May 6, 2025 • 40 mins
The stigma around aging is deeply rooted in our culture, yet the truth is that growing older is a privilege not afforded to everyone. In this candid conversation, Brian reflects on turning 42 while challenging the conventional narrative that aging means decline.
Brian offers a powerful analogy comparing our bodies to batteries: exercise might temporarily drain energy but ultimately increases capacity. "It's like having a bigger battery in your phone," he explains. "The quality of what goes in—food, movement, information—gets multiplied in your output." This multiplication effect means even small positive changes yield significant benefits in overall wellbeing.
What makes this conversation particularly valuable is its balance of philosophical wisdom and practical advice. For those feeling too busy or tired to exercise, Brian suggests starting with simple changes: take the stairs, park farther away, do quick exercises while cooking. "Movement is medicine," he emphasizes, noting it's never too late to begin. After 12 weeks of consistent effort, Britney shares how she transformed her health patterns that had persisted for years.
Beyond physical health, the discussion delves into mental awareness in our distraction-filled world. "We are unaware of ourselves, unaware of the actual real world because of all these distractions," Brian observes. Practices like meditation, breathwork, and simply being present in nature offer powerful antidotes to our constantly divided attention.
Whether you're approaching a milestone birthday or simply seeking a more intentional approach to life, this episode delivers profound insights on making peace with aging while maximizing your potential at every stage. What changes could you commit to for the next 12 weeks that might transform your relationship with your body, mind, and the passage of time?
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Speaker 1 (00:09):
you're listening to the love movement with your host
, britney and brian johnston.
We're starting a movementcentered around love to help
raise the vibration of thisbeautiful planet if that's your
vibe, hang out with us as wechat about many topics all
centered around three mainpillars Loving yourself, loving
each other and loving the planet.
So if you're ready, let's jumpin.
(00:30):
Welcome back everybody.
Episode 16.
It's been a hot minute.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
It's been a really long time and I feel bad that
it's been so long.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I don't even really know why has it been so long?
I guess we just haven't reallyset the time to do it.
We're tired at night when ourtoddler doesn't sleep and we
don't feel like hitting recordat.
You know 9.30 at night.
No so we're back, though.
It's been since Valentine's Day, since we did a podcast.
That's like we're pushing threemonths here about.
You know what?
We're going to get moreorganized for the year of 2025.
(01:13):
And today I'm excited to talkabout well, brian.
I'm going to interview him alittle bit because he had a
birthday yesterday, turned 42.
It feels weird to say it does.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
We knew it was coming .
Speaker 1 (01:21):
And I feel like age, though, is such a weird thing,
like the perception of age ismessed up, because I don't know
about you, but I remember mydad's 40th birthday.
I would have been 13.
It was a surprise backyardbarbecue and I just thought he
was so old.
And I'm turning 40 this summerand I do not feel old.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Well, if you watch like an old movie or like the
movie or the sitcom Cheers.
Well, if you watch like an oldmovie or like the movie or the
sitcom Cheers, those people arein their 30s.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yeah, like in my brain they were 55.
Yeah, it's so weird.
Also, the other funny thing ifmy aunt is listening to this,
she'll laugh.
When I started my business, Iwas 21.
And I remember my biggestobjection being, oh, this type
of business is for old, bored,retired people, and not that she
was those things, but I kind ofwas also alluding that she was
kind of getting there and likeshe was 40.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Yeah, it is weird because I feel like our, the
previous generation, didn'tfocus as much on like health and
wellness as they do now andthey just had this mindset
around just getting old and it'sjust like oh, you're 40, you're
over the hill, and it's likethis whole thing well, it seems
(02:32):
to be people's common answer,like to anything like happy
birthday, yep.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Getting older, it's like, but it's like awesome.
Getting older, aging, it's aprivilege yeah, so not afforded
to everybody no and likesomebody, yes.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Somebody yesterday said happy birthday, old man.
I was like old man, I'm likenot even close.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
And it's funny because with you, I remember.
I remember your 18th birthday.
I remember you're wearing ayellow t-shirt with a silver
chain and your brother wouldhave been.
How old uh, he would have beenlike 10 yeah, and so he was also
wanting to be like you, and hewas wearing a yellow t-shirt
with a chain and I remember wewent out for dinner probably to
Bonanza Probably, but I rememberbeing with you on your 18th
(03:12):
birthday and when you add up 18to 42, this is 25 birthdays I've
had with you.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
It's pretty wild.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah, it is.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
So for this episode we thought that we would just
have Brian.
He's kind of a little Prettywild yeah, it is.
So for this episode we thoughtthat we would just have Brian.
He's kind of a little I don'tknow wise, wise, quiet one over
there and I figured you knowwhat.
Let's pass on some of thewisdom for our listeners and at
the end of the day, we do thispodcast for anybody that gets
value.
We want to spread more loveinto the world, but the core of
it all we really want our son tohave.
You know this sort ofinformation and the stuff that
(03:44):
we talk about and the thingsthat we think matters, and so
you can even think about it aslike giving Marty advice or
something as he's yeah, he's tooyoung to really take in advice
right now.
So I mean he's four, but anyways.
So we're just gonna talk aboutthat and I don't necessarily
need to like number them,because I know you just have a
lot to say on a lot of differenttopics when do you feel like
(04:09):
you want to start, if you'regoing to start with like the
best advice?
Speaker 2 (04:12):
It's really hard for me to get all my thoughts
together, like I could probablytake a week to prepare for
something like this, so I justhave to force them into it
Because my mind goes a thousanddifferent ways.
So I just have a few thingsthat I can kind of talk about in
general.
And, yeah, we could do like anextended podcast where I go like
really really, really, really,really deep into some stuff.
But we'll keep it simple todaywhat's?
(04:35):
the biggest thing.
I think as we age we weretalking about perception earlier
I think the biggest thing islike our health and fitness and
like, as I look at people thatare older or even my age,
they're like, oh, my body hurtsor oh, I'm going to feel that
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tomorrow.
Or you look at someone who ismaybe a little bit older and
they just look frail and it'sbecause people don't use their
bodies.
Like we're not meant to sitaround on the couch and watch TV
or sit in an office or sit in acar all day.
Like our bodies are meant tomove, they're meant to be used,
they're meant to be stressed,and I think just moving your
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body and having some like givingit resistance, that's like one
of the biggest things and Ithink that's what keeps me
feeling young and bouncy, likeyou were just on a hike just now
and he's like how do I get youbouncy?
I was like I don't know what youmean I just feel like I'm like
springy, like I can boing aroundlike a cartoon character when
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I'm out in the woods or anywhere, like I'm just, I'm just bouncy
, because I'm just, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
And I got a heavy foot.
Apparently I'm working on it.
I've lost 12 pounds in 12 weeks.
Yeah, that's insane.
Maybe that's why we have beenon a podcast hiatus.
I've been too focused ongetting my steps in and eating
properly working out.
But it's true and honestly,like I'm better because I'm with
you, because you are always.
Just it's innate for you, likehow focused you are on your
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health.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
It's just a habit that I've built and it's I made
that part of kind of my identityis being strong and fit and
capable of you know, doingstrenuous things.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
And I think, maybe for me.
I feel like I lost thatidentity when I had Marty.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
You're kind of forced to stop some of that right.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I know.
But at the same time, how longcan you use your kid as an
excuse?
And so maybe that journey isfor another episode, but I just
feel like it's.
I guess what is great about amarriage too is that you can
each.
You know, you were sort ofalways on that journey and I was
on it, and then I got sort ofsidetracked, having a baby,
being postpartum and just reallybeing not, not feeling good in
my body and getting to a pointwhere I was just sick and tired
(06:53):
of being sick and tired and youknow you would say like smart
ass comments here and there,like I'd be like my core is so
weak.
You're like well, are youworking on it every day?
No, brian, I'm not working onit every day.
And then I start personaltraining with our neighbor
across the street and she's like, okay, every day I want you to
do this, and it's likestrengthening my core.
And I was like, wow, my core isgetting so strong.
(07:16):
And you're like shocking whenyou work on it every day.
And that was identity, is thefirst thing you know she had
said to me was we're creating anew identity for you.
You're a person who does this,who doesn't do this, and it took
me a while to get to where now,12 weeks later, I feel like
that is now part of my identity.
You know, and you just you'vealways been good at that.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Well, it's just.
It's how you build a habit inany area of your life.
Is making the thing that youwant to be a habit part of your
identity?
It's like we don't.
We identify as non-drinkers now.
So, like yesterday, we were outfor birthday supper and I could
have went and had a beer, so Iliked having a beer on the patio
(07:52):
, but that's not part of myidentity, so I would feel when I
even said that to you, I waslike have a beer.
Like I would feel out ofintegrity with myself if I did
that, because it's not part ofwhat I do anymore.
And I'm going to Vegas tomorrowfor a friend's 40th and I'm
sitting here thinking maybe Iwill have cocktail and I was
like no, I don't really want toLike, it's not same, it's not
part of my identity.
And the other thing I want totalk about is like comparing
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your body to a battery.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Yeah, this is good.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Yeah.
So like people are like, oh,when I exercise, I feel so tired
and drained, but what you'reactually doing is you're
increasing the capacity of yourbattery for later.
It's like having a biggerbattery in your phone, so it'll
last longer.
So, yeah, you might feel tiredin the moment, but you've
increased your capacity, andthen it's the quality that goes
in will make your battery lastlonger.
(08:39):
So it's the quality of yourfood that you have, the quality
of the exercise movement thatyou do, and then the quality of
you know what's going in yourears, what you're listening to
people surround yourself with.
It's all that stuff.
But the cool thing about when itgoes, when all this stuff goes
into your body, the quality ofwhat you put in gets multiplied
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with your output.
So you get more output and morequality output it's a great
your body.
Your body is like a multiplierof the quality that goes in.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
You get more output in quantity and quality that
feels kind of deep for my brainright now.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
I don't know if the listeners feel that way, but I
also feel like it's a greatanalogy so, yeah, when you're
charging your battery, whenyou're putting in better food,
you know, when you're listening,you know motivational stuff,
that's charging your battery.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Sleeping, sleeping is one of the biggest things when
it comes to, uh like, overallhealth my aura ring that I got
for christmas has been the bestthing ever for me tracking my
sleep, because I we're nightowls, but you're also you we
don't want to be, but youactually can't be if you want to
get up early and trade like youdo, and so this is our biggest
(09:53):
thing is like we got to get tobed earlier and figure that out
because it's so, it is soimportant and we underestimate
it yeah, sleep.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Sleep is like, um, like rejuvenating your body.
That's like the recharge partof your battery.
So there's all these factorsthat play into.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I guess the overall you know well-being and
everything of your life is youknow, the amount of sleep, what
goes into your body, and thenthe work that you make your body
do well, and it's true, becauseremember a couple days when I
do my personal training sessionsevery monday and I normally can
hardly walk back across thestreet because I just feel like
I'm a puddle of jello and Icould fall onto the ground and
(10:32):
remember that one day I was likeI just had a huge nap on the
couch.
I was like why am I this tired?
And you were like you just hada huge workout today, like yeah,
that's happens.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
That's when your body repairs itself.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Yeah, that's a good way to look at it, though, and
what do you say to people whoyou know?
They work a full-time job, theygot kids, are chasing after,
they got sports and all this,and they just really feel like
I'm too tired to even move mybody.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
That's it's, that's the will to want to up your
capacity.
It's like you have to fitthings in during the day, like
I'll do a little breathingexercise in the morning and some
pushups and some sit-ups, andif I did anything during the day
, that would be like theabsolute minimum that I would do
, and it took me what?
Not even 10 minutes, yeah Right, but it's just what you do
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during the day.
Are you using the stairs?
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Are you like?
I'm sitting at the in thekitchen cooking supper doing
like half raises?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
and like I'm just always doing something just to
try to you're integrating it allthe time.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
You guys, if you could see him, he'll like put
his arm on the island and on thelike by the sink on the counter
and just like swing his legs upand down, just like hold his
body, swing his legs like whatis happening?
Are you cooking or are weactually?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I just try to make every part of my day something
that's yeah, they're like givingme strength somehow.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
But it is true it's like always take the stairs,
don't park close to the door,park at the back of the parking
lot and walk.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
We talked about a lot of this in our fitness episode
we did with Dan.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Right, yeah, so fitness is everything, because I
think as you age, it's likewhat else?
Nothing else really matters asyou age, if you don't have your
health.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Yeah, like I think to have the thought of being old
and frail and not able to moveand like being trapped in my
body when I just want to like goout for a run and like a walk
and like we've had we had peoplevisiting us lately and we
couldn't do half the thingsbecause they're not physically
capable.
And they're talking aboutthey're comparing their stories
of when they got their stintsput in their heart and I'm like,
(12:25):
oh my God, and the drugs thatthey're taking and you know,
everyone's on all these drugs.
I'm like like we watched a showlast night and these people
were in their like early fiftiesand they're at the pharmacy
getting all these drugs andthey're getting this medication,
this one, and this one, thisone.
I'm like, oh my God, this is thenorm is being on drugs.
Your food is your medicine andyour fitness is your medicine.
(12:48):
Movement is medicine, and thenthe state of your mind is
another factor that plays intothat as well.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
There was a thing once someone had told me that
the goal of pharmaceuticalindustry is to have people on
five different medications bythe time they're 50.
That is the most disgustingfact I've ever heard.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Yeah, it's sickening.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
I think we did mention that on another podcast.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
We did yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
But health, yeah, it's everything, and moving your
body if you don't feel.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Yeah, people that are injured, like yeah, I have a
back injury, I have a bald discin my back.
It hurts to get out of bedevery morning.
I could make that my excuse too, but I'd make it the reason why
I'm always moving.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Well, and it's even like you know, people say I
would die for my kids, I woulddo anything for my kids, but
would you live for them?
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
That's what this all kind of comes down to too, and I
think, for us, something thatI've said recently, just like on
Instagram and stuff is you know, I'm going to be turning 40
with a four-year-old, I'll be 50with a 14-year-old, and I'll be
60 with a 24-year-old, andright now I'm working out and
getting strong and he's watchingme do that and copying me in
the gym, which is the cutestthing.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
So that I can that with him when he's 24.
And there's no like it's nottoo late to start, no matter
what age you are, you can youknow.
If you're feeling a little weakright now, you can turn that
around in no time.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Well, I think it's like starting with something
simple Don't think you need todo all of it and don't think it
needs to cost a lot of money,like it can literally all be
free.
Um, walking is free.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Fasting is free.
Everything is free.
It's all fitness courses.
Everything's on YouTube.
You can ask chat, gpt foradvice on anything.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
These days Walking is one of the most underrated
things.
There was some statistic I justwent the other day about like
what was it now If you walkthree times a week for 45
minutes?
I don't remember what the thingwas, though.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
It's really good stuff.
It's really good stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
I feel like it had something to do with um, I don't
know what I'm going to say,Cause I don't even know.
I actually don't remember.
I don't even remember where Isaw that.
That's the annoying part.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
We just know it's good.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
So just walk.
Start with something simpleincrease your water, get walking
, focus on your sleep.
Those could be some simplethings to just get you going if
you're feeling like you're kindof stuck in a rut and knowing
that it really is never too lateto start.
Actually, recently we've beeninspired by a couple of our
friends that are in their 50sthat have been taking this
health journey quite seriously,and people who my one friend,
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carrie, for example maybe weshould get her on the podcast,
talk about this, because she'swho I remember.
When I went to Good Life Fitnessand I'd go to spin classes
literally three times a weeklike clockwork never would miss
it I convinced her to come withme.
She bought a gym membershipthese ugly white runners from
Walmart and I think she came totwo spin classes in like the two
or three years.
She paid for a membership, yeah, and now she's just crushing it
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and she was part of the reasonthat inspired me to like get my
shit together, basically, andit's like it's never too late.
I just think that's such agreat example.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
So anything else?
Speaker 1 (15:50):
on health.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
There's a lot.
I mean experiment withsupplements, different foods,
subtract foods that areinflammatory from your life.
See how you see how your bodyresponds.
That's one of the biggestthings is just experiment with
different things, differentfoods, and see what's optimal
for you.
Like try vegan, try doing moremeat, try doing less meat.
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Like, just try everything.
Everybody's different.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Yeah, exactly.
Okay.
What would be another topicthat you want to talk about?
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Well, I guess we're.
We're talking about, you know,growing muscles and whatnot, and
we could talk about justlifelong learning and growing.
I remember I think we've talkedabout this before too but when
you started um doing Arbonne,you said that, uh, you needed to
(16:41):
read and I should read two orwhatever.
And all of a sudden I was like,okay, I'm going to read a book.
And I picked up a book and thiswas after he said.
I don't read.
Yeah, I don't read Cause I'm aslow reader.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
I said you do read cause you graduated, you know,
graduated, you know how to read.
But I think what you're sayingwithout saying is that you don't
like reading or you're a slowreader.
And I remember just saying,like let's just read 10 minutes
before bed and I might read abook and it might take you three
times longer, but eventuallyyou'll read a book.
If we're doing it for 10minutes every night, yeah and
yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
So I do.
I read a lot of personal growthstuff.
I you know when helps witheverything.
It helps with life, it helpshaving conversations with people
, it helps with relating toother people.
It just expands your mind andwhen you're always learning
something, it doesn't have to bepersonal growth stuff either.
(17:26):
Like I read a lot of stuffabout you know cool things
happening in nature and space,and like scientific journal
stuff.
And just having your mindworking like that all the time
and actually using your brainfor actual thought too, keeps
your mind young.
Like people do puzzles, peoplelearn other languages.
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You can you know if you'reright-handed, try brushing your
teeth with your left hand orwashing dishes with your left
hand.
Just like ambidextrous stuff.
All these different things.
When like ambidextrous stuff,all these different things.
When we use our brain like that, it keeps our brain young,
keeps new, like neural pathwaysbeing created.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Cause.
Don't you think we live in aworld where we're like just so
distracted?
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Well, that's one of the other things I want to talk
about.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Yeah, I won't get too far into it then.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
So yeah, just just just learning and growing
continuously, and when you'realways learning about personal
growth, a lot of it's learningabout relationships and how to
relate to your partner or yourkids or friends.
There's so much out there tolearn.
(18:33):
The amount of knowledge isinfinite, and that's the thing
just building a habit ofbringing in information.
That might not be helpful inthe moment, but it I don't know,
it's just something you haveyou know, up in a conversation
be like oh yeah, I read this onething about so-and-so.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Well, nick, because that's your most annoying thing
is like having conversationsthat are literally like about
politics or weather, or justthings that are negative.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Yeah, I don't.
I usually just avoid theconversation or just yeah,
because I don't like havingnegativity in my life like that,
and politics is very divisive.
It's all a distraction, whichis another thing I want to talk
about too.
Okay, we'll keep going uh, soyeah, like awareness distraction
(19:25):
there's with the phones and thenews and media and the
political drama out there andthe political drama out there.
We are so distracted from whatreally matters, we are unaware
of ourselves.
(19:48):
We are unaware of the actualreal world and what it is,
because there's all thesedistractions going on, like, for
instance, going out in natureand being actually present?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
yeah, because how many times we walk in the woods
and people have like music on.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Yeah, well, today we were out there walking someone's
bumping music through the woods.
I'm like you're missing thepoint, bro.
Listen to the birds.
We can't be in nature and beactually present and like like
some of the neatest memories Ihave are just sitting there and
like watching bees or watching abird or watching a river, like
(20:21):
just that's being present yeah,we're in a super distracted
world and like the awareness ofyour thoughts is another thing,
because we have thoughts goingon all day in our head.
How much of those thoughts areon repeat from the day before
and the day before and the daybefore, and that's like the
person you become is like thethoughts that you have
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continuously, right.
So when you're an awareness andyou can realize, you step back
like internally inside your mindand you become an awareness,
being aware of what you'rethinking um the actions you're
doing, and you can catchyourself doing things that
you're like oh, why do I do that?
It's almost like becoming likean objective third party to
(21:06):
yourself, because you're you'renot your thoughts, you're not
even your body.
Like if I cut my pinky off, isthat pinky still my body?
No, it's not.
We're not our body.
Um, it's kind of getting alittle off topic, but it just
being aware of everything goingon, which is kind of a.
(21:30):
It's like if we're looking forhappiness, we're looking for
outside things, right.
When we're looking forhappiness, we're looking for
outside things, right.
When we're looking for peace,we go inside and then we
understand ourselves more.
And when you understandyourself more, that's when you
become more at peace.
You understand the world.
More you can understand others,more you can be more
(21:52):
compassionate.
It's just easier to get alongin the world when you understand
yourself more.
And going inside for a lot ofpeople I think is really scary
because, I heard someone saythey they don't want to go
inside because they don't wantto be alone with their thoughts.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
It's like wow but a lot of people probably feel like
that yeah and I feel like Inever give myself time to be
alone with my thoughts becauseI'm so distracted all the time
with all the incoming messagesand incoming, you know, people
that need me, and then being amom and being a wife and like
having a business, it's, it'sliterally so overwhelming
sometimes, Like I don't know howto shut it off.
(22:30):
I mean, you're going to forceme to start doing breath work.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Well for me breath work has been one of the most
pivotal things to keep my mindon track, to feel like more
centered, and I have that, youknow, 20, 30 minutes where I'm
going inward with my thoughts,being aware of what I'm thinking
.
But I'm also doing because I'mdoing an act of breathing, I'm
(22:52):
concentrating on the breath, sothere isn't a lot of room when
you're breathing for, you know,distracting thoughts right but
then when you're done, you do alittle.
It might be like a five minutemeditation, so it's kind of like
a two-in-one well, even theother night I went I had a bath.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
I just was like I don't even want my phone in here
, like I just you put music on,yeah, on the stereo but it's
like because I could be having abath or doing something else,
and but I'm also on my phonechecking messages and I'm also
over here.
It's like I'm never stopping.
So again like being your wife,it's like, oh God, it makes you
realize how much I'm not doing.
(23:31):
The things that you do thatkeep you centered and that make
me just like feel like I couldexplode sometimes.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
And that's just the, the awareness of looking at
myself inward and like, okay,well, I'm feeling like this
today.
I'm you know, this is how I'mfeeling, this is my output.
What was I doing when I wasfeeling really good?
Oh, I was doing breath work.
Get back to that.
Maybe it's not breath work foryou, maybe it's uh, maybe it is
(23:59):
meditation, I don't know.
There's a lot of differentmodalities like that that help
people, but it's like a nervousnervous system reset I think a
lot of things too.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
for me that when I do implement them, it's like go
for a walk and, like you say, bepresent on my walk because I
can have an ear button, I canlisten to podcasts, I can do a
coaching call, I can talk to aperson, someone on the phone.
You get in your car, you callsomebody.
It's like we're never stoppingto be with our own thoughts.
So maybe having more likeawareness walks and also like
having a bath with nodistractions, shutting off your
(24:27):
phones and your screen and allof the things, at least an hour
before bed.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
It's, it can be little things that can make such
a big difference.
Because I know before, when Iwas kind of in the groove, like
I would not be on my phonebefore bed and I would not look
at my phone until I did thethings for me in the morning,
like journaling and reading acouple pages of a book, you know
, sitting on the patio in thesun drinking fizz or whatever
you're drinking in the morningand feeling the sun and like
(24:55):
yeah, yeah, stopping to bepresent, because if we don't,
we're just distracted by thisworld of distraction.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Like when we can't live in the past, we can't live
in the future.
We're always, we're alwayschasing something.
We're chasing that happiness,right, I was just talking about,
because that thing is alwaysout there and we're we're trying
to live in the future and getthat thing and then we'll be
happy.
But we don't live there.
We live in the present and it'simportant to manifest and take
(25:24):
time to think about your dreamsand your goals and get in the
feeling of what you want.
But you do have to come backand live in this moment and be
actually present, because it'sthe only place you live.
And live in this moment and beactually present Because it's
the only time you have, it's theonly place you live.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Well, even when you told me to have a bath the other
night, it was like I feelguilty having a bath because
there is so many other things Ishould or could be doing.
Yeah, but at 9.30 at night,when I'm in a mood, you knew
that, like you don't need to godo anything, you need to go have
a bath.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Yeah, listened to you and then I felt so much better
like why do I do that?
Speaker 1 (25:58):
you're just in your own head.
Oh my gosh, you guys.
I hope this is resonating withpeople because I can't be the
only one that does this.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
I don't know yeah, I don't know.
There's a lot of things youtalk about um building
relationships is important.
Um, I guess it goes with likelearning and growing and you
know keeping your mind young.
That was another thing I want totalk about.
I guess we talked with, likelearning and growing and, you
know, keeping your mind young.
That was another thing I wantto talk about.
I guess we talked about that alittle bit.
Um, I don't know.
Just yeah, meditation,meditation is important.
(26:24):
Being with yourself is, I think, one of the last few years.
Going inward and doing themeditation and even with the
psychedelic stuff that I've done, it's expanded my mind to a
point where I just view theworld completely different.
Um, I can relate to otherpeople more.
(26:45):
I just relate to everythingaround me, more it's more of a I
don't know it's life is easier.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
When I think the world, like I said, it's full of
distractions and there's sortof all these like what I look
when this is actually through.
My first psychedelic experiencewas like this whole world is a
game and there's all these trapsin the world which is buying
into politics, religion, drugs,consumerism consumerism all the
things that are trying to getour attention, and most people
it does get our attention, andso when you become aware, like
(27:17):
you said, and you go inward,it's like that's what changes us
, which will change the world,because we have to focus on love
, and we can't do that if we'renever looking inward word, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
And when you're focused, when you're like love
centered, when you go out in theworld and you, you know, have
positive interactions withpeople throughout the day, like
those little things actually dochange the world but you don't
know what an action you might dofor someone, how it can ripple
in ways you might never see it,yeah, but it'd just be a
positive force.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
I actually had a girl walk up to me that that event
last weekend and she goes.
I just had to tell you something, but along I don't remember
what it was.
She came to a first event andshe goes.
You were there at the door,welcoming everybody.
You just made me feel sowelcome and I just wanted to
know, like you always made mefeel like that and I thought I
would have never known.
That's how she felt, but it'slike smiling at people,
welcoming them, making them feellike they are present.
(28:15):
You always say everybody has aninvisible sign on their
forehead that says make me feelimportant.
And I think we all need that,whether it's passing somebody on
the trail, like we did thattoday when we were hiking.
Have a little conversation,smile, say, have a great hike,
like versus just walking pasteach other and not even
acknowledging each other'sexistence.
(28:36):
Like it you, when people don'tkind of respond and I'm just
like calm down like you're notdoing it to get a response do it
for the good of doing it, youknow.
But it's like, why is the worldlike that?
Like why, you know, we got pasta lot of teenagers.
They won't even look up at youor talk, they're just down in
their devices.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
I feel like muhammad ghani's quote like be the change
you want to see in the world islike the most truest thing ever
.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
And that quote too, like the thing you're least
avoiding.
Maybe it's the inner work orthe working out is the thing
that holds the greatest amountof opportunity.
Yeah, because we do.
We avoid the things that weprobably need to do the most.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
And what was the other thing?
Oh, like, as a kid, you knowhow you're always worried about,
like, what everyone's thinkingof you and you're judging
everyone else in their clothesand and whatever.
Kids are so, so cruel.
And just looking back, like,yeah that I grew up had those
same experiences.
But looking back, that's acompletely different me, totally
(29:34):
, than it is now.
But there's people our age thathaven't grown past that because
they haven't done any work atall and they're still in that
same frame of mind.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
When people think age means wisdom, it doesn't always
.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
No, age doesn't mean wisdom.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
There's people that are grown that are still just as
immature as someone in highschool and I think too, that's
what like becoming doing thegrowth journey and kind of
getting into your 40s like this.
It's like you just care so muchless what people think, and
that in itself is such a freeingthing you care more about
leaving a positive impact onpeople than what they think.
(30:15):
And even my fitness journey,like it's not about.
Of course, I want to look goodlook, you know, good in a
bathing suit or feel better inmy clothes, but that's not the
motivation for me right nowanymore, and it used to always
be like.
Now, truly, the motivation ispicturing our son as a 24 year
old, when I'm 60 and I want tobe able to move my body.
I have scoliosis.
I could let that be my excuse,but instead it's again like you
(30:35):
said, it's my, it's our reasonto move our body.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
Yeah, do it for, do it for others.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
You always said that quote by Jim Rohn I'll take care
of me for you and you take careof you for me.
That's why I think inpartnerships it's so important
that you look after each otherfor each other.
Speaker 2 (30:53):
I want to grow old with you, you see a lot of
couples and there's an extremegoing on in both directions.
One can be super fit and theother one can be super fat.
It's like, well, how's thatworking out?
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Yeah, anything else I was going to do rapid fire.
Are you ready for that or notyet?
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah, we can.
We can go there, Okay.
So I want to know what are fourthings in the year of 42 that
you want to do less of?
Um, I was doing this at onepoint and I got to get back to
it Just eating less at night, sohave your supper and be done.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
I don't sleep as good when I have something I'd be
done.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Digest two hours before.
I don't sleep as good when Ihave something before I go to
bed.
I like that.
Less social media.
I don't do a lot, but you knowyou can open your phone up and
all of a sudden you're likelooking up some dumb shit, right
, totally.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Such a waste of time.
It's like I love hate socialmedia.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
And then it's like you know, a minute later you're
like you snap out of it andyou're like, oh, my eyes feel
weird.
I feel like I'm just like I gotthis weird energy about me and
I don't like that.
That energy.
It's like it's been drainedinto the phone.
It's.
It's a sucking life, suckingenergy.
I don't like it yeah, totallyso less of that, uh, less sugar,
because I'm very athletic, Ifeel like my body's just like a
(32:14):
carb machine and I probably eattoo much sugar at times so less
of that and less time worryingabout stuff do you worry about
stuff I don't know.
I worry about stuff, yeah, butit's not.
It doesn't help with anythingwhen you worry, because 85 of
the shit you worry about neverhappened I just thought I was
(32:36):
the worrier of the relationshipwell, you definitely are I guess
that doesn't mean you don'tworry okay well, it's just like
anything.
You see, I guess this can goback to stuff before you're
doing these just for rapid firequestions, but they're letting
things pass through you and not,uh, not letting things bother
(32:58):
you.
So maybe not worrying aboutjust not letting things bother
you, like whatever you see goingon in traffic or in politics,
like this year on the we justhad an election here in canada
and I just didn't get suckedinto all that energy and you
know so-and-so was elected.
I'm like whatever who cares?
But in the past I was like oh no, this is the worst thing ever,
(33:19):
oh, this is great, or whatever.
You know what I mean.
I'm just like it is what it is.
I'm not letting anything takemy energy in those directions
and whatever happens to me outin the world.
Speaker 1 (33:30):
Not because of a politician.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
Well that, but everything out in the world,
whether you're at the grocerystore or you see something out
in the news or someone cuts youoff, whatever, you just have to
let it pass through you and notget that energy stuck in you.
That's when you can be at peace, when those hard things they
pass through you and you're justlike whatever.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
It is what it is.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
You have nothing to worry about.
Life just is life.
Speaker 1 (34:00):
Well, it's not like you know.
You're not voting or you're notcaring about the politics.
You just don't let the politicscontrol you, yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
Because, like it's me , I control my outcome in life,
not whoever we vote for.
Yeah, it's me.
I control my outcome in life,not whoever we vote for.
Yeah, I think that's huge, hugelesson.
The hardest thing is, when youhave a toddler is always pushing
your buttons to let that go.
That's a.
That's a real test.
That is a real test.
And I think when you have, ifyou don't have a kid and you
haven't had that, you're missingout on a whole portion of your
(34:29):
growth.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
I would.
I would agree Honestly, man.
It makes you grow in ways youyeah, you wouldn't otherwise
Like.
So I guess if you're somebodywho's choosing to not have kids,
that's maybe you're missing outon a good thing.
Maybe life's a little easier.
It's all worth it, but yeah,it's definitely interesting.
What are four things you wantto do more of in your 42nd year?
Speaker 2 (34:51):
We're talking about sleep, so going to bed earlier.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
Definitely.
I'm always like okay, it's nineo'clock and get ready for bed,
and then I blink and I'm likeshit, it's 1130.
What just happened?
I was just getting ready forbed.
We're so bad.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
And also we're the couple who goes.
We like to go to bed together,yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
A lot of couples don't do that?
I guess no.
But I've put some protocols inplace to make it easier for me
to go to bed without you.
So I've got earbuds now that Ican sleep with on my side.
So if you're not going to bedyet, I'll put my eye mask on,
put those on, crawl in and thenhalf the time I don't even know
(35:38):
you're getting into bed like anhour or two later, yeah, so I'm
not gonna be a victim there.
That's right.
That's what I tell you, but Istill like it when we go to bed
together.
Uh, the other thing is just ummore time with friends, yeah, I
like being alone a lot, but itis also to be around great
people.
So some more time with friends.
Um, more meditations andmanifesting, like I spend, like
I said, a lot of my time doingbreath work, but I don't spend a
(36:02):
lot of time doing an actualmeditation or the you know,
manifesting stuff that I reallywant to do or I'm thinking about
my future all the time.
Um, so a little bit more ofthat, and then also more
compliments for my beautifulwife.
Oh, I'll take compliments soI'll just send some more love
(36:24):
and compliments your way.
Speaker 1 (36:26):
Okay, I like that I'm like I don't remember my full
um love, but I do think words ofaffirmation is up there and
you're a guy who likes to be inyour thoughts a lot.
That's good awareness for you.
I love it, cause yourcompliments do mean a lot for
sure.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
Yeah, and it's you know.
Another thing we talk about iscommunication.
I had to work a lot on mycommunication because I am in
such an inside thought kind ofguy, so speaking my words has
been.
It's been hard.
The podcast has been great forit, though.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
It really has.
And yeah, I just spoke and thenit was like talking to a brick
wall and I would talk to him.
It's like hello, knock, knockAnybody home.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
And I'm like just hang on.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
I need like 20 minutes to process this one
thought no, you need a lunarcycle because you're a reflector
.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
Yeah, I'll get back to you on that later.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
Oh my God, so funny.
Okay, that's it, you guys, 35minutes of Brian's wisdom of
turning 42.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
So, yeah, aging is, I think, a gift that we're given.
It's not something that we needto fear.
We just need to embrace it,because we can't stop it.
We can slow it down and alwaysbe youthful, you know, as much
as possible, but where we aregoing to age, just be okay with
(37:49):
it.
Speaker 1 (37:51):
Be excited for every other year you get to celebrate.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
Yeah, for real Like 42,.
I do not feel 42 at all.
How old do you feel?
I probably feel like 30, maybe.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Yeah, and my aura watch or ring says that I'm
eight years younger than I am.
I'm like 32.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
Nice work.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
You know, I think age is just a weird perception and
it's just a number.
It's so much more about how youfeel.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Yep, you see 40 year olds that look 50 or 60, and you
see 40 year olds that look like30.
Totally.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
It's all based on how you've treated your body,
mostly.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
I think the biggest lesson is not, if you're
listening to this, to feel likeshame around.
Speaker 2 (38:36):
No, don't feel shame.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
There's no right or wrong, it just but just also
know like tomorrow can be dayone, like I just think I
suffered, even with my journeyfor years since I had marty he's
four and I started this.
I just thought I'm gonna committo 12 weeks, I'm gonna get help
, I'm gonna follow somethingthat I wouldn't want to do on my
own.
I don't have the kind ofself-discipline like you do,
especially not at this point inmy life anyway, and I just think
(38:58):
like that was only 12 weeks andwhy did I sit and suffer for so
long when in 12 weeks I couldjust do that?
So think about when you'relistening to this, like what if
you committed to something forfor the next 12 weeks?
Even if it was just going tobed earlier and walking, it
could be something so simplethat you feel so good doing and
keeping those promises toyourself.
(39:18):
There's nobody better thanyourself to keep promises to.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
Yeah and guys, 40 to 50 pushups at least once a day.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
Okay, there you go, tangible.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Yeah, do that Tangible Easy.
That's like one of the biggestmetrics of health for a man.
Can you do 40 push-ups in a rowwithout stopping?
Speaker 1 (39:36):
okay.
So there you go.
If you're a man listening tothis, you get your count on with
those push-ups, okay.
Well, thanks for listeningeverybody and thanks, brian, for
everything you had to sharetoday my pleasure.
Speaker 2 (39:45):
Stay awesome.
Everybody talk to you next time, peace.
you're listening to the love movement with your host
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Welcome back everybody.
Episode 16.
It's been a hot minute.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
It's been a really long time and I feel bad that
it's been so long.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I don't even really know why has it been so long?
I guess we just haven't reallyset the time to do it.
We're tired at night when ourtoddler doesn't sleep and we
don't feel like hitting recordat.
You know 9.30 at night.
No so we're back, though.
It's been since Valentine's Day, since we did a podcast.
That's like we're pushing threemonths here about.
You know what?
We're going to get moreorganized for the year of 2025.
(01:13):
And today I'm excited to talkabout well, brian.
I'm going to interview him alittle bit because he had a
birthday yesterday, turned 42.
It feels weird to say it does.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
We knew it was coming .
Speaker 1 (01:21):
And I feel like age, though, is such a weird thing,
like the perception of age ismessed up, because I don't know
about you, but I remember mydad's 40th birthday.
I would have been 13.
It was a surprise backyardbarbecue and I just thought he
was so old.
And I'm turning 40 this summerand I do not feel old.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Well, if you watch like an old movie or like the
movie or the sitcom Cheers.
Well, if you watch like an oldmovie or like the movie or the
sitcom Cheers, those people arein their 30s.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yeah, like in my brain they were 55.
Yeah, it's so weird.
Also, the other funny thing ifmy aunt is listening to this,
she'll laugh.
When I started my business, Iwas 21.
And I remember my biggestobjection being, oh, this type
of business is for old, bored,retired people, and not that she
was those things, but I kind ofwas also alluding that she was
kind of getting there and likeshe was 40.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Yeah, it is weird because I feel like our, the
previous generation, didn'tfocus as much on like health and
wellness as they do now andthey just had this mindset
around just getting old and it'sjust like oh, you're 40, you're
over the hill, and it's likethis whole thing well, it seems
(02:32):
to be people's common answer,like to anything like happy
birthday, yep.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Getting older, it's like, but it's like awesome.
Getting older, aging, it's aprivilege yeah, so not afforded
to everybody no and likesomebody, yes.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Somebody yesterday said happy birthday, old man.
I was like old man, I'm likenot even close.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
And it's funny because with you, I remember.
I remember your 18th birthday.
I remember you're wearing ayellow t-shirt with a silver
chain and your brother wouldhave been.
How old uh, he would have beenlike 10 yeah, and so he was also
wanting to be like you, and hewas wearing a yellow t-shirt
with a chain and I remember wewent out for dinner probably to
Bonanza Probably, but I rememberbeing with you on your 18th
(03:12):
birthday and when you add up 18to 42, this is 25 birthdays I've
had with you.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
It's pretty wild.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah, it is.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
So for this episode we thought that we would just
have Brian.
He's kind of a little Prettywild yeah, it is.
So for this episode we thoughtthat we would just have Brian.
He's kind of a little I don'tknow wise, wise, quiet one over
there and I figured you knowwhat.
Let's pass on some of thewisdom for our listeners and at
the end of the day, we do thispodcast for anybody that gets
value.
We want to spread more loveinto the world, but the core of
it all we really want our son tohave.
You know this sort ofinformation and the stuff that
(03:44):
we talk about and the thingsthat we think matters, and so
you can even think about it aslike giving Marty advice or
something as he's yeah, he's tooyoung to really take in advice
right now.
So I mean he's four, but anyways.
So we're just gonna talk aboutthat and I don't necessarily
need to like number them,because I know you just have a
lot to say on a lot of differenttopics when do you feel like
(04:09):
you want to start, if you'regoing to start with like the
best advice?
Speaker 2 (04:12):
It's really hard for me to get all my thoughts
together, like I could probablytake a week to prepare for
something like this, so I justhave to force them into it
Because my mind goes a thousanddifferent ways.
So I just have a few thingsthat I can kind of talk about in
general.
And, yeah, we could do like anextended podcast where I go like
really really, really, really,really deep into some stuff.
But we'll keep it simple todaywhat's?
(04:35):
the biggest thing.
I think as we age we weretalking about perception earlier
I think the biggest thing islike our health and fitness and
like, as I look at people thatare older or even my age,
they're like, oh, my body hurtsor oh, I'm going to feel that
(04:56):
tomorrow.
Or you look at someone who ismaybe a little bit older and
they just look frail and it'sbecause people don't use their
bodies.
Like we're not meant to sitaround on the couch and watch TV
or sit in an office or sit in acar all day.
Like our bodies are meant tomove, they're meant to be used,
they're meant to be stressed,and I think just moving your
(05:18):
body and having some like givingit resistance, that's like one
of the biggest things and Ithink that's what keeps me
feeling young and bouncy, likeyou were just on a hike just now
and he's like how do I get youbouncy?
I was like I don't know what youmean I just feel like I'm like
springy, like I can boing aroundlike a cartoon character when
(05:42):
I'm out in the woods or anywhere, like I'm just, I'm just bouncy
, because I'm just, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
And I got a heavy foot.
Apparently I'm working on it.
I've lost 12 pounds in 12 weeks.
Yeah, that's insane.
Maybe that's why we have beenon a podcast hiatus.
I've been too focused ongetting my steps in and eating
properly working out.
But it's true and honestly,like I'm better because I'm with
you, because you are always.
Just it's innate for you, likehow focused you are on your
(06:07):
health.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
It's just a habit that I've built and it's I made
that part of kind of my identityis being strong and fit and
capable of you know, doingstrenuous things.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
And I think, maybe for me.
I feel like I lost thatidentity when I had Marty.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
You're kind of forced to stop some of that right.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I know.
But at the same time, how longcan you use your kid as an
excuse?
And so maybe that journey isfor another episode, but I just
feel like it's.
I guess what is great about amarriage too is that you can
each.
You know, you were sort ofalways on that journey and I was
on it, and then I got sort ofsidetracked, having a baby,
being postpartum and just reallybeing not, not feeling good in
my body and getting to a pointwhere I was just sick and tired
(06:53):
of being sick and tired and youknow you would say like smart
ass comments here and there,like I'd be like my core is so
weak.
You're like well, are youworking on it every day?
No, brian, I'm not working onit every day.
And then I start personaltraining with our neighbor
across the street and she's like, okay, every day I want you to
do this, and it's likestrengthening my core.
And I was like, wow, my core isgetting so strong.
(07:16):
And you're like shocking whenyou work on it every day.
And that was identity, is thefirst thing you know she had
said to me was we're creating anew identity for you.
You're a person who does this,who doesn't do this, and it took
me a while to get to where now,12 weeks later, I feel like
that is now part of my identity.
You know, and you just you'vealways been good at that.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Well, it's just.
It's how you build a habit inany area of your life.
Is making the thing that youwant to be a habit part of your
identity?
It's like we don't.
We identify as non-drinkers now.
So, like yesterday, we were outfor birthday supper and I could
have went and had a beer, so Iliked having a beer on the patio
(07:52):
, but that's not part of myidentity, so I would feel when I
even said that to you, I waslike have a beer.
Like I would feel out ofintegrity with myself if I did
that, because it's not part ofwhat I do anymore.
And I'm going to Vegas tomorrowfor a friend's 40th and I'm
sitting here thinking maybe Iwill have cocktail and I was
like no, I don't really want toLike, it's not same, it's not
part of my identity.
And the other thing I want totalk about is like comparing
(08:13):
your body to a battery.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Yeah, this is good.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Yeah.
So like people are like, oh,when I exercise, I feel so tired
and drained, but what you'reactually doing is you're
increasing the capacity of yourbattery for later.
It's like having a biggerbattery in your phone, so it'll
last longer.
So, yeah, you might feel tiredin the moment, but you've
increased your capacity, andthen it's the quality that goes
in will make your battery lastlonger.
(08:39):
So it's the quality of yourfood that you have, the quality
of the exercise movement thatyou do, and then the quality of
you know what's going in yourears, what you're listening to
people surround yourself with.
It's all that stuff.
But the cool thing about when itgoes, when all this stuff goes
into your body, the quality ofwhat you put in gets multiplied
(09:01):
with your output.
So you get more output and morequality output it's a great
your body.
Your body is like a multiplierof the quality that goes in.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
You get more output in quantity and quality that
feels kind of deep for my brainright now.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
I don't know if the listeners feel that way, but I
also feel like it's a greatanalogy so, yeah, when you're
charging your battery, whenyou're putting in better food,
you know, when you're listening,you know motivational stuff,
that's charging your battery.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Sleeping, sleeping is one of the biggest things when
it comes to, uh like, overallhealth my aura ring that I got
for christmas has been the bestthing ever for me tracking my
sleep, because I we're nightowls, but you're also you we
don't want to be, but youactually can't be if you want to
get up early and trade like youdo, and so this is our biggest
(09:53):
thing is like we got to get tobed earlier and figure that out
because it's so, it is soimportant and we underestimate
it yeah, sleep.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Sleep is like, um, like rejuvenating your body.
That's like the recharge partof your battery.
So there's all these factorsthat play into.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I guess the overall you know well-being and
everything of your life is youknow, the amount of sleep, what
goes into your body, and thenthe work that you make your body
do well, and it's true, becauseremember a couple days when I
do my personal training sessionsevery monday and I normally can
hardly walk back across thestreet because I just feel like
I'm a puddle of jello and Icould fall onto the ground and
(10:32):
remember that one day I was likeI just had a huge nap on the
couch.
I was like why am I this tired?
And you were like you just hada huge workout today, like yeah,
that's happens.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
That's when your body repairs itself.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Yeah, that's a good way to look at it, though, and
what do you say to people whoyou know?
They work a full-time job, theygot kids, are chasing after,
they got sports and all this,and they just really feel like
I'm too tired to even move mybody.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
That's it's, that's the will to want to up your
capacity.
It's like you have to fitthings in during the day, like
I'll do a little breathingexercise in the morning and some
pushups and some sit-ups, andif I did anything during the day
, that would be like theabsolute minimum that I would do
, and it took me what?
Not even 10 minutes, yeah Right, but it's just what you do
(11:20):
during the day.
Are you using the stairs?
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Are you like?
I'm sitting at the in thekitchen cooking supper doing
like half raises?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
and like I'm just always doing something just to
try to you're integrating it allthe time.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
You guys, if you could see him, he'll like put
his arm on the island and on thelike by the sink on the counter
and just like swing his legs upand down, just like hold his
body, swing his legs like whatis happening?
Are you cooking or are weactually?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I just try to make every part of my day something
that's yeah, they're like givingme strength somehow.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
But it is true it's like always take the stairs,
don't park close to the door,park at the back of the parking
lot and walk.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
We talked about a lot of this in our fitness episode
we did with Dan.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Right, yeah, so fitness is everything, because I
think as you age, it's likewhat else?
Nothing else really matters asyou age, if you don't have your
health.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Yeah, like I think to have the thought of being old
and frail and not able to moveand like being trapped in my
body when I just want to like goout for a run and like a walk
and like we've had we had peoplevisiting us lately and we
couldn't do half the thingsbecause they're not physically
capable.
And they're talking aboutthey're comparing their stories
of when they got their stintsput in their heart and I'm like,
(12:25):
oh my God, and the drugs thatthey're taking and you know,
everyone's on all these drugs.
I'm like like we watched a showlast night and these people
were in their like early fiftiesand they're at the pharmacy
getting all these drugs andthey're getting this medication,
this one, and this one, thisone.
I'm like, oh my God, this is thenorm is being on drugs.
Your food is your medicine andyour fitness is your medicine.
(12:48):
Movement is medicine, and thenthe state of your mind is
another factor that plays intothat as well.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
There was a thing once someone had told me that
the goal of pharmaceuticalindustry is to have people on
five different medications bythe time they're 50.
That is the most disgustingfact I've ever heard.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Yeah, it's sickening.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
I think we did mention that on another podcast.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
We did yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
But health, yeah, it's everything, and moving your
body if you don't feel.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Yeah, people that are injured, like yeah, I have a
back injury, I have a bald discin my back.
It hurts to get out of bedevery morning.
I could make that my excuse too, but I'd make it the reason why
I'm always moving.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Well, and it's even like you know, people say I
would die for my kids, I woulddo anything for my kids, but
would you live for them?
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
That's what this all kind of comes down to too, and I
think, for us, something thatI've said recently, just like on
Instagram and stuff is you know, I'm going to be turning 40
with a four-year-old, I'll be 50with a 14-year-old, and I'll be
60 with a 24-year-old, andright now I'm working out and
getting strong and he's watchingme do that and copying me in
the gym, which is the cutestthing.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
So that I can that with him when he's 24.
And there's no like it's nottoo late to start, no matter
what age you are, you can youknow.
If you're feeling a little weakright now, you can turn that
around in no time.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Well, I think it's like starting with something
simple Don't think you need todo all of it and don't think it
needs to cost a lot of money,like it can literally all be
free.
Um, walking is free.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Fasting is free.
Everything is free.
It's all fitness courses.
Everything's on YouTube.
You can ask chat, gpt foradvice on anything.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
These days Walking is one of the most underrated
things.
There was some statistic I justwent the other day about like
what was it now If you walkthree times a week for 45
minutes?
I don't remember what the thingwas, though.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
It's really good stuff.
It's really good stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
I feel like it had something to do with um, I don't
know what I'm going to say,Cause I don't even know.
I actually don't remember.
I don't even remember where Isaw that.
That's the annoying part.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
We just know it's good.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
So just walk.
Start with something simpleincrease your water, get walking
, focus on your sleep.
Those could be some simplethings to just get you going if
you're feeling like you're kindof stuck in a rut and knowing
that it really is never too lateto start.
Actually, recently we've beeninspired by a couple of our
friends that are in their 50sthat have been taking this
health journey quite seriously,and people who my one friend,
(15:19):
carrie, for example maybe weshould get her on the podcast,
talk about this, because she'swho I remember.
When I went to Good Life Fitnessand I'd go to spin classes
literally three times a weeklike clockwork never would miss
it I convinced her to come withme.
She bought a gym membershipthese ugly white runners from
Walmart and I think she came totwo spin classes in like the two
or three years.
She paid for a membership, yeah, and now she's just crushing it
(15:40):
and she was part of the reasonthat inspired me to like get my
shit together, basically, andit's like it's never too late.
I just think that's such agreat example.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
So anything else?
Speaker 1 (15:50):
on health.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
There's a lot.
I mean experiment withsupplements, different foods,
subtract foods that areinflammatory from your life.
See how you see how your bodyresponds.
That's one of the biggestthings is just experiment with
different things, differentfoods, and see what's optimal
for you.
Like try vegan, try doing moremeat, try doing less meat.
(16:12):
Like, just try everything.
Everybody's different.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Yeah, exactly.
Okay.
What would be another topicthat you want to talk about?
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Well, I guess we're.
We're talking about, you know,growing muscles and whatnot, and
we could talk about justlifelong learning and growing.
I remember I think we've talkedabout this before too but when
you started um doing Arbonne,you said that, uh, you needed to
(16:41):
read and I should read two orwhatever.
And all of a sudden I was like,okay, I'm going to read a book.
And I picked up a book and thiswas after he said.
I don't read.
Yeah, I don't read Cause I'm aslow reader.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
I said you do read cause you graduated, you know,
graduated, you know how to read.
But I think what you're sayingwithout saying is that you don't
like reading or you're a slowreader.
And I remember just saying,like let's just read 10 minutes
before bed and I might read abook and it might take you three
times longer, but eventuallyyou'll read a book.
If we're doing it for 10minutes every night, yeah and
yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
So I do.
I read a lot of personal growthstuff.
I you know when helps witheverything.
It helps with life, it helpshaving conversations with people
, it helps with relating toother people.
It just expands your mind andwhen you're always learning
something, it doesn't have to bepersonal growth stuff either.
(17:26):
Like I read a lot of stuffabout you know cool things
happening in nature and space,and like scientific journal
stuff.
And just having your mindworking like that all the time
and actually using your brainfor actual thought too, keeps
your mind young.
Like people do puzzles, peoplelearn other languages.
(17:47):
You can you know if you'reright-handed, try brushing your
teeth with your left hand orwashing dishes with your left
hand.
Just like ambidextrous stuff.
All these different things.
When like ambidextrous stuff,all these different things.
When we use our brain like that, it keeps our brain young,
keeps new, like neural pathwaysbeing created.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Cause.
Don't you think we live in aworld where we're like just so
distracted?
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Well, that's one of the other things I want to talk
about.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Yeah, I won't get too far into it then.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
So yeah, just just just learning and growing
continuously, and when you'realways learning about personal
growth, a lot of it's learningabout relationships and how to
relate to your partner or yourkids or friends.
There's so much out there tolearn.
(18:33):
The amount of knowledge isinfinite, and that's the thing
just building a habit ofbringing in information.
That might not be helpful inthe moment, but it I don't know,
it's just something you haveyou know, up in a conversation
be like oh yeah, I read this onething about so-and-so.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Well, nick, because that's your most annoying thing
is like having conversationsthat are literally like about
politics or weather, or justthings that are negative.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Yeah, I don't.
I usually just avoid theconversation or just yeah,
because I don't like havingnegativity in my life like that,
and politics is very divisive.
It's all a distraction, whichis another thing I want to talk
about too.
Okay, we'll keep going uh, soyeah, like awareness distraction
(19:25):
there's with the phones and thenews and media and the
political drama out there andthe political drama out there.
We are so distracted from whatreally matters, we are unaware
of ourselves.
(19:48):
We are unaware of the actualreal world and what it is,
because there's all thesedistractions going on, like, for
instance, going out in natureand being actually present?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
yeah, because how many times we walk in the woods
and people have like music on.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Yeah, well, today we were out there walking someone's
bumping music through the woods.
I'm like you're missing thepoint, bro.
Listen to the birds.
We can't be in nature and beactually present and like like
some of the neatest memories Ihave are just sitting there and
like watching bees or watching abird or watching a river, like
(20:21):
just that's being present yeah,we're in a super distracted
world and like the awareness ofyour thoughts is another thing,
because we have thoughts goingon all day in our head.
How much of those thoughts areon repeat from the day before
and the day before and the daybefore, and that's like the
person you become is like thethoughts that you have
(20:43):
continuously, right.
So when you're an awareness andyou can realize, you step back
like internally inside your mindand you become an awareness,
being aware of what you'rethinking um the actions you're
doing, and you can catchyourself doing things that
you're like oh, why do I do that?
It's almost like becoming likean objective third party to
(21:06):
yourself, because you're you'renot your thoughts, you're not
even your body.
Like if I cut my pinky off, isthat pinky still my body?
No, it's not.
We're not our body.
Um, it's kind of getting alittle off topic, but it just
being aware of everything goingon, which is kind of a.
(21:30):
It's like if we're looking forhappiness, we're looking for
outside things, right.
When we're looking forhappiness, we're looking for
outside things, right.
When we're looking for peace,we go inside and then we
understand ourselves more.
And when you understandyourself more, that's when you
become more at peace.
You understand the world.
More you can understand others,more you can be more
(21:52):
compassionate.
It's just easier to get alongin the world when you understand
yourself more.
And going inside for a lot ofpeople I think is really scary
because, I heard someone saythey they don't want to go
inside because they don't wantto be alone with their thoughts.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
It's like wow but a lot of people probably feel like
that yeah and I feel like Inever give myself time to be
alone with my thoughts becauseI'm so distracted all the time
with all the incoming messagesand incoming, you know, people
that need me, and then being amom and being a wife and like
having a business, it's, it'sliterally so overwhelming
sometimes, Like I don't know howto shut it off.
(22:30):
I mean, you're going to forceme to start doing breath work.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Well for me breath work has been one of the most
pivotal things to keep my mindon track, to feel like more
centered, and I have that, youknow, 20, 30 minutes where I'm
going inward with my thoughts,being aware of what I'm thinking
.
But I'm also doing because I'mdoing an act of breathing, I'm
(22:52):
concentrating on the breath, sothere isn't a lot of room when
you're breathing for, you know,distracting thoughts right but
then when you're done, you do alittle.
It might be like a five minutemeditation, so it's kind of like
a two-in-one well, even theother night I went I had a bath.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
I just was like I don't even want my phone in here
, like I just you put music on,yeah, on the stereo but it's
like because I could be having abath or doing something else,
and but I'm also on my phonechecking messages and I'm also
over here.
It's like I'm never stopping.
So again like being your wife,it's like, oh God, it makes you
realize how much I'm not doing.
(23:31):
The things that you do thatkeep you centered and that make
me just like feel like I couldexplode sometimes.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
And that's just the, the awareness of looking at
myself inward and like, okay,well, I'm feeling like this
today.
I'm you know, this is how I'mfeeling, this is my output.
What was I doing when I wasfeeling really good?
Oh, I was doing breath work.
Get back to that.
Maybe it's not breath work foryou, maybe it's uh, maybe it is
(23:59):
meditation, I don't know.
There's a lot of differentmodalities like that that help
people, but it's like a nervousnervous system reset I think a
lot of things too.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
for me that when I do implement them, it's like go
for a walk and, like you say, bepresent on my walk because I
can have an ear button, I canlisten to podcasts, I can do a
coaching call, I can talk to aperson, someone on the phone.
You get in your car, you callsomebody.
It's like we're never stoppingto be with our own thoughts.
So maybe having more likeawareness walks and also like
having a bath with nodistractions, shutting off your
(24:27):
phones and your screen and allof the things, at least an hour
before bed.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
It's, it can be little things that can make such
a big difference.
Because I know before, when Iwas kind of in the groove, like
I would not be on my phonebefore bed and I would not look
at my phone until I did thethings for me in the morning,
like journaling and reading acouple pages of a book, you know
, sitting on the patio in thesun drinking fizz or whatever
you're drinking in the morningand feeling the sun and like
(24:55):
yeah, yeah, stopping to bepresent, because if we don't,
we're just distracted by thisworld of distraction.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Like when we can't live in the past, we can't live
in the future.
We're always, we're alwayschasing something.
We're chasing that happiness,right, I was just talking about,
because that thing is alwaysout there and we're we're trying
to live in the future and getthat thing and then we'll be
happy.
But we don't live there.
We live in the present and it'simportant to manifest and take
(25:24):
time to think about your dreamsand your goals and get in the
feeling of what you want.
But you do have to come backand live in this moment and be
actually present, because it'sthe only place you live.
And live in this moment and beactually present Because it's
the only time you have, it's theonly place you live.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Well, even when you told me to have a bath the other
night, it was like I feelguilty having a bath because
there is so many other things Ishould or could be doing.
Yeah, but at 9.30 at night,when I'm in a mood, you knew
that, like you don't need to godo anything, you need to go have
a bath.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Yeah, listened to you and then I felt so much better
like why do I do that?
Speaker 1 (25:58):
you're just in your own head.
Oh my gosh, you guys.
I hope this is resonating withpeople because I can't be the
only one that does this.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
I don't know yeah, I don't know.
There's a lot of things youtalk about um building
relationships is important.
Um, I guess it goes with likelearning and growing and you
know keeping your mind young.
That was another thing I want totalk about.
I guess we talked with, likelearning and growing and, you
know, keeping your mind young.
That was another thing I wantto talk about.
I guess we talked about that alittle bit.
Um, I don't know.
Just yeah, meditation,meditation is important.
(26:24):
Being with yourself is, I think, one of the last few years.
Going inward and doing themeditation and even with the
psychedelic stuff that I've done, it's expanded my mind to a
point where I just view theworld completely different.
Um, I can relate to otherpeople more.
(26:45):
I just relate to everythingaround me, more it's more of a I
don't know it's life is easier.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
When I think the world, like I said, it's full of
distractions and there's sortof all these like what I look
when this is actually through.
My first psychedelic experiencewas like this whole world is a
game and there's all these trapsin the world which is buying
into politics, religion, drugs,consumerism consumerism all the
things that are trying to getour attention, and most people
it does get our attention, andso when you become aware, like
(27:17):
you said, and you go inward,it's like that's what changes us
, which will change the world,because we have to focus on love
, and we can't do that if we'renever looking inward word, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
And when you're focused, when you're like love
centered, when you go out in theworld and you, you know, have
positive interactions withpeople throughout the day, like
those little things actually dochange the world but you don't
know what an action you might dofor someone, how it can ripple
in ways you might never see it,yeah, but it'd just be a
positive force.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
I actually had a girl walk up to me that that event
last weekend and she goes.
I just had to tell you something, but along I don't remember
what it was.
She came to a first event andshe goes.
You were there at the door,welcoming everybody.
You just made me feel sowelcome and I just wanted to
know, like you always made mefeel like that and I thought I
would have never known.
That's how she felt, but it'slike smiling at people,
welcoming them, making them feellike they are present.
(28:15):
You always say everybody has aninvisible sign on their
forehead that says make me feelimportant.
And I think we all need that,whether it's passing somebody on
the trail, like we did thattoday when we were hiking.
Have a little conversation,smile, say, have a great hike,
like versus just walking pasteach other and not even
acknowledging each other'sexistence.
(28:36):
Like it you, when people don'tkind of respond and I'm just
like calm down like you're notdoing it to get a response do it
for the good of doing it, youknow.
But it's like, why is the worldlike that?
Like why, you know, we got pasta lot of teenagers.
They won't even look up at youor talk, they're just down in
their devices.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
I feel like muhammad ghani's quote like be the change
you want to see in the world islike the most truest thing ever
.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
And that quote too, like the thing you're least
avoiding.
Maybe it's the inner work orthe working out is the thing
that holds the greatest amountof opportunity.
Yeah, because we do.
We avoid the things that weprobably need to do the most.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
And what was the other thing?
Oh, like, as a kid, you knowhow you're always worried about,
like, what everyone's thinkingof you and you're judging
everyone else in their clothesand and whatever.
Kids are so, so cruel.
And just looking back, like,yeah that I grew up had those
same experiences.
But looking back, that's acompletely different me, totally
(29:34):
, than it is now.
But there's people our age thathaven't grown past that because
they haven't done any work atall and they're still in that
same frame of mind.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
When people think age means wisdom, it doesn't always
.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
No, age doesn't mean wisdom.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
There's people that are grown that are still just as
immature as someone in highschool and I think too, that's
what like becoming doing thegrowth journey and kind of
getting into your 40s like this.
It's like you just care so muchless what people think, and
that in itself is such a freeingthing you care more about
leaving a positive impact onpeople than what they think.
(30:15):
And even my fitness journey,like it's not about.
Of course, I want to look goodlook, you know, good in a
bathing suit or feel better inmy clothes, but that's not the
motivation for me right nowanymore, and it used to always
be like.
Now, truly, the motivation ispicturing our son as a 24 year
old, when I'm 60 and I want tobe able to move my body.
I have scoliosis.
I could let that be my excuse,but instead it's again like you
(30:35):
said, it's my, it's our reasonto move our body.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
Yeah, do it for, do it for others.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
You always said that quote by Jim Rohn I'll take care
of me for you and you take careof you for me.
That's why I think inpartnerships it's so important
that you look after each otherfor each other.
Speaker 2 (30:53):
I want to grow old with you, you see a lot of
couples and there's an extremegoing on in both directions.
One can be super fit and theother one can be super fat.
It's like, well, how's thatworking out?
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Yeah, anything else I was going to do rapid fire.
Are you ready for that or notyet?
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah, we can.
We can go there, Okay.
So I want to know what are fourthings in the year of 42 that
you want to do less of?
Um, I was doing this at onepoint and I got to get back to
it Just eating less at night, sohave your supper and be done.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
I don't sleep as good when I have something I'd be
done.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Digest two hours before.
I don't sleep as good when Ihave something before I go to
bed.
I like that.
Less social media.
I don't do a lot, but you knowyou can open your phone up and
all of a sudden you're likelooking up some dumb shit, right
, totally.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Such a waste of time.
It's like I love hate socialmedia.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
And then it's like you know, a minute later you're
like you snap out of it andyou're like, oh, my eyes feel
weird.
I feel like I'm just like I gotthis weird energy about me and
I don't like that.
That energy.
It's like it's been drainedinto the phone.
It's.
It's a sucking life, suckingenergy.
I don't like it yeah, totallyso less of that, uh, less sugar,
because I'm very athletic, Ifeel like my body's just like a
(32:14):
carb machine and I probably eattoo much sugar at times so less
of that and less time worryingabout stuff do you worry about
stuff I don't know.
I worry about stuff, yeah, butit's not.
It doesn't help with anythingwhen you worry, because 85 of
the shit you worry about neverhappened I just thought I was
(32:36):
the worrier of the relationshipwell, you definitely are I guess
that doesn't mean you don'tworry okay well, it's just like
anything.
You see, I guess this can goback to stuff before you're
doing these just for rapid firequestions, but they're letting
things pass through you and not,uh, not letting things bother
(32:58):
you.
So maybe not worrying aboutjust not letting things bother
you, like whatever you see goingon in traffic or in politics,
like this year on the we justhad an election here in canada
and I just didn't get suckedinto all that energy and you
know so-and-so was elected.
I'm like whatever who cares?
But in the past I was like oh no, this is the worst thing ever,
(33:19):
oh, this is great, or whatever.
You know what I mean.
I'm just like it is what it is.
I'm not letting anything takemy energy in those directions
and whatever happens to me outin the world.
Speaker 1 (33:30):
Not because of a politician.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
Well that, but everything out in the world,
whether you're at the grocerystore or you see something out
in the news or someone cuts youoff, whatever, you just have to
let it pass through you and notget that energy stuck in you.
That's when you can be at peace, when those hard things they
pass through you and you're justlike whatever.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
It is what it is.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
You have nothing to worry about.
Life just is life.
Speaker 1 (34:00):
Well, it's not like you know.
You're not voting or you're notcaring about the politics.
You just don't let the politicscontrol you, yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
Because, like it's me , I control my outcome in life,
not whoever we vote for.
Yeah, it's me.
I control my outcome in life,not whoever we vote for.
Yeah, I think that's huge, hugelesson.
The hardest thing is, when youhave a toddler is always pushing
your buttons to let that go.
That's a.
That's a real test.
That is a real test.
And I think when you have, ifyou don't have a kid and you
haven't had that, you're missingout on a whole portion of your
(34:29):
growth.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
I would.
I would agree Honestly, man.
It makes you grow in ways youyeah, you wouldn't otherwise
Like.
So I guess if you're somebodywho's choosing to not have kids,
that's maybe you're missing outon a good thing.
Maybe life's a little easier.
It's all worth it, but yeah,it's definitely interesting.
What are four things you wantto do more of in your 42nd year?
Speaker 2 (34:51):
We're talking about sleep, so going to bed earlier.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
Definitely.
I'm always like okay, it's nineo'clock and get ready for bed,
and then I blink and I'm likeshit, it's 1130.
What just happened?
I was just getting ready forbed.
We're so bad.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
And also we're the couple who goes.
We like to go to bed together,yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
A lot of couples don't do that?
I guess no.
But I've put some protocols inplace to make it easier for me
to go to bed without you.
So I've got earbuds now that Ican sleep with on my side.
So if you're not going to bedyet, I'll put my eye mask on,
put those on, crawl in and thenhalf the time I don't even know
(35:38):
you're getting into bed like anhour or two later, yeah, so I'm
not gonna be a victim there.
That's right.
That's what I tell you, but Istill like it when we go to bed
together.
Uh, the other thing is just ummore time with friends, yeah, I
like being alone a lot, but itis also to be around great
people.
So some more time with friends.
Um, more meditations andmanifesting, like I spend, like
I said, a lot of my time doingbreath work, but I don't spend a
(36:02):
lot of time doing an actualmeditation or the you know,
manifesting stuff that I reallywant to do or I'm thinking about
my future all the time.
Um, so a little bit more ofthat, and then also more
compliments for my beautifulwife.
Oh, I'll take compliments soI'll just send some more love
(36:24):
and compliments your way.
Speaker 1 (36:26):
Okay, I like that I'm like I don't remember my full
um love, but I do think words ofaffirmation is up there and
you're a guy who likes to be inyour thoughts a lot.
That's good awareness for you.
I love it, cause yourcompliments do mean a lot for
sure.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
Yeah, and it's you know.
Another thing we talk about iscommunication.
I had to work a lot on mycommunication because I am in
such an inside thought kind ofguy, so speaking my words has
been.
It's been hard.
The podcast has been great forit, though.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
It really has.
And yeah, I just spoke and thenit was like talking to a brick
wall and I would talk to him.
It's like hello, knock, knockAnybody home.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
And I'm like just hang on.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
I need like 20 minutes to process this one
thought no, you need a lunarcycle because you're a reflector
.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
Yeah, I'll get back to you on that later.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
Oh my God, so funny.
Okay, that's it, you guys, 35minutes of Brian's wisdom of
turning 42.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
So, yeah, aging is, I think, a gift that we're given.
It's not something that we needto fear.
We just need to embrace it,because we can't stop it.
We can slow it down and alwaysbe youthful, you know, as much
as possible, but where we aregoing to age, just be okay with
(37:49):
it.
Speaker 1 (37:51):
Be excited for every other year you get to celebrate.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
Yeah, for real Like 42,.
I do not feel 42 at all.
How old do you feel?
I probably feel like 30, maybe.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Yeah, and my aura watch or ring says that I'm
eight years younger than I am.
I'm like 32.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
Nice work.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
You know, I think age is just a weird perception and
it's just a number.
It's so much more about how youfeel.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Yep, you see 40 year olds that look 50 or 60, and you
see 40 year olds that look like30.
Totally.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
It's all based on how you've treated your body,
mostly.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
I think the biggest lesson is not, if you're
listening to this, to feel likeshame around.
Speaker 2 (38:36):
No, don't feel shame.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
There's no right or wrong, it just but just also
know like tomorrow can be dayone, like I just think I
suffered, even with my journeyfor years since I had marty he's
four and I started this.
I just thought I'm gonna committo 12 weeks, I'm gonna get help
, I'm gonna follow somethingthat I wouldn't want to do on my
own.
I don't have the kind ofself-discipline like you do,
especially not at this point inmy life anyway, and I just think
(38:58):
like that was only 12 weeks andwhy did I sit and suffer for so
long when in 12 weeks I couldjust do that?
So think about when you'relistening to this, like what if
you committed to something forfor the next 12 weeks?
Even if it was just going tobed earlier and walking, it
could be something so simplethat you feel so good doing and
keeping those promises toyourself.
(39:18):
There's nobody better thanyourself to keep promises to.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
Yeah and guys, 40 to 50 pushups at least once a day.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
Okay, there you go, tangible.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Yeah, do that Tangible Easy.
That's like one of the biggestmetrics of health for a man.
Can you do 40 push-ups in a rowwithout stopping?
Speaker 1 (39:36):
okay.
So there you go.
If you're a man listening tothis, you get your count on with
those push-ups, okay.
Well, thanks for listeningeverybody and thanks, brian, for
everything you had to sharetoday my pleasure.
Speaker 2 (39:45):
Stay awesome.
Everybody talk to you next time, peace.
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