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today's topic is going to be theinvisible advantage.
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Gratitude as a success strategy.
So let's jump right into it.
If you're new, typically withinthe first few minutes we're
covering different life hacksand fun facts.
And today I have a few fun factsfor you.
The very first one is gratitudephysically rewires your brain.
So these are centered aroundgratitude and it is
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scientifically proven thatgratitude physically rewires
your brain.
So neuroscience studies showgratitude activates the
prefrontal cortex, the part ofthe brain responsible for
decision making focus andlong-term planning.
That's the same.
Part elite performers rely on.
Gratitude, a lot of people don'trealize like the power and
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potency of gratitude.
And one thing that I can tellyou is that it most certainly
has been very beneficialthroughout the course of my life
to just always wake up in aspirit of gratitude, always go
back to gratitude whenever I'mfeeling down and out.
And business is getting crazy.
I always have to go back togratitude.
Whenever life just isn't goingthe way that you would prefer it
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to go, you always go back togratitude and it'll help you get
centered again.
So next we have.
Number two, fun fact is topperformers practice gratitude
more than average people.
So high achievers across sports,business and the military report
higher levels of gratitude, notbecause life is easier, but
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because gratitude helps themhandle pressure.
Better.
So really great share.
And during this time of theyear, I always encourage people
to actually take some time to rereflect on this past year.
And I always like to do a yearlyhighlight reel, if you will.
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Now, it's not an actual contentcreation reel, it's more a note
in your phone where let's justsay you're recapping 2025.
It'll be a 2025.
Highlight reel, and it's all ofthe accomplishments, all of the
things that you were able to dothroughout the course of the
year that you're super proud of,things that you were able to
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accomplish.
And one of the best things thatyou can do is even go through
your phone album.
For this past year, just if youhave Apple droid may have the
same feature where you can justput in the year and it'll show
all of the videos and photosthat you captured throughout the
year.
And the cool thing about that isyou can backtrack all the things
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that you did.
So typically people take photosof let's say really cool things
that they probably were doing inthat moment.
And it's a great way to rememberand recap everything that you've
done.
So I'll take photos from thatand insert it into my note.
Pad or my journal entry.
And then I'll just list out allthe things that I was able to
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do.
So right now, for example, offthe top of my head, some of the
really cool things that 2025brought was I got to go to Spain
and Portugal.
It was my very first time inPortugal specifically, and
Barcelona.
So it was just a really amazingexperience that I got to do with
my wife.
And that was one of thehighlights of 2025.
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So I, I essentially would justtake photos.
From that trip and put it in thejournal entry.
Another thing is we had oursecond annual creators
conference, and this year we didit at the world renowned James
Museum.
And it was really cool.
It was a major milestone for usand definitely the biggest, best
event that we've had so far.
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And that was a major milestone.
I did a lot of speaking events.
I did all kinds of stuffthroughout the year, so
sometimes you put these thingson the back burner and you take
'em for granted.
So it's super helpful to, again,go back to your photo album,
look back at all the photos andthings that you did and put that
in your yearly recap.
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It's interesting too because onYouTube and YouTube and also
like podcasts they'll do likeyearly recaps, what was the most
the songs that you listen to themost and things like that.
But we never really think to doa recap with our lives.
This is by far one of myfavorite.
Life hacks at the end of everyyear.
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And what it does is more thananything, it puts you in a
spirit of gratitude and it'sjust a great way to close out
the year, but a great way toopen up the upcoming year.
So moving forward, we havenumber three.
The number three fun fact isgratitude improves income.
When was the last time youthought about gratitude
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improving your income potential?
And basically the way it worksis that people who regularly
practice gratitude are morelikely to set goals, follow
through, and build betterrelationships.
Three traits directly linked tohigher earnings.
And career advancement.
So you don't wanna scare awaythe money guys because it's
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funny one of my businesspartners, we always talk about
just a certain energy thatscares away the money.
And we don't mean it in aliteral sense, but.
There are certain just ways ofbeing that repels money, right?
If you wanna attract abundancein your life, there's a certain
frequency, if you will, thatattracts that.
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Like you have to be very mindfulof the way that you feel if
you're adamant about justgrowing wealth and gratitude.
Big part of that because whathappens is you're not
necessarily attracting yourthoughts, you're attracting your
emotions, right?
Your emotions are energy andmotions.
So your emotions are attractingmore circumstances that bring
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you more of those emotions.
So if you're.
In a constant state ofgratitude, you're naturally
going to attract circumstancesthat bring you more gratitude.
That's essentially the way itworks, so very important.
Next we have, let's see here.
Next life hack we have isgratitude under pressure rule
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only practice gratitude whenthings go wrong.
That's when it actually buildsemotional strength.
So this is actually I usually godown the rabbit hole with my
research and find differentthings.
Gratitude under pressure.
Only practice gratitude whenthings go wrong, that's when it
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actually builds emotionalstrength.
So I don't necessarily agreecompletely with this.
I think you should practicegratitude all the time, but it
does help when things are goingwrong to have that automatic
that automatic response wherewhen anything goes wrong or
you're just feeling down and outand you don't really have much
motivation to immediately switchto a space of gratitude.
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It definitely helps.
And it's interesting too becauseI mentioned.
The idea of having a highlightreel, right?
To recap your year.
But I also have a highlight reelfor my overall life.
So whenever I find myself justlike in a funk or not having
much motivation, I always go tomy highlight reel.
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And.
Immediately it puts me in astate of gratitude because this
highlight reel encompassespretty much all of the things
that I've done throughout mylife.
All of the really coolexperiences, some of the trips
that I've taken the amazing theamazing milestones that really
meant a lot to me.
And this is definitely one ofthe best things that you can do
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whenever you have to.
Just give yourself a a pick meuper, if you will.
Next, we have trade complaintsfor curiosity.
Every time you feel the urge tocomplain, replace it with the
question, what is this momenttraining me for?
What is this moment training mefor?
So really good.
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And I remember Jim Rowan wouldalways say, tr, turn your
frustration into fascination.
You have to discipline yourdisappointments.
And it's so true.
A mindset is everything.
And you guys hear me say all thetime, your mindset is where your
mind sits.
So number three is gratitudebefore consumption, before
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checking your phone in themorning.
Name one thing you are gratefulfor.
This primes your nervous systemfor intention instead of
reaction.
So super important.
And it's.
It's interesting too because Ijust noticed, like I always say,
it's interesting.
I was doing a podcast the otherday and I realized, I said, I
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always say I'm curious, and asI'm doing this, I'm like, I'm, I
always say it's interesting, butI have a deep.
Love of learning they call usPolymaths people who have a deep
love for learning and justnaturally spend a lot of time
learning.
I know we attract a lot ofpeople who are the same.
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I call the Breakfast Clubcommunity Personal Development
nerds because a lot of peoplewho tune in every single week
who the hell is gonna spendTuesday morning at 7:00 AM.
Just learning stuff about life,right?
But you guys do, so shout out toeverybody all my nerds who are
hopping on the Breakfast Clubwith me every Tuesday.
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So gratitude before consumption,before checking your phone in
the morning, and one thingyou're grateful for.
And one of the things that Ilearned years ago too, is having
something that you're gratefulfor, but that's super
insignificant.
So it may be, for example,having gratitude for.
The birds and having gratitudefor the beautiful weather
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outside or having a beautifultree that shades your home right
in front of your home, buthaving something that's like
insignificant that you normallywouldn't express gratitude for,
but it forces your brain tothink about.
What you can be grateful for.
Because when you really thinkabout it, there's so many
things.
Like it can be having pavedroads, for example.
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It can be having justelectricity.
There's so many things that wecan be grateful for that we take
for granted that were luxuriesjust a hundred years ago.
So think about it, even theaverage life expectancy has
essentially doubled.
In in, in the last a hundredyears.
So the fact that we could evenlive past 70 years old is an
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incredible thing.
Now let's jump right into it.
And remember today we arecovering everything.
Gratitude and today's title isThe Invisible Advantage.
Gratitude as a Success Strategy.
Let's jump into it.
First and foremost, we have whygratitude is misunderstood.
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Why gratitude is misunderstood.
So when you think about itgratitude is often sold as like
this toxic positivity, right?
It's it's interesting when.
Everybody started getting intolike manifestation and just
thinking positively andattracting all this positive
stuff.
It did create this toxicpositivity in a sense where
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people would put on a front,like they weren't going through
anything and would just try to.
Force positivity on themselvesand it's just not necessarily
the best approach for everyone.
So it's always important to, tobe mindful of that.
That's not what gratitude is.
A lot of people also think thatgratitude means just settling
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right, or ignoring problems, orjust being passive in general.
A lot of people look atgratitude like that and in the
business world.
It's so important to ensure thatyou're not looking at it from
that lens, because again it canbe a tool.
It can be a tool to really getyou going.
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And the truth is, gratitude doesnot equal complacency and
gratitude.
More so is about clarity plusemotional regulation.
That's essentially what it is,right?
Because why do you get claritywhen you're grateful?
Simply because you're puttingmore of a focus on what you do
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have, right?
You're putting more focus onwhat's going right as opposed to
what's going wrong.
And re remember what you focuson expands what you focus on The
longest grows the strongest inyour life.
So if you're in a state of.
Gratitude, you're not gonna bein a state of fear.
If you're in a state ofgratitude.
You're not gonna be in a stateof anxiety.
So that's why there's thatemotional regulation that kicks
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in when you are in a state ofgratitude.
Now, here's a powerful quote.
Gratitude, does it make you stopwanting more?
It makes you more capable ofhandling more.
That's what it's about.
It's expanding your capacitybecause you're grateful.
Okay.
Next up, we have the science andpsychology of gratitude, the
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science and psychology ofgratitude.
So first and foremost,gratitude.
Lower lowers cortisol.
Cortisol is a stress hormone.
They, we call it the big C inneuroscience and.
Cortisol is typically going tobe on the rise whenever you find
yourself stressed out.
And it is important, again tofind ways to minimize the
cortisol.
And there's a lot of ways to goabout it.
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Like you can just go out forwalks in nature.
You can listen to music thatjust changes your mood,
meditation, prayer, all thatstuff.
But gratitude is one of the mosteffective ways to lower your
cortisol.
Next is it increases dopamineand serotonin.
Which is motivation pluswellbeing.
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So serotonin is the happychemical in your body that just
has, you feel it, feeling asense of wellbeing.
And whenever you have thatdopamine, you find yourself more
motivated.
So again, gratitude is moreabout emotional regulation than
anything else.
Next we have reduces emotionalreactivity.
Which leads to better decisions.
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So that's another benefit togratitude overall, right?
It's definitely gonna lead tobetter decisions because you're
not focusing or dwelling onwhat's not working.
So why does this matter forsuccess in the first place?
Reason why it matters is becauseit calms your nervous system.
And outperforms, anxious,nervous an anxious nervous
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system.
And this is like reallyimportant because one thing that
I've noticed and I'm not surehow many of you can relate to
this, whenever I find myself ina space where.
I'm like very stressed out orI'm worried about something in
business.
Oftentimes it hinders me fromactually being productive.
It's actually the enemy, right?
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It's the inner me that'spreventing you from doing what
it is that you need to do.
So it's very important to alwaysensure that you're taking care
of your being in general,because your being is oftentimes
gonna dictate how productive youare on a day-to-day basis.
So that's why.
Gratitude is so powerful becauseit takes you out of that state
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of fear, overwhelm, anxiety, andputs you in a state of
gratitude.
Next, we have emotionalreregulate.
Emotional regulation equalsconsistency.
I always say my superpower, ifthere's any superpower that I
have, it's definitely disciplineand consistency.
So even when you think of theBreakfast Club, right?
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If I didn't know how to properlyregulate my emotions over the
last five years, life has alsobeen life and for me as well,
just like everybody else.
Like I have children, I have a afamily of five that I care for
and I have to go out there.
I have to be a business leaderand I have teams.
All around the world that I haveto help with business and it
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gets very overwhelming, however,right?
Because I've understood how toregulate my emotions.
It's a big reason why I can showup every single Tuesday with a
smile on my face no matterwhat's happening in the world,
right?
I've had loved ones pass away.
I've had all kinds of crisesthat I've had to navigate
through, but I still show upand.
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There's no way in the world Iwould have been able to do that
if it wasn't for understandingemotional regulation.
Okay.
So for me it's typically we sayself-care is the best care.
So it's typically things likeexercise, it's going for walks
outside it's gratitude, it'sjournaling, it's meditation and
prayer, it's eating it's gettingenough sleep.
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All of these things areessential and.
You have to take care of theengine, right?
That's driving all of yourbusiness endeavors and all of
your dreams in a sense.
And that's you.
So remember, consistency beatsmotivation every time, right?
I remember my mentor wouldalways say, you have to do what
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you know, not what you feel.
Because sometimes.
You're just not gonna feel likegetting any work done.
Sometimes you're not gonna feellike going into the gym you
should be getting into the gym.
You know that if you do thatwork, you're naturally gonna
feel a lot better about yourday.
So it's super important.
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Next.
Gratitude as a performance tool.
Gratitude as a performance tool.
So gratitude actually improves alot of things.
It improves focus.
It improves resilience, itimproves relationship quality.
And leadership presence.
Now I'm gonna highlightrelationship quality
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specifically because when itcomes to just relationships in
general we tend to get reallycaught up in what's what we
don't like about our partner,right?
What we are unhappy with when itcomes to our relationship.
And meanwhile, there's 1,000,001things that we could essentially
be grateful for when it comes toour relationship.
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When was the last time youthought about all of the
positive aspects of yourpartner?
All of the positive aspects.
Maybe it's a coworker, maybeit's a boss or manager.
And when you really reflect onit, you probably can name a
bunch of qualities that you dolike about that person.
Hence why you started buildingthe relationship.
In the first place.
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Okay.
Gratitude most certainly helpswhen it comes to relationships
and I constantly have to remindmyself of that because it's so
easy to get caught up in whatyou don't like about your
partner, right?
Or what you're frustrated with.
And we tend to lose focus of themajority of the relationship
that may actually be positive.
So very important.
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Next we have, you can apply.
Gratitude to, let's just say it,it applies to entrepreneurs
handling setbacks.
It can be leaders, managingteams, fathers or mothers,
balancing ambition and family.
Or maybe you're a contentcreator and you're facing
comparison and burnout.
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So many different things thatgratitude applies to, and so
many people and scenarios.
Now here's a great quote.
Gratitude is how you staygrounded while aiming higher.
Gratitude is how you staygrounded while aiming higher.
I remember hearing in the worldof personal development years
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ago, like people would just sayoh, you gotta be content or you
gotta be grateful for what it isthat you do have.
And I remember just thinking tomyself like, why?
Why am I gonna be content?
Why am I just going to settlefor what I do have when I want
more?
But the thing about it is it'sactually counterintuitive to
think that way because gratitudeactually brings you more, the
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more grateful you are again, themore you attract circumstances
that bring you more gratitude.
So it's not oh, if I'm.
Grateful, then it has to justsettle.
Or you're not gonna have desire.
Now it doesn't work that way.
It's really about being gratefuland aspiring for more.
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If that's what you want.
However, being grateful forwhere you're at, because
sometimes we get so caught up inthe future.
And I'm not sure how many of youguys can relate to this, but I
know for me, sometimes I get socaught up in the future that I
really forget to enjoy thepresent moment.
And you know that future may besomething that we're pursuing,
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like a financial goal.
It may be a weight loss goal ormaybe a relationship goal.
And you're so immersed in thatand you're spending so much time
chasing that you end upforgetting all of the beautiful
aspects of your life.
So it is important to remindyourself.
To enjoy the present moment andthere's so much that you can be
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grateful for on an everydaybasis.
Next, we have why ungratefulpeople plateau.
Why ungrateful people plateau.
This happens all the time, soungrateful people.
First and foremost, chaseoutcomes without appreciating
process.
Like just always on the go andnever really taking time to
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just, again, be grateful forwhat it is that they have.
Ungrateful people also burnbridges instead of building
relationships.
Anybody know anyone like that?
Burn bridges instead of buildingrelationships, because
sometimes.
People who are ungrateful, they,they forget those who actually
help them get to where they are.
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Right?
And one thing I learned in thebusiness world is that you gotta
be careful on your way up.
Not to treat people bad becauseyou will see them on your way
down, you'll run into them, andit's not gonna be a pleasant
experience.
Next, ungrateful people areconstantly dissatisfied, which
leads to burnout.
It's so true.
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Sometimes you're just so caughtup chasing, and dissatisfied
that you just end up burning outaltogether.
And then ungrateful peopleoperate from scarcity instead of
strategy.
Okay.
From scarcity instead ofstrategy.
Again.
Two thoughts, two emotionscannot occupy the body and mind
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at the same time.
So that's the power ofgratitude.
It eliminates whatever negativeemotion you're feeling in that
moment because what you'refocusing on typically is gonna
have a direct effect on youremotions in that moment.
Okay, so it's impossible to feelhappy with depressing thoughts.
It's impossible to feel gr orthink about things that bring
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you gratitude and feel anxiety.
So that's the power of it.
Okay?
And another thing is when itcomes to grateful people learn
faster, grateful people recoverquicker.
Think about what's better foryour immune system.
For example, if you are loweringyour cortisol levels and
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increasing your dopamine andserotonin levels it's naturally
going to improve your immunesystem.
Like you, you are a healthierperson, the more grateful you
are.
So that's a big part of therecovery.
It helps build long-term trustas well when you're grateful,
especially if you're in aleadership role.
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When you're grateful, peopletypically want to work for you
because, or work with youbecause they feel appreciated.
If you're ungrateful, why wouldsomeone wanna work for an
ungrateful leader or a manager,a boss.
So it, it is essential, right?
For those of you who run teamsto be grateful, and also it
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helps you stay emotionallystable during chaos, you can be
the peace in the storm.
Next, a practical gratitudepractical gratitude practices
that actually work.
So here we go.
Here's some best practices andnot just stuff that you can put
in a journal.
Like it's all kinds of differentaspects of gratitude pra
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practices.
The very first one issituational gratitude.
So ask yourself in any moment,what advantage does this
situation give me?
What advantage?
It's just a way to reframe yourmindset whenever you are
encountering differentobstacles.
Ask yourself, what advantagedoes this situation give me?
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Where's the blessing in this?
Where's the treasure?
In this trash?
Where's the inspiring message inthis mess?
And if you dig deep enough,you'll find that every situation
can come with a blessing.
Secondly, people-based gratituderegularly acknowledge mentors,
partners, team members, evencritics, right?
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Thank the haters.
They're a big part of thejourney as well.
The hero's journey would not beone if there weren't any
critics.
So that's also all part of thejourney and have gratitude for
it all.
Next is future gratitude.
Act, grateful for discipline,not outcomes.
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Appreciate effort beforeresults.
So it's more focused on thejourney than it is the
destination.
Okay?
And that's a big part of it.
Next, we have hard gratitude, soyou can be grateful for delays,
rejection, resistance.
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Because those build capacity.
Now think about it.
If you're sitting in traffic,you can sit there and dwell on
it, right?
You can complain about it.
But when it's all said and done,like what is that actually doing
for you?
Or you can just say, you knowwhat?
I'm grateful because I actuallyget some time to maybe catch up
on an audio book or a podcast,or maybe you're waiting online
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and you can make a phone call toa loved one, right?
There's certain things, maybeit's rejection, and you say, you
know what?
I'm grateful to even be on thisjourney because there's no way
that you're going to get theoutcome you're looking for
without failing forward, withoutgetting rejected.
That's a big part of theprocess, so just taking time to
even acknowledge.
The fact that you're on yourhero's journey, right?
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Going through resistance, thehard is typically what makes
something an opportunity.
If what you were aspiring to dowas not hard, would it be much
of an opportunity?
Think about it.
So embracing the hard reframing,the way you look at certain
things and these are the hardgratitudes, right?
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It's not always easy to begrateful when you're going
through rejection or you'refailing, but it is an essential
part of the process.
Sometimes when I go through verydifficult circumstances, I'll
have to remind myself that, youknow what?
This is gonna make an incrediblestory one day.
I just reframe it because it'slike it keeps you going and it
keeps you pressing forward.
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Next we have, and by the way, ifyou guys are getting value, drop
a V in the comments for value.
If you're getting value so far,here we go.
Gratitude and legacy.
So you have to tie it back topurpose, right?
Gratitude creates presence.
So it's a great time.
Like you said, as you'reaspiring to go higher, it's a
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great opportunity to be groundedsimultaneously.
Okay, so gratitude createspresence.
It allows you to say, you knowwhat, let me slow down and be
grateful.
It's interesting.
The other day I was going for awalk in my neighborhood.
And as I was walking, I was justdoing my best to be present in
the moment and it dawned on melike, man, I can't remember the
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last time I reflected on justeven nature.
Like I saw these birds hoveringover my head and I can hear
them.
They were very loud and.
It had been months since I evennoticed the sound of birds
flying over my head, and justthat moment reminded me of just
the beauty of life and how muchof a blessing it is to even be
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alive, right?
Being around nature, reflectingon things that you typically
wouldn't express gratitude for.
It is such a blessing to bealive, so gratitude is always a
great opportunity to just getgrounded.
Another thing is presencestrengthens relationships,
right?
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Think about those of you who areparents, or those of you who are
in intimate relationships, ormaybe you have like really best
friends.
Imagine how your friends wouldfeel or your kids would feel
like if you were just constantlyglued on your phone, going
through your social media whilethey're trying to tell you
something important.
It, right?
None of us like that.
It's not a pleasant experiencewhen you're trying to
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communicate with someone.
I was communicating with abusiness partner and I noticed
that there was just like the,like my business partner was
doing two things at once and Icaught it and I mentioned it,
right?
Because again.
Sometimes you are you.
You want someone's undividedattention, and you can tell when
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someone's mind is in twodifferent places.
You understand?
So presence is super importantbecause it does strengthen
relationships when you're with akid.
Kids also notice, you may thinkthat they don't notice you like.
On your phone instead of beingpresent with them.
So in our household, we are bigon that.
Like we don't do, if we'resitting down to eat dinner as a
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family, we don't do technology,we don't do phones or anything
like that.
It's important to just haveactual conversations and that's
something that you can implementin, in your relationships.
Also, strong relationships,outlast achievements.
It's so true because that oneachievement may last for the
moment or the year or the week,but those strong relationships
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sometimes are for a lifetime andthere's just so much value that
stacks with strongrelationships.
So think about that, right?
Think about how much of anemphasis we put on achievement
and how much we downplay justhaving really great
relationships.
One thing that I can tell you isthat achievements are so much
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better when you do it withpeople you love.
When you do it with those whoare really close to you, it is
just, it hits different Nowhere's some closing thoughts.
Success.
Without gratitude feels empty.
Gratitude without ambition stayssmall.
The real power is learning tohold both really powerful.
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And I say, I'll say it again forthose in the back, I didn't
catch it the first time.
Success without gratitude feelsempty.
Gratitude without ambition, staysmall.
The real power is learning tohold both.
I remember my mentor wouldalways say that success without
fulfillment is the ultimatefailure.
So it's about the science ofachievement, but the art of
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fulfillment.
You need both in order to reallymaximize on whatever it is that
you're pursuing.
So as we close out.
And I know today was short.
Wanna get you guys back to yourholiday season, spending time
with the family.
But as we close out myencouragement to you is practice
gratitude during one difficultmoment this week.
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So if you catch yourself gettingfrustrated.
Again, turn your frustrationinto fascination.
Get yourself rooted ingratitude.
Maybe you're going through avery difficult time in your
relationship, and you can justtake some time to reflect on all
the good qualities about yourpartner, your friend, your
business partner, whatever, yourcolleague.
But take some time to reflect onall the good aspects.
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It'll most certainly help.
And then send one message.
Appreciation that you've beenpostponing.
So maybe there's someone thathas been doing a lot of work for
you, or maybe it's someone thathelped you, right?
And just sending a message ofappreciation.
It goes a long way.
And then lastly, reflect on whatyou already have that once felt
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impossible.
Something that you may havemaybe you lost 30 pounds and
managed to keep it off.
Maybe you're living in the homethat at one point in time you
didn't really see how you wereeven gonna make it happen.
And you'd find, you'll find thatmany times you're living in what
was once your prayer and it's soimportant to reflect back on
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that.
So my encouragement for you guysagain to close out.
For this year, 2025.
Look back at your year andreflect on all the little
blessings that came along theway.
It's so easy to forget.
It's so easy to put these thingson the back burner.
It's so easy to downplay thethings that are miracles every
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single day in front of our face.
We have miracles happening, butwe get so caught up on the
money, right?
We get so caught up on theachievement, the status, the
accolades, all of thesedifferent things.
But that's just one slice of thepie of this thing we call life.
So taking some time to reflecton.
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So many beautiful things,whether it's having good health,
whether it's living in a countrywhere there's no war or genocide
going on, like that's ablessing.
The fact that we don't evenhave, let's just say starvation,
like when was the last time youheard someone starving to death
in our that you personally knewin this lifetime, probably not
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even once.
And the fact that you have foodto eat, you have a shelter over
your head there's so many peopleout there who are struggling, so
many people who are homeless,and we just have so much to be
grateful for despite all thecraziness happening in the
world.
And it is very uncertain.
We are living in unprecedentedtimes, but it's nothing in
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comparison to what some of ourancestors had to endure.
It's nothing in comparison tomany other time periods before
us, so don't get so caught up inall of the negative news, right?
Because if you open up yourdoor, you walk outside, you'll
see miracles everywhere.
So my hope is that you couldjust take some time this week to
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reflect on everything that youdo have, everything that is
working in your life.
And go into your 2026 with thatattitude and I can ensure you,
it'll be a much better way toopen up the new year while
closing out this year.
And man the time fly.
But so happy to be here with youguys.
I'll be seeing you all next weekfor the last Breakfast Club of
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2025.
Take care.
God bless.
Breakfast is served and I'll beseeing you guys soon.
Take care.
today's topic is going to be theinvisible advantage.
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Gratitude as a success strategy.
So let's jump right into it.
If you're new, typically withinthe first few minutes we're
covering different life hacksand fun facts.
And today I have a few fun factsfor you.
The very first one is gratitudephysically rewires your brain.
So these are centered aroundgratitude and it is
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scientifically proven thatgratitude physically rewires
your brain.
So neuroscience studies showgratitude activates the
prefrontal cortex, the part ofthe brain responsible for
decision making focus andlong-term planning.
That's the same.
Part elite performers rely on.
Gratitude, a lot of people don'trealize like the power and
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potency of gratitude.
And one thing that I can tellyou is that it most certainly
has been very beneficialthroughout the course of my life
to just always wake up in aspirit of gratitude, always go
back to gratitude whenever I'mfeeling down and out.
And business is getting crazy.
I always have to go back togratitude.
Whenever life just isn't goingthe way that you would prefer it
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to go, you always go back togratitude and it'll help you get
centered again.
So next we have.
Number two, fun fact is topperformers practice gratitude
more than average people.
So high achievers across sports,business and the military report
higher levels of gratitude, notbecause life is easier, but
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because gratitude helps themhandle pressure.
Better.
So really great share.
And during this time of theyear, I always encourage people
to actually take some time to rereflect on this past year.
And I always like to do a yearlyhighlight reel, if you will.
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Now, it's not an actual contentcreation reel, it's more a note
in your phone where let's justsay you're recapping 2025.
It'll be a 2025.
Highlight reel, and it's all ofthe accomplishments, all of the
things that you were able to dothroughout the course of the
year that you're super proud of,things that you were able to
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accomplish.
And one of the best things thatyou can do is even go through
your phone album.
For this past year, just if youhave Apple droid may have the
same feature where you can justput in the year and it'll show
all of the videos and photosthat you captured throughout the
year.
And the cool thing about that isyou can backtrack all the things
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that you did.
So typically people take photosof let's say really cool things
that they probably were doing inthat moment.
And it's a great way to rememberand recap everything that you've
done.
So I'll take photos from thatand insert it into my note.
Pad or my journal entry.
And then I'll just list out allthe things that I was able to
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do.
So right now, for example, offthe top of my head, some of the
really cool things that 2025brought was I got to go to Spain
and Portugal.
It was my very first time inPortugal specifically, and
Barcelona.
So it was just a really amazingexperience that I got to do with
my wife.
And that was one of thehighlights of 2025.
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So I, I essentially would justtake photos.
From that trip and put it in thejournal entry.
Another thing is we had oursecond annual creators
conference, and this year we didit at the world renowned James
Museum.
And it was really cool.
It was a major milestone for usand definitely the biggest, best
event that we've had so far.
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And that was a major milestone.
I did a lot of speaking events.
I did all kinds of stuffthroughout the year, so
sometimes you put these thingson the back burner and you take
'em for granted.
So it's super helpful to, again,go back to your photo album,
look back at all the photos andthings that you did and put that
in your yearly recap.
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It's interesting too because onYouTube and YouTube and also
like podcasts they'll do likeyearly recaps, what was the most
the songs that you listen to themost and things like that.
But we never really think to doa recap with our lives.
This is by far one of myfavorite.
Life hacks at the end of everyyear.
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And what it does is more thananything, it puts you in a
spirit of gratitude and it'sjust a great way to close out
the year, but a great way toopen up the upcoming year.
So moving forward, we havenumber three.
The number three fun fact isgratitude improves income.
When was the last time youthought about gratitude
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improving your income potential?
And basically the way it worksis that people who regularly
practice gratitude are morelikely to set goals, follow
through, and build betterrelationships.
Three traits directly linked tohigher earnings.
And career advancement.
So you don't wanna scare awaythe money guys because it's
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funny one of my businesspartners, we always talk about
just a certain energy thatscares away the money.
And we don't mean it in aliteral sense, but.
There are certain just ways ofbeing that repels money, right?
If you wanna attract abundancein your life, there's a certain
frequency, if you will, thatattracts that.
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Like you have to be very mindfulof the way that you feel if
you're adamant about justgrowing wealth and gratitude.
Big part of that because whathappens is you're not
necessarily attracting yourthoughts, you're attracting your
emotions, right?
Your emotions are energy andmotions.
So your emotions are attractingmore circumstances that bring
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you more of those emotions.
So if you're.
In a constant state ofgratitude, you're naturally
going to attract circumstancesthat bring you more gratitude.
That's essentially the way itworks, so very important.
Next we have, let's see here.
Next life hack we have isgratitude under pressure rule
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only practice gratitude whenthings go wrong.
That's when it actually buildsemotional strength.
So this is actually I usually godown the rabbit hole with my
research and find differentthings.
Gratitude under pressure.
Only practice gratitude whenthings go wrong, that's when it
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actually builds emotionalstrength.
So I don't necessarily agreecompletely with this.
I think you should practicegratitude all the time, but it
does help when things are goingwrong to have that automatic
that automatic response wherewhen anything goes wrong or
you're just feeling down and outand you don't really have much
motivation to immediately switchto a space of gratitude.
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It definitely helps.
And it's interesting too becauseI mentioned.
The idea of having a highlightreel, right?
To recap your year.
But I also have a highlight reelfor my overall life.
So whenever I find myself justlike in a funk or not having
much motivation, I always go tomy highlight reel.
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And.
Immediately it puts me in astate of gratitude because this
highlight reel encompassespretty much all of the things
that I've done throughout mylife.
All of the really coolexperiences, some of the trips
that I've taken the amazing theamazing milestones that really
meant a lot to me.
And this is definitely one ofthe best things that you can do
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whenever you have to.
Just give yourself a a pick meuper, if you will.
Next, we have trade complaintsfor curiosity.
Every time you feel the urge tocomplain, replace it with the
question, what is this momenttraining me for?
What is this moment training mefor?
So really good.
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And I remember Jim Rowan wouldalways say, tr, turn your
frustration into fascination.
You have to discipline yourdisappointments.
And it's so true.
A mindset is everything.
And you guys hear me say all thetime, your mindset is where your
mind sits.
So number three is gratitudebefore consumption, before
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checking your phone in themorning.
Name one thing you are gratefulfor.
This primes your nervous systemfor intention instead of
reaction.
So super important.
And it's.
It's interesting too because Ijust noticed, like I always say,
it's interesting.
I was doing a podcast the otherday and I realized, I said, I
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always say I'm curious, and asI'm doing this, I'm like, I'm, I
always say it's interesting, butI have a deep.
Love of learning they call usPolymaths people who have a deep
love for learning and justnaturally spend a lot of time
learning.
I know we attract a lot ofpeople who are the same.
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I call the Breakfast Clubcommunity Personal Development
nerds because a lot of peoplewho tune in every single week
who the hell is gonna spendTuesday morning at 7:00 AM.
Just learning stuff about life,right?
But you guys do, so shout out toeverybody all my nerds who are
hopping on the Breakfast Clubwith me every Tuesday.
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So gratitude before consumption,before checking your phone in
the morning, and one thingyou're grateful for.
And one of the things that Ilearned years ago too, is having
something that you're gratefulfor, but that's super
insignificant.
So it may be, for example,having gratitude for.
The birds and having gratitudefor the beautiful weather
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outside or having a beautifultree that shades your home right
in front of your home, buthaving something that's like
insignificant that you normallywouldn't express gratitude for,
but it forces your brain tothink about.
What you can be grateful for.
Because when you really thinkabout it, there's so many
things.
Like it can be having pavedroads, for example.
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It can be having justelectricity.
There's so many things that wecan be grateful for that we take
for granted that were luxuriesjust a hundred years ago.
So think about it, even theaverage life expectancy has
essentially doubled.
In in, in the last a hundredyears.
So the fact that we could evenlive past 70 years old is an
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incredible thing.
Now let's jump right into it.
And remember today we arecovering everything.
Gratitude and today's title isThe Invisible Advantage.
Gratitude as a Success Strategy.
Let's jump into it.
First and foremost, we have whygratitude is misunderstood.
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Why gratitude is misunderstood.
So when you think about itgratitude is often sold as like
this toxic positivity, right?
It's it's interesting when.
Everybody started getting intolike manifestation and just
thinking positively andattracting all this positive
stuff.
It did create this toxicpositivity in a sense where
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people would put on a front,like they weren't going through
anything and would just try to.
Force positivity on themselvesand it's just not necessarily
the best approach for everyone.
So it's always important to, tobe mindful of that.
That's not what gratitude is.
A lot of people also think thatgratitude means just settling
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right, or ignoring problems, orjust being passive in general.
A lot of people look atgratitude like that and in the
business world.
It's so important to ensure thatyou're not looking at it from
that lens, because again it canbe a tool.
It can be a tool to really getyou going.
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And the truth is, gratitude doesnot equal complacency and
gratitude.
More so is about clarity plusemotional regulation.
That's essentially what it is,right?
Because why do you get claritywhen you're grateful?
Simply because you're puttingmore of a focus on what you do
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have, right?
You're putting more focus onwhat's going right as opposed to
what's going wrong.
And re remember what you focuson expands what you focus on The
longest grows the strongest inyour life.
So if you're in a state of.
Gratitude, you're not gonna bein a state of fear.
If you're in a state ofgratitude.
You're not gonna be in a stateof anxiety.
So that's why there's thatemotional regulation that kicks
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in when you are in a state ofgratitude.
Now, here's a powerful quote.
Gratitude, does it make you stopwanting more?
It makes you more capable ofhandling more.
That's what it's about.
It's expanding your capacitybecause you're grateful.
Okay.
Next up, we have the science andpsychology of gratitude, the
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science and psychology ofgratitude.
So first and foremost,gratitude.
Lower lowers cortisol.
Cortisol is a stress hormone.
They, we call it the big C inneuroscience and.
Cortisol is typically going tobe on the rise whenever you find
yourself stressed out.
And it is important, again tofind ways to minimize the
cortisol.
And there's a lot of ways to goabout it.
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Like you can just go out forwalks in nature.
You can listen to music thatjust changes your mood,
meditation, prayer, all thatstuff.
But gratitude is one of the mosteffective ways to lower your
cortisol.
Next is it increases dopamineand serotonin.
Which is motivation pluswellbeing.
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So serotonin is the happychemical in your body that just
has, you feel it, feeling asense of wellbeing.
And whenever you have thatdopamine, you find yourself more
motivated.
So again, gratitude is moreabout emotional regulation than
anything else.
Next we have reduces emotionalreactivity.
Which leads to better decisions.
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So that's another benefit togratitude overall, right?
It's definitely gonna lead tobetter decisions because you're
not focusing or dwelling onwhat's not working.
So why does this matter forsuccess in the first place?
Reason why it matters is becauseit calms your nervous system.
And outperforms, anxious,nervous an anxious nervous
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system.
And this is like reallyimportant because one thing that
I've noticed and I'm not surehow many of you can relate to
this, whenever I find myself ina space where.
I'm like very stressed out orI'm worried about something in
business.
Oftentimes it hinders me fromactually being productive.
It's actually the enemy, right?
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It's the inner me that'spreventing you from doing what
it is that you need to do.
So it's very important to alwaysensure that you're taking care
of your being in general,because your being is oftentimes
gonna dictate how productive youare on a day-to-day basis.
So that's why.
Gratitude is so powerful becauseit takes you out of that state
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of fear, overwhelm, anxiety, andputs you in a state of
gratitude.
Next, we have emotionalreregulate.
Emotional regulation equalsconsistency.
I always say my superpower, ifthere's any superpower that I
have, it's definitely disciplineand consistency.
So even when you think of theBreakfast Club, right?
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If I didn't know how to properlyregulate my emotions over the
last five years, life has alsobeen life and for me as well,
just like everybody else.
Like I have children, I have a afamily of five that I care for
and I have to go out there.
I have to be a business leaderand I have teams.
All around the world that I haveto help with business and it
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gets very overwhelming, however,right?
Because I've understood how toregulate my emotions.
It's a big reason why I can showup every single Tuesday with a
smile on my face no matterwhat's happening in the world,
right?
I've had loved ones pass away.
I've had all kinds of crisesthat I've had to navigate
through, but I still show upand.
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There's no way in the world Iwould have been able to do that
if it wasn't for understandingemotional regulation.
Okay.
So for me it's typically we sayself-care is the best care.
So it's typically things likeexercise, it's going for walks
outside it's gratitude, it'sjournaling, it's meditation and
prayer, it's eating it's gettingenough sleep.
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All of these things areessential and.
You have to take care of theengine, right?
That's driving all of yourbusiness endeavors and all of
your dreams in a sense.
And that's you.
So remember, consistency beatsmotivation every time, right?
I remember my mentor wouldalways say, you have to do what
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you know, not what you feel.
Because sometimes.
You're just not gonna feel likegetting any work done.
Sometimes you're not gonna feellike going into the gym you
should be getting into the gym.
You know that if you do thatwork, you're naturally gonna
feel a lot better about yourday.
So it's super important.
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Next.
Gratitude as a performance tool.
Gratitude as a performance tool.
So gratitude actually improves alot of things.
It improves focus.
It improves resilience, itimproves relationship quality.
And leadership presence.
Now I'm gonna highlightrelationship quality
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specifically because when itcomes to just relationships in
general we tend to get reallycaught up in what's what we
don't like about our partner,right?
What we are unhappy with when itcomes to our relationship.
And meanwhile, there's 1,000,001things that we could essentially
be grateful for when it comes toour relationship.
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When was the last time youthought about all of the
positive aspects of yourpartner?
All of the positive aspects.
Maybe it's a coworker, maybeit's a boss or manager.
And when you really reflect onit, you probably can name a
bunch of qualities that you dolike about that person.
Hence why you started buildingthe relationship.
In the first place.
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Okay.
Gratitude most certainly helpswhen it comes to relationships
and I constantly have to remindmyself of that because it's so
easy to get caught up in whatyou don't like about your
partner, right?
Or what you're frustrated with.
And we tend to lose focus of themajority of the relationship
that may actually be positive.
So very important.
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Next we have, you can apply.
Gratitude to, let's just say it,it applies to entrepreneurs
handling setbacks.
It can be leaders, managingteams, fathers or mothers,
balancing ambition and family.
Or maybe you're a contentcreator and you're facing
comparison and burnout.
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So many different things thatgratitude applies to, and so
many people and scenarios.
Now here's a great quote.
Gratitude is how you staygrounded while aiming higher.
Gratitude is how you staygrounded while aiming higher.
I remember hearing in the worldof personal development years
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ago, like people would just sayoh, you gotta be content or you
gotta be grateful for what it isthat you do have.
And I remember just thinking tomyself like, why?
Why am I gonna be content?
Why am I just going to settlefor what I do have when I want
more?
But the thing about it is it'sactually counterintuitive to
think that way because gratitudeactually brings you more, the
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more grateful you are again, themore you attract circumstances
that bring you more gratitude.
So it's not oh, if I'm.
Grateful, then it has to justsettle.
Or you're not gonna have desire.
Now it doesn't work that way.
It's really about being gratefuland aspiring for more.
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If that's what you want.
However, being grateful forwhere you're at, because
sometimes we get so caught up inthe future.
And I'm not sure how many of youguys can relate to this, but I
know for me, sometimes I get socaught up in the future that I
really forget to enjoy thepresent moment.
And you know that future may besomething that we're pursuing,
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like a financial goal.
It may be a weight loss goal ormaybe a relationship goal.
And you're so immersed in thatand you're spending so much time
chasing that you end upforgetting all of the beautiful
aspects of your life.
So it is important to remindyourself.
To enjoy the present moment andthere's so much that you can be
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grateful for on an everydaybasis.
Next, we have why ungratefulpeople plateau.
Why ungrateful people plateau.
This happens all the time, soungrateful people.
First and foremost, chaseoutcomes without appreciating
process.
Like just always on the go andnever really taking time to
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just, again, be grateful forwhat it is that they have.
Ungrateful people also burnbridges instead of building
relationships.
Anybody know anyone like that?
Burn bridges instead of buildingrelationships, because
sometimes.
People who are ungrateful, they,they forget those who actually
help them get to where they are.
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Right?
And one thing I learned in thebusiness world is that you gotta
be careful on your way up.
Not to treat people bad becauseyou will see them on your way
down, you'll run into them, andit's not gonna be a pleasant
experience.
Next, ungrateful people areconstantly dissatisfied, which
leads to burnout.
It's so true.
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Sometimes you're just so caughtup chasing, and dissatisfied
that you just end up burning outaltogether.
And then ungrateful peopleoperate from scarcity instead of
strategy.
Okay.
From scarcity instead ofstrategy.
Again.
Two thoughts, two emotionscannot occupy the body and mind
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at the same time.
So that's the power ofgratitude.
It eliminates whatever negativeemotion you're feeling in that
moment because what you'refocusing on typically is gonna
have a direct effect on youremotions in that moment.
Okay, so it's impossible to feelhappy with depressing thoughts.
It's impossible to feel gr orthink about things that bring
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you gratitude and feel anxiety.
So that's the power of it.
Okay?
And another thing is when itcomes to grateful people learn
faster, grateful people recoverquicker.
Think about what's better foryour immune system.
For example, if you are loweringyour cortisol levels and
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increasing your dopamine andserotonin levels it's naturally
going to improve your immunesystem.
Like you, you are a healthierperson, the more grateful you
are.
So that's a big part of therecovery.
It helps build long-term trustas well when you're grateful,
especially if you're in aleadership role.
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When you're grateful, peopletypically want to work for you
because, or work with youbecause they feel appreciated.
If you're ungrateful, why wouldsomeone wanna work for an
ungrateful leader or a manager,a boss.
So it, it is essential, right?
For those of you who run teamsto be grateful, and also it
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helps you stay emotionallystable during chaos, you can be
the peace in the storm.
Next, a practical gratitudepractical gratitude practices
that actually work.
So here we go.
Here's some best practices andnot just stuff that you can put
in a journal.
Like it's all kinds of differentaspects of gratitude pra
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practices.
The very first one issituational gratitude.
So ask yourself in any moment,what advantage does this
situation give me?
What advantage?
It's just a way to reframe yourmindset whenever you are
encountering differentobstacles.
Ask yourself, what advantagedoes this situation give me?
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Where's the blessing in this?
Where's the treasure?
In this trash?
Where's the inspiring message inthis mess?
And if you dig deep enough,you'll find that every situation
can come with a blessing.
Secondly, people-based gratituderegularly acknowledge mentors,
partners, team members, evencritics, right?
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Thank the haters.
They're a big part of thejourney as well.
The hero's journey would not beone if there weren't any
critics.
So that's also all part of thejourney and have gratitude for
it all.
Next is future gratitude.
Act, grateful for discipline,not outcomes.
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Appreciate effort beforeresults.
So it's more focused on thejourney than it is the
destination.
Okay?
And that's a big part of it.
Next, we have hard gratitude, soyou can be grateful for delays,
rejection, resistance.
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Because those build capacity.
Now think about it.
If you're sitting in traffic,you can sit there and dwell on
it, right?
You can complain about it.
But when it's all said and done,like what is that actually doing
for you?
Or you can just say, you knowwhat?
I'm grateful because I actuallyget some time to maybe catch up
on an audio book or a podcast,or maybe you're waiting online
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and you can make a phone call toa loved one, right?
There's certain things, maybeit's rejection, and you say, you
know what?
I'm grateful to even be on thisjourney because there's no way
that you're going to get theoutcome you're looking for
without failing forward, withoutgetting rejected.
That's a big part of theprocess, so just taking time to
even acknowledge.
The fact that you're on yourhero's journey, right?
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Going through resistance, thehard is typically what makes
something an opportunity.
If what you were aspiring to dowas not hard, would it be much
of an opportunity?
Think about it.
So embracing the hard reframing,the way you look at certain
things and these are the hardgratitudes, right?
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It's not always easy to begrateful when you're going
through rejection or you'refailing, but it is an essential
part of the process.
Sometimes when I go through verydifficult circumstances, I'll
have to remind myself that, youknow what?
This is gonna make an incrediblestory one day.
I just reframe it because it'slike it keeps you going and it
keeps you pressing forward.
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Next we have, and by the way, ifyou guys are getting value, drop
a V in the comments for value.
If you're getting value so far,here we go.
Gratitude and legacy.
So you have to tie it back topurpose, right?
Gratitude creates presence.
So it's a great time.
Like you said, as you'reaspiring to go higher, it's a
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great opportunity to be groundedsimultaneously.
Okay, so gratitude createspresence.
It allows you to say, you knowwhat, let me slow down and be
grateful.
It's interesting.
The other day I was going for awalk in my neighborhood.
And as I was walking, I was justdoing my best to be present in
the moment and it dawned on melike, man, I can't remember the
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last time I reflected on justeven nature.
Like I saw these birds hoveringover my head and I can hear
them.
They were very loud and.
It had been months since I evennoticed the sound of birds
flying over my head, and justthat moment reminded me of just
the beauty of life and how muchof a blessing it is to even be
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alive, right?
Being around nature, reflectingon things that you typically
wouldn't express gratitude for.
It is such a blessing to bealive, so gratitude is always a
great opportunity to just getgrounded.
Another thing is presencestrengthens relationships,
right?
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Think about those of you who areparents, or those of you who are
in intimate relationships, ormaybe you have like really best
friends.
Imagine how your friends wouldfeel or your kids would feel
like if you were just constantlyglued on your phone, going
through your social media whilethey're trying to tell you
something important.
It, right?
None of us like that.
It's not a pleasant experiencewhen you're trying to
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communicate with someone.
I was communicating with abusiness partner and I noticed
that there was just like the,like my business partner was
doing two things at once and Icaught it and I mentioned it,
right?
Because again.
Sometimes you are you.
You want someone's undividedattention, and you can tell when
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someone's mind is in twodifferent places.
You understand?
So presence is super importantbecause it does strengthen
relationships when you're with akid.
Kids also notice, you may thinkthat they don't notice you like.
On your phone instead of beingpresent with them.
So in our household, we are bigon that.
Like we don't do, if we'resitting down to eat dinner as a
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family, we don't do technology,we don't do phones or anything
like that.
It's important to just haveactual conversations and that's
something that you can implementin, in your relationships.
Also, strong relationships,outlast achievements.
It's so true because that oneachievement may last for the
moment or the year or the week,but those strong relationships
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sometimes are for a lifetime andthere's just so much value that
stacks with strongrelationships.
So think about that, right?
Think about how much of anemphasis we put on achievement
and how much we downplay justhaving really great
relationships.
One thing that I can tell you isthat achievements are so much
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better when you do it withpeople you love.
When you do it with those whoare really close to you, it is
just, it hits different Nowhere's some closing thoughts.
Success.
Without gratitude feels empty.
Gratitude without ambition stayssmall.
The real power is learning tohold both really powerful.
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And I say, I'll say it again forthose in the back, I didn't
catch it the first time.
Success without gratitude feelsempty.
Gratitude without ambition, staysmall.
The real power is learning tohold both.
I remember my mentor wouldalways say that success without
fulfillment is the ultimatefailure.
So it's about the science ofachievement, but the art of
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fulfillment.
You need both in order to reallymaximize on whatever it is that
you're pursuing.
So as we close out.
And I know today was short.
Wanna get you guys back to yourholiday season, spending time
with the family.
But as we close out myencouragement to you is practice
gratitude during one difficultmoment this week.
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So if you catch yourself gettingfrustrated.
Again, turn your frustrationinto fascination.
Get yourself rooted ingratitude.
Maybe you're going through avery difficult time in your
relationship, and you can justtake some time to reflect on all
the good qualities about yourpartner, your friend, your
business partner, whatever, yourcolleague.
But take some time to reflect onall the good aspects.
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It'll most certainly help.
And then send one message.
Appreciation that you've beenpostponing.
So maybe there's someone thathas been doing a lot of work for
you, or maybe it's someone thathelped you, right?
And just sending a message ofappreciation.
It goes a long way.
And then lastly, reflect on whatyou already have that once felt
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impossible.
Something that you may havemaybe you lost 30 pounds and
managed to keep it off.
Maybe you're living in the homethat at one point in time you
didn't really see how you wereeven gonna make it happen.
And you'd find, you'll find thatmany times you're living in what
was once your prayer and it's soimportant to reflect back on
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that.
So my encouragement for you guysagain to close out.
For this year, 2025.
Look back at your year andreflect on all the little
blessings that came along theway.
It's so easy to forget.
It's so easy to put these thingson the back burner.
It's so easy to downplay thethings that are miracles every
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single day in front of our face.
We have miracles happening, butwe get so caught up on the
money, right?
We get so caught up on theachievement, the status, the
accolades, all of thesedifferent things.
But that's just one slice of thepie of this thing we call life.
So taking some time to reflecton.
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So many beautiful things,whether it's having good health,
whether it's living in a countrywhere there's no war or genocide
going on, like that's ablessing.
The fact that we don't evenhave, let's just say starvation,
like when was the last time youheard someone starving to death
in our that you personally knewin this lifetime, probably not
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even once.
And the fact that you have foodto eat, you have a shelter over
your head there's so many peopleout there who are struggling, so
many people who are homeless,and we just have so much to be
grateful for despite all thecraziness happening in the
world.
And it is very uncertain.
We are living in unprecedentedtimes, but it's nothing in
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comparison to what some of ourancestors had to endure.
It's nothing in comparison tomany other time periods before
us, so don't get so caught up inall of the negative news, right?
Because if you open up yourdoor, you walk outside, you'll
see miracles everywhere.
So my hope is that you couldjust take some time this week to
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reflect on everything that youdo have, everything that is
working in your life.
And go into your 2026 with thatattitude and I can ensure you,
it'll be a much better way toopen up the new year while
closing out this year.
And man the time fly.
But so happy to be here with youguys.
I'll be seeing you all next weekfor the last Breakfast Club of
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2025.
Take care.
God bless.
Breakfast is served and I'll beseeing you guys soon.
Take care.
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