April 1, 2025 • 26 mins
A video visualization of our lifetime as 28,835 jelly beans prompts deeper reflection on how we use our limited time on earth and the power of focusing on today.
• Life represented as jelly beans shows how much time goes to sleeping, working, and daily tasks
• The remaining jelly beans represent our time for joy, creativity, and pursuing what we love
• The key question is not "what would you do if you died tomorrow?" but "what would you do with today if anything was possible?"
• All of us have thousands of days left, but the only one that matters is today
• Our focus determines our reality—where focus goes, energy flows
• Everything in life is as it's supposed to be, but we decide what "supposed to be" means
• We don't need to find the flow of life because we are the flow
• Three reflective questions: What makes you passionate about living? What diminishes that passion? What will you leave behind?
If you only had one jelly bean, what would you do with it? Whatever that answer is, do it now—because every day, you only get one jelly bean. Live it to the fullest.
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Dr James Mellon (00:00):
And so I was looking for a video for
something and I found this videoand when it was over I was just
a puddle and I was like it justblew my mind.
And that was a week ago, lastSaturday, and then and I thought
I'm sure everybody would likeit.
But then Dr Laurie told me howshe felt.
(00:20):
The same way I felt when Iwatched it and I thought you
know, there's no reason why Ishouldn't show a video here and
bring it to Westlake, so enjoy.
Video Narration (00:38):
These are roughly 28,835 jelly beans.
I counted out 500 of them andused those to weigh the rest In
this pile.
There's one jelly bean for eachday that the average American
will live.
You might have more beans inyour life or maybe less, but on
average, this is the time wehave.
Here's a single bean.
It's your very first day Aspecial day, but kind of a rough
(01:00):
day on everyone involved.
A special day, but kind of arough day on everyone involved.
Add 364 more and you have thefirst year of your life.
Now, for a sense of scale, hereare your first 15 years 5,475
days, which brings us to thethreshold of adulthood, and at
that moment, this is the timethat we have left, and this is,
(01:27):
on average, what we will do withall that time.
We will be asleep for a totalof 8,477 days.
If we're lucky, some of thattime we'll be sleeping next to
someone we love.
We will be in the process ofeating, drinking or preparing
food.
For 1,635 days, we'll be atwork, hopefully doing something
satisfying, for the equivalentof 3,202 of those days.
(01:47):
1,099 days will be spentcommuting or traveling from one
place to another maybe a littlebit more if you live in LA.
On average, we will watchtelevision in one form or
another for a total of 2,676days.
Household activities likechores and tending to our pets
and shopping will take anotherone thousand five hundred and
(02:09):
seventy six days, and we willcare for the needs and
well-being of others our friendsand family for 564 days.
We'll spend 671 days bathing,grooming and doing all other
bathroom relatedrelatedactivities, and another 720 days
will go to community activitieslike religious and civic duties
, charities and taking classes.
(02:31):
After we remove all those beans,this is what remains.
This is the time that we haveleft Time for laughing, swimming
, making art, going on hikes,text messages, reading, checking
Facebook, playing softball,maybe even teaching yourself how
to play the guitar.
So what are you going to dowith this time?
How much of it do you thinkyou've already used up?
(02:52):
If you only had half of it,what would you do differently?
What about half of that?
How much time have you alreadyspent worrying instead of doing
something that you love?
What if you just had one moreday?
What are you going to do today?
Dr James Mellon (03:22):
So the title of my talk today is the Jelly Bean
.
It's very provocative.
At the end of that, it hit meright away when they took away
half and said you'll probablyonly have this much left now.
And, by the way, this talktoday and how I feel about this
(03:45):
video is not about how much timedo I have left.
It's not about that at all.
It's really more about theunderstanding of what I have and
how much there is to live.
So the question what would youdo if you just had one jelly
bean left?
Many people go to the.
What would you do if you justhad one jelly bean left?
(04:06):
Many people go to the.
What would I do if I died?
If I'm going to die tomorrow,what would I do?
It's not about what would I doif I died tomorrow.
That's not what this questionis.
The question is really whatwould you do with that one jelly
bean If you had no other carein the world, if you had no
responsibilities whatsoever andif everything you chose was
(04:31):
absolutely 100% doable, it wouldbe in a resounding yes.
Whatever it was, what would itbe?
What would you do?
Would you be sitting here?
Perhaps not, because you'dalready know who you were, so
(04:52):
you wouldn't be here.
Perhaps Maybe you'd be out atthe ocean, maybe you'd be
surfing, maybe you'd be paddleboarding, maybe you'd be
whatever.
But what would it be?
What's inside of you that'sstill sitting there Because you
have so much else to do, becauseyou have so many things to do.
You know our theme this monthis focus, and what you focus on
(05:21):
really matters.
So I'd like you to focus thismorning on this one jelly bean.
You have the infinite quantumfield at your disposal to do
whatever you want to do with it.
Ernest Holmes says this.
Well, I think he says it.
Here we go.
He says think simple and clearand never worry for the visible
(05:47):
or apparent course of events.
I'll let you do this one.
So question how many worriers doI have here?
Oh, come on, really None of youworry about anything ever.
What did you think?
I said warriors.
That's so funny.
(06:10):
Alfie was telling everybody ina class what is Alfie's
nationality Filipino.
And Alfie was saying when Iasked what people's problems
were, he said I am a warrior.
And I understood what he wassaying and everybody was like
good for you.
I was like no, no, no, alfie,tell them again what you're
saying.
He says I'm a warrior andthey're all like, yes, warrior.
(06:33):
I was like no, no, it's notwhat he's saying.
I said you mean you're aworrier.
He said, yes, I am a warrior.
So how many warriors do we havehere?
Yes, how many people worry?
Anybody worried about the worldright now?
Okay, then you're all warriors.
Frankly, if you are sittingaround saying everything's
(06:55):
perfect, everything's fine, theworld is fine, there's no war
anywhere, everything's fine,then I'd like to meet you on top
of a mountain.
So, um, think simple and clearand never worry for the visible
or apparent course of events.
When you climb up to a mountainand spend it with 34
(07:17):
like-minded, heart openingpeople, like-minded,
heart-opening people, it'spretty easy not to worry and
it's pretty easy to remember whoyou are, and it's pretty easy
to remember that life isunfolding perfectly, no matter
what.
However, the trick is for youto get into your life, see your
(07:37):
life exactly the way it'sunfolding and still be able to
say it's unfolding perfectly, nomatter what.
That's the goal, and ErnestHolmes says this Give me the
next slide there, swan.
It is the nature of theuniverse to give us what we are
able to take.
It cannot give us more.
(07:58):
It has given all, we have notyet accepted the greater gift.
So this idea of focus.
Imagine those jelly beans andevery single jelly bean comes
with it a little note that saysI am giving you anything your
(08:19):
heart desires.
This is a magic jelly bean.
Whatever you wish, whatever youchoose, whatever you focus on,
I will give you 100%, noquestions asked.
Oh my God, what would you dowith that jelly bean?
What would you decide?
Dr Laurie just said I wouldn'teat it, but what would you
(08:43):
decide?
Dr Laurie just said I wouldn'teat it, but what would you do?
Where would you go?
What would you decide for yourlife?
And don't decide and don't wishfor like a hundred more jelly
beans, as many people do withthose wishes.
I want 20 more wishes.
No, it's not how it works.
But what if you did have that?
And if those jelly beansrepresent every day of our life?
Then the question becomes thatis what the jelly bean is saying
(09:08):
.
To be clear yes, vivian, Idon't know why I'm pointing on
you, picking on you today.
Vivian, whatever you want, I amhere to say yes to what is it
going to be?
What do you want?
Just take that jelly bean andsay this is what I want.
We have done that now.
I have done that now for 70plus years.
(09:29):
Every day, I have decided whatmy day is, don't you?
We wake up every morning and wedecide.
Usually, we don't decide.
Usually we wake up and rememberwhat we have to do, remember
all the things we decided in thepast that are now on our agenda
(09:51):
to do, and we don't evensometimes take the time to go.
Is this still relevant?
Do I still want to be doingthis?
I know that my marriage toKevin is as full and wonderful
as it is because we askourselves all the time what are
we doing here?
Are we doing what we want to bedoing here?
(10:12):
And if the answer's no, wechange it.
We live that line.
If I can't put my heart in it,I will take myself out of it.
So that's what the jelly beansare all about for me.
So how many jelly beans do youthink you have next left?
Thousands, I'm going to say,even though they represent a
(10:34):
year, a day each.
There's definitely thousands,thousands of jelly beans left,
but the only jelly bean that'simportant is the one you're
holding right now, today.
That's it.
That's the only jelly beanthat's important and what we
have to get used to doing isevery single day asking
ourselves am I still good witheverything I'm doing right now?
(10:55):
Because if I'm not, my focusneeds to change.
I need to take that mindset andbreak it up.
Disruption can be a very goodthing if it disrupts you enough
to start paying attention toyour life and to what's going on
.
So this is what Zig Ziglar saidabout focus Always remember
(11:24):
your focus determines yourreality.
After I saw that beautiful slugand I moved it aside, I think I
was with you, gary, when I sawthe one that was crushed and I
walked down further and I wentyou needed me and I wasn't here
and I saw it and I was like what?
(11:45):
Am I going to focus on?
The slug that was crushed or amI going to focus on the slug
that was saved?
The answer is both, because Iwant to understand how life
works and that that slug you'relike I should have called my
talk slugs and that that slug,even in its crushed state, is
(12:06):
still vibrantly a part of thisquantum universe.
I don't know where that's goingto go, where all that's going
to evolve, what it's all goingto evolve into, and that's the
thing I think, part of thereason why we don't take our
jelly bean and ask for the mostextraordinary, amazing things is
because we have some reallyscrewed up beliefs about life.
(12:29):
There is a musical on Broadwayright now called Maybe Happy
Ending.
I can't even say the name ofthat musical without getting a
lump in my throat.
It's about two robots in thefuture.
Everybody has their own robotsand they're very human, these
robots.
But when it's time they'reretired.
And so it was about two robotswho had been retired and they
(12:52):
live next door to each other andit's.
I'm not going to tell you awhole story because you should
see the show, but it's sobeautiful and within 10 minutes
of watching this musical, yourheart is like literally linked
to these two robots, becausewhat they're about to do is take
this enormous journey throughbeing human, and they pretend to
(13:17):
be human for this whole journeyand they show us all the things
that we think being human isall about.
It's just extraordinary.
But there's a line in themusical, at one point, where she
says to him something about Idon't know why humans get so
upset about death, were they notexpecting it?
And the other robot says Ibelieve they expect it, but they
(13:43):
talk themselves into believingit won't happen.
And she's like we know, we havean expiration date.
And he, he says, yes, we dowhat is yours?
And she gives him hers and hegives him his.
And you say see, now we know.
I was so taken by that.
And the song they then sing iscalled the Way it's Supposed to
(14:04):
Be.
Everything in your life.
Now, this is going to be hardfor you to swallow.
Everything in your life is theway it's supposed to be.
But the question is, whosupposed it to be?
You?
Did you supposed it to bebecause you made choices,
because you focused on certainthings, because you made
(14:26):
decisions, because you allowedthe past to bring its beliefs
into your realization and youlived from them?
That jelly bean that you havein your hand right now,
metaphorically, is youropportunity to give it all away,
to just give it away, all of it.
(14:47):
Your whole life, life isexactly as it's supposed to be.
And now what?
So we had this weekend, and itwas called in the flow, and Tony
Robbins said this where focusgoes, energy flows.
(15:10):
You are like a robot.
Your body, your body, wasdesigned by this infinite field
of pure intelligence.
And think about your body for asecond.
Do you spend time telling yourbody where to move the blood
throughout your body?
If you do, we're gonna going toneed to talk.
But do you spend time tellingyour kidneys what to do?
(15:34):
No, sometimes, yes, sometimesyou spend time telling them what
not to do, but we don't have totalk to our bodies about what
they're doing until somethinggoes wrong.
And then we start talking toour bodies, but we don't talk to
it the way we should.
We start cursing our bodies, westart complaining about getting
(15:55):
older, we start accepting thatgetting older means this, we
start buying into all of thisstuff, and yet we're just robots
.
We are robots doing what robotsare built to do, which is live.
Except we're not robots becausewe have conscious minds.
(16:16):
We have the ability to choosewhen focus goes.
Energy flows.
We are in this field of pureflow, pure creative energy and
it's flowing and it's constantlyflowing and it's giving us
everything we could everpossibly need, but it's asking
us to focus it.
Where do you want to focus it?
(16:39):
So I got on the labyrinth lastnight.
We do a labyrinth walk on theSaturday night and I told
everybody.
I said you know, one of thethings I like to do is ask a
question when I stand at thefront of the labyrinth, ask a
question and then just walk andsee what comes up.
And so I asked a question, aquestion that I ask often and I
(17:01):
have asked often during my lifeand my career, which is which
channel, which road is the rightroad for me right now?
What is the right road for me?
Because I have a number tochoose from.
And then I let it go and I'mwalking, and I'm walking, and
I'm walking, but I'm keeping itin mind.
(17:22):
So which path is the right pathfor me right now?
And I'm asking, and I'm asking,and I stopped.
I thought about Reverend Rita,who said pivot.
So I pivoted and I turned, andI'm asking, and I'm asking, and
I stopped.
I thought about Reverend Rita,who said pivot, so I pivoted and
I turned, and as I pivoted,there was the ocean and I asked
the question again which path isthe correct path for me?
(17:43):
And, of course, because thevoice that speaks to me is very
sarcastic.
It's like I have Tiffany in myhead and the voice said why do
you keep asking this question?
And I had a few choice wordsfor that voice at the time, but
(18:04):
I was like yeah, why do I keepasking that question?
What's the answer I always get?
And the answer I always get isevery path is the right path for
you.
You need to do it all.
And I was like I was somebodypassed by me and I had to get
off the path and get back on it.
And I was like exhausting.
(18:26):
That's what I always get.
The answer You're here to do itall.
Stop trying to figure out whichpath you should focus on.
How about a bigger focus, whereyou focus on it all and, day by
day, make decisions?
And then I kept walking and thenI landed in the center of the
(18:51):
labyrinth and I stood there andthere were a lot of people
standing in the center and theysay in the center of the
labyrinth, you've broughteverything that you need to let
go of and, as you leave thelabyrinth, enter back into your
life.
And so I got there and I waslike I'm going to leave that
question alone.
I'm done.
I have maybe 30, 40, 50 yearsleft.
(19:12):
120 could look good if it keepslooking like this.
And I was like you know what?
I'm done with that question.
I'm done with people asking methat question.
I'm done with people imposingthat question upon me, as though
I need to pick a road to be on.
And then I walked out from thecenter.
I felt so much lighter.
(19:34):
I was like, wow, yeah, I feelgood and I just felt great and I
was like that's how this works.
Focus Next, slide Swan.
Those who flow as life flowsknow they need no other force.
Who flow as life flows knowthey need no other force.
(19:58):
When you really tap into thatthing in you, that is not only
inviting you but is driving you,it is moving you, it is showing
you, it is laying the roadright before you and saying take
this road.
And oh, by the way, if you getdown to that road and you need
to try a different road, take aright and then join that road,
but know that you are the flow.
You don't need to go find it,you don't need to do something
(20:20):
to manifest it, you are the flow.
I love those who flow as lifeflows know that there is no
other force, and my last quotefrom Mahatma Gandhi is this
there is a force in the universewhich, if we permit it, will
flow through us and producemiraculous results.
(20:41):
I don't know what all of youwant out of your lives?
I don't.
I know that you're here, and Iknow that you all online are
there.
I know that we're here and Iknow that you all online are
there.
I know that we're all here.
Why, though?
Because we like fellowship.
This is a beautifully lovingcommunity, and I get that.
We all love being together, butwhy really are we here?
(21:05):
What do we really want?
What do we want?
I know Marilyn Murphy.
I know Marilyn Murphy.
I know what she wants.
She wants to travel, and shewants to help the world learn
that traveling brings a lot ofinsight and information and
wisdom.
She shared that.
Yesterday, scott shared somethings of his as well.
That is not repeatable fromthis stage.
The ones that are laughing knowwhat he shared, um, but we all
(21:34):
shared things.
You know what are the threethings?
I asked them what are the threethings that swell your body,
that make you feel passionate,that make you so excited about
living?
What are those three things?
Are you doing them?
And I also asked them what arethe three things that press you
down?
What are the three things thatpress you down?
What are the three things thatcut off that passion?
And I'm asking you to look atthose things too.
(21:56):
Get rid of them, whatever theyare.
Get rid of them.
Your jelly bean is asking youto give it a chance.
Your jelly bean is asking you,as Sonny's song says, to give it
away.
Give away your ideas, give awayyour desires, give away the
love you have in your heart,give away all that you are in
(22:20):
order to get it all back.
Because one of the lyrics inthat song is the more you give
it away, the more you may justfind that you get it back,
living this expansive life.
That's why we're here, I knowthat's why most of you come here
.
So this last picture is a grouppicture from the top of the
(22:43):
mountain.
You will notice that Dr Kathyhas me in a grip.
She is apparently trying tomake me not fall.
I don't know.
I thought it was a cheap cop,but you know this picture.
(23:04):
We took it over again when Isaw that.
And then the next one Tom, youmoved your head and I didn't
have your head, so I had to usethis picture For those of you
that were not there.
Take the energy we came backwith, take the vibration we came
back with, take the love thatwe came back with, and just look
(23:26):
at this picture and remindyourself.
We can always rise aboveanything.
We can rise above any situation, anything going on in our lives
, and we can make decisions andfocus our lives on what we want
to do with our lives.
Every single person here todayhas something they want to do.
(23:48):
The only reason you may not bedoing it is because somewhere
along the line you believed youcouldn't, or that you weren't
worthy of it, or that itwouldn't go well, or that you've
developed a perfectionism thingwhere if it's not perfect,
you're not going to do it.
I'm going to suggest to you alllet it all go.
I asked everybody to come tothe center of the room yesterday
(24:11):
and commit to what they wereleaving on the top of that
mountain.
Notwithstanding some thingsthat were said, people left a
lot of I won't say it, brad alot of stuff on that mountain.
I invite you all to leavewhatever you want today in this
(24:33):
room.
I'll clean it up tomorrow whenI come back, but leave it.
Be done with it.
It is time.
I mean, here's the thing If youonly had one jelly bean, what
would you do with it?
Whatever that answer is do it,because guess what, every day
(24:53):
you only get one jelly bean.
Live it to the fullest Namaste.
And so I was looking for a video for
something and I found this videoand when it was over I was just
a puddle and I was like it justblew my mind.
And that was a week ago, lastSaturday, and then and I thought
I'm sure everybody would likeit.
But then Dr Laurie told me howshe felt.
(00:20):
The same way I felt when Iwatched it and I thought you
know, there's no reason why Ishouldn't show a video here and
bring it to Westlake, so enjoy.
Video Narration (00:38):
These are roughly 28,835 jelly beans.
I counted out 500 of them andused those to weigh the rest In
this pile.
There's one jelly bean for eachday that the average American
will live.
You might have more beans inyour life or maybe less, but on
average, this is the time wehave.
Here's a single bean.
It's your very first day Aspecial day, but kind of a rough
(01:00):
day on everyone involved.
A special day, but kind of arough day on everyone involved.
Add 364 more and you have thefirst year of your life.
Now, for a sense of scale, hereare your first 15 years 5,475
days, which brings us to thethreshold of adulthood, and at
that moment, this is the timethat we have left, and this is,
(01:27):
on average, what we will do withall that time.
We will be asleep for a totalof 8,477 days.
If we're lucky, some of thattime we'll be sleeping next to
someone we love.
We will be in the process ofeating, drinking or preparing
food.
For 1,635 days, we'll be atwork, hopefully doing something
satisfying, for the equivalentof 3,202 of those days.
(01:47):
1,099 days will be spentcommuting or traveling from one
place to another maybe a littlebit more if you live in LA.
On average, we will watchtelevision in one form or
another for a total of 2,676days.
Household activities likechores and tending to our pets
and shopping will take anotherone thousand five hundred and
(02:09):
seventy six days, and we willcare for the needs and
well-being of others our friendsand family for 564 days.
We'll spend 671 days bathing,grooming and doing all other
bathroom relatedrelatedactivities, and another 720 days
will go to community activitieslike religious and civic duties
, charities and taking classes.
(02:31):
After we remove all those beans,this is what remains.
This is the time that we haveleft Time for laughing, swimming
, making art, going on hikes,text messages, reading, checking
Facebook, playing softball,maybe even teaching yourself how
to play the guitar.
So what are you going to dowith this time?
How much of it do you thinkyou've already used up?
(02:52):
If you only had half of it,what would you do differently?
What about half of that?
How much time have you alreadyspent worrying instead of doing
something that you love?
What if you just had one moreday?
What are you going to do today?
Dr James Mellon (03:22):
So the title of my talk today is the Jelly Bean
.
It's very provocative.
At the end of that, it hit meright away when they took away
half and said you'll probablyonly have this much left now.
And, by the way, this talktoday and how I feel about this
(03:45):
video is not about how much timedo I have left.
It's not about that at all.
It's really more about theunderstanding of what I have and
how much there is to live.
So the question what would youdo if you just had one jelly
bean left?
Many people go to the.
What would you do if you justhad one jelly bean left?
(04:06):
Many people go to the.
What would I do if I died?
If I'm going to die tomorrow,what would I do?
It's not about what would I doif I died tomorrow.
That's not what this questionis.
The question is really whatwould you do with that one jelly
bean If you had no other carein the world, if you had no
responsibilities whatsoever andif everything you chose was
(04:31):
absolutely 100% doable, it wouldbe in a resounding yes.
Whatever it was, what would itbe?
What would you do?
Would you be sitting here?
Perhaps not, because you'dalready know who you were, so
(04:52):
you wouldn't be here.
Perhaps Maybe you'd be out atthe ocean, maybe you'd be
surfing, maybe you'd be paddleboarding, maybe you'd be
whatever.
But what would it be?
What's inside of you that'sstill sitting there Because you
have so much else to do, becauseyou have so many things to do.
You know our theme this monthis focus, and what you focus on
(05:21):
really matters.
So I'd like you to focus thismorning on this one jelly bean.
You have the infinite quantumfield at your disposal to do
whatever you want to do with it.
Ernest Holmes says this.
Well, I think he says it.
Here we go.
He says think simple and clearand never worry for the visible
(05:47):
or apparent course of events.
I'll let you do this one.
So question how many worriers doI have here?
Oh, come on, really None of youworry about anything ever.
What did you think?
I said warriors.
That's so funny.
(06:10):
Alfie was telling everybody ina class what is Alfie's
nationality Filipino.
And Alfie was saying when Iasked what people's problems
were, he said I am a warrior.
And I understood what he wassaying and everybody was like
good for you.
I was like no, no, no, alfie,tell them again what you're
saying.
He says I'm a warrior andthey're all like, yes, warrior.
(06:33):
I was like no, no, it's notwhat he's saying.
I said you mean you're aworrier.
He said, yes, I am a warrior.
So how many warriors do we havehere?
Yes, how many people worry?
Anybody worried about the worldright now?
Okay, then you're all warriors.
Frankly, if you are sittingaround saying everything's
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perfect, everything's fine, theworld is fine, there's no war
anywhere, everything's fine,then I'd like to meet you on top
of a mountain.
So, um, think simple and clearand never worry for the visible
or apparent course of events.
When you climb up to a mountainand spend it with 34
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like-minded, heart openingpeople, like-minded,
heart-opening people, it'spretty easy not to worry and
it's pretty easy to remember whoyou are, and it's pretty easy
to remember that life isunfolding perfectly, no matter
what.
However, the trick is for youto get into your life, see your
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life exactly the way it'sunfolding and still be able to
say it's unfolding perfectly, nomatter what.
That's the goal, and ErnestHolmes says this Give me the
next slide there, swan.
It is the nature of theuniverse to give us what we are
able to take.
It cannot give us more.
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It has given all, we have notyet accepted the greater gift.
So this idea of focus.
Imagine those jelly beans andevery single jelly bean comes
with it a little note that saysI am giving you anything your
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heart desires.
This is a magic jelly bean.
Whatever you wish, whatever youchoose, whatever you focus on,
I will give you 100%, noquestions asked.
Oh my God, what would you dowith that jelly bean?
What would you decide?
Dr Laurie just said I wouldn'teat it, but what would you
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decide?
Dr Laurie just said I wouldn'teat it, but what would you do?
Where would you go?
What would you decide for yourlife?
And don't decide and don't wishfor like a hundred more jelly
beans, as many people do withthose wishes.
I want 20 more wishes.
No, it's not how it works.
But what if you did have that?
And if those jelly beansrepresent every day of our life?
Then the question becomes thatis what the jelly bean is saying
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.
To be clear yes, vivian, Idon't know why I'm pointing on
you, picking on you today.
Vivian, whatever you want, I amhere to say yes to what is it
going to be?
What do you want?
Just take that jelly bean andsay this is what I want.
We have done that now.
I have done that now for 70plus years.
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Every day, I have decided whatmy day is, don't you?
We wake up every morning and wedecide.
Usually, we don't decide.
Usually we wake up and rememberwhat we have to do, remember
all the things we decided in thepast that are now on our agenda
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to do, and we don't evensometimes take the time to go.
Is this still relevant?
Do I still want to be doingthis?
I know that my marriage toKevin is as full and wonderful
as it is because we askourselves all the time what are
we doing here?
Are we doing what we want to bedoing here?
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And if the answer's no, wechange it.
We live that line.
If I can't put my heart in it,I will take myself out of it.
So that's what the jelly beansare all about for me.
So how many jelly beans do youthink you have next left?
Thousands, I'm going to say,even though they represent a
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year, a day each.
There's definitely thousands,thousands of jelly beans left,
but the only jelly bean that'simportant is the one you're
holding right now, today.
That's it.
That's the only jelly beanthat's important and what we
have to get used to doing isevery single day asking
ourselves am I still good witheverything I'm doing right now?
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Because if I'm not, my focusneeds to change.
I need to take that mindset andbreak it up.
Disruption can be a very goodthing if it disrupts you enough
to start paying attention toyour life and to what's going on
.
So this is what Zig Ziglar saidabout focus Always remember
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your focus determines yourreality.
After I saw that beautiful slugand I moved it aside, I think I
was with you, gary, when I sawthe one that was crushed and I
walked down further and I wentyou needed me and I wasn't here
and I saw it and I was like what?
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Am I going to focus on?
The slug that was crushed or amI going to focus on the slug
that was saved?
The answer is both, because Iwant to understand how life
works and that that slug you'relike I should have called my
talk slugs and that that slug,even in its crushed state, is
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still vibrantly a part of thisquantum universe.
I don't know where that's goingto go, where all that's going
to evolve, what it's all goingto evolve into, and that's the
thing I think, part of thereason why we don't take our
jelly bean and ask for the mostextraordinary, amazing things is
because we have some reallyscrewed up beliefs about life.
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There is a musical on Broadwayright now called Maybe Happy
Ending.
I can't even say the name ofthat musical without getting a
lump in my throat.
It's about two robots in thefuture.
Everybody has their own robotsand they're very human, these
robots.
But when it's time they'reretired.
And so it was about two robotswho had been retired and they
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live next door to each other andit's.
I'm not going to tell you awhole story because you should
see the show, but it's sobeautiful and within 10 minutes
of watching this musical, yourheart is like literally linked
to these two robots, becausewhat they're about to do is take
this enormous journey throughbeing human, and they pretend to
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be human for this whole journeyand they show us all the things
that we think being human isall about.
It's just extraordinary.
But there's a line in themusical, at one point, where she
says to him something about Idon't know why humans get so
upset about death, were they notexpecting it?
And the other robot says Ibelieve they expect it, but they
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talk themselves into believingit won't happen.
And she's like we know, we havean expiration date.
And he, he says, yes, we dowhat is yours?
And she gives him hers and hegives him his.
And you say see, now we know.
I was so taken by that.
And the song they then sing iscalled the Way it's Supposed to
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Be.
Everything in your life.
Now, this is going to be hardfor you to swallow.
Everything in your life is theway it's supposed to be.
But the question is, whosupposed it to be?
You?
Did you supposed it to bebecause you made choices,
because you focused on certainthings, because you made
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decisions, because you allowedthe past to bring its beliefs
into your realization and youlived from them?
That jelly bean that you havein your hand right now,
metaphorically, is youropportunity to give it all away,
to just give it away, all of it.
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Your whole life, life isexactly as it's supposed to be.
And now what?
So we had this weekend, and itwas called in the flow, and Tony
Robbins said this where focusgoes, energy flows.
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You are like a robot.
Your body, your body, wasdesigned by this infinite field
of pure intelligence.
And think about your body for asecond.
Do you spend time telling yourbody where to move the blood
throughout your body?
If you do, we're gonna going toneed to talk.
But do you spend time tellingyour kidneys what to do?
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No, sometimes, yes, sometimesyou spend time telling them what
not to do, but we don't have totalk to our bodies about what
they're doing until somethinggoes wrong.
And then we start talking toour bodies, but we don't talk to
it the way we should.
We start cursing our bodies, westart complaining about getting
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older, we start accepting thatgetting older means this, we
start buying into all of thisstuff, and yet we're just robots
.
We are robots doing what robotsare built to do, which is live.
Except we're not robots becausewe have conscious minds.
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We have the ability to choosewhen focus goes.
Energy flows.
We are in this field of pureflow, pure creative energy and
it's flowing and it's constantlyflowing and it's giving us
everything we could everpossibly need, but it's asking
us to focus it.
Where do you want to focus it?
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So I got on the labyrinth lastnight.
We do a labyrinth walk on theSaturday night and I told
everybody.
I said you know, one of thethings I like to do is ask a
question when I stand at thefront of the labyrinth, ask a
question and then just walk andsee what comes up.
And so I asked a question, aquestion that I ask often and I
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have asked often during my lifeand my career, which is which
channel, which road is the rightroad for me right now?
What is the right road for me?
Because I have a number tochoose from.
And then I let it go and I'mwalking, and I'm walking, and
I'm walking, but I'm keeping itin mind.
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So which path is the right pathfor me right now?
And I'm asking, and I'm asking,and I stopped.
I thought about Reverend Rita,who said pivot.
So I pivoted and I turned, andI'm asking, and I'm asking, and
I stopped.
I thought about Reverend Rita,who said pivot, so I pivoted and
I turned, and as I pivoted,there was the ocean and I asked
the question again which path isthe correct path for me?
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And, of course, because thevoice that speaks to me is very
sarcastic.
It's like I have Tiffany in myhead and the voice said why do
you keep asking this question?
And I had a few choice wordsfor that voice at the time, but
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I was like yeah, why do I keepasking that question?
What's the answer I always get?
And the answer I always get isevery path is the right path for
you.
You need to do it all.
And I was like I was somebodypassed by me and I had to get
off the path and get back on it.
And I was like exhausting.
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That's what I always get.
The answer You're here to do itall.
Stop trying to figure out whichpath you should focus on.
How about a bigger focus, whereyou focus on it all and, day by
day, make decisions?
And then I kept walking and thenI landed in the center of the
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labyrinth and I stood there andthere were a lot of people
standing in the center and theysay in the center of the
labyrinth, you've broughteverything that you need to let
go of and, as you leave thelabyrinth, enter back into your
life.
And so I got there and I waslike I'm going to leave that
question alone.
I'm done.
I have maybe 30, 40, 50 yearsleft.
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120 could look good if it keepslooking like this.
And I was like you know what?
I'm done with that question.
I'm done with people asking methat question.
I'm done with people imposingthat question upon me, as though
I need to pick a road to be on.
And then I walked out from thecenter.
I felt so much lighter.
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I was like, wow, yeah, I feelgood and I just felt great and I
was like that's how this works.
Focus Next, slide Swan.
Those who flow as life flowsknow they need no other force.
Who flow as life flows knowthey need no other force.
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When you really tap into thatthing in you, that is not only
inviting you but is driving you,it is moving you, it is showing
you, it is laying the roadright before you and saying take
this road.
And oh, by the way, if you getdown to that road and you need
to try a different road, take aright and then join that road,
but know that you are the flow.
You don't need to go find it,you don't need to do something
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to manifest it, you are the flow.
I love those who flow as lifeflows know that there is no
other force, and my last quotefrom Mahatma Gandhi is this
there is a force in the universewhich, if we permit it, will
flow through us and producemiraculous results.
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I don't know what all of youwant out of your lives?
I don't.
I know that you're here, and Iknow that you all online are
there.
I know that we're here and Iknow that you all online are
there.
I know that we're all here.
Why, though?
Because we like fellowship.
This is a beautifully lovingcommunity, and I get that.
We all love being together, butwhy really are we here?
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What do we really want?
What do we want?
I know Marilyn Murphy.
I know Marilyn Murphy.
I know what she wants.
She wants to travel, and shewants to help the world learn
that traveling brings a lot ofinsight and information and
wisdom.
She shared that.
Yesterday, scott shared somethings of his as well.
That is not repeatable fromthis stage.
The ones that are laughing knowwhat he shared, um, but we all
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shared things.
You know what are the threethings?
I asked them what are the threethings that swell your body,
that make you feel passionate,that make you so excited about
living?
What are those three things?
Are you doing them?
And I also asked them what arethe three things that press you
down?
What are the three things thatpress you down?
What are the three things thatcut off that passion?
And I'm asking you to look atthose things too.
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Get rid of them, whatever theyare.
Get rid of them.
Your jelly bean is asking youto give it a chance.
Your jelly bean is asking you,as Sonny's song says, to give it
away.
Give away your ideas, give awayyour desires, give away the
love you have in your heart,give away all that you are in
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order to get it all back.
Because one of the lyrics inthat song is the more you give
it away, the more you may justfind that you get it back,
living this expansive life.
That's why we're here, I knowthat's why most of you come here
.
So this last picture is a grouppicture from the top of the
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mountain.
You will notice that Dr Kathyhas me in a grip.
She is apparently trying tomake me not fall.
I don't know.
I thought it was a cheap cop,but you know this picture.
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We took it over again when Isaw that.
And then the next one Tom, youmoved your head and I didn't
have your head, so I had to usethis picture For those of you
that were not there.
Take the energy we came backwith, take the vibration we came
back with, take the love thatwe came back with, and just look
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at this picture and remindyourself.
We can always rise aboveanything.
We can rise above any situation, anything going on in our lives
, and we can make decisions andfocus our lives on what we want
to do with our lives.
Every single person here todayhas something they want to do.
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The only reason you may not bedoing it is because somewhere
along the line you believed youcouldn't, or that you weren't
worthy of it, or that itwouldn't go well, or that you've
developed a perfectionism thingwhere if it's not perfect,
you're not going to do it.
I'm going to suggest to you alllet it all go.
I asked everybody to come tothe center of the room yesterday
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and commit to what they wereleaving on the top of that
mountain.
Notwithstanding some thingsthat were said, people left a
lot of I won't say it, brad alot of stuff on that mountain.
I invite you all to leavewhatever you want today in this
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room.
I'll clean it up tomorrow whenI come back, but leave it.
Be done with it.
It is time.
I mean, here's the thing If youonly had one jelly bean, what
would you do with it?
Whatever that answer is do it,because guess what, every day
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you only get one jelly bean.
Live it to the fullest Namaste.
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