240. The Beliefs That Build Warriors (and the Ones That Break Them)

What you believe will determine how you live, the risks you take, and the future you build. In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Nick Surface and Garrett Unclebach dive deep into the unseen power of belief.

From how beliefs are formed in childhood to how they guide your choices in adulthood, this conversation explores why some men rise to challenges while others shrink back. Garrett shares raw stories from Navy SEAL training, Nick talks about the weight of everyday struggles, and together they reveal how godly beliefs can turn trials into opportunities. You’ll hear:

• Why beliefs are the foundation of your identity
• The difference between beliefs you say you have and beliefs you live out
• How to turn failure into fuel instead of letting it define you
• Inspiring stories of strength, faith, and God’s plan in the middle of adversity

If you’ve ever wrestled with doubt, struggled with fear, or questioned if you’re strong enough for the life God has called you to, this episode will give you clarity, conviction, and courage to stand firm on truth.



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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
I don't understand all the things that God does. What
I do understand is that He's given me a choice.
If he's given me a choice to walk away from
my destiny, he's also given me the choice to walk
into all of it. And so you can't outrun it
as hard as you can run, as much as you
can do, You're just achieving God's plan for your life.
And so if that's true, if I couldn't outrun it,

(00:22):
why would I do less? Then give all that I have?
Because if I do less, then give all that I have.
And God had a plan for my all. Every decision
that I make, to quit, every decision that I make,
to give up, every less than decision in my life,
I'm leaving destiny on the table.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
That's impossible.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Let me tell you what I believe.

Speaker 2 (00:42):
What's your weakness is not your technique.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
Don't think you of know you.

Speaker 2 (00:51):
The Impossible Life Podcast.

Speaker 3 (00:53):
I mean, yes, sitting on a winning lot of ptective
an idea that is fully formed, fully understood.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
That sticks. This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick
and I are attempting to live impossible lives. What we
know is that nothing is impossible. So instead of using
impossible as an excuse to not try. We'll use the
pursuit of impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's

(01:21):
never been done before, that just means it's unexplored. If
they tell you it's too hard, it's just waiting to
be simplified. Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous
people unwilling to take a risk. The real truth is this.
The solution to any impossible task starts with this question,

(01:42):
if I had to, what would it take?

Speaker 2 (01:44):
What would it take?

Speaker 3 (01:49):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man who recently developed a vaccination for fear using
three leaders of his own sweat, a pint of wolverine blood,
pure adrenaline, and mountain dew.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
That's right, friends, the fore.

Speaker 3 (02:06):
Dared uncle back, a man who makes mcguiver's inventions look
like a middle school science project.

Speaker 1 (02:11):
I love that you threw mountain dew in there. Yeah,
very very appropriate.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
Yeah that was I always think.

Speaker 3 (02:16):
I was like, there's got to be one outside ingredient
that people wouldn't see coming, and it would definitely be
mountain dew.

Speaker 1 (02:21):
Hey, man like win in doubt.

Speaker 3 (02:23):
Yeah, I've always said this a bunch of sugar caffeine. Yeah, dude,
I've geting geeked out. I've said this since I was
like eighteen years old. You always know when a person
has a problem with like soda if they drink mountain
dew because because like normal people don't don't load up
with like a twenty ounce or like go get like,
oh yeah, they got the sixty four rounds.

Speaker 2 (02:42):
Big goal.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
Like, if you're at that point and you drink mountain dew,
I'm not judging you, but just know you have a problem.

Speaker 1 (02:46):
Mountain dew is pharmaceutical grade soda.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
That's such a great way of describing it. Pharmaceutical grade soda.
Who wouldn't want that? Anyways?

Speaker 3 (02:56):
Gee, we just shared a few of our own beliefs
on soda Pop and look at that for a transition.

Speaker 2 (03:00):
That's what we're talking about today is beliefs.

Speaker 3 (03:02):
And I want to talk about this one because you know,
I don't think we talked about beliefs a lot. And
a few weeks ago we laid out on identity and
attitude and we talk about how beliefs are the base
foundation of your identity, but we haven't talked about actual
beliefs where we've gone into how they're formed and dove
into them since I think episode.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
It was early on it was number.

Speaker 1 (03:21):
Three, and I'm sure there's plenty of people shout out
to all the new listeners. Yeah, I know there's quite
a well we don't think, we know, we can see
the numbers, so awesome. Thank you guys for being here. Yes,
and I know a lot of you go back to
the very beginning, which is which is a fun experience.
I'm sure go back to the beginning and listen all
the way through. You get to hear our growth here.

(03:41):
Here are a lot of things and you if you did that,
if you or if you've already done that, you'll hear
a lot of things on belief But in the meantime
or also as a refresher, we're going to expand on
beliefs and will also kind of hit the foundation a
little bit today too as well.

Speaker 2 (03:56):
For sure, we're going to expand on them.

Speaker 3 (03:57):
We're going to give you three beliefs that will unl
leash you at or four beliefs that will unleash you.
And we're also going to give you two beliefs that
will absolutely destroy you. And the amazing thing about beliefs
is everybody is being dictated to by their beliefs all
the time, right, Like we all have beliefs. The challenges
is if somebody said, what do you believe? You might
fall down. Well, Fortunately there's people like Pew Research Center
who go around and ask people questions like do you

(04:18):
believe in X. The thing that's so interesting is I
know when they ask these questions, they don't go, oh,
and here's how we define belief.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
They just ask people like, do you believe?

Speaker 3 (04:27):
So this is this is a great thing for America
because here you go. G Eighty six percent, according to
Pew Research Center, believe that humans have a soul or spirit,
which is good. That's the vast majority of America. The
other fourteen percent, I mean, I don't know what they're doing,
Like you have no solar Eighty six percent that humans
have a solar spirit. Eighty three percent believe in God

(04:50):
or universal spirit, which is great. Seventy nine percent believe
there is something spiritual beyond the natural world. Okay, sixty
seven percent believe in heaven, fifty five percent believe in hell. Now, yeah,
I knew you would enjoy that really think about the
implications of some of these. Okay, so eighty six are
going we have a solar spirit. Eighty three percent are

(05:12):
saying that there's a god there.

Speaker 1 (05:14):
There's an interesting delta between yes, all of those, but
the what was it sixty seven believe heaven and Hell.
That's just some wishful thinking.

Speaker 2 (05:26):
It is.

Speaker 3 (05:26):
But I didn't read these two on purpose because I
knew that you would enjoy that. But it's it's amazing
to uh, it's amazing to see that. When we get
into this, you'll understand why we're amazed by that more.
But I think it's amazing how few, because like, if
you believe in Hell, that this means that at a
base level, I think people do have some grass that
if I say I believe in this, there's a burden
of proof that's required of it, right, Because what we

(05:48):
will talk about a lot is people will say they
believe in God, but then you look at their actions
and you're like, man, but like, maybe which God do
you know?

Speaker 2 (05:54):
Like who's this God that you believe in?

Speaker 3 (05:56):
Because the way that you're acting is not the God
of the Bible, right Like that That's.

Speaker 1 (06:00):
Just a quick example and probably my favorite story in
the Bible on this and shout out to everyone who
comes to mighty men. You get to hear this every Saturday, right.
Great example of this is God rescues the Israelites out
of Egypt, gives them Moses as a leader, and God
performs forty miracles from the time that God first speaks

(06:21):
to Moses to the time that the Israelites are standing
on the edge of the Promised Land. Okay, some pretty
big miracles in there, including parting the Red Sea and
then swallowing up the army of the most powerful nation
in the world as they pursue an unarmed slave people. Okay,
they're thinking there's no way out of this, and God
makes a way. And then even while they're in the desert,

(06:43):
God performs miracles. God feeds them, God gives them water,
God guides them through the desert, and so like, there's
women and children. I think it was almost a million people.
This is six hundred thousand men, that's the number I
do remember, six thousand grown men. But then there's the
women and the children, so over a million people. It's
a lot of people to feed. So in this that

(07:06):
they experience God completely, and all of these people they're
not saying, you know, I don't know if I believe
in God if I'm into that, you know, like with
the numbers, say today where people can just live this experience,
is that I don't believe in God. For every single
one of those people would have hit yes on the
question of everyone, Yes, of course, why what do you
mean do I believe in God? But then they got

(07:28):
tested in it, right, this was going to the Promised
Land and God says to go, and you're saying, I
don't know if I like that idea. That seems kind
of scary. Are you sure that we could go up
against these giants and take these fortified sakes? So one
hundred percent of the people would be like, oh yeah,
sure I believe in God, but one hundred percent of
the people didn't. We're not willing to bet on God.

(07:51):
And that's really what a belief is about.

Speaker 3 (07:53):
And if you if you read in the Psalms one
of the three it says he showed Moses his ways
and he showed the people his deeds. And that's the difference.
Moses knew God where they didn't. And there's that, like
you talk about whenever you get into a difficult circumstance,
don't fall back on what's going to happen, fall back
on the certainty of the nature of God. Well, if
you don't have the nature of God, those people like
you said, they would have said, yes, we believe in him.

Speaker 2 (08:14):
Do you know no?

Speaker 3 (08:15):
And I think that's where the two. You're not willing
to make a bet on somebody you don't know. Like
if someone said, Hey, Garrett's got to take this shot
save your life, I'd be like, great, I trust him.
If it was like, hey, this dude you haven't met
is going to take a shot and it's really important
for your life, I'd like, hmmm.

Speaker 2 (08:29):
Right.

Speaker 3 (08:29):
And that's a really simple example, but it helps people
to grasp it. And that's the power beliefs. So the
reason I wanted to cover this episode. We're going to dive,
We're just going to jump straight. And I was saying
to Garrett, I was like, so this is my I've
had an interesting summer, right, Like my past three months
have not. N Yeah, it's been disruptive to say the least.
And I don't typically like to share a lot of

(08:50):
things about myself too much stuff about what I'm going through.
When I'm going through it.

Speaker 1 (08:53):
But what I will say is you started your summer
like Billy Madison prepared for hockey try outs.

Speaker 2 (08:58):
Yeah. That's a power, right, It's happy, Gilmart that's what
you get you.

Speaker 3 (09:02):
Yeah, I would just go down there and stand in
front of the pitching machine and take a bunch of
shots to the chest.

Speaker 2 (09:07):
And that's that's what it's been.

Speaker 3 (09:08):
So like are I've like, I have this belief, okay,
and this is why I want to share this people.

Speaker 2 (09:13):
I have it.

Speaker 3 (09:14):
I have a belief that men are made to be strong.
You've heard just talked about on this podcast. And it's
not something that I'm like, oh, like, I'm telling you,
it's in my soul, Like I believe it with all
of my being that God made men to be strong.
And and I think one of the worst things you
could do is to not realize that. And and the
way that works out is that whenever you have difficulty
and wait, you go, oh good, I'm made for this,

(09:35):
Like you talked about it. It's the equivalent of someone
giving you a weight vest and you cry about it
for your birthday.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
It's a nice gift.

Speaker 3 (09:41):
Right, But instead just like, oh man, thanks, why did
you get me that dude, you're supposed to be strong.

Speaker 1 (09:47):
That's what a lot of men act like. Unfortunately, right
when they go through struggles in their life, they cry
about God's giving you an opportunity to grow, and you're saying,
why why is this so heavy? Why'd you give this
to me?

Speaker 2 (09:58):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (09:58):
Whereas if you believe you're supposed to be strong, by oh, well,
it's a good thing. I'm here because I'm supposed to like,
this is what I'm supposed to do, right, very different
thought process. So this summer, I won't go into deep detail,
but like our starmer started off with a leak in
our house that was very disruptive, had to rip up
our whole downstairs flooring, tear out the kitchen sink. We
got relocated eventually, like after dealing with a very difficult

(10:18):
adjuster who eventually got fired. We then three months later
finally got relocated to another property for three weeks so
they could do the work that need to be done.
Praise the Lord. We literally just got back in yesterday.
So that was like, okay, whatever, it's inconvenient. Well, then
my wife's mother has a stroke, like a hemorrhagic brain stroke,
which if you know that it's a bleed on the brain.
You can die from that. And we were apart when

(10:39):
this happened. Thank god she happened to be over there.
And I wake up to a text early in the morning,
and it's like, how do you support your wife from
five thousand miles away? And to you know, you do
what the best thing you could do. You pray like crazy,
you make sure you're supportive, and you do whatever it
takes to make sure that they can stay there.

Speaker 2 (10:55):
Then she comes back.

Speaker 3 (10:56):
Well, then my wife has a health issue which I
won't go into that was very disruptive and lasted about
three and a half weeks, required us going to the
urgent care and doing multiple things and so and I
also have three kids that are you know that while
we're being disruptively relocated to an airbnb. Well, all this
has been going on. And I remember I said to Garrett,

(11:19):
because Garrett and I talked about this stuff, I never
I never once felt sorry for myself. I never once
was like, oh, this is hard. Honestly, I didn't even
lose my peace because my thought process and I actually
reveled in it. I remember I was driving my wife
to the urgent care after being up since like three
in the morning or whatever it was, and I had
to fly out to a wedding. Now, so I have
a job in there, Yeah I have, and I'm having

(11:39):
the busiest year of my life in a great way.

Speaker 2 (11:42):
God's blessing us.

Speaker 3 (11:43):
And obviously there's the cost associated with all this, like
you know, we've had multiple appliances blow up as why,
which I haven't even talked, so like this is this
is all stuff that's happened now for a lot of people,
and understandably this would be like, oh man, this has
been terrible. So one thing after another, I've not felt
like not only have I not felt like that. When
I was driving my wife to the urgent care, I
actually felt like an incredible sense of joy, like I'm
supposed to be doing this, and I took great pride

(12:05):
in taking the best possible care of my wife and
doing whatever I could because I was like, you know what,
I want my wife to know that her husband will
never be a guy that shirks the price that needs
to be paid to support her. So I was actively going,
my wife is going to come out of this knowing
her husband will do whatever it takes because he's strong
and I took great joy in that, and so I'm
not saying all like, look, I just want to say
my wife. I always forget to tell this part and
people are like, what was your mom's wife? Okay, Yes,

(12:27):
God did a miraculous miracle. She went from being like
all these things that the doctors say to you if
you've ever experienced a stroke to four weeks later she's
just out doing everything normal, not even no no sag
to her face, no limp anything. I just want people
to know God heals, he does miracles. There was a
bunch of people. We're in an incredible community of people here,
as well as my father in law who's been on
the podcast.

Speaker 2 (12:46):
You know him.

Speaker 3 (12:47):
He is a man of God and God stepped in
and so it's amazing to see my mother in law
and I just want to make sure we publicly have it.
God does miracles. He touched her, she recovered. It's amazing. Also,
my wife is mending, so I just want we're getting
back in the house, so everything's coming good eventually, Praise
the Lord. But the point I'm making is because of
my belief, not one time in there was I ever like,
oh man, when's this gonna be over Garrett, like, you know,

(13:09):
I wasn't going Garrett, I really, I just I was
just like, Okay, this is what I'm made to do, right,
And it was so powerful. I said to Garrett, saide, gee,
I know what it is to be a very weak man,
and so to go through something like this and to
feel like, man, I believe I'm supposed to be strong,
and actually I'm looking at the evidence that I'm going
I was strong. That is such a different because I
know six years ago I would have been falling apart. Man,

(13:29):
I'd have been the stress head. I'd have been anxiety.
I had been terrible for my family. And so I said, well,
woe is me?

Speaker 2 (13:34):
Woe is me? And I was like, I.

Speaker 3 (13:35):
Having experienced this for every man every woman out there,
I would love for you to realize and to truly
experience the power of having a godly belief that is
so deeply ingrained and rude in you that that your
life is formed, your vision is formed by that, your values,
how you act is formed by that. And truthfully, whether
you have beliefs that are doing that now, but to
consciously take hold of those, to align with the Word

(13:57):
of God, and then to see your life play out
is just it is so fulfilling. That's all I can say.
So that's why that's what sparked this.

Speaker 1 (14:04):
Hopefully that's an encouragement for people if you're in a
difficult season, or you've been through one and you didn't
like the way that it went, or you just understand
reality and know the difficult seasons are coming. Yep, let's
talk about how beliefs can prepare you for those difficult.

Speaker 2 (14:19):
One hundred percent.

Speaker 3 (14:20):
Well, g it's an impossible I think to say, like,
let's get into let's define what a belief is. Well,
what I love about this is I was like, well,
let's look at what psychology says. Listen to this and
you may have heard this before, and psychology, a belief
is generally defined as a mental representation or conviction that
something is true, real, or exists, even if it cannot
be directly proven or observed. Huh sounds like somebody else's definition.

(14:42):
I know that was a lot more concise because he's
Garrett Uncle back. It's Garrett's definition of belief is what
you know to be true but can't be proven. And
we always say scientifically.

Speaker 1 (14:53):
And beliefs are the things you know are true, but
can't prove the scientifically, meaning you know, science has kind
of lost some events definition. But for people our age
who went to school when I taught science, yeah right,
science the scientific method, verifiable, demonstratable, repeatable. You can have
evidence for something but not scientifically proven, right. And so

(15:14):
I've got evidence for these beliefs even though I can't
scientifically prove them. I have chosen, right, and that's a
big part of the belief I have chosen to say
this is true for my life.

Speaker 3 (15:23):
Yeah, now, and then we're going to get into that
because like you can choose to say that you can fly,
and you're gonna find out real quick that that's not
actually true when.

Speaker 1 (15:30):
You do you have any evidence, right, Yeah, that's exactly right.

Speaker 3 (15:34):
So we're going to get into how beliefs are formed.
But like, cognitive behavioral psychology is so big for me.
And they say that a belief is an internal cognitive
state that guides perception, interpretation, and behavior and acts like
a mental map of how the.

Speaker 2 (15:47):
World works, which I like that.

Speaker 3 (15:48):
They say that beliefs are only three that you have
them about yourself others in the world, and so that
acts as your mental map, and I think that that's
a great definition as an expansion. Also, you said about
science has been trashed. I heard someone say, I can't
remember which podcast it was on, but they said, there's
a difference between the science and science, Like that's that's
such a good way science. That's when you know, you're like,
buckle up, Yeah, that's that's that's what drove our country

(16:11):
and the world insane for a few years anyways. So,
so the timeline of a belief is so beliefs you're
formed when you're young, right, and it's largely based on
the environment you're in, and you generally inherit the beliefs
of those around you. Like if you can imagine, if
you grew up in a war torn area, you're gonna
believe that the world is a cold, harsh place full
of violence. And if you then come to some peaceful country,
it's gonna like rattle your brain because you have your

(16:34):
belief is gonna be based large on what you're around.
Right now, most of the people that listen to this
are in America, and I have not grown up in
a war torn country, right you may I know there's
different things going on depending on where you live, and you're.

Speaker 1 (16:45):
And that actually creates some wrong beliefs for people. Yeah,
create some beliefs of entitlement of things should just be
this way, right, create some of the sheep mentality, not
in the cultural definition, but in the Colonel Grossman definite
motion of sheep who think that wolves don't exist.

Speaker 2 (17:03):
Yeah right.

Speaker 1 (17:04):
We live in a world full of wolves. We just
live in a country that's kicked most of them out.

Speaker 3 (17:09):
Yeah, really think about that, because what Garrett's saying is
that because we don't believe that there's wolves out there,
we can just sit there and mind mind our own
business and not have to ever prepare for anything. And
you know, you better hope that you never actually meet
a wolf, because if you're gross and prepared, guess what
you are, you're the prey. Yeah, and that's a lot
of men these days. I'm speaking to the men when
we say that. So going back to the timeline of beliefs,

(17:30):
So you have these beliefs from a young age, and
over time you test them, right, and they either get
strengthened or eliminated. It's like we said when we talked
about you know, I believe I can fly, Well, I
jumped off five roofs and every single time I broke
x bones and how I don't believe like them fly anymore.
But over time, the ones that are strengthened, they become
like mental shortcuts, right, And once you form one, it
begins to filter how you interpret new information.

Speaker 2 (17:52):
Right.

Speaker 3 (17:52):
And what's so interesting about that is that your brain
is not wired to guide you into truth. It's wired
to reinforce your beliefs. And we saw a lot of
this in COVID and in different like very polarizing opinions.
You can two people can see the same exact piece
of information and interpret it wildly different. Like if you
believe that people can't be trusted, guess what, you're going

(18:14):
to start noticing behavior that confirms that belief more easily.
When when Doctor Robie's on, he talked about as the rats,
the reticular activation system aka your brain is there to
look for what you tell it's important. So I'm saying
all that because I want you to understand the timeline
of belief, because I think that most people listening to
this would not be able to state very many of
their beliefs, like you're being guided by them. But if
I said, well, what do you actually believe? Well, like

(18:36):
what do you believe about people? Uh, people are good?
You know, it's like are they well the Bible says
that they're you know, that they're wicked and can't be trusted.

Speaker 2 (18:44):
Wait, you know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (18:45):
And so that you start getting caught in these things.
But what you said that I thought was so good
you was you said beliefs have to become an experience.
And that's where I thought, because like, you're a man
who's had strong belief What did.

Speaker 2 (18:55):
You mean by that?

Speaker 1 (18:56):
Well, for that, I've had a lot of beliefs in
my life and you you're the one that really wants
to pull these out of me, and you've tried to
understand me. I've had some beliefs in my life as
it related to military experience. I've had some beliefs in
my life as it relates to being great and wanting
to be great, the type of the way that I'm

(19:17):
going to respond to experiences, all of that. I've had
a lot of beliefs in my life and we're going
to list some of my beliefs here in a minute.
But what I had to do with those beliefs eventually,
beliefs are kind of like potential. You can have a
lot of potential, but if it never turns into anything,
it's actually a very terrible thing. And the same is
true with your beliefs. You've actually at some point you
have to test your beliefs because what beliefs are is

(19:40):
there a bet? Right, think about any belief that you've had,
or the belief of let's talk about when we we've
already mentioned is a belief of following God, And there's
a pretty bit it's a pretty big bet to believe
in God. There's a downside, but there's also a really
big upside, So belief has to have a payoff. If
there's no payoff for the belief, there's really not a

(20:02):
reason to make the bet. And again i'm not endorsing gambling,
but an it's an understandable experience that a bet is
a choice of I.

Speaker 2 (20:12):
Don't know for certain.

Speaker 1 (20:14):
It could be the ball may be in the cup
on the left, or the ball may be in the
cup on the right, but I think I'm more certain
that I'm not one hundred percent certain, but I'm more
certain that the ball is in the cup on the left.
And if there is a value in placing that bet,
then you'll make a choice. If there's no reward for
making the choice and you're not certain, then you won't
make a choice. You'll just say I don't know. But
when there's great value in making the choice, you're going

(20:36):
to choose one or the other. And so a belief
has to have a payoff, and I've had beliefs in
my life where I've said, man, I think the payoff
would be great, like the payoff of following God. Think
about what this would look like in your life of
you know, because I was thinking when I was talking
to Nick, I was thinking about some of the people
in my life that I care about that don't know
the Lord yet. And I've had you know, Lindsey asked

(20:58):
me this question the other day about evangelizing to people,
and she said like, well, how do you do it?
And she was asking me specifically, not that she didn't
know how to lead someone into prayer. She's like, what
are the right things to say? What are the right
questions to ask? And I said, when I have these
conversations with people, I've had the conversation many times before.
I have it with him, right, because like I really

(21:19):
want to minister to a person. I'm thinking about, how
can I help guide this person? How can I help
lead this person? And there's people in my life right
now that I care about that don't know the Lord,
and I've really thought about the question for them. You know,
why do you believe or not believe? And what would
be the payoff for you in believing? Think about betting
on Okay, God, God is real and I want to

(21:41):
get to know him, right, that's one bet or the
other bet is God's not real and it doesn't matter
you're not. You can't be one hundred percent certain about either,
and so go down each of those roads. I would
rather And this is like one of the things I
want to get into today about beliefs, because beliefs do
require or courage, But I would rather be wrong about

(22:03):
belief than right about doubt. Right, And that that's that's
accurate as it pertains to a relationship with God, and
it is very accurate. I think about many of the
other beliefs we're going to talk about today that you've
got to you've got to have some courage in your
belief and say, you know what, it's better. Yeah, I
would rather be wrong about God then be right about

(22:25):
like or then be wrong about God. It's not real, right, right, Like,
so you you need to understand where your beliefs will
take you and then really get firm about making a
choice of, Hey, this is what I'm going to bet on,
and I'm going to go all in on it. But
what you can't do when you gamble, if you've ever gambled,
and yet I'm not endorsing gambling, but what you can't
do is put your money on the table and then

(22:46):
go oh wha wha wait wait wait, I mean yeah,
I want to Just doesn't work that way. You have
to make a choice.

Speaker 3 (22:51):
Yeah, And understand that that was all spark from saying
that what Garrett said about beliefs have to become an experience.

Speaker 2 (22:57):
And what he's talking about is you have to go
out and test them.

Speaker 3 (22:59):
Like if it was as simple as Garrett and I
could just say here's five beliefs you could have and
everybody just be like, Okay, I believe them, that wouldn't
really be worth anything, because it's like the experience and
of testing them and the courage it takes to go
out there is what reinforces and strengthens them. And you
said it was like stacking bricks.

Speaker 1 (23:14):
One of those beliefs in my life has been that,
you know, God is a plan if you listen to
this podcast for me talk about it a million times,
that God has a plan for my life. Right And
Nick asked me if I ever doubted that? Yeah, And
that's an interesting question. So I really because if you
know my story, my parents just told me that since
I was little, that God is a plan for your life.

(23:35):
And I gathered a lot of evidence as I was
growing up that Got had a plan for my life. Now,
there was certainly times in my teenage years or maybe
I wouldn't say I doubted that, but I questioned it
and question it rightfully. So you should, you know, you
shouldn't just absorb whatever and just take it at face value.
You begin to question it in the right way. And

(23:55):
I question just like every teenager is going to question
their parents. Help your teenagers question you in the right
way is that you're open to it. What'll help your
teenagers question you in the right way is that you're
really consistent. So when they do question you, it's not like,
well you said this, but you lived this.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
Right.

Speaker 1 (24:14):
My parents do as they say, people not I need
to do as I say. They did as they said,
and that helped me do as they say. But what
helps is eventually for me, I had to question those beliefs,
but I would say like I started to feel firm
in them towards the end of my teenage years. But

(24:35):
what made it very real for me is, again, if
you know my story, my very first mission that I
ever went on, my helicopter took over three hundred rounds
and I thought I was going to die in that moment.
And I mean I literally took a breath and held
my breath and closed my eyes and waited to die
as my helicopter is getting shredded with bullets. And in

(24:57):
that moment, you just start to think about your life
and all those things. And when I took another breath,
I just felt like the Lord spoke to me and said,
I heard what I'd heard so many times. I still
have a plan for your life. And so when Nick
asked me, you know, did you ever doubt that? I
want to say no. But what happened is all of

(25:19):
my life up to that moment prepared me for that moment,
where in that moment and in that experience, it became
very real like this. It was another piece of evidence
that God is a plan for my life. I think
that's incredible that in those space of two breaths, you
went from oh, man, I held this to be so
true my whole life, to oh, it is true. It

(25:40):
gives me chills thinking about it, because you're so cemented
on that. Man.

Speaker 3 (25:43):
I've watched you walk through all sorts of stuff in
the past five years, and I know that that is
like so central to who you are is that belief.
And I just think that's an incredible thing.

Speaker 1 (25:51):
So the other point Nick was making is that beliefs
do at some point, your beliefs turn into experiences. When
I said to Nick, is it is a continuum. It's
not like you can't put a belief in a box
after that experience. It's not like, well, it's one hundred
percent certain now, like I got it all figured out,
Like No, that belief has still grown since then. Yeah,

(26:13):
And there have been more moments in my life where
I've struggled, and there's been more moments in my life
where God also showed me right, like God honors faithfulness,
and where I have been faithful to Him, where I
have stood on that belief. God has continually revealed himself
to me and shown me I still have a plan
for your life.

Speaker 3 (26:30):
Yeah, And I love that you said that they have
to become an experience because our man Tony Robbins says
that a belief is a poor substitute for an experience,
and he's basically saying the same thing that you are. Like,
there's no sense of just saying I believe all this stuff.
You got to get out there and like actually put
something behind it, and like you gave a very powerful,
powerful experience that I don't know many people will have.
If you're a sports fan like me, and I know

(26:50):
you said I'm a sports guy in this podcast, and
I'm okay with that.

Speaker 1 (26:53):
Sportsman.

Speaker 3 (26:54):
Sportsman, you see this all the time in sports where
it's like an underdog is playing the favorite and they
come out in the opening minutes and they give everything
they got and what happens if they can rock and
reel the favorite a little bit? What do they say?
Their belief is growing?

Speaker 2 (27:06):
That you know?

Speaker 3 (27:07):
And that's exactly it. You know, you just you come
out there and you start to go, oh, maybe I
can hang with them. It's like if you think you're
getting in a fight with somebody and you think this
person can destroy him and they hit you and you're like,
oh that wasn't that's hardly.

Speaker 1 (27:16):
And when you've when you fight you know, the greatest boxer,
the undefeated boxer. Yeah, and you don't knock him out,
but you knock him down. Yes, it's or it's like
it's like Arnold with the predator. Yes, if it bleeds,
we can kill it.

Speaker 2 (27:29):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (27:30):
Once you begin to believe, it changes everything. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (27:32):
And if you talk to someone that fights, what do
they say? They say, I want to feel I want
to feel the other fighter. Ak, Like what sort of
power am I dealing with? Because if you get hit
a few times, you're like, oh that wasn't so bad,
Like it's rocky.

Speaker 2 (27:41):
It's so bad.

Speaker 3 (27:42):
It's so bad, right, But like what happens, your belief
starts to build and furthermore you so a seed a
doubt in somebody else. So so the point of all
that we want to let you understand how how like
what the timeline of a belief is that they have
to become an experience and that they really are a
bet and they have incredible power. You heard what it
said about like how how that was cemented for him

(28:03):
throughout his whole life and that he had that question.
But in that moment when he took that breath, man,
to just know, okay, like to know that God's with you? Man,
what would that like? That's just the ultimate right and
you have to I mean, this is life. Life is
a choice for you. Yeah, And that's what beliefs are.
Beliefs are a choice.

Speaker 2 (28:20):
Right.

Speaker 1 (28:21):
It's like you've heard me talk about some of the
beliefs of my life where people have questioned me and
and honestly, like one of the gifts that God has
given me is a gift of faith, which is is
very similar to courage. And what a lot of people
I think to do with their beliefs is I think
like where people have questioned my beliefs, Where people have

(28:44):
questioned my beliefs, I felt like they were cowards, right right,
what they were afraid They were afraid of making that choice.
They were afraid of well what if I'm wrong? And
I've just chosen to live a life where I said,
well what if I'm right?

Speaker 2 (28:56):
Yeah? Well you and you said that He said something.

Speaker 3 (28:59):
That police require cursion, that cynics are typically cowards, which
like cynicism is in some places thought it as a
high form of intelligence and you're going, yeah, you guys
are cowards.

Speaker 1 (29:08):
There's nothing wrong with questioning something and looking into something.
But I think what a lot of cynics do is
they question it as an excuse to not have to choose. Yeah, right,
like oh, I don't have to get on the field, right,
But instead it's like, look, I'm going to get on
the field. You've got to make a decision of like
I'm going to choose something, and I'm again, I'm totally

(29:29):
okay with questioning something. This is where like there's some
of the things I don't like about Christianity, where or
where Christianity gets a bad rap is like, oh, they're
just dumb. They don't know anything about science, right. And
that's where I've I've have sought to be as educated
as I could. I'd never felt the calling to go,

(29:50):
you know, get my master's degree or get my doctorate
in science or theology and something that would give me
more of a foundation, and I just didn't feel like
I had to. But I have sought to be very
educated because with faith and with belief, you can be
looked at as an idiot, right, right. You can be like, oh,
you just you know, science does not disprove faith. Faith

(30:10):
stands in the gap where science has a lot of emptiness. Yes, right,
and so it's it's like we talked about the other day,
it's a both issue. Right. Science does not disprove God.
Science goes with faith and so with beliefs. Ultimately, the
point I'm making is you've got to have some courage
and you've got to understand that you're going to have
to make a choice. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (30:31):
By the way, shout out to all three of you
that got in touch and said you knew what Observer's
law was, because I found that.

Speaker 2 (30:35):
I found that all three of you. Yeah, we have
three people. I thought that was kind of interesting.

Speaker 1 (30:40):
And for the rest of you, you know, maybe you're
not curious, but if you were, you went and looked
out on YouTube and said, what is this? Because there
are some really great, like five and ten minute videos
that Observer's law for you know, the not doctorate level
quantum physicist.

Speaker 3 (30:55):
That was probably the most considerate way you could have
put that.

Speaker 2 (30:58):
Well done, I've impressed.

Speaker 3 (31:01):
Okay, so let's get into the beliefs, like the beliefs
that will absolutely unleash you.

Speaker 2 (31:05):
But here's here's another line.

Speaker 3 (31:06):
Question for you to ask in your life, what would
you need to believe in order to achieve insert whatever
your insert whatever you want to achieve? That that is
an interesting question. Or what would you need to believe
in order to feel the way you do about this
whatever current situation you're going in, Because there's a lot
of people we know you'll be listening.

Speaker 4 (31:23):
What.

Speaker 1 (31:23):
Okay, let me just give you a couple examples. Okay,
what would I need to believe to have a great marriage?

Speaker 2 (31:29):
Right?

Speaker 1 (31:30):
What would I need to believe to be a great father?
What would I need to believe to be an admirable person?

Speaker 2 (31:37):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (31:38):
What would I need to believe to become a millionaire?
What would I need to believe to be live a
healthy life?

Speaker 3 (31:45):
Right?

Speaker 2 (31:45):
What?

Speaker 1 (31:45):
Just you know, we can just go down the list
of things that people want, or you can have your
own list of what you want, and you should have
a list of what you want and look at those
things and you've got and start to understand what would
I need to believe to be able to achieve this?
If you haven't gotten that far with you know what
it is that you want? Right? Hopefully you have that list.
If you don't, that's step one. But beyond that is okay,

(32:09):
what would I need to believe to be able to
achieve these things? And we're going to jump into a
few beliefs that I think apply to all the things
that people want, but more specifically, with some of the
things that you want, there's going to be some specific
beliefs that you need to have.

Speaker 3 (32:23):
Yeah, I mean, we give beliefs that are a go
against fear all the time. One of the beliefs that
you'd have to have if you're a fearful person is
that that we live in a very dangerous time where
there's lots of threats. And I remember whenever we did
our Man on the Street quiz in San Diego and
I asked some young gen Z folk about about if
life was harder on or like oh yeah, like this

(32:43):
like this is like such a hard time to live.
And I remember I went, I was like, what about
back like one hundred and fifty years ago and people
don't even know if they were going to make it
through winter because like they didn't have the technology that
we have.

Speaker 1 (32:53):
I still remember you asking that kid that question and
he was just looking at you.

Speaker 2 (32:56):
Like he just stopped me.

Speaker 3 (32:57):
He's like, oh man, you're right, And I was like,
but what does that show for this kid If he
believes that this is a hard time to be alive, well, man,
why even try?

Speaker 2 (33:06):
Whereas if you go, this is the greatest time to
be alive.

Speaker 1 (33:08):
The most wealthy he was living as a he's like,
I'm not meant to succeed.

Speaker 2 (33:12):
But that's a belief that a lot of people can
relate to.

Speaker 3 (33:15):
And that's why I wanted to bring it up because
I remember early on this podcast, I asked you some question, like,
you know, what do you think the best time to
be alive is? And you're like, right now, this is
the greatest time to be alive. And I was kind
of like thinking, I don't know, man, the sixties would
be cool for rock and roll. And then when you
said that, I've realized, like, what an empowering way to
think if we're in the best time that's ever been.
Oh man, like squeeze the eleven, get all of it.

Speaker 1 (33:35):
It's easier now than ever.

Speaker 3 (33:36):
And that that is actually true, and we can go
into that, but I just wanted to highlight that because
I think that that's a lot of people's a lot
of people can relate to that one like, what do
you believe about now? Is now the easiest time? Is
the most difficult time because a lot of how you
live will be determined from that. But I just wanted
to give that as an easy highlight. All right, So gee,
let's get in to the beliefs you should have and
believe it or not. Everybody. You may have heard one

(33:58):
or two of these before. Of course, the very first
one is the first half, the infinite potential unlock to you,
what is it?

Speaker 1 (34:05):
Yeah, if you don't know what the infinite potential unlock is, again, welcome,
you must be new around here.

Speaker 2 (34:09):
We did an episode on it.

Speaker 1 (34:10):
Yeah, the infinite potential unlock, right, fits two beliefs, and
the first belief is this, and again we're we're going
to talk about four beliefs here that I think every
man should have.

Speaker 2 (34:20):
Yes, for whatever it.

Speaker 1 (34:22):
Is that you want, and then you need to have
some specific beliefs for the things that you want. But
number one belief here I think every man should have,
and it's this that God has a plan for your life.
This informs every other belief that you have. If you
don't think that God has a plan for your life,
when you face struggle, when you go through difficult things,
you'll start to think like, ah, man, I guess like

(34:45):
I didn't hit the right lotto numbers. Yeah, right, Like like, well,
maybe you don't even believe in God, right right. If
you don't believe in God or don't think God has
a plan for your life, when things aren't going well
for you, you'll start to think like, oh, man, I you
know it rained over there on that guy's crops, but
it didn't rain my mind. I guess I'm not meant
to succeed. But when God, when you do believe that

(35:08):
God has a plan for your life, you can look
This is a superpower that people of faith, people following
God have that you can look at every difficult situation
that you're going through and be like, okay, right, Like
I would have naturally logically come to the conclusion this
is a terrible situation. However, I've chosen to stake my

(35:29):
life on this belief that God has planned for my life.
So when I look at this difficult situation, I'm thinking
where I would have said, there's no there's no good here,
God calls this good and so it allows me to
like continually step into the unknown, step into the dangerous,
step into the painful and know like I would have

(35:49):
never chosen to come here, I would have never chosen
to move forward. But God has told me that this
is good, and so I'll step forward. Right. It changes
your attitude and it changes the way that you approach
any difficult situation. If you don't have this belief, whenever
it gets hard, you will quit and you will walk away.

Speaker 3 (36:08):
Yeah, and that's and that's so that's I was gonna
ask you, like what it would look like to test
this and what the curt because you said you have to,
you have to take a big bet. They require courage,
and I think the courage is that if you believe
God has a plan for your life, is that you're
gonna do it his way and you're you're gonna not
panic in the moment. Because that's that was one of
the things. Like, as as I've been going through everything,

(36:29):
regardless whether it's good, bad, or and different, I'm like,
I know God's in control and it gives a different
level of peace.

Speaker 1 (36:34):
I think it requires a submission to God's plan because
one hundred percent, here's what I can tell you about
God's plan. It's not your plan. Yeah, Yeah, And what
I'm not saying that you like you, you're not for
me or for you. Let's just take you for example, Nick, Like,
I know you want to live God's plan for your life. Yeah,
but still God's plan is not Nick's plan I know. Unfortunately,

(36:59):
fortunately right, it's true for all of us. So what
that means is like, sometimes you're gonna you're gonna think like,
oh man, it would be really good if this happened,
and that won't happen. And what that means is God's
plan was different than your plan, but that God still
has a plan. And again, if you don't believe this,
whenever things don't go your way, you will see that

(37:22):
as bad. But for me, when things don't go my way,
I go God's plan is different than mine.

Speaker 2 (37:29):
Huh.

Speaker 1 (37:30):
Well, good, good thing I'm not in charge, right, good thing,
he knows better than I do. Right. So again, it
allows you to look at difficult, terrible things in your
life and see purpose in it. Where if you don't
have that, like, some of the worst things that will
ever happen to you will lead you down a road
of darkness, of emptiness, of depression.

Speaker 3 (37:51):
And so you would say that's how you test that
belief is just your level of submission is like the courage.

Speaker 1 (37:57):
How you test this belief, it's the same as following God.
Get You'll get tested in it before you like in school,
you take a test. Then what happens later on? You
see if you were right right? Okay, like it's not
like tell me now, you know God doesn't work that way,
so you have to step out in faith on this

(38:19):
and then later on you'll see like, oh, God had
a plan, right, like you see how it's good. Sometimes
you see a day later, sometimes you see a week later.
And for some of the things we won't see until eternity. Right,
But the things that God has allowed me to see
in my life where I've looked back a day later,
a week later, years later and be like, man like,
God so protected me. There I look at some of

(38:41):
the choices I made when I was a ding dong
as a teenager. God protected me. There. I look at
some of the things that happened to be in the
seal teams right where God like very specifically directed my
steps to put me into a place that leads me
to where I am today, right where I could have
gone down any of these good roads like there were

(39:02):
you know, four good roads in front of me, and
God didn't pick the one that I would have picked.
But God put me down this path and it led
me to where I'm at today. And I look back
at that and I see God's hand on my life. Right,
So you're not gonna the way that you do. This
is one you have to actually you have to test it, right.
You can't get the answers to the test before the

(39:22):
test with God. You've got to make a choice. But
then when you make a choice, you get the opportunity
to see evidence later.

Speaker 2 (39:28):
Man, that's what breaks so many people, is the need
to know.

Speaker 3 (39:31):
It's like, oh, but how's I just you know, like,
this isn't going the way I thought it would, and
so I'm gonna step in and you start trying to
do things your own way. And I'm glad you answered that.

Speaker 1 (39:40):
And unfortunately this is some people, this is going to
hurt their feelings. But that's cowardly, it is. It is
cowardly to say I won't go on the field unless
I know I'll win.

Speaker 3 (39:51):
Yeah, that's great, that's a great point.

Speaker 2 (39:54):
Gee, all right.

Speaker 3 (39:54):
Number two is the second half of the infinite potential
luck And don't worry. The last two are are are
not the ones that you've heard before.

Speaker 1 (40:02):
It's a great reminder, though.

Speaker 3 (40:03):
It is a great minder because once that g men
have to be told once, reminded often, right, you say.

Speaker 1 (40:07):
That reminded many times. And I said this to the
other I said this that mighty men the other day.
But one of the things that's really funny is and
I say that to the men all the time, but
sometimes I speak to audiences with women in it. And
when I say that too, when I say that to
an audience, it's half men, half women, all the women laugh. Well, guys,
you're like, what's funny. Yeah, it's true, it's true. But

(40:29):
it's true. It's true for the ladies. It it's true
for all of us.

Speaker 2 (40:32):
Believe.

Speaker 3 (40:32):
Number two is you can have anything you want if
you're willing to pay the price. Man, what I like
I want I want you to go into that a
little bit. But what I what I love about that
this to me is like the endurance piece, because if
you believe that you'll keep going because the assumption is, well,
I just must not have paid the price yet. Whereas
if you don't believe that you're going to quit because
you know, it doesn't matter what I do.

Speaker 2 (40:53):
Sometimes you just can't win.

Speaker 1 (40:54):
There's a lot here. You can have anything you want
as long as you're willing to pay the price for it.
Proverbs says, as a man thinketh so is he. Henry
Ford said, whether you think you can or you think
you can't, you're right. And for like, this is a
dangerous belief. It's a dangerous one because sometimes you won't

(41:15):
get what you want. Sometimes you will think you can
and it doesn't work out, and then you get really
tested in this belief. And the test is will you
reject reality or will you reject yourself? Right? And what
I mean by that is when it go like, when
you think you can and it doesn't work out, are
you going to say, oh, that that? Because it hurts

(41:38):
to be wrong. It hurts to say like, oh I
can do this and then you don't. And what will
make you feel better, what will put some ointment on
your booboo in that moment, is to say like, it
wasn't my fault, right, like, oh I didn't wasn't my mistake.
But the men who have achieved, the men who have grown,

(41:58):
the men who have succeeded, men like Henry Ford. When
they failed, they said, that's because of me. But if
you can say, when you fail, that was me, what
that allows you to also do is one day succeed
right where I've messed up, where I've made mistakes. I
can fix those things. If you're willing to own the failures,

(42:21):
you get to walk into success. But a lot of
people the pain of owning the failure. They would rather say,
it's not my fault, I didn't do that, like just
bad luck, the universe, whatever, And then you're stuck where
you're at right your pain got taken away, but then
you get the pain of plateau. You will be where
you are until you go back. And here's the scary part.

(42:44):
A lot of people get down this road and their
lives for a long time, years, decades in their life
of mistakes saying not me, not my fault. Now, I'm
forty five and I've been stuck in the same place
in my life life for the last fifteen years, and
I'm just now, or maybe not forty five, maybe you're

(43:04):
fifty five, maybe you're sixty, and you're having to wrestle
with this and realize, like, man, I've actually believed some
of the wrong things yeah, And it gets really hard
and painful when you have to when you realize, like
I need to change some of the way that I am,
I need to change some of my belief. And what
this also means is the last fifteen years of mistakes
in my life were also my fault.

Speaker 2 (43:25):
Yeah, that'll crush a man.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
It doesn't have to, right, It's certainly painful, but that's
where you've got to understand. Okay, And I've got a
belief here at the end that'll help you with that one.
But when you believe that God has a plan for
your life, then you believe whether I think I can
or I think I can't, I'm wrong. I'm right that

(43:49):
whatever I want in life, I can get it if
I'm willing to pay the price for it. It's a
difficult thing to wrestle with this, but what you're saying
is if I'm willing to pay the price, I can
grow to the next level. I can get the next thing.
It's it's easy. It's much easier to just say, you
know what I got what I got, and that that

(44:11):
stuff didn't work out for me. For me and I'd
rather just feel good about myself. I don't I don't
want to feel good about myself. I want to stand
in front of the Lord and you are well done,
good and faithful servant. And what I don't want to
do is talk myself into a sense of comfortability when
really I'm abandoning my destiny and doing so.

Speaker 3 (44:30):
Yeah, what's so killer about that is I don't think
anybody that has pulled the parachute and just said oh,
it wasn't my fault will realize that they're just kind
of numbing the pain.

Speaker 2 (44:40):
They'll really believe that story.

Speaker 3 (44:41):
I think there's a lot of people that get disillusion
because I hope that they would have that wake up
moment that you described at some point. I think for
a lot of people, they don't ever do that. They
come up with another story that's just you.

Speaker 1 (44:51):
Know, when you break your arm, before you put in
a cast, you have to set the bone, and that's
the part that really sucks.

Speaker 2 (44:57):
Yeah, get in.

Speaker 1 (44:59):
Right, But a lot a lot of people they break
their arm and they're like, well, let's just give me
some pain medicine and put it in a cast. Right,
And you didn't set the bone beforehand, right, You have
to look at like, Okay, what actually happened? And how
what's the corrective behavior I have to do so that
I can grow on from this correctly.

Speaker 3 (45:14):
Yeah, man, there's so much in that g I would
always add, and I think I've said this before, caveat.
You'll find out the price when you're done. It's like
if you went to buy a car and you said, hay,
I really like this truck. How much is it? Oh,
you'll find out, well when just start making payments. Well,
I'm not going to do that. That's literally the price
that That's how the price works for the vast majority

(45:35):
of things you really want.

Speaker 2 (45:36):
Like business owners will know this.

Speaker 3 (45:37):
You start out on a business because you think I
have a great idea, I'm really passionate about this, and
it's like, oh, I've got to hire people. Oh, I've
got to actually like do some book keeping. Oh you
mean that, Like I've got to get learn how to
market and learn how to do all these things that
I didn't want to do as part of this business.
I just wanted to be the product guy. You start
a business, you got to find people to buy it,
you know, And that's so common anyways. Okay, so gee,
that's the first year of the infinite potential on luck.

(45:59):
Let's get into the bone beliefs.

Speaker 1 (46:01):
So belief number three builds right on top of belief
number two. Right, if you take this on right, if
you go through the situation of well, I thought I
could and then I didn't, and this is really painful
for me. Here's the third belief, and this is an
important one, and it's that failure doesn't define me. A

(46:21):
lot of people you think it. If you think it does,
If you think failure does define you, you'll run from it, right, Like,
no one wants to be labeled a failure. Inside all
of us is like this wrestling of becoming, this wrestling
of who am I? Of what does it mean to
be me? And the fact that something could like label

(46:42):
you as terrible, as weak, as wrong, as a failure. Right,
you'll run from that thing if you think that, like
as if I can slap this sticker on your chest,
you're a failure for the rest of your life. You
would run as hard as you could from that thing.
But what if you could look at you know that,
like if it kind of makes it a silly analogy,

(47:03):
which is a good thing. I maybe this will help
somebody if you look at failure as a guy trying
to put a sticker on your chest, Just walk up
to him and let him put the sticker on your chest,
like thanks man, right, Like I'll put that on my
notebook and just keep going down the sidewalk.

Speaker 4 (47:16):
Right.

Speaker 1 (47:16):
A lot of people run from that, like it man,
Like what if if if you put the sticker on
my chest? It says failure, Like this is who I
am for forever. But if you can if you can
take mistakes, if you can take losing, if you can
take getting embarrassed, if you can take getting beat up
and be be willing to stand back up and say, okay, right, like,
that's not who I am. It is something that I

(47:37):
did right, Like I made a mistake. There's a lot
of it. There's some mistakes that that are really painful
that'll stick with you for a long time. I got
I got a DUI, I cheated on my wife, you know,
I stole from my business partner. These are things that
like it hurts to deal with that. But if you
do those things and you can get up and say,
you know what, but I can change, right, I don't
have to be that way for forever. And there's certainly

(47:59):
content sequences that come with some of those things, but
also if you can say, like I can still, God
still has a plan for me. Whether I think I
can or I think I can't, I'm right and I
think I can be better than that. I don't think
I have to be that way for the rest of
my life. I think I can change. And you don't
let failure define you. It is like the most encouraging,

(48:20):
exciting thing in your life when you realize what I've
done is not who I am. And one of my
favorite stories of this is a guy named Michael Montsur.
Michael Monsur Medal of Honor winner Michael Monsur died by
jumping on a grenade and saving his team's life three guys,
and I feel a bit of a special connection to

(48:43):
Michael Monsur just because two of the guys that were
on that roof with him both influenced my life and
I both heard them. Those aren't stories you tell very often,
but I've both heard them tell Mike's story, and those
guys influenced me. And so beyond the fact that he's
a Medal of Honor winner and you should just respect

(49:05):
those guys, I have personal gratitude for Mike because the
people's lives. He saved impacted my life, but Mike jumped
on a grenade saved his team's life. This is like
one of the most heroic actions in Seal Team history.
And what most people don't know about Mike. I think
people are just scared to say it because I think
it discredits him. But I think it's actually one of
the coolest parts of his story that Mike quit his

(49:26):
first time at BUDS. He went to Seal Training and quit.
He quit at nineteen, came back at twenty four or
twenty five and went through BUDS again and then went
on to me. And he'll be remembered for forever, like
one of the most significant training bases that is named
after him. There's a couple of really big monuments to
him on the Seal Training base, and he's one of
the Medal of Honor winners, and he like his action

(49:48):
also informed the Seal ethos, right, Like there's so many
like Mikey is like an essential piece of whose Seals
are for forever now, he'll always be remembered and he
first time at BUDS. I've told his story to guys
that i've tadpoles I've worked with that have quit and
I said, look, you know we've talked about on this

(50:09):
podcast too, a lot of the times failure does define you,
but it doesn't have to, right. It's a choice that
you make, right, Like, you've got to stand on this
belief that failure doesn't define me. What a lot of
guys they they they quit and they're like, man, this
is terrible. I don't everyone want to do this again?

Speaker 2 (50:27):
That's okay.

Speaker 1 (50:27):
Like if you that's that's a comfortable thing to make
that choice. I said, Or you can decide. I'm going
to go back, and I know I can do it.
I know it's within me. And because a lot of
guys they quit and they realize they made a bad decision, right,
and that's all it was, right, Like, go back again
and make the right decision. Failure doesn't define you.

Speaker 2 (50:47):
So good.

Speaker 3 (50:48):
There's a great quote from a guy we both respect,
Alex Ramosi, and it says success and failure on the
same road. Failure is just an earlier exit. And I
saw that.

Speaker 1 (50:57):
That's really good. It's such a good that's very hormonesy. Yeah,
I saw on his social media. I was like, I'm
gonna remember that.

Speaker 3 (51:02):
I of course butchered it so Fortunately I was able
to look it up because the version of my head
was like three sentence.

Speaker 2 (51:06):
As long as that doesn't surprise me. He does good
at brevity, yeah, which.

Speaker 3 (51:10):
I know that matters a lot to you. Okay, So
speaking of brevity, g what is belief number four? And
I love this one, by.

Speaker 1 (51:16):
The way, your destiny will require all of you. Oh
and what does this belief mean? It means that you
can't outrun your destiny right, Like the Bible says God
has more than you can ask, think or imagine. That's
what's there for you. And so what that means for
me is and this is like, you can't understand how

(51:38):
God works? Okay, here, this is the I'll try to
explain it though. The way that God's working in my
life and that he's working in yours. It's like when
my kids I get him a nice gift and I
bring it home and I'm like, here you go, I
got you this, and thirty seconds later it's broken.

Speaker 2 (51:55):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (51:56):
I'm like, all right, Well, luckily I can fix your
child's toy. R. I can fix a kid's toy and
I can give it back to them. And God's really
good at working this way with us. That even though
I have made mistakes, like God still has a path
for me. God still has a plan for me. But
what I do know is that I could choose to

(52:17):
miss my destiny, which means that I can also choose
to get there right, I could choose to walk away
from it. And again, this is more than what we
can really quantify and understand. The same way that God
is sovereign, man is responsible. I don't understand all the
things that God does. What I do understand is that
He's given me a choice. If He's given me a
choice to walk away from my destiny, he's also given

(52:39):
me the choice to walk into all of it. And
so you can't outrun it as hard as you can run,
as much as you can do, you're just achieving God's
plan for your life. And so if that's true, if
I couldn't outrun it, why would I do less then
give all that I have? Because if I do less,
then give all that I have, And God had a
plan for my all. Every decision that I make to quit,

(53:02):
every decision that I make to give up, every less
than decision in my life, I'm leaving destiny on the table.

Speaker 3 (53:07):
Yeah, I love the way you said it when we
were when we were preparing is you said, anytime you
slow down, give up doubt, or feel sorry for yourself,
you're leaving destiny on the table. And that's when this
belief is questioned. So I hope if you're starting to
if you have a day whenever it's tough or whatever's
going on, or you feel like wasting some time or
whatever it may be, I hope you kind of think
to yourself and remind yourself, hey, is my destiny going

(53:29):
to require all of me? Yes, I believe that, and
then you take action and you seize the day and
make the most of it.

Speaker 2 (53:34):
That this is the today.

Speaker 3 (53:35):
Matters thought process, is that we believe that our destiny
is going to require all of us, so that every
day matters. I say, I literally say, today matters every
day to myself, I have a light that was gift
to us to each have one that was gift to
us by our friend James who's on Mindset Mastery over
in the UK.

Speaker 2 (53:48):
Shout out to James today, Hoe.

Speaker 1 (53:50):
I'm looking at mine.

Speaker 3 (53:51):
It's right behind you, it's right behind me, and I
love turning it on because it's like a reminder from
my brain today matters, Like every single thing I do matters.

Speaker 1 (53:58):
Why it's it's one or the other. It either matters
or it doesn't. Yeah, and what are you saying about
your life if you say today doesn't matter?

Speaker 2 (54:06):
Well, gee, it's interesting that you say that.

Speaker 3 (54:08):
Because destructive belief number one that we identify, we're only
going to give.

Speaker 1 (54:12):
You two, nick, Nick asked me. He said, well, what
are like the worst beliefs you could have? And I
thought about it for a second. I said, well, the
worst like to destroy your life? Yeah, right, to make
your life amount to nothing. Here's what I would do
to somebody if I wanted their life to amount to nothing,
I would make them think that nothing they could do

(54:32):
in their life mattered. Right, If you thought that my
life doesn't matter, you would waste it.

Speaker 2 (54:37):
Yeah, you just.

Speaker 1 (54:39):
Throw your rock in the pond. Well didn't matter, nothing happened, right,
nothing Like what a terrible thought, what a terrible belief
to think that my life has no impact. Right. It's
easy to look at other people's life, look at a
big person's life, and think like, like, oh, my life doesn't
matter as much as theirs. That I'm not saying that's
illogical to think that. But Also, you have no idea.

(55:01):
You really don't know what your life could be. You
don't know what's in front of you. You also don't
know some of the small things that you could do
that could have an incredibly dramatic impact on somebody else's life. Right,
for example, just like Mikey knew he was saving those
guys' lives. And I'm not saying that I'm a significant

(55:22):
part of Mike's story, because I'm not at all. But
what Mike didn't even know is all the people's lives
that are impacted because of him, right, the children that
exist because of him.

Speaker 2 (55:32):
Right.

Speaker 1 (55:33):
And so you do one thing with your life and
you have no idea the impact that it actually has.
So how foolish of you, how arrogant of you to
save my life? Doesn't matter? Like, are you the master
of the universe? You know what tomorrow holds, You know
what's going to happen ten years from now, fifty years,
one hundred years from now. You know that the children

(55:53):
that you have would never achieve anything. You know, the
people that you've impacted would never achieve anything. What an
arrogant thought?

Speaker 2 (56:00):
Man, So good, I don't even want to add anything
to that. Because I think that was Yeah, that's so good. Gee.
What is the second destructive belief?

Speaker 3 (56:08):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (56:08):
This is a this is a this is a little creeper.
This one will get in there, it'll get and if
you find this getting into your life, you've got to
get rid of it. This is an incredibly destructive belief
that everything in my life is not my fault. Yeah,
and you might that might that might have stung just
a little bit. Now what you heard there, Everything in

(56:30):
my life is not my fault. What the right belief
is that? And this is the way Jim Rohme says it, right,
Like your life begins to change when you take responsibility
for every single thing in your life and you know
it is it? Is it your fault that you got cancer?
Is it your fault that you got molested? That's not
what I'm saying, right, I'm not saying the most terrible
things like you did this to yourself. What you do

(56:53):
get to do is choose how you respond to it.

Speaker 2 (56:55):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (56:56):
Right, And that's the part where you have to take
ownership and take responsibility of what's happening in your life.
You can't control everything, but you can control yourself. But
what here Here's what will ruin your life is if
those terrible things do happen to you, Right, if if
cancer or getting molested, or getting your spouse dying, some

(57:16):
of these most terrible things, if you let that say, well,
my life is over now, right, there's nothing out. If
I can't control that, I must not be able to
control anything else. You let one bad thing turn into
a lie that ruins the rest of your life.

Speaker 3 (57:30):
Yeah, and that's unfortunately, that's a very common thing that
we see in society. And I mean, if you're not
somebody that's had those horrible, horrible things that happened to you,
I would really challenge you to start looking at at
how did you react to some of the things that
Because everybody's gonna have something that was the hardest thing
in their life for them, right, It's a very subjective scale, sure,
and so like on the one hand, you can be like, well,
I know other people have it worse and you just

(57:50):
always write your own stuff off, or you can stop
and go, you know what, this was probably the most
difficult thing that I've ever had in my life. How
am I thinking about that? What do I really believe
about about what happened in that, and when you start
getting into that stuff, I will tell you from personal experience,
it hurts. It freaking hurts.

Speaker 2 (58:06):
Man.

Speaker 3 (58:06):
You have to be prepared to sit down and face
the pain of some of the poor decisions or the
poor ways that you've responded to things. But man, therein
lies the power. It's like Victor Frankel. You have a
choice between stimulus and response, and in that choice is
your power. It's your freedom.

Speaker 1 (58:19):
So when good things, when bad things happen to you,
the only question is what are you going to do
about it?

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