:39):
You know, we have a lot of preparation that goes
into these things. We have at this point a very
proven process of how we build our story arcs, assimilate information,
organize it, and then deliver it. So what Garrett did
was he called me one day out the blue before
Mighty Man. He was like, Hey, I want you to
start giving me feedback on what you think of my
preaching every Saturday. I was like, I was kind of surprised.
I felt honored that you'd ask me, and I was like, Okay,
(09:00):
Now this was years ago and we still as of
here we are in August of twenty twenty five. I'll
still shoot you a message most Saturdays and be like,
I thought this was great. This went a little bit long.
I think you overstacked here. Actually you were great other days.
I'll just like, bro, you were like level ten. But
I just think that that's that's a very humble thing
because you could sit there and be like, what's Nick No,
you know what I mean, Like he's he's not some
(09:20):
great speaker. I don't need to hear from him. But
you saw that we had a process that worked here,
and you said, hey, I want you to tell me
where I need to get better. And that always stuck
out to me because you could easily just be like
we You.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
Know, Tiger Tiger Woods had a coach when for over
a decade he was the best golfer in the world,
had a coach the whole time, right, So everybody needs
to hear feedback. There has to be a separation as
well between this is the identity portion, between how you
feel about yourself and what people tell you, okay. So
(09:51):
if I get upset when other people like this is
like the this is an exaggeration. But if someone's like, hey,
I you know, I think you you could have done
this better, whether it's about speaking or your work or
whatever else, someone says, hey, I think you could have
done this better, your response is I thought you liked me,
right right. That's that's you saying like I want you.
(10:12):
I thought I want you to feel good about me
because that makes me feel good about me. And if
that's what your desire is is to feel good about yourself,
You're done growing, right, I'm not, you know, I'll tell
I appreciate when Nick tells me I does When I
do well, I always prepare so I know I'm not
going to just be terrible, but I'm looking for ways
that I can be better in the future. And so
(10:33):
I appreciate when he tells me I do well, and
I take that as feed If he doesn't give me
any corrective feedback, I just internally say, okay, what did
I What did I do in my preparation here that
I can use as growth information? Or when he tells me, hey,
I didn't think this part was great, I may have
thought that what I did was good. But if he
tells me it's not okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna hear him.
(10:54):
I'm going to look at that a different way. And
so whenever you receive feedback, you've got to have this
understanding of like, even if I was even if Nick's like, man,
you weren't very good at all, that doesn't mean that
I can't believe that I'm going to be a great speaker.
But I also need to be humble enough to hear
right what I see for myself, who I believe I'm
(11:15):
capable of being may be different than my current results
right now. And that's It's the same as like a
fat dude, uh, knowing that he's an athlete, what current
circumstances you are obese? Now who you are, you can
be an athlete as a person. Maybe you're an athlete before.
Maybe you just see that potential within yourself. Current circumstances,
(11:35):
you're you're dramatically overweight, and so there's you. You have
to be the one that receives the tension between those
things of where I am and where I want to be.
And we've talked about this before. This isn't an identity episode.
But part of identity it's vision, values and beliefs, right,
It's that the vision piece of like this is who
I see for myself to be right. And so where
there's tension is between the feedback they give you and
(11:57):
if you'll hear feedback in the right attitude, you're you're
helping tell me how to get to where I want
to be.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Yeah, And there's three types of people when it comes
to feedback, Like if you read through Proverbs, which we
hope you do, because we've been on the Proverbs of
day train for a long time in life, where basically
today as we record this, it's the sixth So I
guess what problem we read proverb six. There's thirty one
proverbs and there's never more than thirty one days. So
it's a beautiful symmetry that works perfectly, and this is
to grow in wisdom. But as you read through Proverbs,
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there's three types of people. There's the simpleton, the fool,
and then the wise and prudent person. And by and large,
the biggest differentiation between those people is how they observe
and deal with feedback. It really is that simple, and
I don't want to as you read through. I would
challenge you. Look for when it says the simple or
the simpleton, or the fool, or the wise, or the prudent,
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and look how they react and buy in large what's
talking about. I'll give you a few scriptures here. So
the simpleton Proverbs twenty two to three. The prudent see
danger and take refuge. Okay, great, But the simple keep
going and pay the penalty. That say they didn't even
see it. They just kind of walked right into it,
their head down, completely unaware and oblivious Proverbs seven to seven.
(13:07):
And I have seen among the simple, I've perceived among
the youths, a young man lacking sense. What is the simpleton?
This is a person that has no awareness, that's that
completely ignores the feedback that's coming their way because they
didn't even see it. They're not recognizing patterns. Because in
Proverbs seven to seven, he's talking about a simpleton who's
going near the door of the house of the prostitute,
of the of the wayward woman, and it is completely unaware,
(13:29):
goes there at night like, oh wow, I didn't expect
to see you here. Really, well, it's nighttime. She's here
every single weekend, just eating men alive and you just
completely didn't ignore it. Okay, that's you know, you keep
going and you're gonna pay the penalty. Well, what's the
penalty here, man, It's gonna absolutely destroy your life. This
could be in your health, this could be in your marriages,
could be in your business, this is in every place.
(13:49):
You're just walking along, hope and it works out. No idea,
not seeing the patterns in your life, not aware of
what's causing success or failure, not having any feedback that
you've either requested or uh scene, and then hey, we'll
just see what happens to you. Well, you're gonna get
blindslided and clawbered, and when you do, you know, I
hope that you have some people there to help you
pick you up.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
There's we're going to talk about a couple different of
the types of people, and with the simpleton, I see this.
The simpleton is also difficult. Ways to say that would
be ignorant or unaware. Okay, right, The prudent see danger
and take refuge. They realized what was ahead of them,
But the simple keep going and pay the penalty. Then
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maybe they saw something and they didn't realize it was danger,
or maybe they just don't see anything, see anything at all,
and they're not paying attention. These are people who don't
even have the awareness and desire for feedback. Someone might
even give them feedback and they're like, man, that guy
was mean, right, They don't they don't even realize like
the guy wasn't he wasn't trying to hurt you, he
(14:54):
was trying to help you, right, or even here here
and receive feedback and like cool thing, man, and just
throw it right out the window because they're like, all right,
I don't know what to do with that information, right?
What is feedback?
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Never heard of it?
Speaker 3 (15:08):
And so there's a there's a lack of awareness and
an ignorance with the simpleton.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Yeah, whereas the fool is just a full on rebellious
like legit doesn't want to hear it. So like Proverbs
one seven, the fear of the Lord is the beginning
of knowledge. Fools despise wisdom and instruction. Oh here we
go again. Can you just just let me be Look,
I don't want to hear this. I'm fine, I'm happy,
I'm enjoying what I'm doing. I just keep it to yourself.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
It's there's the fool has a different heart, there's either
there's either a laziness, a begrudgingness against work and what's
required of them to grow and to reach their destiny,
which can begin to manifest into other things, can turn
into entitlement, can turn into like anger and frustration towards
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the external and towards other people instead of the internal. Right,
the fool, he has the wrong attitude about growth, not
so much that he doesn't understand it, but either doesn't
want to grow or is just opposed to people who
want to help him.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Yeah, because Proverbs twelve fifteen, the way of fools seems
right to them, but the wise listen to advice. It's
this to me is such the heart of repentance and
why it's so important that we have humility in receiving things,
because if you think you're right, why would you change?
And this is so much of Like I always found
it fascinating to you that they said that John the
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Baptist came to prepare the way for Jesus, and you go, okay, like,
what's he doing. He's coming in and telling them the
Messiah is coming, Like you know this is this? Is it?
Speaker 3 (16:39):
No?
Speaker 1 (16:39):
What's he doing? He's bringing them back to repentance. It's like,
are you serious? That was the prerequisite for Jesus coming
to earth, was that people need to have a repent
in heart. Yes, why because that means that your ways,
you realize your ways are wrong. Like, that's what coming
to the cross is, is that you realize there has
to be a death. Now. The good news is Jesus
died on the cross in roughly nine hours, right, so,
(16:59):
and then there was a resurrection. That's a picture for us.
You're not meant to spend your whole life just you know,
in a constant, drawn out death. The whole point of
dying to self is that you can be resurrected to
have the new life of Christ in you. And this
is so much of what we miss whenever we think
that we're right, or we're trying to hold onto our
ways or our security or whatever it may be, is
that we don't realize that we're basically foregoing the process
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and trying to just kind of keep a little piece
of us in there, and it just doesn't work. It
is a full death, and that takes humility and realizing
your ways are wrong. And here we see it saying
very clearly that if you're a fool. You know your
ways are right? You know, it says a fool of fools,
A man's way causes destruction and his heart rages towards
the Lord that man. Like that one hits me because
(17:43):
I'm like, I don't sit there and go like, oh,
look at all these other people. I go, Man, that's
me without Christ, that's me. I'm the guy who's like
getting mad at God because things aren't going my way,
and I'm the one causing my own destruction. So I mean,
it's such a stark contrast.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
The wise listen to advice, so you know, it's saying
that the fools don't listen. And so there's a contrast here.
This is something that I've spent a ton of time
as I grew up reading proverbs, and this has spent
something that I've spent a ton of time thinking about.
So does it automatically make you a fool if you
(18:17):
don't listen to people? Right? This is this is a challenge,
like how do I know who I should listen to?
Do I have to just take anyone's advice? And so
like there's a couple of qualifiers for that. One is
you know, Jesus makes it really clear. You know who
people are by their fruit, so you should listen to
people who have the fruit of what you want in
your life. One of the things that I had to
(18:40):
had to go through was in you know, in my
own journey of going into seal training, I had people
tell me I was crazy. A lot of people tell
me I was crazy, which is similar to people calling
you a fool, right like the path what you're saying
that you know, you sound crazy. No one thinks that
you can do what you're saying that you're going to do,
and people even telling me that I can't do it,
(19:02):
And so I had to qualify their own advice. And
there was a couple of things that helped me qualify that.
One was I chose to be humble because I knew
I didn't have it all figured out right, and so
I said, I do need to grow, I do need
to learn, but I also feel like this is what
I'm called to do. So you guys aren't telling me like,
(19:23):
here's what it would take for you to do it.
They're just saying you sound crazy. And so I had
to It took work for me to do, but I
had to discern where's your advice? Coming from and for
many people who was either their advice was coming, they
just genuinely cared about me and they were afraid for
my future. And so I heard it that way and
didn't hold it against them like they thought low of me.
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They just thought what I was trying to do was scary.
Or there were people who didn't see in me what
I saw on myself, you know, because my dad for
like my dad was actually concerned for my future. But
my dad never doubted me right, And so there were
people that I could take that I could take their
words that gave me some security in what I was doing.
(20:06):
And I just had to figure out whose words did
I listen to and whose words did I discard? So
there is a different and really again what helped me
with that was having a humble heart and saying I
don't know everything, and that like, I'm really confident this
is where I'm supposed to do. I believe God has
a plan for my life. I believe God's sending me
down this road and I'm going to go into it
like one hundred percent. But I also know that I
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don't know everything. I'm just going to give it all
that I have. And so there were people who didn't
necessarily think the way that I thought that I didn't
listen to. But there were also plenty of people who
gave me feedback in the seal teams that were I've
received feedback there that I had never heard anywhere before
and allowed me to grow dramatically. So it really like
the key for the fool is humility, and who the
(20:51):
fool is is very unhumble. I've got it all figured out.
I don't want anybody's help. You guys don't know anything.
You're all idiots. Is really the fool.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
That's very well said. Gee, And we did a great
episode on mentors and advisors and teachers that you can
listen to. I don't know it off the top of
my head, but I'll go ahead and get myself homework
like I do every single week when we do this
and put it in the show notes. So because that is,
I thought that was a really great episode if you're
looking for how to know who to listen to or
what you can learn from everybody, that was we really
(21:20):
broke it down in that episode. So we've alluded to
the wise and prude, and they've been mentioned in other scriptures.
But and you can see that they It says, you know,
the wise listen to advice. In Proverbs twelve fifteen Proverbs
ten eight, the whys of heart will receive commandments, but
a babbling fool will come to Ruin Probabs seventeen ten,
a rebuke goes deeper into a man of understanding than
a hundred blows into a fool. It's one of my
(21:41):
favorite scriptures because what that means is that if you
are truly a wise and understanding, prudent person, you can
just have somebody say something to you and you know, okay,
it's time to change, Whereas if you're a fool, you
can just keep getting punched in the face and you're
still just going to keep going. And that to me
is like, that is what makes somebody wise. That's one
of the hallmarks of wisdom is that you are, like
you said, humble, correctable, that you can receive it with
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a positive attitude and understand that that person's trying to
help you. I think about your Navy seal example, and
it's so valuable to hear you say that, and when
you talk about the fruit that a person needs to
have in their life, you were doing something that nobody
in your vicinity had any knowledge or fruit. You don't. Yeah,
you didn't know anybody in the Special Forces. Like you said,
the first seal you ever saw was your instructors. So
it's like, how do you know how to weigh what's
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real and what's not? For most people, they're not going
to have that problem. If you're like a person who
wants better advice in your marriage and you're looking for
what you should listen to, guess what, the people around
you that have a great marriage are going to be
people that you should be listening to. So hopefully you
can identify that a little easier.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
If I had had like some Navy seals in my life,
I would have listened to what they said. You know,
the first ones I met were my instructors. And I
also knew the ones that I was meeting my instructors
like that the game had already started and maybe they're
going to say everything they can do to get me
to quit, so I couldn't listen to them. But I also,
you know, I ended up being that person to a
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lot of young tadpoles and be like, look, hey man,
I'm gonna tell you exactly what you need to hear.
I'll give you the feedback that you need to help
you grow, because ultimately it's all up to you anyways.
But if I can just unlock a little piece in
your mindset that keeps you on the right path, then great.
You know success is in your hands. But I'm gonna
give you the feedback you need to help you show
up appropriately.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Yeah, so good. I want to move towards giving people
some practical feedback and then we can wrap you. But
like I said, feedback doesn't come like you would go before.
You would have rankings in buds. If you're at work,
you have performance reviews. There's different areas where you have
very clear feedback. But that's not how it works in life.
So here's a feedback can If you're dealing with the
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same issue repeatedly and you're not getting close to the
results you want in an area of your life over
a long period of time, that means you're ignoring feedback
in some form. If you're on your third, fourth, fifth marriage, like,
that's feedback, right If you've been If you kind of
get to the point that you're like, well, I just
can't lose weight because I've been trying it for years,
that's feedback. If nobody wants to be your friend and
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everywhere you go you're like, man, I just can't see
him make friends. What's wrong with all these people? That's feedback.
You can ignore that and just be like, man, these
people are crazy. But chances are if you think there's
a thousand people driving the wrong way on the freeway,
you're the person's driving the wrong way on the freeway, right.
And so here's a few examples.
Speaker 3 (24:17):
That sounds like the simpleton, simpleton unaware.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Yeah, can you believe all these people? Just wow, traffics,
traffic's different. It's all coming against me. Weird anyways, So
a couple quick areas here. You go marriage. If your
wife doesn't believe you'll do what you say, akay, she
doesn't want to follow you, that's feedback. That's her telling
you she doesn't trust you. If every time you say
something like hey, I think we should do this, she's
like fighting you on it. You're reaping the results of
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some inconsistencies in your life. And we've talked about this
at length on this podcast. I don't want to go
too deep into that one, but that that is feedback.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
Yeah, no, it's not the kind you like but the only,
the only proper response is to have the right attitude
to it, not to sit, not to try and scorekeep
or judge and say like, well, I should have at
least seventy two percent level of respect from you due
to I've done this, this, this, and this right. That's
a horrible game to play. And you're most almost always
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going to score the card in your favor, and your
wife is going to score the card in her favor
through her own perspective of here's all the things you've
done that have caused me to not respect you. And
so the right and the only thing to do is
have the right attitude and say, well, if I want
her to if I want to make it easier for
her to follow me, I need to be more respectable.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Yeah, And feedback is harder when you don't have like
solid numbers. Wouldn't it be great if we could just have
a life score, you know that just tells you like,
here's how you're doing in life, which you're not going
to get here's what it looks like like from your kids.
So I worked with this man years ago. I have
no idea where he's at in life now, and I
hope he's doing well. But like he told me a story,
he was in sales and he had to be on
the road a lot, and he said that the day
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it really hurt for him the most was yet kids.
And when he would tellhim he would leave, they'd always like,
I don't want you to go, and like they would
love him and hug him. And then one day he
was like I'm leaving there, like okay, bye, and like
they just they had gotten so used to it that
they just were like, Okay, see you later, and they
stopped really even missing him. And when he would come back,
there was no reaction. Now, that's feedback telling you that
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you are losing your connection and your attachment with your kids.
The unfortunate thing for this man in this circumstances, he
just kept going because his career meant whatever it meant
to him. I don't know what the motivation was internally
that I can't speak to that, but unfortunately what happened
was he reaped a very broken relationship with his kids,
got divorced, and unfortunately got you hooked on some prescription
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pain medication and just his life did not go the
way he wanted to. And that's kind of a harsh example,
but like, that's that's I remember him telling me the story.
And when he told me the story, he was like, yeah,
that was the day. It hurt the most was when
they stopped. They stopped being upset that I was leaving.
But he didn't change anything. He just kept leaving and
was just like, man, that's tough. That hurts. It's a
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simpleton's reaction to it. He just completely he was it's either.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
The simpleton or the fool. Right, there's there's ignorance in
it or the full out of the wrong heart. You know,
people are he's getting the feedback of like, hey, you're
going in the wrong direction and just saying, oh, and
I don't care, right, it's wanting the wanting the wrong things.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Yeah, yeah, and it's that that's a it's the fool.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
The fool wants to be praised. The fool doesn't want
to actually get better, right, the full want. The fool
desires the wrong things. And in this situation, that man
was either ignorant to the fruit of what his labor
was going to create, or he wanted the wrong things
in his life, didn't care about his family.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Yeah, very true. All right, the easiest place and like
I said, we're just giving you a few examples. I
hope that you're starting to see. I mean, you can
get French feedback from your friends, you get feedback from
your colleagues. You get feedback from people all the time,
and it's it's up to you to actually discern and
start to spot that one of the easiest places to
get feedback is in your health. I had a friend
recently who took a Dexas scan for the very first
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time and the results what I say about a dexa
The best thing about a Dexa scan is you can't
hide from it. When you take a Dexis scan, it
tells you what your body fat percentage is, how much
lean mass you have, how much visceral fat you have,
what your skeleton ways, how thick it is, and all
that stuff. It's a very you can't hide from it.
And he took the Dexas scan and was shocked at
how high his body fat percentage was and he doesn't
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look like a guy that would have a high body
fat percentage. And to his credit, he took it on
the chin and was like, man, I need to make
some wholesale changes in my life because it was shining
the spotlight in a way that you can't like, you
can't lie and say, oh, that fat percentage is wrong. No,
that fat percentage is right there with a numerical value,
and you can either accept it and change or you
can sit there and lie to yourself.
Speaker 3 (28:43):
It's hard to get numerical data like that in some
of the other areas of your life. You have to
do a different type of statistical analysis where it's like, man,
if ten of my friends tell me I have a
bad attitude, maybe I'm wrong, but you can't. There's no
like dexis scan for you know, having a bad attitude
in many of the other areas of your life, but
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in your health and and what the point that I'm
making is you should seek this type of feedback, feedback
that is an anchor. And I encourage all the people
that I work with personally. You need a Dexa scan.
You need to know the truth that your weight on
the scale is not the real number. It's not a
health number, it's just how much you weigh. And you know,
you can put a couple of plates on the scale
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that weighs two hundred pounds. You can put a giant
bag of jelly beans on the scale that weighs two
hundred pounds, they're not the same thing, and so the
weight is not your number, but DEXA is your real numbers,
and that tells you. You may have felt like you
were working out really hard, you may have felt like
you were eating right, and maybe the number went down
on the scale and you realize that your health went
in the wrong direction. Right, you lost muscle mass, you're
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losing right, And so you do need those things that
are hard anchors in your life. So in the physical
we get the privilege of having some of those. In
the other areas of your life, you've got to say, Okay,
maybe I can't like get a Exis scan for my
work ethic, I can't get a Dexis scan for my attitude.
I can't get a Dexis scan for my skill set.
But where can I get consistent feedback or where can
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I get multiple forms of feedback that I can do
some sort of numerical analysis.
Speaker 1 (30:15):
Well, I think I think the Dexis scan for life
in the body of Christ is that God has made
it so that we're supposed to grow with other believers.
You would be like the best DEXA scan for a
positive attitude. And you've told me a few times when
I've been a sour puss or and maybe you haven't
put it that nicely in the moment, but it was
what I needed to hear. I mean, there was a
time recently in our Giant Killers group where we had
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a man who was going through something difficult and he
was talking about it to us. And praise God because
we get to be with our Giant Killers every week
and that's the closest group we have for developing men
and developing leaders. You were able to speak very clear
to this guy and say, hey, I wish you could
see yourself right now because you're feeling sorry for yourself
and you're trying to like throw in the towel and
it's not helping you. You phrased it in a very
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firm direct way, with a with loving way, and the
man had a phenomenal response to it, which is awesome
and I love seeing men turn that around. Where I
feel for men is like anybody can get a Dexas scan,
not everybody's going to have a circle of people around
them that are essentially their Dexis scan feedback for their life.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
And I would tell you that the quality of those
relationships is really the quality of your scale. Like a
great relationship is almost like a Dexas scan. Maybe not perfect,
but they can tell you the truth. Like I trust
Nick's feedback to me. It's not a Dexis scan, but
it's pretty good. If I if I, if I don't
have good relationships, maybe I just have like a poundage
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scale and not a you know, a full in depth
scale like a Dexas scan.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
Yeah, very good.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
I want a sponsor by Dexa because.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
We get sponsored by a lot of things we use.
I mean, we talk about a lot of stuff that
we do regardless of whether they get paid. It would
be great just to plug those in like we do
with ideas.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
If you're listening to this and you live in the
Dallas area and you would like to start a scan business,
I have a full business plan and this is not
a joke. I will. I just don't have time to
do this business. I think it would be very successful.
If you want to start a Dexas scan business in Frisco,
I will, I will help you. I know how to succeed.
So if that's you, please reach out to us.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
There you go. And also, if you were wondering about
giant killers. Go to the Impossible dot life and look
at our giant killer's page. We still have we have
a few spots. It's a very limited group of men
that we work with to develop leaders. It's not just
for somebody that wants to hang out with Garrett and
I a lot, although you do you get an hour
every week. We're pouring into the men. But it's accountability,
it's real relationships. It's where we put some of the
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deepest work in with men that we are developing to
go lead other men. So you can look that up.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
Now.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
The last question I want to ask you, because we're
talking about feedback, we're talking about how to respond, how
to identify it, respond to it, have a positive attitude
and humility with it, which are the keys to unlocking
the power feedback. How do you know if feedback is
calling for wholesale changes or if you're just not there yet.
Because we gave the example of your steal journey where
you had overwhelming feedback where it's like you're not going
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to do it, like look at you know, and you
like you said, you've had feedback in buzzs where it's
like your bottom third. How do you know? And we
all heard the story of a somebody who's like a
business success that failed their first eight tries, Like, you know,
how are you What's I don't want people to be
like getting feedback and then just changing their whole life
and dropping everything. How do you know the difference between
when you need to change completely or if it's just
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part of the process and you're not there yet.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
Ask me that again, Nick, I'm not understanding the question.
Speaker 1 (33:30):
So when you're receiving feedback, sometimes there's feedback in your life,
like bro, you're blowing it in your marriage and you
need to really change some massive things right. And sometimes
what we would think would be obvious because of the
fortunate environment that we're in to have a lot of
great mentors and people who have shown us what's possible.
I'm thinking about the person out there who the best
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marriage that they've seen is actually not that great, but
they don't know it, and they might be getting advice
from people are that's telling them like, hey, you need
to change this to change that. How do you know
if feedback is something that you need to like have
a wholesale change where you're like, man, I really need
to change this area in my life, or if it's
just part of the process and you need to keep
going you're not there yet. For example, in business, your
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business you might be failing, but it's because you haven't
handed out enough flyers, which is exactly I know that.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
You got it. So the question is, how do you
know if you should listen to feedback? Yeah, essentially, I'm
just trying to make sure I understand the question. Okay, Yeah,
my dad has a great answer for this one, because
growing up all the time, I was really good at
defending myself. I would say I still am. I'm just
I'm matured a little bit, but I'm really good at talent.
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I'm really good at knowing why I don't have to
listen to anybody, or why I don't need to listen
to somebody's feedback. And what my dad would say is
if the shoe fits, wear it right, and so that's
that's it. You need to You've got to be able
to be open, and you also need to have some
people in your life, right, Like if I got some
feedback that I really I wrestled with and I didn't
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feel like I could honestly receive, I would go to
some of my mentors, or I would come to some
of my close friends like Nick or Josh be like, man,
somebody told me this, and I'm not sure if they're
right or not. I can't tell. Can you help me?
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Right?
Speaker 3 (35:15):
But the question what I'm gonna do is I have
to take any feedback and actually try the shoe on,
because that's what my dad be like. You know, all
your reasons are those are good reasons, But I'm still right.
The feedback I gave you is still true, so you
need to receive it and change.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
Yeah, that's good man, All right, Well, guys, I hope
that this has been Like I said, the growth process
is not a pretty montage. It's a lot of getting
knocked down to your knees. There's a lot of having
parts of you exposed and shown to you that need
to change, and haven't it hurt? Truthfully, It's a process
of realizing that something about you needs to get better,
and you can either choose to accept it with humility
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and have a positive attitude, all from a place of
understanding that God loves you and that he's there to
grow you and develop you, and it makes all things
work together for your good and his. Laurie which means
He's conforming you into the image of his son. That's
what good is. And if you can have that perspective,
if you can understand the need for humility, if you
can keep that pausitive attitude and trust that God is
developing you and that ultimately He's going to bring the
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purposes in your life, you can continue to grow. You
can be the person that rises again, over and over
and over again, and when you look back, you'll begin
to be thankful for the wounds that you've had. You'll
be thankful for the people that have pointed out where
you can get better, and you'll be the type of
person that others will want to follow, want to hear from,
and you'll be the type of person that can truly
go in and make the change and fulfill the plans
and purposes that God has for your life. Thank you
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Speaker 1 (01:10):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across at
Aman currently engineering his own superpowered breakfast cereal for high
performers called Feedback Heos. That's right, friends, the goat Uncle
Buck a man who knows that feedback is the breakfast
of champions.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
That is uh, that's exactly right, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
What would you pour on a bowl of feedback? Heos though, Gee,
what would I pour on a bowl?
Speaker 3 (01:38):
I would I would take some some leadership milk and
with or some some personal growth and development milk.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
I have so many questions about where you get leadership milk.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
That's that's you taking, like I'm going to take the
feedback or you know what, it's positive attitude milk. That's
what it is. I'm gonna to take this feedback and
have the right attitude about it and then you know,
but in this context, it's not the perfect analogy because
cereal is great by itself.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
There you go.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
You know, I would eat cereal by itself. You don't
want to just eat feedback by itself. You want to
eat feedback with the right attitude so that you can
ingest it properly and get the most out of it
instead of just you know, be sad and feel sorry
for yourself when people tell you things that you don't
like to hear.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Yeah, well, thank you for taking my comical intro and
turn it into a real life analogy for all of
us to learn. And you know, hint I wrote that
intro specifically for what we're talking about today because today
is the growth super hack, and we don't believe in
super hacks. So the name of super hack is kind
of a misnomer because I think super hack carries with
it the thought process of shortcuts. And if you know,
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the test is always wet, gee, what's the test? Always faithfulness?
Faithfulness which means that you don't take the shortcuts. It
means you keep going being faithful with what's in your hand,
and you trust God to bring about His purposes in
your life, which means you just keep going the course.
So here's the thing. If you're listening to the Impossible
Life podcasts, you know that we're growth minded. We very
much are about getting all of it, which means that
you are you fulfilled one hundred percent of who God
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made you to be and his plans in the earth,
which is a lofty If.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
You're listening to this podcast, it's not because you want
seventy five percent of your life. You want one hundred percent.
You want you want God to give you want everything
that God has for you. I don't want, I don't
want more than what God has for me. But I
know what God has for me is exactly what I
should want. I don't want. Then that's that's the posture
of my heart saying like, I know that You've created
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me for for good work. You've created me for the
things that you have for me, and that's what I want.
And I don't want anything else beside that besides that,
because that would be wrong, and to want anything less
than that is also wrong.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Yeah, and God made you to grow. I mean, it's
just as simple as that He made you to grow.
Sanctification as a process. The whole of our life points
to process. So you're always going to be in process.
So we want to help everybody out there that's in process,
which is all of us, know some of the obstacles
you're going to face, and hopefully you can start recognizing
those obstacles when they present themselves because these are things
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that people sail back past all the time. So, assuming
you want to grow, which we're assuming you do, here's
the question for you. What do you think the growth
process looks like? Because here's what we love, man. We
all love a montage where we just keep winning and
we overcome all the challenges, takes thirty to forty five seconds,
and we feel great while we do it, and also
we look cool. Oh what's that? Something went wrong? Man?
(04:29):
My biceps were bulging, my hair was perfect. I had
a little bit of misplaced dirt on my face and
some sweat, but man, I overcame it and looked amazing.
And we love this beautiful looking picture of growth where
it's just straight line up the hill. What actually growth
looks like.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Everybody loves the Rocky Montage.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
That of course they do, and what it actually looks
like is seeing all your preferences and selfishness exposed. It
really hurts, like growth is. Man, you think you're doing
well and then you get kneecapped by something you never
saw coming that literally drops you to your knees. And
when you get that, you have a choice. You can
either deny what you know, what the feedback was and
your selfishness. You can disagree with it. You can refuse
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to believe it's true, or as your dad said, you
can assess whether the shoe fits, and if the shoe fits,
wear it right.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
You have the Rocky Montage skips like straight from you know,
all the hard work to like I see the results
of my hard work. That's the shortest of the montage,
because the reality is like this is like you go
do the hardest workout you've ever done, and then you
go home and look in the mirror and you look
exactly the same.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
That's exactly right, and you do.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
This over and over and over again, and it's like, man,
all this stuff, all this growth that I'm experiencing, is
really just pain. I'm not really seeing the results yet.
And that's what you have. Just have to have the
right attitude about that feedback that says, Okay, I know
I just probably need more of this. I need to
respond appropriately to it, and I'll grow from it.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Yeah. I mean that's the physical example that we can
all see. The ones that hurt. I think even worse
are you start doing all this personal development work on yourself,
you really decide to change your life, and then people
are like, yeah, but dude, we've known you for the
past ten years and you've been kind of a dufist,
so they just treat you like a dufist. You're like, no, no,
I've changed. Okay, Well, the feedback is telling you that
they don't see it yet, and that's hard. That physical.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Physical is slow, right, you don't like you work out
for thirty days and you'll see like minor changes. And
also physical is the fastest of all the areas in
your life to change.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Yeah, my wife said something once when I was doing
my project forty and she said, it'll take four weeks
for you to notice, it'll take eight weeks for other
people to notice. And I just thought that was such
a brilliant thing that she said, and I've always stuck
to it anytime I've really started getting into because I
found it to be true. And even then they're not
going to notice that much. And if that's what you need, well,
then you might you might want to reassess your motivation.
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But anyways, so the prerequisite for this and something just
to take on board is because really this is how
to deal with feedback and how to identify it, because
oftentimes feedback doesn't come in the form of like, well, Garren,
I'd like to sit down and talk about your performance today,
Like we all get that at work, you don't get
that in life. Life's feedback comes in many forms, and
we're gonna dive into some scriptures. We're gonna look at
three types of people in the way that they respond
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to feedback, and we're gonna also give you some examples
of it so you can identify it in your own
life and how to deal with it. But here's what
you should know. Your identity is very closely tied to
how you deal with feedback. If your identity is based
on your own performance, on needing to be accepted from
other people and have them approve of you or for
what you possess, you're going to have feedback be very
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crushing for you. If it's hard for someone to look
at you and tell you something negative, and look, it's
always no one wants to be told, hey, you're failing
in this area, Like that's I don't want to give
this a shine that's not actually accurate. But if it's
to the point that you dread it, and I've been there, man,
when you're asking someonehen somebody's like, hey, so, and they
get ready to say something to you about an area
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you were performing, whether it's your work or or whatever
where you were trying to achieve something and you know
the feedback's coming and you're dreading it because you can't
stand the thought of anything positive. This is a highlight
to you that you probably have some identity work to
do because it's always hard, but there's a different attitude
you take the feedback when you really want to grow,
Like when you're not worried about whether what it says
about UAKA. You don't need it to have a strong identity.
(08:19):
You want to hear where you're missing it because you
want to get better. It's almost disappointed if someone's like
you did everything right, because you're like, well, then that
means that I can't get me better from what you're saying,
and that's disappointing. You want to hear people say here's
where you can grow, here's where you can improve. I'll
give you credit credit to Garrett very early on when
we started this podcast and we would do our uh our.
(08:39):
You know, we have a lot of preparation that goes
into these things. We have at this point a very
proven process of how we build our story arcs, assimilate information,
organize it, and then deliver it. So what Garrett did
was he called me one day out the blue before
Mighty Man. He was like, Hey, I want you to
start giving me feedback on what you think of my
preaching every Saturday. I was like, I was kind of surprised.
I felt honored that you'd ask me, and I was like, Okay,
(09:00):
Now this was years ago and we still as of
here we are in August of twenty twenty five. I'll
still shoot you a message most Saturdays and be like,
I thought this was great. This went a little bit long.
I think you overstacked here. Actually you were great other days.
I'll just like, bro, you were like level ten. But
I just think that that's that's a very humble thing
because you could sit there and be like, what's Nick No,
you know what I mean, Like he's he's not some
(09:20):
great speaker. I don't need to hear from him. But
you saw that we had a process that worked here,
and you said, hey, I want you to tell me
where I need to get better. And that always stuck
out to me because you could easily just be like
we You.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
Know, Tiger Tiger Woods had a coach when for over
a decade he was the best golfer in the world,
had a coach the whole time, right, So everybody needs
to hear feedback. There has to be a separation as
well between this is the identity portion, between how you
feel about yourself and what people tell you, okay. So
(09:51):
if I get upset when other people like this is
like the this is an exaggeration. But if someone's like, hey,
I you know, I think you you could have done
this better, whether it's about speaking or your work or
whatever else, someone says, hey, I think you could have
done this better, your response is I thought you liked me,
right right. That's that's you saying like I want you.
(10:12):
I thought I want you to feel good about me
because that makes me feel good about me. And if
that's what your desire is is to feel good about yourself,
You're done growing, right, I'm not, you know, I'll tell
I appreciate when Nick tells me I does When I
do well, I always prepare so I know I'm not
going to just be terrible, but I'm looking for ways
that I can be better in the future. And so
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I appreciate when he tells me I do well, and
I take that as feed If he doesn't give me
any corrective feedback, I just internally say, okay, what did
I What did I do in my preparation here that
I can use as growth information? Or when he tells me, hey,
I didn't think this part was great, I may have
thought that what I did was good. But if he
tells me it's not okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna hear him.
(10:54):
I'm going to look at that a different way. And
so whenever you receive feedback, you've got to have this
understanding of like, even if I was even if Nick's like, man,
you weren't very good at all, that doesn't mean that
I can't believe that I'm going to be a great speaker.
But I also need to be humble enough to hear
right what I see for myself, who I believe I'm
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capable of being may be different than my current results
right now. And that's It's the same as like a
fat dude, uh, knowing that he's an athlete, what current
circumstances you are obese? Now who you are, you can
be an athlete as a person. Maybe you're an athlete before.
Maybe you just see that potential within yourself. Current circumstances,
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you're you're dramatically overweight, and so there's you. You have
to be the one that receives the tension between those
things of where I am and where I want to be.
And we've talked about this before. This isn't an identity episode.
But part of identity it's vision, values and beliefs, right,
It's that the vision piece of like this is who
I see for myself to be right. And so where
there's tension is between the feedback they give you and
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if you'll hear feedback in the right attitude, you're you're
helping tell me how to get to where I want
to be.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Yeah, And there's three types of people when it comes
to feedback, Like if you read through Proverbs, which we
hope you do, because we've been on the Proverbs of
day train for a long time in life, where basically
today as we record this, it's the sixth So I
guess what problem we read proverb six. There's thirty one
proverbs and there's never more than thirty one days. So
it's a beautiful symmetry that works perfectly, and this is
to grow in wisdom. But as you read through Proverbs,
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there's three types of people. There's the simpleton, the fool,
and then the wise and prudent person. And by and large,
the biggest differentiation between those people is how they observe
and deal with feedback. It really is that simple, and
I don't want to as you read through. I would
challenge you. Look for when it says the simple or
the simpleton, or the fool, or the wise, or the prudent,
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and look how they react and buy in large what's
talking about. I'll give you a few scriptures here. So
the simpleton Proverbs twenty two to three. The prudent see
danger and take refuge. Okay, great, But the simple keep
going and pay the penalty. That say they didn't even
see it. They just kind of walked right into it,
their head down, completely unaware and oblivious Proverbs seven to seven.
(13:07):
And I have seen among the simple, I've perceived among
the youths, a young man lacking sense. What is the simpleton?
This is a person that has no awareness, that's that
completely ignores the feedback that's coming their way because they
didn't even see it. They're not recognizing patterns. Because in
Proverbs seven to seven, he's talking about a simpleton who's
going near the door of the house of the prostitute,
of the of the wayward woman, and it is completely unaware,
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goes there at night like, oh wow, I didn't expect
to see you here. Really, well, it's nighttime. She's here
every single weekend, just eating men alive and you just
completely didn't ignore it. Okay, that's you know, you keep
going and you're gonna pay the penalty. Well, what's the
penalty here, man, It's gonna absolutely destroy your life. This
could be in your health, this could be in your marriages,
could be in your business, this is in every place.
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You're just walking along, hope and it works out. No idea,
not seeing the patterns in your life, not aware of
what's causing success or failure, not having any feedback that
you've either requested or uh scene, and then hey, we'll
just see what happens to you. Well, you're gonna get
blindslided and clawbered, and when you do, you know, I
hope that you have some people there to help you
pick you up.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
There's we're going to talk about a couple different of
the types of people, and with the simpleton, I see this.
The simpleton is also difficult. Ways to say that would
be ignorant or unaware. Okay, right, The prudent see danger
and take refuge. They realized what was ahead of them,
But the simple keep going and pay the penalty. Then
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maybe they saw something and they didn't realize it was danger,
or maybe they just don't see anything, see anything at all,
and they're not paying attention. These are people who don't
even have the awareness and desire for feedback. Someone might
even give them feedback and they're like, man, that guy
was mean, right, They don't they don't even realize like
the guy wasn't he wasn't trying to hurt you, he
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was trying to help you, right, or even here here
and receive feedback and like cool thing, man, and just
throw it right out the window because they're like, all right,
I don't know what to do with that information, right?
What is feedback?
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Never heard of it?
Speaker 3 (15:08):
And so there's a there's a lack of awareness and
an ignorance with the simpleton.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Yeah, whereas the fool is just a full on rebellious
like legit doesn't want to hear it. So like Proverbs
one seven, the fear of the Lord is the beginning
of knowledge. Fools despise wisdom and instruction. Oh here we
go again. Can you just just let me be Look,
I don't want to hear this. I'm fine, I'm happy,
I'm enjoying what I'm doing. I just keep it to yourself.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
It's there's the fool has a different heart, there's either
there's either a laziness, a begrudgingness against work and what's
required of them to grow and to reach their destiny,
which can begin to manifest into other things, can turn
into entitlement, can turn into like anger and frustration towards
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the external and towards other people instead of the internal. Right,
the fool, he has the wrong attitude about growth, not
so much that he doesn't understand it, but either doesn't
want to grow or is just opposed to people who
want to help him.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Yeah, because Proverbs twelve fifteen, the way of fools seems
right to them, but the wise listen to advice. It's
this to me is such the heart of repentance and
why it's so important that we have humility in receiving things,
because if you think you're right, why would you change?
And this is so much of Like I always found
it fascinating to you that they said that John the
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Baptist came to prepare the way for Jesus, and you go, okay, like,
what's he doing. He's coming in and telling them the
Messiah is coming, Like you know this is this? Is it?
Speaker 3 (16:39):
No?
Speaker 1 (16:39):
What's he doing? He's bringing them back to repentance. It's like,
are you serious? That was the prerequisite for Jesus coming
to earth, was that people need to have a repent
in heart. Yes, why because that means that your ways,
you realize your ways are wrong. Like, that's what coming
to the cross is, is that you realize there has
to be a death. Now. The good news is Jesus
died on the cross in roughly nine hours, right, so,
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and then there was a resurrection. That's a picture for us.
You're not meant to spend your whole life just you know,
in a constant, drawn out death. The whole point of
dying to self is that you can be resurrected to
have the new life of Christ in you. And this
is so much of what we miss whenever we think
that we're right, or we're trying to hold onto our
ways or our security or whatever it may be, is
that we don't realize that we're basically foregoing the process
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and trying to just kind of keep a little piece
of us in there, and it just doesn't work. It
is a full death, and that takes humility and realizing
your ways are wrong. And here we see it saying
very clearly that if you're a fool. You know your
ways are right? You know, it says a fool of fools,
A man's way causes destruction and his heart rages towards
the Lord that man. Like that one hits me because
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I'm like, I don't sit there and go like, oh,
look at all these other people. I go, Man, that's
me without Christ, that's me. I'm the guy who's like
getting mad at God because things aren't going my way,
and I'm the one causing my own destruction. So I mean,
it's such a stark contrast.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
The wise listen to advice, so you know, it's saying
that the fools don't listen. And so there's a contrast here.
This is something that I've spent a ton of time
as I grew up reading proverbs, and this has spent
something that I've spent a ton of time thinking about.
So does it automatically make you a fool if you
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don't listen to people? Right? This is this is a challenge,
like how do I know who I should listen to?
Do I have to just take anyone's advice? And so
like there's a couple of qualifiers for that. One is
you know, Jesus makes it really clear. You know who
people are by their fruit, so you should listen to
people who have the fruit of what you want in
your life. One of the things that I had to
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had to go through was in you know, in my
own journey of going into seal training, I had people
tell me I was crazy. A lot of people tell
me I was crazy, which is similar to people calling
you a fool, right like the path what you're saying
that you know, you sound crazy. No one thinks that
you can do what you're saying that you're going to do,
and people even telling me that I can't do it,
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And so I had to qualify their own advice. And
there was a couple of things that helped me qualify that.
One was I chose to be humble because I knew
I didn't have it all figured out right, and so
I said, I do need to grow, I do need
to learn, but I also feel like this is what
I'm called to do. So you guys aren't telling me like,
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here's what it would take for you to do it.
They're just saying you sound crazy. And so I had
to It took work for me to do, but I
had to discern where's your advice? Coming from and for
many people who was either their advice was coming, they
just genuinely cared about me and they were afraid for
my future. And so I heard it that way and
didn't hold it against them like they thought low of me.
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They just thought what I was trying to do was scary.
Or there were people who didn't see in me what
I saw on myself, you know, because my dad for
like my dad was actually concerned for my future. But
my dad never doubted me right, And so there were
people that I could take that I could take their
words that gave me some security in what I was doing.
(20:06):
And I just had to figure out whose words did
I listen to and whose words did I discard? So
there is a different and really again what helped me
with that was having a humble heart and saying I
don't know everything, and that like, I'm really confident this
is where I'm supposed to do. I believe God has
a plan for my life. I believe God's sending me
down this road and I'm going to go into it
like one hundred percent. But I also know that I
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don't know everything. I'm just going to give it all
that I have. And so there were people who didn't
necessarily think the way that I thought that I didn't
listen to. But there were also plenty of people who
gave me feedback in the seal teams that were I've
received feedback there that I had never heard anywhere before
and allowed me to grow dramatically. So it really like
the key for the fool is humility, and who the
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fool is is very unhumble. I've got it all figured out.
I don't want anybody's help. You guys don't know anything.
You're all idiots. Is really the fool.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
That's very well said. Gee, And we did a great
episode on mentors and advisors and teachers that you can
listen to. I don't know it off the top of
my head, but I'll go ahead and get myself homework
like I do every single week when we do this
and put it in the show notes. So because that is,
I thought that was a really great episode if you're
looking for how to know who to listen to or
what you can learn from everybody, that was we really
(21:20):
broke it down in that episode. So we've alluded to
the wise and prude, and they've been mentioned in other scriptures.
But and you can see that they It says, you know,
the wise listen to advice. In Proverbs twelve fifteen Proverbs
ten eight, the whys of heart will receive commandments, but
a babbling fool will come to Ruin Probabs seventeen ten,
a rebuke goes deeper into a man of understanding than
a hundred blows into a fool. It's one of my
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favorite scriptures because what that means is that if you
are truly a wise and understanding, prudent person, you can
just have somebody say something to you and you know, okay,
it's time to change, Whereas if you're a fool, you
can just keep getting punched in the face and you're
still just going to keep going. And that to me
is like, that is what makes somebody wise. That's one
of the hallmarks of wisdom is that you are, like
you said, humble, correctable, that you can receive it with
(22:03):
a positive attitude and understand that that person's trying to
help you. I think about your Navy seal example, and
it's so valuable to hear you say that, and when
you talk about the fruit that a person needs to
have in their life, you were doing something that nobody
in your vicinity had any knowledge or fruit. You don't. Yeah,
you didn't know anybody in the Special Forces. Like you said,
the first seal you ever saw was your instructors. So
it's like, how do you know how to weigh what's
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real and what's not? For most people, they're not going
to have that problem. If you're like a person who
wants better advice in your marriage and you're looking for
what you should listen to, guess what, the people around
you that have a great marriage are going to be
people that you should be listening to. So hopefully you
can identify that a little easier.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
If I had had like some Navy seals in my life,
I would have listened to what they said. You know,
the first ones I met were my instructors. And I
also knew the ones that I was meeting my instructors
like that the game had already started and maybe they're
going to say everything they can do to get me
to quit, so I couldn't listen to them. But I also,
you know, I ended up being that person to a
(23:01):
lot of young tadpoles and be like, look, hey man,
I'm gonna tell you exactly what you need to hear.
I'll give you the feedback that you need to help
you grow, because ultimately it's all up to you anyways.
But if I can just unlock a little piece in
your mindset that keeps you on the right path, then great.
You know success is in your hands. But I'm gonna
give you the feedback you need to help you show
up appropriately.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Yeah, so good. I want to move towards giving people
some practical feedback and then we can wrap you. But
like I said, feedback doesn't come like you would go before.
You would have rankings in buds. If you're at work,
you have performance reviews. There's different areas where you have
very clear feedback. But that's not how it works in life.
So here's a feedback can If you're dealing with the
(23:40):
same issue repeatedly and you're not getting close to the
results you want in an area of your life over
a long period of time, that means you're ignoring feedback
in some form. If you're on your third, fourth, fifth marriage, like,
that's feedback, right If you've been If you kind of
get to the point that you're like, well, I just
can't lose weight because I've been trying it for years,
that's feedback. If nobody wants to be your friend and
(24:01):
everywhere you go you're like, man, I just can't see
him make friends. What's wrong with all these people? That's feedback.
You can ignore that and just be like, man, these
people are crazy. But chances are if you think there's
a thousand people driving the wrong way on the freeway,
you're the person's driving the wrong way on the freeway, right.
And so here's a few examples.
Speaker 3 (24:17):
That sounds like the simpleton, simpleton unaware.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Yeah, can you believe all these people? Just wow, traffics,
traffic's different. It's all coming against me. Weird anyways, So
a couple quick areas here. You go marriage. If your
wife doesn't believe you'll do what you say, akay, she
doesn't want to follow you, that's feedback. That's her telling
you she doesn't trust you. If every time you say
something like hey, I think we should do this, she's
like fighting you on it. You're reaping the results of
(24:44):
some inconsistencies in your life. And we've talked about this
at length on this podcast. I don't want to go
too deep into that one, but that that is feedback.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
Yeah, no, it's not the kind you like but the only,
the only proper response is to have the right attitude
to it, not to sit, not to try and scorekeep
or judge and say like, well, I should have at
least seventy two percent level of respect from you due
to I've done this, this, this, and this right. That's
a horrible game to play. And you're most almost always
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going to score the card in your favor, and your
wife is going to score the card in her favor
through her own perspective of here's all the things you've
done that have caused me to not respect you. And
so the right and the only thing to do is
have the right attitude and say, well, if I want
her to if I want to make it easier for
her to follow me, I need to be more respectable.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Yeah, And feedback is harder when you don't have like
solid numbers. Wouldn't it be great if we could just have
a life score, you know that just tells you like,
here's how you're doing in life, which you're not going
to get here's what it looks like like from your kids.
So I worked with this man years ago. I have
no idea where he's at in life now, and I
hope he's doing well. But like he told me a story,
he was in sales and he had to be on
the road a lot, and he said that the day
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it really hurt for him the most was yet kids.
And when he would tellhim he would leave, they'd always like,
I don't want you to go, and like they would
love him and hug him. And then one day he
was like I'm leaving there, like okay, bye, and like
they just they had gotten so used to it that
they just were like, Okay, see you later, and they
stopped really even missing him. And when he would come back,
there was no reaction. Now, that's feedback telling you that
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you are losing your connection and your attachment with your kids.
The unfortunate thing for this man in this circumstances, he
just kept going because his career meant whatever it meant
to him. I don't know what the motivation was internally
that I can't speak to that, but unfortunately what happened
was he reaped a very broken relationship with his kids,
got divorced, and unfortunately got you hooked on some prescription
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pain medication and just his life did not go the
way he wanted to. And that's kind of a harsh example,
but like, that's that's I remember him telling me the story.
And when he told me the story, he was like, yeah,
that was the day. It hurt the most was when
they stopped. They stopped being upset that I was leaving.
But he didn't change anything. He just kept leaving and
was just like, man, that's tough. That hurts. It's a
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simpleton's reaction to it. He just completely he was it's either.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
The simpleton or the fool. Right, there's there's ignorance in
it or the full out of the wrong heart. You know,
people are he's getting the feedback of like, hey, you're
going in the wrong direction and just saying, oh, and
I don't care, right, it's wanting the wanting the wrong things.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Yeah, yeah, and it's that that's a it's the fool.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
The fool wants to be praised. The fool doesn't want
to actually get better, right, the full want. The fool
desires the wrong things. And in this situation, that man
was either ignorant to the fruit of what his labor
was going to create, or he wanted the wrong things
in his life, didn't care about his family.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Yeah, very true. All right, the easiest place and like
I said, we're just giving you a few examples. I
hope that you're starting to see. I mean, you can
get French feedback from your friends, you get feedback from
your colleagues. You get feedback from people all the time,
and it's it's up to you to actually discern and
start to spot that one of the easiest places to
get feedback is in your health. I had a friend
recently who took a Dexas scan for the very first
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time and the results what I say about a dexa
The best thing about a Dexa scan is you can't
hide from it. When you take a Dexis scan, it
tells you what your body fat percentage is, how much
lean mass you have, how much visceral fat you have,
what your skeleton ways, how thick it is, and all
that stuff. It's a very you can't hide from it.
And he took the Dexas scan and was shocked at
how high his body fat percentage was and he doesn't
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look like a guy that would have a high body
fat percentage. And to his credit, he took it on
the chin and was like, man, I need to make
some wholesale changes in my life because it was shining
the spotlight in a way that you can't like, you
can't lie and say, oh, that fat percentage is wrong. No,
that fat percentage is right there with a numerical value,
and you can either accept it and change or you
can sit there and lie to yourself.
Speaker 3 (28:43):
It's hard to get numerical data like that in some
of the other areas of your life. You have to
do a different type of statistical analysis where it's like, man,
if ten of my friends tell me I have a
bad attitude, maybe I'm wrong, but you can't. There's no
like dexis scan for you know, having a bad attitude
in many of the other areas of your life, but
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in your health and and what the point that I'm
making is you should seek this type of feedback, feedback
that is an anchor. And I encourage all the people
that I work with personally. You need a Dexa scan.
You need to know the truth that your weight on
the scale is not the real number. It's not a
health number, it's just how much you weigh. And you know,
you can put a couple of plates on the scale
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that weighs two hundred pounds. You can put a giant
bag of jelly beans on the scale that weighs two
hundred pounds, they're not the same thing, and so the
weight is not your number, but DEXA is your real numbers,
and that tells you. You may have felt like you
were working out really hard, you may have felt like
you were eating right, and maybe the number went down
on the scale and you realize that your health went
in the wrong direction. Right, you lost muscle mass, you're
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losing right, And so you do need those things that
are hard anchors in your life. So in the physical
we get the privilege of having some of those. In
the other areas of your life, you've got to say, Okay,
maybe I can't like get a Exis scan for my
work ethic, I can't get a Dexis scan for my attitude.
I can't get a Dexis scan for my skill set.
But where can I get consistent feedback or where can
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I get multiple forms of feedback that I can do
some sort of numerical analysis.
Speaker 1 (30:15):
Well, I think I think the Dexis scan for life
in the body of Christ is that God has made
it so that we're supposed to grow with other believers.
You would be like the best DEXA scan for a
positive attitude. And you've told me a few times when
I've been a sour puss or and maybe you haven't
put it that nicely in the moment, but it was
what I needed to hear. I mean, there was a
time recently in our Giant Killers group where we had
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a man who was going through something difficult and he
was talking about it to us. And praise God because
we get to be with our Giant Killers every week
and that's the closest group we have for developing men
and developing leaders. You were able to speak very clear
to this guy and say, hey, I wish you could
see yourself right now because you're feeling sorry for yourself
and you're trying to like throw in the towel and
it's not helping you. You phrased it in a very
(30:58):
firm direct way, with a with loving way, and the
man had a phenomenal response to it, which is awesome
and I love seeing men turn that around. Where I
feel for men is like anybody can get a Dexas scan,
not everybody's going to have a circle of people around
them that are essentially their Dexis scan feedback for their life.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
And I would tell you that the quality of those
relationships is really the quality of your scale. Like a
great relationship is almost like a Dexas scan. Maybe not perfect,
but they can tell you the truth. Like I trust
Nick's feedback to me. It's not a Dexis scan, but
it's pretty good. If I if I, if I don't
have good relationships, maybe I just have like a poundage
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scale and not a you know, a full in depth
scale like a Dexas scan.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
Yeah, very good.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
I want a sponsor by Dexa because.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
We get sponsored by a lot of things we use.
I mean, we talk about a lot of stuff that
we do regardless of whether they get paid. It would
be great just to plug those in like we do
with ideas.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
If you're listening to this and you live in the
Dallas area and you would like to start a scan business,
I have a full business plan and this is not
a joke. I will. I just don't have time to
do this business. I think it would be very successful.
If you want to start a Dexas scan business in Frisco,
I will, I will help you. I know how to succeed.
So if that's you, please reach out to us.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
There you go. And also, if you were wondering about
giant killers. Go to the Impossible dot life and look
at our giant killer's page. We still have we have
a few spots. It's a very limited group of men
that we work with to develop leaders. It's not just
for somebody that wants to hang out with Garrett and
I a lot, although you do you get an hour
every week. We're pouring into the men. But it's accountability,
it's real relationships. It's where we put some of the
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deepest work in with men that we are developing to
go lead other men. So you can look that up.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
Now.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
The last question I want to ask you, because we're
talking about feedback, we're talking about how to respond, how
to identify it, respond to it, have a positive attitude
and humility with it, which are the keys to unlocking
the power feedback. How do you know if feedback is
calling for wholesale changes or if you're just not there yet.
Because we gave the example of your steal journey where
you had overwhelming feedback where it's like you're not going
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to do it, like look at you know, and you
like you said, you've had feedback in buzzs where it's
like your bottom third. How do you know? And we
all heard the story of a somebody who's like a
business success that failed their first eight tries, Like, you know,
how are you What's I don't want people to be
like getting feedback and then just changing their whole life
and dropping everything. How do you know the difference between
when you need to change completely or if it's just
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part of the process and you're not there yet.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
Ask me that again, Nick, I'm not understanding the question.
Speaker 1 (33:30):
So when you're receiving feedback, sometimes there's feedback in your life,
like bro, you're blowing it in your marriage and you
need to really change some massive things right. And sometimes
what we would think would be obvious because of the
fortunate environment that we're in to have a lot of
great mentors and people who have shown us what's possible.
I'm thinking about the person out there who the best
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marriage that they've seen is actually not that great, but
they don't know it, and they might be getting advice
from people are that's telling them like, hey, you need
to change this to change that. How do you know
if feedback is something that you need to like have
a wholesale change where you're like, man, I really need
to change this area in my life, or if it's
just part of the process and you need to keep
going you're not there yet. For example, in business, your
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business you might be failing, but it's because you haven't
handed out enough flyers, which is exactly I know that.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
You got it. So the question is, how do you
know if you should listen to feedback? Yeah, essentially, I'm
just trying to make sure I understand the question. Okay, Yeah,
my dad has a great answer for this one, because
growing up all the time, I was really good at
defending myself. I would say I still am. I'm just
I'm matured a little bit, but I'm really good at talent.
(34:40):
I'm really good at knowing why I don't have to
listen to anybody, or why I don't need to listen
to somebody's feedback. And what my dad would say is
if the shoe fits, wear it right, and so that's
that's it. You need to You've got to be able
to be open, and you also need to have some
people in your life, right, Like if I got some
feedback that I really I wrestled with and I didn't
(35:02):
feel like I could honestly receive, I would go to
some of my mentors, or I would come to some
of my close friends like Nick or Josh be like, man,
somebody told me this, and I'm not sure if they're
right or not. I can't tell. Can you help me?
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Right?
Speaker 3 (35:15):
But the question what I'm gonna do is I have
to take any feedback and actually try the shoe on,
because that's what my dad be like. You know, all
your reasons are those are good reasons, But I'm still right.
The feedback I gave you is still true, so you
need to receive it and change.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
Yeah, that's good man, All right, Well, guys, I hope
that this has been Like I said, the growth process
is not a pretty montage. It's a lot of getting
knocked down to your knees. There's a lot of having
parts of you exposed and shown to you that need
to change, and haven't it hurt? Truthfully, It's a process
of realizing that something about you needs to get better,
and you can either choose to accept it with humility
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and have a positive attitude, all from a place of
understanding that God loves you and that he's there to
grow you and develop you, and it makes all things
work together for your good and his. Laurie which means
He's conforming you into the image of his son. That's
what good is. And if you can have that perspective,
if you can understand the need for humility, if you
can keep that pausitive attitude and trust that God is
developing you and that ultimately He's going to bring the
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purposes in your life, you can continue to grow. You
can be the person that rises again, over and over
and over again, and when you look back, you'll begin
to be thankful for the wounds that you've had. You'll
be thankful for the people that have pointed out where
you can get better, and you'll be the type of
person that others will want to follow, want to hear from,
and you'll be the type of person that can truly
go in and make the change and fulfill the plans
and purposes that God has for your life. Thank you
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very much for listening.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
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Speaker 1 (36:40):
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Speaker 1 (36:44):
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Speaker 2 (36:45):
If you want to get in touch, you can follow
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Speaker 1 (36:50):
You can also email.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
At Impossible Life podcasts at gmail dot com you have
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find out about Carrot's personal or business coaching, way to
do it. Thank you again for listening. Go out there
and think better and live the impossible. To see you
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