Episode 4: Top 3 Traits of a Conscious Couple

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Vanessa (00:01):
Welcome to the Jordan and Vanessa show.
I'm Vanessa and I'm Jordan, andtoday we're going to talk about
what makes a conscious couple.

Jordan (00:09):
There are three things that we've come up with what we
would describe as a consciouscouple ourselves.

Vanessa (00:15):
Yes, After thinking about it for a long time, we've
boiled it down to the top threetraits.
The first trait and I believethe most is tending to your own
vibration.
The second is allowing yourpartner to be fully themselves
and allowing yourself to beauthentic too.
And the last and third trait isintentionally co-creating a

(00:37):
satisfying life experiencetogether.

Jordan (00:39):
Absolutely.
I'd say the first two areindividually focused it's really
what you're working on withinyourself and then the third one
is whenever you co-create as ateam.
Yeah, and I think ultimately,that is the funnest part of
being a conscious couple, in myopinion, is being able to share
a common vision for your lifeand really intentionally

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manifest it together and have alot of fun along the way.
So totally.
Let's get into these threepoints individually.

Vanessa (01:09):
Yes.

Jordan (01:10):
Starting with number one .

Vanessa (01:11):
So we're going to start with the most important one,
which is tending to your ownvibe, Because if you don't tend
to your own vibration, then therest of life pretty much sucks
yeah absolutely.

Jordan (01:27):
It's pretty much a universal.
If you're not attending yourown vibration, it's going to be
a thing.

Vanessa (01:29):
Cause, really, if you, if you don't take care of
yourself, if you don't take careof your own vibration, then
there's really nothing you cangive to another.

Jordan (01:38):
Yeah, absolutely, I'd say it's really important that
we always remember we all havean individual point of
attraction going on and while wehave relationships in our lives
that are highly meaningful andbecome what feels like is a part
of us, right at the end of theday you still have an individual

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point of attraction going onthat you need to tend to, and
it's never your partner's job tovibrate for you.
In fact, we have a pretty funnystory about this.
We were at an Abraham Hicksconference, actually on a cruise
, and Abraham called up a manand he got up there and got in

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the chair and they said, allright, what'd you like to talk
about?
And he was like, well, I didn'tactually have a question.
And they said, all right,what'd you like to?

Vanessa (02:25):
talk about and he was like well, I didn't actually
have a question, my wife had aquestion, so let me, I'd like
you to go call my wife up.
So you can answer her question.

Jordan (02:31):
Exactly, or if you're not going to call her up, then
I'm going to ask her a questionfor her.
Yeah.
And Abraham literally looks athim and goes dude, you can't
vibrate for another person.

Vanessa (02:46):
It was actually you up here.
It was a huge example that theywere setting for the whole room
, which was exactly that.
You can't vibe for somebodyelse.

Jordan (02:52):
Yeah, totally, and he goes well.
I didn't have a question, itwas my wife's question and they
go exactly.

Vanessa (02:57):
Go sit down, go sit down.

Jordan (02:59):
And they literally sent the guy away because their only
point was you can't vibrate foranother person.
We didn't call her up here.
We called you up here, andthat's basically how the
universe works.
It's always responding to yourown individual point of
attraction, your own individualvibration.
And.
I really love that and I thinkfor me personally, on top of

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tending to my own vibration formyself, I also feel like that's
one of my biggest contributionsto you and our family unit is
whenever I'm living an above thegreen line life, then I feel
like that's where all my powerand influence lies in actually
helping pave the way for otherpeople to live an above the

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green Line experience as well.

Vanessa (03:43):
Definitely there's a vibrational mix that's always
going on.
So, for example, there's yourvibrational signature, there's
my vibrational signature andthen there's the vibrational mix
of our vibrational signatures.
And then you have our threekids.
So we're at home, say, in theliving room, and then all of a
sudden one of the kids comes in.
Now there's a vibrational mixbetween all three of our

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vibrational signatures, and thenanother kid comes in and then
there's another vibrationalsignature of that vibrational
mix.
So, there's always thisvibrational dance going on, and
whatever your vibrationalsignature is in the moment, it
can be felt by those around you.
So tending to your ownvibration is so important.

Jordan (04:25):
Absolutely in terms of relationship and also, at the
end of the day, your emotionalguidance system is responding to
what you've got going on inyour mind and the vibration that
you're offering so you can besitting in the room amongst a
bunch of people that are abovethe green line and be tormenting
yourself and your own mind, andI know we've all had that

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experience before, where you'resitting there and you're
experiencing potentiallyemotional pain, maybe below the
green line emotional state, andit's because of what you're
focused on or how you're focusedon it.

Vanessa (04:59):
Right your self-talk.

Jordan (05:00):
Your self-talk exactly and relative to how the infinite
part of your consciousness isseeing it.
So, at the end of the day,because no one can vibrate for
you, no one can force you tofeel a certain way, At the end
of the day.
You've got to tend to that.
And if you're going to live anabove the green line life,
you've really got to tend toyour own vibration first.

Vanessa (05:21):
Definitely.
I know for myself.
I grew up in a house where Iwas really training my
vibrational muscles to be anempath.
So when I was younger, when Iwas two years old, my sister
passed away and eventually myparents got a divorce a few
years later.
So I was always trying to fillthis gap in the house, this

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vibrational gap, to really justbring the energy above the green
line.
I didn't know what I was doingback then, but now when I look
back I can.
I can just kind of observe thatmy actions and just how I was
feeling.
I was really trying to raisethe energy because there was a
lot of stuff going on.
And so over the years I trainedmyself to really just be able

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to read people's energy and Ifeel like I even brought that to
our marriage where I couldreally feel where you were and I
would really just try to meetyou there.
But I've discovered over theyears that you have no influence
, you have no power whenever youjoin somebody below the green
line.
So it's kind of like there's abig gaping hole and you have all

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of these tools that you couldhelp them out of the hole with
while you stay above the hole,but instead of getting the rope
or the pulley or whatever it isthat you could actually help
them with and throw that intothe hole and when they're ready,
they can climb on out.
You just jump into the holewith them and now you're both
screwed Now you're both downthere, powerless and

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non-influential.
And then maybe eventually youcan whittle your way out.
But over the years I'vediscovered that's not the way to
do it.
I like me.
Joining you or anybody elsebelow the green line doesn't do
anything for me and it doesn'tdo anything for anybody else.

Jordan (07:05):
Yeah, absolutely.
I'd say one thing and just tobe clear, when we talk about the
green line, we're basicallysaying above the green line is
positive emotional statesgenerally that feel good, and
below the green line are what wewould call negative emotional
states that don't feel supergreat.
And the further you get fromthe green line, the worse it

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feels on the low side, and thefurther you get from the green
line on the high side, thebetter it feels.
So ultimately, I find itinteresting how infrequent it is
that both of us go below thegreen line, and that's one of
the great things about aconscious couple is because
we're both tending to our ownvibration.
First, I may dip below the greenline because of how I'm focused

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on something and beexperiencing the negative
emotional repercussion of it,but you haven't gone there, so
you can still be living thisabove the green line life and I
feel like it is a great thing tohave someone who's above the
green line.
If you're below the green linebecause you've just got this
example of someone who's happyand you kind of have an elastic

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pull almost back to the rightside of the green line, almost
like a rubber band, as if thepartner's saying hey, listen,
man, I'm not coming down thereto meet you.
All right, I'm not doing itLike.
This is where all my power andinfluence lies.
This is where I want to be withmy kids, this is where I want
to be as I enjoy this dinner orI enjoy whatever I'm doing in my
life.
So you know you're eithercoming back up here or you're

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going to stay in that hole byyourself.

Vanessa (08:37):
Yeah, and sometimes it's definitely annoying
whenever you're below the greenline and the other person is
above the green line.
It's annoying hearing all oftheir positive feedback on what
on your negative lean, you know.
So I feel like over time wealso get really good at reading
that energy in each other.
So if one of us needs space,then the other one gives them

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space and grace it's like.
I understand like this isn't whothey are.
They're feeling negativeemotion because they're focused
in a way that that infinite partof themselves isn't focused,
but they're going to come back,they'll.
They're going to come backabove the green line and I'm
just going to give them space tofind their way back.
And we always do no-transcriptlot of weight off your shoulders

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too, if you come at it fromthat perspective, because then
it takes away the conditions.
It takes away all of theseconditions you place on yourself
, or the perceived expectationsof what they expect of you,
because then you're not tryingto operate in a way that makes
your partner happy, you're justoperating in a way that allows

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you to be fully yourself andallows them to be fully
themselves, which brings me topoint number two, which is
allowing your partner to befully themselves and allowing
yourself to be authentically you, which I believe we've done
from the onset of ourrelationship.

Jordan (10:30):
Oh, absolutely.
So we have some pretty funnystories.
I've always been a pretty bigenergy and I've been excited
about life and I've had friendsin the past that were
well-meaning, basicallyliterally coach me that if I
wanted to be in a relationshipwith a normal person, I needed
to dim my light.
Like literally they'd say dude,I love you, I get it, you're a

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super high energy person, I likeit, but I know who you are and
it's great to be around that.
But if you're ever going todate like a normal person,
you're going to have to tone itdown.

Vanessa (11:09):
And I had buddies like literally teach me how to
interact with normal people.

Jordan (11:11):
Well, you were even dating people who said that you
were too happy.
Yeah, absolutely, and that'skind of how it is whenever
you're an above the green lineperson.
You're the conscious creator ofyour reality.
You've come into consciousawareness of universal law and
you're pretty pumped aboutbringing yourself into harmony
with universal principle tocreate the life of your dreams.

Vanessa (11:28):
You know you're excited about being the conscious
creator of your reality.
And they're like um, I justwoke up, can we not yeah?

Jordan (11:36):
Or I have not woke up, can we not?

Vanessa (11:40):
That would almost be a way to say it, and I don't want
to wake up and I don't want towake up.
I won't be waking up.
Can you just not be so happy soI'm more comfortable?

Jordan (11:48):
Yeah totally so.
I think it's funny that I've hadthose experiences in the past
and I literally got to the pointwhere if it was going to be
myself on the chopping block,like basically I'm never going
to be able to be myself on thechopping block, like basically
I'm never going to be able to bemyself, but I'm going to be

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able to have a relationship witha normal person.
Or I was going to allow myselfto be fully me and I would have
to be alone.
Then at that point I just choseI would rather be fully me and
alone than some dumbed down,dimmed down version of myself.
Right.
And that was actually rightbefore you met.

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I kind of had this releasewhere I was just like you know
what, it's okay At the end ofthe day, if I'm too much for the
world.
If there's not like a personout there that can handle this
energy or build this co-creativelife with me, then I'm at least
going to allow myself to be me.
And there was some sort of anunlock in that for me, Cause I

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remember when I had this kind ofsurreal experience where I
really sat with that and becameokay with being myself alone,
Two weeks later I met you, whichis really trippy.
Such divine timing, yeah, suchdivine timing and the cool thing
is, from the very beginning,both of us gave ourselves

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permission to just be ourselves,because I had tried the other
and it didn't work for me.
So I was like she's going tosee all of it from the very
beginning, and that way, if itworks, it works, and if it
doesn't, then that's okay too.
And that's what was really coolabout us is we were both
completely us and it completelyworked.

Vanessa (13:32):
It's incredible we went through.
I remember a couple years intoour relationship.
We went all the way back to ourinitial texting to each other
and it was just so funny how uswe were at the beginning, even
in those beginning stages, youknow a lot of people are trying
to impress each other at thebeginning of a relationship.
But we just like, we let thefull crazy just come through and

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we were just like being funnyand being ourselves and silly
and it was just really neat tosee how authentic we were from
the from the start yeah, Iremember like whenever we first
started dating, we had onlyknown each other for like a few
days, and one day you just sentme a picture of a real baby.

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So I had told them that I workedat.
At the time I was working witha church in the town that we
lived and I would volunteersometimes to work with the
babies at the church.

Jordan (14:28):
Yeah, well, I had kind of forgotten that she might be
at work that day.
So like one morning I just getthis text message and it's a
baby and I'm like, whose baby'sthat you know?
Yeah.

Vanessa (14:41):
He's like oh no, I didn't know, I just met her.

Jordan (14:46):
I was unaware.
She was a baby mama she couldhave a baby, and then obviously,
you didn't have a baby at thetime.
But it was just funny that,like in the beginning, you're
still learning things about eachother and we're most prone in
the beginning to kind of put onthis version of ourselves that
isn't really us.

Vanessa (15:06):
Put on this veil, yeah, put on this veil Of perfection.

Jordan (15:10):
Yeah, like kind of like your Instagram life, like this
is what my life is actually like, you know.
And ultimately we wonder why, ayear or two years down the road
, things don't work out withsome people.
Well, from the very beginning,maybe they weren't genuine, not
because they didn't want to bebut, because they had these
perceived expectations of apartner like oh, this is

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probably what they're going towant to see from me, so that's
how I'm going to show up.

Vanessa (15:35):
Right.
No, such a beautiful unfoldingbecause of that foundation that
we laid at the very beginning,of authenticity and just
completely letting the otherperson see who we, who we were
and who we are and it was crazyseeing how thing characteristics
of ourselves that we may haveseen as negative, like you were

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just talking about people likeyour closest friends they were
like, well, you can't be youlike you're too much, you're too
much of an energy, like, well,you can't be you like you're too
much, you're too much of anenergy.
Things like that I actually sawas really incredible traits.
So things like that were thingsthat I was attracted to.
So it was funny because thethings that we may have seen as

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negative characteristics toourselves, the other person
actually brought out as positivecharacteristics.
So it's just like this beautifulintertwining of our
characteristics, of ourselvesand just this beautiful
unfolding in our relationship.

Jordan (16:33):
Yeah, totally.
And I would say, if you're atone of those spots where maybe
you're in between relationshipsor you just haven't found like
this conscious coupling thatwe're referring to, I can tell
you that I definitelyexperienced that At the time
that I met her, I was 28 yearsold and I was starting to have
these thoughts of well, oh mygosh, I'm single, like for me to

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ever have the dream life thatI've always wanted, of With the
kids and the family.

Vanessa (17:01):
Exactly All of the things.
My time clock is ticking.
Yeah, my clock is ticking.

Jordan (17:05):
Like, in a way, you just see yourself getting older and
it's like you start to gothrough the traditional idea of
like what relationship issupposed to look like.
And it's like, well, if I metsomeone tomorrow, then I'd have
to do the preliminary dating totry to figure out who she is and
have her figure out who I am,and then there's going to be a
certain amount of time that goesby, and then, once the time

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goes by, then you can proposeand then, once that happens,
then you can get married andthen, hopefully, you know.
So I'm like, oh man, I'm like sofar out from the potential for
this awesome life to developbecause you're putting standard
clocks on things.
But the great thing about aconscious couple is when you
really come into therelationship being you and your

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partner does the same thing, andyou've also had it built into
yourself that you're tending toyour own vibration first and
you've allowed yourself to beyou and because of that you're
encouraging your partner to bethe same.
Right, it's like I want you intotality, I want you in entirety
, I want to know all of it, Iwant you to be the fullest

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version of you, because if we'regoing to be a conscious couple.
That's the you that I want toexperience.
So in allowing yourself to beyou, you also give your partner
permission to do the same.
Right.
And it's this really beautifulunfolding.
So from the time that we met,we were engaged in six months,
married a year after that andhad our first baby in 2019.

Vanessa (18:36):
Right, yeah, it was just so easy.
Everything flowed so easily.
I had never met somebody that Iwanted to be with 24-7.
I had heard so many people say,like, well, marriage is
basically you having to.
What's the word?
You have to?

Jordan (18:54):
give up yes.

Vanessa (18:56):
So many people told me you have to compromise in
marriage.
Like you bring things to thetable, he brings things to the
table and you're going to haveto compromise with some things
because they won't match up.
But I've never felt that way inour marriage.
And I feel like that is veryunique, and it's now that I've
experienced it.
It's so possible, and that'sjust something that I really

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want people to hear is that theydon't have to settle, because
there were so many times beforewe met each other that we just
thought, since we had neverexperienced anything like this,
we thought, well, this must beit, this must be all there is
out there, right?
What if he doesn't exist?
What if Jordan Buckingham isn'tout there?

Jordan (19:37):
for me yeah, what if it's crazy to think that I ever
had sort of those trains ofthought?
Right.
But also, deep underneath itall, I had this belief that
matches a Denzel Washingtonquote, which I'll say, but I
basically believed, if I hadthis huge desire within me to

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experience this, that it must bepossible.

Vanessa (20:02):
I love how Denzel Washington must be possible.

Jordan (20:04):
And Denzel Washington has a quote.
He says true desire in theheart for anything good is God's
proof, sent beforehand, thatit's already yours.
And I get chill bumps thinkingabout it because I really
latched onto that and I was justlike you know what, Anytime I
was down or didn't know if itwas going to happen or whatever
people are telling you not to beyou.

Vanessa (20:25):
Yeah, people are telling me not to be me.

Jordan (20:27):
You know, I would think you know what.
I still had this powerfuldesire for this.
I want this so badly and I justbelieve that it's possible for
me and it must be out there.
And so, as low as I would getand as much as you would kind of
go down those rabbit holes Iwas describing earlier,
sometimes I still always hadthis glimmer of hope within me

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that I would just never let die.
So if you're watching this andyou're kind of in that place
where you're wondering if youhave true desire in the heart
for something like this, aconscious coupling, it's out
there for you there is a personwho's in vibrational harmony
with you.
And that particular person maynot be in harmony with you right
this red hot minute, but wealways like to ask ourselves the

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question if you can have lessof what you want now or more of
what you want later when do youwant it?

Vanessa (21:19):
Wouldn't you choose later?

Jordan (21:20):
Yeah, Like wouldn't you choose later?
And most people would say, well, I'd rather wait and get more
of what I want, and that's kindof how it is with relationship
intersections.
I would say, so this is alittle bit of the how to of the
woo woo, but it's kind of likehow do you wait or how do you

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have the patience to be able toallow that intersection to
happen?

Vanessa (21:49):
And for us like it just wouldn't have worked any other
time.
The time that we met was theexact right timing because you
were 28, but I was 21.
Right.
Because we have a seven yearage gap there.

Jordan (21:58):
Right.

Vanessa (21:58):
So it wouldn't have made sense.
What am I?
14?

Jordan (22:01):
Yeah, yeah, totally so like I wanted to have a
relationship like what we havewhenever I was, say, 24, but you
were 17 at the time.
That doesn't work.
So, at the end of the day, itneeds to happen when it needs to
happen and there'll be abeautiful unfolding toward it.
You just remind yourself, basedon, or I just remind myself,

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based on my experience now, thatthat intersection was a
beautiful, perfect intersectionthat was exactly right, exactly
when it needed to happen.
It was divine timing you werefree, I was free, us coming
together was perfect.
There was no messiness to it.
It was just this perfectopportunity for us to join our

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lives together and move forward.
And I'm not saying it has to beperfectly clean and not messy
like that all the time, but whatI am saying is there may be a
person out there for you that'sactually in another relationship
right now.
They might be completelyfocused on school or they might
be completely focused onsomething else, but ultimately,

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you two are the ones that aregoing to be in harmony and
you're going to be the consciouscouple.
So if you give yourselfpermission to number one, tend
to your own vibration.
Number two allow yourself to beyou.

Vanessa (23:19):
Because, by the way, if you're not authentically you,
then you might miss out on theopportunity to have that exact
right person, that consciouscoupling, into your life.

Jordan (23:31):
Totally.

Vanessa (23:31):
So the more you can be authentically yourself, the more
opportunity you have forsomeone else who's authentically
themselves to be matched withyou.

Jordan (23:40):
And that's exactly right .
So if you'll give yourself theopportunity to be those first
two things right, If you'rewaiting for the conscious other
half to show up, right.
Then you can be in the actionphase, like feeling, like you're
moving toward that, just byreally practicing these first
two things.

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Number one tend to your ownvibration, work to stay above
the green line and really trainyour vibration into this awesome
good feeling, life.
And number two allow yourselfto be you, don't hide yourself
from the world.
Be all of what you came here tobe, because at the end of the
day, you don't want to intersectwith a person who's only in

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vibrational harmony with half ofyou.
You want to intersect withsomebody who's in vibrational
harmony with all of you.
You want to intersect withsomebody who's in vibrational
harmony with all of you, and forthat to happen, you need to
allow yourself to be all of younow.
So the more you can practicethose first two things, I think,
the better off you'll be atarranging the intersection, so
to speak.

Vanessa (24:42):
Definitely, and the more you, you can be like at
your core, you are source energy.
You, you have the same energypulsing through your veins that
creates worlds, so you wouldn'twant to cut off any part of that
.
The more fully you can beyourself, the more fully you can
experience life.
And there's nothing more funthan experiencing life to the

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fullest with somebody else whois?
Also experiencing life to thefullest, which brings us to
point number three, which isintentionally co-creating a
satisfying life experiencetogether.

Jordan (25:16):
Totally.
This is my favorite part.

Vanessa (25:18):
Mine too.
It is so much fun.

Jordan (25:20):
So this is interesting.
But when Vanessa and I met, Ihad a document called the life I
choose document and I take itpretty far because I believe
that having a clear vision forwhat you want your life to be is
a really strong component ofactually moving towards it right

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.
So what was interesting aboutus is how rapidly we went from
having a life I choose documentto having a life we choose
document, which was really cooland satisfying for me.
Something I had never reallyhad before is just a common
vision for my life with anotherperson that we had really honed

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in and carved out and madedecisions about and wrote
together and really got intoharmony together and then
ultimately focused on together.
So I just think that is anotherthing I was talking about with
timelines.
Whenever I was kind of nervouslike oh my gosh, like when am I
going to start my life with thisperson?
I haven't even found her yet,you know it is really cool, once

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you do have the other half ofyou show up with this conscious
couple, how rapidly it can turninto a life.
We choose situation.

Vanessa (26:35):
Definitely yeah.
It's been so much fun.
We've created so many visionboards that have just thing
after thing after thing havejust flown off the vision board.
They've been accomplished andit's just so much fun knowing
that we put them there and thatwe're the creators of our own
reality.
We're experiencing the thingsthat we dreamed about five years
ago.

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Our vision documents havecompletely changed over the
years too.
They're always this constantebb and flow of different things
, so we're always drafting newvision documents, and the core
of them a lot of times stay thesame, but different details in
it change as our life changes.

Jordan (27:13):
Yeah, and this is funny One thing I'll mention about the
life I choose document versusthe life we choose document.
There were a lot of things inmy original life I choose
document that were solely therebecause I thought you were going
to want them.

Vanessa (27:27):
Yeah, so like perceived expectations of my future wife,
totally so it's like it'sreally funny because it's like
yeah, exactly.

Jordan (27:36):
And I would ask myself a lot like who do I need to
become to attract this personinto my life experience?

Vanessa (27:43):
That's one of my favorite questions I believe
that's so powerful.
Who do I need to become inorder to attract this type of
person into my life?

Jordan (27:51):
Totally, and back then I was kind of on the lower end of
the conscious creator ladder,where I was really into
basically, hey, thoughts becomethings.
If I can create enough of thethings that would attract the
partner, then everything wouldbe great, Right.

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And so the financial goals thatwere in there, the type of car
that I drove, the type of housethat I would have whenever you
showed up, the type of careerand business or whatever that I
would have whenever you showedup, we're all kind of designed
in a way that I thought wouldattract you.

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And then ultimately what Ifound as I progressed.
And now you and I've beentogether for a decade, which is
amazing from the time that wemet.
But now I realize that when Ilook back at that first document
, a lot of what was in itdisintegrated once I met you,
because a lot of things that Ithought were going to be

(28:52):
important to you just weren't.

Vanessa (28:56):
I know you had like fancy cars and crazy houses and
all of these things.
I remember once at thebeginning of our relationship,
maybe a year or two in, weweren't doing very well
financially.
And I remember you looked at meone day and you just looked
completely defeated and youasked me honey, would you live

(29:17):
with me in a trailer?
And what did I say?
he said honey, I live with youin a tent and I just remember
you almost having this peacecome over you where you had this
, knowing that we had thispartnership.

Jordan (29:35):
Yeah, that we were a team.
Right, we were a team, that wewere a team.

Vanessa (29:39):
And you weren't carrying the weight in our
relationship or in our life.
It was very much you and me inthis.
Together we are a team.
Whatever we do, whatever we gothrough, we'll get through it.
And we're going to bring thebest gifts to the table and
we're going to forge a path, butit's not.

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All of the weight isn't on yourshoulders.

Jordan (30:03):
Yeah, absolutely, and you know it's interesting.
You may not know this, but thatwasn't the first time I'd ever
asked someone that in the past.
I don't know if I ever told youthat.

Vanessa (30:13):
Yeah.
What were some of the otherresponses you got?

Jordan (30:16):
I had never gotten that one before, that's for sure.

Vanessa (30:18):
No one would live with you in a tent silly.

Jordan (30:28):
It sounds now that I had all that stuff in my vision
document.
Yeah, but whenever you askpeople a question like that and
they go, oh no, I would neverlive in a trailer, I would never
live in a trailer park.
That's I'm not outdoor Barbie,you know like that's not, that's
not how I roll.
Then you know, we kind of getconditioned by the world and all
these TV shows and stuff thatwe see.

Vanessa (30:46):
that that's kind of the expectation, like what's
important, and I'm the man Ihave to provide for the woman I
need to figure all this stuffout.
And you know.

Jordan (30:56):
I definitely came from an upbringing that was kind of
like that.
My dad was country and, youknow, always took it upon
himself to provide financiallyand whatnot.
So at the end of the day I justfound that with you I really
did have this peace come over mebecause I realized you meant it
and we have actually stayed ina tent before we actually, when

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we were broke we camped all theway back to Texas from
California because we actuallycouldn't like afford hotels and
stuff at the time.
So like we bought a tent andjust like, like cheaply camped
all the way home yeah, so it'skind of funny that manifested
itself.

Vanessa (31:35):
We used the money that people had sent from our wedding
yeah, to buy a tent and alittle cot.
And yeah, we just posted up atall these different campgrounds
those are still some of my mostfavorite memories.

Jordan (31:46):
It was so fun.

Vanessa (31:47):
Yeah, that's the irony of it all.

Jordan (31:50):
Yeah, exactly, and I think now that I found you I can
really speak to that, Like nowthat I've made it farther up the
conscious creator ladder so tospeak.
I realized that, more thananything, I want to live an
above the green line life, and Iwant to allow myself to be
myself.
So more than any of thephysical assets in the document

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that you know I thought wereimportant then now.
I realize it's just these firsttwo items.
The more that I can tend to myown vibration first and really
train myself to live an abovethe green line life and allow
myself to be myself.
Train myself to live an abovethe green line life and allow
myself to be myself.
Ultimately, that's whatattracts and maintains this
conscious coupling that we haveis me being in vibrational

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harmony with me.

Vanessa (32:39):
And ultimately, if I want to most important
relationship.
It's the most important in yourentire life.

Jordan (32:44):
Exactly so.
Like my vibrationalrelationship between me and me
is so important, that's where myabove the green line life comes
from.
So, it's so important that Istay there and ultimately I feel
like that's what p of broke youcan be to make somebody else
wealthy.

Vanessa (33:09):
There's no amount of depressed you can be to make
somebody else feel happier.
There's no influence down there.
So it's all about maintainingyour relationship between you
and you, yeah, and you know what?

Jordan (33:22):
Some people kind of have this idea that these opposites
attract kind of thing, and sosomebody will be like really
bright and bubbly and try tolive this happy life, and
sometimes they're with a totalgrump.

Vanessa (33:34):
You know what I mean?
Cantankerous yeah cantankerousgrump.

Jordan (33:37):
And they say oh well, that's just how they are and
this is how I am.
And I totally get it becauseyou know relationships form the
way that they are.
But at the end of the day, Ithink a lot of us have had that
experience of someone who staysbelow the green line and is just
perpetually there.
You try to stay above the greenline in that environment and it

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is pretty.

Vanessa (34:02):
Exhausting, exhausting.
Right, Because you're you knowyou're trying to stay there,
Because you're tending to yourown vibe and they're not really
tending to their own vibe, andoccasionally you don't tend to
your vibe and then you're downbelow the green line.

Jordan (34:14):
Yeah, totally.
Yeah it's just not a goodfeeling place to be.
To someday have this beautifullife where both people tend to
their own vibrational state,where both people allow each
other to be themselves inentirety and you consciously

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create this beautiful lifetogether, then you've got to
have the courage to be invibrational harmony with who you
really are.
You've got to have the courageto develop a state that's
dominant, that is in harmonywith that deeper, infinite level
of your consciousness, andallow yourself to feel good and

(34:59):
allow yourself to be all of whoyou are.
And I actually have seen itbefore, and you've probably seen
it too, where people will dimtheir light because they're
afraid that they're going tooutshine their partner.

Vanessa (35:12):
And it's so sad.

Jordan (35:13):
And it's super sad.
I mean, like you see peoplethat have like this potential
and have this God force energywithin them and you just see
them intentionally dimthemselves because they're in
this relationship that eitherdoesn't allow it or they're
afraid of what it'll mean ifthey let their own light shine.
And I'm here to tell you, beingsomebody who was literally told

(35:35):
to dim his own light, do not dothat, never do that.
Never settle for a life ofquiet mediocrity.
Do not put yourself in asituation where you're turning
off your light so that someoneelse can feel a little bit
brighter, because that is notthe path and it will never be
the path.

Vanessa (35:52):
Right.
You're dying part.
You're allowing parts ofyourself to die to hopefully
make somebody else happy andhappiness is an inside job.
There's no amount of action youcan take that can make somebody
else feel more secure in whothey are.

Jordan (36:10):
Exactly.
There's no amount of dimmingyour light that's ever going to
make anybody else brighter.

Vanessa (36:14):
Right, there's no amount of circus acts you can go
through.
Have you ever tried to makefamily happy around holidays?

Jordan (36:21):
Oh man.

Vanessa (36:21):
Like every single person in the family.
It's nearly impossible.

Jordan (36:24):
Especially if you're talking simultaneously.
Oh yeah, and that's the funnything about holidays.
Right, it's like let's allsimultaneously be above the
green line together.
Yeah, and it's like ah.

Vanessa (36:37):
And then you're like running from person to person.
Or have you ever tried to go tolike Disney World and try to do
everything that every singleperson wants to do in a big
group?

Jordan (36:45):
Right.

Vanessa (36:45):
And it's like this person wants to go on this ride
and this person wants to go onthat ride.
And this person wants to go eatlunch and this person wants to
go.
Do that.
It's like, by the time, you tryto make everybody happy, you're
not happy because you're nottending to your own happy?

Jordan (37:00):
Yeah, exactly.

Vanessa (37:00):
So, yeah, it's the same thing.
Every time you try to put otherpeople's happiness above yours,
you're putting your ownhappiness on the chopping block,
your own vibration.

Jordan (37:09):
You're exactly right.
So it's extremely importantthat you maintain that
relationship between you and youand, at the end of the day,
having the courage to do thatsometimes will create scenarios
where you're not in vibrationalharmony with certain people in
your life anymore.
Right.
Sometimes you get intovibrational harmony with who you

(37:32):
are.
You tend to your own vibration.

Vanessa (37:35):
You allow yourself to be you fully, in your complete
entirety, and your complete,100% awesomeness, exactly, and
one of two things happens, right, because we've had people in
our lives who have gone throughdifferent things like that,
where they're in a relationshipand they know it's not with
somebody who is high vibe, sothey decide to tend to their own

(37:58):
vibration and live in above thegreen line life and you always
say one of two things willhappen.
What are those two things?

Jordan (38:04):
So, number one, you'll either meet an entirely new
person on the other side of whoyou're currently with or those
other relationships in your life.
All of a sudden you'll be like,oh my gosh, they're responding
to me completely different,they're being completely
different, I'm rendezvousingwith them completely differently
than I ever have in the past.

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You'll meet a completely newversion of them and it's
actually kind of fun to see,because you're like, oh my gosh,
this person was that awesomeperson.
All along, I was the one thatwas out, I was the one not
tending my own vibration and Iwas the one not allowing myself
to be myself.
They were always here andsupportive and loving me Right.
And all of a sudden, you'llliterally meet a whole new

(38:46):
person and it'll be thisglorious thing.

Vanessa (38:48):
Because, all of a sudden, you're focused on these
positive aspects of them thatreally bring you gratitude.
Absolutely.
So it's always about what youfocus on, right?
In your life that produces theemotion, the emotional state
that you experience.
So you can either focus onattributes of your partner that
bring you negative emotionalstates, or you can focus on

(39:08):
attributes that bring youpositive emotional states.
But the more you focus on thosepositive things, believe me,
the more they'll show up.

Jordan (39:15):
Totally, and that's exactly what happens with number
one is you actually get intovibrational harmony with who you
are.
You're above the green line andthen your focus naturally goes
to all those wonderful things inyour partner and you see what's
been there all along, and it'sthis awesome, glorious thing.
And then you can develop thisconscious coupling together and
it's awesome.
The second one is less fun, butthat person stays where they

(39:41):
are.
If you're not in vibrationalharmony with someone, when
you're tending to your ownvibration and you're allowing
yourself to be all of who youare, then sometimes that's just
not the right thing, man right.

Vanessa (39:57):
It's like playing a guitar or playing the piano.
You know, if you're playingtwinkle, twinkle little star and
you hit one key, that's wrong.
It stands out really badlyabsolutely like I know that's
the exact chord that's wrong.
Yeah, and it stands out reallybadly, absolutely Like.
I know that's the exact chordthat's wrong and it stands out
and you know it.

Jordan (40:12):
And sometimes you'll reach this whole new vibration
and you'll be living this abovethe green line life and you'll
be allowing yourself to be allof you and you'll find that the
relationship just becomes uglierand uglier and meaner and
meaner and less allowing, lessallowing, trying to be more

(40:33):
controlling, more controlling toput you back in the box that
they thought you lived inwhenever you got married or you
got together or whatever.
And when that happens,sometimes you just have to
release the relationship and goon to something else, because I
can tell you, if you've livedthat experience, you've been
putting a lot of stuff into thevibrational escrow so to speak

(40:56):
and there is something awesomefor you out there.
But you just have to have thecourage to go about getting into
vibrational harmony with whoyou are, tending to your own
vibration and allowing yourselfto be yourself, because the
other way is no way to live, andthat's why sometimes it takes
courage is sometimes thoserelationships are going to

(41:16):
acquiesce out of your life, butit's for the best.
Right, you just you just have todo it, because I can't imagine
being 38 years old which I amnow and having gone down that
other path of dimming my ownlight or not allowing myself to
be myself and not tending to myown vibration, like I can't
imagine the type of personality.

Vanessa (41:37):
Yeah, we wouldn't be here, that's for sure.
I believe that's.
The biggest reason why we feelcompelled to share this is
because we've literally been toconferences and to different
things where people follow usaround like puppies just because
they've never seen arelationship like ours.
And I can honestly say I havenot seen many relationships like
this, where both parties reallybring out the best in each

(41:59):
other.
Yeah.
And they encourage each other tobe more fully, authentically
who they are Definitely, and Ibelieve that's why we feel
compelled to even share ourrelationship and even delve into
these concepts.

Jordan (42:15):
What are?

Vanessa (42:15):
the top three characteristics of a conscious
couple.

Jordan (42:18):
Yeah, exactly Like trying to define this is
interesting, but when you seeconscious couples and you see
like you were talking aboutthose people that have kind of
figured it out in a way, You'llfind these three present in
pretty much all thoserelationships.
They do individually, tend totheir own vibration and take
personal responsibility fortheir own vibration.
They're not looking to theirpartner to make them happy.

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They are allowing themselves tobe all of who they are and
hopefully, in doing so, allowingtheir partner to be all of who
they are, and you'll see thislike just bright, glowing
openness about those people.
And then generally, if you goto dig in and you say, how do
you guys live so happily?
They'll generally say somethingalong the lines of well, we've

(43:02):
got a common vision for our lifethat we feel like we're
teammates in, and every day wehit the field together to
actualize that into physicalexperience.
And I feel like when you seethat it is this beautiful
example and it's totallypossible, especially considering
that the first two out of thethree are an inside job right.

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This is something that you cantend to right now.
You can start to tend to yourown vibration and allow yourself
to be you, and then that's whatopens the door to this
consciously creative partnership.

Vanessa (43:38):
Right, yeah, it can feel like we need to take all of
these actions, like what couldI do to get the exact right
person to come into my life?
And it's like truly just beyourself, just fully be yourself
, and hold this steadfast visionof this person that you would
want to attract into your life.
What are they like?
What would that feel like?
And just staying true to thatand not going to the negative

(44:01):
self-talk, because the more thatyou can hold the bead on that
type of relationship so evenseeing how you and I interact
and just having that as anexample if you can hang on to
that vision of that person, ifyou can just kind of entertain
what that would feel like andjust hold on to that and not go

(44:21):
to the other side of things, ofhow things are maybe right now
or what you've experienced inthe past.
If you can just stay focused onwhat it is that you do want to
experience, then it will beyours.
That's exactly what you did.

Jordan (44:35):
Yeah, that's totally true, and you know, the funny
thing about my life I choosedocument is you were the only
thing in it that I nailed.
I got you a hundred percentright, and whenever you read it
back, it's like wow, that'sreally incredible.

Vanessa (44:50):
And what's funny?
I had goosebumps the first timethat I read it.

Jordan (44:53):
Yeah, because you were like that's me.
You wrote me down and if youlook at that paragraph, you
won't find the color of yourhair.
You won't find the color ofyour eyes or the color of your
skin, or how?
Much you weigh or how tall youare, like none of that stuff was
in there, it wasn't inphysicality it was definitely in
personality.

(45:14):
Yeah, absolutely.
And what's interesting now is,whenever I look back, that was
something that was really funfor me to get into vibrational
harmony with.
So I remember when I was singlegoing down the road, I remember
I would do things to justimagine you being with me and I
had written you down.

(45:35):
But I would go on these longdrives because I was trying to
build a business and back in theday I was in college and I
always had these big long drivesin Texas where there'd be
several hours long, and Iremember there were times that
I'd put songs on the radio and Iwould reach across to my empty
passenger seat and I would putmy hand there like we were
holding hands and listening tothis song, and it was really

(45:57):
cool, just like, and I wouldjust like imagine being with you
and that version of you thatI'd written down in my document
and just really getting in avibrational harmony with that.
And sometimes, whenever you'rein that experience, it can be
challenging, because you wantthat probably more than anything
else in the world.
There's huge desire there andwhenever you feel like you're

(46:19):
being held apart from it oryou're holding yourself apart
from it or you just aren'texperiencing it.
Yet it can be extremely painful, especially whenever your mind
goes to the place of.
It may never happen for you.
You know what I mean.
Right Whenever you wantsomething so badly and you're
not experiencing it yet.
So… I just remember, wheneverthose times would come up, that

(46:42):
I would just really try to getin harmony with that version of
you that I had imagined, and Iwould essentially just allow
that side to soften and just tryto go to the place of it's
possible.
The first rung above the greenline is something along the
lines of hopefulness,hopefulness, positive
expectation is something alongthe lines of hopefulness,

(47:04):
hopefulness, positiveexpectation.
And so I would always just tellmyself, if I have this massive
desire for this and I can feelit so clearly, then it must be
possible for me.
It must be possible for me.
So, getting into joy,appreciation, like love.
You know, I could do that tooto an extent, because I would
start with hopefulness, positiveexpectation, and I would just
say who cares if it's not real.

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I'm the only one in this car,you know what I mean.

Vanessa (47:27):
So I'd be doing that Like anybody didn't get a
cardboard cutout or anything, no, it didn't get that weird.

Jordan (47:34):
But I mean, anybody that knows me knows that I was
probably cranking some CelineDion or something.

Vanessa (47:40):
You know I drove all night Envisioning like a duet
happening.
I don't know, what's going on?

Jordan (47:47):
over there, Like the power of love like these big
songs.
It's like ah, you're likesinging them.
Oh yeah, and now you, like, aretotally down for that, which is
hilarious, like you're, likeyou'll come in and I'll be like
doing the dishes, like crankingsome Celine Dion on our Alexa
Like let's go.

Vanessa (48:07):
We have duets all the time.

Jordan (48:10):
Hello honey, let's go about our life together.
But you know, I would say alittle bit of the how to.
There is when that side pops inlike that, basically this may
never happen for you, kind ofthing.
I just want to remind you thatif you do have that desire
within you, it has beenassembling the cooperative

(48:34):
components to that fulfillingrelationship existing for you,
relationship existing for you.
So just keep yourself inpotential mode.
I would say, just give yourselfthe hope, give yourself the
belief that, hey, if I have thishuge desire for it, the

(48:55):
infinite part of myconsciousness is constantly
assembling the cooperativecomponents for the huge things
that I desire.
So there must be some of thatin there and the current.

Vanessa (49:04):
is there the current?

Jordan (49:05):
is there.
So you know, I just believethat this is possible for me and
I'm hopeful towards that.
And you know what I believe ifI can get into vibrational
harmony with it, that I canbegin to experience what that
would feel like now.
And in a way I'm giving myselfthe gift of what this feels like
now.
And regardless of whether thatrelationship shows up today or
tomorrow, it doesn't matter,because I'm working my way into

(49:27):
this feeling place of being ableto experience it here now.
And I just remember that examplepretty vividly of like holding
your imaginary hand and singingthese songs crazy on my crazy
road trips and stuff, because Iused to do stuff like that and I
would go there whenever my mindwould try to go somewhere else,
because the other, when youhave what we have, you have this

(49:50):
huge energy like this.
This is amazing.
This is the best part of my day.
Like us being together is likejust such an amazing part of my
life, you know, and so you canimagine the scenario where
you're imagining that neverhappening or never being able to
be possible.
Oh, dude, like you talk aboutpain, like when you have

(50:12):
something that now I know thiswas a big, fast moving current
that was supposed to happen,kind of thing At least it's how
it feels like for me then whenyou have that emotion within you
, it's showing you the disparitybetween what you're focused on
and how you're focused on it,and what's actually there for

(50:32):
you.
So whenever you have a hugemoving energy like this and you
focus on the lack of it, dude,that is a huge gap.
And it was extremely painful forme, like honestly excruciating.
So I think training myself intofeeling good about the
situation, feeling good aboutthe situation, ultimately
allowed me a lot of peace.
It allowed me a lot of abovethe green line time whenever I

(50:55):
didn't have you yet andultimately, I do believe that it
allowed for an intersectionwhenever it was right.

Vanessa (51:01):
Right yeah, and when you're allowing yourself to be
you, you can have fun along theway to the person that you're
trying to intersect with untilyou have that rendezvous,
because it's also about yourcurrent, present moment.
So I feel like the more fullyyou allow yourself to be, the
more fun you can have in yourmoments, totally.

Jordan (51:20):
Yeah, and imagine yourself kind of like the more
fun you can have in your moments.
Yeah, and imagine yourself kindof like a beacon of light or
like a radio signal Right andjust say you know what, If my
partner's out there, they mightbe feeling like me.

Vanessa (51:30):
Yeah, my transmitter's on.

Jordan (51:31):
Yeah, so like, well, think about that, like, if so,
so, like all that time that Iwas experiencing that you were
out there too.
There were probably times whereyou felt the same way whenever
you like, if you had this ideaof you know, settling for
mediocrity or settling for thisbelow the green line, life or,
um, just thinking, maybe there'snot somebody that cool out

(51:53):
there for me, or maybe somebodythat cool wouldn't love me or
whatever kind of ideas, allthose are kind of a similar
vibrational state of basically Idon't deserve someone like that
because of whatever reason orwhatever, Whenever you're
experiencing those things andthere is something like this
lined up for you, it's going tobe excruciatingly painful.

(52:15):
So just imagine your partnersout there experiencing the same
excruciating pain and just belike you know what.
I'm just going to send themsome light and love right now.
And I'm going to get intovibrational harmony with them
and I'm going to tell them hey,I'm here, Don't worry about it.
We're going to intersectwhenever we're supposed to
intersect.
Things are going to be right.

(52:35):
It's all good, I'm here.
I'm here.
I love you.

Vanessa (52:46):
We're going to love each other.
We're going to be consciouscreators of our own reality
together.
It's going to be cool, it'sgoing to be a fairy tale, it's
going to be amazing, and thefunny thing is I feel like I did
have glimpses of that.
I feel like I was a romantic.
I always loved English, I lovedthe stories and I had these
glimpses of a relationship likethat, of what it would feel like
to be loved unconditionally,and so I had those glimpses
sometimes.
So I always felt like it waspossible.

(53:06):
I just was.
I was an unconscious creatorthen and I had no.
I had no example in my life ofwhat that would even look like.
I had no relationships to gleanon that were even remotely
conscious couples.

Jordan (53:20):
Yeah.

Vanessa (53:21):
And that unconditional love that is possible.
So I feel like I had thoseglimpses and eventually I got
the real life fairy tale.

Jordan (53:30):
Yeah, totally.
And if you want a little bit ofa description, at least for me,
the amount of energy that'sunleashed into my body just as a
result of being in thisunconditionally loving
relationship where I'm allowedto tend to my own vibration, I
allow myself to be myself, Iallow you to be you, so I'm not

(53:52):
even setting up resistance there, like I'm totally allowing you
to be you.
And we're consciously creatingthis life together Like it's
like an atomic bomb going on inmy solar plexus every day of
awesomeness.

Vanessa (54:03):
Yeah.

Jordan (54:03):
And so it's worth holding out for.

Vanessa (54:06):
One important thing I really want to add here is that
the law of attraction has nojudgment.
It doesn't matter how old youare, it doesn't matter what your
background is, what yourhistory is.
If you have the desire for thatconscious coupling in your life
, then it will be yours if youjust focus on it Completely
unconditional.

Jordan (54:26):
It does not recognize sex, gender, race, age,
vibrational harmonies,vibrational harmony.

Vanessa (54:33):
Right.
So if you can get into thatfeeling, if you can hold
steadfast to that vision andjust have your transmitter on
and leave it on, don't turn itoff to have this negative
self-talk.
Just leave that transmitter on,then you will have that
rendezvous with that perfectperson for you.

Jordan (54:53):
And I totally believe that.
I do believe that if you dohave that desire that that
harmonious relationship is outthere, and if for no other
reason than just to send somelight and love to your future
partner, give yourselfpermission to tap into that and
really engage it as much as youcan and send that beacon out

(55:15):
because you're really givingthem the gift.
Maybe some of those glimpses ofromanticism and love that you
received were from me.

Vanessa (55:21):
Yeah, it definitely could have been.
I wish I would have sent itback to you back then.
I think you did.
They definitely did.

Jordan (55:29):
Because I could feel it.
I could feel whenever I wouldget into that zone and I would
actually get to the point whereI was really high, like super,
above the green line joy,appreciation, love, and that's
what I would do whenever I was,you know, focused on you and
holding your imaginary hand.
I would just be so gratefulthat we found each other and I
would appreciate you so much andI would be experiencing that

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joy and I would just allow allof Celine Dion's powerful voice
to penetrate my soul and likeexperience this, like love that
we have for each other and like,even if it was completely
imaginary, you know it felt real.
It felt real to me and I believeyou can give yourself that.
A lot of us just don't.

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Maybe we feel kind of silly,kind of crazy in doing that, but
to me I think it's crazy not todo that.
You know, give yourself thatabove the green line emotion and
if you can make it all the wayto joy, appreciation, gratitude
for that experience, then you'reexperiencing that above the
green line emotion.

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Now that is an in the momentthing and if you can get there
with your imagination, thenyou're free.

Vanessa (56:39):
It's kind of like an experience.
And now it's kind of like youtinkering in the garage.
The fun part for you isn't thecreation, it's not the end
result, it's the tinkering, it'salong the way, it's the
fine-tuning things yeah theimagination.

Jordan (56:53):
It really is fun to start to feel out what that
would feel like, and one thingthat I can tell you is, no
matter how close I ever thoughtI got there in my mind, the.
One thing that I can tell youis, no matter how close I ever
thought I got there in my mind,the real thing was just like you
know what I mean, like ifyou're playing with firecrackers

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in your imagination, to be insync with your partner.
I really feel like that is themagic secret sauce that
ultimately allows it to happen.

Vanessa (57:36):
Definitely, and one last thing that I'd like to
share is that being a consciouscouple isn't always being
perfect.
Right.
Like, believe me, there aredays that we are not operating

Jordan (57:50):
Vanessa, sometimes is not perfect, oh yeah, I
generally am.

Vanessa (57:54):
I have a lot of rage.

Jordan (57:56):
I mean like I'm pretty much always I am perfect.
Yeah, he wakes up like this Iwake up like this and so no 100%
yeah.

Vanessa (58:08):
I don't want to put unrealistic expectations out
there.
I see this couple, jordan andVanessa, and they're always
conscious, they're alwaysoperating above the green line
and they're always perfect.
That's not what it's aboutabove the green line and they're
always perfect.
Like that's not what it's about.
I believe being a consciousperson or a conscious couple is
just getting really good atexercising your ability to read

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energy, really just knowing howyou're feeling in the moment and
knowing that if you're belowthe green line, you can give
yourself grace, knowing that youcan work your way back up above
the green line.
And when there are two people,one usually is above the green
line and they're holdingsteadfast to the person that

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they know you to be and they'renot going to join you there.
So, being a conscious couple, Ibelieve, like one person's
usually above the green line,but occasionally, if you're both
below the green line, givingyourselves both grace and
knowing that eventually you willbe above the green line again,
I think, it's kind of like arubber band, like the more
conscious you become, the moretaught the rubber band is.

(59:15):
So, even though you drop belowthe green line sometimes, you
just bungee yourself back upfaster and faster each time.

Jordan (59:22):
Absolutely.
I feel like when you're theabove the green line person in
the relationship, you're likesource energy.
And it's your job to stay upthere and give that person a
guiding beacon back to happiness, and I think, one thing that
you and I do really well on thissubject is we're really good
about voicing how we feel.
Right.

(59:43):
And I will disassociate from thefeeling which we've talked
about before.
But basically, I'm not myemotions, I'm not the thought
that my emotional state isresponding to and I'm not the
vibration that's attracting thatthought.
So if I can give myself somespace and grace and say I'm not

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this emotional state, then itallows me to say I feel angry
versus saying I am angry.

Vanessa (01:00:15):
Right, right or.

Jordan (01:00:16):
I am an angry person Because emotion is just energy
in motion.
That's the way the energy isflowing.

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A drill bit.
I can't find a tool in my garageand but I'll literally say I'm
feeling angry right now becausethere's this particular tool
that I need to do this job and Ijust don't know where it is
right now.
So I'm going to walk away, I'mgoing to go eat an ice cream bar
, I'm going to go chill becauseright now, like I'm not in
vibrational harmony with wherethat tool is and I'm pretty

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upset about it.

Vanessa (01:00:58):
And having an outside perspective is so powerful
because a lot of times, whenit's our own problem or our own
life, we almost have blinders onto the solution.
So, if you bring in an outsideperspective which is what we are
for each other a lot of timesand we know who the other one is
fully and we hold steadfast towho they are then we can just

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more clearly see the solutionbecause we're not so engulfed in
the problem.

Jordan (01:01:25):
Absolutely, and that's actually really handy in the
workshop because it's prettyfrequent that you'll walk out
and be like, is it this thing?
And.
I'm like yes, Like it happensactually a lot where, like, I'll
be out of harmony withsomething and I literally won't
be able to see it right in frontof my face because I'm not in
vibrational harmony with it.

Vanessa (01:01:42):
I've convinced myself that I've lost it or can't find
it and I haven't been in theproblem for the last hour, so I
don't have that resistancearound the solution.
Yeah, absolutely so by the waypro tip if there's something
that you've lost.
Something I do is.
I say I know exactly where itis and it's incredible how the
things show up whenever you tellyour conscious mind, I know

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exactly where it is.
If you keep repeating that onrepeat, I think I've helped you
stay above the green line manytimes because of that one.

Jordan (01:02:14):
Absolutely and be open to your above the green line
partner helping you if you justlike.
Sometimes somebody can walk inand you feel like, oh well, they
don't understand my problembecause they haven't been here.
Well, the that's actually great.
Yeah, you know, because they'renot in resistance to the

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solution so sometimes yourpartner can walk in above the
green line.
You're below the green line andinstantaneously identify a
solution for you.
So I think that's one thing I'vealso gotten really good at is
accepting your solutions to someof the things that I'm out of
harmony with.
You'll come in and be like,well, how about this very simple

(01:02:54):
solution, you know, and I'll belike, oh wow, I didn't look at
it that way.
That's 100%, spot on.
I really appreciate that.
So I feel like that is, like yousaid, a really positive
attribute to having a consciouscoupling is when one person's
above the green line, someoneelse is below the green line,

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you've got that person thatstill has clarity, which can
actually kind of help the other,and I feel like we definitely
go back and forth on that andwe've done a really good job of
just learning how to communicate.

Vanessa (01:03:28):
Definitely Communication is so important.
And.
I feel like doing that on thelevel of the emotions is very
powerful, especially when youtie it to.
Emotions are just guidance.
We help each other reallydefine the guidance, sometimes
too.
So if you say I'm feeling angry, then I can help you kind of
get to the bottom of definingthat emotion, maybe what you're

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focused on or the perspectiveyou're choosing on it.

Jordan (01:03:56):
And you do the same for me all the time, essentially
kind of presenting the.
Do you want help with that?
Or do you just want space andgrace kind of thing?
You know that's sort of like aI'll be like I'm feeling angry
about this and you'd be like,all right, well, would you like

(01:04:16):
help finding the tool, or do youjust want space and grace to do
your own thing, or do you justwant space and grace to do your
own thing?
It's kind of like with ourtoddlers.

Vanessa (01:04:25):
I see that you're frustrated about putting your
shoes on.
Would you like some help withthat, or would you like me to
leave you alone and let youstruggle with that by yourself?

Jordan (01:04:35):
Absolutely.
There are a thousand instancesin a day that you could compare
me to a toddler.
100% true, aren't we all,though?
But it really is that way it is.
You know, vibration is soprecise.

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You know that, like there's nota huge difference in a grown
man in his workshop strugglingwith finding a tool and a
toddler trying to put on theirshoes, Like it's basically all
the same thing when you'retalking vibrations.
So I think just being in arelationship with you has really
allowed me to be me, evenwhenever I'm feeling below the
green line, because I have theability to communicate it and

(01:05:20):
long before I had the ability todo that, I would just suppress
and hold it all inside.
So I'd say as a conscious couple, that's one thing I really
appreciate is just being able totalk it out so to speak, and
not in a way that I need you tofix my problem, just a way to be
able to say I feel this aboutthis and vibration really

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transcends words.

Vanessa (01:05:45):
So the longer you're with somebody, the more you're
practicing these things likeexercising your muscles,
exercising your vibrationalmuscles, the better you become
at it and you realize thatvibration transcends words.
Totally.
And over time you can feelthings easier, so your intuition
becomes more developed yes, youcan really feel where somebody,

(01:06:08):
where your partner isvibrationally and you don't even
need words to explain it yeah,it's just a feeling.

Jordan (01:06:15):
Find people like us that have been in relationship for a
while, and a very simpleexample is what's for dinner?
You know like there'll be timeswhere I'll be off doing
something and I'll think, oh,you know what Thai food sounds
really good.
And then I'll get home andyou'll be like I was thinking
Thai food for dinner.
I'm like, of course you were,you know and you know when
you've been together a long time, you know those kinds of things

(01:06:38):
happen a lot, where it'll popinto your head and it'll kind of
pop into my head.
I believe there's communicationhappening at multiple levels of
our consciousness and I thinkthere's a lot more going on here
than just our physical words toeach other.
Which is one of the things thatI really appreciate about this
ongoing evolution of ourrelationship is just seeing how

(01:07:00):
we evolve together as a coupleand how we communicate with each
other.
And I think there is one thingthat you said early on to me
that really paved the path forwho we are that I would like to
share, which is in the verybeginning.
I had been in relationshipsbefore where it wasn't always
just passive, aggressive.

(01:07:20):
It could also be aggressive,aggressive, right.

Vanessa (01:07:22):
People weren't really tending to their own vibrations.

Jordan (01:07:25):
Correct.

Vanessa (01:07:25):
Expecting you to operate in a way that made them
happy.

Jordan (01:07:28):
Totally so, like you can definitely have been burned in
the past where someone willintentionally do or say things
to hurt you.

Vanessa (01:07:36):
Yeah, and if we've ever had that experience,
manipulation, yeah.
In a way.

Jordan (01:07:40):
Totally so.
There are all these differentexperiences that sometimes you
bring into a relationship andnow you've got this fresh person
and they may this fresh person,but old baggage right.
So this person may do somethingthat sort of triggers you and
triggers this old emotionalstate and now all of a sudden
you sort of feel attacked.
And I remember early on, yousaid something.

Vanessa (01:08:08):
I was being sarcastic about something.
I don't even remember what itwas.
I was just trying to be funnybecause I feel like I am a
pretty sarcastic person and wehave a lot of sarcasm that we
pass back and forth throughoutour day.

Jordan (01:08:17):
Yeah, totally, so that was very early on.
And.
I remember taking it wrong, soI remember you saying this thing
to me and it's like etched instone in my mind forever.

Vanessa (01:08:26):
But you said I would never say or do anything to
intentionally hurt you.

Jordan (01:08:32):
Exactly.

Vanessa (01:08:33):
And to this day I don't even know where that came from.
It just like came straightthrough me.
It was the truth, yeah, but theway that it was said it makes a
lot of sense.

Jordan (01:08:43):
Yeah, it was like well, and at the time I was just like
I really felt it as genuine.
I was like, oh my God, she'sserious.
She is not going to say or dothings with the intention of
hurting me or harming me.

Vanessa (01:08:58):
And that's really how I operate my entire life with
everybody.
I would never say or doanything to intentionally hurt
people.
So I I remind myself that a lotwhenever I'm.
You know, sometimes after youhave social interactions, you
kind of replay all of the thingsthat you said.
And sometimes you can remembersomething you said and it's like
oh no, I hope they didn't takethat the wrong way because, that

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could have been taken acompletely different way, but if
you lay that as the foundationin all of your relationships, I
would never say or do anythingto intentionally hurt you and
mean it?

Jordan (01:09:30):
And mean it and do it.

Vanessa (01:09:31):
Right and mean it and do it.

Jordan (01:09:33):
And.

Vanessa (01:09:33):
I feel like that really gives you a freedom in your
life to just be you and knowthat it doesn't matter what
comes out of my mouth, because Iknow my intention is for good.

Jordan (01:09:43):
Right.

Vanessa (01:09:44):
And if they take it wrong, then that means that
they're in vibrational harmonywith feeling, that insecurity
but, that's not how I'm puttingit out there.

Jordan (01:09:54):
Totally.
And, on top of that, when yousaid that to me and I really did
feel it, I made that decisionright there that I was going to
be the same way with you and I.
We all sometimes feel thoselower vibrations and the
emotional states that areattached to them, and a lot of

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times they do feel likeinsecurity, and one of the
places above that level ofinsecurity disempowerment is
blame.
Right and I think that happens alot in relationships, where
somebody will lash out at theirpartner because the blame feels
better than the disempowermentand the insecurity.

(01:10:37):
That's down here.
So I feel like if you reallymake that conscious decision,
just say you know what.
I'm not going to say or doanything with intention of
hurting my partner and if I'mfeeling insecure, anything with
intention of hurting my partner.
And if I'm feeling insecure.
every attack is from a point ofinsecurity.
So even when you have thosethoughts form in your mind where
you would attack your partner alot of times, what I'll do is,

(01:11:01):
first off, I've trained myselfso well that that pretty much
just doesn't even happen in mymind because I'm just not in
vibrational harmony with that orblame.
I haven't given myself that outreally almost at all in 10
years.
So fortunately I bypassed thataltogether now and so I can say
when you become vibrationallyfit around this subject, you can
just totally skip that step,which is really great, or you

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become you.

Vanessa (01:11:25):
It's easier to be aware of times when that does happen.
I feel like it's almost likeholding up a mirror to be aware
of times when that does happen,I feel like it's almost like
holding up a mirror.
So, for example, whenever,sometimes when I'm cleaning up
around the house or I'm doingdishes, I can have these
thoughts.
I don't know if it's likeprogramming from growing up,
where it was an expectation thatyou should be helping out
around the house and you shouldbe able to keep a really nice

(01:11:48):
home.
So sometimes I'll be doingdishes and you'll be playing
with the kids, and it's like Iall of a sudden I hear these
like nagging thoughts in my head, where it's like I'm doing all
the work and he's just playingwith the kids and I this happens
a lot.
Yes, this happens a lot.

Jordan (01:12:02):
I am a child.
And.

Vanessa (01:12:03):
I've trained myself whenever those thoughts start,
instead of letting vibrationalmomentum develop around that,
and then all of a suddeneventually lash out at you for
no reason.
I've become really good atholding up the mirror and
telling myself like this isn'ton him, this is on you.

Jordan (01:12:25):
What insecurity within me?
Is leading to me attacking himin my mind, and that's exactly
what I'm trying to say.

Vanessa (01:12:33):
And then you can transfuse it into like wow, he
cares more about our kids andgiving them a really fun time
than keeping a clean house.
That's really admirable.
Or he cares more about fillinghis own cup up than trying to do
all of these things that aren'teven required.

Jordan (01:12:53):
So like, or that's in a conscious relationship, he's
doing what he needs to do tostay above the green line.

Vanessa (01:12:59):
Right, he's staying above the green line and I'm
choosing below the green line,so really like, who's winning
here?
Yeah?

Jordan (01:13:06):
totally, and that's exactly what I'm trying to say
is it's not that those thoughtsaren't going to arise, because
when you're feeling super lowdown there, one of the places
above there is blame, so you'lljust naturally attract thought
that's in harmony with the blamegame Right.
Yeah.
That blame game.
But just realize that it's gotnothing to do with your partner.

(01:13:28):
It's got everything to do withyou, and that's what tending to
your own vibration is all about.
I love that, whenever you feelthat.

Vanessa (01:13:35):
Yeah, I love that quote .
We use it all the time.
Every attack is from a point ofinsecurity.
So if you can hold up thatmirror and realize I'm acting
insecure in this moment I'mhaving insecure thoughts and
then kind of play with it and belike how can I turn this
insecurity?
into gratitude for my partner,instead of blaming them for this

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thing.
How can I turn that intogratitude?
And it may not be instantaneous, but the more you practice this
, the easier it is.
I can wash one dish and go fromlike a negative blame thought
to a gratitude thought of you.
So, it's like it's incrediblehow, the more you exercise these
things, the better you get atit and the more you can stay

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Jordan (01:14:20):
Yeah, I have some pretty specific ones Like my mind.
Sometimes I'll be like so lastnight.
I'm washing the kids all in thebathtub right, and we have
three, so it's an absoluteanarchy situation.
It's a zoo up there when it'sbad time.

Vanessa (01:14:36):
It's going to get crazy .
It's like a splash pad in ourbathroom, so like, so like.

Jordan (01:14:42):
Sometimes I might feel insecure about the situation,
like how am I going to get allthese maniacs like bathed and
dressed and like whatever?
And so if I'm feeling thatlittle bit of insecurity, my
mind might reach for a betterfeeling.
Thought of where's Vanessa?
Like where's my backup?
Like is she just downstairslooking at the Instagrams, you

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know, like whatever's going onthere which doesn't happen?
And then, like you're alwaysoff doing something else?
And that's sort of what I'vedone is I've programmed myself
to be like I bet she's doingsomething that is beneficial to
the whole family right now.
Right Because she does that alot, and even if she's not, that
doesn't matter.
But essentially I've trainedmyself.

(01:15:28):
Instead of going to that likewhere's Vanessa?
She should be here.
She should be helping mebecause I'm feeling insecure
about getting all this done bymyself.
Yeah, like instead of allowingthat to build vibrational
momentum.
I'll just skip it and I'll godirectly to that place of you
know what.
I bet she's doing somethinglike to make all of our lives
better, because that's what shedoes all day, every day, and

(01:15:49):
I'll just skip all the way tothere, so you're right.
Like being able to trainyourself to do that, and then
when you get there, obviouslythat feels better and that is
what I build vibrationalmomentum around, so it's really
easy for me to return there.
No, matter where I am in termsof insecurity.

Vanessa (01:16:05):
And I have that to revisit.
Definitely.
And that same example thatallowed you to actually enjoy
the bath time with our threekids.

Jordan (01:16:12):
Instead, allow yourself to get to the point of blame,
and then you sit there blamingyour partner in your head you're

(01:16:37):
never allowing yourself toprogress above the green line,
whereas when you're theconscious creator of your
reality, realizing that you areresponsible for your own
vibration and your own emotionalstate, you can decide to skip
blame altogether or only bounceon it like almost like bouncing
on a trampoline, like yoink.
I'm out of here, you know whatI mean.
I'll bounce off of that.

(01:16:58):
That's fine.
It feels better than insecurity.
But I'm going up here and thenat the end of it I've got three
beautiful bathed dressedchildren.

Vanessa (01:17:07):
Good smelling babies.

Jordan (01:17:08):
And I feel like a real winner yeah because you did that
smelling babies and I feel likea real winner.
You know like you.
Like you come upstairs or I goback downstairs and it's like
look at all these clean bathedand clothed children.

Vanessa (01:17:18):
I did that.
I did that knock it out.

Jordan (01:17:21):
You're welcome.
Or aren't you proud of me?

Vanessa (01:17:23):
yeah, no, I was very proud of you and they were all
so happy that you're their bestfriend you're so fun.
But one of the thought patternsthat I've really developed in
my mind is that, like sometimesyou're out in the garage
tinkering, you're doingsomething that you love to do
and I'm one on three with all ofthe kids, and it's so easy for

(01:17:44):
that to come through your mindlike well why is he not in here
helping me?
I'm?
I have all this stuff going onone kid's painting, one kid's
getting milk out of therefrigerator and the other one's
like crawling trying to eatoreos underneath the table
where'd that oreo come from?

Jordan (01:18:01):
yeah, where did that bottle of slime come from is
that I bet he bought the slime.

Vanessa (01:18:05):
Jordan buys the slime yeah, this was all his doing.
So, it's so easy for the brainto go there.
But then I always go back toI've just like developed these,
these thought patterns in mybrain.
So say, you're out in thegarage for this example, and all
three kids are just massanarchy inside.
I think he's doing something heloves outside, he's tinkering.

(01:18:29):
That's really awesome.
And then it goes like one levelfurther.
Well, the way that hisengineering brain works and the
way that it's able to do allthis tinkering is really the
attributes that made ussuccessful in our business.
His ability to rip apartsomething that is whole and find
all of the things that he couldfine tune and make better,

(01:18:51):
that's what made us successfulin business.
So that same brain that's outthere tinkering is what made us
successful in our business andhas given us this life.
So then, like you know, you justgo deeper and deeper and deeper
and then, the gratitude all ofa sudden is everywhere and it's
like thank you for being outsidein the garage tinkering.
It's amazing that you can dothat.

Jordan (01:19:12):
Yeah, you're a hundred percent right, like I feel like
I actually love this podcastright now because we do these in
part to capture our own clarity.
And for me, like I'm just seeingall these instances of times
where where a normal couple maystop down there at blame how
we've actually turned that intoan above the green line

(01:19:34):
situation and added morevibrational momentum to our love
and appreciation for each other, like when you, when you really
look in, you think aboutexamples like that.
There are just thousands uponthousands of them that have
contributed to this, and what'sreally great is now we have this
massive spinning disc of loveand gratitude and appreciation

(01:19:54):
and we have massive vibrationalmomentum around that.
Right and it just makes iteasier and easier and easier to
even be a conscious couple.

Vanessa (01:20:03):
And part of that is seeing each other's gifts and
really milking those gifts.
So, like you were saying, likeyou being in the bath with all
three kids while I was puttingthings together for the next day
, I was getting things ready forthe morning.
so it wouldn't be so hectic inthe morning and we would be on
time and I was cleaning up thewhole downstairs and the kitchen

(01:20:23):
and everything.
But even looking at that, it'slike the quality that makes me
motivated to do those thingsaround the house and make things
look pretty and look nice.
That's the same.
Those are the same attributesthat have made us successful in
business on my side.
So, like I've brought the wholedesign aspect to it and I love
making things look pretty, soI've been that person for the
businesses and it's like whenonce you start really looking

(01:20:47):
for the gratitude and yourpartner looking for their gifts
and really milking those things.
It becomes really easy and fun,and then you're sitting there
with your kids or doing whateverit is in your life and you're
actually able to experiencegratitude in that moment.
And you're able to enjoy yourmoments more fully, instead of

(01:21:08):
having that icky like resentmentor that icky blame feeling yeah
you're able to operate abovethe green line and enjoy your
moment, because, yeah, thepurpose of life is joy, right?
totally so if you live your lifewith a lot of your moments
below the green line, thenyou're not able to enjoy

(01:21:28):
anything.
Yeah, you nailed it.
The real gift is to you, right?
You're not able to enjoyanything.

Jordan (01:21:31):
Yeah, you nailed it.
The real gift is to you.
Right.
You're the one that's trainingyour vibration above the green
line and it may be in how you'refocused upon your partner, but
it's still an above the greenline emotional state.
Right and I would definitelysay, like one of the things that
you do so well is you reallycreate scenarios where we get to

(01:21:54):
enjoy whatever experience we'rehaving more fully.
So, for example, I kind ofremember the Bluey episode if
you're a Bluey fans out therewhere the dad goes to the pool
with the kids and they show upand go ahead.

Vanessa (01:22:07):
They're calling the mom a fuss pot, like oh, mom wants
us to do all of this stuffbefore we go to the pool, but
dad's so fun, he doesn't make usdo any of that stuff Mom's
boring, mom's boring.

Jordan (01:22:18):
And he's like, yeah, mom's boring.

Vanessa (01:22:20):
She's a fuss pot.
And then they go to the pool.
They didn't bring their goggles, they didn't bring the swim
toys, they didn't bringsunscreen, so the dad's making
them stay in the shade and theyhave, like this teeny, tiny
little bit of the pool.

Jordan (01:22:33):
Exactly, and then?

Vanessa (01:22:34):
at the end, after they've suffered for however
long, the mom comes with all ofthe stuff that they forgot.
They're like Mom, you saved theday.

Jordan (01:22:43):
She's like the superhero .
And that's exactly it, becausemom got the sunscreen, she got
the flip flops, she got thesnacks prepared in advance.
She got all the sunscreen, shegot the flip-flops, she got the
snacks prepared in advance.
She got all the towels.

Vanessa (01:22:55):
She's the preparer of fun, yeah, exactly.

Jordan (01:22:57):
There's a lot of preemptive striking for a really
fun day you know, and I feellike you do that better than
anyone I've ever met, not onlyjust on like a kid's day, but
also preemptively striking onmaking our business endeavors
successful.
Like you paved the way for usto be able to come in here and
be productive, and it's reallyfun to watch.

(01:23:20):
I've actually been learning andtraining myself and I have like
a WWVD bracelet.
What would Vanessa do Like howwould?

Vanessa (01:23:30):
Vanessa, prepare for this situation we do that a lot
for each other.

Jordan (01:23:34):
You've been my greatest mentor in life oh, totally, and
and I feel like same from you isjust like watching you be you
is just so fun and all thelittle idiosyncrasies about you
that I love, like I've trainedmyself so hard to appreciate you
that for the most part, that iswhat has giant vibrational

(01:23:58):
momentum within me and you thinkabout it.
What's the highest place on theemotional scale Appreciation
joy love gratitude.
So, I'm holding myself abovethe green line by focusing on
all those things about you.
So it really is this beautifulco-creative dance where you're
giving yourself the gift of anabove the green line life,

(01:24:19):
focusing on all that awesomenessin your partner.

Vanessa (01:24:22):
The more you can practice that, the more you feel
good and the more you make yourpartner feel good and the more
you make each other feel good.
It just is this all around goodfeeling.
And the work is just what we'reexplaining.
Like you can hold up a mirrorand if you're feeling something
below the green line, try tochange it into something that's

(01:24:42):
And then the more you do that,the more you're training your
thought patterns.
You're more the more you'remaking those positive, good
feelings a an emotional rut inyour mind yeah, an emotional
home.

Jordan (01:24:54):
Yeah, a new emotional home.

Vanessa (01:24:56):
You're programming that into your new emotional home.

Jordan (01:24:58):
Yeah.

Vanessa (01:24:59):
So like, for example, even the trash.
How many couples do you knowthat yell at each other about
the trash?

Jordan (01:25:05):
Just little bitty things like that.

Vanessa (01:25:06):
Yeah, like for me if I see the trash piled up, instead
of being like how could Jordannot take out the trash?
He knows that it's overflowingand he's the man and he's the
strong one, instead of likegoing through what I hear so
many women say about theirspouse, I just take the trash.
It's like well, am I incapableof taking the trash outside?
And putting it in the dumpster.

(01:25:26):
No, I can do that just aseasily as he can.

Jordan (01:25:29):
Yeah.

Vanessa (01:25:30):
So, just like, the more you practice that, the easier
it becomes.

Jordan (01:25:33):
Well, and I think what really happens is you're
training yourself intoempowerment, right, because it
basically says it does notmatter what's going on with my
partner, what my partner's doing, how they're behaving, I can

(01:25:54):
focus my attention on thingsthat make me feel good.
Now, right, and the more thatyou can train yourself on that
and you take control of your ownvibration, then you just really
realize oh wow, I can be happyregardless of what's going on.
And then, ultimately, theuniverse operates on a very
precise set of laws.
So when you can get intovibrational harmony with that
above the green line version ofyourself, the entire universe
will wrap itself around you andbring you more things that

(01:26:17):
support that.

Vanessa (01:26:18):
Totally yeah, it's.
It's just so much fun.

Jordan (01:26:21):
So this has been such an awesome episode.

Vanessa (01:26:23):
This has been awesome.

Jordan (01:26:25):
I love it I can't wait to watch this one back.

Vanessa (01:26:27):
Same.
I feel like we captured a lotof the clarity that we've talked
about for a long time, and ourintention with this is to have
it go out to people and thenbelieve that it's possible in
their own life, because it is.
We're sitting here and all ofthis is true, no matter how
annoying it may sound to you ifyou don't have this at the
moment.
It's true and I hope that thisis a good example of that, and I

(01:26:50):
just want to tell you stay trueto that desire that you might
have for a conscious coupling,because it will be yours if you
stay true to that desire.

Jordan (01:27:01):
I completely agree.

Vanessa (01:27:02):
So with that, we're sending love and light to all.

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