September 5, 2025 • 42 mins
Family takes the spotlight as JohnJay rings in his birthday with wife Blake and oldest son Jake in a crossover conversation that’s equal parts heartfelt, funny, and real.
From marriage communication (including why John admits he goes to bed angry) to health experiments like stem cell treatments in Mexico, the trio opens up with surprising honesty. They share insights on parenting, navigating the empty nest phase, and even the little rituals like weekend backgammon that keep their bond strong.
Whether you’re here for the parenting wisdom, relationship talk, or just love authentic family moments, this episode feels like pulling up a chair at the Van Es table.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Okay, so welcome to our podcast.
This is a little bit differenttoday because this podcast is a
spinoff of our radio show.
Okay, so we have the john jvaness podcast, the highly
(00:34):
successful john j vaness podcast, and on iheart media or on
iheart radio or on kiss fm or onjohn jane rich.
We have the couples podcast andwe did a couple's podcast a
couple months ago my beautifulwife blake and me, and it was
tremendous lots of feedback.
So we were asked to come backand do a different new couples
podcast and instead of justbeing you and me I think we did,
(00:57):
it was you, me and our middleson kemp yes today it is you and
me and our oldest son, Jake.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
How we doing.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
I'm so happy that you're here right now.
You don't even know, because Iknow that you don't like this
kind of stuff.
Right, it's all right?
Is it all right Because youdon't like it?
When I film you or when Irecord you, I mean, yeah, how
come I don't know?
Speaker 3 (01:20):
I can't really think of anything I mean yeah, how
come.
I don't know, I can't reallythink of anything.
I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
You just don't like the attention, right, I guess?
So, yeah, well, you look great.
I'm so happy you're here.
It's my birthday today, happybirthday, and this is the
greatest gift having you hereright now with us on this
podcast.
But we are going to get to it.
I don't want to sit here andjust talk about why don't you
like being on camera.
We're just going to talk, soyou, me and mom.
So first let's say hi to mom.
(01:48):
Mom, is there anything you wantto bring up?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Oh, happy birthday.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
It's a big day.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah, is there anything?
But is there anything I don'tlike getting into my birthday?
I don't think.
You know, jake, your mom.
She's thrown a couple surpriseparties for me and you know me
pretty well.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Do you think I like surprise parties?
Not at all, not at all is right, jake, not at all.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
She first threw one for me when I turned 25.
I hated every second of it.
She threw one together for mewhen I turned 30.
Do you remember that that wasat a Rubio's right?
Was it a Rubio's right?
Was it a Rubio's yeah?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
but that was your family.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
That's hardly a surprise party.
It was Aunt.
Rosita and Uncle Javier andSergio it was family, and then
you did one when I turned 40.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
That was the greatest birthday party ever.
It was a day in the life ofJohn Jay.
We got in a limo, we went anddid hot yoga, we went to his
favorite restaurant and the nextday we took you kids to a
cabana at a local hotel.
It was great.
It was all the things that youlike.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
And now here I am, at 38 years old, anyway, okay,
yeah, so it's my birthday.
So, anyway, the couples podcastBefore we get into whatever
couples want to talk about,we've got a lot of questions.
I posted on Instagram.
I was like, hey, blake and Iare doing a couple of podcasts,
what questions do you have?
And I have some questions andand I gave some to Jake to read,
but let's talk about real quick.
(03:13):
You and I just got back fromMexico, from Cancun.
Um, we did stem cell treatmentsand I've on this podcast.
I've had Dr Rafael Gonzalez onhere talking about stem cells.
I've had Dr Rafael Gonzalez onhere talking about stem cells
and regeneration of cells andall kinds of anti-aging.
What did you have done and howdo you feel right now, blake?
Speaker 2 (03:42):
So I had some injections into my hips and into
my sciatica, um, with stemcells and, um, I can say that it
it's been a little bit ofpainful, just to be perfectly
honest, um the after effects ofit, but I know that, at the end
of the day, that these stemcells are working and I'm going
to hopefully be pain-free hereshortly.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Pain what?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Pain-free.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
I thought you said pain-fort here shortly.
No pain-free here shortly.
Pain what Pain-free.
I thought you said pain-forthere shortly.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
No pain-free here, shortly.
And then I also did IVinjections, which I always feel
great after those.
It's almost like my body canfeel the stem cells running
through itself.
I feel so great.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
And we went to ReHealth.
They have a clinic in Cancun,mexico, and Cabo San Lucas,
mexico, and highly, highly,highly recommend them, rehealth.
I think they are the bestclinic in the world.
They truly do, truly do, andI've been invited by other
clinics to go to places and Idon't want to leave ReHealth.
(04:42):
They're just amazing.
On a side note, I have to tellyou something I love your hair
like that.
So as we look as you watch thisvideo later, blake and you look
at your hair.
This is how I love your hair.
She always strains out her hairand stuff or whatever, Like I
love it the way it is right now.
I think you look fantastic.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
But wait, let me go back to ReHealth just for a
second, because it's kind offunny.
We funny we, you and I areoften passionate about things
right, and so when we'repassionate about things, we want
to share it with everybody,especially our friends and
family and and like.
A perfect example is when we umwent to pine top all those
summers.
(05:17):
Every time somebody came up,you wanted to drive them around
and show them how great Pinetopis and how amazing it is, and
there's nothing in it for us,right?
And so we have been sharing ourexperiences at ReHealth, which,
by the way, is so first class,from the minute you get out of
(05:37):
the airplane to the minute yougo back to the airplane.
They're so great, but there'snothing in it for us.
What's in it for us is ishealth and longevity, and so I
want people to know that we'renot out promoting it and getting
paid.
We're out promoting it becausewe love what the effects are and
(05:57):
we're we want to share it witheverybody, like you know that's
how we operate.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I had somebody say something to me on Instagram, on
a DM, and I responded with holdon a second.
I was talking about Bikram yogain 2007, nonstop for years,
right, Nonstop and that wassomething that I was obsessed
with.
I was talking about coldplunges in 2008, nonstop, and
(06:22):
now everyone's got a cold plunge.
Before that, I was talkingabout Botox, and I remember when
I was talking about Botox,people were saying something to
me like why did you talk aboutBotox?
It's so expensive.
I was like, look, man, I'mgetting it.
I share my life on the radio, Igo and I'm doing it.
Now I haven't done Botox in acouple years.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I'm sure this is my normal face on Botox.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
This is all stem cells and of course my friend
Carly's salon and she does myface and my friend Jamie's
Comstock.
She does a bunch of laser stufftoo.
But anyway, is this shirt tootight on me?
I feel like it's too tight.
I've never really worn thisshirt, the shirt yeah.
Do you think it's too tight?
No, it's perfect.
You really don't think it's tootight?
No, yours looks tight.
I mean, you're good tight,Yours looks tight, dog.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
But anyway, thank you , hon.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
That was a very nice representation of our
relationship with the ReHealthClinic.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Well, I think that's how it goes with everything that
we do together and that wepromote.
I mean dog rescue.
We're both passionate about it.
Do we make money from it?
No, we have not made one redcent.
In fact, we donate money fromit.
No, we have not made one redcent.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
In fact, we donate money to it and we have worked
at it for 11 years.
But it's passion, right, let'sgo over some of the questions.
Jake, I sent some of them toyou.
I didn't totally know.
Do you have them?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
there I have a bunch of questions yeah, so I figure.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
these are from Instagram, so you just got to
give one.
We'll kind of go around theroom answer them.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
My beautiful oldest son, Jake Van Ness.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
So the first question I have is who do you think me,
kemp or Dutch would make yougrandparents first?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Accidentally or on purpose.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
On purpose On purpose .
Speaker 2 (08:03):
On purpose.
I believe it's going to be Kemp.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
I'd say that too.
I'd say, kemp, oh God, it's so.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Accidentally Dutch, dutch, we all agree, I mean who
knows, maybe you guys aregrandparents already.
Yes, oh God.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Geez, what about you?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Nope, nope, just living life he's going to do it
the right way.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Well, I think if Kemp was going to do it, he would do
it the right way, but I hope hedoesn't do it for a long, long
time.
Dutch, on the other hand,totally different ballgame man,
that kid.
Anyway.
Okay, that's a great question,Jake.
Thank you.
What else, Of course?
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Let's see here.
Okay, this is good one.
Where in the world would youlike to visit as a family in?
Speaker 1 (08:45):
the world like oh as a family as a family okay well,
you know that's funny.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
We um, we traveled this summer to to london and
amsterdam and it was the firsttime that we've taken you kids
to to europe or on a trip reallylike that, because we've been
strapped to basketball for allthese years and we, we're always
going to Pinetop, or going toSan Diego?
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Yeah, going to San Diego, I would say, the Europe
trip was probably one of myfavorites.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Yeah, I thought it was so great and we were talking
about it, because some friendsof ours every year go on a trip
and a member of their familygets to pick where they're going
to go that year, and so I wouldprobably consider this trip
that we did my trip, because Iplanned it and I did all the
(09:30):
logistics of it.
So I think it would be like atrip Daddy would pick.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Right, but where would he like to go?
The question for you.
I'll tell you mine, but first,where would you like to go?
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Oh, I have a laundry list of things, but I'd love to
do a safari trip oh.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
God.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
I want to go to Wimbledon, oh.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
God, we're already there.
Why?
Oh God, we're in London alreadydone.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I want to Could you handle a safari trip.
Oh yeah, Do you think Mom canhandle a?
Speaker 3 (09:59):
safari trip.
You backpacked when you were aboy scout.
Yeah, I just see all thesecrazy videos of just animals you
know being animals in the wild.
I would assume you'd be likestop that right now.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Stop eating that animal a cheetah takes down some
caribou wild animals aren'tdogs, so right, it's gonna be a
little difficult, right?
You freak out of all of asudden you start eating
something and a cheetah takesdown something well, you, you
guys always make fun of me, Likewhat do you say?
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I can't remember, but you're like stay off.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Charlie, no Heal, no Heal, oh God.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
So I'm going to tell the cheetah to heal or off.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
I mean anything can happen in a safari trip.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
What about you, jake, where?
Speaker 3 (10:41):
would you?
I would say my first choicewould be Japan.
Oh yeah, I love Japan.
I've seen so many videos ofpeople going, just vlogs and
stuff.
I would say my second one wouldbe Italy.
I have a few friends that havebeen to Italy and they just say
it's the most amazing experiencethey've ever had.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Pizza and gelato.
Here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
With Italy.
I have been there before, sohas your mom?
We're not together at differenttimes.
Your mom actually went with mymom, but I'm hesitant to say
because I think the food is sogood and this last trip we went
on, we did a lot of walking andI think we do the opposite.
We'd be doing a lot of eatingin Italy and I'm kind of like I
don't want to gain weight.
(11:24):
So, although there's thatAmalfi Coast, is that Italy want
to gain weight?
So, although there's thatamalfi coast is that italy, I
don't even know where amalfi is?
is it italy?
I don't know.
Do you know where it is?
I don't know.
I've seen pictures and video.
It looks great.
So that looks kind of cool.
But I don't want to get stuck.
I've been to rome before and Iremember we just sat there and
ate.
In florence we just ate now.
There's a lot of good stuffthat I mean.
The food is amazing.
But it's my turn to pick thenext trip.
I kind of know that you saidJapan.
(11:46):
That would be kind of dope,although I would like to go back
to the Netherlands, because weonly spent time in Amsterdam.
I think there's a lot of theselittle.
Wouldn't it be fun to go backthere too?
Speaker 3 (11:55):
I think it'd be great , yeah, to go like outside of
the city maybe.
Yeah, that's what I mean.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
That's good, Okay.
So what else?
What's another question youhave?
Okay?
Speaker 3 (12:04):
This is a good question.
I already know the answer tothis one.
But for you guys, Do the dogsmiss Kemp and Dutch?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Absolutely positively .
Yeah, I mean Maggie.
Our English bulldog isdevastated.
She's under Dutch's bed all thetime.
She doesn't eat right, she's amess.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
Do you agree?
Actually, yeah, when you guyswere in getting the stem cells,
it was a pain because I had totake care of all of our dogs, so
I think it was like you weregone for like pretty much the
whole week.
Five days, five days, yeah.
So taking care of the dogs wastough, especially when dutch
moved away.
I remember maggie would be justsitting under his bed waiting
(12:42):
for him to come home every nightand I have to like try to get
her out without her biting me.
It's is a pain, but I candefinitely tell that there's a
lot of impact.
Did any dogs shit in the house?
No questions.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
No, comment no questions no comment.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
Oh man, I don't know.
It happened a lot.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
It happened a lot because you were playing video
games.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
No, I mean, I cleaned it up.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Still, you know what?
You all opened the door, sothey go out there.
All right, you got anotherquestion.
What has been the hardestlesson to learn when it comes to
maintaining a healthy marriage?
Speaker 2 (13:17):
oh god, that's a good one the hardest lesson to learn
, I think, communication,because you get so busy in your
personal life and you havethings that you're you're doing
for your work or your kids orwhatever, that you oftentimes
forget that you need tocommunicate with your spouse and
talk about things and downloadand all that.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
I agree with Mom.
I think communication isextremely important, like when
your mother and I are makinglove.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Oh, my God.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
Okay, I don't need to hear this, but Good Lord,
You're so wrong and you laugh.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
You think you're so funny.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
It's so uncomfortable .
Speaker 2 (13:58):
It is.
It's so uncomfortable.
Do you remember when your dadused to do this, just like your
dad?
Speaker 1 (14:04):
By the way, side note , I've got to jump back to
something.
This is my birthday today,right?
I don't think Jake knows this,but I am a little.
I'm superstitious.
You know, I'm not just stitious, I am superstitious.
And when I first started inradio in 1997 in Cincinnati, I
had a couple psychics on theshow and they would predict the
(14:25):
future and stuff.
It was a psychic named Victorand a psychic named jill and I
was like, hey, let me ask youthis you know when, how, when do
you think I'm gonna die?
And they told me, this year,this is the year I'm gonna die,
and I'm kind of freaked outabout it that is right.
So I'm hoping they're shittypsychics, but I'm hoping they
(14:46):
didn't know about stem cellsback then.
But uh, I mean, wouldn't thatbe terrible if they were right?
Right, and then you could takethis clip and run this clip over
and over again, like yes, thatwould be terrible.
This is the year, so like ayear from now, we got to come
back here and go.
I made it.
I made it.
The john j vaness podcast isstill rocking and he's alive.
(15:06):
He's alive.
Weird science's alive, weirdscience.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
What I also won't.
Let that happen you won't letthat happen.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
My boy.
No, you are in such greathealth and you are on top of
everything.
That's so wrong.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
That's an opinion from a very long time ago, I
know but I actually want to callfind her, track her down, Take
it off.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
You're worryless Because I actually want to call,
find her, track her down, takeit off your worry list, because
I am supposed to die this year,according to her.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
By the way, communication.
I agree with you.
I think it's very, very, veryimportant.
I had this thing.
We had this.
In fact, I was doing thispodcast with some marriage
coaches here and we were talkingabout a relationship, but,
blake, I never even said this toyou and I don't even know if
you know.
In fact, I'll do it here.
Do you ever see the clip thatwas posted last week about where
(15:54):
I was?
Like we were talking about allthis stuff, and I said, when I
come home from work, like I wantmy wife to greet me, I want you
to say hi to me.
And they go yeah, that's reallyimportant, it's really
important to me.
And I go know, like my kids aregoing away to college and she's
got a lot on her mind right nowand she really hasn't done that
lately.
And then they posted it.
And then the therapist made acomment Because I said in the
(16:16):
clip I go oh God, I've got totalk to her about this before it
drops.
And then they dropped thepodcast before I could talk to
you about it.
So that's a little thing for mein front of our kid.
Would you mind saying hi to mewhen I come home.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
I do every day.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
No, sometimes you're on the phone or sometimes you're
watching tennis, or sometimesyou're in that and when you're
on a Zoom or something I get it.
But sometimes I've come homeand you're like on the couch and
I'm like, when I come home Iwant to like, Like when you guys
come home.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I that completely okay, because if I'm on a zoom,
yeah, I get it.
But you usually come over to mebut I've never just laid on the
couch and not said hello, acouple times, especially during
tennis, you have no, I, I don'tthink so I'm telling you about,
I mean my it's it's happened.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
I respectfully disagree with that but like uh,
um, sometimes, how many timeshave I come home and you go oh,
I didn't know you were home.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
That's true too, because I didn't know you were
home.
You didn't make your presenceknown.
And I didn't hear the.
Usually I hear the deet, deet,deet, but lately I haven't been
hearing that, which, by the way,we should probably get that
fixed.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
But anyway, so I'm communicating right now.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Yeah, I definitely try to do that, and the only
reason that I don't is if I'm ona Zoom or something.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Do you think, jake you as our oldest son is this
the biggest fight mom and I havebeen into right now?
Speaker 3 (17:37):
Definitely not no.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
No, you've seen us fight about it.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
But I mean I would say tennis is very important to
mom, right?
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Yes, I have a 4 o'clock match today that I need
to see.
Jeez, it's coming to an end onSunday for the rest of the year.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
You look great on TV, thank you.
You are so handsome, you canget your own podcast.
Speaker 3 (17:55):
Maybe, maybe someday.
Any other questions there?
All right, this one's for Mom.
If you won the Powerball, whatwould you do?
What would be the first thingyou would do?
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Luxury-wise.
Luxury wise, I would.
Okay, I'm going to answer thisin two ways.
Luxury wise I'd love to have anairplane, and I don't want to
own the airplane.
I want to have like a set jetsor net jets, or whatever a
membership because that would beso convenient and I would love
to have that as a luxury.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Secondly, you're talking about $1.7 billion.
So, that would be a drop in thebucket.
That'd be nothing Exactly.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
But what I would do is I would spend a lot of that
money helping rescue and gettingrescue dogs adopted and helping
shelters and, because I've beenworking so hard for 11 years on
shelter prevention, I would puta lot of money towards shelter
prevention.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Wouldn't it be something like if we won $1.7
billion and you took $100million to help dog rescue?
It would change the world.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
It would absolutely People like.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Elon Musk are worth $100 billion.
Why not throw $100 million outthere?
I would agree with you, I wouldtry to do something like that.
I would also try.
Are worth $100 billion.
Why not throw $100 million outthere?
I would agree with you, I wouldtry to do something like that.
I would also try to help thehomeless community.
I would donate to so manythings.
I've already manifested it.
In other words, it's going tohappen, and mark my words when
it does happen, you can playthis clip back too and go wow,
they did do that.
They did buy a jet.
(19:25):
They did buy a jet.
No, no, no, but they did go.
We did help, right?
Yeah, I also think about like Iwant to give everybody that I
work with like a million dollars.
But then I was like, oh, butthey give me a million dollars
and they're going to quit, andthen what right?
So I thought I'd give them amillion dollars, but they I'd
give them a contract.
At the end of the contract,I'll give them a million dollars
anyway.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
These are the things I think about how would you if
you won 1.7 billion?
Is that where it's at right now?
What?
What would change your life?
Would you still go to workevery day?
Every day yeah, I might like Ican't imagine you not doing your
job, because you love your jobI would probably.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
If we had 1.7 billion , I would go to work every day
but I would probably buy thebuilding that the radio station
is in and make it the perfectstudio for us and I would hire
sales team.
I would hire management.
I'd hire everything.
I would hire everything and Ipay.
I have so much advertising Ihave like I would have john jay
and rich billboards.
Ever worse than learner in rowmore than you see I think about
(20:23):
all the time on the bus on thebuses.
I would have it everywhere.
Yeah, I would have iteverywhere.
Yeah, I would have iteverywhere.
Yeah, totally.
Anyway, is there anotherquestion?
Speaker 3 (20:33):
There's so many, all right, no good, this one's for
me.
Am I still going to themilitary?
That is a difficult question toanswer because I'm kind of
still deciding.
I mean, I'm still doing school,so a few more semesters, but I
would say that is still up there.
But I'm also deciding otherthings too, like if I want to do
stuff with McCarthy, go back,do another internship or just,
(20:58):
you know, do something else.
But yeah, military still is aninterest of mine that I'd like
to do if.
I had to join a branch, I'deither pick probably the Army or
the Marines, just those two.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Well, I have to tell you, I think if you went into
the military your parents wouldbe so proud, proud to have a son
in the military.
You'd be scared because first,of all, I think the Marines are
the first ones they send outright.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
Right, there's a war.
First response Right, I knowthere's a war.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
First response Right, I know, that's scary.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
But also if he's an Eagle Scout, so he has a rank
advancement and he will have adegree.
So he has an opportunity.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
But you're also 22 years old, so you have
everything ahead of you rightnow.
You know what I mean.
There's a million.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
Let's say there's a million.
Let's say you, what else?
What?
Let's say there's what wouldyou want to do if you could do
anything you want?
What would you want to be?
That is a tough question.
Uh, probably.
Um, I don't know something withentertainment.
Like I want to do like stuffwith movies.
Maybe I want to do um, justlike make content for anything.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Really I think like working with mccarthy.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
it was fun doing some of the marketing stuff.
I would say like making videosfor them, like making it kind of
my own thing, was really coolyou got good feedback on that
too oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
I think soon they're going tobe playing at one of their
events, at one of my videos I'vemade before I left, so, yeah,
that'd be pretty sick.
That's awesome.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
That's very cool.
What else, let's see.
I got some questions too.
Do you have any more?
I have some too.
Let's see.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Can Blake give advice to wives with ADHD husbands?
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Oh my gosh it's funny because we're opposite in that
way.
I'm very more like strategicand more organized and that kind
of stuff.
I think patience and justlearning how your spouse
operates differently than youare and being accepting of it.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
Do you think I have ADHD?
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Oh for sure, 100% Like you're all over the place
all the time, Do you think Ihave?
Speaker 1 (23:04):
ADHD.
Do you think I have ADHD?
Oh, for sure, 100%.
Like you're all over the placeall the time.
Do you think I have ADHD?
Do you think?
Speaker 3 (23:07):
I have HD ADHD.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Do you have a high-definition D?
Dd?
I think a lot of people havethat.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
I think so too.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Very common, yeah, it is very common.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
I would say, though, coffee.
If you have ADHD and you drinkcoffee, it helps so much.
Yeah, Like I drink two cups ofcoffee a day every morning.
Do?
Speaker 1 (23:26):
you think you have ADHD.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
I don't have I mean I'm pretty I don't know.
I mean I'm pretty tired when Iwake up.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
so you go to bed at two in the morning.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
That's true.
Yeah, that's very true, do youthink?
Speaker 2 (23:37):
you have ADHD, do you think?
I just think, though, for you,like, your brain never stops,
like even when you go to sleepat night, your whole body moves,
remember when Jake used tosleep with us and he was like
that.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
I still do that.
Oh, you moved all the time.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Yeah, I'd still move in my bed.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
Will you sleep with us tonight?
I would like for you to sleepin the middle between me and Mom
tonight.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Here's a question.
I'll probably be getting in bedwhile you begin going up to
work Exactly.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Blake, what are you reading right now?
John Jay, what are you watchingright now?
That's from Michelle inPennsylvania.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
Oh, I'm reading Kissing Girls on Shabbat.
It's a memoir of a gal who wasin a I can't remember the name
of the Jewish religion, but it'sa very strict.
Jewish religion, no, but it's asector of it.
A sitting Jew yes, a sitting Jew, yes and she ends up getting
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married and getting a divorce adivorce which is not really
allowed and then gettingremarried and then leaving um
for a woman and she has kids,and so it's very, uh, it's very
interesting to see and I onlyhave like 20 pages left and I
can't wait to read the end of itdo you guys ever go to bed
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angry?
I don't think so.
I think that's one of thethings we've always been pretty
decent at.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Well, you don't know it, but I go to bed angry all
the time.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
Unless you don't tell me that you're mad.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
I don't tell you.
No, I don't tell you.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
Why wouldn't wait?
Hold on, You're going to justgloss over that.
Why wouldn't you tell me ifyou're angry?
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Because I'm tired and then by the time I wake up I'm
not angry anymore.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
But what?
Speaker 1 (25:27):
would you.
When you do what I do for aliving and you get up I got up
at 2.30 this morning, right andas the day goes on you get so
irrational your logic doesn'tmake sense, so you get mad about
certain things.
And then I realize I'm so madright now.
And then I get up in themorning and I talk to other
people on the show the same way,where it's like.
(25:48):
The next morning I wake up, I'mrested Boy.
That was stupid.
I'm glad I didn't say anythingto her.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Okay, give me an example.
I can't think of anything.
Well, I'd like to know.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
Okay, it seems like it was Okay, let's go Yesterday.
I got mad yesterday.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
I knew you were mad.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
What do you think I was mad about?
Speaker 2 (26:08):
I didn't know why.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
But you knew I was mad.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
I knew you were mad, but I was also tired.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
I've been up since 3.
I got up at 3 in the morningyesterday.
I went and I did a radio showmeeting about stuff which you
didn't ask me about hold on I'lltell you about.
You didn't ask me about thatand then you didn't say how was
your?
You text me during the show andyou say how's the show going?
But when I come home like youdidn't ask me how my day was,
but you were watching tenniswhen I came home, right?
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But you're also recovering.
This has nothing to do withwhat I was saying earlier, does?
Speaker 3 (26:36):
tennis make you angry .
I'm watching tennis.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
She took over the whole tv.
Now I can't watch tv, but wait,so then that's the bottom line
was when you went on the zoomsand you made me wait, so I
wanted to leave the house oh, Iknew that I left, I it was like
2 15 and I had.
No, yeah, I had a meeting.
I was done off my meeting atone at 2 15.
I was doing my meeting at 2 15and I was up, right, because the
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thing when you get up as earlyas I do, when you slow down,
when you stop, you crash.
You get really tired and youdon't want to re-motivate.
So I was off the meeting.
There was a lot of energy inthe meeting and I'm like, okay,
so you guys are closed.
I gotta go buy my lotto tickets.
I had my numbers ready, I hadall this, I had a whole system
ready and I walked downstairsand mom's on a zoom and I'm like
, hey, uh, I'm gonna go get alot of tickets, just wait wait,
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wait, wait, wait and I'm likebecause she's recovering, like
laying in.
So I was like does she want togo with me to get the lottery
tickets, or does she want towait me to wait to say she, she
want to tell me something?
So I sit down on the couch,tennis is on and she's on a zoom
, so I can't change the channeland watch what I want to watch
multitasking also.
She's on mute she's on the zoom.
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So I'm like I'm waiting and I'mwaiting, and I waited 45
minutes like she never once saidI want to go with you.
She didn't say, she didn't saywait.
Uh, I just want to tell youthis one thing.
And she didn't say so.
I was just waiting and waitingand finally I said do I go, do
you want to come with me?
And she goes yeah, I'd like,I'd like to.
And I was like, oh okay,because my thought was I'm going
(28:05):
to go get the lotto tickets,come home, and then we'd go pick
up food to eat dinner becauseshe was recovering.
But it turns out that's notwhat she wanted to go get the
lotto tickets.
I mean, she wanted to gogrocery shopping.
So that's so stated.
I was irritated at that when Iwoke up this morning morning.
That was silly and it didn'tmatter.
You see what I'm saying.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (28:23):
yeah, but I could tell you were mad last night,
right, but I didn't want to sayanything, because we get this
huge fight and it's a stupidfight.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
So I am aware of the irritability that I have, I'm
aware that I'm tired and I'maware that if I bring this up,
we're gonna get into a nine-hourfight for no reason.
When I get some rest, I'll befine in the morning.
I woke up this morning and Iwas fine.
Do you get what I'm saying?
See, but also, you should havebeen like I mean, don't you feel
bad making me wait for 45minutes?
Speaker 2 (28:49):
I would wait for you for 10 hours, god, so no.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
You gotta find yourself a woman like your mom,
right?
Okay, wait other questions.
How did you guys meet?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
How did we meet?
Through our friend ChristyPileman.
She introduced us.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
That's true.
That's true.
Christy and I grew up togetherin Chandler and Christy was
picking me up.
I broke my leg.
I broke my ankle and Christywas picking me up to go to a
party at her house.
We stopped at your mom's houseto pick up jello shots that your
mom had made.
Are you excited?
(29:23):
What are you excited for inthis next chapter of life, now
that the boys are completelygrown?
Yeah, that one blake.
Can you answer that one?
Speaker 2 (29:31):
I think we've talked about a lot recently and that is
like we would love to traveland do some things.
So for me it's, you know,spending more time at the beach
and doing some fun traveling.
Speaker 1 (29:46):
What's your current favorite activity to do together
?
Speaker 2 (29:50):
I think we have different answers.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
What's yours?
Speaker 2 (29:53):
My favorite thing that we do is play backgammon
every weekend.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
So we wake up, we do our thing, I meditate, you do
your stretches.
So we go have.
We wake up, we do our thing, Imeditate, you do your stretches.
And then we go have coffeesomewhere and we play backgammon
.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
That's good.
What do you think mine is?
I like when we film ourlovemaking.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
What is wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (30:21):
Just kidding, you will never find that I don't
know what our favorite thing isto do together.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
I do enjoy why wouldn't you have something that
you like?
Because I think I know, what itis.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
What do you think?
Speaker 3 (30:30):
it is, I think, all eating dinner together.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
I love eating dinner together.
I write it down every, every.
Every morning I write down mygoals and stuff, and at night I
write down three things that Iloved about today and the last
couple days have been the threeof us eating dinner together.
I love it.
It's one of my favorite momentsof the day, that's good one,
jake in fact it says what's achange you're going through but
weren't expecting.
(30:52):
Now that the two boys have left, I don't know, because I not
monitoring, dutch maybe nothat's true.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
I mean the.
The stress level of dutch is islower.
You know, I talked to him todaya couple times.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
You know he told me I said so because now he's living
in the dorms.
It's been two weeks to college.
I was like so like are you?
He goes, I go, are you partyingstill?
And he goes, everybody in thisdorm room on this floor parties
every single night.
He goes the first four days hegoes.
The first four days I partied,he, he goes, but now I don't.
But he plays 2K.
He plays video games all day,11 hours, 12 hours of video
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games.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
Best money we've ever spent is letting him transfer
his own money into his accountto buy that.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
Oh, I didn't know that Seriously?
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Yeah, no, that's exactly what we did.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
Let's see.
Oh, I have a one and a halfyear old son and I'm 20 weeks
pregnant with baby number two.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Give me your best parenting advice?
Oh, I think patience.
I mean we had two closetogether and then the third one
not far behind, and it's youknow what I?
I wish I would have enjoyed thestressful moments a little bit
more.
I agree completely with youBecause now it's like now
they're grown and there'sdifferent stresses with them,
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but when you're in the thick ofit, you're like God, I'm so
tired and I'm so frustrated andthis is too much and how am I
going to handle this?
And instead of like going, thisis the greatest gift ever these
two are fighting.
This is awesome.
We've created these humanbeings Like.
I tell that to people all thetime.
(32:32):
I know you and I, when we seeeach other, see other people,
when we're out together and theyhave like three boys or
whatever, we're always like, ohmy gosh, enjoyed them so much.
We sat next to these cutelittle girls the other Sunday
when we were having coffee andplaying backgammon and these
three girls were the cutestlittle things.
They had chocolate all overtheir faces and their dad was
(32:54):
with them and they said thatthey have one more little baby
girl at home and I was like, ohmy gosh, even in the rough
moments, just enjoy.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
I know I miss you as a little kid, but I love you as
a man.
I know I love your little, yourlittle cheekies, and you're such
a beautiful little kid and yoursmile, oh my gosh, I saw this
post and I talked about it onthe radio show today because
this guy, this guy just had ababy, him and his wife and the
baby.
They just went home thehospital.
He's asking for advice.
Like that, just like thismessage, and it was like people
(33:24):
would say you know, it goes sofast.
Blink of an eye.
And I saw this post.
That was like it was about whatmom just said and it was like
that was the blink, like we wereliving in the blink.
So now, 10 years from now, I'mgoing to look back and, like man
, remember when Jake interviewedus.
We sat and interviewed Jake.
Like this time, right now, isthe new blink.
(33:44):
So I'm learning to accept andappreciate every moment that we
have with you, jake.
That's really good yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
Are you excited to go on more dates?
Yeah, I love date night.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
What was your first reaction when you found out that
John Jay likes your?
Speaker 2 (34:05):
feet.
Do you know about your?
Dad's foot fetish for your mom?
No comment.
I mean, I don't know, that wasso long ago.
That was like when we weredating.
You've always liked feet.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
Look at these beautiful feet, jake.
Look at your mom's feet.
Let me see.
Look at these babies.
Look at these babies.
They're my favorite.
They're the best, okay.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
Do you?
They're my favorite, they'rethe best, okay, do you have any
other questions over there, jake?
Uh, I think I got most of them.
I have a question for jake,okay, okay, you're 22.
In the future you'll be married, you'll have children.
What are one, or what are oneor two things that you would
take from your childhood thatyou would bring into your
marriage or into yourrelationship or to your kids?
Speaker 3 (34:47):
that's tough.
Um, I would say I'd probablyget him.
Uh, if they're, if they're guys, I'd probably get him into
scouting, like boy scouts andstuff just because going through
that made me kind of like moreaware of everything.
Also, you learn new things.
Um, you learn how to be, youknow uh, what do you call it
(35:11):
just like by yourself and learnnew things and it's just.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
I think it's a great way of you know, becoming more,
like you know, interested inwhatever it is you want to do
yeah, that was one of thegreatest things we ever did, man
, was when you took your boyscouts and you fell in love with
it.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Oh yeah, that's another thing like the camping
trips, like you just learn it's.
It's a great tool.
You just learn, like so manythings, there's a deal with all
kinds of situations you don't,you don't realize that when
you're in scouting, but thenafter you're like, oh, I, oh, I
know how to do this, I know howto do that.
There's just so many greattools with scouting.
Plus, if you become an EagleScout, I mean, you're an Eagle
(35:50):
Scout, you have a lot of, Ithink I don't know, I don't know
the percentage, but not a lotof people make it as an Eagle
Scout.
Exactly right, it's a greatthing.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
And we've heard along the way like people that didn't
finish and they regretted notfinishing.
Yeah, you know, if I were toanswer my own question, there
are two things that I broughtfrom my family to you guys, and
that was I love a round tablebecause I think you can see each
other and I love that whenyou're sitting at dinner or
(36:26):
breakfast or lunch or whateverit is and you can see each other
.
And the other thing that Ibrought was on Christmas Eve we
get to open all the family gifts.
So we only open Santa gifts onChristmas Day and I love that
tradition.
I love that all the familycomes over Christmas Eve, we do
all the celebrating and thenthey and it's the Venice Five.
Speaker 1 (36:47):
That's my favorite part is when they leave.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
You're so rude.
Did you bring anything that youremember from your family?
Speaker 1 (36:56):
We used to open them all at Christmas once we found
out the secrets.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
But is there anything that you brought on purpose to
our family from your childhood?
Speaker 1 (37:09):
I learned that dinner as a family.
My dad always wanted us to havedinner together.
We always had as much as wecould.
We always had dinner together,no matter what.
I love that.
We only went out when I was akid.
We didn't have a lot of money,so we would go out whenever
something amazing happened, likemaybe once every five years, my
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dad was able to treat us andwe'd go to Black Angus or we'd
go to, which was an oldsteakhouse it's not like a Steak
44.
But like I don't know what youcall it, but it was great.
I still have great memories ofthat or a place called bobby
mcgee's.
There was something fancy andthat was fancy to us.
Um, I, you know that's a greatquestion.
(37:55):
Like what did I bring?
I think I brought my dad'ssense of humor.
I think I brought, uh, I I lookat some of the stuff you guys
do young men and I go I jokeabout.
I always say, oh, when someonesays your kids are so nice, oh,
they got that all from their momand I do believe that.
But I see some good qualitiesthat you guys got from me and I
(38:17):
think I got those from my dad,my mom, handsome son of a bitch,
you.
Uh, let's see what else we have.
Oh, blake, out of all the times, john jay decides to go to a
concert.
He wants to take you tobackstreet boys in vegas and you
don't want to go.
Why?
You remember that yeah, I do.
(38:41):
I was like let's go, let's goback because out of all the
concerts in my life, we sawBackstreet Boys in Miami.
Do you remember?
Yes and they were phenomenal.
And to see them at the spherein Vegas, which is an hour
flight, I was like there was anopportunity.
It was the one weekend we hadnothing going on.
I was like let's shoot upSaturday and come home Sunday.
But we were leaving, we weregoing, there was a lot going on.
Speaker 2 (39:01):
I think were we taking Dutch to school.
Speaker 1 (39:06):
No, no, it was Saturday.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
I forgot what was going on.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
We were getting ready to go.
We just had a lot going on.
We were going somewhere.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
It wasn't because I didn't want to do it, it was
because we had commitments andno, we didn't have commitments?
Speaker 1 (39:19):
No, we didn't have commitments.
It was just the one day wedidn't have something going on,
like we were going to take Dutchschool that Tuesday, then we
were going to go to Mexico forwhatever.
We just had a lot Austin.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
We were going on, it was one of those.
It was one of those.
We just had a lot going on,okay.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
Anyway, okay, I think .
Is there anything else?
Love pup, do you want to makethe big announcement about Love
Pub Family Fest?
I do, it's going to be amazing.
It's November 15th at VertuccioFarms.
November 15th.
At Vertuccio Farms, it'stotally free.
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It's from 4 pm till 8 pm 8 pmand the acts that nobody knows
about they're going to beperforming for free are gym
class heroes and fits in thetantrums and, of course, the
rich bear band, right, rich bearband opening up.
I think fits goes on then gymclass heroes goes on.
(40:16):
It's gonna be freaking insane.
You are invited absolutely free.
It's it's love pup family fest.
It's mccarthy sponsored it.
It's kiss fm, it's mix 96.9.
It's iheart radio.
Who else are the sponsors?
Speaker 2 (40:32):
blake we have learner and row learner and row my god
we have discover discover valleytoyota dealers toyota dealers
are all, it's just top love it.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
What a wonderful event.
And we are inviting you, bringyour family, bring your kids,
bring your dogs.
We're going to have dog rescuesfrom all over the valley.
They're going to be showcasingtheir dogs, all up for adoption.
It's like our.
How many of these have we doneso far?
Speaker 2 (40:55):
This is eight.
Speaker 1 (40:56):
Wow, this is our eighth one.
So it's Love Pup Family Fest.
This is the first time we'vetalked about it anywhere, so, uh
, it'll be huge, all right.
So anyway, that's a good job.
How do you?
How do you think this wenttoday for you?
Speaker 3 (41:07):
because I know you were really hesitant first time
I would say pretty okay, I guessI think you did great.
I feel like if I came back onI'd do a little bit better,
really, yeah, okay, you want to?
Speaker 1 (41:17):
come back tomorrow, I'd love to have you back on
part of the deal of youfinishing school from our house
so you have to do a podcast, youshould come back to me for the
zombie podcast.
Of course, that would be sick,because I don't even understand
that podcast right now.
If you're listening to this,you're like zombie podcast.
Yeah, we got a podcast with azombie professor at ASU, right?
(41:38):
Anyway, that's our couple'spodcast.
Don't dream it, be it, okay.
So welcome to our podcast.
This is a little bit differenttoday, because this podcast is a
spinoff of our radio show you.
Okay, so welcome to our podcast.
This is a little bit differenttoday because this podcast is a
spinoff of our radio show.
Okay, so we have the john jvaness podcast, the highly
(00:34):
successful john j vaness podcast, and on iheart media or on
iheart radio or on kiss fm or onjohn jane rich.
We have the couples podcast andwe did a couple's podcast a
couple months ago my beautifulwife blake and me, and it was
tremendous lots of feedback.
So we were asked to come backand do a different new couples
podcast and instead of justbeing you and me I think we did,
(00:57):
it was you, me and our middleson kemp yes today it is you and
me and our oldest son, Jake.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
How we doing.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
I'm so happy that you're here right now.
You don't even know, because Iknow that you don't like this
kind of stuff.
Right, it's all right?
Is it all right Because youdon't like it?
When I film you or when Irecord you, I mean, yeah, how
come I don't know?
Speaker 3 (01:20):
I can't really think of anything I mean yeah, how
come.
I don't know, I can't reallythink of anything.
I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
You just don't like the attention, right, I guess?
So, yeah, well, you look great.
I'm so happy you're here.
It's my birthday today, happybirthday, and this is the
greatest gift having you hereright now with us on this
podcast.
But we are going to get to it.
I don't want to sit here andjust talk about why don't you
like being on camera.
We're just going to talk, soyou, me and mom.
So first let's say hi to mom.
(01:48):
Mom, is there anything you wantto bring up?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Oh, happy birthday.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
It's a big day.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah, is there anything?
But is there anything I don'tlike getting into my birthday?
I don't think.
You know, jake, your mom.
She's thrown a couple surpriseparties for me and you know me
pretty well.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Do you think I like surprise parties?
Not at all, not at all is right, jake, not at all.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
She first threw one for me when I turned 25.
I hated every second of it.
She threw one together for mewhen I turned 30.
Do you remember that that wasat a Rubio's right?
Was it a Rubio's right?
Was it a Rubio's yeah?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
but that was your family.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
That's hardly a surprise party.
It was Aunt.
Rosita and Uncle Javier andSergio it was family, and then
you did one when I turned 40.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
That was the greatest birthday party ever.
It was a day in the life ofJohn Jay.
We got in a limo, we went anddid hot yoga, we went to his
favorite restaurant and the nextday we took you kids to a
cabana at a local hotel.
It was great.
It was all the things that youlike.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
And now here I am, at 38 years old, anyway, okay,
yeah, so it's my birthday.
So, anyway, the couples podcastBefore we get into whatever
couples want to talk about,we've got a lot of questions.
I posted on Instagram.
I was like, hey, blake and Iare doing a couple of podcasts,
what questions do you have?
And I have some questions andand I gave some to Jake to read,
but let's talk about real quick.
(03:13):
You and I just got back fromMexico, from Cancun.
Um, we did stem cell treatmentsand I've on this podcast.
I've had Dr Rafael Gonzalez onhere talking about stem cells.
I've had Dr Rafael Gonzalez onhere talking about stem cells
and regeneration of cells andall kinds of anti-aging.
What did you have done and howdo you feel right now, blake?
Speaker 2 (03:42):
So I had some injections into my hips and into
my sciatica, um, with stemcells and, um, I can say that it
it's been a little bit ofpainful, just to be perfectly
honest, um the after effects ofit, but I know that, at the end
of the day, that these stemcells are working and I'm going
to hopefully be pain-free hereshortly.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Pain what?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Pain-free.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
I thought you said pain-fort here shortly.
No pain-free here shortly.
Pain what Pain-free.
I thought you said pain-forthere shortly.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
No pain-free here, shortly.
And then I also did IVinjections, which I always feel
great after those.
It's almost like my body canfeel the stem cells running
through itself.
I feel so great.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
And we went to ReHealth.
They have a clinic in Cancun,mexico, and Cabo San Lucas,
mexico, and highly, highly,highly recommend them, rehealth.
I think they are the bestclinic in the world.
They truly do, truly do, andI've been invited by other
clinics to go to places and Idon't want to leave ReHealth.
(04:42):
They're just amazing.
On a side note, I have to tellyou something I love your hair
like that.
So as we look as you watch thisvideo later, blake and you look
at your hair.
This is how I love your hair.
She always strains out her hairand stuff or whatever, Like I
love it the way it is right now.
I think you look fantastic.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
But wait, let me go back to ReHealth just for a
second, because it's kind offunny.
We funny we, you and I areoften passionate about things
right, and so when we'repassionate about things, we want
to share it with everybody,especially our friends and
family and and like.
A perfect example is when we umwent to pine top all those
summers.
(05:17):
Every time somebody came up,you wanted to drive them around
and show them how great Pinetopis and how amazing it is, and
there's nothing in it for us,right?
And so we have been sharing ourexperiences at ReHealth, which,
by the way, is so first class,from the minute you get out of
(05:37):
the airplane to the minute yougo back to the airplane.
They're so great, but there'snothing in it for us.
What's in it for us is ishealth and longevity, and so I
want people to know that we'renot out promoting it and getting
paid.
We're out promoting it becausewe love what the effects are and
(05:57):
we're we want to share it witheverybody, like you know that's
how we operate.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I had somebody say something to me on Instagram, on
a DM, and I responded with holdon a second.
I was talking about Bikram yogain 2007, nonstop for years,
right, Nonstop and that wassomething that I was obsessed
with.
I was talking about coldplunges in 2008, nonstop, and
(06:22):
now everyone's got a cold plunge.
Before that, I was talkingabout Botox, and I remember when
I was talking about Botox,people were saying something to
me like why did you talk aboutBotox?
It's so expensive.
I was like, look, man, I'mgetting it.
I share my life on the radio, Igo and I'm doing it.
Now I haven't done Botox in acouple years.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I'm sure this is my normal face on Botox.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
This is all stem cells and of course my friend
Carly's salon and she does myface and my friend Jamie's
Comstock.
She does a bunch of laser stufftoo.
But anyway, is this shirt tootight on me?
I feel like it's too tight.
I've never really worn thisshirt, the shirt yeah.
Do you think it's too tight?
No, it's perfect.
You really don't think it's tootight?
No, yours looks tight.
I mean, you're good tight,Yours looks tight, dog.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
But anyway, thank you , hon.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
That was a very nice representation of our
relationship with the ReHealthClinic.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Well, I think that's how it goes with everything that
we do together and that wepromote.
I mean dog rescue.
We're both passionate about it.
Do we make money from it?
No, we have not made one redcent.
In fact, we donate money fromit.
No, we have not made one redcent.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
In fact, we donate money to it and we have worked
at it for 11 years.
But it's passion, right, let'sgo over some of the questions.
Jake, I sent some of them toyou.
I didn't totally know.
Do you have them?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
there I have a bunch of questions yeah, so I figure.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
these are from Instagram, so you just got to
give one.
We'll kind of go around theroom answer them.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
My beautiful oldest son, Jake Van Ness.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
So the first question I have is who do you think me,
kemp or Dutch would make yougrandparents first?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Accidentally or on purpose.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
On purpose On purpose .
Speaker 2 (08:03):
On purpose.
I believe it's going to be Kemp.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
I'd say that too.
I'd say, kemp, oh God, it's so.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Accidentally Dutch, dutch, we all agree, I mean who
knows, maybe you guys aregrandparents already.
Yes, oh God.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Geez, what about you?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Nope, nope, just living life he's going to do it
the right way.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Well, I think if Kemp was going to do it, he would do
it the right way, but I hope hedoesn't do it for a long, long
time.
Dutch, on the other hand,totally different ballgame man,
that kid.
Anyway.
Okay, that's a great question,Jake.
Thank you.
What else, Of course?
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Let's see here.
Okay, this is good one.
Where in the world would youlike to visit as a family in?
Speaker 1 (08:45):
the world like oh as a family as a family okay well,
you know that's funny.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
We um, we traveled this summer to to london and
amsterdam and it was the firsttime that we've taken you kids
to to europe or on a trip reallylike that, because we've been
strapped to basketball for allthese years and we, we're always
going to Pinetop, or going toSan Diego?
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Yeah, going to San Diego, I would say, the Europe
trip was probably one of myfavorites.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Yeah, I thought it was so great and we were talking
about it, because some friendsof ours every year go on a trip
and a member of their familygets to pick where they're going
to go that year, and so I wouldprobably consider this trip
that we did my trip, because Iplanned it and I did all the
(09:30):
logistics of it.
So I think it would be like atrip Daddy would pick.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Right, but where would he like to go?
The question for you.
I'll tell you mine, but first,where would you like to go?
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Oh, I have a laundry list of things, but I'd love to
do a safari trip oh.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
God.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
I want to go to Wimbledon, oh.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
God, we're already there.
Why?
Oh God, we're in London alreadydone.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I want to Could you handle a safari trip.
Oh yeah, Do you think Mom canhandle a?
Speaker 3 (09:59):
safari trip.
You backpacked when you were aboy scout.
Yeah, I just see all thesecrazy videos of just animals you
know being animals in the wild.
I would assume you'd be likestop that right now.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Stop eating that animal a cheetah takes down some
caribou wild animals aren'tdogs, so right, it's gonna be a
little difficult, right?
You freak out of all of asudden you start eating
something and a cheetah takesdown something well, you, you
guys always make fun of me, Likewhat do you say?
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I can't remember, but you're like stay off.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Charlie, no Heal, no Heal, oh God.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
So I'm going to tell the cheetah to heal or off.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
I mean anything can happen in a safari trip.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
What about you, jake, where?
Speaker 3 (10:41):
would you?
I would say my first choicewould be Japan.
Oh yeah, I love Japan.
I've seen so many videos ofpeople going, just vlogs and
stuff.
I would say my second one wouldbe Italy.
I have a few friends that havebeen to Italy and they just say
it's the most amazing experiencethey've ever had.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Pizza and gelato.
Here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
With Italy.
I have been there before, sohas your mom?
We're not together at differenttimes.
Your mom actually went with mymom, but I'm hesitant to say
because I think the food is sogood and this last trip we went
on, we did a lot of walking andI think we do the opposite.
We'd be doing a lot of eatingin Italy and I'm kind of like I
don't want to gain weight.
(11:24):
So, although there's thatAmalfi Coast, is that Italy want
to gain weight?
So, although there's thatamalfi coast is that italy, I
don't even know where amalfi is?
is it italy?
I don't know.
Do you know where it is?
I don't know.
I've seen pictures and video.
It looks great.
So that looks kind of cool.
But I don't want to get stuck.
I've been to rome before and Iremember we just sat there and
ate.
In florence we just ate now.
There's a lot of good stuffthat I mean.
The food is amazing.
But it's my turn to pick thenext trip.
I kind of know that you saidJapan.
(11:46):
That would be kind of dope,although I would like to go back
to the Netherlands, because weonly spent time in Amsterdam.
I think there's a lot of theselittle.
Wouldn't it be fun to go backthere too?
Speaker 3 (11:55):
I think it'd be great , yeah, to go like outside of
the city maybe.
Yeah, that's what I mean.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
That's good, Okay.
So what else?
What's another question youhave?
Okay?
Speaker 3 (12:04):
This is a good question.
I already know the answer tothis one.
But for you guys, Do the dogsmiss Kemp and Dutch?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Absolutely positively .
Yeah, I mean Maggie.
Our English bulldog isdevastated.
She's under Dutch's bed all thetime.
She doesn't eat right, she's amess.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
Do you agree?
Actually, yeah, when you guyswere in getting the stem cells,
it was a pain because I had totake care of all of our dogs, so
I think it was like you weregone for like pretty much the
whole week.
Five days, five days, yeah.
So taking care of the dogs wastough, especially when dutch
moved away.
I remember maggie would be justsitting under his bed waiting
(12:42):
for him to come home every nightand I have to like try to get
her out without her biting me.
It's is a pain, but I candefinitely tell that there's a
lot of impact.
Did any dogs shit in the house?
No questions.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
No, comment no questions no comment.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
Oh man, I don't know.
It happened a lot.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
It happened a lot because you were playing video
games.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
No, I mean, I cleaned it up.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Still, you know what?
You all opened the door, sothey go out there.
All right, you got anotherquestion.
What has been the hardestlesson to learn when it comes to
maintaining a healthy marriage?
Speaker 2 (13:17):
oh god, that's a good one the hardest lesson to learn
, I think, communication,because you get so busy in your
personal life and you havethings that you're you're doing
for your work or your kids orwhatever, that you oftentimes
forget that you need tocommunicate with your spouse and
talk about things and downloadand all that.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
I agree with Mom.
I think communication isextremely important, like when
your mother and I are makinglove.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Oh, my God.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
Okay, I don't need to hear this, but Good Lord,
You're so wrong and you laugh.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
You think you're so funny.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
It's so uncomfortable .
Speaker 2 (13:58):
It is.
It's so uncomfortable.
Do you remember when your dadused to do this, just like your
dad?
Speaker 1 (14:04):
By the way, side note , I've got to jump back to
something.
This is my birthday today,right?
I don't think Jake knows this,but I am a little.
I'm superstitious.
You know, I'm not just stitious, I am superstitious.
And when I first started inradio in 1997 in Cincinnati, I
had a couple psychics on theshow and they would predict the
(14:25):
future and stuff.
It was a psychic named Victorand a psychic named jill and I
was like, hey, let me ask youthis you know when, how, when do
you think I'm gonna die?
And they told me, this year,this is the year I'm gonna die,
and I'm kind of freaked outabout it that is right.
So I'm hoping they're shittypsychics, but I'm hoping they
(14:46):
didn't know about stem cellsback then.
But uh, I mean, wouldn't thatbe terrible if they were right?
Right, and then you could takethis clip and run this clip over
and over again, like yes, thatwould be terrible.
This is the year, so like ayear from now, we got to come
back here and go.
I made it.
I made it.
The john j vaness podcast isstill rocking and he's alive.
(15:06):
He's alive.
Weird science's alive, weirdscience.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
What I also won't.
Let that happen you won't letthat happen.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
My boy.
No, you are in such greathealth and you are on top of
everything.
That's so wrong.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
That's an opinion from a very long time ago, I
know but I actually want to callfind her, track her down, Take
it off.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
You're worryless Because I actually want to call,
find her, track her down, takeit off your worry list, because
I am supposed to die this year,according to her.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
By the way, communication.
I agree with you.
I think it's very, very, veryimportant.
I had this thing.
We had this.
In fact, I was doing thispodcast with some marriage
coaches here and we were talkingabout a relationship, but,
blake, I never even said this toyou and I don't even know if
you know.
In fact, I'll do it here.
Do you ever see the clip thatwas posted last week about where
(15:54):
I was?
Like we were talking about allthis stuff, and I said, when I
come home from work, like I wantmy wife to greet me, I want you
to say hi to me.
And they go yeah, that's reallyimportant, it's really
important to me.
And I go know, like my kids aregoing away to college and she's
got a lot on her mind right nowand she really hasn't done that
lately.
And then they posted it.
And then the therapist made acomment Because I said in the
(16:16):
clip I go oh God, I've got totalk to her about this before it
drops.
And then they dropped thepodcast before I could talk to
you about it.
So that's a little thing for mein front of our kid.
Would you mind saying hi to mewhen I come home.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
I do every day.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
No, sometimes you're on the phone or sometimes you're
watching tennis, or sometimesyou're in that and when you're
on a Zoom or something I get it.
But sometimes I've come homeand you're like on the couch and
I'm like, when I come home Iwant to like, Like when you guys
come home.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I that completely okay, because if I'm on a zoom,
yeah, I get it.
But you usually come over to mebut I've never just laid on the
couch and not said hello, acouple times, especially during
tennis, you have no, I, I don'tthink so I'm telling you about,
I mean my it's it's happened.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
I respectfully disagree with that but like uh,
um, sometimes, how many timeshave I come home and you go oh,
I didn't know you were home.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
That's true too, because I didn't know you were
home.
You didn't make your presenceknown.
And I didn't hear the.
Usually I hear the deet, deet,deet, but lately I haven't been
hearing that, which, by the way,we should probably get that
fixed.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
But anyway, so I'm communicating right now.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Yeah, I definitely try to do that, and the only
reason that I don't is if I'm ona Zoom or something.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Do you think, jake you as our oldest son is this
the biggest fight mom and I havebeen into right now?
Speaker 3 (17:37):
Definitely not no.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
No, you've seen us fight about it.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
But I mean I would say tennis is very important to
mom, right?
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Yes, I have a 4 o'clock match today that I need
to see.
Jeez, it's coming to an end onSunday for the rest of the year.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
You look great on TV, thank you.
You are so handsome, you canget your own podcast.
Speaker 3 (17:55):
Maybe, maybe someday.
Any other questions there?
All right, this one's for Mom.
If you won the Powerball, whatwould you do?
What would be the first thingyou would do?
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Luxury-wise.
Luxury wise, I would.
Okay, I'm going to answer thisin two ways.
Luxury wise I'd love to have anairplane, and I don't want to
own the airplane.
I want to have like a set jetsor net jets, or whatever a
membership because that would beso convenient and I would love
to have that as a luxury.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Secondly, you're talking about $1.7 billion.
So, that would be a drop in thebucket.
That'd be nothing Exactly.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
But what I would do is I would spend a lot of that
money helping rescue and gettingrescue dogs adopted and helping
shelters and, because I've beenworking so hard for 11 years on
shelter prevention, I would puta lot of money towards shelter
prevention.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Wouldn't it be something like if we won $1.7
billion and you took $100million to help dog rescue?
It would change the world.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
It would absolutely People like.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Elon Musk are worth $100 billion.
Why not throw $100 million outthere?
I would agree with you, I wouldtry to do something like that.
I would also try.
Are worth $100 billion.
Why not throw $100 million outthere?
I would agree with you, I wouldtry to do something like that.
I would also try to help thehomeless community.
I would donate to so manythings.
I've already manifested it.
In other words, it's going tohappen, and mark my words when
it does happen, you can playthis clip back too and go wow,
they did do that.
They did buy a jet.
(19:25):
They did buy a jet.
No, no, no, but they did go.
We did help, right?
Yeah, I also think about like Iwant to give everybody that I
work with like a million dollars.
But then I was like, oh, butthey give me a million dollars
and they're going to quit, andthen what right?
So I thought I'd give them amillion dollars, but they I'd
give them a contract.
At the end of the contract,I'll give them a million dollars
anyway.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
These are the things I think about how would you if
you won 1.7 billion?
Is that where it's at right now?
What?
What would change your life?
Would you still go to workevery day?
Every day yeah, I might like Ican't imagine you not doing your
job, because you love your jobI would probably.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
If we had 1.7 billion , I would go to work every day
but I would probably buy thebuilding that the radio station
is in and make it the perfectstudio for us and I would hire
sales team.
I would hire management.
I'd hire everything.
I would hire everything and Ipay.
I have so much advertising Ihave like I would have john jay
and rich billboards.
Ever worse than learner in rowmore than you see I think about
(20:23):
all the time on the bus on thebuses.
I would have it everywhere.
Yeah, I would have iteverywhere.
Yeah, I would have iteverywhere.
Yeah, totally.
Anyway, is there anotherquestion?
Speaker 3 (20:33):
There's so many, all right, no good, this one's for
me.
Am I still going to themilitary?
That is a difficult question toanswer because I'm kind of
still deciding.
I mean, I'm still doing school,so a few more semesters, but I
would say that is still up there.
But I'm also deciding otherthings too, like if I want to do
stuff with McCarthy, go back,do another internship or just,
(20:58):
you know, do something else.
But yeah, military still is aninterest of mine that I'd like
to do if.
I had to join a branch, I'deither pick probably the Army or
the Marines, just those two.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Well, I have to tell you, I think if you went into
the military your parents wouldbe so proud, proud to have a son
in the military.
You'd be scared because first,of all, I think the Marines are
the first ones they send outright.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
Right, there's a war.
First response Right, I knowthere's a war.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
First response Right, I know, that's scary.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
But also if he's an Eagle Scout, so he has a rank
advancement and he will have adegree.
So he has an opportunity.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
But you're also 22 years old, so you have
everything ahead of you rightnow.
You know what I mean.
There's a million.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
Let's say there's a million.
Let's say you, what else?
What?
Let's say there's what wouldyou want to do if you could do
anything you want?
What would you want to be?
That is a tough question.
Uh, probably.
Um, I don't know something withentertainment.
Like I want to do like stuffwith movies.
Maybe I want to do um, justlike make content for anything.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Really I think like working with mccarthy.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
it was fun doing some of the marketing stuff.
I would say like making videosfor them, like making it kind of
my own thing, was really coolyou got good feedback on that
too oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
I think soon they're going tobe playing at one of their
events, at one of my videos I'vemade before I left, so, yeah,
that'd be pretty sick.
That's awesome.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
That's very cool.
What else, let's see.
I got some questions too.
Do you have any more?
I have some too.
Let's see.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Can Blake give advice to wives with ADHD husbands?
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Oh my gosh it's funny because we're opposite in that
way.
I'm very more like strategicand more organized and that kind
of stuff.
I think patience and justlearning how your spouse
operates differently than youare and being accepting of it.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
Do you think I have ADHD?
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Oh for sure, 100% Like you're all over the place
all the time, Do you think Ihave?
Speaker 1 (23:04):
ADHD.
Do you think I have ADHD?
Oh, for sure, 100%.
Like you're all over the placeall the time.
Do you think I have ADHD?
Do you think?
Speaker 3 (23:07):
I have HD ADHD.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Do you have a high-definition D?
Dd?
I think a lot of people havethat.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
I think so too.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Very common, yeah, it is very common.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
I would say, though, coffee.
If you have ADHD and you drinkcoffee, it helps so much.
Yeah, Like I drink two cups ofcoffee a day every morning.
Do?
Speaker 1 (23:26):
you think you have ADHD.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
I don't have I mean I'm pretty I don't know.
I mean I'm pretty tired when Iwake up.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
so you go to bed at two in the morning.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
That's true.
Yeah, that's very true, do youthink?
Speaker 2 (23:37):
you have ADHD, do you think?
I just think, though, for you,like, your brain never stops,
like even when you go to sleepat night, your whole body moves,
remember when Jake used tosleep with us and he was like
that.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
I still do that.
Oh, you moved all the time.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Yeah, I'd still move in my bed.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
Will you sleep with us tonight?
I would like for you to sleepin the middle between me and Mom
tonight.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Here's a question.
I'll probably be getting in bedwhile you begin going up to
work Exactly.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Blake, what are you reading right now?
John Jay, what are you watchingright now?
That's from Michelle inPennsylvania.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
Oh, I'm reading Kissing Girls on Shabbat.
It's a memoir of a gal who wasin a I can't remember the name
of the Jewish religion, but it'sa very strict.
Jewish religion, no, but it's asector of it.
A sitting Jew yes, a sitting Jew, yes and she ends up getting
(24:40):
married and getting a divorce adivorce which is not really
allowed and then gettingremarried and then leaving um
for a woman and she has kids,and so it's very, uh, it's very
interesting to see and I onlyhave like 20 pages left and I
can't wait to read the end of itdo you guys ever go to bed
(25:04):
angry?
I don't think so.
I think that's one of thethings we've always been pretty
decent at.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Well, you don't know it, but I go to bed angry all
the time.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
Unless you don't tell me that you're mad.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
I don't tell you.
No, I don't tell you.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
Why wouldn't wait?
Hold on, You're going to justgloss over that.
Why wouldn't you tell me ifyou're angry?
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Because I'm tired and then by the time I wake up I'm
not angry anymore.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
But what?
Speaker 1 (25:27):
would you.
When you do what I do for aliving and you get up I got up
at 2.30 this morning, right andas the day goes on you get so
irrational your logic doesn'tmake sense, so you get mad about
certain things.
And then I realize I'm so madright now.
And then I get up in themorning and I talk to other
people on the show the same way,where it's like.
(25:48):
The next morning I wake up, I'mrested Boy.
That was stupid.
I'm glad I didn't say anythingto her.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Okay, give me an example.
I can't think of anything.
Well, I'd like to know.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
Okay, it seems like it was Okay, let's go Yesterday.
I got mad yesterday.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
I knew you were mad.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
What do you think I was mad about?
Speaker 2 (26:08):
I didn't know why.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
But you knew I was mad.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
I knew you were mad, but I was also tired.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
I've been up since 3.
I got up at 3 in the morningyesterday.
I went and I did a radio showmeeting about stuff which you
didn't ask me about hold on I'lltell you about.
You didn't ask me about thatand then you didn't say how was
your?
You text me during the show andyou say how's the show going?
But when I come home like youdidn't ask me how my day was,
but you were watching tenniswhen I came home, right?
(26:32):
But you're also recovering.
This has nothing to do withwhat I was saying earlier, does?
Speaker 3 (26:36):
tennis make you angry .
I'm watching tennis.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
She took over the whole tv.
Now I can't watch tv, but wait,so then that's the bottom line
was when you went on the zoomsand you made me wait, so I
wanted to leave the house oh, Iknew that I left, I it was like
2 15 and I had.
No, yeah, I had a meeting.
I was done off my meeting atone at 2 15.
I was doing my meeting at 2 15and I was up, right, because the
(27:01):
thing when you get up as earlyas I do, when you slow down,
when you stop, you crash.
You get really tired and youdon't want to re-motivate.
So I was off the meeting.
There was a lot of energy inthe meeting and I'm like, okay,
so you guys are closed.
I gotta go buy my lotto tickets.
I had my numbers ready, I hadall this, I had a whole system
ready and I walked downstairsand mom's on a zoom and I'm like
, hey, uh, I'm gonna go get alot of tickets, just wait wait,
(27:23):
wait, wait, wait and I'm likebecause she's recovering, like
laying in.
So I was like does she want togo with me to get the lottery
tickets, or does she want towait me to wait to say she, she
want to tell me something?
So I sit down on the couch,tennis is on and she's on a zoom
, so I can't change the channeland watch what I want to watch
multitasking also.
She's on mute she's on the zoom.
(27:44):
So I'm like I'm waiting and I'mwaiting, and I waited 45
minutes like she never once saidI want to go with you.
She didn't say, she didn't saywait.
Uh, I just want to tell youthis one thing.
And she didn't say so.
I was just waiting and waitingand finally I said do I go, do
you want to come with me?
And she goes yeah, I'd like,I'd like to.
And I was like, oh okay,because my thought was I'm going
(28:05):
to go get the lotto tickets,come home, and then we'd go pick
up food to eat dinner becauseshe was recovering.
But it turns out that's notwhat she wanted to go get the
lotto tickets.
I mean, she wanted to gogrocery shopping.
So that's so stated.
I was irritated at that when Iwoke up this morning morning.
That was silly and it didn'tmatter.
You see what I'm saying.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (28:23):
yeah, but I could tell you were mad last night,
right, but I didn't want to sayanything, because we get this
huge fight and it's a stupidfight.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
So I am aware of the irritability that I have, I'm
aware that I'm tired and I'maware that if I bring this up,
we're gonna get into a nine-hourfight for no reason.
When I get some rest, I'll befine in the morning.
I woke up this morning and Iwas fine.
Do you get what I'm saying?
See, but also, you should havebeen like I mean, don't you feel
bad making me wait for 45minutes?
Speaker 2 (28:49):
I would wait for you for 10 hours, god, so no.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
You gotta find yourself a woman like your mom,
right?
Okay, wait other questions.
How did you guys meet?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
How did we meet?
Through our friend ChristyPileman.
She introduced us.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
That's true.
That's true.
Christy and I grew up togetherin Chandler and Christy was
picking me up.
I broke my leg.
I broke my ankle and Christywas picking me up to go to a
party at her house.
We stopped at your mom's houseto pick up jello shots that your
mom had made.
Are you excited?
(29:23):
What are you excited for inthis next chapter of life, now
that the boys are completelygrown?
Yeah, that one blake.
Can you answer that one?
Speaker 2 (29:31):
I think we've talked about a lot recently and that is
like we would love to traveland do some things.
So for me it's, you know,spending more time at the beach
and doing some fun traveling.
Speaker 1 (29:46):
What's your current favorite activity to do together
?
Speaker 2 (29:50):
I think we have different answers.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
What's yours?
Speaker 2 (29:53):
My favorite thing that we do is play backgammon
every weekend.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
So we wake up, we do our thing, I meditate, you do
your stretches.
So we go have.
We wake up, we do our thing, Imeditate, you do your stretches.
And then we go have coffeesomewhere and we play backgammon
.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
That's good.
What do you think mine is?
I like when we film ourlovemaking.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
What is wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (30:21):
Just kidding, you will never find that I don't
know what our favorite thing isto do together.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
I do enjoy why wouldn't you have something that
you like?
Because I think I know, what itis.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
What do you think?
Speaker 3 (30:30):
it is, I think, all eating dinner together.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
I love eating dinner together.
I write it down every, every.
Every morning I write down mygoals and stuff, and at night I
write down three things that Iloved about today and the last
couple days have been the threeof us eating dinner together.
I love it.
It's one of my favorite momentsof the day, that's good one,
jake in fact it says what's achange you're going through but
weren't expecting.
(30:52):
Now that the two boys have left, I don't know, because I not
monitoring, dutch maybe nothat's true.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
I mean the.
The stress level of dutch is islower.
You know, I talked to him todaya couple times.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
You know he told me I said so because now he's living
in the dorms.
It's been two weeks to college.
I was like so like are you?
He goes, I go, are you partyingstill?
And he goes, everybody in thisdorm room on this floor parties
every single night.
He goes the first four days hegoes.
The first four days I partied,he, he goes, but now I don't.
But he plays 2K.
He plays video games all day,11 hours, 12 hours of video
(31:29):
games.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
Best money we've ever spent is letting him transfer
his own money into his accountto buy that.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
Oh, I didn't know that Seriously?
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Yeah, no, that's exactly what we did.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
Let's see.
Oh, I have a one and a halfyear old son and I'm 20 weeks
pregnant with baby number two.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Give me your best parenting advice?
Oh, I think patience.
I mean we had two closetogether and then the third one
not far behind, and it's youknow what I?
I wish I would have enjoyed thestressful moments a little bit
more.
I agree completely with youBecause now it's like now
they're grown and there'sdifferent stresses with them,
(32:12):
but when you're in the thick ofit, you're like God, I'm so
tired and I'm so frustrated andthis is too much and how am I
going to handle this?
And instead of like going, thisis the greatest gift ever these
two are fighting.
This is awesome.
We've created these humanbeings Like.
I tell that to people all thetime.
(32:32):
I know you and I, when we seeeach other, see other people,
when we're out together and theyhave like three boys or
whatever, we're always like, ohmy gosh, enjoyed them so much.
We sat next to these cutelittle girls the other Sunday
when we were having coffee andplaying backgammon and these
three girls were the cutestlittle things.
They had chocolate all overtheir faces and their dad was
(32:54):
with them and they said thatthey have one more little baby
girl at home and I was like, ohmy gosh, even in the rough
moments, just enjoy.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
I know I miss you as a little kid, but I love you as
a man.
I know I love your little, yourlittle cheekies, and you're such
a beautiful little kid and yoursmile, oh my gosh, I saw this
post and I talked about it onthe radio show today because
this guy, this guy just had ababy, him and his wife and the
baby.
They just went home thehospital.
He's asking for advice.
Like that, just like thismessage, and it was like people
(33:24):
would say you know, it goes sofast.
Blink of an eye.
And I saw this post.
That was like it was about whatmom just said and it was like
that was the blink, like we wereliving in the blink.
So now, 10 years from now, I'mgoing to look back and, like man
, remember when Jake interviewedus.
We sat and interviewed Jake.
Like this time, right now, isthe new blink.
(33:44):
So I'm learning to accept andappreciate every moment that we
have with you, jake.
That's really good yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
Are you excited to go on more dates?
Yeah, I love date night.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
What was your first reaction when you found out that
John Jay likes your?
Speaker 2 (34:05):
feet.
Do you know about your?
Dad's foot fetish for your mom?
No comment.
I mean, I don't know, that wasso long ago.
That was like when we weredating.
You've always liked feet.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
Look at these beautiful feet, jake.
Look at your mom's feet.
Let me see.
Look at these babies.
Look at these babies.
They're my favorite.
They're the best, okay.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
Do you?
They're my favorite, they'rethe best, okay, do you have any
other questions over there, jake?
Uh, I think I got most of them.
I have a question for jake,okay, okay, you're 22.
In the future you'll be married, you'll have children.
What are one, or what are oneor two things that you would
take from your childhood thatyou would bring into your
marriage or into yourrelationship or to your kids?
Speaker 3 (34:47):
that's tough.
Um, I would say I'd probablyget him.
Uh, if they're, if they're guys, I'd probably get him into
scouting, like boy scouts andstuff just because going through
that made me kind of like moreaware of everything.
Also, you learn new things.
Um, you learn how to be, youknow uh, what do you call it
(35:11):
just like by yourself and learnnew things and it's just.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
I think it's a great way of you know, becoming more,
like you know, interested inwhatever it is you want to do
yeah, that was one of thegreatest things we ever did, man
, was when you took your boyscouts and you fell in love with
it.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Oh yeah, that's another thing like the camping
trips, like you just learn it's.
It's a great tool.
You just learn, like so manythings, there's a deal with all
kinds of situations you don't,you don't realize that when
you're in scouting, but thenafter you're like, oh, I, oh, I
know how to do this, I know howto do that.
There's just so many greattools with scouting.
Plus, if you become an EagleScout, I mean, you're an Eagle
(35:50):
Scout, you have a lot of, Ithink I don't know, I don't know
the percentage, but not a lotof people make it as an Eagle
Scout.
Exactly right, it's a greatthing.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
And we've heard along the way like people that didn't
finish and they regretted notfinishing.
Yeah, you know, if I were toanswer my own question, there
are two things that I broughtfrom my family to you guys, and
that was I love a round tablebecause I think you can see each
other and I love that whenyou're sitting at dinner or
(36:26):
breakfast or lunch or whateverit is and you can see each other
.
And the other thing that Ibrought was on Christmas Eve we
get to open all the family gifts.
So we only open Santa gifts onChristmas Day and I love that
tradition.
I love that all the familycomes over Christmas Eve, we do
all the celebrating and thenthey and it's the Venice Five.
Speaker 1 (36:47):
That's my favorite part is when they leave.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
You're so rude.
Did you bring anything that youremember from your family?
Speaker 1 (36:56):
We used to open them all at Christmas once we found
out the secrets.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
But is there anything that you brought on purpose to
our family from your childhood?
Speaker 1 (37:09):
I learned that dinner as a family.
My dad always wanted us to havedinner together.
We always had as much as wecould.
We always had dinner together,no matter what.
I love that.
We only went out when I was akid.
We didn't have a lot of money,so we would go out whenever
something amazing happened, likemaybe once every five years, my
(37:33):
dad was able to treat us andwe'd go to Black Angus or we'd
go to, which was an oldsteakhouse it's not like a Steak
44.
But like I don't know what youcall it, but it was great.
I still have great memories ofthat or a place called bobby
mcgee's.
There was something fancy andthat was fancy to us.
Um, I, you know that's a greatquestion.
(37:55):
Like what did I bring?
I think I brought my dad'ssense of humor.
I think I brought, uh, I I lookat some of the stuff you guys
do young men and I go I jokeabout.
I always say, oh, when someonesays your kids are so nice, oh,
they got that all from their momand I do believe that.
But I see some good qualitiesthat you guys got from me and I
(38:17):
think I got those from my dad,my mom, handsome son of a bitch,
you.
Uh, let's see what else we have.
Oh, blake, out of all the times, john jay decides to go to a
concert.
He wants to take you tobackstreet boys in vegas and you
don't want to go.
Why?
You remember that yeah, I do.
(38:41):
I was like let's go, let's goback because out of all the
concerts in my life, we sawBackstreet Boys in Miami.
Do you remember?
Yes and they were phenomenal.
And to see them at the spherein Vegas, which is an hour
flight, I was like there was anopportunity.
It was the one weekend we hadnothing going on.
I was like let's shoot upSaturday and come home Sunday.
But we were leaving, we weregoing, there was a lot going on.
Speaker 2 (39:01):
I think were we taking Dutch to school.
Speaker 1 (39:06):
No, no, it was Saturday.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
I forgot what was going on.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
We were getting ready to go.
We just had a lot going on.
We were going somewhere.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
It wasn't because I didn't want to do it, it was
because we had commitments andno, we didn't have commitments?
Speaker 1 (39:19):
No, we didn't have commitments.
It was just the one day wedidn't have something going on,
like we were going to take Dutchschool that Tuesday, then we
were going to go to Mexico forwhatever.
We just had a lot Austin.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
We were going on, it was one of those.
It was one of those.
We just had a lot going on,okay.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
Anyway, okay, I think .
Is there anything else?
Love pup, do you want to makethe big announcement about Love
Pub Family Fest?
I do, it's going to be amazing.
It's November 15th at VertuccioFarms.
November 15th.
At Vertuccio Farms, it'stotally free.
(39:55):
It's from 4 pm till 8 pm 8 pmand the acts that nobody knows
about they're going to beperforming for free are gym
class heroes and fits in thetantrums and, of course, the
rich bear band, right, rich bearband opening up.
I think fits goes on then gymclass heroes goes on.
(40:16):
It's gonna be freaking insane.
You are invited absolutely free.
It's it's love pup family fest.
It's mccarthy sponsored it.
It's kiss fm, it's mix 96.9.
It's iheart radio.
Who else are the sponsors?
Speaker 2 (40:32):
blake we have learner and row learner and row my god
we have discover discover valleytoyota dealers toyota dealers
are all, it's just top love it.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
What a wonderful event.
And we are inviting you, bringyour family, bring your kids,
bring your dogs.
We're going to have dog rescuesfrom all over the valley.
They're going to be showcasingtheir dogs, all up for adoption.
It's like our.
How many of these have we doneso far?
Speaker 2 (40:55):
This is eight.
Speaker 1 (40:56):
Wow, this is our eighth one.
So it's Love Pup Family Fest.
This is the first time we'vetalked about it anywhere, so, uh
, it'll be huge, all right.
So anyway, that's a good job.
How do you?
How do you think this wenttoday for you?
Speaker 3 (41:07):
because I know you were really hesitant first time
I would say pretty okay, I guessI think you did great.
I feel like if I came back onI'd do a little bit better,
really, yeah, okay, you want to?
Speaker 1 (41:17):
come back tomorrow, I'd love to have you back on
part of the deal of youfinishing school from our house
so you have to do a podcast, youshould come back to me for the
zombie podcast.
Of course, that would be sick,because I don't even understand
that podcast right now.
If you're listening to this,you're like zombie podcast.
Yeah, we got a podcast with azombie professor at ASU, right?
(41:38):
Anyway, that's our couple'spodcast.
Don't dream it, be it, okay.
So welcome to our podcast.
This is a little bit differenttoday, because this podcast is a
spinoff of our radio show you.
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