Porn addiction among high-performing men is more common—and more misunderstood—than most people realize.
In this eye-opening episode of the Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell welcomes back expert Roland Cochrun to discuss his new book, 'The High Achiever’s Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery'. Known for his groundbreaking insights into sex and porn addiction, Roland breaks down the crucial difference between substance and process addiction—where individuals become hooked not on external substances but on internal thought patterns and behaviors. Together, Dr. Alexandra and Roland explore why high achievers are especially vulnerable to these compulsions, how porn addiction impacts relationships, and why many of these behaviors are deeply misunderstood. Roland offers powerful guidance for healing, challenges societal norms around sex and desire, and encourages a new narrative of recovery, responsibility, and reconnection.
Also in this episode:
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What Process Addiction Is: Being hooked on mental patterns and habits, not substances like drugs or alcohol.
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How It Affects Relationships: A partner’s porn addiction can feel like betrayal and cause emotional pain.
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Challenging Norms: Society’s views on sex and porn aren’t always healthy—it's important to question them.
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The Role of Self-Awareness: Recognizing your own patterns is key to breaking free from addiction.
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Moral and Legal Questions: Roland challenges the ethics of porn and strip clubs, comparing them to modern slavery.
About The Guest:
Roland Cochrun is the founder of The Successful Addict, a sex addiction recovery group designed specifically for high-achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs. As a recovering sex addict himself, Roland found blind spots in the treatment of process addiction, especially as it applies to successful men. Roland hopes to shine a light on a preventable issue that is destroying couples and families all over the world.
Connect with Roland:
Get his latest book: The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction
Website: The Successful Addict
YouTube: The Successful Addict
Listen to the previous interview with Roland Cochrun: “Sex and Success”: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/the-hidden-addictions-of-high-performers/
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