October 30, 2025 • 28 mins
In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Garrett Unclebach and Nick Surface unpack one of the greatest threats to every Christian man — compromise. Not the big, obvious kind that’s easy to recognize, but the subtle daily decisions that slowly dull your conviction and weaken your purpose.
Garrett shares from his Navy SEAL background and personal faith journey how compromise starts small — in your words, habits, and relationships — and ends up shaping your entire destiny. Together, he and Nick expose the three most common compromises men make and explain how to identify and kill them before they kill your calling.
Garrett and Nick also cover the 5 most common compromises which are:
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Garrett shares from his Navy SEAL background and personal faith journey how compromise starts small — in your words, habits, and relationships — and ends up shaping your entire destiny. Together, he and Nick expose the three most common compromises men make and explain how to identify and kill them before they kill your calling.
Garrett and Nick also cover the 5 most common compromises which are:
- Your word
- Your character
- Your health
- Personal growth
- Belief
Apply for the Mindset Mastery Scholarship by January 6th
Join a group of likeminded Impossible Life listeners in our FREE Skool community by clicking here.
Get the Purpose Playbook by clicking here
Get the FREE Basic Discipline Training 30 Day Program by clicking here
Join us in Mindset Mastery by clicking here
If you're a man that wants real accountability and training to be a leader, click here.
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GET IN TOUCH
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
That's impossible. Let me tell you what I believe. It's
your weakness, it's not your technique. Don't think you know
The Impossible Life Podcast and yes, sitting on a winning lottery. Second,
an idea that is fully formed, fully understood.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
That sticks. This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick
and I are attempting to live impossible lives. What we
know is that nothing is impossible. So instead of using
impossible as an excuse to not try, we'll use the
pursuit of impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's
(00:41):
never been done before, that just means it's unexplored. If
they tell you it's too hard, it's just waiting to
be simplified. Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous
people unwilling to take a risk. The real truth is this.
The solution to any impossible task starts with this question,
(01:03):
if I had to, what would it take? Would it take?
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man who has a built in safety on his
trigger finger. That's right, friends, Garrett uncle back, A man
who will never know what a neglent negligent discharge feels like.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Got my safety right here?
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Boom. I knew you would love that.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
You don't know. If you don't know that reference, then
that's okay.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Go back and watch some great early two thousands military
movies and you'll pick it up. Anyways, you really believe
that though, And you noticed I used the correct term.
I did not say accidental. I didn't say AD.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah, there's no such thing as an accidental discharge.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Only negligent.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Only negligent.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
That's something I know for being around Garrett. You don't
call it an AD, it's an all man.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Oh, dang it, man, the gun it went off.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
The gun just went off from my hand. No, Son,
that is called you being negligent.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
You pulled the trigger?
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Son, Yeah, you were not paying attention to Garret, will
send me these are you sent me that? Of that
dude on the range, that's just his gun jam. So
he put it down towards the ground and pulled the
trigger and it fired, and you could see his face.
He's like, what have I done? And the instructor just
loses it. Who was that? He just comes over and
just destroys him. Anyways, why are we talking about that
as an intro, because today we're talking about how to
stop shooting yourself in the foot in life. I hope
(02:18):
none of you will ever have a negligent discharge in
real like an with an actual firearm, an actual firearm,
and especially not into yourself.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
A lot of men negligent discharge their emotions all the.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Time, all the time, and negligent discharge their life. And
so this is you actually said on our last episode, Hey,
we need to do an episode on the common compromises.
So mid mid episode, here we are. Yeah, mid episode.
I made a note in the old impossible.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Sometimes I say that and we circle back like twenty
episodes later, yeah, or longer.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Sometimes it's the next episode exactly. And I want to
do this one while it was fresh, because what will
always happens scart, Like why did I say that? I'm like, dude,
I don't know you, Like I'm trying to remember the prompt.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
So anyways, I have and when I send you episode ideas,
I have tried to get better, like send you more
than four words.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yeah, I'm waiting for that text. It's not happened yet,
but uh, I know, I know how the game goes.
I'm just going to write this down and ask you later. Anyways,
So we're going to talk about the five most like
most common compromises that are absolutely killing you. And you know,
some people are like, you never compromise because it's sign
of weakness. We're not like, Look, there's some places where
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you need to come in and be willing to compromise.
But these are areas and you're going to see if
there's a trend here when we get into them where
you are absolutely destroying yourself. Because there's compromise where it's
for the common good and you have a shared goal
and you have an alignment in the vision and the
mission that you're doing, and then there's compromise for weakness,
and that is not where we want to ever make
a compromise. And here's here's the prerequisite for compromise. You
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said something recently, g when we were talking about conviction.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Well, let me just let me just pause for a second, please,
because you're gonna be careful when you say sometimes it's
good to compromise, right, Okay. I think America has a
great policy and they say we don't negotiate with terrorists,
right okay. And so if you are compromising, you need
to understand who am I compromising with? Because this is
(04:05):
coming to a mutual agreement, a settlement. Who am I
compromising with? And why am I compromising? Right now, I'll
sit at a table with some folks and say where
what can we agree on? Let's go in the direction.
Maybe you don't necessarily want to go where I want
to go, and I don't necessarily want to go where
you want to go? But where can we both agree
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on going? And if you're someone that I want to
be with, that's a good situation, right, I want to
be with you, We want to be together. We neither
of us are going to get our pick A. But
if we can both agree on a pick pick B,
maybe that's a good thing. What I don't want to
do is compromise from being in an uncomfortable situation, right, yeah, exactly.
(04:47):
And when we talk about compromising, where we're going to
talk about compromise today, it's compromising with yourself? Yeah, And
what are you who are you negotiating with? You're negotiating
with the worst part of yourself. You're negotiating with the
part of yourself that says, don't be uncomfortable, don't make
the right choice. They won't notice. That's going to be
painful when you start having compromises and negotiating with that person.
(05:10):
That's where you need to take America's stance of we
don't negotiate with terrorists. That part of you is a
terrorist to your destiny.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I can only imagine what your internal monologue must be
like on a day to day basis, Like you're the terrorist, Garrett. Anyways,
and here, so you talked recently about how it was
on one of our recent episodes when you're talking about
conviction versus hype, and you said that the first time,
like I asked you, I said, hey, when did you
first feel real conviction? And you talked about how like
when you really understood the truth of who God was
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and what he had called you to and you were like, man,
like you had just this deep conviction in you. And
I think the prerequisite for compromising, and unfortunately, I think
this is where a lot of us live and I'm
throwing myself in this as well, is that we don't
really take time to consider the weight and seriousness of
our lives. You've highlighted this a lot to me. Unfortunately
it's all on record because we've recorded live on this podcast,
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but it's been good for me because I was I've
traveled recently, so I had some time to myself and
I felt like God really just guided my thoughts. And
I was sitting there and I just had this real
desire to deeply consider truth, because if somebody says something
and you've put no thought into it, you're just kind
of like okay. But like if somebody said something that
you've spent your life studying, Like if someone said something
like objectively that was untrue, like oh, the Earth is
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square and you were like, you know, you were some
astronaut or whatever it was, or somebody who really you'd
be like hold on, like you couldn't let that slide,
and there was no point where you'd be like, yeah, okay,
no problem. And I kind of think we don't do
that enough in our life with the things that are,
you know, our reputation, what we actually believe, who God
says we are, who God is, Like I don't think
if you said, like, hey, who is what's God? Like,
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I think a lot of people would be like, uh,
he's love, you know, And if that's you, I'm not
knocking you, but like we should take I hope that
that hits you a little bit. You need to take
time to consider some of these things, because otherwise it's
very easy to compromise. If you haven't taken time to
really know the weight and seriousness of what you leaving,
what you hold to be true, you will very easily
just lay those things down. So it's a you know,
(07:04):
it's a real point to stop and consider these things.
But gee, we're going to get into these compromises and
these big five. But we did what we do on
an impossible life all the time. I still don't have
a I'm trying to look a se if I can
make up a sound effect for him, but I don't.
Not today, not the time, Not today, Satan, Go ahead, No,
let me.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Give the definition for concession to adjust and settle a
difference by mutual agreement, like I already talked about with
concessions of claims by the parties. Concession is to yield
or to give up on something. Right, you make a
concession saying like, oh okay, I'll allow this and so again,
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that's why I would That's the point I was making earlier.
When you're having concessions, when you're allowing something, when you're
seeding something. Who are you negotiating with? That's the really
important part. And so when we're talking about these common
compromises today, right again, compromise is to adjust and settle
a difference by mutual agreement with concessions of claims by
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the parties. When you are compromising, you're making concessions with
another party, and you need to be really well, you
need to really well understand who's the other party that
I'm working with when I make these concessions, right, and
so we're not going to do concessions with the weakest
part of ourself. And now that you have that understanding,
let's talk about what some of the biggest compromises that
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people make are.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Right, And I'll let's give you a little heads up.
If you can reverse engineer these and start with some
of the ones that we say are the most common,
and you begin to be the person that doesn't compromise,
you'll be in a rare error. Number one saw this,
and you have talked about numerous times your words so easy.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Well, every time words come out of your mouth, you're
writ in a check. Right, And sometimes this is a
topic that I've worked with a lot of people personally
on people that I've coached definitely folks on the younger
side that I've worked with as well. Every time you speak,
you're writing a check. Sometimes in life, the collector for
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that check comes to your house and he bangs on
the door. But if you've ever run a business before,
there's also times where you have accounts payable and there's
people you got some like if your accountant might come
to and be like, hey man, you got some like
two hundred day old accounts payable.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Here.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
You want to you want to settle those, You want
to take care of that. Nobody they've not said anything,
they didn't send you any emails. But you owe a bill.
What do you want to do about that? Some people
will say like, that's whatever, you know, yeah, oh, if
they haven't called, you know, let's just let it pay.
Let's just pay the bills that are that are screaming
at us. And that's how a lot of people treat
their word. I'll pay up on the stuff that people
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force me to pay up on, right, And that is
you don't value your word. And if you never value
your word, your word won't ever be worth very much.
What I have desired, what I want to be, I
want to be someone that when like, when I speak,
people like, you can take that to the bank. If
you said it, it's gonna happen, right, Versus what's the
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opposite of that? You really mean it, you're sincere, You're
promising people stuff, and they're like, it's he's full of crap?
Is that? Which is that how you want your word
to be treated? And so you make concessions, when you
make compromises when the worst part of yourself you wrote
a check and the worst part of yourself says, they
don't care, it's not a big deal. You don't you
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don't have to. I know you said that, but you
don't have to do that. Who's the one keeping the ledger?
You know everything that you've said, You know everything that
you've said, and if you don't run that ledger correctly,
you will end up in a place. Maybe you've paid
all the bills that are screaming at you, but if
I dug in and looked at your ledger, you got
a massive accounts payable on people that aren't emailing you.
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And what the truth is, you know your word's not
worth anything. So every time that you allow this, every
time you have you say something and it's like, well,
no one forced me to do it, so I don't
have to do it. You're just devaluing your word, and
you make enough of these concessions, you will get to
a place where your word is worth nothing, not just
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to other people, but your word's worth nothing to you.
And this is part of the reason people struggling discipline.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
You know what's so like robbing about that you don't
even realize how good it can be whenever your word. Like,
I think about all the people you know that you
go if they said it, I w one hundred percent
believe it. Yeah, if you're out there right now, I
bet you if you can think of one or two,
you're very lucky. Now, what do you think that's going
to do for you as a person if you start
to become that kind of person that people know when
they say it, they're going to do it. I've learned
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this from you, and I've put this into practice. It
came into effect recently when I was very, very tired
traveling for work. But I told a new client, I
was like, I will get this to you by the
end of the day. So at eight o'clock Pacific time,
I was dead tired, but I told myself. I was like,
I gave this guy my word, and that meant so
much to me that I felt myself get like a
wave of energy and I got it done and I
was able to do it excellently and get it off.
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And like I stress this two people, I'm like, you
don't understand my word is really important to me. And
I don't know if they notice or if they kind
of go. But guess what. Guess what, I'm not having
to do a lot of marketing because these people are
doing my marketing for me. And that's the stuff that
you can't you can't actually count on until you experience it.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
And if you'll it's kind of like getting the right
relationship with your finances, if you if you'll force yourself
to tithe, Yeah, you'll, you'll, you'll deal with the other
ninety percent correctly. Right. But if you say, like, well,
it's I don't I don't have the money to I
can't afford to tithe, you can't afford to not right. Right.
Once you do that, you'll do everything else correctly. Yep.
Your word's kind of the same way. If you'll start
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treating your word like I have to do everything that
I say, you'll also be a lot more careful in
what you say. You'll stop You'll stop making promises that
you know you can't keep.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Yeah, And and I mean, like, I know that your
wife trusts you. I tell this story and I'll be
very quick. I remember when it really hit me. I
had done something that rain didn't like and she we
were talking in bed about it, and I was like, Oh,
this is gonna be a long conversation. In my head,
that's what I'm thinking. I'm like, I'm gonna we're gonna
have to hear about this, she said. And I said,
you know what, babe, I will not do it again.
And she was like, okay, you want to watch a show.
And I was like in my head, I'm like that's it.
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On the outside, I was like, yeah, sure, And I
remember I had this real On the inside, I was
like it worked. No. No, she believed because I've given
her every reason.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
Right, that's right.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
And I imagine that if you could just tell someone
I'll do this, I'm like, yeah, Okay, that's the end
of the conversation. That's the end of the conversation. You
don't have to like go through all the reasons why
it's gonna be different this time.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
I sent you. It's funny you didn't you didn't know
what to do with it. I just sent you the
gift of Winston the Wolf from Pulp Fiction. Okay, you don't,
do you know the reference? I don't so Winston. It's
a terrible scene in this movie. But they there's a
dead person in their car and then you know Samuel L.
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Jackson's character, and they don't know what to do about it.
They're freaking out, so they call their boss. Their boss
calls Winston the Wolf, and this guy shows up at
the front door, like pulls up in a fast car
really quick, answers that knocks on the door, says I'm
Winston the Wolf. I solve problems, right, And because his
boss called this guy, right, he's going to know exactly
what to do, right. And I was just making the
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reference of like, that's the type I want to be,
that type of person that's like, I'm here, I got it.
So if you like give me all your problems, I'd say,
I'll take care of it. It's like that's it. Yeah.
One of the things Winston says is if you do
exactly what I tell you to do, when I tell
you to do it. I'll make all your problems go away.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
You basically are Winston. For the record, I would call
you if I had a dead body. But that's all
another episode anyways. Number two places where people compromise you
is your character. Man, You'll cheat in all sorts of
little ways because it's not that big a deal.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
It's very It's similar to your word, but this one's
even more private. Right, your word is a test of
your character. And so I wanted to step right off
of word into character because this is all the stuff
that no one will ever see. But instead of what
you know, eroding your value, the value of your word
when you don't keep it. What you're doing when you
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are making compromises of character. This is word. Not necessarily
you say something, but you you steal something, or you
just don't. You don't put in the value that you're
supposed to put in. You don't follow up on your commitments.
Not necessarily your word, but the things you know are right,
and you don't do it. This is also sin, by
the way. Yeah, and so none of us are perfect, right,
(15:19):
I'm a ciner just like everybody else. I'm not claiming
to be perfect in this But when you make compromises
in your character, when you make these little concessions, what
your This is what sin does. Sin pollutes your heart. Right,
and when you have made willful sins over and over again,
it's not that God's grace isn't sufficient, but you you
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have allowed these things into your heart that in the
same way sanctification, uh, salvation happens at a moment. Sanctification
takes time. Transformation takes time. You know, you give your
life to Christ, but it takes years for you to
walk through some levels of change and transformation. The same way,
if you if you build up a lifetime of making
little compromises on your character, you don't just say like, well,
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I'm I'm all good. I'm a completely different person now
because God changes a spirit, soul and body, like right
thinking changes as well. And so and when you make
these character compromises, you're training your brain incorrectly, You're training
your hands incorrectly. So these little compromises you think aren't
a big deal, they turn into you exactly right, they
turn into so your your word changes the value of
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your word to others and to yourself. So you like
discipline when you compromise on your character. You're polluting your heart,
which it's your company will turn you in absolutely the
wrong direction. What I know is I have to continually
renew my heart. And it's like it's like being a
person that has a horrible metabolism. It's like I can't
ever eat carbs. I'll just get fat immediately. Treat your
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character that way. I can't. I can't sin. If I sin,
I'm ruin. I'm gonna start going in all the wrong directions.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Yeah, I'm so glad you said, because that was what
we covered on the previous episode, was that these little
things that it's this little baby that grows into a
monster and it looks cute when it's a baby, like, oh,
it's harmless, and that when it grows into the monster
and it's killing you. You're like, man, we're this come
from Well guess what. You raised it and nurtured it
and berthed it. So be warned, Number three G And
this was going to hit hord because you know, we
wren in America your health. Oh man, dang it, I
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just wish I could just eat ice cream all the
time and have it be full of, you know, all
the right stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
It's not that you can't ever, you know, enjoy what
you eat. It needs to be intentional, right, that's exactly
you know. It's not like you got to eat chicken
and broccoli for the rest of your life. But also
you don't need to get in a place where you think, like, well,
I I should eat chicken and broccoli all the time,
but but I don't. And it's okay if I do
this every once in a while. Don't. Don't look at
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it that way. I understand what what what's the most
important to me. I want to be healthy, I want
to be fit. I want to be my strongest, I
want to be my best.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
I want to be energized to do God's will.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Yeah. Yeah, and ice cream fits. There's there's there's a
way to get ice cream in there, but it's not
every day for sure, And it's also not necessarily at
the times of the day that I would like I'd
like to eat ice cream, you know, at eleven o'clock
at night.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Yeah, which is great whenever you're a teenager. You know,
where I think people compromise the most in their health.
The obvious ones are the fit are like, oh I
didn't work out or I ate what I should have
I think that people compromise more on their rest than
on anything else. We are all fatigued and exhausted. And
I had a conversation with a follower of ours and
judge me by my whoop please. Oh you know there's
a good thing. We don't have an open impossible life
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group right now.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Because Nick tried to do that. He's like, let's get
all of the I said, no, it's not, it's not.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Well, okay, this one's when we're speaking nuge when we're
talking about rest. But like, because yeah, I think it's
so wild that and the new tests in the in
the Ten Commandments, God says all this stuff that we
expect and goes, oh, and by the way, one day
to rest. Wait what yeah? And oh I rested? Wait
you rested? Okay, so you were showing hundred of course
it is. It's God's God's is It's just the infinite
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Infinity said, that's exactly what it is, because he's limitless.
But I had a guy. I had a guy that
reached out to us recently. He's like, how do I rest?
And I had to explain him. I was like, you
have to, and I want to say this for everybody.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
I think my whoop's not always accurate because it only
measures my body and not my spirit.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Okay, anyways, for those of us that have actual physical bodies,
like like ak all of us, but like, how do
you rest? This is where you have to have some
self awareness to know what recharges you right and what
re energizes because you do need to schedule rest. I
am perfectly okay with falling asleep on the couch and
laying around all day because I've scheduled it. Me and
my family on Sundays, that's our rest day. We watch
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movies together. We have a set time where the kids
can go have play dates. They have two hours they
can go have playdates from one to three. Other than that,
we rest. We spend time together as a family. That's
the whole Sunday. We don't do anything. It is one
hundred percent. So what do I do. I'll watch soccer
and drink a cup of coffee. I'll take naps, I
will go on a walk with my wife. I will also, yeah,
I'll play video games. And you might be going, wait
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what like and look, I go one hundred miles an
hour during but when it's rest time, because I've scheduled it.
I don't feel Not only do I not feel bad,
I love it. And guess what, When I wake up
on Monday, I'm always way more revitalized. Like you can
see it in my whoop score. By the end of
the week, I'm like, oh, man, I was running hard,
and then Sunday comes and then you're like, oh, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, green, green, green,
Like I've recovered. So you have to be aware of
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what actually rejuvenates you, and.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
The standout side in a perfect meditative position and absorb
maximum energy from the sun for one hour.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
I actually believe part of that, minus the perfect position
of meditative, because I've seen you go out in the
sun and just sit there and soak it in. But
I want to say that because I do think we're
terrible at like having scheduled rest. But the Sabbath was
a commandment for reason, so that's a big compromise. I
think a lot of us are have number four G.
And this is one that you are heard about, is
personal growth.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
I said to Nick, this is one of my I
feel like this is a secret that I have that
I don't know how to explain.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
Very secret's about to be out.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I don't know how to explain it very well. But
this is something that has been a source of my
level ups in life, and that's been whenever I've had
challenges presented to me. I never want to people at
can you do this? Do you want to do this?
And it's always I got it, I'll take care of it.
I want to be Winston the Wolf. I don't want
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to be the guy that's like, well, is the giant
nine feet because I don't this guy only takes down
under nine feet, So if he's nine foot one, don't
ask me.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
I'm out.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
I never wanted to limit myself and I knew from
a young age that growth was possible. So and I
watched My Dad's a good model for me in this
he talked about in construction. He told me, he told
me stories growing up of how many times in business
like you bit off more than he could choose. Oh yeah,
and he said, I'll figure it out. And I wanted
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to always be someone who said, you know what I can,
I'll take that challenge, I'll learn, I'll figure it out,
instead of being afraid of the challenge and saying, wow,
well you know you make a concession with the I'm
willing to take the risk because what the value to
be gained for me is I want to be my
best and if I if I never take on, if
I never put any more weight on the bar than
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what I've done before, then how am I ever going
to grow?
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Yeah? I think about it. If you had to, what
would it take?
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Exactly?
Speaker 1 (22:03):
But you know what the thing is that people So
it's great you say, it's everybody every day, every time
you listen to the podcast, But you know what, you
know what the worst thing about America is we don't
really have to do much. Yeah, right, So it's like
we don't really have to get to what would it take?
But let me tell you. So, when I was in
my early twenties, I worked for Enterprise rent Car in
the management training program. And the most valuable thing that
I learned the Enterprise Rental Car the biggest rental car
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company in the world. There's all sorts of stuff, you
can study them. They're a very interesting business case. But
the thing that they teach people, they teach all their
management training is you never say no to a deal.
So if someone walks off the street and you've got
a car that someone's coming in for in an hour,
to pick up and you've got it all clean and ready,
and they go, hey, I want to rent that car
out there. You're not allowed to say no. You say
yes all the time. And I'm telling you, man, and
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what the scenario gave you happened regularly, so you every
day you were always like, oh, I think it's going
to be cool, and then something will happen and it's
like it was like adapt and overcome every day. And
I took that attitude with me everywhere I went afterwards
because I realized, well, exactly, but they recognized that in
their culture and they trained it into every single person.
So you've got these little twenty two twenty three year
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old kids. They're just coming out with their degrees and like,
I don't know what level of entitlement they have, but
they're like, you say yes to every deal, and they
were hard on it. And dude, I took that with
me and I still have to this day, like when
people I'm like, yeah, I can do that. And to
the point you made about your dad, I remember the
first I bid off this marketing, my first start of
my marketing consultancy, like nine years ago. These people I
was developing this relationship with this client. They're like, Hey,
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we want to do this. What do you think? And
I was like, I'll do it. I had no idea
what I was going to do, but it was the
I landed a thirty thousand dollars deal that they were
going to pay like in a lump sum. I got
the biggest checks. Like one of my goals was to
get a five thousand dollars check and a ten thousand
dollars check. I kind of set these goals for myself.
I accomplished both of them in that deal. I won't
tell the whole story of the deal, but I was
literally just like I was like, I don't know what
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I'm gonna do here, but I've got some ideas and
we're going to figure it out. And I was I
was studying, I was reading that. You may think that's dishonest.
I actually ended up doing a really good job for them,
and they made way more money than they paid me.
Why Because I just said, I just had this yes mentality,
because if you had to what would take You have
to put yourself in the position first where you go,
I have to do this, And if you don't have
a yes mentality, who knows what else you'll get and
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I look at like some of the things that we're
doing now we both run one hundred and fifty miles
an hour all the time, and we're made to do it.
I have a firm belief that God made us to work.
I'm not like I have intentional rest. I keep putting
more weight on the bar and it hadn't killed me yet.
That's exactly it. But it starts with that thought process
of like, I'm not going to accept the limitation here.
Now there's some wisdom to this, and this is a shortcast,
so we're not going to go down. I don't want
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you to go out and like I took five jobs
and now everyone's mad at me because I couldn't do that.
I can They're all remote, Yeah I can only do one. Yeah,
don't do that. But like there's some.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Wisdom to be a compromise of character.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
Correct, but there's there's so there is I want a
caveat that because I don't want people like the impossible
life just said say yes to everything. But when you
have an understand of what you're there to do and why,
and like your your unique abilities, like I'm using the
example of enterprise, why would you say no, like, ah,
that's enough business, served enough people. No, like, we want
to serve as many people as God will entrust us with.
(25:04):
There's I heard doctor Robbie give this great uh. He
was preaching about the about the Elisha and saying to
the widow, how many drugs do you have? And it
just keeps pouring the oil. It wasn't like God was
like I'll fill up five jugs. I'll fill up every
jug you got till you run out. That's how God works.
So really think about that. But anyways, gee, so last
last one and by the way, real quick before we
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go the last one one. Things that people compromise on
in this self, in the personal growth, don't compromise on
your time with God. And in the word. I am
always blown away when I talk to guys and I
say do you read your Bible every day? And they're like, oh,
you know, dude, Like there's there's there's there's nothing I can.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Say to you, Tith when you get paid, Yes, wake
up in the morning, read your Bible and go to
the gym.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
It's not that hard. It's not no, and there's never
a reason not to do those things. That that's it.
Like I feel like you're dad. It's saying hard guys.
Come on, you got to decide, all right, gee, what's
number five?
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Okay? Number five? People compromise and their beliefs. And this
is there's some We talk about belief all the time,
belief as it relates to identity, belief as it relates
to purpose. And for those of you yet to go
through mindset master with us to say yet, because I
know you'll end up there eventually. You're just taking the
slow route. That's fine. You'll join us when you're ready.
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The definition of beliefs is things that I know are
true but can't prove. And when you know it's true
but you can't prove it and you keep facing evidence
to the contrary, it's very easy to say, well, maybe right,
maybe belief. Maybe I was a little bit off in
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my belief. Maybe I'm not as great as I thought.
Maybe I'm not as capable as I thought. Maybe God's
not as good as I thought. Yeah, maybe he's still good,
He's just not as good as I thought.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
Did God really say?
Speaker 2 (26:53):
Did God really say that? It's the beliefs or the
things I know are true but can't prove. And this,
this is truly the test of our lives. This is
my favorite part of Hebrews, the Hall of Faith. It's
looking at these people's lives, and it said they held
fast their faith all the way until the end. They
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didn't see It says they didn't see all of the promises,
but they held their faith all the way until the end.
These are people who did not compromise on their beliefs.
They faced evidence day after day, decade after decade, and
they did not give up on their beliefs. Your beliefs
set you on a trajectory in life, with the way
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that you think, your identity, which informs every decision that
you make, your purpose, which is the path that you're
going to walk. All of these things are shaped by
your beliefs. And if you start compromising on your belief
you're diminishing every single one of those things. You're diminishing
your thought power, you're diminishing your identity, you're diminishing your
purpose because you couldn't hold onto the belief you start saying,
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you know, maybe I can't bench this much, so let's
just take a little bit of weight off the bar,
and you diminish the power of what God has given
you the ability to have faith, the ability to believe.
So stop compromising. Stop making these little concessions when you're
negotiating with the worst part of yourself. Yeah, just remind yourself,
I don't negotiate with terrorists.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
That sticks. This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick
and I are attempting to live impossible lives. What we
know is that nothing is impossible. So instead of using
impossible as an excuse to not try, we'll use the
pursuit of impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's
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never been done before, that just means it's unexplored. If
they tell you it's too hard, it's just waiting to
be simplified. Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous
people unwilling to take a risk. The real truth is this.
The solution to any impossible task starts with this question,
(01:03):
if I had to, what would it take? Would it take?
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man who has a built in safety on his
trigger finger. That's right, friends, Garrett uncle back, A man
who will never know what a neglent negligent discharge feels like.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Got my safety right here?
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Boom. I knew you would love that.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
You don't know. If you don't know that reference, then
that's okay.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Go back and watch some great early two thousands military
movies and you'll pick it up. Anyways, you really believe
that though, And you noticed I used the correct term.
I did not say accidental. I didn't say AD.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah, there's no such thing as an accidental discharge.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Only negligent.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Only negligent.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
That's something I know for being around Garrett. You don't
call it an AD, it's an all man.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Oh, dang it, man, the gun it went off.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
The gun just went off from my hand. No, Son,
that is called you being negligent.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
You pulled the trigger?
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Son, Yeah, you were not paying attention to Garret, will
send me these are you sent me that? Of that
dude on the range, that's just his gun jam. So
he put it down towards the ground and pulled the
trigger and it fired, and you could see his face.
He's like, what have I done? And the instructor just
loses it. Who was that? He just comes over and
just destroys him. Anyways, why are we talking about that
as an intro, because today we're talking about how to
stop shooting yourself in the foot in life. I hope
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none of you will ever have a negligent discharge in
real like an with an actual firearm, an actual firearm,
and especially not into yourself.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
A lot of men negligent discharge their emotions all the.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Time, all the time, and negligent discharge their life. And
so this is you actually said on our last episode, Hey,
we need to do an episode on the common compromises.
So mid mid episode, here we are. Yeah, mid episode.
I made a note in the old impossible.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Sometimes I say that and we circle back like twenty
episodes later, yeah, or longer.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Sometimes it's the next episode exactly. And I want to
do this one while it was fresh, because what will
always happens scart, Like why did I say that? I'm like, dude,
I don't know you, Like I'm trying to remember the prompt.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
So anyways, I have and when I send you episode ideas,
I have tried to get better, like send you more
than four words.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yeah, I'm waiting for that text. It's not happened yet,
but uh, I know, I know how the game goes.
I'm just going to write this down and ask you later. Anyways,
So we're going to talk about the five most like
most common compromises that are absolutely killing you. And you know,
some people are like, you never compromise because it's sign
of weakness. We're not like, Look, there's some places where
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you need to come in and be willing to compromise.
But these are areas and you're going to see if
there's a trend here when we get into them where
you are absolutely destroying yourself. Because there's compromise where it's
for the common good and you have a shared goal
and you have an alignment in the vision and the
mission that you're doing, and then there's compromise for weakness,
and that is not where we want to ever make
a compromise. And here's here's the prerequisite for compromise. You
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said something recently, g when we were talking about conviction.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Well, let me just let me just pause for a second, please,
because you're gonna be careful when you say sometimes it's
good to compromise, right, Okay. I think America has a
great policy and they say we don't negotiate with terrorists,
right okay. And so if you are compromising, you need
to understand who am I compromising with? Because this is
(04:05):
coming to a mutual agreement, a settlement. Who am I
compromising with? And why am I compromising? Right now, I'll
sit at a table with some folks and say where
what can we agree on? Let's go in the direction.
Maybe you don't necessarily want to go where I want
to go, and I don't necessarily want to go where
you want to go? But where can we both agree
(04:26):
on going? And if you're someone that I want to
be with, that's a good situation, right, I want to
be with you, We want to be together. We neither
of us are going to get our pick A. But
if we can both agree on a pick pick B,
maybe that's a good thing. What I don't want to
do is compromise from being in an uncomfortable situation, right, yeah, exactly.
(04:47):
And when we talk about compromising, where we're going to
talk about compromise today, it's compromising with yourself? Yeah, And
what are you who are you negotiating with? You're negotiating
with the worst part of yourself. You're negotiating with the
part of yourself that says, don't be uncomfortable, don't make
the right choice. They won't notice. That's going to be
painful when you start having compromises and negotiating with that person.
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That's where you need to take America's stance of we
don't negotiate with terrorists. That part of you is a
terrorist to your destiny.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I can only imagine what your internal monologue must be
like on a day to day basis, Like you're the terrorist, Garrett. Anyways,
and here, so you talked recently about how it was
on one of our recent episodes when you're talking about
conviction versus hype, and you said that the first time,
like I asked you, I said, hey, when did you
first feel real conviction? And you talked about how like
when you really understood the truth of who God was
(05:39):
and what he had called you to and you were like, man,
like you had just this deep conviction in you. And
I think the prerequisite for compromising, and unfortunately, I think
this is where a lot of us live and I'm
throwing myself in this as well, is that we don't
really take time to consider the weight and seriousness of
our lives. You've highlighted this a lot to me. Unfortunately
it's all on record because we've recorded live on this podcast,
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but it's been good for me because I was I've
traveled recently, so I had some time to myself and
I felt like God really just guided my thoughts. And
I was sitting there and I just had this real
desire to deeply consider truth, because if somebody says something
and you've put no thought into it, you're just kind
of like okay. But like if somebody said something that
you've spent your life studying, Like if someone said something
like objectively that was untrue, like oh, the Earth is
(06:22):
square and you were like, you know, you were some
astronaut or whatever it was, or somebody who really you'd
be like hold on, like you couldn't let that slide,
and there was no point where you'd be like, yeah, okay,
no problem. And I kind of think we don't do
that enough in our life with the things that are,
you know, our reputation, what we actually believe, who God
says we are, who God is, Like I don't think
if you said, like, hey, who is what's God? Like,
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I think a lot of people would be like, uh,
he's love, you know, And if that's you, I'm not
knocking you, but like we should take I hope that
that hits you a little bit. You need to take
time to consider some of these things, because otherwise it's
very easy to compromise. If you haven't taken time to
really know the weight and seriousness of what you leaving,
what you hold to be true, you will very easily
just lay those things down. So it's a you know,
(07:04):
it's a real point to stop and consider these things.
But gee, we're going to get into these compromises and
these big five. But we did what we do on
an impossible life all the time. I still don't have
a I'm trying to look a se if I can
make up a sound effect for him, but I don't.
Not today, not the time, Not today, Satan, Go ahead, No,
let me.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Give the definition for concession to adjust and settle a
difference by mutual agreement, like I already talked about with
concessions of claims by the parties. Concession is to yield
or to give up on something. Right, you make a
concession saying like, oh okay, I'll allow this and so again,
(07:43):
that's why I would That's the point I was making earlier.
When you're having concessions, when you're allowing something, when you're
seeding something. Who are you negotiating with? That's the really
important part. And so when we're talking about these common
compromises today, right again, compromise is to adjust and settle
a difference by mutual agreement with concessions of claims by
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the parties. When you are compromising, you're making concessions with
another party, and you need to be really well, you
need to really well understand who's the other party that
I'm working with when I make these concessions, right, and
so we're not going to do concessions with the weakest
part of ourself. And now that you have that understanding,
let's talk about what some of the biggest compromises that
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people make are.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Right, And I'll let's give you a little heads up.
If you can reverse engineer these and start with some
of the ones that we say are the most common,
and you begin to be the person that doesn't compromise,
you'll be in a rare error. Number one saw this,
and you have talked about numerous times your words so easy.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Well, every time words come out of your mouth, you're
writ in a check. Right, And sometimes this is a
topic that I've worked with a lot of people personally
on people that I've coached definitely folks on the younger
side that I've worked with as well. Every time you speak,
you're writing a check. Sometimes in life, the collector for
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that check comes to your house and he bangs on
the door. But if you've ever run a business before,
there's also times where you have accounts payable and there's
people you got some like if your accountant might come
to and be like, hey man, you got some like
two hundred day old accounts payable.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Here.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
You want to you want to settle those, You want
to take care of that. Nobody they've not said anything,
they didn't send you any emails. But you owe a bill.
What do you want to do about that? Some people
will say like, that's whatever, you know, yeah, oh, if
they haven't called, you know, let's just let it pay.
Let's just pay the bills that are that are screaming
at us. And that's how a lot of people treat
their word. I'll pay up on the stuff that people
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force me to pay up on, right, And that is
you don't value your word. And if you never value
your word, your word won't ever be worth very much.
What I have desired, what I want to be, I
want to be someone that when like, when I speak,
people like, you can take that to the bank. If
you said it, it's gonna happen, right, Versus what's the
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opposite of that? You really mean it, you're sincere, You're
promising people stuff, and they're like, it's he's full of crap?
Is that? Which is that how you want your word
to be treated? And so you make concessions, when you
make compromises when the worst part of yourself you wrote
a check and the worst part of yourself says, they
don't care, it's not a big deal. You don't you
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don't have to. I know you said that, but you
don't have to do that. Who's the one keeping the ledger?
You know everything that you've said, You know everything that
you've said, and if you don't run that ledger correctly,
you will end up in a place. Maybe you've paid
all the bills that are screaming at you, but if
I dug in and looked at your ledger, you got
a massive accounts payable on people that aren't emailing you.
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And what the truth is, you know your word's not
worth anything. So every time that you allow this, every
time you have you say something and it's like, well,
no one forced me to do it, so I don't
have to do it. You're just devaluing your word, and
you make enough of these concessions, you will get to
a place where your word is worth nothing, not just
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to other people, but your word's worth nothing to you.
And this is part of the reason people struggling discipline.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
You know what's so like robbing about that you don't
even realize how good it can be whenever your word. Like,
I think about all the people you know that you
go if they said it, I w one hundred percent
believe it. Yeah, if you're out there right now, I
bet you if you can think of one or two,
you're very lucky. Now, what do you think that's going
to do for you as a person if you start
to become that kind of person that people know when
they say it, they're going to do it. I've learned
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this from you, and I've put this into practice. It
came into effect recently when I was very, very tired
traveling for work. But I told a new client, I
was like, I will get this to you by the
end of the day. So at eight o'clock Pacific time,
I was dead tired, but I told myself. I was like,
I gave this guy my word, and that meant so
much to me that I felt myself get like a
wave of energy and I got it done and I
was able to do it excellently and get it off.
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And like I stress this two people, I'm like, you
don't understand my word is really important to me. And
I don't know if they notice or if they kind
of go. But guess what. Guess what, I'm not having
to do a lot of marketing because these people are
doing my marketing for me. And that's the stuff that
you can't you can't actually count on until you experience it.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
And if you'll it's kind of like getting the right
relationship with your finances, if you if you'll force yourself
to tithe, Yeah, you'll, you'll, you'll deal with the other
ninety percent correctly. Right. But if you say, like, well,
it's I don't I don't have the money to I
can't afford to tithe, you can't afford to not right. Right.
Once you do that, you'll do everything else correctly. Yep.
Your word's kind of the same way. If you'll start
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treating your word like I have to do everything that
I say, you'll also be a lot more careful in
what you say. You'll stop You'll stop making promises that
you know you can't keep.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Yeah, And and I mean, like, I know that your
wife trusts you. I tell this story and I'll be
very quick. I remember when it really hit me. I
had done something that rain didn't like and she we
were talking in bed about it, and I was like, Oh,
this is gonna be a long conversation. In my head,
that's what I'm thinking. I'm like, I'm gonna we're gonna
have to hear about this, she said. And I said,
you know what, babe, I will not do it again.
And she was like, okay, you want to watch a show.
And I was like in my head, I'm like that's it.
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On the outside, I was like, yeah, sure, And I
remember I had this real On the inside, I was
like it worked. No. No, she believed because I've given
her every reason.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
Right, that's right.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
And I imagine that if you could just tell someone
I'll do this, I'm like, yeah, Okay, that's the end
of the conversation. That's the end of the conversation. You
don't have to like go through all the reasons why
it's gonna be different this time.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
I sent you. It's funny you didn't you didn't know
what to do with it. I just sent you the
gift of Winston the Wolf from Pulp Fiction. Okay, you don't,
do you know the reference? I don't so Winston. It's
a terrible scene in this movie. But they there's a
dead person in their car and then you know Samuel L.
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Jackson's character, and they don't know what to do about it.
They're freaking out, so they call their boss. Their boss
calls Winston the Wolf, and this guy shows up at
the front door, like pulls up in a fast car
really quick, answers that knocks on the door, says I'm
Winston the Wolf. I solve problems, right, And because his
boss called this guy, right, he's going to know exactly
what to do, right. And I was just making the
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reference of like, that's the type I want to be,
that type of person that's like, I'm here, I got it.
So if you like give me all your problems, I'd say,
I'll take care of it. It's like that's it. Yeah.
One of the things Winston says is if you do
exactly what I tell you to do, when I tell
you to do it. I'll make all your problems go away.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
You basically are Winston. For the record, I would call
you if I had a dead body. But that's all
another episode anyways. Number two places where people compromise you
is your character. Man, You'll cheat in all sorts of
little ways because it's not that big a deal.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
It's very It's similar to your word, but this one's
even more private. Right, your word is a test of
your character. And so I wanted to step right off
of word into character because this is all the stuff
that no one will ever see. But instead of what
you know, eroding your value, the value of your word
when you don't keep it. What you're doing when you
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are making compromises of character. This is word. Not necessarily
you say something, but you you steal something, or you
just don't. You don't put in the value that you're
supposed to put in. You don't follow up on your commitments.
Not necessarily your word, but the things you know are right,
and you don't do it. This is also sin, by
the way. Yeah, and so none of us are perfect, right,
(15:19):
I'm a ciner just like everybody else. I'm not claiming
to be perfect in this But when you make compromises
in your character, when you make these little concessions, what
your This is what sin does. Sin pollutes your heart. Right,
and when you have made willful sins over and over again,
it's not that God's grace isn't sufficient, but you you
(15:39):
have allowed these things into your heart that in the
same way sanctification, uh, salvation happens at a moment. Sanctification
takes time. Transformation takes time. You know, you give your
life to Christ, but it takes years for you to
walk through some levels of change and transformation. The same way,
if you if you build up a lifetime of making
little compromises on your character, you don't just say like, well,
(15:59):
I'm I'm all good. I'm a completely different person now
because God changes a spirit, soul and body, like right
thinking changes as well. And so and when you make
these character compromises, you're training your brain incorrectly, You're training
your hands incorrectly. So these little compromises you think aren't
a big deal, they turn into you exactly right, they
turn into so your your word changes the value of
(16:22):
your word to others and to yourself. So you like
discipline when you compromise on your character. You're polluting your heart,
which it's your company will turn you in absolutely the
wrong direction. What I know is I have to continually
renew my heart. And it's like it's like being a
person that has a horrible metabolism. It's like I can't
ever eat carbs. I'll just get fat immediately. Treat your
(16:43):
character that way. I can't. I can't sin. If I sin,
I'm ruin. I'm gonna start going in all the wrong directions.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Yeah, I'm so glad you said, because that was what
we covered on the previous episode, was that these little
things that it's this little baby that grows into a
monster and it looks cute when it's a baby, like, oh,
it's harmless, and that when it grows into the monster
and it's killing you. You're like, man, we're this come
from Well guess what. You raised it and nurtured it
and berthed it. So be warned, Number three G And
this was going to hit hord because you know, we
wren in America your health. Oh man, dang it, I
(17:11):
just wish I could just eat ice cream all the
time and have it be full of, you know, all
the right stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
It's not that you can't ever, you know, enjoy what
you eat. It needs to be intentional, right, that's exactly
you know. It's not like you got to eat chicken
and broccoli for the rest of your life. But also
you don't need to get in a place where you think, like, well,
I I should eat chicken and broccoli all the time,
but but I don't. And it's okay if I do
this every once in a while. Don't. Don't look at
(17:38):
it that way. I understand what what what's the most
important to me. I want to be healthy, I want
to be fit. I want to be my strongest, I
want to be my best.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
I want to be energized to do God's will.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Yeah. Yeah, and ice cream fits. There's there's there's a
way to get ice cream in there, but it's not
every day for sure, And it's also not necessarily at
the times of the day that I would like I'd
like to eat ice cream, you know, at eleven o'clock
at night.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Yeah, which is great whenever you're a teenager. You know,
where I think people compromise the most in their health.
The obvious ones are the fit are like, oh I
didn't work out or I ate what I should have
I think that people compromise more on their rest than
on anything else. We are all fatigued and exhausted. And
I had a conversation with a follower of ours and
judge me by my whoop please. Oh you know there's
a good thing. We don't have an open impossible life
(18:17):
group right now.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Because Nick tried to do that. He's like, let's get
all of the I said, no, it's not, it's not.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Well, okay, this one's when we're speaking nuge when we're
talking about rest. But like, because yeah, I think it's
so wild that and the new tests in the in
the Ten Commandments, God says all this stuff that we
expect and goes, oh, and by the way, one day
to rest. Wait what yeah? And oh I rested? Wait
you rested? Okay, so you were showing hundred of course
it is. It's God's God's is It's just the infinite
(18:44):
Infinity said, that's exactly what it is, because he's limitless.
But I had a guy. I had a guy that
reached out to us recently. He's like, how do I rest?
And I had to explain him. I was like, you
have to, and I want to say this for everybody.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
I think my whoop's not always accurate because it only
measures my body and not my spirit.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Okay, anyways, for those of us that have actual physical bodies,
like like ak all of us, but like, how do
you rest? This is where you have to have some
self awareness to know what recharges you right and what
re energizes because you do need to schedule rest. I
am perfectly okay with falling asleep on the couch and
laying around all day because I've scheduled it. Me and
my family on Sundays, that's our rest day. We watch
(19:21):
movies together. We have a set time where the kids
can go have play dates. They have two hours they
can go have playdates from one to three. Other than that,
we rest. We spend time together as a family. That's
the whole Sunday. We don't do anything. It is one
hundred percent. So what do I do. I'll watch soccer
and drink a cup of coffee. I'll take naps, I
will go on a walk with my wife. I will also, yeah,
I'll play video games. And you might be going, wait
(19:43):
what like and look, I go one hundred miles an
hour during but when it's rest time, because I've scheduled it.
I don't feel Not only do I not feel bad,
I love it. And guess what, When I wake up
on Monday, I'm always way more revitalized. Like you can
see it in my whoop score. By the end of
the week, I'm like, oh, man, I was running hard,
and then Sunday comes and then you're like, oh, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, green, green, green,
Like I've recovered. So you have to be aware of
(20:04):
what actually rejuvenates you, and.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
The standout side in a perfect meditative position and absorb
maximum energy from the sun for one hour.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
I actually believe part of that, minus the perfect position
of meditative, because I've seen you go out in the
sun and just sit there and soak it in. But
I want to say that because I do think we're
terrible at like having scheduled rest. But the Sabbath was
a commandment for reason, so that's a big compromise. I
think a lot of us are have number four G.
And this is one that you are heard about, is
personal growth.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
I said to Nick, this is one of my I
feel like this is a secret that I have that
I don't know how to explain.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
Very secret's about to be out.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I don't know how to explain it very well. But
this is something that has been a source of my
level ups in life, and that's been whenever I've had
challenges presented to me. I never want to people at
can you do this? Do you want to do this?
And it's always I got it, I'll take care of it.
I want to be Winston the Wolf. I don't want
(21:02):
to be the guy that's like, well, is the giant
nine feet because I don't this guy only takes down
under nine feet, So if he's nine foot one, don't
ask me.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
I'm out.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
I never wanted to limit myself and I knew from
a young age that growth was possible. So and I
watched My Dad's a good model for me in this
he talked about in construction. He told me, he told
me stories growing up of how many times in business
like you bit off more than he could choose. Oh yeah,
and he said, I'll figure it out. And I wanted
(21:35):
to always be someone who said, you know what I can,
I'll take that challenge, I'll learn, I'll figure it out,
instead of being afraid of the challenge and saying, wow,
well you know you make a concession with the I'm
willing to take the risk because what the value to
be gained for me is I want to be my
best and if I if I never take on, if
I never put any more weight on the bar than
(21:56):
what I've done before, then how am I ever going
to grow?
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Yeah? I think about it. If you had to, what
would it take?
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Exactly?
Speaker 1 (22:03):
But you know what the thing is that people So
it's great you say, it's everybody every day, every time
you listen to the podcast, But you know what, you
know what the worst thing about America is we don't
really have to do much. Yeah, right, So it's like
we don't really have to get to what would it take?
But let me tell you. So, when I was in
my early twenties, I worked for Enterprise rent Car in
the management training program. And the most valuable thing that
I learned the Enterprise Rental Car the biggest rental car
(22:24):
company in the world. There's all sorts of stuff, you
can study them. They're a very interesting business case. But
the thing that they teach people, they teach all their
management training is you never say no to a deal.
So if someone walks off the street and you've got
a car that someone's coming in for in an hour,
to pick up and you've got it all clean and ready,
and they go, hey, I want to rent that car
out there. You're not allowed to say no. You say
yes all the time. And I'm telling you, man, and
(22:46):
what the scenario gave you happened regularly, so you every
day you were always like, oh, I think it's going
to be cool, and then something will happen and it's
like it was like adapt and overcome every day. And
I took that attitude with me everywhere I went afterwards
because I realized, well, exactly, but they recognized that in
their culture and they trained it into every single person.
So you've got these little twenty two twenty three year
(23:07):
old kids. They're just coming out with their degrees and like,
I don't know what level of entitlement they have, but
they're like, you say yes to every deal, and they
were hard on it. And dude, I took that with
me and I still have to this day, like when
people I'm like, yeah, I can do that. And to
the point you made about your dad, I remember the
first I bid off this marketing, my first start of
my marketing consultancy, like nine years ago. These people I
was developing this relationship with this client. They're like, Hey,
(23:29):
we want to do this. What do you think? And
I was like, I'll do it. I had no idea
what I was going to do, but it was the
I landed a thirty thousand dollars deal that they were
going to pay like in a lump sum. I got
the biggest checks. Like one of my goals was to
get a five thousand dollars check and a ten thousand
dollars check. I kind of set these goals for myself.
I accomplished both of them in that deal. I won't
tell the whole story of the deal, but I was
literally just like I was like, I don't know what
(23:50):
I'm gonna do here, but I've got some ideas and
we're going to figure it out. And I was I
was studying, I was reading that. You may think that's dishonest.
I actually ended up doing a really good job for them,
and they made way more money than they paid me.
Why Because I just said, I just had this yes mentality,
because if you had to what would take You have
to put yourself in the position first where you go,
I have to do this, And if you don't have
a yes mentality, who knows what else you'll get and
(24:12):
I look at like some of the things that we're
doing now we both run one hundred and fifty miles
an hour all the time, and we're made to do it.
I have a firm belief that God made us to work.
I'm not like I have intentional rest. I keep putting
more weight on the bar and it hadn't killed me yet.
That's exactly it. But it starts with that thought process
of like, I'm not going to accept the limitation here.
Now there's some wisdom to this, and this is a shortcast,
so we're not going to go down. I don't want
(24:33):
you to go out and like I took five jobs
and now everyone's mad at me because I couldn't do that.
I can They're all remote, Yeah I can only do one. Yeah,
don't do that. But like there's some.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Wisdom to be a compromise of character.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
Correct, but there's there's so there is I want a
caveat that because I don't want people like the impossible
life just said say yes to everything. But when you
have an understand of what you're there to do and why,
and like your your unique abilities, like I'm using the
example of enterprise, why would you say no, like, ah,
that's enough business, served enough people. No, like, we want
to serve as many people as God will entrust us with.
(25:04):
There's I heard doctor Robbie give this great uh. He
was preaching about the about the Elisha and saying to
the widow, how many drugs do you have? And it
just keeps pouring the oil. It wasn't like God was
like I'll fill up five jugs. I'll fill up every
jug you got till you run out. That's how God works.
So really think about that. But anyways, gee, so last
last one and by the way, real quick before we
(25:25):
go the last one one. Things that people compromise on
in this self, in the personal growth, don't compromise on
your time with God. And in the word. I am
always blown away when I talk to guys and I
say do you read your Bible every day? And they're like, oh,
you know, dude, Like there's there's there's there's nothing I can.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Say to you, Tith when you get paid, Yes, wake
up in the morning, read your Bible and go to
the gym.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
It's not that hard. It's not no, and there's never
a reason not to do those things. That that's it.
Like I feel like you're dad. It's saying hard guys.
Come on, you got to decide, all right, gee, what's
number five?
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Okay? Number five? People compromise and their beliefs. And this
is there's some We talk about belief all the time,
belief as it relates to identity, belief as it relates
to purpose. And for those of you yet to go
through mindset master with us to say yet, because I
know you'll end up there eventually. You're just taking the
slow route. That's fine. You'll join us when you're ready.
(26:18):
The definition of beliefs is things that I know are
true but can't prove. And when you know it's true
but you can't prove it and you keep facing evidence
to the contrary, it's very easy to say, well, maybe right,
maybe belief. Maybe I was a little bit off in
(26:38):
my belief. Maybe I'm not as great as I thought.
Maybe I'm not as capable as I thought. Maybe God's
not as good as I thought. Yeah, maybe he's still good,
He's just not as good as I thought.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
Did God really say?
Speaker 2 (26:53):
Did God really say that? It's the beliefs or the
things I know are true but can't prove. And this,
this is truly the test of our lives. This is
my favorite part of Hebrews, the Hall of Faith. It's
looking at these people's lives, and it said they held
fast their faith all the way until the end. They
(27:15):
didn't see It says they didn't see all of the promises,
but they held their faith all the way until the end.
These are people who did not compromise on their beliefs.
They faced evidence day after day, decade after decade, and
they did not give up on their beliefs. Your beliefs
set you on a trajectory in life, with the way
(27:36):
that you think, your identity, which informs every decision that
you make, your purpose, which is the path that you're
going to walk. All of these things are shaped by
your beliefs. And if you start compromising on your belief
you're diminishing every single one of those things. You're diminishing
your thought power, you're diminishing your identity, you're diminishing your
purpose because you couldn't hold onto the belief you start saying,
(27:58):
you know, maybe I can't bench this much, so let's
just take a little bit of weight off the bar,
and you diminish the power of what God has given
you the ability to have faith, the ability to believe.
So stop compromising. Stop making these little concessions when you're
negotiating with the worst part of yourself. Yeah, just remind yourself,
I don't negotiate with terrorists.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
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