September 25, 2025 • 27 mins
In this episode, Mike breaks down one of the most important — and misunderstood — principles of manifestation: you don’t get what you want… you get what you expect. He dives deep into how expectations are wired into your nervous system, why your ego, subconscious, and body are the same thing, and how negative expectations sabotage success even when you’re doing everything “right.” This is a masterclass in energetic alignment and internal reprogramming — straight from the front lines of personal evolution.
Key Takeaways
- You Don’t Get What You Want — You Get What You Expect
Until your nervous system believes it’s safe to receive, it will sabotage anything that doesn’t feel familiar. - Your Nervous System, Ego, and Subconscious Are All the Same Thing
They're just different words for the same internal wiring — the filter through which you create reality. - Your Nervous System Was Formed Before You Could Choose
Childhood beliefs and family patterns shaped your expectations — and they still run the show. - Self-Sabotage Is Just Expectation Misalignment
If you want more than you expect to receive, you’ll subconsciously push it away when it shows up. - The Work Is in the Body
Shadow work, meditation, future embodiment — these aren’t mindset tools, they’re nervous system tools.
Notable Quotes
- “You can't have whatever you want, because you get what you expect.”
- “Your nervous system, your ego, and your subconscious are all the same things.”
- “If you're used to struggling financially, your nervous system literally wants to keep you there because it knows how to operate there.”
- “What I haven't done a great job of is, what do you want? And then dig a layer deeper and say, listen — what do you really expect to have?”
- “In the battle between your wants and your expectations, your expectations will win every time.”
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Do you ever wake up feeling like there's something
missing in your life?
Do you ever feel the need toescape your business?
Are you running your life or isyour life running you?
I'm Mike Kitko and I'll helpyou design and create a life so
authentic and aligned with whoyou really are you'll get
excited just to wake up.
I'll help you create realwealth, success and freedom from
the inside out.
(00:23):
Welcome to the Inner WealthPodcast, where we learn and
choose to live inspired each andevery day, ever since the I
guess, the collapse of mycircumstances in my life back in
2016,.
(00:49):
Life back in 2016.
It's been a um, the.
You know what?
What is that?
Nine years coming up on adecade?
Um, the?
That was.
That's the process.
The nine years I've beenexploring the process of
creating higher, higher levelcircumstances in my life and and
expanding, you know, my, myhealth and my wealth and my
success and my love and myrelationship, and and it's been.
It's been a complete reboot.
(01:11):
It's been everything in my lifehas changed.
I've lost a shit ton of weight.
I've rebuilt my marriage.
I've rebuilt my health.
I've built a business.
I uh, instead of going back tocorporate, I've built a business
and I have a pretty significantimpact in this world.
So, uh, like, like this, thispodcast, you know, the the inner
(01:33):
wealth podcast has beenlistened to on six continents,
103 countries around the world,almost 1600 cities, and I feel
that that's pretty significantand a lot of those countries and
a lot of those cities they'rethey're repeat listeners.
It's like they're coming backfor more and that's pretty cool
to know that.
You know to wake up and knowthat there's people all around
the world listening to yourvoice and that's pretty cool.
(01:54):
That's a you know, when, 10years ago, I would, I just
released the next book for, youknow, for the business and for
my life, and it's called, it'scalled Inner World, outer World,
and it released, it launched onAugust 19th 2025.
(02:15):
And that just happened to be mybirthday and I get feedback
from people that that aregetting benefit and getting
value out of that book.
And and people are feeding meback some of the content and,
and you know, even in mymastermind, when we have the
interwealth mastermind, you know, people are quoting certain
chapters and talk about the, theimpact of certain chapters
(02:37):
you're having on their life.
Like, like in the um in today,on our our mastermind call, we
talked about, uh, about one ofthe one of the members mentioned
that the chapter on beliefscreate your reality.
What she said was the way Iexplained how that's so.
The way I explained how beliefscreate reality, because I
(02:58):
didn't make up that concept, butthe way I explained it really
had a profound impact on herlife and it just she's heard it
before but it never really sunkin and and it has sunk in at a
deeper level and now she canoperate from that awareness, now
that this stuff comes at me allthe time and I love that.
I love that and it feels reallygood I'm going to be honest.
(03:19):
It feels good to walk into aroom and have people recognize
you and you know, know the workthat you're doing and you know I
had the last meetup that I wasat here in the local St Louis
area.
I actually had a fella come upand bring his family Joe you
know who you are bring hisfamily up to introduce him to me
and then explain who I was andwhat I did.
(03:40):
And they mentioned that theybought copies of the book and
everybody in the family theywere going to read it together
and they were going to, andthat's really cool that those
things happen and I really feelsgood to to bring something to
the world and to impact theworld and to make a mark and to
have people affirm that the workthat I'm doing and the air that
(04:02):
I'm breathing is valuable andand that is valuable and that
I'm a benefit to society.
It feels really good.
10 years ago, there was oneintention that I had, and that
was just to make more money formyself, and now I do certainly
make good money and my familydoes very, very well, but really
it's the impact.
The money comes because of theimpact, and as the impact
(04:24):
increases, so does the wealthand so does the accumulation, so
does the prosperity we enjoy.
Now, one thing I've learned onthis journey is and I've said,
you know I'm going to do adramatic pause and then I'm
going to anchor this thought andthis concept into a higher
(04:49):
level understanding.
But what I've shared is youcan't have what you want
Dramatic pause but you get whatyou expect.
You can't have whatever youwant Because you get what you
expect, and it's only when whatyou want and what you expect are
(05:13):
equal that that will come intoyour life, when your wants and
your expectations are equal, butyou can't have whatever you
want.
Because if you want somethingbut you expect not to have it,
but you can't have whatever youwant, because if you, if you,
want something but you expectnot to have it, you won't.
Okay, I'm going to spend therest of this episode unpacking
this concept and helping youunderstand from my understanding
(05:35):
, from, from my experience.
I'm going to help youunderstand where all of this
lives and how to.
How to rearrange what, what youexpect in this world, because
until you rearrange what youexpect, then you're not going to
get what you want, and that'swhat we're all after.
The Inner Wealth Podcast is notjust about finding higher levels
(05:56):
of peace inside.
It's about finding higherlevels of prosperity in the
world and enjoying both, both arich inner life and a rich
external life.
Okay, so you can't haveanything you want, but you'll
always get what you expect.
But when your wants and yourexpectations, when they match,
(06:19):
you'll get what you expect andwhat you want, because they're
the same.
Now here's what I've learned.
Okay, your beliefs, yourexpectations, the stories that
you tell yourself, your worries,your doubts, your fears all of
(06:39):
this stuff resides in yournervous system.
Okay, in your nervous system,in you know you've got.
You've got this brain, you'vegot this spinal column, you've
got these nor uh um paths thatthat contain all the neurons in
your body and the tentacles thatthat bring, bring electrical
(07:01):
charges to the body, to the armsand the legs, and this
comprises your nervous system.
Now, I'm not a nervous systemexpert, I'm not a scientist, but
it's pretty simple, but noteasy, right to understand.
So I'm talking to thesimplicity of the nervous system
(07:23):
and I know it's rudimentary andI know it's elementary, but
just stick with me, becauseyou've got this basic nervous
system and inside of thisnervous system, inside of your
nervous system, are all of yourperspectives, your preferences,
your beliefs, your expectations,your worries, doubts, fears,
your anxieties.
(07:43):
All of it is contained withinyour nervous system.
All right, and we live theinternal.
Our internal life is basicallyliving as the nervous system and
we can change that andrearrange the nervous system
anytime we want, and I've done abunch of podcast episodes about
(08:05):
that.
In fact, the last one, the lastpodcast episode, was all about
four meditations that'llrearrange the nervous system.
All right, now, when we areyoung and even when we come into
this world, our expectationsare formed, our beliefs are
(08:25):
formed, our nervous system isformed.
Now we go through our mostimpressionable ages are zero to
seven and in those ages,whatever we're exposed to, the
environment that we live in,whatever the people that we love
teach us, they get lodged asbeliefs in our body because we
(08:46):
don't have a way to discerntruth from falsehood.
So if your parents say thatlife is hard, then it's almost
like a little kid says I loveyou so much, mom and dad, that I
want to believe that.
True, and I'm going to build anervous system and I'm going to
build a personality around that.
(09:06):
And where life isn't hard, I'mgoing to make it hard because I
want you to be right.
And we do this with a lot ofthings Marriage Marriage is hard
.
If you grew up watching your momand dad fight, if you grew up
with people telling you thatmarriage is hard, if you grow up
(09:27):
with people saying you've gotto work hard for your marriage,
then you're going to make thattrue, lodged as a belief or as a
story or as an expectation inyour body.
And when it does, you're goingto set out to make it true,
because your nervous system isbuilt to only live in that truth
(09:50):
and the absence of that isgoing to feel off-putting, it's
not going to feel correct,because your nervous system is
literally wired to onlyexperience that as truth or as
correct, all right.
This is why sometimes peopleget into relationships and it
feels too easy and they exit itbecause it's unfamiliar and it
(10:12):
feels it doesn't feel alignedwith the nervous system and the
nervous system is looking tofind some sense of familiarity
system and a nervous system islooking to find some sense of
familiarity.
Now, the nervous system, it hasone, one mission in mind.
It has one purpose for beingand that's to keep you alive.
(10:35):
And the way it keeps you aliveis by keeping you in familiar
circumstances.
That's its ambition to keep youalive, by keeping you in
familiar circumstances andkeeping you in familiar habits
and cycles and patterns.
And so if you're, if you'reused to struggling financially,
your nervous system literallywants to keep you there because
it knows how to operate there.
You're used to having astruggle-licious relationship
(11:01):
with your bride or with yourhusband, then you're going to,
and when there's not, it's goingto feel weird, it's not going
to feel correct, because yournervous system is going to try
to get you back into thefamiliarity of a
struggle-licious relationship,because it knows how to operate
there.
If your nervous system is builtaround being invisible and
trying to hide, then when youare seen it's going to feel
(11:23):
dangerous because your nervoussystem, it's used to being
invisible and being unseen.
So it's going to feel unsafethere.
So it's going to try to get youback into familiar
circumstances.
So your nervous system, itexists to keep you alive.
It does that by keeping youfamiliar, because it knows how
to keep you alive.
In the familiarity of thosecircumstances, regardless if
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they're wealth or poverty,success or failure, loved or
rejected, whatever's familiar,your nervous system is trying to
get you back into All right.
Your nervous system is tryingto get you back into All right.
Now I want to.
I want to throw a new conceptthat I've been chewing on lately
that feels really, really truefor me is that your nervous
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system, your ego and yoursubconscious are all the same
things.
Your nervous system, your egoand your subconscious are all
the same things.
Your nervous system we justcall that the physiology that's
in the body, the wiring that'sin the body that creates emotion
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, that creates thoughts, thatstores your beliefs, that stores
your expectations, that createsyour fear, that creates your
anxieties, that creates joy.
All the nervous system is justwe call it the physiological
part of our body that just feelsand experiences an internal, or
(12:53):
gives us the experience ofinternal, quality of life.
This also includes your fight,flight or freeze responses, all
right, so we call that yournervous system.
But there's also this thing inthe spiritual world and in the
world like Jungian psychology,where we call it.
We talk about the ego, and theego is that, like that character
(13:15):
we play.
Okay, the ego is the character,it's the, it's the fear-based
part of us that's always tryingto be in control, that's trying
to control things, that's tryingnot to be judged, that's trying
to be accepted, that's tryingto be seen as successful, that's
trying to be seen as wealthyright, all of these things are
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ego, right, they're just nervoussystem responses, that's all
they are.
So the ego is basically thenervous system.
They're equal.
The ego is an adaptation of thenervous system.
It's just a way of living andchoices and decisions that we
make and ways of showing up thatare derived from the
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arrangement of the nervoussystem.
And now, when we talk about thesubconscious and I've done
episodes where I talk about theconscious mind is about 5% of
our processing, but 95% ofeverything that we think, say,
believe, act, behave, 95% is allsubconscious and all that is is
(14:19):
because of the nervous systemwiring.
That's all it is.
The subconscious part of us isjust the unconscious part that's
attached to the nervous systemthat creates muscle memory, that
creates reactions, that createsthis reaction, this response
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that just feels familiar, thatjust feels normal, like when
you're driving, when you leaveyour home and you're driving to
the grocery store and when youget there you don't even
remember getting there.
That's because your nervoussystem took over.
That's your subconscious, thesubconscious part of you.
Your nervous system took over.
You don your subconscious, thesubconscious part of you.
Your nervous system took over.
You don't even need to freaking, you don't even need to think
about it, you just get there andyou can't even remember driving
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.
It's the automatic functioning,it's the automatic parts and
that comes from nervous systemwiring and what's familiar and
what feels normal and what feelsnatural.
So we've got, we've got thenervous system, the ego and the
subconscious.
When we talk about those workto all, we're talking all about
the same things.
(15:26):
All right, now, deeply embeddedin that nervous system, in your
nervous system, in your ego, inyour subconscious, are your
expectations.
So when, when you are raisedlet's let's take someone who's
raised in a really empoweredenvironment, when they're a
child and they are, you knowtheir parents talk very
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empowering you can have whateveryou want.
Whatever you want you can, itwill happen for you.
Life is supportive, life isyour ally.
Life is always trying to bringyou what you want, what you need
.
You are valuable, you areworthy, you deserve it because
you breathe.
Let's say you're raised in thatenvironment.
Then guess what your nervoussystem is going to be programmed
(16:12):
and conditioned to expect?
Your nervous system is going tobe programmed and conditioned
to expect goodness to flow intoyour life, to expect people to
accept you, to expect people toembrace you, to love you, for
life to bring you what you want,that's what you're going to be
(16:33):
built to accept.
But now I remember when I wasunconscious and my daughter, my
daughter Katie, would you know?
She was little, maybe she wasfour or five, and she said Dad,
I want X, y, z and I'd sing theRolling Stones song.
You can't always get what youwant and you know what.
She heard that song so manytimes.
(16:54):
I guarantee you that there's anexpectation built in her
nervous system that just becauseshe wants it, she can't have it
.
And she's living out of thatexpectation because I gifted
that to her.
And now she's conditioned andprogrammed with that belief,
with that expectation, and it'spartially ruling her life
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because her nervous system orego, and her subconscious are
all the same thing and she'soperating as if that's true.
And if I would have raised herdifferently, with a different
belief, she'd expect and believedifferent things.
Inside of your nervous systemare your expectations.
(17:37):
Now let's advance this, okay.
So I work around a lot ofentrepreneurs and I ask them the
question a lot.
I ask the question what do youwant?
What do you really want in thisworld?
What are you after?
What do you really want?
And they'll tell me I want, youknow, a million dollars and I
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want financial freedom and Iwant success and I want whatever
.
And you know a million dollarsand I want financial freedom and
I want success and I wantwhatever.
And you know whatever they want.
I want to travel the world.
I want, you know, I want rentalproperties all over the place,
I want Airbnbs.
They'll tell me a whole litanyof things which I encourage
everybody to want, whatever theywant.
Right, wanting and achieving isa lot of fun in this world.
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It's part of the material humanexperience that we get to
really enjoy and embrace.
But what I haven't done a greatjob of is what do you want?
And then dig a deep, a layerdeeper and say listen, what do
you really expect to have happen?
Because sometimes somebody cansay and I've experienced this
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they can say they want XYZ, butthey expect to not experience
and get XYZ.
Deeply buried in their nervoussystem in their subconscious is
an expectation of pessimism thatthey can't always get what they
(19:07):
want.
And in the battle between whatyou want and what you expect,
what you expect will always win.
See here's when I releasepodcast episodes and when I
released my book Inner World,outer World.
When I released my first book,the Impostor in Charge, I want
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everybody around the world toexperience my work.
When I launch a workshop, Iwant to sell out the workshop.
When I host a lecture or when Ispeak or when I launch a
mastermind, I want to sell out.
I want everybody to want what Ihave to offer.
(19:50):
I want everybody to buy what Ihave to offer, to enjoy what I
have to offer, to benefit fromwhat I have to offer.
That's what I want.
But there's this, there's thisstill this little, little voice
of pessimism buried in mynervous system that says not
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everybody, not everybody, cansee you or wants to see you.
Not everybody wants you, noteverybody, not everybody wants
what you have to offer.
In fact, let me take it a stepfarther Few people see you, few
people want you, few people wantwhat you have to offer.
In fact, let me take it a stepfarther Few people see you, few
people want you, few people wantwhat you have to offer.
And this is the partiallypartial reason why I don't get
(20:33):
the traction in books andpodcasts and workshops and my
mastermind that I expect or thatI want, because somewhere
deeply buried in my nervoussystem is this expectation that,
no matter the quality of thecontent, it still won't be
appreciated by the masses.
(20:56):
Now, I'm telling you thisbecause there's a difference
between a guru and a guide, andI'm not a guru.
A guru will teach you from aplace that they have it all
figured out, and I'm a guide.
I'll tell you, and I constantlytalk to my mastermind and my
community about what I'm workingon and what I'm processing and
(21:19):
what resistance I'm meeting andwhat resistance I'm working on
clearing.
And that's the differencebetween a guru and a guide.
A guru will teach you from aplace of mastery, but a guide
will teach you from a place ofmessiness and journey the
journey with you.
Instead of acting like they'reat the destination, screaming
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for you to help get you to thedestination, they're side by
side.
A guide is side by side,walking towards the destination
with you.
Now I've recognized this littlevoice of pessimism and this is
why, when I've in my life, mybusiness, whenever I've wanted
(22:00):
something, there's times whereI've wanted and it and it hasn't
taken shape, it hasn't takenroot.
And that's because of thatlittle pessimistic voice inside
of my, inside of my, my mind, orinside of my subconscious, or
inside of my nervous system, inmy ego, that says you can't
always get what you want.
(22:20):
Which is why I taught mydaughter that, because I was
taught that and that it's buriedin there and now it's time to
kind of exhume it, exhume that,rearrange the nervous system and
in my, my mastermind.
The other day when, when I wasteaching this and I talked about
, in a battle between your wantsand your expectations, your
(22:43):
expectations will win every time, one of my students said well,
mike, what's the work?
And I said you got it.
Shadow work, future embodimentwork, gratitude, letting go, the
drill method, the Sedona method, eft, the emotional frequencies
technique or emotional freedomtechnique these are all release
(23:06):
mechanisms to let go of theresistance that's in the nervous
system, including negativeexpectations that would get in
the way of your wants becomingmaterial.
If there's resistance, ifthere's pessimism, if there's
doubt, if there's this pessimism, if there's this belief, if
(23:31):
there's this expectation thatwhat you want you can't have,
then you can't have it.
And actually let me talk aboutthat a little more.
Sometimes you want something,you expect not to have it and if
it shows up you find a way toget rid of it quickly so that
you can get back intoexpectation alignment.
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And that's happened to me overand over.
That's called self-sabotage and, in a nutshell, pessimism.
A negative expectation based inour nervous system is a form of
self-sabotage.
And until we rearrange thenervous system, rearrange the,
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the noise that's in our body,eliminate, let go, release the
noise, release the resistanceand shift that expectation from
it's not available to it isavailable.
To rearrange that expectationto.
Nobody sees me to.
Everybody sees me.
Nobody wants me to everybodywants me.
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Nobody appreciates me to.
Everybody appreciates me.
Nobody wants what I have tooffer to.
Everybody wants what I have tooffer.
Until we rearrange thatexpectation, then what we don't
want will happen.
Okay, I hope this is makingsense.
This has been a work in progressfor me.
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It's been a work in process andI hope it's benefiting you.
And this is the same work thatI teach in the choose your
destiny live Intensive that'scoming up on November 14th and
15th.
This is the same exact workthat I'm going to be teaching in
Monkify, your Money Gamestarting October 13th.
This is the same exact work Ido inside the Inner Wealth
(25:16):
Mastermind.
We just got back from anawesome retreat in Park City,
utah.
The meditative work, the somaticwork, this goes deeper than
mindset.
This is inside the body, it'sinside the nervous system.
Your want might be a mentalwant, it might be a thought, but
until that thought matches theinternal expectation, the
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internal belief buried in yournervous system, slash the ego,
slash the subconscious.
Until your want andexpectations are in match, then
the expectation is always goingto win.
And you've heard over and overbecome a frequency match in the
spiritual world.
Become a frequency match forwhat you want.
And when you become a frequencymatch for what you want, and
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when you become a frequencymatch for what you want, it'll
show up.
All that is saying is when yourwant matches, your expectation
boom it'll materialize.
Guys, I hope this is makingsense.
I hope this is valuable.
If I can help in any way, shapeor form, this is the work that
I'm doing.
Over the past month or two, theInner Wealth Mastermind has
(26:23):
started growing again, startedselling some tickets for Choose
your Destiny Live Intensive,started selling some seats for
Monkify your Money Game.
So for me, the evidence thatthis is working is there,
because my business is growingagain and as my nervous system
lets go of this pessimism, let'sgo with these negative
expectations, then what I wantis starting to show up more and
(26:46):
more.
So I'm asking you to takeinventory of what you want.
Then I'm also asking you totake inventory of what you
expect and let's get to workmaking them a match.
If you enjoyed what you heardand you want to learn more, go
to wwwinnerwealthglobalcom formore tools and resources.
Do you ever wake up feeling like there's something
missing in your life?
Do you ever feel the need toescape your business?
Are you running your life or isyour life running you?
I'm Mike Kitko and I'll helpyou design and create a life so
authentic and aligned with whoyou really are you'll get
excited just to wake up.
I'll help you create realwealth, success and freedom from
the inside out.
(00:23):
Welcome to the Inner WealthPodcast, where we learn and
choose to live inspired each andevery day, ever since the I
guess, the collapse of mycircumstances in my life back in
2016,.
(00:49):
Life back in 2016.
It's been a um, the.
You know what?
What is that?
Nine years coming up on adecade?
Um, the?
That was.
That's the process.
The nine years I've beenexploring the process of
creating higher, higher levelcircumstances in my life and and
expanding, you know, my, myhealth and my wealth and my
success and my love and myrelationship, and and it's been.
It's been a complete reboot.
(01:11):
It's been everything in my lifehas changed.
I've lost a shit ton of weight.
I've rebuilt my marriage.
I've rebuilt my health.
I've built a business.
I uh, instead of going back tocorporate, I've built a business
and I have a pretty significantimpact in this world.
So, uh, like, like this, thispodcast, you know, the the inner
(01:33):
wealth podcast has beenlistened to on six continents,
103 countries around the world,almost 1600 cities, and I feel
that that's pretty significantand a lot of those countries and
a lot of those cities they'rethey're repeat listeners.
It's like they're coming backfor more and that's pretty cool
to know that.
You know to wake up and knowthat there's people all around
the world listening to yourvoice and that's pretty cool.
(01:54):
That's a you know, when, 10years ago, I would, I just
released the next book for, youknow, for the business and for
my life, and it's called, it'scalled Inner World, outer World,
and it released, it launched onAugust 19th 2025.
(02:15):
And that just happened to be mybirthday and I get feedback
from people that that aregetting benefit and getting
value out of that book.
And and people are feeding meback some of the content and,
and you know, even in mymastermind, when we have the
interwealth mastermind, you know, people are quoting certain
chapters and talk about the, theimpact of certain chapters
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you're having on their life.
Like, like in the um in today,on our our mastermind call, we
talked about, uh, about one ofthe one of the members mentioned
that the chapter on beliefscreate your reality.
What she said was the way Iexplained how that's so.
The way I explained how beliefscreate reality, because I
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didn't make up that concept, butthe way I explained it really
had a profound impact on herlife and it just she's heard it
before but it never really sunkin and and it has sunk in at a
deeper level and now she canoperate from that awareness, now
that this stuff comes at me allthe time and I love that.
I love that and it feels reallygood I'm going to be honest.
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It feels good to walk into aroom and have people recognize
you and you know, know the workthat you're doing and you know I
had the last meetup that I wasat here in the local St Louis
area.
I actually had a fella come upand bring his family Joe you
know who you are bring hisfamily up to introduce him to me
and then explain who I was andwhat I did.
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And they mentioned that theybought copies of the book and
everybody in the family theywere going to read it together
and they were going to, andthat's really cool that those
things happen and I really feelsgood to to bring something to
the world and to impact theworld and to make a mark and to
have people affirm that the workthat I'm doing and the air that
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I'm breathing is valuable andand that is valuable and that
I'm a benefit to society.
It feels really good.
10 years ago, there was oneintention that I had, and that
was just to make more money formyself, and now I do certainly
make good money and my familydoes very, very well, but really
it's the impact.
The money comes because of theimpact, and as the impact
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increases, so does the wealthand so does the accumulation, so
does the prosperity we enjoy.
Now, one thing I've learned onthis journey is and I've said,
you know I'm going to do adramatic pause and then I'm
going to anchor this thought andthis concept into a higher
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level understanding.
But what I've shared is youcan't have what you want
Dramatic pause but you get whatyou expect.
You can't have whatever youwant Because you get what you
expect, and it's only when whatyou want and what you expect are
(05:13):
equal that that will come intoyour life, when your wants and
your expectations are equal, butyou can't have whatever you
want.
Because if you want somethingbut you expect not to have it,
but you can't have whatever youwant, because if you, if you,
want something but you expectnot to have it, you won't.
Okay, I'm going to spend therest of this episode unpacking
this concept and helping youunderstand from my understanding
(05:35):
, from, from my experience.
I'm going to help youunderstand where all of this
lives and how to.
How to rearrange what, what youexpect in this world, because
until you rearrange what youexpect, then you're not going to
get what you want, and that'swhat we're all after.
The Inner Wealth Podcast is notjust about finding higher levels
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of peace inside.
It's about finding higherlevels of prosperity in the
world and enjoying both, both arich inner life and a rich
external life.
Okay, so you can't haveanything you want, but you'll
always get what you expect.
But when your wants and yourexpectations, when they match,
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you'll get what you expect andwhat you want, because they're
the same.
Now here's what I've learned.
Okay, your beliefs, yourexpectations, the stories that
you tell yourself, your worries,your doubts, your fears all of
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this stuff resides in yournervous system.
Okay, in your nervous system,in you know you've got.
You've got this brain, you'vegot this spinal column, you've
got these nor uh um paths thatthat contain all the neurons in
your body and the tentacles thatthat bring, bring electrical
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charges to the body, to the armsand the legs, and this
comprises your nervous system.
Now, I'm not a nervous systemexpert, I'm not a scientist, but
it's pretty simple, but noteasy, right to understand.
So I'm talking to thesimplicity of the nervous system
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and I know it's rudimentary andI know it's elementary, but
just stick with me, becauseyou've got this basic nervous
system and inside of thisnervous system, inside of your
nervous system, are all of yourperspectives, your preferences,
your beliefs, your expectations,your worries, doubts, fears,
your anxieties.
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All of it is contained withinyour nervous system.
All right, and we live theinternal.
Our internal life is basicallyliving as the nervous system and
we can change that andrearrange the nervous system
anytime we want, and I've done abunch of podcast episodes about
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that.
In fact, the last one, the lastpodcast episode, was all about
four meditations that'llrearrange the nervous system.
All right, now, when we areyoung and even when we come into
this world, our expectationsare formed, our beliefs are
(08:25):
formed, our nervous system isformed.
Now we go through our mostimpressionable ages are zero to
seven and in those ages,whatever we're exposed to, the
environment that we live in,whatever the people that we love
teach us, they get lodged asbeliefs in our body because we
(08:46):
don't have a way to discerntruth from falsehood.
So if your parents say thatlife is hard, then it's almost
like a little kid says I loveyou so much, mom and dad, that I
want to believe that.
True, and I'm going to build anervous system and I'm going to
build a personality around that.
(09:06):
And where life isn't hard, I'mgoing to make it hard because I
want you to be right.
And we do this with a lot ofthings Marriage Marriage is hard
.
If you grew up watching your momand dad fight, if you grew up
with people telling you thatmarriage is hard, if you grow up
(09:27):
with people saying you've gotto work hard for your marriage,
then you're going to make thattrue, lodged as a belief or as a
story or as an expectation inyour body.
And when it does, you're goingto set out to make it true,
because your nervous system isbuilt to only live in that truth
(09:50):
and the absence of that isgoing to feel off-putting, it's
not going to feel correct,because your nervous system is
literally wired to onlyexperience that as truth or as
correct, all right.
This is why sometimes peopleget into relationships and it
feels too easy and they exit itbecause it's unfamiliar and it
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feels it doesn't feel alignedwith the nervous system and the
nervous system is looking tofind some sense of familiarity
system and a nervous system islooking to find some sense of
familiarity.
Now, the nervous system, it hasone, one mission in mind.
It has one purpose for beingand that's to keep you alive.
(10:35):
And the way it keeps you aliveis by keeping you in familiar
circumstances.
That's its ambition to keep youalive, by keeping you in
familiar circumstances andkeeping you in familiar habits
and cycles and patterns.
And so if you're, if you'reused to struggling financially,
your nervous system literallywants to keep you there because
it knows how to operate there.
You're used to having astruggle-licious relationship
(11:01):
with your bride or with yourhusband, then you're going to,
and when there's not, it's goingto feel weird, it's not going
to feel correct, because yournervous system is going to try
to get you back into thefamiliarity of a
struggle-licious relationship,because it knows how to operate
there.
If your nervous system is builtaround being invisible and
trying to hide, then when youare seen it's going to feel
(11:23):
dangerous because your nervoussystem, it's used to being
invisible and being unseen.
So it's going to feel unsafethere.
So it's going to try to get youback into familiar
circumstances.
So your nervous system, itexists to keep you alive.
It does that by keeping youfamiliar, because it knows how
to keep you alive.
In the familiarity of thosecircumstances, regardless if
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they're wealth or poverty,success or failure, loved or
rejected, whatever's familiar,your nervous system is trying to
get you back into All right.
Your nervous system is tryingto get you back into All right.
Now I want to.
I want to throw a new conceptthat I've been chewing on lately
that feels really, really truefor me is that your nervous
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system, your ego and yoursubconscious are all the same
things.
Your nervous system, your egoand your subconscious are all
the same things.
Your nervous system we justcall that the physiology that's
in the body, the wiring that'sin the body that creates emotion
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, that creates thoughts, thatstores your beliefs, that stores
your expectations, that createsyour fear, that creates your
anxieties, that creates joy.
All the nervous system is justwe call it the physiological
part of our body that just feelsand experiences an internal, or
(12:53):
gives us the experience ofinternal, quality of life.
This also includes your fight,flight or freeze responses, all
right, so we call that yournervous system.
But there's also this thing inthe spiritual world and in the
world like Jungian psychology,where we call it.
We talk about the ego, and theego is that, like that character
(13:15):
we play.
Okay, the ego is the character,it's the, it's the fear-based
part of us that's always tryingto be in control, that's trying
to control things, that's tryingnot to be judged, that's trying
to be accepted, that's tryingto be seen as successful, that's
trying to be seen as wealthyright, all of these things are
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ego, right, they're just nervoussystem responses, that's all
they are.
So the ego is basically thenervous system.
They're equal.
The ego is an adaptation of thenervous system.
It's just a way of living andchoices and decisions that we
make and ways of showing up thatare derived from the
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arrangement of the nervoussystem.
And now, when we talk about thesubconscious and I've done
episodes where I talk about theconscious mind is about 5% of
our processing, but 95% ofeverything that we think, say,
believe, act, behave, 95% is allsubconscious and all that is is
(14:19):
because of the nervous systemwiring.
That's all it is.
The subconscious part of us isjust the unconscious part that's
attached to the nervous systemthat creates muscle memory, that
creates reactions, that createsthis reaction, this response
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that just feels familiar, thatjust feels normal, like when
you're driving, when you leaveyour home and you're driving to
the grocery store and when youget there you don't even
remember getting there.
That's because your nervoussystem took over.
That's your subconscious, thesubconscious part of you.
Your nervous system took over.
You don your subconscious, thesubconscious part of you.
Your nervous system took over.
You don't even need to freaking, you don't even need to think
about it, you just get there andyou can't even remember driving
(15:05):
.
It's the automatic functioning,it's the automatic parts and
that comes from nervous systemwiring and what's familiar and
what feels normal and what feelsnatural.
So we've got, we've got thenervous system, the ego and the
subconscious.
When we talk about those workto all, we're talking all about
the same things.
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All right, now, deeply embeddedin that nervous system, in your
nervous system, in your ego, inyour subconscious, are your
expectations.
So when, when you are raisedlet's let's take someone who's
raised in a really empoweredenvironment, when they're a
child and they are, you knowtheir parents talk very
(15:50):
empowering you can have whateveryou want.
Whatever you want you can, itwill happen for you.
Life is supportive, life isyour ally.
Life is always trying to bringyou what you want, what you need
.
You are valuable, you areworthy, you deserve it because
you breathe.
Let's say you're raised in thatenvironment.
Then guess what your nervoussystem is going to be programmed
(16:12):
and conditioned to expect?
Your nervous system is going tobe programmed and conditioned
to expect goodness to flow intoyour life, to expect people to
accept you, to expect people toembrace you, to love you, for
life to bring you what you want,that's what you're going to be
(16:33):
built to accept.
But now I remember when I wasunconscious and my daughter, my
daughter Katie, would you know?
She was little, maybe she wasfour or five, and she said Dad,
I want X, y, z and I'd sing theRolling Stones song.
You can't always get what youwant and you know what.
She heard that song so manytimes.
(16:54):
I guarantee you that there's anexpectation built in her
nervous system that just becauseshe wants it, she can't have it
.
And she's living out of thatexpectation because I gifted
that to her.
And now she's conditioned andprogrammed with that belief,
with that expectation, and it'spartially ruling her life
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because her nervous system orego, and her subconscious are
all the same thing and she'soperating as if that's true.
And if I would have raised herdifferently, with a different
belief, she'd expect and believedifferent things.
Inside of your nervous systemare your expectations.
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Now let's advance this, okay.
So I work around a lot ofentrepreneurs and I ask them the
question a lot.
I ask the question what do youwant?
What do you really want in thisworld?
What are you after?
What do you really want?
And they'll tell me I want, youknow, a million dollars and I
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want financial freedom and Iwant success and I want whatever
.
And you know a million dollarsand I want financial freedom and
I want success and I wantwhatever.
And you know whatever they want.
I want to travel the world.
I want, you know, I want rentalproperties all over the place,
I want Airbnbs.
They'll tell me a whole litanyof things which I encourage
everybody to want, whatever theywant.
Right, wanting and achieving isa lot of fun in this world.
(18:20):
It's part of the material humanexperience that we get to
really enjoy and embrace.
But what I haven't done a greatjob of is what do you want?
And then dig a deep, a layerdeeper and say listen, what do
you really expect to have happen?
Because sometimes somebody cansay and I've experienced this
(18:44):
they can say they want XYZ, butthey expect to not experience
and get XYZ.
Deeply buried in their nervoussystem in their subconscious is
an expectation of pessimism thatthey can't always get what they
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want.
And in the battle between whatyou want and what you expect,
what you expect will always win.
See here's when I releasepodcast episodes and when I
released my book Inner World,outer World.
When I released my first book,the Impostor in Charge, I want
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everybody around the world toexperience my work.
When I launch a workshop, Iwant to sell out the workshop.
When I host a lecture or when Ispeak or when I launch a
mastermind, I want to sell out.
I want everybody to want what Ihave to offer.
(19:50):
I want everybody to buy what Ihave to offer, to enjoy what I
have to offer, to benefit fromwhat I have to offer.
That's what I want.
But there's this, there's thisstill this little, little voice
of pessimism buried in mynervous system that says not
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everybody, not everybody, cansee you or wants to see you.
Not everybody wants you, noteverybody, not everybody wants
what you have to offer.
In fact, let me take it a stepfarther Few people see you, few
people want you, few people wantwhat you have to offer.
In fact, let me take it a stepfarther Few people see you, few
people want you, few people wantwhat you have to offer.
And this is the partiallypartial reason why I don't get
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the traction in books andpodcasts and workshops and my
mastermind that I expect or thatI want, because somewhere
deeply buried in my nervoussystem is this expectation that,
no matter the quality of thecontent, it still won't be
appreciated by the masses.
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Now, I'm telling you thisbecause there's a difference
between a guru and a guide, andI'm not a guru.
A guru will teach you from aplace that they have it all
figured out, and I'm a guide.
I'll tell you, and I constantlytalk to my mastermind and my
community about what I'm workingon and what I'm processing and
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what resistance I'm meeting andwhat resistance I'm working on
clearing.
And that's the differencebetween a guru and a guide.
A guru will teach you from aplace of mastery, but a guide
will teach you from a place ofmessiness and journey the
journey with you.
Instead of acting like they'reat the destination, screaming
(21:40):
for you to help get you to thedestination, they're side by
side.
A guide is side by side,walking towards the destination
with you.
Now I've recognized this littlevoice of pessimism and this is
why, when I've in my life, mybusiness, whenever I've wanted
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something, there's times whereI've wanted and it and it hasn't
taken shape, it hasn't takenroot.
And that's because of thatlittle pessimistic voice inside
of my, inside of my, my mind, orinside of my subconscious, or
inside of my nervous system, inmy ego, that says you can't
always get what you want.
(22:20):
Which is why I taught mydaughter that, because I was
taught that and that it's buriedin there and now it's time to
kind of exhume it, exhume that,rearrange the nervous system and
in my, my mastermind.
The other day when, when I wasteaching this and I talked about
, in a battle between your wantsand your expectations, your
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expectations will win every time, one of my students said well,
mike, what's the work?
And I said you got it.
Shadow work, future embodimentwork, gratitude, letting go, the
drill method, the Sedona method, eft, the emotional frequencies
technique or emotional freedomtechnique these are all release
(23:06):
mechanisms to let go of theresistance that's in the nervous
system, including negativeexpectations that would get in
the way of your wants becomingmaterial.
If there's resistance, ifthere's pessimism, if there's
doubt, if there's this pessimism, if there's this belief, if
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there's this expectation thatwhat you want you can't have,
then you can't have it.
And actually let me talk aboutthat a little more.
Sometimes you want something,you expect not to have it and if
it shows up you find a way toget rid of it quickly so that
you can get back intoexpectation alignment.
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And that's happened to me overand over.
That's called self-sabotage and, in a nutshell, pessimism.
A negative expectation based inour nervous system is a form of
self-sabotage.
And until we rearrange thenervous system, rearrange the,
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the noise that's in our body,eliminate, let go, release the
noise, release the resistanceand shift that expectation from
it's not available to it isavailable.
To rearrange that expectationto.
Nobody sees me to.
Everybody sees me.
Nobody wants me to everybodywants me.
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Nobody appreciates me to.
Everybody appreciates me.
Nobody wants what I have tooffer to.
Everybody wants what I have tooffer.
Until we rearrange thatexpectation, then what we don't
want will happen.
Okay, I hope this is makingsense.
This has been a work in progressfor me.
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It's been a work in process andI hope it's benefiting you.
And this is the same work thatI teach in the choose your
destiny live Intensive that'scoming up on November 14th and
15th.
This is the same exact workthat I'm going to be teaching in
Monkify, your Money Gamestarting October 13th.
This is the same exact work Ido inside the Inner Wealth
(25:16):
Mastermind.
We just got back from anawesome retreat in Park City,
utah.
The meditative work, the somaticwork, this goes deeper than
mindset.
This is inside the body, it'sinside the nervous system.
Your want might be a mentalwant, it might be a thought, but
until that thought matches theinternal expectation, the
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internal belief buried in yournervous system, slash the ego,
slash the subconscious.
Until your want andexpectations are in match, then
the expectation is always goingto win.
And you've heard over and overbecome a frequency match in the
spiritual world.
Become a frequency match forwhat you want.
And when you become a frequencymatch for what you want, and
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when you become a frequencymatch for what you want, it'll
show up.
All that is saying is when yourwant matches, your expectation
boom it'll materialize.
Guys, I hope this is makingsense.
I hope this is valuable.
If I can help in any way, shapeor form, this is the work that
I'm doing.
Over the past month or two, theInner Wealth Mastermind has
(26:23):
started growing again, startedselling some tickets for Choose
your Destiny Live Intensive,started selling some seats for
Monkify your Money Game.
So for me, the evidence thatthis is working is there,
because my business is growingagain and as my nervous system
lets go of this pessimism, let'sgo with these negative
expectations, then what I wantis starting to show up more and
(26:46):
more.
So I'm asking you to takeinventory of what you want.
Then I'm also asking you totake inventory of what you
expect and let's get to workmaking them a match.
If you enjoyed what you heardand you want to learn more, go
to wwwinnerwealthglobalcom formore tools and resources.
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