September 18, 2025 • 30 mins
What does it mean to be a “regardless person”?
It means you show up, obey God, and live with conviction—regardless of how you feel, regardless of the cost, and regardless of the circumstances. In a culture built on compromise and convenience, few men live with this kind of strength and consistency.
In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Garrett and Nick unpack what it looks like to build a regardless spirit—a way of living that doesn’t waver with moods, setbacks, or opposition. This conversation will challenge you to move past excuses, stop negotiating with your faith, and start living as a man God can count on in every season.
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It means you show up, obey God, and live with conviction—regardless of how you feel, regardless of the cost, and regardless of the circumstances. In a culture built on compromise and convenience, few men live with this kind of strength and consistency.
In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Garrett and Nick unpack what it looks like to build a regardless spirit—a way of living that doesn’t waver with moods, setbacks, or opposition. This conversation will challenge you to move past excuses, stop negotiating with your faith, and start living as a man God can count on in every season.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
- Why most people’s faith collapses when feelings fade
- The power of living by principle, not circumstance
- How to develop a warrior’s mindset of obedience
- Why excuses kill destiny and how to silence them
- The freedom that comes from being fully committed—no matter what
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
That's impossible.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Let me tell you what I believe.
Speaker 1 (00:03):
It's your weakness, it's not your technique. Don't think you know.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
The Impossible Life Podcast and yes, sitting on a winning lottery. Second,
an idea that is fully formed, fully understood.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
That sticks. This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick
and I are attempting to live impossible lives. What we
know is that nothing is impossible. So instead of using
impossible as an excuse to not try, we'll use the
pursuit of impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's
(00:41):
never been done before, that just means it's unexplored. If
they tell you it's too hard, it's just waiting to
be simplified. Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous
people unwilling to take a risk.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
The real truth is this.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
The solution to any impossible task starts with this question,
if I had to, what would it take?
Speaker 4 (01:05):
What would it take?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man who has found the one look to rule
them all. That's right, friends, got an uncle Buck, a
man who has the same resting intensity face for the
best day of his life and the worst day. I was, yeah,
(01:30):
look at that consistency even in books.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I was thinking of.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Something about these magnets for our refrigerator of of Darth Vader,
and like one says, you know, it's obviously it's like
nine different pictures of Darth Vader, and one's like my
happy face, my angry face, my fun face, Like they're
all the same.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Yeah, it's the same thing.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I was talking to somebody who works at you and
they're like, you know, Garrett never really smiles at work.
And I just started laughing because I was like, I
know exactly. I can just I know, I know what
You're like, Like, ude, there's stuff to do here. We
don't have time for smiling. Like smiling works my favorite.
Make work your new favorite. It's like from health, smiling
is my favorite.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
You can smile.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
You can smile when we're done, which would be never.
So get back to work.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
There you go, how to motivate your staff. You can smile,
we're done, and we're never done anyways. You know what
I will say is you, regardless of the situation, you
bring intensity. And that's what we're talking about today, is
what it means to be a regardless person. And we
do these tools and tactics episodes because we want to
give you like, hey, just do this. I think this
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is such an overlooked and honestly unaware area for I
would say ninety nine percent of the population. And that's
the really hard statement and I'm just putting that from
a finger in the airpoint. But the reason I'm saying
this is because I never seen this. And as we
get to know more people through this podcast and just
in what we do and just in work in life,
I realize how many people they'll say things, they'll commit
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to things, and like they want you to like, no,
I'm going to do this, and their word is like
really intense and they're very passionate about it, and what
you don't realize is that they're they have conditions on
their word and they don't even realize.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
It because they're like, no, I'm going to do it.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
And to the point that whenever they don't do what
they said, the reason that they give you is like,
in their mind is a legitimate reason. There's no such
thing as like I said, I'm going to do this,
so no matter what, I'm going to do it. And
That may sound like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, but I'm
telling you, man, I had never seen this.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
I learned this.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I literally learned what regardless person looks like from you,
your dad, and your brother in law, Josh. He was
one of my best friends, and I like, I'd never
heard the term regardless person. But what it means is,
once you commit to something, regardless of what happens, and
I mean whatever happens, you're going to stick to your word.
And everyone will nod their head at that. But let
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me let me give you some examples of how I
saw this. This would be like, oh, man, you know Garrett,
we said that we were going to be there tomorrow
at seven am, but actually we got caught in a
traffic jam because we were driving home from something, and
so we didn't get home till two in the morning.
And it's like, what do you think, man, should we
start later tomorrow? Nope, I'll see at seven am. Why dude,
it's just me and you because we said it would
be seven am. Okay, So I guess we're just gonna
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do this on three hour sleep. Yep, that's what we're
gonna do. Your dad, I swear that the whole world
could be burning down, and if your dad said that
he was gonna do something, he would be there. Like
when we climbed the mountain and your dad suffered.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
It is the definition of regardless.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Yeah, and you say it like that, but I'm telling you, man,
like your dad climbing the mountain, his exact words were,
I was either gonna die or get to the top,
and I did. I don't doubt him, Like there was
no part of that was like, oh, that's facetious, like
I don't doubt him. Now we weren't close to death,
Praise God. But you know, I'm just saying. And then
with Josh, it was Josh has committed as a mighty
man leader to being there for his guys, which means
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if he needs to go knock a door because somebody's
being stupid and he needs to get in their way
before they ruin their life.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Guess what.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
It doesn't happen when you're like, got plenty of time.
It always happens Sunday night at like nine thirty, when
you're just getting in your pajamas, getting ready to go
to bed, and you get a text or call like,
hey man, this guy just had a fight with his
wife and I watched your brother in law be the
first guy like and you would see him on Saturday
morning he's like, oh, I was up late last night.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Oh what were you doing? I got a call at
like ten thirty. I was asleep.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I woke up, found out this guy was in trouble,
got my pants on, got straight over that house in
fifteen minutes, and like, I like that sounds cool to
say on a podcast, it sucks in real life. As
I'm speaking from experience I've had.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, I've had.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Guys at you know, bedtime, Christmas Eve. Like literally the
worst times is whenever men need you, and that's when
you get to decide and be like, oh dude, like
I said, i'd be there, but that's ridiculous. Come on, man, Like,
can't you have your problems when it's convenient for me?
Speaker 4 (05:34):
And so it's never.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Really a good time to grenade yourself. But men say, well,
I know most inconvenient times.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Yeah, but you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
The point I'm making is like for most people, they're like, yeah, bro,
I'm your ride or die, and they should really put
an asterix as long as it's not too inconvenient or
as long as you don't be too stupid, right, like
I'm gonna get married and we're gonna be committed till
death to his part. Well, as long as you're still
like you know, looking the way you look, or as
long as we're still getting along, well, we are so conditional.
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And I cannot emphasize at a very base level, to
become a regardless person will literally change your life.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
It is a life changing thing.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
And gee, as you always do, you break these things down,
so well, can you dive in a little bit to
regardless because you've been living in a lot longer.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Than regardless is without consideration for your circumstances. So this
is what I'm going to do.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Period.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
But a lot of people's life outcome is their intent
multiplied by their circumstances. And what those circumstances do is
they reduce their intent to nearly nothing right, every excuse
when it's allowed, when it's considered, it turns this potential
that you have into something very very small, right. And
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that's where what God encourages us to do and challenges
us to do is one to serve him that way,
to have that type of faith right, because that's where
we'll get the most out of a life of following God,
and he says, also, you know, you'll get the most
out of your life. Don't sew only when it's raining,
just so so regardless, right, And that's where like I
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love the stories from our friend Rod of in their
whole lifetime of farming, the biggest harvest they ever had
was on a year that they were in the middle
of a massive drought and none of the other people
had put seed in the ground, and it hadn't rained
for like over a month. It's like, this is just
going to be a no crop year, and they put
seed in the ground, and like, in spite of the forecast,
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shortly after they put seed in the ground, there was
a massive rain and they blew all the other farms
in their area away. And that was actually the year
of their biggest harvest. And so that's what we're supposed
to do, is live that way. And it comes down
to there's really two pieces too, regardless. Okay, a lot
of people they'll they think like motivation, They think hard
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work is just like, oh, I just grind it out
and I drink you know, red bull for fourteen hours
a day and make three hundred sales calls. Right, that's
not what it's about. That's not life energy exactly exactly.
That's not what hard work is. And regardless is not
just like bang your head against the wall.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
That's not what it is. So it's two parts.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
So the first part of regardless living is strict self control.
And this comes from scripture right, one of my favorite scriptures.
God has not given you a spirit of fear, but
a spirit of power and love and of a sound
mind or of self control. Is what that meaning? Like,
that's who God made you. So if you say I
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can't control my like you can't control much. God didn't
say he made you all powerful. God didn't say he
made you all knowing. He did say, I gave you
the keys to the car, right, and it's your car.
You can control yourself. And any time that you say
that you can't, you are lying to yourself one but two,
you are you are cutting your potential, not just in half,
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like you're dwindling it down to nearly nothing because you're saying,
I can use the tools that I have. God's given you,
not all the tools. He's given you some tools. And
the most powerful tool, or one of the most powerful
tools that God has given you is the ability to
control yourself, not everything else where most people spend their
time their emotional energy warrant about everything else. Worry about yourself.
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Take your own life seriously, take your own choices seriously.
I was having this conversation with some of the guys
on my team recently. Right, They asked me, like, dude,
we've never heard you swear, And I said they were like,
they asked, like have you And I said, no, you
haven't and you never will, right, because I am so intentional,
and I challenge them some of them believers as well.
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I said, don't let those words leave your mouth. If
you can't control what comes out of your mouth, what
makes you think you can control anything else. And power
of life and death is on the tongue. Do not
use it so flippantly to curse or to use idle words. Right,
And that is the pet Like there's certainly times where
Garrett wants to curse. Right, there's doesn't mean it, It
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is not a Cody Bobe loved it when I said,
you know, think thank God that he doesn't judge us
for the sins we didn't commit because.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
We thought about it.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
There's a lot of there's a lot of f bombs I've.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Wanted to say, they just didn't come out of my mouth, right, Yeah,
And so that that's the first part is self control.
Speaker 4 (10:21):
And you know men have go ahead.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Go ahead, now you go ahead?
Speaker 4 (10:25):
G sorry ye, men, men.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Have way more self control actually than they they think
they do.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
I like when I when I've seen men in their
lives like have have a measure of discipline, have hasn't
have a measure of self control.
Speaker 4 (10:39):
But I take a lot of it back to what.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
I learned in Seal training, where I watched men quit
and I would like what was what was crazy to me?
What was so fascinating to me was most of these
men who quit. I was like, Bro, this guy's more
disciplined than me. This guy like spent this guy spent
seven years, you know, training for the Seal program. Like
I just learned about this program nine months ago, and
we're all in Seal training together, right, Like, you guys
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are way better athletes than me. I'd never run more
than four miles before I showed up here. You guys
like all did fifty miler and one hundred milers before
you came here. Like why what are you guys quitting for?
And what I like, they were super disciplined, but what
happened was they came to the end of themselves. They
got to the end of their discipline, because that the
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self control is not all of it. Right, go to
one on my favorite scriptures, James Chapter one. God says
through endurance you become mature and mature, lacking nothing. He
doesn't say, when you have self control, you're good. You
got it all.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
That's not what he said, right right, And so self
control is such.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
An important piece of regardless living because why do we
want to be regardless in the first place. Let's just
zoom back out a second before we move forward. Why
do we want to be regardless in the first place?
It's so like I like I mentioned with with our
friend Rodville howerd which if you never listened to that episode,
go back and listen to that One's such a great episode.
But our friend Rodville Howard's so you know what he did,
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He produced when no one else produced. Do you want
to actually be fruitful in your life? Do you want
to be successful? Do you want to get what God
has for you on this earth? You have to live
regardlessly because the opposite of regardless is to be wishy washy, right,
and the Bible talks about the double minded man. He's
unstable in all his ways. You never produce anything, and
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so that's why it's so important that you would be regardless.
But the second piece of.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Regard before you move to the second piece g because
I do want to I want to get there, but
just I want to give people a few points of reference.
One Yeah, ville Hower episode is episode one twenty, recorded
on one of our hunting trips. I believe it was
the one where I stabbed myself in the arm. I'm
not sure if that had happened when we record her,
if that was after. But it was fun time got
to see Garrett use some of his first aid skills.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
I laughed, Pop Pops wasn't laughing.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
You know, your dad saw it as a moment to
give me a correct He was a correctable moment. But
I've realized that it's always a correctable.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
That's when you get a When my dad says son,
it's never like son, I love you, it's son. Yeah,
that's no shot at my dad. I feel very loved
by my dad. It's just when my dad says son,
and he said it to you.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Yeah, it was a correct moment. That was the that
was the big takeaway. He took a picture first though
of the cut and then he corrected me.
Speaker 4 (13:19):
So you know what stupid?
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah, well he didn't say so stupid.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
He just he made sure to make sure he put
a seat in my head that I would never do
that again.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
I guess what. He's right.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
But you said a couple things, so I want you
so it's episode one twenty if you want to search
that one up for Rod. I really want you to
capture Garrett says these things sometimes, and I think I
feel like I have a great mental highlighter for when
you say things that need to be highlighted. You said
that most people's word is intent time circumstances, and so
think about this. What that looks like is you judge
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other persons other people based on their actions, and you
judge yourself on your intentions. And that is a very
very dangerous way to live. And that's most people. They're like, no,
well I was I really was going to do get
in shape, or I really was going to try and
start dating my wife. I was going to try And
it always starts with I was going to try.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Well, it's what just quick correction there, it's not that's
not what what people said is their intent.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
I said.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
What people produce is is their intent multiplied by their circumstances.
Most people will what they say is their intent, right,
and just just just follow, just follow with me here
for a second. What what God never lets circumstances change
his word or his intent. He knows the end from
the beginning, and what he says is in the in
the beginning always comes true in the end. And what if,
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just what if maybe we lived a little bit closer
to that. I can't be I can't be God, but
I'm going to do all that I can to live
like his son, who followed through on every word that
he spoke. And that that's not just like, oh I
just got like infinite God power and I can do
whatever I don't right, And that's not that. Also Christ
lived as a man. He was fully God and fully man.
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He followed through on the things that he said. Christ
had to live with self control to be able to
do what he did. But just think, don't you can't
be perfect, you can't be God. But what if you
just lived a little bit closer to When I say something,
I'm just going to stick with it. That doesn't mean
you got it all figured out, doesn't mean you're perfect.
But if you just say it, and you keep saying it,
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and you keep saying it and again, this is where
God's called us to live with our faith. Keep saying it,
keep speaking the things that you know are true. It's
the Hebrews eleven to one definition. Faith is assurance of
the things that we have not yet seen. Continue to
speak your words in faith. This is the direction that
I'm going. This is what God's going to do in
my life. You have to do that regardlessly, not be
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wishy washy about it.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Yeah, and I really wanted to highlight that for people
because I think so often that Sorry, I'm glad you
said that what people produces their intent time circumstances is man.
That is so accurate. I love that you broke it
down in a formula like that. I was looking at
a back at two four this morning, which says the
righteous will live by their faithfulness. And it's a big
statement because everybody quotes the back at too to write
the vision down and make it plain so that they
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can run with it. But the finish of that is
the righteous will live by their faithfulness, And what he's
saying is like, I'm going to give you a vision
and guess what, It's not going to happen in the
next week, which is why you've got to stick with it, right,
And that's why you need to make it plain, because
it's like you're gonna run, well, how long until it
comes true?
Speaker 1 (16:23):
What's that going to be? You'll see? Yeah, Oh, that's.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
To the unknown distance run.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
It's an unknown distance run of life. I knew you'd
pick up on that, all right, ge. So the first
part is strict self control. What's the second part?
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Okay, so the second part of regardless living? It's again
like I said, it's not just you know, drink six
id life energies, which is like the equivalent of twelve
or fourteen red bulls, because I need like one or
two energies and I can go for a long time.
But it's not just drink energies and pound your head
into the wall. It's more than that, right, And this
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is it's just like many of the things we've talked about.
Go back to our recent podcast, we talked about both
It's it's not just a balancing act, but it is
a both act. And you have to have both self
control and values, right, you have to have This is
what what I saw of in my peers and steal training.
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Of the guys who quit, I was like, man, these
dudes are way more discipline than me. But what I
what I also saw was these guys don't have the
sense of purpose that I do. And that that's where
I overcame. And it's not like there were some guys
that had a ton of discipline and a little bit
of purpose. I'd put myself in kind of the opposite
camp like I had. I had a decent amount of
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discipline compared to those folks, but I had a mountain
of sense of purpose in my life.
Speaker 4 (17:41):
And you need to have both. There's there's multiple you know.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
You can get to ten, you can get to one
hundred with a lot of different math, right, but there
is there's there's a finite list of equations that will
get you to these outcomes. And you have to have
a mix of both discipline and purpose. You have to
have self control and values. Okay, so let me talk.
Let me dig into this on where values pour into
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self control. Value is what you value that adds value.
We've talked about this many times before, you've got to
decide to begin to value your word, right, like I
was talking about the same way that God does. The
Bible says that God puts his word above his name, right,
because if your word's not worth anything, your name's not
worth anything either. You've got to decide I'm going to
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value my words. I'm going to value what I say
I'm going to do. And if you'll do that, you
know what, you begin to produce that if you continue
to speak it. But also, if you want to be
a leader, if you want to be successful, you need
some people who can listen to you. You need some
people who can trust you. And if you can't trust
your own word, if you can't influence yourself, why do
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you think anybody else would trust you. But when you
begin to value your word, so will the people around you.
But the problem with values, Nick, and this is where
I see people fail and they're regardless. It's exactly what
I saw in seal training, where these guys for years,
for years, had said this is what I want, this
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is what I value. I want to be a frog man,
I want to be a Navy seal. And then they
get there and it's hard. I e circumstances, their sense
of values changed, and they said, right, this is for
those of you who've been around for a while. You
know what I'm about to say. You've heard me make
this reference many times. But the guys who quit, I
could summarize their statement into this, I just decided I
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didn't want to do this anymore. And another way of
saying that is I let my circumstances change my sense
of values.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
Right.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
And what you've got to decide is I know what's
valuable regardless of what's hard or what's easy. And most
people their value is influenced by difficulty level. We are
pursuing ease and not pursuing purpose. When your values come
from your sense of purpose, that's where you can say,
I know what's valuable spending time with other men around me,
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regardless of the circumstances in my life, whether my incomes
up or down, whether my calendar is full or it's not.
I value being at mighty men. I value being at
Bible study. I value being around some other men, regardless
of my wife having a good attitude or not, regardless
of my children's behavior or not. I value being a
strong father. I value being a man of my word,
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and here's what I'm going to do no matter what,
because you get the value that you when you understand
what is valuable to you, then you'll continue to pursue
those things. But the problem is Nick, most men don't
have a good sense of value. And this is this
isn't just like a men problem. This is a life problem, right,
This is a This is something that that vcs talk
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about venture capital people. They talk about a lot of
the big organizations they struggle in this as well with talent.
They actually don't know how to identify talent. They just say, oh,
you went to Stanford, Oh you went to Harvard, you
must be smart, must be talented, come work for our
big organization.
Speaker 4 (21:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
I think that that's such a valid point g about
people not knowing what's valuable, because I've got a great example.
Actually we were talking about this as sparked. I once
listened to this whole series by Malcolm Gladwell where he
highlights this and he talks about how the top the
super law firms, like the big prestigious, you know, M
and A mergers and acquisitions law firms, they hired seventy
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to eighty percent of their new talent only from the
top fourteen law schools, right, and understand, the top fourteen
law schools represent less than seven percent of all law
students nationwide. And he looked at this whole thing and
he was going, this makes no sense. And it's exactly
what you said. They've outsourced talent identification to these university
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people who are taking applications and making decisions based on
a host of criteria and just going, oh, well, if
you went there, you must be good enough. And he
looked at the life span of careers and their win
percentage whenever they actually went to court, and he found
a guy who was by far and away, way better
than all these these big law firm people. And he
went to I think the thirty second ranked law school
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in the country. He was like a middle of the
pack student.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
He had.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
He did not come from like a blue like a
blue blood background. He was very much a plastic spoon
in his mouth, had to like bootstrap his way up
through college. But this guy had developed different set of
skills and he went on and he had the highest
win percentage. And so Gladwell broke this whole thing down.
But it's crazy because, like you said, they don't know
what talent looks like. So how do you value something
if you don't know? And what I've seen in you
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and what I want people to understand when we talk
about you need to know what's valuable. You will not
get a sense of value in the moment because guess what,
if you're starving and somebody says, hey, I'll sell a
cheeseburger to you for one hundred and fifty bucks, You're
going to buy the cheeseburger, But is that actually worth
one hundred and fifty dollars?
Speaker 3 (22:46):
Now, if you're starving, you'll lead a three week old
McDonald's burger.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
That's yeah, exactly right. I mean the proverb says it
says to a starving man, even the bitter taste sweet, right,
And that's that's exactly the point. So in order to
understand what's actually valuable, you have to zoom out on
your life. And I would say from a place of
biblical principles and understanding what God's word says, you're going
to identify what's really valuable. I've talked about how Garrett
when I sat down with him, literally the first time
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I ever sat with him before he started coaching me,
we met it Ascension Coffee in Frisco. If you know
the star where the cowboys, we were surrounded by mediocrity.
It's where the cowboys practice. But the coffee was good
and so.
Speaker 4 (23:22):
Was the company.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
And Garrett looked at me and I'd rather die. Yeah,
God help him indeed. But Garrett looked at me and said,
I'd rather die than break my word.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
And I've had.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
People say some things like, yeah, you know, in San Diego,
I grewup around a lot of Marines and a lot
of very intense people, and I never you know, they
say things, but you don't necessarily always believe them. I
looked in his eyes and I was like, I actually
believe this guy. And you started telling me about why
you do that. I think people hear that and they
go like, oh, that's cool for Garrett. But the value
of what he of just doing that simple thing I
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don't break my word cannot be overstated. But here's the thing.
Most people don't realize it. Like what you said, most
people don't haven't taken the time to consider how valuable
that is because they want to like test and see.
They want to go like, well, maybe I'll try it
for a little while and we'll see if the results change.
And actually, like you said, it's intent time circumstances, so well,
actually that got in the way, or here's a big one.
You don't value who you're around. My life has changed
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because of who I've paid to coach me, right, Like
I've I've gotten around the right people, whether I had
to pay, travel whatever. And I continue to be very
intentional about my circles.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
I will.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
You know, you and I have all sorts of we
have programs. And I'm not commenting on that everybody should
just like, you know, do whatever and break you know,
get a loan. I'm not saying anything like that. What
I am saying is that when you value who you're around,
you start being willing to actually do whatever it takes
to get there.
Speaker 4 (24:43):
You know.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
I think for this the way this shows up in
my own life is all have certain gatherings with men.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
We're all invite people, and people.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Be like, ah, man, you know I couldn't do it
because of insert whatever. And I always think to myself,
I'm like, you know what, I'm a very busy person.
I have three businesses. They're going very well. We have
you know, I have three kids, I have all sorts
of stuff going on, and there's days when I'm looking
at my counter and going, man, I really don't have
time to meet with this group of men, Like I
need that time for other stuff. And guess what, I
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go every time? Why Because I've already decided that's valuable,
Well for what for long term?
Speaker 1 (25:16):
I'm not meeting with these men.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Because I think, oh I need to pour into them
or holy discipleship. I'm not thinking anything like that. I
realize I need to be with men who I'm going
to sharpen, who are going to sharpen me forever. So
like for like I'm looking at this with a twenty thirty,
forty fifty year lens that I'm like, I'm going to
keep meeting with these men. The way I say it
to Garrett is I think for a lot of people,
if you said them, hey, I'm going to do this
thing on Friday, and they're like, oh, I don't know
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if I can be there. If I would have said, well, hey,
everybody there's going to get ten thousand dollars, guess what,
all your excuses would go out.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
The window and you'd be there.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Why Because you know that's valuable exactly right, And so,
and that highlights it so well that people don't know
what's valuable, because if you realize how the people you're
around would change your life, you would move, you would
pay whatever it took, you would make take breaks in
your schedule from work, you would literally find a way
to make it happen.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
But we just don't know. We just don't.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
We don't know how valuable it is, even when you
have people like yourself, me, Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, you know,
insert whoever you admire, Jesus, you know, telling you who
you're around matters. Walk with the wise and become wise
is what it says in the word. And I just
I can't stated enough. But at that point you made
about people not knowing what's valuable, really stop and think
about that, Like, what what do you think is valuable?
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And then here's the follow up. Do your decisions actually
line up with that? Have you said this is so
valuable that no matter what, I'm going to make it
a part of my life And if you haven't, you're
missing it.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
Here's here's a big So when you have a sense
of value, you you will be consistent in things. Yeah, right,
Jesus Jesus talks about valuing the kingdom in such a
way that you would count everything else as as worthless.
That is understanding value. And this is where when when
I when I I know people don't have a sense
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of value, when I see them be wishy washy because
you say, oh, well, this is valuable, and that's valuable too,
and that's also valuable, and that's value, and they're just
running around trying to like balance value in their life.
When you have a true sense of value, you can say, oh,
sure that maybe that's valuable for now, but here's what's
really valuable. You have an ultimate source of truth. And
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so if you feel like you've ever been wishy washy
in your life, I would challenge you to go back
and look at your sense of values, your sense of purpose.
Most people have some self control and you need to
grow it. It's like, you know what, we have all
got muscle. Some of us have more muscle than others.
And if you want more muscle, nobody's like wondering, like
looking waiting for the science to come out on how
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to grow more muscle. The science is there. If you
want more, you know how to get it. It's hard,
but it's it's not rocket science, Like we know how
that deal works. Self control is the same way. Right,
most men they can, you know, bench press at least
one hundred and thirty five pounds. Now that's not impressive,
but it's something, right, and then you can start and
you can grow from there. Same with your self control.
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You've got some you just need to grow it. But
where I see people fall down is in the sense
of values. So if you've been wishy washy in your life,
if you're not producing what you want out of life,
you've got to start getting regardless, regardless what regardless is.
And this is the equation that you want to have
in your life. Right, here's the real equation. Because I
said most people's lives are intent time circumstances.
Speaker 4 (28:28):
What the full.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
Equation is intent time, circumstances, time, self control, time's values. Right,
If you have weak self control, you have weak values,
you're not going to get to some good math after
the equal sign. When you have strong self control, when
you have a good sense of values, your life is
not reduced by your circumstances, by what's happening to you.
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And it doesn't mean just because you're tough, just because
you look at in the eye that you're going to
get to great results. But here's how you will. Here's
what regardless does for you. Regardlessness leads to consistency. Okay,
consistency does not mean you will win. You can keep
sewing the seed over and over every year and watering it.
But if you put the seed in the ground at
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the wrong time of year, you'll get the same result
every single time. But if you have been consistent, if
you haven't been wishy washy, you start to learn. You realize, like,
you know what, I'm getting some parts right here. But
my neighbor over here, I got this buddy, and he
puts his seed in the ground at a different time
of year with the same amount of water as I do.
We buy our seed from the same source. His grows
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and mind doesn't. Okay, now I've learned something because of
my consistency. I learned what doesn't work. So if you'll
be regardless, that leads to consistency in your life. Consistency
is and everything, but consistency guarantees that you will learn,
and learning leads to growth. Learning leads to understanding patterns,
and that's how you're going to produce great fruit in
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your life. This is where you need to be regardless.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Thank you very much for listening.
Speaker 5 (29:58):
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Thank you again for listening.
Speaker 4 (30:23):
Go out there and think better and live the impossible.
To see again soon
That's impossible.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Let me tell you what I believe.
Speaker 1 (00:03):
It's your weakness, it's not your technique. Don't think you know.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
The Impossible Life Podcast and yes, sitting on a winning lottery. Second,
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Speaker 3 (00:19):
That sticks. This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick
and I are attempting to live impossible lives. What we
know is that nothing is impossible. So instead of using
impossible as an excuse to not try, we'll use the
pursuit of impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's
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never been done before, that just means it's unexplored. If
they tell you it's too hard, it's just waiting to
be simplified. Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous
people unwilling to take a risk.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
The real truth is this.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
The solution to any impossible task starts with this question,
if I had to, what would it take?
Speaker 4 (01:05):
What would it take?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man who has found the one look to rule
them all. That's right, friends, got an uncle Buck, a
man who has the same resting intensity face for the
best day of his life and the worst day. I was, yeah,
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look at that consistency even in books.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I was thinking of.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Something about these magnets for our refrigerator of of Darth Vader,
and like one says, you know, it's obviously it's like
nine different pictures of Darth Vader, and one's like my
happy face, my angry face, my fun face, Like they're
all the same.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Yeah, it's the same thing.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I was talking to somebody who works at you and
they're like, you know, Garrett never really smiles at work.
And I just started laughing because I was like, I
know exactly. I can just I know, I know what
You're like, Like, ude, there's stuff to do here. We
don't have time for smiling. Like smiling works my favorite.
Make work your new favorite. It's like from health, smiling
is my favorite.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
You can smile.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
You can smile when we're done, which would be never.
So get back to work.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
There you go, how to motivate your staff. You can smile,
we're done, and we're never done anyways. You know what
I will say is you, regardless of the situation, you
bring intensity. And that's what we're talking about today, is
what it means to be a regardless person. And we
do these tools and tactics episodes because we want to
give you like, hey, just do this. I think this
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is such an overlooked and honestly unaware area for I
would say ninety nine percent of the population. And that's
the really hard statement and I'm just putting that from
a finger in the airpoint. But the reason I'm saying
this is because I never seen this. And as we
get to know more people through this podcast and just
in what we do and just in work in life,
I realize how many people they'll say things, they'll commit
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to things, and like they want you to like, no,
I'm going to do this, and their word is like
really intense and they're very passionate about it, and what
you don't realize is that they're they have conditions on
their word and they don't even realize.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
It because they're like, no, I'm going to do it.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
And to the point that whenever they don't do what
they said, the reason that they give you is like,
in their mind is a legitimate reason. There's no such
thing as like I said, I'm going to do this,
so no matter what, I'm going to do it. And
That may sound like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, but I'm
telling you, man, I had never seen this.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
I learned this.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I literally learned what regardless person looks like from you,
your dad, and your brother in law, Josh. He was
one of my best friends, and I like, I'd never
heard the term regardless person. But what it means is,
once you commit to something, regardless of what happens, and
I mean whatever happens, you're going to stick to your word.
And everyone will nod their head at that. But let
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me let me give you some examples of how I
saw this. This would be like, oh, man, you know Garrett,
we said that we were going to be there tomorrow
at seven am, but actually we got caught in a
traffic jam because we were driving home from something, and
so we didn't get home till two in the morning.
And it's like, what do you think, man, should we
start later tomorrow? Nope, I'll see at seven am. Why dude,
it's just me and you because we said it would
be seven am. Okay, So I guess we're just gonna
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do this on three hour sleep. Yep, that's what we're
gonna do. Your dad, I swear that the whole world
could be burning down, and if your dad said that
he was gonna do something, he would be there. Like
when we climbed the mountain and your dad suffered.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
It is the definition of regardless.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Yeah, and you say it like that, but I'm telling you, man,
like your dad climbing the mountain, his exact words were,
I was either gonna die or get to the top,
and I did. I don't doubt him, Like there was
no part of that was like, oh, that's facetious, like
I don't doubt him. Now we weren't close to death,
Praise God. But you know, I'm just saying. And then
with Josh, it was Josh has committed as a mighty
man leader to being there for his guys, which means
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if he needs to go knock a door because somebody's
being stupid and he needs to get in their way
before they ruin their life.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Guess what.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
It doesn't happen when you're like, got plenty of time.
It always happens Sunday night at like nine thirty, when
you're just getting in your pajamas, getting ready to go
to bed, and you get a text or call like,
hey man, this guy just had a fight with his
wife and I watched your brother in law be the
first guy like and you would see him on Saturday
morning he's like, oh, I was up late last night.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Oh what were you doing? I got a call at
like ten thirty. I was asleep.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I woke up, found out this guy was in trouble,
got my pants on, got straight over that house in
fifteen minutes, and like, I like that sounds cool to
say on a podcast, it sucks in real life. As
I'm speaking from experience I've had.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, I've had.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Guys at you know, bedtime, Christmas Eve. Like literally the
worst times is whenever men need you, and that's when
you get to decide and be like, oh dude, like
I said, i'd be there, but that's ridiculous. Come on, man, Like,
can't you have your problems when it's convenient for me?
Speaker 4 (05:34):
And so it's never.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Really a good time to grenade yourself. But men say, well,
I know most inconvenient times.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Yeah, but you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
The point I'm making is like for most people, they're like, yeah, bro,
I'm your ride or die, and they should really put
an asterix as long as it's not too inconvenient or
as long as you don't be too stupid, right, like
I'm gonna get married and we're gonna be committed till
death to his part. Well, as long as you're still
like you know, looking the way you look, or as
long as we're still getting along, well, we are so conditional.
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And I cannot emphasize at a very base level, to
become a regardless person will literally change your life.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
It is a life changing thing.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
And gee, as you always do, you break these things down,
so well, can you dive in a little bit to
regardless because you've been living in a lot longer.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Than regardless is without consideration for your circumstances. So this
is what I'm going to do.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Period.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
But a lot of people's life outcome is their intent
multiplied by their circumstances. And what those circumstances do is
they reduce their intent to nearly nothing right, every excuse
when it's allowed, when it's considered, it turns this potential
that you have into something very very small, right. And
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that's where what God encourages us to do and challenges
us to do is one to serve him that way,
to have that type of faith right, because that's where
we'll get the most out of a life of following God,
and he says, also, you know, you'll get the most
out of your life. Don't sew only when it's raining,
just so so regardless, right, And that's where like I
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love the stories from our friend Rod of in their
whole lifetime of farming, the biggest harvest they ever had
was on a year that they were in the middle
of a massive drought and none of the other people
had put seed in the ground, and it hadn't rained
for like over a month. It's like, this is just
going to be a no crop year, and they put
seed in the ground, and like, in spite of the forecast,
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shortly after they put seed in the ground, there was
a massive rain and they blew all the other farms
in their area away. And that was actually the year
of their biggest harvest. And so that's what we're supposed
to do, is live that way. And it comes down
to there's really two pieces too, regardless. Okay, a lot
of people they'll they think like motivation, They think hard
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work is just like, oh, I just grind it out
and I drink you know, red bull for fourteen hours
a day and make three hundred sales calls. Right, that's
not what it's about. That's not life energy exactly exactly.
That's not what hard work is. And regardless is not
just like bang your head against the wall.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
That's not what it is. So it's two parts.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
So the first part of regardless living is strict self control.
And this comes from scripture right, one of my favorite scriptures.
God has not given you a spirit of fear, but
a spirit of power and love and of a sound
mind or of self control. Is what that meaning? Like,
that's who God made you. So if you say I
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can't control my like you can't control much. God didn't
say he made you all powerful. God didn't say he
made you all knowing. He did say, I gave you
the keys to the car, right, and it's your car.
You can control yourself. And any time that you say
that you can't, you are lying to yourself one but two,
you are you are cutting your potential, not just in half,
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like you're dwindling it down to nearly nothing because you're saying,
I can use the tools that I have. God's given you,
not all the tools. He's given you some tools. And
the most powerful tool, or one of the most powerful
tools that God has given you is the ability to
control yourself, not everything else where most people spend their
time their emotional energy warrant about everything else. Worry about yourself.
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Take your own life seriously, take your own choices seriously.
I was having this conversation with some of the guys
on my team recently. Right, They asked me, like, dude,
we've never heard you swear, And I said they were like,
they asked, like have you And I said, no, you
haven't and you never will, right, because I am so intentional,
and I challenge them some of them believers as well.
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I said, don't let those words leave your mouth. If
you can't control what comes out of your mouth, what
makes you think you can control anything else. And power
of life and death is on the tongue. Do not
use it so flippantly to curse or to use idle words. Right,
And that is the pet Like there's certainly times where
Garrett wants to curse. Right, there's doesn't mean it, It
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is not a Cody Bobe loved it when I said,
you know, think thank God that he doesn't judge us
for the sins we didn't commit because.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
We thought about it.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
There's a lot of there's a lot of f bombs I've.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Wanted to say, they just didn't come out of my mouth, right, Yeah,
And so that that's the first part is self control.
Speaker 4 (10:21):
And you know men have go ahead.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Go ahead, now you go ahead?
Speaker 4 (10:25):
G sorry ye, men, men.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Have way more self control actually than they they think
they do.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
I like when I when I've seen men in their
lives like have have a measure of discipline, have hasn't
have a measure of self control.
Speaker 4 (10:39):
But I take a lot of it back to what.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
I learned in Seal training, where I watched men quit
and I would like what was what was crazy to me?
What was so fascinating to me was most of these
men who quit. I was like, Bro, this guy's more
disciplined than me. This guy like spent this guy spent
seven years, you know, training for the Seal program. Like
I just learned about this program nine months ago, and
we're all in Seal training together, right, Like, you guys
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are way better athletes than me. I'd never run more
than four miles before I showed up here. You guys
like all did fifty miler and one hundred milers before
you came here. Like why what are you guys quitting for?
And what I like, they were super disciplined, but what
happened was they came to the end of themselves. They
got to the end of their discipline, because that the
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self control is not all of it. Right, go to
one on my favorite scriptures, James Chapter one. God says
through endurance you become mature and mature, lacking nothing. He
doesn't say, when you have self control, you're good. You
got it all.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
That's not what he said, right right, And so self
control is such.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
An important piece of regardless living because why do we
want to be regardless in the first place. Let's just
zoom back out a second before we move forward. Why
do we want to be regardless in the first place?
It's so like I like I mentioned with with our
friend Rodville howerd which if you never listened to that episode,
go back and listen to that One's such a great episode.
But our friend Rodville Howard's so you know what he did,
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He produced when no one else produced. Do you want
to actually be fruitful in your life? Do you want
to be successful? Do you want to get what God
has for you on this earth? You have to live
regardlessly because the opposite of regardless is to be wishy washy, right,
and the Bible talks about the double minded man. He's
unstable in all his ways. You never produce anything, and
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so that's why it's so important that you would be regardless.
But the second piece of.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Regard before you move to the second piece g because
I do want to I want to get there, but
just I want to give people a few points of reference.
One Yeah, ville Hower episode is episode one twenty, recorded
on one of our hunting trips. I believe it was
the one where I stabbed myself in the arm. I'm
not sure if that had happened when we record her,
if that was after. But it was fun time got
to see Garrett use some of his first aid skills.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
I laughed, Pop Pops wasn't laughing.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
You know, your dad saw it as a moment to
give me a correct He was a correctable moment. But
I've realized that it's always a correctable.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
That's when you get a When my dad says son,
it's never like son, I love you, it's son. Yeah,
that's no shot at my dad. I feel very loved
by my dad. It's just when my dad says son,
and he said it to you.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Yeah, it was a correct moment. That was the that
was the big takeaway. He took a picture first though
of the cut and then he corrected me.
Speaker 4 (13:19):
So you know what stupid?
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah, well he didn't say so stupid.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
He just he made sure to make sure he put
a seat in my head that I would never do
that again.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
I guess what. He's right.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
But you said a couple things, so I want you
so it's episode one twenty if you want to search
that one up for Rod. I really want you to
capture Garrett says these things sometimes, and I think I
feel like I have a great mental highlighter for when
you say things that need to be highlighted. You said
that most people's word is intent time circumstances, and so
think about this. What that looks like is you judge
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other persons other people based on their actions, and you
judge yourself on your intentions. And that is a very
very dangerous way to live. And that's most people. They're like, no,
well I was I really was going to do get
in shape, or I really was going to try and
start dating my wife. I was going to try And
it always starts with I was going to try.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Well, it's what just quick correction there, it's not that's
not what what people said is their intent.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
I said.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
What people produce is is their intent multiplied by their circumstances.
Most people will what they say is their intent, right,
and just just just follow, just follow with me here
for a second. What what God never lets circumstances change
his word or his intent. He knows the end from
the beginning, and what he says is in the in
the beginning always comes true in the end. And what if,
(14:41):
just what if maybe we lived a little bit closer
to that. I can't be I can't be God, but
I'm going to do all that I can to live
like his son, who followed through on every word that
he spoke. And that that's not just like, oh I
just got like infinite God power and I can do
whatever I don't right, And that's not that. Also Christ
lived as a man. He was fully God and fully man.
(15:02):
He followed through on the things that he said. Christ
had to live with self control to be able to
do what he did. But just think, don't you can't
be perfect, you can't be God. But what if you
just lived a little bit closer to When I say something,
I'm just going to stick with it. That doesn't mean
you got it all figured out, doesn't mean you're perfect.
But if you just say it, and you keep saying it,
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and you keep saying it and again, this is where
God's called us to live with our faith. Keep saying it,
keep speaking the things that you know are true. It's
the Hebrews eleven to one definition. Faith is assurance of
the things that we have not yet seen. Continue to
speak your words in faith. This is the direction that
I'm going. This is what God's going to do in
my life. You have to do that regardlessly, not be
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wishy washy about it.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Yeah, and I really wanted to highlight that for people
because I think so often that Sorry, I'm glad you
said that what people produces their intent time circumstances is man.
That is so accurate. I love that you broke it
down in a formula like that. I was looking at
a back at two four this morning, which says the
righteous will live by their faithfulness. And it's a big
statement because everybody quotes the back at too to write
the vision down and make it plain so that they
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can run with it. But the finish of that is
the righteous will live by their faithfulness, And what he's
saying is like, I'm going to give you a vision
and guess what, It's not going to happen in the
next week, which is why you've got to stick with it, right,
And that's why you need to make it plain, because
it's like you're gonna run, well, how long until it
comes true?
Speaker 1 (16:23):
What's that going to be? You'll see? Yeah, Oh, that's.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
To the unknown distance run.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
It's an unknown distance run of life. I knew you'd
pick up on that, all right, ge. So the first
part is strict self control. What's the second part?
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Okay, so the second part of regardless living? It's again
like I said, it's not just you know, drink six
id life energies, which is like the equivalent of twelve
or fourteen red bulls, because I need like one or
two energies and I can go for a long time.
But it's not just drink energies and pound your head
into the wall. It's more than that, right, And this
(16:55):
is it's just like many of the things we've talked about.
Go back to our recent podcast, we talked about both
It's it's not just a balancing act, but it is
a both act. And you have to have both self
control and values, right, you have to have This is
what what I saw of in my peers and steal training.
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Of the guys who quit, I was like, man, these
dudes are way more discipline than me. But what I
what I also saw was these guys don't have the
sense of purpose that I do. And that that's where
I overcame. And it's not like there were some guys
that had a ton of discipline and a little bit
of purpose. I'd put myself in kind of the opposite
camp like I had. I had a decent amount of
(17:36):
discipline compared to those folks, but I had a mountain
of sense of purpose in my life.
Speaker 4 (17:41):
And you need to have both. There's there's multiple you know.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
You can get to ten, you can get to one
hundred with a lot of different math, right, but there
is there's there's a finite list of equations that will
get you to these outcomes. And you have to have
a mix of both discipline and purpose. You have to
have self control and values. Okay, so let me talk.
Let me dig into this on where values pour into
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self control. Value is what you value that adds value.
We've talked about this many times before, you've got to
decide to begin to value your word, right, like I
was talking about the same way that God does. The
Bible says that God puts his word above his name, right,
because if your word's not worth anything, your name's not
worth anything either. You've got to decide I'm going to
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value my words. I'm going to value what I say
I'm going to do. And if you'll do that, you
know what, you begin to produce that if you continue
to speak it. But also, if you want to be
a leader, if you want to be successful, you need
some people who can listen to you. You need some
people who can trust you. And if you can't trust
your own word, if you can't influence yourself, why do
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you think anybody else would trust you. But when you
begin to value your word, so will the people around you.
But the problem with values, Nick, and this is where
I see people fail and they're regardless. It's exactly what
I saw in seal training, where these guys for years,
for years, had said this is what I want, this
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is what I value. I want to be a frog man,
I want to be a Navy seal. And then they
get there and it's hard. I e circumstances, their sense
of values changed, and they said, right, this is for
those of you who've been around for a while. You
know what I'm about to say. You've heard me make
this reference many times. But the guys who quit, I
could summarize their statement into this, I just decided I
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didn't want to do this anymore. And another way of
saying that is I let my circumstances change my sense
of values.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
Right.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
And what you've got to decide is I know what's
valuable regardless of what's hard or what's easy. And most
people their value is influenced by difficulty level. We are
pursuing ease and not pursuing purpose. When your values come
from your sense of purpose, that's where you can say,
I know what's valuable spending time with other men around me,
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regardless of the circumstances in my life, whether my incomes
up or down, whether my calendar is full or it's not.
I value being at mighty men. I value being at
Bible study. I value being around some other men, regardless
of my wife having a good attitude or not, regardless
of my children's behavior or not. I value being a
strong father. I value being a man of my word,
(20:24):
and here's what I'm going to do no matter what,
because you get the value that you when you understand
what is valuable to you, then you'll continue to pursue
those things. But the problem is Nick, most men don't
have a good sense of value. And this is this
isn't just like a men problem. This is a life problem, right,
This is a This is something that that vcs talk
(20:46):
about venture capital people. They talk about a lot of
the big organizations they struggle in this as well with talent.
They actually don't know how to identify talent. They just say, oh,
you went to Stanford, Oh you went to Harvard, you
must be smart, must be talented, come work for our
big organization.
Speaker 4 (21:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
I think that that's such a valid point g about
people not knowing what's valuable, because I've got a great example.
Actually we were talking about this as sparked. I once
listened to this whole series by Malcolm Gladwell where he
highlights this and he talks about how the top the
super law firms, like the big prestigious, you know, M
and A mergers and acquisitions law firms, they hired seventy
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to eighty percent of their new talent only from the
top fourteen law schools, right, and understand, the top fourteen
law schools represent less than seven percent of all law
students nationwide. And he looked at this whole thing and
he was going, this makes no sense. And it's exactly
what you said. They've outsourced talent identification to these university
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people who are taking applications and making decisions based on
a host of criteria and just going, oh, well, if
you went there, you must be good enough. And he
looked at the life span of careers and their win
percentage whenever they actually went to court, and he found
a guy who was by far and away, way better
than all these these big law firm people. And he
went to I think the thirty second ranked law school
(22:06):
in the country. He was like a middle of the
pack student.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
He had.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
He did not come from like a blue like a
blue blood background. He was very much a plastic spoon
in his mouth, had to like bootstrap his way up
through college. But this guy had developed different set of
skills and he went on and he had the highest
win percentage. And so Gladwell broke this whole thing down.
But it's crazy because, like you said, they don't know
what talent looks like. So how do you value something
if you don't know? And what I've seen in you
(22:32):
and what I want people to understand when we talk
about you need to know what's valuable. You will not
get a sense of value in the moment because guess what,
if you're starving and somebody says, hey, I'll sell a
cheeseburger to you for one hundred and fifty bucks, You're
going to buy the cheeseburger, But is that actually worth
one hundred and fifty dollars?
Speaker 3 (22:46):
Now, if you're starving, you'll lead a three week old
McDonald's burger.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
That's yeah, exactly right. I mean the proverb says it
says to a starving man, even the bitter taste sweet, right,
And that's that's exactly the point. So in order to
understand what's actually valuable, you have to zoom out on
your life. And I would say from a place of
biblical principles and understanding what God's word says, you're going
to identify what's really valuable. I've talked about how Garrett
when I sat down with him, literally the first time
(23:12):
I ever sat with him before he started coaching me,
we met it Ascension Coffee in Frisco. If you know
the star where the cowboys, we were surrounded by mediocrity.
It's where the cowboys practice. But the coffee was good
and so.
Speaker 4 (23:22):
Was the company.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
And Garrett looked at me and I'd rather die. Yeah,
God help him indeed. But Garrett looked at me and said,
I'd rather die than break my word.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
And I've had.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
People say some things like, yeah, you know, in San Diego,
I grewup around a lot of Marines and a lot
of very intense people, and I never you know, they
say things, but you don't necessarily always believe them. I
looked in his eyes and I was like, I actually
believe this guy. And you started telling me about why
you do that. I think people hear that and they
go like, oh, that's cool for Garrett. But the value
of what he of just doing that simple thing I
(23:54):
don't break my word cannot be overstated. But here's the thing.
Most people don't realize it. Like what you said, most
people don't haven't taken the time to consider how valuable
that is because they want to like test and see.
They want to go like, well, maybe I'll try it
for a little while and we'll see if the results change.
And actually, like you said, it's intent time circumstances, so well,
actually that got in the way, or here's a big one.
You don't value who you're around. My life has changed
(24:17):
because of who I've paid to coach me, right, Like
I've I've gotten around the right people, whether I had
to pay, travel whatever. And I continue to be very
intentional about my circles.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
I will.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
You know, you and I have all sorts of we
have programs. And I'm not commenting on that everybody should
just like, you know, do whatever and break you know,
get a loan. I'm not saying anything like that. What
I am saying is that when you value who you're around,
you start being willing to actually do whatever it takes
to get there.
Speaker 4 (24:43):
You know.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
I think for this the way this shows up in
my own life is all have certain gatherings with men.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
We're all invite people, and people.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Be like, ah, man, you know I couldn't do it
because of insert whatever. And I always think to myself,
I'm like, you know what, I'm a very busy person.
I have three businesses. They're going very well. We have
you know, I have three kids, I have all sorts
of stuff going on, and there's days when I'm looking
at my counter and going, man, I really don't have
time to meet with this group of men, Like I
need that time for other stuff. And guess what, I
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go every time? Why Because I've already decided that's valuable,
Well for what for long term?
Speaker 1 (25:16):
I'm not meeting with these men.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Because I think, oh I need to pour into them
or holy discipleship. I'm not thinking anything like that. I
realize I need to be with men who I'm going
to sharpen, who are going to sharpen me forever. So
like for like I'm looking at this with a twenty thirty,
forty fifty year lens that I'm like, I'm going to
keep meeting with these men. The way I say it
to Garrett is I think for a lot of people,
if you said them, hey, I'm going to do this
thing on Friday, and they're like, oh, I don't know
(25:39):
if I can be there. If I would have said, well, hey,
everybody there's going to get ten thousand dollars, guess what,
all your excuses would go out.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
The window and you'd be there.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Why Because you know that's valuable exactly right, And so,
and that highlights it so well that people don't know
what's valuable, because if you realize how the people you're
around would change your life, you would move, you would
pay whatever it took, you would make take breaks in
your schedule from work, you would literally find a way
to make it happen.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
But we just don't know. We just don't.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
We don't know how valuable it is, even when you
have people like yourself, me, Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, you know,
insert whoever you admire, Jesus, you know, telling you who
you're around matters. Walk with the wise and become wise
is what it says in the word. And I just
I can't stated enough. But at that point you made
about people not knowing what's valuable, really stop and think
about that, Like, what what do you think is valuable?
(26:27):
And then here's the follow up. Do your decisions actually
line up with that? Have you said this is so
valuable that no matter what, I'm going to make it
a part of my life And if you haven't, you're
missing it.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
Here's here's a big So when you have a sense
of value, you you will be consistent in things. Yeah, right,
Jesus Jesus talks about valuing the kingdom in such a
way that you would count everything else as as worthless.
That is understanding value. And this is where when when
I when I I know people don't have a sense
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of value, when I see them be wishy washy because
you say, oh, well, this is valuable, and that's valuable too,
and that's also valuable, and that's value, and they're just
running around trying to like balance value in their life.
When you have a true sense of value, you can say, oh,
sure that maybe that's valuable for now, but here's what's
really valuable. You have an ultimate source of truth. And
(27:21):
so if you feel like you've ever been wishy washy
in your life, I would challenge you to go back
and look at your sense of values, your sense of purpose.
Most people have some self control and you need to
grow it. It's like, you know what, we have all
got muscle. Some of us have more muscle than others.
And if you want more muscle, nobody's like wondering, like
looking waiting for the science to come out on how
(27:43):
to grow more muscle. The science is there. If you
want more, you know how to get it. It's hard,
but it's it's not rocket science, Like we know how
that deal works. Self control is the same way. Right,
most men they can, you know, bench press at least
one hundred and thirty five pounds. Now that's not impressive,
but it's something, right, and then you can start and
you can grow from there. Same with your self control.
(28:04):
You've got some you just need to grow it. But
where I see people fall down is in the sense
of values. So if you've been wishy washy in your life,
if you're not producing what you want out of life,
you've got to start getting regardless, regardless what regardless is.
And this is the equation that you want to have
in your life. Right, here's the real equation. Because I
said most people's lives are intent time circumstances.
Speaker 4 (28:28):
What the full.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
Equation is intent time, circumstances, time, self control, time's values. Right,
If you have weak self control, you have weak values,
you're not going to get to some good math after
the equal sign. When you have strong self control, when
you have a good sense of values, your life is
not reduced by your circumstances, by what's happening to you.
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And it doesn't mean just because you're tough, just because
you look at in the eye that you're going to
get to great results. But here's how you will. Here's
what regardless does for you. Regardlessness leads to consistency. Okay,
consistency does not mean you will win. You can keep
sewing the seed over and over every year and watering it.
But if you put the seed in the ground at
(29:12):
the wrong time of year, you'll get the same result
every single time. But if you have been consistent, if
you haven't been wishy washy, you start to learn. You realize, like,
you know what, I'm getting some parts right here. But
my neighbor over here, I got this buddy, and he
puts his seed in the ground at a different time
of year with the same amount of water as I do.
We buy our seed from the same source. His grows
(29:32):
and mind doesn't. Okay, now I've learned something because of
my consistency. I learned what doesn't work. So if you'll
be regardless, that leads to consistency in your life. Consistency
is and everything, but consistency guarantees that you will learn,
and learning leads to growth. Learning leads to understanding patterns,
and that's how you're going to produce great fruit in
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your life. This is where you need to be regardless.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Thank you very much for listening.
Speaker 5 (29:58):
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Speaker 4 (30:05):
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Speaker 5 (30:06):
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Thank you again for listening.
Speaker 4 (30:23):
Go out there and think better and live the impossible.
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