Welcome to the LeadHer Shift podcast, where host Alian Ollivierre creates a safe, honest space for bold women building power, presence, and purpose from the inside out. In this deeply personal kickoff to a new season, Alian opens up about the defining moments of her last five years—including her journey through motherhood, professional pivots, and inner transformation. She shares how the LeadHer Shift movement was born from her own search for authentic leadership, and how reclaiming her voice became not just a personal revival, but an invitation for all women to step into clarity, courage, and conviction.
This episode explores the messy, sometimes isolating process of identity shifts, the power of inner awareness, and the transition from performative confidence to fully embodied leadership. Alian highlights that true authority and presence begin with the work within—and invites listeners to join her and a community of trailblazing women for strategies, stories, and support as they navigate their own leadership journeys. If you’ve ever felt invisible, doubted your ambition, or wondered if your leadership truly matters, this episode is for you. You’re not alone, and your story is ready to be heard.
1. Introduction to the LeadHer Shift Podcast
- Welcome message and purpose of the podcast
- Emphasis on a safe space for bold women building power, presence, and purpose
- Introduction of the host, Alian Ollivierre
- Setting the stage for a deeply personal episode and a new era of the podcast
2. Alian’s Personal Story and Defining Moments
- Sharing of deeply personal experiences from the last five years
- The feeling of urgency to share her gifts and reconnect with listeners
- The concept of “shift” and how her experiences may mirror those of the audience
3. Challenges with Visibility and Self-Expression
- Owning credentials and titles but feeling her voice was not fully her own
- Experiences of shrinking in rooms and hesitating to take up space
- Specific example from a United Nations meeting: withholding critical questions and experiencing self-doubt
4. The Concept of Inner Permission and Capacity
- Recognizing the difference between capability and capacity
- Acknowledging a lack of inner permission to hold space and be fully present
5. Major Life Changes and Their Impact on Identity
- Shifts occurring in 2020: the global pandemic and the birth of her child
- Transition into motherhood: joy, grief, and isolation
- Navigating the emotional complexities and identity questions of being a new mother
6. The Loss and Realignment of Ambition
- Unexpected loss of ambition and redefining success in simple terms
- The struggle with self-doubt, feeling unworthy, and the erosion of former passions
7. The Process of Rebuilding and Self-Discovery
- Rebuilding herself, piece by piece, after intense life changes
- Using metaphors like “clearing the bush” to describe the process of self-renewal
- Questioning, “Who am I becoming?” versus trying to reclaim her past self
8. Emergence of a New Version of Self
- Separating and honoring various roles: mother, wife, daughter, leader
- Development of a stronger, more grounded, and intentional self
- Deepening spirituality and clarity of purpose
9. The Birth and Purpose of the LeadHer Shift Podcast
- Launching the podcast in 2020 as an act of reclamation and alignment
- The transformation of the podcast from a space for shared perspectives to a declaration of leadership
10. The LeadHer Shift Framework: From Inner Awareness to Outer Authority
- Realization that inner work is foundational to authentic leadership
- Defining inner...
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(00:00):
Welcome to the Lead Her Shift
podcast. This is what I like to call a
safe space. A space for bold women
building their power, presence, and purpose
from the inside out. A space where we
explore what it means to lead with clarity,
(00:23):
courage, and conviction. So
wherever you are in the world, hey.
I'm your host, Alyane Oliver, and I am super honored
that you're tuning in today. Now today,
I want to share something deeply personal.
(00:43):
I'll share and delve into a few of my defining moments
over the last particularly five years and a little
bit about how the lead her shift
was birthed. And I really feel a sense of urgency
to share my gift with all of you. So this episode
is not just the start of a new season. It's the
(01:06):
reconnection with everyone who has been listening,
is a reckoning, and more than that, is
really a revival. It's the beginning of a new
era. An era shaped by
alignment, authenticity
and inner power. Honestly,
(01:29):
it's really the story behind my shift. And maybe I
don't know, it mirrors yours.
She always knew she had something to
say. And for a while, she did. She
stood up. She spoke. She
even created spaces where others could stand up
(01:52):
and speak too. But every time she
entered a room, she shrank.
She hesitated. Just a little.
Just enough not to take
up too much space. She
didn't want to be too loud or even
(02:15):
too noticeable. I know this woman
very, very well because I was her.
I had the title. I had the degrees from
the law to my master's in international relations. I had
the experience from corporate to the United
(02:35):
Nations. I had the receipts, the projects I
completed, all the tasks that worked really
well and built that level of credibility. But,
my voice, I did not
feel fully it did not feel fully mine
yet. This was
(02:57):
still something missing.
And sometimes even when I said the right
things or so I thought,
I'd still walk away second guessing myself.
Imagine you're saying the right things,
sometimes at the right time, in the right moments, with
(03:20):
the right audience. But, then you walk away
and you replay every conversation, every
response, every decision you made, every hesitation, every facial
expression that occurred in every moment.
And I will never forget, I vividly remember
(03:40):
one evening leaving a meeting
with some of my colleagues at the United Nations.
And it was that moment where
we had a powerful meeting. It was about a particular
project that we were about to execute.
(04:02):
And yet, in the meeting itself, I didn't want
to ask the kind of questions to bring
alarm to some of the challenges or the risks that might
happen as part of this project. And I
said nothing. I wasn't as bold as I thought I
was being. I asked some questions, but just
(04:24):
enough. Just enough questions
to be seen as having an input into the project.
Just enough input that it didn't feel
like I was just cruising through the meeting. Right?
But then leaving the meeting,
I kinda started to beat myself up, if I'm honest. And started to
(04:47):
say to myself, well, why didn't you say this? This would have
been an important point to me at this point. Because what
if this occurs as a result of you not saying this?
And it wasn't about my capability or even
me needing more credentials. It was about
(05:07):
capacity. I wasn't giving myself the
inner permission to hold space.
I hadn't given myself that permission. You
see? So now, let's trap back
to five years ago.
(05:28):
It's 2020. We just
all rang in a brand new
decade. We celebrated. We.
It was that moment of anew that
everyone really focused
in on during the beginning stages. Right?
(05:51):
Then, everything changed. When the
world shut down, so did I.
So did the version of me I had spent
years carefully building, especially in my profession.
And at the same time, I had a
(06:11):
new chapter. A new chapter in the book and in
my journey had opened. I became a
mother. And it's so beautiful to say that out
loud. Motherhood was and still
is beautiful. My pregnancy was smooth.
I had wanted I always tell others I would be
(06:33):
pregnant all you know, consistently because my
pregnancy was great.
The delivery experience, however, was an experience.
If you know, you know. And I was
so full of joy. Love. My heart
was honestly is the biggest I feel like I've ever felt
(06:55):
my heart feeling. My heart was filled with
new meaning of what life was about.
Honestly, a lot of shifts happened as a result of
just that birthing experience.
But it also brought grief. The
kind of grief that I don't think we really, as women,
(07:18):
are prepared for, no one tells us about,
and there are no conversations, communities, at least that
I know of, where this level of grief is shared.
The kind where you lose yourself
quietly in a lonely,
(07:39):
dark mindset space.
Honestly, where although there have
been a myriad,
millions of people who have gone through these same experiences,
you still feel super isolated and alone.
Right? I honestly remember maybe two
(08:01):
days or so. Oh,
no. It was the night,
the evening we brought home our
daughter. And
or rather the evening when the doctor said,
okay. You everything looks fine. You know? Mommy's good.
(08:26):
All vitals are clear. Baby is fine to go.
You are released from the hospital. And I feel
like in that moment, my heart was like, well,
so the nurses are coming with us?
This is my first time being a mother. Like, what do you mean? Like, you
(08:46):
want me to leave after two days? Like, I don't understand. And
it was the moment getting home that
really stood out because in that quiet
moment, I laid my daughter down
and I watched her sleeping. And I sat on the
(09:07):
bed still in pain, you know, still a lot
of worry, still a lot of things going on in my head.
And all all I could think is, like,
so no one is coming like, no one is coming to save us.
Like, we are in this together. Like,
just remember. Right? But in those moments, it was
(09:30):
feeling like I don't know I don't know who I
am. I know I am a mother. I just
gave birth. Like, that's what the world tells me my
title looks like. But am I? Or,
you know, what kind of leader am I now?
Like, am I sup like, what am I supposed to do? I
(09:52):
have an entire small human
here that I have to pay close attention to.
Make sure she's sleeping well. Make sure she gets up.
Make sure she's fed. Make sure she's clean. And
the list goes on. And then I sit
and I wonder, but am I still a leader if I
(10:15):
don't recognize who I am anymore?
That was a serious question I had to ask myself.
And, at the same time, silly upon looking back.
You know? I didn't expect how much I would lose
pieces of who I was,
(10:36):
quite honestly. There was even that, like,
quiet erosion of my ambition. Like, I
I I feel like I lost all sights of ambition.
Ambition? That is wild. Like, I
no longer cared to push, you know.
And, success for me, if
(11:00):
I'm honest, was just being able to take a daily shower.
Again, if you know, you know, you know. So it's those
moments like the Zoom calls on mute, the long
days of diapers, baby crying, you know, this
small being needing you, mommy, for
food, comfort, nourishment, love, care,
(11:23):
attention. You you have to teach. You have to clean. You
is is a being that is
literally helpless, needing everything out of
you that you don't even feel like you have to give.
And don't talk about the doubt. And slowly I
(11:44):
began to drift from the
woman I was. I was actually no longer the woman I was but of course
in those moments I didn't recognize it.
I wasn't quite sure of myself anymore.
And, I really in those moments
(12:04):
truthfully felt unworthy.
But what I thought was losing my passion upon
hindsight was actually a massive
overhaul and realignment. Because I
started over time to rebuild
piece by piece. And what I thought was
(12:28):
loss was actually a clearing.
Is you know, when you think about it, you know,
there's all this bush. If you know, you know. If you
if you live in a a island, you know
there's all this bush. Right? And you're trying to
chart, trying to change a cart road
(12:50):
into a paved a paved road. But you gotta
do the clearing first. Right? In order to see the other side,
in order to know if this is the path that
that could be paved. And that's essentially what it kinda
was for me. And instead of trying to
become who I used to be, I had to ask
(13:12):
myself, who am I becoming? Who am I
becoming now? Because
I couldn't identify with past Allianne
and at the same time, the road wasn't clear enough for
me to
(13:40):
honoring my roles, my separate
roles. So, at first, I had to separate
wife from mother, from daughter, from
boss. Right? From manager and
leader. I had to separate those roles
to start to debush debush my
(14:03):
mind in in a way, right? And, somewhere in
the process of doing that, something new
began to emerge. I was
stronger. I am more grounded
now. There's a version of myself that's more
spiritual. My faith holds me
(14:25):
closer than it ever did before. I'm way more
intentional, way more confident,
more connected to what really matters. I
even started a podcast in 2020. That's when Delete
Her Shift was born. And, at first, it was
just a podcast. Just a space to
(14:47):
share thoughts. Just a space to hear
perspectives. And now I realize looking back,
it was really a declaration.
It was really a declaration. Me reclaiming my
leadership was utilized in the form of the
creation of the podcast. And at the time, I didn't even
(15:09):
know it was part of my own alignment.
But now I see it extremely clearly. It was the beginning
of something way deeper for me. Because,
after recording the first episode,
I honestly felt I never felt
so alive. So, let me start with the with the fact
(15:33):
that I was for the first time in
quite some time, I was having real
and meaningful adult conversations.
Right? And, aside
from that, it really felt like a moment
of relief. I felt so comfortable
(15:56):
sharing perspectives, asking questions,
hearing thoughts from leaders all
around the world,
and even sharing new perspectives that helped to frame
what the leadership really was all about. So
(16:17):
without fully real realizing it, to be quite honest with you,
a framework for the leadership was created.
That was the shift. So, from
inner awareness to outer authority that realization
changed everything
(16:38):
for me. Everything.
Because, in those moments of filming and in
those moments of connecting, I realize
that if I don't understand who I am
inwardly, I can't
portray, and really
(17:01):
exude what I want outwardly.
Because for me, I discovered that inner awareness is
knowing your worth
before the world validates it.
It's about knowing who you are long before the world
claps for you. It's listening
(17:24):
to the truth of your story and note
I said the truth. Not what
is true, but what is the
truth. And, letting that truth
lead you. Right?
(17:44):
If you don't understand your strengths and your
values, your inner awareness is weak
and it's being clear about who
you are before anyone else.
It starts basically with you.
(18:05):
And if you want to show up authentically or in an
authentic way, in any way shape or form,
you kinda have no choice but to discover your inner
awareness. But once you
do, the outer authority
(18:25):
just exists. That's when leadership becomes
felt. Not the title,
not the, the dictating to,
not the ordering of, the leadership
that others feel is truly felt.
(18:49):
Felt. Your presence is felt. Your
values are felt. The strength that
others would like to embody as a leader
is felt from you because you are clear,
you are focused, and you are absolutely
(19:09):
understanding of who you are and what your worth
is. And outer authority is what happens when the inner
work shows up publicly. It shows
up publicly Because once you start to
exist in your ins, in your inner
self,
(19:32):
it kinda it it kinda exudes on its own. You don't
even have to say anything. When your presence speaks
before you do, that's when you know.
But also, it's when the room shifts when you
speak. It's the influence that isn't
forced, is just embodied.
(19:56):
You don't have to force your influence. When you
lead with grace and hold space for others
and influence without authority,
your outer authority is just doing what it's
supposed to do. And believe you me, the shift is
real. From invisible to impactful,
(20:19):
from qualified to commanding, from performing
confidence to owning it.
Most persons out here are performing confidence.
They're performative.
They're doing the things you think confidence looks like and
not truly owning what confidence is for them.
(20:43):
This is the formula I now teach. Because it's the
one I had to live through quite honestly. It
was in 2024 when
I realized my
presence is being felt and I'm not even in the room.
When my team held an event and from
(21:06):
start to finish, they showed up.
They showed up. And, they delivered.
So much so, I wasn't in the room. I had
just my son was just born. My second
child was just born. And,
(21:27):
the event was like two months after that.
And, oh sorry, no, a month after I gave
birth. And
in those moments, I realized that
it was a moment that surprised even
(21:49):
me about my outer authority showing up
even when I wasn't in the room. Because my team delivered to
the point where others even felt I
had a hand in it and I didn't. I
may have guided. I may have supported. I may have answered questions,
but my team did the thing. And that in
(22:11):
itself showed me how influence, how powerful influence
can truly be when you are very clear about
yourself, so much so that your team
starts to embody a lot of those things. So listen.
You see, this season, I want to bring you
(22:32):
into rooms filled with powerful women
who've done their own shifting, both in life and leadership.
You will hear from leaders, founders, creatives,
women just like you navigating identity shifts,
visibility shifts, and even legacy.
(22:53):
You'll get strategies to move from performing
leadership to embodying it because we in we don't
want performative actions no longer.
We'll talk mindset. We'll talk identity,
visibility. We'll even talk about
(23:14):
power and what the true meaning of power
is. And I'll be
here in between these conversations with
women sharing tools,
truths, and reminding you of your power.
Because it doesn't start outside of you. It
(23:37):
starts within you. It begins with inner
clarity, inner conviction, and inner
shifts. And I'm extremely
excited for this next season and this next chapter in
your life. You may not know it yet, but
your leadership is happening as I speak.
(24:01):
Now, this episode
is just for you because you are the woman
who may be confused about your ambition. You may be the
woman who is having a
defining moment right now but you aren't aware of it.
You may be the woman who think you're confident but there's a lot of doubting
(24:24):
questions you ask yourself. What if
you have a lot of of questions that is currently
shifting your mindset or
having it remain stagnant? You
have a network around you, but maybe it's
not the best network that could help you
(24:47):
to be your best and most authentic self.
I want you to keep listening in. The lead her
shift is to help you to determine what
the authenticity is gonna look like, is to help you
lead your best life and lead in
any space and room you enter.
(25:10):
This is for you.
Now, if this episode spoke to you,
share it. Don't keep it a secret. Don't gatekeep.
Send it to that woman who you know needs to hear.
You are not alone. And your
leadership still matters. I'll repeat that.
(25:35):
You are not alone and your leadership
matters. And wherever
you listen, please subscribe to the Lead Her Shift
podcast or head on over to our website,
theleadhershift.com to connect with us there.
This movement is about more than just leadership.
(25:58):
It's about building something better. I'd
I'd love to hear your story because your voice matters,
you know. Because the world is ready for your
authority. The question is,
are you?
Welcome to the Lead Her Shift
podcast. This is what I like to call a
safe space. A space for bold women
building their power, presence, and purpose
from the inside out. A space where we
explore what it means to lead with clarity,
(00:23):
courage, and conviction. So
wherever you are in the world, hey.
I'm your host, Alyane Oliver, and I am super honored
that you're tuning in today. Now today,
I want to share something deeply personal.
(00:43):
I'll share and delve into a few of my defining moments
over the last particularly five years and a little
bit about how the lead her shift
was birthed. And I really feel a sense of urgency
to share my gift with all of you. So this episode
is not just the start of a new season. It's the
(01:06):
reconnection with everyone who has been listening,
is a reckoning, and more than that, is
really a revival. It's the beginning of a new
era. An era shaped by
alignment, authenticity
and inner power. Honestly,
(01:29):
it's really the story behind my shift. And maybe I
don't know, it mirrors yours.
She always knew she had something to
say. And for a while, she did. She
stood up. She spoke. She
even created spaces where others could stand up
(01:52):
and speak too. But every time she
entered a room, she shrank.
She hesitated. Just a little.
Just enough not to take
up too much space. She
didn't want to be too loud or even
(02:15):
too noticeable. I know this woman
very, very well because I was her.
I had the title. I had the degrees from
the law to my master's in international relations. I had
the experience from corporate to the United
(02:35):
Nations. I had the receipts, the projects I
completed, all the tasks that worked really
well and built that level of credibility. But,
my voice, I did not
feel fully it did not feel fully mine
yet. This was
(02:57):
still something missing.
And sometimes even when I said the right
things or so I thought,
I'd still walk away second guessing myself.
Imagine you're saying the right things,
sometimes at the right time, in the right moments, with
(03:20):
the right audience. But, then you walk away
and you replay every conversation, every
response, every decision you made, every hesitation, every facial
expression that occurred in every moment.
And I will never forget, I vividly remember
(03:40):
one evening leaving a meeting
with some of my colleagues at the United Nations.
And it was that moment where
we had a powerful meeting. It was about a particular
project that we were about to execute.
(04:02):
And yet, in the meeting itself, I didn't want
to ask the kind of questions to bring
alarm to some of the challenges or the risks that might
happen as part of this project. And I
said nothing. I wasn't as bold as I thought I
was being. I asked some questions, but just
(04:24):
enough. Just enough questions
to be seen as having an input into the project.
Just enough input that it didn't feel
like I was just cruising through the meeting. Right?
But then leaving the meeting,
I kinda started to beat myself up, if I'm honest. And started to
(04:47):
say to myself, well, why didn't you say this? This would have
been an important point to me at this point. Because what
if this occurs as a result of you not saying this?
And it wasn't about my capability or even
me needing more credentials. It was about
(05:07):
capacity. I wasn't giving myself the
inner permission to hold space.
I hadn't given myself that permission. You
see? So now, let's trap back
to five years ago.
(05:28):
It's 2020. We just
all rang in a brand new
decade. We celebrated. We.
It was that moment of anew that
everyone really focused
in on during the beginning stages. Right?
(05:51):
Then, everything changed. When the
world shut down, so did I.
So did the version of me I had spent
years carefully building, especially in my profession.
And at the same time, I had a
(06:11):
new chapter. A new chapter in the book and in
my journey had opened. I became a
mother. And it's so beautiful to say that out
loud. Motherhood was and still
is beautiful. My pregnancy was smooth.
I had wanted I always tell others I would be
(06:33):
pregnant all you know, consistently because my
pregnancy was great.
The delivery experience, however, was an experience.
If you know, you know. And I was
so full of joy. Love. My heart
was honestly is the biggest I feel like I've ever felt
(06:55):
my heart feeling. My heart was filled with
new meaning of what life was about.
Honestly, a lot of shifts happened as a result of
just that birthing experience.
But it also brought grief. The
kind of grief that I don't think we really, as women,
(07:18):
are prepared for, no one tells us about,
and there are no conversations, communities, at least that
I know of, where this level of grief is shared.
The kind where you lose yourself
quietly in a lonely,
(07:39):
dark mindset space.
Honestly, where although there have
been a myriad,
millions of people who have gone through these same experiences,
you still feel super isolated and alone.
Right? I honestly remember maybe two
(08:01):
days or so. Oh,
no. It was the night,
the evening we brought home our
daughter. And
or rather the evening when the doctor said,
okay. You everything looks fine. You know? Mommy's good.
(08:26):
All vitals are clear. Baby is fine to go.
You are released from the hospital. And I feel
like in that moment, my heart was like, well,
so the nurses are coming with us?
This is my first time being a mother. Like, what do you mean? Like, you
(08:46):
want me to leave after two days? Like, I don't understand. And
it was the moment getting home that
really stood out because in that quiet
moment, I laid my daughter down
and I watched her sleeping. And I sat on the
(09:07):
bed still in pain, you know, still a lot
of worry, still a lot of things going on in my head.
And all all I could think is, like,
so no one is coming like, no one is coming to save us.
Like, we are in this together. Like,
just remember. Right? But in those moments, it was
(09:30):
feeling like I don't know I don't know who I
am. I know I am a mother. I just
gave birth. Like, that's what the world tells me my
title looks like. But am I? Or,
you know, what kind of leader am I now?
Like, am I sup like, what am I supposed to do? I
(09:52):
have an entire small human
here that I have to pay close attention to.
Make sure she's sleeping well. Make sure she gets up.
Make sure she's fed. Make sure she's clean. And
the list goes on. And then I sit
and I wonder, but am I still a leader if I
(10:15):
don't recognize who I am anymore?
That was a serious question I had to ask myself.
And, at the same time, silly upon looking back.
You know? I didn't expect how much I would lose
pieces of who I was,
(10:36):
quite honestly. There was even that, like,
quiet erosion of my ambition. Like, I
I I feel like I lost all sights of ambition.
Ambition? That is wild. Like, I
no longer cared to push, you know.
And, success for me, if
(11:00):
I'm honest, was just being able to take a daily shower.
Again, if you know, you know, you know. So it's those
moments like the Zoom calls on mute, the long
days of diapers, baby crying, you know, this
small being needing you, mommy, for
food, comfort, nourishment, love, care,
(11:23):
attention. You you have to teach. You have to clean. You
is is a being that is
literally helpless, needing everything out of
you that you don't even feel like you have to give.
And don't talk about the doubt. And slowly I
(11:44):
began to drift from the
woman I was. I was actually no longer the woman I was but of course
in those moments I didn't recognize it.
I wasn't quite sure of myself anymore.
And, I really in those moments
(12:04):
truthfully felt unworthy.
But what I thought was losing my passion upon
hindsight was actually a massive
overhaul and realignment. Because I
started over time to rebuild
piece by piece. And what I thought was
(12:28):
loss was actually a clearing.
Is you know, when you think about it, you know,
there's all this bush. If you know, you know. If you
if you live in a a island, you know
there's all this bush. Right? And you're trying to
chart, trying to change a cart road
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into a paved a paved road. But you gotta
do the clearing first. Right? In order to see the other side,
in order to know if this is the path that
that could be paved. And that's essentially what it kinda
was for me. And instead of trying to
become who I used to be, I had to ask
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myself, who am I becoming? Who am I
becoming now? Because
I couldn't identify with past Allianne
and at the same time, the road wasn't clear enough for
me to
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honoring my roles, my separate
roles. So, at first, I had to separate
wife from mother, from daughter, from
boss. Right? From manager and
leader. I had to separate those roles
to start to debush debush my
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mind in in a way, right? And, somewhere in
the process of doing that, something new
began to emerge. I was
stronger. I am more grounded
now. There's a version of myself that's more
spiritual. My faith holds me
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closer than it ever did before. I'm way more
intentional, way more confident,
more connected to what really matters. I
even started a podcast in 2020. That's when Delete
Her Shift was born. And, at first, it was
just a podcast. Just a space to
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share thoughts. Just a space to hear
perspectives. And now I realize looking back,
it was really a declaration.
It was really a declaration. Me reclaiming my
leadership was utilized in the form of the
creation of the podcast. And at the time, I didn't even
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know it was part of my own alignment.
But now I see it extremely clearly. It was the beginning
of something way deeper for me. Because,
after recording the first episode,
I honestly felt I never felt
so alive. So, let me start with the with the fact
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that I was for the first time in
quite some time, I was having real
and meaningful adult conversations.
Right? And, aside
from that, it really felt like a moment
of relief. I felt so comfortable
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sharing perspectives, asking questions,
hearing thoughts from leaders all
around the world,
and even sharing new perspectives that helped to frame
what the leadership really was all about. So
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without fully real realizing it, to be quite honest with you,
a framework for the leadership was created.
That was the shift. So, from
inner awareness to outer authority that realization
changed everything
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for me. Everything.
Because, in those moments of filming and in
those moments of connecting, I realize
that if I don't understand who I am
inwardly, I can't
portray, and really
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exude what I want outwardly.
Because for me, I discovered that inner awareness is
knowing your worth
before the world validates it.
It's about knowing who you are long before the world
claps for you. It's listening
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to the truth of your story and note
I said the truth. Not what
is true, but what is the
truth. And, letting that truth
lead you. Right?
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If you don't understand your strengths and your
values, your inner awareness is weak
and it's being clear about who
you are before anyone else.
It starts basically with you.
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And if you want to show up authentically or in an
authentic way, in any way shape or form,
you kinda have no choice but to discover your inner
awareness. But once you
do, the outer authority
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just exists. That's when leadership becomes
felt. Not the title,
not the, the dictating to,
not the ordering of, the leadership
that others feel is truly felt.
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Felt. Your presence is felt. Your
values are felt. The strength that
others would like to embody as a leader
is felt from you because you are clear,
you are focused, and you are absolutely
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understanding of who you are and what your worth
is. And outer authority is what happens when the inner
work shows up publicly. It shows
up publicly Because once you start to
exist in your ins, in your inner
self,
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it kinda it it kinda exudes on its own. You don't
even have to say anything. When your presence speaks
before you do, that's when you know.
But also, it's when the room shifts when you
speak. It's the influence that isn't
forced, is just embodied.
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You don't have to force your influence. When you
lead with grace and hold space for others
and influence without authority,
your outer authority is just doing what it's
supposed to do. And believe you me, the shift is
real. From invisible to impactful,
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from qualified to commanding, from performing
confidence to owning it.
Most persons out here are performing confidence.
They're performative.
They're doing the things you think confidence looks like and
not truly owning what confidence is for them.
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This is the formula I now teach. Because it's the
one I had to live through quite honestly. It
was in 2024 when
I realized my
presence is being felt and I'm not even in the room.
When my team held an event and from
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start to finish, they showed up.
They showed up. And, they delivered.
So much so, I wasn't in the room. I had
just my son was just born. My second
child was just born. And,
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the event was like two months after that.
And, oh sorry, no, a month after I gave
birth. And
in those moments, I realized that
it was a moment that surprised even
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me about my outer authority showing up
even when I wasn't in the room. Because my team delivered to
the point where others even felt I
had a hand in it and I didn't. I
may have guided. I may have supported. I may have answered questions,
but my team did the thing. And that in
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itself showed me how influence, how powerful influence
can truly be when you are very clear about
yourself, so much so that your team
starts to embody a lot of those things. So listen.
You see, this season, I want to bring you
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into rooms filled with powerful women
who've done their own shifting, both in life and leadership.
You will hear from leaders, founders, creatives,
women just like you navigating identity shifts,
visibility shifts, and even legacy.
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You'll get strategies to move from performing
leadership to embodying it because we in we don't
want performative actions no longer.
We'll talk mindset. We'll talk identity,
visibility. We'll even talk about
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power and what the true meaning of power
is. And I'll be
here in between these conversations with
women sharing tools,
truths, and reminding you of your power.
Because it doesn't start outside of you. It
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starts within you. It begins with inner
clarity, inner conviction, and inner
shifts. And I'm extremely
excited for this next season and this next chapter in
your life. You may not know it yet, but
your leadership is happening as I speak.
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Now, this episode
is just for you because you are the woman
who may be confused about your ambition. You may be the
woman who is having a
defining moment right now but you aren't aware of it.
You may be the woman who think you're confident but there's a lot of doubting
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questions you ask yourself. What if
you have a lot of of questions that is currently
shifting your mindset or
having it remain stagnant? You
have a network around you, but maybe it's
not the best network that could help you
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to be your best and most authentic self.
I want you to keep listening in. The lead her
shift is to help you to determine what
the authenticity is gonna look like, is to help you
lead your best life and lead in
any space and room you enter.
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This is for you.
Now, if this episode spoke to you,
share it. Don't keep it a secret. Don't gatekeep.
Send it to that woman who you know needs to hear.
You are not alone. And your
leadership still matters. I'll repeat that.
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You are not alone and your leadership
matters. And wherever
you listen, please subscribe to the Lead Her Shift
podcast or head on over to our website,
theleadhershift.com to connect with us there.
This movement is about more than just leadership.
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It's about building something better. I'd
I'd love to hear your story because your voice matters,
you know. Because the world is ready for your
authority. The question is,
are you?
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