252. The 5 Excuses That Will Make You Average

In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Garrett Unclebach and Nick Surface pull back the curtain on what it truly means to live ALL IN — not the motivational cliché, but the biblical, practical, and battle-tested reality. They show you the 5 most common and popular excuses that people buy into that keep them from going all in.

Most people think “all in” means going 1000 percent every day. Garrett and Nick reveal why that mindset burns out more men than it builds. They break down the two true ingredients of being all in:

• Level of Effort (time and energy)
• Level of Commitment (belief and discipline)

Through stories from the Navy SEAL teams, leadership lessons from business, and biblical parallels to marriage and faith, they explain how men can hold fast to the mission even when motivation fades.

You’ll learn:

• Why effort alone will never make you successful
• The “Big Five” reasons commitment breaks down
• How to lead yourself and others when your leader or plan isn’t perfect
• The power of trust, belief, and consistency in every area of life
• What it really looks like to be a man who finishes what he starts

This episode is a gut-check for every Christian man who’s tired of half-hearted living and ready to commit to the process, not just the feeling.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
I want to say, like God, I'll win wherever you
put me, and if you put me here, it must
be for me to win. And maybe that win, maybe
that win just looks like me learning a lesson. Maybe
that win actually is, you know, the type of success
that I've been chasing after. But if you start saying
I can't win here with a bad leader, you're saying
two things. One, you actually won't succeed in a business

(00:22):
or financial sense. But you're also saying I can't learn
a lesson here either. Only when you decide to believe it,
to trust in God and say God, your way is good.
I'm going to trust you no matter what. Will you
learn the lessons, and only when you do that can
you win.

Speaker 2 (00:36):
That's impossible. Let me tell you what. I believe your weakness,
it is not your technique.

Speaker 1 (00:44):
Don't think you know you the.

Speaker 2 (00:48):
Impossible Life Podcast. I mean, yes, sitting on a winning
a lot of.

Speaker 3 (00:51):
Second, an idea that is fully formed, fully understood, that sticks.
This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I
are attempting to live impossible lives. What we know is
that nothing is impossible. So instead of using impossible as
an excuse to not try We'll use the pursuit of

(01:13):
impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been
done before, that just means it's unexplored. If they tell
you it's too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified.
Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling
to take a risk.

Speaker 2 (01:32):
The real truth is this.

Speaker 3 (01:34):
The solution to any impossible task starts with this question,
if I had to what would it take? What would
it take?

Speaker 2 (01:45):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across at
a man so official he has a certification declaring he
has an excellent sense of humor. That's right, friends, Jared uncleback,
a man certified in weapons, titles of nobility, baptisms, and comedy.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
I figured that would find its way on here at
some point.

Speaker 2 (02:09):
That sometimes you just feed me, yo, Look, if you're
gonna put one over the plate, I'm just gonna hit
it out. I'm sitting there yesterday, just you know, having
myself a nap. I wake up. I'm like, oh, Garrett
text me, I know he's having a busy day. I
didn't expect to hear from him, Let's see what it is.
It's just a picture of a certificate saying this is
presented to Garrett uncle Block that he has an excellent
sense of humor, and he just said, let it be known.

(02:31):
So like this was some certificate you got.

Speaker 1 (02:33):
In middle school, man, like middle school, but you held
on to it, like I was putting away Faith's birth
certificate came in, so I was like putting that in
the essential documents folder. And in the essential documents folder
was another folder all these things my mom gave me, right, okay,

(02:55):
from when I was a kid, and I was just
looking through there for a second, you know, report cards
and all that, and then found this certificate.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
Yeah, which that amused. Just the fact that you have
that amuses me to no end, especially because like I
know that you I believe that you can be funny,
and I have seen you be funny. But I also
know that the reason was the time. Yeah, and your
sister has told me that you were actually, you know,
quite quite as you would put it, the silly goose
back when you were younger. And I also know that
a big reason why that doesn't come out is because

(03:22):
you see far more uses for other things like inspiring, challenging.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
Locked in for the last twenty years, right.

Speaker 2 (03:27):
But officially it has been recognized along with once again,
I also pointed out it let it in your office.
You only put up important things. There's no certificate of
completion of buds. There's no SQT or like you your seal,
there's nothing like that. However, there is a title of
nobility that your wife bought online making you a lord,
and your baptism certificate, which I just found interesting that

(03:47):
the things that you might need to put the certificate
of excellent sense of humor up there just so people,
just so people know how well round you are. Well, gee,
I know that you're not all in on humor, but
you are all in on some other things. That is correct. Yeah,
you're all in on a lot of other things. And
that's what we're going to talk about today. And as always,
I'm very much looking forward to getting into this because
I think all in it's such a I think it's misunderstood.

(04:11):
It's massively important. And we're gonna break this down because
as you always do, you applied your mathematical like I
can put things into categories and simplify them brain which
I really enjoyed preparing for this one. I think where
I started to challenge myself during this podcast about whether
I was all in. Like I was feeling pretty good
about how I was growing and developing. And early on

(04:32):
we had Nate burk Alter in and he talked about man, yeah,
we love Nate, go back and listen to that limits Nate,
no limits, Nate who's now not limited and has a
family of four and is rocking it.

Speaker 1 (04:42):
Nate and typical overachiever style, you know, got married and
had twins, and like, yeah, year in.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
A year there he went from being Hey, we're eighty two,
let's get married, We're gonna have two kids. Boom, well
done Nate, and love Nate, Love Love, They're doing amazing.
But I remember he talked about being all in, and
he talked about how he literally he left his light
his life at the time, like he left a very
safe job that had a career path that most people
would think would be amazing, and he went on and

(05:09):
just went all in on becoming a ninja warrior. And
I remember coming out of that episode, I was questioning
myself about whether I was all in and so like
we all love these stories, everyone like We've heard the
story of you know, Sylvester Stallone, and we've talked about
on this podcast before about what he went through to
make Rocky Colonel Sanders. How like in his sixties he
started what is now known as KFC. Love that story.
Michael Jordan, you know what I mean, like skipping class

(05:31):
to go practice basketball. Tom Brady, you know six draft pick.
David Goggins, Like David Goggins like you just got to
work out all the time forever.

Speaker 1 (05:39):
Yeah, that's I think that's really that is the picture
of what people think all In is.

Speaker 2 (05:43):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
I give all the respect to David Goggins, but that
is what people think that all In is just like
I'm going to go as hard as I can. I'm
gonna get up at I don't get up at four
in the morning. Losers get up at four in the morning.
I wake up at eleven pm the before and just.

Speaker 2 (06:01):
Yeah, it's our man, Billy, It's our man, Billy. O
Allisbrooks grind. I run a marathon before four am. I
ran a marathon before the marathon just to you know,
just to make sure it was gonna be hard enough
for me. Yeah, it's it's that thought process and it's
totally like that, it's kind of broken. It's just, hey,
I'm just gonna be all about this all the time.
I don't do anything but this. And so like we're

(06:21):
gonna get into that because logically, if you look at
stories like Tom Brady, like Sylvester Saloone and David Gog
I mean, I'm Elon Musk. You could look at there's
so many stories about people who just really went in
on things. It's like, well, why don't we all do that?
Because it's like, clearly it works out, But then there's
always the story of the person that didn't. And so
there's this battle that we have because the question I
would ask for people that are sitting there is like

(06:41):
what are you actually all in on? Cause, like, you know,
I sit there and when we were talking about this,
you and I were talking about our marriage, we were
talking about I mean, we're all in on the kingdom,
We're all like there's things that we could go through,
But like, what do you really all in on? And
do you actually define what all in is? So we're
gonna dive into that. We're gonna break that down, but
I would challenge you to really think about that as
you listen to this and then coming out of it

(07:02):
to assess yourself.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
Because a lot of people have a romantic idea, yeah
for sure of what all in is. They know that
it's you know, they see it in the movies. They
know all in is the recipe for success for them.
But don't confuse all in with just grind right, And
I think that's what a lot of people can think
all in is that it's just I wake up at

(07:25):
four in the morning and chug a Rockstar energy drink
and I make three hundred sales calls all day long.
And I do that, you know, three hundred and sixty
five days a year. Yeah, I work on Christmas. Yeah,
that's really not what all in is. So we want
to define some of that today.

Speaker 2 (07:40):
Yeah, because I mean you said, gee that people have this,
there's something pulling on them. What you said when when
we were preparing is that deep down people know that's
what's required them to achieve massive success or victory. They
want is to be all in. But they confuse all
in with level of effort. And so we've broken down
all in to be two things. It breaks down a
level of effort and level of one of your favorite

(08:01):
quotes that you always use, g whenever you talk about
this is Patrick LINCIONI. It says, if you can get
everyone in an organization rowing in the same direction, you
can dominate in any industry against any competition at any time,
which is a massive statement. I mean to think about that,
and to think about where you you know, if you
wherever you work, imagine if you had that sort of

(08:22):
level of belief in everybody and you actually had that
same thought process. I mean that kind of that's kind
of an exciting quote, but at the same time, it's like,
how many people are actually experiencing that.

Speaker 1 (08:32):
It's a huge if, right, if you can get everyone rowing.
And to me, this is you know when I talk
about all in because this really is one of my
favorite things to talk about. I was saying to Nick,
I think this is one of my superpowers is that
I've never been the guy who had the greatest level
of effort. I've never been the guy. I'm not the

(08:52):
David Goggins guy. I'm not the super talented person you
know that just has massive physical ability or whatever. But
where I looked at how do I win in life?
Is really what it comes back to. Biblical hold fast,
and this is something that God valued greatly is can
you obey my commands and can you hold them all

(09:13):
the way to the end. This is what God is
looking for. This is what leads to great fruitfulness and success.
And so just in looking at what commitment actually is, commitments,
you need to go hard at times in your life.
We've talked about this before when we talked about winning philosophy,
that you have to work hard. That's not why you win, right,

(09:35):
you have to give a high level of effort. But
that's not what commitment is. Commitment is holding fast to
the end. Commitment is to give yourself to something fully,
just like you commit in a marriage. You're not saying, well,
let's see, let's try this hard for a little while
and see if it bears fruit, and if not, we'll
just bail out on it. Right. Commitment is to stay

(09:56):
with something all the way to the end, even through
thick and thin, just like a marriage. Val says for
richer or for poor, for in sickness and in health
and good and in bad, whatever season you're in, here's
what I'm going.

Speaker 2 (10:10):
To do right. Okay, good, So so catch that level
of effort and level of commitment what we're saying is
to be all in, you need both. But we've broken
them down further because you might be going, okay, yeah,
the marriage analogy, and we've also taught we've also got
the big five for destroying all in and we're gonna
get into those. So let's start first with level of efforgy.
We said level of effort is time and energy based,

(10:31):
but you touched on it right there that you're not
like maxed out all the time right now.

Speaker 1 (10:35):
You can't if you think success like the people who
win in life are the people who are just on
level of effort one thousand all the time. Right time
is finite, energy has some level of finiteness. You can
only give so much of your time and energy to
a thing. And that also puts you in this category where, yes,

(10:56):
you do have to choose in life, but it puts
you in this category of limitation that's not actually real where,
because think about it, is the gap between you whoever
you think the greatest achiever in history is right, and
I'll just let you insert whoever that person is for you.
I won't I won't give you one. But whoever you

(11:16):
think one of the greatest achievers in history, is is
there that big of a gap between yours and their
level of time and energy? I think about who I
think some of these great achievers are. Yep, they put
a lot of time in and they put a lot
of energy in. But is their time and energy that
different than mine? No, I actually don't think it is.

(11:37):
I don't think that is the secret sauce. I think
it's just what's required. Right when you look at like
agriculture that grows, it all needs water. It's not going
to grow without water. But is the water that grows
those crops different than the water that's growing mine. There's
other ingredients involved in the equation, So time and energy
is only part of the equation. Level of effort is Yes,

(11:59):
you have to give a lot, but that's not why
you're going to be great. It's not why you're going
to be successful.

Speaker 2 (12:04):
Yeah, that's so good. You know, it's funny that you
say that, because I don't think a lot of people
put consideration into that. And the Steve Jobs video we
referenced recently, I did post it in our story, so
if you miss that, it was him talking about wanting
to be with a players And what's so interesting is
he starts off the video by saying one of the
things that he looked at or that he thinks about
a lot, is is the max disparity between between in

(12:27):
between people? And he said he thinks the most is
two to one. I think he said between most things.
Actually it wasn't just people, it was most things. He said,
it's like the level between the worst and the best
is at most two to one. And he was saying
for a lot of people, it's really it's probably more
like anywhere between ten to thirty percent of difference in
like talent or intelligence or whatever it is. It's it's
not like a massive exponential Think.

Speaker 1 (12:49):
About your average dude like that, not even average sub
average guy you know, does a four hundred meter in
like two minutes or two and a half minutes, right right?
I mean, gosh, can you walk? I think you can
walk a four hundred meter in like four minutes? Right, Okay?
If that's like your best And then the fastest guy
in the world runs a four hundred and I think

(13:09):
like forty six seconds or forty five seconds, yeah right,
so okay, maybe four times better than you. But how
come some people achieve hundreds and thousands? It's different than others.

Speaker 2 (13:20):
Yeah, and that's I hope you wrestle because that's I mean,
it's an interesting thought problem.

Speaker 1 (13:24):
Hey, you need you need the time and energy you've
got to put in a max effort. And one of
the things I was talking to Nick about as it
relates to just the effort piece is tactics. When you
get your tactics right in life, they will tell you
what level of it like, it's actually one of the
when I teach tactics, I teach one of the a's,
and tactics is applicable, and there is an applicable level

(13:46):
of energy and effort, right like when I speak to
my wife, like, you need enthusiasm, Enthusiasm is great. We
should actually do a podcast on enthusiasm. Is one of
the things I've been thinking about that, right.

Speaker 2 (13:56):
I'll put it in my notebook.

Speaker 1 (13:57):
When I speak to my wife and when I speak
to my children, there's a level of effort right somewhere
between zero and one hundred that is required for me
to get the certain message across. Every message that I
give does not need to be at level one hundred volume.
Every message I give does not need to be at
level one hundred enthusiasm. It also doesn't need to be

(14:20):
zero enthusiasm or zero volume.

Speaker 2 (14:22):
There is an.

Speaker 1 (14:23):
Applicable and appropriate level of effort, level of energy that's required.
And this is also when you have poor tactics. By
the way, just to tie these together for a second,
when you have poor tactics and you don't understand that,
you'll think the only thing that anything works is you
just go as hard as you can. Yeah, well, you,
I mean, this is like a level one blacksmith, right
has zero finesse and just like a big hammer and

(14:45):
just thinks, oh, I don't you just hit stuff?

Speaker 2 (14:47):
Yeah? Well, I mean the analogy you gave when were
warning up that made a lot of sense to me
was it is like there's time to jog and there's
time to sprint. Like on insertion. For you guys at
the seal teams, you weren't sprint like we're gonna sprint
ten miles.

Speaker 1 (14:58):
Yeah, will fly in on a helicopter, you know, insert
after dark sometime around eleven thirty. Time on target's gonna
be like one thirty in the morning or you know,
two in the morning, and uh, we don't like from
helicopter insert point to the target. Just sprint there.

Speaker 2 (15:13):
Right, just walk fast right, as you said, it's a
power hike, which which makes sense. So so capture that
time and energy is gonna be required. It's your level
of effort is one hundred percent required. So we're not
downplaying that, but we're not. That's also not like if
you put in a one thousand percent effort every day,
it's not a guarantee of success. That's and that's what
we're saying because here's the really interesting part. And this

(15:34):
is the level of commitment. And we defined level of commitment.
So if level of effort is time and energy based,
level of commitment is belief and discipline based. And this
is what you talked about, the hold fast element of
really being able to kind of stick with the plan.
I mean, I look at you guys on the seal teams.
That was every guy in there was giving everything he
had for level of effort, but the level of commitment

(15:55):
to be able to keep the belief. Like you said,
I just decided I didn't want to have.

Speaker 1 (15:58):
Full effort right was required and they had screened for that. Yeah,
people that would give like all of themselves, but that
was that was not the primary ingredient in our success, right,
it was really the preparation and for our missions, the
preparation through our training that led to all these other
areas of really what all in means. Besides, Like I'm

(16:22):
not saying that effort is not a piece of all in,
but it's like the first ingredient r right, Like if
you want to grow some crops, you need some water.
If you want to start a business, you're going to
need some effort. You're gonna need a little bit of time.
But it is one of many ingredients. And I think
where people miss it in all in because what the formula,

(16:44):
the all in formula? What what the cookies that come
out of that oven? They are the chocolate chip cookie
dough of success, right, Like if you want what all
in produces, But level of effort is just one of
the ingredients.

Speaker 2 (16:56):
Yeah, So as always, I said, gee, let's define this.
Like we go in there and I I feel like
I prompt your brain. We discuss things, we talk about
all sorts the way we I enjoy our process for creation.
And so Garrett was I don't know if he was
looking off into the sky, but he just said, Commitment
is the ability to maintain objective course effort and discipline
from beginning to end. Wasn't that just nice and simple, man? Like,

(17:17):
that's all you got to do. Just keep doing exactly
what you said you're going to do well for how long? Forever?
Like so you know that's what all it is. Oh,
it's that easy, let's just all do it. But like
this is where people break down.

Speaker 1 (17:29):
Well, man, I can't tell you. I could tell actually
I could tell you, but there's a list of things
that make me really frustrated. And this is on that list.
Right when people miss this part the level of commitment
that's required to actually get an objective done. Now, Nick
has been with me in business ventures. Nick has been

(17:52):
with me and in places like Mighty Men Camp where
I'm really trying to teach guys lessons and I'm like, hey,
I want you to go do this, and then when
they don't do that, and they come back to me
and like, oh, well I just thought and like, if
you want to make Garrett choke you, like, that's a
good Like you I gave you instruction and then you

(18:15):
came up with your own instruction, right, that is not
what I asked you to do. And I'm not saying
that I'm God, because I certainly am not. But this
is one of the things that frustrates God as well.
He's like, I gave you my law and you did
not find made it. It was very clear to you
what I had. There was no there was no confusion
in what my law meant. There was just your lack

(18:35):
of commitment, your lack of follow through and what was
asked of you. And so what you've got to understand is,
if you want to get the all in recipe, it's
this definition. It's the ability to maintain objective course, effort
and discipline from beginning to end. Notice efforts just one
of the ingredients in there. And really these other things

(18:55):
are what will pull down your effort, and we're going
to talk about them here in just a second, because
a lot of people think, like, man, if I could
just max effort, I would be successful.

Speaker 2 (19:04):
If you actually could.

Speaker 1 (19:05):
Go out and max effort for a thousand days in
a row, it's likely that you would succeed, but not guaranteed,
but it is likely that you would succeed. But the
thing is, most people they go out with that dream
of max effort no understanding of the other pieces of
all in, and as soon as they start struggling in
these other areas that they're unaware of, it pulls down

(19:27):
their level of effort and they fail or quit. Yeah,
this is why I love doing the difficult things that
we do, like the mountain climbs at altitude the law,
We're getting ready, we're gonna do a fifty mile and
in March we did. We've done one hundred miles.

Speaker 2 (19:38):
Because I don't like, you don't get to face this,
this process of like this is what we're gonna do.
We're all enthusiastic and like, oh man, I'm beginning to
question why even started this in like a twelve hour period.
This happens over months and years in actual life. I
love doing those things because it's like I'm gonna give
myself a really intense rep in what happens in life,

(20:00):
but I'm gonna compress it all into twenty four hours. Yeah,
and that's what I love it. That's why we do
what we do. Because I had, like, I was thinking
about how bad I felt on our last mountain climb,
and I was like, man, I love that because I
had to face a part of me that I don't
get to face because I'm pretty good on the most
part waking up day to day and being like, I'm
gonna get after this today matters, But like, how do
I get myself to the point where I'm like, I
don't want to do this at all. I don't feel

(20:22):
like I can and I'm starting to wonder if it's
even possible for me to get up there at the
time that I need to or whatever it is. Oh, buddy,
take hold of the thoughts. I love it.

Speaker 1 (20:29):
It makes it so much more fun when we're on
the clock.

Speaker 2 (20:31):
Well, your dad doesn't think so, but like the rest
of it, for me, I enjoy that. Okay, So gee,
you said that commitment breaks down, and because like the
level of effort, there are a lot of people out
there that figure that part out before we before We'll
jump into pieces in just a second.

Speaker 1 (20:47):
But it is like, there's one more example. It's like
in a marriage. Okay, when you know our friend Aiden's
gonna get married today.

Speaker 2 (20:56):
Garrett is actually officiating his weddings. So by the time
this podcast comes out, Garrett will have married an. If you're.

Speaker 1 (21:04):
If you are a silly person and want a silly wedding,
don't ask me to the guy. But if you take
this seriously, and you really understand that this is one
of the most important decisions that you'll make, and you
are making a vow in front of God and everybody,
then maybe you want someone who's equally serious in their commitments.

Speaker 2 (21:25):
Well, I gotta say it the last time. Yeah, I
did too, the last time you officiated way, and I
was not invited, which I did not take any offense to.
But I'm actually very much looking forward to the intensity
and ferocity with which these vows will be exchanged tonight,
so that that in and of itself is an entertaining
factor for me.

Speaker 1 (21:39):
It should be. Well, certainly, the wedding is not about me.
I'm just there to guide the bride and the groom
through the process. But a marriage should be both a
display of strength and warmth.

Speaker 2 (21:52):
You take it seriously, I do. You're You're not going
to go in there and be like, oh cool, I'm
doing that. You're like, no, I'm not here to make jokes. No,
this is a man to get me started. That's like
such rabbit hole right now. But that stuff pisces me off.
Your certificate of humor will not be on this notably,
not like people think that their marriage is about like
we're here to entertain people, or we're going to make

(22:13):
something funny or pretty for the gram, Like that's why
your marriage will be terrible. Okay, well, can't wait for tonight,
you're ready. But it is.

Speaker 1 (22:21):
But commitment is like in it's like in a marriage. Okay.
And I want to use this as an example because
it is like one of the foundational examples in the
Bible for commitment that is analogous to all these other
any other type of commitment that you want to make
in your life. When I got married, I said to
my wife, like, here's what this means. Right. We defined,
we determined, here's what here's what this commitment means, right

(22:46):
for sick, for insigness and in health, and all all
the good and all the bad pieces of marriage. We
set that up. Okay, regardless of these things. Then I said,
here's who I'll be, right.

Speaker 2 (23:00):
That's it.

Speaker 1 (23:01):
I didn't say I'm going to do this and you're
going to do that. I can't control that. I said,
we've agreed on what this means, and here's my end
of the bargain. Yeah, I will. I will give my
best to you. I will stay with you no matter
what I will love you no matter what. That is
what I'm going to do. And here so to commit.

(23:21):
When you look at the definite, we kind of give
our own definition of commit But the first definition in
Webster's eighteen twenty eight dictionary about commitment involves trust, right,
and that like you are giving of yourself and submitting
of yourself to something that you can't control. And in
a commitment, I can't control everything, but I can control me.
And that's that's the part of this where people struggle.

(23:44):
It's when I talk to corporations about this. I see
teams with such a lack of all in because you
have people on the team who are like, well, you
know I, you know, I know Tim's not going to
give his all in, So what's the point of me.
Given mind, we already got dudes on the team who
can't row. So like, if you know, if I give

(24:05):
my best effort, it's just a waste. I tell people
it is one of the I consider it one of
the greatest treasures in life. But behind, like above it
is marriage and seeing your children be born and things
like that. But right up there with some of the
highest treasures in life is to be a part of

(24:25):
a great team to where like we could only do
this if all of us give our very best. No
man could do this alone. But if all of us
give our very best, we could multiply. There could be synergy.
We could have what Aristotle called synergy, where the sum
of the parts is great, the some of the hole
is greater than some of its parts. The one plus

(24:46):
one equals three is one of the greatest things that
you could ever be a part of. But a lot
of people they'll never get to experience because every team
that you are on, you are a detractor and you
don't realize it. You think that like you're just way
for like I'll when the good team shows up, I'll
be an a player. You'll never be an a player.

(25:07):
A players are the people who say, you know what,
I'm gonna help everyone else here. Be an a player,
you have to have the thought process of if it's
going to be it's up to me, the Henry Ford,
whether I think I can or I think I can't,
I'm right. You got to be someone who says, you
know what, and regardless of the perfection of the other
side of this commitment, I know if I give my best,

(25:28):
it'll bring them along. In the process. You got to
be someone that when you join the team, you say,
you know what, I'm going to make the team better.

Speaker 2 (25:34):
I'll give more than one hundred percent.

Speaker 1 (25:36):
I'll give my one hundred percent, and then I'm going
to go help the guy on my left. I'm gonna
help him figure out how I give his hundred, and
help the guy in my right help him figure out
to give his hundred. And I'll keep giving my one
hundred even though it's not paying back return on the
one hundred, until I help everyone else figure out their piece.
And if you'll decide to have that type of commitment,
whether whatever it takes, not just well, I'll give my

(25:59):
max effort, but as soon as it doesn't have a return,
I'm done. If you'll decide I will do whatever it takes.
If you will be a if it's going to be
it's up to me person, that's where you'll truly see
the fruit of all in. So let's talk about some
of the places where commitment not effort, but where commitment
breaks down.

Speaker 2 (26:15):
Yeah. I love that, and we're gonna we're gonna get
to what this looks like for you as an individual
and the team. But we're also going to give you
a hidden but obvious key for what underlies all this
because you're going to see it. So Gee, there's five
we called them the Big five of what breaks down
commitment and number one thing and I is lack of
trust in the leader, right, that's I think it's so easy.

(26:39):
I think about all the different companies I've worked with
in my career. What I always say, it's if it's
hard for people to actually think, who was a great
leader that you've worked with? That's short. That's short list
I've worked with.

Speaker 1 (26:49):
At this point, I think I've worked with over one
hundred different companies or organizations that either I've can like
if I just started making my list, teams I've been
a part of, teams I've led, and teams I've coached
and consulted with over one hundred teams on some level
of organization that I've worked with, and my list of

(27:13):
leaders that I'm like, that is an admirable dude, Yeah,
it's on it's on one hand.

Speaker 2 (27:18):
Right, Yeah, I mean I've I've worked plenty of good ones.

Speaker 1 (27:21):
Yeah, but and I've seen plenty of like frustrating, you know,
bad players with one great skill set. I've seen lots
of those of the ones where I'm like, man, like,
everyone on that team is blessed because that guy there's leader.

Speaker 2 (27:34):
That guy is their leader one hand. Yeah, and I
would agree. I've been consulting for nine years. I think
now I've one of the great things about being a
consultants you work with multiple companies at once. So like
if most people are like, oh, in my course of
my ten year history, I worked for three companies, I'm like, yeah,
I did that like the first half of last year.

Speaker 1 (27:49):
It's like doing a research paper for you because it's like, well,
I'm working with seven different teams at one time. Well,
this guy's not that guy, and that guy's exactly right,
doesn't have it gives you a great lens.

Speaker 2 (27:58):
Yeah, and I've I've been doing that for nine years,
so I've got a lot of comment and it's the
same thing. I you know, I'm not there to consult
them on their leadership, but because of who we are
and what we do, I'm always aware of it. Because
people have this thought process in marketing are like we
just got to get the marketing right. I'm like, if
only that were true, you know, But like that's honestly
a lot of people's attitude.

Speaker 1 (28:16):
Well, this is by the way, I'm just going to
go ahead and fill in the blank for you guys.
If you didn't figure it out, these ways that commitment
breaks down, these are called.

Speaker 2 (28:26):
Excuses, right.

Speaker 1 (28:28):
And one of the excuses that people give for their
lack of commitment is like, our leader is not a
good leader.

Speaker 2 (28:34):
Yeah, it's not just so you know, not a.

Speaker 1 (28:37):
Valid excuse, right, because that is one of the things
that you can't control and what underpins all of this. Okay,
if you are going to decide to live a life
based upon what you you can live based on what
you can control, how's that working for you?

Speaker 2 (28:53):
Go try it.

Speaker 1 (28:54):
You will be more miserable than before, and you will
wonder why the things that you do just never really
work out the way that you want them to. I'll
tell you the reason they don't work out is because
you told God I got it all figured out. You've
got to decide to invite God into your equation. Yes,
And you invite God into your equation when you say God,
I'm going to be responsible for what I can control,

(29:14):
which is like these three things, and the rest is
up to you. He says, Well, glad you understand now, son,
And when you invite God into your equation, you say, God,
I'm submitting to you, I'm going to commit to you
all these other things. I believe that you have a
plan for my for my life. I believe that you've
put me in the place that i'm in, not for

(29:34):
everything to go well for me, but for me to
learn from this situation. And I know that ultimately, what
the situation you have me in, you call it good,
whether it's good for me, good bye, worldly definition, good
by whatever metric. I know that it's going to be
good by your kingdom definition. Right, That's what I know
is going to be good. And so when you have

(29:56):
a lack of trust in the leader and that allows
you that you allow your commitment to break down because
of that, what you're saying is God, you can't overcome this, yeah,
and keep it or you're just control based and you're saying, well,
I can't overcome this, which I think is also kind
of weak.

Speaker 2 (30:13):
Right.

Speaker 1 (30:14):
You remember the time I challenged you on somebody that
you were leading, never forget it, and you said, and
you were, you know, you weren't quitting, but you were.
You were telling me why it's not going to work
because of this other person. And I said, I just
want you to think differently about your situation, because what
you're telling me is that you're limiting your leadership. I
can only lead if I have these types of people.

Speaker 2 (30:34):
But do not be a.

Speaker 1 (30:35):
Person that like you start making the list like your
control metrics for success. The shorter you make that the
I mean, the longer you make that list, the less
you'll succeed in life. You've got to decide, I mean,
you've got to define for yourself that you know what,
I can win, even if I don't have a great leader,
I can win. Some of the first lessons I learned

(30:55):
in my life and I don't know, I mean I
could put together some of the pieces of my story,
some of the ways that God made me, some of
the teams that he put me on. But one of
my first like big lessons on commitment here was learning
how to win with you know, the movie The Little Giants.
What a movie right back.

Speaker 2 (31:16):
In the day.

Speaker 1 (31:17):
Yeah, winning with the team of rejects. I don't know
if like just watching that movie as a kid had
an impact on me, but I ended up on multiple
teams like that before. And I love the story of
that movie. These kids are a bunch of you know,
underdogs and literal you know, rejects and glue eaters, but
they figure out how to make it happen. Why because

(31:37):
they get united that they have they have a common
purpose and a common goal. And I've been a part
of a couple of teams like that, which I was like, man,
this is so much better than being on the Triple
A team. And so what you've got to realize is like,
I don't want to have a list of all the
things that I can't win with. I want to I
want to say, like God, I'll win wherever you put me,

(31:58):
and if you put me here, it must be for
me to win. And maybe that win, maybe that win
just looks like me learning a lesson. Maybe that win
actually is, you know, the type of success that I've
been chasing after. But if you start saying I can't
win here, I can't win here with a bad leader,
you're saying two things. One, you actually won't succeed in
a in a business or financial sense, But you're also

(32:20):
saying I can't learn a lesson here either. Only when
you decide to believe it, to trust in God and
say God, your way is good. I'm going to trust
you no matter what this this leader is a loser,
and I'm going to give all that I can and
and I know that you've put me here for a reason.
Only when you do that will you learn the lessons.
And only when you do that can you win.

Speaker 2 (32:39):
Yeah. Man, there's so much, so there's so much greatness
in what you just said. Just understand a couple keys summaries.
You're not going to have a good leader like, by
and large, if you do, like, you're the bonus. Yeah,
you're in the You're in the category. You're in the
small category of people who've like received a large financial
inheritance exactly from from their parents or from a relative.

(32:59):
If you have, like, I'm not knocking good for you, right,
Like you know what, I didn't get them and give
it to my kids. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (33:06):
Right, You're in a very small category of people. And
what is on you is Luke twelve forty eight two.
Much is given, much is required, hundred percent. If you
got a great financial inheritance, you better do something with it.
If you got a great leader, your team better be
winning for sure.

Speaker 2 (33:19):
Now and g said that focusing on the uncontrollables is
a great way to be miserable. And you said you
can only control three things. I just want to remind
you because you didn't say those three things. But thoughts, attitude,
and actions. Yep, that's what you got. Outside of that,
there's you can't control anything. So just make sure you
know that your thoughts, your attitudes, your actions. Okay, So
commitment drops because and by commitment usually that commitment is

(33:40):
tied to the level of effort because you stop believing
the leader and now you have an excuse for you
to pull up. Also, lack of trust in the plan. Man,
I can't see how this is going to go anywhere
this guy. First of all, this guy is terrible, and
then look what he's asking us to do. This makes
no sense. And look, I'm not like I'm not throwing
stones from my glasshouse because I've been there. Where I'm going,
what are we doing? Like, especially when you know what's

(34:00):
supposed to be done, Like as a consultant, a lot
of times I'm like, I've been here, I've done this,
I've seen this. You are making these mistakes. I'm telling
you that you're making these mistakes. You're ignoring the advice
I'm plowing ahead because of whatever reason. So it's easy
to be like, well, this plan is not going to work,
and now I'm gonna pull up.

Speaker 1 (34:15):
This is one of the ones I would say on
this list, they all frustrate me, right, this one really
frustrates me. Okay, there's a question when I talk about
this one corporately, there's a question I ask people when
I'm talking about tactics. And then I'll ask, I go,
who thinks who knows the difference between strategy and tactics? Right?

(34:39):
People kind of just look at me, and then I go,
who thinks strategy is more important than tactics? And like
five percent of the audience raises their hands. Who thinks
tactics are more important than strategy? Five percent of the
audience raised their hand. And who has no idea what
the difference is? Everyone else in the room right raises
their hand. Let me tell you what the different is between

(35:00):
strategy and tactics and how this relates to the plan.
Strategy is knowing what to do. Tactics is knowing how
to do it. Okay, strategy is your leader says take
that hill, and tactics is you get this courageous NCO
that gets up there and he says, yes, sir, and
he says, here's what we're going to do. And he says, okay,

(35:23):
Squad A is going to move to this position, Squad
B is going to move to this position, Squad C
is going to move up the center right like the
Here's how we're going to do that. Strategy is take
the hill. Tactics is knowing how to take the hill.
And one of the greatest strategists in military history is
General Patten. If you study World War II history, General

(35:44):
Patten was known as this. There were many battles lost
in World War Two that the men said, man if
Patten had been here, we would have won, like he
just it was seen as though he just always knew
what the enemy was going to do, or he knew
how to thwart. He led much of the campaign in
Europe like he just knew, he knew how to like

(36:04):
because at the beginning of the war, the Nazis with
the blitz creatre just blowing everybody away, and Paton got
wise and figured out how to play their game, and
they just man if Paton had been here, he would
know what to do. And that's strategy. He knew what
the right moves were. And here's what Patten said on strategy.
Patten said, good tactics can save the worst strategy. Bad

(36:27):
tactics can destroy the best strategy. So this is a
man who is known as the great strategists where all
the people say, man, if we just had the right strategy,
we could win. And what his response to that is, No,
it's about your level of execution. If you guys have
bad tactics with my strategy, you'll lose, right, And he
says you can. You can take great tactics with Commander

(36:50):
Ding Dong strategy and you guys can still win. It
comes down to level of execution, not how great your
plan is. And I have seen this over and over
and over again. That's why simple plans typically win because
people can just understand on them, understand them, and execute
on them. And so if you struggle in your commitment
because of a lack of trust in the plan, you

(37:12):
are the problem. You're the problem because the plan has
a greater chance to succeed if you'll just believe in
it and give it all that you have. If you
are someone who knows what's wrong with the plan, like
welcome to the club. Right, We've all got our ideas.
I can't tell you how many plans I've been a
part of in my life. I am a natural born leader.

(37:34):
I can say that at this point in my life,
like God made me to lead. There's been a lot
of times in my life where I'm not the number
one guy and I'm looking at the leader. I'm like, man,
like you're retarded, I know what to do. You have
no idea what you're doing, You have no understanding of principles.
You are walking into this with fear and insecurity and
whatever else. And I could just say, like, this is

(37:55):
a waste. I'm not going to put my time into this.
And you know what I've said, I've said, you know what,
I'm gonna make this stupid plan great plan because I'm
going to get everyone believing and how great this plan is.
And we are going to charge up the hill in
reverse and still take the hill. Right.

Speaker 2 (38:08):
Yeah, I mean this is I think there's so much
in that. Man. The tactics and strategy is such an
interesting one because for most people, if you think about
whether you're a business owner or just in your personal finances,
strategy spend less than you make Okay, great, right, I
mean because that's where people everyone knows that, like, hey,
I should if I spend less than I make, I'm
going to be in a great position. Well, now here's

(38:28):
the tactics. How do you do that? And that's where
most people fall down. And I want to make that
point because it's like that is that is the power
of you know, we all want to follow the person
who has the growth hack or the seven steps to
do exactly how you want or exactly what you want
to do, because we struggle on the tactics and so
that really is it. I mean that that lack of
trust in the plan. I love what you said there, man,
I don't feel like I just wanted to point that

(38:49):
out to give people an idea where they this happens
in their own life. Next up, though, is lack of
belief in the team. G This is this is number
three of the big five.

Speaker 1 (38:58):
This is this one is common among high performers, among
A players. They will start to say, you know what,
these other guys they're not like me, right, and I'm
just gonna get mine. I'm gonna make sure I don't
get shot. I'm gonna make sure I get my awards
because these guys on my left and right are losers, right,

(39:19):
And it's short sighted. If you're somebody who thinks like this,
I just want to tell you you're short sighted and
your thinking you will go further with a team, then
you can go by yourself, whatever team you're a part of,
right like it. Sometimes you can go further in the
short term if you just you know, bail out on

(39:40):
these guys, like these guys are worthless. They're worthless for now,
but you couldn't go further in the long term, and
you'll develop yourself more, you'll learn more lessons.

Speaker 2 (39:50):
Think about if.

Speaker 1 (39:51):
You could take the business that you're a part of
and instead of start thinking like and stop thinking how
do I be number one on the sales board, and
start thinking how do I get us and how do
I get our business into a category of sales that
we've never been in before? Right, Like, maybe number one
on the sales board for you right now means you
make three hundred grand a year, and that's great, But

(40:12):
what if you took your business to the next level
and you start to open up multimillion dollar opportunity for you?
And that's not something you can do by yourself. You've
got to decide looking at the guy on your left
and your right. This is It's one of the lessons
I've talked with Lindsey many times about. It's a conen,
A constant lesson for me in my own life is

(40:33):
if you hold people to the expectations that you hold
yourself to, you will live your entire life frustrated.

Speaker 2 (40:41):
I can't do that.

Speaker 1 (40:42):
I can't ask people to be who I am, do
what I do, think the way that I think, and
not that that's perfect, it's just my expectation of myself.
I can't do that. What I'm constantly trying to get
people to do is just move one position up the
pyramid in the motivation pyramid. Just decide today I'm going
to do more than I did yesterday. I don't have

(41:04):
to get you in a day or in a moment
to commit to like I'm going to Edmund Hillary Everest
with my life. I can't do that, and I'm not
trying to do that. But what if I could get
you to just believe that you could go a little
bit further. Because here's the way that I look at it.
Every one percent effort that I can grow of a
team member is a multiplication of the entire team. It's

(41:26):
more than one percent. Right. If I can get this
one person to row one percent further or one percent harder,
I know that that also has an impact on all
the other members of the team, and I'm cutting out
their ability to divide my efforts and to divide other
people's efforts. It is and by the way, Scripture calls
this some of the greatest fruit of the Gospel. It's

(41:49):
called unity. If you guys can all be in unison,
that is the great fruit. And this is it's one
of the things that I talk about when people ask
me about like government related things or conspiracy related things,
and they think like, oh man, they're all like against us.
I was like, here's what I know. Satan can't do.

(42:09):
He can't do unity, right. He can't get all of
these people very good to all think the same thing.
Here's here's here's why his plans always fail because every
person that he recruits onto his team is really all
about themselves, and so he can get them to destroy themselves,
but it's very hard to get them all to work together.

Speaker 2 (42:26):
And it's some of the great fruit.

Speaker 1 (42:27):
Of the Gospels that we could all work together, and
so you've got to decide that's the team that I
want to be a part of. And to be a
part of a team that has unity, you have to
be someone who sows unity, not so's discourse.

Speaker 2 (42:38):
I feel like we're basically giving the five keys to failure,
like these are the five most Seriously, we're basically saying, like,
these are the five most common reasons people fail, and
they get They get people all the time. Because next up, man,
we talked about this one a lot. Lack of focusness,
focus or awareness. Those first three are are their heart issues.
They're external, They're like external focused.

Speaker 1 (42:58):
I think, yeah, this next one, so number four, lack
of focus or awareness. I have mercy for this one
for a while, right, not for forever, right, because I've
only learned this because I've had good teachers, and so
you've seen me have, like Nick, sometimes been surprised at

(43:18):
my mercy for people's lot.

Speaker 2 (43:21):
A lot of times I have been, I'll say.

Speaker 1 (43:23):
Because what I've realized, and sometimes when people make mistakes,
I'm like, they just they really don't know. I'm gonna
teach you, and you better learn, right, and if you
if we have this problem again, there will be less mercy,
but I actually have a lot of mercy for I'm like,
you just didn't nobody told you, Yeah, you have an
I'll just say for people that don't know, there's an
uncommon warmth in the way that you deal with people

(43:44):
like I know you well, and it's like you take
on a very caring, understanding side that I don't think
people would would attribute to you. And that's and that's
that's what that looks like when you're in those moments. Well,
we'll come back to that in a second. I think
it is one of it's one of the keys to
great commitment. But uh, what frustrates me on this one
and I don't want to just be the this is.

Speaker 2 (44:06):
What grinds my gears to get it? Well, it's because
it's one of the.

Speaker 1 (44:09):
Things I care about the most, and I think it's
one of the it's one of like my success tools.

Speaker 2 (44:15):
You're all in, so why it would be it would
be odd if you it didn't bother you that when
the reason I figured it out all in is because
it was one of the things that made me mad.
And that's why it's.

Speaker 1 (44:24):
Like some of my FIGN fingerprint, it's pastor Keith talks
about because like you want to know, like what your
special is.

Speaker 2 (44:30):
Yes, it starts with the stuff that really pisses you of.

Speaker 1 (44:34):
And so one of the things that really pisses me off,
I have mercy for the beginning is like a major
lack of focus or lack of awareness that.

Speaker 2 (44:41):
People have, right.

Speaker 1 (44:42):
And this is kind of what I was saying in
the beginning, where I'll tell somebody like, hey, this is
what you need to do, and then I come back,
like what were you doing? They're like, oh, well, I
just thought right like you were. You weren't thinking, You
were thinking about some random stuff, not paying attention at
all to what's happening around you, and you just ventured
off into La la land.

Speaker 2 (45:03):
Right.

Speaker 1 (45:04):
Focus is eliminating the distractions and maintaining a clear picture
of what is the objective. And so I understand this
is one of the things that I have to teach
people because they've never been taught this before. If you
don't know how to focus, how to get the right
things in view and remove all of the wrong things,
you are going to be so susceptible to distraction. If

(45:26):
no one has ever taught you what awareness is, which
is like literally to have a circle of awareness, to
have your zone of things that you're paying attention to,
not to receive all the information, but to receive the
right information. I don't need to be on every radio station,
but I do need to be on the one that
my team is on and be paying attention to it.
Whereas like some people are like I'm just trying to
I'm trying to listen. It's like, no, be on the

(45:46):
radio channel that we're all on and we're going to
speak to you respond right, Right, that's the awareness part.
I'm in focus understanding here's what the mission is, here's
what my commander says, here's what the word of God says,
and I'm going to focus on that, not all of
the other miscellaneous things attached to it. The simple analogy
that I give for this that makes the focus and

(46:08):
the mission focus really clear is it's like when you're
doing an event, the purpose of like there's this there's
a purpose for the event, and you have all these
plans that help conduct the event, but the mission is
not to conduct the plan. Right, Sometimes things happen and
it's like, Okay, the mission hasn't changed, but the plan

(46:31):
has now changed.

Speaker 2 (46:31):
Right If you are.

Speaker 1 (46:33):
It's like Eisenhower said, plans are useless. Planning is essential.
You've got to do the planning portion so that you
know when A happens, will do this, when B happens,
will do this. It's not to stick to the plan.
So like if you're doing a big an event or
a conference or whatever, the mission is not the itinerary, right,
But you have to make an itinerary, right, But that's

(46:54):
not the mission. The mission was to lead people to Christ.
The mission was a sales event. The mission was market capture. Right.

Speaker 2 (47:01):
The mission is not the itinerary. Very good. Yeah, so
that's uh.

Speaker 1 (47:05):
When people get focused on the wrong things, those become
mission killers.

Speaker 2 (47:09):
Yeah, and it's just a lesson. That's the lesson that
you have to learn. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (47:12):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (47:12):
I mean there's so much too that we talk about
how people can be distracted to death. That that thought
process that you gave of, Like, oh, well, I was
scanning lots of different radios. I think it's so interesting
that in the seal teams what they what they? I mean,
they screen for a lot of things, but from my observation,
one of them and even in basic training in any military,
like you say what you want about about any branch
of the military. They know how to train a wide

(47:33):
range of individuals based on intelligence backgrounds.

Speaker 1 (47:36):
They have simple, high standards and they hold them to
full like rigidness.

Speaker 2 (47:41):
Yeah, that's all it takes, right, and so what But
this is my point. What's the first thing you learn
when you go in. You're going to do your hair
this way, It's how you make your bed, it's how
you dress. Aka, you're going to learn to do what
you're told, which.

Speaker 1 (47:52):
Well, it's the high attention of detail. Yes, where like
you've seen me teach the f FI failure to follow instruction. Yeah,
they like if you tried to screen for the high
level things I did as a seal, like the training
program would be retarded. They would like they would actually
create a horrible product if they tried to screen for
some of the things that I had to be able

(48:13):
to do. What they screened for was like, can you
stand like when I tell you to come back here,
being the right gear is like even the tiniest little
string on your gear going to be correct? Can you
do exactly as I say? And if you can receive
instruction and follow it to the letter on time correctly,

(48:37):
I know you can do all these other things. It's
the same way that Jesus taught the Kingdom of Heaven
is like this, let me tell you a little baby story,
and if you can understand this, you can understand everything else.

Speaker 2 (48:48):
Yeah, and then what did he do. He took them
and he sent them out, and he gave them very
specific instructions. I was reading that story this week that
there's so many interesting things about Jesus sending the twelve
disciples out to go and I kind of almost have
a test run while he's still there. This is not
the point, so we will not get diverted into that.
Number five in the top five reasons for failure, as
I've now called this list, and is the lack of care.

(49:11):
And you were the first person that ever I remember
I was over at your house and we were going
through some and you're like, my level of care is low,
and I was like, what was there like an indicator
in your bionic brain that just told you that I
had no idea what you meant? And I and.

Speaker 1 (49:25):
I'm sorry, you don't have a dashboard with all your.

Speaker 2 (49:28):
Yeah, I did not get a heads up display built
into me by the Lord, But I you know what man,
I've used that term with other business partners and other
people now, Like I'll be it'll be four thirty on
a Thursday and I've had a crazy week, and somebody
will be trying for us to put together a big strategy,
and I'll say, hey, we need to come back this
because my level for care, my level of care for
this right now is low. You were the first person
to help me start to recognize when I go like, ah,

(49:50):
it's no big deal that that's never okay, yeah, and
this but this is such a normal thing. It's like, ah,
we'll just fudget it'll, it'll.

Speaker 1 (49:58):
You know, it's not don't don't do so with a
lack of care, it creates a very poor product. And
so either in like nixed situation where you can say
like hey we should pause, do that if you can,
and if you can't, if you're stuck, like we must
complete this now, you've got to be able to reset
yourself and and like zoom out, zoom back in real
quick on Why do I care about this?

Speaker 2 (50:19):
Yeah? Because I mean, well you said that this is
what this is where commitment breaks down. I mean, what
is that? What does that look like? I mean I
just I talked a little bit about it from uh,
I think. I think what it looks like is people
change their mind about how much something meant to them. Right,
That's exactly what it is. In the moment. You know what,
when we when we originally made this decision.

Speaker 1 (50:39):
Think purpose and standards, right, Okay, when the standard gets high,
people start getting tested in their in their purpose. And
if you didn't have some if you didn't have a
high level of purpose in this, you start saying, Oh,
it's not that big of a deal. You'll drag the
standard down, right, You've This is what I saw so often,
and guys going through seal training, guys said like you've
been preparing for for years and now in the middle

(51:01):
of hell week, you know, you say like, oh, I
just I didn't want to be a seal anymore. You
mean the dream you've had for the last seven years,
you just all the sudden decided this isn't my dream anymore. No,
you got the wind knocked out of you, and you
and you let that rob you of your care.

Speaker 4 (51:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (51:17):
And the reason all these guys struggle afterwards is because
they let they let this momentary lapse, just let them
make a decision that affected the rest of their life
because they come back to sobriety two days later and
they're like, oh my gosh, I just gave up the
dream of my life and I can't get it back.

Speaker 2 (51:36):
Yeah. That's gotta be the worst feeling in the world,
all right. So those are the five reasons there, so
once again, lack of trust in the leader, lack of
trust in the plan, lack of belief in the team,
lack of focus slash awareness, and lack of care. We're
gonna rap soon, gee, but I want to give people
the major key, which was so obvious. I hope you
guys are graspings. We're gonna paint a little bit more
of a picture of what it looks like to be

(51:57):
all in before we go, but capture this. Okay, look,
you're probably not gonna be lucky enough to have a
truly great leader. We already covered that. You're probably not
gonna be lucky enough to have all a players on
your team, or a vision so captivating at work or
other places that you just wake up and you can't
wait to get to it. If you get those things, man,
you are so blessed. But here's what we're saying to you,

(52:18):
are not gonna be put in the perfect circumstances that
you're in fact, you're gonna be put in circumstances that,
by all human wisdom, look like, man, this is set
up for me to fail. So here's the major key
for what this has to be. You have to believe
and you have to have your trust that God is
the one that's writing your story. If you don't have
absolute faith and trust that God's set up the game,
you know, the game that you're playing, He's made it.

(52:40):
If the days of your life, He's the one that's
written them. If you don't have this belief, then you're
gonna look at all the external factors around you and
you're gonna go, well, this isn't gonna work out. I
can see how this is gonna go. And I mean
this is Ephesians two ten. We are his workmanship, creating
christ Jews through the good works which He's prepared to
advance for me to do. What if you saw all
these challenges and terrible things in your life and realize

(53:00):
that that was the good work He's created you to do,
and that actually there's something that there's some lesson, there's
some goal, there's something that's gonna happen, some work that's
gonna happen because you're committed to being all in and
trusted in God. I mean Psalms one thirty nine sixteen,
which I love Psalms one thirty nine. I feel like
the more I go on and read that thing, the
more it just unfolds me. Palm one thirty nine and
sixteen says, all the days ordained for me were written

(53:22):
in your book before one of them came to be.
One of the perspectives I love to give to people
in the perspective I take is that the story's already
be written. I just get to kind of discover it
as I go along. So like this day, God's already
written it, So like, what what do I get to
discover now? We'd like to think that that's gonna be
the pot of gold and all the blessings. But truthfully,
like we're saying, you're gonna have a lot of reasons
that are gonna say, hey, you should stop, you should quit,

(53:44):
you should pull up, Like this ain't gonna work out.
Your faith is going to be tested. And as the
great philosopher Darth Vader said, I find your lack of
faith disturbing, like can we choose to be those that
are all in? So that that's the major key, because
it's so like we can make something holy like ah,
but at church, which I've got this great purpose, or
in this area of my life or my passion, that's
where i feel this great sense of purpose and I'm

(54:05):
all in. But I'm gonna mail it in at work
because man, all the reasons we just gave her, you
haven't met my wife, or man, you don't know my family,
or you don't know my background and all these things.
But if God's really in control, now you have a
different level of responsibility because now you're understanding what it
looks like to be all in and you can't just say,

(54:26):
oh yeah, but so I really hope that that's like
We've talked around it, but I wanted to just give
it to people bluntly. That is the major key for
being all in is you have to have your belief
and trust in God.

Speaker 1 (54:37):
I want to close this on this one scripture, Second
Chronicles sixteen to nine. The eyes of the Lord looks
to and fro to and fro searching for those whose
heart is blameless towards him. Or I would say whose
heart is fully committed to him. Yeah, whose heart is
loyal to him. God's not looking for the most talented.

(55:00):
God's not looking for the most capable. He's saying, who's
going to trust me all the way to the end.
It's like Patten said, it's not about having the best plan,
but it's about what's your level of commitment. You've got
to decide that you're going to be someone who lives
with the mindset of if it's going to be it's
up to me. God's just looking for one person. One

(55:22):
person can change everything, just like He sent his son
and it changed everything. All it takes in any situation
is for you to bring Christ into that situation and
you have the opportunity to be that vessel. Understand that
any team, every situation that you've ever been a part of,
and that you're ever going to be a part of,
it will be different because you're there.

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