October 13, 2025 • 30 mins
Are you your own biggest obstacle? In this raw and inspiring episode, Aussie builder, Duayne Pearce gets real about self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and the daily battles we all face on the road to success. Discover how to break through comfort zones, silence your inner critic, and level up your life—no matter where you’re starting from.
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SPEAKER_00 (01:28):
G'day guys, welcome back to another episode of Level
Up.
We are back in the shed thisafternoon and I'm uh I'm puffing
a bit actually because we'vejust did a few push-ups and it
did a bit of a warm-up.
But uh look, it is going to beanother cracking episode today.
Uh we actually don't haveanother guest today.
We got a lot of feedback fromthe last individual uh sort of
(01:48):
chat, I'd guess I did on my own.
Uh so we thought we'd have acrack and do a do a couple more.
But today I wanted to reallytalk about we always get a lot
of feedback when people hearmore about my story.
So I want to throw more justreal deal, real life shit out
there that I deal with on adaily basis.
(02:11):
And one of my uh one of mythings is that I am actually my
biggest problem.
And I think this will relate toa lot of people in the
construction industry, but whatI mean by that is I wanted to
I'm gonna talk you through a fewdifferent scenarios, but I am
(02:33):
the biggest thing holding meback, uh, and it shits me
because I I know I'm not puttingin 100% into everything that I
do, so and I challenge myselfconstantly.
I I know I can be a betterfather, a better husband, a
better mate, a better employer,um a better everything.
(02:56):
Um, but I am my biggest problembecause I think it's human
nature.
We always tend to look for theeasiest way.
And knowing everything I knownow, having multiple businesses,
going to like doing spendinghundreds of thousands of dollars
on coaching, mentoring,programs, all those types of
things.
(03:17):
The reality is that it's thepeople that can push through the
comfort the most, so that thatsucceed, and it and it's to what
level you want to succeed to.
And I think it doesn't matterwhat level you're at, whether
you're uh I guess whether you'veyou've got nothing, you're
homeless, um, whether or whetheryou're a multi-billionaire, like
(03:40):
everybody has comfort levels,and we have to push through
those comfort levels to succeedand to have success and to go to
the next level.
And for me, I am the biggestproblem when it comes to that.
Like I hold myself back.
Like I said, I know I can dobetter, I know I'm not putting
in a hundred percent.
(04:01):
Um, and I just want to talkthrough this because I know
there's a lot of people outthere that get that are really
hard on themselves that take itvery personally if they don't
put in a hundred percent of theeffort every single day.
Um, like I've actually it's aquestion I'd love to ask a lot
of really big entrepreneurs likethe Grant Cadones, the Gary V's,
(04:24):
um even um people like TonyRobbins, like are they on all
the time?
Because like you watch theseguys and you see all the shit
they put on social media and yougo to their seminars and they're
just like full on, and they talkabout being full on all the
time, and um I question that alittle bit about myself because
(04:44):
from or for me anyway, it'simpossible to be on all the
time.
Um and I think you've gottaevery now and then you've got to
have a bit of a break, you'vegot to rest a little rest
yourself a little bit so thatyou can keep moving forward.
But um when I say that I am mybiggest problem, um, to give you
some real examples, so like Iwould love to be, I'd love to
(05:08):
work out more, I'd love to bemore toned, more fit, um, and I
do a little bit, I I know that Ican definitely put more effort
when it comes to um lookingafter myself, but I'll be
honest, like um I getsidetracked pretty easily.
Um quite often if I get up earlyintending on doing a workout or
(05:30):
going for a walk or whatever, umI'll get stuck, I'll I'll get
stuck into office work.
I'll um I just love what I do, Ilove building, and so building
is my passion for building is isa bit of a problem, and it stops
me from doing other thingsbecause I I just love it.
I love getting in the office, Ilove working through things, I
love going to site, checking onthe boys, so I I know I need to
(05:53):
um control myself a little bitwhen it comes to putting more
effort into my health and myfitness, um, and it's something
I need to work on more, but umI'm definitely my biggest
problem when it comes to beingsuccessful.
Uh I question myself constantly,uh, especially like some of the
people that I hang around, umsome really good mates I have
(06:15):
that have done incredibly wellin business.
I question myself whether likejust stupid shit all the time,
and I'm sure everybody doesthis.
I'd love, I'd love for people toreach out and give me some
feedback on this and tell methat I'm not the only one, but
um I quite often question myselfin some of the circles that I um
I hang around is like, am I goodenough to be hanging out with
(06:39):
these guys?
Am I good enough to be sittingat this table?
Like, am I good enough to havethe businesses that I have?
Am I good enough to be doingthese types of projects?
Am I good enough to be to havewhat I have?
Like um, that's something Iquestion myself a lot, and I've
got to pull myself back intoline and and sort of tell
myself, fucking oath, you'regood enough.
(06:59):
Like you have worked your assoff to to be here, to get this,
to do that.
Um, but it's just something I Iquestion myself, and I think a
lot of it comes from uh the waythat I was brought up, the
stories that I was led tobelieve.
Um, so yeah, that's definitelysomething I I battle with as
well, is just thinking if I'mgood enough to be where I am and
(07:22):
do what I do.
But another one is um like werecently purchased like my dream
car, like we uh it's a car thatI used to look at when I'm like
20 years ago when I was subbing,and uh one of the developers I
was doing work for used to rockup in this car, and um I used to
I just told myself I'm gonnafucking one day I'm gonna have
(07:43):
one of those cars.
And uh recently Camille and Iwere lucky enough to uh purchase
that car.
Um it's Mercedes GLS 6.3 Sincredible car, um, love it, 720
odd horsepower, it's an absoluteweapon.
And we actually didn't evenreally go looking, uh, like we
just got up one weekend, weweren't really we're talking
(08:06):
talking about buying a new caror whatever, um, and we didn't
have one something on anythingon one weekend, and I we just
decided to get up and drivearound a Saturday and go and
have a look at a a few cars, andwe were actually looking at a
300 series cruiser or somethinglike that.
And yeah, anyway, long storyshort, ended up with a um a new
Mercedes, which is fuckingawesome.
But ever since we bought thatcar, um we've had a few a few
(08:29):
months now, and I questionmyself all the time, like even
driving it around.
I'm like, fuck me.
I dress like a bargain, I wearpluggers almost everywhere.
Camille's always on my backabout uh about what I wear when
we go out.
And now we're driving around inthis this Flash Mercedes car,
and I question, like, should Iactually really do I deserve to
(08:51):
have this car?
So um, and so again, I I gottapull myself back into line.
Like, we've worked hard, wedeserve to be able to have nice
things and and reach our goalsand and all those types of
things, but probably the thebiggest thing with all of this
and what makes me think thesethings all the time is I I feel
(09:16):
like uh friends or familymembers or even work colleagues
that haven't been able to havethe success that um Camille and
I have had, and look, I'm notI'm no wanker about this shit.
Like I've I want to be far moresuccessful than when what I am
now, but like I feel like Idrive around at the moment,
(09:39):
there's a lot of homeless peoplearound, and like you're uh
driving to one of our jobs inparticular, you go past these
parks, and there's all tents andcars and stuff, and there's all
homeless people there, and likeI literally every single time I
drive past, I think to myself,like, fuck me, like is it okay
for me to have all the shit Ihave when these people can't
even afford a roof over theirhead?
(10:01):
And I don't know, it reallyplays on my mind, it really
affects me, and I've got tocontinually work on um telling
myself that yes, you've workedhard, you deserve all these
things.
So I the reason I want to talkabout all this stuff is because
I I do believe that every singleone of us deals with these sorts
of thoughts and these sorts ofum things, and I like talking
(10:24):
about this stuff and I likeputting it out there because I
feel like by me telling thesetalking about my stories and
like how I deal with things, um,I want it to lift the level of
everybody that listens to thispodcast.
I want people to everybody tounderstand that it's okay to
have these types of feelings,and it's okay to push through,
(10:45):
and it's okay to have reach yourgoals to be successful and all
these types of things.
It's it's just part of life.
Um, we're always going toquestion who we are, what we
have, what we do, and like a lotof it for me, um, also comes
back to I guess what I was tolduh growing up by by family
(11:08):
members, by uncles and aunties,by um in my working career,
people that I've been associatedwith.
And I truly believe thatAustralia is probably one of the
worst places for this type ofthing because the other thing
that makes it hard and why why Iquestion myself on all of this
(11:29):
stuff is because Australia's arehuge at accepting being
comfortable, and I've noticedthis more and more the more that
I've traveled overseas, and likeyou go to the States or even
Europe and places, and peoplereally get behind people, like
when they start doing well orthey've got a great idea, or
(11:49):
they're they're puttingthemselves out there.
People jump on their bandwagon,they support them, they g them
up.
Whereas in Australia, everyone'syour biggest supporter until
you're outdoing them, and assoon as you start outperforming
them, then all the shit starts.
The um criticism, the smart asscomments.
(12:13):
Um it's like when someone goesto purchase a house or or buy
something off you, and becausethey don't actually have the
money or they can't afford it,they make smart ass comments
like oh it this is a problem orthat's a problem.
Whereas people that have themoney, there's no problems, they
just tell it how it is and theypurchase it.
And um I do feel Australia isreally bad for yeah, like
(12:39):
holding people in the comfortzone, like um look at the way
our our sports works now, likeit gives me the shits with with
my girl sports.
Everyone's a winner, uh itabsolutely shits me to tears.
I think it's ridiculous, I thinkit it I think it should be
banned.
Like, how can people progressand put in the effort to put in
(13:00):
100% all the time if everysingle person that is involved
gets a ribbon or a reward?
Like, reality is there's secondis always the first loser, and
everyone after that is stilllosing.
Like, you if you want to workhard, you want to push yourself
to the limits, like you have toaim for number one.
(13:20):
Um, and we've and I think yeah,like I said, Australia is really
bad for it.
We have to stop settling forcomfortable because comfortable,
like mediocre, it's just it'snot acceptable.
Every single one of us has theability to be whoever we want to
be, do whatever we want to do,have whatever we want to have,
(13:41):
and yeah, I I again it'ssomething I struggle with
because uh around you, like thebetter I do, the more I get told
by probably uh more often thannot family members, like you
work too much, you're tired, youalways look tired.
Like, there's just all thesethoughts and things that you're
getting told all the time thatyou've then got to battle with,
(14:03):
and and then you start toquestion yourself like okay,
well, should I really be doingthis?
Um, like do people really thinkI look tired all the time, or
shit, am I actually working toohard?
But that's again it it's it'sdragging back down to that
comfort zone.
Like everyone, everyone wantsyou to settle to their comfort
(14:25):
zone, and like I said, it's uhwe're very good at rewarding
people for staying in thatcomfort zone.
There's like aussies are reallybad for ging people up and
pushing them along andcelebrating people when they're
(15:36):
having a win and when they'redoing well.
So I tend to be my worst, mybiggest problem, like my own
problem when it comes to thatsort of thing as well.
So um the other one is socialmedia, like I uh this will sound
a bit weird and shit, but likeum I do a lot of fucking
airy-fairy shit, so uhkinesiology and breath work, and
(16:00):
um I've tried some pretty crazyshit, and I've been told over
half a dozen times now that eventhough I feel like I'm being
myself, I've got a shitload moreto tell and a shitload more to
give, and that I'm holding back,and so this podcast is a good
platform to allow me to be who Iam and talk about things openly,
(16:22):
and um I guess tell you guysthese stories, and but I I'm I
am my biggest problem when itcomes to this as well because I
even though people think thatI'm putting my like I'm on
social media all the time andI'm posting a lot, I battle with
it every single time that Ipost.
Um I see what other people areputting out on social media, I
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see how many followers otherpeople have on social media, and
I constantly battle with myself.
Um, am I good enough to be doingwhat I'm doing?
Am I good enough to be teachingbuilders how to run better
businesses?
Am I good enough to be creatinga new building industry?
And fucking oath I am, like Ibelieve I am.
I've done the hard yards, I'veI've survived in this industry
(17:09):
now.
Um well, I've been in theindustry for 27 years, or
actually 20 uh 29 years now, andum running my own building
business for 18.
And as I've talked about, I Ihad struggles for the first sort
of nine to ten years, but thelast nine years have been
fucking great, and like we areabsolutely pushing forward,
(17:30):
we're constantly improving, andum I've got the runs on the
board, and I fucking oath I Ican tell people how it is.
I can I I probably um yeah, likeI I don't um like everything I
do is a real deal, so there's nobullshit, but um I see a lot of
stuff that other people areputting out there on social
media and I I know it's bullshitbecause I've had conversations
(17:53):
with them, I know the behind thescenes of their business and all
this type of stuff, and and yetI still question myself uh
constantly whether I'm goodenough to be putting myself out
there.
So that's a that is a problemthat I battle with all the time
as well.
But um if I can encourageeverybody to put you just put
yourself out there because Iknow myself, by me putting
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myself out there, I've nowhelped thousands of people in
this industry.
Um, I've I've helped savehundreds of lives, I've um saved
marriages, I've saved families,simply by me putting my ugly mug
out there on video and tellingyou guys stories that resonate
with you.
So, for that reason, I encourageevery single person to don't be
(18:40):
afraid to put yourself out therebecause you it's not about how
many followers you have, it'snot about how many likes and how
many comments and all thatbullshit.
At the end of the day, you wantto be connecting with people
that are connecting with youbecause they believe in you,
they trust you, uh, and theyenjoy what you're putting out
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there.
Um, and through that, you willconnect with genuine people.
You don't want to have 10, 20,40, 100, a million followers if
they're not engaged with you, ifthey don't believe in your cause
and your purpose.
So um, again, that's somethingthat I've had to battle with,
(19:23):
and I still like I said, I stillbattle with it all the time.
Like um, Shay produces all theseawesome videos and stuff, and
like we've I've got hundreds ofvideos that I don't even post
because then I'm like I I battlewith myself, like, should I be
posting as much as I am?
Should it should I be puttingthis sort of stuff out there?
So um, yeah, look, you just gotto do it, you've got to put
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yourself out there, and um, frommy experience, it's the best
thing you can do.
Because for me, putting myselfout there for personally, for
me, it actually is a huge way ofme holding myself accountable
because now I'm like, fuck, ifI'm putting all this shit out
there and I'm telling peoplethey should be doing this and
that I've been doing this, andthis is a result you'll get,
then I'm the real deal.
(20:04):
So I have to follow through onthat.
I have to do it in my ownbusiness, I have to do it in my
own life because I'm a I'm notthe guy, like I do not want to
be a fraud, I do not want anyoneever coming up to me and saying
you don't practice what youpreach.
Um, because that that's yeah,that's something I'm really
passionate about.
Like um, and it's also somethingthat really shits me with social
(20:28):
media because so many people onsocial media do not practice
what they preach.
So um, yeah, I'm my biggestproblem when it comes to that
sort of thing as well.
I've talked about the socialmedia, we've talked about the
fitness, talked about success.
Um, likeability.
Uh that's definitely one that II battle with.
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I I um I don't know, I'mprobably too self-conscious with
stuff like that.
I worry about what people think,I worry like, believe it or not,
even though I dress like a bogand I wear pluggers everywhere,
like I do think like fuck thepeople look at me and think,
like, who who the fuck's thatguy?
What's he wearing?
Like, um and again, I like thatties in with the social media
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thing.
Like, I see other people in ourindustry that are uh trying to
do coaching and mentoring or orum running building businesses,
and like they're all to me, theythey look flash, they're always
nicely trimmed and groomed andum well presented, and to me
that's just it's not me.
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Um like I am my most comfortablewhen I'm in my pluggers, uh in
my boardies, on the on thebeach, chilling out, having a
swim, or or throwing an old pairof jeans on and a and a work
shirt and and getting stuck inthe shit on the farm or around
the yard.
Um that's my comfort place, butI do definitely struggle with
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being like the likability thingand worrying about what people
think and what people are sayingand stuff, and it's something
that I've had to push through.
Like I wouldn't be puttingmyself out there as much as I do
now if I hadn't taught myself topush through that.
And um basically, like the thebiggest game changer in this um
(22:12):
with this for me was the book UmThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a
Fuck.
Um, that was an incredible book,it really changed my mindset,
and it's pretty much how I livemy life now.
And going back to the stuff Iwas talking about before with
the new car and stuff.
Um Camille and I joke about thisquite a bit, like she'll quite
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often have a dig at me becausewe'll be going out to dinner or
pickups dinner or whatever, andnow we're in this new car, we
jump in the car.
And like Camille, my wife um isan incredible person.
She she always looks the likelooks the part and puts in
effort to for everybody else.
Like she's always making sureour girls are spot on, and um,
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and then when we go out, I letthe family down because I I'm
the DAG in the family.
But um yeah, that's just how Iam, it's how I feel comfortable,
and um yeah, it is what it is.
If people don't like me for theway I look or what I talk about
or all that type of stuff, thenthey're not sort of really worth
worrying about anyway.
But um yeah, it is what it is.
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I think I know there's a lot ofpeople that reach out to me a
lot and really worry aboutputting themselves out there,
they see what I'm doing and theysee how much it's worked for me,
and then like I get questionsall the time, like, how do you
do it?
And so one thing we actually doin my live life build business
with our members is uh we doMonday Momentums and Friday
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wins, and that all startedbecause that that's a way of
encouraging them to get on videoand record.
So Friday wins, it's aboutgetting members on there,
holding their phone up,recording themselves, and just
talking about their week.
Um, and it could be anything,but just talking about their
week and any little wins or bigwins that they think they've
had, and the whole idea of thatis getting them comfortable
(23:59):
speaking to the group becauseit's only the members, no one
else sees it, and yeah, so manyof them have man, from where
they started, like doing theirfirst short little video,
stumbling, stuttering, to nowdoing full-on videos on their
Instagram and promoting theirbusiness and things.
So, um, yeah, fuck whateverybody else thinks.
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Like you've just got to putyourself out there and have a
crack, have a go.
Um, who cares about what anyoneelse thinks or does?
So if you if like I'm doing thisthis podcast episode today, I'm
talking through with you all thethoughts that go through my head
all the time, and that's whythis podcast is about me being
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my biggest problem, because Ibelieve that 99.9% of people
that listen to this podcast willhave the same issue, you'll be
battling every single day withyourself, and if you're your
biggest problem, it literally isas simple as talking to yourself
(25:04):
when you're driving around orwalking the dog or doing a
workout or whatever, andchanging those thoughts in your
head so that you beat thosethoughts, and all of a sudden
the the world's your oyster.
Like, if you're the only thingthat's holding you back, then
work on yourself, work on yourstories, work on your mindset.
(25:26):
Like it's okay.
Um, I'm a I'm a huge supporterof it's okay to give yourself a
pat on the back.
Um, no one's gonna come up toyou and tell you, like, it's
good to it's great you're doingthat, go on, do it.
Like, so like it's hard to getsupport in Australia.
So give yourself a pat on theback and put yourself out there
(25:48):
and stop being your biggestproblem and break through that
barrier so that you can have andbe and do anything that you want
to do because I am a real lifeexample that when you do that,
incredible things happen.
So, look, guys, I'll wrap it upfor this one.
Um, hope I haven't talked toomuch shit, but uh hopefully
that's giving you a little bitof an insight into what my head
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is like and the shit that I tellmyself constantly and how I deal
with it to break through it sothat I can be successful and um
live the life that I want tolive.
So, look, guys, as usual, like,comment, subscribe.
Please ask us questions so wecan bring you videos that you
want to hear.
Um, look forward to seeing youon the next one.
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G'day guys, welcome back to another episode of Level
Up.
We are back in the shed thisafternoon and I'm uh I'm puffing
a bit actually because we'vejust did a few push-ups and it
did a bit of a warm-up.
But uh look, it is going to beanother cracking episode today.
Uh we actually don't haveanother guest today.
We got a lot of feedback fromthe last individual uh sort of
(01:48):
chat, I'd guess I did on my own.
Uh so we thought we'd have acrack and do a do a couple more.
But today I wanted to reallytalk about we always get a lot
of feedback when people hearmore about my story.
So I want to throw more justreal deal, real life shit out
there that I deal with on adaily basis.
(02:11):
And one of my uh one of mythings is that I am actually my
biggest problem.
And I think this will relate toa lot of people in the
construction industry, but whatI mean by that is I wanted to
I'm gonna talk you through a fewdifferent scenarios, but I am
(02:33):
the biggest thing holding meback, uh, and it shits me
because I I know I'm not puttingin 100% into everything that I
do, so and I challenge myselfconstantly.
I I know I can be a betterfather, a better husband, a
better mate, a better employer,um a better everything.
(02:56):
Um, but I am my biggest problembecause I think it's human
nature.
We always tend to look for theeasiest way.
And knowing everything I knownow, having multiple businesses,
going to like doing spendinghundreds of thousands of dollars
on coaching, mentoring,programs, all those types of
things.
(03:17):
The reality is that it's thepeople that can push through the
comfort the most, so that thatsucceed, and it and it's to what
level you want to succeed to.
And I think it doesn't matterwhat level you're at, whether
you're uh I guess whether you'veyou've got nothing, you're
homeless, um, whether or whetheryou're a multi-billionaire, like
(03:40):
everybody has comfort levels,and we have to push through
those comfort levels to succeedand to have success and to go to
the next level.
And for me, I am the biggestproblem when it comes to that.
Like I hold myself back.
Like I said, I know I can dobetter, I know I'm not putting
in a hundred percent.
(04:01):
Um, and I just want to talkthrough this because I know
there's a lot of people outthere that get that are really
hard on themselves that take itvery personally if they don't
put in a hundred percent of theeffort every single day.
Um, like I've actually it's aquestion I'd love to ask a lot
of really big entrepreneurs likethe Grant Cadones, the Gary V's,
(04:24):
um even um people like TonyRobbins, like are they on all
the time?
Because like you watch theseguys and you see all the shit
they put on social media and yougo to their seminars and they're
just like full on, and they talkabout being full on all the
time, and um I question that alittle bit about myself because
(04:44):
from or for me anyway, it'simpossible to be on all the
time.
Um and I think you've gottaevery now and then you've got to
have a bit of a break, you'vegot to rest a little rest
yourself a little bit so thatyou can keep moving forward.
But um when I say that I am mybiggest problem, um, to give you
some real examples, so like Iwould love to be, I'd love to
(05:08):
work out more, I'd love to bemore toned, more fit, um, and I
do a little bit, I I know that Ican definitely put more effort
when it comes to um lookingafter myself, but I'll be
honest, like um I getsidetracked pretty easily.
Um quite often if I get up earlyintending on doing a workout or
(05:30):
going for a walk or whatever, umI'll get stuck, I'll I'll get
stuck into office work.
I'll um I just love what I do, Ilove building, and so building
is my passion for building is isa bit of a problem, and it stops
me from doing other thingsbecause I I just love it.
I love getting in the office, Ilove working through things, I
love going to site, checking onthe boys, so I I know I need to
(05:53):
um control myself a little bitwhen it comes to putting more
effort into my health and myfitness, um, and it's something
I need to work on more, but umI'm definitely my biggest
problem when it comes to beingsuccessful.
Uh I question myself constantly,uh, especially like some of the
people that I hang around, umsome really good mates I have
(06:15):
that have done incredibly wellin business.
I question myself whether likejust stupid shit all the time,
and I'm sure everybody doesthis.
I'd love, I'd love for people toreach out and give me some
feedback on this and tell methat I'm not the only one, but
um I quite often question myselfin some of the circles that I um
I hang around is like, am I goodenough to be hanging out with
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these guys?
Am I good enough to be sittingat this table?
Like, am I good enough to havethe businesses that I have?
Am I good enough to be doingthese types of projects?
Am I good enough to be to havewhat I have?
Like um, that's something Iquestion myself a lot, and I've
got to pull myself back intoline and and sort of tell
myself, fucking oath, you'regood enough.
(06:59):
Like you have worked your assoff to to be here, to get this,
to do that.
Um, but it's just something I Iquestion myself, and I think a
lot of it comes from uh the waythat I was brought up, the
stories that I was led tobelieve.
Um, so yeah, that's definitelysomething I I battle with as
well, is just thinking if I'mgood enough to be where I am and
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do what I do.
But another one is um like werecently purchased like my dream
car, like we uh it's a car thatI used to look at when I'm like
20 years ago when I was subbing,and uh one of the developers I
was doing work for used to rockup in this car, and um I used to
I just told myself I'm gonnafucking one day I'm gonna have
(07:43):
one of those cars.
And uh recently Camille and Iwere lucky enough to uh purchase
that car.
Um it's Mercedes GLS 6.3 Sincredible car, um, love it, 720
odd horsepower, it's an absoluteweapon.
And we actually didn't evenreally go looking, uh, like we
just got up one weekend, weweren't really we're talking
(08:06):
talking about buying a new caror whatever, um, and we didn't
have one something on anythingon one weekend, and I we just
decided to get up and drivearound a Saturday and go and
have a look at a a few cars, andwe were actually looking at a
300 series cruiser or somethinglike that.
And yeah, anyway, long storyshort, ended up with a um a new
Mercedes, which is fuckingawesome.
But ever since we bought thatcar, um we've had a few a few
(08:29):
months now, and I questionmyself all the time, like even
driving it around.
I'm like, fuck me.
I dress like a bargain, I wearpluggers almost everywhere.
Camille's always on my backabout uh about what I wear when
we go out.
And now we're driving around inthis this Flash Mercedes car,
and I question, like, should Iactually really do I deserve to
(08:51):
have this car?
So um, and so again, I I gottapull myself back into line.
Like, we've worked hard, wedeserve to be able to have nice
things and and reach our goalsand and all those types of
things, but probably the thebiggest thing with all of this
and what makes me think thesethings all the time is I I feel
(09:16):
like uh friends or familymembers or even work colleagues
that haven't been able to havethe success that um Camille and
I have had, and look, I'm notI'm no wanker about this shit.
Like I've I want to be far moresuccessful than when what I am
now, but like I feel like Idrive around at the moment,
(09:39):
there's a lot of homeless peoplearound, and like you're uh
driving to one of our jobs inparticular, you go past these
parks, and there's all tents andcars and stuff, and there's all
homeless people there, and likeI literally every single time I
drive past, I think to myself,like, fuck me, like is it okay
for me to have all the shit Ihave when these people can't
even afford a roof over theirhead?
(10:01):
And I don't know, it reallyplays on my mind, it really
affects me, and I've got tocontinually work on um telling
myself that yes, you've workedhard, you deserve all these
things.
So I the reason I want to talkabout all this stuff is because
I I do believe that every singleone of us deals with these sorts
of thoughts and these sorts ofum things, and I like talking
(10:24):
about this stuff and I likeputting it out there because I
feel like by me telling thesetalking about my stories and
like how I deal with things, um,I want it to lift the level of
everybody that listens to thispodcast.
I want people to everybody tounderstand that it's okay to
have these types of feelings,and it's okay to push through,
(10:45):
and it's okay to have reach yourgoals to be successful and all
these types of things.
It's it's just part of life.
Um, we're always going toquestion who we are, what we
have, what we do, and like a lotof it for me, um, also comes
back to I guess what I was tolduh growing up by by family
(11:08):
members, by uncles and aunties,by um in my working career,
people that I've been associatedwith.
And I truly believe thatAustralia is probably one of the
worst places for this type ofthing because the other thing
that makes it hard and why why Iquestion myself on all of this
(11:29):
stuff is because Australia's arehuge at accepting being
comfortable, and I've noticedthis more and more the more that
I've traveled overseas, and likeyou go to the States or even
Europe and places, and peoplereally get behind people, like
when they start doing well orthey've got a great idea, or
(11:49):
they're they're puttingthemselves out there.
People jump on their bandwagon,they support them, they g them
up.
Whereas in Australia, everyone'syour biggest supporter until
you're outdoing them, and assoon as you start outperforming
them, then all the shit starts.
The um criticism, the smart asscomments.
(12:13):
Um it's like when someone goesto purchase a house or or buy
something off you, and becausethey don't actually have the
money or they can't afford it,they make smart ass comments
like oh it this is a problem orthat's a problem.
Whereas people that have themoney, there's no problems, they
just tell it how it is and theypurchase it.
And um I do feel Australia isreally bad for yeah, like
(12:39):
holding people in the comfortzone, like um look at the way
our our sports works now, likeit gives me the shits with with
my girl sports.
Everyone's a winner, uh itabsolutely shits me to tears.
I think it's ridiculous, I thinkit it I think it should be
banned.
Like, how can people progressand put in the effort to put in
(13:00):
100% all the time if everysingle person that is involved
gets a ribbon or a reward?
Like, reality is there's secondis always the first loser, and
everyone after that is stilllosing.
Like, you if you want to workhard, you want to push yourself
to the limits, like you have toaim for number one.
(13:20):
Um, and we've and I think yeah,like I said, Australia is really
bad for it.
We have to stop settling forcomfortable because comfortable,
like mediocre, it's just it'snot acceptable.
Every single one of us has theability to be whoever we want to
be, do whatever we want to do,have whatever we want to have,
(13:41):
and yeah, I I again it'ssomething I struggle with
because uh around you, like thebetter I do, the more I get told
by probably uh more often thannot family members, like you
work too much, you're tired, youalways look tired.
Like, there's just all thesethoughts and things that you're
getting told all the time thatyou've then got to battle with,
(14:03):
and and then you start toquestion yourself like okay,
well, should I really be doingthis?
Um, like do people really thinkI look tired all the time, or
shit, am I actually working toohard?
But that's again it it's it'sdragging back down to that
comfort zone.
Like everyone, everyone wantsyou to settle to their comfort
(14:25):
zone, and like I said, it's uhwe're very good at rewarding
people for staying in thatcomfort zone.
There's like aussies are reallybad for ging people up and
pushing them along andcelebrating people when they're
(15:36):
having a win and when they'redoing well.
So I tend to be my worst, mybiggest problem, like my own
problem when it comes to thatsort of thing as well.
So um the other one is socialmedia, like I uh this will sound
a bit weird and shit, but likeum I do a lot of fucking
airy-fairy shit, so uhkinesiology and breath work, and
(16:00):
um I've tried some pretty crazyshit, and I've been told over
half a dozen times now that eventhough I feel like I'm being
myself, I've got a shitload moreto tell and a shitload more to
give, and that I'm holding back,and so this podcast is a good
platform to allow me to be who Iam and talk about things openly,
(16:22):
and um I guess tell you guysthese stories, and but I I'm I
am my biggest problem when itcomes to this as well because I
even though people think thatI'm putting my like I'm on
social media all the time andI'm posting a lot, I battle with
it every single time that Ipost.
Um I see what other people areputting out on social media, I
(16:46):
see how many followers otherpeople have on social media, and
I constantly battle with myself.
Um, am I good enough to be doingwhat I'm doing?
Am I good enough to be teachingbuilders how to run better
businesses?
Am I good enough to be creatinga new building industry?
And fucking oath I am, like Ibelieve I am.
I've done the hard yards, I'veI've survived in this industry
(17:09):
now.
Um well, I've been in theindustry for 27 years, or
actually 20 uh 29 years now, andum running my own building
business for 18.
And as I've talked about, I Ihad struggles for the first sort
of nine to ten years, but thelast nine years have been
fucking great, and like we areabsolutely pushing forward,
(17:30):
we're constantly improving, andum I've got the runs on the
board, and I fucking oath I Ican tell people how it is.
I can I I probably um yeah, likeI I don't um like everything I
do is a real deal, so there's nobullshit, but um I see a lot of
stuff that other people areputting out there on social
media and I I know it's bullshitbecause I've had conversations
(17:53):
with them, I know the behind thescenes of their business and all
this type of stuff, and and yetI still question myself uh
constantly whether I'm goodenough to be putting myself out
there.
So that's a that is a problemthat I battle with all the time
as well.
But um if I can encourageeverybody to put you just put
yourself out there because Iknow myself, by me putting
(18:14):
myself out there, I've nowhelped thousands of people in
this industry.
Um, I've I've helped savehundreds of lives, I've um saved
marriages, I've saved families,simply by me putting my ugly mug
out there on video and tellingyou guys stories that resonate
with you.
So, for that reason, I encourageevery single person to don't be
(18:40):
afraid to put yourself out therebecause you it's not about how
many followers you have, it'snot about how many likes and how
many comments and all thatbullshit.
At the end of the day, you wantto be connecting with people
that are connecting with youbecause they believe in you,
they trust you, uh, and theyenjoy what you're putting out
(19:01):
there.
Um, and through that, you willconnect with genuine people.
You don't want to have 10, 20,40, 100, a million followers if
they're not engaged with you, ifthey don't believe in your cause
and your purpose.
So um, again, that's somethingthat I've had to battle with,
(19:23):
and I still like I said, I stillbattle with it all the time.
Like um, Shay produces all theseawesome videos and stuff, and
like we've I've got hundreds ofvideos that I don't even post
because then I'm like I I battlewith myself, like, should I be
posting as much as I am?
Should it should I be puttingthis sort of stuff out there?
So um, yeah, look, you just gotto do it, you've got to put
(19:43):
yourself out there, and um, frommy experience, it's the best
thing you can do.
Because for me, putting myselfout there for personally, for
me, it actually is a huge way ofme holding myself accountable
because now I'm like, fuck, ifI'm putting all this shit out
there and I'm telling peoplethey should be doing this and
that I've been doing this, andthis is a result you'll get,
then I'm the real deal.
(20:04):
So I have to follow through onthat.
I have to do it in my ownbusiness, I have to do it in my
own life because I'm a I'm notthe guy, like I do not want to
be a fraud, I do not want anyoneever coming up to me and saying
you don't practice what youpreach.
Um, because that that's yeah,that's something I'm really
passionate about.
Like um, and it's also somethingthat really shits me with social
(20:28):
media because so many people onsocial media do not practice
what they preach.
So um, yeah, I'm my biggestproblem when it comes to that
sort of thing as well.
I've talked about the socialmedia, we've talked about the
fitness, talked about success.
Um, likeability.
Uh that's definitely one that II battle with.
(20:48):
I I um I don't know, I'mprobably too self-conscious with
stuff like that.
I worry about what people think,I worry like, believe it or not,
even though I dress like a bogand I wear pluggers everywhere,
like I do think like fuck thepeople look at me and think,
like, who who the fuck's thatguy?
What's he wearing?
Like, um and again, I like thatties in with the social media
(21:10):
thing.
Like, I see other people in ourindustry that are uh trying to
do coaching and mentoring or orum running building businesses,
and like they're all to me, theythey look flash, they're always
nicely trimmed and groomed andum well presented, and to me
that's just it's not me.
(21:31):
Um like I am my most comfortablewhen I'm in my pluggers, uh in
my boardies, on the on thebeach, chilling out, having a
swim, or or throwing an old pairof jeans on and a and a work
shirt and and getting stuck inthe shit on the farm or around
the yard.
Um that's my comfort place, butI do definitely struggle with
(21:52):
being like the likability thingand worrying about what people
think and what people are sayingand stuff, and it's something
that I've had to push through.
Like I wouldn't be puttingmyself out there as much as I do
now if I hadn't taught myself topush through that.
And um basically, like the thebiggest game changer in this um
(22:12):
with this for me was the book UmThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a
Fuck.
Um, that was an incredible book,it really changed my mindset,
and it's pretty much how I livemy life now.
And going back to the stuff Iwas talking about before with
the new car and stuff.
Um Camille and I joke about thisquite a bit, like she'll quite
(22:32):
often have a dig at me becausewe'll be going out to dinner or
pickups dinner or whatever, andnow we're in this new car, we
jump in the car.
And like Camille, my wife um isan incredible person.
She she always looks the likelooks the part and puts in
effort to for everybody else.
Like she's always making sureour girls are spot on, and um,
(22:54):
and then when we go out, I letthe family down because I I'm
the DAG in the family.
But um yeah, that's just how Iam, it's how I feel comfortable,
and um yeah, it is what it is.
If people don't like me for theway I look or what I talk about
or all that type of stuff, thenthey're not sort of really worth
worrying about anyway.
But um yeah, it is what it is.
(23:16):
I think I know there's a lot ofpeople that reach out to me a
lot and really worry aboutputting themselves out there,
they see what I'm doing and theysee how much it's worked for me,
and then like I get questionsall the time, like, how do you
do it?
And so one thing we actually doin my live life build business
with our members is uh we doMonday Momentums and Friday
(23:37):
wins, and that all startedbecause that that's a way of
encouraging them to get on videoand record.
So Friday wins, it's aboutgetting members on there,
holding their phone up,recording themselves, and just
talking about their week.
Um, and it could be anything,but just talking about their
week and any little wins or bigwins that they think they've
had, and the whole idea of thatis getting them comfortable
(23:59):
speaking to the group becauseit's only the members, no one
else sees it, and yeah, so manyof them have man, from where
they started, like doing theirfirst short little video,
stumbling, stuttering, to nowdoing full-on videos on their
Instagram and promoting theirbusiness and things.
So, um, yeah, fuck whateverybody else thinks.
(24:21):
Like you've just got to putyourself out there and have a
crack, have a go.
Um, who cares about what anyoneelse thinks or does?
So if you if like I'm doing thisthis podcast episode today, I'm
talking through with you all thethoughts that go through my head
all the time, and that's whythis podcast is about me being
(24:41):
my biggest problem, because Ibelieve that 99.9% of people
that listen to this podcast willhave the same issue, you'll be
battling every single day withyourself, and if you're your
biggest problem, it literally isas simple as talking to yourself
(25:04):
when you're driving around orwalking the dog or doing a
workout or whatever, andchanging those thoughts in your
head so that you beat thosethoughts, and all of a sudden
the the world's your oyster.
Like, if you're the only thingthat's holding you back, then
work on yourself, work on yourstories, work on your mindset.
(25:26):
Like it's okay.
Um, I'm a I'm a huge supporterof it's okay to give yourself a
pat on the back.
Um, no one's gonna come up toyou and tell you, like, it's
good to it's great you're doingthat, go on, do it.
Like, so like it's hard to getsupport in Australia.
So give yourself a pat on theback and put yourself out there
(25:48):
and stop being your biggestproblem and break through that
barrier so that you can have andbe and do anything that you want
to do because I am a real lifeexample that when you do that,
incredible things happen.
So, look, guys, I'll wrap it upfor this one.
Um, hope I haven't talked toomuch shit, but uh hopefully
that's giving you a little bitof an insight into what my head
(26:10):
is like and the shit that I tellmyself constantly and how I deal
with it to break through it sothat I can be successful and um
live the life that I want tolive.
So, look, guys, as usual, like,comment, subscribe.
Please ask us questions so wecan bring you videos that you
want to hear.
Um, look forward to seeing youon the next one.
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