October 27, 2025 • 50 mins
Most men think winning in life means avoiding failure — not falling into sin, not losing money, not messing up their marriage. But what if “avoiding bad” is the very thing keeping you from God’s best?
In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Garrett Unclebach and Nick Surface unpack the difference between living to avoid sin and living to pursue purpose. Drawing from Garrett’s Navy SEAL experience and biblical truths, they reveal why mission focus — not fear — is the foundation of greatness.
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In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Garrett Unclebach and Nick Surface unpack the difference between living to avoid sin and living to pursue purpose. Drawing from Garrett’s Navy SEAL experience and biblical truths, they reveal why mission focus — not fear — is the foundation of greatness.
You’ll learn:
- Why compromise is one of the deadliest traps for Christian men
- The lesson of the Commander’s Intent and how it applies to your life’s purpose
- How to identify when you’re playing life on defense instead of offense
- Why financial freedom, comfort, and safety are not the goal — and what to chase instead
- The mindset of obedience and greatness that aligns with God’s design
Join a group of likeminded Impossible Life listeners in our FREE Skool community by clicking here.
Sign up for the 2026 New Year's Day Ice Bath event here
Get the Purpose Playbook by clicking here
Get the FREE Basic Discipline Training 30 Day Program by clicking here
Join us in Mindset Mastery by clicking here
If you're a man that wants real accountability and training to be a leader, click here.
Level up your nutrition with IDLife by clicking here
GET IN TOUCH
Social Media - @theimpossiblelife
Email - info@theimpossible.life
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
But the commander says, hey, this is what we're doing,
and everything else are just things that get in the
way of that. And the commander's intent for our life
isn't to not sin. Sin gets in the way of
commander's intent. And what I see so many people do
with their lives is there they don't know what the
commander's intent is. They're focused on all these things that
(00:22):
could be interruptions to the commander's intent.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
That's impossible.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Let me tell you what I believe.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
What's your weakness. It's not your technique.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Don't think you know you the Impossible Life Podcast, I mean, yes,
sitting on a winning lottery.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Second, an idea that is fully formed, fully understood, that sticks.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I
are attempting to live impossible lives. What we know is
that nothing is impossible. So instead of using impossible as
an excuse to not try, we'll use the pursuit of
impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been
done before, that just means it's unexplored. If they tell
(01:11):
you it's too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified.
Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling
to take a risk. The real truth is this the
solution to any impossible task starts with this question, if
I had to, what would it take?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
What would it take?
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man who obeys scripture to the letter and as
such will never get a vasectomy. That's right, friends, Garrett Auckleback,
a man who knows that to be fruitful and multiply
requires bullets in your gun.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I'm not doing it. Not doing it. I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I don't want to, you know, start us off, you know,
be mature rated at the beginning of the episode. But
I don't know why. It's just become culturally acceptable. And
I'll say this as like PG as I can to
make these types of augmentations to your body, because like
it just you know, it's actually kind of lends into
one of the points we're gonna get to later. But
(02:18):
there I've just got like this, there's some stuff right
Like when I was eighteen, I was like, you know what,
not going to college. Everyone's going the wrong direction, right,
I don't know, I don't know why. I know, but
that's not the right thing to do. And you know,
vasectomy is just one of those things from and you
know what, maybe I'm just weird, but I just feel like,
I don't know, it doesn't seem right to me.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Yeah, I've I've had the same take on it before
I knew you like and I. And it wasn't like
it wasn't the pain. It was not a hot takes
episode by no, this was I wrote it. I wrote
this intro for Garrett. It like came to me the
other day and I thought it was hilarious and I
was like, I don't know if I can use that.
And then I was just like, you know what, I'm
gonna send it out there and we'll see. We'll see
what happens with it. But you you feel strongly about that.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
I do. I actually feel very strongly about it. Right.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
That's probably for a whole other episode. This is not
the point today. We're supposed to be fruitful and multiply, right, Yeah,
Well this is gonna be Father Abraham here, You're gonna
be having kids in your ady, God bless Lindsay. Anyways,
so today is bad versus best, which is kind of
odd that I started with the second me intro because
you know, I didn't link the two. But anyways, you know,
(03:21):
like this, I'm telling you this episode stay with us
if you're like, oh, I can't believe they had that intro,
because we do get the odd comment from people. I
think most of you like the humor at the beginning.
We always get the odd comment from somebody going like, you,
guys shouldn't do that, and we're just gonna keep doing it.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Now there's you know what, if you're more serious than me,
you might should go down.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Yeah, yeah, I mean, first of all, I feel like
I'm holding up the flank on how serious I's gonna say. Yeah,
if Garrett can get behind them, anybody should be able to.
But so, but this episode is gonna have a lot
of unlocks for people. I think this is gonna hopefully
elevate some people's thinking as to what they're looking at
and the aim of their life. Because here's here's where
this this stems from. So Garrett and I grew up
(03:58):
in Christian church, and as a lot of people I'm
guessing listens to this, and even people, you know, if
you're new to church. For a lot of people like,
you've really nailed it. You're quote unquote a good Christian
if you can you know, not masturbrate or look at porn,
you can not swear, and you cannot steal. You know, like, man,
you're crushing it, dude.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
I heard you got rid of.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
All this stuff I heard in which so many conferences
and youth conferences. Yeah, you know, as a young Christian person,
and that was like, those were all the topics and
you know what you do need to I do think
it's important, especially for youth, to like put guard, put
strong shard rails down for them in life. But if
I was trying to lead a bunch of teenagers, I
(04:39):
would make it very clear to them, like the same
way you do do a young per like to a toddler,
don't run in the road, that's how you die. I
would also, you know, highlight for some young men, don't
you know proverbs don't sleep with prostitutes, it will ruin
your life. I do not go in this direction, but
what I would give to them also is this is
(05:00):
where you're supposed to run, right, not all the places
you're not supposed to go exactly, Spend more time talking
about what you're for than what you're against.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Yeah, so good, because here's the thing that you have
to ask, because I think people get hung up on sin,
and we've talked about this in Mindset Master, I think
we've talked about it on the podcast. But like, sin
will will cause a lot of myst to come on
your lens, Like you're not gonna see it, says Blessed
with the pure and heart, for they'll see uh, they'll
see God right right, And that that's like that kind
of lets you know, the more pure you become, the
(05:29):
more your relationship with God grows closer because he's holy
and he can't sin. So the point is not to
not sin, it's that that becomes gone so that you
see God more clearly, which is actually the point is
that we're supposed to walk with God. Because if your idea,
like think about this, if sinning is, if not sinning
was the whole point of creation, then God did a
horrible job because for some of us, we're like, man,
if you could just not sin, that would be the ultimate.
(05:51):
It's like would it?
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Though?
Speaker 3 (05:52):
I feel like that would not be the ultimate because
if God wanted to.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
If God didn't want sin, he had just been it
has just been the God show.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Right, you would have just been like, cool, I can
make it happen because I'm God, or I just want
to make everything I want to make. Don't need y'all
didn't need our help. Right, And if you're like, okay,
that's a good opinion. There was a guy named Dietrich Bonhoffer,
which if you don't know who that is, look him up. Incredible.
They made a movie about him recently, right, Yeah, so
that probably helps a lot of people.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Like many of the movies. Movie is excellent, but it
doesn't tell.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
The whole story.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Right.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Yeah. The book is better.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah, everything in there is great. There's just so much
more about him.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
It's like when Avatar came out. You know, I was
really looking to read the book. Okay, anyways, that's a
deep cut. Only Garrett'll get that one. But to n lindsay,
but being a Christian is like Avatar. It's from It's
from Parks and rec For everybody else out there, it's
we love that show. Keep going anyways, Dietrich Bonhoeffer said
being a Christian is less about avoiding sin than about
courageously and actively doing God's will. I love that, by
(06:48):
the way, read that in Cody our Man, Cody Bobe's
Silicon Warrior three six five devotional. Recently, we get nothing
for this. If you're looking for a great devotional, get
that book man. When Cody was on here, I read
it every day. I've been reading it for I don't
even know now, four months. Every single day is just absolute,
like godly manly fire for your soul to go out
there and like live a today matters life because you
(07:10):
get quotes like that and then you get a little
writing in a prayer. But like, think about that, being
a Christian is less about avoiding sin than about courageously
and actively doing God's will. So here's what we're going
to do. We're going to show you what bad verse
best looks like, and we're going to give some very
specific examples because we hear that and we're like, yeah,
I agree with you, but there's so many ways where
(07:31):
we are just avoiding bad and it seems like, actually
not that that would be the best. And so this
is going to be a little bit of a spotlight episode.
So I mean, gee, this is I feel like I
need to just kick this over to you, because you
know what it is to live a life where one
hundred percent of your life is about a mission, and
you've carried that outside the Seal Teams and you're still
very mission folks. I think it's one of the things
(07:51):
that God's given you to speak to people about.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Actually, one of the might have had something to do
with this. It's actually one of the values at Union.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Huh coincidence. Mission focus. A mission focus is understanding what
is the primary objective. One of the things that is
one of my takeaways from the Seal Teams. Seal teams
don't own this is like military process, but it's my
I experienced it through the Seal Teams is when you
begin a mission, you get what's called a warning order,
(08:21):
it's a statement or and we call it commander's intent.
Are Colonel Grossman who was on with us, so we
talked about commander's intent a lot and also makes a
lot of spiritual connections to that. But the commander says, hey,
this is what we're doing, and everything else are just
things that get in the way of that. And the
(08:42):
commander's intent for our life isn't to not sin. Sin
gets in the way of Commander's intent. And what I
see so many people do with their lives is. They're
not they don't know what the commander's intent is. They're
focused on all these things that could be interruptions to
the commander's intent. Well, I want to i want to
make the commander happy. I'm trying to not get in trouble.
I want to not sin, I want to do all
(09:04):
these other things. Know, what you are supposed to do
is the commander's attempt. What is the primary objective? All
of your focus should go in this direction. And the
more you focus on the primary objective, all these other
distractions actually eliminate themselves.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Right.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
If you're when you're not focused on the commander's intent,
When you're not focused on the primary, primary objective, that's
when you fall into all of the mission killers.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
The more clearly.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
You see what the mission is, the easier it is
for you to look at these other things and say
that just gets in the way, right, No, that's what
sin is. Sin just gets in the way of the mission.
If you're not focused on the mission, you're constantly trying
to fight all these things that you know are wrong,
but you're not focused on what is right, what is
supposed to be pulling me forward. When you have that
(09:51):
mission killers are really easy to shut down. The more
focused you are and what God has put you on
the earth to do, the easier it is for you
to say no to sin because you said that doesn't
help my min.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Yeah, that's so good man. Now I want to ask
you something we actually didn't prepare for the so you
would have the mission, and then you would have the
commander's intent. And there was obviously overlap. But the commander's
intent was not the exact mission statement. Right, AKA, if
it was like to go like capture and kill or
whatever it.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
Can, you know that's the commander's intent.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Was a really clearly understood statement, okay of go here
and kill this person, go here, destroy this objective, go here,
observe this situation, gather intel on this person.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Right.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
There were really clear statements that you understood exactly what
they meant.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
There wasn't a mystery in commanders, would it be different
to the mission though? That the a mission is the
battle plans for accomplishing the commander's intent. Right, And that's
what I want to get to because the reason I'm
asking this is because we so because.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
The logical when the commander says kill this guy, it's like, okay, well,
how right, mission, here's the mission.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
The reason I asked that is because we have commandments.
The logical thing is a follower of crisis. Like, well,
we don't have commander's intent briefing every day, but we
have the Word of God, which is our commandage content.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
We do have love God and love your neighbor as yourself. Right.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
You do have baptize people in the name of the Father,
the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Teach them to obey
my every command.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Right. You also have be fruitful and multiply. Right.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
I was actually going to bring it here around there
your commander's intent, right, And that's what I wanted to
highlight for people. We do have this, you just may
not be thinking about them because Garrett just gave you
three that literally like Jesus said, I mean, he said,
a new command I give you to love one another
as I have.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Loved you, the creation mandate, the greatest commandment, and the
great commission.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Right.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
Yeah, there you go, and he just gave this. I
want to highlight that for people because I think it's
one of those ones that when you hear it, you go,
oh yeah, of course, but you don't always put it
together that way. So I hope you're understanding the importance
submission focus and why if you're just trying to avoid sin,
you've missed the point. But here's the thing for us
to say this to. You might be like, Okay, yeah, cool,
maybe you trust us at this point. Maybe you're a
brand new listener. You're like, I don't know about that.
(11:56):
There's some things that prerequisite foundational things that you have
to understand that lay underneath this. And gee, you have
you have high You've demonstrated this first one for me.
There's basically three kind of prerequisite beliefs that underlie this,
this whole system that we're talking about from bad to best.
And number one is compromise will kill you slowly. I've
(12:17):
seen this in you in a lot of ways where
you'll make a huge deal out of something that I'm like, dude, relax,
like this isn't that big a deal, and you're like, yeah,
it's not that big a deal now, but this is
what it grows into.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
It's actually a huge deal, right, And that's where there's
this mindset like what compromise is, Here's here's how compromise
sell sells itself. Compromise sells itself to you, says outside
a big deal, right right? And so that right there
is the what they called in the military, lulling you
into a false sense of security, right right, Like you're
(12:47):
just walking down this This won't mean anything to non
you know, military trained people, but you're just walking down
this channelized area. It's a dangerous area. Means you you
only your only ways out are forward and backward. You
have no side escape. Just get lulled into this channelized
area and everything is just going well. It's like, what
you know, I've been trained not to go into these areas,
(13:09):
but I look down the road and everything looked fine.
And you get about halfway down the road, furthest from
your forward and rear escape ambush. Yeah, right, that's what's
going to happen to you. You've been taught, you've been trained,
these are the things you should do. But then you
start to get closer to you you're like, oh, it's not
a big deal, everything's fine. You abandon your training, you
(13:30):
abandon what you know is true, you abandon what you
know is right, and you get yourself into a terrible situation.
Compromise creeps up on you slowly and then ambushes you
all at once, and so what you have to be
very careful of. And this is why Jesus said, right,
this is the Great commission. Baptize them, name of the Fathers,
are in the Holy Spirit, and teach them to obey
(13:51):
my every commandment. I think a lot of people miss
that part. Even in the Great Commission. Jesus didn't say,
you know, get them to pray a prayer and teach
them about me, teach them to love me, teach them
to be nice. He said, teach them to obey my
every commandment, because the one you forgot is the one
that will get you killed. Yeah, the one commandment that
you miss that you're not paying attention to. And this
is not legalism, this is understanding. God made a world
(14:15):
of order. Jesus didn't come to abolish the law. He
came to fulfill it. He's saying, I know you can't
obey all of it, so I'm going to help cover you.
But that doesn't mean you ignore it and pretend that
they don't exist. The rules and the laws that God
gave are reflective of the world that he designed. Why
would you not why would you not want to understand
the rules? That's like saying like, oh, I just want
(14:36):
to go out and play soccer. I don't need to
know what all the rules are. I don't need to
know how to score. I just want to, like, you know,
have fun kicking the ball.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Yeah, that's what's called. You know, just just wander around
the park.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
But compromise will get you killed. And it is this
false sense of security you allow little things in. And
this is what I was saying to Nick the vasectomy
joke at the beginning. It's an example of this one.
To me personally, I just feel like it's the thing
when people say, oh, it's not that big of a deal, Like,
wouldn't it be?
Speaker 2 (15:03):
You know what?
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Why at some point you just decide you don't want
to have kids anymore. Maybe I'm weird and I'm old school,
but I feel like a lot of people had great
families before this ever existed. Yeah, and I feel like
I'm supposed to be fruitful and multiply. I feel like
I'm supposed to have a lot of children, and I'm
gonna let God determine how many children I'm supposed to have,
not my own personal level of comfort.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Right there, you go, Uh, the compromise will kill you
slowly one because Garrett gave the example of walking through
the funnel of the funnel what did you call it?
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Channelized?
Speaker 3 (15:33):
Channelize?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Right, but yeah it is it is a funnel.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Yeah, this but this is like, you know, if there
was a monster that you knew would only grow to
kill humanity but was really cute and you came across it,
a lot of people are like, oh, come on, you
can't kill you can't kill that monster, and it's like, no,
this is what it grows to become. So if we
don't do this, like yeah, it's not fun, it's probably
like it seems a little bit wrong. You have to
(15:57):
kill these things in the early stages. That's the that's
the analogy thought of one.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Of the We could probably do a different episode. Maybe
we'll do a shortcast on it on just a list
of all the different types of compromises. But one of
the compromises, like here's what one of them sounds like
is well, everybody's doing it. Oh yeah, right, Like that
makes it okay, right because everyone's doing it, and that
is not a litmus test for what is right. It
(16:21):
is not a guiding principle of my life that other
people do these things. And that's where I make Nick
laugh sometimes, because not that Nick is always trying to
learn from me, but that's where Nick has laughed at
me sometimes, where he's like, why are you so been
out of shape about this thing? I'm like, because it's wrong,
that's why. Yeah, Like he's like, but everybody does this,
I know, and it's wrong.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
This doesn't happen a lot, but it happened before the
episode when I decided to use his knife that he
that he had laying around to open up a box.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
And he told me, Nick took my very I was
I was honestly very frustrated.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Oh I know, I know. You well have to know
that there was no joking.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
He took my very handmade Winkler knife some of you
know who winkleer blades are. Took my very nice handmade
Winkler knife off of the bench and just started cutting
boxes open with it. And I just said to I said, Nick,
would you use a seven hundred dollars chef's knife? Would
you go into a chef's kitchen and take his seven
hundred dollars chef's knife and just start cutting.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
Boxes open with it?
Speaker 1 (17:20):
And he says, well, I know it's going to make
you mad, but yeah, probably, And I was like, yeah,
that actually does make me more mad.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
So then we just had like a little awkward period
where Garrett was quiet and I just kept setting things up. Anyways,
that's one of those things that I did not know,
and I got to learn the value of a good
blade beforehand. But anyways, let's keep moving on because I
feel like I'm starting up the rage again. But you
may be going, Okay, that's great about compromise, But this
is Galatians. This is what they warned and the New
Testament they warned people about this all the time. Galatians
(17:48):
five seven through nine is where Paul's talking about how
they had allowed people to come back in and say, hey,
circumcision is really important, and he goes, you were running
a good race. Who cut in on you to keep
you from obeying the truth. That kind of persuasion does
not come from the one who calls you a little
yeast works through the whole batch of dough. He's literally saying,
what we're pointing out to you, this small compromise is
(18:09):
what ends up leading you way off course down the line.
Because now, because like it starts with well, you know,
circumcision was already like a good thing, and now we're
just going to add that to the list, even though
God didn't put it there. And what's up next, Well,
now you gotta eat this certain kind of food. And
you got addressed this way, and you got right because
you're just opening the door. It's like whenever they had
taxes in this country for the first time. Everyone voted
yes except for one person, because he said, once we
(18:31):
introduce one percent, that you know, we've opened the floodgates.
And I'm paraphrasing here, but he goes, one percent can
turn into twenty percent. And look what happened. Here we are,
and here we are.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
You were running a good race. Who cut in on
you to keep you from obeying the truth? That's what
it's supposed to be. It's supposed to be you running
your race. But then you just let these little compromises
in along the way, and the run turns into a walk,
and the walk turns into you being off track, and
the walk turns into you're saying, well, we was just
hang out here for a little while. It's it's not
(19:01):
a big deal. We stopped running and we're walking and
everything's still fine. Well, why don't we just sit down
for a little while.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Yeah, exactly right.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
Okay, here's here's the next sort of underlying thing that
makes this all work. God made you to be great
and that requires a process, and man, is that not
what we're all living in. But but you have to
really believe that, because if you don't, it's like, oh, yeah,
you know, God's going to develop me. It's like, no, God
made you to be great when you really capture the
revelation of this. I was actually reading Psalm one thirty
nine and fourteen g. I was telling them mighty men
(19:29):
about it yesterday. It talks about says all your works
are wonderful. This I my soul knows full well, and
that the word that the Hebrew word there is marvelous.
And it talks about how they're like there, it's like
you can use that word as miraculous, as wondrous. It's
like it's this thing he's talking about himself, right, because
first first he says, I'm fearfully and wonderfully made. All
your works are wonderful. This my soul knows very well. Mean,
(19:51):
I realize you called me to be great, you called
me to be miraculous. You've called me to be distinguished
and unique and to like reflect the unique piece of
your glory. When you actually have the revelation of that,
it is a life changer because, like you said, when
your mission focused, the other things just remove themselves. When
you know you're call to be great, there's so many
things that you're like, why am I wasting my time
(20:12):
on this? Why am I? And why am I sitting
there thinking like, yeah, it's just a drink, or oh
I could have All that stuff fades away You're like, no,
I'm made to be great.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
God.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
God made you to be great, and if you don't
believe that, you won't operate that way. Yeah, it's not
your job to make you great. It is your job
to trust in God and to do what you know
to do, to be faithful with what's in your hand.
But what you don't do right. It's where God asked
Moses the question. God said to Moses, what's in your hand?
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And he said that when Moses said, well, I'm like,
it's not what he said, but I'm paraphrasing. God said
to Moss, I'm gonna use you to shepherd my people
out of Israel. And Moses said, well, I'm not great, right,
he said, I'm not. I killed somebody. They're not going
to listen to me. Like, who am I to stand
before the Pharaoh? He's saying I'm not great? Yeah, And
God pushes back on him and he says, all I
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need you to do is use what I'm going to
give you. Think about who Moses is in the Bible,
and like, go to that passage and look at the
way Moses saw himself. Moses didn't see himself as great.
Moses is one of the greatest figures in the Bible. Yeah,
I hope that encourages you.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Right.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
That's so I say that to say, you're probably not
going to have, you know, one of the biggest books
in the Bible written about you. But God's going to
use your life in a great way. And this is
Romans nine twenty and twenty one. I think it's a
slap you in the face scripture. Paul says, who are
you to question God? God makes some pottery for special
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use and some pottery for common use. All of us
get to play our part. It's not for us to say, well, God,
I wanted to do this, or God, I wanted to
be this. If you will decide I'm going to do
what God has put me on the earth to do.
It will be a special and mighty thing. And you
could also be someone You could have been a Moses
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like who God wanted to use in a specially and
mighty way, but said, ah, you know, I don't think
that's the right thing for me. What you need to
do is just be obedient. God wants to use you
in a heroic way, right, meaning he's gonna It's not
The world does not revolve around us. I remind myself
all the time. There are so many wonderful, incredible people
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out there having a massive impact on the kingdom. I'm
I'm just a dude who's out here being faithful. I'm
nobody special. But what I get to do is I
get to play my part. And if you start thinking, well, God,
I wanted to do this or I wanted to be that,
I want my life to go this way, what you're
doing is you're arguing with God about what great looks like.
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In the same way where we've talked about the Scripture
and Romans, God uses all things for the good of
those who love him. If you love God and you're
serving him and you feel like things in your life
aren't good. Whose definition of good is wrong, right, not
God's our definition. And the same thing is true about
what a great destiny looks like for your life. If
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you feel like, man like, I just don't feel like
what I'm doing is great, I feel like I'm not winning.
I feel like, you know whatever, you don't feel like
you're on the path to greatness in your life, maybe
you need to think differently about your path. And here's
what I'll say. This only comes if you will fully
fully trust in God. That's what again, it's what the
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scripture Matthew twenty eight. And obey my every command. You
get it, you get it with God, and you get
it from God when you fully submit to him, not
when you have submit to him. And so if you're
wrestling with anything in your life right now, I wouldn't
challenge you to fully submit it to God because he
can also change the way that you think and feel
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about what your destiny is. The same way that I've
had the conversation with men who've you know, struggled in
their marriage for whatever reason. And I've had men tell me,
you know, I just feel like I'm not attracted to
my wife anymore, which is a really difficult place for
a man to be. And I've asked a man before
that I had this conversation with multiple men, but I've
asked him before. I said, you know, do you feel
like God could change that? You feel like that's beyond him.
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And the problem is the guys know the answer to
that question. They just the way that they feel right
now is they don't feel like that could change.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
And that's where feelings are a liar.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
When I get them to admit to me because they
know it's true that God could absolutely change that, and
we begin to walk down that process, that's when God,
they just have to submit it. Say God, like, I'm
going to let you change me and the same way,
and I've watched it happen many times, same way that
God can change the way that that man feels about
his wife, where a year later he's telling me like,
I've never felt more in love, more attracted to my
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wife than I am right now. God can do the
same thing with how you feel about your destiny. Right
God just waiting for you to get on his page,
because I just want to remind everybody God doesn't need
your help. He can do whatever he wants to do. Right,
under it's not a game that we're playing with God.
But understand the game that you're in, Okay, the game
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that we're in with God. God is like, Man, I
need these guys to like just do what I'm asking
them to do. I need I need their help. I
don't need my kids to help me with anything. Right,
I don't need my kids to help me with anything.
Oftentimes they're way more of a burden than they are
a help. It's almost like God's teaching us something we
but you know, but I take that burden on because
I love them and I want to help them. I
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want to see them grow. And it's the exact same
with God's how he feels about you. And if you
didn't have parents that feel that felt that way about you,
it life's hard for you. It's like life's not fair.
But let me just encourage you. If you will just
take that one step closer to God and let him
be your father, you will feel that from him, what
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he wants is to help you grow and to help
you develop. He doesn't need your help with anything. And
so if you'll understand this about God, then this process
actually makes a lot more sense to you that God's
not trying to get me to do stuff, and it's
silly for me to try and do stuff without God's support. Really,
what God wants most out of me is that I
would grow and that I would develop. And so when
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you'll catch that part of the process, that's when all
this makes way more sense.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Yeah, that's so good.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Gee, there's so much in that. I mean, I love
that you're stressing about teach them to do everything that
I said, because that was the Old Testament as well,
like God stressed it over and over again about follow
the whole command, and like you would put those extra
emphasis points in because He knows who we are. I
mean scripturally, like Flipping's one to six as being confident
of this that he who began a good work and
you will carry it on to completion until the day
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of Christ Jesus. And like Jesus said, by this, my
Father is glorified that you would bear much fruit. Like
you are made to be great, Like you really are
made to be great, and you will be in the process.
That's like you have to know that number three kind
of underlying foundation.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Before we go on, just a couple of scriptures I
want to share really quick on this point, then we'll
go to the next point. So all right, we've already
been long on this one. But just some scripture reminders
that God made you to be great Philippians chapter one,
verse six, being confident of this that he who began
a good work in you, will carry it on to
completion until the day of Christ Jesus. God started something
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in you, and He's gonna finish it. And John chapter fifteen,
verse eight. By this, my Father is glorified that you
would bear much fruit. So sometimes what we are like,
is Christians, is we're like a brand new baby tree,
you know, trying to like tell God, I just feel
like I'm not bearing any fruit. I don't know if
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I like the fruit that I'm gonna bear, and I
don't know if I'm going in the right direction. God
just wants you to grow and mature. He designed you
to bear much fruit, so you don't need to tell
him what works or what doesn't work. You're being a
tree who's never borne any fruit, trying to tell the creator,
like what fruit is supposed to look like? Stop it,
shut up, go through your maturation process. And God designed
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you to bear much fruit.
Speaker 3 (28:00):
The scripture were so important, we said him twice. So
belief number three is there is a design for your life.
And you touched on this that God made you kind
of we didn't say it this way, but you talked
about how we have to understand the game that we're
playing and to just know that there's templates and principle
like member, these are things that if you don't have
these beliefs, you would never think that you need to
pursue best. You would always just be okay with like, well,
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I'm avoiding bad. And what this looks like is if
you really believe that there's principles and templates that if
faul will lead to a life capture this greater than
you're capable of dreaming that. That is what Garrett's talking
about about really being submitted and to God's process and
to him to say, you know what, Lord, I'm not
going to be the lump of clay that's going to
ask you why you made like what you're doing, Like
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I wanted to be this. I want to be a
bull and you're making me into a cup. You know,
it is a true submission process when you realize that,
like we talked about this in the intro, I believe
the apostle. Paul was like, man, I have a great life.
Even though he sat there, he's been beaten, he's on
the floor, hes in prison. I think he looked around
he was like, this is so much better. He's the
guy who wrote a massive impact. Yes, he's the guy
who wrote more than you can ask, think or imagine.
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So he's had this revelation. I believe each one of
these men, even though they would not be what we
would think, like, oh, you mean you didn't die with
like a really big retirement to hand down to your
family and like, you know, taking vacations when everyone No,
these guys died in absolute adversity and hardship, but they
had a massive impact and they ran their race. This
is like the shift that occurs in you. And if
you don't believe that there's a design for your life
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and that God made the game for you to win.
And like Garrett said, remember if your definition of good
sounds different than who do you think is wrong? It's
God's definition of win, which means to get one hundred
percent of it. You fulfilled your race, you fulfilled your purpose.
That is what we mean when we say win. And
if you don't believe there's a design for your life.
For that, then you're going to keep just trying to
take control of the joystick. Be like, Ah, you know what, Lord,
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I think you're.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
Going the wrong way.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
And we don't think that way, but we do it
all the time. And we're going to show you. We're
going to show you three areas where this is so deceptive,
but it happens to so many of us. So remember
three beliefs that you got to have. Compromiseill kill you slowly.
God made you be great and requires process. And there
is a design for your life. So if you have that,
you're ready to like, we're going to highlight these areas.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
But you said something, g don't forget them. Scripture, it's
one of our favorites that goes with this. And there's
a design for your lives. It's Proverbs chapter three, five
and six. Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
lean not on your own understanding, and all your ways
submit to Him and He will make your path straight.
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So you want a straight path, it starts with trust
in the Lord with all your heart. Don't half bet
on God. So God, like you know, God, I'm looking
for you to help me. God saying no, right, submit
to me fully and I'll align your path. Yeah, And
I mean, and you're not going to trust somebody that
you don't know. So at the basis of everything we
say it all the time is to know God.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
How are you going to do that? That's right?
Speaker 3 (30:52):
Seek them in scripture, pray, and with fellowship. Those are
the three big ones. Okay, So if you want to
stop being a zig zagger ak like, oh this was
this was bad, so I went away from it, and
then I found something else bad and then I went
away from that, And you're literally just going back and
forth your whole life. You're going to be focused on best.
So we're going to show you three areas where you're
going avoiding the bad versus pursuing the best. And the
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very first one ge this isn't what so many people
do is and they wouldn't think of it this way
is financial freedom.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
What before we talk about financial freedom, I just want
to talk about avoiding the bad one more time for
a second before we dive into these three examples. It's
something I see again. I've told you I I just
got a filter for compromise, and I want to help.
I'm not trying to brag on myself. I want to
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help people as much as I can with this because
I feel like people just let these demons come and
occupied territory and their land, and this stuff. It ruins you.
It ruins you. Matthew twenty five, Parable of the Talents, Right,
I'm not going to tell the whole story.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
Most of you know it.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
If you've been listening to this show for a long time,
we've talked about it dozens of times. Parable of the Talents,
What does the first Servant do? He doesn't make a
return on his on his talent, on his talent, on
what the Master gave him. It says that he was
afraid and he hid it in the ground, and well,
you know what he was trying to do. He's trying
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to avoid the bad. He said, oh man, it would
be bad if I lost this, and I'd make the
Master really angry. And so that's what the first Servant did.
In the Parable of the Talents, he avoided the bad
and the Master called that wicked and lazy. You may
think like, oh, I'm just trying to you know, not
you know, run out of money, not get divorced, not whatever,
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not screw up my life. I'm just trying to be
a good dude. The Master's going to call that wicked
and lazy. If what you are focused on is how
do I not have the worst outcome? You're ruining your life.
And so I hope that's a wake up call for somebody.
Now let's talk about what some of those bads are right,
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and then what greatness is?
Speaker 3 (33:04):
Well, yeah, that hits hard man, because that's the first
one that we were going into. Is financial freedom is
most people would say like, well, that's a great thing.
You mean to have financial freedom, and a lot of
people this is like a goal for their life. This
is I mean, this is a very American goal.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
I get the privilege of working with a lot of men,
have coached a lot of men in their lives and
their business. And my favorite thing to talk to people
about is purpose. Like God's given me a little bit
of revelation on helping people see their purpose and helping
them walk through that journey. It's just as much as
I loved my own journey of figuring it out, I
enjoy the journey. I actually get a lot of fulfillment,
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have a lot of fun helping people like walk through
what their purpose is. And I can't tell you how
many men like I've started there with them of what
they're they're like, I finally ask enough questions and we
push through their answers to the next level, to the
next level.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
Why why why?
Speaker 1 (33:55):
And we get well, I'm you know, I just financial freedom, right,
and I just thought it would be like and what
you're doing when you're I'm not saying financial freedom is wrong,
I'm saying it's not the highest aim, right, it's it's
a great checkbox along the way it is. It should
be nobody's finish line to get to financial freedom. If
if your checkbox, like your finish line for your life
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is financial freedom, congratulations, you're a one talent servant. And
you're gonna you're gonna hear something from the Master that's
going to terribly upset you and and and show you
that you missed it, because what are you doing when
you if your highest aim is financial freedom? Well, when
you know what's bad is to run out of money,
it's bad right. Also, it doesn't kill you. We've talked
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about too, like if you if you hit zero dollars
in you you can actually go below zero, like thank
you banking system over drink. Yeah, you can go to
like minus fifty or whatever your bank will let you
go to. You won't die. Yeah, Like it's it's like
holding your breath. Not breathing won't kill you. Just not
breathing for a long time. Like hitting zero dollars won't
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kill you. Being at zero dollars for a long time
is really hard, but still won't kill you. But this
it's a painful process. I've been zero dollars in my
bank account before. It's painful, it doesn't feel very good.
Didn't die made me better? And you know what my
aim in my life isn't man, I want to never
be zero dollars in my bank account. Again, that's not
the highest aim of my life. And if what you're
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pursuing is financial freedom, a lot of times people are
doing that. They're like, well, no, money's bad, and so
good must be to be a place where like I'll
always have money, right, that's not what greatness is.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
Right.
Speaker 1 (35:31):
If you'll pursue greatness, if you'll learn to add value,
if you'll have great impact on other people's lives, if
you'll solve problems for them, money will never be a
problem for you. And so when I've been zero in
my bank account before. I said, you know what, well,
I'm real good at solving problems, so I'm gonna solve
this one. And I obviously need to learn some lessons
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so I never come back to this place again. We're
not going to run from this place. I'm just going
to get better. The reason I'm here is because I
fell down, right, didn't I didn't know. I didn't know
what I knew what I know Now now I know this,
I don't have to worry about how do I never
be in this place again. I'm just going to get
better and stronger at adding value. So good isn't not bad?
Speaker 2 (36:11):
Right?
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Because bad we can all agree that bad is zero
dollars in your bank account. But good isn't being in
a place where you never need money again. Good is
being someone who can always add value to other people.
So what greatness is in your life is I want
to have the greatest possible impact on other people. I
want to advance the kingdom as much as I can.
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I want to build the most impactful business. And by
the way, most impactful business isn't more dollars, right.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
Don't hear this?
Speaker 4 (36:39):
Right?
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Personal life? And then like but in my business. It's
all about it's not about making money, solve as many
problems for people, add as much value as possible to people.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
I love the guy. I forget his name, but I'm
not a huge fan of the enterprise. But I am
a huge fan of the guy. The guy who's running
the Savannah bananas deal. Oh yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
He talks all the time and like so many videos
I've seen of him, I don't remember what the number is,
but he's like, my goal is to entertain a billion people, right,
Like that's all he talks about. I'm just trying to
And so their tickets are still like fifty dollars or whatever,
He's like, I could sell these tickets for six hundred
bucks apiece because they're super super popular. He's focused on
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adding value. He saw a lane, he saw a problem
where he's like, man, you and I like normal baseball.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
I do not. Everyone likes normal.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
Base This is like, this is like me using your knife.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
I get it.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
I'm with you, but I'm hitting on the principles that
he's he saw a lane that he could add a
lot of value. Instead of saying like, well, how do
I make a bunch of money? He says, Man, I
want to entertain as many people as possible.
Speaker 2 (37:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
He looks for what's greatest impact with my industry, with
my business, with my life. And so this is what
I've done in all of my lanes. I didn't say, like,
how do I not be zero? That dude, I promise
you is not running from zero. Yeah, for sure, he's
running towards impact.
Speaker 3 (38:01):
You know what will absolutely force you into avoiding the
baddest fear. Yeah, because I like I've shared this on
the podcast before, but we were talking about this recently
because it was a real like I get to see
moments of you that other people don't. We spent a
lot of time together. I came over to Garrett's house
and he had had some news that because I mean,
you went through a tough time last year, as did I.
We both had some some things that we don't always
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talk about. Challenges abound well because it's adversity. I don't
when something bad happens, I don't go, oh my gosh,
I'm like, okay, check, like let's solve it. Let's keep
going like it, look, what's gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
I've I've had a few years in my life where
it's like, man, this is such a like everything went
so grateful, Like me, it's really hit. That's the year
that It's like, Man, I planted my crops early. The
year before that we had double seed, so i'd extra
seed to get in the ground. It rained at the
right time, right all throughout the year. There was no hail. Yeah, right,
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like nobody's sick. You expect every year to go that way.
Speaker 3 (38:55):
You're a ding dunk, yeah, And so that he's using
an analogy, and I know that we're not all farmers,
But so I came over again it's house and he
told me something about something that happened with his business,
and he told me what it was going to cost
him personally, is like he basically had to give up
his income and that was his main source of income
at that point. He's a father of four back then.
And I asked the natural question. I was like, what
are you gonna do? You know, because like for most people,
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if you found out that the bulk of your income disappeared,
that's a bad day. And he just goes, man, I'm
not even worried about how I'm to pay my bills.
I can figure that out. He's like I'm always so
zoomed out. I just want to make sure that I'm
still going in the right direction and doing the right things.
And that was all he said about it. And I
was kind of like, Okay, let's plan a podcast. But
in my head, I was like, man, that is what
it looks like to encounter that quote unquote the big
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bad but not have fear and for so many of us.
And I'm speaking because this was my biggest thing. I
say was because it's a past tense thing, was like,
oh my gosh, like the financial pressure. It was like
I spent my whole life revolving around the financial pressure
because like that, that would just be the worst thing.
And it was rooted because I grew up in a
scarcity mindset. And I'm sharing this for people out there
because I think there's others that can relate. I grew
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up in a house that had scarcity, so I had
this little kid memory of how bad it was to
never be able to get anything you want or not
have food, and that I was letting little kid pain
and fear. Tell big big Nick, hey, this will be
the worst thing.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
Stay away.
Speaker 3 (40:13):
And when you finally sit there and go what am
I doing? This is not the way God made me
to live. Okay, I mean everything Garrett just says one
hundred percent true. But I want to give that point
because I've seen this walked out and I want to
share because it's like, we're not just saying this stuff.
This is how we live. And to really understand that
financial freedom is you just avoiding the bad, and that
you actually need to be going, Okay, God, what if
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I'm a video game character that you made and I'm
supposed to be playing this game, what is the role
of my character? Because I want to play that to
one hundred percent and have the max impact. Now you're
starting to go towards the best, and so that's the
whole point of this. So do you that's in finance,
which I think a lot of people can relate. Here's
another one. Avoiding bad would be not getting divorced, like hey,
we're just going to stay together in marriage, like we're
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just going to stay together versus the best would be
makeing your marriage a template to win in every other
area of your life and having it be the greatest blessing.
Now that those are wildly different ends of the spectrum,
but a lot of people are just like man, Divorce
is bad. Like man, think about what it would do
to the kids. You know, it's expensive.
Speaker 1 (41:15):
Divorce is definitely the bad, right, We're not disagreement, Yeah,
but not divorced does not equal good, correct, And so
the Again, the whole point of this podcast is, I
feel like a lot of people have lived I've seen it,
and I don't want to do it. I don't want
you to do it. They've lived their lives avoiding bad
and it turns into you running from all the bad things.
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But running from all the bad things does not turn
into a great life. And so you have to know
what you're running towards. If if I'm running towards what
I'm supposed to be running towards in my life, if
I face a giant that's in between me and where
I'm going, I'm going to kill it, right. And if
there's stuff to my left or to my right along
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the way, I'm just keep running past it. I'm just
going to keep going towards where I'm supposed to be going.
But if you avoid bad, you'll waste a bunch of
your life. You'll zigzag all over the place and just
be disappointed and frustrated at what your outcome is. And
so if you're running from divorce in your marriage, because maybe,
like I've talked to guys before, and I'm never trying
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to point anything i'm doing on this show at a
specific person, but I've heard this so many times. Well,
my parents got divorced. I'm just trying to not get divorced.
Speaker 3 (42:30):
Yeah, that's a common thing.
Speaker 1 (42:32):
And again, not getting divorced is bad, but that's not
what I'm aiming towards. What you've got to aim towards
is what is a great marriage. And what I have
seen is people who are aiming towards not getting divorced.
You make a lot of these little compromises along the way.
It's like, well, I'm just trying to not get divorced.
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I don't want to make her mad. I don't want
to rock the boat.
Speaker 3 (42:55):
That's exactly right.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
I don't know what I'm aiming towards. I'm just running
from the bad you actually put. You eventually come to
a place where it's like, well, divorce is about as
good as this is.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
Right, Yeah, because what I think about I'm so glad
you said you said, because I was thinking about how
this actually shows up practically if you are if you're
aim if this is a logical thought process, If your
aim is not to be great, then guess what. Or
if your aim is to be great, you have to
be great. Like Michael Jordan, couldn't say I want to
be the greatest basketball player in the world and miss
free throws. It just doesn't work that way, and we
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all know that. So if you say you want to
have a great marriage, guess what, You're fifty percent of
the ingredients in there. So you got to be great,
which means you're going to have to first become the
kind of person that's worth falling if you're the man.
And then secondly, you're going to have to have difficult
conversations because that's what this looks like. If it's like, hey,
we're just not trying to get divorced, you just bury
stuff because it's like, you know what, this is probably
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just going to cause a lot of problems.
Speaker 1 (43:47):
I would I would ask you if you are in
this situation, do you feel like you could have a
great marriage?
Speaker 2 (43:54):
Right?
Speaker 1 (43:54):
Do you feel like you're not made to have a
great marriage. What's keeping you from having a great marriage
other than you being willing to put in the work
and be fully committed to working through any of the
issues that you have yet, because I want to believe
that people aren't stuck in a situation of well, I'm
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just I wasn't meant to have a great marriage. It's just,
you know, if I could just be not divorced, that
would be okay. I think a lot of people find
themselves there because it's hard. Yeah, it's painful to have
a great marriage, but man, what a joy and what
a blessing it is to fight for that. And I
can tell you in my life not only has been
the greatest joy, but it's been the greatest multiplier for
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h For sure, It's made me better in every other
area of my life. I can't imagine fighting the battles
I'm fighting out there trying to kill dragons, and then
I come home and I'm having to fight another one,
for sure.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
And I want to highlight for people because I have
had I've been at the point where I'm just like, man,
we just got to stay together. So I don't want
this to come across as us being judgmental. If that's
where you're at, you can start with avoiding the bad,
but you can't stay there, right that's the purpose of pain.
Is it highlights Hey, this is this is not going well.
You need to pay more attention. But you can't just
say like, okay, great, I've just quelled the pain. Like
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if you stop there, you're missing it. Because to the
point you just made and what we said earlier about
if God has a plan and you believe that and
he's made the game for you to win, that he'll
he'll show you something that's beyond what you can even imagine.
I always thinking about this literally this morning. My marriage. Man,
it is it is so much better than I thought
it could be. I'm I had some a weird experience
I told you about recently where something bad happened in
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my wife's life and I found out how deeply connected
I am to her because I had this emotional heaviness
that had I could. I struggled to contain and I've
never experienced anything like that before. She was halfway across
the world when this happened. We weren't together. This happened
a few months ago, and it showed me like I
had to. I actually spoke to your sister about it
because I was like, what is going on? I can't
stop crying and I don't even know why, and I
(45:53):
don't cry, like I'm not the dude that sits around
in tears all the time. And you and your sister
like broke down some things to me about being incovenant
and like an old belief and in Hebrew belief about
covenant that I used the word that I can't remember,
and I just realized. I was like, oh, I know
what my wife's going through. And even though I have
no fear of her going through it or anything like that,
I'm like feeling what she's feeling. And it blew my mind.
(46:13):
Like I still don't know how to make sense of it.
I didn't really plan on sharing it, but I'm sharing
it because I want to hopefully be an encouragement each
other people. I never if you would have asked me
ten years ago when we were having marriage problems what
my number one thing is, I would have said, I
don't feel connected to my wife. Now I feel so
deeply connected to my wife. It's gone beyond what I
knew was possible that when I had that experience, it
freaked me out. I remember I told you about it
(46:34):
and you said, well, I can't You said, like, oh,
that's good that you're that tender towards your wife, or
you had something like that that was a summary statement,
and I was just like, man, it's but but I
can tell you the practicals of how that works out
are incredible. Is she is the greatest blessing to me.
And so I want to encourage people because I've been
at both places and I just wanted to highlight that
this can be a process. So if you're at the
place where all you're doing is avoiding bad, don't stay there.
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Very last thing. Gee, because we talked about your finances,
talked about your marriage, let's just go ahead and center
on you, because that's one hundred percent control was you
and what so many people will have as like their
aim for their life. If you said, like, hey, who
do you want to be a lot of people are like,
I don't know, to be a good person. Okay, I
mean we can get into a lot of definitions of
how you define good, but like for a lot of people,
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it's like, well if I just sort of, you know,
I never hurt anybody, I was you know, I was
kind of I was fair to people like this is
this is them? Literally, this is the one talent person
just going like, well, I buried it in the ground.
Speaker 2 (47:29):
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (47:30):
I didn't really try and maximize it. But I also
didn't really upset anybody. And there's that old saying that says,
if you don't want to offend anybody, be nothing, do nothing,
and say nothing. And that is not who we are
called to be.
Speaker 1 (47:39):
So I'm not trying to be a good person. No,
that's that's letting other people judge me. I'm trying that'll
that'll lead you into one of the diseases I call
out all the time, which is trying to be a
mister nice guy. Right, I'm not here to make you
feel good. Yeah, I know, so if if, if you
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can agree that that's probably not what the aim should be,
is to just be a good person. Here's what great
impact looks like. And because we're trying to, you know, help,
you don't run from the bad, but run towards greatness.
So what does greatness look like in this area? And
I'm going to connect this one to all the examples
that we use and kind of just wrap us up
(48:21):
instead of be a good person, here's what I want
you to aim towards. Aim towards what's the greatest level
of generosity that you could have. What's the greatest level
of loving and serving others? What's the greatest level of
sacrifice that you could have in your life? That's what
you know. Why do you want to be a good
person in the first place? You want to be a
good person, hopefully so that you could help people, right,
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and so the greatest person you could be is maximum generosity,
maximum ability to carry weight for others, to help other
people with their burdens, to help heal people, to be
to sacrifice so that others can see it, understand it
so others can move forward in their life. Every single
one of these bad versus great. All of the bads
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are very me focused. But if you'll take the look
at the great, the great is very others focused. Financially,
how could I have the most impact? How could I
help the most people marriage highest impact? How could I
develop a template to not just win myself, but to
help other people win that the way that I've lived
and my wife lives and that our marriage goes shows
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other people what is possible? What if I could develop
myself into someone that could have so much impact on
other people, that could love other people. I have the
capacity to love lots of people. I have the capacity
to carry lots of people and be someone willing to
give up myself for others. The Scripture says, no greater
love than this. But then a man who gives up
his life for his brothers. Right, this is what greatness
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should look like in your life. Don't run from the bad.
If you run from the bad, you're gonna be the
one talent servant you're gonna hear wicked and lazy because
you're just running from the bad. Don't run from the
b but run towards the great.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
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But the commander says, hey, this is what we're doing,
and everything else are just things that get in the
way of that. And the commander's intent for our life
isn't to not sin. Sin gets in the way of
commander's intent. And what I see so many people do
with their lives is there they don't know what the
commander's intent is. They're focused on all these things that
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could be interruptions to the commander's intent.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
That's impossible.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Let me tell you what I believe.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
What's your weakness. It's not your technique.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Don't think you know you the Impossible Life Podcast, I mean, yes,
sitting on a winning lottery.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Second, an idea that is fully formed, fully understood, that sticks.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I
are attempting to live impossible lives. What we know is
that nothing is impossible. So instead of using impossible as
an excuse to not try, we'll use the pursuit of
impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been
done before, that just means it's unexplored. If they tell
(01:11):
you it's too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified.
Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling
to take a risk. The real truth is this the
solution to any impossible task starts with this question, if
I had to, what would it take?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
What would it take?
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man who obeys scripture to the letter and as
such will never get a vasectomy. That's right, friends, Garrett Auckleback,
a man who knows that to be fruitful and multiply
requires bullets in your gun.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I'm not doing it. Not doing it. I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I don't want to, you know, start us off, you know,
be mature rated at the beginning of the episode. But
I don't know why. It's just become culturally acceptable. And
I'll say this as like PG as I can to
make these types of augmentations to your body, because like
it just you know, it's actually kind of lends into
one of the points we're gonna get to later. But
(02:18):
there I've just got like this, there's some stuff right
Like when I was eighteen, I was like, you know what,
not going to college. Everyone's going the wrong direction, right,
I don't know, I don't know why. I know, but
that's not the right thing to do. And you know,
vasectomy is just one of those things from and you
know what, maybe I'm just weird, but I just feel like,
I don't know, it doesn't seem right to me.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Yeah, I've I've had the same take on it before
I knew you like and I. And it wasn't like
it wasn't the pain. It was not a hot takes
episode by no, this was I wrote it. I wrote
this intro for Garrett. It like came to me the
other day and I thought it was hilarious and I
was like, I don't know if I can use that.
And then I was just like, you know what, I'm
gonna send it out there and we'll see. We'll see
what happens with it. But you you feel strongly about that.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
I do. I actually feel very strongly about it. Right.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
That's probably for a whole other episode. This is not
the point today. We're supposed to be fruitful and multiply, right, Yeah,
Well this is gonna be Father Abraham here, You're gonna
be having kids in your ady, God bless Lindsay. Anyways,
so today is bad versus best, which is kind of
odd that I started with the second me intro because
you know, I didn't link the two. But anyways, you know,
(03:21):
like this, I'm telling you this episode stay with us
if you're like, oh, I can't believe they had that intro,
because we do get the odd comment from people. I
think most of you like the humor at the beginning.
We always get the odd comment from somebody going like, you,
guys shouldn't do that, and we're just gonna keep doing it.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Now there's you know what, if you're more serious than me,
you might should go down.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Yeah, yeah, I mean, first of all, I feel like
I'm holding up the flank on how serious I's gonna say. Yeah,
if Garrett can get behind them, anybody should be able to.
But so, but this episode is gonna have a lot
of unlocks for people. I think this is gonna hopefully
elevate some people's thinking as to what they're looking at
and the aim of their life. Because here's here's where
this this stems from. So Garrett and I grew up
(03:58):
in Christian church, and as a lot of people I'm
guessing listens to this, and even people, you know, if
you're new to church. For a lot of people like,
you've really nailed it. You're quote unquote a good Christian
if you can you know, not masturbrate or look at porn,
you can not swear, and you cannot steal. You know, like, man,
you're crushing it, dude.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
I heard you got rid of.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
All this stuff I heard in which so many conferences
and youth conferences. Yeah, you know, as a young Christian person,
and that was like, those were all the topics and
you know what you do need to I do think
it's important, especially for youth, to like put guard, put
strong shard rails down for them in life. But if
I was trying to lead a bunch of teenagers, I
(04:39):
would make it very clear to them, like the same
way you do do a young per like to a toddler,
don't run in the road, that's how you die. I
would also, you know, highlight for some young men, don't
you know proverbs don't sleep with prostitutes, it will ruin
your life. I do not go in this direction, but
what I would give to them also is this is
(05:00):
where you're supposed to run, right, not all the places
you're not supposed to go exactly, Spend more time talking
about what you're for than what you're against.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Yeah, so good, because here's the thing that you have
to ask, because I think people get hung up on sin,
and we've talked about this in Mindset Master, I think
we've talked about it on the podcast. But like, sin
will will cause a lot of myst to come on
your lens, Like you're not gonna see it, says Blessed
with the pure and heart, for they'll see uh, they'll
see God right right, And that that's like that kind
of lets you know, the more pure you become, the
(05:29):
more your relationship with God grows closer because he's holy
and he can't sin. So the point is not to
not sin, it's that that becomes gone so that you
see God more clearly, which is actually the point is
that we're supposed to walk with God. Because if your idea,
like think about this, if sinning is, if not sinning
was the whole point of creation, then God did a
horrible job because for some of us, we're like, man,
if you could just not sin, that would be the ultimate.
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It's like would it?
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Though?
Speaker 3 (05:52):
I feel like that would not be the ultimate because
if God wanted to.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
If God didn't want sin, he had just been it
has just been the God show.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Right, you would have just been like, cool, I can
make it happen because I'm God, or I just want
to make everything I want to make. Don't need y'all
didn't need our help. Right, And if you're like, okay,
that's a good opinion. There was a guy named Dietrich Bonhoffer,
which if you don't know who that is, look him up. Incredible.
They made a movie about him recently, right, Yeah, so
that probably helps a lot of people.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Like many of the movies. Movie is excellent, but it
doesn't tell.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
The whole story.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Right.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Yeah. The book is better.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah, everything in there is great. There's just so much
more about him.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
It's like when Avatar came out. You know, I was
really looking to read the book. Okay, anyways, that's a
deep cut. Only Garrett'll get that one. But to n lindsay,
but being a Christian is like Avatar. It's from It's
from Parks and rec For everybody else out there, it's
we love that show. Keep going anyways, Dietrich Bonhoeffer said
being a Christian is less about avoiding sin than about
courageously and actively doing God's will. I love that, by
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the way, read that in Cody our Man, Cody Bobe's
Silicon Warrior three six five devotional. Recently, we get nothing
for this. If you're looking for a great devotional, get
that book man. When Cody was on here, I read
it every day. I've been reading it for I don't
even know now, four months. Every single day is just absolute,
like godly manly fire for your soul to go out
there and like live a today matters life because you
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get quotes like that and then you get a little
writing in a prayer. But like, think about that, being
a Christian is less about avoiding sin than about courageously
and actively doing God's will. So here's what we're going
to do. We're going to show you what bad verse
best looks like, and we're going to give some very
specific examples because we hear that and we're like, yeah,
I agree with you, but there's so many ways where
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we are just avoiding bad and it seems like, actually
not that that would be the best. And so this
is going to be a little bit of a spotlight episode.
So I mean, gee, this is I feel like I
need to just kick this over to you, because you
know what it is to live a life where one
hundred percent of your life is about a mission, and
you've carried that outside the Seal Teams and you're still
very mission folks. I think it's one of the things
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that God's given you to speak to people about.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Actually, one of the might have had something to do
with this. It's actually one of the values at Union.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Huh coincidence. Mission focus. A mission focus is understanding what
is the primary objective. One of the things that is
one of my takeaways from the Seal Teams. Seal teams
don't own this is like military process, but it's my
I experienced it through the Seal Teams is when you
begin a mission, you get what's called a warning order,
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it's a statement or and we call it commander's intent.
Are Colonel Grossman who was on with us, so we
talked about commander's intent a lot and also makes a
lot of spiritual connections to that. But the commander says, hey,
this is what we're doing, and everything else are just
things that get in the way of that. And the
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commander's intent for our life isn't to not sin. Sin
gets in the way of Commander's intent. And what I
see so many people do with their lives is. They're
not they don't know what the commander's intent is. They're
focused on all these things that could be interruptions to
the commander's intent. Well, I want to i want to
make the commander happy. I'm trying to not get in trouble.
I want to not sin, I want to do all
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these other things. Know, what you are supposed to do
is the commander's attempt. What is the primary objective? All
of your focus should go in this direction. And the
more you focus on the primary objective, all these other
distractions actually eliminate themselves.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Right.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
If you're when you're not focused on the commander's intent,
When you're not focused on the primary, primary objective, that's
when you fall into all of the mission killers.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
The more clearly.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
You see what the mission is, the easier it is
for you to look at these other things and say
that just gets in the way, right, No, that's what
sin is. Sin just gets in the way of the mission.
If you're not focused on the mission, you're constantly trying
to fight all these things that you know are wrong,
but you're not focused on what is right, what is
supposed to be pulling me forward. When you have that
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mission killers are really easy to shut down. The more
focused you are and what God has put you on
the earth to do, the easier it is for you
to say no to sin because you said that doesn't
help my min.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Yeah, that's so good man. Now I want to ask
you something we actually didn't prepare for the so you
would have the mission, and then you would have the
commander's intent. And there was obviously overlap. But the commander's
intent was not the exact mission statement. Right, AKA, if
it was like to go like capture and kill or
whatever it.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
Can, you know that's the commander's intent.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Was a really clearly understood statement, okay of go here
and kill this person, go here, destroy this objective, go here,
observe this situation, gather intel on this person.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Right.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
There were really clear statements that you understood exactly what
they meant.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
There wasn't a mystery in commanders, would it be different
to the mission though? That the a mission is the
battle plans for accomplishing the commander's intent. Right, And that's
what I want to get to because the reason I'm
asking this is because we so because.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
The logical when the commander says kill this guy, it's like, okay, well,
how right, mission, here's the mission.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
The reason I asked that is because we have commandments.
The logical thing is a follower of crisis. Like, well,
we don't have commander's intent briefing every day, but we
have the Word of God, which is our commandage content.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
We do have love God and love your neighbor as yourself. Right.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
You do have baptize people in the name of the Father,
the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Teach them to obey
my every command.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Right. You also have be fruitful and multiply. Right.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
I was actually going to bring it here around there
your commander's intent, right, And that's what I wanted to
highlight for people. We do have this, you just may
not be thinking about them because Garrett just gave you
three that literally like Jesus said, I mean, he said,
a new command I give you to love one another
as I have.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Loved you, the creation mandate, the greatest commandment, and the
great commission.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Right.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
Yeah, there you go, and he just gave this. I
want to highlight that for people because I think it's
one of those ones that when you hear it, you go,
oh yeah, of course, but you don't always put it
together that way. So I hope you're understanding the importance
submission focus and why if you're just trying to avoid sin,
you've missed the point. But here's the thing for us
to say this to. You might be like, Okay, yeah, cool,
maybe you trust us at this point. Maybe you're a
brand new listener. You're like, I don't know about that.
(11:56):
There's some things that prerequisite foundational things that you have
to understand that lay underneath this. And gee, you have
you have high You've demonstrated this first one for me.
There's basically three kind of prerequisite beliefs that underlie this,
this whole system that we're talking about from bad to best.
And number one is compromise will kill you slowly. I've
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seen this in you in a lot of ways where
you'll make a huge deal out of something that I'm like, dude, relax,
like this isn't that big a deal, and you're like, yeah,
it's not that big a deal now, but this is
what it grows into.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
It's actually a huge deal, right, And that's where there's
this mindset like what compromise is, Here's here's how compromise
sell sells itself. Compromise sells itself to you, says outside
a big deal, right right? And so that right there
is the what they called in the military, lulling you
into a false sense of security, right right, Like you're
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just walking down this This won't mean anything to non
you know, military trained people, but you're just walking down
this channelized area. It's a dangerous area. Means you you
only your only ways out are forward and backward. You
have no side escape. Just get lulled into this channelized
area and everything is just going well. It's like, what
you know, I've been trained not to go into these areas,
(13:09):
but I look down the road and everything looked fine.
And you get about halfway down the road, furthest from
your forward and rear escape ambush. Yeah, right, that's what's
going to happen to you. You've been taught, you've been trained,
these are the things you should do. But then you
start to get closer to you you're like, oh, it's not
a big deal, everything's fine. You abandon your training, you
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abandon what you know is true, you abandon what you
know is right, and you get yourself into a terrible situation.
Compromise creeps up on you slowly and then ambushes you
all at once, and so what you have to be
very careful of. And this is why Jesus said, right,
this is the Great commission. Baptize them, name of the Fathers,
are in the Holy Spirit, and teach them to obey
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my every commandment. I think a lot of people miss
that part. Even in the Great Commission. Jesus didn't say,
you know, get them to pray a prayer and teach
them about me, teach them to love me, teach them
to be nice. He said, teach them to obey my
every commandment, because the one you forgot is the one
that will get you killed. Yeah, the one commandment that
you miss that you're not paying attention to. And this
is not legalism, this is understanding. God made a world
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of order. Jesus didn't come to abolish the law. He
came to fulfill it. He's saying, I know you can't
obey all of it, so I'm going to help cover you.
But that doesn't mean you ignore it and pretend that
they don't exist. The rules and the laws that God
gave are reflective of the world that he designed. Why
would you not why would you not want to understand
the rules? That's like saying like, oh, I just want
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to go out and play soccer. I don't need to
know what all the rules are. I don't need to
know how to score. I just want to, like, you know,
have fun kicking the ball.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Yeah, that's what's called. You know, just just wander around
the park.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
But compromise will get you killed. And it is this
false sense of security you allow little things in. And
this is what I was saying to Nick the vasectomy
joke at the beginning. It's an example of this one.
To me personally, I just feel like it's the thing
when people say, oh, it's not that big of a deal, Like,
wouldn't it be?
Speaker 2 (15:03):
You know what?
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Why at some point you just decide you don't want
to have kids anymore. Maybe I'm weird and I'm old school,
but I feel like a lot of people had great
families before this ever existed. Yeah, and I feel like
I'm supposed to be fruitful and multiply. I feel like
I'm supposed to have a lot of children, and I'm
gonna let God determine how many children I'm supposed to have,
not my own personal level of comfort.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Right there, you go, Uh, the compromise will kill you
slowly one because Garrett gave the example of walking through
the funnel of the funnel what did you call it?
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Channelized?
Speaker 3 (15:33):
Channelize?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Right, but yeah it is it is a funnel.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Yeah, this but this is like, you know, if there
was a monster that you knew would only grow to
kill humanity but was really cute and you came across it,
a lot of people are like, oh, come on, you
can't kill you can't kill that monster, and it's like, no,
this is what it grows to become. So if we
don't do this, like yeah, it's not fun, it's probably
like it seems a little bit wrong. You have to
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kill these things in the early stages. That's the that's
the analogy thought of one.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Of the We could probably do a different episode. Maybe
we'll do a shortcast on it on just a list
of all the different types of compromises. But one of
the compromises, like here's what one of them sounds like
is well, everybody's doing it. Oh yeah, right, Like that
makes it okay, right because everyone's doing it, and that
is not a litmus test for what is right. It
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is not a guiding principle of my life that other
people do these things. And that's where I make Nick
laugh sometimes, because not that Nick is always trying to
learn from me, but that's where Nick has laughed at
me sometimes, where he's like, why are you so been
out of shape about this thing? I'm like, because it's wrong,
that's why. Yeah, Like he's like, but everybody does this,
I know, and it's wrong.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
This doesn't happen a lot, but it happened before the
episode when I decided to use his knife that he
that he had laying around to open up a box.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
And he told me, Nick took my very I was
I was honestly very frustrated.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Oh I know, I know. You well have to know
that there was no joking.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
He took my very handmade Winkler knife some of you
know who winkleer blades are. Took my very nice handmade
Winkler knife off of the bench and just started cutting
boxes open with it. And I just said to I said, Nick,
would you use a seven hundred dollars chef's knife? Would
you go into a chef's kitchen and take his seven
hundred dollars chef's knife and just start cutting.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
Boxes open with it?
Speaker 1 (17:20):
And he says, well, I know it's going to make
you mad, but yeah, probably, And I was like, yeah,
that actually does make me more mad.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
So then we just had like a little awkward period
where Garrett was quiet and I just kept setting things up. Anyways,
that's one of those things that I did not know,
and I got to learn the value of a good
blade beforehand. But anyways, let's keep moving on because I
feel like I'm starting up the rage again. But you
may be going, Okay, that's great about compromise, But this
is Galatians. This is what they warned and the New
Testament they warned people about this all the time. Galatians
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five seven through nine is where Paul's talking about how
they had allowed people to come back in and say, hey,
circumcision is really important, and he goes, you were running
a good race. Who cut in on you to keep
you from obeying the truth. That kind of persuasion does
not come from the one who calls you a little
yeast works through the whole batch of dough. He's literally saying,
what we're pointing out to you, this small compromise is
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what ends up leading you way off course down the line.
Because now, because like it starts with well, you know,
circumcision was already like a good thing, and now we're
just going to add that to the list, even though
God didn't put it there. And what's up next, Well,
now you gotta eat this certain kind of food. And
you got addressed this way, and you got right because
you're just opening the door. It's like whenever they had
taxes in this country for the first time. Everyone voted
yes except for one person, because he said, once we
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introduce one percent, that you know, we've opened the floodgates.
And I'm paraphrasing here, but he goes, one percent can
turn into twenty percent. And look what happened. Here we are,
and here we are.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
You were running a good race. Who cut in on
you to keep you from obeying the truth? That's what
it's supposed to be. It's supposed to be you running
your race. But then you just let these little compromises
in along the way, and the run turns into a walk,
and the walk turns into you being off track, and
the walk turns into you're saying, well, we was just
hang out here for a little while. It's it's not
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a big deal. We stopped running and we're walking and
everything's still fine. Well, why don't we just sit down
for a little while.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Yeah, exactly right.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
Okay, here's here's the next sort of underlying thing that
makes this all work. God made you to be great
and that requires a process, and man, is that not
what we're all living in. But but you have to
really believe that, because if you don't, it's like, oh, yeah,
you know, God's going to develop me. It's like, no, God
made you to be great when you really capture the
revelation of this. I was actually reading Psalm one thirty
nine and fourteen g. I was telling them mighty men
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about it yesterday. It talks about says all your works
are wonderful. This I my soul knows full well, and
that the word that the Hebrew word there is marvelous.
And it talks about how they're like there, it's like
you can use that word as miraculous, as wondrous. It's
like it's this thing he's talking about himself, right, because
first first he says, I'm fearfully and wonderfully made. All
your works are wonderful. This my soul knows very well. Mean,
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I realize you called me to be great, you called
me to be miraculous. You've called me to be distinguished
and unique and to like reflect the unique piece of
your glory. When you actually have the revelation of that,
it is a life changer because, like you said, when
your mission focused, the other things just remove themselves. When
you know you're call to be great, there's so many
things that you're like, why am I wasting my time
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on this? Why am I? And why am I sitting
there thinking like, yeah, it's just a drink, or oh
I could have All that stuff fades away You're like, no,
I'm made to be great.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
God.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
God made you to be great, and if you don't
believe that, you won't operate that way. Yeah, it's not
your job to make you great. It is your job
to trust in God and to do what you know
to do, to be faithful with what's in your hand.
But what you don't do right. It's where God asked
Moses the question. God said to Moses, what's in your hand?
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And he said that when Moses said, well, I'm like,
it's not what he said, but I'm paraphrasing. God said
to Moss, I'm gonna use you to shepherd my people
out of Israel. And Moses said, well, I'm not great, right,
he said, I'm not. I killed somebody. They're not going
to listen to me. Like, who am I to stand
before the Pharaoh? He's saying I'm not great? Yeah, And
God pushes back on him and he says, all I
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need you to do is use what I'm going to
give you. Think about who Moses is in the Bible,
and like, go to that passage and look at the
way Moses saw himself. Moses didn't see himself as great.
Moses is one of the greatest figures in the Bible. Yeah,
I hope that encourages you.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Right.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
That's so I say that to say, you're probably not
going to have, you know, one of the biggest books
in the Bible written about you. But God's going to
use your life in a great way. And this is
Romans nine twenty and twenty one. I think it's a
slap you in the face scripture. Paul says, who are
you to question God? God makes some pottery for special
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use and some pottery for common use. All of us
get to play our part. It's not for us to say, well, God,
I wanted to do this, or God, I wanted to
be this. If you will decide I'm going to do
what God has put me on the earth to do.
It will be a special and mighty thing. And you
could also be someone You could have been a Moses
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like who God wanted to use in a specially and
mighty way, but said, ah, you know, I don't think
that's the right thing for me. What you need to
do is just be obedient. God wants to use you
in a heroic way, right, meaning he's gonna It's not
The world does not revolve around us. I remind myself
all the time. There are so many wonderful, incredible people
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out there having a massive impact on the kingdom. I'm
I'm just a dude who's out here being faithful. I'm
nobody special. But what I get to do is I
get to play my part. And if you start thinking, well, God,
I wanted to do this or I wanted to be that,
I want my life to go this way, what you're
doing is you're arguing with God about what great looks like.
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In the same way where we've talked about the Scripture
and Romans, God uses all things for the good of
those who love him. If you love God and you're
serving him and you feel like things in your life
aren't good. Whose definition of good is wrong, right, not
God's our definition. And the same thing is true about
what a great destiny looks like for your life. If
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you feel like, man like, I just don't feel like
what I'm doing is great, I feel like I'm not winning.
I feel like, you know whatever, you don't feel like
you're on the path to greatness in your life, maybe
you need to think differently about your path. And here's
what I'll say. This only comes if you will fully
fully trust in God. That's what again, it's what the
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scripture Matthew twenty eight. And obey my every command. You
get it, you get it with God, and you get
it from God when you fully submit to him, not
when you have submit to him. And so if you're
wrestling with anything in your life right now, I wouldn't
challenge you to fully submit it to God because he
can also change the way that you think and feel
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about what your destiny is. The same way that I've
had the conversation with men who've you know, struggled in
their marriage for whatever reason. And I've had men tell me,
you know, I just feel like I'm not attracted to
my wife anymore, which is a really difficult place for
a man to be. And I've asked a man before
that I had this conversation with multiple men, but I've
asked him before. I said, you know, do you feel
like God could change that? You feel like that's beyond him.
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And the problem is the guys know the answer to
that question. They just the way that they feel right
now is they don't feel like that could change.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
And that's where feelings are a liar.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
When I get them to admit to me because they
know it's true that God could absolutely change that, and
we begin to walk down that process, that's when God,
they just have to submit it. Say God, like, I'm
going to let you change me and the same way,
and I've watched it happen many times, same way that
God can change the way that that man feels about
his wife, where a year later he's telling me like,
I've never felt more in love, more attracted to my
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wife than I am right now. God can do the
same thing with how you feel about your destiny. Right
God just waiting for you to get on his page,
because I just want to remind everybody God doesn't need
your help. He can do whatever he wants to do. Right,
under it's not a game that we're playing with God.
But understand the game that you're in, Okay, the game
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that we're in with God. God is like, Man, I
need these guys to like just do what I'm asking
them to do. I need I need their help. I
don't need my kids to help me with anything. Right,
I don't need my kids to help me with anything.
Oftentimes they're way more of a burden than they are
a help. It's almost like God's teaching us something we
but you know, but I take that burden on because
I love them and I want to help them. I
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want to see them grow. And it's the exact same
with God's how he feels about you. And if you
didn't have parents that feel that felt that way about you,
it life's hard for you. It's like life's not fair.
But let me just encourage you. If you will just
take that one step closer to God and let him
be your father, you will feel that from him, what
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he wants is to help you grow and to help
you develop. He doesn't need your help with anything. And
so if you'll understand this about God, then this process
actually makes a lot more sense to you that God's
not trying to get me to do stuff, and it's
silly for me to try and do stuff without God's support. Really,
what God wants most out of me is that I
would grow and that I would develop. And so when
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you'll catch that part of the process, that's when all
this makes way more sense.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Yeah, that's so good.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Gee, there's so much in that. I mean, I love
that you're stressing about teach them to do everything that
I said, because that was the Old Testament as well,
like God stressed it over and over again about follow
the whole command, and like you would put those extra
emphasis points in because He knows who we are. I
mean scripturally, like Flipping's one to six as being confident
of this that he who began a good work and
you will carry it on to completion until the day
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of Christ Jesus. And like Jesus said, by this, my
Father is glorified that you would bear much fruit. Like
you are made to be great, Like you really are
made to be great, and you will be in the process.
That's like you have to know that number three kind
of underlying foundation.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Before we go on, just a couple of scriptures I
want to share really quick on this point, then we'll
go to the next point. So all right, we've already
been long on this one. But just some scripture reminders
that God made you to be great Philippians chapter one,
verse six, being confident of this that he who began
a good work in you, will carry it on to
completion until the day of Christ Jesus. God started something
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in you, and He's gonna finish it. And John chapter fifteen,
verse eight. By this, my Father is glorified that you
would bear much fruit. So sometimes what we are like,
is Christians, is we're like a brand new baby tree,
you know, trying to like tell God, I just feel
like I'm not bearing any fruit. I don't know if
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I like the fruit that I'm gonna bear, and I
don't know if I'm going in the right direction. God
just wants you to grow and mature. He designed you
to bear much fruit, so you don't need to tell
him what works or what doesn't work. You're being a
tree who's never borne any fruit, trying to tell the creator,
like what fruit is supposed to look like? Stop it,
shut up, go through your maturation process. And God designed
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you to bear much fruit.
Speaker 3 (28:00):
The scripture were so important, we said him twice. So
belief number three is there is a design for your life.
And you touched on this that God made you kind
of we didn't say it this way, but you talked
about how we have to understand the game that we're
playing and to just know that there's templates and principle
like member, these are things that if you don't have
these beliefs, you would never think that you need to
pursue best. You would always just be okay with like, well,
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I'm avoiding bad. And what this looks like is if
you really believe that there's principles and templates that if
faul will lead to a life capture this greater than
you're capable of dreaming that. That is what Garrett's talking
about about really being submitted and to God's process and
to him to say, you know what, Lord, I'm not
going to be the lump of clay that's going to
ask you why you made like what you're doing, Like
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I wanted to be this. I want to be a
bull and you're making me into a cup. You know,
it is a true submission process when you realize that,
like we talked about this in the intro, I believe
the apostle. Paul was like, man, I have a great life.
Even though he sat there, he's been beaten, he's on
the floor, hes in prison. I think he looked around
he was like, this is so much better. He's the
guy who wrote a massive impact. Yes, he's the guy
who wrote more than you can ask, think or imagine.
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So he's had this revelation. I believe each one of
these men, even though they would not be what we
would think, like, oh, you mean you didn't die with
like a really big retirement to hand down to your
family and like, you know, taking vacations when everyone No,
these guys died in absolute adversity and hardship, but they
had a massive impact and they ran their race. This
is like the shift that occurs in you. And if
you don't believe that there's a design for your life
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and that God made the game for you to win.
And like Garrett said, remember if your definition of good
sounds different than who do you think is wrong? It's
God's definition of win, which means to get one hundred
percent of it. You fulfilled your race, you fulfilled your purpose.
That is what we mean when we say win. And
if you don't believe there's a design for your life.
For that, then you're going to keep just trying to
take control of the joystick. Be like, Ah, you know what, Lord,
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I think you're.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
Going the wrong way.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
And we don't think that way, but we do it
all the time. And we're going to show you. We're
going to show you three areas where this is so deceptive,
but it happens to so many of us. So remember
three beliefs that you got to have. Compromiseill kill you slowly.
God made you be great and requires process. And there
is a design for your life. So if you have that,
you're ready to like, we're going to highlight these areas.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
But you said something, g don't forget them. Scripture, it's
one of our favorites that goes with this. And there's
a design for your lives. It's Proverbs chapter three, five
and six. Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
lean not on your own understanding, and all your ways
submit to Him and He will make your path straight.
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So you want a straight path, it starts with trust
in the Lord with all your heart. Don't half bet
on God. So God, like you know, God, I'm looking
for you to help me. God saying no, right, submit
to me fully and I'll align your path. Yeah, And
I mean, and you're not going to trust somebody that
you don't know. So at the basis of everything we
say it all the time is to know God.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
How are you going to do that? That's right?
Speaker 3 (30:52):
Seek them in scripture, pray, and with fellowship. Those are
the three big ones. Okay, So if you want to
stop being a zig zagger ak like, oh this was
this was bad, so I went away from it, and
then I found something else bad and then I went
away from that, And you're literally just going back and
forth your whole life. You're going to be focused on best.
So we're going to show you three areas where you're
going avoiding the bad versus pursuing the best. And the
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very first one ge this isn't what so many people
do is and they wouldn't think of it this way
is financial freedom.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
What before we talk about financial freedom, I just want
to talk about avoiding the bad one more time for
a second before we dive into these three examples. It's
something I see again. I've told you I I just
got a filter for compromise, and I want to help.
I'm not trying to brag on myself. I want to
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help people as much as I can with this because
I feel like people just let these demons come and
occupied territory and their land, and this stuff. It ruins you.
It ruins you. Matthew twenty five, Parable of the Talents, Right,
I'm not going to tell the whole story.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
Most of you know it.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
If you've been listening to this show for a long time,
we've talked about it dozens of times. Parable of the Talents,
What does the first Servant do? He doesn't make a
return on his on his talent, on his talent, on
what the Master gave him. It says that he was
afraid and he hid it in the ground, and well,
you know what he was trying to do. He's trying
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to avoid the bad. He said, oh man, it would
be bad if I lost this, and I'd make the
Master really angry. And so that's what the first Servant did.
In the Parable of the Talents, he avoided the bad
and the Master called that wicked and lazy. You may
think like, oh, I'm just trying to you know, not
you know, run out of money, not get divorced, not whatever,
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not screw up my life. I'm just trying to be
a good dude. The Master's going to call that wicked
and lazy. If what you are focused on is how
do I not have the worst outcome? You're ruining your life.
And so I hope that's a wake up call for somebody.
Now let's talk about what some of those bads are right,
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and then what greatness is?
Speaker 3 (33:04):
Well, yeah, that hits hard man, because that's the first
one that we were going into. Is financial freedom is
most people would say like, well, that's a great thing.
You mean to have financial freedom, and a lot of
people this is like a goal for their life. This
is I mean, this is a very American goal.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
I get the privilege of working with a lot of men,
have coached a lot of men in their lives and
their business. And my favorite thing to talk to people
about is purpose. Like God's given me a little bit
of revelation on helping people see their purpose and helping
them walk through that journey. It's just as much as
I loved my own journey of figuring it out, I
enjoy the journey. I actually get a lot of fulfillment,
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have a lot of fun helping people like walk through
what their purpose is. And I can't tell you how
many men like I've started there with them of what
they're they're like, I finally ask enough questions and we
push through their answers to the next level, to the
next level.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
Why why why?
Speaker 1 (33:55):
And we get well, I'm you know, I just financial freedom, right,
and I just thought it would be like and what
you're doing when you're I'm not saying financial freedom is wrong,
I'm saying it's not the highest aim, right, it's it's
a great checkbox along the way it is. It should
be nobody's finish line to get to financial freedom. If
if your checkbox, like your finish line for your life
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is financial freedom, congratulations, you're a one talent servant. And
you're gonna you're gonna hear something from the Master that's
going to terribly upset you and and and show you
that you missed it, because what are you doing when
you if your highest aim is financial freedom? Well, when
you know what's bad is to run out of money,
it's bad right. Also, it doesn't kill you. We've talked
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about too, like if you if you hit zero dollars
in you you can actually go below zero, like thank
you banking system over drink. Yeah, you can go to
like minus fifty or whatever your bank will let you
go to. You won't die. Yeah, Like it's it's like
holding your breath. Not breathing won't kill you. Just not
breathing for a long time. Like hitting zero dollars won't
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kill you. Being at zero dollars for a long time
is really hard, but still won't kill you. But this
it's a painful process. I've been zero dollars in my
bank account before. It's painful, it doesn't feel very good.
Didn't die made me better? And you know what my
aim in my life isn't man, I want to never
be zero dollars in my bank account. Again, that's not
the highest aim of my life. And if what you're
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pursuing is financial freedom, a lot of times people are
doing that. They're like, well, no, money's bad, and so
good must be to be a place where like I'll
always have money, right, that's not what greatness is.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
Right.
Speaker 1 (35:31):
If you'll pursue greatness, if you'll learn to add value,
if you'll have great impact on other people's lives, if
you'll solve problems for them, money will never be a
problem for you. And so when I've been zero in
my bank account before. I said, you know what, well,
I'm real good at solving problems, so I'm gonna solve
this one. And I obviously need to learn some lessons
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so I never come back to this place again. We're
not going to run from this place. I'm just going
to get better. The reason I'm here is because I
fell down, right, didn't I didn't know. I didn't know
what I knew what I know Now now I know this,
I don't have to worry about how do I never
be in this place again. I'm just going to get
better and stronger at adding value. So good isn't not bad?
Speaker 2 (36:11):
Right?
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Because bad we can all agree that bad is zero
dollars in your bank account. But good isn't being in
a place where you never need money again. Good is
being someone who can always add value to other people.
So what greatness is in your life is I want
to have the greatest possible impact on other people. I
want to advance the kingdom as much as I can.
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I want to build the most impactful business. And by
the way, most impactful business isn't more dollars, right.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
Don't hear this?
Speaker 4 (36:39):
Right?
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Personal life? And then like but in my business. It's
all about it's not about making money, solve as many
problems for people, add as much value as possible to people.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
I love the guy. I forget his name, but I'm
not a huge fan of the enterprise. But I am
a huge fan of the guy. The guy who's running
the Savannah bananas deal. Oh yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
He talks all the time and like so many videos
I've seen of him, I don't remember what the number is,
but he's like, my goal is to entertain a billion people, right,
Like that's all he talks about. I'm just trying to
And so their tickets are still like fifty dollars or whatever,
He's like, I could sell these tickets for six hundred
bucks apiece because they're super super popular. He's focused on
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adding value. He saw a lane, he saw a problem
where he's like, man, you and I like normal baseball.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
I do not. Everyone likes normal.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
Base This is like, this is like me using your knife.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
I get it.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
I'm with you, but I'm hitting on the principles that
he's he saw a lane that he could add a
lot of value. Instead of saying like, well, how do
I make a bunch of money? He says, Man, I
want to entertain as many people as possible.
Speaker 2 (37:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
He looks for what's greatest impact with my industry, with
my business, with my life. And so this is what
I've done in all of my lanes. I didn't say, like,
how do I not be zero? That dude, I promise
you is not running from zero. Yeah, for sure, he's
running towards impact.
Speaker 3 (38:01):
You know what will absolutely force you into avoiding the
baddest fear. Yeah, because I like I've shared this on
the podcast before, but we were talking about this recently
because it was a real like I get to see
moments of you that other people don't. We spent a
lot of time together. I came over to Garrett's house
and he had had some news that because I mean,
you went through a tough time last year, as did I.
We both had some some things that we don't always
(38:22):
talk about. Challenges abound well because it's adversity. I don't
when something bad happens, I don't go, oh my gosh,
I'm like, okay, check, like let's solve it. Let's keep
going like it, look, what's gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
I've I've had a few years in my life where
it's like, man, this is such a like everything went
so grateful, Like me, it's really hit. That's the year
that It's like, Man, I planted my crops early. The
year before that we had double seed, so i'd extra
seed to get in the ground. It rained at the
right time, right all throughout the year. There was no hail. Yeah, right,
(38:51):
like nobody's sick. You expect every year to go that way.
Speaker 3 (38:55):
You're a ding dunk, yeah, And so that he's using
an analogy, and I know that we're not all farmers,
But so I came over again it's house and he
told me something about something that happened with his business,
and he told me what it was going to cost
him personally, is like he basically had to give up
his income and that was his main source of income
at that point. He's a father of four back then.
And I asked the natural question. I was like, what
are you gonna do? You know, because like for most people,
(39:17):
if you found out that the bulk of your income disappeared,
that's a bad day. And he just goes, man, I'm
not even worried about how I'm to pay my bills.
I can figure that out. He's like I'm always so
zoomed out. I just want to make sure that I'm
still going in the right direction and doing the right things.
And that was all he said about it. And I
was kind of like, Okay, let's plan a podcast. But
in my head, I was like, man, that is what
it looks like to encounter that quote unquote the big
(39:39):
bad but not have fear and for so many of us.
And I'm speaking because this was my biggest thing. I
say was because it's a past tense thing, was like,
oh my gosh, like the financial pressure. It was like
I spent my whole life revolving around the financial pressure
because like that, that would just be the worst thing.
And it was rooted because I grew up in a
scarcity mindset. And I'm sharing this for people out there
because I think there's others that can relate. I grew
(40:00):
up in a house that had scarcity, so I had
this little kid memory of how bad it was to
never be able to get anything you want or not
have food, and that I was letting little kid pain
and fear. Tell big big Nick, hey, this will be
the worst thing.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
Stay away.
Speaker 3 (40:13):
And when you finally sit there and go what am
I doing? This is not the way God made me
to live. Okay, I mean everything Garrett just says one
hundred percent true. But I want to give that point
because I've seen this walked out and I want to
share because it's like, we're not just saying this stuff.
This is how we live. And to really understand that
financial freedom is you just avoiding the bad, and that
you actually need to be going, Okay, God, what if
(40:35):
I'm a video game character that you made and I'm
supposed to be playing this game, what is the role
of my character? Because I want to play that to
one hundred percent and have the max impact. Now you're
starting to go towards the best, and so that's the
whole point of this. So do you that's in finance,
which I think a lot of people can relate. Here's
another one. Avoiding bad would be not getting divorced, like hey,
we're just going to stay together in marriage, like we're
(40:56):
just going to stay together versus the best would be
makeing your marriage a template to win in every other
area of your life and having it be the greatest blessing.
Now that those are wildly different ends of the spectrum,
but a lot of people are just like man, Divorce
is bad. Like man, think about what it would do
to the kids. You know, it's expensive.
Speaker 1 (41:15):
Divorce is definitely the bad, right, We're not disagreement, Yeah,
but not divorced does not equal good, correct, And so
the Again, the whole point of this podcast is, I
feel like a lot of people have lived I've seen it,
and I don't want to do it. I don't want
you to do it. They've lived their lives avoiding bad
and it turns into you running from all the bad things.
(41:37):
But running from all the bad things does not turn
into a great life. And so you have to know
what you're running towards. If if I'm running towards what
I'm supposed to be running towards in my life, if
I face a giant that's in between me and where
I'm going, I'm going to kill it, right. And if
there's stuff to my left or to my right along
(41:58):
the way, I'm just keep running past it. I'm just
going to keep going towards where I'm supposed to be going.
But if you avoid bad, you'll waste a bunch of
your life. You'll zigzag all over the place and just
be disappointed and frustrated at what your outcome is. And
so if you're running from divorce in your marriage, because maybe,
like I've talked to guys before, and I'm never trying
(42:22):
to point anything i'm doing on this show at a
specific person, but I've heard this so many times. Well,
my parents got divorced. I'm just trying to not get divorced.
Speaker 3 (42:30):
Yeah, that's a common thing.
Speaker 1 (42:32):
And again, not getting divorced is bad, but that's not
what I'm aiming towards. What you've got to aim towards
is what is a great marriage. And what I have
seen is people who are aiming towards not getting divorced.
You make a lot of these little compromises along the way.
It's like, well, I'm just trying to not get divorced.
(42:53):
I don't want to make her mad. I don't want
to rock the boat.
Speaker 3 (42:55):
That's exactly right.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
I don't know what I'm aiming towards. I'm just running
from the bad you actually put. You eventually come to
a place where it's like, well, divorce is about as
good as this is.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
Right, Yeah, because what I think about I'm so glad
you said you said, because I was thinking about how
this actually shows up practically if you are if you're
aim if this is a logical thought process, If your
aim is not to be great, then guess what. Or
if your aim is to be great, you have to
be great. Like Michael Jordan, couldn't say I want to
be the greatest basketball player in the world and miss
free throws. It just doesn't work that way, and we
(43:25):
all know that. So if you say you want to
have a great marriage, guess what, You're fifty percent of
the ingredients in there. So you got to be great,
which means you're going to have to first become the
kind of person that's worth falling if you're the man.
And then secondly, you're going to have to have difficult
conversations because that's what this looks like. If it's like, hey,
we're just not trying to get divorced, you just bury
stuff because it's like, you know what, this is probably
(43:46):
just going to cause a lot of problems.
Speaker 1 (43:47):
I would I would ask you if you are in
this situation, do you feel like you could have a
great marriage?
Speaker 2 (43:54):
Right?
Speaker 1 (43:54):
Do you feel like you're not made to have a
great marriage. What's keeping you from having a great marriage
other than you being willing to put in the work
and be fully committed to working through any of the
issues that you have yet, because I want to believe
that people aren't stuck in a situation of well, I'm
(44:15):
just I wasn't meant to have a great marriage. It's just,
you know, if I could just be not divorced, that
would be okay. I think a lot of people find
themselves there because it's hard. Yeah, it's painful to have
a great marriage, but man, what a joy and what
a blessing it is to fight for that. And I
can tell you in my life not only has been
the greatest joy, but it's been the greatest multiplier for
(44:37):
h For sure, It's made me better in every other
area of my life. I can't imagine fighting the battles
I'm fighting out there trying to kill dragons, and then
I come home and I'm having to fight another one,
for sure.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
And I want to highlight for people because I have
had I've been at the point where I'm just like, man,
we just got to stay together. So I don't want
this to come across as us being judgmental. If that's
where you're at, you can start with avoiding the bad,
but you can't stay there, right that's the purpose of pain.
Is it highlights Hey, this is this is not going well.
You need to pay more attention. But you can't just
say like, okay, great, I've just quelled the pain. Like
(45:09):
if you stop there, you're missing it. Because to the
point you just made and what we said earlier about
if God has a plan and you believe that and
he's made the game for you to win, that he'll
he'll show you something that's beyond what you can even imagine.
I always thinking about this literally this morning. My marriage. Man,
it is it is so much better than I thought
it could be. I'm I had some a weird experience
I told you about recently where something bad happened in
(45:31):
my wife's life and I found out how deeply connected
I am to her because I had this emotional heaviness
that had I could. I struggled to contain and I've
never experienced anything like that before. She was halfway across
the world when this happened. We weren't together. This happened
a few months ago, and it showed me like I
had to. I actually spoke to your sister about it
because I was like, what is going on? I can't
stop crying and I don't even know why, and I
(45:53):
don't cry, like I'm not the dude that sits around
in tears all the time. And you and your sister
like broke down some things to me about being incovenant
and like an old belief and in Hebrew belief about
covenant that I used the word that I can't remember,
and I just realized. I was like, oh, I know
what my wife's going through. And even though I have
no fear of her going through it or anything like that,
I'm like feeling what she's feeling. And it blew my mind.
(46:13):
Like I still don't know how to make sense of it.
I didn't really plan on sharing it, but I'm sharing
it because I want to hopefully be an encouragement each
other people. I never if you would have asked me
ten years ago when we were having marriage problems what
my number one thing is, I would have said, I
don't feel connected to my wife. Now I feel so
deeply connected to my wife. It's gone beyond what I
knew was possible that when I had that experience, it
freaked me out. I remember I told you about it
(46:34):
and you said, well, I can't You said, like, oh,
that's good that you're that tender towards your wife, or
you had something like that that was a summary statement,
and I was just like, man, it's but but I
can tell you the practicals of how that works out
are incredible. Is she is the greatest blessing to me.
And so I want to encourage people because I've been
at both places and I just wanted to highlight that
this can be a process. So if you're at the
place where all you're doing is avoiding bad, don't stay there.
(46:57):
Very last thing. Gee, because we talked about your finances,
talked about your marriage, let's just go ahead and center
on you, because that's one hundred percent control was you
and what so many people will have as like their
aim for their life. If you said, like, hey, who
do you want to be a lot of people are like,
I don't know, to be a good person. Okay, I
mean we can get into a lot of definitions of
how you define good, but like for a lot of people,
(47:18):
it's like, well if I just sort of, you know,
I never hurt anybody, I was you know, I was
kind of I was fair to people like this is
this is them? Literally, this is the one talent person
just going like, well, I buried it in the ground.
Speaker 2 (47:29):
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (47:30):
I didn't really try and maximize it. But I also
didn't really upset anybody. And there's that old saying that says,
if you don't want to offend anybody, be nothing, do nothing,
and say nothing. And that is not who we are
called to be.
Speaker 1 (47:39):
So I'm not trying to be a good person. No,
that's that's letting other people judge me. I'm trying that'll
that'll lead you into one of the diseases I call
out all the time, which is trying to be a
mister nice guy. Right, I'm not here to make you
feel good. Yeah, I know, so if if, if you
(48:00):
can agree that that's probably not what the aim should be,
is to just be a good person. Here's what great
impact looks like. And because we're trying to, you know, help,
you don't run from the bad, but run towards greatness.
So what does greatness look like in this area? And
I'm going to connect this one to all the examples
that we use and kind of just wrap us up
(48:21):
instead of be a good person, here's what I want
you to aim towards. Aim towards what's the greatest level
of generosity that you could have. What's the greatest level
of loving and serving others? What's the greatest level of
sacrifice that you could have in your life? That's what
you know. Why do you want to be a good
person in the first place? You want to be a
good person, hopefully so that you could help people, right,
(48:43):
and so the greatest person you could be is maximum generosity,
maximum ability to carry weight for others, to help other
people with their burdens, to help heal people, to be
to sacrifice so that others can see it, understand it
so others can move forward in their life. Every single
one of these bad versus great. All of the bads
(49:05):
are very me focused. But if you'll take the look
at the great, the great is very others focused. Financially,
how could I have the most impact? How could I
help the most people marriage highest impact? How could I
develop a template to not just win myself, but to
help other people win that the way that I've lived
and my wife lives and that our marriage goes shows
(49:27):
other people what is possible? What if I could develop
myself into someone that could have so much impact on
other people, that could love other people. I have the
capacity to love lots of people. I have the capacity
to carry lots of people and be someone willing to
give up myself for others. The Scripture says, no greater
love than this. But then a man who gives up
his life for his brothers. Right, this is what greatness
(49:49):
should look like in your life. Don't run from the bad.
If you run from the bad, you're gonna be the
one talent servant you're gonna hear wicked and lazy because
you're just running from the bad. Don't run from the
b but run towards the great.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
Thank you very much for listening.
Speaker 4 (50:04):
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Speaker 3 (50:11):
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Thank you again for listening. Go out there and think
better and live the impossible. You see you again. Sooner,
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