244. There's More For Your Life: Breaking Limits & The 90% You Don't Know Exists

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Squeeze the lemon that there's more life for you. Decide.
God has a great plan for my life. I'm going
to be a great steward. I'm going to do all
that I can, and when I do make mistakes, because
you'll make them when things don't go my way, because
sometimes they won't that I'll learn from those things and
those are opportunities for me to grow. God is a
great plan for my life, and ultimately I'm going to

(00:22):
see everything that God has for me.

Speaker 2 (00:25):
That's impossible. Let me tell you what I believe. What's
your weakness? It is not your technique. Don't think you
know you the Impossible Life Podcast. I mean you're sitting
on a winning lottery.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
Ticket, an idea that is fully formed, fully understood.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
That sticks.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I
are attempting to live impossible lives. What we know is
that nothing is impossible. So instead of using impossible as
an excuse to not try, we'll use the pursuit of
impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been
done before, that just means it's unexplored. If they tell

(01:11):
you it's too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified
impossible as a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling
to take a risk. The real truth is this The
solution to any impossible task starts with this question, if
I had to, what would it take?

Speaker 2 (01:31):
Would it take?

Speaker 3 (01:34):
Welcome to another episode of The Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man who has invented the term walt power because
he won't quit, won't get distracted, and won't accept limitations.
That's right, friends, the forement of you see you, Eric Unkleback,
a man who thinks willpower is for losers.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
Get yourself a can of won't.

Speaker 3 (01:56):
Hey, we could sell that's gonna be our new energy drink,
the Impossible Life wont Power.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
That's funny.

Speaker 3 (02:00):
It could be Draco has Mulk, which I still don't
understand where that came from.

Speaker 2 (02:04):
But you know, do you know? Do you know anything
about that? I feel like I know, but it's not
coming in my mind.

Speaker 3 (02:08):
Yeah, I don't know, but anyways, that just came to
my mind. Gee today's episode. Man, it's one that we've
been discussing for a few weeks now, and it was
great to flesh it out this morning and get on here.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
Every once in a while just shoot and nick a
cryptic text.

Speaker 3 (02:22):
Yeah, He's like he'll literally it'll be like four words
of like put that in your ideas thing. I'm like, okay,
And so the next one I seem, I say, so,
tell me what this was, and so this started off
as bending Principles and what it's. The working title, as
always is demand More and it harkens me back. Gee,
we have a lot of people I reference this and
I see the numbers. A lot of people go back
to the first episode. I had a conversation with somebody. Actually,

(02:44):
I love.

Speaker 1 (02:44):
I love when people tell me They're like, man, I'm
already I'm on episode fifteen and it's so good. And
I'm like, I'm glad you think so.

Speaker 3 (02:50):
Yeah, I know, I really, you know, I keep going.
That's why I say if I go just wait, it
gets better, because I listened to those and I'm like,
oh man. And I actually had somebody that told me
they're like, hey, I'm I'm like, I'm I've listened to
this many episodes. I haven't gone back to episode four
yet though. Or you sit in the ice back because
that's the one that you don't want people to listen
to and I just kind of started like smiling to myself.
I was like, yeah, you'll hear, you'll you'll get to

(03:13):
hear how much I've grown. I was like, that was
that was me having my eyes peeled back to see
my relationship with pain and not liking it. But in
our very first episode. The reason I'm reminded this is
I love that we titled the first episode There's More Life. Yeah,
because like I didn't, I didn't realize, but I remember
i'd forgotten I titled it that, and I look back
maybe a year afterwards, I was like, oh, that's a
great title. Which isn't me patting myself about the impossible line,

(03:33):
but that's that's exactly right. And so today about demand more.
There is more life, like we said that in the
first episode, And I think what inspired me on the
first episode was that you said that the most impressive
thing in your life to that date was that you
were in navy seal, but you were moving fast towards
a time when that would be another thing on the resume.
And I love that thought process. I still see you
live in that thought process, you know, running here with

(03:54):
you for four years.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
We didn't. We totally just skipped right over.

Speaker 3 (03:59):
Yeah, we recently past four years and just kind of
went like, huh, it's a Tuesday, but don't do that
in your marriage.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
It's okay to do that with your bro on podcast,
not in your marriage.

Speaker 1 (04:07):
I did put our five year on the calendar.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
Though, well, so, yeah, I appreciate that. I don't know
what we're gonna do, probably something painful, but it'll be fun.
So anyways, this demand more thought process. It's like, oh yeah, okay,
Like the result of this episode is not You're going
to go off and crush, you know, do nothing but
drink Idy Life energy all day, skip sleep and you know,
just be twenty three hours a day grind guy. That's
not where we're leading to. But I think that there's

(04:30):
this limitations in our that we accept so often in life,
in our minds. And recently I shared this and Garrett
and I talked about it off air, but I don't
think we talked about it on air.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
I talked about how I.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
Had reached our one hundred miler, which we're getting ready
to do it. Garrett brought it up this morning. We're
going to be doing another ultra marathon. Here, it's only
Lindsay wants to run a fifty. Yeah, so I said,
of course, yeah, And once you said you were in,
I literally rolled my eyes because, like, I don't want
to do this, No part of me does, but I
know I'm going to, so, hey, can't wait grow a fifties? Like, oh,

(05:02):
I know, I know, but I don't want to get
distracted by that. There's a whole nother thought process of
how hard I've been working to put on muscle, Like, hey,
what's great for muscle building? There's lots of long running anyways,
but in the eighty second mile of the hundred miler.

Speaker 1 (05:17):
I think I think today's episode is going to be
good for you as it relates to your mindset around
the fifty. You're actually, why don't we just go into
the fifty and say, you know what, what would it
take for Nick to gain muscle?

Speaker 3 (05:29):
I already had fifty, dude. I literally had that word
with myself while I was like setting up up here.
I already said to myself. I was like, well, you
can't just commit to that. But anyways, I was just
letting the audience hear what was going on in my
internal monologue as I'm working myself to the point where
I know I'm going to end up, but you know,
I still go through the cycle. Anyways, when we ran
the hundred miler, I talked about how the eighty second mile,
I was telling the story on this podcast and I

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said I'd reached the end of myself physically, and I
was talking about this moment I had with God, and
I thought it was for me. The point I was
trying to make is that God met me in this
moment and I had like, truthfully, I know I it
was like a supernatural encounter. But Garrett was very quick
to point out you were not at the end of
your physical.

Speaker 2 (06:04):
You said, get up, Nerd. You know that's what you
said in the moment.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
But you told me on the podcast, You're like, you
weren't at the end of yourself physically. And I when you
said that, my immediate thought was I was kind of like, well,
how does he know? Then I was like, well, he's
seen some guys do some things, and he's done them
himself and gone a lot further. And what I love like,
you could be like, well forget that guy if you
were an offended person. But what I love about that
is I get to be with a guy who's seen

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a level I say it all the time, You've seen
a level of performance of standards of demand that most
people would say is not possible, Like it's not possible
to stay it for five days straight and just get
beat down like you're a prisoner. Not only is it
not possible, not only is it possible, I've done it,
and so have five thousand other people.

Speaker 1 (06:47):
Wait what, yeah, why? And also why don't you read
a really great book, Unbroken right by Laura Hillenbrand about
Louis Zamporini's life so good, and you'll see it's actually
where some of seal training comes from. Yeah, like the
original UDTs who in the sixties created seal training, or
survivors from those concentration games, they say, you know what,

(07:08):
here's what, like, here's what a man is capable of,
and here's where we'll take a man down to his core.
And these are all guys who went through that experience.
And then in the Korean War, they're like, I want
to go to war with the guys that I was
in that camp with and survived and fought, like these
are the real warriors. And so like even you think, oh, Wow,

(07:29):
seal training. Well, the guys who created it had actually
seen what a person's life was capable of.

Speaker 3 (07:35):
Yeah, I always highlight in that book, like Louis Zambrigni.
By the end of that book he talks about dysentery,
like like you and I would talk about having like
a minor like skin irritation.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
Take take your story of like slam dunking seal training
back to one of those guys.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
Yeah, yeah, they're like, oh, cool, cool story. They were
feeding you. Yeah, you're lucky. Yeah, it's just wild.

Speaker 1 (07:56):
But but that but that didn't have to eat out
of the same that you took a crap in.

Speaker 3 (08:01):
Yeah, I mean my grandfather was a prisoner of war
and he had to do that. But in the teams
you guys have, they taught you this thought process. And
Garrett has shared this before, but I don't know if
you've actually said on the podcast. I want you to
share it because this is kind of a leaping off
point for a lot of people.

Speaker 1 (08:16):
Well, one of the things they talked about it often,
and this is like the point that Nick was at,
and this is why I was telling him that he
was capable of more. The point that Nick was at
where he's like, oh, man, like I'm done. It's like, bro,
you're at ten percent of your capacity. This is what
they would talk about in seal training. Where you think
your limits are really is about ten percent of most

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people's capacity. Where you think your limits are is where
you think, like you're saying, I've never gone this far before. Okay,
that's not your limit. It's just like you don't know
what's after that. It's like the scene from Lord of
the Rings when they're leaving. He's like, well, I've never
gone this far before, and that was like less than
ten percent of their total journey, right, I've never you know,

(09:00):
we take one more step and this is the furthest
I've ever been. Yeah, you're like barely beginning the journey.
That's where most people are and their level of like
pushing themselves and what their limitations are. Maybe you're just
getting outside of what's comfortable for you, what you're used to,
and where a lot of people start pumping the brakes.
Is like, well, man, like what if I give everything,
Like if I like push myself even further than this,

(09:22):
I don't know what's going to happen.

Speaker 2 (09:24):
Yeah, yeah, that's exactly right, and.

Speaker 1 (09:26):
You see it in seal training, like instructors call it
out there. They're they're yelling at students stop holding back,
like on Wednesday, right like you've been going for almost
seventy two hours, like pushing yourself, and you'll see and
that's they're they're motivating you. It's the best motivation you're
going to get. And in Hell Week, like no one's

(09:47):
going to encourage you. But you'll see, guys, you're kind
of just like you experienced this in the Hunter Miler
where you kind of just start having like a downtrodden attitude.
You're not fighting to like demand more out of your flesh.
And that's what they're saying, guys, stop holding back right right.
And that's like because Wednesday is the turning point people
by like middle of the day Wednesday, no one quits

(10:08):
after that really, but like into Wednesday, there's still now
they don't let off the gas at all in Hell Week,
but it's just there's just this point after like Wednesday
afternoon where no one quits anymore.

Speaker 3 (10:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (10:19):
Now there are people who like med fail right like
leg breaks or their lungs give out or whatever, and
they get rolled back, but no one really quits after
that point, but they're pushing people like, keep going, there's
more in you. That's what they're saying. They just don't
say it in a nice way.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
Obviously.

Speaker 3 (10:35):
Yeah, I love that, so capture that. Think about the
hardest thing you've ever done in your life, whether it
be a bad relationship, whether it be something you did physically,
whatever it's gone through and somebody goes, hey, that's ten
percent of your limitation. I think for a lot of people,
their reaction will be rage. You don't know what I've
been through. That's the natural response, right, It's like, you

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don't know, how can you tell me that? Well, here's
a counter thought. What if they're right? What's the other
ninety percent look like for you? And if that doesn't
excite you? Like I have chills, which is kind of
weird because this is our podcast, but I have chills
thinking about that, what's the ninety percent? If you think
ten percent is everything you got, what else lies before you?
On ninety percent? There's a quote we love that we

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referenced a lot in The hundred Mile and I think
it is just such a great quote for life from
William James, who's considered the father of American psychology, and
it says, beyond the very extremity of fatigue distress, amounts
of ease and power that we never dreamed ourselves to
own sources of strength habitually not taxed at all, because
habitually we never pushed through the obstruction. He's saying that

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amounts of ease and power lie there waiting for us,
but because we don't push through the obstruction, we never
ever get there. And it reminded me when I was
going to the one hundred mile. For me, that was
the biggest toughest thing. And actually, when I think about
the fifty miler, it actually isn't that big a deal because,
as we said on one hundred miter, I the first
fifty five miles was time I was like, I feel amazing,
let's go, let's go play golf.

Speaker 2 (12:00):
Would have stopped at the fifties, like, oh what a
great time.

Speaker 3 (12:02):
Yeah, we would have just been like, man, that was so easy.
So like, good thing is, I know a few things
I need to do for this one. But but so
I'll sign in March. I'll sign you up for the hundred.
Oh great, whenever we finish the fifty, you're gonna propose
that one to me. Yeah, you know the thing is
i'd be like, great, let's do it. Anyways, I'm not
gonna say no, dude, you know that. I'm just gonna
We're gonna do whatever we're gonna do. But like I
remember when I was going to the hundred miler for
me that was like I wanted to really test myself.

(12:26):
And you said something actually yesterday I thought was so great.
You said, when you start to have a great identity,
you want to be tested. And I've experienced that during
the course of like, oh, I'm afraid to fail to
like no, I need to find out what it's like
to get in that dark moment. It's like, that's why
I love climbing Pike's Peak, because between the altitude just
puts you in a space where you have to take
hold of your thinking in a way that you can't

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simulate even if you push yourself in a hard workout,
because I think, okay, yeah, you can get yourself to
the point where you feel really bad. But to feel
like you're drunk and like in a way that you
can't just be like stop, it is crazy, Like you
can't drink enough hydration and to make yourself not feel
that way, and that's the gift of altitude. And so
when I was doing the hundred, I remember talking to
some of my friends about it and I was telling

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them what I'm doing. They're like, dude, you're you're crazy,
like why are you doing that? And I said, don't
you guys wonder Like I was like, I want to
see what happens, like where my limit is. I was like,
don't you want to know where yours is? There was
zero interest, like, nah, we're good, you know, And that
to me was I don't know, man like, look and
I didn't reach the limits because I finished it, Like
what are my actual limits? I still don't know, but

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that excites me. And so this is the thought process
of more, what are you actually capable? If we say
that greatness is getting one hundred percent of it, getting
all God had for you, well you're what you think
one hundred percent is is not even close to God's
hundred percent. And so the more equation as my my
friend Garrett here is so good at seeing the world
through math. He's like the beautiful mind guy, except for
he's not weird. You are weird, but not like you know,

(13:48):
you don't have anything diagnosted.

Speaker 1 (13:49):
I just see like people like you have your people
have their dominant energies, people have their dominant mindsets, people
have their dominant thought processes. And for me, I'm math dominant.
So I see things through like a logic. I see
things through math. I see things algebraic or algebraically. And
that's where, like my math is the foundation of language

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for me, right, it's not the other way around. And
so I was saying to Nick, like people will say
to me, you know, well you can't do that, and
I'm like, well, that's actually not true statement. Like you
just said, you know, two plus three is four. I'm like,
that is like empirically not a true statement. Now I
shouldn't do that. That's a true statement. But saying that

(14:33):
I can't do that, that's not true. You are giving
me bad math. And like the setup and the intro
for what we're going to talk about today is I
want to help people just live with some better math.
And we're not going to do a lot of math
on today's podcast, but we're going to help the mindset
around your math.

Speaker 3 (14:51):
Yeah, I think that's would you call yourself the ultimate
X factor?

Speaker 1 (14:54):
Like the ultimate that's Hey, you know what I do
love multiplication, right, Like, multiplication and division are powerful tools,
and a lot of people's mindset is a division for
them where it should be a multiplication. Yeah, and so
that's what today is going to be. Like I look like,
here's your potential and then you have all these limiting
factors that are a X that is less than one, right,

(15:15):
Like you took what your potential was and you multiplied
it zero point six because of the way that you think.

Speaker 3 (15:21):
Right, Yeah, And I'm going to write an intro for
you about how you are the ultimate variable, the infinite variable.

Speaker 2 (15:28):
All right.

Speaker 3 (15:28):
So the more equation that Garrett gave this is how
you get to more, which is reject limitation, demand more,
unlock possibility. Now that may sound like, okay, yeah, I
like that. I like that, But we're going to give
you practical examples of this. We're going to dive into
limitations where they come from. We're going to dive into
true belief right that allows you to demand more and

(15:49):
show you different areas of your life where you are
actively settling. And I'm not we all are prone to this.
The you is very much a collective view. It's all
of us. So g with the with the reject limitations,
demand more unlocked possibility you were talking about.

Speaker 1 (16:03):
Obviously you own a construction. Let me give Let me
give an example. This is a simple example. I know
there are many of you on the on this podcast
that are far, far, far smarter than me. I am
not a learned man. The last time I sat in
a classroom was in high school. However, I just what

(16:23):
I do know is that I remember what I learned.
And so, like what I'm saying is, there's a lot
of science people that listen to this podcast. I love
you guys, and I love when you send me text
or emails and tell me like help me and and
my thinking. But I'm just going to use a really
simple example here. There's there's more complicated ones, but I'm
going to use a really simple example of real limitations
that control like what are principles, principles government outcomes? Okay,

(16:46):
And I'm going to use a real simple example. This
is one that anyone who does like construction or project management,
they understand this. And that's speed, cost and quality. Okay,
like the joke, and construction is picked too, Like which
ones you want to speed, cost and qual?

Speaker 2 (17:00):
Right?

Speaker 1 (17:00):
If you want to you want to do a kitchen
upgrade in your house, you want it to be really nice,
and you want it to be really fast. It's going
to be super expensive, right right you Uh, you remodel
a bathroom and you want it to go really quick,
and you don't want to spend that much money. The
quality is going to be terrible, right right, Speed, cost

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and quality like pick two. That's what people always say.
And so like those those things are pulling on each other.
They don't work together. I'm in the middle of a
very high eight figure construction project right now, and I
have been making a lot of demands for us to
go faster. This is the factory build out that we're

(17:41):
doing for Union. Uh, we've been we're trying to do
something in under a year that the last time somebody
did one took five years. So like we are rejecting
some limitations in a sense. And I've said go faster,
and I've said we're not going to spend this. I'd like,
here's my cap on how much we're going to spend.
We must go faster, and the equality, like we cannot

(18:02):
have a loss in quality, And I'm immediately like breaking
the rules, Like, well, you can't do that, right, Except
here's what I know, And that's where the bending principles
thought process comes from. Like this is I was thinking
about it with this project and many of the other
things in my life, where people say you can't do that,
I'm like, that's not true.

Speaker 2 (18:18):
Right.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
People would say, well, if you're going to try to
push the project faster and without changing the cost, without
changing the quality, you can't do that. I go, yes,
I can. And here's why. Those equations assume that you
are at max efficiency, that we're already going as fast
as we possibly could, that we are one hundred percent
efficient in our budget, and our quality is a direct

(18:41):
output of the labor and materials that we've purchased. That is, like,
you're not perfect, nobody's perfect. So without moving either of
those levers, what I can do is just be more efficient.

Speaker 2 (18:52):
Right.

Speaker 1 (18:52):
If you understand friction in science, right, friction is just
a reduction of what's possible, right, And so if I
reduce friction, I can get more outcome with the same
level of effort. And so this is the bending principles
thought process that I want us to get into today.
There are principles that govern outcomes and I'm not going
to push you guys like, hey, just go do it,

(19:13):
Just go try whatever. You can do anything in life,
like it doesn't matter whatever, if you just try harder,
you'll get more. That's not empirically true that if you
just try harder you'll get more. But what I have
seen is that most people will just accept a limitation
right where someone said, where someone says to me, you
can't go faster and not decrease quality or increase cost.

(19:34):
I reject that because I mean, I'm not saying I'm
not willing to, like, there is a pace that I
must move at, and at some point I'll get to
the place where I've done all I can do and
now I have to release one of these levers and
we'll have those conversations. But before we get to that point,
what I'm not seeing yet is that we're doing all

(19:56):
that we can possibly do to maximize our current equation.
And so a lot of people are wasteful in their time,
They're wasteful with their dollars, they're wasteful with their energy
because they say, well, if you want, if you want
things to change, you have to give up this. And
it is principally true However there's friction. However, there's a
loss of what you're fully capable of.

Speaker 2 (20:16):
So let's maximize that.

Speaker 3 (20:17):
Yeah, I mean, it's literally the perfect it's the seal
thought processes. Oh man, we were there, No, you're ten
percent now. And so you're like, well, I want to
find out what the rest of the ninety looks like.
And you have to take other people along for the ride.
And that's the interesting part because like limitation. So I
asked Garrett this question we were doing it, because I
was like, we obviously need to look at limitations. I said,
where do you think limitations come from? And he just
looked up in the sky and he's like, God creates limitation.

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That's Genesis one, right. God separated the land from the water.

Speaker 2 (20:44):
Created.

Speaker 1 (20:45):
God separated the day from the night. God created the
world of order, like he created a universe that is
governed by principles that we talk about on here all
the time. By the way, if you consider yourself a
disciple of the impossible life, this is one of the
ones that I really want you to understand. If you're
not there yet, just keep leaning in and know that

(21:05):
it's there for you. When you can catch and understand
principles in your life, Like I'm just telling you, yeah,
you start seeing it. It is the matrix level of life.
Like at the end of the Matrix where Neo like
sees differently. He doesn't see that the guys he sees
everything in the code. He sees the numbers.

Speaker 3 (21:23):
Like.

Speaker 1 (21:23):
This is what it's like when you begin to see
principles in your life. So I'm just gonna just wanted
to say that really quick. If you are someone who's
like not like, oh man, I like listen to those
guys that are cool and motivates me. Nick Nick tells
a funny joke like every third episode. No, but if
you're someone who's like this is for me, I really
want all that I can get out of life. Just
know one of the first things I really want you

(21:43):
to understand his principles and.

Speaker 3 (21:44):
Also understand that Caret doesn't know humor, just to say that, yes,
I'm going to respond to that comment. And also we
cover mindset Mastery, We cover principles, and we have that
there for people to You could literally come join Mindset
Mastery and go if you're struggling with that, have us
teach it to you so you can grasp me because
you're one hundred percent right man.

Speaker 2 (22:03):
Nothing. I don't know that anything has.

Speaker 3 (22:05):
Removed fear from me more than understanding principles, because I
don't hope that seed is going to grow in the
ground anymore.

Speaker 2 (22:12):
I understand why it grows.

Speaker 1 (22:13):
It's like in shooting, where guys bring me their weapon
and they're like when they don't know where the bullet's
actually gonna go. Yeah, when I shoot, I know exactly
what the bullet's going to do.

Speaker 2 (22:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (22:24):
Not just because I cited it in myself. The Navy
like taught me all of the physics of how weapons work,
how the weapon works, how gravity is affecting the bullet,
what win does to the bullet, time, and the all
of these things. I understand all of this. So there's
no hope for me. When I pull the trigger, it's math.

Speaker 2 (22:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (22:43):
And what if you felt that way about your life,
that when you pull the trigger it's math instead of
you pull the trigger and you hope something good happens.

Speaker 3 (22:49):
If you haven't experienced that, I said to Garrett recently
because I cited and I got a new deer hunting
rifle because deer season is coming up.

Speaker 1 (22:54):
I'm very excited shout out to our man, Stefan.

Speaker 3 (22:56):
Stefan, thank you Roe for taking you a friend of
the podcast friend here in Frisco and fortunately very highly trained.

Speaker 2 (23:03):
So he's taken me out.

Speaker 3 (23:04):
We mounted my scope beside of my rifle and I
said to Gary, I was like, I've never experienced in
my life because first of all, every time we've gone hunting,
I'm shooting someone else's rifle for the first time as
I'm on a deer, which is not a great way
to do it. So I'm like, I want to get
my own rifle, get it set up, and like really
go in with confidence. So we're siting this rifle and
we've gone through like a lot of rounds to get
this thing down to where it is, and so finally
we're like, he's like, great, you're starting in at one hundred.

(23:25):
He's like, go to three hundred. So I switched to
three hundred and there's this little like metal pig way
out there, and I remember I hit it the first time.
I was like, oh, sweet, well, what had happened when we.

Speaker 2 (23:35):
Were siting in the rifle? And is I felt what
it was like.

Speaker 3 (23:37):
To know exactly where the bullet was going to go
like what you've described, because on a lot of times
when I've been on something, you know, my breeding's going
around and I'm kind of pulling the trigger when it's
moving the least well, because of stuff he was instructing
me in, there was no movement. All I had to
do was squeeze until I felt the surprise of the
gun go off. And so when I pulled the I
was under there and I was like, this is going
There was no doubt. I've never been behind where I'm like, oh, man,

(23:58):
I really hope this hits because you've been there when
I hit a shot that you respected. And I will
tell you that there was a lot of things that
went right, but I was not one hundred percent confident.
I pulled this trigger and I just sat back and
wait for the thing because it was far enough way
that you you do have like a second before it happens.
And dude, it was an unbelievable feeling. And if you've
not experienced that, you don't know what Garrett's talking about.

(24:19):
And and like you said, if you could feel that
in life.

Speaker 1 (24:22):
If if you don't know principles, you're just standing in
the batter's box with your eyes closed, Right.

Speaker 3 (24:27):
I hope it hits my bat. Yeah, yeah, I hope
it does. Two chances are it's not. That's why you're bunting.
That's the exactly the best chance I got is just
get it. Get get. What do they say, uh, get
the bat in the zone or keep keep What are
the baseball the batting coaches say about, like keep keeping
the bat in front of the ball for.

Speaker 2 (24:46):
His barrel in the zone. You want maxime in his zone?
Thank you. I could think of it barrel in the zone.

Speaker 3 (24:50):
That's like me trying to talk to you about bullet
bullet that's bunting, or guys like well, I don't know
where the ball is going to be, so just maximize
time in the zone.

Speaker 2 (24:57):
My eyes closed.

Speaker 3 (24:58):
Well you better too bad that thing's going to hit
you in the speak because yeah. Anyways, But so the limitations,
like what we were going back to, like and Garrett
talking about this understanding of principle that God creates these
limitations and when you know how to navigate them with principles,
that's amazing. Well, here's the problem. Most of the limitations
that we face are our own created ones, and they're false.
So imagine God creates limitations. Man creates false limitations, right,

(25:22):
and these are this is what I would call standards.
And like we talk about standards on this podcast and
people are like, yeah, standards super intentional, like tied to purpose,
like Navy seal standards. Whoo, I'm gonna get some standards.
Here's where your standards actually are. It's the minimum you're
willing to accept, and it's the stuff you stop questioning.
This is what kills people is that you have a
default set of standards that you don't question anymore. And

(25:44):
they are things that you just accept, which is why
you would pull back and be like, oh, that we
can't do that. And here's where I saw this. One
of the reasons why we're in Texas is when we
were in California, I picked up my first grader, she
was then a first grader. Now she's a seventh grader,
and she came in and I was like, I brought
my daughter with her and they were talking to this
girl as we were waiting for waiting to leave, and
my then four year old goes, she was nice to

(26:05):
my older daughter. My older daughter goes, oh, she's not
a she she's a Z And I was like, in
the in the front seat of my car. I can
still see it in my mind. This is like a
nine to eleven moment. I know exactly where I was,
and I can still see it because literally the alarm bells,
like I could see the spinning red light going warning, danger, danger,
and like, well, if you know anything about kids, you

(26:26):
know that you can't make something a massive deal or
else they'll they'll take it and accelerate at times ten.
So I just we don't say that word, right, Yeah,
we don't say what. Yeah, don't say that. Don't say
that word. You're gonna hear it a lot. So I
just took a breath and I was like, hey, babe,
where did you hear that from? And she's like, oh,
she told me, and I was like, oh, okay. So
I paid attention to what her mom, who her mom was.

(26:47):
Next time we were pick up guess what. Guess what color?
Her hair was bright blue, like like she had shaved
her head and you could see it. And so I
was like, man, sure, she was very joyful. Right, this
girl is getting this from her mother. No one at
six years old is going like, hey, I'm questioning my gender.
They don't even know unless that's been indoctrinated into them,
and I realized the reason we need to leave is

(27:09):
I didn't want my daughter growing up thinking that that
was an a normal option.

Speaker 1 (27:13):
While we're while we're on this really quick short rabbit hole,
keep keep us on track here, Nick, I just want
to share this for somebody. When you see people like that,
and it's not just you know, people from the LGBT community,
what those people are there? Lost people? Yeah, okay? And
what the Bible describes them as people who don't know Christ,

(27:35):
people who don't understand Kingdom. The Bible describes them as
blind okay. And I was sharing this with somebody the
other day. This is just a great thought process for
you to have.

Speaker 2 (27:46):
If Nick comes over to my house and trips over
my couch, I'm gonna laugh at him, right. I'll probably
throw up a pillow at him.

Speaker 1 (27:53):
While he's on the ground, like what an idiot, And
then I'll make fun of him later and tell my
friends about it because I'm a good friend, and tell
you treat your.

Speaker 2 (27:59):
Friends tripped over his couch. For the record, but if a.

Speaker 1 (28:02):
Blind person came over my house and tripped over my couch,
I'd say, oh my god, I'm so sorry, right, like
I should have helped you. Obviously you didn't know my
couch was there. Are you okay? And that is exactly
the heart that you need to have with lost people.
And you know what sometimes like when what if that
blind person comes over my house and you know, he's
got a coffee and trips over my couch and spills

(28:24):
it all over my couch, Like you're making my day
really great here man? Thanks right, like you're very inconvenient
for me, Like please quit stumbling around in the dark.
That's exactly the heart and in a kind way you
need to have with people who are lost. Don't hold
it against them. Their eyes are closed, they cannot see.
Treat them like you would treat a blind person.

Speaker 3 (28:44):
That's very good because the cultural norm now is like
we're on different sides, so I need to attack you,
and it's like that's not how God would you beat
up a blind guy?

Speaker 2 (28:51):
Right, Yeah, that's very good. I'm glad you point that out.

Speaker 3 (28:54):
But returning back to this, I realized that if I
raise my daughter in California, like I know, she's going
to get her primary way of thinking from our house
regardless of where we live.

Speaker 2 (29:03):
So if you're in California.

Speaker 3 (29:04):
I'm not saying like, oh, you should give up hope,
not by any stretching the imagination. But what I knew
and what I had seen, was that I did not
want to raise my daughter in a place where she
was where I was going to have to be fighting that.
So we probably if we were gonna stay there, honestly,
we probably would have homeschooled or figured something else out
because I just didn't want her to grow up thinking.

Speaker 2 (29:22):
That that was normal.

Speaker 3 (29:23):
Because once it's normal, then you stop questioning it, and
once you stop questioning it, you just accept it as
part of your life. And what you think you're accepting
is one thing, but what you're getting is a whole
lot more. And that's where this becomes so poisonous and
so dangerous because underlying all that is not a godly
thought process. It's not God on the throne, it's not
God's order, it's not God's principles.

Speaker 2 (29:41):
It's man's way.

Speaker 3 (29:42):
It's like, oh, we can make up, we can take
control of something that God put a limitation on and
just you know, call this gender that or just say
I identify as this.

Speaker 2 (29:49):
No, you can't. There's a part of you that God's
given you that is limited.

Speaker 1 (29:52):
It's the root of all sin. It's rebellion against God. Right, well,
why can't we do it my way? Here's what Well, God,
I know you made me as a man, but I
want to be a woman. God, I know you made
me as a woman, but I want to be a man.

Speaker 2 (30:04):
Know. This is what God said.

Speaker 1 (30:06):
And if you're trying to say something different want, you're
in rebellion against God. And also, everything you do is
going to lead to destruction.

Speaker 3 (30:13):
Yeah, and you talked about this that this is like limitations,
because I talked about how you get so much more.
You said, limitations like people bring stuff over your house
and be like, oh hey, look, well you asked me,
you said, you said, where do limitations come from?

Speaker 2 (30:24):
Yeah? Right?

Speaker 1 (30:25):
And so yet God, God creates limitations, Man creates false limitations.
And where limitations like end up in your life? It's like, man,
why where are all the you start? I said to
Nick this use this analogy for limitations. It's like if
I blindfolded you and brought you into a house. You've
never been outside the house. You can't go outside the house,
And I say, this is your house, this is your

(30:46):
home where you live well, and if you can't go
outside and you don't know how big the house actually is,
I can just put you in one room in the house.
You like, well, this is this is all I got, right,
And you you actually don't know what's on the other
side of some of your walls, right, Like what if
you tore down the drywall and there's you know, another
one thousand, two thousand, three thousand square feet of house

(31:07):
in there. You don't know what's on the other side
of that. And a lot of people just accept these
limitations because they've been placed around them. Where this is
people bring stuff, bring a thought process into your life,
whether it's from parents, environment whoever. Things get brought into
your life, and you accept these limitations as if they're normal.
And what you've got to do is it's kind of like,

(31:27):
I'm not a stuff person. My wife and I have
this conversation all the time, and then we're not unique.
And this is very much a millennial thing. The boomers
love you, guys that are listening to the podcast. My
parents are anti boomer in a lot of ways, and
I love my parents for not being boomer boomers. But
boomers are stuff people, right, And it's not their fault.

(31:49):
If you just study American history and the American economy,
like this is where capitalism turned into peak consumerism and
the Boomers were sold everything and just stuff, stuff, stuff,
stuffed stuff is how you make your life happy. You
know what, Me and my wife have figured out that
more stuff does not mean a better life. And people
bring stuff over in my house and I just have
to throw it away. I didn't ask for this, I

(32:09):
didn't want I know you wanted to give me this.
I didn't want that in my house. I want less
things in my house, not more. And so what I
do is I throw them away. And what you've got
to do with limitations coming into your life, say well, okay,
thank you. I didn't ask for this, so I'm going
to discard it. This is Hebrews Chapter twelve, Verse one.
Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin

(32:33):
that so easily entangles, and let us run our race
with endurance.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
Right.

Speaker 1 (32:37):
And there's a lot of things that you can put
off in everything that hinders, category one of them is
false limitations. Right, Because the truth, the understanding of the
truth of who God is and the truth of his principles.
When you'll live with a fearless, principled mindset, you'll throw
off all this other stuff and then just have to
deal with sin and say, you know what, and instead

(32:58):
of just fighting sin, choosing God all like everything that
is wrong in your life, it is rebellion against God.
Sin is rebellion against God, and limitations are rebellion against God.

Speaker 2 (33:09):
Yeah, so good.

Speaker 3 (33:10):
Now I want to look at one of the primary limitations.
But I don't want to just say it as as is.
You touched on it there with fear. But here's here.
I think this is where fear is so deceptive because
when we're talking about finding limitations, there is a cost
and a price to that. You don't just go like, yeah,
now I'm not gonna be ten percent. Guy, Well, how
do you know where one hundred percent is? You don't

(33:31):
I put on my fearless T shirt, right, Yeah, I
put on my no fear T shirt. No, that's that's
not that's not there's The price is your time, it's
your energy, it's failure, it's money, it's potentially relationships. There's
a great cost of finding relations defining this and what like.
So let's say you have a business and you're like, man,
I don't think we're running at full capacity. I think

(33:51):
there's I listen, I hear what Garrett Nickers saying, like
I believe that let's go figure it out. You know
what you're gonna have to do. You're going to have
to spend money, maybe higher new people, maybe squeeze more
out of the people you already have, try a new
process and say hey, you know what, I think we
could do this a different way. And you may try
that way and it fails because maybe that wasn't part
of the ninety percent. And for a lot of people

(34:11):
are like, oh, man, think of what I could have
done with that, you know, thirty thousand dollars. Once it's gone,
like we have this like remorse of loss because we're
and I would say that that's where fear will show
up and rob you blind because you go like, well,
think of what I could have done with that? Well,
what if and what if it gets like how much
am I willing to spend? What if it gets to
this point and the what if monster starts coming in,
which is how we've described fear before, and before you

(34:34):
know it, you've talked yourself out of even being willing
to pay the price to go on it so like
you have to understand fear is a primary limitation. And
you talked about about having a foundation of trust in God,
and you talk about ultimately this is stewardship because there's
risk involved.

Speaker 1 (34:46):
So stewardship is be faithful with what's given to you.
And this is the test that God is giving to us,
is will you be faithful with the little that I've
given you? And this is also how you're going to
learn principles in your life. Okay, God's not giving you
a billion dollars because you're not ready for it. You
would not be a good steward of it. You don't
actually know what to do with it. But if you'll

(35:08):
be faithful with the little that you do have, got
that like, be faithful with it and also take risk
with it. Be grateful that God has you exactly where
you are. And this might be like shattering thought process
for somebody. You know how you don't have it all
figured out yet? Well, what if we turned up the
stakes dramatically?

Speaker 3 (35:26):
Right?

Speaker 1 (35:26):
Oh, well that makes that'll make you think a little
bit differently. I have some friends who are they live
a life that's a little bit different than other people's lives.
One of my friends that I work with has a
has a very large family trust fund that his grandfather built. Okay,
and he's he's afraid of blowing it.

Speaker 2 (35:47):
Oh wow.

Speaker 1 (35:48):
Right, Like he's in the opposite position that a lot
of people are like Man, I just wish I could
get my chance. He's like man like so much. If
I make a mistake, it's so costly and so be
grateful that you aren't exactly the position that God has
put you in. He's got you there for a reason.
And if you'll just be faithful with what you have,
understand the principles for where you are, know that there's

(36:09):
some things that you don't know, have courage to take
a risk, trust in God, and do everything that you
can do. And when you make a mistake, you'll say,
you know what, I just learned a great lesson. Now
I know what governs limitate like govern's outcomes. Right now
I understand the limitations in the field that I'm in,
and the next time I go back, I can get
multiplication and not division.

Speaker 3 (36:27):
Right.

Speaker 1 (36:27):
So there's a stewardship to this as well. But if
fear does not help you in any way, fear just
keeps you stuck. It's what keeps you out of the
promised land. Release fear, accept God's truth, accept principles, be
courageous and go learn take the wise risks. But you
still have to take risks.

Speaker 3 (36:44):
And the key thing that you said was that you
have to have the understanding that God is in control.
Because if you should be afraid, if you're depending on yourself,
that's probably the only time you'll tell me. I'll say
to somebody you should be fearful. Is that if you're
depending on yourself, you should be afraid because if you
got it all figured out, yeah, because that is a
we all know we're limited, like you, will find confidence
whenever your absolute trust is in God, because that's infinite,

(37:08):
it's limited, it's limitless, and it's the right place to
have your trust. It's literally where we're meant to have
our trust. He says, you'll keep your minds in perfect peace.
Who's he'll keep those in perfect peace whose minds are
steadfast on the Lord. You have your trust in God.
That is the big difference. So remember, the more equation
is reject limitation. So we've just told you at limitation, Well,
now we're going to demand more because we've rejected limitation, Well,

(37:30):
what requires.

Speaker 2 (37:31):
You to demand more g but belief.

Speaker 3 (37:33):
And here's the like, we talk about belief on this podcast,
and we always define as it's what you know to
be true but can't prove scientifically. And that sounds great.
And if you've listened to us enough times you're like, yeah,
I've heard this fifty times. Good, Well, make sure you
actually think about what that means, because you know what
real belief does. Gee, it creates an actual expectation. And
there's a difference between like suspicion where I think this

(37:53):
might be true and I have a strong degree of
suspicion that this is true to be like this is
going to happen massively differ. And that's the difference between belief.

Speaker 1 (38:01):
That's where the Bible says faith is. It's the assurance
of things not yet seen. Many people there, I believe
you is just as weak as there I love you right, Like,
oh yeah, I'll say it, and I know what it means,
but do you actually live it? If you truly believe
in God, if you believe, if you believe that the
creator of the universe knows you, wants to have a

(38:23):
relationship with you, is teaching you setting you up for success,
helping govern your life in a way that you're going
to grow, mature and become fully capable. If you really
believe that, why aren't you willing to step out and
take a risk? The reason you don't, the reason you don't,
that you don't push forward, the reason that you're not
reaching for all that you have, the reason that you're

(38:44):
fearful is because you're folks. Well, I know I believe
in God, but I mean, what if he doesn't show up?
If he doesn't show up, that doesn't mean that he's
not still there. It means that this is the place
that God's brought you into. This is the thing that
God wants you to deal with. You're you're what if?

Speaker 2 (39:02):
Is you? Like?

Speaker 1 (39:03):
Truly, a lot of what a lot of people are
saying in this is still a rebellious mindset. If God
doesn't show up, you're saying, well, I'm God, and why
isn't the other God here doing what I want him
to do? That that's not the way. He is the way.
And what I've got to do is I've got to say, God,
I fully submit to your way, and even when you

(39:23):
don't do what I think is the right thing.

Speaker 2 (39:25):
I'm going to trust you in this.

Speaker 3 (39:26):
Yeah, that's that's so good. Gee, now you told me
about this. You had a situation recently where you've got
to show people just what belief looks like because.

Speaker 2 (39:35):
You're doing a lot of stuff right now.

Speaker 1 (39:37):
Yeah, that's that's, I guess an understatement. But I was
on the construction mind of speed, cost and quality because
I'm in the middle of a really large project that
we've been pushing forward. My dad's been doing an incredible
job pushing this forward. Love getting to do big, fun
stuff with my dad. I'm so blessed in that. And
one of the things that's really important for this job

(39:59):
is utilities and you get outside of your control. You
got to work with these really big entities. And I
had a large demand that they would go really fast,
do it on our timeline, and they'd do it for free.

Speaker 2 (40:12):
Sounds great. Who wouldn't want that? And people are like, well,
you know they're not going to do that. They won't
do that.

Speaker 1 (40:17):
I said, no, they will, And like, if they don't
tell you what they're supposed to tell you, you tell me.
And I'm going to go have in the next conversation
and I'll have the next conversation, and I will call whoever.
And I'm also very much leveraging. What my belief is
about what we're doing is that it is like critically
important to our nation's security and to our nation's future.

(40:38):
We must win at this mission. This ain't just about
making money for us. It is like what Robert Gates
said to me about where our nation is at, this
is the most perilous time in our nation's history since
World War Two. And I said, you know what, I
feel the exact same way about that that I felt
as a young man in the post nine to eleven era.

(40:58):
Like Edmund Burke said, avails when good men choose to
do nothing. I'm not going to let someone like Robert Gates,
who knows the true state of the world, say to
me this is the most perilous time in our nation's history,
and Garrett say, well, somebody should do something about that.
I'm going to do all that I can, right because
I care about my family, I care about my community,
who both exist inside this nation. That is a little

(41:20):
blip in a very unique time in history, and it'll
get ripped right out of our hands if we don't
fight for it. And so I use all of that
when I speak to these people and I'm saying, look,
I'm not your typical business and I need you to
understand what we're doing here. Are you going to help
me or do I need to talk to your boss?

Speaker 2 (41:38):
Right?

Speaker 1 (41:39):
And I go to the next person. I go to
the next person. I said a big demand of Hey,
we're going to get what we need because it's not
just about us, this is for this nation. We're gonna
get what we need. They're going to do it when
we say to do it, and they're gonna do it
for free.

Speaker 3 (41:52):
I'm smiling while listening to this story because I love
my friend, and I can imagine think about how the
call of that most of these guys get. When you
tell most people who are like customers that they're not
going to get what they want, what do they do?

Speaker 2 (42:03):
They get mad?

Speaker 3 (42:04):
Now, I know you don't get mad because I know you,
and what you just said is a lot like.

Speaker 1 (42:08):
I don't get mad. I so you know what you
just don't understand, right.

Speaker 3 (42:11):
But the level of intensity and authority in your voice
that you just showed on the podcast, I know that
that's exactly how you talk to these people. And I
can imagine the personally. The other in the line is
just like, uh, okay, I'll turn and I'll turn and
I'll turn and know and do it yes, real quick.

Speaker 2 (42:25):
I believe you.

Speaker 3 (42:25):
And it amuses me greatly because I can only I
would love to have like a hidden camera on these
other people while they're encountering you for the first time.
But but like, really listen to what g said there.
I'm going to have you come in and lay this
pipe faster than you do it for me the way
I want it done, and it's gonna be free. Wait
what why would anyone do that? Well, because you know
you have a belief and what you're doing, and you

(42:47):
have an expectation that there's other people that are gonna
have that same belief, and so because of that, you're like, hey,
this is going to happen. And if if this person
saying no, I just haven't found the right person.

Speaker 2 (42:56):
The and it's not like hey, just give me stuff.

Speaker 1 (42:59):
Just just a little piece of context here for people
not familiar with the industry. I'm getting utilities to bring
power to my building. I'm gonna still pay for the power. Yeah,
and they I don't even own that pipe, right, But
a lot of times they make the customer pay for
the pipe because it's like, well, you know, we've got
a lot going on, right, and the infrastructure. Yeah, like, no,

(43:22):
bring me the power, right, this is a critical project.
Tell other people. No, you're not telling me. No, I'm
so amused right now. I'm just gonnna move forward. But yeah,
I love that.

Speaker 3 (43:32):
And like when you have that kind of X like
belief though, I just I think about how many people
are doing things in their life that when someone tells
them though, they just go, well, I guess it wasn't
meant to be.

Speaker 2 (43:44):
But honestly, you lap with do you really think about that? Man?

Speaker 3 (43:47):
Like, I mean, we have thousands of people that listen
to our podcast, and my heart like, I like that
for the definite.

Speaker 1 (43:52):
That's the definition of passivity. Yeah, you just let it happen.
And just by the way, just drop this one in
here for you. There is one king in the Bible
that it says that this king angered God more than
any of the other kings before him. And what angered
what Ahab did that angered God was his passivity. So
just so you know, passivity offends God.

Speaker 2 (44:14):
Look it up, all right, So look it up.

Speaker 3 (44:17):
Gee, Well, let's let's die then, So I want to
I want to highlight some areas where we see this
a lot for people and something you always say to me.
And I used to try and tell you that I
told you this and take credit for it, but I
realized Pastor Kee's been saying it for a long time
because I've always said I want to squeeze every drop
out of life. And so sometimes we'll be doing something
and I'll just and I'll be like, so we're gonna
go do this, and Gi'll just look at me and
go squeeze lemon.

Speaker 1 (44:38):
Now, since I was a little boy, Pastor Keith's been saying,
squeeze the lemon. And in one of my h it's
one of my favorite things in life. Like I got
so many great things in my life that Pastor Keith
gave me when I was young, and this was one
of them because I just saw somebody like what I
saw in Pastor when I was like ten, twelve fourteen
was somebody who just wanted all of it. And he's

(45:00):
the first person that I saw in life that was like,
I want all of it. And when you meet someone
like that, it changes you because most people aren't that way.
And so he would say, squeeze the limon all the time.
And there's a keynote that I do, you know, my
Unstoppable Team, you know keynote, my culture keynote when in culture.
But there's another one that I do called Unlock Your Superpower,

(45:22):
which is a little bit more just on the on
the motivational side. It's a lot less corporate. And one
of the things that I talk about my superpower, which
is perspective, and one of the perspectives that I share
at the end is squeeze the lemon. You've got to
just have this mindset about life that I want all
of it. You squeeze the lemon and you get some
of the juice, but there is juice left in the rhine,

(45:43):
and most people will die that way. They will die
with juice left.

Speaker 2 (45:47):
In the rhine.

Speaker 1 (45:48):
Just decide you're going to be someone. They're like, man,
how did you get seven glasses lemonade out of one lemon?

Speaker 2 (45:54):
I squeezed lemon.

Speaker 3 (45:56):
And side note, you may have heard Garrett talk about
keynotes because we had somebody to reach out. Recently, Garrett
is does do speaking for corporations. Fortune fifty corporations. You've
heard of like seven to eleven and other well known.

Speaker 1 (46:08):
Well some of my good friends from Oracle that I
appreciate all you guys that listen to the podcasts and
I love getting to be with them.

Speaker 2 (46:13):
So it's a black right.

Speaker 3 (46:15):
So if you're out there and you're like, man, we
need to infuse some life into our team, and you
are looking for somebody to come in and rock them
with some corporate speaking, email us at info at the
Impossible dot life and you can get more information on that.
All right, gee, So we're going to dive into it
and the five areas that we're going to talk about
our money, your health, family, marriage, and your relationship with God,
because these are areas that most people have and that

(46:38):
they're leaving stuff on the table. And before we do,
there's this great quote from a guy on the podcast
Modern Wisdom. We both enjoy that podcast, Chris Williamson from England,
you know, and this is the quote that was attribute
to him. I think is so wonderful. The magic you're
looking for is in the work you're avoiding. And if
that is not a nice concise way to talk about, hey,
you're leaving it on the table.

Speaker 2 (46:58):
That's it.

Speaker 1 (46:59):
So as we jump in, I just want to again,
give a give a recap. Here's the whole thought process
I want you to have from today's episode. Right, it's
better math, and like it's time to start multiplying your
equations in life instead of dividing them. Friction in your life,
and friction is passivity. Friction is a weak mindset, it's

(47:19):
a wrong thinking, it's a lack of understanding of principles.
I could go on and on and on about all
the different frictions in your life, and it's hurting your math.
You're getting poor outcomes. What I'm saying is just like
in the speed cost quality equation, I can actually go
faster and not change the cost or the quality because
I know we are not at maximum efficiency yet. Now
there is there is a limitation point where I would

(47:42):
say I can now it is now we can't go
any faster without increasing cost or quality. But most people
never get to that point and they accept these false
limitations where it's like, well, the only way that my
finance was could get any better is if I just
made more money. Now, your finances would get better if
you made more money, But there are other ways. The
only way that my marriage would get better is if

(48:03):
I just you know, didn't work as much now that
it Maybe if you spent less time with you spend
more time with your wife, your marriage would get better.
Maybe if you're not doing the right things, it might
not make anything better. But there are also other ways
to make your marriage better. So let's jump into these. Yeah,
talk about some examples of where maybe you could just
be a little more efficient.

Speaker 3 (48:23):
Yeah, I mean, and money was the first one we
put on, and you kind of talked about a lot
of people to say like, oh, if I made more money,
be better. But I think if a lot of people
made more money, they would just spend more money too.

Speaker 2 (48:31):
And there's stats out there that.

Speaker 1 (48:33):
Show this, Like you, hey, listen to listen to Dave Ramsey,
Like it blows me away. When I listen to these
people that call in that make like fifty five grand
a year and have like three hundred thousand in the
bank account, own three rental properties. I'm like, good for you, dude.
And then it blows me away. When people call in
they're like, you know, I'm you know, me and my

(48:54):
wife's income is four hundred and seventy five thousand dollars
and we have like half a million dollars in debt.

Speaker 2 (48:58):
It's like, what what you're doing?

Speaker 3 (49:01):
Bro?

Speaker 1 (49:01):
Right, there's some really poor efficiency happening. So just imagine, right,
just take an example, let's walk through this for just
a second. You have you operate on no budget. You're
just you know, willy nilly. If if it swipes, then
good and uh if it doesn't swipe, then it means
I need to make more money. Yeah, that's yeah, that's

(49:22):
probably not a good way to live. But if that's
where you're at, we could get We could without increasing
your income, we could begin to increase your level of
finances by well, if Garrett just follows you around and
says like, hey, save more money, right, save save your money.
If I just follow you around every day and hey,
save your money, save your money, save your money, well,
you would make a lot better choices. Now, there would

(49:43):
be stuff that you're like, I know, I need to
save money gear, but I have to put gas in
my car. I need to Okay, I broke the handle
on my Toolet I need to buy a replacement. Like,
there'd be things that you have to do. There'd also
be things that you stop spending on and that would
help you a lot and if we could get to
the very end of that, it's like, all right, I've
I've cut out all the nonsense. Well, but I still

(50:05):
would like to increase the level of my finance. Well,
well then we can say, well where where maybe some
areas where we could you know, you're paying for this service,
do we need that level of service? Or you have
you're subscribed to four different you know, video services? Do
you need all of these services? Or you've got two
different you know, PDF accounts ones seven dollars, one's thirteen dollars.

(50:26):
You're paying for the same thing twice. Maybe we could
cut some things out, we can continue to get more
efficient in that way. There's there's multiple levels that you
can start to go through in your finances before you
just get to the point where you start saying, oh,
I got to just make more money. You can increase
your budget. You can increase your not just budget for
a month. You can start thinking about how do I

(50:46):
budget over a year? Where do I want my money
to go to? And again I'm just saying this is
an example of financial management, financial control, stewardship. If I'll
be faithful with the little I got, then I'll get
more Because right now, maybe the worst thing for you
is you making more money. Yeah, think about that. God's like, man,
I'd love to give my son a promotion, but he's

(51:07):
such a dingus with his money. I'm not going to
unlock him yet. Yeah, just like I. And it's such
a great quote for this episode today. The magic you're
looking for is in the work you're avoiding. The magic
you're looking for isn't in you making more money. The
magic you're looking for is in you managing your money better.

Speaker 2 (51:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (51:24):
And then when you make more money, that making more
money will be a multiplication for you, not a worst division.

Speaker 2 (51:31):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (51:31):
And you said something in there, as you often do,
in like one sentence, that I want to pull out
because it's this is a massive unlock you talked about
maybe you need to have a budget for more than
just a month. Maybe you need to budget for a
year or beyond that. That is where I think there's
a lot of the work that you're avoiding. Because the
first thing I asked somebody when they say they can't
afford something, I can't afford the tithe that I go,

(51:52):
do you have a budget?

Speaker 2 (51:53):
Oftentimes it's no.

Speaker 3 (51:54):
Now sometimes people be like, yes, I do I'm like, okay,
well is your budget for month to month? Because think
about but if you only have a month to month budget,
what are you saying that you're committed to living. We're
committed to living month to month and paycheck to paycheck.

Speaker 2 (52:06):
When you want. If you want to get out of that,
create a plan that's a budget for how do I live?

Speaker 3 (52:11):
There are things that happen in some months that don't
happen in other months. Christmas jump Christmas jumped up on
me this year. Jee Yeah, but like that's that's real.
So so budget for a year and then and then okay,
well that's okay, I've got the whole year.

Speaker 2 (52:23):
Now could you budget for five? Could you budget for ten?

Speaker 3 (52:26):
Because think about what you could do if you had
very intentional focus with ten years worth of savings. Like
everybody wants to get whatever ten years of savings would
be for you. Let's say it's one hundred and fifty
thousand dollars, Like everybody wants to just have that lump
sum right now. Well, unless you have a business or
you have some some stroke of luck, you're probably not
going to get that lump sum.

Speaker 2 (52:45):
But I'll tell you what you could do.

Speaker 3 (52:46):
You could plan for to get to that point and
what you would do with it, and if you know
principles of money. And at some point I do want
to have somebody on here to go into money more.
I've got someone in mind. I think that would be helpful.
But but I wanted to pull that out because that's that's
the work you're avoiding, and that's where you start to
tap into the ninety percent, because now you're not just
committed to, hey, I'm gonna live paycheck to paycheck or
you know, month to month, and you start going longer term.

(53:08):
Where I learned this massively recently is in health, in
particularly in lifting weights. Shout out to my man, Cody mcbrew. Cody,
I give him, I give him credit all the time.
He taught me shreds hulhan, shred shred this, Oh hulahan
is Cody McBroom. I, as you know, Garrett and I
are still competing with Norm. We finish up Praise the
Lord in nine days. I can't wait to be done.
But I am actually I am getting very lean and

(53:29):
Cody has made it a very scientific I said, no losers,
yah winner, one winner, and so but what what Cody
taught me is the term reps in reserve, And what
that means is it's the as he puts it, the
no lies what you actually have left in the tank
at the end of your set.

Speaker 2 (53:47):
So if you sit down, you do four reps of eight.
This is where I was.

Speaker 3 (53:50):
I would be like, Okay, I'm gonna do four reps
of eight, and I was working on the tonal, so
I'd like, whatever the tonal says, I'm just going to
do it now. Sometimes you put up that first set
of eight and you're like, oh, I feel great, and then by
the time the fourth comes, I'm like, yeah, I still
feel great. That is what's called having a lot left
in reserve. And what he told me is he started saying,
if you're doing four sets, the first one you have
three in reserve, the second one that you have two
reps in reserve, third one you have one, and the

(54:11):
fourth one you have zero. You know what zero reps
in reserve looks like.

Speaker 2 (54:15):
GE means.

Speaker 3 (54:15):
I questioned if I was going to be able to
actually get that up or if I was going to
have to if I was at the gym, I would
need a spot or to step in because I was
basically gonna choke myself out for me at home in
my tonal what this looked like is like my wife going, hey,
are you okay? Because my muscles are on fire and
I'm grunting out like legitimately going like bah, like to
get that last set, and I can't wait to press

(54:36):
the button and turn the weight off because I'm just
like man, that was like you faced out.

Speaker 2 (54:41):
Do you know what happened?

Speaker 3 (54:42):
I did the same four sets at eight You know
how much more I got out of those? How much
more my muscles began to grow? How much more my
strength began to grow? Because you can do the same
exact thing but with a completely different mindset, and you're
leaving so much on the table. And that's a really
simple physical exercise to understand. But like when you start
to understand and reserve, you can still You don't need
seven hours in the gym. You need a really, really

(55:04):
focus forty five minutes to an hour where you understand
what you're doing.

Speaker 2 (55:07):
It's kind of like one of the primary inputs in
the principle of growth is change. If nothing changes, then
nothing's going to change. It's exactly right. You have to
change your level of effort. If you want your chance,
you want to change your level of strength. You have
to change your level of effort if you want to
change the amount of muscle that you have, and you
got to want it all. We've said it a lot
on this podcast.

Speaker 3 (55:24):
We've kind of talked about it without actually saying it,
like that is one of the prerequisites if you want
to be comfortable.

Speaker 2 (55:30):
Forget this whole podcast.

Speaker 1 (55:31):
Hope is not a multiplication. Hope is an encouragement, right right,
So what I'm what I mean by that is you
doing your standard four sets of eight and then hoping
things will get better. Not a good strategy. Not a
good strategy.

Speaker 3 (55:46):
Non family ges What does this look like in family?

Speaker 1 (55:49):
So I think there's a lot of a lot of
ways that you could try and maximize efficiency in your family.
But let's just talk about family and marriage together here
for a second. I think can in marriage. A lot
of guys get stuck in their marriage and like, well,
my marriage just is what it is. Who was on
Instagram yesterday dropped a fat comment on uh on on

(56:12):
on Bradley Martin's uh page. Just there was a there
was a woman on there talking about, you know, she
didn't want any kids and I maybe I'll be I
hope my sister has kids and I'll be an aunt
and you know, I'll get to enjoy their little lives.
And then quote, I'll give these demonic soul suckers back
to their mom.

Speaker 2 (56:32):
Wow.

Speaker 1 (56:33):
Nice. Yeah, and uh, because all I heard on her
video was I and I just commented on there and
I said, if you want to live a miserable life,
make it all about yourself. There's a lot of support
on there. So it's a lot of I got a
lot of comments, a lot of hate on there, and
I just, you know, I just laugh at that stuff.

(56:53):
I don't respond to a lot of it. And this
one girl sent me her long justification of why she's
made the life choices that she's mad, and I just
clicked on her page and oh, this is all her
bio said. It is what it is. It's great to live.
And I felt the sympathy that I have for a
blind person right when they're falling down. A lot of

(57:14):
men will look at their marriage and they're just like, well,
it is what it is, and that's not true. There
is pesser Kesse a great template for marriage. I love
it's the way that I lead men I do a
lot of marriage coaching.

Speaker 2 (57:26):
One on one.

Speaker 1 (57:27):
Right, I talked to the man. I help the marriage.
I don't need to talk to the woman. I just
need to talk. Maybe the woman's got some problems. That's okay.
I'm just going to talk to the man. And I
can just tell you men, there is so much more
for you in your marriage if you'll decide not like
how do I get hurt to change? What else is
there in me? This is I could go along on it.
This is Ephesians. How Ephesians teaches on marriage, how the

(57:51):
responsibility on a man is different than the responsibility on
a woman. But unless a man can look me in
the eye and say I've reached my ultimate I've been
become everything that God has created me to be, then
you haven't maximized your marriage. And I promise you. I
promise you. If you have a millileter of intimacy in

(58:12):
your marriage, when your wife sees you give all that
you have for your marriage, when your wife sees you
give all that you have for God, when your wife
sees you leave nothing on the table, I promise you,
maybe your wife did nothing, your marriage will get better.

Speaker 3 (58:29):
Yeah, and highlight for the limitation factor on this is
that it's it's shown to you all around. Hey, we
love sitcoms where the man's an idiot and the woman's
really smart and they fight all the time, but hey
they're still in love. Or hey, you know what, all
my other friends have the same problem. This is this
is how marriage is. You were literally accepting what we
highlight earlier, the low standard of limitation.

Speaker 1 (58:48):
Interesting hot take on that really quick. Okay, not a
hot take. Interesting take. Andrew Tate talks about he thinks
that the down at the beginning of the downfall of
America was the TV show Friends, Wow, because it's these weak,
passive men, yeah and all and all living together with women,
and the whole show is just like the beginning of

(59:10):
hookup culture and the change in gender roles and men
aren't men and women aren't women. Like he has a
he has a strong theory on how Friends at the
beginning of the downfall.

Speaker 2 (59:21):
I think that's probably reflection of his age.

Speaker 3 (59:23):
I think I'm a little older than Andrew Tate, and
I would I would point to show like Married with
Children with Al Bundy, where he just sat with his
hand literally he'd have his hand in his pants and
be like, okay, pig and he was an absolute loser.
And his daughter was hot, and like she would come
in looking all hot, and like, you know, she would
have all sorts of bad relationships. And his wife was
just you know, doing what she was going to do,
and he was just sat there on the couch because

(59:43):
that that was funny.

Speaker 1 (59:44):
And just because some of you need to hear it,
I'm not endorsing Andrew Tail. He misses the mark a
lot of the time. What what Andrew Tate is both
literally and figuratively, is he's a fighter. And so he
thought that's where he developed any success in his life.
And he fights against things that he thinks are wrong
and so whatever, occasionally he'll fight the.

Speaker 2 (01:00:06):
Right things, right.

Speaker 3 (01:00:07):
Yeah, And so I mean, so I understand what Garrett
said that you're leaving a lot on on the table
through your thought process. Same thing in family, you know
how I think this shows up in family. G people
will go when we I've got kids, now they're twelve,
ten and six and when they were real little people like, oh,
enjoy them now because when they get older. And this,
I mean this is not like one person that's said this.

(01:00:28):
This is like five people and me and my wife
were adamant. We've always had this attitude that we're going
to enjoy every single phase that they're in. Now is
there's some trials that are happening right now as my
oldest daughter is entering into hormonal teenagers one hundred percent.
And when I say trials, I don't mean like, oh
the other day, I mean like the other six and
eight months and like we're still in it. And but

(01:00:49):
like I'm this is part of growing. I'm not mad,
this is this is my job as a parent to
help mold my kids.

Speaker 2 (01:00:55):
And you know what's happening.

Speaker 3 (01:00:56):
Actually she's going from I'm a kid and everything is
just about fun to like, I'm starting have more responsibility. Well,
we're not naturally wired to work. You have to learn
how to work. That was something Rob said on our podcast,
is like you have to learn how to work. We're
learning that in our family. And guess what, it's not
all it's not all sunshine and roses. But that's where
you have to have this thought process of It's like
I'm not gonna sit there and go like, oh when's

(01:01:17):
this going to be over? Or oh man, this is
just you know, just these hormonal teenagers. No, this is
part of their development, and you know, I'm going to
enjoy it because you know, what I still have with
my with all my kids that I'm very proud of
and I always intend on having, is a really close connection.
We love being around each other. We have a relationship
that's that's a bond of love and trust. They know
that I'm for them and that I'm always on their side.

(01:01:37):
And so if you have this thought process of like, well,
you know, these are the good times, and I better
enjoy them because there's going to be times when they're not.
You are accepting limitation and not seeing what's actually possible.
Because I look at like, you know, you said, your
parents said that they always wanted to have you guys
want to be around them, and that's what makes your.

Speaker 2 (01:01:53):
Definition of parenting success.

Speaker 3 (01:01:54):
And that, well, I've adopted that much like I've adopted
your parents, and I literally that's what I aim for
all my kids that all the time, like, I hope
that when you're older you still want to be around me.
That would be the greatest mark of for me as
a parent. And so all challenging your family, don't accept
the limitations of busyness, the limitations of work, of money,
pressures to be to take away the core of wanting

(01:02:15):
to be together as a unit and loving each other
and enjoying each other in all stages, whether the person's
being lovely and wonderful and their best at the time,
or whether they're showing you the worst side. You love them,
you stay close with them, you hug them, and you
keep going and you keep speaking. This is the best
season of our life. And guess what, and then you
go make it happen. That's the importance of family. Anything

(01:02:35):
you want to add their g very last one, and
we left it last. Because I really want people to
grasp this is your relationship with God. I'm going to
I'm identifying some of the obvious limitations. I think for
a lot of people when they think about the relationship
with God, they're like, well, I don't you know, man,
I haven't been as good at my Bible reading, and
actually I don't have that much time, and I'm trying
to find time to be consistent, and like, what I

(01:02:57):
really need is I need hours of no distraction.

Speaker 1 (01:03:00):
What you really need? So I hear that when people say, like,
how do you do it?

Speaker 2 (01:03:03):
Right? I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:03:04):
I just get up in the morning and spend a
few minutes with God every day. Now I don't. I'm
not like, you know, four hours in my Bible.

Speaker 2 (01:03:12):
I can't.

Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
I have a lot going on. But what I have
been is consistent in my life, right, and that's where
you're going to grow in your relationship with God. I'd
be like trying to date a girl and it's like,
all right, I'll next month, we'll go on a seven
hour day.

Speaker 2 (01:03:26):
Awesome, Yeah, that's that sounds fun.

Speaker 3 (01:03:29):
But like, but that's a lot of people's thought process,
and so they think, Oh, if I could just get
like you said, a long period of time with where
it's just so so isolated and focused.

Speaker 2 (01:03:38):
And no distraction.

Speaker 3 (01:03:40):
You need to bring God with you to your quote
unquote distractions. That's the actual secret of walking with God
and getting closer with Him is that you don't have
a sacred secular divide. I read a book that Pastor
Josh recommended, called The Practice of the Presence of God's
by a guy who's been dead for one hundred years
called Brother Lawrence, And the main takeaway that I would
have from this This was a guy who was known
for the God. He said that God would never be

(01:04:01):
far from his thoughts if he was sweeping the floor
because he was a monk, or if he was sitting
there like setting up for service or whatever he was doing.
He said he always had God at the foremost of
his thoughts. And I just think it's so simple.

Speaker 1 (01:04:13):
The Bible says, pray ceaselessly. Yeah, pray without ending. That
doesn't mean like you're on your knees all day long praying.
It means be prayerful, be considering of the Lord, keep
your mind on him and every single thing that you're doing.
So my hope for today's episode is that this is
a reminder that this is an encouragement for you to
squeeze the limit, that there's more life for you. Stop

(01:04:35):
doing bad math decide. God has a great plan for
my life. I'm going to be a great steward. I'm
going to do all that I can and when I
do make mistakes, because you'll make them when things don't
go my way, because sometimes they won't that I'll learn
from those things and those are opportunities for me to grow.
God is a great plan for my life, and ultimately
I'm going to see everything that God has for me.

Speaker 3 (01:04:59):
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Speaker 2 (01:05:07):
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Speaker 3 (01:05:08):
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Speaker 2 (01:05:18):
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Speaker 3 (01:05:19):
If you want to get in touch and find out
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Speaker 2 (01:05:25):
Go out there and think better and live the impossible.
See you again soon.

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