August 5, 2025 • 24 mins
Caroline Biesalski kicks off the episode by setting the foundation for creating a dream life, then welcomes guest Kaylea Van Arsdale. They delve into the significant role psychology plays in entrepreneurial coaching, sharing strategies for building a successful business. The discussion highlights the importance of persistence and celebrating milestones, alongside fostering a resilient mindset. Kaylea shares her personal journey to success, underscoring the transformative role of coaches and mentors in business growth. The episode wraps up with insights on connecting with Kaylea for further guidance and inspiration.
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Yes.
So if anything that you can take from this calltoday, it should be that your "wouldn't it be
cool if" idea dream life, it would be cool.
So why not start actually setting that plan,setting those boundaries around your path, and
(00:20):
working towards that dream life because youdeserve it.
You're worth it.
Just start taking action.
Welcome to Inspired Choice Today.
I'm your host, Caroline Biesalski, here tobring you authentic stories, surprising
lessons, and powerful takeaways to fuel yourjourney in business and life.
(00:40):
In each episode, I'll take you from oneinspiring guest to the next, blending their
experiences with my experiences to uncoverpractical strategies you can use right away.
Whether you're starting out or stepping up,stay tuned for insights and actionable tips
that make a difference.
And stick around until the end for a specialfreebie just for our listeners.
(01:07):
Hello, and welcome, inspired podcast community.
This is your new episode.
My name is Caroline, and my today's guest isKalia van a Ersteyn Arsteyn.
You said sorry.
I have to try this.
And I'm so happy that you said yes to ourinterview.
How are you doing today?
(01:27):
Oh, I'm doing so well.
I'm really excited to be here speaking with youtoday and inspiring other people.
Oh, yes.
Let's do this.
Thank you so much, and I would like tointroduce you to the audience.
Of course, you are a seasoned business and lifecoach with over 14 years of experience helping
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entrepreneurs create six- and seven-figurebusinesses.
With a master's in psychology specializing inbusiness and life coaching, you empower clients
through resilience, accountability, andactionable strategies for transformative
success.
Welcome to the Inspired podcast, Kalia.
Yeah.
(02:08):
Thank you so much.
Wow.
What an introduction.
Yes.
Yeah.
This is you.
Yeah.
That's, it's just, you know, important to takethat moment and go, wow.
Yeah.
I did all that.
Thank you.
Yes.
It's so important to recognize what we alreadyaccomplished.
I learned this last weekend, you know, to yeah.
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We call it acknowledgments or celebration andgratitude, of course.
And I have the first question for you.
Of course, how has your background inpsychology shaped your approach to coaching
entrepreneurs?
I think my background in psychology, I'vealways loved psychology even in high school,
and I love learning about people.
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And that way, I can really make the connectionsthat create the growth and transformation that
they need in their lives.
It all starts with understanding who we are aspeople at the base level, the experiences we go
through, how we handle those experiences, andhow that can result in changes within us.
(03:13):
Wow.
That's so true.
And I love what you do that you help otherpeople with your knowledge and your background,
of course.
And I would like to know what are the corestrategies you recommend for building a six- or
seven-figure business.
You first need to get really clear on theimpact that you wanna make.
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What does that look like for you?
What does that look like for other people?
What kind of impact?
And does this bring you joy?
Are you excited about the idea of creating thisimpact?
If you really feel drawn to it and excitedabout this opportunity, then really start to
look at what that means.
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Let's look at the end result.
If we have met that opportunity, what does ourlife look like?
Actually, visualize what that life looks like.
What are we doing?
What are we waking up?
Well, what time are we waking up?
What does our morning look like?
What does our afternoon and evening look like?
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And likely, this idea of this visionary of afuture you is likely very different from the
you that is now.
Because this idea of you in the future iseverything is solved for you.
This is your ideal life.
You have no problems.
This is what you want, really.
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And this is going to be the vehicle to get youto the dream life.
But in order to really get there, you have togo, okay.
This is what I want.
I have to become that person that can get andobtain that, so I'm gonna have to make changes.
I'm gonna have to start taking action.
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So what does that look like?
What do I need to do today, in a week, in amonth, in a year to really get to become that
ideal person?
And then start working toward it.
Wow.
I love your answers.
These are great insights, of course, and I hadto think about it.
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Yes.
We create.
So there were two words, like creating anddesigning your life.
And by doing this, because my question wasabout business, so you visualize as well how
you would like your business to be and to findthe big why.
Right?
The why behind it, why you get up in themorning, what excites you, something like that.
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Absolutely.
That why is so important because it's whatkeeps you going when things are tough.
And, you know, as entrepreneurs, as businessowners, you know, it is a roller coaster.
And sometimes it can be very difficult,especially if you're just starting up.
And there's going to be different things thatthe world throws at you that's gonna try to
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keep you living small, and it's going tochallenge you.
But all of that is learning opportunitiesthat's going to build you to become the person
you need to be to get that kind of success inyour business.
Wow.
I was thinking about when you talked about theroller coaster and the challenges, maybe it is
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like the old version of you or people whoexpect you to be the old version, and you are
not anymore.
No.
I'm not who I was when I started my businessand my journey.
And now that person at the beginning, yeah, shehad skills and she had definite worth and
(06:54):
desire to grow, but she didn't have a lot ofthe techniques and systems in order to really
be the person that I am today in handlingmultiple seven-figure businesses.
You know?
So it's like that person loved her.
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She was at a different level.
And I think that's also important is when youcome in and you're at these different points in
the roller coaster, you might start comparingyourself to other people and look at their
success and go, oh, this person is in my niche,and they're super successful, and I can't even
get started.
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I shouldn't even try.
But they're at their level 20.
You know, they've been at this for a long time.
Right?
And you're maybe at your level 5.
So if you just persist and you continue toovercome those challenges and become a better
person as a result of it, you'll eventually getup to that level 20.
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Wow.
I love how you how you I this is my favoriteword, by the way.
It's my favorite word, to persist inpersistence because this is what makes us a
winner.
I don't know if I can say it that way.
If we persist with our goal, we stick to ourgoals as well.
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Yes.
Yeah.
It's definitely a win no matter how small of awin.
And I think that's also important you celebrateevery small win because it helps to motivate
you towards the bigger wins.
You know?
And it makes that challenge a little bit moreendurable if you go, okay.
I have this challenge, but today, I reallyrocked it on my client call.
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So I'm gonna go and reward myself becausethat's a win.
So you take those moments to really motivateyourself along the way.
Oh, yes.
I love what you said about celebrate the thesmall ones, I think.
And I thought, what is a small win?
A win is a win.
And when I think about this podcast episode forme, it is a huge win to speak with you today.
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Yes.
I made it or we made it.
You were on time.
I was on was I on time?
I don't remember.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We had the,
like, timing to speak, and, yeah, I love it.
Thank you so much.
And I have another question for you, of course.
How do resilience and mindset play a role inovercoming challenges and achieving success?
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Yeah.
So if you just continue to push on in despiteof the challenges, you make adjustments, you
learn, you change a little bit along the waybecause it's okay to go, that failed.
Let's analyze it.
Why did this not work?
What could I improve?
Now I don't say we improve absolutelyeverything, fully scrap it, make something new.
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Let's change 1 thing, and then let's test itagain.
And, well, did that work?
Maybe that was the thing that was holdingpeople up.
And if we had completely scrapped it andchanged it to something new, we may get the
same result as before.
Whereas if we just learn, we analyze, we tweak,and we review, and it's just a cycle again,
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then we're able to, you know, persist andovercome that resistance and really move
forward in our businesses in despite of thosechallenges.
Wow.
That is such a great answer about resilience,also about getting stronger with every
challenge maybe.
Yeah.
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I think 100%.
I think it is that.
You get more comfortable with it too.
Your nerves may start to go down.
You start to feel like, oh, I can do this more.
And, like, let's use podcasting for an example.
Right?
Last year, pardon my because I'm like, I needto get out of my fear of speaking and really
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put my story out there because if I don't, thenwhat a, you know, what a shame that I'm not
sharing and inspiring other people with mystory and really helping them understand that,
like, you can do this too.
So I continued.
I scheduled podcast after podcast.
I started to tell my story.
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And a little bit, I analyzed, like, okay.
How did I feel after that podcast?
What could I adjust to make myself morecomfortable?
And whether it's something such as, you know,holding something in your hand while on the
podcast that, you know, you can mess with,fiddle with.
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If it's something like that, that's an easy fixto make you more comfortable.
And then you get up there and you're like,yeah.
I can continue to tell my story.
I can word it better this time because I hadn'tspoken about it before.
I can change this little thing, and,eventually, I feel really confident getting on
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calls.
And I'm like, this is just a conversation.
We're having a lovely chat, and along the way,we're inspiring people, and that's really the
point of it.
Yes.
That's so true.
And I'm happy that you shared this with us.
It was the case with me.
I was not speaking before, and I decided no.
I had this intuition that now is the time tostop, and I cannot stop since then.
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Lovely.
Thirteen months.
Thank you so much.
And I have a lot of people doing their firstpodcast interview with me because I encourage
them as well.
So you talked about your journey or your story.
Would you like to share more about that?
Yeah.
So, I started from the ground up 10 years ago.
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I had started doing some business andoperations management five years before that,
but about 10, 11 years ago, I left adomestically violent relationship with my
2-year-old.
And so I started off as a single mother with nofunds to my name.
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I didn't have property.
I had a Jeep to my name, and I took that Jeepto my mom's house.
And we stayed over there and really had torebuild my self-worth first because I went
through years of violence.
And so I took a moment and grace to reallyfocus, like, what do I want?
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And then I realized, you know what?
I need to set boundaries because I hadn't hadthem.
I let people walk all over me, and I treatedmyself poorly.
And so it was like, look.
If I really want to have a beautiful, healthylife that is something my child can look at and
go, this is the way I need to have my life, andI won't accept anything less, then I need to
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make serious changes around the boundaries thatI have.
Boundaries around how I'll be treated byrelationships, family, friends, by colleagues,
clients.
Boundaries around how I would treat myself.
Boundaries around the path towards my dreamlife.
Like, what I visualize, what did I want?
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I saw myself on stage speaking to so manypeople and going, look.
If you have a dream business, you can do it.
You can create courses.
You can create books.
You know?
You can create masterminds, in-person events,and retreats.
I've done it all, and you can really justcreate your dream.
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Take that wouldn't-it-be-cool-if idea and makeit a reality because you're worth it, and there
are people out there who are waiting for you tocreate this for them.
So I was like, what do I need to be?
I need to be a strong, empowering woman, so Ineed to, like, strengthen my own life.
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I need to have a healthy relationship.
I need to have healthy boundaries.
I need to really pay attention to my funds sothat I'm never without that kind of financial
support again.
I needed to really look at how I want in mylife and go, this over here is unacceptable.
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I won't have it.
I won't allow these distractions.
And every step of the way would reevaluate.
Does this fit my plan or does it not?
If it doesn't, then okay.
It's not there, and I push it aside.
Like, I don't accept every client because I amvery focused on clients that wanna make an
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impact.
And so if we're not a fit, I don't want toclose off my time for someone else who is
wanting to make that impact.
So I got really clear on that as well.
And by doing that, was able to build asix-figure business, and now I manage two other
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seven-figure businesses for clients.
And we're creating a community to support womenwho really wanna change their lives around and
build that dream life and that dream business.
And it really started because I was like, no.
I'm worth more, and I'm going to create thatlife for myself.
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Wow.
This is so great.
Thank you so much for sharing.
And I had a lot of thoughts about this, ofcourse.
Yeah.
I'm so happy that you are here today to speakabout this.
So you are inspiring for me already, and I lovethat.
So and there's this saying, you know, I have tolaugh, but it's not funny.
If it inspires only one person, you know, it'slike you would say it fits my plan.
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So congratulations on music.
Yeah.
I'm inspired.
This is why I do this.
So I had this calling to do this podcast, and Isaid yes.
Like, yeah.
No.
It's time after 17 years of waiting because Ialways wanted to have my own podcast, but I was
not speaking.
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And now I meet all those wonderful people allaround the world.
So I'm inspired, and I see you in indeed, I seeyou on stages and telling your story and
encouraging others, women, because it's soimportant.
Yeah.
I learned it myself, and this is also becauseof you, because you said yes to be my guest.
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Otherwise and we are inspiring the world now.
Thank you
so much.
Oh my goodness.
So let's talk about your coaches and mentors.
Do you have coaches and mentors for yourself?
And who was the best coach you ever had?
Oh, yes.
I do have coaches and mentors.
I have three coaches right now.
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One that's coaching me on podcasting and how tobe a really good guest and really spread our
wisdom and our stories out there.
And, you know, it's been going really well.
So I'm almost hitting my goal of 50 podcastsbooked this year.
So we're, you know, I really love that coach,and I think that's really important, having
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coaches.
And then I have another coach who is coachingme on my business and just general setup of my
offers and my funnels and my sales because,once again, we can all use some mentorship to
really get us up to that next level.
And then my favorite coach, I would say, is myclients, as I take every opportunity to really
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learn about my clients and to help them intheir transformational path.
And in doing so, I, you know, learn so muchalong the way from them.
Now these are clients from a variety ofindustries.
So I've learned a lot about yoga, aboutmassage, financing, stock market trading.
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It's just been, you know, RV lifestyle.
I'm learning so much, and it's just encouragingme to go along the way.
Because as you said, like, it is that if Icould change or inspire one person today,
that's what pushes me.
And so, yeah, I'm forever pushed forward by thechanges I am able to help make in my clients'
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lives.
Wow.
This is so inspiring.
Thanks again so much.
So I have lots of takeaways from our episode,and this will be forever online, like a legacy
we leave.
And, of course, I want to know because youmentioned it, it's all about connections and
coaches and mentors and accepting help.
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Where can we find you when people want to reachout to you after listening to this episode?
Yeah.
You can go to managebymagic.com, and you canbook a free call with me.
We'll go over your goals for your dream lifeplan and really set you up for success in
taking that next step and taking action.
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So I hope to be speaking with you soon.
Thank you so much.
My last question to you is about your goals andintentions.
We already talked about plans.
Does it fit my plan?
I love that.
I never heard the expression before.
I would have said, does it serve my goal?
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You know, it's the same, but different words.
So I learned so much.
Do you set goals?
And what is one of your next projects?
Yes.
So I do set goals.
I think goals are incredibly important.
Even the highest performers in the world saythat you need to have goals, and preferably a
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visual way.
So whether that's a list within your workspaceor on your mirror in the morning, whatever it
may be.
I like to put it in my calendar so it pops up anotification.
It blocks out time for me to meet those goals.
But I think setting and visualizing yoursuccess will help you get there way easier than
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going, I have an idea of a goal.
Actually, commit to it.
Write it down.
Make sure you can see it.
Start working towards it.
Right?
So I do have goals personally on what kind ofpodcast I'm getting on.
I wanna get on summits.
I've already hit one summit for the year out ofmy three-goal.
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I have a goal for one stage, and I have goalsfor how many women I want to empower this year.
So just 100 new women this year would beamazing to just really change their lives and
empower them.
So I have goals around that.
And those goals are important because then Ican look at if I'm meeting those goals, if I'm
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actually hitting them within the time framethat I've set, and actually tracking my
progress towards them.
Oh, it's so important.
Yes.
Thank you so much.
We set goals, and then we track our success orwe look for evidence as well.
I know you did not say this, but I wanted toadd because we see when we progress, we see
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what we did already, and we can celebrate ourwins, of course.
Thank you so much for this podcast interview,and congratulations again.
I will follow you, of course.
I love your success.
Now it's time for your final thoughts to theaudience, please.
Yes.
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So if anything that you can take from this calltoday, it should be that your
wouldn't-it-be-cool-if idea dream life, itwould be cool.
So why not start actually setting that plan,setting those boundaries around your path, and
working towards that dream life because youdeserve it.
(23:57):
You're worth it.
Just start taking action.
That's the best encouragement, so take theaction.
Thank you so much.
Thank you.
And see you in the next episode.
Thank you for listening to Inspired ChoiceToday.
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I'm thrilled to have you on this journey ofgrowth and transformation.
Don't forget to hit follow or subscribe to stayconnected and never miss an episode.
And here's something special.
Grab your free 20-minute breakthrough sessionwith me.
It's designed to help you kick-start or levelup your business.
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(24:40):
Until next time, keep making those inspiredchoices.
See you in the next episode.
Yes.
So if anything that you can take from this calltoday, it should be that your "wouldn't it be
cool if" idea dream life, it would be cool.
So why not start actually setting that plan,setting those boundaries around your path, and
(00:20):
working towards that dream life because youdeserve it.
You're worth it.
Just start taking action.
Welcome to Inspired Choice Today.
I'm your host, Caroline Biesalski, here tobring you authentic stories, surprising
lessons, and powerful takeaways to fuel yourjourney in business and life.
(00:40):
In each episode, I'll take you from oneinspiring guest to the next, blending their
experiences with my experiences to uncoverpractical strategies you can use right away.
Whether you're starting out or stepping up,stay tuned for insights and actionable tips
that make a difference.
And stick around until the end for a specialfreebie just for our listeners.
(01:07):
Hello, and welcome, inspired podcast community.
This is your new episode.
My name is Caroline, and my today's guest isKalia van a Ersteyn Arsteyn.
You said sorry.
I have to try this.
And I'm so happy that you said yes to ourinterview.
How are you doing today?
(01:27):
Oh, I'm doing so well.
I'm really excited to be here speaking with youtoday and inspiring other people.
Oh, yes.
Let's do this.
Thank you so much, and I would like tointroduce you to the audience.
Of course, you are a seasoned business and lifecoach with over 14 years of experience helping
(01:47):
entrepreneurs create six- and seven-figurebusinesses.
With a master's in psychology specializing inbusiness and life coaching, you empower clients
through resilience, accountability, andactionable strategies for transformative
success.
Welcome to the Inspired podcast, Kalia.
Yeah.
(02:08):
Thank you so much.
Wow.
What an introduction.
Yes.
Yeah.
This is you.
Yeah.
That's, it's just, you know, important to takethat moment and go, wow.
Yeah.
I did all that.
Thank you.
Yes.
It's so important to recognize what we alreadyaccomplished.
I learned this last weekend, you know, to yeah.
(02:28):
We call it acknowledgments or celebration andgratitude, of course.
And I have the first question for you.
Of course, how has your background inpsychology shaped your approach to coaching
entrepreneurs?
I think my background in psychology, I'vealways loved psychology even in high school,
and I love learning about people.
(02:51):
And that way, I can really make the connectionsthat create the growth and transformation that
they need in their lives.
It all starts with understanding who we are aspeople at the base level, the experiences we go
through, how we handle those experiences, andhow that can result in changes within us.
(03:13):
Wow.
That's so true.
And I love what you do that you help otherpeople with your knowledge and your background,
of course.
And I would like to know what are the corestrategies you recommend for building a six- or
seven-figure business.
You first need to get really clear on theimpact that you wanna make.
(03:35):
What does that look like for you?
What does that look like for other people?
What kind of impact?
And does this bring you joy?
Are you excited about the idea of creating thisimpact?
If you really feel drawn to it and excitedabout this opportunity, then really start to
look at what that means.
(03:56):
Let's look at the end result.
If we have met that opportunity, what does ourlife look like?
Actually, visualize what that life looks like.
What are we doing?
What are we waking up?
Well, what time are we waking up?
What does our morning look like?
What does our afternoon and evening look like?
(04:17):
And likely, this idea of this visionary of afuture you is likely very different from the
you that is now.
Because this idea of you in the future iseverything is solved for you.
This is your ideal life.
You have no problems.
This is what you want, really.
(04:39):
And this is going to be the vehicle to get youto the dream life.
But in order to really get there, you have togo, okay.
This is what I want.
I have to become that person that can get andobtain that, so I'm gonna have to make changes.
I'm gonna have to start taking action.
(05:00):
So what does that look like?
What do I need to do today, in a week, in amonth, in a year to really get to become that
ideal person?
And then start working toward it.
Wow.
I love your answers.
These are great insights, of course, and I hadto think about it.
(05:22):
Yes.
We create.
So there were two words, like creating anddesigning your life.
And by doing this, because my question wasabout business, so you visualize as well how
you would like your business to be and to findthe big why.
Right?
The why behind it, why you get up in themorning, what excites you, something like that.
(05:47):
Absolutely.
That why is so important because it's whatkeeps you going when things are tough.
And, you know, as entrepreneurs, as businessowners, you know, it is a roller coaster.
And sometimes it can be very difficult,especially if you're just starting up.
And there's going to be different things thatthe world throws at you that's gonna try to
(06:08):
keep you living small, and it's going tochallenge you.
But all of that is learning opportunitiesthat's going to build you to become the person
you need to be to get that kind of success inyour business.
Wow.
I was thinking about when you talked about theroller coaster and the challenges, maybe it is
(06:31):
like the old version of you or people whoexpect you to be the old version, and you are
not anymore.
No.
I'm not who I was when I started my businessand my journey.
And now that person at the beginning, yeah, shehad skills and she had definite worth and
(06:54):
desire to grow, but she didn't have a lot ofthe techniques and systems in order to really
be the person that I am today in handlingmultiple seven-figure businesses.
You know?
So it's like that person loved her.
(07:14):
She was at a different level.
And I think that's also important is when youcome in and you're at these different points in
the roller coaster, you might start comparingyourself to other people and look at their
success and go, oh, this person is in my niche,and they're super successful, and I can't even
get started.
(07:35):
I shouldn't even try.
But they're at their level 20.
You know, they've been at this for a long time.
Right?
And you're maybe at your level 5.
So if you just persist and you continue toovercome those challenges and become a better
person as a result of it, you'll eventually getup to that level 20.
(07:58):
Wow.
I love how you how you I this is my favoriteword, by the way.
It's my favorite word, to persist inpersistence because this is what makes us a
winner.
I don't know if I can say it that way.
If we persist with our goal, we stick to ourgoals as well.
(08:20):
Yes.
Yeah.
It's definitely a win no matter how small of awin.
And I think that's also important you celebrateevery small win because it helps to motivate
you towards the bigger wins.
You know?
And it makes that challenge a little bit moreendurable if you go, okay.
I have this challenge, but today, I reallyrocked it on my client call.
(08:41):
So I'm gonna go and reward myself becausethat's a win.
So you take those moments to really motivateyourself along the way.
Oh, yes.
I love what you said about celebrate the thesmall ones, I think.
And I thought, what is a small win?
A win is a win.
And when I think about this podcast episode forme, it is a huge win to speak with you today.
(09:07):
Yes.
I made it or we made it.
You were on time.
I was on was I on time?
I don't remember.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We had the,
like, timing to speak, and, yeah, I love it.
Thank you so much.
And I have another question for you, of course.
How do resilience and mindset play a role inovercoming challenges and achieving success?
(09:31):
Yeah.
So if you just continue to push on in despiteof the challenges, you make adjustments, you
learn, you change a little bit along the waybecause it's okay to go, that failed.
Let's analyze it.
Why did this not work?
What could I improve?
Now I don't say we improve absolutelyeverything, fully scrap it, make something new.
(09:55):
Let's change 1 thing, and then let's test itagain.
And, well, did that work?
Maybe that was the thing that was holdingpeople up.
And if we had completely scrapped it andchanged it to something new, we may get the
same result as before.
Whereas if we just learn, we analyze, we tweak,and we review, and it's just a cycle again,
(10:18):
then we're able to, you know, persist andovercome that resistance and really move
forward in our businesses in despite of thosechallenges.
Wow.
That is such a great answer about resilience,also about getting stronger with every
challenge maybe.
Yeah.
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I think 100%.
I think it is that.
You get more comfortable with it too.
Your nerves may start to go down.
You start to feel like, oh, I can do this more.
And, like, let's use podcasting for an example.
Right?
Last year, pardon my because I'm like, I needto get out of my fear of speaking and really
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put my story out there because if I don't, thenwhat a, you know, what a shame that I'm not
sharing and inspiring other people with mystory and really helping them understand that,
like, you can do this too.
So I continued.
I scheduled podcast after podcast.
I started to tell my story.
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And a little bit, I analyzed, like, okay.
How did I feel after that podcast?
What could I adjust to make myself morecomfortable?
And whether it's something such as, you know,holding something in your hand while on the
podcast that, you know, you can mess with,fiddle with.
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If it's something like that, that's an easy fixto make you more comfortable.
And then you get up there and you're like,yeah.
I can continue to tell my story.
I can word it better this time because I hadn'tspoken about it before.
I can change this little thing, and,eventually, I feel really confident getting on
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calls.
And I'm like, this is just a conversation.
We're having a lovely chat, and along the way,we're inspiring people, and that's really the
point of it.
Yes.
That's so true.
And I'm happy that you shared this with us.
It was the case with me.
I was not speaking before, and I decided no.
I had this intuition that now is the time tostop, and I cannot stop since then.
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Lovely.
Thirteen months.
Thank you so much.
And I have a lot of people doing their firstpodcast interview with me because I encourage
them as well.
So you talked about your journey or your story.
Would you like to share more about that?
Yeah.
So, I started from the ground up 10 years ago.
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I had started doing some business andoperations management five years before that,
but about 10, 11 years ago, I left adomestically violent relationship with my
2-year-old.
And so I started off as a single mother with nofunds to my name.
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I didn't have property.
I had a Jeep to my name, and I took that Jeepto my mom's house.
And we stayed over there and really had torebuild my self-worth first because I went
through years of violence.
And so I took a moment and grace to reallyfocus, like, what do I want?
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And then I realized, you know what?
I need to set boundaries because I hadn't hadthem.
I let people walk all over me, and I treatedmyself poorly.
And so it was like, look.
If I really want to have a beautiful, healthylife that is something my child can look at and
go, this is the way I need to have my life, andI won't accept anything less, then I need to
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make serious changes around the boundaries thatI have.
Boundaries around how I'll be treated byrelationships, family, friends, by colleagues,
clients.
Boundaries around how I would treat myself.
Boundaries around the path towards my dreamlife.
Like, what I visualize, what did I want?
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I saw myself on stage speaking to so manypeople and going, look.
If you have a dream business, you can do it.
You can create courses.
You can create books.
You know?
You can create masterminds, in-person events,and retreats.
I've done it all, and you can really justcreate your dream.
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Take that wouldn't-it-be-cool-if idea and makeit a reality because you're worth it, and there
are people out there who are waiting for you tocreate this for them.
So I was like, what do I need to be?
I need to be a strong, empowering woman, so Ineed to, like, strengthen my own life.
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I need to have a healthy relationship.
I need to have healthy boundaries.
I need to really pay attention to my funds sothat I'm never without that kind of financial
support again.
I needed to really look at how I want in mylife and go, this over here is unacceptable.
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I won't have it.
I won't allow these distractions.
And every step of the way would reevaluate.
Does this fit my plan or does it not?
If it doesn't, then okay.
It's not there, and I push it aside.
Like, I don't accept every client because I amvery focused on clients that wanna make an
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impact.
And so if we're not a fit, I don't want toclose off my time for someone else who is
wanting to make that impact.
So I got really clear on that as well.
And by doing that, was able to build asix-figure business, and now I manage two other
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seven-figure businesses for clients.
And we're creating a community to support womenwho really wanna change their lives around and
build that dream life and that dream business.
And it really started because I was like, no.
I'm worth more, and I'm going to create thatlife for myself.
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Wow.
This is so great.
Thank you so much for sharing.
And I had a lot of thoughts about this, ofcourse.
Yeah.
I'm so happy that you are here today to speakabout this.
So you are inspiring for me already, and I lovethat.
So and there's this saying, you know, I have tolaugh, but it's not funny.
If it inspires only one person, you know, it'slike you would say it fits my plan.
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So congratulations on music.
Yeah.
I'm inspired.
This is why I do this.
So I had this calling to do this podcast, and Isaid yes.
Like, yeah.
No.
It's time after 17 years of waiting because Ialways wanted to have my own podcast, but I was
not speaking.
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And now I meet all those wonderful people allaround the world.
So I'm inspired, and I see you in indeed, I seeyou on stages and telling your story and
encouraging others, women, because it's soimportant.
Yeah.
I learned it myself, and this is also becauseof you, because you said yes to be my guest.
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Otherwise and we are inspiring the world now.
Thank you
so much.
Oh my goodness.
So let's talk about your coaches and mentors.
Do you have coaches and mentors for yourself?
And who was the best coach you ever had?
Oh, yes.
I do have coaches and mentors.
I have three coaches right now.
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One that's coaching me on podcasting and how tobe a really good guest and really spread our
wisdom and our stories out there.
And, you know, it's been going really well.
So I'm almost hitting my goal of 50 podcastsbooked this year.
So we're, you know, I really love that coach,and I think that's really important, having
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coaches.
And then I have another coach who is coachingme on my business and just general setup of my
offers and my funnels and my sales because,once again, we can all use some mentorship to
really get us up to that next level.
And then my favorite coach, I would say, is myclients, as I take every opportunity to really
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learn about my clients and to help them intheir transformational path.
And in doing so, I, you know, learn so muchalong the way from them.
Now these are clients from a variety ofindustries.
So I've learned a lot about yoga, aboutmassage, financing, stock market trading.
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It's just been, you know, RV lifestyle.
I'm learning so much, and it's just encouragingme to go along the way.
Because as you said, like, it is that if Icould change or inspire one person today,
that's what pushes me.
And so, yeah, I'm forever pushed forward by thechanges I am able to help make in my clients'
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lives.
Wow.
This is so inspiring.
Thanks again so much.
So I have lots of takeaways from our episode,and this will be forever online, like a legacy
we leave.
And, of course, I want to know because youmentioned it, it's all about connections and
coaches and mentors and accepting help.
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Where can we find you when people want to reachout to you after listening to this episode?
Yeah.
You can go to managebymagic.com, and you canbook a free call with me.
We'll go over your goals for your dream lifeplan and really set you up for success in
taking that next step and taking action.
(20:47):
So I hope to be speaking with you soon.
Thank you so much.
My last question to you is about your goals andintentions.
We already talked about plans.
Does it fit my plan?
I love that.
I never heard the expression before.
I would have said, does it serve my goal?
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You know, it's the same, but different words.
So I learned so much.
Do you set goals?
And what is one of your next projects?
Yes.
So I do set goals.
I think goals are incredibly important.
Even the highest performers in the world saythat you need to have goals, and preferably a
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visual way.
So whether that's a list within your workspaceor on your mirror in the morning, whatever it
may be.
I like to put it in my calendar so it pops up anotification.
It blocks out time for me to meet those goals.
But I think setting and visualizing yoursuccess will help you get there way easier than
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going, I have an idea of a goal.
Actually, commit to it.
Write it down.
Make sure you can see it.
Start working towards it.
Right?
So I do have goals personally on what kind ofpodcast I'm getting on.
I wanna get on summits.
I've already hit one summit for the year out ofmy three-goal.
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I have a goal for one stage, and I have goalsfor how many women I want to empower this year.
So just 100 new women this year would beamazing to just really change their lives and
empower them.
So I have goals around that.
And those goals are important because then Ican look at if I'm meeting those goals, if I'm
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actually hitting them within the time framethat I've set, and actually tracking my
progress towards them.
Oh, it's so important.
Yes.
Thank you so much.
We set goals, and then we track our success orwe look for evidence as well.
I know you did not say this, but I wanted toadd because we see when we progress, we see
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what we did already, and we can celebrate ourwins, of course.
Thank you so much for this podcast interview,and congratulations again.
I will follow you, of course.
I love your success.
Now it's time for your final thoughts to theaudience, please.
Yes.
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So if anything that you can take from this calltoday, it should be that your
wouldn't-it-be-cool-if idea dream life, itwould be cool.
So why not start actually setting that plan,setting those boundaries around your path, and
working towards that dream life because youdeserve it.
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You're worth it.
Just start taking action.
That's the best encouragement, so take theaction.
Thank you so much.
Thank you.
And see you in the next episode.
Thank you for listening to Inspired ChoiceToday.
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