Just because you said I do doesn't mean your eyes stop working. Attraction doesn't end when you get married. It just changes what you do with it.
In this episode, we get raw about attraction in marriage. That pull you feel toward someone else. The spark that shows up uninvited. What it's really showing you about yourself and your relationship.
You'll hear the water metaphor. Why someone can look so good when you're thirsty for attention at home. The 10% trap. That moment when you're ready to trade your 90% for someone who's only filling a tiny piece of what you actually need. We share what first attracted us to each other and how we navigate attraction outside our marriage.
We get into modern temptations. The coworker situation where attention gets confused with connection. The gym flirt when your partner is working long hours. Scrolling social media for flirtation because you're bored. These situations are real.
We also talk culture. Puerto Rican fire. Filipino strength. The cheesecake test that's been going viral. What it says about boundaries, trust, and where the line is between protecting your relationship and letting jealousy run the show.
The truth is attraction is normal. Acting on it is a choice. Your commitment doesn't cancel desire. It just redirects it. So when was the last time you felt that spark outside your relationship? What was it really showing you? Sit with that. Be honest with yourself.
Timestamps:
00:00 Intro: Your eyes still work after I do
10:00 What first attracted us to each other
25:00 Marcus and Lila: The coworker situation
29:00 Tina and James: The gym flirt
31:00 The water metaphor
40:00 The music conversation
42:00 The 90% vs 10% breakdown
54:00 The reconnection check-in
57:00 Cultural perspectives: The cheesecake test
01:05:00 Closing: Attraction is normal, acting on it is a choice
Love yourself well. Love each other well. Catch ya in the next episode. 💜
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✨Married over 20 years. Parents of four. Survivors of trauma, grief, betrayal, burnout and proof that love can still last.
This podcast is where Brooklyn grit meets Queens heart. We keep it raw about marriage, parenting, money, intimacy, and culture. We don’t preach. We don’t sugarcoat. We tell the truth about what it really takes to stay connected when life gets real.
Grace brings depth from her journey as a Filipina mother, nurse, coach, and survivor. Steve brings the layered view of a Puerto Rican husband, father, and law enforcement officer who’s still learning to speak his heart out loud.
We’re not perfect. We’re still choosing each other every day.
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