You're amazing! Why aren't you married?

If you're like a lot of singles, one of the hardest questions to answer or statements to respond to is, "You're amazing! I can't understand why you're still single," or "How are you not married yet?"  

There are so many different things that singles struggle with in the process of meeting, becoming exclusive, creating a secure attachment, and getting married that it's not as easy as it seems. Simply being amazing isn't enough to guarantee that you're going to get married, so it's just one of the most difficult questions to hear when people ask, "You're amazing! Why are you still single?" Nevertheless, I do have some answers to that question. 

My name is Alisa Goodwin Snell from the Lasting Love Podcast. I was a Marriage and Family Therapist for 17 years. I wrote books for singles during that time. Then I made the transition to just doing dating and relationship strategies and coaching. I created the Lasting Love Academy courses, with comprehensive videos, audios, books, and materials. Check out the LastingLoveAcademy.com  to take advantage of my 30-years of expertise and extensive Lasting Love Academy for as little as $27 a month. We offer several programs depending on the results you want to get. So welcome to the Lasting Love Podcast, where we feature real life, real people, and real love. 

I began performing Marriage and Family Therapy as a young woman at the age of 23, so my career and passion for lasting love began in the 90s. About 10 to 15 years into that experience, I was working a lot with singles, and one of the things I was most baffled by was how these amazing singles seem to be struggling so much with either committing in a relationship or getting and keeping the attention of the people that they were really interested in. 

Particularly, I was focused on these couples who really seemed to be intelligent, socially aware, and very dateable, and yet they kept recycling through relationships with a lot of doubts, breakups, uncertainty, and fear of settling when they were obviously so well suited for each other. I just couldn't understand what was holding them back, and I kept thinking, certainly, there's a program out there with a solution. I just needed to be able to find that solution and refer my clients for it.