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December 22, 2023 98 mins

In this episode, Michelle and Adelina discuss the concept of earning vulnerability and the importance of feeling safe and supported in order to open up. They also explore the different levels of vulnerability and how trust is built over time. The conversation shifts to building friendships with colleagues in the sex-positive community and the unique connections that can be formed. They share personal stories of meeting influential figures in the field, such as Lucy Fielding and Dan Savage, and the impact these encounters had on their lives. In this part of the conversation, Michelle and Adelina discuss Michelle's experience with Dan Savage, the fear of rejection, the unpublished episode, self-reflection and validation, and the mystery behind it. They also talk about embracing their inner dork, the success of Soft Cock Week, the podcast journey, favorite takeaways from interviews, quotable moments, the challenges of recording, the Soft Cock Week events, the glitch and the help, the underlying message of Soft Cock Week, the beauty of free-form conversations, and the Intimacy Lab experiment.


Takeaways


  • Vulnerability is earned through feeling safe and supported.
  • Different levels of vulnerability exist, from sharing personal experiences to entrusting someone with your care and life.
  • Building friendships with colleagues in the sex-positive community can be a source of connection and understanding.
  • Meaningful encounters with influential figures in the field can have a profound impact on personal and professional growth.


Adelina Adler is a sex coach and sex educator based in Wilmington, NC. You can find Adelina on Instagram at ⁠@askaddyadler⁠. She is the host of ⁠Sexplorations! with Adelina Adler⁠ on Spotify.


Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is⁠ ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee.


Have questions you'd like answered by Michelle or her guests? Leave them at IntimacyLabPodcast.com.


Notes from today's show:

Cuddlist Training Discount

Soft Cock Week Podcast

Interview with Paul on Queer Relationships, Queer Joy

Joli Hamilton, polyamory coach

We're Not Really Strangers

How Cuddlist changed my life, podcast episode 3

Episode 4 where I answer the love question with Vanessa

Brian Gibney, episode 2

Sara, episode 1

The Intimacy Professionals - more can be found here

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