270. Belief Warfare: Winning the Battle in Your Mind

Your beliefs are shaping your life far more than your circumstances ever will. In this episode, Garrett and Nick break down how your internal belief system is formed, why most people never challenge it, and how hidden belief patterns quietly limit your potential as a man of God. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep running into the same walls in relationships, work, or personal growth, this conversation uncovers the roots beneath the surface.

You’ll learn the simple but powerful formula behind belief formation, how unregulated emotions hijack your thinking, and why acting on truth (not feelings) is the only path to lasting change. Garrett unpacks three of the most common destructive beliefs men carry (“I’m powerless,” “I must perform to be loved,” and “Life should be fair”) and shows you how to replace them with strong, biblical foundations that actually produce transformation. 

This episode is a blueprint for renewing your mind: regulating emotions, identifying false narratives, and intentionally walking out the beliefs God calls you to hold. If you want to become the man you were designed to be, it starts by rewriting the beliefs that shape everything you do. Tune in and begin the process today.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is one of the worst negative patterns that I
see people get into. I believe it when I see it.
And if that is your life, you're stuck exactly where
you are and you're not going to get out of
that place until you decide you want to see something different.
Do you want something different? If the answer is yes,
you're gonna have to change some of the beliefs that
got you to where you were the last time. That's impossible.

(00:25):
Let me tell you what I believe. What's your weakness.
It's not your technique. Don't think you of know.

Speaker 2 (00:34):
You the Impossible Life Podcast and you're sitting on a
winning lottery.

Speaker 1 (00:39):
Tech, an idea that is fully formed, fully understood that sticks.
This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I
are attempting to live impossible lives. What we know is
that nothing is impossible. So instead of using impossible as
an excuse to not try, we'll use the pursuit of

(01:01):
impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been
done before, that just means it's unexplored. If they tell
you it's too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified.
Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling
to take a risk. The real truth is this The

(01:22):
solution to any impossible task starts with this question, if
I had to, what would it take? What would it take?

Speaker 2 (01:33):
Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host next Surface, and I'm looking across as
a man whose self belief is so strong it has
its own gravitational pull. That's right, friends the fore Garrett
Ankaback a man who is known to science as the
human black hole.

Speaker 1 (01:50):
It's a it's a black hole for fear and negativity.
It just swallows it up and eats it up, which
is actually not where it go.

Speaker 2 (01:57):
It's gone, It's gone forever where it's just literally they
thought that's the one thing.

Speaker 1 (02:01):
They don't know what happens when you go through a
black hole. We don't know, Matt. That's where I put
all my fear and negativity matter. It can't go from
something to nothing, but maybe it can. You know who knew?
So Gee today.

Speaker 2 (02:11):
I think it's kind of interesting that we are dropping
this like the week of Christmas, because we know a
lot of people like you get out of rhythm and routines,
so they don't listen as much, and we're like, yo,
let's drop a life changing episode right the week of
Christmas because it's just felt like this was the right.

Speaker 1 (02:23):
Time, wrong wrong time to check out.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Well, but because we've had doctor Robbie on and just
the process that like we're always growing too. It's not
like we're on here going like hey, we have everything
figured out. We don't like we're preaching stuff to ourselves. Oftentimes,
we a lot of what our preparation process, which I
think has made our podcast so special. It has been you
and me like kind of mining things intentionally. I always
nobody wants to listen to the guy telling her, well,
here's what you need to know, here's what you need

(02:46):
to do. Yeah, that's what you know. People come up,
that's a great message.

Speaker 1 (02:50):
I'm like, well, I know, And I'm not saying that
because like I'm glad that you heard it. I'm saying
I know because this message was for me. Yeah, and
I'm happy to share it with you. Yeah, And I
think that.

Speaker 2 (03:00):
I think that's the amazing thing is when you realize,
like what would happen, Like here's a simple question, what
would happen if you just got with one of your
best friends? And you said, you know what, We're going
to focus on some big stuff intentionally for like four
or five hours a week, every week for how long,
just indefinitely. Would you grow massively?

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Yes? You would?

Speaker 2 (03:15):
And that's what's happened on this podcast is like, I
think a lot of the magic is just the time
that we spend preparing for this stuff that people don't
even see.

Speaker 1 (03:22):
So today we're gonna you.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
Know, I'm gonna set us up because this is these
are some lofty, lofty promises, but we're going to back
everyone from up. We're going to talk about beliefs and
how to like reshape them. And this is a big
one because, as if you know from the Doctor Robbie episode,
just everything we've talked about, beliefs are what literally shape
every single thing in your life because they are literally
what generates all your actions. So we're going to show

(03:45):
you how you got your beliefs that you have, the
elements that make them up, how you need to rework
the elements and intentionally move towards beliefs that you want
to have, and then what that process looks like. And
we're going to cover some very common beliefs that people
have that are not good, show you how they show
up in your life, and then we're going to apply
Garrett's mental black hole filter to it, and he's gonna
show you how he would absorb that belief, destroy it,

(04:07):
and create a new one. So I'm gonna give you
just straight away. I know a lot about limiting beliefs
because I'll never forget when I had the limiting belief
of I'm inferior unveiled to me and.

Speaker 1 (04:20):
It was like it was wild.

Speaker 2 (04:22):
So I went and saw this cognit behavioral therapist, which
I've talked about many times, and it was actually you know,
coincidence aka God's timing, right before I moved to Dallas.
It was literally a put thinking on my radar in
a way that had never been before, because up until
this point, I did not realize how important thinking was.
So his cognitive behavioral therapist, like you know, he starts
diving into some of the things and he's just asking

(04:42):
me questions and I'm just answering them, answering, and then
I don't remember what session was because I only saw
him for like seven sessions. I've always been a pretty
quick learner. I got to like session seven. I was
like I got what I need and I he was like, yeah, good,
see you later. And I just never went back to him,
which is, you know, amazing.

Speaker 1 (04:57):
You found the one good counselor no, he would well,
yeah he was amazing.

Speaker 2 (05:01):
He is, he's a great counselor Anyways, so I went
to so I was sitting there and he just goes,
you know what I think. I'm like what, He's like,
you have an inferiority core belief, like you believe you're
inferior my immediate thing. I was like, nah, not me,
because like in my head I had an idea of
how that would look like. And I was like, well,
I'm still confident, like I'm not sitting here all the

(05:23):
time like tremoring and shaking and being like oh. But
he started like laying out for me, and I was like,
oh my gosh, this guy's right now. You talk about
a blind spot reveal somebody like showing you this thing
that you think is not you, that there's no and
you also think very negatively about you know, you're everything,
and he wants to reject him, like you're wrong, you're wrong,
you're wrong, But he starts showing me. He's like, this

(05:44):
is why you do this, this is why you do that,
and like hard look in the mirror. Oh dude, deep downside,
I knew exactly why I knew he was right. So
here let me tell you about what it was. So
for me, this belief in inferiority came from being in
the UK, right because, like I grew up with all
my parents told me I could be anything and do anything,
and that God was with me, and like really, you know,
they instilled a lot of self belief. But like, so

(06:06):
I went to the UK in my early twenties and
I'm around I didn't realize it was just really being unaware.
I was around a lot of what they would call
working class people in the UK, which is, you know,
if you don't know much about the UK.

Speaker 1 (06:16):
Got to bite my tongue and not do any accents
or jokes right now.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
You know, personally, I think the people would love that,
but I don't think that's on brand for Garrett uncle back.
But I, like, I didn't realize that the class system
was still so strong in the UK and what the
class system is for those that don't live in the UK,
it's really what you're born into is what you stay in.
Like if you're if you're hot, like upper class, it's
because you were born into the lineage. It's not because
like David Beckham, David Beckham is still middle class, which

(06:41):
you're like, what, the guy's got like so much money
and he's been you know, he's got like a title
and all this sort of stuff. He was born into it,
so like he's he's going to be in it till
he dies. And so you'll have people who are in
the working class and that's basically like, well, we're poor.
I mean John Lennon was known as the working class hero.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
We're poor.

Speaker 2 (06:57):
This is what we got and like, you know, people
are against us and the rich people don't want us
to have anything, and like it's like this oppressive struggle
that always goes on. So I didn't realize this, and
so I'm hanger.

Speaker 1 (07:07):
Kind of why people moved from there and everywhere else
to America.

Speaker 2 (07:11):
Right because we have no class system. It's like, oh,
you can do anything you want and if you work
hard enough, great, you could be upper class.

Speaker 1 (07:17):
Whether you know right or wrong or whatever you think
of it. The class system of America's success, that's exactly right. Yeah,
it's results on the board.

Speaker 2 (07:24):
Yeah, so I didn't realize that this was you know,
that I was with working class people because I was
just like, I want to play rock and roll, and
these are the people that play rock and roll, and
what will you be around? You'd be around a lot
of a lot of this type of thinking, Like something
would happen and be like, oh, you know my boss,
you know this happened at the end of the year
at my job. Of course they're not going to pay
me more, right, And like there's this thought process of

(07:47):
like you expect to lose and you expect that people
are going to try and keep you where you're at.
Now there's a massive entitlement that got into my thinking
from that because like, oh, of course they're not going
to pay me more. Well, the obvious question is do
you deserve to be paid more? But I'm not asking
that question. I'm automatically putting all the blame on like
this unseeable force that's striving to keep me where I'm at.

(08:08):
And so I didn't realize that I had developed this,
but it was an inferiority core belief, and so an
unknowingly created that belief. So how this would show up
for me is I would attack people who were successful, right, Like,
if I saw someone being successful, I would instantly explain why, well,
their parents or like I would reinforce this belief of
how the world worked in my mind, like well you know, yeah,
well of course they did look at the family they

(08:29):
were born into, like they had everything given to them.

Speaker 1 (08:31):
Like I kind of that. It's kind of like similar
is when I was young and trying to do certain things,
everyone would tell me I was crazy, but it wasn't
about me. It was about them, right, Well, yeah, that's it.
They were telling me their beliefs and how they felt
about me. You were showing your beliefs when you would
talk about successful people.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
Okay, what Garrett just said, I hope you think about that,
because guess what that wasn't just for his childhood. That's everybody.
When people are telling you things all the time about
what you can and can't do, they're literally laying their
leaf system on the table for you. They just don't
know it so a little unlocked for you early on.
So anyways, I'm attacking people who are things are who
I think are successful and giving all the reasons of
why it was easier for them. That's how it would

(09:11):
show it for me, and then in my own head,
I'm kind of constantly rehearsing what's like, what's going to
look like when this falls apart?

Speaker 1 (09:18):
So what do you think.

Speaker 2 (09:19):
I have a lot of fear and anxiety because I'm
looking around for what's going to destroy me all the time,
because I know it's coming right like, it's going to happen.
It's just a matter of when, Like when I would
start to make more money. Gee, I was making, you know,
more than the average American at points, whenever I was
going through this, and I would always in my head
rehearse what I would do if it all went away,
and how I could get back down to zero. And

(09:40):
this is like and I didn't even know it, but
this was like the fear I was always looking out for.

Speaker 1 (09:44):
So it's how you saw yourself. It's the same with
people who lose weight and go back because they see
themselves as a fat person, see themselves as a fit person.
See even when the scale in the mirror shows a
fit person, they see themselves as something else.

Speaker 2 (09:58):
Circumstances changed, but my beliefs didn't, which is wild. So
that's a whole another We could go deep into that,
but So when my CBT guy tells me seven years later,
seven years, man, I like seven years after I kind
of moved to the US, I finally go see the
CBT guy because I thought, oh, I'll just be in
the US and everything will be different. Well, my circumstances
were getting better, but I was not. And he tells

(10:18):
me I have this belief and I'm like, man, I'm like,
no way, you're wrong. He convinces me. So here's the
here's the real kicker. Because I've always been a learner.
How do I change it? And this is this is
the thing that was like the most disappointed answer. He goes, oh,
that's easy. You just act on the new belief you
want to have. And I'm like what. So then I'm
like okay, So, like I get over my disappointment and
his answer, what you say, it's what you do right,
So well yeah, but it's very intentionally doing, which we're

(10:40):
going to get more into. And then, so, of course,
being a learner that I am, and also you know
I'm a very strategic person, I go okay, well how
long do I have to do that for? And he goes, oh,
I can't answer that for you. There's no answer to that,
this is the worst answer. Like you talk about a
guy who wants five steps to like growth hack his
way to new beliefs. What I really wanted, Gee, what
I didn't realize underlying all that, I want to know
how long I would have to do the new actions

(11:02):
before I would just feel like doing them all the time?

Speaker 1 (11:05):
Which what is that?

Speaker 2 (11:06):
That's a belief about you know that I'm going to
be following my feeling. It's the same You're wanting the
wrong things, right. It's the same thing that Bud students
would ask me that they how hard is itep They're
not saying like they don't actually want to know how
hard it is. They want to know if they can
frame it in a way that well, okay, if it's

(11:26):
as hard as a hundred miler, then I know how
hard that is, And if I go do one hundred miler,
then I'll know.

Speaker 1 (11:31):
That I can do this. How hard it is is
you have to know that you can do it no
matter what and what you're you know, with beliefs, it's like, look,
I've got to get to a place where I'm writing
my beliefs, where I'm authoring my beliefs regardless of how
I feel, not I'm going to feel my way into
an action. And it's so subtle.

Speaker 2 (11:51):
It's so interesting that you use the buds question and
the one hundred mileer because I was thinking, we're going
to do a fifty miler.

Speaker 1 (11:56):
It's wrong frame up, it's wrong perspective.

Speaker 2 (11:59):
Yeah, but it's so the danger of this thinking, the
reason we're going deep into this, guys, I hope as
we're talking through this, it's highlighting things in your own
thinking that you go, oh, I do that, because what
I realized I thought that way about one hundred miler
when we went into it. And what I didn't realize
is my thought of if it's this hard, was I
was actually giving myself the option to quit, And so
what did I want to do at the eighty second miles?

Speaker 1 (12:20):
Quit?

Speaker 2 (12:20):
Now we're doing a fifty mileer in three months, which
I need to start preparing for. Just being honest, and
you do too, But you know, you know it's not
in my head. GI, There's literally no way I'm not
finishing this. Yeah, And then like and like some people like,
oh what about I'm telling you there's no way I'm
not finishing this fifty miler?

Speaker 1 (12:35):
Like I don't.

Speaker 2 (12:36):
It's I have such a different thought process of belief,
Like I'm not kind of like, well, I wonder how
much it's going to hurt. I'm kind of like, look,
whatever the hurt is, we're going to just keep going
and we're going to finish the fifty mile like and
and fifty miles also doesn't sound like that much to me.
So that's a whole nother thought. But but here's my
question for everybody listening. I my beliefs and doctor Robbie

(12:56):
talked about this when we talked about the fleas and
you got and we were like, how many fleas would
they have to be around before this would happen and
that would happen? You know what that's underlying highlighting is
your environment. So here's the question to ask yourself as
you're listening, what environment are you in now? Like really
look around, and you know how you're gonna be like, well,
I don't know, I'm in this place and this time
and this is these are the people I hang out.
What are the actions that people are doing all the time,

(13:19):
and like what is the fruit in their life? Look
at like what are the marriages, Like what are the
kind of things that they say that they spend their
time doing the things that you guys talk about, the
money that's being made, the impact that's being made in
the earth, the level of like commitment to the Lord,
Like look at the look at your environment and start asking, like, man,
am I in an environment that's like pushing towards the
things that I know are good and right and true
and that are based on the word of God? Or

(13:40):
am I in an environment that's just like accepting subpar
accepting mediocrity and actually encouraging things that are ungodly.

Speaker 1 (13:47):
I think an interesting you know, we're coming to the
end of the year, and at the end of the year,
you know, it's the time of reflection for people and
things like that. Just and you know, if you do that.
We've talked about that a lot on here how to
use the time. That's not what I'm getting into right now,
and we cover time management and mindset mastery and talk
about some of those things. But just an interesting thought

(14:08):
on your environment. Who the really one of the most
important environments is the internal environment who you are on
the inside. And just an interesting look on that is
when you get that time to reflect and you go
away from everybody else when you get out of your
normal outer environment, who are you when no one else
is around? Who are you when people aren't pushing your

(14:30):
thoughts in a certain direction, When your environment isn't pushing
your thoughts in a certain direction. And if you don't
like what's on the inside when nothing else is around,
you need to get into different environments. Right. That's whether
you whether you have a great and strong ability to
develop yourself internally or not. What's going to most influence
who you are on the inside is the outsides that

(14:51):
you put yourself in. Because here's the thing you didn't
get to choose.

Speaker 2 (14:54):
That, I would say is another question to ask is
what's the environment that you grew up in? And you'll
notice that I went straight to fruit, which is what
Gess said is by your fruit, by their fruit, you'll
know them. The reason we say that because you're like, oh,
I grew up in a great environment. We believed in this,
this and this. Okay, what was the actual fruit in
your life? Like, what were the actions? What were the
actual results? So we said about America's it's it's points
on the board were quote and Gus when he said

(15:16):
you'll know them by their fruit. You can say, well,
my parents believed in this and we believe No. What
did you did, y'all?

Speaker 1 (15:21):
Tithe? Did you like? Was God actually the center point
of your decision making? And what?

Speaker 2 (15:25):
What I hope with this podcast you and what I
have Some of the things that I've got planned for
a future and that we've talked about that that aren't
worth going into detail on yet people need to see
a lot of what's possible before they actually understand what
it looks like. Because I think you can grow up
and be like, man, my environment was great. I grew
up in this, this and this, and then you see
a different level and you're like, oh, I didn't know
that existed. It's like you're the best athlete in your town,

(15:46):
and then you leave the town you realize you're actually
nowhere near the level of athlete in another place. That's
the same thing for your family, for like, kind of like.

Speaker 1 (15:54):
The Olympics when they meet American athletes.

Speaker 2 (15:56):
Well, I wish it was as simple as us dominating everything,
but you know it's not. But like, but the point
I'm making is that there is a there is another
level to this stuff, and so we hope to highlight
that and show people because I know that people need
to see to believe. Okay, So the definition is the beliefs,
and I'm gonna review these because we have ours and
we have Doctor Robbie's and they're not in contrast, So
ours is what you know to be true but can't prove,

(16:18):
and Doctor Robbi's is a thought or idea that.

Speaker 1 (16:20):
Is infused with emotion.

Speaker 2 (16:21):
Well, when we say what you know, yeah, I want
to jump in on that first second.

Speaker 1 (16:25):
So what you know is true but can't prove? And
to know something right typically knowledge you know no knowledge,
it's a that's a fact. It's a form of a fact.
And when you to say, like I know this, really,
how it's meant in this definition is more like when

(16:46):
Tom Brady said I know I'm gonna win the Super Bowl, Right,
That wasn't a fact, right, it was how he felt
about the fact. Right. It was how he felt about himself,
how he felt about his opportunity, how he felt about
his ability to perform. Essentially, though it is a it
is a form of knowing that's different than factual. What
what was tom Brady saying he really knew? He's saying

(17:08):
he knew who he was, right, any winner, any declaration
of belief. It is a form of knowing that's not
based upon like I know the future, saying I know
who I am, but it is still a feeling, right
because you don't you don't have the rest of the equation.
I don't know exactly what I'm going to face. I
don't know what's going to happen when I get there.
I don't know every detail about what I'm going to face,

(17:32):
but I know who I am. It puts what you
put your trust in, right, It's it's a form of confidence.
It is it is still still a feeling saying what
I know is true but can't prove. And so your
beliefs are going to be based on not just facts,
but how you feel about facts. Emotions drive what we believe,
what we decide, who we become. The point or the

(17:54):
important part is what beliefs are. I mean, what emotions
are you going to base that off of? Yeah, and
that and that. That's what we highlighted in my story.
I didn't realize how much I was following my feelings around.
And I think that there's a lot of people that
are listening to this right now, and I'm just going
to say this. You don't know how much your feelings
are dictating to you. And I can tell you that
what they're dictating to you, if you're unaware of that,

(18:14):
is never going to be God's best for you.

Speaker 2 (18:16):
It's just it's just that simple. So here's here's how
your current beliefs came from. This is This is literally
the formula we broke it down. Its kind of almost
like a mathematical.

Speaker 1 (18:25):
Formula, because really, here's what I want to happen out
of this episode today. I have seen in my own
life and in many other people's lives, how powerful beliefs are. Yeah. Right,
You're going to be what you become. What you see
in the future is going to be based off your beliefs.
I have seen people believe that negative things are going
to happen, and you know what happens. Negative things happen, right.

(18:46):
I was talking about this at Mighty Men this last week.
If you if you've kept having issues in like your
last dating relationships, don't start by going into your next
one and start talking about all you know, well, the
last girl I dated she was this, that what? And
you know I keep having these you know what that
there's a pattern and you're speaking that pattern right, right,
You what you believe? If you keep focusing on the negative,

(19:10):
you're going to keep feeling the negative and you're going
to keep seeing the negative. It is so interesting how
your future is determined by your beliefs. Now, that doesn't
mean exactly what you believe is what you're going to see, right,
But so let me let me give you just like
an example, like the years Tom Brady believed he was
going to win the super Bowl and didn't win the

(19:32):
super Bowl. Yeah, you know what happened. He still got
better and it still took him in the right direction.
It built him up even that I'm just talking about
Tom Brady lately because I've been watching a bunch of
videos of him, and I just appreciate his you know,
his mindset and his aggressive desire to win. Even on
the years that he didn't win, it made him better

(19:54):
and he still saw the fruit of what he had believed. Right.
But if you, if you your really the point I'm
making is your beliefs are going to determine what your
future looks like. And what I want to come out
of this episode today is to really we're going to
talk about two different ways people have had beliefs. I
think there's a lot of you who listen to this
podcast who you're down with it. You love what Nick

(20:17):
and I talking about. You want to have the impossible
life mindset, but you have really struggled to change your
beliefs right, because that it is one of the most
difficult pieces to change what you know, to change what
like you care about the most, what you feel the most.
So we're going to break down really the old way
that people have developed beliefs, where beliefs have come from

(20:38):
for a lot of folks, and then we're going to
talk about here's how you write the new ones, here's
how you get a new future.

Speaker 2 (20:44):
Yeah, and so the old way that you have where
current beliefs come from, this is how they're written by
default is unregulated feelings plus a lack of intentional belief
will equal your feelings experienced lad beliefs. This is for
a as a kid, you don't have the ability to regulate.
Your feelings is very low, and your intentional belief is

(21:05):
not there because you're literally just a product of your environment.
If you don't have someone like instilling belief into the
right beliefs into you intentionally you're going to pick up
whatever their beliefs are. It's like my example that I gave.
The reason I told the story of how my own beliefs,
my own limiting belief happened, is because it's so that
is like a pattern that every single person will have
had in their life.

Speaker 1 (21:24):
I was around.

Speaker 2 (21:25):
People, they would say certain things, and that eventually shaped
my worldview, and that became what I saw everywhere. And
it became because it was deeply infused with emotion and
acause what I started to hear them say was what
I saw. And then I didn't like what I saw,
so it became infused with more emotion, and it just
kept repeating itself. It reinforced itself. The reticular activation system
is in our brains that causes you to see what

(21:46):
you believe. Your brain is not wired to show you truth.
It's wired to reinforce what you already believe.

Speaker 1 (21:51):
It is one of the worst negative patterns that I
see people get into, where they just keep you know, essentially,
they you know, I'd like to believe what you're saying,
but I'll believe it when I see it's exactly right.
I believe it when I see it. And if that
is your life. You're stuck exactly where you are, and
you're not going to get out of that place until
you decide you want to see something different? Do you

(22:14):
want different than what you've believed in the past? Okay?
And I think for most logical people, they're going to say, yeah, right,
like I don't want another business failure, I don't want
another failed marriage. Do you want something different? Okay? If
the answer is yes, you're gonna have to change some
of the beliefs that got you to where you were
the last time. You're going to have to start thinking differently.

(22:36):
You're gonna have to bet on different things, You're going
to have to act your way into different feelings. Because
what you have seen so far in your life is
a result of the beliefs that you've had. So if
you don't like what you've gotten, you're going to have
to begin to believe differently. And that's why we're going
to jump into how to write new beliefs. It's difficult.
It is difficult to write new beliefs. But again, you've

(22:58):
got to come back to I want something different in
my life. Do you want to do you want to
become what everyone has told you? That you're going to become.
When I was young, I started believing some things because
I didn't like everything. I didn't like everything that people
told me. I was that I had decided, this is
who I want to be, and this is what I
know is true right, not what other people say about me.

(23:21):
It mattered a lot more what I saw for myself,
and it also mattered way more than that what God
says about who I am. Right. The question that you've
got to ask yourself about your feelings is are your
feelings the truth is like the feeling that you had
of your last marriage, of your last whatever, any feeling
that you've had, is that true? What is true? Right?

(23:43):
And if you'll decide that the word of God is
what's truth in your life and then get your feelings
to follow that, your life's going to start going in
a different direction. But it is a challenge that you're
going to have to face. Is something that you're going
to have to climb through. Is not being led by
your emotions. Great beliefs they have feelings that come with them,
but you don't want your beliefs to come from like

(24:06):
it start with a feeling. I want my beliefs to
start with the truth, and I'm gonna get the feelings
to attach themselves to this, not the other way around.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
Yeah, and that gee, that's that's that's deep right there, man.
Because you saying, do you believe that every emotion is true?
I'll give a great example for a lot of people
that are because some people might be going like, well,
I felt it, so it must be true.

Speaker 1 (24:24):
Hang on.

Speaker 2 (24:24):
You know what shades your emotions is your physical state.
If I got you really I mean, it's why they
say fatigue makes cowards of us. All right, If I
get you really tired, you think things are gonna start
getting a lot harder, and that are they any less difficult?
Like if I kept you up for five days straight
and said we're gonna go, We're gonna go run three miles,
three miles might be really easy for you whenever you're
fully arrested. If I keep you up for five days

(24:45):
and say now we're gonna go run three miles, is
it harder?

Speaker 1 (24:47):
Yeah? Is it the exact same distance? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (24:49):
So guess what what you feel is not an accurate
representation of what's actually going on. And we have this
all the time. The differences is in that example, I
just gave you be like, oh, well I was up
for five days, and so you would disregard how hard
the three miler felt. And just like, man, I was
so tired. It felt different. People go through these these
they have these shades on their emotions and their experiences
all the time. The difference is they don't know it.

(25:11):
So what just happened was reality?

Speaker 3 (25:13):
Man?

Speaker 2 (25:13):
Like this, you know when I you know, people are
like this, Like you can't trust people because people are
always trying to take advantage of you. Hold on like
you lived in a certain place that was very poor, crime,
neighborhood or whatever it may be, whatever, whatever that thing
that happened to you, Like you don't you're not taking
in all the influential factors that were going on at
the time that you're actually having a realistic representation. This

(25:33):
is what I say, Like I mean, Jim Rohdes said.
He said, maturity are crossing into adulthood is when you
take ownership for everything in your life. And as we've
said on this podcast before, that doesn't mean that you say,
everything that happened to me is my fault.

Speaker 1 (25:44):
And you know why some people don't like that statement, Well,
they don't like the way it makes him feel. Right, Yeah, exactly.
I think that's they disagree with it because taking ownership.
Read this thing the other day It said most victims,
when faced with the truth that'll get them out of victimhood,
will will choose to stay in their victim mentality because

(26:06):
of how painful it is to leave that place. Right.
Ownership is a burden, but you've got to decide you
want the fruit that's on the other side of ownership, right,
instead of more of the same. Again, It's like when
people start to give you truth that could change you,
and you run away from it because of the way
that it makes you feel. You're going, Like, Nick had
a choice to make he was telling his story. Yeah,

(26:28):
when his CBT therapist said, you know, basically, you've had
some weak thoughts, and Nick had to you know, his
first thought was like, well, hey, that's not true, and
you didn't like it because of the way that it
made you feel. But then you had to decide, you
know what, I don't want more of the same, and
I'm not going to be led by my emotions. Let
me take the truth, start a new path and develop

(26:51):
the emotions that'll follow it.

Speaker 2 (26:53):
Yeah, because who wants like to me, Like I said,
I had a picture of what inferiment and it was
like cowering in a corner and all we like, you know,
being afraid and like and I was like, you know,
I'm not that that's super negative, and so I had
to rechange what my I had to change what my
definition of that meant in order to accept, Hey, guess what, man,
there might be some things about you that aren't so great.
And like who wants to say that, Hey, there's parts

(27:14):
about everybody out there listening should put the hand their
hand up.

Speaker 1 (27:17):
I'm putting my hand up. Now.

Speaker 2 (27:18):
There are things in me right now that are not
the way that need to change. They're not so great. Okay,
that's great. Now you're at a place where we can
actually start to do some do some work and change
things for you. And like I was, like you were saying, like,
we don't say that everything that happens to you is
your fault, but the story that you decide to go
along with about it afterwards makes all the difference.

Speaker 1 (27:38):
And you have one hundred percent control about that.

Speaker 2 (27:40):
And that's what you're saying, Like for the victim mentality,
it's like the people that are given what's needed, like, hey,
here's what needs to change. You got to stop being
mad at that person. You got to stop blaming the
circumstances and the person that did all this.

Speaker 1 (27:49):
Well, because really, the that stuff happens to people, right,
That stuff happens to strong people. Bad stuff happens to people. Really.
The victim mentality isn't like you're developing your identity not
based on well, this happened to me. Really, victim mentality
is this happened to me, and I'll always be this
way because of what happened to me. Right, you get

(28:11):
out of victimhood where you can go through like the
most terrible thing. You know, my spouse you know, cheated
on me and abandoned me. I was molested as a child,
like whatever, the worst things you can think of. It's
not maybe you had zero control over that. What you
do control is how you responded to it and choosing
to stay where you're at and say, I'll get more

(28:33):
of the same. My life is ruined. I'm this way forever. Yeah,
it's a choice, right, and that's the victim choice. The
ownership choice is you know, I didn't get I don't
get to control that. I was born with you know
I was adopted at birth. I don't get to control,
you know, this negative thing that happened in my childhood.
I do get to control who how what story I

(28:55):
tell based on that, and who I become because of
that thing.

Speaker 2 (28:58):
Yeah, So, how to overwrite your belief from a very
simple basis, And we're going to get into some specific
examples because we're kind of laying out the formulas for
you before we go. And here's what it looks like
an application. But how to overwrite a belief is you
regulate your feelings, which takes awareness, and you base your
intentional beliefs on the word of God. I think the

(29:19):
word of God is such a cheat code, man, because
we talked about like your current beliefs come from unregulated
feelings and a lack of intentional belief. And now we're saying, well,
now you got to regulate your feelings and then base
your intentional beliefs on the word of God. You've got
the manual for like, look, this is proven, there's thousands
of years. What it does not say is here's belief number.

Speaker 1 (29:36):
One you should have. You have to go and mind it.

Speaker 2 (29:38):
AKA, you need the Holy Spirit, you need to know
God and spend time in his word, but the fact
that we have literally a book that has been around
since the beginning of time that goes, hey, here's human history,
here's the god that actually created you. Here's how he works,
this is who he is. This is your way to
discover him so you can understand the rules of the game.
To me, there's nothing else around that is that timeless

(29:59):
and unchanging, and I think.

Speaker 1 (30:01):
It is such a like.

Speaker 2 (30:02):
It is where I get a lot of my confidence
on is I know, whether I'm talking to someone from
science or somebody who's whatever they have, I'm like, I
bet in five years you're gonna believe something different, whereas
I'm just going to further mature in the beliefs that
I have. But I'm not going to suddenly get to
a place where I'm like, well, you know what, I
guess it was all sham. This whole God thing was
just like you know, it was just a feeling that
I was being tricked into by some you know, really

(30:23):
clever pastor. And that to me, I go, man, that's
that gives me a lot of confidence.

Speaker 1 (30:28):
So to regulate your beliefs or I mean to overwrite
your beliefs to get into new beliefs. It's regulating your feelings.
I had when I was eleven or twelve years old,
heard someone that I really respect say, don't feel your
way into an action, act your way into a feeling.
That's that's pastor Keith. I heard that since I was
a little boy. If you want, if you want a

(30:50):
sad life, follow your feelings. Huh. Feelings are not a guide,
they're an indicator. Right. You can believe that I'm emotionally mute.
I am not. You just won't see them externally. They're
for me only, right, like you don't. Does anybody want
my feelings?

Speaker 3 (31:08):
No?

Speaker 1 (31:09):
Right, they're for me? Right, So you you feel them,
you take them in, and then you make a decided
choice with it. You make an intentional choice with it.
That doesn't mean I take my emotions and then you
know my biology and my purpose of my life is
to get on the loudspeaker and broadcast my feelings to everyone.
It's not what your feelings are for, right, You've got

(31:31):
to act your way into a feeling. And especially if
you don't like the feelings that you're you're having, you
know there's some feelings that aren't great. And if you
want to get out of them. You got to make
some intentional choices so to overwrite your belief. It's one
understanding your feelings are not the truth. If you want
to stay in that life, you can stay there. And
I would just say to you, how's that working for you?

(31:52):
If you want more of that, just stay there. I
don't like that. There's a lot of feelings that I've
had that I didn't like, and I said, you know what,
I want something different. So you've got to decide I'm
going to regulate my feelings. I'm not going to be
led by them. Then when you're not being led by
your feelings, then you can begin Okay, feelings aren't the truth.
What is What is the truth? Well, the truth is

(32:13):
the word of God. I know that God is a
great plan for my life. That's what Scripture says. That
God wants me to develop, that God wants me to mature.
And what I know greatness is for me. This is
the this is the part that you've got to catch
from scripture, and this is what you've got to understand
about God. God has a great plan for every single
one of us. It's not Greatness is not what you

(32:34):
saw someone else's greatness to be right, You're not supposed
to be anybody else the greatness that God has for you.
Like it would be like a you know, a hammer
wanting to be a screwdriver. It can never be a screwdriver.
And even if it did, that hammer would not feel
fulfilled being the screwdriver, right, and the screwdriver would not
feel fulfilled. Put it, you know, driving nails. When you

(32:57):
do what God made you to do, when you become
the great that God made you for, it's the most
fulfilling thing. Like this is what you've just got to
understand about the way God made you. What He made
you for is what's going to be most fulfilling for you,
not what somebody else is or what somebody else has.
What God made for you is going to be the
most fulfilling thing for you. And so when you know

(33:18):
that truth that God is a great plan for your life,
then you've got to get the here's the hard part
of getting beliefs to stick. It's what your CBT therapist
said to you, that you're just going to have to
stay in it. This is the test that God gave
to so many of my favorite people in the Bible.
This is Abraham, this is Joseph, this is David, this

(33:39):
is Daniel. Even Daniel's like one of the most disciplined
figures in the Bible if you pay attention, because from
a teenager he started like a daily prayer discipline, and
then later he got tested in his faith in God
in his either in his fifties or sixties, after decades
of intentional discipline in his life. But the point is,
you've got to decide, here's what the real truth is.

(34:01):
The truth is not my feelings. You've got to decide
what truth is for you. I've determined for myself that
truth is in the Word of God. I've had experiences
with who God is. I felt his presence in my life,
and I've determined that that's the God in scripture, that
it's Christ who's the son of God, and that's who
I want to listen to. And so I've looked at

(34:22):
Scripture as truth for my life and I've built everything
else around that. And when you do that and you
start to get in some of those beliefs and sometimes
you're gonna have to walk them out for months, for years.
Watch my dad walk out beliefs where he's faced counter
evidence for decades but continue to not follow his feelings,

(34:43):
but follow what he knows is true. And then eventually
what you get in your life is you get the
fruit of right beliefs or you can just stay in
your negative emotion loop.

Speaker 2 (34:52):
Yeah, that's I think what you just said is the
part that's so disappointing. If people are really grasping what
we're saying, be some people out there are like, oh dang,
because you know what, all the people so the guys
Garrett and I have programs, we have things that people
can pay to do, and like, we're not stupid. There's
a lot of people who know how to do this
stuff better than we do. We're also not doing this

(35:13):
for money. And the reason I'm bringing this up is
because what we hear a lot is everybody's like, here's
what you got to do. You got to really like
show people how like it needs to be, like in
a certain amount of days, remove all the friction so
people start to realize they can get things. What they're
really saying is how do you make it quicker and easier?

Speaker 1 (35:27):
Right?

Speaker 2 (35:28):
How do we remove all the friction? And what you
and I have never been willing to do. It's the
reason why Mindset Mastery is a year. It's the reason
why purpose playbook. We say, hey, take all the time
it needs because if we could give you something that
could change you in three days, like, wouldn't that be
a mirror?

Speaker 1 (35:40):
Well, it's as valuable. You know, who feels more, who
feels more like a seal? Okay, in these two circumstances,
one the guys that paid seventy five thousand dollars ahead
from Goldman Sachs. We brought them out, did like six
hours of buds. Then they graduated. We gave them, you know,
a different uni graduated air quotes. Dude, we didn't get

(36:02):
you didn't get a tried and but like you get
a new uniform. Then you move on to like the
next phase of training, and now we're gonna go like
run around and shoot stuff. And then on day three,
like we're clearing houses and stuff. Those guys got the
seal experience. They felt like Navy seals. They went home
no different, They just had a really great time, right, Okay.
Or take a guy who's been through a week of buds.

(36:23):
You know how much you feel like a Navy seal
in buds? Zero percent? You feel like a beat dog.

Speaker 3 (36:28):
Right.

Speaker 1 (36:29):
You feel like you're in some form of a like
nightmare concentration camp, and I've just got to like figure
out how to survive in this place. You don't feel cool,
you don't feel that well trained on. One of those
people is becoming an avy seal. The other person is pretending.

Speaker 2 (36:43):
And that's such a great example. And that's it, guys,
look like God. God is a god of process. It's
very much as Nature's why we have seasons. It's why
babies take the time that they take to grow. If
you're looking for the quick growth fix, go find another podcast.
There's tons of them. Go find another program. There's thousands
of people literally that will just sell you things about
how quickly you can change. And here's the thing, You'll

(37:04):
you'll be running around the same mountain for years. You
just got to do the work. What Garrett described and
is exactly what my cognitive behavioral therapist said to me
way back in the day. There is you're going to
have to act your way into these feelings. It like,
does it get easier? I will say from experience it does. Eventually,
it does get easier. At what point I have no
idea and guess what by the time it gets easier,

(37:25):
something else has come along for you to work on.
So it's like you're gonna be under the weight your
whole life. It's like my man Garrett uncle Back says,
strength is not defined by how much you can pick up,
but by what you don't have to put down. And
that's what we're saying. You're going to keep adding weight
to the bar and you're just going to stay under it.
And so one of the things that we're saying that
without saying, is that you need to have a discipline.

(37:45):
It's a massive prerequisite to have disciplines. Why re release
basic discipline training is because we know it is the
key foundational element for all growth. All growth is going
to require discipline, and there's levels to it because it's
like Jim Rohn said, discipline is choose between what you
want right now and what you want most and like
I hope what you want most long term is to
be great.

Speaker 1 (38:05):
And to be who God's made you to be. So
we've defined discipline on this podcast is the ability to
do what you say you're gonna do. Yeah, I would also,
I would I would say discipline in a different way
or an even easier way is how strong is your
no right? Right? Because when you when you begin to
teach discipline to somebody, step one is like, let's get
you on the right path. Let's get a program, let's

(38:28):
get a whatever. But then okay, so then you can
follow the program, you can follow the template. Most of
the time, people fail not out of complexity, they fail
out of discipline. They they don't say no right. They
don't say no to something that there was an exit,
there was a change in their diet plan, there's or whatever,
and they can't say no to something right. You've got

(38:49):
so much of your discipline is your ability to say no.
And I say that to say about beliefs is you've
got to The reason discipline is so important is because
you've got to be You've got to have ability to
say no to belief intrusions. Right, these are gonna this
is going to be counter points, This is going to
be counter feelings, stuff that comes in and tries to

(39:11):
take you back down the old way. What has helped
me so much in my life is I just decided
and this is like I did you know it wasn't.
I want to be a great golfer. I want to
be a great athlete. What you see in you know,
people like that who knew what that you know, knew
I'm supposed to be a great golfer from the you know,

(39:31):
Tiger Woods at two and a half years old is
like slugging golf balls like ye knew what he was doing.
Here's the real benefit that those people have, not This
particular gifting for a sport is its intentionality for a
long long period of time. You see these people who
at thirty five, you know, at thirty when Tiger Woods
was my age, he had thirty three years already of like,

(39:54):
I know exactly who I want to be, I know
exactly what I'm about, And so what you do is
like if I know where I want to go and
I know what I want to do, everything you build
is for that. At in Tiger Wood's life, every belief
he had been building was about how to be a
great golfer, right, And so I say that to say,
when you know where you want to go in life,

(40:14):
when you know what you want in life, I've decided
I don't want to get to the end of my
life and wish that I'd done it differently. It's just
just been some people don't get those mortality moments young
in life. I got them at a young age. I
saw different things, and I decided, like, man, I got
one life to live. I'm going to do this right.
I don't want to get to the end and wish
that I did it differently. And so here's where I

(40:36):
want to go. Here's where I want to see out
of my life. And every belief that I've had has
had to pass the test of is this belief going
to help me become what I feel like I'm supposed
to become. I didn't let like people, you know, I
make the joke like you're at the mall and you know,
people like come up and hand you stuff. Like in
the military, they teach you not to do this, especially

(40:58):
if you get into you know, some of the roads
closer down, like intel and secretive work. Like you don't
just like let someone put something in your hands. Oh yeah, right,
could just because you have such a defense against malintent,
whereas like your average you know mom at this sort
of like oh thanks great, what is this? Like you
don't know what somebody just handed you. I've had such

(41:18):
a natural defense, like the most precious thing I have
is my mind, and so like I don't let people
hand me thoughts. And I've had a very defensive mind
since I was young because I had to deal with
that from a young age. I was trying to do,
like I decided out of parkour and some athletic development
that I wanted to challenge a way of thinking. And

(41:40):
I had all these people saying like, you can't do that,
and my mind got very defensive because I realized everything
you guys are saying does not help me go where
I want to go. So what that means is I
can't listen to you. And you guys are people that
I like. You guys are people that I care about.
I believe that you guys genuinely love me, But when
you give me your thoughts, it doesn't help me. And

(42:00):
so I developed a very defensive mind that I'm not
going to take external thoughts right, I'm not going to
take other people's thoughts. Every thought that is handed to
me must pass the test. Does this help me become
who I want to become?

Speaker 3 (42:12):
Right?

Speaker 1 (42:12):
And so I say that to say for this is
like what I'm trying to give away to every single
one of you that's listening to this today. As you
build beliefs as you develop beliefs. Hopefully the more you
listen to this podcast, the more you listen to us
talk about beliefs, you're starting to understand how to develop them,
how to assemble them. And when things happen to you
that are adding to or subtracting from your beliefs, you

(42:35):
must put every single thought, every single action that you
take through the filter of is this belief Are the
actions and the thoughts and the feelings that I'm adding
to my beliefs right now? Is this helping me become
who I want to become? Or is it taking me
in the wrong direction? And if you'll have the discipline
to stop right there and literally, just like you would
at the mall, Like someone's trying to hand me something

(42:56):
at the mall and they keep getting closer, and they're
looking me at the and I'm looking you in the
eye and my hands are right by my side. I'm
not gonna take this from you, right. You can speak
to me, you can say what you want to say,
but I don't want what you have in your hands, right,
And you've got to have that level of discipline about
your beliefs of I know what I want, I know
where I'm going I don't want your perfume sample. I

(43:17):
don't want to buy your sunglasses. I know what I
want with my life, and I'm going to keep going
in that direction. Yeah. By the way, I have some
sunglasses for you for Christmas. I actually have your sunglasses
in your Yeah.

Speaker 2 (43:26):
I was actually thinking the same thing. I need to
get those from you today. Well I'm here. But you
know what though, So gee, that's so good man. So
I guys, I know where I want to get into
the actual beliefs. So I'm going to give three beliefs
and I'm going to lay out how they show up,
and then Garrett's going to put them through his Garrett
black Hole belief filter and show you how he would
destroy those and what's actually true.

Speaker 1 (43:47):
So here's here's the first one.

Speaker 2 (43:48):
And I'm gonna go ahead and say I think when
I say these, I'm gonna say, ninety nine percent of
you are gonna be like, that's I don't have that one. Hint,
you do have it. It's showing up in ways you
don't know. First one, I am powerless. Who wants to
admit that one? That's a real great one. I am powerless.
Nobody's going to want to be like, well, yeah, that's
me because psychologically we know, well, no, I do have power.
I can do this, I can do that. Well, here's

(44:09):
how it shows up. Anytime you really want something, Hey,
next year, I'd like to make X amount of money,
the first thing you think of is all the obstacles
to it. Well, no one's going to hire me on
for that, Like if I tried, how could I do it? Well,
if I made if I was in this job, if
I got this promotion, then I could make that extra
fifty grand or whatever. They're not going to hire me. Like,
it's not they're not even doing reviews, they're not going

(44:31):
to they're not even looking at people like that. And
actually they always hire externally. Immediately you go to all
the reasons why you all of all the obstacles and
the things that you can't control.

Speaker 1 (44:41):
What is that doing. It's reinforcing your belief that you're powerless.
For me, I think one of my favorite stories in
the Bible is the story of David Lindsey and I.
She's been she's been reading First and Second Samuel in
a Bible study, and so she's been asking me a
lot of questions about David's life. It's I mean, some
of my favorite studies in the Bible. And there's only

(45:03):
one person written about in the Bible more than David,
and that's Jesus. So there's more scripture on David than
anybody else except about the life of Christ. And one
of the things you see in David's life. And again,
I'm telling you where my truth comes from. I'm telling
you what I've decided. You know, I think there's even
Christians sometimes I think it's like it's cheesy that you
would live that much based upon the word of God.

(45:24):
You know what it's working for me. I've decided where
I want my life to go and what I want
my life to be based off of. And in David's life,
you see a boy that everybody thought was powerless and
you see him kill a giant. You see a boy
who was just a shepherd become king and it works.
And like powerlessness is like people look at power as

(45:47):
coming from a certain place, and that God brings power one.
All authority comes from God and he doesn't give it
necessarily to who you think it's going to go to.
It says that he chose David to shepherd people for
the integrity of his heart and the skillfulness of his
hand took a boy from the very bottom and made
him leader over all the other people. And so what

(46:11):
I'm constructing here is a part of the power that
I believe that I have is the power that doesn't
come for me. What I have the power to do
is to control myself. What I believe is that God
is a great plan for my life. And what I
believe is that I can have anything I want if
I'm willing to pay the price for it. And what
I'm going to pursue and chase after, Right, there's a
caveat to that statement. I can have anything I want
as long as I'm willing to pay the price for it.

(46:32):
I believe God has given me everything that I need
to have, and it is going to help me in
every way that I need help along the path that
He's put me on. Right, So you could think, like
everyone who imagined Goliath dying, imagine Demand facing him with
a sword, right, But no one faced him with David
didn't face him with the sword. He faced him with

(46:52):
a sling in stones, right, And so a lot of
people look at it skinned. They look at powerfulness as
like in the world's eyes and power comes from a
different place, right. I believe in the power of belief.
I believe in the power of God. I believe in
the power of the Holy Spirit, who I've seen in
my life show many times. I've put myself in a
position where it's like they're they're the only way this

(47:12):
is going to work is if you make this person
just decide to do a deal with me. That would
never be done.

Speaker 2 (47:17):
Right, So I really want you to Gee, I'm smiling
because what you said right there about David Goliath. I
love that you that you went there.

Speaker 1 (47:26):
Because you're right.

Speaker 2 (47:27):
Everybody that was scared of him was like, Man, I'm
gonna go this guy's sword to sword. Terrible idea. He's
got a huge he's got a huge beam and half yeah,
and he's stronger than you. His sword is bigger than you.
And David's like, oh, well, I'm just gonna bring stones
what long range? Yeah, Now you're playing a different game
and exactly, so think about the powerless example I gave.

Speaker 1 (47:42):
Well, they're not going to promote me, they're not doing reviews.

Speaker 2 (47:45):
Well, what if the way that you actually get to
where you want to go is not going to be
by just getting the promotion, you know what I mean, Like,
now you're starting to play a different game. Well here's
what's automatically going to kick in. Oh, but that's like
I don't know if I have if I started a business,
how long would that take? Okay, So what we're really
dealing with is are you willing to pay the price?
It's that it's not that you're powerless. You're not willing

(48:06):
to do what it takes. And that's where it's a
hard look in the mirror for you. Is it's like,
because if you say to somebody hypothetically, if you start
a business now and you work really, really hard, do
you think five years from now you can make a
lot more than what you're making now at your job?
Well yeah, of course, But but then when am I
going to do that. I don't have the time, I
wouldn't be able to see my kids. And they start
tell once again, they start telling a story about how

(48:27):
it's going to be, and you're just limiting yourself. And
so it's like you either find a way to pay
the price or you just keep getting more of what
you got.

Speaker 1 (48:35):
It's not just I think a lot of these beliefs
It's not just an overturn. It's not saying, you know,
the negative of I am powerless or like the other
side of I am powerless, isn't saying I'm all powerful. Right,
that's not what I'm saying. Very good. You know a
lot of people you feel powerless. What the flip side
of that is for me is that God's all powerful? Right,
Not right? I think I am pretty close to powerless.

(48:58):
God is all powerful though, though, Yeah, and I know
how to follow him and I know how much what
I can control actually does have a great impact.

Speaker 2 (49:07):
Yeah, exactly right. All right, we're getting the time here, geez.
I want to move on. So here's the next one.
If I want to love, if I want to be loved,
I must perform. Now I'm stating these I just want
to say, all these beliefs are never something that like
when I had an inferior already core belief, it did
not show up as going your inferior. It never said
it like in a way that would catch my attention.
It just operated in the background. It's like a background

(49:29):
app on your phone. It's always running and you just
don't know it's there. So if I want to be loved,
I must perform. How this shows up is that you
are it's the term pleaser. You will act different in
different environments. You'll know, like you'll have this innate need
to do things specifically for people that are in authority
or people that you care about, and it'll mean that
you look different in different environments. So there's sometimes like,

(49:51):
if you're the type of person that you can't get
in an environment with people who don't know God without
starting to go along with them, you might have a
belief dictating to you that like, hey, these people aren't
going to love you if you don't do what they
if you don't perform the way that you think they
want you to.

Speaker 1 (50:06):
I think there's a like, I want to set up
this belief too. It's wanting to be loved, but it's
really also needing to be loved, and it's not feeling
loved at all. And when you don't feel loved, you
start to think that you're not lovable, and then you
start chasing after people trying to get them to love you.
That's so, let me flip this belief on its head, right,

(50:28):
because the truth is right, Where am I going to
take this? I'm and take this back to scripture, God
loves you. God loves you deeply, And when you know that,
you actually what you don't need is anyone else's love. Like,
I'm not going to say I don't want to be loved.
I very much want to be loved. I want to
be loved by my wife. I want to be loved
by my children. I want to be loved by the

(50:49):
people that I serve, by the people that I lead.
I want to be loved by a lot of people.
I don't need to be loved by anybody. And when
you don't need to be loved, it puts you in
such a great position to serve. How loved did Jesus
feel at the moment they crucified him to the cross.
Probably wasn't feeling very loved. Probably could have felt not
only you know, persecuted by the Romans, by the Pharisees. Right,

(51:14):
I would start to think that maybe just the thought
crossed his mind that, like, man, if my mom really
loved me, if my friends really loved me, if these
people really believed in me, they wouldn't let this happen
to me. Right, Jesus knew that it had to happen,
But you'd start feeling pretty unloved when the people that
you had done everything for, fought for the most, cared

(51:37):
for the most, abandoned you and left you to die.
But Jesus knew what love really was, and he knew
that he carried it with him, and that love was
his gift to give, not him begging for something. And
if you are someone who is stuck in this belief
of I have to perform to be loved, well, here's
the thing. Until you know the love of Christ, you'll

(52:01):
keep chasing that love forever. And you can win Super
Bowls and World Series and win the titles and have
all of the worldly success, and it'll never be enough
to make you feel loved. What you will do is
you'll find distray. If you can find that measure of
worldly success, you'll have a lot of noise in your
life that looks like fun, that looks like gratification, that

(52:25):
blocks out temporarily your need for love. But you'll still
find the emptiness of not actually knowing the love of God.
When you know that God really loves you, instead of
trying to perform for other people, what you get to
do is go and serve people all the time and
realize I'm not here to get love. I'm here to
give love. Like Jesus said, it did not come to
a be served, but to serve. Yeah. And when you

(52:46):
know that you have the love of God in you
and all you do is go out and love other people,
you know what happens. You feel really loved by a
lot of people. Yeah, that's so good man.

Speaker 2 (52:56):
There's so much depth to that. So I hope you
guys go back and relisten that. The last one is
a belief that you love and that shows up and like,
once again, I don't think anybody like, Yes, those are
my beliefs.

Speaker 1 (53:06):
The world should be fair.

Speaker 2 (53:08):
And what this shows up with this is you getting
mad at people cutting you off when when you're driving.
This is you getting mad because you didn't get a
certain level of service at the restaurant you went to.
This is you getting mad because you don't have enough
time to do what you want. This is you getting
mad because you didn't get the vacation like that you
thought you deserved, or you getting mad because you didn't

(53:29):
get the promotion you thought you deserved, or somebody treating
you badly and you getting mad at them for the
way that they treated you. These are all very natural
things that are going on. And that's why I said,
like all of us have this because it's infused into us.

Speaker 1 (53:42):
This is one of the most childish beliefs. This is
one of the most childish beliefs. And that's it's really
I say childish because children don't understand the way the
world works, right, and they don't even understand what would
make a good world, right. You know, my daughter thinks
a good world is like unicorns and pop tarts everywhere.
Yeahs an ice cream. Of course, if my daughter could

(54:05):
repaint the world, it'd be like funny and interesting. And
then like like if everything was unicorn and pop tarts
like that actually be pretty terrible. You had no kidding, man,
Like you know, it's like you go to theme parks.
You don't live there, right exactly. It's like a fun experience,
but you don't want to live there. There's a great episode.
He's a great episode of the Twilight Zone. I don't
know the name of the episode. I've referenced it on

(54:27):
here before and some of you guys messaged me and
I'm sorry, I don't remember what you said. But those
of you who've watched the Twilight Zone. Know this, but
there's a great episode of the Twilight Zone where this guy,
you know, he I don't remember how it starts to think.
He like wakes up and he's in this place, and
essentially he get like he starts to think he's in
heaven because this guy in a white suit comes and
talks to him, and it like whatever he asked for,

(54:50):
the guy gives him, like he asks for some girls,
and girls come and like hang out and make him
feel good and there's nice meals. And then he starts
playing in the casino and he wins every single time. Huh,
every like every dice roll that he makes, every bet
that he makes, he wins everything, and he comes to
hate it. And then like the end of it's a
great episode. At the end of the Twilight Zone episode,

(55:13):
he goes to the guy and the white student starts
complaining and he I don't remember exactly why he says it,
but he starts to make a reference like I thought
heaven was a good place. And the guy says, what
made you think you were in heaven? It's the end
of the episode that's so good.

Speaker 3 (55:27):
You know.

Speaker 2 (55:27):
The Good Place was actually a show that had Kristen
wigg in it.

Speaker 1 (55:31):
It was funny. I just had somebody telling me about
that movie. Yeah, it's a.

Speaker 2 (55:36):
Show and me and me and Ryan watched it and
it was really good and it's literally that exact plot.
They must have watched that and taken the exact thing.
And I just because I loved it because it had
so much insight into the human psyche. What kind of
what kind of like beans are we that we could
get everything we want and be miserable?

Speaker 1 (55:51):
Well, yeah, well it's it's wanting the wrong thing. Yeah,
that's it's like the the and I had with one
of my mentors who I was, you know, he was
praying for me and he checked in on me and
he said, well, how you know, how's it going? And
I said, you know, keep praying and pray harder and uh.

(56:13):
And then I said you know and he said and
my mentor said back to me, he said, I don't
think it works that way, and I just jokingly responded,
I said, wouldn't be nice if it did? And he
said no, because then I would be God right. Wanting
the world to be fair is wanting like you to
get exactly what you want and you getting exactly what
you want. I know, if I got everything that I wanted,

(56:35):
it would actually not make the world a better place.
As much as I would try, I would, I would,
I would fail. In that God is God. He's the
one who is the author of glory, is the author
of love, is the author of justice. And here's what
the Bible says. The Bible says that the wages of
sin is death. And every single one of us listening
to this podcast, we have sinned, we have done the

(56:57):
wrong things, we have thought the wrong things, we've been
the things. And God created righteousness. God is righteousness, and
if you're not God, then really what you deserve is death. Right.
God created man in his image, and then man is
fallen and man is sinful. And anything that is not
as glorious as God is not worthy to exist except

(57:19):
for the love of God and his desire for us
to know Him, for us to grow, for us to
have relationship with Him, out of his care for us. So,
thinking that the world should be fair, that you should
get whatever you want, it is such a childish belief.
What you've got to decide is that I don't want
it again, and look at the filter of your beliefs.
Are your beliefs taking you where you want to go?

(57:40):
What do you want out of your life? I hope
what you want is to live a great life. I
hope what you want is to become everything that God's
created you to be. And what's not going to help
you be who God created you to be? Is you
following your feelings. You need to develop what is truth
in your life. Get really intentional about your beliefs and stuff,
listening to your feelings.

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