August 7, 2023 • 13 mins
Ever found yourself misjudging someone based on their online presence? We've all been there, forming hasty opinions about individuals before truly getting to know them. This episode of the Limitless Mindset Podcast urges us to set aside our biases and take time to understand the person behind the screen. Blake shares personal stories and shares a thought-provoking conversation with an agent who initially had a negative opinion about him, which was completely altered after a face-to-face interaction.
Skipping the value that could come from an enlightening conversation based on preconceived notions is a loss to both parties involved. Social media, although a powerful tool, can unfortunately miss out on the depth and nuances of human interaction. Blake stresses the importance of not letting your assumptions cloud your judgement prematurely. At the heart of it all is the message that each of us is attempting to share through our online personas. Open up your mind, withhold judgement, and possibly uncover some enriching connections and valuable information along the way. Don't miss out!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Limitless Mindset Podcast.
My name is Blake Clark and I amthe founder and visionary of
Limitless Real Estate and alsothe team lead of the Clark team.
My goal with this podcast is toshow you that your
possibilities are trulylimitless with the right mindset
and outlook on life.
On this podcast, you're goingto hear from not only myself but
also other members within ourbrokerage, as well as my team,
and we're going to be discussingall things real estate, mindset
(00:23):
, goal setting and what it takesto build a good business and
succeed in life.
Thanks so much for joining usand welcome Alright guys.
Welcome to another episode ofthe Limitless Mindset Podcast.
Another week gone behind us.
Hopefully you guys had anabsolutely incredible one and
hopefully you guys had anabsolutely productive one as
(00:44):
well, too.
While the market and theeconomy might be doing some
weird things and not going ineveryone's favor, I promise you
guys there's opportunity outthere if you guys really look
for it and put into applicationthings you guys learned on this
podcast and from others outthere.
That rolls us right into thetopic that I wanted to talk to
you guys about today, and thatis making sure that when you
guys see people online, you'retrying to avoid having negative
(01:06):
feelings and impact on thembased on what other people say
and drawing conclusions untilyou guys actually meet these
people.
I was having a conversationtoday with somebody who's
actually an agent that had comein and interviewed with our
brokerage, and they had aconversation with me and they
said it was kind of funny, youknow, they'd see me online and
they thought I was some arrogantjerk and things they had heard
and things of that naturebasically, and draw a lot of
(01:27):
assumptions about me.
And they said you know, thefunny thing is, though, I never
took the time to just come inand meet you for myself and draw
my own conclusions, and it mademe realize that, you know, I
think that happens to a lot ofus.
There's a lot of people onlinethese days, a lot of big
personalities, a lot of peopleout there doing big things,
making big noise and bigmovement, and I think it's human
nature for so many people tojust draw assumptions about
(01:49):
these people.
You know, and you know, in someways, unfortunately, some
people fall into the hatingmindset right.
They see people out thereabsolutely killing it and doing
good in life, and it's easy tojust kind of cast a negative
shadow on that person in yourmind and think that they're a
bad person or things of thatnature.
I could tell you, guys, I'veeven experienced some of this
myself and my own ways when Iwas younger.
You know it's hard not to youknow, really, look at things
(02:11):
through the right lens and thinkthat you know you play the
victim role and that everybody'sdoing something to get ahead.
That's wrong and you're havinga hard time and you do
everything right.
And I could tell you, guys, thisis something that is so wrong
with society today is that wedraw all these assumptions about
people.
We hear all these things online, we hear all these things from
other people and we never makedecisions based on our own
(02:33):
experiences with people.
You know, some of the bestcontacts I've ever made, guys
and I'm really, really mean thisor from people that I've met
online people that other peoplewould consider to be jerks or,
you know, arrogant or all thenames we get thrown out there,
but in reality, these peoplehave never actually met.
The people that I've met thatturned out to be absolutely
incredible people, and I kind ofdiscredit social media with
(02:57):
this, or I should say, creditsocial media with this culture
that we're in these days, whereit's easy to just see somebody
out there killing it and doinggood and sharing their wins, and
just allow people to hate onthem right, without actually
drawing an assumption.
And again, I think that youguys you know if I could offer
you any advice today, and thepoint of this podcast is, before
you guys draw assumptions orconclusions about people, make
sure you're taking the time tophysically go meet these people.
(03:18):
Maybe pick up the phone, have aconversation and normalize that
process, rather than justutilizing the online platform is
a way to just hate on somebodyand their success.
Some of the best people, like Isaid, I've met have been people
online.
Some of the knowledge that Ihave today has been people I've
met online.
This is one of the things thatI love about social media is
it's connected me with so manyamazing people out there.
(03:40):
Half the mentors that I know Imet these people online.
Half the friendships I havetoday, I've met these people
online.
It's a great tool that allowsyou to connect with people that
you may not have ever everconnected with before.
However, it's created thissystematic call culture where
people tend to just hate onother people.
Right, it's easier just topoint the finger and start
critiquing and start puttingthese people down.
(04:01):
I got a DM from a gentleman theother day and I figured I'd
share this on their just case inpoint.
You know, he said he saw apicture of me, my Lamborghini
and social media and he's like Igot to be very honest with you,
man.
I drawn this conclusion thatyou were some arrogant asshole.
You're buying a nice car onsocial media and some, whatever
he goes.
There's absolutely no reason tothink that about you.
I just automatically went tothis mindset you were some jerk
or some idiot, you know, and hegoes.
(04:22):
I started following you, though, ironically, and he goes.
I love the content you put out.
I actually find that itinspires me, it's motivating.
You're always finding ways togive back and I've had the
conversation with quite a fewpeople that have seen me online
and made these assumptions thatI'm some jerk or whatever.
The reason may be right and I'msure in some ways I probably do
come across that way, selfadmittedly, but I always love it
(04:43):
when people actually take theopportunity to pick up the phone
and just have a conversationwith me and, or you know, pull
up a chair, come, hang out myoffice, have a conversation and
really make a decision foryourself, if you still feel that
way after meeting me in person,because I see this a lot with
people that I know.
I've got a lot of friends thatare online.
I got a lot of friends that arebig personalities out, a lot of
friends that are making bignoise and business and killing
it A lot of people that Ipersonally look up to, and when
(05:05):
somebody finds out that I'mfriends with that person, one of
the first things they say isall that person looks like a
jerk, they come across as thisway, they seem like they're
arrogant and all these thingsright, and the conversation
always stems around what theyseem like and I'm sure they're
this way, or somebody told methey were this way, and I always
ask them well, have youpersonally met them?
Have you personally pick up thephone?
Have you personally gone andhad an actual conversation with
(05:26):
this person to draw your ownconclusions right, or are you
relying on secondhandconversation or you're relying
on what somebody's cousin andsister told you down the road,
right, like, actually take thetime to build your own
assumptions about these people?
This again, guys, is one of thebiggest qualms I have with
culture today is that it's soeasy to just cross people out
(05:47):
right, draw lines through people, draw assumptions about people,
and I really think that youguys are missing out, because I
do believe that there's someabsolutely incredible talent
online these days.
A lot of the things that I loveto learn from other people are
things that I watch others doonline.
You know content that theyshare, knowledge that they tend
to pass down, and I've had toreally remove myself from the
situation of drawing assumptionsabout people and paying
(06:07):
attention to their messaging,right.
What are their intentions?
Or their intentions good and togenuinely help people, and
things like that.
And you can't help but reallyappreciate people when you step
back and you take your thoughtsof that person out of the
picture and you just say istheir content good?
Are they putting out helpfulinformation?
Are they doing this withnothing out of you know return?
Are they doing with noexpectation?
Are they genuinely just tryingto help people?
(06:28):
And I think when you guys shiftyour perspective and you start
looking at people from thatmanner, you tend to stop looking
at hating on other people fortheir success, right?
And I can tell you that if youtake a little more time to look
at these people online, you know, actually build relationships
with them.
Don't just take the hearsay wordthat you guys have heard from
other people.
Don't just draw assumptionsfrom the way that you see them
(06:49):
online or the way that they'redoing, or, if they're sharing
success, assume they're arrogantor ego driven or anything like
that.
Take the time to personally gohave a conversation, pick up the
phone, maybe even shoot them aDM or something like that, and
take the time to really get toknow an individual before you
guys just write them off right,you're missing out on a lot of
opportunity and, truth be told,if you guys go through life,
(07:09):
you're really missing out ongreat relationships with people,
because the odds of somebodyshowing up online that you've
never met, you completelyresonating with them and then
determining that that personwould be a great fit in your
circle to follow is very much ashallow depth in looking at
relationships, right, I thinkyou really need to engage in a
conversation, you need to askquestions, you need to sit down,
you need to really pick theirbrain on different ways that you
(07:32):
guys think about things todetermine if you feel like
they're a valid source ofinformation that you're seeing
online right.
Maybe they are, maybe they'renot, but you really need to take
the time to judge thatsituation for yourself, rather
than just seeing people onlineand drawing assumptions.
It's super frustrating for mebecause I do know that there are
amazing people out there thathave great talents, that really
are genuinely just trying tohelp people online.
(07:54):
I would consider myself to beone of these people as well.
I put out free content all thetime.
I try to help other people.
I don't believe in mediocrity.
I don't believe in settling.
I think that society as a wholeright now is really trying to
compress people.
They make it hard for people towant to win and strive for it.
There's this underlying messageout there right now of just
playing it small, playing itsafe, being content, being happy
(08:15):
.
I personally just don'tsubscribe to that.
I think that life is short.
I think that we were put here tobuild, create, to pass on
knowledge, to share knowledge,to help other people, to lift up
in the form of a community bydoing this.
This is my way of giving backto other people and just simply
sharing, from my perspective andmy world and the things that
I've learned.
Here's what I've done to getahead.
(08:35):
This is one of those things.
Right here, I can tell you thatI had to get over this hump of
just drawing assumptions aboutpeople, especially as a
brokerage owner, a businessowner.
Whenever somebody comes in, Icould always hear, oh, I've met
this person, I heard their jerk,they're this, this.
And I've really had to set thataside and choose my own thought
process right by sitting downand actually interviewing
somebody or having aconversation with somebody or
(08:57):
drawing my own assumptions aboutthat people, because I've had
this happen many times wheresomebody told me so and so about
one of agents, right.
Where somebody told me so andso about a potential client or
anything like that.
We're a colleague and when Isat down, I've actually had a
completely different opinion ofthem.
I think they're an absolutelygreat person.
Maybe they had a bad situationwith one individual and I didn't
want to tarnish that by justassuming that that person was
(09:21):
correct, right.
So take the time these days,guys, whether you guys are in
business personalizedfriendships, relationships shut
out the noise.
Don't listen to what otherpeople are saying.
Don't just take it face valuewhat you guys are seeing online
by an individual.
Actually take the time to havea communication with somebody
before you draw that conclusionabout them, because you just
might be missing out onabsolutely incredible
(09:41):
information.
There are tons of great peopleout there that really are
credible, really have builtincredible things and really are
online just trying to passinformation and knowledge around
there in an effort to helppeople, and if that knowledge is
shadowed by your opinion orassumption of that person online
, you might be missing out onsome great messaging.
You might be missing out onsome great tips and tricks and
(10:01):
things of that nature to helpyou guys in life and in business
.
So, for what it's worth today,if you find yourself online, you
know judging people, makingassumptions about people, hating
on people because they'reshowing a little bit of success,
I would really stop andquestion yourself and say have
they done anything?
Have I actually had aconversation with them?
Have they displayed anythingthat actually shows any validity
(10:25):
to my personal assumptionsabout this person?
Or have I even had aconversation?
Or am I just drawing all ofthese random conclusions based
on something that I saw onlineor something that I heard,
instead of using my own logicand my own judgment after having
a conversation with this personor meeting this person and then
drawing right, and I think thatyou guys will find that when
you do this, you'll actually getsome great information.
(10:47):
You'll get some great knowledge.
You'll probably be pretty selfaware in some areas that, wow, I
made a completely wrongassumption about that person.
They were actually really cool,they're a great person, they're
actually really nice, right?
So Give yourself a little gracewith this.
Today, as you guys are flippingthrough social media and you
start to see your mind wander oflike, oh, that person looks
like a jerk.
I don't like this.
Ask yourself why.
Why am I thinking this way?
(11:08):
What about this situation ismaking me assume this?
And then, secondly, playdevil's advocate with yourself
in your own mind.
Say, you know what?
Let me listen to theirmessaging.
Is there some truth in here?
Is there some value in here?
Is there something that I couldprobably actually use in my own
business?
Right, it's free advice, guys.
It's on the internet Doesn'talways mean all of it is
credible.
You're going to need to do yourhomework and you're going to
(11:29):
need to decide if the lessonsthat you guys are being taught
by some people online, ifthey're actually credible in
your own personal life, areapplicable.
But I would ask yourself thisright.
Start being self aware of.
Why are you judging peopleonline so harshly in the way
that you are?
Why are you making assumptionsthe way that you are?
And are you giving thatanalysis a fair chance by
actually having trueconversations?
(11:49):
You just might find you mighthave some actual true quality
and talent right in front of you, trying to help you guys out
that you're not allowing intoyour world because you're
drawing these assumptions onthem, where, in reality, if you
take the time to get to knowthem, they might just work out
to be a great ally of yours.
Right, it might be somebodythat you would have never
thought you'd be working withbefore, but because they're
(12:10):
actually really good at what itis that they do and you set your
difference or assumptions asideand you get to know them, now
there's somebody you can workclosely with Now they're
actually somebody that can helpyou within your business, your
personal life, your friendships,your relationships, because you
were blocking that potentialperson from coming in.
So hopefully this is helpful toyou guys.
I just wanted to share a littleoff the cuff, a little random, I
(12:30):
know, but I see this a lot andI've noticed it online, where
people are just trying to putgood content out there.
They're trying to be helpful.
They're trying to help othersand people are just blatantly
hating on them for no reason,without actually taking the time
to get to know theseindividuals and draw their own
assumptions.
So if you're one of thesepeople, check yourself.
Take a look in the mirror, askyourself why you're doing this
for people, ask yourself ifyou're giving it a fair chance,
(12:51):
re-evaluate what it is you'redoing.
And if you have a negativethought about somebody, I'll
tell you what I'm going tochallenge you to do the hard
thing and actually shoot thatperson a message, engage in a
conversation with them, see howthey respond, see if there's
actually more commonality therebetween what you're actually
assuming about that person, andlet me know how it goes.
I guarantee you your guys'relationships will go up.
I guarantee you that youronline experience will go up,
(13:12):
because you're not just hatingon everybody.
You're actually finding valuein some of the messaging that's
being put out there by thesepeople, and I really do think
that your guys' quality of lifewill elevate because now you are
, instead of blocking potentialgreat things coming into your
life, you're actually being opento receiving some of it through
your own judgments.
As always, hopefully you guyshave an absolutely amazing week.
Hopefully you guys are outthere killing it.
(13:33):
Make sure you guys are outthere.
Let's crush it.
If you guys found value intoday's episode, I ask that you
guys share this with anybodythat you think may benefit from
hearing this.
Obviously, I do this for free.
I do this to help you guys.
I do this to help, obviously,impact other people that are
looking to grow and scale andimprove their life.
So all I ask is that you guysdo share this with somebody that
(13:53):
you think it could help andbenefit.
I greatly appreciate it.
Welcome to the Limitless Mindset Podcast.
My name is Blake Clark and I amthe founder and visionary of
Limitless Real Estate and alsothe team lead of the Clark team.
My goal with this podcast is toshow you that your
possibilities are trulylimitless with the right mindset
and outlook on life.
On this podcast, you're goingto hear from not only myself but
also other members within ourbrokerage, as well as my team,
and we're going to be discussingall things real estate, mindset
(00:23):
, goal setting and what it takesto build a good business and
succeed in life.
Thanks so much for joining usand welcome Alright guys.
Welcome to another episode ofthe Limitless Mindset Podcast.
Another week gone behind us.
Hopefully you guys had anabsolutely incredible one and
hopefully you guys had anabsolutely productive one as
(00:44):
well, too.
While the market and theeconomy might be doing some
weird things and not going ineveryone's favor, I promise you
guys there's opportunity outthere if you guys really look
for it and put into applicationthings you guys learned on this
podcast and from others outthere.
That rolls us right into thetopic that I wanted to talk to
you guys about today, and thatis making sure that when you
guys see people online, you'retrying to avoid having negative
(01:06):
feelings and impact on thembased on what other people say
and drawing conclusions untilyou guys actually meet these
people.
I was having a conversationtoday with somebody who's
actually an agent that had comein and interviewed with our
brokerage, and they had aconversation with me and they
said it was kind of funny, youknow, they'd see me online and
they thought I was some arrogantjerk and things they had heard
and things of that naturebasically, and draw a lot of
(01:27):
assumptions about me.
And they said you know, thefunny thing is, though, I never
took the time to just come inand meet you for myself and draw
my own conclusions, and it mademe realize that, you know, I
think that happens to a lot ofus.
There's a lot of people onlinethese days, a lot of big
personalities, a lot of peopleout there doing big things,
making big noise and bigmovement, and I think it's human
nature for so many people tojust draw assumptions about
(01:49):
these people.
You know, and you know, in someways, unfortunately, some
people fall into the hatingmindset right.
They see people out thereabsolutely killing it and doing
good in life, and it's easy tojust kind of cast a negative
shadow on that person in yourmind and think that they're a
bad person or things of thatnature.
I could tell you, guys, I'veeven experienced some of this
myself and my own ways when Iwas younger.
You know it's hard not to youknow, really, look at things
(02:11):
through the right lens and thinkthat you know you play the
victim role and that everybody'sdoing something to get ahead.
That's wrong and you're havinga hard time and you do
everything right.
And I could tell you, guys, thisis something that is so wrong
with society today is that wedraw all these assumptions about
people.
We hear all these things online, we hear all these things from
other people and we never makedecisions based on our own
(02:33):
experiences with people.
You know, some of the bestcontacts I've ever made, guys
and I'm really, really mean thisor from people that I've met
online people that other peoplewould consider to be jerks or,
you know, arrogant or all thenames we get thrown out there,
but in reality, these peoplehave never actually met.
The people that I've met thatturned out to be absolutely
incredible people, and I kind ofdiscredit social media with
(02:57):
this, or I should say, creditsocial media with this culture
that we're in these days, whereit's easy to just see somebody
out there killing it and doinggood and sharing their wins, and
just allow people to hate onthem right, without actually
drawing an assumption.
And again, I think that youguys you know if I could offer
you any advice today, and thepoint of this podcast is, before
you guys draw assumptions orconclusions about people, make
sure you're taking the time tophysically go meet these people.
(03:18):
Maybe pick up the phone, have aconversation and normalize that
process, rather than justutilizing the online platform is
a way to just hate on somebodyand their success.
Some of the best people, like Isaid, I've met have been people
online.
Some of the knowledge that Ihave today has been people I've
met online.
This is one of the things thatI love about social media is
it's connected me with so manyamazing people out there.
(03:40):
Half the mentors that I know Imet these people online.
Half the friendships I havetoday, I've met these people
online.
It's a great tool that allowsyou to connect with people that
you may not have ever everconnected with before.
However, it's created thissystematic call culture where
people tend to just hate onother people.
Right, it's easier just topoint the finger and start
critiquing and start puttingthese people down.
(04:01):
I got a DM from a gentleman theother day and I figured I'd
share this on their just case inpoint.
You know, he said he saw apicture of me, my Lamborghini
and social media and he's like Igot to be very honest with you,
man.
I drawn this conclusion thatyou were some arrogant asshole.
You're buying a nice car onsocial media and some, whatever
he goes.
There's absolutely no reason tothink that about you.
I just automatically went tothis mindset you were some jerk
or some idiot, you know, and hegoes.
(04:22):
I started following you, though, ironically, and he goes.
I love the content you put out.
I actually find that itinspires me, it's motivating.
You're always finding ways togive back and I've had the
conversation with quite a fewpeople that have seen me online
and made these assumptions thatI'm some jerk or whatever.
The reason may be right and I'msure in some ways I probably do
come across that way, selfadmittedly, but I always love it
(04:43):
when people actually take theopportunity to pick up the phone
and just have a conversationwith me and, or you know, pull
up a chair, come, hang out myoffice, have a conversation and
really make a decision foryourself, if you still feel that
way after meeting me in person,because I see this a lot with
people that I know.
I've got a lot of friends thatare online.
I got a lot of friends that arebig personalities out, a lot of
friends that are making bignoise and business and killing
it A lot of people that Ipersonally look up to, and when
(05:05):
somebody finds out that I'mfriends with that person, one of
the first things they say isall that person looks like a
jerk, they come across as thisway, they seem like they're
arrogant and all these thingsright, and the conversation
always stems around what theyseem like and I'm sure they're
this way, or somebody told methey were this way, and I always
ask them well, have youpersonally met them?
Have you personally pick up thephone?
Have you personally gone andhad an actual conversation with
(05:26):
this person to draw your ownconclusions right, or are you
relying on secondhandconversation or you're relying
on what somebody's cousin andsister told you down the road,
right, like, actually take thetime to build your own
assumptions about these people?
This again, guys, is one of thebiggest qualms I have with
culture today is that it's soeasy to just cross people out
(05:47):
right, draw lines through people, draw assumptions about people,
and I really think that youguys are missing out, because I
do believe that there's someabsolutely incredible talent
online these days.
A lot of the things that I loveto learn from other people are
things that I watch others doonline.
You know content that theyshare, knowledge that they tend
to pass down, and I've had toreally remove myself from the
situation of drawing assumptionsabout people and paying
(06:07):
attention to their messaging,right.
What are their intentions?
Or their intentions good and togenuinely help people, and
things like that.
And you can't help but reallyappreciate people when you step
back and you take your thoughtsof that person out of the
picture and you just say istheir content good?
Are they putting out helpfulinformation?
Are they doing this withnothing out of you know return?
Are they doing with noexpectation?
Are they genuinely just tryingto help people?
(06:28):
And I think when you guys shiftyour perspective and you start
looking at people from thatmanner, you tend to stop looking
at hating on other people fortheir success, right?
And I can tell you that if youtake a little more time to look
at these people online, you know, actually build relationships
with them.
Don't just take the hearsay wordthat you guys have heard from
other people.
Don't just draw assumptionsfrom the way that you see them
(06:49):
online or the way that they'redoing, or, if they're sharing
success, assume they're arrogantor ego driven or anything like
that.
Take the time to personally gohave a conversation, pick up the
phone, maybe even shoot them aDM or something like that, and
take the time to really get toknow an individual before you
guys just write them off right,you're missing out on a lot of
opportunity and, truth be told,if you guys go through life,
(07:09):
you're really missing out ongreat relationships with people,
because the odds of somebodyshowing up online that you've
never met, you completelyresonating with them and then
determining that that personwould be a great fit in your
circle to follow is very much ashallow depth in looking at
relationships, right, I thinkyou really need to engage in a
conversation, you need to askquestions, you need to sit down,
you need to really pick theirbrain on different ways that you
(07:32):
guys think about things todetermine if you feel like
they're a valid source ofinformation that you're seeing
online right.
Maybe they are, maybe they'renot, but you really need to take
the time to judge thatsituation for yourself, rather
than just seeing people onlineand drawing assumptions.
It's super frustrating for mebecause I do know that there are
amazing people out there thathave great talents, that really
are genuinely just trying tohelp people online.
(07:54):
I would consider myself to beone of these people as well.
I put out free content all thetime.
I try to help other people.
I don't believe in mediocrity.
I don't believe in settling.
I think that society as a wholeright now is really trying to
compress people.
They make it hard for people towant to win and strive for it.
There's this underlying messageout there right now of just
playing it small, playing itsafe, being content, being happy
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.
I personally just don'tsubscribe to that.
I think that life is short.
I think that we were put here tobuild, create, to pass on
knowledge, to share knowledge,to help other people, to lift up
in the form of a community bydoing this.
This is my way of giving backto other people and just simply
sharing, from my perspective andmy world and the things that
I've learned.
Here's what I've done to getahead.
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This is one of those things.
Right here, I can tell you thatI had to get over this hump of
just drawing assumptions aboutpeople, especially as a
brokerage owner, a businessowner.
Whenever somebody comes in, Icould always hear, oh, I've met
this person, I heard their jerk,they're this, this.
And I've really had to set thataside and choose my own thought
process right by sitting downand actually interviewing
somebody or having aconversation with somebody or
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drawing my own assumptions aboutthat people, because I've had
this happen many times wheresomebody told me so and so about
one of agents, right.
Where somebody told me so andso about a potential client or
anything like that.
We're a colleague and when Isat down, I've actually had a
completely different opinion ofthem.
I think they're an absolutelygreat person.
Maybe they had a bad situationwith one individual and I didn't
want to tarnish that by justassuming that that person was
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correct, right.
So take the time these days,guys, whether you guys are in
business personalizedfriendships, relationships shut
out the noise.
Don't listen to what otherpeople are saying.
Don't just take it face valuewhat you guys are seeing online
by an individual.
Actually take the time to havea communication with somebody
before you draw that conclusionabout them, because you just
might be missing out onabsolutely incredible
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information.
There are tons of great peopleout there that really are
credible, really have builtincredible things and really are
online just trying to passinformation and knowledge around
there in an effort to helppeople, and if that knowledge is
shadowed by your opinion orassumption of that person online
, you might be missing out onsome great messaging.
You might be missing out onsome great tips and tricks and
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things of that nature to helpyou guys in life and in business
.
So, for what it's worth today,if you find yourself online, you
know judging people, makingassumptions about people, hating
on people because they'reshowing a little bit of success,
I would really stop andquestion yourself and say have
they done anything?
Have I actually had aconversation with them?
Have they displayed anythingthat actually shows any validity
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to my personal assumptionsabout this person?
Or have I even had aconversation?
Or am I just drawing all ofthese random conclusions based
on something that I saw onlineor something that I heard,
instead of using my own logicand my own judgment after having
a conversation with this personor meeting this person and then
drawing right, and I think thatyou guys will find that when
you do this, you'll actually getsome great information.
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You'll get some great knowledge.
You'll probably be pretty selfaware in some areas that, wow, I
made a completely wrongassumption about that person.
They were actually really cool,they're a great person, they're
actually really nice, right?
So Give yourself a little gracewith this.
Today, as you guys are flippingthrough social media and you
start to see your mind wander oflike, oh, that person looks
like a jerk.
I don't like this.
Ask yourself why.
Why am I thinking this way?
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What about this situation ismaking me assume this?
And then, secondly, playdevil's advocate with yourself
in your own mind.
Say, you know what?
Let me listen to theirmessaging.
Is there some truth in here?
Is there some value in here?
Is there something that I couldprobably actually use in my own
business?
Right, it's free advice, guys.
It's on the internet Doesn'talways mean all of it is
credible.
You're going to need to do yourhomework and you're going to
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need to decide if the lessonsthat you guys are being taught
by some people online, ifthey're actually credible in
your own personal life, areapplicable.
But I would ask yourself thisright.
Start being self aware of.
Why are you judging peopleonline so harshly in the way
that you are?
Why are you making assumptionsthe way that you are?
And are you giving thatanalysis a fair chance by
actually having trueconversations?
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You just might find you mighthave some actual true quality
and talent right in front of you, trying to help you guys out
that you're not allowing intoyour world because you're
drawing these assumptions onthem, where, in reality, if you
take the time to get to knowthem, they might just work out
to be a great ally of yours.
Right, it might be somebodythat you would have never
thought you'd be working withbefore, but because they're
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actually really good at what itis that they do and you set your
difference or assumptions asideand you get to know them, now
there's somebody you can workclosely with Now they're
actually somebody that can helpyou within your business, your
personal life, your friendships,your relationships, because you
were blocking that potentialperson from coming in.
So hopefully this is helpful toyou guys.
I just wanted to share a littleoff the cuff, a little random, I
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know, but I see this a lot andI've noticed it online, where
people are just trying to putgood content out there.
They're trying to be helpful.
They're trying to help othersand people are just blatantly
hating on them for no reason,without actually taking the time
to get to know theseindividuals and draw their own
assumptions.
So if you're one of thesepeople, check yourself.
Take a look in the mirror, askyourself why you're doing this
for people, ask yourself ifyou're giving it a fair chance,
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re-evaluate what it is you'redoing.
And if you have a negativethought about somebody, I'll
tell you what I'm going tochallenge you to do the hard
thing and actually shoot thatperson a message, engage in a
conversation with them, see howthey respond, see if there's
actually more commonality therebetween what you're actually
assuming about that person, andlet me know how it goes.
I guarantee you your guys'relationships will go up.
I guarantee you that youronline experience will go up,
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because you're not just hatingon everybody.
You're actually finding valuein some of the messaging that's
being put out there by thesepeople, and I really do think
that your guys' quality of lifewill elevate because now you are
, instead of blocking potentialgreat things coming into your
life, you're actually being opento receiving some of it through
your own judgments.
As always, hopefully you guyshave an absolutely amazing week.
Hopefully you guys are outthere killing it.
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Make sure you guys are outthere.
Let's crush it.
If you guys found value intoday's episode, I ask that you
guys share this with anybodythat you think may benefit from
hearing this.
Obviously, I do this for free.
I do this to help you guys.
I do this to help, obviously,impact other people that are
looking to grow and scale andimprove their life.
So all I ask is that you guysdo share this with somebody that
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you think it could help andbenefit.
I greatly appreciate it.
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